Introverts making videos be like, “I can play all the character parts myself. It’s easier than explaining what I am going for to someone who won’t get it, anyway.”
Yup. Sucks when in your job you constantly have to clean up the mess of the people who you depend on for doing your job properly. And I always feel like it's my reposibility to do that because if I notice something wrong that I am able to fix and which should be fixed because the people after me depend on that for dohng their job. If I do let it go without fixing it, I am constantly worried someone will get mad at me for not doing it.
Or in group projects Bruh I don’t like working with others Cuz sometimes I have this great idea, but when I have to explain it to the whole group, it doesn’t sound as good (cuz I’m bad at talking to ppl 😄✨) That’s why I prefer doing everything solo
As an introvert, I genuinely listen to whoever person is talking because I know how much it hurts when you're being talked over, interrupted, or ignored.
Same. And I think that's why everyone around me likes to talk about their problems with me despite me being not very good at giving advice or sympathizing. I'm just a good listener.
I'm somewhere in between intro and extro, but I have a hard time understanding why keeping friends who did ALL of these things to you. There were a few things I 100% got but always being ignored, forgotten, and trampled over isn't a friendship :(
@@Lyrabela As someone who only realized I was an introvert somewhat recently, you're not wrong, but from my own experience, most of my friends have been people I've known most of my life, because new people are usually unsettled by my social awkwardness and the topics I bring up when I actually talk. Most of my old friends did exactly the things in this video. All the time... 😒 I've managed to find a few truly good friends who enjoy spending time with me now, but for years, I pretty much have up on making friends, and just dealt with the hand I was dealt. Lol
@@ti9erlilly I'm glad you have a better situation now! It's just sad to me people will still call those other people friends. I know it's really hard to speak up too (I loathe confrontation), but a true friend does notice when they've cut you off or when you are uncomfortable/at a gathering they invited you to
I Think that this kind of idea it's more terrible because, if you are shy whit good ideas for make laugh you only have to pass one step for be someone normal.
introvert here and i can cofirm. theres a certain type of personality that clicks with me where i dont feel like having to work hard to establish a connection if ever it just comes naturally. i have a few close friends who share it but to most other people i dont talk too much simply because i cant find a connection. the chemistry just isnt right. its not even that i dont like those people its just that i have no real interest in them and it is energy consuming trying to pretend.
Reminds me of that time I cracked a joke in class, everybody ignored me. Then the extrovert of the class said the SAME THING and the entire class laughed so hard. Yet the teacher still asks me "why don't you speak up in class more?"
Hmm. I guess grabbing attention is an important part of conversations. My lack of care about public perception gets me enough attention, that I never realised
@@snaackytutx7648 I on the other hand have always failed to gain enough attention unless it's online. I have a good online presence 😂😂 typical introvert
@@corvusr7338 It's pretty easy, actually, unless attention makes you literally uncomfortable. Online attention is harder in comparison, so I'm more the guy who bandwagons off the top comments, instead of throwing something original into oblivion
@@Adr1267 bro I am an INFJ and I'd feel guilty all my life and forever keep thinking about it and wonder about what the person would have felt when I somehow seemingly impossibly managed to say no to them😃🔫 If a person asked if they could kill me, idk how I would refuse 😭🤚
I’m an introvert and I have literally zero idea of how I made friends. We just kind of existed in the same area for a while, then we were all independently just like “oh okay. friend.”
Yes but how old are you. I did have and do have some friend that i just grew up with. But time passes we get older and split to our lifes. I am only 27 but don't really talk to anyone i knew before. I moved to other country and when i return, there is nobody, some people moved to other cities, some are working whole day, some people changed phone numbers and you can't reach them etc. I generally make 1-2 friends on a new place but its just temporally, because i move somewhere or they. So i don't have long-term friends but i don't believe there is a difference between old friend and new one.
@@ifonlyhappinesscouldlast4882 Sure they can, moreover they tend to have long-term friendships because finding a new friend is not an easy task for an introvert, i just wanted to mention that they are more likely to end with time than continue due to people's own life paths
"I'm never going to try to be funny ever again" Lol, I say that every day, but then I try to be funny again ten minutes later and hate myself for it...
Introvert me: Doesn't yell out answer in class loud enough Teacher: Says the answer, acting disappointed that none of their students got it Introvert me: ThAt'S wHaT I sAiD!
My classmates are much more worse. The teacher can't hear me. But the one that can hear me repeated my answer and they got plus points using my answer. When I got full mark on exams they accused me for cheating when I didn't even glance at them even 0,1 second. Then the teacher deducted my scores for 20 points :)
No, the worst thing when you say a joke, is when everyone laughs and you think "I finally said something that was positively responded!". And then you realise they were laughing at something else. This has happened many times😅
They don't do it on purpose. Thanks God i'm extraverted (ENFP) and kind understand what are you living, so in a conversation I forced the introvert to give their opinion or force other to quiet and listening to introverts
the fun part is when you're standing with the crowd talking and someone puts himself before you with his BACK pointing to you blocking your sight. Nowadays I just Walk into these people.
@@RyuuRider Actually, yes it did. Mom used to laugh about a baby story of mine. She noticed I was getting sunburned at daycare center even at wintertime. Then she found out that the daycare workers would put me in the front window "display" area because I was a mellow, noncrying, chill, and smiley baby. The idea was that other kids would see me in the window and noticed that I was chill so then they wouldn't panic as much (separation anxiety). The problem is that I would spend literally half the day in the window, pretty much alone with some blocks soaking up the sun. Mom used to say to some of her friends, "Oh, he's weird because his brain is burned." *giggle laugh and chortle*
Lol this is me shadowing my best friends but not being able to talk to them bc they're talking to someone else and you dont know how to join the conversation so you just stand there awkwardly and pretend you're part of the conversation so you don't feel like a loner hahahhahahahahahha
Your extrovert characters physically look exactly like extroverts. 😂😂😂 Watching your videos recently, it’s been eye opening to realise that I am an introvert socially. And it’s good to know by watching you and reading comments that many other people are going through same kinds of awkwardness. Your videos are making me accept myself more. And I know this comment is not going to get likes or comments because that’s the fate of an introvert.
“omg you’re so quiet chdjskndskal” me: talks about something people: talk over me me: nvm, a star for the effort to me, I won’t open my mouth ever again
This used to happen to me A LOT, now when nobody talks over me, I freeze from an overwhelming amount of attention hsh, I've never known how to continue conversations when that happens lmao :'c
E s m e r a l d a lmaoo i can totally relate, sometimes when I talk and people are actually listening to me my mind goes “omg people are listening to you make it make sense”
Always tell people the truth that you're not listening. I have been doing that for a while now and so far no one was ever insulted or even puzzled by that. Just say 'I'm sorry I wasn't listening' or 'I'm sorry my mind was someplace else'. Own the wanderings of your mind, they're natural.
Yes and no, saying you weren't listening makes them think you don't find what they care about all that interesting. Hardly anyone will show anything on the surface but will internalise it.
AYBAK SAMIZ actually, I would disagree. I gave up trying to socialize because no one would even notice I was there unless the table was dead silent. Similar, but not dead on.
last year at a wedding party of sorts I had no one I was close enough to, and at some point I ended up cornered alone looking at people for like 15 minutes. IT WAS HELL. Then someone came to "save me" saying how was I so alone looking at people and not talking and she took me with her friends. I ended up surrounded by people, but didn't say more than 2 words either :l . I appreciated the intention though, I just got too anxious at that point.
That's not about being introvert, is about being with people that doesn't care about you... I know it's difficult to go to find friends, but it's worse staying with people like these. At least, being alone is healthier...
"you should talk more" *tries to talk finally for the first time in the month* -gets interrupted -gets ignored -nobody can hear me -nobody pays attention -nobody cares -anybody who actually heard something from me says "speak up i can't hear you" -i am now suddenly about to cry from panic or something and/or just want to bang my head into a wall
😂😂😂 and when forced to repeat it suddenly your voice and lips are shivering and your smile is unstable because any moment tears may start rolling from panic and embarrassment
"Do I try to bring up this conversation again despite the fact that they clearly don't care, or do I just accept my lower place on the dominance hierarchy?" I don't know if I've ever been able to connect to a line in a video more than that one.
@@Catralasarguido I second this. good friends don't ignore everything you say. even if they are extroverted and talkative, trust me, they'll always listen to what you have to say if they care about you
I do feel connected to that line, I also know that friends like that are not friends at all. However being an introvert I also am too ashamed at myself to end a friendship like that because I will feel bad.
Painfully accurate. Particularly the ppl not listening -- better yet, they do listen, and steal your ideas for themselves. This happens to me w/ annoying regularity.
