Very sad how women can be very jealous and dislike you for no reason!!! I have lived thru it my entire life. No matter how caring and friendly, I can be!!! Oh well, less toxic friendship is better for our soul. Greetings from Arizona ladies!!!
And the worst of the worst is a jealous mother who is now, due to her jealousy, unwilling to unconditional love and support her daughter. A daughter who will be confused, depressed, frustrated, and neglected for decades until she figures this horrible truth out. A daughter who then realizes her mother never loved her and has to come to terms with that. Not only that, but a daughter who will have experienced a smear campaign, backstabbing campaign, and leaving-out campaign thanks to the one woman in the world who was supposed to unconditionally love her. Those of you who identify with this, know that the scapegoat in the family is the one who resembles Christ the most! Be proud of that, leave the gossiping bunch behind and build your own family, including supportive friends and unconditionally loving pets!
@@sophial.2438 As the daughter of a jealous mother, your comment made me feel better even though it is a heartbreaking situation to be in. I can deal with acquaintances, coworkers or neighbors who are jealous of me, because they don't owe me anything after all. They don't even have to like me. But a family member is supposed to love you, and your mother is supposed to love you the most because she's the one who chose to bring you into this world. Unfortunately some mothers are unable or unwilling to give love to their children. As you said, the best thing you can do in these circumstances is to build your own family.
I agree 100%. I grew up the scapegoat, with my “mother’s” world revolving around jealousy of me, tearing me down, bullying me and even calling several of my employers in my past trying to get me fired. I’ve finally gone no-contact with her, and am seeing a therapist for c-ptsd for a lifetime of hell from a jealous, cruel and vindictive “mother”. Godspeed ladies, we are so much better than that, and deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. ❤
I agree with this, especially in a work context. It’s also a good way to know who is really a friend, as friends will be happy for your success and hype you up, not be malicious or not think you should have what you have.
Hi my sister and my friends were always jealous of me and it bother me alot it got me sick now i am 65 years and they are still this way it got me sick i let it bother me now ido not speak to them anymore and i feel much better i am not rich i live alone i live a very simple life they are just so mean the only woman that lived me and cared for me was my mother i miss her so much she passed away many years ago but i learned in life if people around you that are mean and jealous stay away and be happy any way you can life is short love yourself and stay away from people that have bad intentions and that are toxic god bless i wish all the kind woman and good woman the best !
As a successful woman in a male dominant field, jealous men like to laugh at my ideas while stealing and presenting them as theirs, they also love to talk about my appearance (how old and "off market" I am for being single and over 40s) while spreading lies about me being involved with them, even the married ones! Same behaviour as jealous women towards my appearance, my money and my independency from my also successful partners. So, I honestly think it's a matter of character, not gender. We all should accept jealousy as a normal human trait and canalize energy towards improving ourselves and not downplaying others to feel better. It's so ugly.
@@seabreeze4559 Usually I present my ideas on brainstorming meetings and they ignore it or make funny noises in front of everybody, and repeat exactly what I said. Just like that. The other men accept better, almost immediately when coming from a man, not woman. But it's really funny to see them struggling to elaborate more details about the approach, since they don't fully thought through it. Once a guy stole a woman's colleague files from her pc and built his project on top of her basis. Outrageous, I know. But plot twist, he forgot to review some mistakes she hadn't have time to fix yet. Her presentation was faultless and she ended up leading him on this specific project. Other thing they love to do is to have secret "informal meetings" without women and say it's just coffee time, hide documents and data from us to delay our outcomes, or not engage on project lead by us. And all of this just for jealousy.
I feel self absorbed people are more ego driven and they want to be the central of attention. And they want to be admired. That is why older women are jealous than younger women. People who are egotistical like to be in the superior position. And they hate that people are better than them. They love to power trip people. Either by being high and mighty. Or by being holier than thou and preaching to people about kindness. They love pretending they are perfect but lack respect.
It is scary when toxicity can reach the extremes of criminal activity. There was the story in another forum of a lady who was almost poisoned by her "friends"; she had graduated with honours, got a high paying job, things were falling into place for her. Her friends decided to take her out for drinks; when she went to the bathroom, one of her "friends" slipped something into her drink. One of the waitresses saw it, waited outside the bathroom and warned this lady about it, told her not to drink her cocktail. The lady comes back to the table, her "friends" are egging her on to celebrate and drink up her cocktail. She pushed it to one of them and asked them to drink it for her, and that is when their true colours came out and a heated argument about how this lady got everything she wanted in life and they didn't, that she thought she was too good for them. Long story short, they are no longer friends, the lady reported them to the police and had them arrested. Sad that they did not choose to celebrate her; the good you put out into the world will always come back to you if you choose it, no matter what emotions you are battling with at first.
I nearly got dux of the school until someone put cannabis in my food and made me unwell for many years. I had everything, a nice house, love from the popular boys and good grades then they plummetted and I got depression. Unable to work because I get exhausted too easily as well.
That's disgusting. I'm so happy for the waitress, clearly God was looking out for her using that waitress like that. What the hell. That's a good sign though, maybe those "Women" will reap what they sow.
