This is so true. The first time I started going to the gym, I was 120 pounds. This Asian lady came up to me and said “what are you doing here? You’re already so small”. I was there to lift weights, not lose weight. Later on this black guy came up to me and said “chill out on the weights. Men don’t like women who have that much muscle”. He was just mad I was lifting more than him. Can’t please everybody. Oh and don’t let me take my shirt off in the gym. The fit people there love it, others get uncomfortable.
I literally saw a comment on another RUclips video today saying “i don’t want to be skinny because women get so jealous of me and they’re so nasty to me and men come in and out of my life and use me when im skinny, id rather be chubby”… so you’re spot on with this mindset that some people have 😂 not me though. When im a size 2 i get princess treatment everywhere i go and i love it
@@Audrey_1110 omg I am planning on doing a patreon episode soon about my favorite things about being thin. Extra princess treatment is definitely on the list !
@@ExoticalsUnitedWould I still be considered skinny if my thighs naturally are more prominent than my upper body not from fat but from genetics and soccer/football?
@sierra4763Yes, I naturally have a larger lower body Thighs/Butt, skinny everywhere else from genetics and volleyball. I believe people call it slim thick. I get told I’m a skeleton by everyone regardless.
When I was skinny it felt like I went through a different hell everyday, jealous girls in school, unwanted attention from all types of men and just overall too much attention and lots of assumptions of who I was as person from people who didn't even know me. You definitely have to have a strong mindset to remain sane as a beautiful woman, people just don't treat you right.
there are both good and bad, i get special treatment from random ppl and kids but have trouble finding good ppl to be friends with long term due to jealousy issues.
You are spot on. I was sa'd by my previous bf in 2016, since then i slowly started to gain weight and look awful. Also i quit smoking and that also made me eat a lot. Now i am on my journey to become myself again, but it's scary. Actually, before the accident i have never been fat.
Literally exact same thing happened to me. Got SA'd in Dec 2019-feb 2020 and slowly gained a bunch of weight from a fear response and wanting to disappear..I hope you're doing okay now
I was sa’d too in two different time periods by two different individuals. I could never understand why I gained weight & never could get motivated to lose the weight. They say weight gain is a response to trauma & I believe it. ❤❤❤❤
I’ve already lost friends and noticing haters arise just by me having more confidence in myself. I use it a fuel to lose more weight so then I really have the haters mad lol. 64 lbs down in counting 🥳
Yes!! I've been hiding myself for a long time because of too much attention and traumatic experiences. I feel isolated but safe. It's a catch 22 unfortunately.
I agree with the fat funny girl aspect. I noticed that many fat women fall into two types. The very loud funny colorful type or the very withdrawn socially awkward quiet type. Both types are trying to avoid people judging them. The fat funny one tries to benefit those around her to make them laugh so they will like her. They wear super loud zebra print, rainbow, neon colors because they already know their weight is very noticeable so they try to double down on it. Then the quiet one thinks she can fade into the background. Stay low and don’t ruffle any feathers so people won’t get upset with her and talk about her weight.
Unfortunately I was the first one. I’m naturally very extroverted so it just happened. My TikTok’s from the 2018-2021 era are so so so bad. I was like an ugly fat squawking parrot 🤦♀️ can’t believe I let people perceive me that way.
This is so true. I was at the gym last month and this girl who was fat came up to me to ask about the massage chairs I was on and if it was good. Keep in mind I’m trying to relax here. She came at me with aggressive energy which I don’t think she was aware she was giving off. Her tone of voice was really loud and obnoxious. I definitely felt it was her defense mechanism because the girl looked ready to go off on anyone.
For me it was very deep. When I was my most skinny and fit that’s when I finally had freedom to go out and I was SAd a lot. So I associate being skinny with vulnerability. I constantly have to affirm myself that I’m safe to be skinny and I’ve been losing the weight!
Truth. Was on my A game. Working out. Budgeting. Eating right. But I couldn’t manage the attention that came with it. This year I’m done guarding feelings. Putting me first again.
Oh, this is interesting. I'm losing weight *BECAUSE* I'm tired of broke men approaching me. It means I need to lose weight. I'll know I'm small enough when that ends.
The "bad bodied under the fat so just give up" argument is crazy because 82% of black women in the US are overweight. Literally just being a healthy weight and nothing else automatically makes you "above average" if that's what you care about.
Eu is eating them girls tf up!!! You’ve inspired me to stop drinking my calories so I’m doing dry January and I’m not drinking sugary drinks only water, fruit infused tea or black coffee and I’ve really been feeling the difference!🤍🤍🤍
Oh my gosh. I used to think I couldn’t change my body shape and it put me off trying, but I’ve learned to use weight training to recomp my body and now I’m hourglass ⌛️ it works!
Maybe you’ve always had that shape and never realized? I always thought you couldn’t change the shape or bone structure, if you have some tips please share if you like 👍🏾
@@Soutthdakotaa I’m definitely naturally an Apple shape 😭😭 broad shoulders and narrow hips. The narrow hips are still there but I’ve built the muscle closest to the hip, the gluteus Maximus, medius and minimus. So it creates the illusion that my hip jones protrude more than they do. Also you have to work the entire leg- hamstrings, quads and calves. So now my lower half matches my broad shoulders. Don’t progressive overload on the shoulders- high rep low weight tones the upper body. Progressive overload on the lower body and keep protein intake high. Do cardio fat burning like uphill walking to slim down the stomach, keep the waist synched, and for all over fatloss. Ta da!!! 🎉
@ ohhh girl look at you! You’re a proooo telling all this information cause I would’ve given up 😂. Thank you for the tips! I’ve been wanting to grow my glutes not very big but to have something there. It’s just that weight lifting is so boring to me! lol guess I’ma have to learn to like it if I wanna grow a booty.
Yesss saving for my session on my stationary bike tonight. I loveee the long skinny girl videos! They make it fun and easy to stay snatched ❤ I prefer long sessions at a comfortable pace vs fast and high intensity.