I stopped sharing some of my fav things and why they're my fav cuz i find some close people saying the same "personal" reasons out loud and pretend they came up with the stuff on their own🤦♀️ God i'd rather tell my diaries than tell people anything...this is so frustrating
@vikk my problem is a bit worse. So there's that friend whom i told that i found the facebook account of my favorite cartoonist-by chance. i followed his comics and cartoons and whatever i could find about his art for over twenty years and that i was over the moon about it-she didn't even know he existed before that-i told her i was too shy to send him a friend request so i just followed him and you know what she sent him a friend request that he accepted and she won't stop bragging about it since then!!! It really breaks my heart
I absolutely get it... getting plagiarized at uni... happened to me a few times. Since then I stopped sharing my thoughts and keep them to myself 🙄 Or... someone else repeats my answer and gets applauded while I get ignored by the prof 😅👍 I better write a book! No one can steal then 😂
When the class is doing presentations and the teacher forgets you exist and then asks “did I forget anyone?” and you don’t know whether to speak up or not. But then you decide to awkwardly raise your hand and the teacher still doesn’t notice you
In 1st grade, we had to work on our "all about me" worksheet and I was absent the other day. My teacher called up people's names one by one. She told us to do our work, but she never called me to get a paper. I sat there for 5 minutes unoticed then slowly started crying because everyone in my group was staring at me and I didn't know what to do.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been in a group as the quiet one and everyone is talking and then I think of something really funny but keep it in my head because I think it’ll sound stupid but then the loud person in the group says it and everybody laughs
there's also this kind of thing like.... if you haven't been talking to them for a while, before the joke, they would react to it as you said something really random. but if it was talked by someone which they were already speaking to, it would sounds funny as hell.
What happens to me a lot is that I come up with a joke way to late. The conversation about that topic is already over so then I have my joke but can't tell it anymore. Or I don't realize the topic changed and tell the joke anyway and people look at me weird because the joke isn't funny anymore.
Mick B. I can relate to that, but not so much about jokes. It’s just generally like that when I’m in a group of more than 3-4 people. By the time I come up with an anecdote or idea in my head, the subject has already taken a completely different direction. I can’t keep up when so many people are talking😞
NUMBER 1 RULE YOU GOTTA ACT CONFIDENT AND NUMBER 2 YOU BECOME CONFIDENT BY NOT GIVING A SHIT WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY AND YOU STOP P.PLEASING AND ARE ABLE TO SAY NO WHEN NEEDED Thats it. this is what makes an extrovert an extrovert ( yet we are still pretty diverse)
Party: *exists* Invitation: *exists* Introverts: "That sounds awful, but I can't handle your disappointment when I say no." If this ain't me then let me question my whole existence for a sec
This tweet summed up in a video lol: "You're so quiet!" "Thanks I've spent most of my time being ignored so I simply don't talk anymore" On a plus side, I've used my powers of invisibility to my advantage
I wonder sometimes if my introvert invisibility works as well on people who haven't learned I'm an introvert yet--if it's really in my body language, etc.--or if it's mostly just people habituated to ignoring me.
Teacher: so the answer is.... Introvert me: In my head: this is the answer Out loud: .... Teacher says what i wanted to say in disappointment Internal voice: why didn't you say it
Too relatable. I once said the answer four or five times, each time rising slightly in volume while no one else heard me until my teacher finally but only just heard my answer and then asked me to say it AGAIN! Talking is indeed overrated.
Being an introvert I always felt something wrong with me. But your videos are so relatable. You make me feel that It is normal to be like this. Thank you 😊
Once you found one now what? You can't go up to one because say if you were the introvert and some random person is walking up to you anxiety would most likely to flood your brain and you just stand there like a statue
@@vampira8966 Nah, usually they're sitting where there are sofas or around the refreshment table. Find a seat. You don't have to say anything, just eat your chips and salsa.
If it was me, i'd say "How the hell did we get here" or something like that, the other person may laugh and you two might be able to make a conversation.
My daughter just emerged from her room and spent nearly half an hour talking with me while we ate. It was lovely. She's gone back into her room again now. I'll probably see her again some time tomorrow, or maybe the next day. Living with a high introvert is fine once you know what to expect.
@Teal Rose I'm almost 40 and my mom is only now understanding that I am exactly like your daughter. It takes a lot to be our moms, I get it, but at least she's trying now. Better late than never! And I also understand that we need to meet half way. From an INFJ daughter, thank you for being so patient 🙏❤️
Thank you all for your lovely comments! I will say that Ash is my oldest and we were a single mother - single daughter family for seven years before her brother was born, and now we've been sharing a home just the two of us again for several years with her as an adult. Learning that she really does feel crowded in the middle of a 20 acre paddock when a truck goes by on the main road, and she's gotten accustomed to me always being home but when her brother visits and she can hear us talking to each other that stresses her too - it's been a journey. She's worth it, though.
That took me back to middle school. The friend group I was with had their usual table stolen, so all 8 of us were kind of standing there awkwardly. I said 9x "Guys, there's a table right over there!" I was pointing and everything. A few seconds later another guy says "Guys, there's a table over there!" Everyone else nodded and said "Yeah that's a good idea." I was bummed cuz I knew they had heard me yet didn't care, which is why I began to study human behavior. I just wanted to say thank you. It's nice to know it wasn't just me who went through this, and I'm sorry for anyone else who has.
@@accelerator3635 I think it can happen to anyone .... but since introverts don't communicate much or they just aren't that well understood, they get it more often. And I think that simply by extroverting communication is easier, so they can find the bond between communicants. But it's just my opinion and I'm not saying that even extroverts don't experience such a situation because as a few times I've noticed extrovert are ignored too and it's really not nice ... it's up to people how they treat others
Has anyone here ever hung out with their friends, on purpose, and then spent much more time, than expected, with them, causing your social battery to drain so low, you nearly pass out or puke, or is that just me?
Maybe those people aren't your friends so much as associates if they drain you that much and they aren't receptive of your reactions to your engagement with them.
@@ShinobiPhoenix-YT0 The "introvert battery" for the most part isn't personal. Some people drain us more than others, but we can ultimately be drained by literally anybody. It doesn't always mean there's something wrong with the people we're around. We're just tired, lol
Relateable. I get into the "I can't say goodbye" cycle where I feel awkward interrupting the conversation, or I worry people will think I'm lame if I need to leave, so I just avoid leaving, and next thing I know I'm still there 2+ hours after I planned to be. By the time socializing is done, I'm just dead exhausted I end up passing out, regardless the time of day.
Oooh I felt that. I have this everytime I meet my best friend, she is a very loud extrovert and I sometimes just nearly pass out. But she learned how to treat me over the years and she knows when to give me space
So true. Also, I couldn't tell you how many times I've offered a suggestion only to be ignored. Then someone else comes up with the very same idea and they get all the credit. My freaking life story!
dude, as a fellow introvert I GET THIS 😣so now I am ALWAYS that MF in the group who will keep looking you in the eyes and listen to your story until youre done, and engage with you when you’re finished 🙂
When I was fed up with it, I called the person who talked over me saying I'm still speaking with loud movements so they'll see, but that made me forget what I was trying to say... So it was useless. It got them to pay attention the next time tho
Ronaldo! I'm so sorry you feel like that. I get ignored and/or interrupted before I make my point a lot and it does hurt but I understand that they're on a totally different wavelength than me. If introverts have batteries that run down from too much socializing, you gotta remember extroverts have limited RAM. (GIGO) What we got is "cherce", as Tracy said to Hepburn 😉
I don't know, some of us are more like Ramona Flowers introverts somehow attracting Scott Pilgrims to engage with us for whatever reason (maybe we look lonely). I'm still to this day entirely surprised that I've made friends and continue to make friends when it feels like I am actively pushing people away.
This ain’t true for most introverts 🤷♀️ I don’t ENJOY small talk or generally socializing at all, but I have no shortage of people I COULD hang out with or who would WANT to talk to me if I opened myself up more...
As an introvert when we try to crack some joke, get ignored, we often think they couldn't hear it and decide to say it again only to end up hearing, "You just said that." or getting weird faces of extroverts. I guess the weird faces are because they think our sense of humor is awful. Well dude, you never know what kind of dark humor these minds store. That's why it is better to tell the jokes to our imaginative friends and laugh at those by the two of us(we and our imaginative friends).
Mom: "why don't you talk with them?" My brain: *I can't make small talk, I don't really know them well, I will get ignored, no one cares when I talk, I don't just wanna burst to them and started talking, i have social anxiety, I can't make a conversation going long, Im akward, I don't want to ruin their conversation, I rather just hear them talking, I don't know the things they are talking, Im not going to embarrass myself by talking, why do I need to talk when I can just observe and listen,I can't start a conversation, I'm comfortable to just listen and observe, I will get overshadowed anyways why should I even try* me: "yeah, I don't know" I can put more but I just wrote what I primary think
I feel it when socialize with extrovert, they tend to talk about unimportant things, and it's tiring me to keep up with them. I like it better when i socialize with another introvert, because i learn a lot when we talking about deeper things.
Fristith I feel like this is what drains me the most. If it's a subject I'm passionate about, I could conversate forever! But that rarely happens in group settings.
Yeah, i don't like talking about something that for me is not interesting, when people in a group do that i feel immediately bored and start thinking about something else
Yeah! And I also have this thing where I think "I don't see the point in talking about this nonsense, but I don't know you enough to tell you about myself, so I'll just awkwardly stare at you while I pretend I'm listening to you."
True, I don't want friends who would simply ignore me.. that's why I always target individual introverts.. and now I have two great buddies I chat with when I feel like talking about school to them, and someone I have a very deep and special connection with
That is why in group meetings (when I was working) when I ran meetings I would always ask specific questions to the extreme introverts in the room, just to give them the space to speak and make it where people had to listen to them. I would write down what they said on the dry erase board to force people to consider what they are saying. It is extra work making sure they are heard, but totally worth it!
