It's a myth that we marry our partner's family (or friends). If your partner isn't making you feel like the priority in their life, that's on them. They need to have the maturity to see your relationship as separate from their friends and family. Their primary loyalty should be to their partner, unless that partner is being destructive and causing drama unecessarily
Interesting take. I like the idea of separating your partner from friends and family, but I don't think it's so easy for most to put their partner first all the time. If a relative is terminally ill, I think that comes first. It all depends on the circumstances and how much someone values their family. Thanks for your take, Vicki. Feel free to join a livestream sometime.
"You are the sum of the five people you hang around most." Agreed. I find it hard to believe when someone says, "don't judge me by my friends." Why would someone hang out with people they didn't like/admire or think positively about? Friends seek each other's counsel all the time. The advice to let your partner decide on the friend is also great; I've heard dangerous advice such as, "Well just give your partner an ultimatum! YOU or THEM?!" To just jump to such a fork is so extreme. Imaging the shoe on the other foot, I don't think I'd stay with anyone who didn't give me any time to make decisions.
My partner's friends are smoke, drink, and do a lot of bad stuff. I don't like the fact that he hangs around them but I don't know how to tell him I don't like him hanging around them
Same situation. And my partners best friends drink and party and smoke. When he's around them, it's hard for him to set boundaries. I'm looking forward to ending the relationship instead. I don't think it's fair for him to change his friends
My boyfriends friends have 0 respect for me. All his friends are gay and they would flirt, send nudes, ask him out to my partner. It makes me so annoyed and my boyfriend doesn't do anything about it and blames it on ME when I talked about it
I feel that, my girl does smoke and drink I had a bad experience with it so I have extreme anxiety when it comes to that stuff. When we started dating she barely did it, maybe every 2 months, that was fine with me. She has new friends and they do it all the time, and that’s rubbing off on her a little bit and I hope it doesn’t get worse.
Same with my boyfriend's friends. But he wants me to get closer to them even though they're not the kind of people I would EVER hang out with normally. :( It's even worse because we're all 19 or 20 and still they drink and do drugs. I don't trust them and I don't like how they're influencing my boyfriend...
My girl has been hanging out with these work girlfriends who blatantly cheat on their partners Go after rich guys We broke up 8 months ago and recently reconciled. Her friends were the reason we broke up. She still sees them I haven’t told her to stop seeing them but she knows my feelings about her morally bankrupt friends She is starting to see they are trash. You’re absolutely correct Tell them the exact reason why you don’t like them and let them make that choice
It’s a big one, you’ll become the 5 people you hangout with. Tell her to consider just taking a break from those friends and then to reflect if these friends are really people she admires or strives to be like. Thanks for your take. Send your full story into writemac.com if you want my take.
@@CoachMacMcCarthy I’ve sat there and watched these people flirt and touch other men , even though I know my partner has a few more morals than these Women , I can’t help thinking that the are competing within each other. I’ve kept my opinions to myself I know I’m a better guy than any of the guys these moles try to pick up, so it doesn’t really phase me However shebroke up with me out of the blue ever since she hung with these cows. My partner is the most attractive of the group so she didn’t need to act like a slurry for attention.however we’ve reconciled and she’s now starting to tell me shit they’ve done. And started of her own accord to realise they are scum.
My bf and his bestie (of 25 yrs) go to lunch ALL the time, he'll miss work just to help him or rearrange plans w me if his friends ask last minute. His best friend has been his family, and has been there for him, but I feel like my bf is at his beck and call because of their friendship inventory. I wouldn't ever ask him to dump his friends or anything- just for him to commit to plans w me without keeping himself open for last-minute invites from his friends. It's like he has FOMO and has to go to everything his friends do- which is a lot every week. For example, here's his schedule the past several days: Sunday 2/19- met up for coffee w friends, motorcycle ride w friends, lunch and beers w friends Monday 2/20- worked, lunch with his bestie Tuesday 2/21- worked, then dinner and beer with 'the guys' Wednesday 2/22- worked, beers for lunch with bestie Thursday 2/23- worked, lunch w bestie Where do I fit in?
