This is accurate. I've been called uppity by family before. I'll admit I'm a little on the boujee side and embracing it more. Keep up the great content girl. 💅🏾💅🏾💕💕
I was betrayed by close friends. It came as a shock because I had no idea they saw me as a threat. I’ve also been bullied by coworkers & female family members who were mad because I was moving up & trying to better myself. I don’t compete with other women, & never understood the need to do so.
@@dollhouseq1530 well mY mom is not "black", yet she BAD & plus we have NO community support since we're not black and blacks are always saying they have it worst & jealous of our apparent " privilege " 🙄😒👎🏼
I’ll never forget the mistreatment of other women and how they’ve outcasted me simply for being feminine. It’s so isolating and hurtful. I even buckled under the pressure and toned it down to avoid being treated that way. I lost myself and will never do it again.
Same, it was at a job I needed at that time, so I put up with it for more time than I wished, so glad that season is over and will never dim my light like that again, ever!
An interesting thing happened to me a couple of years ago: I became less available. I’ve had to say “no” more often so I’m no longer the one showing up early to set up for parties or do favors. Wouldn’t you know that as soon as my labor was no longer readily available, many of my “friends” have been MIA?
Ladies, this message is the truth. In my life I've had women say things to me that started out, Nobody: Them: "I can't wear all that makeup" - "I don't have time to be in the hair salon all day" - "I can't walk around in heels, I need to be comfortable" - "Girl you stay shopping, I just wear what's in my closet" Me (Thinking): I didn't ask you nor did I suggest you do anything I'm doing, but thanks for the compliment that you actually didn't give. I'm 59 and will never stop having self- compassion, self-care, and self-love. I own my looks, my style, and my femininity. ❤ You should too. Stay focused on the inside and how you show up. What they say on the outside isn't any of your business. 💅🏾
I'm 36, unmarried, and not in a relationship - yet. But that doesn't mean I'll let negativity ruin my chances of building a happy life with a husband and children, if that's what I want. Jealousy is natural; it reveals what we deeply desire. However, when it turns toxic - hate-watching, wishing ill luck, or coveting others' success - that's when it becomes destructive. Self-reflection and growth are key. Marriage and children bring joy, but they're not the only sources of happiness. Let's defy societal pressure and focus on our own paths. To every woman surpassing the 'marriageable age,' I wish love and happiness, whether traditionally or unconventionally. Your narrative is yours alone; don't let the world define it.
Yes! All of my friends who are married and have children have been telling me to take my time for a decade now! My girlfriends who were full of life before marriage seem so unhappy with their husbands: weight gain; passive aggressive comments towards their spouse; tiredness from caring for children alone. It’s not exactly what they expected it would be!
I am so glad this popped up on my thread. I’ve cut off many hateful friends who were constantly trying to take advantage of me while downplaying my success, beauty and knowledge. I don’t share anything I have anymore and I only want to be in safe environments with like minds. Now I move in silence. Best decision Ive ever made.
as you get older, those people become so pointless once you focus on all the good you are building around you. i’m closer to starting a whole family, a whole bloodline directly from my belly.. do you know how amazing that is.. can’t always worry about everything, when we should focus more on what’s within.
Stubborness is a downfall. I had a friend give me "advice" that almost cost me my marriage. Will never take such "advice" this woman told me to my face "im jealous of you and what you have going on here" i decided to give this frenemy another chance. They have a monitoring spirit im keeping away.
I feel like a lot of women subconsciously want other women to be as unhappy as them. That’s why you see a lot of the “drop him! Could never be me!” comments online when it comes to relationships, completely ignoring the reality that relationships are not perfect and there are high/low moments. But I have realized a lot of ppl in today’s day and age is heavily influenced by online discourse, but the problem is, not everything online translates well in real life. I feel like that’s one of the reasons why there is a dating/relationship/loneliness epidemic.
I work with one of these insecure women. She is the boss’s wife and she always has it in for me. She’s insecure about her looks and does everything she can to make me look incompetent to her husband. It’s been a nightmare working with them ever since they got married.
Be careful and make sure you leave a footprint everywhere. People like that tend to create a scenario where you can be blamed for something once they see you’re not going to fail or mess up.
@@VerleanHurd I agree. But you know what there is nothing physical attractive nor intellectual attractive about him. She started out as his assistant while he was still married to his first wife ( and he has 2 children with his first wife) and then they started dating and eventually they got married.
The more I'm online and see nasty comments, also thinking about real life, I actually find that not only do I avoid hateful men who are growing more and more dangerous, but find most women including so called friends DON'T wish you well and want to see you fail, are petty, jealous and just mean and can't mind their own business. Everyone is exhausting. I just wanna stay indoors and am okay with not having friends, but rather well distanced aquintances. 😅
My biggest haters are indeed the women in my family. Never understood it, and it broke my heart. My godmother said they all saw the potential in me to blossom. I see it as clear as day now. I've never been jealous of anyone, so i had to distance myself. This video put a lot into perspective. ❤❤❤
_The desire for social power will always divide women as women are comparative and competitive when it comes to the male gaze and are even more aggressive when it comes to acquire men's resources._ *Never forget it. Never.*
Wow this was deep. I will leave people where they are and eventually they recognize that I’m gone. People who mean you harm don’t deserve an explanation at all. When I run into them again I’m always cordial but brief with them. They will never get access to me again and it’s okay. People come and people go. The ones who stay were meant to be there.