@Sara Mahmood It's not about attention.I mean of course my mind would go blank if i was surprised by a question in a group-i'd like to know beforehand- but when the co ordinator gives you the chance to speak your mind cuz they appreciate your ideas and wants to make sure you're heard by EVERYONE... well i'd love that
Also if you’re an introvert there is a much greater chance that somebody will cut you off in the middle of a sentence no matter how interested or passionate you feel about the subject
That hurts so bad most times i feel the pain in my face, it's like u finally decide to take off and as soon as u get too comfortable in mid air, BOOM! Gravity pulls u right back down again. Only u hit chest first lol.
*Me (an introvert)*: Omg that's so irish! I just love that!😍 *My friend*: That's kinda stereotypical🙄 *My other friend (an extrovert)*: Omg that's so irish! I just love that!😍 *My friend*: haha i know! I'm so proud of you learning more about my country!❤️
@@MercyMburuNyakio Stop what? Talking? Joining a conversation? XD It's not like we sneak up and jumpscare anyone. We're just there like everybody else and sometimes we actually open our mouth. Here's a true story: my colleagues asked "So where is Uli anyway?" while I was standing right next to them.
@@UlimiteinemL 😁 I'm so sorry for that. I'm projecting the apologies I owe my friends to you. As a really loud typically conspicuous person I've been really trying to relate and advise. My only suggestions so far would be that one should stop overcalculating what one says and to stop caring about the consequence of failure. I mean like with the point for non-funny jokes, you gotta make a lot of non funny jokes before a good one comes out. You gotta keep at the game to get better. So stop caring if no one laughs. Also, SHOUT. Because I've noticed that when soft spoken people 'shout' that's actually when they are talking at an audible level.
I was laughing but then I realized that I'm actually sad that we have to pass through those situations :C Every time I spot a fellow introvert I try to listen specifically to him/her so that he/she would not feel ignored
this is the worst thing anyone could say after you try to socialize and they don't even know what's been in your head and the struggle of starting saying something...
The accuracy of being at the bbq when the few people you know walk away and everyone else is already engaged in conversation so you just look at your phone is spot on! Hate walking up to groups of people I don't know when they're already talking. 😬
Heck, just avoid walking altogether. I swear even when I just decide to go get a drink or something, I walk by a group and they stop talking and look back and forth at each other awkwardly like I'm wearing a dead fish as clothes or something. Just screw it. I will not human any more thank you.
You’re standing in a group, listening to conversations that you cannot even relate to (like having children when you don’t have any) The others turning to you: ...and what about you? Me: 😳 uh, I uh, ha, uh, well... sigh.... (wishing I was anywhere else) They just stand there and stare at you. 👁 👁 and then go on like you’re a moron. Me: 🤦🏻♀️
@@jellyfishi_ good idea, but what I do is: 1. Eat 2. Go home Except if I knkw someone or someone started talking to me and I liked him, which doesn't usually happen
@@donnaml8776 Hey on the bright side they didn’t speak over you :). More than likely they wanted to know what you thought regardless of what answer you’d give 😊.
once i told an entire story and the person was looking right into my eyes as i told it, and then as soon as i finished talking, they started talking about something completely unrelated as if they hadn't heard me at all. i'd say it was baffling but i shouldn't be surprised tbh. i'm infp so i'm basically invisible
I'm gonna stab at a guess that you might have been talking to an ENFP, because I know 3 of them and the worst one literally cannot let someone get two sentences out before he goes right back to talking about himself. It's utterly maddening. The second worst offender calls me to hang out for coffee then spends the entire hour talking to other people on her phone. She's done it to me so many times I just don't see her any more. Long story short: it's not you, it's them. Also, I'm sorry people suck, and you do not deserved to be ignored.
that sounds absolutely awful. i would hardly be able to bear being around those people, they both sound very rude. i'm getting annoyed just reading about them, lol. sorry you had to deal with that, you don't deserve it either. thank you for the kind words though, i appreciate it, it makes me feel better :)
i say to myself a lot "having the power of invisibility can be good sometimes" but deep down i know that i hate to be ignored and when someone ignores me all i wanna do is lock myself in my room, cry and never leave my house again
yea like youre about to say something but you just stop yourself from doing so because you know youre probably just gonna be ignored AND the result is you will just imagine that you already say it out loud
It has it pros though 😂 I mean... if I don't like someone, it's best to stop existing in their memory, or if I said something that I feel completely embarrassed about even a few weeks later and learn that they completely forgot about it, it makes me actually appreciate being forgotten sometimes 🤭
But it sucks when you get a "best friend" for one school year who acts as if they never knew you the next. I was like, we have literally been to eachothers houses on multiple sleep-overs, and I literally just found one of your stuffed animals under my bed. But nope, you totally don't know me, and that is definitely not the friendship necklace we got together that we are literally both wearing... And I know I wasn't imagining things because my mom asked about why I stopped having sleep overs with her.
@@anonamouse2052 That truly sounds shit. Did you ever ask her why? I learned that sometimes being very upfront helps with these kinds of things. But to be very honest I encountered quite a few of those people as well. Even being friends for a few years didn't help with that. Not all friends are like that though, so, I hope that you won't give up completely, even though that "friend" wasn't a good one.
@@NocturnalCachalot I never asked her and ended up just not talking to her because at one point I started to think that I had somehow imagined it. Plus I was too scared of what the answer would be to say anything because if she just denied knowing me, I would just look like a creep. (I'm a girl, but it would still look creepy) I had enough issues with bullies and I didn't want to give anyone reasons to be mean. I was very confused and upset at the time, but being invisible seemed like the better way to go. It's better to be unseen then to have a metaphorical target on your back. Luckily most of the bullying stopped around that time.
@@anonamouse2052 Mhhh having made similar experiences in life, I understand your reaction 100%. Even though, you shouldn't feel like a creep, because of someone else's bad attitude. You didn't imagine anything. It's okay to know and let go, because such a person isn't worth your presence. I hope that from now on you can avoid such people and meet some that truly appreciate you for who you are, your good and your maybe no so good traits. I don't think that this had much to do with any flaws in you though, so... it's best to leave that person and those memories behind and move on. Don't let people like her leave scars on your heart ❤️
Me in class: says the answer 5 times, over and over Teacher: still patiently waiting for the right answer Me: starts to feel stupid because their not doing anything so “maybe I’m saying the wrong answer?” Some dumb jock next to me: *hears my answer* and says it Teacher, smiling at HIM: “Good Job! That’s correct!” Me, hating life, while my introvert friends who actually pay attention to me silently laugh because it happens ALL THE TIME:...
Happened to me recently at college and i was so discouraged afterwards. I didn’t give up though and i kept answering the questions i knew and i was finally noticed.
Actually this happened so often to me in school that my extrovert friends regularly came to my rescue by saying: "She said it first!" or "Joe is saying the right answer, you're just not hearing her!" Every time that happened it felt so good.
Omg pretending there is something important on my phone is me in every single social interaction. I think I’ve become such a good actress at this point
oh gosh, why is it so embarrassing to watch this video, during these 3 minutes I felt like I was experiencing similar situations from my life again and again
I’ve learned to just stop talking mid sentence if no one is listening. Eventually...cricket...someone will notice and ask, “What were you saying?”... Me: “Nevermind.” 🤦🏼♀️
Same. Though I've switched it up lately, and will keep talking while someone else talks over me in the hopes that someone else will shoosh the other person and make them feel like a dick. I think that has been successful at least once.
That's why i don't talk much with people..but i talk a lot in my head. Actually There are two people in my head fighting non stop in every situation, deciding what to do, what to say.
OMG! Never felt so relatable in a commentary section like in this one! Greeting from Brazil to everyone! Wish you all remember to see the bright light inside you despise all that oddness we suffer daily.
Watching this made me feel pain. So many times that I've tried talking to someone or getting there attention, and it's like they can't hear me. Always have to stop and ask myself if I was mumbling or not speaking loud enough? Then they have to audacity to ask me why it is that I never talk...
Honestly, I think it’s more “dominant,” in a sense, to be the stronger, silent type, the thinker if you will. When you’re true to yourself instead of trying to make shallow friendships work, to your own detriment, there is a lot of power and self-respect that comes out of that. Just my $0.02 - loved the concept and content, as always! 😊👏👏👏
I had my friends drag me all over eternity for all kinds of stupid, but usually I just gathered data and carried on as a voice of reason, data, and most importantly "not-drunkenness". And secretly, half the time, I was excited to go on stupid adventures without admitting to it. More data collection.
The one time I tried to host an event as an introvert it was a streaming movie party. I had been asking my friends for three years when we were going to do it and no one could ever agree, so I said heck with it and just TOLD them when I would be watching the movie online. The event was good, but later these friends said "Wow you really walked all over us by not considering our schedules when you picked the date." WTF? I asked you for three years and prior to the event had a doodle poll for two weeks that no one took. I really went out of my comfort zone here and you all hated it. Guess I'll never try to be social on my own terms again.
An immature extravert will always consider the introvert in the wrong (and the other way around as well). They'll hopefully learn and understand how their fellow human works in time. You definitely deserved better, from the look of it.
Human relationships are complex, and even more so when you are an introvert. I find my life a bit more easier since I accepted it. Don't stay angry, I'm sure you had some fun while watching the movie... Keep it up.
