Being Equally Yoked - The R Spot Season 3 - Episode 11

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  • Опубликовано: 8 июл 2024
  • The R Spot Season 3 - Episode 11 "BEING EQUALLY YOKED"
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Комментарии • 152

  • @NashekaMedley
    @NashekaMedley 6 лет назад +116

    My step dad always said, sit back and watch him how he acts around his family and friends. So true... I'm so glad I married my husband . We talked about everything before we got married.

    • @Enteringthepresence23
      @Enteringthepresence23 6 лет назад +1

      Nasheka Thanks for sharing this im in a relationship right now and i dont feel that we are on the same level so what do i do? i do love her and care about her but i feel like we arent on the same page we have been together for 2 months

    • @NashekaMedley
      @NashekaMedley 6 лет назад +8

      Marcell Barrett The only advice I can suggest is that you answered your own question. If you know both of you aren't on the same page, why waste her time? She's not going to change for you. Sometimes love can be mistaken for lust early in the relationship. Just don't waste her time and yours. There is someone out there for you.

    • @minidocstv3339
      @minidocstv3339 6 лет назад +1

      Marcell Barrett right , don't waste each other's time.save the heartbreak of breaking up later.

    • @BL3SSed-Bliss
      @BL3SSed-Bliss 5 лет назад +1

      This is SO TRUE, and one of the things I utilize most. Remember though, it still will not reveal to you who they truly are. It will only help you to understand how they communicate with those people. Men typically show their “representatives” to their loved ones, and those they care about impressing. Pay extra attention how he treats STRANGERS. How he treats waitstaff, cashiers, people in traffic, children, etc. Observe how he treats NATURE. Most importantly, watch how he reacts to and treats you in times of turmoil, rejection, disappointment, and pain. Only then will you get as close as possible to learning who he genuinely is.
      Pass this along, thank your stepdad, and embrace your husband. Best wishes❣️

  • @shaquanwilliams1089
    @shaquanwilliams1089 6 лет назад +62

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂" I don't do whips, I don't do chains, I don't do fruit!!!" Hilarious. Gotta love Iyanla!!!

  • @anissarenaii6437
    @anissarenaii6437 6 лет назад +69

    equally yoked is more having an understanding of eachother, agreeing and comprimising being on the same page.
    i used to think it was your other half, someone completing you.
    i learned through life you complete yourself.

    • @adelejohnson1922
      @adelejohnson1922 6 лет назад +6

      I agree that we must be complete for ourselves and shouldn't expect anyone to complete you. THAT is so true my sister.
      However, My sister, I don't think being equally yoked is about compromising at all. For example, if a man only likes a woman that is a size 0 only. He may not compromise and be with a size 8. I respect that. A lot of times even if that man does compromise and settles with the size 8, he might inwardly resent her and himself for doing so.
      So, this concept of not settling goes into the spiritual and relational as well. it's about being real about accepting people's standards and the other accepting our standards. There is compromise in life for some things. but, being equally yoked is about your standards agreeing with another person's standards. You have to have standards or you settle for any and everything.

    • @kenyagrooves
      @kenyagrooves 6 лет назад

      AnissaRenaii yes ma'am!!

  • @bcvc3365
    @bcvc3365 6 лет назад +39

    missionary position on Sunday after church.. 😂

  • @TheFunnyBombshell
    @TheFunnyBombshell 6 лет назад +19

    "Trying to mend the pieces of your broken heart...." Ayyyyeee! Anybody else feeling this opening song?! It gets me hyped and then Iyanla gives me life! Haha!

  • @dawnwilliams7457
    @dawnwilliams7457 6 лет назад +8

    Squeeze the coins until the eagle squeals!! 😂🤣😂hilarious! Real opener for me....

  • @mlm302
    @mlm302 6 лет назад +93

    I can't with this Jingle though... LOL..

  • @AD_2314
    @AD_2314 6 лет назад +24

    The little missionary position on Sunday after church dinner! No orgies! Hahahahahahahahahhaha deaddddd Ms. Iyanla is amazing

  • @garystallings3077
    @garystallings3077 6 лет назад +33

    Mother Iyanla!! Great and informative episode! We needed a traditional phrase "equally yoked" broken down for the 21st Century.

