An Autistic Mom with 2 Autistic Kids (And Husband with ADHD)

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 11 тыс.

  • @SpecialBooksbySpecialKids
    @SpecialBooksbySpecialKids  2 года назад +6838

    Thank you Jasmine for sharing your story so openly. I am sure this will encourage many others to seek a diagnosis. You are giving the gift of self-realization, which is perhaps the greatest gift of all! In this video Jasmine and Kashmir (her sister) discussed their deep desire to form friendships. Their social accounts are in the description for anybody who would like to connect with them.

    • @leatherface9022
      @leatherface9022 2 года назад +97

      I can relate because I'm autistic and I have trouble socializing with others as well.

    • @vulpinfare621
      @vulpinfare621 2 года назад +150

      This interview really helped me as autistic black woman too

    • @gabrielmoralesgonzalez6471
      @gabrielmoralesgonzalez6471 2 года назад +45

      Thanks for making this video.

    • @katherineknapp6604
      @katherineknapp6604 2 года назад +20

      💙💙

    • @gaydragongeek
      @gaydragongeek 2 года назад +54

      Yessss! I would love to be Jasmine and Kasmir’s friend!

  • @solarrae
    @solarrae Год назад +3529

    jasmine’s husband literally can’t take his eyes off her!! everyone deserves a relationship with the amount of love and understanding they have

    • @lila-Bey
      @lila-Bey Год назад +69

      ❤️ they're so in love :)

    • @othersbyuri
      @othersbyuri Год назад +91

      Loved her references and “… what is that thing and why is it twerking”😂😂😂😂

    • @TheKLove1972
      @TheKLove1972 Год назад +47

      Noticed that right away...right off the bat! I like her glasses and the way she does her eye makeup....I think it showcases her personality!

    • @roselinepetion5407
      @roselinepetion5407 Год назад +25

      She’s very pretty 😊

    • @kasnarfburns210
      @kasnarfburns210 Год назад +10

      I don't recall hearing how they met or what they thought of each other upon first meeting. Maybe I have to listen to the video again, however, I wish they talked about that.

  • @kevinthomas728
    @kevinthomas728 10 месяцев назад +1400

    I feel like that is one of the most secure dudes in a relationship. He knows exactly where he stands with her and he also knows that she stands with him. It’s sweet.

    • @sminglebeans
      @sminglebeans 9 месяцев назад +81

      When he said other people are missing out on her (when she masks in public) it brought tears to my eyes 😭 so sweet

    • @prettypunk123
      @prettypunk123 9 месяцев назад +9

      idk did you see the way he looks at her? Like a shark with blood in the water.... lol!

    • @yahsharelscrown7647
      @yahsharelscrown7647 9 месяцев назад

      Explain that please ​@@prettypunk123

    • @jejohn665
      @jejohn665 8 месяцев назад +13

      Yes, and he loves her and their kids, and he is good Dad and Husband, this gives a lot of hope to all

  • @crystal3160
    @crystal3160 2 года назад +24673

    She’s so beautiful and genuine. Even when she roasts him she’s just being honest and she doesn’t even seem to realize her bluntness. She’s a gift.

    • @Areyousayingidontknowmyname
      @Areyousayingidontknowmyname 2 года назад +589

      They are all great. But i am listening to it and thinking without realizing she is doing the same thing to others that she gets affected by. But she is being blunt about it and others are being snide and underhanded. There is something great about polite honesty. Choice of wordings. Oh and remembering everyone has different likes and opinions.

    • @SpongeB00b_is_a_savage
      @SpongeB00b_is_a_savage 2 года назад +459

      i was laughing when she was roasting him and herself idk why 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @amphibeingmcshpongletron5026
      @amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 2 года назад +643

      @@Areyousayingidontknowmyname Great observation. The difference is definitely intent. Jasmine will say that stuff with no intention to cause harm or hurt, but is 100% blunt and honest about it. Other might subtly insinuate that stuff, but the intention is to cause harm or make fun of someone at their expense. However, because the second style is more common and "understood" by neurotypicals, when an autistic person is just being honest because someone asked a question, their bluntness can be seen as being extra rude or hurtful, because most people will assume it was meant to be hurtful, but most people say hurtful things with more subtlety and ambiguity.

    • @linaulnes8821
      @linaulnes8821 2 года назад +55

      @@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 Thats society for you tho, since it molded around nts mostly and narressists. NTs like/accept white lies and bullying, but cant stand genuine caring honesty.

    • @jackiesmith1325
      @jackiesmith1325 2 года назад +32

      She’s definitely beautiful and so humble. That’s why I think the world has autistic beautiful people to show us that their are people that are still honest in this crazy mixed up world. Oh by the way I have a handsome great-nephew that is a very high functioning autistic beautiful soul. Very smart at 14 years old.

  • @YeahitsMeSylvia
    @YeahitsMeSylvia 9 месяцев назад +245

    As a Black autistic woman, I love seeing by more representation in the autism community nowadays. When I was younger, I needed a role model like Jasmine!

    • @aprilk141
      @aprilk141 Месяц назад +3

      I (white trans woman AuDHD) love this too! A lot of my favorite RUclipsrs are Trans, BIPOC, and/or Queer. I watched two of then literally transition over the years watching them.

  • @chrishepburn1503
    @chrishepburn1503 2 года назад +7019

    I don't know why people aren't talking about the husband. He seems like a great guy and great for her.

    • @Rezolution01
      @Rezolution01 2 года назад +704

      Yeah he's a cool dude. He seems like he has a lot of patience. I think this family puts a smile on God's face for sure.

    • @dulaneygibson2014
      @dulaneygibson2014 2 года назад +328

      Yea he’s amazing. Seriously. Blessed with patience and understanding. They are absolutely perfect together. I love it.

    • @mahna_mahna
      @mahna_mahna 2 года назад +296

      We aren't talking as much about him because he wasn't the central feature of the video. Nor was her sister or her kids. But they can all be awesome nonetheless! It's just that there was way more footage from Jasmine and talking about how everything related to her.

    • @chrishepburn1503
      @chrishepburn1503 2 года назад +137

      @@mahna_mahna I get that he wasn't the central figure. Just trying to show him some love. Doesn't mean Jasmine and her sister aren't amazing in their own way.

    • @frenchgirl75000
      @frenchgirl75000 2 года назад +5

      Agree

  • @foodchewer
    @foodchewer 2 года назад +8066

    Damn man I hate to sound corny, but as a young man (26) with Aspergers, this is pretty inspiring. She has a family. A husband. Two kids. That's nuts. It definitely makes me feel more confident about having a family of my own one day.

    • @qualiacomposite
      @qualiacomposite 2 года назад +252

      You'll get there, Brother!

    • @ilikemuffins7170
      @ilikemuffins7170 2 года назад +162

      As a young teen girl it inspires me too!!(Im a undiagnosed autistic person) ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @Ilyche
      @Ilyche 2 года назад +55

      @@ilikemuffins7170 I’m just wondering what makes you think you’re autistic if you’re not diagnosed?

    • @Mureirsa
      @Mureirsa 2 года назад +48

      dont be a breeder

    • @mrs.w8193
      @mrs.w8193 2 года назад +72

      You will my friend. You will. It gives me hope too for my sons who have ADHD and learning disabilities. Good luck.

  • @Pookieluv831
    @Pookieluv831 2 года назад +6290

    She is so funny. “What is that and why is she twerking,” are words to live by

    • @Brandon-os1db
      @Brandon-os1db 2 года назад +7

      🪦

    • @lemonelbow
      @lemonelbow 2 года назад +147

      Fr shes such a mood😂❤️

    • @dezinechic
      @dezinechic 2 года назад +60

      also its sending me her equating movement she describes or immediately comes to mind when thinking of her husband.

    • @marjoriemaimba5479
      @marjoriemaimba5479 2 года назад +25

      Hilarious 😂!

    • @MrSuperBrite
      @MrSuperBrite 2 года назад +31

      She shouldn't worry too much, I don't understand twerking either.

  • @ElizabethRae
    @ElizabethRae 11 месяцев назад +340

    When she said being diagnosed was a relief... I felt that. I know exactly how she feels.

    • @KMill-xb3uc
      @KMill-xb3uc 6 месяцев назад +3

      These are the things I think of and I would never tell my friend to consider. She mentioned it once and I didn't know what to say because she sounded frustrated. But she has achieved much on her own.

    • @meaganbernard7592
      @meaganbernard7592 6 месяцев назад +2

      Same, the second my mom said "I need to finally admit I'm ADHD and so are you" I had a whole realization of my life and past experiences. I looked at everything different from that point on but in a good way.

    • @meaganbernard7592
      @meaganbernard7592 6 месяцев назад +1

      I have so much admiration for you, people like you allow my son to be who he is! Thank you goddess

  • @ChAnElLe1290
    @ChAnElLe1290 2 года назад +4690

    "I don't like jokes... because I'm usually the butt of them". That line broke my heart. I love Jasmine's energy. She should start a podcast about history!!

