💯 I’m even starting to feel this way about my own family (outside of my household) 😣 I mean of course I love them and care about them, but it’s too draining for me to interact with all of them constantly. In a family where everyone is extroverted, no one understands and a lot of them think I’m ‘rude’ and ‘distant’. Some of them understand, but a lot of them even though I tell them I’m very introverted and simply don’t have nearly the same energy reserves as them, they just don’t take the time to really understand or think about it and just shrug their shoulders and I guess they think I’m ‘weird’ that I don’t constantly want to attend every get-together, party, or even group chat messages . Sigh 😣🤷♀️
@@LauraAnne95 omg sane, like, I love them, but I don't feel like a need to talk to them, call them or even text them, and just the idea of having to make contact makes me tired
@@LauraAnne95 maybe one of the common extrovert people's fault(not all extroverts) is the fact that they don't understand the behaviour or personality of others being different I guess😕
I bet all the introverts here, enjoyed the whole covid lockdown event. I sure did! First time in my life that I didn't have to make excuses why I didn't want to participate, join in, meet people. It was great.
No! Introverts are not all the same. I enjoy going to pubs several times a week (even if I may not speak to anyone except the barperson) which in the UK were shut by lockdown. Introversion does not preclude concern about society as a whole as well as ourselves. Lockdown caused appalling damage to the health service, education, and the economy which will take decades to recover from. It empowered authoritarian politicians (notably Matt Hancock in Britain) and killjoy medical panjandrums, and advanced a socialistic outlook that governments can spend unlimited sums to alleviate any hardship. It was the worst disaster since second world war.
I can be concerned about society from afar. I don't have to rub shoulders with everyone to care. And I think things that will cause worse damage to society and the economy will be continuing automation, the climate crisis and people's disinterest in caring for the earth because it means change and half the population is mortally fearful of change even when it means something better will come as a result. @@michaelhughes4466
I wouldn’t say that while I did enjoy being alone , there’s still things I like to do besides sit at home , like going for a walk or going shopping ,getting something to eat , all things u can do and enjoy alone.
Old introvert who finally retired after 53 years; did a great job, remained diligent, helpful and kind, but this is my truth, I'm absolutely thrilled to stay at home, minding my own business, and shutting the world out; online interaction with very little contact is awesome; just me and my dog living and loving each day
Me too. I retired 5 years ago and I was so drained it took a full year to not be tired and I'm finally feeling less tense. I'm happiest at home with Noone around me. ( I worked in a public setting)
Every Friday evening I send my daughter to my Mums (they get along so well) for a sleepover and my husband out with his mates. Thats the only thing that prevents me to tape them up and throw them in the shed.
Exactly couldn’t have said it better. If I’m around 50 people then it has to be 50 people that I care about and that I can have a decent conversation with :-)
I think that the most simple and most agreeable definition of an introvert person can be " a person who is introvert will only involve in a conversation if the conversation is about something in which he has interest or else he would just fade out"
That is definitely me. I get bored very easily and will bow out of a conversation very quickly. In fact, I will disappear and people will have wondered where I have gone to.
I tried to explain introversion to an extroverted coworker (one time) and explained how I get physically tired in social situations. She immediately replied: "oh, that's not introverted, you must have a mental disorder." I had to talk to HR later about it because I told her she has the attention span of a tennis ball among other things. I've never had a problem being assertive when I'm angry or annoyed at stupid people
"Oh, that's not introverted; you must have a mental disorder." That is perhaps the most disrespectful slap in the face to not just you, but all introverts. There's nothing quite like trivializing introverts by claiming they're all mentally handicapped.
It is still cool. Working from home no pressure of socialising. You can mute and switch of video during calls. Tell them internet is wonky today and get the ticket to be out of the meeting. Best time ever to be alive for an introvert.. ;)
As a child I preferred being at home…always thought it was because of severe car sickness. Hated crowds…always thought it was from hearing loss it was exhausting trying to follow all the conversations. When I got older hated night clubbing and parties…thought it was my allergy to alcohol. Didn’t realise until I was in my 30’s that I am a true introvert. I love knitting, crochet, reading and diamond art all solo activities. Love the company of my daughter, husband and little dog but still like my alone time every day.
I used to think I was an introvert, but a psychiatrist I saw once told me that I was a schizoid, not an introvert. As a schizoid, I've never been night clubbing or partying (the only time I ever had alcohol was when I drank a cup of eggnog my brother-in-law made; of course, now I'm a vegan, so I don't consume anything containing eggs), and I've never had friends, romantic partners, or a spouse. Also, I take it that introverts are good listeners, where schizoids retreat into our own thoughts when others talk.
@@ghenulo Not necessarily -- not all introverts are good listeners, some do in fact retreat into their own thoughts (in my case, I do so if I find the conversation boring)!
I absolutely hate crowds. I also don't like people sitting behind me. I have to monitor what is going on around me and be able to make that quick exit if I need to. I have never done parties. If I go, I will be gone in less than ten minutes. I am currently taking care of my mom. In order to get away, I go to work. When I get home from work, it is a quick greeting, ask if she needs anything, and then I isolate myself. I even lock my bedroom door because I don't want interruption. I have a lot of trouble sleeping. If I can get to sleep I want to be able to do so as long as I can so I can function the following day.
@@psa722 I also don't like it when there are people behind me, and I always check my six FREQUENTLY if such is the case -- but that also comes from living in a diverse area, in a small town it's not as scary!
When I was young thought I was not an introvert because I went to parties, then I realized the parties had a lot of people who really don't notice you if you don't talk and because I was there for the guys, no guys, no fun. Even if it is a small party I have to know everyone there otherwise I am miserable.
I guess I keep getting adopted by extroverts. Ehh, at least they treat me with food occasionally, all I can say this is how you make friends with me irl. Just give me a free snack and I'll stick around for 2 hours.
I loved spending the last year of my highschool in my house tbh I didn't had to deal with a lot of crappy drama. Plus I got to deal with my own problems without having people breathing down my neck.
I can't help thinking there might have been ways for you to get out of these parties without needing something as extreme as a global pandemic to happen.
This resonated so much. I’m the introvert’s introvert - I go at least 4-5 days a week without seeing or speaking to anyone but my pets. I don’t seem to actually have a point at which I become lonely. The COVID pandemic didn’t even faze me in terms of isolation.
I am 100% an introvert. I hate being the centre of attention, I don't make friends easy, hate going to social events and am very passive. I would love to be more assertive, but don't like confrontation. I feel comfortable in small groups of people I know well, but hate going to work parties and events and will make excuses not to go if I can.
My friends think I’m depressed or lonely cuz I shut myself in my house without hanging out with anyone, but little do they know I’m living my best life.
IKR. In my country we get marks for how much we say and what we say in class and that’s so annoying. Why do I need to speak in class? If I don’t, does that mean I am dumb or what? My grades would be so much better if it would just be my writing marks. I don’t think it’s bad that I like to be silent so why do I need to push myself to do things I feel uncomfortable with... I hate school for that.
My grades were good enough to exempt me from the final quarter of my senior year of high school which thrilled me to no end because I so desperately wanted to get out of that place. I hated being in a classroom.
@@theendfight8360 Same. Almost everytime, everyone is clueless and lazy in my group projects. The result is me being the leader despite the fact that I'm an introvert.
Am I the only one who thinks that cats are the perfect pets for an introvert and dogs for extroverts? If you think about their personalities, they match a lot. 😂
No, dogs are very much my coping mechanism over cats. Cats never want anything to do with me, and never seen to _care_ about me, but my doggo always loves me
Yes totally agree! I love animals including dogs but I have a special affinity for cats. When I spend a day “humaning” at work I look forward to returning home to my books and my cat.