Jealousy is a real problem when someone tries to sabotage you at work or socially. Sometimes you need to shut people down but most of the time i ignore them and the truth comes out about their lies
Jealousy is a clear sign that you want what someone else has - use that knowledge as inspiration rather than tearing other people down. People who try to diminish others only make themselves look bad. If you ever find yourself feeling jealous, ask yourself what it is you want that they have. Then use that as inspiration and go get it! ❤
Exactly, and the reason it turns toxic is that many people see that someone else has something, and then because of low self esteem, or trauma or whatever reason, they assume they can’t have that same thing. That’s where it gets ugly- because now the person they envy becomes someone who has almost ‘taken away’ their dreams (even though we know that isn’t true). And it’s sad because it’s often directed at people who they’re quite similar to in terms of abilities/status in life (that’s where I’ve seen envy get the worst) so they likely can achieve it.
I want to add that it’s about being content with yourself, probably what we have someone else wishes they had. More importantly not comparing yourself to someone else. There is a saying “comparison is the killer of joy”. Each of us is on our own journey in life with our own unique gifts and experiences.
Sometimes others have a quality, such as physical beauty, that you can’t have. Being minimally attractive, I accept this is the case and try to improve myself while recognizing my limitations. No sense in lashing out at others for whatever qualities they were gifted or developed.
@laurawhitaker1797 Okay, I see what you're trying to say, but physical beauty is a trait. It's not a quality. Physical can go away with age, disfigurement, etc. A quality you can work at to improve and it's inside of you, you demonstrate the quality.
I don’t jealous women, but women are jealous of me just because I am me. I compliment women I don’t even know on their …clothes…shoes…style…perfume and the like. I love me and know who I am. I’ve never cared about who have what or how anyone looks.
When you are self loving you spread love! Insecure people who hate themselves hate judge others. Shame. But they only are creating disease in their own bodies 😐😅
Jealousy is low class and not very classy.its a form of low-level mental illness, and personally, I feel sad for unhappy people. They are at war with themselves and could benefit from therapy.
Beautifully put ! be happy with yourself , work towards a cause to benefit others and feel good from within is the way to be Happiness comes from gratitude & giving back . Avoid the jealous resentful ones , a negative energy .
“I can validate my own self.” Amen. So many people need to hear and internalize this and then apply it to so many situations their lives. Thank you for using your platform for such good!
“This is my life, and 98% of the women around me. I didn’t do anything to deserve the hate, jealousy, and competitiveness I get from them. It’s always the same with all the women I meet. I’m someone who’s very content with my life and with what I have, and I have zero jealousy towards people because I believe they work hard to get there. I just block them and move away from them because I can’t trust people with this attitude.”
Everybody needs a friend, but the time people spend with a bad friend could be invested in a better friend who would actually help them if they ever needed it.
I agree , this is also the story of my life . Everytime the same scheme. I am still single and I even have the jaleousy of tall the married women with kids. I do not even envy them but there is something in me that make them feel jaleous.
I’m the youngest in my whole family two brothers and two sisters are insanely jealous because I was very close to my parents and they weren’t. It’s something that I tried to understand as a young child. My mother told me that jealousy is just a sickness ,she tried to tell me just to be myself and ignore it. It’s very hard to ignore, but I just went on with my life. I still deal with it today.
I’ve started surrounding myself with women who are only positive about themselves because they don’t need to criticise me to feel good about themselves❤ I love seeing women who look fantastic because I take inspiration from what they are wearing or how they did their makeup or hair etc 🙏
I have dealt with jealous women my whole life. It is very complicated and difficult to deal with.these women create so much damage in other people's lives, whether they act knowingly or not
Nope that’s not all true. I’m not even on social media. And I find, unfortunately the women who do the less are the most hateful and jealous. Meaning they don’t out effort into themselves inside nor out. They don’t workout, don’t go to therapy, don’t put effort into their appearance. They think that women who do have it easier than them but that’s an excuse that they tell themselves so that they don’t have to change. They’re lazy it’s easier for them to hate them to the work to be better
Feeling jealousy for another woman can be turned into a positive. I have asked myself why am I jealous of this woman? What is it that I am jealous of? The next question is, what can I do to level up and achieve the thing I am jealous about. Do I need to take more time and effort when planning outfits? Do I need to read a book so I can understand what she was talking about so that I can join in next time? And so on. It’s an emotion that if used properly can make you level up and become your better self.
I know a singaporean lady who is very kind and invites me to networking events. She has impeccable taste. I'm jealous of outfits- they aren't my style but she always looks so polished. I'm doing the work to upgrade my wardrobe and put together better looks on a budget. I think to myself.. how would she style it? how can I style it on myself ? I use jealousy as fuel to improve myself instead of being wistfully and self defeating jealous .
Nah you need therapy instead trying to be like someone else you need to figure out what in you makes you jealous of another woman. You doing what see does is obsession. Be your own woman. I seriously don’t get the pathology of women who are jealous of another woman
As much as I love social media, it is playing a big role in mental health issues IMHO. Many lies and liars around making people feel insecure and less privileged, to say the least. Everyone is “rich and pretty”. Perhaps if we try to be honest when we put ourselves out there, we would be able to help to make a better world. Great video Anna. Sending love.
