This is something yes I believe all men Cheat nice one's bad one's what ever... i'm not Africa I love Africa movies and a lot of these movies are based on what happens a lot in life out there I work around many Africa people and when watching movies someone can relate to it or know someone it's happened to... so my question is why is it when a man have a good woman wife or girlfriend when there man cheats and gets found out they love to say it's the devil that caused it and they would expect you to forgive them and if it happens the other way around that wife/girlfriend she would be called all names under the sun and maybe kicked out of the house to now the same way the devil got him got her just asking 🤷♀️
I dont agree that men were "not structured" to have one woman. God brought only one woman out of Adam's rib. It is the spirit of lust that makes men struggle to be faithful and it has to be overcome like all other things in us that grieve the spirit of God in us.
Thank you. I honestly don’t like to here people say men are polygamous and what not. It’s all falls on choice and discernment, because a woman can also choose to be polygamous.
Can you explain why God didn't condemn David for having more than one woman, instead he told him he gave him his master's house and master's throne and brought his master's wives into his bosom? Don't claim know it all in things you don't 🤣 understand.
I am a good muslim who became your fan just recently, i love and appreciate your deep knowledge and awareness of human psychology, your presentation and humour. I have other counselors too. Above all i applaud your sincerity for the truth . Being a Christian would have prevented you from saying it (polygynous nature of man ), but you honour God's way and His choice to have created His creation -man that way , Good of you man .
Godly men, are not lead by their pulsions, but all those things apply to them. They simply westle against it with the Holy Spirit. As they fear The Lord they will not let themselves be disloyal to Christ. But knowing these things can surely help them win daily.
@@unathimbizo9952 Well he needs to Clarify that. Ppl who do not know, and do not spend Time in the Word will believe A Whole Lot of STUFF! One would think, a person who claims the Title Of PASTOR should be speaking from a Different Point of View!. Pastor in What? Then, Drop that Title. Use Another one If Diverting. Or... Make the TOPIC Clear.. Can't BUNGLE IT UP! .. The Tricky devil is in BUNGLE.UP.! Lol.. Already have Too Many Confused Christians, Who Don't Know their WORD and may think, believe and Misunderstand Every word PASTOR says.. Which can be Contrary! ...My Opinion
Seriously, I don't understand why people are disagreeing to what Pastor K is saying. He is talking about an average man not a man controlled by the Holy Spirit. Even the men controlled by the Holy Spirit had these struggles but they were helped by the Holy spirit and they won't tell you so it makes you think they don't have such struggles. Be there and claim you disagree and suffer the consequences in your marriage. He repeatedly said he is not condoning such acts but he is giving you enough knowledge to help you better understand men and learn how to teach them what you want them to do for you. Isn't that simple? We should rather appreciate him because he has saved our stress in trying to understand our men.
It’s within the flesh for everyone to cheat both men and women - the difference between the two is discipline through the respect you hold for God and yourself…
I'm blown by your generosity Sir for going out of your way to enlighten us because I know it must have cost you and it wasn't an easy decision to make. May God show you a token for good so that all who hate you may know that he's your defender. Once again thank you do much Sir. You and your wife are a blessing to this generation and I'm grateful for the gift of you🙇♀️🙇♀️
Hi Kingsley, 🤔please where is this big engine when it comes to providing and participating in household chores, since they have that much strength to go from 1 to 100?
😂😂, good question . I watched this RUclips video recently and the men were like the things they really value in a woman is the ability to cook , clean and raise kids 😂😂 .
@@sunmolaa These responsibilities are the man's as much as they're the woman's. But you might have to selectively help a man especially one who's African and was brought up to think those responsibilities are for the woman alone. It is enlightenment, understanding and cooperation that'll make any relationship, marriage, friendship to work. Understand where one is lacking as a weakness and proffer a solution, a remedy and do so respectively not in a mocking manner. To crown the whole thing up, with the Holy Spirit, much can be achieved.
I almost regret watching this video. It's very painful. I've been through some of this. There's no excuse for a man to cheat. Idc what anyone says, if a man cheats on me, he doesn't love me and he needs to keep it moving! Cheating is a deal breaker for me! As far as just plain sex is concerned, why can't he let his wife know that's what he needs from her??? All of this hullabaloo about men but if his woman steps out on him, all hell breaks loose and he never forgives her! Very few men would forgive her!
that's what he's saying. The real men will put in effort to be disciplined even though they are more likely to stray. ....and we also need to pray for them too
Please who is this Super Soniq guy? Men have standards, we women should just stop lowering ours because we want to have someone or be in a "relationship". Men would never, never accept that his woman cheated on him. I know of a guy, who can sleep with anything that has a vagina. His girlfriend asked him, what he would do if he caught his wife cheating. He swore, that such would never happen to him. Imagine the thief!
It might be true but very hard to accept that men are naturally unfaithful. I grew up seeing my parents faithful to each other. My mum had access to my dad's phones, and my dad to my mum's 24/7. 10 years after my mum's death his phones are still accessible by any of us (his children) and I think he has remained celibate. Maybe that's why it's so hard for me to understand this.
These men should pray and ask for the discernment of the Holy Spirit to help them not to cheat, lie, deflect, not to be clueless, and not to be afraid. Women can also benefit from this, I know I did. Thank you, PK!
These are all factual and on all point… some women still don’t understand or know that a man can cheat on u and still love u 💯… it’s imperative for every man to be disciplined that’s all
And you think women are incapable of such too? A woman can love you and still cheat on you, everyone is trying to satisfy their sexual urge. When the issue of cheating comes up, all excuses are made for men and women are equated to a robot programmed to feel for only one man forever. Men should learn to control their urges
So it should be vise versa too,if a woman cheats why don't people understand too,that they still love their husband 😂😂😂 ,my own is to love God ooo I can't kill myself
The long and short: MEN NEED TO BE TAUGHT WHAT TO DO! The big question is: Mothers, do we know what to teach them? Wives, are we teaching them or getting mad and angry at them? I think that's the purpose of this video and not to excuse any behavior.
