"Burnout is caused when the reward for what we do isn't with the amount of effort or work we have to put it." - Kati Morton. Thank you for this eye opening sentence!
I've been burnt out for so long that I feel like I want a break for the rest of my life tbh Edit 3 years later: found out at 32 I have adhd and this comment that still gets attention all this time later (so it keeps popping up for me) makes a lot more sense.
Reasons for me: - Fulltime work and only 2 days free - The biggest part of my paycheck goes into surviving and being able to show up at work - No money for the hobby I want - Not fitting in at work - Lots of family problems - No appreciation at work, money as the only reward doesn't help me - 'Pretending' at work, emotional labor - Lack of perspective for the future in these times we're living in
explore more. find your true passion and know that it wont come overnight. humans are not robots but when theres a goal attached to work towards theres a purpose in living. go out there and explore theres nothing to lose.
Figure out another job you want to do, then or before, quit that job your at. Sit down. Figure out where do you want to be in 5 or 10 years. Set minimum 3 goals. Yes, write them out one sentence a piece. Heal yourself as an individual, then work on healing your family dynamics. As you heal your personal relationships, your work relationship will improve as a by product. When you're too poor for hobbies, develop skills. Coding, languages, selling, communication, etc find skill you want to learn. Lastly, seek out new perspective. Look for inspiration, motivation and beauty.
me too. 7 lessons a day with homework for each lesson due the next day is so draining. my school's version of a break is 5 minutes between every lesson but teachers overrun.
I feel the same way. I work in a hospital so its all pandemic all the time. There is no break since where I live everything is shut down, with nothing to do and nowhere to go. Except work. A year ago I tried to have hope by thinking about what I'll do when all of this is over but I don't even have energy for that anymore. Its just a matter of getting through each day now.
same here too...college just burnt me out...before the pandemic happen, all of my works were done in a jiffy. Nowadays, works are doubling and starting to pile up because we attend online classes.... lacks motivation to keep going as well....
Wow I just realized I really don't get any breaks. I'm always multi tasking. Even when I eat meals. My brain is thinking of what's next. Really makes sense.. Sometimes we have to hear how important a little thing is really a big thing we need to appreciate. Thank you once again
That's why I don't think that I can handle having kids; and as an autistic person, I often wonder if I can even handle a relationship with all of the emotional stressors that come with it.
As a student, summer is incredibly important and is a great time to heal from burn out. Personally, swimming, painting, and sleeping helps alot. Taking a break is definitely important after an entire semester of sleep deprivation lol
It has been 4 months since high school ended and not only I needed around 2 months to sleep better but even now I have headaches and feel very tired. I had a very serious burn out this year
I completely agree... I'm in the last year of my master's degree (France's master degrees are in 2 years) and I haven't been able to take the summer off last years because I was late on my memoir. It's also the case this summer. I haven't stopped working for long periods of time since summer 2020. I feel like I'm drowning right now, especially since burn out making me unable to finish the work I need to accomplish to graduate makes me even more anxious. It's a vicious cercle. Vacations are so important...
Make pains to end up in a job that you can actually take long vacations… Sadly, the majority of us are not in that predicament. In fact, I would say, the hardest part is trying to find that time for yourself outside of school-time years, jobs don't typically just close down for 2 1/2 months in the prime time of the year, for example.
I’ve found that sometimes it’s not that I’m burnt out but it’s that I need the right activities and human connection to engage me. One conversation with someone can take me from feeling like dying and just going to bed to then wanting to run and jump around like a child. Moving through burnout took a lot of clearing of emotions like despair and apathy.
Couldn't hav said it better my self....it's like we us humans aren't supposed to be doin what we're not meant to be doin...everyone has their special certain call or am I trippin nd jus sound absolutely dumb as fuk...if I do let me know and I'll accept
I think this kind of goes hand-in-hand with what she said about 'finding the right vacation for you'. Environment can play a huge role, I cant relax with other peoples clutter strewn about, but *my* clutter doesnt bother me, for example. Or to play off of your example, when I am socially burnt out, or emotionally, you can stick my best friend Dave in front of me, and I was still happily talk to him for hours, probably to the point where he'll finally tell me to shut up. lol.
Yepp, we need the right dose of human connection, social engagement, outdoor time to recharge. Thing is no matter how much I focus on these, things improve but I am not even close to recovering. And it’s been several years for me. The fight goes on.
@@GENOMCHAOS Step 1: Get a note from your shrink that suggests you're only performing at 40% when you're burnt out and his micromanagement is making him and the company partially liable for it. Step 2: Give the note to HR 3 months before performance reviews (just to make sure he gets put on a PIP). Step 3: Join the Pilates class his wife teaches and convince her to come to your place for some iceream. Step 4: After screwing his wife enjoy wearing his skin as a blanket and that warm feeling. NOW YOU'VE BECOME YOUR OWN BOSS
Perfect break: Turn off phone. Go into the forest, meditate a bit, enjoy the fresh air and nature, listen to a bit of music, take a nice bath, go to bed early. To me, you know, yes breaks are an important part of burn out recovery, but I wouldn't overestimate the (long term) impact, because what made you not care for yourself in the first place? What makes you feel like you are not validated in ypur relationships or at work? Becaue your partner and colleagues are arseholes or maybe because you were abused as a child and neglected and told yourself you weren't worthy and nobody liked you because you were bad in order to survive? Or what sucks your energy really? Is it that your work consumes so much energy or that maybe you have some trauma that holds your life energy back. And you know, what I consider really important is this: Don't expect different outcomes if you put in the same things over and over again. So even if you have taken a break, I'm sorry but it's not gonna be enough, you are going to find yourself struggling again if you don't go to the roots of the problems and make a bigger change. (But at first taking a break is also important.)
Thank you this is so true, I recognized this so much. I have a social trauma and I've been depressed for 4 years (I'm 16). When I burnt out halph a year ago, I knew I could only recover if I worked on my trauma and if my self esteem went up. Taking a break isnt enough. You need to take a revolution. I'm doing slowly but gradually better now and I can go outside longboarding and I started writing a tiny bit and I play guitar and I can meet with good friends, even outside. I'm going to work in 2 weeks to work 1 hour to try and I'm looking forward to it!
I began suffering burnout 8 months ago but carried on working under extreme pressure. I was suffering physically (high blood pressure, etc) as well as mentally (exhaustion, etc). I used ALL the techniques Kati described. It kept me at work, but the extreme pressure had not been addressed by my bosses. Eventually, the flood gates burst 3 months ago and I was broken. 6 weeks later I went back to work not appreciating how deep my “injury” was. 4 weeks after that I crashed again. Finally, I realised that recovery is more than just simply “take a break”. I cannot “race” back to work.... I am having therapy and am learning to take one day at a time and be patient. I cannot RUSH my recovery.
Ideas: 1) exercise maybe 4-5 days a week with resistance some but mostly aerobic 2) prioritize eating regular healthy meals for calorie needs 3) prioritize working with a therapist weekly 4) spoil yourself doing something fun 5) pursue your actual passions in free time or professionally 6) mix up your life routine from time to time or make it consistent if you're too mixed up 7) laugh. Find shit to laugh at. They should offer tickle services or absurdity services. I'm sure whatever is released here is antiburnout chemically. 8) find emotionally filling relationships, not draining ones. As someone who doesn't have the luxury of vacation time or sick days, these things keep me going.
I have designated Sundays as my lazy day. I do whatever I feel like doing... If I feel like doing nothing, I stay at home and read a good book or binge watch my favorite show. If I feel like going out, I go and have lunch at my favorite restaurant. It is whatever I feel like doing when I wake up! It definitely places me in a great mind set the rest of the week.
Same Mines just on Monday bc I work Thursday through Sunday and Tuesday Like today I’ve journaled I took a nap right now I’m having a little wine watching some TLC like it’s a day to just do whatever I need to do
I burnt out extremely bad several years ago and I have been slowly realizing that I never fully recovered and have been pushing through a consistent state of burnout since then. I am with s I, I feel like I need to take the next year or 2 off at a minimum. Small breaks dont work, week breaks dont work, I think I am just too far gone and need to stop for a long time.
Hi, pretty much the same here. After being burned out several years ago and then going through a myriad of changes including Divorce I feel my progress has slowed down. I am so much better now but nowhere even close to recovering. Everything and anything overwhelms me. Only thing that seems to help is taking breaks and lot of breaks every hour. Yes, I encourage you to take a longer break, an year or two. Focus on recovering. And keep sharing.
Right there with you on this. Worked for a company 11 years. Called into the office and was laid off due to restructuring of the department. Thereafter, got another job that paid more, 6 months in, yet again, called into the office and laid off. It’s a vicious cycle 🔁 and you start to lose your appetite to work. Rest therefore, is mandatory much like working out 🏋🏻♀️. If you keep overworking, you will get injured 🤕 and possibly have to take the year off.
I think this is pretty much where I’m at, but even if I wouldn’t have had issues in my private life daily that I’m not able to take a brake from, I’m also scared to take a break, I’m scared that I won’t ever be able to start working again or be able to function as a regular person again if I do let myself take that break, because when I’ve tried before to let my body decide what it is capable of, I have hardly been able to get out of bed some days and I feel horrible for it.. do any of you maybe have any input? I just don’t know what to do anymore and the psychiatric healthcare where I live is non existent except for prescribing an insane amount of medication to cure everything, and I’m sensitive to a lot of medications so I don’t want to take that risk and almost guaranteed feel worse for it. Please if anyone has any advice🙏 (kindly, I don’t need any mean comments telling me to just suck it up or anything, I’ve already given myself that talk for years and it hasn’t helped, it won’t help if others say it too, thank you.)