@@ExoticalsUnited yes! I prefer the thin model look over the muscular look personally... like a Zendaya body type. I've found long relaxed cardio and stretching gives that look. (Plus eating an above average diet obviously)
I gained 80 lbs over the course of 4 years at a job to hide and deflect attention. I didn’t KNOW that was the reason, but have since discovered it since losing weight.
Yes, I love it when you do fat/weight loss videos they always hit sis ❤💐, thank you for bringing up that point about being fat and poor. I feel like when you don’t know when your next meal is coming from you try to inhale as much food as possible in one sitting.
PLEASE make more videos like this🙏 tough love type content is needed. All the other RUclipsrs are too nice about weight loss and that does not work for me. I don’t need sympathy for being a fatass Edit: I had the most eye opening thought while watching this… when I’m skinny (I’m bmi 21 right now) I bet I’ll be able to find a higher paying job since recruiters find skinny people more capable and smart 🤯
Yeah. I’m not even going to lie. I don’t like people looking at me. I’ve lost quite a bit of weight and I notice more people noticing me. Pray for me. Thx !
For many, staying fat is also a reaction to abuse, humiliation, and mistreatment. The only attention some people received during their formative years, inside and outside the home, was negative attention... especially in the black CONmunity. So, why do anything that would get you MORE attention? Ditto for dressing well. That was my story at least.
So happy for this series, you got me motivated on the right path again, and I have really lost weight!! ( I have been listening these series) Guys, you don`t believe how happy I am. I have eat so much, but I eat vegetables, and they don`t have calories much at all. : ) Thank You So Much!
There is no country in the western world like America where you are sabotaged for your weightloss efforts. I saw how medium & small sized women, even the married ones were approached by attractive, professional men. It’s a crabs in a bucket mentality in America. I remember when I got down to 180lbs and I helped my mom get down to 150lbs my father created drama & emotional turmoil to the point my mom abandoned her healthy lifestyle. And later when I was 300lbs+ I was psychologically & emotionally sabotaged by older women. It’s like they know how to thwart your health journey because it’s emotional & psychological. When I traveled abroad my relatives & even total strangers supported me on my weightloss journey. If you are obese in America people do whatever thry can to keep you fat. When you say no to fatty foods & show you’re serious then they start leaving you alone. Thank you for sharing this video & really we need a woman like you advocating for women to strive to be healthy.
Love your videos they are really helping me with my weight loss journey. I was skinny all my life but since Covid lockdown I’ve gained so much and had so many issues with other people influencing me to keep eating. I was so depressed but now I’m getting back to my old self. I miss dressing nice and looking great. I have been too used to looking like a slob. No more.
@@ExoticalsUnited exactly! I was really playing the victim for too long and not changing my mindset. So tired of being around belugas telling me to keep overeating.. your videos are extremely motivating so thank you. Lost 5 pounds and I started last week!
I'm related to belugas. When I was at my heaviest, they never hesitated to tell me. But when I was staring to lose weight, the silence was deafening 🤣. And now it's "don't lose too much", that's how I know I'm on the right track😊 and I'll keep on losing it! The best of luck to anyone on such a journey☺️🙏❤
Got the same don’t lose too much weight when I was losing weight in my early 20s. The same women who told me don’t lose too much weight were making fun of my weight when I put on weight later on my 30s.
it's so true, what you said about social space and visibility. "me looking my worst doesn't change the world for the better" yup. it is not a great social strategy. it is reactive.
I weighed myself this morning, and I’m at 182 lbs! I just wanted to thank you for the videos you create. they’ve been such an inspiration to me. I’ve been following the delusional "skinny girl mindset," and it’s working like magic!
If Exoticals United has a million fans, I’m one of them If Exoticals United has 5 fans, I’m one of them If Exoticals United has one fan, it’s me. If Exoticals United has no fans, I’m no longer alive. If the world is against Exoticals United, I’m against the world. Exoticals United!!! Aaaayyyyy
Ibput on a lot of weight over the years from being in unhealthy sexual relationships and it took me ages to figure that out. I had no idea how much i used food as an emotional regulation. Especially after i quit smoking. Im down 80 lbs now and just 7 lbs away from being out of obesity. I have found that havening and EFT tapping have been so helpful with emotional regulation and they dont give me a stomach ache like a party size bag of lays potato chips.
Facts sis.....I think Thin privilege Trumps Pretty privilege....it's just not ok to be overweight/unhealthy.....a thin basic looking girl will still have the advantage over the "Big Girl" with a pretty face.....this is just reality.....that's why they feel so threatened by you getting fit/losing weight.....
I think thin privilege is essentially “pretty body privilege”, I feel like there’s a lot of intersectionality there . Because think about it .. there are women with gorgeous bodies and ugly faces who become multi millionaire corn stars… so … they’re still experiencing an aspect of pretty privilege , it just for their pretty body as opposed to their face . Maybe I’ll do a video about the different types of pretty body privilege because I do feel like there are different types .
Agreed.....I was just making a point to those......who think it's ok to be fat as long as they have a pretty face......in this comparison....the thin privilege is the one with the advantage
I will agree with this. I had lost a lot of weight at one point and got freaked out by the attention I started getting. It was nice but I just didn’t know how to receive It
Also grew up with a mother who never liked her body and taught my to no like mine. And now that I’m back on a weight loss journey I’m constantly told to “eat something” it’s so annoying.
Yesssss the first time I got skinny it was like there was a spotlight on me everywhere I went. I’d get compliments on the most random things. The hate I got from my family was unbearable ESPECIALLY my mother. She literally pulled me aside and screamed at me when I came to visit. I’m almost back at my goal weight now and I’ve spent years in therapy learning how to set boundaries so now when I go to visit her I’m gonna tell her if she makes any negative comments about my body I will leave and not see her again for another 5 years.
Honestly, when you are beautiful, even when you are fat, you are still beautiful. Beauty is in the face, the skin, hair and aura. So I was fat and it didn't really worked going unnoticed 🥴😬 Also, it would've been cool if those pickemes seeking attention women could get the attention of those stalkers. But it's not how it works. Now, I work on my security and glow up and getting away from dusties. Or protect myself from them when I can escape from them.
