Like Draws Like - The R Spot Season 3 - Episode 2

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  • The R Spot Season 3 - Episode 2 - LIKE DRAWS LIKE
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    Season 3 Episode 2

Комментарии • 121

  • @LauraRyan2007
    @LauraRyan2007 7 лет назад +39

    My affirmation & advice for myself is: Don't abandon yourself for a man. Ugh. So profound. ❤️💪🏻

  • @piapenny
    @piapenny 5 лет назад +5

    Preach!!! When I reclaimed my relationship with my spiritual self it became clear why I was experiencing breakdown in my relationship and it was not the answer I wanted to believe, but it was true. Everything that showed up in my relationships is how I was treating myself. I’m so grateful for the clarity so I can break the pattern and pathology today!

  • @yvonce7309
    @yvonce7309 7 лет назад +15

    When l got my Divorce from my first husband. I went straight into therapy. While l was in therapy l still was dating manipulative,controlling, dishonest man. I truly was in denial. l was not healed from the past abuses grows up. Therapy put the spotlight on me to why l was dating these type of men. I saw a therapist for about 5 years. I'm glad to say that l've been happily married for 20 years. We are truly the same color. I put the work in and it payoff.🥂

  • @MelaninMonarchy
    @MelaninMonarchy 7 лет назад +16

    WOW!!! I'm only 4 mins in and I had to stop the video. WOW!! That was certainly a pearl clutcher. Let's continue....

  • @RecettesPeuCaloriques
    @RecettesPeuCaloriques 7 лет назад +1

    *Oh Iyanla!!!!!! The last sentence you said was so simple yet sooo powerful and I say that to myself everyday: "It's better to be hated for who you are than be loved for who you are not!"*

  • @DavidJAmado
    @DavidJAmado 6 лет назад +1

    Iyanla is killing me with this color wheel analogy because it is SO TRUE! I'm having a meltdown off of how real this is!

  • @44Stephieb
    @44Stephieb 7 лет назад +20

    As a newly single lady back out in the dating world this confirmed my thoughts to step back and develop a healthy relationship with me first. Working to raise my vibration level! See you at Essence Festival Ms. V can't wait!

  • @krissyg9736
    @krissyg9736 7 лет назад +48

    IYANLA!!!! You have absolutely answered that question I have asked myself so many times. Same man in a different body for years. Yes, I lie to myself! Yes, I dont keep promises to myself! Those are the men I attract! Everything you shared in this episode hit so close to home for me. Thank you so very much for all you do, you are my master teacher, I love you

    • @yvette6108
      @yvette6108 7 лет назад +2

      Christina Goodman I understand completely. I am the same way. Watching this video made me realize that I lie to myself a lot. Iyanla got so deep into my psyche that I cried so hard I could barely finish watching. As Oprah would say I had an Ah ha! moment. It is time for me to do my work and quit playing with my life.

    • @krissyg9736
      @krissyg9736 7 лет назад +8

      Michelle Terry, I understand completely. However, after the "ah ha" moment, then comes "the work". For me, I can't do the work alone, I have therapist who is great, and I actually had her watch this with me, so we could put together an action plan. Wish you all the best on doing your "work"

    • @yvette6108
      @yvette6108 7 лет назад +1

      Thank you!

    • @armelledesi6323
      @armelledesi6323 6 лет назад +2

      Me too i had an aha moment wow same man different body everytime.

  • @jaystan233
    @jaystan233 5 лет назад +1

    Its better to be hated for who I am,a Queen than be loved for who am not.A people pleaser

  • @Zoi_K
    @Zoi_K 7 лет назад +5

    You are such a power.. I'm grateful that you exist. I'm grateful that I came across your existance. Thank you. You belong to the people who show me the way to truth and light. You 're helping me connecting with myself. You raise conciousness Iyanla. Thank you.

  • @anuskawebster
    @anuskawebster 7 лет назад +8

    FINALLY! I've been waiting for the secound ep for almost 6 whole days now. greetings from Holland.