@@laurac.2399 The Bible does not tell you to take your bath every day yet you do why? Because of common sense right? Alright then, God has given us all the necessary things needed to do well in life and marriage we just fail to use them due to our stubbornness or whatever, not every thing is written in the Bible but when you have the Holy Spirit and you allow Him to guide you on how to approach issues including how to speak to your husband and how to point things out to him without it being in a confrontational manner then you'll realize you will have a better married life
Don't mind this men,they think is easy for we women to stay with one banana 🍌 for the rest of ourr life, special if the banana is haif dead or 2mins noodles. Contentment and self discipline is the key ..
Ladies, let us remember that we as mothers have to raise our male children to have values and respect for women. It only can't be left up to fathers to teach their sons. Mothers have just as much responsibility to bring insight and perspective to the table!
AMEN! But, It would be Very Nice if they would be a Role Model and Set an Example... Esp for the boys. They Do Not get a Medal for that! RESPECT?. And ppl have to Respect SELF First, BEFORE we can Respect Others...
@@heatherbrandon996 why are you sounding asif there are not father's out there setting good standards for their sons, I don't know about your dad but my dad is one good example when it comes to issues like this
I just realised this content isn’t for everyone especially the unstable ones: I believe many are “triggered” by this content and calling it excuses for men because they don’t understand men- and this is exactly what he’s trying to teach us, not to *condone* or *enable* but UNDERSTAND how these things come up their root causes and the like. Men don’t think like us women, truth is they won’t make considerations like us it’s almost like comparing every single person irrespective of age race or status to each other it just won’t work. Let us learn to take in information with wisdom so that we can be well informed saying things like “there’s no excuse for cheating etc” is first of all being an unforgiving person but most importantly missing the whole point cheating May happen in some cases because men’s levels of processing repercussions are different from that of women etc! Those that want to stay ignorant should do so but the truth is we women and the men aren’t the same and it’s better to learn how we are different ‘open-mindedly’ so casualties can be minimized!
HIV and a horde of other STI's and sexually transferred demons have entered the chat. It's easy to take back a cheating man if you have no ambition in life. You can't downplay the repercussions of illicit sex in order to pander to men
He misses out on the fact that humans in general experience lust - man, woman, third gender etc. He says men are tempted to just have sex because he himself is a man. If he was a woman, he'd know that women are just as sexual. Maybe he hasn't come across a liberated woman or one who has embraced her sexuality in a healthy way, or believes that such a woman is bad, which is quite close-minded. The trigger is not that he's open about male sexuality. It's that he's obtuse and blind to female sexuality - one that is experienced by a woman of her own nature, not as a result of her partner's call. And while he's justifying male cheating and lack of faithfulness and character by confusing it with his sexuality and therefore a result of biology (/God/Nature), it's very short-sighted of him to call female sexuality (also God/Nature's creation - because Nature doesn't think/discriminate like humans, otherwise why would it be there in the first place?!) as non-existent. If he's calling it all-emotional and connection-related, then he clearly doesn't know the flipside animal-like crazy lust that women experience too, his mind would probably reject it as ungodly. All humans are capable of sin, as well as good deeds - be it men or women.
Hello Pastor. Please help me understand this. If this is a man's true nature, why do men get into committed relationships and marriage that requires being monogamous? Why don't they just stay single? When you are a single man, you can be with any number of women that you want, without destroying other people's lives. There are women that are ok with no strings attached. We do not force men to commit. They choose it. So why? Sometimes I feel that men want their cake and eat it too. Meaning getting the benefits that come with having a wife, but secretly desires to be with multiple women like a single man.
There are alot of reasons why men get married and like you said alot of men truly do not want to get married but pressure from, parents, society and already married friends push them into it, but of late especially men in America, there seems to be a narrative that is gradually growing where men are now outrightly coming out to refute marriage as they believe it does them more harm than good
@@houston10Yes sister na so... It is fine for every nation and tribe to have and respect culture but when we become Christians, the culture of Gods kingdom is above all other cultures....so that culture that says a man can do whatever he likes and still be respected but a woman should not dare try the same, is very wrong and has NO place in the church. We are all new creatures in Christ and are ALL expected to live as such.
Good day Pastor K, for your first point, what do you advice that men should do since they are naturally inclined to cheat? And some men actually find it so hard to apologize and it's really so sad. It really takes nothing away to say sorry when you are wrong. I personally would appreciate a man who would apologize than cover up and assume everything is okay. Thank you Pastor K for your amazing teachings.
Am with u ,my husband don't know how to say sorry,he has form an opinion about my weakness, even when am trying to do away with the weakness,anytime I have issues with his female pals ,even when I apologize he sees it that I shouldn't have.....but I won't dwell on that ,I shake off every negativity
Please pray for him to encounter the Lord Jesus, only Him has the ability to tame that beast in us, humble us and make us innocent again like new born babies... And that is when he can even kneel down to apologize to you.
Stop making excuses for men! They have choices just like women do. They have to be committed. If they don't do things they have no business doing, they won't have to be afraid of their woman's reaction and all of the other fears you spoke of. God NEVER has told us to do anything that He knows we can't do with His help, strength and grace. Women get tempted, too. That doesn't mean we give in to the temptation. Don't put yourself in a position to be tempted. If you are in such a position and you find yourself being tempted, if you have to physically run, then 🏃♂️ run!!
Did you watch this video? Let's assume you did but I guess it's from a place of hurt, try again on a neutral ground. His not endorsing or making excuses, his giving you hints so you know what to do in times like that. Men want peace of mind so they tend to look for it outside when your not being understanding hence they are polygamous in nature. If you can do from point 2-7 then point 1 would be solved, he would want to be better for you because you bring him peace.