@@kantik2118 yes I agree, but this video is about THIN privilege, not the overall pretty privilege that you’re discussing in your comment . This video was created to give validation to thin women or women who want to be thin.
@@mjelani723 if you guys want to make more content for pretty plus size women feel free to do so. This video is about THIN women or women who are working towards being thin. I have the right to focus on validating whichever community I chose to in each video.
@exoticalsunited as you should. I’m agreeing with author bc it’s a unique pov and you’re right they should make content on what they want. and I think I will create content while still leveling up. So thank you for the encouragement
As an ESTP, I appreciate your candor. This is real talk. Edit: 17:51 Some are stereotypes, but some are statistics. Overweight people are considered risky to hire because they stastically are at work less due to calling out for appointments. Facts over feelings.
My dark skin mother always got anxiety whenever I would lose weight and start to look better. She would try to make a little comments like oh don’t lose too much weight. She hated that I got the attention from men that she and the women with her phenotype couldn’t get.
Gurl . being skinny is my rebellion when its gross being fat . Agree with the entj personality its either you can leave or get good insight (straightforward & no sugar coating) i can never stand the fat acceptance bull . Its always be fat its not good to be skinny being fat is a miserable life!!!
Girl!! Ever since i came back to my hometown to live with my family, i have noticed more and more stress, gaining weight , negative environment all the time. I feel like sometimes your own family( especially mom) doesn’t want you to grow. Family is also a reason for early aging, not growing and succeeding in life.
Talk about it last year summer (May to September) I was like 120-130 and I would get the most rancid stares from older woman and men with some creepy attention but I didn’t care because it was summer and my skin was glowing and water, fruits and veggies were the only thing on my mind but it’s deplorable that people can be so mean and rude to someone who just happens to exist.. maybe since I do carry my weight in my butt, boobs and lower region it’s more of an issue but it’s a win win because my waist was a 23.4 and my waist beads help emphasize my 30 inch hips 😽
Factsss. When I was heavy in high school I wasn’t a problem but one fake friend of mine always did weird stuff but once I decided to lose weight I asked that same girl because we lived a street apart and I said we can start in the summer time since we lived down the street from a football field I figured we can start off walking until we can run. The first month of summer I asked her everyday to come with me and she wouldn’t even tho she agreed originally. So the next month I stopped! When school came around I retired out for cheerleading and because I slimmed down so much I was able to do more during try out so I made it. That same friend the hate grew soooo real she started off by saying to me “don’t let the cheerleaders take you away from me” my response was “f them you my friend why would I forget about you” I sat with her still at lunch but I always was socially liked it just grew when I lost weight and I became the it girl I’m school to my surprise I didn’t try or treat ppl any different I just simply lost weight and everyone who I thought was my friend became extremely jealous and I had over looked it until I couldn’t anymore. Guys hated me and the girls. I was literally the kindest “it” girl I won homecoming 2 years in a row for prom my teachers didn’t want me to run and told me to let someone else win but I was late on signing up so I was ok about it but I know had I did I would’ve won too lol I was voted prettiest girl in the class etc. so much bs I went through because I wanted and NEEDED to be healthy . I was border line diabetic and had to start seeing a nutritionist and everything. My mom got me together a complete turn around she helped me and plus all the women in my family are fat but my mom I always seen her eat healthy she always baked I seen her workout so it was a matter of time I made that my life style as well. My mom didn’t over feed me either I snuck and ate and would use my money to by junk food eat it before I got home so she wouldn’t know and she would always tell me it’s baby fat when I would be sad but once it clicked for me to be better I was on it and haven’t got off that wagon since and I’m now 27! I❤❤❤❤ level up and leave ppl where they place themselves and it’s never your fault so don’t feel bad but be aware it’s gonna come !! Even from your peers who aren’t over weight so just be aware it don’t stop 🛑 ever ❤
I rather be skinny and know how to fight a potential rapist or a killer than be fat.I rather stay home all day and be skinny to avoid dangerous situations
Love this video you’re speaking facts you also had me cracking up at times 😂😅and I also had a family member who Always tell me I eat like a bird bt I’m small I’ve always been small I don’t eat that much and you told the TRUTH in a honest way they better take it or leave it
I didn’t stop eating meat or quit drinking for social reasons but I will say I do appreciate the unexpected advantage of being able to respond to those “well why don’t you just have some pork chops and my lard-cooked kale and a cocktail?!?” people with the simple statement I don’t eat meat/drink alcohol. Because if they keep pressuring you after that then someone will call them out for being an asshat so they usually shut up begrudgingly. If you’re vegan, vegetarian, pesco-vegetarian/pescetarian, or teetotal you get more ‘get of the conversation free’ cards
Once you fix your metabolism and your gut health like I did on an organic more animal based / primal / GAPS diet … it’s very easy to keep it off. I’ve had this experience of being treated worse the thinner and prettier I got. And fat people talking about how skinny I am And asking what’s my secret and they get mad asf when I told Them I ate eggs and bacon almost every morning and steak and tons of butter raw milk kefir beef tallow fat lmfao and ofc cutting out seed oils processed sugars and too many processed carbs. And added veggies fruits honey and fermented veggies too Then they try to argue with me and all the sudden are nutrition experts im like BRUH look at me then look at you wtf get over your own ego 😂
Ok so you like the SENSORY experience of food (taste and texture.) I’m the same way. I just found substitutes that provide the same taste and texture but are lower in calories and sugar .
My mom like to say I'm going to big or I'm fat because I eat a lot. But I'm not big at all I literally fit into a small. I just gain weight on my stomach and thighs easily. Yet when Im working out and loosing weight she tells me not to loose too much weight. It hurts my feeling a lot of the time. Because instead of motivating me now you just want to keep me down. I hate her sometimes because of this.