  • @BayLovely
    @BayLovely 7 лет назад +2

    in tears....I have a lot of work to do :( this is hard but I'm on thw road to loving and understanding myself

  • @monyawilliams9778
    @monyawilliams9778 7 лет назад +11

    Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom and guidance on various areas of our life. Thank you for being that light of clarity so we can search our inner self in order to get a better understanding of self. Peace and blessings Ms. Iyanla

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 7 лет назад +7

    boo boo and fifi...i love it iyanla!

  • @LynMichele11
    @LynMichele11 7 лет назад +4

    Needed this! Thank you for enriching the world with the incredible information you share! xoxo

  • @Humdoven
    @Humdoven 6 лет назад +2

    I wish I had this video before I started my last relationship.

  • @stellaallen9419
    @stellaallen9419 7 лет назад +5

    I always learn so much from you Ms. Iyanla, thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge.
    You look great!

  • @jujutu5084
    @jujutu5084 6 лет назад +2

    This the long awaited pill I brought a tall drink to swallow. Thank you, my spirit thanks you.

  • @The951Barbie
    @The951Barbie 7 лет назад +2

    THANK YOU MS. IYANLA FOR ALWAYS GIVING US WHAT WE NEED NOT WHAT WE WANT.

  • @sindymendez1359
    @sindymendez1359 7 лет назад

    Thank you for breaking this topic down , your right on point , so much people need to hear this because this right here is truth an wisdom! It all starts from within an that self mirror/ sometimes people are blinded with a fog / illusion ,I love all that you do we need mentors an more vessels to open up the eyes to bring more clarity!

  • @veve2287
    @veve2287 6 лет назад

    I can't get enough of this topic! thank you.

  • @garystallings3077
    @garystallings3077 7 лет назад +13

    The colors mixing! That is powerful. I never thought about my color !!

    • @johnnyarellano7653
      @johnnyarellano7653 7 лет назад +1

      Yup also I love when Ms iyanla said, "change your like-ness and change what your going to attached!" that's an Aha-moment!!!

    • @happinessiskey1979
      @happinessiskey1979 7 лет назад +2

      Gary Stallings. I never did either, not sure what my color is, I just know I love hard and I want someone to love me the same.

    • @garystallings3077
      @garystallings3077 7 лет назад

      Johnny Arellano I loved everything about it. Really made me think about somethings

    • @garystallings3077
      @garystallings3077 7 лет назад +1

      Corllenia Underwood we have to get clear about our color and what we are bringing to a relationship. That way we attract amazing things to us

    • @happinessiskey1979
      @happinessiskey1979 7 лет назад +1

      Gary Stallings I agree because I know I have great things to offer...not sure why I choose to dumb myself down. its something I need to deal with in my past. I am definitely gonna figure out what that is.

  • @QueenRissa_34
    @QueenRissa_34 7 лет назад +36

    I love this new intro song and I love the R spot!!!! Thank you Ms.Iyanla...

  • @NefertitiindaHouse11
    @NefertitiindaHouse11 7 лет назад

    Deep. This was a wonderful video. Thanks Iyanla!

  • @tambarr33
    @tambarr33 7 лет назад +12

    I am so looking forward to seeing you in London on Saturday!! You speak so much truth!! you have kept me sane when I thought I was going to go crazy!! Thank you! Thank you! 🙏

    • @jenn9640
      @jenn9640 7 лет назад +2

      Thank you Tamara, I was not aware that Iyanla was coming to the UK. I just saw your comments & managed to books some tickets - blessing sister

    • @tambarr33
      @tambarr33 7 лет назад

      Jenn Harvey you are very welcome!

  • @pranjalitare
    @pranjalitare 6 лет назад

    Lovvvvved It! Thank you for the knowledge!!😘

  • @MaeveMeena
    @MaeveMeena 6 лет назад

    Iyanla! you are the best! thank you so much for what you do for us xxx

  • @pavicaradovic2522
    @pavicaradovic2522 7 лет назад +6

    precious advices ❤

  • @phatgyrl95ify
    @phatgyrl95ify 7 лет назад +1

    Thank you much Iyanla for having such a beautiful and loving spirit that you are sharing with the world! You are such an inspiration!

  • @taneshiaoliver2874
    @taneshiaoliver2874 7 лет назад

    This is great! I'd rather be hated for who i am than loved for who I'm not. The universe always provide what we need, when we need it. I love it. Thank you so much... It's reminding me that I am doing the right thing for myself.