Over the past two years I took year advice and re-emerged into society....I'm a much thinner and softer version of myself and now all the "feminine" women who used to be nice to now give me the CRAZIEST looks, recently over the past month. Imma keep showing up and makin em maddddddd LOL cuz I know I've done your work Chloe. Insecure women become so psychotic that they don't even realize sometimes...it's like they become possessed. On the flip said all the men in my social circles are MUCH nicer to me than before and they do more nice things for me big and small.
Insecurity, envy and jealously are markers of a person accepting defeat that they can never be as good. It is so sad. We all have potential to be great in some way. We all have gifts. Hating on another indicates you don't know you are worthy.
There are women that have those milestones and are still envious of others. My older sister is one of them. It’s wild. The envy and jealousy is even within people that have the house, husband, career, children and still don’t want the object of their envy to have their life. Spiritual sickness
And the community's literal representative of this trope is Beyonce. The community loves praising her against other people yet love nothing more than tearing her down over every little thing she does. They went as far as criticizing her child's hair yet she stays silent and consistent in her work and it irks them that she pays everyone dust. Her priorities are her career and her family then minds her business. Yet for over 20 years people have felt like she owes them something it's sick.
@@canesugar911 no Beyonce is Beyonce because she puts in the work and is recognized by every demographic of people. This entitlement is what I'm talking about. She doesn't owe y'all anything. She's worked hard for everything she has.
@@canesugar911 and in any case that still doesn't excuse all the vitriol towards her. She never forced anyone to listen to her music or buy anything from her. You sound like those kpop stans who think they own idols just because they stream their music
@@canesugar911 I get about having a core fanbase but the difference between them is Swifties genuinely love and adore Taylor and don't tear her apart meanwhile Beyonce's fanbase has a love/hate relationship with her. They love her for her accomplishments and bragging rights yet criticize her for every little thing and yet wonder why she doesn't engage with them. I'd also be cautious of people who picked on my child. A literal baby as soon as she was born. That was vile on so many levels. And creating conspiracy theories every chance they get. You don't see that with Swifties. That's the problem
@@canesugar911 uh huh people insulting her baby, calling her a devil worshiper for years and now making memes about her saying she unalives people for not thanking are all in our heads 😂😂😂😂. Foh
This is also true in spiritual settings like church/mosque/temple. It is heinous!!! The jealousy spirit is alive and well among women. As a feminine woman, inside and out, I have no lady friends at church. They act like I don't exist. Yet all the masculine men in church show me so much appreciation. I wonder why? 😂 And honestly it's not even sexual, no one has ever asked me out. But they treat me like a princess. I was shocked and saddened by this dynamic initially. Now, I truly embrace my level up and have learned to enjoy my own company. Excellent reminder video Chloe! You blessed me so much! Tsunami blessings to you and yours. 🥰
This!! When I started my journey, the one closest to me would mimic everything I did & constantly attacked me every chance she got. It started to feel like I was in a competition to be me 😵💫
*Honestly, this video needs to be publicized. The explanation for why so many women choose motherhood because, it's "easier" to attain than wifedom, it makes sense. It's all about societal power, I've seen careers made overnight due to pregnancy.*
As an average to below average black woman, who is a loner. I know I don’t have social power. I grew up in foster care, traumatic childhood, and built everything I have. I did not become a product of my environment. I like what I see when I look in the mirror. I want the man that is for me. When I see the women that are beautiful, although I believe natural hair, dark skin big facial features like mine are more beautiful. That’s me, but I know that is not how the world works. If I’m around women who fit the beauty standard, I don’t feel small or the need to put them down. I tell them how beautiful they are, although they get it a lot. I see it often and the insecure women who perpetuate this nasty behavior are horrible. They don’t understand they are showing their nasty soul.
I experienced jealousy a lot but this year for the first year I actually experienced sabotage and reputation destruction. The sad part? It came from a 55 year old woman I wanted to mentor me because she’s successful, married, and popular in my area. A woman will have these social powers and still try to sabotage other, especially young, women.
This has come at the perfect time. Where I am at right now, I am dealing with the reality of being a threat in most places and it has been quite uncomfortable for me to deal with women who are threatened by me. I recently got a part-time job as a delivery person taking goods to a certain organization every weekday, and the lady that I report to (let's call her Adani) seems to be threatened by me. I have had confirmations through her demeanors towards me compared to how she handles the lady that I work for (who also happens to be my big sister). Adani is literally short and round and has a moustache, and I am modelesque and pretty, and my sister agrees that Adani is insecure about her body hence her demeanor towards me. It has been hard dealing with her because it is super uncomfortable, and in as much as I would love to stand up for myself against her classist, insecure and racially-motivated (she's of Indian decent) demeanors, I cannot risk my sister's job (and by extension, my own). I am now letting myself develop a backbone because this isn't my first time experiencing this - I experienced a similar experience during my mandatory attachment for my coursework last year, and my current dentist also gives off this kind of energy. I also realized that I was a target when younger because I am pretty, and I had no idea. It's tiring. I have been watching Chloe_ for two years now, and I am aware of what is happening and why. I look forward to the day where being attacked for being a threat will leave me unfazed. I try to not let the women who find me threatening see me sweat or look sad because of that. In fact, I ensure that I look extra pretty to make Adani choke if that's what she wants to do. Lastly, I relate to and like Tyla more than I used to after I realized that both of us were being attacked for being threats. It might be hard but on second thought, I love being the full package and I understand that this is the price that I have to pay. Thanks for talking about this, Chloe_❤. You've been of great help to me and I appreciate you.