    • @mercedes-benzbentleyranger1070
      @mercedes-benzbentleyranger1070 2 года назад +106

      I can't always tell when people are being sarcastic and I have no sense of humour but people say I'm funny. I suppose I have some use afterall

    • @edwardcallisto4485
      @edwardcallisto4485 2 года назад +27

      I was thinking the same too! Idk what my exact conditions are, I am awsre enough to say something isn't working though, and I could definitely watch someone relaying their history readings for hours. It could be a good outlet and introduce more online friendships at least... There's bullying in being an online presence too, I'm afraid... But that's another can of worms lol

    • @GhassanB
      @GhassanB 2 года назад +18

      Yessssss!!!! 😍✨
      I would be a dedicated listener

    • @LucidQueen
      @LucidQueen 2 года назад +12

      That would probably be a great outlet for her.

    • @David.124
      @David.124 2 года назад +50

      The silence after she said that was so loud

  • @ΓεώργιοςΝτέλμας
    @ΓεώργιοςΝτέλμας 2 года назад +5678

    She is an Icon, she's a legend and she is the moment.

  • @thickjoint
    @thickjoint 2 года назад +4857

    The husband is so understanding, knowledgeable and poised about Jasmine's autism. He cool

    • @kdelka81
      @kdelka81 2 года назад +41

      And how about when he was gaslighting her experiences and calling her too sensitive? SHE was the graceful one and stayed with someone who wouldn't understand her. She gave HIM a chance. Who was being understanding then?

    • @Nnusa90
      @Nnusa90 2 года назад +292

      @@kdelka81 simply saying someone is too sensitive isn't gaslighting, coz some of us are. it's gaslighting when there's intention to manipulate which I don't believe he has, he seems caring and loving towards her even when she _as many autistic people_ tend to sometimes blow things out of proportion.

    • @sleepyote
      @sleepyote 2 года назад +175

      @@kdelka81 I wonder if they weren't a mixed couple, you'd still have the same hostility. 🤔

    • @kdelka81
      @kdelka81 2 года назад +30

      @@Nnusa90 There's the problem. Your definition of gaslighting is wrong. She was telling her truth, he was saying, no, you're wrong to be sensitive about this. She wasn't wrong but someone was trying to make her believe she was. I'm not judging him. I'm being empathetic to her situation and think, what a great woman for giving him a chance to learn a s understand and grow together.

    • @kdelka81
      @kdelka81 2 года назад +22

      @@sleepyote If you aren't black, you have some real deep seeded issues to examine why you would assume negatively in association with a black woman, and worse put it out there in public. Black trauma isn't a weapon for your youtube warrior comment arsenal.

  • @LeksiW
    @LeksiW 8 месяцев назад +279

    That husband is an amazing ally. Thank you!

    • @WarezSan
      @WarezSan 7 месяцев назад +4

      He's just submissive.

    • @annab6343
      @annab6343 7 месяцев назад +35

      He didn't come off as submissive to me at all.

    • @CookiesCreations-tm5ts
      @CookiesCreations-tm5ts 4 месяца назад +4

      @@WarezSanboy what?😂😂😂😂…

    • @WarezCommentary
      @WarezCommentary 4 месяца назад

      @@CookiesCreations-tm5ts laughter abounds in the mouths of fools.

    • @CookiesCreations-tm5ts
      @CookiesCreations-tm5ts 4 месяца назад +1

      @@WarezCommentary Yeah you don’t sound as smart as you think you do

  • @MyHandle14
    @MyHandle14 Год назад +1844

    She has a gift of being very articulate. The way she describes adult bullying is very accurate.

    • @sayetazonen6607
      @sayetazonen6607 Год назад +36

      Yes! Very articulate! I want to read a dictionary now 😂

    • @adaharrisonn
      @adaharrisonn 11 месяцев назад +52

      Those with autism tend to have to be, it's a skill they are forced to learn to circumvent the constant misunderstandings the condition puts them in socially.

    • @MyHandle14
      @MyHandle14 11 месяцев назад +3

      @@adaharrisonn true

    • @gretchenmorris9241
      @gretchenmorris9241 9 месяцев назад +9

      I’d loved to hear her history stories and I am sure I am not alone. Perhaps she can start a youtube channel. It will be a space to share her stories and what she knows.

    • @MyHandle14
      @MyHandle14 9 месяцев назад +4

      @@gretchenmorris9241 I agree😊

  • @thatfunnygrlmicah3896
    @thatfunnygrlmicah3896 Год назад +2500

    Jasmine needs to have a RUclips channel she is so naturally entertaining

    • @JKnight1316
      @JKnight1316 Год назад +141

      honestly, I would watch her history channel! from romulus to romulus!

    • @minimalchill
      @minimalchill Год назад +68

      @@JKnight1316Romulus to Romulus is a solid RUclips Channel name too tbh.

    • @cjewell8444
      @cjewell8444 Год назад +23

      I agree she should have her own channel. Like a day to day coping channel. I could see how so many people could learn and benefit from it.

    • @RealFactruth-uv3ue
      @RealFactruth-uv3ue Год назад +7

      Gosh!! I would so subscribe!

    • @whoevwhatev
      @whoevwhatev Год назад +7

      So well spoken
      Not to mention.. I could listen to her SISTER for days. Such a **commanding** presence
      💕 love these ladies
      (thus, I’m certain… I LOVE their mama too 💕)

  • @dishes2wash11
    @dishes2wash11 2 года назад +1137

    One of my favorite traits of autistic people is that they answer the question and do not elaborate unless asked to. It’s just such a boss move to not explain yourself unless asked. Letting the silence hang is so unintentionally metal

    • @pigenn
      @pigenn 2 года назад +101

      It's the opposite for me (I'm not autistic btw but im just telling cuz why not Iol) I over share and explain WAYYY too much because I have difficulty knowing when to stop sharing if im really excited about a topic, or worrying that the person I'm talking to thinks im making stuff up. I also over explain because of just pure excitement and being comfortable around a person im speaking to. It's never bothered anyone I hope, except my mom a bit. She asks why I explain things in such detail even when she says she knew what I was talking about. Sometimes I just can't explain why I do that.

    • @VvarezZ
      @VvarezZ 2 года назад +12

      @@pigenn Maybe you just love to talk very much :D

    • @pigenn
      @pigenn 2 года назад +11

      @@VvarezZ well, sometimes. I usually keep to myself unless I'm around people I'm comfortable with. Which is rare lol

    • @consentclub614
      @consentclub614 2 года назад +115

      Some of us overexplain, usually as a result of being misunderstood through our entire lives

    • @afhb7447
      @afhb7447 2 года назад +15

      It's not all autistics people that don't elaborate and it's also dependent of context and excitation a lot!
      But autistic are generally very honest people, and sometimes too blunt, but it's not for beeing mean at all. They don't like hurting others, they're just don't quite understand or see social cues and are easily overwhelming by the environment and emotions.
      And like she said, everyone is so different, they're only some tendency.
      The spectrum is very large and autism is independent from the personality !
      The 5 sens are affected, but very differently for each autistic. That made the perception and behavior sooooo different.
      And one can be very different depending to the time :
      Sometimes they doesn't speak, or too little, other times speak very well, or too much.
      And some speak so well, they seems too arrogant to others because of that.
      They can mask or not, be shy, extraverti, isolated in their own world or excited to show something to everyone... and often, others person only know one part if they don't live together.
      A lot grew up with problems of bullying, so a lot of anxiety is build up, they learn how to mask a lot by fear of rejection and isolated themselves cause it's too exhausting to mask and to fear beeing rejected all the time.

  • @zapach
    @zapach 10 месяцев назад +282

    she’s such an awesome woman. i am 99.9999 percent sure that i met her in a psych clinic i was in when we were both WAY younger in horsham PA outpatient program and my goodness, she was just so gosh darn sweet to me. i just remember her asking me if i was a model. she made me feel so happy in a time where i wanted to take my life. i remember i loved her voice and her style was super cute. her comment actually is one of the reasons i became a model in adulthood. because i felt she was truly honest in the complement and was just so kind. if you’re reading this ever Jasmine, i hope you’re doing super awesome!!!

    • @MysticMUTT
      @MysticMUTT 9 месяцев назад +27

      whether or not this is the same woman from your past, this story was awesome to read, and your icon made my day! lol

    • @ginaduncan5799
      @ginaduncan5799 8 месяцев назад +7

      Awesome I hope jasmine sees this ❤

  • @MiaLeona69
    @MiaLeona69 Год назад +5967

    The way she just goes in on her husband 💀💀💀 I fricking love her.

    • @caddieohm7059
      @caddieohm7059 Год назад +536

      Her husband takes it well. He's a real good guy with her

    • @IkesPimpHand
      @IkesPimpHand Год назад +95

      you love her because she "goes in" on her husband? What has her husband done to you? Or do you have a problem with men in general?

    • @lornaanderson1459
      @lornaanderson1459 Год назад +350

      @@IkesPimpHand I dont think that's what they meant

    • @IkesPimpHand
      @IkesPimpHand Год назад +24

      @@lornaanderson1459 what did she mean then?

