At some point in every woman's life you have to choose between mediocrity and societal acceptance or greatness and rejection. Once you heal and ascend there is no looking back.
Ontop of her intelligence,looks & soft life. She also has a wonderful Black husband who spoils her and two beautiful children. She has it made and she’s good.
One thing I’ve seen is that black women only want to watch content creators that relate to them but then when the content creator gets brand deals and upgrades their life people start to hate them and begin dragging them
Women tend to be "girl's girls" unless A: you're super attractive and get tons of male attention, or B: you have a different take on things (even if it's just a joke or some sarcasm). The best approach? Just don’t sweat it.
B is more of a dangerous area. The annoying fact that many black women feel that you MUST conform to their likes and dislikes Conform to their tastes, whether that be fashion, food, drinks. e
I can relate, being private and quiet is literally the worst thing you can be as a Black woman. People feel entitled to you and your life. When you dont share, you're marked as upitty.
As a Latina I do feel the same the women in my community don't like other women to be taken care of by good husbands the soft life is an amazing journey that all women should be on !
THIS! A lot of times we lump things up in a “race” of women… the truth is WOMEN can be mean and nasty. But the truth is WOMEN can also be kind, nurturing, and help you elevate to the next level.
@@BecomingShalom I’m saying that we often times talk about problems as though black women/men are defective in some way and that we have problems others don’t also have. When we do this (not on this platform) it tends to send the subliminal message that because we are black we are problematic when the reality is EVERY body has problems.
This type of behavior can come from your mother, women on the job, social media, teachers / professors, men, etc. Jealous and insecure people don't rest until they are satisfied with ripping you apart. It's crazy that when you explain these experiences to others, they don't believe you because the behaviors and antics of these people are so egregious.
I agree with her that’s why I don’t make online content anymore. Blk ppl attacked me the worst. It was confusing and heartbreaking. It’s peaceful just living my life offline.
Exactly. I made a lot of content and got so much love & backlash. I decided to stop all together for right now and focus on growing my business instead.
I follow her and the bottom line is in the black community, we don't elevate positive images of black women especially those that are darker skinned. In general, black women aren't seen as worthy of a soft life. Many women are jaded, bitter and don't see her lifestyle as realistic for black women. It's sad we get boxed in stereotypes. In other groups, being feminine is just existing and positive spaces are created for that experience to thrive. The same is simply untrue for us. 👑
I attended a gala two weeks ago. I did not grasp that the event was black and white. I wore a red dress, heels and lipstick. I looked amazing and felt like a million bucks. After about 20 minutes I realized that everyone had on black, black and white, or some variation with silver. One other lady had on red and a few had on burgundy. We laughed and I had an incredible time. Yesterday, a colleague that happened to attend the event, approached me stating how beautiful I looked. She then went on to tell me her girlfriend made disparaging remarks about me..”I hate when people have to be seen.” “People think they are something.” “Who she think she is!” I thought to myself, mmmm that’s weird. I also thought, was it really necessary to repeat something so ignorant and unnecessary? I’m so proud of myself for staying in my centered energy. You can’t allow folk that don’t know you assign their insecurities, trauma and drama on to you. Can’t wait to wear my red dress again…Wish I could post it😉💕
Oh, No! Good for you for staying in your centered energy. While I somewhat share her sentiments, her intentions weren't coming from a good place. If the message had to be delivered to you, there was a better way to handle it. Instead, she threw her friend under the bus to passive aggressively share her opinions about your actions. She is someone not to be trusted.
I have received soo much hate lately due to having a provider husband. My husband married me very quickly and is soo doting. Those around me who I thought would be happy for me, are jealous and have shown it in not so nice ways. Like not even smiling when congratulating me when I got engaged. I am happy for every girl around me who finds love but that wasn’t the energy I received. Then when I left a comment on fb advising other black women on dating tips like making my husband wait to get the cookie, I got attacked by both black men and black women. I don’t take it personally, I know it’s hate. I’m enjoying my hypergamous life.
Congratulations 🎊 please continue to tell your story! I also advise that woman keep the cookie in the jar. Someone close to me did not listen and now has to deal with an incurable STI caught from a dusty!
Very sad, that some black women have never been around dark skin soft feminine women. Some are used to seeing dark skin girls struggling and operating in masculine energy. Sad 😔
Whenever people ask me where my kids go to school and I say my kids are in private school, they share their opinion about how expensive it is, there is not much value to it, I wouldn’t do that with my kids. Did I ask your opinion on this? Feels like you have to justify a personal choice.
This sister is beautiful, fit, happily married, good with her family,has a comfortable lifestyle, talented and defies all stereotypes for black women. You would think women would take notes and study this women and many probably do, but that spirit of self hate is the biggest monster you have to slay to truly experience the highest form of your ascension into greatest, good health, amazing and fulfilling relationships, wealth, growing spiritual awareness and all the good this life has to offer. But so many will forever be watching from the sidelines because they don't want to do the work on themselves and that makes them hateful, losers and dangerous. Please be safe with who you allow you and vet all relationships wisely and with patience. This sister is left wide open being online and I will pray for her success and join her channel because she needs our support and encouragement.