As an introvert, I actually prefer group situations to one on one situations. Because, like you said, in a group I can just retreat and play on my phone and no one will pay any attention to me. It's still draining but I can take a couple of hours of this. But in one on one situations, the other person is LASER focused on YOU. And that absolutely zaps my energy faster than any group gathering. But obviously, I prefer to be completely alone or just with my boyfriend. Alone time is best time, even if it is alone time with my boyfriend :)
When he’s talking about situations that drain you, he’s talking as if you’re actually participating in the convo. Obviously it’s less draining to completely ignore the group of people that’s with you than to talk one on one with someone
I am the opposite. I like one on one communication. The more people that join in on the conversation, the more nervous I get. After a short time, I lose interest and I leave.
People think introverts are like some kind of shy recluse....we can SEEM that way, but really we are just more discerning about who we choose to be with.
I’ve always been an introvert, from a family of introverts. Which definitely had its pluses, because we all understood each other implicitly and were happy going on family vacations to quiet places where we could all hang out and read books most of the tome and not have to interact with strangers. Or even with each other very much, if we didn’t want to. I live in an introvert’s paradise right now, too. I live way up at an altitude of 9000 feet in a tiny unincorporated mountain town, where I share a fairly big house on 2 acres of land with one roommate and four cats. I generally only have to drive down into town to do errands and interact with people every third day or so, since I work from home now:
As an introvert, I’m that one crazy person who actually enjoyed quarantine because I didn’t have to associate with anyone except my family. Who I would have preferred to be with less.
I understand what you mean, but at the same time, i find it easier to get into these deep conversations when talking one to one, i kinda feel lonely in groups, because i'm just there you know not doing much
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for me it’s my dad bro like he knows how introverts are like and and thinks we avoid people and interactions and general (which is true) but that don’t mean introverts aren’t prone to meeting new people or making friends like bffr 🤦🏾♀️
I get drained by social interactions faster when I don't trust people enough. I can talk for hours with my closest friends because they understand me and I trust them
On a similar note, I'm fine with a group I know, with room for maybe one stranger in a medium-sized group. I get really nervous and anxious when I don't know the group dynamic, so either when a large proportion of the group is people I don't know, or if it's a mix of people from different groups which I know/am a part of, because then I have no idea how to behave.
@@plan4life I'm not socially awkward, just socially uninterested. I'm not shy, just hate small talk. I'm not lonely, just a preference of being alone. I'm not timid, but naturally assertive tempered by natural empathy unless someone doesn't get the point. I can interact easily with people, in crowds, and unplanned activities - but that's very draining and alone time to recharge is not only needed, but required. I don't suffer from social anxiety, but can suffer from social annoyance.
@@plan4lifeactually that is everything that introverts are stereotyped to be. The fundamental trait is not social interaction or success but rather whether social interactions of certain types energize or drain you and how you feel most comfortable processing your environment, which is why some of those other things can present as “symptoms”. I grew up in a very small town where my family was known and I was related to many of them (there was a period where there was someone with my last name in every school for a period of about 60 years), and I would have random people stop me and talk to me from the time I was very small. My husband was very confused when I came up introverted because I am very socially confident, have no issues with building rapport, can speak at length on any topic, including the trivial, have no problem with asserting myself or being direct or creating conflict, and am not a “lonely” person from the outside. What he didn’t see is how tired I felt after a day of work as an educator, talking to people all day long, that I can sit quietly and daydream for hours without any external stimulation, the order in which I assess my feelings for and speak about something, and never NEED another person around me to contemplate a situation. He is extremely extroverted. He hates “lounging” where he doesn’t talk to anyone, cannot be by himself for extended periods, must talk to someone to think about how he feels about things, and requires almost constant external stimulation. I am the one who takes 3 hours to watch a YT video because I am pausing to contemplate and consider (by commenting) while he watches a short halfway through before moving on.😂
as an introvert, i hate people who say that they're introverted just because they think its 'cute' damn 124 likes, your girl is famous 904 likes now lol
Chriael Samuil Yup :) They do it for the hype. There's a lot of stereotypes of introverts out - we're so mysterious etc... Many people romanticize introverts too. It's bothersome.
Regardless of how you are - If you are outgoing or reserved or can do both, if people choose to reject you for being yourself and you are not otherwise doing anything legitimately harmful or bad, then, that is their loss. Continue to be honest, kind, respectful, and yourself - regardless of their choices. If they do decide to talk to you, try to work with them and hopefully they’ll try to do the same.
Im a strange introvert! I love to have fun....i just don't need other people to do it! I have gone to amusement parks by myself, and gotten on all the roller coasters by myself and loved it😂!
"You don't annoy me. We should talk. But not in person. And rarely. Because if people know you talk to me they might try to talk to me" -one introvert to another
lol.. one of my classmates (when we had to work on a group project) was like wow you’re quite fun online. And then he said ‘hi’ to me the next and I said ‘hi’ and then ignored him.
I'm both. I really enjoy social interaction and commit to it. Also I can, and have been, several weeks alone. It's also wonderful. Learning from each moment is what keeps me happy. Nobody can really bring me down as understanding the mean people's motives helps me tolerate it and also avoid the same mistakes. This counts also physical threats. Nobody lifts their fists at me because they sense that I care more about them than me getting hurt. I'm not saying this works for everyone but has worked wonderfully for me.
As far as dealing with physical threats, having a black belt in karate and being a very good shot with a semi-auto pistol (and always carrying, legally or otherwise, if I find myself having to go to or through a dangerous area) definitely helps as far as I'm concerned!
"introverts don't get engaged in group conversations" - well, everytime i engage, i end up being upset that someone stops listening to me after like 10 seconds or i end up listening to their 10 minute monologue or i give them the 10 minute monologue if they show any will to listen and then i feel embarrassed because i exposed myself
#7, needing time to process things. So true! I never recognized that as an introvert thing, but you're right! One reason I like to work on my own is that I can take my time making a decision.
As an introvert, any type of party is like hell. You have to socialize for hours and cannot stare at you phone without looking like you hate the person's party
I usually go to the kitchen and help with the food and dishes when I have to go to a party. It's also helpful to pretend to talk on the phone, to hide on the toilet and to play with present pets or children or find someone who loves talking and will be happy speaking all the time with you just nodding here and then.
You just described me. I love being by myself, working alone, and I can’t even mentally handle Sunday school class an hour. I rarely talk. I like fun, but by myself or with one friend.
Ikr. 9th grade, Arts class. Group task: A unique, complex, art piece. Basically I had to share the horrible outcome of the art piece. Add to that -20% for "lack of participation"(I got pushed aside every time I built up the confidence to try and share an idea). If I could've worked alone I could've gotten 85%+, but because I "wanted everyone else to do the work", I got 20%.
Yep. We had a "quiz game" in history one year. Everyone in teams. Somehow, I was allowed to be by myself. Blew them all out of the water it was hilarious.
I got lucky like that once. Only two emails shared between us, one to divide the roles and the last with the completed project. No facebook, whatsapp, phone number, skype, etc. needed.
@@outrider8569 : 'optimism with a twist'- I like it:) I just call it stoicism perhaps - why would I root my well being in someone else? Well, I'm not a robot, so unfortunately I do get upset with humans at times, but then I tell myself: there is no logic in human behaviour, so don't be disappointed. What did you expect?