I came to this conclusion and i still havent been able to shake myself out of it. The hostilities are too much as i can be sensitive. But i know thats not winner mindset
7:04 So true, I had a ex he was obsessed with feeding me food all the time and seeing if I’ve put on weight. He would always talk about the TV show called “feeders”. I quickly got away. I was 20, 5’8 weighing 176 pounds very curvy. I didn’t need to put on more weight.
0:48 this itself it’s true. Let’s take the pop star entertainers for example, they lose a drastic amount of weight and get more attention and notoriety than they did before they lost the weight 3:55 and THISSS! History switching itself bc it used to be you’re viewed poor if you’re skinny/thin but NOW being thin is viewed as being rich 😅 13:47 I totally agree with this 💯💯 21:32 I agree with this too, when I’m underweight which would be under 145 pounds (it could even be 144 pounds) ppl treat me WAYYYY different than if I’m just under 150 pounds which isn’t too bad but it isn’t as good as they treat me when I’m under 145 pounds 😅 ( I used to be 183 pounds 5 years ago so 150 is the weight I tend to stop and start maintenance so I don’t let myself go)
I have been cutting my calories by 25% for the last two months and nothing is happening on the scales. I’m measuring everything and counting everything. I went from 10st to 8st 9 years ago at 5’5, then three years later went up to 10.5st. I’m now 10st but nothing is changing. I really think I have a hypothyroid problem :( I have an inverted triangle shape with fat arms and it sucks :(
Do you have a scale that measures muscle and body fat? Your fat could be going down and your muscle going up with no change in weight. Use a tape measure also.
Many women let themselves go or gain weight on purpose in the hopes that it will make them unattractive because they think being undesirable by men will reduce the likelihood that they are SA'd again. You need to be careful how you frame this discusssion. Several opinions you shared on this topic don't stand up under the weight of academic scrutiny. There are literally millions in therapy for this very set of issues.
I’d like to add as well for women, those that have menstrual cycles your body is constantly changing throughout the month based on your phases. Being fat ON TOP of that with your hormones all messes up. Your blood sugar is crazy high, higher cortisol levels (stress hormone) disrupting your estrogen, progesterone, etc. on top of you having to thug it out working 40hrs a week to survive. You’re running yourself into the ground. The least you can do is take the weight of being fat off your plate.
Can i ask something recently after some soul searching i realised the reason thats keeping me from being actually skinny is i am scared i will still be unattractive to everyone. I am still healthy i onky weigh 130lbs at 5'6 but all my life i thought that if i loat the last 10 pounds i will be pretty but what if i am not? Then there is nothing i can do. Idk hoe to ocercome this.
I agree, but this is a sociology channel where we talk about the realities of society. Society is fatphobic . So this video is for the women who choose NOT to deal with fat phobia and they’re opting for thin privilege instead .
I agree with you 💯🫶🏾🙏🏾 I feel women’s organic natural and spiritual responsibility is to be their most physically attractive healthy fit beautiful self and that is the truth but a lot of women have fell for the patriarchal trick of denying their femininity and power.
You technically can you’d just have to get a surgery (and it’s understandable that you wouldn’t wanna do that.) so you’d just have to try to work around it
being overweight is a trauma response from your body. the body keeps score. your body gains weight making a protective shield around you.
Some people been fat their entire lives.
@ then they most likely experienced childhood trauma
That's not true
This is so true. The first time I started going to the gym, I was 120 pounds. This Asian lady came up to me and said “what are you doing here? You’re already so small”. I was there to lift weights, not lose weight. Later on this black guy came up to me and said “chill out on the weights. Men don’t like women who have that much muscle”. He was just mad I was lifting more than him. Can’t please everybody.
Oh and don’t let me take my shirt off in the gym. The fit people there love it, others get uncomfortable.
That black dude better stay out of the gyms then if he hates seeing muscled women wtf
The Asian lady was probably genuinely confused. The black guy was probably a dusty and was projecting his Shaniqua beauty standards onto you.
I literally saw a comment on another RUclips video today saying “i don’t want to be skinny because women get so jealous of me and they’re so nasty to me and men come in and out of my life and use me when im skinny, id rather be chubby”… so you’re spot on with this mindset that some people have 😂 not me though. When im a size 2 i get princess treatment everywhere i go and i love it
Hey can you help me how to identify my body size like how much weight comes under size 0,1,2?
@@Audrey_1110 omg I am planning on doing a patreon episode soon about my favorite things about being thin. Extra princess treatment is definitely on the list !
@@Channel10-d1z1m your body size in relation to dress size depends on your height.
@@ExoticalsUnitedWould I still be considered skinny if my thighs naturally are more prominent than my upper body not from fat but from genetics and soccer/football?
@sierra4763Yes, I naturally have a larger lower body Thighs/Butt, skinny everywhere else from genetics and volleyball. I believe people call it slim thick. I get told I’m a skeleton by everyone regardless.
When I was skinny it felt like I went through a different hell everyday, jealous girls in school, unwanted attention from all types of men and just overall too much attention and lots of assumptions of who I was as person from people who didn't even know me. You definitely have to have a strong mindset to remain sane as a beautiful woman, people just don't treat you right.
there are both good and bad, i get special treatment from random ppl and kids but have trouble finding good ppl to be friends with long term due to jealousy issues.
I have a cute face so women still gonna be jealous whether I have Victoria Secret body or not and men will come up. We just have to sort
You are spot on. I was sa'd by my previous bf in 2016, since then i slowly started to gain weight and look awful. Also i quit smoking and that also made me eat a lot. Now i am on my journey to become myself again, but it's scary. Actually, before the accident i have never been fat.
💔💔💔 i’m so sorrry this happened to you love & good luck on your journey love
Wishing you the best in your recovery and journey ml ❤
Literally exact same thing happened to me. Got SA'd in Dec 2019-feb 2020 and slowly gained a bunch of weight from a fear response and wanting to disappear..I hope you're doing okay now
@ oh thank you! I hope you are okay too❤️🫂
I was sa’d too in two different time periods by two different individuals. I could never understand why I gained weight & never could get motivated to lose the weight. They say weight gain is a response to trauma & I believe it. ❤❤❤❤
I’ve already lost friends and noticing haters arise just by me having more confidence in myself. I use it a fuel to lose more weight so then I really have the haters mad lol. 64 lbs down in counting 🥳
Yasss!! Come out looking brand new
Yessss honey! I went from 230 to 125. Keep going! The better you look the more the haters stay in their place.