There were a lot of generalisations in this video but will just mention one point. A man can not love his wife and cheat on her, and vice versa. Because love is putting someone before yourself, in very plain terms as Jesus said love your neighbour as you love yourself. If you wouldn't want it to happen to you, you shouldn't do it to someone else. We make too many excuses for men in general and it's not helpful as there's no accountability
@@fw3296 not if the definition of love is by Jesus Christ's standards and what's laid out in the Bible, sorry. The reason why it happens is because men and women continue to believe this rhetoric and give excuses for it happening 🤷🏿♀️
@@LoveJoyandFreedom I don't need to believe it, I believe in Christ. But you quickly forget that you are in this world but not of this world....so it's a struggle for men not to cheat, cause easily, without hold backs, they will gladly sleep with other women. Don't know why you guys don't understand simple reality....... So my dear, I believe in Christ and I am daily working to be like him, but I am still on earth, that's something to remember.
The Bible says we as the human race have everything we need for "life and godliness." This provision comes from God's word and the power of the Holy Spirit, not from another person. Therefore, women are not supposed to teach their men to not give in to lust. I think these messages that perpetuate the idea that this is how men are wired (to cheat), and the the message that women are responsible-- either for them cheating or for preventing them from cheating--are deceiving mankind and are perpetuating satan's plan to make men's lustful, ungodly behaviors expected, and women's acceptance (and sometimes blame for it), normal.
These things you have mentioned sir could only be revealed by the HolySpirit, the HolySpirit Revealed this to you not experience. Thank you Jesus for this piece. I pray you help us as men to please you and do your will even in our marriages/relationships. God bless you sir.
Cheating is a heart issue, whether a man or woman. We all have to be intentional about confirming our hearts to God’s thoughts. It doesn’t come naturally because of sinful nature.
Pastor Kingsley always talks about fidelity in marriage and at the beginning of the video he made a disclaimer that he is not in support of the behaviour. The truth is that men and women are Wired differently and it takes discipline,intentionality and love for God for the man to live above his natural self hence the reason why it is important for women to marry men who love God and serve him truly
I don't understand why you pastor's always use King David as an example while talking about infidelity,and self discipline,why not use apostle Paul and Peter.
@@blessedkelly8568 He said he isn't supporting evil.. he's just explaining some points, analyzing why some things happens and giving solutions at the same time.. This isn't something that should arouse any form of argument
I need more space than my husband 🙄. I am weird? I am the one who runs to hide . I don’t like company . I would rather be by myself . 90% of the time, just leave me alone. Omg! I am laughing at myself coz most of the things are what I want and not my husband.
Please let's stop making excuses for the flesh. As Christians we should teach what Jesus taught us. God did not wire men naturally like that. Jesus said in the beginning it was not so. It is the fallen nature that brought all that and Jesus has died to correct that and gave us both men and women the grace and enablement to say 'No' to ungodliness and worldly passions - Titus 2:11-12. Let's focus on teaching men to be like Jesus their head, instead of making excuses for them. With all you have explained, men will continue in their sins.
If you follow pastor Kingsley teachings you will know that he is an ardent believer of the fact that men should be faithful and love their wives as Jesus Christ loves the church. He spoke about the natural man and we can argue it from today till tommorow and the facts wont change. Women are enjoined to marry men who love God and serve him truly because a man who loves God/serve him truly will love to please God in all that he has done hence he will be committed and intentional about making his relationship to work
Men should be like Jesus right? Did Jesus marry? See, if you can't learn from the truth it will only but hurt you afterwards, nothing PST Kingsley said is a lie, all are truths. But we all are walking before God to be made better and get perfect. Christ is the WAY, TRUTH AND LIFE. Emphasis on him being the WAY. He showed us "men" everything but how to be with a woman. And that's why God will not give a man a wife or woman, men have to "find". Why do we have to find if all women were created by God and a perfect? To find something means it's either ... scarce, in excess or hidden. I don't want to dig further,but I bet you dig me.....see just believe the truth and learn how to follow a man.
I personally think 🤔 pastor Kingsley should consider removing this talk. It does not edify the things of the spirit. The Bible says to be Carnally minded is death. Let only Jesus be preached;Let everything, every talk point 👉 to Jesus only. No time for ròbòrebe.
Most women struggle too and you dint mention this. Men need to understand that too. Many women aren’t naturally monogamous either, especially in her 30s when sex drive is highest. Very one sided argument. We need to stop the double standards.
Beautiful sex vs Dutiful sex....wooozaaaaa! Thank you sir. Advice to everyone watching.: Listen to and Accept the disclaimer before u start judging the speaker.
For the first point,I would say we're all learning because it's not easy for both sex. I'm not saying this in the context of sex but because it's very difficult living or being with someone who doesn't understand things like you do or see things from your perspective It becomes easier if you have the fear of God, if you know who you're and where you're going. Pastor K I can tell you that there are men that won't cheat and aren't struggling at all I have heard you talk about such issue alot, and of course there are many men like that but there are also many who aren't In the beginning, it was just Adam and Eve, it's just the spirit of lust that make people cheat Like you always say, people say men cheat alot, but who are they cheating with So it's just lust
Wow thank you pastor... I have learnt alot esp. Men needing space . Also I know times I misunderstood hubby because he was passing through challenges and didn't want to let me see his fears. I'm blessed
We men are raised to take responsibility from inception but what’s important is that when you are in a relationship, you need to be open minded and good communicator to each other because no one comes with manual guide.
@@cliffinambao6228 so true. we are not witches, we cant read minds. im still learning and hearing from people's experiences. even on my channel, I talk about living a peaceful life, in all aspects of life, relationships included. Communication is very important. I think people need to take a communication class before they get married.