Been there... And since im a smiley introvert guy... I just gave them in a very monotonous voice and stoic face.... "I suggest dump that brain of yours and get another one that can actually remember things" And they never bothered talking to me *Laughs in quality personal time*
gosh l thought l was the only one ! so , l literally stay away from everyone . if introver doesnt socialize , people think we are boring . when we try to socialize , we get ignored . the most hatest part , when u say something but other ignores and someone says that particular thing what u just said , other agrees .
@@SiGa-i1r exactly. Some group people think they are cool while they do something absurd and hate those who can't agree with them. l used to get bullied because l wasn't much into social medias and didn't know slang words meaning. Now, l have become a nerd and bully others for being too naive.😂
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I am an ambivert so can relate
Introverts making videos be like, “I can play all the character parts myself. It’s easier than explaining what I am going for to someone who won’t get it, anyway.”
XD So true
This is beyond accurate. I always get shit done better on my own. #fthegroupprojects
@@RoKer13 bruh-
Yup. Sucks when in your job you constantly have to clean up the mess of the people who you depend on for doing your job properly. And I always feel like it's my reposibility to do that because if I notice something wrong that I am able to fix and which should be fixed because the people after me depend on that for dohng their job. If I do let it go without fixing it, I am constantly worried someone will get mad at me for not doing it.
Or in group projects
Bruh I don’t like working with others
Cuz sometimes I have this great idea, but when I have to explain it to the whole group, it doesn’t sound as good (cuz I’m bad at talking to ppl 😄✨)
That’s why I prefer doing everything solo
Them: “You should talk more!"
Me: *tries to talk*
- gets interrupted
- gets ignored
- gets talked over
- no one pays attention
- no one cares
this is so true but why does this happen, I‘ve never understood this can someone please explain??
This is so painfully relatable
😭😭
@@anonymuser95 same here. i genuinely don't understand
Same.
“I’m not gonna try to be funny ever again” that’s the most painfully relatable thing ever 😂😂😭
I feel this
Bruh I related to that sentence on a spiritual level
Been there, it really sucks
Seriously every time I've ever tried to be funny it's always been the most painfully awkward silence.
Yeap, me always... :'(
As an introvert, I genuinely listen to whoever person is talking because I know how much it hurts when you're being talked over, interrupted, or ignored.
Same to me, really hurt
@@Malhaloc That's crazy.
So that’s what you’re supposed to do
Sameee!! I always make shure im listening
Same. And I think that's why everyone around me likes to talk about their problems with me despite me being not very good at giving advice or sympathizing. I'm just a good listener.
Some non-introverts might think this video is an exaggeration. No, it's not.
I'm somewhere in between intro and extro, but I have a hard time understanding why keeping friends who did ALL of these things to you. There were a few things I 100% got but always being ignored, forgotten, and trampled over isn't a friendship :(
@@Lyrabela we literally just have to work with what we’ve got as most people just assume we are depressed or hate the world
Not in the slightest
@@Lyrabela As someone who only realized I was an introvert somewhat recently, you're not wrong, but from my own experience, most of my friends have been people I've known most of my life, because new people are usually unsettled by my social awkwardness and the topics I bring up when I actually talk. Most of my old friends did exactly the things in this video. All the time... 😒 I've managed to find a few truly good friends who enjoy spending time with me now, but for years, I pretty much have up on making friends, and just dealt with the hand I was dealt. Lol
@@ti9erlilly I'm glad you have a better situation now! It's just sad to me people will still call those other people friends. I know it's really hard to speak up too (I loathe confrontation), but a true friend does notice when they've cut you off or when you are uncomfortable/at a gathering they invited you to
Introverts aren't scared of talking, they just know no one's gonna care to listen
Exactly!!! Why do people don't get this? What is wrong with their damn heads?
I Think that this kind of idea it's more terrible because, if you are shy whit good ideas for make laugh you only have to pass one step for be someone normal.
But sometimes they are scared to talk💀
Actually there are other reasons
Sad but true..... so true
I feel like introverts can be the most talkitive person on the planet only if they are really interested in you.
100% true. I’m very happy and content to keep talking to people that I am VERY close to.
introvert here and i can cofirm. theres a certain type of personality that clicks with me where i dont feel like having to work hard to establish a connection if ever it just comes naturally. i have a few close friends who share it but to most other people i dont talk too much simply because i cant find a connection. the chemistry just isnt right. its not even that i dont like those people its just that i have no real interest in them and it is energy consuming trying to pretend.
Lol true i can't stop talking but when i realized they ignore me , i stop talking and just awkward silent . 😑😔😰
honestly i cant, i dont know enough words
I can confirm.
Reminds me of that time I cracked a joke in class, everybody ignored me. Then the extrovert of the class said the SAME THING and the entire class laughed so hard.
Yet the teacher still asks me "why don't you speak up in class more?"
I relate to that
I relate to that 2 :')
Hmm. I guess grabbing attention is an important part of conversations. My lack of care about public perception gets me enough attention, that I never realised
@@snaackytutx7648 I on the other hand have always failed to gain enough attention unless it's online. I have a good online presence 😂😂 typical introvert
@@corvusr7338 It's pretty easy, actually, unless attention makes you literally uncomfortable. Online attention is harder in comparison, so I'm more the guy who bandwagons off the top comments, instead of throwing something original into oblivion
Then people ask why we don’t like to socialize
Ikr.
Cause they are mean
Because you don't know how?
“Why you so quiet?”
@@thenoblemute7669 uhm that's rude
"You should talk more."
**talks more, gets ignored**
Then they wonder why we don’t talk more...
so true and so sadddd
exactly
Or mocked
I dropped a bunch of so called friends bc of that
@@jmpproductions5401
As you should😌💅
Being left alone is way better than feeling left out..
Completely true!
@@federicomuria8377 :)
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True, being alone is a 100 times better than feeling lonely among 100 people.
@@Seca95 Yeah!
“I can’t handle your disappointment, if I said no” way to relatable!
For me that's easy, I would say "No" right away because I'm an INTP and emotions don't really matter to me.
@@sdpbn1 lol it's weird how I'm also an INTP and saying 'no' to people is the most difficult thing on planet for me
@@Adr1267 bro I am an INFJ and I'd feel guilty all my life and forever keep thinking about it and wonder about what the person would have felt when I somehow seemingly impossibly managed to say no to them😃🔫 If a person asked if they could kill me, idk how I would refuse 😭🤚
@@sdpbn1 same
True
I can’t remember the last time I’ve seen something this accurate
I know, right?
It only happened to him because he forgot to eat his cereal
Epic
for reallll
Same
"That sounds awful, but I can't handle your disappointment if I said no." Me in a nutshell.
And then to be asked a week later, "Wait, what? You were there???" Yeah.
Me too bro
Welcome to the team.
must be fun to disagree with someone, i can't even find someone to talk to
@@_username I feel you, man.
I’m an introvert and I have literally zero idea of how I made friends. We just kind of existed in the same area for a while, then we were all independently just like “oh okay. friend.”
Dude this is me exactly. The only ones I have are the ones I made like 10 years ago. 😂
At least we try bro 🤔😅😅😅😌
Yes but how old are you. I did have and do have some friend that i just grew up with. But time passes we get older and split to our lifes. I am only 27 but don't really talk to anyone i knew before. I moved to other country and when i return, there is nobody, some people moved to other cities, some are working whole day, some people changed phone numbers and you can't reach them etc. I generally make 1-2 friends on a new place but its just temporally, because i move somewhere or they. So i don't have long-term friends but i don't believe there is a difference between old friend and new one.
@@ojgfhuebsrnvn2781 So you think that introverts can't have long-term friendships? I have 3 best friends .
@@ifonlyhappinesscouldlast4882 Sure they can, moreover they tend to have long-term friendships because finding a new friend is not an easy task for an introvert, i just wanted to mention that they are more likely to end with time than continue due to people's own life paths
Whenever I try to be funny, people think that I'm serious ☹️
And, when you're bring dead serious, they laugh?? That happens to me.
@@eryuu4016 maybe beacuse they don't realize that your being funny or serious of just plaind dumb/stupid because they don't care
@@eryuu4016 hate that
@@AndersonMallony-EricCF Don't we all??
happens to me, too
"I'm never going to try to be funny ever again"
Lol, I say that every day, but then I try to be funny again ten minutes later and hate myself for it...
Thats literally me🙃
@@Hani13313 fr tho!
😂
@@someartist2530 once I'll embarrass myself then go hide and then afterwards do the same again 😬
Yeah, me too.
Introvert me: Doesn't yell out answer in class loud enough
Teacher: Says the answer, acting disappointed that none of their students got it
Introvert me: ThAt'S wHaT I sAiD!
I feel u bro TTwTT
I am you, you are me. Lol
My classmates are much more worse. The teacher can't hear me. But the one that can hear me repeated my answer and they got plus points using my answer.
When I got full mark on exams they accused me for cheating when I didn't even glance at them even 0,1 second. Then the teacher deducted my scores for 20 points :)
@@yut-lungwei5612 I experienced the first part. I felt really bad when I was younger.😐
@@yut-lungwei5612 oof- it hurts right here in my meow meow
No, the worst thing when you say a joke, is when everyone laughs and you think "I finally said something that was positively responded!". And then you realise they were laughing at something else. This has happened many times😅
Too close man😭
Ikr
Touché
The worst!!