You might want consider couples counseling, it's good to get a referee. And let the coach or counselor be a man. I'd suggest using this method to convey what you want.....Observe what happened, tell him how that makes you feel then make a request. This is actually something that is fixable if the other parts of the relationship are good. Not sure if drinking is an issue, but you mentioned beers a few times. If you want to talk about it, book a session at writemac.com if you don't find the session useful or helpful, I'll give you a refund. My question would is this the only problem in your relationship, if so, this is worth finding a way to fix it. You should be able to meet halfway on this.
I’m dealing with the same my boyfriend / fiancé has a new best friend/coworker/male who is annoying and always around whenever I call or FaceTime my boyfriend at work it’s like I can’t ever just talk to my boyfriend alone. It’s always us three. I get sick and tired of having to entertain them both. When really I just want to have a conversation alone. My boyfriends coworker friend wants to hangout tomorrow and smoke weed at his friends house and I don’t really want to go because I don’t want to sit around and watch them smoke weed while I’m sitting in his friends house bored and I have other priorities to do other than hang out and smoke weed with his loser ass friend. What the hell do I do??? His friend is nice and there’s really nothing wrong with him it’s just getting fucking annoying.
Tell him the truth. Is it ok if he goes alone? If this is a problem for you now, it will probably become a bigger problem if you don't address it now. Also if you really don't like that he smokes weed and has a loser friend, do you believe he'll change for you? If not you might want to consider what the trade off is in this relationship. What are you getting that makes you overlook the weed issue? Is it enough?
my boyfriend's friends are not nice to me at all, and i mean have purposefully spoke another language than me to leave me out and it made me feel so bad. i feel bad because i used to get mad at him for hanging with them, which was controlling but i don't now and it hurts to see them go out every day and him have the best amazing time, and he's slowly putting me aside more and more. i also don't have a friend group myself, and i feel so alone. and he says how they'll be nicer next time, how he's working on it, how i just need to "chill", a lot of our fights were about his friends. i love him, but he becomes such a jerk here.
My fiance and I have opposite work schedules we barely see each other, n the 2 days that we both have off he want to go see his friends out of town once a month n he says that they’re like his brothers. I get very frustrated and mad because I feel that he’s not giving me a place n that he prefers his friends more than me! They also have disrespected me before n he never said anything
yes, my friends are in a church, and dislike frimansory, and my husband who is a frimansory really hate that I like to meet them. He says i can not be friend with such people or it will be divorce.
My boyfriend has this one friend I can’t stand cause I always seem to be non existent the entire time they are together. Like for example every time they decide to have the friend spend the night I find out when he gets there because I get pushed out of my own bedroom so they can share bed together like they are in this fucked up bromance. We live together and have a baby and every time he comes around this same thing happens over and over again.
My 2 best friends basically cornered me and said my girlfriend has taken me away from them and have some sort of spite against her when in reality I'm choosing to spend my time building our relationship, as well as with her son. Unfortunately my girlfriend thinks they've been talking shit and i tried smoothing it all out but to no avail. I lashed out at her and said at the end of the day i would choose them over her, which i regret and feel like shit now because i was not asked to choose. She thinks they hate her but that's not true at all they just want to get to know her better and see more of me. Im in a tough spot. Any advice? Greatly appreciated 🙏
What about when your fiancé gets off work and gets on his group chat with his friends knowing I can hear on speaker off his computer for one of the friends to tell my fiancé “let’s go fuck bitches” and starts laughing after that , we have our own 2 kids and a house idk if his friend was trying to be funny but I don’t know how to deal with that it would be different tho if I was on the phone and my girlfriends said let’s go fuck men it made me so mad I tel my partner if he wants to be having friends saying stuff like that he can go with them no one that I am friends with will never even say something like that
That's some behind the scenes guy talk, where you have to consider the source and how much this guy is actually influencing your fiancé or are they just being obnoxious guys that didn't know the volume was on for everyone to hear. Was it more about the fact that you were able to hear the contents of the conversation in the background or do you just not like this particular friends anyways?