  • @sarahstarr
    @sarahstarr Год назад +1

    "I like couch potatoes. I like any kind of potatoes" 🥔🤣 by the way, this session was worth GOLD! Thank you

  • @bobbiclinger7500
    @bobbiclinger7500 6 лет назад +31

    Ooohhh this is such a great topic, Iyanla! You should write a book on this!! Something like...."The Pre-Nuptial Powwow: Required Conversations for Marital Readiness".

  • @AuthorJanaeMarie
    @AuthorJanaeMarie 5 лет назад +10

    I really want to fix my finances before I get married. If I EVER get married.

  • @krissyg9736
    @krissyg9736 6 лет назад +28

    Miss Iyanla, I am really loving these recent videos, I never learned what a healthy relationship looked like, therefore, I was not prepared to have one of my own, I am learning now, with your help, what a healthy relationship looks like, thank you, Miss Iyanla, My Master Teacher

  • @TheMmiguelito
    @TheMmiguelito 2 года назад +1

    "When you don't ask for what you need, that need just gets bigger "🎯🎯🎯

  • @msh8692
    @msh8692 6 лет назад +21

    You are graced with wisdom. Thank you Iyanla.

  • @moirosalina
    @moirosalina 6 лет назад +12

    I'm sure i would remain friends with my current boyfriend if we ever split up. There is some kind of friendship between us now and I like him as a person.
    But I am certainly not friends with my current exes, because those people and me, we weren't just bad for eachother in the relationships, I don't believe we were friends-material at all. I met them when I had severe selfesteem issues and thought that physical attraction was the same thing as love. This is the first relationship that actually feels really good for both him and me. so, i think wether you want to remain friends or not depends a great deal on what drew you together in the first place.

  • @Love87837
    @Love87837 6 лет назад +8

    I'm so glad she covered this topic thank You Beloved it

  • @keyshastiles109
    @keyshastiles109 6 лет назад +13

    I really enjoy listening to this beautiful woman. #Learning

  • @JeneenJefferson
    @JeneenJefferson 6 лет назад +5

    This message is right on time Iyanla. Thank you for imparting your wisdom.

  • @IsxiahzMemes
    @IsxiahzMemes 6 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much for the clarity.

  • @chanelgraham4463
    @chanelgraham4463 6 лет назад +9

    I love this woman. I'm ready to do the work

  • @kimberlymercurius-fraser3657
    @kimberlymercurius-fraser3657 6 лет назад +6

    This is life transforming information thank you.

  • @Cataraism
    @Cataraism 6 лет назад +4

    thank you! I love these sessions. The work always help make me a greater me.

  • @gigifirefly5793
    @gigifirefly5793 6 лет назад +10

    Take the wheel ...i needed that like i need water..thank you Auntie

  • @xxvvbane5854
    @xxvvbane5854 3 года назад +2

    Ms Iyanla, your ministry has truly been such a major part in my healing. ❤️

  • @Kimba911911
    @Kimba911911 6 лет назад +3

    Thank you so much, Iyanla, for both this video and the one on Starting Relationships from a week ago! You are so lovely to listen to, and everything you said made a lot of sense.

  • @hazel-annb5954
    @hazel-annb5954 6 лет назад +5

    Really enjoy this session was greatly edified taking a good look at my relationship now.
    Thank you very much.

  • @misshappinessveryhappy1507
    @misshappinessveryhappy1507 6 лет назад +7

    Thank you miss Iyanla Vanzant. . This episode ready gave me clarity and profound understanding relationship.

  • @Mrbillionaire1011
    @Mrbillionaire1011 6 лет назад +5

    POWERful

  • @danar6950
    @danar6950 6 лет назад +4

    Great episode. My favorite one so far.

  • @eyeofashadow9419
    @eyeofashadow9419 6 лет назад +6

    Love your logic and wisdom 👌

  • @charlita25
    @charlita25 6 лет назад +4

    I know this message is for me to stick to my beliefs

  • @evelynj.amponsah8417
    @evelynj.amponsah8417 6 лет назад +2

    Shouting to the highest mountain, Hallelujah. Amen. Everything is on point. Equally your Spiritually.