I beg to disagree with you sir, when you say men are not structured for one woman. What about God's Word that commands every man to have his own wife. God created human anatomy. Also, God created ONLY ONE WOMAN in the beginning for one man. WHY???. Men who go for more than one woman, are just LOOSE men who are out of control with their sexual urges. That a man is not willing or cannot control themselves SEXUALLY, cannot be blamed on their anatomy in my opinion, rather on their bad choice of living a debauchery lifestyle and we see the negative consequences on their children and their spouses. No, I do not agree with you 👍.
Pst K, one more thing I think our princesses and queens needs to know is that we love to be the leader (head), even when they are more capable than us, they should learn to let the man lead or willfully delegate the leadership role to the woman. It also means that women should stop chasing men, and let the men chase them.
Wisdom point for me: I will prefer my man comes up to me if he thinks of cheating... so I can help him. it's not for me to get jealous of who he is thinking to cheat with. I hate lies. Infact I can smell it before it surfaces and I can pretend but I prefer he opens up.
Deep content.💚 I'm a woman and I subscribe to everything said here. Women need knowledge of how men are structured and it is called WISDOM when you apply knowledge to hold things together. If you reject this knowledge as a woman, you'll most likely suffer bitterness which doesn't destroy the man but you.
This right here just took some nagging of my husband away 🤣🤣🤣. Thank you Sir
This is something yes I believe all men Cheat nice one's bad one's what ever... i'm not Africa I love Africa movies and a lot of these movies are based on what happens a lot in life out there I work around many Africa people and when watching movies someone can relate to it or know someone it's happened to... so my question is why is it when a man have a good woman wife or girlfriend when there man cheats and gets found out they love to say it's the devil that caused it and they would expect you to forgive them and if it happens the other way around that wife/girlfriend she would be called all names under the sun and maybe kicked out of the house to now the same way the devil got him got her just asking 🤷♀️
@@jenniferjules9795 ...💯
I am a woman, but I struggle with strain. When a man treats me good, then I want to be with them....all this about struggle is bullcrap
Stop creating an excuse for cheaters
Do sinners generalise gender. What about Delilah, does that make all women corny??
I dont agree that men were "not structured" to have one woman. God brought only one woman out of Adam's rib. It is the spirit of lust that makes men struggle to be faithful and it has to be overcome like all other things in us that grieve the spirit of God in us.
Well said, God bless you. Some men/ pastors should not because they can't be holy say all men behave like them. Let us behave as Christ did.
@@gloriatenabe8192 Thank you and God bless you too sister. 🙏
Well said!
Thank you. I honestly don’t like to here people say men are polygamous and what not. It’s all falls on choice and discernment, because a woman can also choose to be polygamous.
Can you explain why God didn't condemn David for having more than one woman, instead he told him he gave him his master's house and master's throne and brought his master's wives into his bosom? Don't claim know it all in things you don't 🤣 understand.
I am a good muslim who became your fan just recently, i love and appreciate your deep knowledge and awareness of human psychology, your presentation and humour.
I have other counselors too.
Above all i applaud your sincerity for the truth . Being a Christian would have prevented you from saying it (polygynous nature of man ), but you honour God's way and His choice to have created His creation -man that way ,
Good of you man .
This is why every woman should hook up with a man who knows the Lord. The teaching is about the average man, not the saved and Holy Spirit helped-man.
Thank you.
Godly men, are not lead by their pulsions, but all those things apply to them. They simply westle against it with the Holy Spirit. As they fear The Lord they will not let themselves be disloyal to Christ. But knowing these things can surely help them win daily.
Amen! We have 2 types of men..
Amen. Thank you. The Pastor is explaining how men behave/think in a worldly view.
@@unathimbizo9952
Well he needs to Clarify that. Ppl who do not know, and do not spend Time in the Word will believe A Whole Lot of STUFF!
One would think, a person who claims the Title Of PASTOR should be speaking from a Different Point of View!.
Pastor in What? Then, Drop that Title. Use Another one If Diverting. Or...
Make the TOPIC Clear..
Can't BUNGLE IT UP! .. The Tricky devil is in BUNGLE.UP.! Lol.. Already have Too Many Confused Christians, Who Don't Know their WORD and may think, believe and Misunderstand Every word PASTOR says.. Which can be Contrary!
...My Opinion
Seriously, I don't understand why people are disagreeing to what Pastor K is saying. He is talking about an average man not a man controlled by the Holy Spirit. Even the men controlled by the Holy Spirit had these struggles but they were helped by the Holy spirit and they won't tell you so it makes you think they don't have such struggles. Be there and claim you disagree and suffer the consequences in your marriage. He repeatedly said he is not condoning such acts but he is giving you enough knowledge to help you better understand men and learn how to teach them what you want them to do for you. Isn't that simple? We should rather appreciate him because he has saved our stress in trying to understand our men.
Wow, pastor just exposed us.😅 Everything he said is true.
Thank you for confirming this.
Good!
I think he enlightened us so we coach you well to become the true men you are for the work. Meh, my mind has break loose.
Lol....just know that most ladies love it when you talk to them more🥺
Women cheaters are less noticeable..I worked with a lot of nurses that cheat.
It’s within the flesh for everyone to cheat both men and women - the difference between the two is discipline through the respect you hold for God and yourself…
The man literally said NATURALLY!
Good piece Pastor. You have really studied the psychology of men and women. God bless u Sir. Never a dull moment with your teachings
Pastor I quarrel less with my hubby since I started watching you show.
Not even done watching the video and #1 has me like 😳😳
“Women control sex and men control security.”
Thank you and God bless you Pastor K!🙏🏿
I'm blown by your generosity Sir for going out of your way to enlighten us because I know it must have cost you and it wasn't an easy decision to make.