I had an art classmate who finished my joy in the class - she saw the teacher really liked me & my work, so she acts sweet but would interrupt every time i spoke to the teacher (& doesn't to anyone else). Also, pushes me off the benches by setting her stuff up near mine, takes my equipment...& finally when she realised i stay last & have nice teacher time, she brought in work to show the teacher at class end. They also talked about me in a different language & she got the teacher to speak in that for her one on one advice, so i couldn't listen in & learn too. I was always the one who looked bad, since I would raise my voice when: she pushed me off, interrupted, & took my stuff- so it always looked like i was the one being unpleasant instead of her! Luckily, because I've had so many problems with people being jealous, this time I saw it right from the start, so i didn't waste much emotional energy on feeling hurt, sad and angry. And luckily i reached a point of wanting to pursue other goals and could just leave permanently.
I had a horrible issue about a year and a half ago when someone (family) got struck by jealousy towards me. I was once the solution person and then I ended up being the problem. I’ve learned a lot from that and I’m so much stronger in mind, and so much happier one year later. Thank you for this video.
It's really not just women who are jealous of women. Many men nowadays are also extremely jealous when they see a woman succeed, and they constantly try to put her down. I'm seeing many cases of bf's breaking up with their gf's only because they are more successful in their career.
This video is so well-timed for me... Apparently, some friend cannot deal with the fact that I met someone who makes me the happiest and have just to cut off the relationship without a word face to face! And you're right, who cares who's judging :)
I think compassion towards others is very important. Jealousy is a very painful mind, they are suffering. No need to be angry or look down on jealous people. And we also have jealousy sometimes. We need to learn how to deal with it in our own mind when it arises for us❤
Anna, fantastic. This topic must be analyzed more. It ruins lives everyday. Im glad to work from home these days and be away from certain jealous ladies. Its sad we cannot support each other 100%.
I think the jealousy out there, along with insecurities, has escalated to making navigating the social world like an all out daily war. If some women have talent, beauty, feminine gentleness, feminine kindness, critical thinking abilities, anything people see as "high quality." Instead of enjoying this in a person they make reputation sabotaging comments. This is why women dim their light and hide their benefits. Men really must search to find these hidden gems.
Jealousy is just a fact of life - people will be jealous of me, and i'll be jealous of other people. i look at it like any other emotion: harmless if fleeting, and very damaging if left unchecked. it's up to every person how they handle their jealousy - i try not to fixate and change momentary jealousy into something more motivational: "She has such gorgeous hair/skin/style/whatever, I wish i had that...what do i have to do, to gain it for myself?"
Ur the only person in this comments section who is being honest, everyone else is like “people are jealous of me and I can’t stand it and I never get jealous”😂 like these people don’t know that we know they are human
I didn’t have a problem with people being envious or jealous of me until they started putting in the action by setting me up to embarrass me etc then i stayed away.
I’m rarely feel jealous of fabulous woman, I’m more admiring than jealous, sure there’s a hint of envy but for the main I love the spectacle of a woman at her finestI
I had lots of girls and even teachers in school who were jealous but I never allowed that to pull me down. My feminine and calm mature manner was what got me through just being myself. Also my long hair since I've always had long luscious hair, my hair gets tons of compliments when I'm out. It's rare to find someone especially where I live to have the length of hair that I have.
@aylaa5842 It's rare escape where I live that anyone has the length of hair that I have. I can't go anywhere without getting stopped by someone about how long it is lol
Ive been watching you since 2022 & stopped in 2023. I am back watching you again in 2024. I want to say that you have truly level up in term of contents cause at some point they were very repetitive. I am truly amazed by your perseverance & dedication. Good luck
We’ve strayed farther and farther from being the communal creatures that we are & have adapted very masculine tendencies-competitiveness is one of them.
Anna I love the fact that you are talking about things women need to deal with, it just shows you are not a snowflake, a woman without depth, instead you are woman that is beautiful with brains, a deep thinker. Thank you for delving into deeper topics.
Absolutely, I realized this last week alone. It's NOT my battle to fight, I just keep living my life and not own this Negative energy they try to put on me. Just keep loving. Love repels evil.
My RUclips account heard what I said to my therapist tonight and delivered this to me. I got a big glow up in the last few years and I get the WEIRDEST comments and cold shoulders from other women. Some of them are almost comical. On one hand I want to respond and be like “Jennifer, what the hell?” But eyes on the prize (and God knows I still have goals yet to be reached and projects yet to be finished) is the way. Perfect content!
People wonder why some females’ friends are nearly entirely male, forgetting that no matter how nice a girl is, others often are malevolent toward her and cannot be trusted. Not everyone has the luck/circumstances to be near ethical peaceful females. Some women have even stalked other women and started defamation campaigns against them. Trust is something that should be earned and not easily given. Better safe than sorry.
Jealousy is one of the lowest vibration emotions that people commonly experience. To me the best way to cope with jealousy is to transform it into joy & motivation An unbalanced Solar plexus chakra leads to jealousy & possessiveness ❤
I believe jealousy and envy are slightly different in that as a married woman, if another woman flirts with my husband, it is natural for me to have a certain feeling about that situation “ I would feel jealous.” On the other hand if I for example love handbags and I am a collector and maybe Anna has a nice rare handbag that I would love to get and I can’t obtain that bag, and I begin to have some negative emotions because I want something that belongs to someone else, then that is Envy and it’s quite dangerous.”