    • @leah_07
      @leah_07 Год назад +205

      @@IkesPimpHand it’s called a joke

  • @SULTRYVAMPS
    @SULTRYVAMPS Год назад +2812

    She is such a likable person. I really like honest straightforward people. It's really refreshing.

    • @spongenoob4409
      @spongenoob4409 Год назад +23

      Ikr! I’d honestly love talking to her and her sister!

    • @NovaTheSinger
      @NovaTheSinger Год назад +9

      Yeah,I honestly don’t see her really being like she hates anyone,she may seem that way but the more as it was said,You pick up how she is & for who don’t see her as the greatest doesn’t understand that,even anyone else even others different can be Straightforward 😄

    • @moringaottawa
      @moringaottawa Год назад +4

      Same

    • @genohero6139
      @genohero6139 Год назад +5

      Considering taking a history course at a local college Iam sure some people in the class will be on the spectrum and be as into if not more into history than yourself.

    • @juanvillalobos1586
      @juanvillalobos1586 Год назад +2

      I couldn’t get this exact thought out of my head

  • @Nepetamoon
    @Nepetamoon 2 года назад +4097

    She’s refreshing, and extremely funny without even trying.

    • @keenan1
      @keenan1 2 года назад +48

      Right 😭😭

    • @Face_Reality
      @Face_Reality 2 года назад +53

      She would be offended by calling her funny because she said she's always the butt of the joke. She doesn't want to be funny in that way, she wants to be normal and taken more seriously. If you watched the whole video, you'd understand. So please delete your comment. She hasn't said or done anything funny throughout the video. Nothing was funny. She was serious the whole time.

    • @SparkleCakezz
      @SparkleCakezz 2 года назад +200

      ​@@Face_Reality I feel that Nomi was referring to like, charisma.

    • @godshallsmiteyouu
      @godshallsmiteyouu 2 года назад

      Derp

    • @Jadenmic
      @Jadenmic 2 года назад +31

      Yes autistic people are the funniest people. My sister has autism and she makes me cry I laugh so hard sometimes.

  • @jonathanparchmont5576
    @jonathanparchmont5576 10 месяцев назад +295

    She needs her own RUclips channel about history. The husband is very lucky to have such an amazing family. I wish you guys could live forever

    • @jeanandre6998
      @jeanandre6998 9 месяцев назад +7

      Yes we could learn a lot from herer

    • @ryanistooconceited
      @ryanistooconceited 8 месяцев назад +4

      I found the little bit she shared interesting.

    • @Tara_thatonegirl
      @Tara_thatonegirl 6 месяцев назад

      I would love that. Her personality is so awesome

    • @Q.T-T
      @Q.T-T 5 месяцев назад +2

      The baby girl is so freaking cute, she got her daddy personality and the boy got moma's.

  • @CrabbyClam
    @CrabbyClam Год назад +1302

    I would listen to her talk about history all day. She's such a delightful woman

    • @marleonetti7
      @marleonetti7 Год назад

      alot of times the people with so called disabilities are more interesting to converse with and easier to get along with than the so called normal people .

    • @QbanoPuraSepa
      @QbanoPuraSepa Год назад

      How High?

    • @dijahsyoutubechannel
      @dijahsyoutubechannel Год назад +5

      same! i like her voice a lot too, her long vowels are lovely

  • @BloodNote
    @BloodNote 2 года назад +2114

    I'm also a blck autistic female. It's not often I get to see not only a FEMALE person of color being shown with autism. It's also funny seeing A LOT of how I think and even act from someone else.

  • @Bren-m3s
    @Bren-m3s 2 года назад +1635

    Her not getting why someone would want to be her friend literally breaks my heart, I would love to be your friend Jasmine you are amazing ❤

    • @vthomas6029
      @vthomas6029 2 года назад +17

      I thought the same thing!

    • @irispierredupay5124
      @irispierredupay5124 2 года назад +14

      Me too, she's amazing!😍

    • @rockyb1
      @rockyb1 2 года назад +22

      I don’t see why anyone wouldn’t wanna be her friend either .. lol I have an autistic friend, and it’s levels to it. But he’s like the male version of her. And literally one of thee most loyalist people I’ve ever known.

    • @gmom2201
      @gmom2201 2 года назад +1

      I thought the same. I’d love to be her friend and talk books and learn about history.

    • @CharliArmstrong
      @CharliArmstrong 2 года назад +2

      Same!

  • @tpallensfamily949
    @tpallensfamily949 9 месяцев назад +105

    I could listen to jasmine talk forever. This has to be one of my favorite interviews I've ever watched.

    • @oyas9
      @oyas9 9 месяцев назад +1

      I SO agree!

  • @PK-zf3ir
    @PK-zf3ir 2 года назад +711

    The part when she said she felt like people wouldn’t wanna be friends with her broke my heart because she is a lovely individual and I would definitely be her friend, she’s so genuine and honest.

    • @Smoreno86
      @Smoreno86 2 года назад +6

      It’s a reality though I’ve felt this way my whole life and people are shocked when I say I only have 5 friends and that’s as a adult as a kid I had 1 then 2 by middle school

    • @saejasm
      @saejasm 2 года назад +1

      Lol

    • @PK-zf3ir
      @PK-zf3ir 2 года назад

      @@Smoreno86 currently as an adult I have zero friends, my boyfriends are always my only true friends sadly

  • @icantgetridofthisusernamehelp
    @icantgetridofthisusernamehelp 2 года назад +6479

    There's hope for me! I'm an autistic black woman and I've always wondered what it was like to be autistic with kids - like I always am so afraid of what would happen if I had kids or if they'd be like me, or if they'd be neurotypical, and sometimes I wonder if I'd be able to care for them because it's hard doing stuff like that? I'm rambling but this makes me so happy to like, have an example that it's possible
    Edit: Y'all. I included the fact that I'm black because there is 0 representation for black autistic women out there. And sometimes that sucks. Not just because it's already hard getting diagnosed as a woman, but it's even harder getting diagnosed as a black women, which is why it took me until adulthood to even get a diagnosis. Not to mention the black community sometimes has a hard time understanding mental health and that's a detriment to your self esteem. It's like disorders aren't even a thing, and it's so hard to try and get your family to believe you. Is that every black family? No, but it's most of them, and every single black person with a mental affliction can somewhat attest to this.
    So for those that are getting all uppity about the fact I mentioned I'm black, I'm sorry but you don't understand until you've been there.

    • @courtneyr214
      @courtneyr214 2 года назад +75

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @SanujaJagoda
      @SanujaJagoda 2 года назад +99

      I am wishing for all good things to come your way 😊❤️

    • @giam9088
      @giam9088 2 года назад +133

      yesss. this is why representation is important!!💕

    • @kingwillie206
      @kingwillie206 2 года назад +116

      Every good person is afraid of failing as a parent whether autistic or not, so welcome to the club.

    • @courtneyr214
      @courtneyr214 2 года назад +189

      @@PetroleumJellyJuggernaut There isn't a lot of black autistic representation in the media or on social platforms. I think that's why she said that.

  • @shanemcgriever6251
    @shanemcgriever6251 Год назад +1349

    I find it really interesting how Jasmine actually understands more about social cues than many neurotypicals, simply because of having to work so much harder to pick up on those cues. Like what she said about complimenting someone's shirt even when it looks bad on them -- she was aware that the person wanted to have their own feelings reinforced, not be told an honest opinion. She is a very perceptive and exceptional individual. They have a lovely family and seem like very cool people! I would love to get to know them and know there are many others who feel the same.

    • @qwandary
      @qwandary Год назад +69

      It's not uncommon for autistics to learn to be so hyper-vigilant. I have a few autistic friends who are empaths and super perceptive of minute social cues and changes, including my sister. Me on the other hand, I'm pretty oblivious but it makes me look more social because I don't get so anxious about some of those details and presume everyone is a friend in the first instance.
      It's funny how them being able to read social cues more sometimes makes them less socially successful than the ones who can't read them. Just goes to show how complex communicating with NT people is.

    • @raincheck01
      @raincheck01 Год назад +19

      I’m like this. It was a painful learning process but once I got it down people start telling me “You are so easy to talk to.” It made me feel amazing! I learned people simply want someone to hear them and because I have no preconceived notions of what is normal, they feel like they can tell me anything. I still have moments where I say something unusual or inappropriate in public situations and realize it by other peoples reactions. This used to cause me so much discomfort but now it’s okay, another learning experience. I also ask people now “Would you like to stop talking to me? I have a difficult time gauging when someone doesn’t want to talk to me. It’s absolutely fine if you would like to go do something else now.” It makes people laugh, sometimes nervously, but it’s the best way for me to be sensitive to other people’s needs.

    • @SobrietyandSolace
      @SobrietyandSolace Год назад +12

      @@qwandaryAnd when those highly sensitive and highly empathetic individuals who learned those skills as a survival method are emotionally abused then the potential for developing personality disorders is immense. BPD + autism is not a good time

    • @qwandary
      @qwandary Год назад +10

      @@SobrietyandSolace Oh absolutely, a lot of the ones with stronger social skills have BPD too, and it's absolutely a result of being perceptive enough to pick up on how they were being bullied, and then being abused further for being aware.
      If they don't have BPD they often have severe anxiety... :(

    • @followtheeasylife
      @followtheeasylife Год назад +6

      I honestly feel like a very confident and open individual could easily be friends with an autistic person. I don't mind being told a truth that I didn't wanna hear 😅 it's OK that you don't like my clothes or that I talk too much.