How I am keeping burn out at bay: Schedule time off every so often Plan vacation time Saying NO when needed Vacation destinations that are all inclusive so I get a break from the mundane every day tasks and have an opportunity to be bored and relaxed. Listen to relaxing music Making time for my hobby and ignoring the guilt.
Seriously! I don’t know what to do anymore! I need time off and need money what to do?! Then I worry I’ll snap from burnout and not work at all for too long!
i feel so lost & tired and sick. i wake up tired and i find myself struggling to even take care of myself. ive had major depressive disorder for most of my 21yrs and i really spiraled out when i was 16 & was hospitalized. nothing makes the fatigue truly go away>> even while i was on medicine. i have to live a ridiculous high maintenance life style (working out 6 days a week, taking care of my basic needs, eating extremely well, remaining sober, praying/meditating) just to feel somewhat near happy and tht within itself usually only sticks for a bout a month at a time before i spiral out again & double back the time i'll remain in a depressive episode. i feel like there's no win-win. i dont feel suicidal or sad anymore but i find myself wanting to kill myself more than ever now than before just to escape the awful cycle and feeling so exhausted and burnt out all the time. i feel like a caricature of who i knew myself to be, i feel stupid and literally have cognitively declined to the point i can hardly remember things or even faces. im so sick of living and feeling like this but i have no idea where to turn or how to actually help myself. im so low-functioning and codependent compared to the self-sufficient self i used to be as a teenager before i tried killing myself and crashing like i did at 16. i want to be normal it hurts me that i havent been able to escape all of this. im weak but im still trying to choose to live. ig im just venting or looking for some guidance/tips.
I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with that :( I struggled through the same and eventually my therapist convinced me it was time to just quit, because no one else would intervene (not even our department head or HR). It's not worth the suffering. Even the financial struggle following that was better than the emotional scars. Start looking for a new job now as you seek help changing it at work. That way you have the hope of it ending one way or another.
Such a helpful video Kati! As a recovering perfectionist, I am still in the early stages of ALLOWING myself to rest when I need it. When I do rest, it can be a huge struggle to quiet the voice in the back of my head that's always got a list of "more productive" things I "should" be doing. I appreciate the reminder that taking breaks is a necessary part of being a healthy human! I think a lot of Americans are so entrenched in a capitalistic mindset that we believe we are only worth as much as we can work or produce. It's really unhealthy.
I think it's also important to note that sometimes what we like as a hobby may not necessarily count as rest and self-care. For example, I may love sewing, knitting, crafting but that may also feel like a project. And if so, it's not self-care. The rest in the self-care must feel restful, more like play and do nothing, to reset. Thank you for your videos. I too work in the mental health profession and relate, and I like and appreciate what you do.
First. Time i dealt with burnout, i was, 17-18. Was working two jobs. Home stuff jot going well. I eventually took a few weeks off and just watched tv. Did nothing.
I’m several years late for this video but it’s still very relevant! I’ve been consistently burnt out for about 15 years now 🙃. No exaggeration. The only real breaks I have (outside of sleeping lol) are the moments I take to shower or eat and most times I’m planning things I need to do during those times too! This video was the sign I needed to take a week long staycation - no planning, no itinerary, just doing nothing.
I had a burnout syndrome 20 years ago and have changed my entire life since. I don’t take vacations anymore. Vacations never helped me and were always stressful… packing/unpacking bags, standing in lines, waiting for trains, boats, airplanes. I live my quiet life now, keeping my inner balance with sleep, walks, sometimes watching a movie.
I am so burnt out right now. 😭 I have been working the same job for almost four years now and I only make $9.45 an hour. My schedule also varies from week to week making it impossible to plan anything or take some time for myself. Plus my job is at a very busy retail store. So it is fast paced and stressful. I work 8 hour shifts with only 30 minute lunch breaks bc we are short staffed. And my main boss is always stressed out which leaks onto the rest of us. I have decided to look for a new job. I don't know if it will be better but I have to try. At this point I am very unhappy. 😢 I can't remember what it was like to wake up happy in the mornings and I feel I have nothing to look forward to anymore. I have to try and find my happiness again.
if I were you I would ask my self does it worth being under this much pressure for this amount of money? if it doesn't then you are in a right path choose a job that let you enjoy being alive ! you earn money so you can enjoy having it ! so if you know what is the best accept it and move forward there is nothing to be unhappy about you are still alive you can solve every single problem😉
yeah,that's the case for the real affected people. if you're experiencing mental illness, go to a good psychologist. these videos aint gonna help a bit
Better listen to the advices, or you will end up like me- a complete wreck, suicidal, have tremors and constant anxiety, now leaving my career before I snap and endanger myself. Get help while it is minor, do not wait for things to simmer.
@@prodnus Thank you for asking, I am on my way to recovery, takes a bit, but much better from the time I wrote that post. And my point sadly still stands, listen to those advices, people.
"Burnout is caused when the reward for what we do isn't commensurate with the amount of effort or work we have to put in." Dang - that hit hard today. Thank you, I needed some perspective! Will definitely be watching the rest of the series (and clocking in some me time to do so).
I was just watching an interview with Floor Jansen, singer for Nightwish, who was talking about her burnout and how she recovered. Thanks for teaching us more about it, Kati!
My problem is burnout from dealing with certain people, one toxic that I can't cut out entirely & one that just needs a little work to keep from going the toxic route. The nice thing is I'm getting a fair amount of mental health recovery while recovering from surgery. The physical recovery requires little walks which the weather has been great for. The mental recovery has been filled with no morning alarm clock, adult coloring books, sitting on our deck listening to nature &, with more physical healing, it will shortly include a little videogaming & playing with my makeup however I feel.
Thanks for such an amazing video! I'm currently struggling with my second burnout and this is the list of activities I came up with to recover. Still WIP but it may help somebody: 1. Meditate daily 2. Go for a walk in nature or listening to a motivational podcast if in the city 3. Do sports that you like: swimming, aerial silk, pole dance, cycling, etc 4. Listen to motivational podcasts 5. Do Yoga, stretching or meditation using essential oils with your favorite scent 6. Talk with your favorite people: your mom, friend, psychologist, etc 7. Do something creative: paint, drawing, singing, dancing, etc 8. Laugh. Either alone watching a movie or with friends 9. Instrospection. In writing or just thinking about it 10. Gratitude diary 11. Before going to bed, think about what was your favorite part of the day and why 12. Ask your self: why am I so stressed? Then keep repeating why 5 or 7 times. This helps to get perspective. 13. Do anything else that distracts your mind from your problems 14. Clean and order your house 15. Spoil yourself: time to go for your favorite icecream, restaurant, or just going shopping to find some nice clothes 16. Travel 17. Make a list of all your strenghts 18. Ask your inner circle what are your strengths and make a list of all the answers. Whenever you are feeling low or doubting yourself, read this list again 19. Free journaling 20. Make a list of the things that energize yourself, then another list of the things that take your energy. Do more of the good ones, less of the bad ones. 21. Listen to your favorite music. The one that calms you or energizes you. 22. Try to understand what is it in your current situation that is not aligned which your values. 23. Grab some small colorfull papers and write motivational phrases in them. Then hang them near your desk, on your fridge or wherever you will see them every day 24. Lay under the sun, don't forget the sun screen. 25. Smile, it makes your brain believe that you are happy. Fake it till you make it. I hope this helps! :D
I feel really burnt out from excessive work, may it be school, chores, etc. my parents don’t care about how I feel and it makes me tired and even the things I like to do are no longer fun to me I have litterally no motivation whatsoever
Creativity is what's helping me and also connecting to nature. Doing relaxing, hands on activities but in a slow paced way. Like painting, or taking care of my fish tank or some gardening.
Ask for a sick leave if you feel drained. No one can care about you if you don't. I know one answer : but I'm needed !!! No. You need to listen to yourself. This must be the option you choose. Otherwise it gets worse.
I only did 3 years of high school, and it was enough, 5 year of consistent high schoool is very very bad and toxic I went to private school. School si toxic
I work in healthcare in the UK and work in excess of 12 hours per shift. I try to take all my breaks and do two shifts at a time with two days off in between. I'm starting to cycle to and from work to incorporate fitness into my daily schedule.
@@bloodaid Yeah, that's what I said when I first started, but that is the standard shift for health care staff in the UK. You get use to it though, there is so much to do the time goes quickly.
We do 4x12 hr shifts (DDNN) with my commute I get about 5-6 hrs sleep max. It’s very busy, mental and physical. I don’t even know what I want or like anymore. Im lazy af on my days off. And then mad at myself for getting so little done. Ugh 😣
@@criticRN yeah I worked throughout the Pandemic and it's been so tiring. Long commutes can tire you out too. I find that keeping on top of my intake of multi- vitamins helps energy levels.