That about sums me up…I don’t like crowds, I’m much better one on one, and I love my time alone. There are times in the past when people thought I was an extrovert because I can get nervous, and I start talking too much in a group. My Dad was the same way, he had people thinking he was extrovert but he would go to great lengths to avoid people. Getting up in front of the class to read your report was like torture.
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It's strange; I feel lonely a lot of the times, but still dread social interaction. It's more so that I want to feel like I am somebody to someone, than actually want to hang out with anyone. A bad cycle to get stuck in- feeling lonely but never feeling like doing anything about it
As an introvert myself I can say that these 10 points nail it very well, or at least me, very well. I have always wished I could be more assertive, more social, more talkative, but this overview confirms that I’m not going to really be any of these things, at least not in the long run. What I want for myself, is to become more comfortable with how I am, and to work with that in my dealings with others. Great video. Thank you.
"fun" is subjective. to me, "fun" is being in nature with a book...sometimes. Or playing a video game. Or watching RUclips. we all have different ideas of what "fun" is. Also I could have the house to myself (RIP those times, there's ALWAYS someone home -_- ) for a week or two and not get lonely or bored. I have a very creative/fertile "inner life". I get bored around people for too long.
Genuine conversation- no small talk, honesty, don’t waste my time, will be more extroverted when I travel but at home I don’t need to see people. Jobs where I don’t have to deal with the general public, don’t enjoy being centre of attention- not telling you when my birthday is.
Imagine going to school for 7 hours, and when you get home your parents go "why don't you ever hang out with us?" I just want to sit down, drink my tea, and read in silence. But nOoOo.
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Oh you're so lucky.. i'm glad to hear that. 😊 It should have been like that to me.. but i have to live with my extrovert relatives who always seek for any form of engagement with people around (including me), have to deal with video calls cause we can't meet in person (offline).. Video calls specially the one in group (involve more than 3people) really overwhelm me. My room used to be my private space to be alone, my comfort zone, but not anymore right now. I still need to adapt thou.
@@shubhankarghoshalroy3605 Thankyou. 💜 I think time will make it better i guess. For right now i only lock my room whenever i need to be alone. I let people at home know that i need to be alone in my own space to recharge. 😁 Self care is really essentials in this challenging condition. 😅
No. I feel guilty telling people that this has been a good year for me. I have hardly left my home. I love not having to make the dreaded small talk at work or social situations.
Rapid drain check. Enjoy a lot of solitude, check. One on one yup. Worked independently all my life. Fun and group academic projects don’t mix. You rock Frank. -Matt’s INTJ dad
I was just about to comment about that. I like one on one conversation too but in the 2 or 3 person convos, you can just relax and listen. Takes less energy too.
Oh, yes, that third person is a lifesaver! And then I just get to interject a funny comment every once in awhile without having to do all the work of thinking up conversation topics. (ISTJ)
10 Signs You're A True Introvert: (For people who are too lazy to watch the video lol) 1. You are rapidly drained by social interaction. 2. You enjoy being alone for long periods of time. 3. You prefer 1-on-1 social situations to being in a group. 4. You prefer to work alone rather than with others. 5. You seem less enthusiastic to others. 6. You don't feel the need to share your thoughts. 7. You spend a long time thinking about decisions. 8. You are easily overstimulated. 9. You tend not to be assertive. 10. You tend to be skeptical or even pessimistic.
@@Kayenne54 Yes, this. Pre pandemic Monday morning at work always started with what did you do at the weekend? and me ending up feeling like I needed to justify staying home. In lockdown I actually felt free to be me.
As an introvert, almost all of this is accurate EXCEPT #9 and #10 -- I can be VERY assertive on things I care about, and I generally have a positive outlook on life (but I do definitely hate any kind of exuberant cheerfulness, to the point where I have to make myself sad on purpose when exposed to too much of it!)
The only one i dont relate to is that introverts prefer one on one interaction. Its true i dont like large groups but i prefer 3-4 people so that the attention isnt constantly in my direction. In college my friends called me ghost because of how quiet i am in person. So when i am around only one other person, its like the most akward thing in the world. Unless we are besties and your used to me hardly speaking....
That's valid. While when I do want to contribute something to the conversation I wish that it were less people present... But I also sometimes prefer groups so I can just ride out in the back lol
yes, was going to comment this! and you can let the other group members play against each other (i mean talking) while you shut off for moments. one on one is intense stuff.
Being an introvert, I actually enjoy conversations when there's more.than two people, because then I don't have to make the effort of trying avoid awkward silences or trying.to come up with topics.
It’s been a long time since I’ve had long conversations with a person. But I’ve recently started talking to a someone. It’s fun talking to with them but the long awkward silence makes me think I’m doing something wrong, even though it doesn’t bother the person I’m talking too. Even though we barely know each other, I’ve told her what my personality is like. So maybe it’s her being nice and knowing I’m new to long personal conversations.
Well the secret when it is two of us is that I look the person in the eye and agree with what he/she says with a fake smile that I practiced that makes the person talk more and I don't have too( downside a girl taught I was flirting with her because of that) so I adopted a new strategy I pretend to be sick and have headache
The lockdown really sucked for me after a while because I was rarely alone. With 5 family members in our small house it felt like there I was never, ever alone. I could hide in the bathroom for only so long and my wife was working from home along with my kids doing zoom school. I went absolutely insane after the first year and had to go for walks that kept me out of the house for hours.
I am not an introvert please I have lots of friends...(imaginary) I talk a lot...(with myself) I take part in lot of activities... (Like overthinking) I even have a best friend...(my dog)
People always say introverts need to talk more, nobody says extroverts need to shut up
Actually they do
A-men!
I may not say it, but I often think others need to “shut up”.
I would say they need to check in with themselves more and reflect for a few seconds before they speak. In other words: introvert. 😊
Yes!!!
I don't hate people, I just don't want to see them, talk to them or do things with them.
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I’m even starting to feel this way about my own family (outside of my household) 😣 I mean of course I love them and care about them, but it’s too draining for me to interact with all of them constantly. In a family where everyone is extroverted, no one understands and a lot of them think I’m ‘rude’ and ‘distant’. Some of them understand, but a lot of them even though I tell them I’m very introverted and simply don’t have nearly the same energy reserves as them, they just don’t take the time to really understand or think about it and just shrug their shoulders and I guess they think I’m ‘weird’ that I don’t constantly want to attend every get-together, party, or even group chat messages . Sigh 😣🤷♀️
Ras_ AlHim you should also add to your list: I don’t want to hear them chew.
@@LauraAnne95 omg sane, like, I love them, but I don't feel like a need to talk to them, call them or even text them, and just the idea of having to make contact makes me tired
People is mean
@@LauraAnne95 maybe one of the common extrovert people's fault(not all extroverts) is the fact that they don't understand the behaviour or personality of others being different I guess😕
I bet all the introverts here, enjoyed the whole covid lockdown event. I sure did! First time in my life that I didn't have to make excuses why I didn't want to participate, join in, meet people. It was great.
No! Introverts are not all the same. I enjoy going to pubs several times a week (even if I may not speak to anyone except the barperson) which in the UK were shut by lockdown. Introversion does not preclude concern about society as a whole as well as ourselves. Lockdown caused appalling damage to the health service, education, and the economy which will take decades to recover from. It empowered authoritarian politicians (notably Matt Hancock in Britain) and killjoy medical panjandrums, and advanced a socialistic outlook that governments can spend unlimited sums to alleviate any hardship. It was the worst disaster since second world war.
I loved it. I hope it happens again.