Wow this was deep. I will leave people where they are and eventually they recognize that I’m gone. People who mean you harm don’t deserve an explanation at all. When I run into them again I’m always cordial but brief. They will never get access to me again like they had it and it’s okay. People come and people go. The ones who stay were meant to be there.
I thought black women wanted a example like Tyla? She isn’t black but in America they see her as that so my comment is towards them. She’s a small petite girl with confidence and class, and not the same stereotype of the bbl, ghetto, stripper exterior. Sexy red got a lot of hate for having the stripper ghetto brand, but now people hate Tyla for being confident, classy and sassy? Then what can win? Because we complain black women and girls aren’t a monolith. But once you see someone who isn’t the norm or a little different there’s problems.
I dont find this topic funny at all, its actually quite sad and depressing for me. Personally, I've become an involuntary recluse due to this jealousy and hatred. Things start out well, be it at work, with friends or church members. Initially, everyone admires your beauty, vitality, and kindness, and somehow, a sinister disdain comes out of nowhere. I've learned to recognize the signs. Once the envy shows up, I cross the street.
That's the one! Rather disheartening. I Also start having a Stoic, upity air about you and just deall with people on a surface level till you find your tribe
this was a really good video! i agree with homegirl, it’s crazy how “no one talks more shyt about you, than the person who did YOU wrong” how my internet villainous arc started… i’ve retaliated, but now, i don’t give none!
Yes, they are nastier even if they are married and is well cared for by their husbands. One as such was so jealous after her mother gave me a compliment proceeded to create a lie to make me look bad. I feel sorry for her.
THIS. I have left friends for partnering and getting impregnated by dusties! They may think I’m jealous of their situation while I actually pity what they’ve become.
I have always been attacked for my intelligence and honesty. I’m so happy I got away from a “fake nice” friend. I ran into her and her husband. I’m happy that they’re doing well. I can’t be friends with someone that was friends with my enemy.
I kid you not, my spirit kept telling me to watch a Chloe video and you dropped one right when I needed it. Thank you because today I experienced this today and felt confused but two bugger woofs (lol) tried me in class today and I didn’t have to say a word when three other women came to my defense, as well as the TA. It left them flabbergasted. But I was so confused but now I see that they felt threatened. Thank you and can’t wait to join the new feminine.
People are forever talking about Tyla, saying that she’s arrogant. Who knows; maybe she’s being misunderstood, or maybe she is arrogant. Even though arrogance is not a positive trait, if a person is arrogant, at least back it up.
@@donnamcintosh2109 she triggers everything in insecure women. Whether she's arrogant or not isn't the issue. The issue is she's confident in her body, her originality and her talent. That's enough to set a lot of people off without even factoring her personality
Omg I haven't heard that term used since I was a kid. But it was only used by my aunties when referring to an ugly or trifling man. I need to add it back to my vocabulary 😂😂😂
Yes I been there. There’s no amount of niceness or helping them will prevent the attack. Disconnecting from the envy and the toxicity works. Thanks, for the confirmation and reminder!🙏❤️👏
Hey Miss Chloe, I'm new here and I am LIVING for these female friendship videos! I'm leveling up thanks to your videos and need my girls! Thanks for teaching us how to vet them, discern them, and gain sisterhood. :) sending you love ❤
I experienced so many things as a pretty, emotional intelligent woman. Because of my intelligence I have always been able to recognise my own emotions and what is projected on to me. My childhood friends, colleagues and even some female family members have betrayed me and tried to sabotage me with various tactics. I don’t even want friends anymore. I keep things very private and professional.
I always wondered why sweetie and Tyla got so much hate online.... even tho they are very unproblemtaic in nature..... and it'susually from unattractive or insecure women.... women who have not accepted their own value and power..... it's sad
I kinda feel like women would always side with the attractive woman. I’ve had women side with attractive women to bully me and isolate me at work even men do this
This video is amazing. I wish I heard this information as a teen. I dealt with so much insecurities, due to people (especially family) feeling like I was "uppity."
Chloe girl, that Booga Wolf clip is scaring me. But in all honesty, that is exactly why I stay away from women who are unhappy in their marriages or women who don't level up. Because they are definitely giving off Booga Wolf energy. POV: These types of women will set you up or push you off a cliff, or push you into a swamp of alligators and call it an accident. For the love of Christ ladies, cut off those fake friends.
Thank you for this Chloe. I am a soon to be 46 year old woman wondering why I have friends who have distanced themselves. It may be because they are jealous. Thank you! I am a late bloomer but I married at 40 have a child at 44 and you are right. It’s social currency. I am treated differently by even my inlaws. Before I had a child no one wanted to visit us. Now things are different though I resent it because what if I could have never had a child? I just have taken notes.
I was JUST gonna make a comment that I STILL don’t know why everyone is mad at Tyla! 🤷🏾♀️ And I don’t even follow pop culture that closely. Jealousy is mental illness.
There are women that have been jealous of me, including family members and so called friends. I never understood that because I've never looked at another woman and wanted to be her. That's really weird behavior. My own sister and her friend told be not to come over their house because they were worried about the dudes that they would bring around being attracted to me. The thing is I've always had a down to earth personality and they took that as something I did on purpose to attract the guys they brought around. Like nah Baby I'm just fine get over it Lol
im also pretty and have a hard time understanding why I have no friends...I just want a friend group so bad but I always get scapegoated. probably because im nice and nonconfrontational 😂
@@kc6810 I don't give a damn about their shoes when I'm not to blame. A person will do what they want so its best that "They" get their confidence up. Those women were not just some random women they were my sister and play sister. I was only 16 years old at the time and definitely was singled out all because of my attractiveness and their insecurities. That's the problem with women they want to confront the woman when really they should be checking the men they choose to be involved with. Based on your statement you sound like one of them Smh.