How about his friend who's a girl since they were kids...she doesnt really know me and started talking crap about me, and when I blocked her she went into HIS account and started talking crap to me from there and when I said "u have his password, and she said "ovc". She caused a fight between him and I, he said he told her off but by the way she was acting it was like he never did, and this quarantine makes it harder cause she lives near him and sees him and I can't. What do I do now? He said he loves me but idk anymore
Somebody is lying here. This all sounds very immature. I'd remove yourself from it all. Feel free to join a livestream or send in your full story to writemac.com.
Mabye talk to him about it? And if he gets mad it's his fault girl. You ain't the wrong here. It's clear that girl is jealous and likes him and if he wants to break up his loss
What about if you know he’s got a “ friend” that they go back and forth and the friend knows I hate him bc I dont hide it he’s 34 my boyfriend. They act like total kids then the friend will make him mad they stop talking then he apologizes and everything is peachy while I’m being pushed aside boyfriend shuts down blames depression and that I’m controlling when I’m not I have a traumatic past I’ve told him why I don’t like him or want him around him and then he hides talking and hanging out with him while he watches the kids while I work bc he doesn’t…. But he tries to tell me he can’t do anything with me bc it all costs money so now I’ve turned my head so much to be silent I started blowing up and now I’m becoming toxic like he is bc he won’t leave if I’m so horrible bc he won’t respect my boundaries not to stay out late bc my kid is asleep there’s no relationship anymore bc of this friend. He’s calling me names, telling me I complain all the time when it’s him if I sleep and work and spend time with my daughter but he gets to do nothing all day…. But yet it’s all my fault he keeps telling me one day you’ll relax when we started talking I didn’t know this dude was around 24/7 if I had known that I would have walked away like a damn bromance
Im not sure if you will see this but my boyfriend has a girl bestfriend. He told me he loves her and i understand that, she has a rough life and needs someone to be there for her. He said he onky feels a connection with her as platonic and that im then one he loves as a partner. I recently found that he sent her texts saying i love you with hearts and everything. It broke my heart whenni saw it. I want to tell him how infeel about this but i dont know how to approach it without him getting defensive.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to open up about your personal struggles. Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel respected and loved. I hope you find a way to communicate your feelings effectively and work through this issue together. If you want to book a live session with myself and unpack this fully; go to writemac.com. If you don't find the session useful or helpful, I will issue you a full refund. Happy New Year!
i hope you still read comments even tho the video is old, my boyfriend doesn't have many irl friends, and i have issues with the only one he has, i feel conflicted because i don't want him to not have anyone besides me but this friend at the same time is the only problem in our relationship. Before me and my boyfriend met he and this friend were roomates, they had sex but were only friends, eventually this girl started treating him like her boyfriend getting very jealous and controlling, starting lots of verbal and physical fights, and not allowing him to have female friends, she went to live somewhere else but continued visiting my boyfriend and having the same weird relationship with him, then she went in a couple of dates with some guy and my boyfriend felt free to look for someone himself, that's when we met and then started our relationship, he told me about the girl because she was still visiting him weekly, he told me a bunch of horror stories about the fights they had but told me she was actually a good person, the moment my boyfriend mentioned me this girl got jealous and possessive, saying she didn't want to meet me at all, they had several fights over this, some of which were on the phone while i was on the room, at some point his friend found me still in the house when she arrived, she still had keys so when she opened the door i was there hugging my boyfriend waiting for my uber, she slammed the door back and they had a fight right outside the house, i went outside too but the girl refused to see me or talk to me, she always had her back towards me and then my ride arrived so i said goodbye quickly and went home, since this incident i started really disliking her too, but still for my boyfriends sake was willing