  • @ajajohari1
    @ajajohari1 7 лет назад +1

    Mama Iyanla, you are perfect. Thank you for sharing your gift. It was right on time as always!

  • @gapeachva
    @gapeachva 7 лет назад

    Your teachings give me balance. Your smile gives me Life! Keep up the great work!

  • @LToote
    @LToote 5 лет назад

    Stay out of my head ma’am 😝😩🙌🏿. You are on point as always.

  • @asiadavis6402
    @asiadavis6402 6 лет назад +1

    I watched this one Twice. Now I'm going to take a personal inventory and make a list

  • @beathomas4157
    @beathomas4157 7 лет назад +2

    Thank you for your wisdom. Love Light and Breathe

  • @mssassy6129
    @mssassy6129 6 лет назад

    This is awesome beginning to end!

  • @el22223
    @el22223 6 лет назад

    This was simply beautiful.

  • @nehadatta6600
    @nehadatta6600 7 лет назад

    Really helpful!

  • @joyagho5705
    @joyagho5705 7 лет назад

    I really love this thank you very much for the way you educate people kisses for you

  • @monicashaw9838
    @monicashaw9838 6 лет назад

    LYANA !!!! YOU ARE A GREAT TEACHER !!! A SOUL GUIDE !!! THANKS 🙏🏻!!! MAY THE BLESSINGS BE !!! 🙏🏻🌟❤️😊🦋💕

  • @theodoresous3756
    @theodoresous3756 7 лет назад

    we miss the R spot.. thank you Iyanla for the great informations you share with us.. you give so much help. God bless u and everyone..

  • @boundsgarneff5157
    @boundsgarneff5157 7 лет назад +1

    i was waiting for ur messages! always on time, my vitamin!

  • @normabarros3124
    @normabarros3124 7 лет назад

    this is so right on time blessings

  • @jenn9640
    @jenn9640 7 лет назад +1

    I wish you lived in the UK, I would def be calling on you - keep up the good work Ms Vanzant

  • @rashidnettles8007
    @rashidnettles8007 7 лет назад +14

    That theme is amazing. wowwww!!

  • @ericawilliams3870
    @ericawilliams3870 7 лет назад +1

    Thankyou I will use the information to make changes thats well overdue.

  • @j.andrysewicz6209
    @j.andrysewicz6209 7 лет назад +3

    Thank you so much Iyanla!

  • @mirellasylla4676
    @mirellasylla4676 7 лет назад

    Iyanla I love you and you inspire me to help others like you 😊😊😊😊

  • @darcy3335
    @darcy3335 6 лет назад

    thank you mama Iyanla. you are a gift!

  • @Godislove818
    @Godislove818 5 лет назад

    This is an eye opener, all along i needed to look at myself.

  • @jujubee90275
    @jujubee90275 3 года назад

    Mama Iyanla LOVE

  • @flowerwayR
    @flowerwayR 7 лет назад

    Thanks a lot dear Miss Iyanla for great talk.

  • @jacciford
    @jacciford 7 лет назад

    Hi
    Can you tell me where I can get your t-shirts?

  • @armelledesi6323
    @armelledesi6323 6 лет назад +1

    Wow aha moment like Oprah says. Now i get it!

  • @charlita25
    @charlita25 7 лет назад

    Thanks IYANLA. God Bless

  • @bionicalman1721
    @bionicalman1721 7 лет назад +2

    bless you

  • @tilisakay
    @tilisakay 7 лет назад

    love the new look and the shirt 😍 you look like Gladys Knight a bit💖

  • @denisecooper9678
    @denisecooper9678 6 лет назад

    I love that owl 🤔💭

  • @johnnyarellano7653
    @johnnyarellano7653 7 лет назад

    Omg did iyanla vanzant just say, she's going to come out with new book this January about our thoughts!!!! I can not wait!!