@@_Dark222Angel_ I only had a few friends because they were either competing with me or I was a better friend to them than they were to me. You really can't be nice to most women instead you have to avoid most of them at all costs.
@_healyaself I had group of girl friends. That I cut talking behind my back more than once. They were always mean to me when things were going well for me. And nice when things were going bad. And much much more of passive agressiveness. But I was dumb and weak
Hi Ms Chloe_ This is a very sensitive topic for me. I always felt like I was the odd man out because I never really receive attention from men in a social setting. I would dress super provocatively and then I would wonder why I attract dusties. At 43, I still get jealous and threatened because of attractive women. I am not ugly but I feel like I do not have pretty privilege. I am realizing that life is not fair. And at my BIG SSA AGE, it is time for me to flex my soft power….or at least lean more into it!
Girl,you can use your experience and get the kind of dating life you desire.Sometimes men may not approach you in social settings for various reasons but you can increase those chances by finding more one on one spaces.❤❤
Pls pls pls do your inner work, there you would find out why you're attracting dusties/low quality men. Sometimes it's not about how you dress or look but rather your energy
I think the reason women (I can only speak from the point of view of women because I'm a woman) flock to negative content is because we as a species learn from failure. So, I feel that some women gravitate to failure because they know there is a lesson in the failures... Still not cool though...
When I see other cute woman in my neighborhood I feel safe & understood actually especially when they are nice 😂❤ like my sistaaaaa ✊🏾❤️ heeeeeyy 😅 finally where have u been my sista but when it comes to the male gaze we can’t unite? It’s crazy tho 😢
This is accurate. I've been called uppity by family before. I'll admit I'm a little on the boujee side and embracing it more. Keep up the great content girl. 💅🏾💅🏾💕💕
Same here but I take it as a compliment 😊
I wish more women would be more bougie or at least have some class
@@liahlove8297 Thanks.
I love bougie!!😂 I am one myself!
We need more women with high standards.
I wish people became inspired instead of insecure
Thissssssss ❤
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This part!!
Hey Colleen!
Omg 😮💨
I recently lost 60 pounds…I had a cousin ask another cousin if I was sick…mind you I post gym selfies regularly….people will attack your strength
Wow congratulations! I’ve also been on my journey to be better and loose weight and my sister told me I was giving Y2K anorexia… Keep going!
60 pounds! No easy feat🎉 People see the success but don't understand the struggle and sacrifice.
@@Ontheupandup123 to ask if I’m sick is insulting. If I was sick I would be in my bed not the gym
Keep going sis ❤ you got this. Let them talk outta the side of their necks.
I lost weight my picture was distributed amongst family members and I was declared sick 💔
I was betrayed by close friends. It came as a shock because I had no idea they saw me as a threat. I’ve also been bullied by coworkers & female family members who were mad because I was moving up & trying to better myself. I don’t compete with other women, & never understood the need to do so.
Same.
You said a whole mouthful!
Me too.
Been through similar things
Same
You mad at me because you lazy.😂😂😂😂 I love this.
😂😂
She’s so right
RIGHT LIKE????
RIGHT!!
The real gag is when moms are jealous of their own daughters.
Its just weird in the world right now. Y'all stay safe
THANK YOU! mY MOM!!!
people don't knooooow!!
I think black mom's have this BAD
@@dollhouseq1530
well mY mom is not
"black", yet she BAD
& plus we have NO
community support
since we're not black
and blacks are always
saying they have it worst
& jealous of our apparent
" privilege " 🙄😒👎🏼
I can’t even think of being jealous of my little girl,i stay hyping her up everyday!!
@@dollhouseq1530I know right.!
She grew up sheltered and secure. I admire that.
Women being crappy to each other is a tale as old as time.. including the insecure behavior of a lot of men.
I’ll never forget the mistreatment of other women and how they’ve outcasted me simply for being feminine. It’s so isolating and hurtful. I even buckled under the pressure and toned it down to avoid being treated that way. I lost myself and will never do it again.
Same, it was at a job I needed at that time, so I put up with it for more time than I wished, so glad that season is over and will never dim my light like that again, ever!
An interesting thing happened to me a couple of years ago: I became less available. I’ve had to say “no” more often so I’m no longer the one showing up early to set up for parties or do favors. Wouldn’t you know that as soon as my labor was no longer readily available, many of my “friends” have been MIA?
That's a blessing love! ❤
Ladies, this message is the truth. In my life I've had women say things to me that started out,
Nobody:
Them: "I can't wear all that makeup" - "I don't have time to be in the hair salon all day" - "I can't walk around in heels, I need to be comfortable" - "Girl you stay shopping, I just wear what's in my closet"
Me (Thinking): I didn't ask you nor did I suggest you do anything I'm doing, but thanks for the compliment that you actually didn't give.
I'm 59 and will never stop having self- compassion, self-care, and self-love. I own my looks, my style, and my femininity. ❤ You should too.
Stay focused on the inside and how you show up. What they say on the outside isn't any of your business. 💅🏾
I'm 36, unmarried, and not in a relationship - yet. But that doesn't mean I'll let negativity ruin my chances of building a happy life with a husband and children, if that's what I want.