to look past it and meet her properly, got her a little gift during Christmas time hoping that would make it easier, months have passed and they still fight sometimes because she feels entitled to his time and misses the way things were before me, when she visits my boyfriend suddenly won't answer my messages because she gets jealous or get annoyed and they fight, the only couple of fights my boyfriend and i have had where about this, now she wants to finally meet me since its been a year of this and my boyfriend gave her an ultimatum, but i no longer want to meet her or listen about her constantly, at this point is hard for me to look past all the things i have heard about her and the things i experienced and have only a negative image of her, I'm anxious because i don't think i can even pretend to like her but i don't want to be the reason he breaks the only friendship he has that he actually sees in person
Ive noticed that my partners friend is and acts like the queen bee. When she shakes her tail my partner goes. Ive realised that her friend can be the queen in her life but she can not be the queen bee in my life as well. My partner hasnt had the chance to be the queen bee even in her own life. Divorce ect. My partner has needed a queen to guide her but now she has a chance to be a queen and her friend has so much dominance and a controlling things is her predominant chatacteristic. I dont gei with that type of person. Ive notice that even if my partner sais no her friend will just shake her tail more. Its a high pressure sales technique. Its caused so many problems because her friend is the type to be the one filling up the wine glass for you. Have more...have more... she knows what i think and now has her claws out. Im amost done and its such a waste of our love. Ive done my research. Be precise people. If they react badly and shut your honesty down. Learn about narcissistic and toxic communication. Then leave. Good luck. Love yourself first. X
My partner is treating his friends better than me... They get to have him whenever they want, he would even leave me in the house and go spend time with a "friend" am pissed.... Advice
I feel you. I suggest stuff we could do and he says " thats something I would do with a guy friend" when I respond "ok whats something we could do?" he goes quiet... has your situation gotten better?
I couldn't find an answer for this so i need help: i have a childhood friend and we do a lot of boating together for years and he has a girlfriend. So we want to go for double date on the boat. I told my girl friend we can go for a trip and This will be our first vacation together, but my girlfriend doesn't want to go: 1. I dont think she likes my friend who is a simple guy but she is kind to him when she sees him 2. She has some health issues at the moment and thinks she might get sick on the boat and she says she doesnt want to feel embarrassed among peolle she doesn't know much (she never met my friends' girlfriend) 3. She doesn't trust the girl as she was dating my friend's friend (she might be still seeing him) . What should i do?
Ik you probably won’t see this but id like to share my problem alright so my gf best friend she’s bad news and a bad influence and her best friend left her for months on in and she tried to split me and my gf apart once and she comes back and ask if she can come over and my gf says yes and I’m literally giving my gf all these reasons why I don’t like her best friend and my gf doesn’t do anything about it and it pisses me off a lot and idk what to do if you can respond that’d be great thank you for the advice much love
I have a man that tells his friends they were are just friends or he says that im not his girlfriend that reallly hurts me to my soul even when im trying to be nice about it
It's a myth that we marry our partner's family (or friends). If your partner isn't making you feel like the priority in their life, that's on them. They need to have the maturity to see your relationship as separate from their friends and family. Their primary loyalty should be to their partner, unless that partner is being destructive and causing drama unecessarily
Interesting take. I like the idea of separating your partner from friends and family, but I don't think it's so easy for most to put their partner first all the time. If a relative is terminally ill, I think that comes first. It all depends on the circumstances and how much someone values their family. Thanks for your take, Vicki. Feel free to join a livestream sometime.
"You are the sum of the five people you hang around most." Agreed.
I find it hard to believe when someone says, "don't judge me by my friends." Why would someone hang out with people they didn't like/admire or think positively about? Friends seek each other's counsel all the time.