（╹◡╹）
The harsh interruption you get when you’re trying to tell about something you’re interested in is too relatable
People: "Why don't you talk more?"
Also People: *talks over, yells, doesn't listen, doesn't care*
Me: "Yeah, I really don't know."
They don't do it on purpose. Thanks God i'm extraverted (ENFP) and kind understand what are you living, so in a conversation I forced the introvert to give their opinion or force other to quiet and listening to introverts
@@MrAkira273 could I say that it`s quite embarrassing for introverts too...
Lol ikr
..... My classmates even in a group chat doesn't care about what I say... They just outright ignore me.. :'>>>
@@aisnaianaiansisns I feel your pain 😥
"Being Alone is better than being with the wrong person." -L Lawliet
Well said dude👏👏
Truth!!
Lumbago
NOW THAT SOMETHING I 100% AGREE WITH
Yeeeeees some death note fans in here?
The “Oh, were you there?” is a classic
The worst part is when they look at you like you're lying.
i hate to hear that like dude you already know i was there why you asking ohhh you were there??? smh
Most relatable thing ever
It's even worse when they just pretend that they forgot about you
the fun part is when you're standing with the crowd talking and someone puts himself before you with his BACK pointing to you blocking your sight.
Nowadays I just Walk into these people.
This is like the official channel of introverts he is so on point.
"I'm just going to pretend there's something really important on my phone"
XD so relatable
soooo... much relatable
@Barri0 _99 duh
Exactly and I'm just staring at my home screen for like half and hour.
@!? Yeah that's relatable. I just swipe back and forth all the time when I pretend to be on the phone...
But my phone is more interesting than listening to small talk or trying to make something up just to be in a conversation.
Introvert: "Hey let's get chipotle"
*Ignored
Extrovert: "Hey let's get chipotle"
Everyone: Agreeing
Introvert:
*Supervillain backstory intensifies*
"It all started.. when I was born."
So true 😂😂😂
@@RyuuRider Actually, yes it did. Mom used to laugh about a baby story of mine. She noticed I was getting sunburned at daycare center even at wintertime. Then she found out that the daycare workers would put me in the front window "display" area because I was a mellow, noncrying, chill, and smiley baby. The idea was that other kids would see me in the window and noticed that I was chill so then they wouldn't panic as much (separation anxiety). The problem is that I would spend literally half the day in the window, pretty much alone with some blocks soaking up the sun. Mom used to say to some of her friends, "Oh, he's weird because his brain is burned." *giggle laugh and chortle*
@@finnian5588 oh man! 😂
@@finnian5588 You're serious? Because that sounds very concerning... How was your mom okay with that?
When you're with some good friends but then they invite another bunch of friends and your just there awkwardly like uh..
Lol this is me shadowing my best friends but not being able to talk to them bc they're talking to someone else and you dont know how to join the conversation so you just stand there awkwardly and pretend you're part of the conversation so you don't feel like a loner hahahhahahahahahha
Just never end
@@ifonlyhappinesscouldlast4882 What do you mean?
@@colacoca879 i'm introvert . cause if you understand you don't understand , only true introvert understand me. 🙂
@@ifonlyhappinesscouldlast4882 Oh ok. I was just confused, but thanks for responding:)
Your extrovert characters physically look exactly like extroverts. 😂😂😂
Watching your videos recently, it’s been eye opening to realise that I am an introvert socially. And it’s good to know by watching you and reading comments that many other people are going through same kinds of awkwardness. Your videos are making me accept myself more.
And I know this comment is not going to get likes or comments because that’s the fate of an introvert.
“omg you’re so quiet chdjskndskal”
me: talks about something
people: talk over me
me: nvm, a star for the effort to me, I won’t open my mouth ever again
same dude :(
This used to happen to me A LOT, now when nobody talks over me, I freeze from an overwhelming amount of attention hsh, I've never known how to continue conversations when that happens lmao :'c
E s m e r a l d a lmaoo i can totally relate, sometimes when I talk and people are actually listening to me my mind goes “omg people are listening to you make it make sense”
relatable :(
Unfortunately I can relate to that
The interrupted story bit is so real it hurts 🙃
All the freaking time. And it's usually my own mother, the ENFP. 😒
in these cases, my strategy is to speak in a supersonic speed... but then nobody understands a word and i’m completely ignored :)
Yess they be like talking all the time and I find myself nodding unconsciously wondering inside my head why am I still hanging out with these ppl 😅
I am much too self-empowered and tired of bullshit to not call that out anymore.
And then when you have something important to say, no one listens and later they're like 'You reeeaally need to learn to speak up' 😐
Always tell people the truth that you're not listening. I have been doing that for a while now and so far no one was ever insulted or even puzzled by that. Just say 'I'm sorry I wasn't listening' or 'I'm sorry my mind was someplace else'. Own the wanderings of your mind, they're natural.
Really? What do they usually say when you admit that?
@@chocoais6601 Yes we need to know this is crucial information
Yes and no, saying you weren't listening makes them think you don't find what they care about all that interesting. Hardly anyone will show anything on the surface but will internalise it.
@@chocoais6601 Nothing at all, they just repeat themselves as if nothing happened. Try it, it's like running naked into the sea. Freeeedoooooommmm! ;)
Well, i said the truth a few times and usually people were offended and didn't want to repeat 😔
"I am never going to try to be funny ever again." After a failed attempt. Dang, I feel understood for once.
As an introvert I can confirm that this is how it goes
Everyone who click like on meemah comment confirm too
AYBAK SAMIZ actually, I would disagree. I gave up trying to socialize because no one would even notice I was there unless the table was dead silent. Similar, but not dead on.
The third wheel feels are at an all time high in this one
last year at a wedding party of sorts I had no one I was close enough to, and at some point I ended up cornered alone looking at people for like 15 minutes. IT WAS HELL. Then someone came to "save me" saying how was I so alone looking at people and not talking and she took me with her friends. I ended up surrounded by people, but didn't say more than 2 words either :l . I appreciated the intention though, I just got too anxious at that point.
That's not about being introvert, is about being with people that doesn't care about you... I know it's difficult to go to find friends, but it's worse staying with people like these. At least, being alone is healthier...
"you should talk more"
*tries to talk finally for the first time in the month*
-gets interrupted
-gets ignored
-nobody can hear me
-nobody pays attention
-nobody cares
-anybody who actually heard something from me says "speak up i can't hear you"
-i am now suddenly about to cry from panic or something and/or just want to bang my head into a wall
Same.
Plus : when nobody even wanted to look at you and like, nah , you're out of the list of my friends, you seems boring.
It hurts. :)
Tamaki vibes
😂😂😂 and when forced to repeat it suddenly your voice and lips are shivering and your smile is unstable because any moment tears may start rolling from panic and embarrassment
@@editingsperfect9397 Wait, this happens to other people too?
The protein shake joke was funny, I just don't understand why they didn't like it. 😔
I thought I‘m the only one who find it funny 😂😂
@@Amal91 I know right? 😅
Fiorella Lescano Yeah right 😂
I agree
It was whey above their intellect..... I'll see myself out.
"You were there?" omg... I even hear this for times where I thought I did a good job socializing lol
"Do I try to bring up this conversation again despite the fact that they clearly don't care, or do I just accept my lower place on the dominance hierarchy?"
I don't know if I've ever been able to connect to a line in a video more than that one.
If they don't care about anything you say, just don't go out with them
@@Catralasarguido I second this. good friends don't ignore everything you say. even if they are extroverted and talkative, trust me, they'll always listen to what you have to say if they care about you
That happens to me really often so when I'm with my Friends i prefer not to talk anymore
I do feel connected to that line, I also know that friends like that are not friends at all.
However being an introvert I also am too ashamed at myself to end a friendship like that because I will feel bad.
Same
Painfully accurate. Particularly the ppl not listening -- better yet, they do listen, and steal your ideas for themselves. This happens to me w/ annoying regularity.
I stopped sharing some of my fav things and why they're my fav cuz i find some close people saying the same "personal" reasons out loud and pretend they came up with the stuff on their own🤦♀️
God i'd rather tell my diaries than tell people anything...this is so frustrating
@vikk my problem is a bit worse.
So there's that friend whom i told that i found the facebook account of my favorite cartoonist-by chance. i followed his comics and cartoons and whatever i could find about his art for over twenty years and that i was over the moon about it-she didn't even know he existed before that-i told her i was too shy to send him a friend request so i just followed him
and you know what she sent him a friend request that he accepted and she won't stop bragging about it since then!!!
It really breaks my heart
I absolutely get it... getting plagiarized at uni... happened to me a few times. Since then I stopped sharing my thoughts and keep them to myself 🙄
Or... someone else repeats my answer and gets applauded while I get ignored by the prof 😅👍
I better write a book! No one can steal then 😂
but you got a like from FJ, which is 100 times awesomer
Same here 😅🙁
When the class is doing presentations and the teacher forgets you exist and then asks “did I forget anyone?” and you don’t know whether to speak up or not. But then you decide to awkwardly raise your hand and the teacher still doesn’t notice you
That happened to me too, the only difference is I've been gone for 1 month and nobody notices
@@rassel5384 Same, it's sad. And I was even reprimanded many time in such occasions
@@rassel5384 oof
In 1st grade, we had to work on our "all about me" worksheet and I was absent the other day. My teacher called up people's names one by one. She told us to do our work, but she never called me to get a paper.