Exactly, I see in English the word jaelousy is much used with the meaning of "envy". Envy is always a mean feeling. Jaelousy can also be the innocent attempt to protect one's beloved from being "stolen" by someone else...
Thanks for talking about this uncomfortable topic. I have been jealous due to my own insecurities and feelings of inadequacy. But, even though I used to feel like the underdog, lots of women have been extremely jealous of me. It is not a matter of self perception: Even when self perception is not adequate other people can envy certain things about you. I started been aware of external jealousy back in College. Some people even tried to harm me with character assassination and more extreme behaviors. To be in that situation is terrible, where you can't trust no one. As my self confidence grew, as I found my true self, my fear of them lessened to the level of not caring about their shortcomings. It took me years to build a strong personality, but now as an adult I live my life with a true sense of personal validation and appreciation.
Thank you Anna for talking about this topic! I ve been struggling with jealousy my whole life and affected by the negative comments of other people who wanted to bring me down. As you said, the key is accepting that this kind of people will always be around and focus our energy and time on something that matters m!
I think jealousy is the reason behind everything negative in a relationship…if you’re in the shits with someone, it’s core will be jealousy….if someone is mean to you-jealousy…if someone won’t talk to you-jealousy…someone spreads rumours-jealousy…..
It’s called Tall Poppy syndrome. It was discussed recently when UK journalist Louise Perry interviewed top Canadian female sports coach. Many experiments were carried out where a group of girls and women were exposed to a beautiful and successful athlete that entered the room dressed in a provocative outfit. Gossiping, tearing down talk, side glances and even bursting with laughter were all captured on film by the researchers.
This experiment is ridiculous. Of course people aren’t going to like when someone is dressed provocatively, they are looking for a safe friend to share a life with, which includes access to there significant other. I absolutely refuse to allow an immodest woman around my daughters or husband. It’s a basic protective instinct.
@@seabreeze4559 I have the same body type plus 550 cc breast implants. Before Jesus saved me I was really into plastic surgery. I dress modestly. I don’t wear skin tight clothing, I don’t wear super short dresses or crazy small slivers of clothing. Try that argument with someone else.
@@sigma.ateonperiod What argument? Also Jesus saves your soul as a possibility, you are not guaranteed to be saved. That's pride. He says many will claim to know him and he will say He never knew them. So check your conceit and as someone with a naturally superior figure, I had no say-so in being objectified at the age of 12 by creeps. It didn't matter what I was wearing. I tried everything. Nothing worked. So gaslight someone else.
I understand that there will always be jealousy unfortunately as I’ve lived it frequently; but what I fail to understand is all of the advise says “focus on yourself” and/or “limit contact,” well that’s what I do and have always done…. But when these jealous women engage in what Anna mentions earlier: “smear campaign”, “sabotage”, etc and you are obviously being negatively affected despite best efforts (and maybe also forced to be around these people..) WHAT ARE YOU TO DO THEN?!!
I think a healthy dose of jealously is good. I grow up low middle class and I was jealous of the high-class girls in my private high-school. I tried to study them and I still do on their instagrams. What they wore, the way they moved in society, the network that they had. I decided to get inspired and not mad and that helped me a lot in life.
Sameee omg i used to be so jealous of this one instagram model’s body and seductive charm in her videos but instead of hating her I also studied her and started hitting the gym and now 7 years later I have also bodyodyody and those video skills and now girls are jealous of ME 💀💀🤣 I dont use tiktok and I remember for ex one night a girl i know asked me to do a tiktok w her and I outshined her a lot in that video. Her chin was dropping and she didnt even post it bc of that in the end 💀💀 She thought bc i dont use tiktok idk how to make those videos but nah gurl ive been practicing since before tiktok was even a thing 🤪🤪 no shade to her though at all, I was just super proud of myself in that moment bc I spent so much time on this 💀 and I realize now how much effort the influencer girl mustve put aswell.
Anna, Im very curious to know how to go grocery shopping as an elegant woman. Some do’s and dont’s would be helpful, such as some other insights on this daily moments! Love your content Anna, always very on point 🫶🏼
1.Don't block the isle, be aware of your surroundings wait for people to go past , say excuse me if you need to squeeze by in a narrow aisle, 2.Only grab what you want. some people are weird about buying things people have already just touched. 3 Be polite to the cashier, if you bring your own bags for groceries give them to the cashier bagger first so that its not a big deal for them to pull things out already bagged and firmly and gently say "please use these instead " 4.Dress nice casual in comfortable but classy shoes - do yourself up with a slicked back ponytail and natural looking makeup if your feeling a bit lazy and don't want to do full face. think "clean girl aesthetic" You never know if you could find a potential: client/ new job / spouse/ friend or run into an ex while shopping ! I will never forget how mortified I was when I saw a lady I met at my work I was hoping to catch as client shopping the same big buy store as me while looking for deals on dvds but I was dressed in my weekend grungy gardening clothes and she looked put together ! I didn't expect to see her there and it's a completely different style of neighborhood in which I work. I felt embarrassed and dowdy. You don't have to be dressed to the 9's just neat and and have your clothes in good repair , not faded and not pilly. Take it from me , nothing ruins your credibility more than looking worn out and shabby on your day off ! Best wishes in your level up endeavors 🥰
@@HosCreates I feel very honored by your helpful suggestions! I will definitely have them in consideration the next time I do grocery shopping. Wonderful your gentleness. Thank you so much! 💛
YES! 100% Jealousy is a feeling caused by our bodies subconscioulsly when we feel threatened. As women, we percieve other women as competition. We want to be the most beautiful, most popular, get the best man....etc to get ahead in life. IT IS BIOLOGY. But there's healthy jealousy and there's toxic jealousy: healthy is being jealous of a more successful woman which will give us a push to become more successful ourselves. Then there's toxic jealousy, which is being jealous of a beautiful woman who happens to be younger than you such as cousin, coworker, even daughter (if you are a narcissistic mother). This younger woman happens to look younger and has less wrinkles, more beautiful even, and you cant be younger again so this jealousy might make you treat her like crap. We should be aware of this type of toxic jealousy and try to ignore it because it makes us bitter. It is a feeling subconscioulsy generated by our body/ biology that is in this case useless and detrimental for us older women. As women we should support other women regardless of age.