  • @MsOba11
    @MsOba11 6 лет назад

    Love the theme song 🎤🎶🎶

  • @RecettesPeuCaloriques
    @RecettesPeuCaloriques 7 лет назад

    *Couldn't find the R Spot fan page on facebook?!!*

  • @C53Maximoff
    @C53Maximoff 7 лет назад

    yaaaay a new book

  • @jujubee90275
    @jujubee90275 6 месяцев назад

    Always powerful from Queen Mother Iyanla ❤

  • @evelynj.amponsah8417
    @evelynj.amponsah8417 7 лет назад

    Great food for the mind, and soul. Waiting on God to bring me my BOAZ don't have time to be going through the box of crayons,lol. Keep being you Iyanla love your segments.

  • @ebeneburney
    @ebeneburney 7 лет назад

    Titles please- your new season 3 doesn't have titles and I will get confused trying to keep up with which ones i have seen thanks mama V!

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    color heart heart speak moment by moment in light

  • @crazin83
    @crazin83 7 лет назад

    You look so pretty!!!!

  • @beninthefield8502
    @beninthefield8502 5 лет назад +1

    so an ex abuser will only attract someone else who is on the same low vibration that I was whilst with him?

  • @shanellvioletslecarr2689
    @shanellvioletslecarr2689 5 лет назад

    I HAVE HAD TO Taylor what I learn for this one relationship I don't fit anymore yet still think about. and this video helped me to Investigate there is another. I know Like draws like and I can't find what color I am My Color seems to get grayer and grayer when I involve myself with the one relationship that is counterfiet.
    All this learning for a Lesson.
    -SLC

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    all me love

  • @tbetters2012
    @tbetters2012 7 лет назад +3

    Y'ALL BETTA SING FOR JESUS!!! YASSSSSS

  • @chukabucka
    @chukabucka 7 лет назад

    it wld be helpful if the episodes are named rather than numbered.
    also - thanks for the thoughts ... looking fwd to the introspection.

  • @misshappinessveryhappy1507
    @misshappinessveryhappy1507 7 лет назад

    birds of a feather flock together

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    real work feelying Different

  • @wannabenatural2012
    @wannabenatural2012 7 лет назад

    All this is true.

  • @tbetters2012
    @tbetters2012 7 лет назад

    3:30-3:35 I had to take a breath... my my my

  • @happinessiskey1979
    @happinessiskey1979 7 лет назад +1

    I have a question, Every man I date I feel treat me as if Im stupid, As A child I was continuously called stupid and I wouldn't amount to anything (Not the case) but could this mean in some form I believe i am stupid, so I over accommodate to try to prove im not?

    • @kemilala21
      @kemilala21 6 лет назад

      You are not stupid. And do not have to prove such to anyone. Anyone that calls you negatively out of your name is speaking to themselves, not to you. Most people are afraid to look "stupid", afraid of failure and afraid to be vulnerable. People have missed out on dreams and have lost opportunities, they take their fears, disappointments,
      and their vulnerability and place it on another person in the form of name calling. Anyone that calls you anything but powerful, is either afraid of what you can become or feels a satisfaction from having someone be lower than them & anyone that is trying to bring you down is already on the ground to begin with

  • @dsherm2938
    @dsherm2938 6 лет назад

    OH Wow! This was a eye opener. You are a blessing to me

  • @tsoanelomatlakeng9893
    @tsoanelomatlakeng9893 7 лет назад

    iyanla you are amazing!! i believe u r sent by Jesus into ds season of my life! God bless you! u hv answered my prayer

  • @armelledesi6323
    @armelledesi6323 6 лет назад +1

    I know i need lots of healing

  • @msdevinelover
    @msdevinelover 7 лет назад

    Ms.Iyanla Vanzant, what if you are scared to fix your color because you're scared the person may leave? What if you are in love with the person?

  • @ryshemafreeman8687
    @ryshemafreeman8687 7 лет назад

    So how you know what your color is?

    • @iyanlavanzant395
      @iyanlavanzant395 7 лет назад +6

      Well Beloved .. . look at your life. The conditions, circumstances, experiences and relationships of your life will give you a clue about your color . . . and by color I mean your internal energetic vibration. You can also ask yourself how you feel . . . what color do you feel? Now, remember this is not really about the color, it's about your thoughts and beliefs and the energy you carry. Prayer and meditation will sharpen your color and attract more of who and what you are. Be Blessed!