Burnout does NOT go away by itself! I'm 23 years old, currently in the burnout zone. Spent last 4 years on a startup, lost touch with all of my "friends" from school, have extra 10-15kg of weight. Maybe some of you will find useful what I'll write next, I will be brief and leave few tips I learned the hard way. 1) Love & Social life is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT Do NOT isolate yourself socially, whether its in the context of work or love. It doesn't work, simply put. I realized that nothing in life is fun if its not social at its core, even if it doesn't look that way. For example some guy goes into his garage and practices drums, nobody can hear him, but one day he is at the local concert, playing drums and he gets the reward of being recognized, higher social status in the eyes of the people he cares about. So, its social. Everything is, I don't have a fancy psych degree but it's so obvious at this point. Everything we do goes back to social one way or the other. So, Don't remove social aspect from anything you do. My rule from now on is, whatever I do, whether a hobby, work, projects anything, it has to be with at least 1 person and even additionally online groups etc.. Otherwise I don't want to do it, I know what it will lead to. 2) Take rest SERIOUSLY! It's okay to not work and not feel guilty about it. If I worked mon-fri, 12h/day and had weekends off (work only 2-3h/day) I would probably still be able to go hard. Just think about Germany, where people have over 1 month of vacation time and on Sunday almost the entire country is not working, yet they are still a 5 trillion dollar economy (actually on Legatum Institute's Prosperity Index Germany is in 8th place in the world, compared to US (18) & Canada (14), it goes to show that you can have a successful country/society without the burnout, 100h/week bulls**t culture. Well it makes sense, if someone consistently works 10h/day, Mon-Fri and someone else works 100h/week but they burnout and become exponentially unproductive and unfocused. I don't know if there have been any studies or data on this but I deeply believe that the hustle/work hard culture in North America is contributing to the opioid crisis you guys have there. This is my train of though: Work 100h/week, burnout, get fired (lack of productivity), substance abuse/coping mechanism. Please, take breaks! It's okay to "chill" a bit. 3) Say NO to the burnout culture & F-Elon (I guess tip 2, chapter II) I admire him, but F**K Elon Musk, 100h/week stuff, you don't need that, I think that kind of thinking lead me to this, wanting to become a millionaire super fast, to the point that I have totally reverted to old school. Focus on saving, invest in real estate, over time get into real estate development along the way live my life travel have a family, who says you need to become wealthy in 20s (in fact avg. millionaire is 50+, avg successful entrepreneur is 45, people (myself included) watch too many motivational YT videos displaying the extra ordinary and think its going to happen to them too, it could, but its about the odds) Guess what! Humans are a social animal! Turns out you can't pause life to build a startup quickly and exit with few million dollars in 3-5 years. I think there might be few types of burnout. For example, as Kati said its about pain and reward, there is not reward from the pain and effort invested, I think my burnout is related to not having deep relationships and friendship. Startups (and career in general) are/is hard so you better have a rewarding love life to compensate for all the effort (love life == romantic, friends, family even kids, but love/relationships). What I have noticed through this period is that my thoughts went from philosophical and ideas to fantasizing about social interactions, its really incredible how powerful your brain is, to the point that it forces you to think about things you crave, its really remarkable. So, in closing, I have put myself in a position where I have no friends at the age of 23 and I don't know how one makes friends as an adult. But that's my problem now, I hope the tips and advice above helps you pull a handbrake before you drive off the cliff friends. Disclaimer: These are my own views, I could be wrong on some things I have said, feel free to reply, I'm hyper open-minded.
I am lucky enough that I was able to negotiate a 4 day work week whittled down from 5, since I almost always go into overtime/have long days. The three day weekend really helps me reset before heading back into the grind and I noticed a sharp decline in my burnout as a result. Also my stay-cation over winter holidays is so fundamental for recharging before the new year.
When the reward is not equivalent to the work. Thank you I feel validated….and I think we’re not talking about delayed gratification here, but the sense that we’re living while we are progressing towards a goal. I need to balance my life better in this way. This was very helpful. Thank you very much for putting this together
Can’t thank you enough for this series - recovery has been such a long journey - wanting to be better but knowing it’s one day at a time. This helps so much
Honestly, I know I'm 3 years late. I've just found this particular video today from Kati's channel, and boy do I need it. I'm a student and I study 12 subjects + after school materials. It used to always be fun for me cause I actually enjoy learning and exploring new things/ideas (+ the parental expectations of being the good kid of course) . But I've just been really hard on myself these past 3 years. I haven't been treating myself right and I certainly haven't been very gracious everytime I did a mistake or two. It's always been family business this, family business that, study this, study that, work here, work there, an so on. I'm not lying when I said that I have been ambitious since I was like 12 (a bean), but It started rolling down these past few weeks. I've just finished this very important exam i've been studying and praying and stressing about for like a year or so, so as you can probably tell I am quite estatict. But I started losing this sense of caring about those little details I've always been caring about for years. Like at school/at home for example. I still (as usual) force myself to study and do work, but I couldn't help but to feel like I'm so done and tired. I've been sleeping and trying to entertain myself longer than I have ever done in a few years. Yet I couldn't find that exhaustion being done with me, if you get what I mean.
I suffered from a burnout during my job. I had a comfortable wage, living in the hotspot in a great city. But I was just not spiritually charged i guess. So, i decided to make a big decision to quit my job, sold my condo and went back to school to learn more in a completely new city in a different country. Best move ever.
I appreciate knowing it is ok to basically just need to (in my words) simply veg out and do nothing. WITHOUT GUILT! Thank you for all the breakdown and options. It’s simple and yet amazing!
I'm so burned out, I've shut down. Not working. Not functioning. It's like my mind and body just shut down? How do I come back? First step suggestions. This has been like 3 years. My life is falling apart.
I've been burnout three times in my life and the second one was my worst. Constant anxiety to the point of having panic attacks, no motivation, feeling hopeless. Took me months to recover. But during the last one I managed to notice it early. I realised I'm losing my motivation for work and that i'm losing my temper extremely quick and questioning my sanity. Pain all over my body and using food for comfort. Listen to your body and any time you're tired and feel like you're losing yourself, sit down and examine yourself.
@@HDPersonal777 thats what you have to figure out for yourself. Is your health more important to you or your work? In my case it isn't but im fortunate to live in a country where staying off of work wont ruin you
Just yesterday on my day off, I went for a long bike ride in the sunshine. Went to the park & Down town to the Mall. It was awesome! 😁❤️ It was worth it even though I had a flat tire the next day 😂. Other things I like to do are go out and watch a movie, or take long walks, and listen to music while I'm walking, eat out. Meditation is a daily thing for me. Sometimes I'll spend a long time drawing...I write poetry quite often. I'm lucky enough to have vacation time where I can take a week off every other month. When I do that, I mostly just veg out, sleep in... play video games. I'll take a trip to a local park even, or go to a local event. I used to never do these things, and it seemed like my life revolved around work too much, so I started really questioning what I wanted out of life.
This past week was my breaking point. Busy schedule, shortstaffed, negative coworkers, management that doesn't care. I'm glad I took 2 days and took a long weekend. Take time for yourself before you decide to quit your job.
reasons for me: I studied non stop this yr even did online schooling so i dont go to school to have time to study harder for my college entrance exams, i never took a break and dealt with a lot of family issues at the same time non stop, never left the house either but the grades never were perfect and im a perfectionist , i got crazier and crazier
😭😭 I’m soooo burnt out!!!! 😭😭 thank you for creating this video! Definitely reminded me of the importance of taking breaks... and not feeling bad about even taking breaks. I have not been doing self care so that’s definitely part of it. Meditate, breathing exercises, be outside in nature, exercise, massage. I have been going to therapy tho which is helpful for 1/7 days a week. But it’s up to ME to actually do something about the other 6 days. Which actually inspires me to create a video on the importance of self care the hours days you don’t have therapy.
I try to make sure I get some decent nature time each week. If I don't, I definitely notice my underlying stress increases. I also try to get some alone, quiet time each day. As a highly sensitive person, this helps me recharge my batteries to continue with this crazy thing we call life.
I see a lot of people joking about getting fired or they couldn't take a break every 45 minutes. I used to have the same reaction when a therapist told me this years ago. However, I eventually tried it back then and still use it now. The type of job you have will mean you may have to be creative with how you take a break. For example when i worked in retail i couldn't go anywhere every hour. Instead I would take 5 mins every hour to be mindful. How's my breathing, drink some water, stretch. I work in an office now I still try to do the same thing. But now it includes a walk around the building, chatting with a coworker, stepping outside for fresh air. 5 mins is all I allow myself until lunch. So all jokes aside try it for a day or two it will help.
She never said to take a 15 minute break she just said to take a break every 45 minutes. It could be just a few seconds to stretch good, go to the bathroom or get a drink. Not all of those long but still counts as a break from the task at hand
My fav things to do is take a "time out" about 10 minutes of it's something light that's causing me stress. If I get TOO stressed out, I'll stay in and watch good movies for a few days and eat "better for me" foods until I feel like I can get back out and be social again. I love you for saying "it all depends on what recharges you, and how much time you need"! You're so right! Every circumstance is different, sometimes a few minutes helps, sometimes a whole week is needed! Thank you Kati!
I've been so burnt out that I don't know how to recover. I'm so deeply exhausted that the day to day is a struggle to survive. And I unfortunately am in a situation where a vacation or break isn't an option for me rn. Mines not just work, but my home life and existence. Idk how to recharge when I legit am unable to take a break.
that sounds really uncomfortable! Something that might give you a little power back is recognizing that you can always take some kind of break. If you don't believe you can, that can contribute to you having a break down and your body forcing a break. Or maybe you go nuts and slap a customer or someone at home or something. Small health habits that can make a huge difference is walking more often. How's your exercise going?
Kati, you're incredible! Yes, taking breaks is so, so important. Thank you so much for sharing!! Your videos are always so helpful and have the greatest tips.
Hi Kati, I'm currently recovering from what I'd like to call a cognitive burnout or a stress related fatigue syndrome that happened almost 2 and a half years ago, and I'm finally getting back to a some of the capabilities I had before the "burnout"(without getting crippled by depression, anxiety or fatigue). Resulting from not having worked for almost 2 years, regular check ups with doctors, and a lot of C.B.T. (Cognitive behavioral therapy) and now finally being able to do some rehabilitative work training for 2h a day. But I find it a little hard to talk about in English. In Swedish we use the word "Utmattningssyndrom" which translates to fatigue syndrome, but as that is something else and this being more closely related to "burnout" (or a more severe version of it (or even occupational burnout as the symptoms seem to be similar) it's a little hard to discuss in English as you don't seem to have a clear diagnosis for this. It falls under F43.8A in the ICD-10 as "Other reactions to severe stress" and since I personally know a fair few who also have been diagnosed with the same, it makes it even stranger to me that we don't hear more Americans talk about it, where the discussion seem to stop at "burnout". So I would love to hear you talk about this form of "burnout" more, as you in the US aren't know for your pristine working conditions and I can't be the only one of your followers who suffers from this. Also, thanks for your great work.