May God show you a token for good so that all who hate you may know that he's your defender. Once again thank you do much Sir. You and your wife are a blessing to this generation and I'm grateful for the gift of you🙇♀️🙇♀️
It’s true that men always want to provide solutions. Amazing video ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Kingsley, 🤔please where is this big engine when it comes to providing and participating in household chores, since they have that much strength to go from 1 to 100?
😂😂, good question . I watched this RUclips video recently and the men were like the things they really value in a woman is the ability to cook , clean and raise kids 😂😂 .
@@sunmolaa These responsibilities are the man's as much as they're the woman's.
But you might have to selectively help a man especially one who's African and was brought up to think those responsibilities are for the woman alone.
It is enlightenment, understanding and cooperation that'll make any relationship, marriage, friendship to work.
Understand where one is lacking as a weakness and proffer a solution, a remedy and do so respectively not in a mocking manner.
To crown the whole thing up, with the Holy Spirit, much can be achieved.
😂😂😂 ask him o
Kingsley is speaking for himself....his poor wife
The way they be pampering these men like they are the price. We are the price.
I almost regret watching this video. It's very painful. I've been through some of this. There's no excuse for a man to cheat. Idc what anyone says, if a man cheats on me, he doesn't love me and he needs to keep it moving! Cheating is a deal breaker for me!
As far as just plain sex is concerned, why can't he let his wife know that's what he needs from her???
All of this hullabaloo about men but if his woman steps out on him, all hell breaks loose and he never forgives her! Very few men would forgive her!
You haven’t changed. You don’t listen!!
that's what he's saying. The real men will put in effort to be disciplined even though they are more likely to stray. ....and we also need to pray for them too
@@dumdum9898 nah! They don't need prayer. It's who they are, all they need is self discipline.
Please who is this Super Soniq guy?
Men have standards, we women should just stop lowering ours because we want to have someone or be in a "relationship".
Men would never, never accept that his woman cheated on him. I know of a guy, who can sleep with anything that has a vagina. His girlfriend asked him, what he would do if he caught his wife cheating. He swore, that such would never happen to him. Imagine the thief!
Lynda people
IKR 🙏🏽
It might be true but very hard to accept that men are naturally unfaithful. I grew up seeing my parents faithful to each other. My mum had access to my dad's phones, and my dad to my mum's 24/7. 10 years after my mum's death his phones are still accessible by any of us (his children) and I think he has remained celibate. Maybe that's why it's so hard for me to understand this.
That is such a beautiful testimony!❤️
These men should pray and ask for the discernment of the Holy Spirit to help them not to cheat, lie, deflect, not to be clueless, and not to be afraid. Women can also benefit from this, I know I did.
Thank you, PK!
Pastor k u never disappoint. Thank u so much . U just saved this man right her. A lot has been answered. Thank u sir
These are all factual and on all point… some women still don’t understand or know that a man can cheat on u and still love u 💯… it’s imperative for every man to be disciplined that’s all
And you think women are incapable of such too? A woman can love you and still cheat on you, everyone is trying to satisfy their sexual urge.
When the issue of cheating comes up, all excuses are made for men and women are equated to a robot programmed to feel for only one man forever. Men should learn to control their urges
So it should be vise versa too,if a woman cheats why don't people understand too,that they still love their husband 😂😂😂 ,my own is to love God ooo I can't kill myself
The long and short: MEN NEED TO BE TAUGHT WHAT TO DO!
The big question is: Mothers, do we know what to teach them? Wives, are we teaching them or getting mad and angry at them?
I think that's the purpose of this video and not to excuse any behavior.
The bible does not instruct women to teach their men.
@@laurac.2399 True. But parents are instructed to teach their children!
@@laurac.2399 The Bible does not tell you to take your bath every day yet you do why? Because of common sense right? Alright then, God has given us all the necessary things needed to do well in life and marriage we just fail to use them due to our stubbornness or whatever, not every thing is written in the Bible but when you have the Holy Spirit and you allow Him to guide you on how to approach issues including how to speak to your husband and how to point things out to him without it being in a confrontational manner then you'll realize you will have a better married life
PK you just saved my relationship. Thank you 😭😭.
GOD bless you sir, for been real and balanced. May GOD grant you deeper realms in HIM in Jesus name
Women struggle with staying with one man too. It's not easy. We have been trying to tell men too.
God bless you!
Don't mind this men,they think is easy for we women to stay with one banana 🍌 for the rest of ourr life, special if the banana is haif dead or 2mins noodles. Contentment and self discipline is the key ..
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Set up a business then ..you might as well commercialise your lust cos no man will take a used woman seriously
@@stormship1647 you lake wisdom,and you are unintelligent,i pity your woman if you even have one,no woman want to stay with a man of your kind,
It's so clear
It so obvious these are the very needs of men
All of us women must know this
Thank you so much sir
I was blessed listening to this my eyes are open I'm ready to face my relationship
Thank you sir, now I understand so many things
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This is a fact but absolutely heart breaking for a woman.
that marries an unbeliever
Yes sir.. You've really impacted me with a good advice.... Dont worry.. You'll attend my wedding soon
Ladies, let us remember that we as mothers have to raise our male children to have values and respect for women. It only can't be left up to fathers to teach their sons. Mothers have just as much responsibility to bring insight and perspective to the table!
AMEN! But, It would be Very Nice if they would be a Role Model and Set an Example... Esp for the boys. They Do Not get a Medal for that!
RESPECT?. And ppl have to Respect SELF First, BEFORE we can Respect Others...
@@heatherbrandon996 why are you sounding asif there are not father's out there setting good standards for their sons, I don't know about your dad but my dad is one good example when it comes to issues like this
I like the fact that he tells us problems and gives solutions to us also.
Which one is the solution?
This sounds like a description of little BOYS. Put away CHILDISH things and Grow up! WOMEN need MEN!!! Y This is sooo annoying! 🙄
You have not learned mam
@@MasegoM872 I have learned what I want, and it is NOT a BOY!