I sat there for 5 minutes unoticed then slowly started crying because everyone in my group was staring at me and I didn't know what to do.
Always speak up!
Everybody: "Why don't you talk much ?!"
Me: "WELL WHY YOUR EARS AREN'T WORKING?!!!!"
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been in a group as the quiet one and everyone is talking and then I think of something really funny but keep it in my head because I think it’ll sound stupid but then the loud person in the group says it and everybody laughs
there's also this kind of thing like.... if you haven't been talking to them for a while, before the joke, they would react to it as you said something really random. but if it was talked by someone which they were already speaking to, it would sounds funny as hell.
What happens to me a lot is that I come up with a joke way to late. The conversation about that topic is already over so then I have my joke but can't tell it anymore. Or I don't realize the topic changed and tell the joke anyway and people look at me weird because the joke isn't funny anymore.
Firefly I wonder how many comedy writers are introverts? They write the jokes that others deliver.
Mick B. I can relate to that, but not so much about jokes. It’s just generally like that when I’m in a group of more than 3-4 people. By the time I come up with an anecdote or idea in my head, the subject has already taken a completely different direction. I can’t keep up when so many people are talking😞
NUMBER 1
RULE YOU GOTTA ACT CONFIDENT AND NUMBER 2 YOU BECOME CONFIDENT BY NOT GIVING A SHIT WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY AND YOU STOP P.PLEASING AND ARE ABLE TO SAY NO WHEN NEEDED
Thats it.
this is what makes an extrovert an extrovert ( yet we are still pretty diverse)
Party: *exists*
Invitation: *exists*
Introverts: "That sounds awful, but I can't handle your disappointment when I say no."
If this ain't me then let me question my whole existence for a sec
F
Lol
Whenever I get invited to an event In my head I'm like "No, I can't go, but I have to. Maybe I can find a way to get sick"
Same. F
No I don't feel bad, I would just tell them straight up no thanks.
“you were there?” hits too close to home
Remids me of so many times that my wofe assured me she met those people before. I am so bad. 🤣🤣🤣
Me too 🤣
That is heart-brokenly accurate. I'm holding back tears now.
that “you were there?” hits too deep
same I feel attacked
This tweet summed up in a video lol:
"You're so quiet!"
"Thanks I've spent most of my time being ignored so I simply don't talk anymore"
On a plus side, I've used my powers of invisibility to my advantage
@Leemabari Beage 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Power of invisibility damn right
I wonder sometimes if my introvert invisibility works as well on people who haven't learned I'm an introvert yet--if it's really in my body language, etc.--or if it's mostly just people habituated to ignoring me.
@@edpie7759 Maybe both? I'm pretty reserved and quiet myself
I FEEL IT ALWAYS AHAHAH
Teacher: so the answer is....
Introvert me:
In my head: this is the answer
Out loud: ....
Teacher says what i wanted to say in disappointment
Internal voice: why didn't you say it
Sameeeeee 🤧
For me it's worse.
Me: says the answer loud
Teacher: ....
Always teacher: so nobody knows?
My mind: **oh yeah I didn't say anything don't worry**
Sometimes I try to say it.... but people can barely hear it😅
Too relatable. I once said the answer four or five times, each time rising slightly in volume while no one else heard me until my teacher finally but only just heard my answer and then asked me to say it AGAIN! Talking is indeed overrated.
This always happen to me
Being an introvert I always felt something wrong with me. But your videos are so relatable. You make me feel that It is normal to be like this. Thank you 😊
it is in fact completely normal to be like this
"Why are you standing here by yourself" felt like such a déjà vu
When you're an introvert at a party, scan the room for another introvert. There are many others.
Once you found one now what? You can't go up to one because say if you were the introvert and some random person is walking up to you anxiety would most likely to flood your brain and you just stand there like a statue
@@vampira8966 Nah, usually they're sitting where there are sofas or around the refreshment table. Find a seat. You don't have to say anything, just eat your chips and salsa.
That's good advice. Also, I think if you're gonna talk to someone the conversation should be more honest
@@hopewins1629 😂
If it was me, i'd say "How the hell did we get here" or something like that, the other person may laugh and you two might be able to make a conversation.
My daughter just emerged from her room and spent nearly half an hour talking with me while we ate. It was lovely. She's gone back into her room again now. I'll probably see her again some time tomorrow, or maybe the next day.
Living with a high introvert is fine once you know what to expect.
Please help my mum understand this lol.
@Teal Rose I'm almost 40 and my mom is only now understanding that I am exactly like your daughter. It takes a lot to be our moms, I get it, but at least she's trying now. Better late than never! And I also understand that we need to meet half way. From an INFJ daughter, thank you for being so patient 🙏❤️
It's like I hear my mom speaking about me! :D It's an honour to be the one she's spending her precious not-alone time with!
Your daughter is lucky to have such an understanding parent!
- An introvert.
Thank you all for your lovely comments! I will say that Ash is my oldest and we were a single mother - single daughter family for seven years before her brother was born, and now we've been sharing a home just the two of us again for several years with her as an adult. Learning that she really does feel crowded in the middle of a 20 acre paddock when a truck goes by on the main road, and she's gotten accustomed to me always being home but when her brother visits and she can hear us talking to each other that stresses her too - it's been a journey.
She's worth it, though.
That took me back to middle school. The friend group I was with had their usual table stolen, so all 8 of us were kind of standing there awkwardly. I said 9x "Guys, there's a table right over there!" I was pointing and everything.
A few seconds later another guy says "Guys, there's a table over there!"
Everyone else nodded and said "Yeah that's a good idea." I was bummed cuz I knew they had heard me yet didn't care, which is why I began to study human behavior.
I just wanted to say thank you. It's nice to know it wasn't just me who went through this, and I'm sorry for anyone else who has.
When Introverts try to speak and make conversation there are just ignored and misunderstanding it's really painful
Yeah TT
Yep
Now explain why that doesn't happen with extroverts?
@@accelerator3635 I think it can happen to anyone .... but since introverts don't communicate much or they just aren't that well understood, they get it more often. And I think that simply by extroverting communication is easier, so they can find the bond between communicants. But it's just my opinion and I'm not saying that even extroverts don't experience such a situation because as a few times I've noticed extrovert are ignored too and it's really not nice ... it's up to people how they treat others
Yeah... ☹️
Has anyone here ever hung out with their friends, on purpose, and then spent much more time, than expected, with them, causing your social battery to drain so low, you nearly pass out or puke, or is that just me?
As an intervert do u find yourself lost in your head while you suppose to be listening to the sh*t ppl say?
And yess I felt that
Maybe those people aren't your friends so much as associates if they drain you that much and they aren't receptive of your reactions to your engagement with them.
@@ShinobiPhoenix-YT0 The "introvert battery" for the most part isn't personal. Some people drain us more than others, but we can ultimately be drained by literally anybody. It doesn't always mean there's something wrong with the people we're around. We're just tired, lol
Relateable. I get into the "I can't say goodbye" cycle where I feel awkward interrupting the conversation, or I worry people will think I'm lame if I need to leave, so I just avoid leaving, and next thing I know I'm still there 2+ hours after I planned to be. By the time socializing is done, I'm just dead exhausted I end up passing out, regardless the time of day.
Oooh I felt that. I have this everytime I meet my best friend, she is a very loud extrovert and I sometimes just nearly pass out. But she learned how to treat me over the years and she knows when to give me space
Exactly like me, and the part it hurts the most is when you wanna talk and nobody wants to listen, it's like you're worthless to everyone.
So true. Also, I couldn't tell you how many times I've offered a suggestion only to be ignored. Then someone else comes up with the very same idea and they get all the credit. My freaking life story!
dude, as a fellow introvert I GET THIS 😣so now I am ALWAYS that MF in the group who will keep looking you in the eyes and listen to your story until youre done, and engage with you when you’re finished 🙂
When I was fed up with it, I called the person who talked over me saying I'm still speaking with loud movements so they'll see, but that made me forget what I was trying to say... So it was useless. It got them to pay attention the next time tho
Ronaldo! I'm so sorry you feel like that. I get ignored and/or interrupted before I make my point a lot and it does hurt but I understand that they're on a totally different wavelength than me. If introverts have batteries that run down from too much socializing, you gotta remember extroverts have limited RAM. (GIGO) What we got is "cherce", as Tracy said to Hepburn 😉
@@11cabadger Thank you for the support, it means a lot to me.
Lol, so relatable! The tough part is bouncing back when you've just been ignored or "run over" with someone's words.🤷♀️
That's why I just don't try to talk about the thing again cuz I know I'm gonna get ignored.😂
Yea that shit hurts; I’d rather not talk for 20 years than be ignored
Totally accurate especially when pretending to be busy because no one want to engage conversations with introverts.
I don't know, some of us are more like Ramona Flowers introverts somehow attracting Scott Pilgrims to engage with us for whatever reason (maybe we look lonely).
I'm still to this day entirely surprised that I've made friends and continue to make friends when it feels like I am actively pushing people away.