There is an old saying in French that says “ Les chiens aboient , la caravane passe “ in English it translates to“ the dogs bark , the caravan passes” When you know what you carry ( beauty , substance and mission ) , you cannot let the naysayers, mean spirited people stop u !!! As a femininity influencer/ leader , regardless of skin tone , u need to be mentally and spiritually strong
I always wonder why you and others kept a "face less" content channels but this video and other revelations have proved why it's necessary ❤ thanks for your work Chloe your always so funny and helpful.
in their eyes, they just can’t fathom how someone whom was around the same area as them had the audacity to take life a few steps further & not only dreamed to do better, but actually did progress.
As black women we are always the first to scream protect black women but it’s like If you have good morals, standards, class, value, look good or get positive male attention or just a positive woman and promote positivity to women you’re hated by other black women. It’s sad, femininity and modesty is always attacked
I hope she realizes not all black women are coming from an angle of negativity some of us really appreciate the content she creates and loves her genuine spirit❤
I think there is ALOT of self hate in the black community and it starts with us, if we can’t change our self concept, nothing would change.. the hate people are projecting on her is just their own self hate… It may be a hard pill to swallow but black people cry about racism but are the most racist towards themselves.. She’s gorgeous and should keep powering on!
I relate 100% to your comment. My mother had my sister and I with our dad and the rest of our siblings ( 2 sisters and a brother) have their own dad. Our mom is so jealous of my sister and I that she has successfully divided the family into two camps. She and the others on one hand and my sister and I on the other. The all hate us and are so jealous of us.
It's because she's gorgeous...period. If she were more "average" the push back may not be as aggressive. So sad because she seems like such a lovely down to earth lady....
She’s very pretty. There is always going to be pushback to level up & femininity content when it comes to BW. Even other BW don’t think we deserve better.
Exactly when we see other black women trying to elevate we attempt to destroy them . Where can we be safe if our own women are attacking us and trying to stop our growth ?! Pisses me off .
Some people need to get off of the internet and go outside…touch grass, reset, BREATHE. This woman is gorgeous and although I’ve never heard of her before, we as black women need to think higher of ourselves first, in order to appreciate the next black woman -ESPECIALLY darker skinned women. The hate/love starts within & if you can’t get past your phone on these “issues” 🗣️LOG TF OFF!!
the only thing that every truly pissed me off, is how many lies were told on me i was not aware of, simply due to certain individuals whom refused to see me surpass to a better position than i was.
I remember I was having jealous thoughts about my team mate. It wasn't that I didn't like her. And I knew those feelings were coming from my own place of insecurities. I wasn't mean to her but it was hard to deal with feelings around her. But here's the funny thing. Those negative feelings I had towards her didnt feel like my own. And I remember talking down those mean thoughts I was having as if were a different persona saying them because it kind of felt like it was. I would see her and immediately I would hear those voices in my head criticizing her appearance. And I would say outloud to those voices "There's nothing wrong with her. You're the problem." These bad thoughts were like poison because they were starting to make me depressed. That's when I tried to pray the spirit of jealously away. ( as well as work on myself) The spirit did eventually leave me. I rebuked all the lies and negatively it bestowed on me. My team mate, I don't know if she sensed it or not but she showed me nothing but grace and love the whole time. I guess because she knew my heart and that I was fighting those demons. And now I admirer her so much more.
Chloe you are truly doing God’s work! As quiet as kept the people who pretend like they don’t see when women like Jessica are being hated on are the ones who are doing it OR they don’t mind watching others do it because they hate to see another black woman living a life they would kill for. I would be so ashamed of myself for tearing another woman down like this but these dusty women are also soulless. Nothing can really prepare you for the level of hate that comes with being more sexually threatening than them or not being tied down with a broke man’s baby. Thank you for another great video Chloe, I love you. ❤
"Black people are against upward mobility", I don't remember who said this but every time something like this happens that's all I think about. I am not familiar with her but I hope she protects her space and continues her content. There are women who need her representation. These weirdo women shouldn't get the gratification of running her off.
Right? Not to sound mean, but I’m tired of seeing black women twerking and acting like fools with no sense. It’s refreshing to see DSBW doing normal things and representing those of us that aren’t the stereotype.
I watch her TikTok videos! She’s so beautiful and feminine! Her tips and suggestions are very helpful. She’s living the dream in Beverly Hills. She and her husband worked hard for years to get to this point! ❤❤❤❤
That’s why I don’t get mad about none of my social media platforms growing…because of these very reasons! Yet I still post because who needs to see it or hear it, will…
Crabs in a barrel. I can relate. While people in my own community aren't making comments to me due to my skin color, its the same type of annoying ignorant shyte. "You think you're better, you think you're all that..blah blah blah" No I elevated myself, took myself out of poverty, and live a luxurious life. Leave me alone and stay with the bums you so revere. Sending you warm hugs Jessica. Bask in your happy.
my retaliation against few individuals wasn’t sudden. i was one of those overly nice girls whom always made everyone else laugh, until i realize they only wanted to drag me down any time i progressed in life.