Rip me out the plastic I been acting brand new 🎁
Well done that's a lot of weight lost, u must feel amazing 👏
Yes!! I've been hiding myself for a long time because of too much attention and traumatic experiences. I feel isolated but safe. It's a catch 22 unfortunately.
Saving this for after work stair master
@@habibtiz4335 yay! 😀
Saving this for my after work weighted uphill walk on the treadmill
Oh my gosh, I watch her videos while I’m on the stairmaster too sis get in to it
@@cesargalvan9808 yes queen
I agree with the fat funny girl aspect. I noticed that many fat women fall into two types. The very loud funny colorful type or the very withdrawn socially awkward quiet type. Both types are trying to avoid people judging them. The fat funny one tries to benefit those around her to make them laugh so they will like her. They wear super loud zebra print, rainbow, neon colors because they already know their weight is very noticeable so they try to double down on it. Then the quiet one thinks she can fade into the background. Stay low and don’t ruffle any feathers so people won’t get upset with her and talk about her weight.
Unfortunately I was the first one. I’m naturally very extroverted so it just happened. My TikTok’s from the 2018-2021 era are so so so bad. I was like an ugly fat squawking parrot 🤦♀️ can’t believe I let people perceive me that way.
This is so true. I was at the gym last month and this girl who was fat came up to me to ask about the massage chairs I was on and if it was good. Keep in mind I’m trying to relax here. She came at me with aggressive energy which I don’t think she was aware she was giving off. Her tone of voice was really loud and obnoxious. I definitely felt it was her defense mechanism because the girl looked ready to go off on anyone.
For me it was very deep. When I was my most skinny and fit that’s when I finally had freedom to go out and I was SAd a lot. So I associate being skinny with vulnerability. I constantly have to affirm myself that I’m safe to be skinny and I’ve been losing the weight!
Does anyone else listen to her Skinny-Girl Series while exercising? ❤
Mee!
@@exoticalxixi aw I will have to make more videos like this then!
I do, it gives me motivation to finish my workout.
me
This series is my go-to on the treadmill 😭😭🫶🏾 please keep making these
As someone who has had body image issues since the age of 10 you are spot on right. I'm working on healing my core wounds surrounding this problem.
Same. It's sad and exhausting that I've struggled with these issues since I was a kid.
Same
Truth. Was on my A game. Working out. Budgeting. Eating right. But I couldn’t manage the attention that came with it. This year I’m done guarding feelings. Putting me first again.
Congrats on leveling up again
Oh, this is interesting. I'm losing weight *BECAUSE* I'm tired of broke men approaching me. It means I need to lose weight. I'll know I'm small enough when that ends.
Right
Keep going 💪🏼
@NicHudsonValley Thank you!
I am 44 years old, and I refuse to ever let myself go I have been pretty all my life and I refuse to become a BIG BACK .
Amen! #LittleBootiesUnited 💅🏽
@ Thank you for making this channel ☺
The "bad bodied under the fat so just give up" argument is crazy because 82% of black women in the US are overweight. Literally just being a healthy weight and nothing else automatically makes you "above average" if that's what you care about.
Yes I agree ! I would rather be bad bodied and have a healthy weight than bad bodied and obese , like, pick a struggle
Eu is eating them girls tf up!!! You’ve inspired me to stop drinking my calories so I’m doing dry January and I’m not drinking sugary drinks only water, fruit infused tea or black coffee and I’ve really been feeling the difference!🤍🤍🤍
Keep up the amazing work! 😻
Oh my gosh. I used to think I couldn’t change my body shape and it put me off trying, but I’ve learned to use weight training to recomp my body and now I’m hourglass ⌛️ it works!
Congrats ! 🎊 stay pretty 🤩
@@ExoticalsUnited yes Ma’am!
Maybe you’ve always had that shape and never realized? I always thought you couldn’t change the shape or bone structure, if you have some tips please share if you like 👍🏾
@@Soutthdakotaa I’m definitely naturally an Apple shape 😭😭 broad shoulders and narrow hips. The narrow hips are still there but I’ve built the muscle closest to the hip, the gluteus Maximus, medius and minimus. So it creates the illusion that my hip jones protrude more than they do. Also you have to work the entire leg- hamstrings, quads and calves. So now my lower half matches my broad shoulders. Don’t progressive overload on the shoulders- high rep low weight tones the upper body. Progressive overload on the lower body and keep protein intake high. Do cardio fat burning like uphill walking to slim down the stomach, keep the waist synched, and for all over fatloss. Ta da!!! 🎉
@ ohhh girl look at you! You’re a proooo telling all this information cause I would’ve given up 😂. Thank you for the tips! I’ve been wanting to grow my glutes not very big but to have something there. It’s just that weight lifting is so boring to me! lol guess I’ma have to learn to like it if I wanna grow a booty.
Yesss saving for my session on my stationary bike tonight. I loveee the long skinny girl videos! They make it fun and easy to stay snatched ❤ I prefer long sessions at a comfortable pace vs fast and high intensity.
Omg same ! I like long walks instead of weight lifting for example.
@@ExoticalsUnited yes! I prefer the thin model look over the muscular look personally... like a Zendaya body type. I've found long relaxed cardio and stretching gives that look. (Plus eating an above average diet obviously)
I gained 80 lbs over the course of 4 years at a job to hide and deflect attention. I didn’t KNOW that was the reason, but have since discovered it since losing weight.