I love this, you’re describing stoicism. I’ve been researching this for a while now and wow, it’s helped me with a jealous friend. Great advice, thank you!
Thank you for speaking on this topic! I have been reflecting on this lately on how women can be jealous of me for no reason and wen I tell pple dat it seems like I'm crazy
Jealosy comes from the unknown or ignored understanding that each of us are created unique. When I understand that I am a unique and authentic person, I only compete with myself to get the best version of myself.
Great topic and vid. Envy covets, jealousy protects. Envy is when you want what another person has.. job, life, looks, home, etc. Jealously is fear of losing a partner, or loved one, to an interloper. Being the target of envy is difficult. Little can be done to stop a person's preoccupation with you except to keep an alert distance. Celebs deal with this all the time and will self deprecate and act modest in interviews, downplay their talents/achievements to appease the public.
If you find you are jealous of someone or envious of them, you can use it as a teaching tool for yourself. Ask yourself honestly what it is you are jealous about and use that to work out what you need to work on in yourself. Use that person as a positive inspiration and a way to guide you to your own path of transformation. You're obviously admiring something about that person where you feel you are lacking so it can be a practical illustration of where you want to head and an example of what you might need to do to achieve it for yourself. Some people see someone they are jealous of and try to tear that person down to their level so they feel comfortable again without having to do any work of their own (lazy and insecure in their own abilities and fearing failure so why bother, if that person gets dragged down, no-one is special and you can kid yourself that they "weren't that special to begin with anyway" - this is often what people do), but I think it's much better to use that person as an inspiration to bring yourself up to their level instead. Speaking personally, I'm always inspired by successful people and try to use it as an example of what I can have for myself too.
I feel like the most difficult thing for me is to figure out how to react to people being jealous of me because sometimes they make weird comments and I know that their intention is to bring me down slightly (and it's very subtle but very predictable because I see the pattern repeat itself over and over again with these people) and I know they do it to make themselves feel better and not inadequate in that moment but it affects me unfortunately.
Very important message -- thank you for this vid! A jealous person has to want to become a better person. I know people (women) who have seen multiple therapists over many years and they still give into destructive jealous feelings. The best we can do is keep our distance from someone who shows this behavior.
Hi Anna, i don't usually leave comments but i wanted to tell you that i watch all your videos, you are doing an Amazing job and i admire how passionated and devoted your are. Thank you for being yourself and sharing so much with us 🥰❤
I absolutely love valuable content that you make for us. Digging deeper into the topic is what really makes your channel special Anna! About jealousy - people tend to be jealous because... I'm likable person. I always talk to myself that happy and fullfilled people are not jealous in a toxic way and and feel sorry for that person. It was hard work with psychotherapist to be in that moment, but trust me, it is all worth it! ❤
Oh, Snap!! I needed this video because my husband's step-sister seems jealous of me because she's 3xs bigger than me. Sucks because we are family at the end of the day
Anna, the way I RAN to this video. I am so so glad you touched on this. I've absolutely noticed women acting really really funny with me and doing certain sabatoging things when I was simply minding my own business and did nothing to them. This especially happens to women in job interviews. I've been told that I should try toning down my makeup or how I dress (elevated) because it may intimidate other people and if the interviewers are women, I most likely will not get hired.
One thing though, I CAN'T STAND when people automatically call women jealous when we don't like something or don't agree with something another woman does. I don't think that's fair. The other stuff like sabotaging another woman's job or social life is totally different.
Once you learn to really let go, not give a damn about what others think or what their problem is, once you understand their opinion absolutely doesn't affect your life and that it is THEIR problem, it all gets so much easier. Just ignore it completely and take the high road, be at peace with yourself, know who you are and that's it. Took me many years, until I was in my thirties to gain that level of confidence and peace with myself.
I really appreciate the practical advices on self growth that you are giving in this new channel. I think it's very useful and needed to know how to overcome those emotional or mental behaviours that keeps us back from moving forward in our inner growth. And the practical examples you made were very relatable. Thank you for sharing your tools
Sometimes you can neither cut off more confront jealous people. They're a bunch of people in your family and of course you won't leave your entire family just because of a few jealous people. This is where you gotta intimidate these people to bring out their jealousy so everybody can see that a jealous person is trying to harm you. This way, the jealous people would not have the room to run smear campaign onto you because they'll become too busy protecting their image. And who knows it might push them to deal with their jealousy.