Jealousy is natural; it reveals what we deeply desire. However, when it turns toxic - hate-watching, wishing ill luck, or coveting others' success - that's when it becomes destructive.
Self-reflection and growth are key. Marriage and children bring joy, but they're not the only sources of happiness. Let's defy societal pressure and focus on our own paths.
To every woman surpassing the 'marriageable age,' I wish love and happiness, whether traditionally or unconventionally. Your narrative is yours alone; don't let the world define it.
Yes! All of my friends who are married and have children have been telling me to take my time for a decade now!
My girlfriends who were full of life before marriage seem so unhappy with their husbands: weight gain; passive aggressive comments towards their spouse; tiredness from caring for children alone.
It’s not exactly what they expected it would be!
I am so glad this popped up on my thread. I’ve cut off many hateful friends who were constantly trying to take advantage of me while downplaying my success, beauty and knowledge. I don’t share anything I have anymore and I only want to be in safe environments with like minds. Now I move in silence. Best decision Ive ever made.
Same!
I enjoy being uppity! Secures my boundaries and only haters are triggered!!! 😂😂😂
as you get older, those people become so pointless once you focus on all the good you are building around you. i’m closer to starting a whole family, a whole bloodline directly from my belly.. do you know how amazing that is.. can’t always worry about everything, when we should focus more on what’s within.
Amen
Stubborness is a downfall. I had a friend give me "advice" that almost cost me my marriage. Will never take such "advice" this woman told me to my face "im jealous of you and what you have going on here" i decided to give this frenemy another chance. They have a monitoring spirit im keeping away.
I feel like a lot of women subconsciously want other women to be as unhappy as them. That’s why you see a lot of the “drop him! Could never be me!” comments online when it comes to relationships, completely ignoring the reality that relationships are not perfect and there are high/low moments. But I have realized a lot of ppl in today’s day and age is heavily influenced by online discourse, but the problem is, not everything online translates well in real life. I feel like that’s one of the reasons why there is a dating/relationship/loneliness epidemic.
I work with one of these insecure women. She is the boss’s wife and she always has it in for me. She’s insecure about her looks and does everything she can to make me look incompetent to her husband. It’s been a nightmare working with them ever since they got married.
She think that will make you look less attractive in his eyes.
Be careful and make sure you leave a footprint everywhere. People like that tend to create a scenario where you can be blamed for something once they see you’re not going to fail or mess up.
@@mercedesharrison5550 oh I know. I’m making my way out of this company.
Have u tried looking for another job🙇🏽♀️🤍I can imagine how exhausting that must be💔.
@@VerleanHurd I agree. But you know what there is nothing physical attractive nor intellectual attractive about him. She started out as his assistant while he was still married to his first wife ( and he has 2 children with his first wife) and then they started dating and eventually they got married.
The more I'm online and see nasty comments, also thinking about real life, I actually find that not only do I avoid hateful men who are growing more and more dangerous, but find most women including so called friends DON'T wish you well and want to see you fail, are petty, jealous and just mean and can't mind their own business. Everyone is exhausting. I just wanna stay indoors and am okay with not having friends, but rather well distanced aquintances. 😅
Im right there with you with you lady 😅❤
Felt this
Agreed.
My biggest haters are indeed the women in my family. Never understood it, and it broke my heart. My godmother said they all saw the potential in me to blossom. I see it as clear as day now. I've never been jealous of anyone, so i had to distance myself. This video put a lot into perspective. ❤❤❤
You will eventually feel the same way they do.
The older you get the more you feel robbed of time and opportunity, It's human nature sorry.
_The desire for social power will always divide women as women are comparative and competitive when it comes to the male gaze and are even more aggressive when it comes to acquire men's resources._ *Never forget it. Never.*
I have a few women I know who have children and marriage who go out of their way to monitor me and attempt to ruin my reputation and presence.
Block them
Those women probably lack beauty and youth
They’re obviously unhappy in their marriages.
@@islandgirl8067Not necessarily, they could be unhappy with themselves.
Wow this was deep. I will leave people where they are and eventually they recognize that I’m gone. People who mean you harm don’t deserve an explanation at all. When I run into them again I’m always cordial but brief with them. They will never get access to me again and it’s okay. People come and people go. The ones who stay were meant to be there.
Over the past two years I took year advice and re-emerged into society....I'm a much thinner and softer version of myself and now all the "feminine" women who used to be nice to now give me the CRAZIEST looks, recently over the past month. Imma keep showing up and makin em maddddddd LOL cuz I know I've done your work Chloe. Insecure women become so psychotic that they don't even realize sometimes...it's like they become possessed. On the flip said all the men in my social circles are MUCH nicer to me than before and they do more nice things for me big and small.
Insecurity, envy and jealously are markers of a person accepting defeat that they can never be as good. It is so sad. We all have potential to be great in some way. We all have gifts. Hating on another indicates you don't know you are worthy.
There are women that have those milestones and are still envious of others. My older sister is one of them. It’s wild. The envy and jealousy is even within people that have the house, husband, career, children and still don’t want the object of their envy to have their life. Spiritual sickness
13:49 THIS!! My first real job out of college the way them women would bully me was horrendous.
And the community's literal representative of this trope is Beyonce. The community loves praising her against other people yet love nothing more than tearing her down over every little thing she does. They went as far as criticizing her child's hair yet she stays silent and consistent in her work and it irks them that she pays everyone dust. Her priorities are her career and her family then minds her business. Yet for over 20 years people have felt like she owes them something it's sick.