Same here. I've been on sick leave for my utmattningssyndrom for 1.5 years now and I probably won't be able to get back anytime soon although I'm in a better state compared to last year. I'm glad to hear that you're getting better (I hope you're even better now 3 years later!) but yes I would also like to hear more about this kind of burnout. I believe it wasn't too long ago that WHO included it as a diagnosis but apparently it's solely work related if I'm not mistaken(?) I really don't know what to call it in English since many use the word "burnout" to describe more temporary symptoms as well, so I'm unsure if it's the same thing as our 'utmattningssyndrom'.
Sometimes it takes a step back. I know for me when I burn out I sleep a lot. I do make time for healthy meals and other activities that I enjoy. For self-care I love writing, washing my face each morning and night and drinking water.
I haven't really had any breaks since I was 6, the constant bans on the country, and the bans from the government on the people made our lives so much more difficult we havent been able to have any fun the past 8 years. I also struggle a lot with finding friends, so I dont have anyone to spend time with. I dont understand my hobbies properly anymore. I feel lost and burnt out. I want to do everything but I just feel like everything would end up being worse if I try it.
I told myself at the first of the year that i would take one day a week to not worry about the sales and survival. But haven't been able to do that yet. I have forgotten what a vacation is, fun or a social event is. Disability barely pays the rent. My working on videos is one way for me to unwind. Then i feel like i have completed something . Have not been able to work since Jan 2014. Am still looking for a counselor and three other doctors.
Knitting. Lots of knitting. I've knitted a scarf, a hat, a right glove and working on the left one. Finally have felt good enough to file my taxes. Still recovering. But now I get to be warm and cozy while recovering!
Have you ever done a video about how to stay positive or improve yourself when you live in a really crummy situation that you can't change right away? I am on meds, going to therapy, exploring new hobbies, and taking it as easy as possible, but the weight of the hard things seems like too much to balance. Would love to hear your thoughts on a situation like that.
I've been trying my hardest to catch up in schoolwork for the past 3 months and i have horrible burnout but I'm only halfway caught up so I can't even take a break because it'll only make me fall further behind which makes me feel horrible because I have such bad burnout that I don't feel like doing anything. :( I don't know how to get over this if there's no way to get over my burnout except giving up on the catch up. And I can't do that because my parents will be super angry. I hate this so much man
The key to recovering from burn out is not merely taking time out but finding a way to make the efforts worth the rewards in life. We must be grateful for life's favors and patient with life's trials. We must be flexible in our plans and resilient in our striving and strugglings. And antifragile in our goals.That is to say not just bounce back but improve.
Oh how I love yellow, your top is so pretty and it looks great on you, and I would absolutley wear it in a second! 😍 It fits your sunny and warm personality perfectly!
I take a bath with a spa pillow I ordered from Amazon. Sleep all day, drink gatorade, emergency C powder with water, lots of water in general, take my vitamins, stay off my phone, and try to just pause my mind from thinking so much. Even if it means I have to put on meditational music.
Pomodoro helps me take a break every 25mins and stay focused on work. I highly recommend the pomodoro technique to anyone feeling overwhelmed with whatever you are working on.
Oo! That was good! I have been working nonstop for about 8 months on an intense work project. I stopped meeting up with friends and turned down going to events. I thought I would be done by now and be able to slow down a bit, but other work related tasks cut into my schedule so I’m behind on finalizing everything. Sadly, I started to notice symptoms of burnout the last few weeks. So it looks like I have no choice but to slow down and take breaks. The reward doesn’t equal the effort yet, so I’m just going to have to chill out. Thanks for this video. ❤
Could you address burnout in stay at home parents? Can't exactly take a break from that every 45 minutes 😂 or a long vacation from it. Or working parents who come home/are home for the weekend and don't get a break because then they're caring for their kids.
Right? I love these tips, but how in the world am I supposed to implement them as a parent while young kids? Vacations are never relaxing b/c it's just baby sitting most of the time anyway.
Janai take a look at 2 videos on parenting burnout by "The Parenting Junkie channel", I found them very well done and b-roll helps to process information better. I am a psychotherapist and counsellor and have no kids however was looking for videos for my friend who 3 little cute kids yet she often feels burnt out (even if has a ton of energy and self-motivation by birth). Of course the situation can depend on some other factors like who earns a living, your own significant other and your parents and other factors. What helps you to refill your inner accumulator so to speal. People have different circumstances and needs. I'd add to those videos also - negotiate with your partner and whoever is helping you with kids to free some more time for restoring your energy and to find emotional balance and peace. Every day, every week, even if a little bit more. In my opinion every parent should have at least half a day off any family duties once a week. I know in reality it might seem impossible yet with time you might find a way to do it.
Not really a break for a few years on having kids!! When they are 6 or 7 it improves usually! Then they get worse at 10 and 11 again too but more independent too! Date night once a week with husband good too!
This question is for my friend I couldn’t help. She’s being treated miserably at home. She has a messed up mother, and has 2 siblings. She has a dad and a step dad. Her dads always go to jail for either drinking or doing crimes. Her mother treats her bad except the younger ones. She gets hit and she says that her mother says: “it’s not abuse if it doesn’t leave a mark.” How can you and I prove them wrong?
Unfortunately, you can't help someone who isn't willing to accept help. The best thing you can do right now is to be a supportive friend and be there when she does as for help. Also check out Kati's video on how to deal with toxic parents. ruclips.net/video/HfU3vliw_08/видео.html
for me; burn out for taking care of my family ill sister (multiple sclerosis, final state 38 years old), Bipolar type 1 father with personality disorder, neurotic obsessive mother, hard drug addict brother... well and myself bipolar type 2, social anxiety "Erythrophobia" (paroxetine help me with Erythrophobia; excessive blushing)... For me works work out (punch and kick a heavy bag, push ups, Calisthenics - PULL UPS ), play videogames and a beer'
I was told by a psychiatrist who co-wrote a book on burnout that the only ways to recover from burnout are to practise meditation, & mindfulness daily; & get CBT for the personality trait of perfectionism & people pleasing.
"Burnout is caused when the reward for what we do isn't with the amount of effort or work we have to put it." - Kati Morton. Thank you for this eye opening sentence!
Adhd life
*commensurate
Burnout is caused when the reward for what we do never comes regardless of the work.
@@EliAlexanderClark happening to me rn
yep, happens a lot when you are getting underpaid
I've been burnt out for so long that I feel like I want a break for the rest of my life tbh
Edit 3 years later: found out at 32 I have adhd and this comment that still gets attention all this time later (so it keeps popping up for me) makes a lot more sense.
Same 😪😔
Me too :(
Same
Preaching to the choir
Me too
Reasons for me:
- Fulltime work and only 2 days free
- The biggest part of my paycheck goes into surviving and being able to show up at work
- No money for the hobby I want
- Not fitting in at work
- Lots of family problems
- No appreciation at work, money as the only reward doesn't help me
- 'Pretending' at work, emotional labor
- Lack of perspective for the future in these times we're living in
explore more. find your true passion and know that it wont come overnight. humans are not robots but when theres a goal attached to work towards theres a purpose in living. go out there and explore theres nothing to lose.
Same here
This is average life
Wow I can see a lot of this for me too
Figure out another job you want to do, then or before, quit that job your at.
Sit down. Figure out where do you want to be in 5 or 10 years. Set minimum 3 goals. Yes, write them out one sentence a piece.
Heal yourself as an individual, then work on healing your family dynamics. As you heal your personal relationships, your work relationship will improve as a by product.
When you're too poor for hobbies, develop skills. Coding, languages, selling, communication, etc find skill you want to learn.
Lastly, seek out new perspective. Look for inspiration, motivation and beauty.
School really burnt me out this year.
Same
i can relate, college burns me out a lot. Manipulative professors especially.
Exactly...
Well you got this whole year to recover mate
me too. 7 lessons a day with homework for each lesson due the next day is so draining. my school's version of a break is 5 minutes between every lesson but teachers overrun.
All the crap in 2020 has just broken my emotions I just... feel dry of everything
I thought this was only me especially quarantine
I feel the same way. I work in a hospital so its all pandemic all the time. There is no break since where I live everything is shut down, with nothing to do and nowhere to go. Except work. A year ago I tried to have hope by thinking about what I'll do when all of this is over but I don't even have energy for that anymore. Its just a matter of getting through each day now.
same here too...college just burnt me out...before the pandemic happen, all of my works were done in a jiffy. Nowadays, works are doubling and starting to pile up because we attend online classes.... lacks motivation to keep going as well....
Mee too
Definitely had an effect on me too
Wow I just realized I really don't get any breaks. I'm always multi tasking. Even when I eat meals. My brain is thinking of what's next. Really makes sense.. Sometimes we have to hear how important a little thing is really a big thing we need to appreciate. Thank you once again
i hope u get better:)
That's why I don't think that I can handle having kids; and as an autistic person, I often wonder if I can even handle a relationship with all of the emotional stressors that come with it.