I loved that video and I really needed that type of guidance, I usually try to ignore them but it’s very important to avoid those people they really drain your soul
I have a friend/co-worker who is jealous of me because I am working part time somewhere else so I can eventually leave the job I work at with her. I was surprised that she wasn't at all happy for me and instead started giving me the cold shoulder and making under the breath comments. Some friend. Love the advice Anna, you are an inspiration and so wise!❤
Dats why i dont upload my holiday pics on insta , fb or even watsapp display pic. No one knows dat i went. No one knows wat i eat or wear or the wonderful places i go.. its safe and good dat way. People were even jealous of my honeymoon and dats wen i realsied they dont be having access to my world. Not even my mom and certain relatives.
That can be helpful. Glad it works for you, as you deserve to be happy & unbothered. I post what I want & live live the way I chose. I’m not in charge of other’s emotional, self regulation. It’s not like their going to have any type of real effect on the trajectory of my life. 🙏
I am jealous and envious, but I believe I have worked up to control these feelings and thoughts. Self-care and focusing on "me" are some answers that helped me. And following Anna's teaching definitely contributed to this improvement ❤️
Points for the onscreen caption for people who need accessibility assistance Anna. If that's a feature in the editing software you use, or a new feature in your preferred editing software and you know you had it enabled huge points for the in video caption. If you didn't know you had that feature enabled and, you didn't know about the feature in the first place, you unknowingly did a phenomenal job with this particular video.
I don't get jealous , I get inspired. That's the way to handle feelings of insecurity we all get at times. I don't care how other women look - weather they prefer being "plain" or that " over the top" look because I do my best to live by the motto each to their own , without judgement of how other people want to be of look. Sometimes I wish other women would extend that curiosity to me. I have had jealous women all my life who try to compete with me. I've never understood it.
@@nzingahoney are you dumb ? jealousy is not due to hormones . its due to immaturity insecurity and evilness of oneself . men have always had that jealousy thing . brothers kill each other for the sake of property and money . they start wars due to jealousy envy and hate for other's kingdom . jealousy has always existed since the beginning of humans . its not a woman trait . its a human trait
The lack of identity is the root cause of jealousy. The ability to appreciate other human beings' achievements and beauty is powerful. Ladies, this is the secret of a powerful woman.
Had a jealous friend who always tried to get every man that liked me. She was secretly call girl for Nigerian men and somehow still wanted the little I have. She was generally feeling inadequate despite receiving more material things from men. I was receiving love. Grateful for your chanel
Oh my God, thank youuu ❤ I can't thank you enough for you providing this new perspective that help me broaden my mind. I always wonder why women can be so bitter toward me when i always try to support them. This really help me a lot. Thank you so much ❤
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What gets under my skin is when jealous people hate on you for having what you possess but refuse to do what you did to get there.
Exactly!
This!
Omg yes!
Very true!
Lazy people.
Very sad how women can be very jealous and dislike you for no reason!!! I have lived thru it my entire life. No matter how caring and friendly, I can be!!! Oh well, less toxic friendship is better for our soul. Greetings from Arizona ladies!!!
Yes unfortunatelly 😢 we need so much detachment, management and in general, being on constant watchout 🥲
It isn't for no reason. It is evolutionary.
@@saturdaysun10 They may feel jealous but doesn't mean they need to act on it like an animal, we are humans we can rise above feelings.
Indeed. Less toxic relationships is the best
You’re not alone. I just stay away from them because I can’t trust drinking water from their house.
What’s the worst is jealous women who are FAMILY 😭
And the worst of the worst is a jealous mother who is now, due to her jealousy, unwilling to unconditional love and support her daughter.
A daughter who will be confused, depressed, frustrated, and neglected for decades until she figures this horrible truth out.
A daughter who then realizes her mother never loved her and has to come to terms with that.
Not only that, but a daughter who will have experienced a smear campaign, backstabbing campaign, and leaving-out campaign thanks to the one woman in the world who was supposed to unconditionally love her.
Those of you who identify with this, know that the scapegoat in the family is the one who resembles Christ the most!
Be proud of that, leave the gossiping bunch behind and build your own family, including supportive friends and unconditionally loving pets!
@@sophial.2438 As the daughter of a jealous mother, your comment made me feel better even though it is a heartbreaking situation to be in. I can deal with acquaintances, coworkers or neighbors who are jealous of me, because they don't owe me anything after all. They don't even have to like me. But a family member is supposed to love you, and your mother is supposed to love you the most because she's the one who chose to bring you into this world. Unfortunately some mothers are unable or unwilling to give love to their children. As you said, the best thing you can do in these circumstances is to build your own family.
I agree 100%. I grew up the scapegoat, with my “mother’s” world revolving around jealousy of me, tearing me down, bullying me and even calling several of my employers in my past trying to get me fired. I’ve finally gone no-contact with her, and am seeing a therapist for c-ptsd for a lifetime of hell from a jealous, cruel and vindictive “mother”. Godspeed ladies, we are so much better than that, and deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. ❤
It’s hell :(
I totally agree! So heart breaking
I have learned not to reveal to much to certain women. Bc of the jealously. It makes life more peaceful for me. It’s sad though.