I can be concerned about society from afar. I don't have to rub shoulders with everyone to care. And I think things that will cause worse damage to society and the economy will be continuing automation, the climate crisis and people's disinterest in caring for the earth because it means change and half the population is mortally fearful of change even when it means something better will come as a result. @@michaelhughes4466
@@lnr1002uhhh idk about that people died lol
I wouldn’t say that while I did enjoy being alone , there’s still things I like to do besides sit at home , like going for a walk or going shopping ,getting something to eat , all things u can do and enjoy alone.
Old introvert who finally retired after 53 years; did a great job, remained diligent, helpful and kind, but this is my truth, I'm absolutely thrilled to stay at home, minding my own business, and shutting the world out; online interaction with very little contact is awesome; just me and my dog living and loving each day
Me too. I retired 5 years ago and I was so drained it took a full year to not be tired and I'm finally feeling less tense.
I'm happiest at home with Noone around me. ( I worked in a public setting)
Every Friday evening I send my daughter to my Mums (they get along so well) for a sleepover and my husband out with his mates. Thats the only thing that prevents me to tape them up and throw them in the shed.
Wishing you and your beloved dog a sweet and happy retirement! ❤
Can’t wait
Your the best.
Introverts like fun. We just like different fun. Quiet fun.
true
Yes that is “OUR” type of fun
Games :>
Calm fun. Non harmful fun.
Take a bike ride in the mountains = yes
Rip up the hills with muh massive treads = Um no.
@@tiagoroberto6887 Yes that “person” is my best friend for example
We like hanging out with people we care about. What we don't like is meaningless interaction.
Exactly!
Yes!!
Exactly couldn’t have said it better. If I’m around 50 people then it has to be 50 people that I care about and that I can have a decent conversation with :-)
Ig social introverts like to do meaningless interaction with people they care abt cuz I do
Genau.
I love being an introvert. I really don't want to change that about myself.
I think that the most simple and most agreeable definition of an introvert person can be " a person who is introvert will only involve in a conversation if the conversation is about something in which he has interest or else he would just fade out"
That is definitely me. I get bored very easily and will bow out of a conversation very quickly. In fact, I will disappear and people will have wondered where I have gone to.
@@psa722 us bro us🤝🤝
That's called boredom! ❤
Longer i live more people bore me
Sign number 1: Your daily lifestyle is called "Quarantine"
I was thriving in quarantine I actually sound happy asking people how's their quarantine 🤣
I told my old man I'm crushing thisl quarantine thing. I've been training my whole life for this lol
True😂
I live a very social life...
...I visit Kaufland once a week to buy my groceries.
@@theoutsiderjess1869 Quarantine has been a blessing for me. Working from home is the best thing EVER.
The person who created the teamwork at school is the devil
Or "Okay everyone, let's go around and share something about yourselves" 😡
Facts
😂. Instructor: “Okay I need you all to divide yourselves into groups of 5 - 6”. Me in my head: “Oh dammit”. #memories
Yes! Yes! Yes! I either ended doing everything or nothing, nothing in between!
Yeaah. I'll just always wait until someone ask me to join them or wait for the teacher to ask who still got no group.
Stay at home. Work at home. Single for 20 years, i shop at 10pm-2am. I like it to be quiet. That's me.
I love shopping at night with no one in the stores ! thank you
@@lilaccillaI use delivery and have them leave it on my stoop lol
Amen to that. On my days off, I rarely go out of the house.
Either 10pm - 2am or like 6:00am - about 11:00am and I hate when people have to bring their entire families with them everywhere they go
Hardware stores are the best when they’re empty and you have a question
I tried to explain introversion to an extroverted coworker (one time) and explained how I get physically tired in social situations. She immediately replied: "oh, that's not introverted, you must have a mental disorder."
I had to talk to HR later about it because I told her she has the attention span of a tennis ball among other things. I've never had a problem being assertive when I'm angry or annoyed at stupid people
We are smarter than extroverts in general. we analyze and study every moment to be successful, extroverts just live a who gives a sh#t life
And THAT is why it's better to AVOID sharing ANY personal stuff with extroverts!
"Oh, that's not introverted; you must have a mental disorder."
That is perhaps the most disrespectful slap in the face to not just you, but all introverts. There's nothing quite like trivializing introverts by claiming they're all mentally handicapped.
@@KingsleyIII fr, it makes me so angry. I don’t have any mental disorder, being an introvert isn’t bad, when will extroverts get it?
@@KingsleyIII Personally, if anyone said that to me, I'd report them to HR first!
I find it way much easier to interact with strangers rather than acquaintances.
I noticed that too. Because there is a chance you will never have to interact with them ever again it is easier
@@KathrinH1997 right on the spot!
@@SeelenTaucher I'd surely listen to this song ❤
@@KathrinH1997 yeah exactly, no fear of judgements and no overthinking
Ifkr😂
Extrovert "omg lock down 😱"
Introvert "omg lock down 😁🙂😊"
😂😂😂😂🙌🙌🙌
So true. So true.
Lockdown was cool
It is still cool. Working from home no pressure of socialising. You can mute and switch of video during calls.
Tell them internet is wonky today and get the ticket to be out of the meeting. Best time ever to be alive for an introvert.. ;)
Im a introvert i loved lockdown i didn't wanna go back to school
We have an extremely small group of people we can truly open up to. Usually after YEARS of those people proving they can be trusted to not hurt us.
As a child I preferred being at home…always thought it was because of severe car sickness. Hated crowds…always thought it was from hearing loss it was exhausting trying to follow all the conversations. When I got older hated night clubbing and parties…thought it was my allergy to alcohol. Didn’t realise until I was in my 30’s that I am a true introvert. I love knitting, crochet, reading and diamond art all solo activities. Love the company of my daughter, husband and little dog but still like my alone time every day.
I used to think I was an introvert, but a psychiatrist I saw once told me that I was a schizoid, not an introvert. As a schizoid, I've never been night clubbing or partying (the only time I ever had alcohol was when I drank a cup of eggnog my brother-in-law made; of course, now I'm a vegan, so I don't consume anything containing eggs), and I've never had friends, romantic partners, or a spouse. Also, I take it that introverts are good listeners, where schizoids retreat into our own thoughts when others talk.
@@ghenulo Not necessarily -- not all introverts are good listeners, some do in fact retreat into their own thoughts (in my case, I do so if I find the conversation boring)!
I absolutely hate crowds. I also don't like people sitting behind me. I have to monitor what is going on around me and be able to make that quick exit if I need to. I have never done parties. If I go, I will be gone in less than ten minutes. I am currently taking care of my mom. In order to get away, I go to work. When I get home from work, it is a quick greeting, ask if she needs anything, and then I isolate myself. I even lock my bedroom door because I don't want interruption. I have a lot of trouble sleeping. If I can get to sleep I want to be able to do so as long as I can so I can function the following day.
@@psa722 I also don't like it when there are people behind me, and I always check my six FREQUENTLY if such is the case -- but that also comes from living in a diverse area, in a small town it's not as scary!
When I was young thought I was not an introvert because I went to parties, then I realized the parties had a lot of people who really don't notice you if you don't talk and because I was there for the guys, no guys, no fun. Even if it is a small party I have to know everyone there otherwise I am miserable.
Most introverts dont make friends mostly we get adopted by extroverts
I wish an extrovert could adopt me
@@stephanywinam3643 nah it's annoying
I call that "The Jay and Silent Bob" effect!
😂😂👌👌
I guess I keep getting adopted by extroverts. Ehh, at least they treat me with food occasionally, all I can say this is how you make friends with me irl. Just give me a free snack and I'll stick around for 2 hours.