This ain’t true for most introverts 🤷♀️ I don’t ENJOY small talk or generally socializing at all, but I have no shortage of people I COULD hang out with or who would WANT to talk to me if I opened myself up more...
"That sounds terrible. Let's go!"
*Muted crying*
Me when i talk with one person: bla bla blablabla blabla....
Me when i talk with two persons: 👁👄👁
underrated
Im the opposite I really prefer talking with two ppl so they do all the talking
As an introvert when we try to crack some joke, get ignored, we often think they couldn't hear it and decide to say it again only to end up hearing, "You just said that." or getting weird faces of extroverts. I guess the weird faces are because they think our sense of humor is awful. Well dude, you never know what kind of dark humor these minds store. That's why it is better to tell the jokes to our imaginative friends and laugh at those by the two of us(we and our imaginative friends).
I'm better at making people laugh online than in person. Weird huh?
I'm gonna try this lol
Mom: "why don't you talk with them?"
My brain: *I can't make small talk, I don't really know them well, I will get ignored, no one cares when I talk, I don't just wanna burst to them and started talking, i have social anxiety, I can't make a conversation going long, Im akward, I don't want to ruin their conversation, I rather just hear them talking, I don't know the things they are talking, Im not going to embarrass myself by talking, why do I need to talk when I can just observe and listen,I can't start a conversation, I'm comfortable to just listen and observe, I will get overshadowed anyways why should I even try*
me: "yeah, I don't know"
I can put more but I just wrote what I primary think
Relatee
This is much too relateable. On top of that when you don't talk, you're somehow rude.
???
I. I don’t know what to say. You got most of the reasons I don’t talk down to a T.
@@rRevilo64 yeah, and some people sometimes needs to understand that
With you in all of that. It's crazy how selfish people are to nonstop talk over others with completely boring topics
I feel it when socialize with extrovert, they tend to talk about unimportant things, and it's tiring me to keep up with them.
I like it better when i socialize with another introvert, because i learn a lot when we talking about deeper things.
Fristith I feel like this is what drains me the most. If it's a subject I'm passionate about, I could conversate forever! But that rarely happens in group settings.
Yeah, i don't like talking about something that for me is not interesting, when people in a group do that i feel immediately bored and start thinking about something else
Yeah! And I also have this thing where I think "I don't see the point in talking about this nonsense, but I don't know you enough to tell you about myself, so I'll just awkwardly stare at you while I pretend I'm listening to you."
tbh this is a pretty shallow way to look at people. extroverts talk about deep stuff too, maybe you're just not close enough with one
True, I don't want friends who would simply ignore me.. that's why I always target individual introverts.. and now I have two great buddies I chat with when I feel like talking about school to them, and someone I have a very deep and special connection with
"That sounds terrible. Let's go!"
I feel like he accidentally perfectly portrayed me in any kind of situation.
BRUH, I could be drinking alone right now and how awesome would that be? Fuck yeah!
That is why in group meetings (when I was working) when I ran meetings I would always ask specific questions to the extreme introverts in the room, just to give them the space to speak and make it where people had to listen to them. I would write down what they said on the dry erase board to force people to consider what they are saying. It is extra work making sure they are heard, but totally worth it!
thank you for your service
Thanks for that
@Sara Mahmood It's not about attention.I mean of course my mind would go blank if i was surprised by a question in a group-i'd like to know beforehand- but when the co ordinator gives you the chance to speak your mind cuz they appreciate your ideas and wants to make sure you're heard by EVERYONE... well i'd love that
Thank you for doing that, god bless u
Thank you for your kindness. We do have something to say, just that we get drowned by everyone else 😅
When people don't laugh at my joke: "I'm never gonna try to be funny ever again."
Just laugh at ur own joke 💯😂
@@mira394 so true.
Everyone is bad at joking at first. If you see anybody that is very good at it, he/she just practised a lot
Also if you’re an introvert there is a much greater chance that somebody will cut you off in the middle of a sentence no matter how interested or passionate you feel about the subject
That hurts so bad most times i feel the pain in my face, it's like u finally decide to take off and as soon as u get too comfortable in mid air, BOOM! Gravity pulls u right back down again. Only u hit chest first lol.
Well when they begins to speak, i speak louder 😆😆 and say them wait i havent finished yet and if they dont hear me then i dont hear them anymore
Yeah, I relate. It definitely made me keep to myself more
Just because *they* aren't interested or the person who talks is 'talking too slow'
@@YouDoNotKnowWhoIAm soo because im not interested i have to talk over the other people? cannot just wait they finish? What the fuck
*Me (an introvert)*: Omg that's so irish! I just love that!😍
*My friend*: That's kinda stereotypical🙄
*My other friend (an extrovert)*: Omg that's so irish! I just love that!😍
*My friend*: haha i know! I'm so proud of you learning more about my country!❤️
Sounds like a story of my life. I never figured out WHY it happens. Why it happens??
Yes that happens to me all the time. They tell me to speak up or disagree except with my other friends. I hate extrovert favouritism 🙄
That moment when people don't realize you're there and get scared when you talk...
it Happens! XD
Yea I gotta make noise when I approach people at work now
oh my goodness, you guys actually need to stop that but I must admit when those points come up; they do have power.
@@MercyMburuNyakio Stop what? Talking? Joining a conversation? XD It's not like we sneak up and jumpscare anyone. We're just there like everybody else and sometimes we actually open our mouth. Here's a true story: my colleagues asked "So where is Uli anyway?" while I was standing right next to them.
@@UlimiteinemL 😁 I'm so sorry for that. I'm projecting the apologies I owe my friends to you.
As a really loud typically conspicuous person I've been really trying to relate and advise. My only suggestions so far would be that one should stop overcalculating what one says and to stop caring about the consequence of failure. I mean like with the point for non-funny jokes, you gotta make a lot of non funny jokes before a good one comes out. You gotta keep at the game to get better. So stop caring if no one laughs. Also, SHOUT. Because I've noticed that when soft spoken people 'shout' that's actually when they are talking at an audible level.
I was laughing but then I realized that I'm actually sad that we have to pass through those situations :C
Every time I spot a fellow introvert I try to listen specifically to him/her so that he/she would not feel ignored
You’re right. The best response is "Yeah" in calm sound, it works with everything, believe me 😅
I do it too. INFPs gotta stick up for the underdog, man
Us introverts need to stick together cuz the rest of the world ain’t gone be there for us
How does it say 11 hours ago when the video was literally uploaded about 13 min ago
@@Hani13313 I was wondering that too😂
*In a group project
Me: *decides to say something important after 20 minutes of listening
Some person: *"OmG ShE TaLkS"*
Me: well I'm not anymore- ;-;
Yep. Me too.
this is the worst thing anyone could say after you try to socialize and they don't even know what's been in your head and the struggle of starting saying something...
I believe your videos has made millions of introverts feel like there is someone in the world who cares about them
And they wonder why we never say anything...
Yesss!!!!
YESS
“Why you so quiet?”
Very true
@@Jdabomb93 I hate this question 😑☹️
"I am never gonna try to be funny ever again." Never heard something more relatable.
"That sounds awful, but i can't handle your dissappointment if i said no"
Omg why is this is so relatable 😭😭
Okay, seriously, what DO you do when everyone else is engaged in a conversation!? 28 years, and I still have not solved this riddle!
The accuracy of being at the bbq when the few people you know walk away and everyone else is already engaged in conversation so you just look at your phone is spot on! Hate walking up to groups of people I don't know when they're already talking. 😬
Heck, just avoid walking altogether. I swear even when I just decide to go get a drink or something, I walk by a group and they stop talking and look back and forth at each other awkwardly like I'm wearing a dead fish as clothes or something. Just screw it. I will not human any more thank you.
@@kilotango1537 well well well alone is another word to splendid
You’re standing in a group, listening to conversations that you cannot even relate to (like having children when you don’t have any)
The others turning to you: ...and what about you?
Me: 😳 uh, I uh, ha, uh, well... sigh.... (wishing I was anywhere else)
They just stand there and stare at you. 👁 👁 and then go on like you’re a moron.
Me: 🤦🏻♀️
@@jellyfishi_ good idea, but what I do is:
1. Eat
2. Go home
Except if I knkw someone or someone started talking to me and I liked him, which doesn't usually happen
@@donnaml8776 Hey on the bright side they didn’t speak over you :). More than likely they wanted to know what you thought regardless of what answer you’d give 😊.
Teacher: Ask a question
All my classmate: look at me
Me: *pAniC ATtacK*
I hate those panic attacks
That happened to me so many times in 7th grade
Been there too many times..
Another thing is that I know the answer but am toooo scared to speak it
But then unexpectedly you know the correct answer because you've been browsing random stuff you just thought at 2am
Introverts socializing = Introverts letting extroverts socialize
that part
"I'm just gonna pretend like there's something really important I have to do on my phone".