The advice to let your partner decide on the friend is also great; I've heard dangerous advice such as, "Well just give your partner an ultimatum! YOU or THEM?!" To just jump to such a fork is so extreme. Imaging the shoe on the other foot, I don't think I'd stay with anyone who didn't give me any time to make decisions.
My partner's friends are smoke, drink, and do a lot of bad stuff. I don't like the fact that he hangs around them but I don't know how to tell him I don't like him hanging around them
Be direct and honest; but the reality is people become like the 5 people they spend the most time with.
@@CoachMacMcCarthy Thank you coach
Same situation. And my partners best friends drink and party and smoke. When he's around them, it's hard for him to set boundaries. I'm looking forward to ending the relationship instead. I don't think it's fair for him to change his friends
It just hurts that he can not be fully on my side
My boyfriends friends have 0 respect for me. All his friends are gay and they would flirt, send nudes, ask him out to my partner. It makes me so annoyed and my boyfriend doesn't do anything about it and blames it on ME when I talked about it
Send your full story into writemac.com and I'll give you my take. There some pieces missing here.
Same with me
yo bf gay
I get along so well with most of his family but his friends are a joke..
Bro i feel it 😂
My hubby friends do drugs n drank we don't it pisses me off royally when there around and my anxiety goes thru roof
I feel that, my girl does smoke and drink I had a bad experience with it so I have extreme anxiety when it comes to that stuff. When we started dating she barely did it, maybe every 2 months, that was fine with me. She has new friends and they do it all the time, and that’s rubbing off on her a little bit and I hope it doesn’t get worse.
Same with my boyfriend's friends. But he wants me to get closer to them even though they're not the kind of people I would EVER hang out with normally. :( It's even worse because we're all 19 or 20 and still they drink and do drugs. I don't trust them and I don't like how they're influencing my boyfriend...
My girl has been hanging out with these work girlfriends who blatantly cheat on their partners
Go after rich guys
We broke up 8 months ago and recently reconciled. Her friends were the reason we broke up.
She still sees them I haven’t told her to stop seeing them but she knows my feelings about her morally bankrupt friends
She is starting to see they are trash. You’re absolutely correct
Tell them the exact reason why you don’t like them and let them make that choice
It’s a big one, you’ll become the 5 people you hangout with. Tell her to consider just taking a break from those friends and then to reflect if these friends are really people she admires or strives to be like. Thanks for your take. Send your full story into writemac.com if you want my take.
@@CoachMacMcCarthy
I’ve sat there and watched these people flirt and touch other men , even though I know my partner has a few more morals than these
Women , I can’t help thinking that the are competing within each other. I’ve kept my opinions to myself I know I’m a better guy than any of the guys these moles try to pick up, so it doesn’t really phase me
However shebroke up with me out of the blue ever since she hung with these cows. My partner is the most attractive of the group so she didn’t need to act like a slurry for attention.however we’ve reconciled and she’s now starting to tell me shit they’ve done. And started of her own accord to realise they are scum.
My bf and his bestie (of 25 yrs) go to lunch ALL the time, he'll miss work just to help him or rearrange plans w me if his friends ask last minute. His best friend has been his family, and has been there for him, but I feel like my bf is at his beck and call because of their friendship inventory. I wouldn't ever ask him to dump his friends or anything- just for him to commit to plans w me without keeping himself open for last-minute invites from his friends. It's like he has FOMO and has to go to everything his friends do- which is a lot every week. For example, here's his schedule the past several days:
Sunday 2/19- met up for coffee w friends, motorcycle ride w friends, lunch and beers w friends
Monday 2/20- worked, lunch with his bestie
Tuesday 2/21- worked, then dinner and beer with 'the guys'
Wednesday 2/22- worked, beers for lunch with bestie
Thursday 2/23- worked, lunch w bestie
Where do I fit in?