The Pandemic has been glorious. No holiday parties, no going out, and most of all - listening to the extroverts complain about it.
Not for me. Because the extroverts are still forcing me to go to parties. CRAP.
I loved spending the last year of my highschool in my house tbh I didn't had to deal with a lot of crappy drama. Plus I got to deal with my own problems without having people breathing down my neck.
I can't help thinking there might have been ways for you to get out of these parties without needing something as extreme as a global pandemic to happen.
Ikr the best thing about 2020 you get to be alone
@@DoktorSean True. But no many can argue with "I'd love to go, but this whole pandemic thing...."
This resonated so much. I’m the introvert’s introvert - I go at least 4-5 days a week without seeing or speaking to anyone but my pets. I don’t seem to actually have a point at which I become lonely. The COVID pandemic didn’t even faze me in terms of isolation.
I am 100% an introvert. I hate being the centre of attention, I don't make friends easy, hate going to social events and am very passive. I would love to be more assertive, but don't like confrontation. I feel comfortable in small groups of people I know well, but hate going to work parties and events and will make excuses not to go if I can.
You just described me 😭
Sign 11: you prefer to speak to yourself rather than with others.
Yes! That guy in head makes great conversation!
@@corinnebloom7005 Actually, i usually disagree with him and yell at him
I am my own therapist😌
I'm like that..
Or to your dog
My friends think I’m depressed or lonely cuz I shut myself in my house without hanging out with anyone, but little do they know I’m living my best life.
Same situation 😭😭😭
My friends are also introverts lmao
I'm only really happy being alone. Which is why I don't have any friends.
me too but i'm also depressed lol
They don't see it throug you point of view, they see it like an extrovert does
Yep this is me. In fact I often become unwell after a family visit. Love being alone.
My idea of being social is sitting near people in a coffee shop....without saying anything or making eye contact
Me: "I'd love to dye my hair a crazy color"
Them: "why don't you?"
Me: "I dont want people looking at me"😔
The worst part of having different hair - people really want to talk to you.
@@divinetrouble66 ugh, no thank you haha
And talking
Or worse, touching you! Had that happen before when my hair was a weird color 😬
So meee
I feel like school makes it seem like its bad to be an introvert...
Does anyone else think that?
yeah
they make introverts feel guilty for wanting to be alone
@@stephaniesmith1431 doesnt work but they try
IKR. In my country we get marks for how much we say and what we say in class and that’s so annoying. Why do I need to speak in class? If I don’t, does that mean I am dumb or what? My grades would be so much better if it would just be my writing marks. I don’t think it’s bad that I like to be silent so why do I need to push myself to do things I feel uncomfortable with... I hate school for that.
My grades were good enough to exempt me from the final quarter of my senior year of high school which thrilled me to no end because I so desperately wanted to get out of that place. I hated being in a classroom.
As a great philosopher posited: "Hell is other people"
Fun is relative. Its not that i dont like fun. My fun is different
"it's not that I'm a genius, it's just that I'm surrounded by idiots"
-Technoblade
That's how I feel in a group project.
@@theendfight8360 Same. Almost everytime, everyone is clueless and lazy in my group projects. The result is me being the leader despite the fact that I'm an introvert.
Einstein’s mind is kinda like that lol
*Everyone Liked That.*
@@theendfight8360 lol😂
Am I the only one who thinks that cats are the perfect pets for an introvert and dogs for extroverts? If you think about their personalities, they match a lot. 😂
That's why I have cats, yes xD
I have dogs because I cant have cats. And they are the substitute of people, like my daily dose of activity :)
Dogs' clinginess stresses me out so yes. I love cats.
No, dogs are very much my coping mechanism over cats. Cats never want anything to do with me, and never seen to _care_ about me, but my doggo always loves me
Yes totally agree! I love animals including dogs but I have a special affinity for cats. When I spend a day “humaning” at work I look forward to returning home to my books and my cat.
As an introvert, I actually prefer group situations to one on one situations. Because, like you said, in a group I can just retreat and play on my phone and no one will pay any attention to me. It's still draining but I can take a couple of hours of this. But in one on one situations, the other person is LASER focused on YOU. And that absolutely zaps my energy faster than any group gathering.
But obviously, I prefer to be completely alone or just with my boyfriend. Alone time is best time, even if it is alone time with my boyfriend :)
When he’s talking about situations that drain you, he’s talking as if you’re actually participating in the convo. Obviously it’s less draining to completely ignore the group of people that’s with you than to talk one on one with someone
I am the opposite. I like one on one communication. The more people that join in on the conversation, the more nervous I get. After a short time, I lose interest and I leave.
I like one on one conversation too and working alone than a group
Same. One on one, especially with an adult is so awkward and embarrassing
This is so true🤣I am an Introvert. I’d love to spend weeks alone
“Introverts are low in Extroversion” hmmm i had no idea
lol
@@FrankJames my life is now complete
😅mhm.
Ah yes, the floor here is made of floor.
every 60 seconds in Africa, a minute passes
Introverts are like: "Hey! Look how nice the floor is, should I look at it all the time and not make eye contact with anyone? Yes."
Dang that floor is really cool
Cooler and more better than everyone's lives, btw can I go home?
-introvert
I have a lot of trouble keeping eye contact with someone
I felt this on a spiritual level
@@metalmario00 same i always try to force myself to do it, sometimes it works but mostly it doesn't😅
People think introverts are like some kind of shy recluse....we can SEEM that way, but really we are just more discerning about who we choose to be with.
I’ve always been an introvert, from a family of introverts. Which definitely had its pluses, because we all understood each other implicitly and were happy going on family vacations to quiet places where we could all hang out and read books most of the tome and not have to interact with strangers. Or even with each other very much, if we didn’t want to.
I live in an introvert’s paradise right now, too. I live way up at an altitude of 9000 feet in a tiny unincorporated mountain town, where I share a fairly big house on 2 acres of land with one roommate and four cats. I generally only have to drive down into town to do errands and interact with people every third day or so, since I work from home now:
As an introvert, I’m that one crazy person who actually enjoyed quarantine because I didn’t have to associate with anyone except my family. Who I would have preferred to be with less.
I loved lockdown is was a dream come true! 😂
@@cherellewhyte9546 same :>
@@cherellewhyte9546 yesss same. I also like wearing a mask because it hides facial expressions
You, too! Mother's OK company, but my younger sister is like a zombie in a horror movie!
Before the pandemic, no one thought we recluses would someday be fashionable!
As a true introvert, I can say sometimes being in a group is better, cause you don't feel pressured to say anything.
Yes, exactly.
You can survive it, you can even disappear.
I understand what you mean, but at the same time, i find it easier to get into these deep conversations when talking one to one, i kinda feel lonely in groups, because i'm just there you know not doing much
I hate it when the group turns their attention to me for opinions or something. :/
@@marlenepetersen6159 yeah but sometimes it's kinda awkward for me to talk with some people
I got a full 10 out of 10 and I actually listen to the band Coldplay. but watching your videos, I learned more about myself than I did in my whole life searching for answers. thank you for them. spiritually awakened INFJ on this side😊❤
Yip, me too x
This video is just so true, and no one I REPEAT NO ONE in the society I live in understands me, not even my family members 😭
Same, we do not need to be understood, but they persist in telling us,,,,,
for me it’s my dad bro like he knows how introverts are like and and thinks we avoid people and interactions and general (which is true) but that don’t mean introverts aren’t prone to meeting new people or making friends like bffr 🤦🏾♀️
Teacher: There are no stupid ideas!