It’s a terrible feeling
As a student, summer is incredibly important and is a great time to heal from burn out. Personally, swimming, painting, and sleeping helps alot. Taking a break is definitely important after an entire semester of sleep deprivation lol
It has been 4 months since high school ended and not only I needed around 2 months to sleep better but even now I have headaches and feel very tired. I had a very serious burn out this year
I completely agree... I'm in the last year of my master's degree (France's master degrees are in 2 years) and I haven't been able to take the summer off last years because I was late on my memoir. It's also the case this summer. I haven't stopped working for long periods of time since summer 2020. I feel like I'm drowning right now, especially since burn out making me unable to finish the work I need to accomplish to graduate makes me even more anxious. It's a vicious cercle. Vacations are so important...
Not me doing a 2 month internship during the summer and burning out before the semester even starts 😭
Make pains to end up in a job that you can actually take long vacations… Sadly, the majority of us are not in that predicament. In fact, I would say, the hardest part is trying to find that time for yourself outside of school-time years, jobs don't typically just close down for 2 1/2 months in the prime time of the year, for example.
Yeah well in the real world you don't get summers bud so better buck u0
I’ve found that sometimes it’s not that I’m burnt out but it’s that I need the right activities and human connection to engage me. One conversation with someone can take me from feeling like dying and just going to bed to then wanting to run and jump around like a child. Moving through burnout took a lot of clearing of emotions like despair and apathy.
So relatable
Just like me😔
Couldn't hav said it better my self....it's like we us humans aren't supposed to be doin what we're not meant to be doin...everyone has their special certain call or am I trippin nd jus sound absolutely dumb as fuk...if I do let me know and I'll accept
I think this kind of goes hand-in-hand with what she said about 'finding the right vacation for you'. Environment can play a huge role, I cant relax with other peoples clutter strewn about, but *my* clutter doesnt bother me, for example. Or to play off of your example, when I am socially burnt out, or emotionally, you can stick my best friend Dave in front of me, and I was still happily talk to him for hours, probably to the point where he'll finally tell me to shut up. lol.
Yepp, we need the right dose of human connection, social engagement, outdoor time to recharge. Thing is no matter how much I focus on these, things improve but I am not even close to recovering. And it’s been several years for me. The fight goes on.
Take a break every 45 minutes? I wish, my boss would fire me.
Joy Rose You should show this video to your boss 😂. Maybe your boss needs 45 minute breaks too!
GENOMCHAOS those breaks would just get tallied up and added to the end of the day.
Maybe you could just do a very tiny break, like a 1-2 min breathing exercise or stretching your neck?
Employee: Hey, boss can I take a 45 minute break?
Boss: No!
Boss then goes off to take a 45 minute break.
@@GENOMCHAOS
Step 1: Get a note from your shrink that suggests you're only performing at 40% when you're burnt out and his micromanagement is making him and the company partially liable for it.
Step 2: Give the note to HR 3 months before performance reviews (just to make sure he gets put on a PIP).
Step 3: Join the Pilates class his wife teaches and convince her to come to your place for some iceream.
Step 4: After screwing his wife enjoy wearing his skin as a blanket and that warm feeling.
NOW YOU'VE BECOME YOUR OWN BOSS
Perfect break: Turn off phone. Go into the forest, meditate a bit, enjoy the fresh air and nature, listen to a bit of music, take a nice bath, go to bed early.
To me, you know, yes breaks are an important part of burn out recovery, but I wouldn't overestimate the (long term) impact, because what made you not care for yourself in the first place? What makes you feel like you are not validated in ypur relationships or at work? Becaue your partner and colleagues are arseholes or maybe because you were abused as a child and neglected and told yourself you weren't worthy and nobody liked you because you were bad in order to survive? Or what sucks your energy really? Is it that your work consumes so much energy or that maybe you have some trauma that holds your life energy back. And you know, what I consider really important is this: Don't expect different outcomes if you put in the same things over and over again. So even if you have taken a break, I'm sorry but it's not gonna be enough, you are going to find yourself struggling again if you don't go to the roots of the problems and make a bigger change. (But at first taking a break is also important.)
Thanke
Thank you this is so true, I recognized this so much. I have a social trauma and I've been depressed for 4 years (I'm 16). When I burnt out halph a year ago, I knew I could only recover if I worked on my trauma and if my self esteem went up. Taking a break isnt enough. You need to take a revolution. I'm doing slowly but gradually better now and I can go outside longboarding and I started writing a tiny bit and I play guitar and I can meet with good friends, even outside. I'm going to work in 2 weeks to work 1 hour to try and I'm looking forward to it!
Soooo fucking true.
Thank you so much for this comment it really helps me
Very true indeed Marion, thanks for sharing!
My issue is feeling guilty about taking time off, so the break does not actually feel like a break but like a failure.
Relating to this lol
Me too!
Amen
I began suffering burnout 8 months ago but carried on working under extreme pressure.
I was suffering physically (high blood pressure, etc) as well as mentally (exhaustion, etc).
I used ALL the techniques Kati described.
It kept me at work, but the extreme pressure had not been addressed by my bosses.
Eventually, the flood gates burst 3 months ago and I was broken.
6 weeks later I went back to work not appreciating how deep my “injury” was.
4 weeks after that I crashed again.
Finally, I realised that recovery is more than just simply “take a break”.
I cannot “race” back to work.... I am having therapy and am learning to take one day at a time and be patient.
I cannot RUSH my recovery.
How u doing now bro 2yrs Later
I would like to know toooo
Ideas:
1) exercise maybe 4-5 days a week with resistance some but mostly aerobic
2) prioritize eating regular healthy meals for calorie needs
3) prioritize working with a therapist weekly
4) spoil yourself doing something fun
5) pursue your actual passions in free time or professionally
6) mix up your life routine from time to time or make it consistent if you're too mixed up
7) laugh. Find shit to laugh at. They should offer tickle services or absurdity services. I'm sure whatever is released here is antiburnout chemically.
8) find emotionally filling relationships, not draining ones.
As someone who doesn't have the luxury of vacation time or sick days, these things keep me going.
I'm like this list very much🙂
❤ find shit you left that is key
I have designated Sundays as my lazy day. I do whatever I feel like doing... If I feel like doing nothing, I stay at home and read a good book or binge watch my favorite show. If I feel like going out, I go and have lunch at my favorite restaurant. It is whatever I feel like doing when I wake up! It definitely places me in a great mind set the rest of the week.
Same Mines just on Monday bc I work Thursday through Sunday and Tuesday Like today I’ve journaled I took a nap right now I’m having a little wine watching some TLC like it’s a day to just do whatever I need to do
How do you have time to do that and clean your house?
I burnt out extremely bad several years ago and I have been slowly realizing that I never fully recovered and have been pushing through a consistent state of burnout since then. I am with s I, I feel like I need to take the next year or 2 off at a minimum. Small breaks dont work, week breaks dont work, I think I am just too far gone and need to stop for a long time.
Same here. I thought I was recovered but I wasn't and I am far gone. I am going on a private vacation alone to try to recover more.
Hi, pretty much the same here. After being burned out several years ago and then going through a myriad of changes including Divorce I feel my progress has slowed down. I am so much better now but nowhere even close to recovering. Everything and anything overwhelms me. Only thing that seems to help is taking breaks and lot of breaks every hour.
Yes, I encourage you to take a longer break, an year or two. Focus on recovering. And keep sharing.
Right there with you on this. Worked for a company 11 years. Called into the office and was laid off due to restructuring of the department. Thereafter, got another job that paid more, 6 months in, yet again, called into the office and laid off. It’s a vicious cycle 🔁 and you start to lose your appetite to work. Rest therefore, is mandatory much like working out 🏋🏻♀️. If you keep overworking, you will get injured 🤕 and possibly have to take the year off.
Correct. I took 2 1/2 years off, and only then felt able to go back to work.
I think this is pretty much where I’m at, but even if I wouldn’t have had issues in my private life daily that I’m not able to take a brake from, I’m also scared to take a break, I’m scared that I won’t ever be able to start working again or be able to function as a regular person again if I do let myself take that break, because when I’ve tried before to let my body decide what it is capable of, I have hardly been able to get out of bed some days and I feel horrible for it.. do any of you maybe have any input? I just don’t know what to do anymore and the psychiatric healthcare where I live is non existent except for prescribing an insane amount of medication to cure everything, and I’m sensitive to a lot of medications so I don’t want to take that risk and almost guaranteed feel worse for it. Please if anyone has any advice🙏 (kindly, I don’t need any mean comments telling me to just suck it up or anything, I’ve already given myself that talk for years and it hasn’t helped, it won’t help if others say it too, thank you.)
Thank you kati💕 Recovery is a process not perfection
How I am keeping burn out at bay:
Schedule time off every so often
Plan vacation time
Saying NO when needed
Vacation destinations that are all inclusive so I get a break from the mundane every day tasks and have an opportunity to be bored and relaxed.
Listen to relaxing music
Making time for my hobby and ignoring the guilt.
I'm too poor to afford vacation and too poor to miss work. It's a privilege to be able to just recover from burnout
Seriously! I don’t know what to do anymore! I need time off and need money what to do?! Then I worry I’ll snap from burnout and not work at all for too long!
i feel so lost & tired and sick. i wake up tired and i find myself struggling to even take care of myself. ive had major depressive disorder for most of my 21yrs and i really spiraled out when i was 16 & was hospitalized. nothing makes the fatigue truly go away>> even while i was on medicine. i have to live a ridiculous high maintenance life style (working out 6 days a week, taking care of my basic needs, eating extremely well, remaining sober, praying/meditating) just to feel somewhat near happy and tht within itself usually only sticks for a bout a month at a time before i spiral out again & double back the time i'll remain in a depressive episode. i feel like there's no win-win. i dont feel suicidal or sad anymore but i find myself wanting to kill myself more than ever now than before just to escape the awful cycle and feeling so exhausted and burnt out all the time. i feel like a caricature of who i knew myself to be, i feel stupid and literally have cognitively declined to the point i can hardly remember things or even faces. im so sick of living and feeling like this but i have no idea where to turn or how to actually help myself. im so low-functioning and codependent compared to the
self-sufficient self i used to be as a teenager before i tried killing myself and crashing like i did at 16. i want to be normal it hurts me that i havent been able to escape all of this. im weak but im still trying to choose to live. ig im just venting or looking for some guidance/tips.