Wow . Well kudos to you because it sounds like you’re very self aware . That’s a good quality to have
How to go from a Beluga mindset to a Barbie mindset ❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️ love love love this ! This should be your next video ✨
Yes, I love it when you do fat/weight loss videos they always hit sis ❤💐, thank you for bringing up that point about being fat and poor. I feel like when you don’t know when your next meal is coming from you try to inhale as much food as possible in one sitting.
PLEASE make more videos like this🙏 tough love type content is needed. All the other RUclipsrs are too nice about weight loss and that does not work for me. I don’t need sympathy for being a fatass
Edit: I had the most eye opening thought while watching this… when I’m skinny (I’m bmi 21 right now) I bet I’ll be able to find a higher paying job since recruiters find skinny people more capable and smart 🤯
True body positivity is taking care of yourself.
This video motivates me to work hard to keep my shape.
Yeah. I’m not even going to lie. I don’t like people looking at me. I’ve lost quite a bit of weight and I notice more people noticing me. Pray for me. Thx !
I feel ya. Hope you get better
For many, staying fat is also a reaction to abuse, humiliation, and mistreatment. The only attention some people received during their formative years, inside and outside the home, was negative attention... especially in the black CONmunity. So, why do anything that would get you MORE attention? Ditto for dressing well. That was my story at least.
I love listening to things like this while working out in the gym.
So happy for this series, you got me motivated on the right path again, and I have really lost weight!! ( I have been listening these series) Guys, you don`t believe how happy I am. I have eat so much, but I eat vegetables, and they don`t have calories much at all. : ) Thank You So Much!
There is no country in the western world like America where you are sabotaged for your weightloss efforts. I saw how medium & small sized women, even the married ones were approached by attractive, professional men.
It’s a crabs in a bucket mentality in America. I remember when I got down to 180lbs and I helped my mom get down to 150lbs my father created drama & emotional turmoil to the point my mom abandoned her healthy lifestyle.
And later when I was 300lbs+ I was psychologically & emotionally sabotaged by older women. It’s like they know how to thwart your health journey because it’s emotional & psychological.
When I traveled abroad my relatives & even total strangers supported me on my weightloss journey. If you are obese in America people do whatever thry can to keep you fat. When you say no to fatty foods & show you’re serious then they start leaving you alone.
Thank you for sharing this video & really we need a woman like you advocating for women to strive to be healthy.
Yep, I noticed in the workplace that food pushers can't stand me. I'm losing weight and it's showing.
I love your channel so much because you clock everyone tea lmao like my jaw be dropping
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Love your videos they are really helping me with my weight loss journey. I was skinny all my life but since Covid lockdown I’ve gained so much and had so many issues with other people influencing me to keep eating. I was so depressed but now I’m getting back to my old self. I miss dressing nice and looking great. I have been too used to looking like a slob. No more.
Keep up the hard work! It’s important to remember it’s your life and your journey. I was chunky during Covid too!
@@ExoticalsUnited exactly! I was really playing the victim for too long and not changing my mindset. So tired of being around belugas telling me to keep overeating.. your videos are extremely motivating so thank you. Lost 5 pounds and I started last week!
Your psychological understanding of girls and how their mind works is on another level💯you spot on described everything I'm going through.
I'm related to belugas. When I was at my heaviest, they never hesitated to tell me. But when I was staring to lose weight, the silence was deafening 🤣. And now it's "don't lose too much", that's how I know I'm on the right track😊 and I'll keep on losing it!
The best of luck to anyone on such a journey☺️🙏❤
Right they love to say don't loose to much. Yet be the first ones to call you fat. I hate everyone so much when they do this crap.
Got the same don’t lose too much weight when I was losing weight in my early 20s. The same women who told me don’t lose too much weight were making fun of my weight when I put on weight later on my 30s.
it's so true, what you said about social space and visibility.
"me looking my worst doesn't change the world for the better"
yup. it is not a great social strategy. it is reactive.
Girl, I've been thinking about this A LOT lately. Thank you for your content. It's exactly what I needed to help motivate me to become my best self.
I weighed myself this morning, and I’m at 182 lbs!
I just wanted to thank you for the videos you create. they’ve been such an inspiration to me. I’ve been following the delusional "skinny girl mindset," and it’s working like magic!
If Exoticals United has a million fans, I’m one of them
If Exoticals United has 5 fans, I’m one of them
If Exoticals United has one fan, it’s me.
If Exoticals United has no fans, I’m no longer alive.
If the world is against Exoticals United, I’m against the world.
Exoticals United!!! Aaaayyyyy
Listening during my run 😈😈
Yay 😀
Ibput on a lot of weight over the years from being in unhealthy sexual relationships and it took me ages to figure that out. I had no idea how much i used food as an emotional regulation. Especially after i quit smoking. Im down 80 lbs now and just 7 lbs away from being out of obesity. I have found that havening and EFT tapping have been so helpful with emotional regulation and they dont give me a stomach ache like a party size bag of lays potato chips.
Facts sis.....I think Thin privilege Trumps Pretty privilege....it's just not ok to be overweight/unhealthy.....a thin basic looking girl will still have the advantage over the "Big Girl" with a pretty face.....this is just reality.....that's why they feel so threatened by you getting fit/losing weight.....
I think thin privilege is essentially “pretty body privilege”, I feel like there’s a lot of intersectionality there . Because think about it .. there are women with gorgeous bodies and ugly faces who become multi millionaire corn stars… so … they’re still experiencing an aspect of pretty privilege , it just for their pretty body as opposed to their face . Maybe I’ll do a video about the different types of pretty body privilege because I do feel like there are different types .
Agreed.....I was just making a point to those......who think it's ok to be fat as long as they have a pretty face......in this comparison....the thin privilege is the one with the advantage
I will agree with this. I had lost a lot of weight at one point and got freaked out by the attention I started getting. It was nice but I just didn’t know how to receive It
Also grew up with a mother who never liked her body and taught my to no like mine. And now that I’m back on a weight loss journey I’m constantly told to “eat something” it’s so annoying.
This title describes me. 😩 But I’m working on it. Your videos always give me a good laugh.