Me: No. Just poorly thought out ones.
Who would even think that? Of course stupid ideas exist. That's just... objective.
There are no stupid ideas, just stupid people
I get drained by social interactions faster when I don't trust people enough. I can talk for hours with my closest friends because they understand me and I trust them
same
On a similar note, I'm fine with a group I know, with room for maybe one stranger in a medium-sized group. I get really nervous and anxious when I don't know the group dynamic, so either when a large proportion of the group is people I don't know, or if it's a mix of people from different groups which I know/am a part of, because then I have no idea how to behave.
I'm extremely quiet in large social groups but am more social in small groups. I do not like speaking loud or competing to speak over others.
Same
you sound like the rare ambivert
Just found this. Excellent video.
Books: helping introverts since the 1500s
I've never felt alone, lonely, shy or socially awkward and I'm very confident, assertive and empathic. I'm a super introvert 🥰
How do you define being an introvert then? You have just described everything an introvert ISN’T.
@@plan4life
I'm not socially awkward, just socially uninterested.
I'm not shy, just hate small talk.
I'm not lonely, just a preference of being alone.
I'm not timid, but naturally assertive tempered by natural empathy unless someone doesn't get the point.
I can interact easily with people, in crowds, and unplanned activities - but that's very draining and alone time to recharge is not only needed, but required.
I don't suffer from social anxiety, but can suffer from social annoyance.
@@plan4lifeactually that is everything that introverts are stereotyped to be. The fundamental trait is not social interaction or success but rather whether social interactions of certain types energize or drain you and how you feel most comfortable processing your environment, which is why some of those other things can present as “symptoms”. I grew up in a very small town where my family was known and I was related to many of them (there was a period where there was someone with my last name in every school for a period of about 60 years), and I would have random people stop me and talk to me from the time I was very small. My husband was very confused when I came up introverted because I am very socially confident, have no issues with building rapport, can speak at length on any topic, including the trivial, have no problem with asserting myself or being direct or creating conflict, and am not a “lonely” person from the outside. What he didn’t see is how tired I felt after a day of work as an educator, talking to people all day long, that I can sit quietly and daydream for hours without any external stimulation, the order in which I assess my feelings for and speak about something, and never NEED another person around me to contemplate a situation. He is extremely extroverted. He hates “lounging” where he doesn’t talk to anyone, cannot be by himself for extended periods, must talk to someone to think about how he feels about things, and requires almost constant external stimulation. I am the one who takes 3 hours to watch a YT video because I am pausing to contemplate and consider (by commenting) while he watches a short halfway through before moving on.😂
as an introvert, i hate people who say that they're introverted just because they think its 'cute'
damn 124 likes, your girl is famous
904 likes now lol
Wait, such thing exist?😂
And they are usually the one who talks the most.
Ah, yes.....it happens every time....
Chriael Samuil
Yup :)
They do it for the hype.
There's a lot of stereotypes of introverts out - we're so mysterious etc...
Many people romanticize introverts too.
It's bothersome.
Kunai Hanaki I don’t even know if I should be happy or not to be an introvert. I mean, it feels like a blessing and a curse at the same time
When we stay home with a person we feel at ease with, we can easily behave like extroverts
Exactly
YES
No
@@Nsquare_01 and why is that?
Somewhat, but for me, alone time is still mandatory
Regardless of how you are - If you are outgoing or reserved or can do both, if people choose to reject you for being yourself and you are not otherwise doing anything legitimately harmful or bad, then, that is their loss. Continue to be honest, kind, respectful, and yourself - regardless of their choices. If they do decide to talk to you, try to work with them and hopefully they’ll try to do the same.
Im a strange introvert! I love to have fun....i just don't need other people to do it! I have gone to amusement parks by myself, and gotten on all the roller coasters by myself and loved it😂!
"You don't annoy me. We should talk. But not in person. And rarely. Because if people know you talk to me they might try to talk to me"
-one introvert to another
Omg yessss
Absolutely! That happened to me!
I love that!
lol.. one of my classmates (when we had to work on a group project) was like wow you’re quite fun online. And then he said ‘hi’ to me the next and I said ‘hi’ and then ignored him.
😆😆very accurate
People think I’m “emotionless”. To that I respond: I have a heart... it’s just on the inside.
I've been called that too, it's so annoying, that's a great way to respond to it though
Good one ☝️
r/technicallythetruth
My mom always say that to me and it's pretty annoying 🙂
It is quite literally located on the inside, near the lungs
Oh yes, you are so correct!!!!!!!!! I love being alone. No problem with that. And when we all were in quarantine its my life as is.
I'm both. I really enjoy social interaction and commit to it. Also I can, and have been, several weeks alone. It's also wonderful.
Learning from each moment is what keeps me happy. Nobody can really bring me down as understanding the mean people's motives helps me tolerate it and also avoid the same mistakes. This counts also physical threats. Nobody lifts their fists at me because they sense that I care more about them than me getting hurt. I'm not saying this works for everyone but has worked wonderfully for me.
As far as dealing with physical threats, having a black belt in karate and being a very good shot with a semi-auto pistol (and always carrying, legally or otherwise, if I find myself having to go to or through a dangerous area) definitely helps as far as I'm concerned!
You are an ambivert
Introverts unite! By yourself! In your own home!
That's very clever! 😂
@alanmiles9335 totally copied from someone else, but still funny!
ROFL 😂so true!!
😆
And enjoy solitude rather than complain about loneliness.
*I feel personally attacked every time someone enters my room*
*E S P E C I A L L Y if they don’t knock*
I feel ya ✋😔
And ESPECIALLY E S P E C I A L L Y if they interact with me all of a sudden, while I'm watching or reading something
Thank God, I thought I was the only one!
My pet pea also, and also plans being made for me ,or someone telling someone that I won't mind to do something ,hate that.✌
Agreed
I take my vacation time and stay home.. locked in order doordash and play video games all day all night. To me that’s heaven.
My problem has been people think I need fixed. They make assumptions and stereotype. They think I’m simple-minded and can’t carry out simple tasks.
"introverts don't get engaged in group conversations" - well, everytime i engage, i end up being upset that someone stops listening to me after like 10 seconds or i end up listening to their 10 minute monologue or i give them the 10 minute monologue if they show any will to listen and then i feel embarrassed because i exposed myself
EXACTLY thank you
So true
IKR
When I engage in a conversation, they assume that I am mad or upset or trying to argue.
Omg yes...
Im literally watching this while in the bathroom during family dinner
That’s the spot chief
Nice one 😁😁😁
been there ;)
Duude
Same
Olá duda
Thank You, I needed those words today.
#7, needing time to process things. So true! I never recognized that as an introvert thing, but you're right! One reason I like to work on my own is that I can take my time making a decision.
the whole life of the introverts is a quarantine, and the mask is a total win. no one wants to be recognized outside and be effing forced to interact.
we should all be in mib
When everyone die of loneliness, introverts will thrive in this schmandemic
i don't like the mask, not that i won't wear it, and i'm definitely not glad for the pandemic going around, i'm an introvert btw
Right, i kinda like masks and i “quarantined” before it was cool lol hours of silence is paradise.
@@sidneebuffington7594 I like that Overton's window is open wide.
As an introvert, any type of party is like hell. You have to socialize for hours and cannot stare at you phone without looking like you hate the person's party
As an introvert, why'd you ever go to a party in the first place?
@@GloboSVK I was forced to
Do it but try and look busy or pretend you are taking photos of food.