Very interesting to watch. But men still need to apply self control. It's important
Did you watch when he said that so clearly so you missed it?
it`s important very very important
I just realised this content isn’t for everyone especially the unstable ones:
I believe many are “triggered” by this content and calling it excuses for men because they don’t understand men- and this is exactly what he’s trying to teach us, not to *condone* or *enable* but UNDERSTAND how these things come up their root causes and the like.
Men don’t think like us women, truth is they won’t make considerations like us it’s almost like comparing every single person irrespective of age race or status to each other it just won’t work.
Let us learn to take in information with wisdom so that we can be well informed saying things like “there’s no excuse for cheating etc” is first of all being an unforgiving person but most importantly missing the whole point cheating May happen in some cases because men’s levels of processing repercussions are different from that of women etc!
Those that want to stay ignorant should do so but the truth is we women and the men aren’t the same and it’s better to learn how we are different ‘open-mindedly’ so casualties can be minimized!
HIV and a horde of other STI's and sexually transferred demons have entered the chat. It's easy to take back a cheating man if you have no ambition in life. You can't downplay the repercussions of illicit sex in order to pander to men
Well said.
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He misses out on the fact that humans in general experience lust - man, woman, third gender etc. He says men are tempted to just have sex because he himself is a man. If he was a woman, he'd know that women are just as sexual. Maybe he hasn't come across a liberated woman or one who has embraced her sexuality in a healthy way, or believes that such a woman is bad, which is quite close-minded.
The trigger is not that he's open about male sexuality. It's that he's obtuse and blind to female sexuality - one that is experienced by a woman of her own nature, not as a result of her partner's call. And while he's justifying male cheating and lack of faithfulness and character by confusing it with his sexuality and therefore a result of biology (/God/Nature), it's very short-sighted of him to call female sexuality (also God/Nature's creation - because Nature doesn't think/discriminate like humans, otherwise why would it be there in the first place?!) as non-existent. If he's calling it all-emotional and connection-related, then he clearly doesn't know the flipside animal-like crazy lust that women experience too, his mind would probably reject it as ungodly. All humans are capable of sin, as well as good deeds - be it men or women.
@@PoojaG_PG so in short women are exactly like men? Doubt it.
Hello Pastor. Please help me understand this. If this is a man's true nature, why do men get into committed relationships and marriage that requires being monogamous? Why don't they just stay single? When you are a single man, you can be with any number of women that you want, without destroying other people's lives. There are women that are ok with no strings attached. We do not force men to commit. They choose it. So why? Sometimes I feel that men want their cake and eat it too. Meaning getting the benefits that come with having a wife, but secretly desires to be with multiple women like a single man.
Thanks for sharing sir. I don't know why we are not told this before marriage. We're given the impression that most men don't cheat.
@@ekene8668 what?!! Who exactly told you that?
There are alot of reasons why men get married and like you said alot of men truly do not want to get married but pressure from, parents, society and already married friends push them into it, but of late especially men in America, there seems to be a narrative that is gradually growing where men are now outrightly coming out to refute marriage as they believe it does them more harm than good
Pls why haven't u done "7 things women wish they could tell men" yet?
Pls m desperately waiting 4 it...biko🙏
Thank you pastor, God bless you sir,i learnt my own lesson
Men who cheat stray.
And women you cheat are loose.
Odiegwu!!😳
I'm telling you....what sort of biased attitude is that? ....smh
I was disappointed by the bias and defamatory label of “loose”…. Vs “straying”when doing the exact same thing? I expected better tbh.
@@houston10Yes sister na so... It is fine for every nation and tribe to have and respect culture but when we become Christians, the culture of Gods kingdom is above all other cultures....so that culture that says a man can do whatever he likes and still be respected but a woman should not dare try the same, is very wrong and has NO place in the church. We are all new creatures in Christ and are ALL expected to live as such.
I heard this one too😅
Thank you for sharing sir, it really blessed me.Expecting the other part sir
Good day Pastor K, for your first point, what do you advice that men should do since they are naturally inclined to cheat?
And some men actually find it so hard to apologize and it's really so sad. It really takes nothing away to say sorry when you are wrong. I personally would appreciate a man who would apologize than cover up and assume everything is okay.
Thank you Pastor K for your amazing teachings.
Am with u ,my husband don't know how to say sorry,he has form an opinion about my weakness, even when am trying to do away with the weakness,anytime I have issues with his female pals ,even when I apologize he sees it that I shouldn't have.....but I won't dwell on that ,I shake off every negativity
Please pray for him to encounter the Lord Jesus, only Him has the ability to tame that beast in us, humble us and make us innocent again like new born babies... And that is when he can even kneel down to apologize to you.
One of my major struggle is No. 5. Not measuring up to standard.
PK please tell men that women may forgive but never forget!
Stop making excuses for men! They have choices just like women do. They have to be committed. If they don't do things they have no business doing, they won't have to be afraid of their woman's reaction and all of the other fears you spoke of.
God NEVER has told us to do anything that He knows we can't do with His help, strength and grace. Women get tempted, too. That doesn't mean we give in to the temptation. Don't put yourself in a position to be tempted. If you are in such a position and you find yourself being tempted, if you have to physically run, then 🏃♂️ run!!
Did you watch this video? Let's assume you did but I guess it's from a place of hurt, try again on a neutral ground. His not endorsing or making excuses, his giving you hints so you know what to do in times like that. Men want peace of mind so they tend to look for it outside when your not being understanding hence they are polygamous in nature. If you can do from point 2-7 then point 1 would be solved, he would want to be better for you because you bring him peace.
Did u watch the disclaimer part woman ???
Absolutely, women are tempted to cheat too. Most of the time, we don't.
He already put a disclaimer
Thank God men have Joseph in the bible to look up to, so there is no excuse in Heaven whether you are structured the way or that.