    • @ryshemafreeman8687
      @ryshemafreeman8687 7 лет назад +1

      Iyanla Vanzant thank you 😙 I will do the work!

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    fall in love

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    trust color 7 color

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    color light god know me

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    or model

  • @3506Dodge
    @3506Dodge 7 лет назад +1

    So, if I attract no one, that means I'm nothing? That IS hard to take. I have no personal relationships. Others don't find me interesting and I am largely ignored at social events even though people will acknowledge my existence. Does this mean I reveal too little of myself for others to react to? I'm not shy and enjoy talking about many things with many people. It's just that no one seems to really see me. I'm just a prop in their social life. I increasingly don't attend social events as a result. Is this the right way to handle this?

    • @loveself6396
      @loveself6396 7 лет назад +2

      3506Dodge I think you should go to more social events. Where reserved ppl attend . Like a book store or jazz in the park . Strike up a brief convo. You're not going to attract an overly outgoing person , because they are attracted to ppl who stand out like them.

    • @kathybaumann1620
      @kathybaumann1620 7 лет назад

      Cherelle HasASeatAtTheTable If you're not attracting love, you might ask yourself do I find myself attractive? if so, what do I find attractive abt myself and allow that joy to fill your heart and allow it to radiate for all to see.

    • @3506Dodge
      @3506Dodge 7 лет назад +3

      Thanks for the advice

    • @iyanlavanzant395
      @iyanlavanzant395 7 лет назад +8

      Oh Beloved! Your first comment indicates the core and heart of the issue. Somewhere within yourself you are nursing and holding a belief that is mirrored by your sharing. There is further evidence of this in several other comments . . . Others don't find me interesting . . . I am largely ignore . . . No one seems to really see me . . . I'm just a prop . . . and I sense this is a repeat of something you experienced at home, as a child. If this is not your experience that it is most likely that you watched it happen to someone who mattered to you and . . . it broke your heart. Beloved, you are living with a broken heart. There is a deep wound within you that houses self-defeating and self-deflating beliefs that are being demonstrated by the experiences you are having in the world. I want to encourage you to suspend everything you now believe is true. You can go back to it if you chose later. Right now I invite you to take a look at and do the work in One Day My Soul Just Opened Up. I sense that there may be some wisdom and support for you within the pages of that work. My second suggest for you would be to get a coach or counselor, some one who can support you in re-creating your self image as you identify and eliminate negative self-talk. Let me know how this works out for you. And beloved, I want to encourage you to establish a daily spiritual practice so that you will remember the truth of who you are. . . . . . Be Blessed!

    • @3506Dodge
      @3506Dodge 7 лет назад

      So, true. My mother has as much as admitted she doesn't love me and still doesn't care what happens to me. My alcoholic father abandoned me to her and then died. This has blinded me to the interest of others in me and led me to undermine the one serious relationship I've ever had. Being gay has only complicated my search for support from others. It was only a suicide attempt 15 years ago that got me to reconsider my view of myself and others.

  • @julies4263
    @julies4263 6 лет назад

    Thank u

  • @ahmedhabel2334
    @ahmedhabel2334 Год назад

    hiiiiiyyyyyyyyy

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    me me me meee

  • @skubytube
    @skubytube 6 лет назад

    This totally makes no sense

  • @marialezama6537
    @marialezama6537 2 месяца назад

    I have a lot of work to do....😢help

  • @wechwech695
    @wechwech695 7 лет назад

    This can't apply to rape victims I hope

  • @bridgettsmith2346
    @bridgettsmith2346 5 лет назад

    Me and my friends has been together for a year and a half he would always say this is as far as we are going to be friends well we had a disagreement and it lasted about 2 weeks the next time I talked to him he said he had someone else he's talking to someone else and so I stopped talking to him in about another week he called me up and wanted to see me to make a long story short he's been talking to someone on the phone that he met online for whole year we have been together for a whole year and a half the commitment that we had is that if we decided to talk to someone or wanted to be intimate with someone else we will let the other person know he's telling me he didn't think that this was a big deal for me and why should I get really upset basically he doesn't want to get rid of this female person that he's been talking to for a whole year because he said she doesn't mean anything but I said she doesn't mean anything but do you still talk to her on the phone