True AF
I usually go to the kitchen and help with the food and dishes when I have to go to a party. It's also helpful to pretend to talk on the phone, to hide on the toilet and to play with present pets or children or find someone who loves talking and will be happy speaking all the time with you just nodding here and then.
You just described me. I love being by myself, working alone, and I can’t even mentally handle Sunday school class an hour. I rarely talk. I like fun, but by myself or with one friend.
This is why group projects in school need to be optional.
Ikr.
9th grade, Arts class.
Group task: A unique, complex, art piece.
Basically I had to share the horrible outcome of the art piece. Add to that -20% for "lack of participation"(I got pushed aside every time I built up the confidence to try and share an idea).
If I could've worked alone I could've gotten 85%+, but because I "wanted everyone else to do the work", I got 20%.
Yeah its weird how they always force you to do those. Plus its kinda stupid because most of the time one person ends up doing most of the work anyway
@@LonelyCinderella123 I'd say more like two people
Yep. We had a "quiz game" in history one year. Everyone in teams. Somehow, I was allowed to be by myself. Blew them all out of the water it was hilarious.
I hated these.
Me: My family got invited to a party including me
My Family: Gets ready excitedly
Also me: Can I just stay at home?
This is exactly what I say
that is sooo me
Literally me now lol
@@thebigbangtheory6001 i dont even go to parties no matter how much my family force me
@@dipeshshrestha2564 me too even if they force way too much I just don't go l. I prepare my excuses one by one not to go
Love you Frank, because all you say is so damn true! I agree to all x) And you describe it in such a natural way.
It’s so nice to be understood
A bunch of introverts shoved together in a group project without any extrovert is heaven... the work also turns out great
Yes because we will just figure out what we are going to do and then work on it no talking besides like if 2 of them know each other or something lol
This never happened to me :(
I got lucky like that once. Only two emails shared between us, one to divide the roles and the last with the completed project. No facebook, whatsapp, phone number, skype, etc. needed.
Omg yes !!!!!!!
EXACTLY!
“I don’t need friends, they disappoint me.” - From my long lost sister.
Isn't that a Brandon Rogers quote? 😅
'If you expect nothing from somebody, you are never disappointed' - Sylvia Plath
Truth.
@@outrider8569 : 'optimism with a twist'- I like it:) I just call it stoicism perhaps - why would I root my well being in someone else? Well, I'm not a robot, so unfortunately I do get upset with humans at times, but then I tell myself: there is no logic in human behaviour, so don't be disappointed. What did you expect?
An optimist is never pleasantly surprised.
That about sums me up…I don’t like crowds, I’m much better one on one, and I love my time alone. There are times in the past when people thought I was an extrovert because I can get nervous, and I start talking too much in a group. My Dad was the same way, he had people thinking he was extrovert but he would go to great lengths to avoid people. Getting up in front of the class to read your report was like torture.
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than the finest gold and the most precious jewels...
I want you to know that I rejoice over you with singing.
I want you to know that I am always with you,
and that I will never leave you nor forsake you.
I want you to know that I am your constant companion,
and that I will guide you and direct your steps.
I want you to know that I will give you the wisdom and the understanding that you need
to navigate the challenges of this life.
I want you to know that I am the God of all comfort,
and that I will comfort you in all your troubles.
I want you to know that I am the God who heals you,
who binds up your wounds, and who sets you free
from the bondage of sin and its consequences.
I want you to know that I am the God who restores you when you have gone astray,
and who brings you back into the fold of My love.
I want you to know that I am the God who gives you the desires of your heart
when they are in alignment with My will and My purposes.
I want you to know that I am the God who blesses you abundantly,
and that I am a God of more than enough.
My child,
I want you to trust in Me with all your heart,
and to lean not on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Me,
and I will make your paths straight.
I will guide you with My eye,
and I will lead you to the place I have prepared for you...
I will never leave you nor forsake you.
With all My love,
God.
Introvert kids who get no alone time during this quarantine, you're not alone.
Wait...
Technically you're right. No paradox here.
Lmao
wait-
That was bloody gold l!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@tonyping2262 Thank you. I’ll be here all week.
Imagine needing to talk to people to survive couldn't imagine
My gf is more extroverted than me,she wants to talk to me constantly,I just sometimes need a break,but that would seem like an asshole move
i only really need to talk with my family to survive since I've been going through some hard times ._.
It's strange; I feel lonely a lot of the times, but still dread social interaction. It's more so that I want to feel like I am somebody to someone, than actually want to hang out with anyone. A bad cycle to get stuck in- feeling lonely but never feeling like doing anything about it
I'd have nothing to talk about even to my friends...
I would die first
As an introvert myself I can say that these 10 points nail it very well, or at least me, very well. I have always wished I could be more assertive, more social, more talkative, but this overview confirms that I’m not going to really be any of these things, at least not in the long run. What I want for myself, is to become more comfortable with how I am, and to work with that in my dealings with others. Great video. Thank you.
We are easily drained by other people, don’t tolerate fools easily , often have very few friends. It takes a special person to really relate to us .
It takes an even more special person to not have an irritating presence to us.
i have NO friends. which i'm happy about. but maybe a few acquaintances for emergency purposes.
People tend to use 'friend' when I would use 'amiable acquaintance'.
@@DaisyCloverbee that's more than i'd use. if i didn't need them for maybe emergencies i wouldn't include them.
True true!
"look who decided to leave their room" triggers my fight or flight response
Thought it was only me
*immidiately goes back and locks the door*
My response:
Heh. You thought!
That's is almost everyday and is fucking annoying to hear. Like, I leave my room, but is not my responsability to report to you that I left my room.
I literally would not leave my room if the internet connection was good there
"fun" is subjective. to me, "fun" is being in nature with a book...sometimes. Or playing a video game. Or watching RUclips. we all have different ideas of what "fun" is. Also I could have the house to myself (RIP those times, there's ALWAYS someone home -_- ) for a week or two and not get lonely or bored. I have a very creative/fertile "inner life". I get bored around people for too long.
Genuine conversation- no small talk, honesty, don’t waste my time, will be more extroverted when I travel but at home I don’t need to see people. Jobs where I don’t have to deal with the general public, don’t enjoy being centre of attention- not telling you when my birthday is.
Imagine going to school for 7 hours, and when you get home your parents go "why don't you ever hang out with us?" I just want to sit down, drink my tea, and read in silence. But nOoOo.
feel ya bro
And do 5 hours of homework fml
yOu sHouLd sMiLe mOrE
Bruh
Yesssssss
You call it pessimistic, I call it “which route will help me avoid the most amount of people for the longest periods of time”
@Jessica c Uhmm, he’ll have to fork (think) over it to come up with more knife-sharp responses... And dish it out later. And, I am out of cutlery puns... I’ll have to mug over it again:)
@Jessica c Wow, it’s pan-tastic! Now, let me ground for another round, and I will boil and toil and prepare the ultimate recipe for trouble! Such high steaks! Now, can you take the heat or will your turkey turn cold? Come at me, it’s a pun-war! (Anyway, it’s starting to turn in a rap/pun-battle, olive your response, it’s now my pepperoni (favorite;))
@Jessica c
Oh, don't annoy the chef cook
'Cause we won't play by the book.
Now, you do pack some heat
And I've got to con-seed
You've got a few (really) good beets
Now, lett'uce proceed.
Oh, i will fry you some more eggs,
Sunny side up!
Then knock you down some pegs,
Now, buckle up buttercup!
Look around, this is my playground!
I will serve everyone their just desserts
And apply salt to your wound,
To keep you on high alert.
Wanting more, do you want me to spice things up?
Add some more Italian seasoning and basilic.