You might want consider couples counseling, it's good to get a referee. And let the coach or counselor be a man. I'd suggest using this method to convey what you want.....Observe what happened, tell him how that makes you feel then make a request. This is actually something that is fixable if the other parts of the relationship are good. Not sure if drinking is an issue, but you mentioned beers a few times. If you want to talk about it, book a session at writemac.com if you don't find the session useful or helpful, I'll give you a refund. My question would is this the only problem in your relationship, if so, this is worth finding a way to fix it. You should be able to meet halfway on this.
Damn! I needed this! Thank you!
I’m dealing with the same my boyfriend / fiancé has a new best friend/coworker/male who is annoying and always around whenever I call or FaceTime my boyfriend at work it’s like I can’t ever just talk to my boyfriend alone. It’s always us three. I get sick and tired of having to entertain them both. When really I just want to have a conversation alone. My boyfriends coworker friend wants to hangout tomorrow and smoke weed at his friends house and I don’t really want to go because I don’t want to sit around and watch them smoke weed while I’m sitting in his friends house bored and I have other priorities to do other than hang out and smoke weed with his loser ass friend. What the hell do I do??? His friend is nice and there’s really nothing wrong with him it’s just getting fucking annoying.
Tell him the truth. Is it ok if he goes alone? If this is a problem for you now, it will probably become a bigger problem if you don't address it now. Also if you really don't like that he smokes weed and has a loser friend, do you believe he'll change for you? If not you might want to consider what the trade off is in this relationship. What are you getting that makes you overlook the weed issue? Is it enough?
my boyfriend's friends are not nice to me at all, and i mean have purposefully spoke another language than me to leave me out and it made me feel so bad. i feel bad because i used to get mad at him for hanging with them, which was controlling but i don't now and it hurts to see them go out every day and him have the best amazing time, and he's slowly putting me aside more and more. i also don't have a friend group myself, and i feel so alone. and he says how they'll be nicer next time, how he's working on it, how i just need to "chill", a lot of our fights were about his friends. i love him, but he becomes such a jerk here.
Same
My fiance and I have opposite work schedules we barely see each other, n the 2 days that we both have off he want to go see his friends out of town once a month n he says that they’re like his brothers. I get very frustrated and mad because I feel that he’s not giving me a place n that he prefers his friends more than me! They also have disrespected me before n he never said anything
Can you change your schedules eventually?
@@CoachMacMcCarthy no we can’t specially because we work in the same place and they do not allow us to work the same schedule
@@leandracasas8836 can one of you get a new job?
yes, my friends are in a church, and dislike frimansory, and my husband who is a frimansory really hate that I like to meet them. He says i can not be friend with such people or it will be divorce.
My boyfriend has this one friend I can’t stand cause I always seem to be non existent the entire time they are together. Like for example every time they decide to have the friend spend the night I find out when he gets there because I get pushed out of my own bedroom so they can share bed together like they are in this fucked up bromance. We live together and have a baby and every time he comes around this same thing happens over and over again.
That sounds a bit extreme, I’d suggest that you leave the house when they hangout and have a day to yourself or tell them to meet outside your home.
My 2 best friends basically cornered me and said my girlfriend has taken me away from them and have some sort of spite against her when in reality I'm choosing to spend my time building our relationship, as well as with her son. Unfortunately my girlfriend thinks they've been talking shit and i tried smoothing it all out but to no avail. I lashed out at her and said at the end of the day i would choose them over her, which i regret and feel like shit now because i was not asked to choose. She thinks they hate her but that's not true at all they just want to get to know her better and see more of me. Im in a tough spot. Any advice? Greatly appreciated 🙏
@@chris14388 Good question bud. I’ll do a video response on this in the next couple days.