Thank you Pastor.
There were a lot of generalisations in this video but will just mention one point. A man can not love his wife and cheat on her, and vice versa. Because love is putting someone before yourself, in very plain terms as Jesus said love your neighbour as you love yourself. If you wouldn't want it to happen to you, you shouldn't do it to someone else. We make too many excuses for men in general and it's not helpful as there's no accountability
I pity you.... love and sex is different for a man....thank you.
I disagree. Men can separate emotion from sec. a man can love his mate/wife, and still cheat
@@enividclinton8634 I pity you, especially if you're Christian and believe this.
@@fw3296 not if the definition of love is by Jesus Christ's standards and what's laid out in the Bible, sorry.
The reason why it happens is because men and women continue to believe this rhetoric and give excuses for it happening 🤷🏿♀️
@@LoveJoyandFreedom I don't need to believe it, I believe in Christ. But you quickly forget that you are in this world but not of this world....so it's a struggle for men not to cheat, cause easily, without hold backs, they will gladly sleep with other women. Don't know why you guys don't understand simple reality.......
So my dear, I believe in Christ and I am daily working to be like him, but I am still on earth, that's something to remember.
Am I the only one who is very discouraged in hearing this video?
That's not discouragement, you have been challenged by the knowledge. No offense darling❤❤
I wish I knew this earlier. I can resonate with a number of these and I have given up on trying to understand men. Now I can relate well
Men..!
Very well said and explained pastor,God bless you.
This video blessed me alot. God bless you Sir.
This is very enlightening. Thank you PK
So what is the importance of this video?
Kindly explain
Do you want us to see these points to be normal so men will continue to fool?
The Bible says we as the human race have everything we need for "life and godliness." This provision comes from God's word and the power of the Holy Spirit, not from another person. Therefore, women are not supposed to teach their men to not give in to lust. I think these messages that perpetuate the idea that this is how men are wired (to cheat), and the the message that women are responsible-- either for them cheating or for preventing them from cheating--are deceiving mankind and are perpetuating satan's plan to make men's lustful, ungodly behaviors expected, and women's acceptance (and sometimes blame for it), normal.
Wow! This is Amazingly True!! Thank you Sir!!!
Thanks for this!
These things you have mentioned sir could only be revealed by the HolySpirit, the HolySpirit Revealed this to you not experience. Thank you Jesus for this piece. I pray you help us as men to please you and do your will even in our marriages/relationships. God bless you sir.
Thank you Sir
Thank you.. This is very informative.. I learned alot. 🙏
Cheating is a heart issue, whether a man or woman. We all have to be intentional about confirming our hearts to God’s thoughts. It doesn’t come naturally because of sinful nature.
Exactly… people will always do what people can always defend them on!
If you Lord God you will obey periodtttt ask the holy spirit to fix your heart 🧎🏿♀️ keyword heart issue
Pastor Kingsley always talks about fidelity in marriage and at the beginning of the video he made a disclaimer that he is not in support of the behaviour.
The truth is that men and women are Wired differently and it takes discipline,intentionality and love for God for the man to live above his natural self hence the reason why it is important for women to marry men who love God and serve him truly
Wow this is so genuine 😂
I think most men here just shared this video link with their wives 🤣🤣
I know, they want to have control of women's world.
Thank you man of God for sharing with us all this
Thank you so much pastor K
This helped a lot!!
Pastor k.. Did u just say man chewing grass in d bush😀😀
I don't understand why you pastor's always use King David as an example while talking about infidelity,and self discipline,why not use apostle Paul and Peter.
Were they married?🤷 King David and king Solomon are the perfect examples of adulterers.
@@billionairejumzietopbabe3304 Peter was married,and he was always with his wife everywhere.
@@blessedkelly8568 He said he isn't supporting evil.. he's just explaining some points, analyzing why some things happens and giving solutions at the same time.. This isn't something that should arouse any form of argument
I'm sure you got the point. Can't you just understand and move on?
@@okpohwokingsley so who will excuse/defend women ?
I don't like the answers but appreciate the knowledge lolol
I need more space than my husband 🙄. I am weird? I am the one who runs to hide . I don’t like company . I would rather be by myself . 90% of the time, just leave me alone. Omg! I am laughing at myself coz most of the things are what I want and not my husband.
This is fine. We feel you are normal this way. lol
@@supersoniqamanyi3075 Nah you messing with me
Then you rather learn how to create time and space for your husband....... It's weird that you don't have enough time for your husband
Please let's stop making excuses for the flesh. As Christians we should teach what Jesus taught us. God did not wire men naturally like that. Jesus said in the beginning it was not so. It is the fallen nature that brought all that and Jesus has died to correct that and gave us both men and women the grace and enablement to say 'No' to ungodliness and worldly passions - Titus 2:11-12. Let's focus on teaching men to be like Jesus their head, instead of making excuses for them. With all you have explained, men will continue in their sins.
If you follow pastor Kingsley teachings you will know that he is an ardent believer of the fact that men should be faithful and love their wives as Jesus Christ loves the church.
He spoke about the natural man and we can argue it from today till tommorow and the facts wont change.
Women are enjoined to marry men who love God and serve him truly because a man who loves God/serve him truly will love to please God in all that he has done hence he will be committed and intentional about making his relationship to work
@@nnenniaifepe5073 You can go on arguing the Bible then.
Men should be like Jesus right?
Did Jesus marry?
See, if you can't learn from the truth it will only but hurt you afterwards, nothing PST Kingsley said is a lie, all are truths. But we all are walking before God to be made better and get perfect.
Christ is the WAY, TRUTH AND LIFE. Emphasis on him being the WAY.
He showed us "men" everything but how to be with a woman.
And that's why God will not give a man a wife or woman, men have to "find". Why do we have to find if all women were created by God and a perfect? To find something means it's either ... scarce, in excess or hidden. I don't want to dig further,but I bet you dig me.....see just believe the truth and learn how to follow a man.