  • @karenhiggins5237
    @karenhiggins5237 6 лет назад +2

    Thank you Ms Iyanla!! you're simply AMAZING!!!

  • @jrbv127
    @jrbv127 6 лет назад +5

    This was right ON TIME!! #

  • @shoppersdrugmartcanuck
    @shoppersdrugmartcanuck 6 лет назад +45

    I need Iyanla T Shirts!

  • @Devotionorange
    @Devotionorange 6 лет назад +1

    Thanku ms. Iyanla this is great lov u and ur service

  • @sindymendez1359
    @sindymendez1359 6 лет назад +5

    Thank you iyanla for always sharing such amazing wisdom !

  • @mastabah6861
    @mastabah6861 6 лет назад +4

    Powerful !!!

  • @bossladywesley228
    @bossladywesley228 6 лет назад +1

    Wonderful wisdom

  • @judithjackson1086
    @judithjackson1086 6 лет назад +1

    I'm loving this do!!!

  • @cedfowler
    @cedfowler 6 лет назад +1

    This is simply amazing!

  • @teresavicente5161
    @teresavicente5161 6 лет назад +5

    Goddess Oshun, blessed.

  • @kishacurry8716
    @kishacurry8716 6 лет назад +12

    Love your hair!

  • @hopeinajar77
    @hopeinajar77 6 лет назад +7

    My ex's don't want to be my friend 😕. Thank you for helping me understand why. I feel everything with me is complete. I said everything I needed to say but they seem to be upset still and I'm not sure why. But this reasoning you provided is clear. Guess I didn't see it this way initially bc I gave them what they wanted by making them a reason and a season. If you do things to cause upset and refuse to change then I'm not the women for you. They still mad. Men a very complicated Smh....

  • @Chaulap1960
    @Chaulap1960 6 лет назад

    Thank you. Your insights amaze me.

  • @cheywade7438
    @cheywade7438 6 лет назад +3

    Auntie Yanla stay reading my life.

  • @amourlashai
    @amourlashai 6 лет назад +6

    Lmao I love her laugh!

  • @jon5464
    @jon5464 6 лет назад +4

    This is awesome

  • @patrynaswritings7617
    @patrynaswritings7617 6 лет назад +1

    This is so true thank u for what u do love u

  • @Kcook1305
    @Kcook1305 4 месяца назад

    Really good! Thank you for sharing.

  • @shanninjaninalucas8947
    @shanninjaninalucas8947 3 года назад

    Thank you for your wisdom and knowledge ♥

  • @shermicachandler9427
    @shermicachandler9427 6 лет назад

    Very helpful!

  • @ms-uf4wz
    @ms-uf4wz 6 лет назад +1

    I love her

  • @diannebarrett6261
    @diannebarrett6261 6 лет назад

    Great advice

  • @CAROLYN143-8-9
    @CAROLYN143-8-9 6 лет назад

    LOVE IT...ETERNAL LANDSCAPE

  • @charlita25
    @charlita25 6 лет назад +23

    If God wants us to be equally yoked why is it so difficult to find people we have common interests with.

    • @shortyzangelz
      @shortyzangelz 6 лет назад +15

      charlita25 because we're standing in the way of God leading us in the direction of the one he has for us. we try to "find" the one rather thab letting God "lead" us to the one

    • @miaporche2256
      @miaporche2256 6 лет назад +1

      charlita25 great question!

    • @miaporche2256
      @miaporche2256 6 лет назад +4

      Jalina Nails it is hard to even date because men these days don't want to have real relationships or be married so what is even the point... If you have respect for yourself and don't put out the guy doesn't like you and he will find another, if you do see someone for a while and put out he dumps you. it's a no win situation!!! you can't make a guy want you. men even pretend to be good guys and they are really not so I just give up!