@@CoachMacMcCarthy appreciate you 🥃
What about when your fiancé gets off work and gets on his group chat with his friends knowing I can hear on speaker off his computer for one of the friends to tell my fiancé “let’s go fuck bitches” and starts laughing after that , we have our own 2 kids and a house idk if his friend was trying to be funny but I don’t know how to deal with that it would be different tho if I was on the phone and my girlfriends said let’s go fuck men it made me so mad I tel my partner if he wants to be having friends saying stuff like that he can go with them no one that I am friends with will never even say something like that
That's some behind the scenes guy talk, where you have to consider the source and how much this guy is actually influencing your fiancé or are they just being obnoxious guys that didn't know the volume was on for everyone to hear. Was it more about the fact that you were able to hear the contents of the conversation in the background or do you just not like this particular friends anyways?
What if the friends say something about you? Are you still letting her have these friends?
@@ulrikavargklippa5421 Can you give an example of what they would say?
How about his friend who's a girl since they were kids...she doesnt really know me and started talking crap about me, and when I blocked her she went into HIS account and started talking crap to me from there and when I said "u have his password, and she said "ovc". She caused a fight between him and I, he said he told her off but by the way she was acting it was like he never did, and this quarantine makes it harder cause she lives near him and sees him and I can't. What do I do now? He said he loves me but idk anymore
Somebody is lying here. This all sounds very immature. I'd remove yourself from it all. Feel free to join a livestream or send in your full story to writemac.com.
Mabye talk to him about it? And if he gets mad it's his fault girl. You ain't the wrong here. It's clear that girl is jealous and likes him and if he wants to break up his loss
What about if you know he’s got a “ friend” that they go back and forth and the friend knows I hate him bc I dont hide it he’s 34 my boyfriend. They act like total kids then the friend will make him mad they stop talking then he apologizes and everything is peachy while I’m being pushed aside boyfriend shuts down blames depression and that I’m controlling when I’m not I have a traumatic past I’ve told him why I don’t like him or want him around him and then he hides talking and hanging out with him while he watches the kids while I work bc he doesn’t…. But he tries to tell me he can’t do anything with me bc it all costs money so now I’ve turned my head so much to be silent I started blowing up and now I’m becoming toxic like he is bc he won’t leave if I’m so horrible bc he won’t respect my boundaries not to stay out late bc my kid is asleep there’s no relationship anymore bc of this friend. He’s calling me names, telling me I complain all the time when it’s him if I sleep and work and spend time with my daughter but he gets to do nothing all day…. But yet it’s all my fault he keeps telling me one day you’ll relax when we started talking I didn’t know this dude was around 24/7 if I had known that I would have walked away like a damn bromance
My bf’s best friends(couple)don’t like me,never met me, never invited me with my bf ,they just ask my bf.not sure what to do😢
What’s their reasoning for not liking you?
Really great video
Thank you, Sunshine! Feel free to drop in on the livestream today at 10am pacific time.
@@CoachMacMcCarthy sure will. You are certainly correct on the information regarding friends and your partner. Personal experience
@@sunshinesandysp Thank you!
I really hope he will find a better friend group and stop seing these jerks, I think he's on a good way to it, otherwise I think we will break up
Im not sure if you will see this but my boyfriend has a girl bestfriend. He told me he loves her and i understand that, she has a rough life and needs someone to be there for her. He said he onky feels a connection with her as platonic and that im then one he loves as a partner. I recently found that he sent her texts saying i love you with hearts and everything. It broke my heart whenni saw it. I want to tell him how infeel about this but i dont know how to approach it without him getting defensive.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to open up about your personal struggles. Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel respected and loved. I hope you find a way to communicate your feelings effectively and work through this issue together. If you want to book a live session with myself and unpack this fully; go to writemac.com. If you don't find the session useful or helpful, I will issue you a full refund. Happy New Year!