I wonder if your meds need adjusting? You need to speak with your doctor about this brutal cycle … it sounds exhausting
It’s important that you tell someone how you feel - a family member or a friend or professional.
can you tell me how to recover because I am in the same situation
Hi Kati, can you do a video on bullying in the workplace (specifically if it’s your manager that’s bullying you)
Sad, find a new job!
Content Corrector what if it is professors at University.
Debpenguin record your interactions and document everything
Quit ASAP
I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with that :( I struggled through the same and eventually my therapist convinced me it was time to just quit, because no one else would intervene (not even our department head or HR). It's not worth the suffering. Even the financial struggle following that was better than the emotional scars. Start looking for a new job now as you seek help changing it at work. That way you have the hope of it ending one way or another.
Such a helpful video Kati! As a recovering perfectionist, I am still in the early stages of ALLOWING myself to rest when I need it. When I do rest, it can be a huge struggle to quiet the voice in the back of my head that's always got a list of "more productive" things I "should" be doing. I appreciate the reminder that taking breaks is a necessary part of being a healthy human! I think a lot of Americans are so entrenched in a capitalistic mindset that we believe we are only worth as much as we can work or produce. It's really unhealthy.
I think it's also important to note that sometimes what we like as a hobby may not necessarily count as rest and self-care. For example, I may love sewing, knitting, crafting but that may also feel like a project. And if so, it's not self-care. The rest in the self-care must feel restful, more like play and do nothing, to reset.
Thank you for your videos. I too work in the mental health profession and relate, and I like and appreciate what you do.
First. Time i dealt with burnout, i was, 17-18. Was working two jobs. Home stuff jot going well. I eventually took a few weeks off and just watched tv. Did nothing.
I’m several years late for this video but it’s still very relevant! I’ve been consistently burnt out for about 15 years now 🙃. No exaggeration. The only real breaks I have (outside of sleeping lol) are the moments I take to shower or eat and most times I’m planning things I need to do during those times too! This video was the sign I needed to take a week long staycation - no planning, no itinerary, just doing nothing.
I had a burnout syndrome 20 years ago and have changed my entire life since. I don’t take vacations anymore. Vacations never helped me and were always stressful… packing/unpacking bags, standing in lines, waiting for trains, boats, airplanes. I live my quiet life now, keeping my inner balance with sleep, walks, sometimes watching a movie.
I am so burnt out right now. 😭 I have been working the same job for almost four years now and I only make $9.45 an hour. My schedule also varies from week to week making it impossible to plan anything or take some time for myself. Plus my job is at a very busy retail store. So it is fast paced and stressful. I work 8 hour shifts with only 30 minute lunch breaks bc we are short staffed. And my main boss is always stressed out which leaks onto the rest of us. I have decided to look for a new job. I don't know if it will be better but I have to try. At this point I am very unhappy. 😢 I can't remember what it was like to wake up happy in the mornings and I feel I have nothing to look forward to anymore. I have to try and find my happiness again.
if I were you I would ask my self does it worth being under this much pressure for this amount of money? if it doesn't then you are in a right path choose a job that let you enjoy being alive ! you earn money so you can enjoy having it ! so if you know what is the best accept it and move forward there is nothing to be unhappy about you are still alive you can solve every single problem😉
This sounds like a terrible position to be in I hope you are in a better place now. That job sounds awful
Better to be a wife I think!! Making women pay taxes so evil like Nick Rockefeller said to producer aaron russo!
❤
Sad thing is I don't even know what recharges me or gives me joy.
yeah,that's the case for the real affected people. if you're experiencing mental illness, go to a good psychologist. these videos aint gonna help a bit
That’s where I am 😬.. I used to know what I liked and wanted… now I’m just like “meh… who cares?”
SAME
Better listen to the advices, or you will end up like me- a complete wreck, suicidal, have tremors and constant anxiety, now leaving my career before I snap and endanger myself. Get help while it is minor, do not wait for things to simmer.
Are you better now? Hope all is well
@@prodnus Thank you for asking, I am on my way to recovery, takes a bit, but much better from the time I wrote that post. And my point sadly still stands, listen to those advices, people.
"Burnout is caused when the reward for what we do isn't commensurate with the amount of effort or work we have to put in." Dang - that hit hard today. Thank you, I needed some perspective! Will definitely be watching the rest of the series (and clocking in some me time to do so).
I was just watching an interview with Floor Jansen, singer for Nightwish, who was talking about her burnout and how she recovered.
Thanks for teaching us more about it, Kati!
Shocked to hear that Floor had to deal with it! Tks for the info, I'll look up this interview
My problem is burnout from dealing with certain people, one toxic that I can't cut out entirely & one that just needs a little work to keep from going the toxic route. The nice thing is I'm getting a fair amount of mental health recovery while recovering from surgery. The physical recovery requires little walks which the weather has been great for. The mental recovery has been filled with no morning alarm clock, adult coloring books, sitting on our deck listening to nature &, with more physical healing, it will shortly include a little videogaming & playing with my makeup however I feel.
Taking the next couple decades off, planning on becoming homeless and dying on the streets, honestly pretty excited about the idea.
I'm actually watching this on my way to therapy!
One of the reasons: Burnout...
Love your Videos Kati!! ❤
Thanks for such an amazing video! I'm currently struggling with my second burnout and this is the list of activities I came up with to recover. Still WIP but it may help somebody:
1. Meditate daily
2. Go for a walk in nature or listening to a motivational podcast if in the city
3. Do sports that you like: swimming, aerial silk, pole dance, cycling, etc
4. Listen to motivational podcasts
5. Do Yoga, stretching or meditation using essential oils with your favorite scent
6. Talk with your favorite people: your mom, friend, psychologist, etc
7. Do something creative: paint, drawing, singing, dancing, etc
8. Laugh. Either alone watching a movie or with friends
9. Instrospection. In writing or just thinking about it
10. Gratitude diary
11. Before going to bed, think about what was your favorite part of the day and why
12. Ask your self: why am I so stressed? Then keep repeating why 5 or 7 times. This helps to get perspective.
13. Do anything else that distracts your mind from your problems
14. Clean and order your house
15. Spoil yourself: time to go for your favorite icecream, restaurant, or just going shopping to find some nice clothes
16. Travel
17. Make a list of all your strenghts
18. Ask your inner circle what are your strengths and make a list of all the answers. Whenever you are feeling low or doubting yourself, read this list again
19. Free journaling
20. Make a list of the things that energize yourself, then another list of the things that take your energy. Do more of the good ones, less of the bad ones.
21. Listen to your favorite music. The one that calms you or energizes you.
22. Try to understand what is it in your current situation that is not aligned which your values.
23. Grab some small colorfull papers and write motivational phrases in them. Then hang them near your desk, on your fridge or wherever you will see them every day
24. Lay under the sun, don't forget the sun screen.
25. Smile, it makes your brain believe that you are happy. Fake it till you make it.
I hope this helps! :D
I feel really burnt out from excessive work, may it be school, chores, etc. my parents don’t care about how I feel and it makes me tired and even the things I like to do are no longer fun to me I have litterally no motivation whatsoever
Creativity is what's helping me and also connecting to nature. Doing relaxing, hands on activities but in a slow paced way. Like painting, or taking care of my fish tank or some gardening.
I wish I could take a vacation from school but even my weekends are school. School, school, school
Same. It’s draining
Ask for a sick leave if you feel drained. No one can care about you if you don't. I know one answer : but I'm needed !!! No. You need to listen to yourself. This must be the option you choose. Otherwise it gets worse.
Yeah same I have no breaks and I feel exhausted and don’t have any motivation anymore
me too !!!!! i havent had a day oof in who knows how long
I only did 3 years of high school, and it was enough, 5 year of consistent high schoool is very very bad and toxic I went to private school. School si toxic
I work in healthcare in the UK and work in excess of 12 hours per shift. I try to take all my breaks and do two shifts at a time with two days off in between. I'm starting to cycle to and from work to incorporate fitness into my daily schedule.
Wow. I can’t believe what I’m reading. 12 hours a day is absolutely crazy.
@@bloodaid Yeah, that's what I said when I first started, but that is the standard shift for health care staff in the UK. You get use to it though, there is so much to do the time goes quickly.
We do 4x12 hr shifts (DDNN) with my commute I get about 5-6 hrs sleep max. It’s very busy, mental and physical. I don’t even know what I want or like anymore. Im lazy af on my days off. And then mad at myself for getting so little done. Ugh 😣
@@criticRN yeah I worked throughout the Pandemic and it's been so tiring. Long commutes can tire you out too. I find that keeping on top of my intake of multi- vitamins helps energy levels.
Burnout does NOT go away by itself!
I'm 23 years old, currently in the burnout zone. Spent last 4 years on a startup, lost touch with all of my "friends" from school, have extra 10-15kg of weight.
Maybe some of you will find useful what I'll write next, I will be brief and leave few tips I learned the hard way.
1) Love & Social life is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT
Do NOT isolate yourself socially, whether its in the context of work or love. It doesn't work, simply put. I realized that nothing in life is fun if its not social at its core, even if it doesn't look that way. For example some guy goes into his garage and practices drums, nobody can hear him, but one day he is at the local concert, playing drums and he gets the reward of being recognized, higher social status in the eyes of the people he cares about. So, its social. Everything is, I don't have a fancy psych degree but it's so obvious at this point. Everything we do goes back to social one way or the other. So, Don't remove social aspect from anything you do. My rule from now on is, whatever I do, whether a hobby, work, projects anything, it has to be with at least 1 person and even additionally online groups etc.. Otherwise I don't want to do it, I know what it will lead to.