THANK YOUUU
@@canesugar911 no Beyonce is Beyonce because she puts in the work and is recognized by every demographic of people. This entitlement is what I'm talking about. She doesn't owe y'all anything. She's worked hard for everything she has.
@@canesugar911 and in any case that still doesn't excuse all the vitriol towards her. She never forced anyone to listen to her music or buy anything from her. You sound like those kpop stans who think they own idols just because they stream their music
@@canesugar911 I get about having a core fanbase but the difference between them is Swifties genuinely love and adore Taylor and don't tear her apart meanwhile Beyonce's fanbase has a love/hate relationship with her. They love her for her accomplishments and bragging rights yet criticize her for every little thing and yet wonder why she doesn't engage with them. I'd also be cautious of people who picked on my child. A literal baby as soon as she was born. That was vile on so many levels. And creating conspiracy theories every chance they get. You don't see that with Swifties. That's the problem
@@canesugar911 uh huh people insulting her baby, calling her a devil worshiper for years and now making memes about her saying she unalives people for not thanking are all in our heads 😂😂😂😂. Foh
This is also true in spiritual settings like church/mosque/temple. It is heinous!!! The jealousy spirit is alive and well among women. As a feminine woman, inside and out, I have no lady friends at church. They act like I don't exist. Yet all the masculine men in church show me so much appreciation. I wonder why? 😂 And honestly it's not even sexual, no one has ever asked me out. But they treat me like a princess. I was shocked and saddened by this dynamic initially. Now, I truly embrace my level up and have learned to enjoy my own company. Excellent reminder video Chloe! You blessed me so much! Tsunami blessings to you and yours. 🥰
This is my same exact experience, it's so lonely. However, I'm not going to lower my standards to be surrounded by trash!
It's the actual Booga Wolf picture for me 😅😅😂😂. Chloe you had me in tears at work! 🤣🤣.
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You are out here doing the lords work 🙌🏾
This!! When I started my journey, the one closest to me would mimic everything I did & constantly attacked me every chance she got. It started to feel like I was in a competition to be me 😵💫
*Honestly, this video needs to be publicized. The explanation for why so many women choose motherhood because, it's "easier" to attain than wifedom, it makes sense. It's all about societal power, I've seen careers made overnight due to pregnancy.*
As an average to below average black woman, who is a loner. I know I don’t have social power. I grew up in foster care, traumatic childhood, and built everything I have. I did not become a product of my environment. I like what I see when I look in the mirror. I want the man that is for me.
When I see the women that are beautiful, although I believe natural hair, dark skin big facial features like mine are more beautiful. That’s me, but I know that is not how the world works. If I’m around women who fit the beauty standard, I don’t feel small or the need to put them down. I tell them how beautiful they are, although they get it a lot. I see it often and the insecure women who perpetuate this nasty behavior are horrible. They don’t understand they are showing their nasty soul.
Girl, if that's you on the pic, then you're gorgeous 🥰
@@Peacebewithu34ditto you are beautiful
If you have genuine confidence...that is a form of social power
I experienced jealousy a lot but this year for the first year I actually experienced sabotage and reputation destruction. The sad part? It came from a 55 year old woman I wanted to mentor me because she’s successful, married, and popular in my area. A woman will have these social powers and still try to sabotage other, especially young, women.
This has come at the perfect time. Where I am at right now, I am dealing with the reality of being a threat in most places and it has been quite uncomfortable for me to deal with women who are threatened by me.
I recently got a part-time job as a delivery person taking goods to a certain organization every weekday, and the lady that I report to (let's call her Adani) seems to be threatened by me. I have had confirmations through her demeanors towards me compared to how she handles the lady that I work for (who also happens to be my big sister). Adani is literally short and round and has a moustache, and I am modelesque and pretty, and my sister agrees that Adani is insecure about her body hence her demeanor towards me. It has been hard dealing with her because it is super uncomfortable, and in as much as I would love to stand up for myself against her classist, insecure and racially-motivated (she's of Indian decent) demeanors, I cannot risk my sister's job (and by extension, my own). I am now letting myself develop a backbone because this isn't my first time experiencing this - I experienced a similar experience during my mandatory attachment for my coursework last year, and my current dentist also gives off this kind of energy. I also realized that I was a target when younger because I am pretty, and I had no idea. It's tiring.
I have been watching Chloe_ for two years now, and I am aware of what is happening and why. I look forward to the day where being attacked for being a threat will leave me unfazed. I try to not let the women who find me threatening see me sweat or look sad because of that. In fact, I ensure that I look extra pretty to make Adani choke if that's what she wants to do.
Lastly, I relate to and like Tyla more than I used to after I realized that both of us were being attacked for being threats. It might be hard but on second thought, I love being the full package and I understand that this is the price that I have to pay.
Thanks for talking about this, Chloe_❤. You've been of great help to me and I appreciate you.
Wow this was deep. I will leave people where they are and eventually they recognize that I’m gone. People who mean you harm don’t deserve an explanation at all. When I run into them again I’m always cordial but brief. They will never get access to me again like they had it and it’s okay. People come and people go. The ones who stay were meant to be there.
I've given up on sisterhood.
If sisterhood were real, why do women keep birthing and raising destroyers of other women😂
"How can I change my behaviors so that I can receive"...this part
Chloe PLEASE 😂😂😂 The Boogawolf 🤣🤣🤣
I thought black women wanted a example like Tyla? She isn’t black but in America they see her as that so my comment is towards them. She’s a small petite girl with confidence and class, and not the same stereotype of the bbl, ghetto, stripper exterior. Sexy red got a lot of hate for having the stripper ghetto brand, but now people hate Tyla for being confident, classy and sassy?