You've got this! I believe in you 💪
Yesssss the first time I got skinny it was like there was a spotlight on me everywhere I went. I’d get compliments on the most random things. The hate I got from my family was unbearable ESPECIALLY my mother. She literally pulled me aside and screamed at me when I came to visit. I’m almost back at my goal weight now and I’ve spent years in therapy learning how to set boundaries so now when I go to visit her I’m gonna tell her if she makes any negative comments about my body I will leave and not see her again for another 5 years.
Honestly, when you are beautiful, even when you are fat, you are still beautiful. Beauty is in the face, the skin, hair and aura. So I was fat and it didn't really worked going unnoticed 🥴😬
Also, it would've been cool if those pickemes seeking attention women could get the attention of those stalkers. But it's not how it works.
Now, I work on my security and glow up and getting away from dusties. Or protect myself from them when I can escape from them.
This viewpoint is not emphasized enough
@@kantik2118 yes I agree, but this video is about THIN privilege, not the overall pretty privilege that you’re discussing in your comment . This video was created to give validation to thin women or women who want to be thin.
@@mjelani723 if you guys want to make more content for pretty plus size women feel free to do so. This video is about THIN women or women who are working towards being thin. I have the right to focus on validating whichever community I chose to in each video.
@exoticalsunited as you should. I’m agreeing with author bc it’s a unique pov and you’re right they should make content on what they want. and I think I will create content while still leveling up. So thank you for the encouragement
As an ESTP, I appreciate your candor. This is real talk. Edit:
17:51 Some are stereotypes, but some are statistics. Overweight people are considered risky to hire because they stastically are at work less due to calling out for appointments. Facts over feelings.
My dark skin mother always got anxiety whenever I would lose weight and start to look better. She would try to make a little comments like oh don’t lose too much weight. She hated that I got the attention from men that she and the women with her phenotype couldn’t get.
I love these videos, keep em coming!!!
Serena from gossip girl is a good example. Women were always trying to take her down. She got everything she wanted without trying hard.
Yes !
She's really pretty
that’s why i cleanse every 3 days ! 😂
How do you cleanse? 👀
Tell us the deets!
She said it 👏🏼
Gurl . being skinny is my rebellion when its gross being fat . Agree with the entj personality its either you can leave or get good insight (straightforward & no sugar coating) i can never stand the fat acceptance bull . Its always be fat its not good to be skinny being fat is a miserable life!!!
Girl!! Ever since i came back to my hometown to live with my family, i have noticed more and more stress, gaining weight , negative environment all the time. I feel like sometimes your own family( especially mom) doesn’t want you to grow. Family is also a reason for early aging, not growing and succeeding in life.
Talk about it last year summer (May to September) I was like 120-130 and I would get the most rancid stares from older woman and men with some creepy attention but I didn’t care because it was summer and my skin was glowing and water, fruits and veggies were the only thing on my mind but it’s deplorable that people can be so mean and rude to someone who just happens to exist.. maybe since I do carry my weight in my butt, boobs and lower region it’s more of an issue but it’s a win win because my waist was a 23.4 and my waist beads help emphasize my 30 inch hips 😽
I love these videos
Yessssss back to these videos 🎉❤
Factsss. When I was heavy in high school I wasn’t a problem but one fake friend of mine always did weird stuff but once I decided to lose weight I asked that same girl because we lived a street apart and I said we can start in the summer time since we lived down the street from a football field I figured we can start off walking until we can run. The first month of summer I asked her everyday to come with me and she wouldn’t even tho she agreed originally. So the next month I stopped! When school came around I retired out for cheerleading and because I slimmed down so much I was able to do more during try out so I made it. That same friend the hate grew soooo real she started off by saying to me “don’t let the cheerleaders take you away from me” my response was “f them you my friend why would I forget about you” I sat with her still at lunch but I always was socially liked it just grew when I lost weight and I became the it girl I’m school to my surprise I didn’t try or treat ppl any different I just simply lost weight and everyone who I thought was my friend became extremely jealous and I had over looked it until I couldn’t anymore. Guys hated me and the girls. I was literally the kindest “it” girl I won homecoming 2 years in a row for prom my teachers didn’t want me to run and told me to let someone else win but I was late on signing up so I was ok about it but I know had I did I would’ve won too lol I was voted prettiest girl in the class etc. so much bs I went through because I wanted and NEEDED to be healthy . I was border line diabetic and had to start seeing a nutritionist and everything. My mom got me together a complete turn around she helped me and plus all the women in my family are fat but my mom I always seen her eat healthy she always baked I seen her workout so it was a matter of time I made that my life style as well. My mom didn’t over feed me either I snuck and ate and would use my money to by junk food eat it before I got home so she wouldn’t know and she would always tell me it’s baby fat when I would be sad but once it clicked for me to be better I was on it and haven’t got off that wagon since and I’m now 27! I❤❤❤❤ level up and leave ppl where they place themselves and it’s never your fault so don’t feel bad but be aware it’s gonna come !! Even from your peers who aren’t over weight so just be aware it don’t stop 🛑 ever ❤
I rather be skinny and know how to fight a potential rapist or a killer than be fat.I rather stay home all day and be skinny to avoid dangerous situations
Everything you’re saying is so true!
Listening to this while work-outing with my Pilates bar. ❤
I had a cheat day today (my weekly calorie avg was a bit low) and this video kept me from going overboard ☺️
Listening to this while I drink my water
Getting bullied and harassed but getting treated better when you look better.
Lmaoo you was going in🤣🤣😭
How do you deal with male attention?
Love this video you’re speaking facts you also had me cracking up at times 😂😅and I also had a family member who Always tell me I eat like a bird bt I’m small I’ve always been small I don’t eat that much and you told the TRUTH in a honest way they better take it or leave it
i feel like im on facetime
I’m skinny but dress so ugly, like I’m fat. Thankyou I needed this
Listening to this while eating vegetables and zero calorie tea! 👍
I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL BABE
Love to listen this video while walking my steps, is a motivation ❤
I didn’t stop eating meat or quit drinking for social reasons but I will say I do appreciate the unexpected advantage of being able to respond to those “well why don’t you just have some pork chops and my lard-cooked kale and a cocktail?!?” people with the simple statement I don’t eat meat/drink alcohol. Because if they keep pressuring you after that then someone will call them out for being an asshat so they usually shut up begrudgingly.