I agree with this, especially in a work context. It’s also a good way to know who is really a friend, as friends will be happy for your success and hype you up, not be malicious or not think you should have what you have.
Hi my sister and my friends were always jealous of me and it bother me alot it got me sick now i am 65 years and they are still this way it got me sick i let it bother me now ido not speak to them anymore and i feel much better i am not rich i live alone i live a very simple life they are just so mean the only woman that lived me and cared for me was my mother i miss her so much she passed away many years ago but i learned in life if people around you that are mean and jealous stay away and be happy any way you can life is short love yourself and stay away from people that have bad intentions and that are toxic god bless i wish all the kind woman and good woman the best !
I only trusted my mother in this life she loved me and cared for me ! 11:11
This🔥
No it doesn't make it sad, all it really means is that YOU are a very smart woman!!!
As a successful woman in a male dominant field, jealous men like to laugh at my ideas while stealing and presenting them as theirs, they also love to talk about my appearance (how old and "off market" I am for being single and over 40s) while spreading lies about me being involved with them, even the married ones! Same behaviour as jealous women towards my appearance, my money and my independency from my also successful partners. So, I honestly think it's a matter of character, not gender. We all should accept jealousy as a normal human trait and canalize energy towards improving ourselves and not downplaying others to feel better. It's so ugly.
thank you for saying this 🙌🏾
Mite effeminate and catty innit
So accurate
That's why you tell them stupid ideas that will ruin them as sabotage, ideally if you know how to fix it and look better for fixing their stupid mess.
@@seabreeze4559 Usually I present my ideas on brainstorming meetings and they ignore it or make funny noises in front of everybody, and repeat exactly what I said. Just like that. The other men accept better, almost immediately when coming from a man, not woman.
But it's really funny to see them struggling to elaborate more details about the approach, since they don't fully thought through it.
Once a guy stole a woman's colleague files from her pc and built his project on top of her basis. Outrageous, I know. But plot twist, he forgot to review some mistakes she hadn't have time to fix yet. Her presentation was faultless and she ended up leading him on this specific project.
Other thing they love to do is to have secret "informal meetings" without women and say it's just coffee time, hide documents and data from us to delay our outcomes, or not engage on project lead by us. And all of this just for jealousy.
I’m the type of person that’s gets inspired not jealous. Thank you Anna I like your content!
I feel the same. I don’t get jealous.
this!!!
Every mentally healthy person gets jealous at some point. How you handle and deal with your jealousy is what makes you better than jealousy.
Me to. I admire and get inspired.
I feel self absorbed people are more ego driven and they want to be the central of attention. And they want to be admired. That is why older women are jealous than younger women. People who are egotistical like to be in the superior position. And they hate that people are better than them. They love to power trip people. Either by being high and mighty. Or by being holier than thou and preaching to people about kindness. They love pretending they are perfect but lack respect.
It is scary when toxicity can reach the extremes of criminal activity. There was the story in another forum of a lady who was almost poisoned by her "friends"; she had graduated with honours, got a high paying job, things were falling into place for her. Her friends decided to take her out for drinks; when she went to the bathroom, one of her "friends" slipped something into her drink.
One of the waitresses saw it, waited outside the bathroom and warned this lady about it, told her not to drink her cocktail. The lady comes back to the table, her "friends" are egging her on to celebrate and drink up her cocktail. She pushed it to one of them and asked them to drink it for her, and that is when their true colours came out and a heated argument about how this lady got everything she wanted in life and they didn't, that she thought she was too good for them.
Long story short, they are no longer friends, the lady reported them to the police and had them arrested. Sad that they did not choose to celebrate her; the good you put out into the world will always come back to you if you choose it, no matter what emotions you are battling with at first.
Moral of this story, be an introvert like ME 😢. Be nice from a distance.
I nearly got dux of the school until someone put cannabis in my food and made me unwell for many years. I had everything, a nice house, love from the popular boys and good grades then they plummetted and I got depression. Unable to work because I get exhausted too easily as well.
That's disgusting. I'm so happy for the waitress, clearly God was looking out for her using that waitress like that. What the hell. That's a good sign though, maybe those "Women" will reap what they sow.
oh my goodness ! how horrible !
Sad. It's a reality
Jealousy is a real problem when someone tries to sabotage you at work or socially. Sometimes you need to shut people down but most of the time i ignore them and the truth comes out about their lies
Jealousy = immaturity
Jealousy also equals insecurity.
@@laurawhitaker1797 also equals not being grateful for what you have, lack of ambition and lack of self worth.
@@jhalak831💯
I have lost many female “friends” due to jealousy. As a beautiful woman I’m often viewed as a competitor not a friend.
Oh please.... Maybe you are projecting jealousy on other women hysterically that's why other women give you the answer you are looking for...
Nope, I’ve been ugly and pretty and women are just childish.
Someone at the gym started something with me for literally no reason. She looked like my daughter. It made me sad.
Sorry but you’re not pretty enough to have women being jealous, sorry but it’s true
I hate to break it to youre not that beautiful LMAO probably a 6.5/10.
maybe people don’t wanna be around someone who is conceded
Jealousy is a clear sign that you want what someone else has - use that knowledge as inspiration rather than tearing other people down. People who try to diminish others only make themselves look bad.
If you ever find yourself feeling jealous, ask yourself what it is you want that they have.