i hope you still read comments even tho the video is old, my boyfriend doesn't have many irl friends, and i have issues with the only one he has, i feel conflicted because i don't want him to not have anyone besides me but this friend at the same time is the only problem in our relationship. Before me and my boyfriend met he and this friend were roomates, they had sex but were only friends, eventually this girl started treating him like her boyfriend getting very jealous and controlling, starting lots of verbal and physical fights, and not allowing him to have female friends, she went to live somewhere else but continued visiting my boyfriend and having the same weird relationship with him, then she went in a couple of dates with some guy and my boyfriend felt free to look for someone himself, that's when we met and then started our relationship, he told me about the girl because she was still visiting him weekly, he told me a bunch of horror stories about the fights they had but told me she was actually a good person, the moment my boyfriend mentioned me this girl got jealous and possessive, saying she didn't want to meet me at all, they had several fights over this, some of which were on the phone while i was on the room, at some point his friend found me still in the house when she arrived, she still had keys so when she opened the door i was there hugging my boyfriend waiting for my uber, she slammed the door back and they had a fight right outside the house, i went outside too but the girl refused to see me or talk to me, she always had her back towards me and then my ride arrived so i said goodbye quickly and went home, since this incident i started really disliking her too, but still for my boyfriends sake was willing to look past it and meet her properly, got her a little gift during Christmas time hoping that would make it easier, months have passed and they still fight sometimes because she feels entitled to his time and misses the way things were before me, when she visits my boyfriend suddenly won't answer my messages because she gets jealous or get annoyed and they fight, the only couple of fights my boyfriend and i have had where about this, now she wants to finally meet me since its been a year of this and my boyfriend gave her an ultimatum, but i no longer want to meet her or listen about her constantly, at this point is hard for me to look past all the things i have heard about her and the things i experienced and have only a negative image of her, I'm anxious because i don't think i can even pretend to like her but i don't want to be the reason he breaks the only friendship he has that he actually sees in person
Ive noticed that my partners friend is and acts like the queen bee. When she shakes her tail my partner goes. Ive realised that her friend can be the queen in her life but she can not be the queen bee in my life as well. My partner hasnt had the chance to be the queen bee even in her own life. Divorce ect. My partner has needed a queen to guide her but now she has a chance to be a queen and her friend has so much dominance and a controlling things is her predominant chatacteristic. I dont gei with that type of person. Ive notice that even if my partner sais no her friend will just shake her tail more. Its a high pressure sales technique. Its caused so many problems because her friend is the type to be the one filling up the wine glass for you. Have more...have more... she knows what i think and now has her claws out. Im amost done and its such a waste of our love. Ive done my research. Be precise people. If they react badly and shut your honesty down. Learn about narcissistic and toxic communication. Then leave. Good luck. Love yourself first. X
My partner is treating his friends better than me... They get to have him whenever they want, he would even leave me in the house and go spend time with a "friend" am pissed.... Advice
I feel you. I suggest stuff we could do and he says " thats something I would do with a guy friend" when I respond "ok whats something we could do?" he goes quiet... has your situation gotten better?
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I couldn't find an answer for this so i need help: i have a childhood friend and we do a lot of boating together for years and he has a girlfriend. So we want to go for double date on the boat. I told my girl friend we can go for a trip and This will be our first vacation together, but my girlfriend doesn't want to go: 1. I dont think she likes my friend who is a simple guy but she is kind to him when she sees him 2. She has some health issues at the moment and thinks she might get sick on the boat and she says she doesnt want to feel embarrassed among peolle she doesn't know much (she never met my friends' girlfriend) 3. She doesn't trust the girl as she was dating my friend's friend (she might be still seeing him) . What should i do?
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Ik you probably won’t see this but id like to share my problem alright so my gf best friend she’s bad news and a bad influence and her best friend left her for months on in and she tried to split me and my gf apart once and she comes back and ask if she can come over and my gf says yes and I’m literally giving my gf all these reasons why I don’t like her best friend and my gf doesn’t do anything about it and it pisses me off a lot and idk what to do if you can respond that’d be great thank you for the advice much love
I have a man that tells his friends they were are just friends or he says that im not his girlfriend that reallly hurts me to my soul even when im trying to be nice about it
This is such a shit behavior i hope hes an ex now
i feel like hes related to robbie lawler
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