I’m just now seeing this woman. No clue who she was until you posted this video. The problem we have is that we keep lumping black culture into one type. Not all black women are toxic. Not all of us are damaging other black women. I’ll give her a follow.
This is sad because she was one of the few content creators I identify with. I remember my parents encouraged my sisters and I to dress well whenever we went out. Love love love them for teaching us that.
Very unsettling to hear her story and it breaks my heart that black people know that black women are the least protected and disrespected in our communities and in society. The bullying and silencing of black women on social media has gotten worse and it's unfair to see another race with the same gender or not, doing similar narratives and they're not going through the same BS as black women do on social media. When you get bullied on social media, don't just assume it's your own kind doing the devils deed because chances are it is your enemy who can't stand your light so they create fake accounts and profiles to try and dim your light so you can disappear and they can Take over the spot light and earn money. Black women, whatever we do we live rent free in peoples heads. "We're damned if we do and Damned if we don't." Great topic, Chloe.
I was just talking to my therapist about how jaded I am about how comfortable people but especially our own kind are okay with being mediocre and its sickening to watch
It is content like yours and hers that has help me elevate and heal. I am a dark skin African woman and I am very appreciative of educating you ladies are doing.
for me, it was starting to feel as tho ppl would appreciate me, as long as i wasn’t doing better than them. the minute i made extreme life changes, they chose to sabotage & stand against me.
I believe it stems from a spirit of rejection. Some women, because of rejection inflict that spirit onto others as an unhealthy way to feel superior instead of taking the time to heal and become whole and secure. We have to do better. We have so much to offer each other and should accept each other as opportunities to support instead of opponents.
I don’t know what’s going on in the world. But I notice how negative people are getting these days. Is it the economy? Are people suffering so much that they can’t relate to her? I think people are really miserable. When a dark skin black women is modest, beautiful and graceful. It irritates their souls! This is a spiritual thing yall.
Following this channel will truly challenge you to level up as I recently seen in my journey, you will be tested by both men and women when they notice you becoming more feminine in every way and will do everything in their power to "humble" you. Protect your feminine spirits at all cost, it's not easy but it will be worth it.
Girl don’t worry about what they think about what and how you choose to live your Life. They just don’t see themselves as you present. Go on and live your life, after all it is YOUR life. And you are a classy beautiful young lady. Keep it going.
As a content creator, I can definitely relate to what she's experiencing. I have learned to ignore the mean spiritless and keep to myself. I hope she continues to do her thing and let the haters sit on the sidelines.
some people just have a truly sick obsession with humbling women who mind their own business & do well for ourselves. no matter how harsh our humble beginnings were, they don’t care & hate happiness.
Instead of some bw minding their business or working on themselves to be better,they take time out to down other bw,or better yet keeping their opinions to themselves ,how about that 😒
Single women are extremely jealous of married women. I heard one say, “She thinks she’s all that, I’m going to try to sleep with her husband” like what? Why would her mind even go there? Then they will turn around and say married men are cheating on their wives and that’s why they don’t want a husband. Misery loves company.
Jessica is one of my favorites. Such a poised, and classy lady. I definitely think resentment, jealousy and colorism play a role in her treatment and it’s even worse when it comes from our own. I hope people don’t dont down play this at all. Then on the other end of the spectrum you have Golloria, another beauty creator who was bullied so badly outside of the community she had to leave Tik Tok. This is why I always support Black women who represent us well.
I hate that this beautiful woman has to go through this and explain herself to the peanut gallery. Honestly this is why I left social media aka IG, Twitter and FB more than 5 years ago. The internet is not a real place because I simply refuse to believe it’s this many miserable people in the world. Sometimes I feel like my inner circle ⭕️ is the only normal and sane and rational people I know.
Black girls jumped on two of my cousins and cut their hair off why did they do this ? Because the girls said they think they cute yes they said that .When I was sixteen a grown black women yelled at me in a store because she asked me was my hair real ? I said yes because it is she yelled at me in front of every one saying it is not because black girls cant grow hair then she tried to grab my hair not touch people grab my hair I told her dont touch me and walked out the store yes people I was sixteen and this was a grown women messing with me .
Im not familiar w her content but from what I hear, they sound like the classic “haters”. Being pretty AND feminine will ALWAYS get attention from men, women and children, good and bad. If you don’t let the good go to your head, the bad won’t stand a chance. Don’t quit!!! That is Exactly what they want. The best get-back is to keep excelling and leave them in the dust where they feel at home and comfortable. Keep your head up pretty girl ❤
Her page gives me hope and I love to see a beautiful black woman living in hypergamy. a greatly disappoints me that she has been bullied and I never knew it before watching this video. What kind of hateful soul do you have to have to see a woman thriving and happy and be negative towards that?! The internal hate is so loud and I literally rebuke those spirits and I want them nowhere near me. She never deserved that type of behavior.