  • @h3inoush3ffa
    @h3inoush3ffa 8 месяцев назад +153

    As a late-diagnosed adult, Black woman, with Audhd, I felt so seen watching and listening to this family!
    I’m also a major hyperfocuser on history, sci-fi and geopolitics! 🤟🏾🤩🤓🇨🇩🇵🇸

    • @feraiivie
      @feraiivie 6 месяцев назад +6

      OMG you named my 3 things I hyperfocus on. Any sci-if that deals with existence or deeply philosophical concepts

  • @jenlynn818
    @jenlynn818 2 года назад +930

    I'm an Autistic mom with an Autistic child too. She masks like I do around others. I was diagnosed after my kid too. There's a whole generation of Autistic adults finding themselves by learning about Autism from their children.

    • @jordiflower
      @jordiflower 2 года назад +8

      Very interesting

    • @MsRita2014
      @MsRita2014 2 года назад +3

      What are the signs?

    • @singing.winnie
      @singing.winnie 2 года назад +2

      Wow very interesting indeed!

    • @fedoramcclaren4294
      @fedoramcclaren4294 2 года назад +7

      Absolutely!!! I was diagnosed after watching my son and the lining up of box juices at the age of two...lol

    • @PrincessLioness
      @PrincessLioness 2 года назад +7

      How does this affect your relationship with your child? Does it bring you two closer together by both of you having the experience of being neurodivergent or does this make communication even harder?

  • @michaelasharahyahc7799
    @michaelasharahyahc7799 Год назад +1001

    Jasmine you’re amazing. I’m a black autistic mother and I’ve never met anyone more relatable. Thank you for doing this interview.

    • @Agrubbs100
      @Agrubbs100 9 месяцев назад +24

      This is very refreshing. I have a daughter that’s about to be 8 and is autistic. I often worry about her being bullied and her future.

    • @ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed
      @ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed 8 месяцев назад +7

      ​@Agrubbs100 Nothing to be worried about. She will find her place. Only thing you need to worry about as a mom is loving them and soothe them.❤ Every child goes through it at times. I was bullied for most of my life, it was hard but i got through it with the help of my mama❤

    • @Eugene-tq2kr
      @Eugene-tq2kr 7 месяцев назад +2

      I’m confused on what autism is because she seems normal and your comment doesn’t sound like something an autistic person would type

    • @ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed
      @ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed 7 месяцев назад +13

      @Eugene-tq2kr You might be used to understanding autism in a way where they are not very functional. This is someone who is a more functioning autism. I'm personally used to highly intelligent autism. Autism is not always as obvious as we would like to believe. It can be. In this case, her autism has more to do with social cues and social interaction. Interviews are easy cause there is a set question, and you will have an answer. But at a party, she might be too stimulated to think clearly about how to approach or speak to anyone. We might feel nervous naturally but someone like her might feel totally stuck. "Deer in the headlights" behavior.

    • @milkamoussse
      @milkamoussse 6 месяцев назад +6

      ​@@Eugene-tq2kr autism is a spectrum, symptoms are different for everyone and not everyone with autism behaves the same way or has a similar experience

  • @QueenZsWorld
    @QueenZsWorld 2 года назад +1484

    I love her sense of humour, and I actually would love to have a friend like her. so glad y'all did this video!

    • @BeginningNew
      @BeginningNew 2 года назад +10

      I was thinking the same thing . I don’t have many close friends and none who live near me. She seems like an easy person to get along with and someone you actually want to be around .

    • @unmorganized
      @unmorganized 2 года назад +5

      exactlyy!! i would love a friend and honest and as beautiful inside&out as her

    • @kaitlynb.r.4179
      @kaitlynb.r.4179 2 года назад

      Same here!! She has such a wonderful personality and I would loove to listen to her story more!!

    • @AfraidMonsters
      @AfraidMonsters 2 года назад

      She’s so empowering and beautiful I love her

  • @kyleighrivera5559
    @kyleighrivera5559 7 месяцев назад +119

    This makes me happy. I have ADHD and my boyfriend has autism, and it’s an amazing dynamic for me and him

    • @kamarikucheza
      @kamarikucheza 7 месяцев назад +9

      I have obsessive-compulsive disorder; we'd make a great triumvirate.

    • @oliviamalito2605
      @oliviamalito2605 4 месяца назад +1

      hey, same! would love to know more about your experiences.

    • @clarewhite3004
      @clarewhite3004 Месяц назад +1

      I'm AuDHD and I think I need to date neuro-normals only because I've already got both and ya gotta have some balance. 😅

  • @ThatsPrettySchmitty
    @ThatsPrettySchmitty 2 года назад +568

    She absolutely transforms when she talks about history, she was smiling and dancing! I love it.

  • @aiyokai7332
    @aiyokai7332 2 года назад +623

    "Autistic people need to learn to take space" is a quote I'll always carry with me!
    As a young autistic adult, the future scares me tremendously, but hearing about Jas and her family makes me more hopeful! Hearing how she and her kids deal with everything from habits like spinning and lining up toys, to having to wear headphones or else you'd break down crying, or being afraid to annoy people because of your special interests... Seeing someone I have so much in common with who has a loving and understanding family understand her means the world to me!

  • @minh8313
    @minh8313 2 года назад +763

    It broke my heart hearing her say that she has lost friends or can't imagine anyone wanting to be her friend! I could talk about history with her for FOREVER! I love history facts!

  • @turkeyschild
    @turkeyschild 10 месяцев назад +86

    This was better than any TED talk. Thank you for sharing.

  • @royalfrederick7019
    @royalfrederick7019 2 года назад +2891

    I'd listen to her talk about history in a podcast. She is so fun to listen to.

    • @novavega7394
      @novavega7394 2 года назад +30

      That's what I was thinking!

    • @royalfrederick7019
      @royalfrederick7019 2 года назад +41

      @Nova Vega right? I think she'd make it very entertaining with her explanations and thoughts. Because she's so lively.

    • @LondonBroilSandwiches
      @LondonBroilSandwiches 2 года назад +28

      *Bump*. Pass this along special books!!

    • @SprocketAndLotus
      @SprocketAndLotus 2 года назад +30

      Same!! She would be a great teacher. Online would be great for her bc she wouldn’t have a crazy loud classroom in person

    • @MeLaThor13
      @MeLaThor13 2 года назад +6

      I dont care for history usually, hut there's a few streams that I really enjoy. I think Jasmin would be amazing at it!

  • @KoH4711
    @KoH4711 2 года назад +1510

    "he got murdered, so didn't really do him well" lmaooo this is a very special lady. Really wish she and her family the absolute best.

    • @lucillerenard9019
      @lucillerenard9019 2 года назад +66

      I was dying lmaoooo

    • @FeyIndigoWolf
      @FeyIndigoWolf 2 года назад +67

      She should be teaching or tutoring this stuff!

    • @ThisIsAubreyLOL
      @ThisIsAubreyLOL 2 года назад +13

      i had to rewind this part it was hilarious

    • @bridgetquinones
      @bridgetquinones 2 года назад +12

      @@FeyIndigoWolf a history youtube channel for sure❣️

    • @FeyIndigoWolf
      @FeyIndigoWolf 2 года назад +1

      @@bridgetquinones totally!

  • @hanelse1965
    @hanelse1965 2 года назад +1595

    Thank you a million times! I'm 55, a wife, a mother, and autistic. I made 3 decisions after watching this:
    1. I am not a problem.
    2. I deserve to be here.
    3. I will take space.
    God bless everyone involved with this amazing video, especially Jasmine.

    • @marieholmes6480
      @marieholmes6480 2 года назад +7

      My 7 years old son has improve so much in speech and he sleeps well after taking Dr. Isibor alternative herbal supplement for just 3 weeks. I am so happy i recommend his treatment Dr. Isibor on RUclips has special care for children with autism

    • @ericlawrence9060
      @ericlawrence9060 2 года назад

      Autistics gave us science. Issac Newton and name the great scientists...

    • @jojostwin2492
      @jojostwin2492 2 года назад +4

      Keep it up! You guys are amazing

    • @kelseyann6748
      @kelseyann6748 2 года назад +21

      “I will take space”
      I needed to hear this so bad.

    • @kimberlysevastyanenko3798
      @kimberlysevastyanenko3798 2 года назад +9

      That space is yours to take!

  • @tommywright7979
    @tommywright7979 10 месяцев назад +59

    I think Jasmyne is the sweetest kindness thing I've seen in a long time

  • @WheelaintheSky
    @WheelaintheSky 2 года назад +699

    THOSE GLASSES! The earrings! The nails! Her expressive voice & the way she relays history. Her honesty and strength. She’s so beautiful, inside and out. I’m hoping to see or hear more from her one day!!! 🤍

    • @brookshw12
      @brookshw12 2 года назад +6

      I know... I really really liked her!!!