    • @BL3SSed-Bliss
      @BL3SSed-Bliss 5 лет назад

      Sis, you would LOVE my college Philosophy Ethics course. We debated many reasons for just that argument. Fantastic arguments were made for homosexuality, polygamy, huge age disparities, and more. Certainly makes you think, but also overstand Humanity, Society, and Relationship, thus judging less. But it can be some crazy, dark stuff, which oft feels unfair to the female. Conception (and prime time for it) is mostly to blame. Sorry to shortcut it all, but it gets deep. And you won’t love many of the answers. Honestly, I’d love to revisit that course now, as I passed it nearly a decade ago. Best wishes❣️

  • @TL-kt2ye
    @TL-kt2ye 6 лет назад +10

    Thx mama Iyanla! 😘😘😘

  • @sophiakh9590
    @sophiakh9590 6 лет назад

    True wisdom :) Thank you Ms. Iyanla.

  • @LateshaRenee
    @LateshaRenee 3 года назад

    "Don't bring no whip in here" lol 😆

  • @pennyshelley2515
    @pennyshelley2515 4 года назад

    I love her laugh

  • @mfarris132
    @mfarris132 3 года назад +1

    I’ve been in a relationship on and off with someone and have a child by someone who does not believe in god!!! 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @RenataEGreen
    @RenataEGreen 5 лет назад

    Thank You!!!

  • @tekishiachambers3077
    @tekishiachambers3077 6 лет назад +1

    Yes

  • @thesundayreset9636
    @thesundayreset9636 6 лет назад +2

    I need some of your shirts madame Iyanla. Be blessed! Continue to allow God to use you.

  • @mie73
    @mie73 3 года назад

    Omg I just busted out laughing at “I love all kinda potatoes” 😂😂😂

  • @doreensylvesterdoreen2378
    @doreensylvesterdoreen2378 6 лет назад +3

    😂😂😍my belly, such a eye opener thx you xxx

  • @specialt454
    @specialt454 3 года назад

    This is powerful guidance! 👑💫🙏🏾👍🏾💯

  • @lorna1222
    @lorna1222 6 лет назад +11

    I don't do fruit 😂 🍌🍉🍇🍓🍋

  • @adelejohnson1922
    @adelejohnson1922 6 лет назад

    Another good one auntie. I love it when it's a biblical spiritual tie in. 2 Corinthians 6:14

  • @vikkistyles2011
    @vikkistyles2011 6 лет назад

    Good information

  • @robinperkins1008
    @robinperkins1008 6 лет назад

    I LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @CharmedUnicorn
    @CharmedUnicorn 4 года назад +1

    Ok, staying single a lot longer now...not seeing how i can find someone who is equally yoked in all of those areas...sigh

  • @neishawin1198
    @neishawin1198 6 лет назад +1

    I just 💜 you Iyanla

  • @cjonnine
    @cjonnine 6 лет назад +5

    I want those T-Shirts!!!

  • @suzanabraha5942
    @suzanabraha5942 Месяц назад

    I just love her 😂

  • @bd3825
    @bd3825 6 лет назад +2

    Wow! these are some great tools, Iyanla.

  • @thatgworl2504
    @thatgworl2504 5 лет назад +1

    Iyanla is so funny. She reminds me of my Grandmother

  • @lisabriggs2981
    @lisabriggs2981 2 года назад

    Amen. I been married for 43yr and l am definitely not equally yoked. That's why we are getting a divorce. Hallelujah!!!

  • @2436golden
    @2436golden 6 лет назад +1

    I am just hearing about the Wonderwoman weekend, If I had heard about it earlier I would have definitely tried to attend. It sounds like something I really need.

  • @normabarros3124
    @normabarros3124 6 лет назад

    Lol....I love this thank you

  • @minidocstv3339
    @minidocstv3339 6 лет назад +1

    How about a little of both 🤔🤷🏽‍♀️😄 I like being active but like chilling

  • @autumnwinds8636
    @autumnwinds8636 4 года назад

    Wow!

  • @DiogoF.
    @DiogoF. 6 лет назад +1

    I am yoked with you Iyanla 😂 You seem to know what's going on in my life sometimes.