I personally think 🤔 pastor Kingsley should consider removing this talk. It does not edify the things of the spirit. The Bible says to be Carnally minded is death. Let only Jesus be preached;Let everything, every talk point 👉 to Jesus only. No time for ròbòrebe.
I agree with you fully my brother
What PK said about space is very true. Women need to learn this.
This point hit hard. 😅😅😅
I don't know if I'm the only one that feels weak whenever I'm around a woman for so long?. 😅
What do you mean? Cheating is as a result of sin of the flesh period.
@@realtalkwithphil You're not alone bro. 😂
Most women struggle too and you dint mention this. Men need to understand that too. Many women aren’t naturally monogamous either, especially in her 30s when sex drive is highest. Very one sided argument. We need to stop the double standards.
Preach it, Sarah!
Maybe Pastor Mildred will do a sequel o!!! 😃
The video is about the men not women
@@yzmundanord1908 Doesn't matter. This man speaks as if women just don't understand temptation.
@lori smith Okon, it matters. We should understand context, this is about Men, when he does for women, we will hear him
This was excellent very informative. I have to coach him into what I require of him . Not bully but coach him. Thanks
Thanks so Much Pastor K
Thanks a lot, Kingsley. God Bless you. Much love from Tanzania. when is the video about women coming? Can't wait.
Beautiful sex vs Dutiful sex....wooozaaaaa! Thank you sir.
Advice to everyone watching.: Listen to and Accept the disclaimer before u start judging the speaker.
I know like I know my name that wise women gat this
Thank you pk
More strength sir🙌
For the first point,I would say we're all learning because it's not easy for both sex.
I'm not saying this in the context of sex but because it's very difficult living or being with someone who doesn't understand things like you do or see things from your perspective
It becomes easier if you have the fear of God, if you know who you're and where you're going.
Pastor K I can tell you that there are men that won't cheat and aren't struggling at all
I have heard you talk about such issue alot, and of course there are many men like that but there are also many who aren't
In the beginning, it was just Adam and Eve, it's just the spirit of lust that make people cheat
Like you always say, people say men cheat alot, but who are they cheating with
So it's just lust
I know understand certain things. Thanks
Wow thank you pastor... I have learnt alot esp. Men needing space . Also I know times I misunderstood hubby because he was passing through challenges and didn't want to let me see his fears. I'm blessed
It has helped me alot... This video is 🔥 ....
Thank you for sharing sir
Isaac was monogamous. Correction please
He said MOST, not ALL men of old.
I agree with everything you said, sir. God bless you..
Thank you
God bless you soo much sir! Very Educative🙏
Where are the comments? guys let's hear your thoughts, a lot of men don't talk and this is what puts them in trouble most times.
We men are raised to take responsibility from inception but what’s important is that when you are in a relationship, you need to be open minded and good communicator to each other because no one comes with manual guide.
@@cliffinambao6228 so true. we are not witches, we cant read minds. im still learning and hearing from people's experiences. even on my channel, I talk about living a peaceful life, in all aspects of life, relationships included. Communication is very important. I think people need to take a communication class before they get married.
@@JourneytoLinPRinP so true
When men talk women say they talk too much.....what about that?
@@kinginspirationchannel it depends on the women you’re talking to, and the context of what is being talked about.
God bless u hv learnt alot in u🙏
Women are actually capable of hearing the truth..pls tell the men
This is like raising a child 😂
Pastor K! Wow. I learnt so much from this. Thank you ❤️🙏🏿
Thanks i love this video
I beg to disagree with you sir, when you say men are not structured for one woman. What about God's Word that commands every man to have his own wife. God created human anatomy. Also, God created ONLY ONE WOMAN in the beginning for one man. WHY???.
Men who go for more than one woman, are just LOOSE men who are out of control with their sexual urges. That a man is not willing or cannot control themselves SEXUALLY, cannot be blamed on their anatomy in my opinion, rather on their bad choice of living a debauchery lifestyle and we see the negative consequences on their children and their spouses. No, I do not agree with you 👍.
Honestly sir it takes the spirit of God and decipline for a woman to be faithful to one man....... It's not easy...... Seriously....
Pst K, one more thing I think our princesses and queens needs to know is that we love to be the leader (head), even when they are more capable than us, they should learn to let the man lead or willfully delegate the leadership role to the woman.
It also means that women should stop chasing men, and let the men chase them.
Let me ask,a guy asks you to move on then comes back after some time.
You get back and he ghosts you.
Na women dey chase men before???🙄
@@RukkyDINMA move on my sister, he's not real
@@precioustayo5312 have you not heard? Not before, nowadays girls.
Interesting....
This is so apt and so enlightening and so balanced. Thank you!!!
Mmmmm I definitely leant a few new things today... OK ooo sorry I didn't know before but points definitely noted!!!😁😁👍🏿
Wooow this is deep and realistic
Adam was alone chewing grass😀😀😀
Wow is like you just read out my entire life in public 🙈
Wisdom point for me: I will prefer my man comes up to me if he thinks of cheating... so I can help him. it's not for me to get jealous of who he is thinking to cheat with. I hate lies. Infact I can smell it before it surfaces and I can pretend but I prefer he opens up.
So if the men like to cheat , then they shouldn't loss their heads when a wife cheats. PERIOD!
Some women want to cheat too. My God, if a woman cheats and her husband or man finds out... na divorce be that. He will never ever forgive you.
God bless u sir.... I love my space alotand i wish she can just understand
Deep content.💚 I'm a woman and I subscribe to everything said here. Women need knowledge of how men are structured and it is called WISDOM when you apply knowledge to hold things together. If you reject this knowledge as a woman, you'll most likely suffer bitterness which doesn't destroy the man but you.