2) Take rest SERIOUSLY!
It's okay to not work and not feel guilty about it. If I worked mon-fri, 12h/day and had weekends off (work only 2-3h/day) I would probably still be able to go hard. Just think about Germany, where people have over 1 month of vacation time and on Sunday almost the entire country is not working, yet they are still a 5 trillion dollar economy (actually on Legatum Institute's Prosperity Index Germany is in 8th place in the world, compared to US (18) & Canada (14), it goes to show that you can have a successful country/society without the burnout, 100h/week bulls**t culture. Well it makes sense, if someone consistently works 10h/day, Mon-Fri and someone else works 100h/week but they burnout and become exponentially unproductive and unfocused. I don't know if there have been any studies or data on this but I deeply believe that the hustle/work hard culture in North America is contributing to the opioid crisis you guys have there. This is my train of though: Work 100h/week, burnout, get fired (lack of productivity), substance abuse/coping mechanism. Please, take breaks! It's okay to "chill" a bit.
3) Say NO to the burnout culture & F-Elon (I guess tip 2, chapter II)
I admire him, but F**K Elon Musk, 100h/week stuff, you don't need that, I think that kind of thinking lead me to this, wanting to become a millionaire super fast, to the point that I have totally reverted to old school. Focus on saving, invest in real estate, over time get into real estate development along the way live my life travel have a family, who says you need to become wealthy in 20s (in fact avg. millionaire is 50+, avg successful entrepreneur is 45, people (myself included) watch too many motivational YT videos displaying the extra ordinary and think its going to happen to them too, it could, but its about the odds)
Guess what! Humans are a social animal! Turns out you can't pause life to build a startup quickly and exit with few million dollars in 3-5 years.
I think there might be few types of burnout. For example, as Kati said its about pain and reward, there is not reward from the pain and effort invested, I think my burnout is related to not having deep relationships and friendship. Startups (and career in general) are/is hard so you better have a rewarding love life to compensate for all the effort (love life == romantic, friends, family even kids, but love/relationships). What I have noticed through this period is that my thoughts went from philosophical and ideas to fantasizing about social interactions, its really incredible how powerful your brain is, to the point that it forces you to think about things you crave, its really remarkable.
So, in closing, I have put myself in a position where I have no friends at the age of 23 and I don't know how one makes friends as an adult. But that's my problem now, I hope the tips and advice above helps you pull a handbrake before you drive off the cliff friends.
Disclaimer: These are my own views, I could be wrong on some things I have said, feel free to reply, I'm hyper open-minded.
I am lucky enough that I was able to negotiate a 4 day work week whittled down from 5, since I almost always go into overtime/have long days. The three day weekend really helps me reset before heading back into the grind and I noticed a sharp decline in my burnout as a result. Also my stay-cation over winter holidays is so fundamental for recharging before the new year.
How did you do this? I've been trying for year's to find a way to work 4 days a week.
When the reward is not equivalent to the work. Thank you I feel validated….and I think we’re not talking about delayed gratification here, but the sense that we’re living while we are progressing towards a goal. I need to balance my life better in this way. This was very helpful. Thank you very much for putting this together
Can’t thank you enough for this series - recovery has been such a long journey - wanting to be better but knowing it’s one day at a time. This helps so much
Honestly, I know I'm 3 years late. I've just found this particular video today from Kati's channel, and boy do I need it. I'm a student and I study 12 subjects + after school materials. It used to always be fun for me cause I actually enjoy learning and exploring new things/ideas (+ the parental expectations of being the good kid of course) . But I've just been really hard on myself these past 3 years. I haven't been treating myself right and I certainly haven't been very gracious everytime I did a mistake or two. It's always been family business this, family business that, study this, study that, work here, work there, an so on. I'm not lying when I said that I have been ambitious since I was like 12 (a bean), but It started rolling down these past few weeks. I've just finished this very important exam i've been studying and praying and stressing about for like a year or so, so as you can probably tell I am quite estatict. But I started losing this sense of caring about those little details I've always been caring about for years. Like at school/at home for example. I still (as usual) force myself to study and do work, but I couldn't help but to feel like I'm so done and tired. I've been sleeping and trying to entertain myself longer than I have ever done in a few years. Yet I couldn't find that exhaustion being done with me, if you get what I mean.
I suffered from a burnout during my job. I had a comfortable wage, living in the hotspot in a great city. But I was just not spiritually charged i guess. So, i decided to make a big decision to quit my job, sold my condo and went back to school to learn more in a completely new city in a different country. Best move ever.
Hi Kati. Thank you for hard work and dedication to your community. This series on Burnout has been tremendous! Happy Monday to you!
I appreciate knowing it is ok to basically just need to (in my words) simply veg out and do nothing. WITHOUT GUILT! Thank you for all the breakdown and options. It’s simple and yet amazing!
Thank you for another great video. Have been waiting for this particular video since the beginning of the series! Go Kati!!!!
I'm so burned out, I've shut down. Not working. Not functioning. It's like my mind and body just shut down? How do I come back? First step suggestions. This has been like 3 years. My life is falling apart.
I've been burnout three times in my life and the second one was my worst. Constant anxiety to the point of having panic attacks, no motivation, feeling hopeless. Took me months to recover. But during the last one I managed to notice it early. I realised I'm losing my motivation for work and that i'm losing my temper extremely quick and questioning my sanity. Pain all over my body and using food for comfort.
Listen to your body and any time you're tired and feel like you're losing yourself, sit down and examine yourself.
thanks for sharing this!
Thanks but then what? One week off? 2? How? Then back to the grind worse because you’re behind?
@@HDPersonal777 thats what you have to figure out for yourself. Is your health more important to you or your work? In my case it isn't but im fortunate to live in a country where staying off of work wont ruin you
I totally agree with this, we all need a break 💕
Just yesterday on my day off, I went for a long bike ride in the sunshine. Went to the park & Down town to the Mall. It was awesome! 😁❤️ It was worth it even though I had a flat tire the next day 😂. Other things I like to do are go out and watch a movie, or take long walks, and listen to music while I'm walking, eat out. Meditation is a daily thing for me. Sometimes I'll spend a long time drawing...I write poetry quite often. I'm lucky enough to have vacation time where I can take a week off every other month. When I do that, I mostly just veg out, sleep in... play video games. I'll take a trip to a local park even, or go to a local event. I used to never do these things, and it seemed like my life revolved around work too much, so I started really questioning what I wanted out of life.
Idk why, but you could be the protagonist in a Netflix original
Lili reinhart 😂
This past week was my breaking point. Busy schedule, shortstaffed, negative coworkers, management that doesn't care. I'm glad I took 2 days and took a long weekend. Take time for yourself before you decide to quit your job.
reasons for me:
I studied non stop this yr even did online schooling so i dont go to school to have time to study harder for my college entrance exams, i never took a break and dealt with a lot of family issues at the same time non stop, never left the house either but the grades never were perfect and im a perfectionist , i got crazier and crazier
😭😭 I’m soooo burnt out!!!! 😭😭 thank you for creating this video! Definitely reminded me of the importance of taking breaks... and not feeling bad about even taking breaks. I have not been doing self care so that’s definitely part of it.
Meditate, breathing exercises, be outside in nature, exercise, massage.
I have been going to therapy tho which is helpful for 1/7 days a week. But it’s up to ME to actually do something about the other 6 days. Which actually inspires me to create a video on the importance of self care the hours days you don’t have therapy.
I try to make sure I get some decent nature time each week. If I don't, I definitely notice my underlying stress increases.
I also try to get some alone, quiet time each day. As a highly sensitive person, this helps me recharge my batteries to continue with this crazy thing we call life.
I see a lot of people joking about getting fired or they couldn't take a break every 45 minutes. I used to have the same reaction when a therapist told me this years ago. However, I eventually tried it back then and still use it now. The type of job you have will mean you may have to be creative with how you take a break. For example when i worked in retail i couldn't go anywhere every hour. Instead I would take 5 mins every hour to be mindful. How's my breathing, drink some water, stretch. I work in an office now I still try to do the same thing. But now it includes a walk around the building, chatting with a coworker, stepping outside for fresh air. 5 mins is all I allow myself until lunch. So all jokes aside try it for a day or two it will help.
OMG! If I took a break 25% of every hour my employer of 30 years would walk me out the door and tell me to take a break for the rest of my life.
She never said to take a 15 minute break she just said to take a break every 45 minutes. It could be just a few seconds to stretch good, go to the bathroom or get a drink. Not all of those long but still counts as a break from the task at hand
Thankyou
Slower, deeper breathing helps me. Meditation helps me. Cartoons help me.
My fav things to do is take a "time out" about 10 minutes of it's something light that's causing me stress. If I get TOO stressed out, I'll stay in and watch good movies for a few days and eat "better for me" foods until I feel like I can get back out and be social again. I love you for saying "it all depends on what recharges you, and how much time you need"! You're so right! Every circumstance is different, sometimes a few minutes helps, sometimes a whole week is needed! Thank you Kati!
I've been so burnt out that I don't know how to recover. I'm so deeply exhausted that the day to day is a struggle to survive. And I unfortunately am in a situation where a vacation or break isn't an option for me rn. Mines not just work, but my home life and existence. Idk how to recharge when I legit am unable to take a break.
that sounds really uncomfortable! Something that might give you a little power back is recognizing that you can always take some kind of break. If you don't believe you can, that can contribute to you having a break down and your body forcing a break. Or maybe you go nuts and slap a customer or someone at home or something.