  • @purposley_made532
    @purposley_made532 4 года назад +4

    What about evenly yoked intellectually I find that in my relationship just basic conversation become issue far as discussing ideas and goals visions for the future I’m having to break down things that are common sense question because my partner has never had anyone he dated challenge him and push him to be better how do you handle this

    • @kavenambetjiha5321
      @kavenambetjiha5321 4 года назад +2

      This was my problem with my partner and today I’m single because I felt like he was holding me back and he felt like i was oppressing him and undermined him as a man ..... how did you handle it I hope you guys sorted it out

  • @zechariah4663
    @zechariah4663 5 лет назад +2

    I am digging those shirts that you're wearing on each of these episodes. Profound wisdom. How can I get one?

  • @ElaineHaygood
    @ElaineHaygood 6 лет назад +2

    You said to "ask" for what I need. I am single. Who am I supposed to ask?

    • @litawi7869
      @litawi7869 6 лет назад +3

      Perhaps you didn't ask previously and your need grew until the point of singledom.

    • @MnM412614
      @MnM412614 6 лет назад +4

      The next person you meet and you think you could have a relationship with

  • @vaishalivaidya7978
    @vaishalivaidya7978 3 года назад

    This is so wonderful but most of us don't learn that.Noone models that for us. Especially in cultures where arranged marriages are a prevalent norm.😀

  • @katrinadavenport9680
    @katrinadavenport9680 6 лет назад +1

    Iyanla, where can I find your t-shirts?!

  • @user-ei8ri9pi6s
    @user-ei8ri9pi6s 6 лет назад +6

    I have a littel brother ...he is 6 years old, and i want to help him creat a helthy realishenship with him self ,i want to help him to be independet creativ being.
    I want to help him be independet so that he will take ownership over his feelings his thoughs basicly what you talk about. would be happy that you will adress your knowleg on how to implement that with kids .
    Thank you and am sorry abouy my poor english .

  • @ahmednazmy5085
    @ahmednazmy5085 6 лет назад

    felling

  • @kennybranshaw7526
    @kennybranshaw7526 4 года назад +1

    My wife doesn't share her financial status or situations with me. We do not have the same sex drive. Mine is high. We both attend the same church, but she doesn't want to go when I go or with me. When we did attend together, I felt awkward. She doesn't understand my goals and only seems to value her own goals and dreams.

    • @TheRonskins
      @TheRonskins 4 года назад

      Hmmm, sounds like you need to have a few conversations. Hoping for all the best.

  • @tekishiachambers3077
    @tekishiachambers3077 6 лет назад +3

    How do you feel about narcissist in relationship, do you think Narcissistic can happen or is a person raised to be a narcissist by which parent?

    • @MnM412614
      @MnM412614 6 лет назад +4

      Tekishia Chambers I'd say it's a learned behavior

    • @tonyavines492
      @tonyavines492 6 лет назад

      I always talked to our daughter about this. I was born to narcissistic parents. She turned 19 one month to the day she met this (boy) and left home to move in with him and his family. This is absolutely taking a toll on me . She doesn't want anything to do with her family.

    • @mattiethesurfer
      @mattiethesurfer 6 лет назад

      My non-medical understanding of narcissists is to stay away at all costs! That simple. We can get into why and this and that, but simply put, “Stay away from narcissists!” Heed the warning!

  • @uvivalentin2034
    @uvivalentin2034 6 лет назад +1

    @iyanlavanzant, @therspot, #therspot
    would you do a guideline to evaluate being equally yoked

  • @sableeve5796
    @sableeve5796 5 лет назад

    Is that Badu singing?

  • @natashamartinez1739
    @natashamartinez1739 6 лет назад +2

    😗😗😗😗#Facts!!!

  • @AMISINGS
    @AMISINGS 4 года назад

  • @MrWen233
    @MrWen233 6 лет назад +3

    Jewels needed for beginners and finishers.. Ms if you read comments from views I need your help. ASAP

  • @nyafranceschi7078
    @nyafranceschi7078 3 года назад

    I'm just getting into you. I always agree to disagree with you. I'll be like okay,, yeah and then we fall flat. I'm not perfect , however, I have 22 years in. Please get back

  • @isis7863
    @isis7863 4 года назад

    😂😂😂😂