I feel attacked lmao.
once i told an entire story and the person was looking right into my eyes as i told it, and then as soon as i finished talking, they started talking about something completely unrelated as if they hadn't heard me at all. i'd say it was baffling but i shouldn't be surprised tbh. i'm infp so i'm basically invisible
I'm gonna stab at a guess that you might have been talking to an ENFP, because I know 3 of them and the worst one literally cannot let someone get two sentences out before he goes right back to talking about himself. It's utterly maddening. The second worst offender calls me to hang out for coffee then spends the entire hour talking to other people on her phone. She's done it to me so many times I just don't see her any more. Long story short: it's not you, it's them. Also, I'm sorry people suck, and you do not deserved to be ignored.
that sounds absolutely awful. i would hardly be able to bear being around those people, they both sound very rude. i'm getting annoyed just reading about them, lol. sorry you had to deal with that, you don't deserve it either. thank you for the kind words though, i appreciate it, it makes me feel better :)
united in our suffering✌🏻😔
i say to myself a lot "having the power of invisibility can be good sometimes" but deep down i know that i hate to be ignored and when someone ignores me all i wanna do is lock myself in my room, cry and never leave my house again
Izzy Lightwood yes, i understand. it really just makes you feel like crap
"im never gonna try to be funny again"
so relatable :(
Yeah at least we try than do nothing 😃🤔😌
TBH I’m so used to getting ignored in conversations I just imagine them in my head now.
@Jonathan Ehn I ignore me sometimes
yea like youre about to say something but you just stop yourself from doing so because you know youre probably just gonna be ignored AND the result is you will just imagine that you already say it out loud
Ahh same 😔
these introvert skits are the funniest and most relatable videos i've watched in awhile
So I'm not the only one who seems to disappear from people's memories? That's a relief!
It has it pros though 😂
I mean... if I don't like someone, it's best to stop existing in their memory, or if I said something that I feel completely embarrassed about even a few weeks later and learn that they completely forgot about it, it makes me actually appreciate being forgotten sometimes 🤭
But it sucks when you get a "best friend" for one school year who acts as if they never knew you the next. I was like, we have literally been to eachothers houses on multiple sleep-overs, and I literally just found one of your stuffed animals under my bed.
But nope, you totally don't know me, and that is definitely not the friendship necklace we got together that we are literally both wearing...
And I know I wasn't imagining things because my mom asked about why I stopped having sleep overs with her.
@@anonamouse2052 That truly sounds shit. Did you ever ask her why? I learned that sometimes being very upfront helps with these kinds of things.
But to be very honest I encountered quite a few of those people as well. Even being friends for a few years didn't help with that. Not all friends are like that though, so, I hope that you won't give up completely, even though that "friend" wasn't a good one.
@@NocturnalCachalot I never asked her and ended up just not talking to her because at one point I started to think that I had somehow imagined it. Plus I was too scared of what the answer would be to say anything because if she just denied knowing me, I would just look like a creep. (I'm a girl, but it would still look creepy) I had enough issues with bullies and I didn't want to give anyone reasons to be mean. I was very confused and upset at the time, but being invisible seemed like the better way to go. It's better to be unseen then to have a metaphorical target on your back. Luckily most of the bullying stopped around that time.
@@anonamouse2052 Mhhh having made similar experiences in life, I understand your reaction 100%. Even though, you shouldn't feel like a creep, because of someone else's bad attitude. You didn't imagine anything. It's okay to know and let go, because such a person isn't worth your presence. I hope that from now on you can avoid such people and meet some that truly appreciate you for who you are, your good and your maybe no so good traits. I don't think that this had much to do with any flaws in you though, so... it's best to leave that person and those memories behind and move on. Don't let people like her leave scars on your heart ❤️
Me in class: says the answer 5 times, over and over
Teacher: still patiently waiting for the right answer
Me: starts to feel stupid because their not doing anything so “maybe I’m saying the wrong answer?”
Some dumb jock next to me: *hears my answer* and says it
Teacher, smiling at HIM: “Good Job! That’s correct!”
Me, hating life, while my introvert friends who actually pay attention to me silently laugh because it happens ALL THE TIME:...
Relatable....-_-
Happened to me recently at college and i was so discouraged afterwards. I didn’t give up though and i kept answering the questions i knew and i was finally noticed.
Actually this happened so often to me in school that my extrovert friends regularly came to my rescue by saying: "She said it first!" or "Joe is saying the right answer, you're just not hearing her!" Every time that happened it felt so good.
@@joex1084 woh. I wish I have friends like that :(
RELATABLE
Omg pretending there is something important on my phone is me in every single social interaction. I think I’ve become such a good actress at this point
You only do it for social interactions???
priestess holleywood ok fine fine... I do it in between classes, at the supermarket, whenever I’m outside of my room tbh HAHAHHA
@@SamElle that's better. My fav place is the car dealership while I'm waiting for my car to get done.
I just look at the weather and kinda tilt my phone down so people around me see that I’m busy and can’t talk to them
@@wham1984 hahaha i put my screen brightness super low so they cant see my screen / me pretending to be busy HAHAH
You speak to my life like no one I have ever met. Thank you.
oh gosh, why is it so embarrassing to watch this video, during these 3 minutes I felt like I was experiencing similar situations from my life again and again
Triggered
Saaaame
I’ve learned to just stop talking mid sentence if no one is listening. Eventually...cricket...someone will notice and ask, “What were you saying?”... Me: “Nevermind.” 🤦🏼♀️
That's just rude/ toxic of them
Same. Though I've switched it up lately, and will keep talking while someone else talks over me in the hopes that someone else will shoosh the other person and make them feel like a dick. I think that has been successful at least once.
That's why i don't talk much with people..but i talk a lot in my head. Actually There are two people in my head fighting non stop in every situation, deciding what to do, what to say.
You're my homie🔥
I thought I had some disorder 😅
@@arjun.1751 hurray!!! I'm not the only one.
relatable
p sure that's schizofrenia
@@arjun.1751 Oh that is so common with me and beyond
OMG! Never felt so relatable in a commentary section like in this one! Greeting from Brazil to everyone! Wish you all remember to see the bright light inside you despise all that oddness we suffer daily.
Watching this made me feel pain. So many times that I've tried talking to someone or getting there attention, and it's like they can't hear me. Always have to stop and ask myself if I was mumbling or not speaking loud enough? Then they have to audacity to ask me why it is that I never talk...
And then you go away to be alone with the thousands of thoughts in your head and for recharge🥲
I
Have been talking
For the past TEN MINUTES
If only you
LISTENED TO ME
Honestly, I think it’s more “dominant,” in a sense, to be the stronger, silent type, the thinker if you will. When you’re true to yourself instead of trying to make shallow friendships work, to your own detriment, there is a lot of power and self-respect that comes out of that. Just my $0.02 - loved the concept and content, as always! 😊👏👏👏
One of the most intelligent comments with the fewest likes... typical.
I had my friends drag me all over eternity for all kinds of stupid, but usually I just gathered data and carried on as a voice of reason, data, and most importantly "not-drunkenness".
And secretly, half the time, I was excited to go on stupid adventures without admitting to it. More data collection.
Cody Ridley Observing the natives. Definitely a worthwhile pastime. 😊
I agree.
I'd like to think that.. Because only true friends would want to listen to you and think your opinion matters
The one time I tried to host an event as an introvert it was a streaming movie party. I had been asking my friends for three years when we were going to do it and no one could ever agree, so I said heck with it and just TOLD them when I would be watching the movie online. The event was good, but later these friends said "Wow you really walked all over us by not considering our schedules when you picked the date." WTF? I asked you for three years and prior to the event had a doodle poll for two weeks that no one took. I really went out of my comfort zone here and you all hated it. Guess I'll never try to be social on my own terms again.
Or you need better friends
An immature extravert will always consider the introvert in the wrong (and the other way around as well). They'll hopefully learn and understand how their fellow human works in time.
You definitely deserved better, from the look of it.
Human relationships are complex, and even more so when you are an introvert. I find my life a bit more easier since I accepted it.
Don't stay angry, I'm sure you had some fun while watching the movie... Keep it up.
Absolutely relatable, hardly anyone responds to our plan
Been there...
And since im a smiley introvert guy...
I just gave them in a very monotonous voice and stoic face....
"I suggest dump that brain of yours and get another one that can actually remember things"
And they never bothered talking to me
*Laughs in quality personal time*
bro you're humor's the coolest and that blank stare at the end killed and resonated with my soul haha
"u're so quiet"
Yeah cuz no one literally listens when i talk.
It actually kinda hurts seeing just how accurate this is. You could literally put me in that video and nothing would change.
gosh l thought l was the only one ! so , l literally stay away from everyone . if introver doesnt socialize , people think we are boring . when we try to socialize , we get ignored . the most hatest part , when u say something but other ignores and someone says that particular thing what u just said , other agrees .
@@pizzaforever69I couldn't talk even with other nerds because I was too poor to buy Yu-Gi-Oh crap they were obsessed with.
@@SiGa-i1r exactly. Some group people think they are cool while they do something absurd and hate those who can't agree with them. l used to get bullied because l wasn't much into social medias and didn't know slang words meaning. Now, l have become a nerd and bully others for being too naive.😂
This is the reason I don't talk whenever I'm in a group of people unless they asked me something
You except the fact that you are introvert, thats good 👍
I have random science facts at the ready so when things get awkward I just talk about general relativity or something
I don’t like screaming my lungs out each time I talk in a group setting so sometimes I just don’t speak entirely.
People they ask me things but I only answer them by saying Yes or no and if I Include talking long sentence to them they just ignore me
@@LikeableAden damn , l thought l was the only person in whole world who gets ignored .
Yep, that's why I enjoy being to myself, more time to do things I need to do.