She shouldn’t allow anyone to dictate how she moves, in this instance, by giving them attention. This might sound controversial, but honestly, whenever I’ve felt a woman’s jealousy, I wish them well but I’m also veryyyy tickled pink because I know I’m doing something right 😌
"Nignorant" tehehe 😂 the saddest part is that women will even be jealous of your potential, just the way you move and carry yourself..smh that can on paper have more than you, and still be jealous of you, hey what can you do, but remain Unbothered 👠✨👑👠
She is stunning! 🤩 One thing to make clear for her viewers is let them know who her target audience is. If you are classy and on an ongoing journey of leveling up and seeking growth then your audience should know who they are. Just as the lowly miserable no- growth, no-aspiration so-called female haters should clearly know they don't belong in the same room (aka your social media space) with you. I hope she grows thick skin to mute them and be unbothered about them.
Very true Chloe, I feel like they do the same to Clarke. Constantly trying to shame her for having high standards and try to convince her to lower her dating expectations even after she has had to explain how she built herself up to who she is today and why she can’t not be with someone who brings less to the table she has set herself up for.
I agree with her for the most part, minus the "lightskin creators don't get bullied part" Those women are obviously jealous of her. She's really beautiful and elegant. She looks almost perfect, actually. She even has a glow. Yes, and women tend to hate me too.
LOL it’s so crazy how lightskin is always thrown in there yet here she is invalidating our experiences with bullying. The difference is we have the skills and social power to overcome and not cry about it.
The video at the end was a hugeee bar on self-awareness, just wowww 👏🏾👏🏾🔥🔥🔥 I wish I knew the name of the girl who made that video. Also big up to Chloe, this topic was very deep. I really want to get her book Private not Secret now, as it’s truly the best way to move in silence as a feminine woman, to avoid those monitoring spirits.
Soon as I saw this video I thought about the Ashley Dalton situation where she was verbally attacked by a masculina, I don’t know why it’s really people within our own race that bully us the most…😢
this is what I'm afraid of, everyone tells me to start making content but as someone who had been picked on my whole life I'm scared of going through that again.
I feel like going incognito is the way to preserve that peace also Let a safe person go through comments and route out the crap before you see it! I don't know any of the people spoken about or who this beautifully articulate gorgeous women is but her peace is being disrupted, don't sacrifice yourself Baby🙏
"Booger wolves." 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂
And The actual depiction of a Booger Wolve 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The actual picture of the booger wolf she put sent me 😂😂😂😭
basement dwellers 😂😂😂
At some point in every woman's life you have to choose between mediocrity and societal acceptance or greatness and rejection. Once you heal and ascend there is no looking back.
Whew!
Yes!! 💯💯💯
This is where I am now!
This!!!!!!
Amen!!
Preach 🙌
One thing I've noticed, if women are hating on you, then you're on the right track. Keep doing whatever it is you're doing.
amen!👏🏻
NOT ONLY DO SHE ACTUALLY HAVE SOMETHING OF VALUE TO SAY SHE IS VERY BEAUTIFUL.
🎯
When I tell you my mouth literally dropped when I saw her
Ontop of her intelligence,looks & soft life. She also has a wonderful Black husband who spoils her and two beautiful children. She has it made and she’s good.
One thing I’ve seen is that black women only want to watch content creators that relate to them but then when the content creator gets brand deals and upgrades their life people start to hate them and begin dragging them
Crabs in a bucket
JEALOUSY! When you're exceptionally gorgeous like this woman they will hate
Woman and MEN. The whole red pill community is an example of this. They HATE beautiful women as much as they want to be seen by them.
Women tend to be "girl's girls" unless A: you're super attractive and get tons of male attention, or B: you have a different take on things (even if it's just a joke or some sarcasm). The best approach? Just don’t sweat it.
Boom! 🫳🏿🎤
@@brimarie32Im "B"
Say it again for them heaux in the back!! Jealousy is a disease that is turning a lot of people
Or overweight and out of visual threat.
B is more of a dangerous area. The annoying fact that many black women feel that you MUST conform to their likes and dislikes
Conform to their tastes, whether that be fashion, food, drinks.
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Im a private person, then i get called "too quiet" or "standoffish"
I can relate, being private and quiet is literally the worst thing you can be as a Black woman. People feel entitled to you and your life. When you dont share, you're marked as upitty.
I can relate people always saying I'm boujee 😊
As a Latina I do feel the same the women in my community don't like other women to be taken care of by good husbands the soft life is an amazing journey that all women should be on !
THIS! A lot of times we lump things up in a “race” of women… the truth is WOMEN can be mean and nasty. But the truth is WOMEN can also be kind, nurturing, and help you elevate to the next level.
@@BecomingShalom I’m saying that we often times talk about problems as though black women/men are defective in some way and that we have problems others don’t also have. When we do this (not on this platform) it tends to send the subliminal message that because we are black we are problematic when the reality is EVERY body has problems.
An absolute co-sign!
This type of behavior can come from your mother, women on the job, social media, teachers / professors, men, etc. Jealous and insecure people don't rest until they are satisfied with ripping you apart. It's crazy that when you explain these experiences to others, they don't believe you because the behaviors and antics of these people are so egregious.
Spot on
you are literally preaching rn!!!!!!