Then pepper, dried oregano and some garlic,
So, sugar,
I gave you a heads-up only to later blow you up,
Under the pressure cooker.
I will leave to you the cleanup.
These puns are my bread,
Water and whipped cream,
This is just so supreme!
I will thread,
Then cut your dough,
Leave you to separate the wheat from the chaff,
Then oil things through,
'Til you come back for another combo!
Now, do you have some more reserve?
'Cause this was just some hors-d'oeuvre,
Are you ready for the main meal?
Afraid that I took this ship's cheese wheel?
Who's your number one now?
🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍
Appreciate this. Wasn't always this way, but I know better now.
The first sign is that you know it yourself and you don`t care what people think
Is it weird that this quarantine has the most comfortable phase of my life?
Oh you're so lucky.. i'm glad to hear that. 😊
It should have been like that to me..
but i have to live with my extrovert relatives who always seek for any form of engagement with people around (including me), have to deal with video calls cause we can't meet in person (offline).. Video calls specially the one in group (involve more than 3people) really overwhelm me.
My room used to be my private space to be alone, my comfort zone, but not anymore right now.
I still need to adapt thou.
@@notperfectbutstillbeautifu2077 Oh, I'm sorry to hear. I hope things will get better.
@@shubhankarghoshalroy3605 Thankyou. 💜 I think time will make it better i guess. For right now i only lock my room whenever i need to be alone. I let people at home know that i need to be alone in my own space to recharge. 😁
Self care is really essentials in this challenging condition. 😅
@@notperfectbutstillbeautifu2077 You worded it perfectly. I guess we introverts are not too keen on camaraderie.
No. I feel guilty telling people that this has been a good year for me. I have hardly left my home. I love not having to make the dreaded small talk at work or social situations.
Even my birthday scares me because people get to talk to me alot and I'm the center of attention for the whole day😩
𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙚
it's just being uncomfortable the whole day
Because of this I did not celebrate my birthday for 3 years straight
And I hate when someone calls instead of texting who agrees with me
There's one time I got angry during my birthday cause they put up a party. Is that bad?
It’s just an entirely awkward day. I’ll just take the food and gifts and leave thanks.
Rapid drain check.
Enjoy a lot of solitude, check.
One on one yup.
Worked independently all my life.
Fun and group academic projects don’t mix.
You rock Frank.
-Matt’s INTJ dad
I don't know if its the research or your relatability, but your videos are always spot-on! 👌🏾
hear me out, some introverts would prefer a 3 way conversation, so the other 2 can lead and i can just like... listen...
YES
I was just about to comment about that. I like one on one conversation too but in the 2 or 3 person convos, you can just relax and listen. Takes less energy too.
Yes! A one-on-one conversation puts more pressure on me to keep the conversation going 😬
Oh, yes, that third person is a lifesaver! And then I just get to interject a funny comment every once in awhile without having to do all the work of thinking up conversation topics. (ISTJ)
YES, YES, YES
10 Signs You're A True Introvert:
(For people who are too lazy to watch the video lol)
1. You are rapidly drained by social interaction.
2. You enjoy being alone for long periods of time.
3. You prefer 1-on-1 social situations to being in a group.
4. You prefer to work alone rather than with others.
5. You seem less enthusiastic to others.
6. You don't feel the need to share your thoughts.
7. You spend a long time thinking about decisions.
8. You are easily overstimulated.
9. You tend not to be assertive.
10. You tend to be skeptical or even pessimistic.
Nice thank you good sir now I don't need to repeat it
I'm a introvert....
Yes
Is it bad that I have all of these to the extreme?
(I took the test and I’m 80% introvert lol)
@Breezey Peasy nah it's not don't worry.
Thanks 🤞
Yep, I'm an introvert all right. Well done. You hit all the spots!
helpend so so much , thank you!!!
Quarantine was one of the best times of my adult life for this introvert. I was so relaxed yet productive and had fun by myself ☺️
And not ONE PERSON criticized you for sticking to the house, or your own room. the FREEDOM!!!!
@@Kayenne54 Yes, this. Pre pandemic Monday morning at work always started with what did you do at the weekend? and me ending up feeling like I needed to justify staying home. In lockdown I actually felt free to be me.
Introverts were probably the only people who actually thrived in the workplace... for a year... then back to boredom and exhaustion in the office
It was the best year of my life!!
@@bledsoe2006 They actually thrived on being alone at home.
Human interaction is like going to Disney World, you have to do it one every few years to remind yourself why you don’t do it.
i will quote this till the day i die
Oof* Ouch🤣😆
You have this so on point. I am just amazed. I had to listen to it again. Humorous as well.. I laughed a bit. So much you mentioned is true.
As an introvert, almost all of this is accurate EXCEPT #9 and #10 -- I can be VERY assertive on things I care about, and I generally have a positive outlook on life (but I do definitely hate any kind of exuberant cheerfulness, to the point where I have to make myself sad on purpose when exposed to too much of it!)
The only one i dont relate to is that introverts prefer one on one interaction. Its true i dont like large groups but i prefer 3-4 people so that the attention isnt constantly in my direction. In college my friends called me ghost because of how quiet i am in person. So when i am around only one other person, its like the most akward thing in the world. Unless we are besties and your used to me hardly speaking....
Agreed! Being at least 3 people takes more pressure off me to not make it awkward
That's valid. While when I do want to contribute something to the conversation I wish that it were less people present... But I also sometimes prefer groups so I can just ride out in the back lol
yes, was going to comment this! and you can let the other group members play against each other (i mean talking) while you shut off for moments. one on one is intense stuff.
same here
Same, I don't like when I'm in charge of the conversation. In a group of 3/4 people I just nod on wherever they're talking about
Being an introvert, I actually enjoy conversations when there's more.than two people, because then I don't have to make the effort of trying avoid awkward silences or trying.to come up with topics.
It’s been a long time since I’ve had long conversations with a person. But I’ve recently started talking to a someone. It’s fun talking to with them but the long awkward silence makes me think I’m doing something wrong, even though it doesn’t bother the person I’m talking too.
Even though we barely know each other, I’ve told her what my personality is like. So maybe it’s her being nice and knowing I’m new to long personal conversations.
I felt that to the hurt
Well the secret when it is two of us is that I look the person in the eye and agree with what he/she says with a fake smile that I practiced that makes the person talk more and I don't have too( downside a girl taught I was flirting with her because of that) so I adopted a new strategy I pretend to be sick and have headache
I like to watch others conversate
Yea, less pressure when other people are involved
Spot on! And funny! Ty! ❤
The lockdown really sucked for me after a while because I was rarely alone. With 5 family members in our small house it felt like there I was never, ever alone. I could hide in the bathroom for only so long and my wife was working from home along with my kids doing zoom school.
I went absolutely insane after the first year and had to go for walks that kept me out of the house for hours.
I am not an introvert please
I have lots of friends...(imaginary)
I talk a lot...(with myself)
I take part in lot of activities... (Like overthinking)
I even have a best friend...(my dog)
lol same
So me
Yeah the same but don't have a best friend
Same bro just the only thing I don't have is a dog and I'm also a single child...🙂🙃
now that was a lot of damage
I don't mind being alone for long periods of time. I actually enjoy it! But of course I miss hanging out with friends. 💕
Same
Yes. Today I've actualy reached the point when I want to go to school. Like physicaly. Not for long. But I do.
I never miss my friend, I find myself to be tiring and draining enough to not want my friend
Same I'm not a complete introvert. I'm an ambivert
Totally same here. I can actually make my self happy just by imagining things or just doing nothing.