    • @WheelaintheSky
      @WheelaintheSky 2 года назад +7

      @@brookshw12 saaaaame. She’s a SPARK. We need more spark on this planet. ⚡️

    • @MScoachDANI
      @MScoachDANI 2 года назад +3

      Agreed! I really like her too 💜

    • @evelyna_paula1747
      @evelyna_paula1747 2 года назад

      Unfortunately, someone is giving people these labels just to make fame and money.

    • @dezinechic
      @dezinechic 2 года назад +5

      love her speaking voice.

  • @a.rochellehouston8089
    @a.rochellehouston8089 Год назад +2099

    Her accent is so fun-loving. It's like Southern with a hint of Jersey in it.

    • @rell3181
      @rell3181 Год назад +62

      Nbsss she got that south jersey voice and sounds southern 😂

    • @blackg1023
      @blackg1023 Год назад +71

      I think its a Baltimore accent

    • @heatheranddenerale
      @heatheranddenerale Год назад +83

      Sounds like Philly to me

    • @theoshow2620
      @theoshow2620 Год назад +45

      Yeah def Philly

    • @theoshow2620
      @theoshow2620 Год назад +5

      @@oliveranderson7264 do you know where maryland is? lmao

  • @Villanelle2k24
    @Villanelle2k24 2 года назад +4477

    Black patients are over diagnosed for schizophrenia/bipolar and under diagnosed for autism spectrum disorders, Asperger’s in particular. Racism in psychiatry can’t allow a black child or adult to be high functioning and high IQ with just autism and nothing else comorbid going on. Thanks for sharing Jasmine! 💐

  • @DesertIslandDisk
    @DesertIslandDisk 2 года назад +306

    hearing jasmine talk about how no one wants to be her friend and how people might judge her just like 😭genuinely almost cried. my hearts hurts and i feel you

  • @holisticallyray7883
    @holisticallyray7883 2 года назад +210

    I believe she hit the jack pot. This man loves you so much and I’m inspired by your marriage. It’s a beautiful thing to watch, anyone can see that your family demonstrates love.

  • @emel3925
    @emel3925 2 года назад +814

    She’s gorgeous, and it’s actually really interesting hearing her perspective in that light. I think a lot of women struggle with men interpreting normal kindness as flirting, and i imagine those types of situations are even harder to navigate with autism.

    • @elenamenendezgonalez9881
      @elenamenendezgonalez9881 2 года назад +1

      Woman with autism are way more likely to get sexually aussulted. Maybe this is one of the reasons

    • @idkwuzgoinon
      @idkwuzgoinon 2 года назад +18

      Can confirm, very much so lol.

    • @mariamart_0
      @mariamart_0 Год назад +45

      Yeah and she is a WOC so it’s rare for women and people of color to express their neurodivergent obstacles, stories and other attentions.

    • @katdeasyy
      @katdeasyy Год назад +34

      yeah I'm autistic and I am naturally quite "flirty" when I'm comfortable with people cause I like to tease and make a lot of jokes and compliment them etc, can be hard when people assume I'm into them and they take it personally because I seemed to be having a good time and suddenly change my mind (in their view), but if I'm actually flirting I'm more likely to be quiet and shy lol

    • @elenamenendezgonalez9881
      @elenamenendezgonalez9881 Год назад +3

      lol I was literally raped after writing this because I didnt read the situation correctly...well

  • @justnerdystuff
    @justnerdystuff 9 месяцев назад +38

    I am 65 and my son who is 28 was just diagnosed with autism & ADHD. He was not diagnosed as a child because of all the things he did, I did as a child as well. Normal was NEVER a word anyone used to describe me. I always knew I was different and was bullied all through grade school and middle school. So when I told my doctor about this and how all my kids think I also might be on the spectrum she immediately gave me a referral to be diagnosed, in fact, she already had it printed out and ready for me before I told her. I am just now going through the screening, and making an appointment with a psychiatrist. I recently asked my doctor something I've never asked any doctor....If I was normal and she said "No Jennifer, you are not normal". I totally identify with a lot of the things this lady is saying. I've learned how to act normal so I can keep a job, and I was good at what I did. ( I am now retired) But it comes out when I get the least bit excited about something, I tend to get over-excited.

    • @burly636
      @burly636 8 месяцев назад +1

      I’m 65 and I think my 36-year-old is on the autistic spectrum. I never thought about that before till a couple years ago. he lives with me because I’m disabled and my husband died and he’s almost deaf from the army. He does work and has veterans disability but I wish I would’ve known about 36 years ago. Things would’ve been different though they’re not bad. I understand.

  • @DestineChinae
    @DestineChinae 2 года назад +547

    When she said she had felt that she was a "failed human being". Dang, I wanted to hug her so bad 😢. She's amazing 💞💞

    • @maripie493
      @maripie493 2 года назад +1

      I feel that way I was diagnosed at 30.

  • @candacepearson4356
    @candacepearson4356 2 года назад +889

    She's very articulate, aware of herself, and diagnoses. Great interview

    • @delaanaleonard8903
      @delaanaleonard8903 2 года назад +20

      Sis,I agree with you, she's an amazing lady.

    • @carmenrosa8495
      @carmenrosa8495 2 года назад +2

      How do you know when you are autistic if you know that you are it’s because its high functioning… since you have that awareness

    • @DeadpanVT
      @DeadpanVT 2 года назад +18

      Of course she's just autistic misconception is that people with autism are delayed in someway (only a small portion of people with autism have a learning disability) or unaware of themselves. I work in healthcare I'm autistic I went to college I have a certification. I like to say autistic people are some of the best actors in the world because we work around others to live our lives on the daily.

    • @beautifulmind1834
      @beautifulmind1834 2 года назад +4

      @@DeadpanVT I Agree With You Fully But I Don’t Use The Word Autistic . Autistic Is Not Who You Are . You Just Happen To Have Autism .

    • @DeadpanVT
      @DeadpanVT 2 года назад +8

      @@beautifulmind1834 I just don't care much about pc usage of the word personally but that's different for everyone. I grew up before they even removed the term Asperger's syndrome from diagnosis.

  • @shaelenelarae
    @shaelenelarae 2 года назад +536

    It makes me sad that she doesn’t think she’s interesting and people wouldn’t want to be her friend. hearing her talk about how much she loves history makes my heart so happy and I’d love to listen to her facts 🥺🥺🥺🥺

    • @henriettaabeyta1457
      @henriettaabeyta1457 2 года назад +1

      Very few Autistic people find any true friends who actually respects them for life.

    • @smokymountainangoras
      @smokymountainangoras 2 года назад +1

      I need to know more about Marc Anthony !!! 😄

    • @ilikemuffins7170
      @ilikemuffins7170 2 года назад +1

      @@henriettaabeyta1457 I think im one of the lucky ones to find friends. Never give up on yourself bc u never know what friends you will make if don’t try. If u try you might make a friend

    • @henriettaabeyta1457
      @henriettaabeyta1457 2 года назад +1

      @@ilikemuffins7170 Careful how to talk to strangers............ Courage confidence and perseverance aren't my issues of what I lack it's until 29 year only Grandma cared enough to help at all. The majority of those I meet outside I'm treated in the rude ways we're treated when regular people have no ideas about solutions and use that as the excuse to abuse us.....................................
      What people aren't patient about with me is I have trouble starting a conversation, but I also have trouble knowing if I rambled in what I wrote or not. Regular people don't understand, more often my silence isn't me not paying attention it's me too confused to speak alone.
      So far I only know one person in public who speaks in a way that keeps the clarity clear, and understands me enough to see the truth........................................................ I'll be 32 this year.

  • @luisdiegors
    @luisdiegors 2 года назад +654

    I love how he accepts her how she is, I hope to find that one day

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    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 года назад +5

      It is nice to find. I am lucky. (I also have Autism and my boyfriend has ADHD).

    • @beyondkujo
      @beyondkujo 2 года назад +9

      there's somebody for everybody

    • @sapphire-rainshimmer6489
      @sapphire-rainshimmer6489 2 года назад +2

      You will 🙂

    • @dasiajb
      @dasiajb 2 года назад +1

      You will! Trust that. ❤️❤️

  • @salinakif
    @salinakif Год назад +599

    Jasmine is such a likable person. Her bluntness is so refreshing and funny. She needs her own youtube channel. I would watch!

    • @ЛепестокИриса
      @ЛепестокИриса 11 месяцев назад

      Про историю лекции , так часа по два?😅

    • @JakeKoenig
      @JakeKoenig 10 месяцев назад +2

      Unless you're her husband, then the "bluntness" probably gets tiresome after a while. It must get old to have your spouse publicly dumping on you all the time.