Yes. Thank you.
I agree with her that’s why I don’t make online content anymore. Blk ppl attacked me the worst. It was confusing and heartbreaking. It’s peaceful just living my life offline.
I have a beautiful friend who was doing content online. She came off not too long after because it wasn't worth her mental health... Lol!
Exactly. I made a lot of content and got so much love & backlash. I decided to stop all together for right now and focus on growing my business instead.
The bullying in our community is horrible and destructive, this is exactly why Chole remains anonymous
I follow her and the bottom line is in the black community, we don't elevate positive images of black women especially those that are darker skinned. In general, black women aren't seen as worthy of a soft life. Many women are jaded, bitter and don't see her lifestyle as realistic for black women. It's sad we get boxed in stereotypes. In other groups, being feminine is just existing and positive spaces are created for that experience to thrive. The same is simply untrue for us. 👑
What’s her name ?❤
some women even trick you into doing things that trap you in misery
People need to realize how dangerous jealousy is.😮
I attended a gala two weeks ago. I did not grasp that the event was black and white. I wore a red dress, heels and lipstick. I looked amazing and felt like a million bucks. After about 20 minutes I realized that everyone had on black, black and white, or some variation with silver. One other lady had on red and a few had on burgundy. We laughed and I had an incredible time. Yesterday, a colleague that happened to attend the event, approached me stating how beautiful I looked. She then went on to tell me her girlfriend made disparaging remarks about me..”I hate when people have to be seen.” “People think they are something.” “Who she think she is!” I thought to myself, mmmm that’s weird. I also thought, was it really necessary to repeat something so ignorant and unnecessary? I’m so proud of myself for staying in my centered energy. You can’t allow folk that don’t know you assign their insecurities, trauma and drama on to you. Can’t wait to wear my red dress again…Wish I could post it😉💕
@@cpproduction325 you slayed soo welll😂👏🏾👏🏾🩷🩷
Your “colleague” does not care for you. She thought it also then used the other person to say it. Watch her. Mark my words.
Oh, No! Good for you for staying in your centered energy. While I somewhat share her sentiments, her intentions weren't coming from a good place. If the message had to be delivered to you, there was a better way to handle it. Instead, she threw her friend under the bus to passive aggressively share her opinions about your actions. She is someone not to be trusted.
Exactly @@traditionallyuniquedesigns6531
@@classicairwreckano cap!
She is drop-dead gorgeous . Hate is cancerous.
She is stunning
She’s Super beautiful
I have received soo much hate lately due to having a provider husband. My husband married me very quickly and is soo doting. Those around me who I thought would be happy for me, are jealous and have shown it in not so nice ways. Like not even smiling when congratulating me when I got engaged. I am happy for every girl around me who finds love but that wasn’t the energy I received. Then when I left a comment on fb advising other black women on dating tips like making my husband wait to get the cookie, I got attacked by both black men and black women. I don’t take it personally, I know it’s hate. I’m enjoying my hypergamous life.
congratulations
Me too. Imagine my twin calling me a gold digger😢@@FoAl-h2b
@@LaFenyx yess congratulations !!🎊 👏🏾 💐 🥳
@@LaFenyx congratulations beautiful!!!
Congratulations 🎊 please continue to tell your story! I also advise that woman keep the cookie in the jar. Someone close to me did not listen and now has to deal with an incurable STI caught from a dusty!
its because she's obviously GORGEOUS. Can never understand women who hate other women.
My goodness her skin is gorgeous!
Can never not laugh at the "Go argue with your gas station wigs" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Very sad, that some black women have never been around dark skin soft feminine women. Some are used to seeing dark skin girls struggling and operating in masculine energy. Sad 😔
Chloe did you say “nignorant people”?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m so dead!!
Wait I noticed that too 😂😂
It floored me 😂😂😂😂
😩😩😩😭😭😭😭
Once you don't fit into the box they put you in or visibly show that you are levelling up it's a problem
Pass the collection plate because this was a sermon. We are our own worst enemy and it’s sad.
I disengaged from the community best thing I did! They shield and support the deadbeats and abusers.
If she has haters, she’s doing something right. It’s part of the path to greatness. Someone once said mediocrity attacks excellence.
Whenever people ask me where my kids go to school and I say my kids are in private school, they share their opinion about how expensive it is, there is not much value to it, I wouldn’t do that with my kids. Did I ask your opinion on this? Feels like you have to justify a personal choice.
THIS 🎯 !! I even had family do this to me. Smh, you're not alone.
Jessica is gorgeous ❤
This sister is beautiful, fit, happily married, good with her family,has a comfortable lifestyle, talented and defies all stereotypes for black women. You would think women would take notes and study this women and many probably do, but that spirit of self hate is the biggest monster you have to slay to truly experience the highest form of your ascension into greatest, good health, amazing and fulfilling relationships, wealth, growing spiritual awareness and all the good this life has to offer. But so many will forever be watching from the sidelines because they don't want to do the work on themselves and that makes them hateful, losers and dangerous. Please be safe with who you allow you and vet all relationships wisely and with patience. This sister is left wide open being online and I will pray for her success and join her channel because she needs our support and encouragement.