Then what can win? Because we complain black women and girls aren’t a monolith. But once you see someone who isn’t the norm or a little different there’s problems.
Great point and well stated!
This!!!!!
I dont find this topic funny at all, its actually quite sad and depressing for me. Personally, I've become an involuntary recluse due to this jealousy and hatred. Things start out well, be it at work, with friends or church members. Initially, everyone admires your beauty, vitality, and kindness, and somehow, a sinister disdain comes out of nowhere. I've learned to recognize the signs. Once the envy shows up, I cross the street.
I am curious ...what sogns specifically di you notice of the change? You are so right ..people switch up out the blue!
That's the one! Rather disheartening. I Also start having a Stoic, upity air about you and just deall with people on a surface level till you find your tribe
@@AyaEgbuhoyou can usually feel the energy shift be it an eyeroll and or snide comments on and passive aggressive behaviour
@@lf3554 I’m learning more about stoicism. Love your advice ❤
@@Kuweenz welcome!
this was a really good video! i agree with homegirl, it’s crazy how “no one talks more shyt about you, than the person who did YOU wrong” how my internet villainous arc started… i’ve retaliated, but now, i don’t give none!
You can have insecurities and still wish others well, appreciate their style, intellect, beauty and positive character traits.
It’s more about self-esteem. Low self esteem will activate envy and bad behavior
Yes, they are nastier even if they are married and is well cared for by their husbands. One as such was so jealous after her mother gave me a compliment proceeded to create a lie to make me look bad. I feel sorry for her.
Hey Chloe been watching you for a few years now, and you never miss.
I rebuke all super saiyan stalker demons in Jesus Holy name!😂😂❤❤❤❤
It actually pains me to see another woman getting impregnated and taken advantage of by dusty baby daddies.
Nah, those women like those types
THIS. I have left friends for partnering and getting impregnated by dusties! They may think I’m jealous of their situation while I actually pity what they’ve become.
I have always been attacked for my intelligence and honesty. I’m so happy I got away from a “fake nice” friend. I ran into her and her husband. I’m happy that they’re doing well. I can’t be friends with someone that was friends with my enemy.
I kid you not, my spirit kept telling me to watch a Chloe video and you dropped one right when I needed it. Thank you because today I experienced this today and felt confused but two bugger woofs (lol) tried me in class today and I didn’t have to say a word when three other women came to my defense, as well as the TA. It left them flabbergasted. But I was so confused but now I see that they felt threatened. Thank you and can’t wait to join the new feminine.
Thank you for this video, Chloe! Keep being feminine , ladies!
People are forever talking about Tyla, saying that she’s arrogant. Who knows; maybe she’s being misunderstood, or maybe she is arrogant. Even though arrogance is not a positive trait, if a person is arrogant, at least back it up.
She’s a confident woman which seems to intimidate other women.
@@donnamcintosh2109 she triggers everything in insecure women. Whether she's arrogant or not isn't the issue. The issue is she's confident in her body, her originality and her talent. That's enough to set a lot of people off without even factoring her personality
Baby that jealous Boogawolf is sending me hunny! 👻 It's hilarious because them demons look just like that in real life. Smh self love is necessary. 💯
Lmaooooooo😂😂😂😂😂 I am crying
same 😂😂😂
I just wrote about this 😮
Omg I haven't heard that term used since I was a kid. But it was only used by my aunties when referring to an ugly or trifling man. I need to add it back to my vocabulary 😂😂😂
Yes I been there. There’s no amount of niceness or helping them will prevent the attack. Disconnecting from the envy and the toxicity works. Thanks, for the confirmation and reminder!🙏❤️👏
Thank you for making this content, lovely. It has definitely helped me and many more restructure our thinking. Many appreciations. ✨💕
Hey Miss Chloe, I'm new here and I am LIVING for these female friendship videos! I'm leveling up thanks to your videos and need my girls! Thanks for teaching us how to vet them, discern them, and gain sisterhood. :) sending you love ❤
I experienced so many things as a pretty, emotional intelligent woman. Because of my intelligence I have always been able to recognise my own emotions and what is projected on to me. My childhood friends, colleagues and even some female family members have betrayed me and tried to sabotage me with various tactics. I don’t even want friends anymore. I keep things very private and professional.
People like being depressed too much. They just need to realize that they don't value beauty, but feel that they should.
Love your channel and always insightful every time
I always wondered why sweetie and Tyla got so much hate online.... even tho they are very unproblemtaic in nature..... and it'susually from unattractive or insecure women.... women who have not accepted their own value and power..... it's sad
I kinda feel like women would always side with the attractive woman. I’ve had women side with attractive women to bully me and isolate me at work even men do this
This video is amazing. I wish I heard this information as a teen. I dealt with so much insecurities, due to people (especially family) feeling like I was "uppity."
Chloe girl, that Booga Wolf clip is scaring me. But in all honesty, that is exactly why I stay away from women who are unhappy in their marriages or women who don't level up. Because they are definitely giving off Booga Wolf energy. POV: These types of women will set you up or push you off a cliff, or push you into a swamp of alligators and call it an accident. For the love of Christ ladies, cut off those fake friends.
Fake family too
This video is spot on!!