Small health habits that can make a huge difference is walking more often. How's your exercise going?
Me too!! How can one take a break with 400% inflation on everything that’s already overpriced going on now too?!
Kati, you're incredible! Yes, taking breaks is so, so important. Thank you so much for sharing!! Your videos are always so helpful and have the greatest tips.
Why isn't burnout mentioned as an actual disorder in the DSM? Why isn't burnout recognized by most mental and medical health professionals?
I like to find a pleasant, picturesque spot and sit there for a while, preferably one surrounded by nature. Or lay in bed reading for a day or two.
Thank you! My candle is burnt at both ends so I needed this video 💖
How do you recover if stopping work is not an option?
Hi Kati, I'm currently recovering from what I'd like to call a cognitive burnout or a stress related fatigue syndrome that happened almost 2 and a half years ago, and I'm finally getting back to a some of the capabilities I had before the "burnout"(without getting crippled by depression, anxiety or fatigue). Resulting from not having worked for almost 2 years, regular check ups with doctors, and a lot of C.B.T. (Cognitive behavioral therapy) and now finally being able to do some rehabilitative work training for 2h a day.
But I find it a little hard to talk about in English. In Swedish we use the word "Utmattningssyndrom" which translates to fatigue syndrome, but as that is something else and this being more closely related to "burnout" (or a more severe version of it (or even occupational burnout as the symptoms seem to be similar) it's a little hard to discuss in English as you don't seem to have a clear diagnosis for this.
It falls under F43.8A in the ICD-10 as "Other reactions to severe stress" and since I personally know a fair few who also have been diagnosed with the same, it makes it even stranger to me that we don't hear more Americans talk about it, where the discussion seem to stop at "burnout".
So I would love to hear you talk about this form of "burnout" more, as you in the US aren't know for your pristine working conditions and I can't be the only one of your followers who suffers from this.
Also, thanks for your great work.
Same here. I've been on sick leave for my utmattningssyndrom for 1.5 years now and I probably won't be able to get back anytime soon although I'm in a better state compared to last year. I'm glad to hear that you're getting better (I hope you're even better now 3 years later!) but yes I would also like to hear more about this kind of burnout. I believe it wasn't too long ago that WHO included it as a diagnosis but apparently it's solely work related if I'm not mistaken(?)
I really don't know what to call it in English since many use the word "burnout" to describe more temporary symptoms as well, so I'm unsure if it's the same thing as our 'utmattningssyndrom'.
Sometimes it takes a step back. I know for me when I burn out I sleep a lot. I do make time for healthy meals and other activities that I enjoy. For self-care I love writing, washing my face each morning and night and drinking water.
What of you don't have a good, cushy job and get no breaks? I'll just have panic attacks at work forever I guess.
panic attacks are really the worst! why don't you change your job! If you can't go to gym and work out ! it helped me overcome with panic attacks
Hy Kati, can you do an opinion video about Billie Eilish and her music?
Yeaa definitely!
Omg I would like that, her videos are triggering to me
I love your energy, giving-ness, and great way of expressing your knowledge. .
I haven't really had any breaks since I was 6, the constant bans on the country, and the bans from the government on the people made our lives so much more difficult we havent been able to have any fun the past 8 years. I also struggle a lot with finding friends, so I dont have anyone to spend time with. I dont understand my hobbies properly anymore. I feel lost and burnt out. I want to do everything but I just feel like everything would end up being worse if I try it.
Same. Everything I try is worse. Like a clown hell demension now.
Thanks kati. This series has really made me realize how miserable i have been. Thanks for helping me figure out life. Much love
Online classes in university are so stressful. So many Quizzes and assignments every week, can’t even have a single day off ffs.
i did all of these and i still feel like a living corpse
Im so burned out I am willing to quit, go hungry, become homeless and just sleep.
I appreciate the simplicity of this!
I told myself at the first of the year that i would take one day a week to not worry about the sales and survival. But haven't been able to do that yet. I have forgotten what a vacation is, fun or a social event is. Disability barely pays the rent. My working on videos is one way for me to unwind. Then i feel like i have completed something . Have not been able to work since Jan 2014. Am still looking for a counselor and three other doctors.
Knitting. Lots of knitting. I've knitted a scarf, a hat, a right glove and working on the left one. Finally have felt good enough to file my taxes. Still recovering. But now I get to be warm and cozy while recovering!
Have you ever done a video about how to stay positive or improve yourself when you live in a really crummy situation that you can't change right away? I am on meds, going to therapy, exploring new hobbies, and taking it as easy as possible, but the weight of the hard things seems like too much to balance. Would love to hear your thoughts on a situation like that.
Interested in the same thing
I've been trying my hardest to catch up in schoolwork for the past 3 months and i have horrible burnout but I'm only halfway caught up so I can't even take a break because it'll only make me fall further behind which makes me feel horrible because I have such bad burnout that I don't feel like doing anything. :( I don't know how to get over this if there's no way to get over my burnout except giving up on the catch up. And I can't do that because my parents will be super angry. I hate this so much man
The key to recovering from burn out is not merely taking time out but finding a way to make the efforts worth the rewards in life. We must be grateful for life's favors and patient with life's trials. We must be flexible in our plans and resilient in our striving and strugglings. And antifragile in our goals.That is to say not just bounce back but improve.
I think multiple weekly short 3-4 hour breaks where I read spiritual fiction books would be ideal for me.
If i think of taking a break my mind tells me it will be a waste of time. Keep doing what you're doing it will get better
just in time when i need it the most 💛 thanks Kati
Oh how I love yellow, your top is so pretty and it looks great on you, and I would absolutley wear it in a second! 😍 It fits your sunny and warm personality perfectly!
Thanks for everything Kati!
I take a bath with a spa pillow I ordered from Amazon. Sleep all day, drink gatorade, emergency C powder with water, lots of water in general, take my vitamins, stay off my phone, and try to just pause my mind from thinking so much. Even if it means I have to put on meditational music.
Pomodoro helps me take a break every 25mins and stay focused on work. I highly recommend the pomodoro technique to anyone feeling overwhelmed with whatever you are working on.
Oo! That was good! I have been working nonstop for about 8 months on an intense work project. I stopped meeting up with friends and turned down going to events. I thought I would be done by now and be able to slow down a bit, but other work related tasks cut into my schedule so I’m behind on finalizing everything. Sadly, I started to notice symptoms of burnout the last few weeks. So it looks like I have no choice but to slow down and take breaks. The reward doesn’t equal the effort yet, so I’m just going to have to chill out. Thanks for this video. ❤
Could you address burnout in stay at home parents? Can't exactly take a break from that every 45 minutes 😂 or a long vacation from it. Or working parents who come home/are home for the weekend and don't get a break because then they're caring for their kids.
Right? I love these tips, but how in the world am I supposed to implement them as a parent while young kids? Vacations are never relaxing b/c it's just baby sitting most of the time anyway.
Janai take a look at 2 videos on parenting burnout by "The Parenting Junkie channel", I found them very well done and b-roll helps to process information better. I am a psychotherapist and counsellor and have no kids however was looking for videos for my friend who 3 little cute kids yet she often feels burnt out (even if has a ton of energy and self-motivation by birth). Of course the situation can depend on some other factors like who earns a living, your own significant other and your parents and other factors. What helps you to refill your inner accumulator so to speal. People have different circumstances and needs. I'd add to those videos also - negotiate with your partner and whoever is helping you with kids to free some more time for restoring your energy and to find emotional balance and peace. Every day, every week, even if a little bit more. In my opinion every parent should have at least half a day off any family duties once a week. I know in reality it might seem impossible yet with time you might find a way to do it.
Not really a break for a few years on having kids!! When they are 6 or 7 it improves usually! Then they get worse at 10 and 11 again too but more independent too! Date night once a week with husband good too!
Thank you! I like to go on adventures and just use mindfulness everyday
I found reading "The Burnout Society" was useful for me in terms of understanding the problem from a more sociological/ philosophical perspective.
This question is for my friend I couldn’t help. She’s being treated miserably at home. She has a messed up mother, and has 2 siblings. She has a dad and a step dad. Her dads always go to jail for either drinking or doing crimes. Her mother treats her bad except the younger ones. She gets hit and she says that her mother says: “it’s not abuse if it doesn’t leave a mark.” How can you and I prove them wrong?
Unfortunately, you can't help someone who isn't willing to accept help. The best thing you can do right now is to be a supportive friend and be there when she does as for help. Also check out Kati's video on how to deal with toxic parents.
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kinda off topic, but can burnout be misrecognized as depression?
Watch her video "the science of burntout" she talks about it there
@@abi_jean_reads thanks
One thing that helps me is to look for someone who makes me happy ♥️
And rest 😊 I love you all
for me; burn out for taking care of my family ill sister (multiple sclerosis, final state 38 years old), Bipolar type 1 father with personality disorder, neurotic obsessive mother, hard drug addict brother... well and myself bipolar type 2, social anxiety "Erythrophobia" (paroxetine help me with Erythrophobia; excessive blushing)...
For me works work out (punch and kick a heavy bag, push ups, Calisthenics - PULL UPS ), play videogames and a beer'
You definitely watch an indian regional movie called 'aval oru thodar kathai'in which the protagonist faces the same situation as yours .it'll help ya
Should
Thanks for the tips! I'm super interested in preventing entrepreneur burnout for my clients, so I listen to almost everything I can about it
I was told by a psychiatrist who co-wrote a book on burnout that the only ways to recover from burnout are to practise meditation, & mindfulness daily; & get CBT for the personality trait of perfectionism & people pleasing.