Chloe!!!! “Their big backs and gas station wigs” took me OUT 😭!!!
Let me just say I’ve never seen this creator before but her melanin is EVERYTHING. She’s absolutely gorgeous!!! 😍
She legit looks like the dolls I had growning up. Such a beauty
There is an old saying in French that says “ Les chiens aboient , la caravane passe “ in English it translates to“ the dogs bark , the caravan passes”
When you know what you carry ( beauty , substance and mission ) , you cannot let the naysayers, mean spirited people stop u !!!
As a femininity influencer/ leader , regardless of skin tone , u need to be mentally and spiritually strong
I always wonder why you and others kept a "face less" content channels but this video and other revelations have proved why it's necessary ❤ thanks for your work Chloe your always so funny and helpful.
Yes, I completely understand
in their eyes, they just can’t fathom how someone whom was around the same area as them had the audacity to take life a few steps further & not only dreamed to do better, but actually did progress.
Unfortunately in today’s climate, jealousy is at an all time high. Others are unwilling nor able to make changes in their own lives to be better.
Instead of becoming better, it's easier to drag someone down to your level or prevent them from growing. Look around we need to change !!
As black women we are always the first to scream protect black women but it’s like If you have good morals, standards, class, value, look good or get positive male attention or just a positive woman and promote positivity to women you’re hated by other black women. It’s sad, femininity and modesty is always attacked
I hope she realizes not all black women are coming from an angle of negativity some of us really appreciate the content she creates and loves her genuine spirit❤
I think there is ALOT of self hate in the black community and it starts with us, if we can’t change our self concept, nothing would change.. the hate people are projecting on her is just their own self hate…
It may be a hard pill to swallow but black people cry about racism but are the most racist towards themselves..
She’s gorgeous and should keep powering on!
I have monitoring spirits since I was born! Especially from black women starting with my own mother and sisters!
I relate 100% to your comment. My mother had my sister and I with our dad and the rest of our siblings ( 2 sisters and a brother) have their own dad. Our mom is so jealous of my sister and I that she has successfully divided the family into two camps. She and the others on one hand and my sister and I on the other. The all hate us and are so jealous of us.
It's because she's gorgeous...period. If she were more "average" the push back may not be as aggressive. So sad because she seems like such a lovely down to earth lady....
She’s very pretty. There is always going to be pushback to level up & femininity content when it comes to BW. Even other BW don’t think we deserve better.
Lol, they wish. I don't be giving a damn what a low self-esteem & and self-hating & harming chic has to say.
It’s disturbing and disheartening. Moving in silence Is the best and being reserved is supreme
Exactly when we see other black women trying to elevate we attempt to destroy them . Where can we be safe if our own women are attacking us and trying to stop our growth ?! Pisses me off .
Some people need to get off of the internet and go outside…touch grass, reset, BREATHE.
This woman is gorgeous and although I’ve never heard of her before, we as black women need to think higher of ourselves first, in order to appreciate the next black woman -ESPECIALLY darker skinned women. The hate/love starts within & if you can’t get past your phone on these “issues” 🗣️LOG TF OFF!!
the only thing that every truly pissed me off, is how many lies were told on me i was not aware of, simply due to certain individuals whom refused to see me surpass to a better position than i was.
Jessieca face card is lethal!!!
😮 I can't believe they reported her account, they are so evil and nasty. How jealous and triggered are some of these women?
I remember I was having jealous thoughts about my team mate. It wasn't that I didn't like her. And I knew those feelings were coming from my own place of insecurities. I wasn't mean to her but it was hard to deal with feelings around her. But here's the funny thing. Those negative feelings I had towards her didnt feel like my own. And I remember talking down those mean thoughts I was having as if were a different persona saying them because it kind of felt like it was. I would see her and immediately I would hear those voices in my head criticizing her appearance. And I would say outloud to those voices "There's nothing wrong with her. You're the problem." These bad thoughts were like poison because they were starting to make me depressed. That's when I tried to pray the spirit of jealously away. ( as well as work on myself) The spirit did eventually leave me. I rebuked all the lies and negatively it bestowed on me. My team mate, I don't know if she sensed it or not but she showed me nothing but grace and love the whole time. I guess because she knew my heart and that I was fighting those demons. And now I admirer her so much more.
She is absolutely beautiful...I hope that she finds peace and continues to push through...💋
Chloe you are truly doing God’s work! As quiet as kept the people who pretend like they don’t see when women like Jessica are being hated on are the ones who are doing it OR they don’t mind watching others do it because they hate to see another black woman living a life they would kill for. I would be so ashamed of myself for tearing another woman down like this but these dusty women are also soulless. Nothing can really prepare you for the level of hate that comes with being more sexually threatening than them or not being tied down with a broke man’s baby.
Thank you for another great video Chloe, I love you. ❤
I love you more.💞
This woman is DROP DEAD GORGEOUS
"Black people are against upward mobility", I don't remember who said this but every time something like this happens that's all I think about. I am not familiar with her but I hope she protects her space and continues her content. There are women who need her representation. These weirdo women shouldn't get the gratification of running her off.