    • @Frosty0762
      @Frosty0762 10 месяцев назад +1

      I agree. Idk how he ever tolerated it from the beginning honestly. ​@@JakeKoenig

    • @chickensalad3535
      @chickensalad3535 10 месяцев назад +9

      @@JakeKoenigHe is also blunt

    • @VraiHumain-ms4rz
      @VraiHumain-ms4rz 9 месяцев назад +6

      @@chickensalad3535 exactly, they're both neurodivergents, theyre fine lol

  • @Jaedeajnx
    @Jaedeajnx 2 года назад +550

    The part where she says it was a relief to finally figure out she's autistic - that's so important. People get caught up in the 'the label will ostracize my kids', not realizing that they are already ostracized without the label. But having a name for your condition helps you find community and resources ❤️

    • @noellealdi881
      @noellealdi881 2 года назад +12

      I completely agree with this!

    • @bean1077
      @bean1077 2 года назад +9

      Exactly. My Dr asked me why I needed an assessment for autism and how that would help me.
      I tried to explain the need to understand who I am and to find the right support. Dr's attitude wasn't helpful and I'm still on the waiting list 1.5 years later.
      I'm desperate to feel heard and seen. I'm judged on how I look instead of what I struggle with on the inside and I feel really upset going through life like this

    • @autieglow
      @autieglow 2 года назад +7

      Getting it confirmed that I’m autistic, at age 29, was genuinely such a huge positive in my life. Even before I was officially diagnosed, just connecting to the ASD community helped explain so much about my life and how I react to things and my sensory sensitivities. It was definitely a process of working thru some internalized ableism/misconceptions I’d grown up with, but working through it all to get to a place of self compassion and self acceptance, so so so worth it. Knowing why I am how I am and that it’s not just me “being broken”…I would never go back to not-knowing. 💗

    • @roxannerodriguez7075
      @roxannerodriguez7075 2 года назад +7

      Amen! My therapist said "I've never heard anyone be happy to have a mental health diagnosis." But once I learned about mood disorders and specifically borderline personality disorder- I was like "omg, I'm not crazy! And I'm not alone! In fact there's so many people out there like me that there's books! And work books! To help people like myself..." It was so relieving...

    • @reddlady5997
      @reddlady5997 2 года назад +7

      @@bean1077 It's not only doctors that are unhelpful with diagnosis, family can be problematic too.
      My Aunt learned my cousin *her daughter) had Asperger's when she was really young. My aunt (a highschool math dept head) decided never to tell my cousin about her diagnosis. She didn't want her to feel different. The 2 older boys didn't know either. When she hit her teen years, life was so difficult for her. She was monotone in speech, and she couldn't understand things she said were inappropriate. She also had major challenges understanding hygiene. This opened doors for being bullied. When my cousin hit adulthood, she asked a family member why she was so different. My other aunt encouraged her to speak with her doctor because my cousin exhibited depression symptoms, and started drinking. Her doctor told her, for the first time (at about 18 or 19), she had asperger's on top of other mental health issues.

  • @zhoriongipson8437
    @zhoriongipson8437 7 месяцев назад +12

    I love Jasmine. She is so authentic and rare. So many times, we meet people who wear mask and sugarcoats things, and she is not that and I absolutely love it!!! Go Jasmine!!!!!

    • @WarezSan
      @WarezSan 7 месяцев назад +1

      Yes, go away.
      Far away possibly.

  • @JadedMuse2
    @JadedMuse2 Год назад +2663

    Sounds like she's also an introvert with social anxiety from childhood bullying... and there's NOTHING wrong with that. I get soo tired of extroverts making it seem like there's something wrong with introverts for not loving to be around strangers. We keep a small circle and we did great during the lockdown... how did the extroverts do? It's okay to not be like everyone else.

    • @minnathemartian5513
      @minnathemartian5513 Год назад +68

      Thing is it can be dangerous, but I actually have autism and Social anxiety. I always sat alone at school lol But I always smiled 😁

    • @abigailandjavisfamily
      @abigailandjavisfamily Год назад

      They look like two normal functioning adults

    • @JadedMuse2
      @JadedMuse2 Год назад +31

      @@minnathemartian5513 Same with smiling all the time. Still that way. Don't stop smiling... it's contagious! 💕

    • @garyprater8139
      @garyprater8139 Год назад

      I agree 100%. I don't believe she's Autistic tho.

    • @kimmyw010
      @kimmyw010 Год назад +23

      Same ☹ Im the same way but I feel like I'm autistic as well because I catch onto things slowly and not as quick as my peers

  • @wildyoda2931
    @wildyoda2931 2 года назад +256

    She is literally one of the most authentic people I have ever seen. She is so funny

  • @unicornmadness6286
    @unicornmadness6286 2 года назад +651

    They're cute plain and simple. And that woman honestly had me laughing hard, and she was being herself. I would definitely like to meet her.

  • @jesswhycamarz
    @jesswhycamarz 9 месяцев назад +21

    She is so charismatic!

  • @eshaepperson5945
    @eshaepperson5945 2 года назад +417

    “They want you to reinforce how they already feel.” Honestly, she has such a good perspective on how people really are.

  • @dallasdallas72
    @dallasdallas72 2 года назад +1084

    She’s incredible. I could sit there and listen to her talk about history for hours. Wonderful lady

    • @mthom2096
      @mthom2096 2 года назад +7

      Me too

    • @memyselfandi4940
      @memyselfandi4940 2 года назад +5

      Yes, better than Xanax

    • @graymatterwolf850
      @graymatterwolf850 2 года назад +3

      She's telling her whole life story
      I'm literally tearing up

    • @kraichellecurren7892
      @kraichellecurren7892 2 года назад +4

      Ditto! Love her vibe. She’s cool & smart. She’s more in tuned with people than the average neurotypical, it’s refreshing. Her husband is so thoughtful. They’re a lovely relationship example and teachers of great humanity 💛💛

    • @amyshackleton6749
      @amyshackleton6749 2 года назад

      I would totally too.

  • @bbqueen1632
    @bbqueen1632 2 года назад +358

    She’s so funny unintentionally and she seems to have a great personality.

  • @hopeo-w5961
    @hopeo-w5961 9 месяцев назад +14

    rewatching this for comfort because it is one of the few videos that RUclips recommends for black women on the spectrum but also such great questions and sharing.

  • @RedHearts178
    @RedHearts178 2 года назад +905

    being a black woman is already hard because people already make so many assumptions about us and misunderstand us and the way we are so I can’t even imagine how much more alienating the world must feel for autistic and/or disabled black women

    • @venus3200
      @venus3200 2 года назад +48

      yes this part

    • @kayb2454
      @kayb2454 2 года назад +30

      Yes yes

    • @noellealdi881
      @noellealdi881 2 года назад +135

      And black women are horribly misdiagnosed and overlooked in the medical industry as well

    • @noellealdi881
      @noellealdi881 2 года назад +77

      @hyperflyer you should look up the statistics for it, and women in general (but especially black women) even something like endometriosis took a black nurse like 4 years to be diagnosed with because of the lack of research for women in general

    • @freenote5732
      @freenote5732 2 года назад +88

      @hyperflyer because Black women are assumed to be aggressive, defensive and angry and a threat. Black women's skin is weaponized and criminalized at a very young age. Black women are also adultified by society as children. Institutional and systemic racism profiles Black women and is the cause for these biases.
      It causes unfair biases and assumptions to be made about Black women.

  • @Midnight_Magic_Tarot
    @Midnight_Magic_Tarot 2 года назад +337

    "I have to wear headphones all the time when I'm with my children unfortunately because if not I'm probably on the floor crying." Most relatable quote of motherhood. These are great interviews!

    • @arrow2589
      @arrow2589 2 года назад +31

      I want to be a parent but I'm also neurodivergant and can be very noise avoidant at times. It that can really overstimulate me and drive me to break Downs so hearing that exact quote from a mother made me feel so much better about wanting to be a mother and that it's OK to do things like that

    • @mjbizconsulting
      @mjbizconsulting 2 года назад +20

      Headphones are life savers and I do not have autism. This was so educational and loving. I will be more conscious of my behavior with others and make sure that others feel heard.

    • @extrashotofespresso_
      @extrashotofespresso_ Год назад +5

      I’m pretty sure my sister is autistic. She has always made a lot of noise since she was a baby and she doesn’t stop talking. She is 13 and still makes random sounds and my ears ring when I hear it because she is so freaking loud. She’s also obsessed with anime, you ain’t gonna tell me no person that watches anime isn’t neurodivergent.

    • @pi_da_ras17
      @pi_da_ras17 3 месяца назад +1

      ​​@@extrashotofespresso_I watch anime sometimes although I'm not really obsessed with it and I'm not neurodivergent.

  • @helyns1416
    @helyns1416 2 года назад +540

    "I was so angry reading about Julius Caesar the other week." Ok, I was debating whether to leave a comment but this quote made me so happy. As an autistic woman who is studying history and is a vibrant dresser this was honestly so touching. She seems awesome and I want her glasses lol

    • @amphibeingmcshpongletron5026
      @amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 2 года назад +41

      I burst out laughing so hard at that! Especially when she said that Mark Anthony was the obvious choice! I'm also autistic and seeing that level of genuine passion for history in a context like this being represented just tickled me. I can relate a lot. Nobody wants to hear random info dumps of historical events followed by passionate hot takes on the outcomes. Thank god for podcasts and equally obsessed friends.