Thank you for this Chloe. I am a soon to be 46 year old woman wondering why I have friends who have distanced themselves. It may be because they are jealous. Thank you! I am a late bloomer but I married at 40 have a child at 44 and you are right. It’s social currency. I am treated differently by even my inlaws. Before I had a child no one wanted to visit us. Now things are different though I resent it because what if I could have never had a child? I just have taken notes.
Helloo!!! I love that you’re speaking on this topic.
I love that nun of her songs are about having a wet 🐱or dogging a man out or using him for money , it’s just pure vibes and confidence
LOVE it!
Wow. I really resonate with this video thank you
They better not be messing with my Tyla! 💅🏽
I was JUST gonna make a comment that I STILL don’t know why everyone is mad at Tyla! 🤷🏾♀️ And I don’t even follow pop culture that closely. Jealousy is mental illness.
Facts. TYLA WILL THRIVE AND I'M HERE FOR IT !!!! 💅🏾💅🏾💕💕
@@KeenyaTheStylist IKR?! 🥰
They just want to hate her so bad she is talented period
@@EmpressAcended she’s so cute, smart, and wise/strategic! 💅🏽
All this makes me think of is. Poor Shanquella Robinson. This is what I feel happened to her. Jealousy.❤❤❤❤RIP
There are women that have been jealous of me, including family members and so called friends. I never understood that because I've never looked at another woman and wanted to be her. That's really weird behavior. My own sister and her friend told be not to come over their house because they were worried about the dudes that they would bring around being attracted to me. The thing is I've always had a down to earth personality and they took that as something I did on purpose to attract the guys they brought around. Like nah Baby I'm just fine get over it Lol
im also pretty and have a hard time understanding why I have no friends...I just want a friend group so bad but I always get scapegoated. probably because im nice and nonconfrontational 😂
@@kc6810 I don't give a damn about their shoes when I'm not to blame. A person will do what they want so its best that "They" get their confidence up. Those women were not just some random women they were my sister and play sister. I was only 16 years old at the time and definitely was singled out all because of my attractiveness and their insecurities. That's the problem with women they want to confront the woman when really they should be checking the men they choose to be involved with. Based on your statement you sound like one of them Smh.
@@_Dark222Angel_ I only had a few friends because they were either competing with me or I was a better friend to them than they were to me. You really can't be nice to most women instead you have to avoid most of them at all costs.
Thank you! I wish I would have heard this on Monday before I got into it with a hater 😆
It really sucks when you try to bring people to your level of confidence and comfort within yourself and they start running their own race smh
Phenomenal video! ❤💋
19:09 Lord, this woman is stunning 😍😍😍
Yet some say “if she doesn’t have friends, something is wrong with her” oh the ignorance…….
I wish I saw this video 10 years ago 😪
It’s never too late to grow 🌱
@_healyaself I had group of girl friends. That I cut talking behind my back more than once. They were always mean to me when things were going well for me. And nice when things were going bad. And much much more of passive agressiveness. But I was dumb and weak
Hi Ms Chloe_ This is a very sensitive topic for me. I always felt like I was the odd man out because I never really receive attention from men in a social setting. I would dress super provocatively and then I would wonder why I attract dusties. At 43, I still get jealous and threatened because of attractive women. I am not ugly but I feel like I do not have pretty privilege. I am realizing that life is not fair. And at my BIG SSA AGE, it is time for me to flex my soft power….or at least lean more into it!
thank you for sharing! 💞
@@TheNewFeminineThank you for being you ❤❤❤
Girl,you can use your experience and get the kind of dating life you desire.Sometimes men may not approach you in social settings for various reasons but you can increase those chances by finding more one on one spaces.❤❤
@@aminaadam3617thank you so much❤
Pls pls pls do your inner work, there you would find out why you're attracting dusties/low quality men. Sometimes it's not about how you dress or look but rather your energy
At this big grand age😂😂 stop Randi😂😂😂😂
I think the reason women (I can only speak from the point of view of women because I'm a woman) flock to negative content is because we as a species learn from failure. So, I feel that some women gravitate to failure because they know there is a lesson in the failures... Still not cool though...
yes, i was attacked, now I'm making new friends
This explains it why he behaved that way 3:00
All women are beautiful. Too many just don't know it yet.😊
Now chloe...where did you find the pic of the booga wolf 😭😭😭
This is so true and its to get women to admit it.
That boogawolf be scaring me forreal!!!! OMG
Nara Smith has all 4 Pretty, young, mother and married.
And I noticed women online hate married women with a passion
We have got to do better it’s matriculating down to our young girls
Not the jealous Bugga Wolf meme..Haha. Thats a good one. Boy they are absolutely annoying.
I do not understand this?
Emphasis on maturity CRISIS.
This made me think about the song lyric "Don't be mad cuz I'm doing me better than you doing you"
This!!! ❤
When I see other cute woman in my neighborhood I feel safe & understood actually especially when they are nice 😂❤ like my sistaaaaa ✊🏾❤️ heeeeeyy 😅 finally where have u been my sista but when it comes to the male gaze we can’t unite? It’s crazy tho 😢
Thank you ❤ the better I am doing The more hostility I been getting it’s been weird but I am going to keep going in Jesus name
That wolf was created to induce nightmares.
Triggering Insecurities.
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I rearly comment but Chloe this conversation right here 🙌🏾👏🏾❤
…please don’t stop with this content. You are much appreciated ma’am. 💯
Thank you Chloe for doing God's work 🙌🏾 The clarity of your content is gold 🥇
oooo I love Grant Cardone's wife! She is stunning, also.
She is definitely the fuel behind her husband's success.
@@JewelPeace I agree!
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