Right? Not to sound mean, but I’m tired of seeing black women twerking and acting like fools with no sense. It’s refreshing to see DSBW doing normal things and representing those of us that aren’t the stereotype.
Her make up is flawless
I watch her TikTok videos! She’s so beautiful and feminine! Her tips and suggestions are very helpful. She’s living the dream in Beverly Hills. She and her husband worked hard for years to get to this point! ❤❤❤❤
That’s why I don’t get mad about none of my social media platforms growing…because of these very reasons! Yet I still post because who needs to see it or hear it, will…
Crabs in a barrel. I can relate. While people in my own community aren't making comments to me due to my skin color, its the same type of annoying ignorant shyte. "You think you're better, you think you're all that..blah blah blah" No I elevated myself, took myself out of poverty, and live a luxurious life. Leave me alone and stay with the bums you so revere.
Sending you warm hugs Jessica. Bask in your happy.
my retaliation against few individuals wasn’t sudden. i was one of those overly nice girls whom always made everyone else laugh, until i realize they only wanted to drag me down any time i progressed in life.
As a woman whose served my community, I owe no man or woman nothing 💅🏾
Jealousy and Envy are a Spirit. What a word.
I’m just now seeing this woman. No clue who she was until you posted this video. The problem we have is that we keep lumping black culture into one type. Not all black women are toxic. Not all of us are damaging other black women. I’ll give her a follow.
That part ❤🎉
Jealousy is the spirit of death. Be careful❤
This is sad because she was one of the few content creators I identify with. I remember my parents encouraged my sisters and I to dress well whenever we went out. Love love love them for teaching us that.
Very unsettling to hear her story and it breaks my heart that black people know that black women are the least protected and disrespected in our communities and in society.
The bullying and silencing of black women on social media has gotten worse and it's unfair to see another race with the same gender or not, doing similar narratives and they're not going through the same BS as black women do on social media.
When you get bullied on social media, don't just assume it's your own kind doing the devils deed because chances are it is your enemy who can't stand your light so they create fake accounts and profiles to try and dim your light so you can disappear and they can Take over the spot light and earn money.
Black women, whatever we do we live rent free in peoples heads.
"We're damned if we do and Damned if we don't."
Great topic, Chloe.
I was just talking to my therapist about how jaded I am about how comfortable people but especially our own kind are okay with being mediocre and its sickening to watch
Look at her🥰😍…who wouldn’t be jealous?!!!🔥
I need to jot down some clap backs when watching Chloe….. you are well versed and you know your stuffs. Love you big C ❤
It is content like yours and hers that has help me elevate and heal. I am a dark skin African woman and I am very appreciative of educating you ladies are doing.
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for me, it was starting to feel as tho ppl would appreciate me, as long as i wasn’t doing better than them. the minute i made extreme life changes, they chose to sabotage & stand against me.
I believe it stems from a spirit of rejection. Some women, because of rejection inflict that spirit onto others as an unhealthy way to feel superior instead of taking the time to heal and become whole and secure. We have to do better. We have so much to offer each other and should accept each other as opportunities to support instead of opponents.
This is exactly what it is. Black ppl as a whole deal with the spirit of rejection.
I don’t know what’s going on in the world. But I notice how negative people are getting these days.
Is it the economy?
Are people suffering so much that they can’t relate to her?
I think people are really miserable. When a dark skin black women is modest, beautiful and graceful. It irritates their souls! This is a spiritual thing yall.
This is very true
Following this channel will truly challenge you to level up as I recently seen in my journey, you will be tested by both men and women when they notice you becoming more feminine in every way and will do everything in their power to "humble" you. Protect your feminine spirits at all cost, it's not easy but it will be worth it.
Girl don’t worry about what they think about what and how you choose to live your
Life. They just don’t see themselves as you present. Go on and live your life, after all it is YOUR life. And you are a classy beautiful young lady. Keep it going.
I hate to see her come to tears. I hope she gains the strength to continue. She’s beautiful and has an important message that needs to be heard.
As a content creator, I can definitely relate to what she's experiencing. I have learned to ignore the mean spiritless and keep to myself. I hope she continues to do her thing and let the haters sit on the sidelines.
I absolutely love her glow up. She has definitely influenced me and I love her style . It's sad that they are being mean to her.
some people just have a truly sick obsession with humbling women who mind their own business & do well for ourselves. no matter how harsh our humble beginnings were, they don’t care & hate happiness.
Instead of some bw minding their business or working on themselves to be better,they take time out to down other bw,or better yet keeping their opinions to themselves ,how about that 😒
Single women are extremely jealous of married women. I heard one say, “She thinks she’s all that, I’m going to try to sleep with her husband” like what? Why would her mind even go there? Then they will turn around and say married men are cheating on their wives and that’s why they don’t want a husband. Misery loves company.