    • @mahna_mahna
      @mahna_mahna 2 года назад +14

      I never new there were so many passionate history nerds (a term I use with love, including for myself)! My son's special interests are computer programming and birds. I love talking about both with him, and would love talking history with people who are passionate about it. I'm neurotypical (I mean, whatever that really is - it's just a word that mostly means my brain is tuned for social cues and my level of energy is considered "appropriate") but love going in depth on a lot of subjects. But I'll never has as deep a knowledge of someone who is spending the kind of time Jasmine talks about every single day on it. I'd love to hear those info dumps and passionate hot takes!

    • @l.o.i4214
      @l.o.i4214 2 года назад +8

      @@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 Im not autistic, I found it funny as well. She is extremely interesting, and her way of describing things is very articulate

    • @AnotherTruth
      @AnotherTruth 2 года назад +6

      I felt that statement. I understood why that was frustrating.

  • @idonthaveahandle2000
    @idonthaveahandle2000 9 месяцев назад +7

    I love her, we need more people like her in the world, I would be more than happy to hear about her special interest for hours.

  • @rent5729
    @rent5729 2 года назад +764

    OFFTOPIC but- I love how she explains history. Just the “.well he got murdered so that didn’t work out for him-“

  • @tummyg
    @tummyg 2 года назад +470

    Someone get jasmine a mic and a camera, I’m ready for the history podcasts.

  • @juliamoriah9056
    @juliamoriah9056 2 года назад +526

    The fact that she grew up with people telling her there was something wrong with her totally broke me. There's nothing wrong with her! She's got personality and that's something most people don't have anymore. Such sweet kids and a wonderful husband for her. Thanks for doing this episode!

    • @user-ok3xe5pr3k
      @user-ok3xe5pr3k 2 года назад +5

      Same here, I’m 16 and my whole family talks about me like that and it really hurts. They won’t even care to get me help

    • @glendybeatriz714
      @glendybeatriz714 2 года назад +1

      Her relationship is better than most people’s!!!

    • @hopeforthefuture1155
      @hopeforthefuture1155 2 года назад +3

      Jasmines husband is so kind and understanding! I hope I see more men like this in the world.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 года назад +1

      That is common for people who are different. It happened to me too.

    • @AngledLines
      @AngledLines Год назад

      Same my family does the same thing

  • @KM56648
    @KM56648 10 месяцев назад +4

    I love how genuine and honest she is. What a beautiful soul. I hope she knows what she brings to the world and how we need more people like her being themselves and truly brings a ray of Positivity and sunshine to this world.

  • @averyk.a2938
    @averyk.a2938 2 года назад +342

    As an autistic girl myself, it makes me excited for the future and gives me assurance that I can be as good of a mom as her. Thank you so much Jasmine for giving me that hope ❤️

    • @ivyamaru9537
      @ivyamaru9537 2 года назад +2

      God bless you luv😊🙏🏽❤️❤️

    • @ivyamaru9537
      @ivyamaru9537 2 года назад +2

      You’re amazing and don’t ever let anyone tell u different 💞💞☺️

  • @christinad4432
    @christinad4432 2 года назад +530

    She needs to start a youtube channel where she talks about interesting facts from history! I find her to be amazing and the way she's able to put what she reads into facts that we can understand is fascinating!!

  • @beez663
    @beez663 2 года назад +690

    "What is this thing and why is it twerking?" Has got to be my most favorite statement ever.
    Seeing Jasmine's family and hearing her share her experience was the most affirming thing ever. As a Black woman with possible undiagnosed adhd it was comforting to see another Black woman experiencing similar things I did and am still experiencing. Being undiagnosed, bullied and called names, feeling excluded from or not feeling confident in pursuing friendships. It's been a thing in the Black community where people don't want to see anything wrong with their kids so they don't seek help for their children. The community has also had a torrential history with doctors and the health care system in general so that doesn't encourage anyone to seek help. All in all, I think it was very important that Jasmine shared her story. It makes me feel less alone and maybe will help others in that way.

    • @asdsa1289
      @asdsa1289 2 года назад +21

      My sentiments exactly. I honestly just became so emotional watching this and tearing up because I realized how much of this is similar to my behavior and it just feels so comforting to know that you're not alone. 🥲

    • @OnlyMichaelJackson
      @OnlyMichaelJackson 2 года назад +11

      I'm dealing with all of this as a black woman. Glad to know I'm not alone

    • @kimragland4067
      @kimragland4067 2 года назад +3

      I have a autistics son and he seems a lot.

    • @claudiobeachball
      @claudiobeachball 2 года назад +8

      As a black woman who suspects I have autism, what you say rings so true to me. I'm also glad Jasmine shared her story.

    • @giaparmer
      @giaparmer 2 года назад +5

      Supporting all of you and the fight towards equal health care 💚

  • @TomHutchinson5
    @TomHutchinson5 11 месяцев назад +4

    Jasmine's expressions are so spot on. She has a great read and take on the situations. Hearing from her is so powerful to me. Thank you.

  • @noawest9133
    @noawest9133 2 года назад +271

    This woman is so cool, intelligent, and hilarious. It shines through her children too.

  • @mosesallowit2824
    @mosesallowit2824 2 года назад +312

    Jasmine seems like a really cool person. She has a great way of describing hisrorical events. It feels like it just happened yesterday.

  • @lsour8546
    @lsour8546 Год назад +597

    All autistic adults should watch this video. It's so enriching, validating and heartwarming

    • @TheSMR1969
      @TheSMR1969 Год назад

      She's not autistic

    • @christianwright7648
      @christianwright7648 Год назад +22

      As an autistic adhd (audhd, if you will) adult, watching the interplay between jasmine and her husband was so surreal to me because it was like watching the personification of the "two wolves" in my brain having a conversation lol

  • @liakay2531
    @liakay2531 9 месяцев назад +2

    I truly appreciate the honesty of Jasmine and her husband giving us a glimpse into the world of a functioning autistic family. Thanks Jasmine you're a real inspiration and educator.

  • @PlebianGorilla
    @PlebianGorilla 2 года назад +712

    I feel like a benefit of having her as a mother is her honesty and literalness. No games, no emotional abuse. Just honesty.

    • @suzycreemcheeze446
      @suzycreemcheeze446 2 года назад +65

      Honesty is cool. But be diplomatic.

    • @syntheticteapot
      @syntheticteapot 2 года назад +11

      Absolutely. When people are perceptive of how jokes can hurt others who are super literal or take it to heart, it only helps everyone involved to realize and adjust accordingly. Kindness costs $0 and and when adhd and autistic and otherwise neurodivergent people are actively taken into account, we can all truly get along. It's just a matter of people's compassion being opened to people that need it the most.

    • @dl2310
      @dl2310 2 года назад +1

      Real talk

    • @salahsshavedeyebrow
      @salahsshavedeyebrow 2 года назад

      Honesty, but kindness and warmth is also important.

    • @naavajo
      @naavajo Год назад +1

      People on the spectrum can still be manipulative and play games, though. I am not saying she is but II have known people (my parents) who have

  • @truthserum4886
    @truthserum4886 2 года назад +613

    She's comical without trying and I wonder if she's even aware that what she says is funny. I love her personality and it makes me sad she doesn't have friends to share it with.

    • @madelaki
      @madelaki 2 года назад +5

      Oh she knows. Humor by autistic people tends to be of the deadpan sort.

  • @Indusxstan
    @Indusxstan 2 года назад +587

    When Jasmine said she can’t imagine why anyone would want to be her friend, I felt a pang of sadness immediately. Her honesty is so refreshing I know I would as a middle-aged man who shares her interests, totally lose track of the time easily. By the way, I am so happy she found an excellent husband. He is a remarkably handsome & supportive life partner. And that sister and kids are awesome too!

    • @chocolatwist
      @chocolatwist 2 года назад +8

      Yes I agree with you totally

    • @jnieswartz4878
      @jnieswartz4878 2 года назад +8

      I would me honored to be her friend. She’s a interesting genuine women.

    • @thatdude3977
      @thatdude3977 2 года назад +1

      Thats a red flag actually. She will twist that mindset into excuses for horrible behavior. Narcissist 101

    • @luckylarry88
      @luckylarry88 2 года назад

      Bro is simping

  • @cherylbristol5144
    @cherylbristol5144 5 месяцев назад +9

    This is their perfect. A loving man and woman with 2 lovely children. Smart lady with bluntness.

  • @brandip77
    @brandip77 2 года назад +188

    I freakin love her personality. She’s a great mom, and definitely has a greater understanding of her children than a mom who is not on the spectrum. This is a great family.

  • @xxxPrayxForxPlaguesx
    @xxxPrayxForxPlaguesx 2 года назад +720

    Jasmine is so interesting. Especially when she said she doesn't understand social interactions but she understands history. She feels like the people come to life. I really resonate with that. I could be wrong, but interpret that as that when she learns about historical people and events she can understand them because she can see all the pieces of the puzzle, how they got from point A to point B. It's hard to understand people nowadays because they don't even know where they're going or what they're doing. People today come across very insincere. They say yes but you can tell they mean no. I think with Jasmine what you see is what you get and she is very truthful. This is just my perception but Jasmine taught me a lot today. Thank you for sharing.