If you’re vegan, vegetarian, pesco-vegetarian/pescetarian, or teetotal you get more ‘get of the conversation free’ cards
Listening while walking and had a Arugula and chicken salad with no fattning ranch dressing🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉i dont want to look like the Country butkin😅🤣
Oooooooooh I LOVE arugula ! People sleep on arugula . They don’t give her the credit she deserves. 🥗
How do you not be afraid of attention?
Once you fix your metabolism and your gut health like I did on an organic more animal based / primal / GAPS diet … it’s very easy to keep it off. I’ve had this experience of being treated worse the thinner and prettier I got. And fat people talking about how skinny I am
And asking what’s my secret and they get mad asf when I told
Them
I ate eggs and bacon almost every morning and steak and tons of butter raw milk kefir beef tallow fat lmfao and ofc cutting out seed oils processed sugars and too many processed carbs. And added veggies fruits honey and fermented veggies too
Then they try to argue with me and all the sudden are nutrition experts im like BRUH look at me then look at you wtf get over your own ego 😂
They have all the solution all of a sudden but don't apply it.
Love this way of eating!
@@ms.rivera7898 yup it’s the only thing that’s really worked for me
Im fat cuz i just like food lol
And how’s that treating you in life?
Ok so you like the SENSORY experience of food (taste and texture.) I’m the same way. I just found substitutes that provide the same taste and texture but are lower in calories and sugar .
My mom like to say I'm going to big or I'm fat because I eat a lot. But I'm not big at all I literally fit into a small. I just gain weight on my stomach and thighs easily. Yet when Im working out and loosing weight she tells me not to loose too much weight. It hurts my feeling a lot of the time. Because instead of motivating me now you just want to keep me down. I hate her sometimes because of this.
Not 5 boxes if cookies 😂
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no your actually right ..
I came to this conclusion and i still havent been able to shake myself out of it. The hostilities are too much as i can be sensitive. But i know thats not winner mindset
You are definitely my favorite skinny queen content creator! 🎉
Aw thank you beautiful !
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7:04 So true, I had a ex he was obsessed with feeding me food all the time and seeing if I’ve put on weight. He would always talk about the TV show called “feeders”. I quickly got away. I was 20, 5’8 weighing 176 pounds very curvy. I didn’t need to put on more weight.
This is the video I needed to hear ♥️
0:48 this itself it’s true. Let’s take the pop star entertainers for example, they lose a drastic amount of weight and get more attention and notoriety than they did before they lost the weight 3:55 and THISSS! History switching itself bc it used to be you’re viewed poor if you’re skinny/thin but NOW being thin is viewed as being rich 😅 13:47 I totally agree with this 💯💯 21:32 I agree with this too, when I’m underweight which would be under 145 pounds (it could even be 144 pounds) ppl treat me WAYYYY different than if I’m just under 150 pounds which isn’t too bad but it isn’t as good as they treat me when I’m under 145 pounds 😅 ( I used to be 183 pounds 5 years ago so 150 is the weight I tend to stop and start maintenance so I don’t let myself go)
I have been cutting my calories by 25% for the last two months and nothing is happening on the scales. I’m measuring everything and counting everything. I went from 10st to 8st 9 years ago at 5’5, then three years later went up to 10.5st. I’m now 10st but nothing is changing. I really think I have a hypothyroid problem :( I have an inverted triangle shape with fat arms and it sucks :(
Do you have a scale that measures muscle and body fat? Your fat could be going down and your muscle going up with no change in weight. Use a tape measure also.
Oh no! I hope you make a doctors appointment soon!
Get your hormones checked too if your hormones are not where they are supposed to be you will not lose weight and possibly even gain weight.
Are you measuring in grams ?
@@DevinDomino yup, I’ve always been a religious measurer
Many women let themselves go or gain weight on purpose in the hopes that it will make them unattractive because they think being undesirable by men will reduce the likelihood that they are SA'd again. You need to be careful how you frame this discusssion. Several opinions you shared on this topic don't stand up under the weight of academic scrutiny. There are literally millions in therapy for this very set of issues.
I could take so much out of that and I am skinny myself.
Damn you’re right
I’d like to add as well for women, those that have menstrual cycles your body is constantly changing throughout the month based on your phases. Being fat ON TOP of that with your hormones all messes up. Your blood sugar is crazy high, higher cortisol levels (stress hormone) disrupting your estrogen, progesterone, etc. on top of you having to thug it out working 40hrs a week to survive. You’re running yourself into the ground.
The least you can do is take the weight of being fat off your plate.
Can i ask something recently after some soul searching i realised the reason thats keeping me from being actually skinny is i am scared i will still be unattractive to everyone. I am still healthy i onky weigh 130lbs at 5'6 but all my life i thought that if i loat the last 10 pounds i will be pretty but what if i am not? Then there is nothing i can do. Idk hoe to ocercome this.
Lose it and see
You don't know me lol. Jk but yea you are so right.
Praising certain bodies over others and setting a standard in general is just weird altogether…
I agree, but this is a sociology channel where we talk about the realities of society. Society is fatphobic . So this video is for the women who choose NOT to deal with fat phobia and they’re opting for thin privilege instead .
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I agree with you 💯🫶🏾🙏🏾 I feel women’s organic natural and spiritual responsibility is to be their most physically attractive healthy fit beautiful self and that is the truth but a lot of women have fell for the patriarchal trick of denying their femininity and power.
I feel myself getting skinner just listening to your video ❤😂
It is impossible for me to reduce my shoulders, though 🥲 i wish. Always been skinny but body shape cant be good
You technically can you’d just have to get a surgery (and it’s understandable that you wouldn’t wanna do that.) so you’d just have to try to work around it