That is disgusting and a mindful warning alarm of the lengths bitter women will go through to harm another woman that’s thriving. ☹️
Jessica is one of my favorites. Such a poised, and classy lady. I definitely think resentment, jealousy and colorism play a role in her treatment and it’s even worse when it comes from our own. I hope people don’t dont down play this at all. Then on the other end of the spectrum you have Golloria, another beauty creator who was bullied so badly outside of the community she had to leave Tik Tok. This is why I always support Black women who represent us well.
I hate that this beautiful woman has to go through this and explain herself to the peanut gallery. Honestly this is why I left social media aka IG, Twitter and FB more than 5 years ago. The internet is not a real place because I simply refuse to believe it’s this many miserable people in the world. Sometimes I feel like my inner circle ⭕️ is the only normal and sane and rational people I know.
Well I'm grateful that this young lady is not allowing the haters to stop her from doing what she loves and what she believes in❤
Black girls jumped on two of my cousins and cut their hair off why did they do this ? Because the girls said they think they cute yes they said that .When I was sixteen a grown black women yelled at me in a store because she asked me was my hair real ? I said yes because it is she yelled at me in front of every one saying it is not because black girls cant grow hair then she tried to grab my hair not touch people grab my hair I told her dont touch me and walked out the store yes people I was sixteen and this was a grown women messing with me .
Did this happen in the US?
Im not familiar w her content but from what I hear, they sound like the classic “haters”. Being pretty AND feminine will ALWAYS get attention from men, women and children, good and bad. If you don’t let the good go to your head, the bad won’t stand a chance. Don’t quit!!! That is Exactly what they want. The best get-back is to keep excelling and leave them in the dust where they feel at home and comfortable. Keep your head up pretty girl ❤
God please help our community to love ourselves enough to love each other. We are deserving 🙏🏽
Her page gives me hope and I love to see a beautiful black woman living in hypergamy. a greatly disappoints me that she has been bullied and I never knew it before watching this video. What kind of hateful soul do you have to have to see a woman thriving and happy and be negative towards that?! The internal hate is so loud and I literally rebuke those spirits and I want them nowhere near me. She never deserved that type of behavior.
She is gorgeous 😍
*I needed to hear this because, I noticed the pattern of what makes it to the fyp and I'm glad I have never deviated to that. Thank you Chloe
She shouldn’t allow anyone to dictate how she moves, in this instance, by giving them attention.
This might sound controversial, but honestly, whenever I’ve felt a woman’s jealousy, I wish them well but I’m also veryyyy tickled pink because I know I’m doing something right 😌
"Nignorant" tehehe 😂 the saddest part is that women will even be jealous of your potential, just the way you move and carry yourself..smh that can on paper have more than you, and still be jealous of you, hey what can you do, but remain Unbothered 👠✨👑👠
She is stunning! 🤩 One thing to make clear for her viewers is let them know who her target audience is. If you are classy and on an ongoing journey of leveling up and seeking growth then your audience should know who they are. Just as the lowly miserable no- growth, no-aspiration so-called female haters should clearly know they don't belong in the same room (aka your social media space) with you. I hope she grows thick skin to mute them and be unbothered about them.
9:03 Have felt like this for years and I do not regret separating from what is termed “Blakistan”.
Really feel for this young lady.
We don’t do that on this channel.
Blakistan 😂😂😂😭
I don’t blame you. It’s so peaceful not having to deal with the hate.
Go argue with your bed bugs……..the way I HOLLERED 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ladies, "those that matter don't mind and those that mind, don't matter"❤ Embrace your Black Beauty. Thank you Chloe❤
Very true Chloe, I feel like they do the same to Clarke. Constantly trying to shame her for having high standards and try to convince her to lower her dating expectations even after she has had to explain how she built herself up to who she is today and why she can’t not be with someone who brings less to the table she has set herself up for.
I agree with her for the most part, minus the "lightskin creators don't get bullied part"
Those women are obviously jealous of her. She's really beautiful and elegant. She looks almost perfect, actually. She even has a glow.
Yes, and women tend to hate me too.
LOL it’s so crazy how lightskin is always thrown in there yet here she is invalidating our experiences with bullying. The difference is we have the skills and social power to overcome and not cry about it.
She is beautiful. It is sad to hear her story.
"Nignorant" I'm definitely going to have to add that to my slang lexicon
The video at the end was a hugeee bar on self-awareness, just wowww 👏🏾👏🏾🔥🔥🔥 I wish I knew the name of the girl who made that video.
Also big up to Chloe, this topic was very deep. I really want to get her book Private not Secret now, as it’s truly the best way to move in silence as a feminine woman, to avoid those monitoring spirits.
Soon as I saw this video I thought about the Ashley Dalton situation where she was verbally attacked by a masculina, I don’t know why it’s really people within our own race that bully us the most…😢
It's true that it's black women who do the most damage
Damn. They coming after her too 😢
this is what I'm afraid of, everyone tells me to start making content but as someone who had been picked on my whole life I'm scared of going through that again.
I feel like going incognito is the way to preserve that peace also Let a safe person go through comments and route out the crap before you see it!
I don't know any of the people spoken about or who this beautifully articulate gorgeous women is but her peace is being disrupted, don't sacrifice yourself Baby🙏