    • @Joao-de9gl
      @Joao-de9gl 2 года назад +10

      She is socializing through history someway

    • @bree7969
      @bree7969 2 года назад +1

      I love this perspective!

    • @Heather_Morgan
      @Heather_Morgan 2 года назад +3

      That makes a lot of sense. And yes, society these days is very confusing, so it doesn't surprise me that there's so many people who struggle with social interactions.

    • @elenamenendezgonalez9881
      @elenamenendezgonalez9881 2 года назад +1

      I find the part were you mentioned that with history u know where they come from and where they are going so cool. Thank u for giving your perspective

    • @kaylahukkinen9293
      @kaylahukkinen9293 2 года назад +1

      People and their interactions, emotions , and some jokes are stuff are confusing to me. Especially when they say one thing and do or mean anothwr

  • @힐만94
    @힐만94 2 года назад +113

    Wow, it's one of the healthiest marriage I've ever seen... Both can speak freely without hurting each other feeling, and the best part is, they accept each other unconditionally...

  • @dangelosylvester6897
    @dangelosylvester6897 11 месяцев назад +15

    I just found out that there is an online encyclopedia, and I can look up anything about history and be given credible information. It's like Pandora's box has been opened for me. Thank you, Jasmine! It's a great way to learn about history.

  • @98noir94
    @98noir94 2 года назад +178

    This relationship should be a sitcom . They have crazy chemistry !

  • @terencole1854
    @terencole1854 2 года назад +906

    Jasmine, her sister, and her husband are all so super intelligent. They are all so well spoken. Their conversations were all so stimulating and really helped put bring light to living with autism. She should be extremely proud of herself! Great interview!!! 😊

  • @user-qb5dd6lq2p
    @user-qb5dd6lq2p 2 года назад +387

    *The glasses, the earrings, the makeup...she is drop-dead GORGEOUS omg*

    • @crazycutecatlady33
      @crazycutecatlady33 2 года назад +11

      She looks well put together

    • @nixienooo
      @nixienooo 2 года назад +13

      I swear us autistic people have the best sense of style tbh

    • @n.e.7647
      @n.e.7647 2 года назад +9

      @@nixienooo A lot of them don't care about style at all, but the ones who do usually do a very good job. I think because they tend to be very detail oriented and organized, so they can pick up on patterns or styles that go well together, and they also tend to have unique tastes, which makes them interesting and original.

    • @danielaaron7024
      @danielaaron7024 2 года назад +4

      She is everything.

    • @bearcat45
      @bearcat45 2 года назад +1

      @@nixienooo Huh?

  • @ceetyler1302
    @ceetyler1302 9 месяцев назад +3

    Jasmine keep pressing forward, you are a beautiful, courageous, strong woman. Show your children how to live within their skin, while dealing with their disability .
    Thank you & your husband for sharing your story.

  • @JayeDot
    @JayeDot 2 года назад +320

    Imagine all the adults out here that are undiagnosed. And then there's the adults in the 30's and 40's just discovering their diagnosis through their children. This happened with me when my son was diagnosed with ADHD. I started to see a lot of me in some of the things he did, just like Jasmine. And as I read more on ADHD the light bulb went off. I'm glad there's more awareness now so kids can get all the support they need.

    • @GreenyAU
      @GreenyAU 2 года назад +8

      I didn't know I had ADHD till about a year ago (I was 17/18yrs old), I knew something was different. I have r half brothers (Same mum different dad's) and they all got ADHD from my mum, I don't know why they didn't get me checked when I was young. Also throughout the past 4 years I've found out more bout my mental health. ADHD, BPD, anxiety and depression - great fun, still trying to understand my own self

    • @skyjacksonA1
      @skyjacksonA1 2 года назад

      I Llike how ppl in the comments are acting like ADHD is a real condition I've had it my whole like along with ODD and bipolar and ADHD is the most normal disorder barely anything noticeable or serious

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 года назад

      @@skyjacksonA1 Depends on the person.

  • @brandi5126
    @brandi5126 2 года назад +549

    It makes me so sad that Jasmine feels like people wouldn't find her interesting. She is so interesting and I like her style. I seriously hope she can make more friends.

    • @teahgurl
      @teahgurl 2 года назад +2

      I’m a typical person and I deal with the same thing. I think ppl don’t like unique. I never thought of myself that way, but I’ve realized… that I do fit in and that I’m different… and it is what it is 🤗

  • @walpurgisnight7
    @walpurgisnight7 Год назад +574

    She's the kind of woman I could sit and talk with for hours. I hope more people realize how pointless it is to judge people for not being a carbon copy. There is joy in hearing about new perspectives.

    • @jessicathomas22717
      @jessicathomas22717 7 месяцев назад +4

      She reminds me of a good friend

    • @Mythical444
      @Mythical444 7 месяцев назад +1

      I wish a vast majority of people understood this

  • @capt_tt7113
    @capt_tt7113 11 месяцев назад +3

    This is one of my favourite videos on RUclips. What a beautiful, strong and inspirational family! Kudos to Jasmine and Tim for their strength and time. So beautiful!

  • @nvm1369
    @nvm1369 2 года назад +728

    She should start a RUclips channel talking about history, I’d love to listen and learn!

    • @datnohi8612
      @datnohi8612 2 года назад +6

      I would love to see how she deals with having a family and raising children having this anchor on her life. I suspect that I am autistic also. She and I seem to share the same path, I'm always being told something is wrong with me or I'm crazy, people Normally run away from me, and I to wear headsets all the time, can't keep a job, when you get a job I'm always ostracized, it's a lonely world but I have gotten use to it, I have nor been diagnosed because I don't know how to

    • @QueenOfFloridaa
      @QueenOfFloridaa 2 года назад +1

      Yesss

    • @barbarachau5238
      @barbarachau5238 2 года назад +1

      Omg yes!!

  • @cg111
    @cg111 2 года назад +547

    I relate to Jasmine so much. the fact that autism is under diagnosed in black ppl and the fact that’s it’s so difficult to get a diagnosis in adulthood. I don’t see many people like her 🥺

    • @pearltoomer6392
      @pearltoomer6392 2 года назад +23

      SO TRUE I DO NOT KNOW MY PROBLEM GOING SCHOOL IN THE 1970S PEOPLE OR SCHOOL DID NOT CARE

    • @starryskye00
      @starryskye00 2 года назад +39

      The school system (in CA at least) has actually made it much harder to diagnose black children with autism. I work in an SDC class and in order to receive a diagnosis, they have to be officially referred to an outside psychologist for testing versus our school site psychologist like other children. Supposedly it was to counter the over diagnosis of black children in the past. I don’t understand it and it still seems like a form of segregated care because all other children can more easily begin the diagnosing process. I need to research it more. It makes no sense to me every time someone tries to explain it

    • @jasminec885
      @jasminec885 2 года назад +10

      A lot of us our undiagnosed. I think I could be as well. My son is autistic. And my cousin is too.

    • @teahgurl
      @teahgurl 2 года назад

      Under diagnosed in many… even Indians. It’s just unfortunate

    • @chuusblackgf
      @chuusblackgf 2 года назад

      very true i didn't get diagnosed until i was 18

  • @uuesgirl
    @uuesgirl 2 года назад +386

    So painful when she says she can't imagine anyone wanting to be her friend. I am an autistic mother as well and I feel this SO much. I feel like the only people who like me are my kids, my mom, and my boyfriend. Jasmine, I think you're pretty awesome and I think anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend! Love from Canada ❤

    • @mammadingo9165
      @mammadingo9165 2 года назад +10

      I'm sorry you feel this way , hope you meet many supportive happy true friends .

    • @froste477
      @froste477 2 года назад +8

      I want to be your friend!

    • @Blaquebarbgamer
      @Blaquebarbgamer 2 года назад +8

      I would be friends with both of y’all, you both sound just like me 🥰.

    • @lovefromjay2324
      @lovefromjay2324 2 года назад

      Same

  • @elc6570
    @elc6570 10 месяцев назад +5

    she’s such an icon for trying to stay true to who she is. wishing her only the best

  • @adecorativepurpose
    @adecorativepurpose 2 года назад +663

    Jasmine's thirst for knowledge is inspiring! If she wanted, she could start a RUclips channel about world history. I would watch!

    • @delaanaleonard8903
      @delaanaleonard8903 2 года назад +19

      Yes,I would definitely watch.

    • @lunacatfish
      @lunacatfish 2 года назад +11

      I agree!!!! :)

    • @nataliet.9403
      @nataliet.9403 2 года назад +9

      Omg me to!!! Oh gosh she should so start one! Watch, her first video would be 8 hours on a specific history topic and I would watch every minute of it 😂

    • @xelectrix
      @xelectrix 2 года назад +9

      I was just thinking how I'd like to see more of her.

    • @rialequay1787
      @rialequay1787 2 года назад +4

      Yes. A lot of people would watch