Then use that as inspiration and go get it! ❤
Exactly, and the reason it turns toxic is that many people see that someone else has something, and then because of low self esteem, or trauma or whatever reason, they assume they can’t have that same thing. That’s where it gets ugly- because now the person they envy becomes someone who has almost ‘taken away’ their dreams (even though we know that isn’t true). And it’s sad because it’s often directed at people who they’re quite similar to in terms of abilities/status in life (that’s where I’ve seen envy get the worst) so they likely can achieve it.
I want to add that it’s about being content with yourself, probably what we have someone else wishes they had.
More importantly not comparing yourself to someone else. There is a saying “comparison is the killer of joy”. Each of us is on our own journey in life with our own unique gifts and experiences.
True 💯. Surface level jealousy is a waste of time and energy. Be inspired rather than jealous of the people you meet
Sometimes others have a quality, such as physical beauty, that you can’t have. Being minimally attractive, I accept this is the case and try to improve myself while recognizing my limitations. No sense in lashing out at others for whatever qualities they were gifted or developed.
@laurawhitaker1797 Okay, I see what you're trying to say, but physical beauty is a trait. It's not a quality. Physical can go away with age, disfigurement, etc. A quality you can work at to improve and it's inside of you, you demonstrate the quality.
I don’t jealous women, but women are jealous of me just because I am me. I compliment women I don’t even know on their …clothes…shoes…style…perfume and the like. I love me and know who I am. I’ve never cared about who have what or how anyone looks.
When you are self loving you spread love! Insecure people who hate themselves hate judge others. Shame. But they only are creating disease in their own bodies 😐😅
I relate to your comment
Right! That's me❤ I do the same. That's just who I am.
That´s being sane :)
Jealousy is low class and not very classy.its a form of low-level mental illness, and personally, I feel sad for unhappy people. They are at war with themselves and could benefit from therapy.
I agree. I don’t know why some try to normalise it.
100%
Beautifully put ! be happy with yourself , work towards a cause to benefit others and feel good from within is the way to be Happiness comes from gratitude & giving back . Avoid the jealous resentful ones , a negative energy .
you nailed it guurrll.
Yes, but that's harmful to other they try to destroy happy people because they can't see them happy.
“I can validate my own self.” Amen. So many people need to hear and internalize this and then apply it to so many situations their lives. Thank you for using your platform for such good!
My only competition is who I was yesterday.
Yes! 👏
Amen
“This is my life, and 98% of the women around me. I didn’t do anything to deserve the hate, jealousy, and competitiveness I get from them. It’s always the same with all the women I meet. I’m someone who’s very content with my life and with what I have, and I have zero jealousy towards people because I believe they work hard to get there. I just block them and move away from them because I can’t trust people with this attitude.”
You were shining to bright! And you didn’t know it 😌
Everybody needs a friend, but the time people spend with a bad friend could be invested in a better friend who would actually help them if they ever needed it.
@@bumblebee4280 not really and I don’t think good female still exists.
I agree , this is also the story of my life . Everytime the same scheme. I am still single and I even have the jaleousy of tall the married women with kids. I do not even envy them but there is something in me that make them feel jaleous.
I’m the youngest in my whole family two brothers and two sisters are insanely jealous because I was very close to my parents and they weren’t. It’s something that I tried to understand as a young child. My mother told me that jealousy is just a sickness ,she tried to tell me just to be myself and ignore it. It’s very hard to ignore, but I just went on with my life. I still deal with it today.
"Thou shalt not covet."
Jealously is a terrible sin!
Yes, bc we dismiss our Abundant Lord.
I was just about to write that
“Jealousy can be as cruel as the grave “
I’ve started surrounding myself with women who are only positive about themselves because they don’t need to criticise me to feel good about themselves❤ I love seeing women who look fantastic because I take inspiration from what they are wearing or how they did their makeup or hair etc 🙏
I love seeing too!!
I have dealt with jealous women my whole life. It is very complicated and difficult to deal with.these women create so much damage in other people's lives, whether they act knowingly or not
Social media is playing a huge negative role in people's perceptions of themselves.. unfortunately
EXACTLY
I noticed that
they were jealous before that...keeping up with the joneses
Nope that’s not all true. I’m not even on social media. And I find, unfortunately the women who do the less are the most hateful and jealous. Meaning they don’t out effort into themselves inside nor out. They don’t workout, don’t go to therapy, don’t put effort into their appearance. They think that women who do have it easier than them but that’s an excuse that they tell themselves so that they don’t have to change. They’re lazy it’s easier for them to hate them to the work to be better
Yup if you notice most people don't even know how to be themselves in real life just completely inauthentic
I needed this I need to detached from a friend who is always looking for topics to disagree about and making subtle comments actually mocking me …
that's not a real friend.
Feeling jealousy for another woman can be turned into a positive. I have asked myself why am I jealous of this woman? What is it that I am jealous of? The next question is, what can I do to level up and achieve the thing I am jealous about. Do I need to take more time and effort when planning outfits? Do I need to read a book so I can understand what she was talking about so that I can join in next time? And so on. It’s an emotion that if used properly can make you level up and become your better self.
I know a singaporean lady who is very kind and invites me to networking events. She has impeccable taste. I'm jealous of outfits- they aren't my style but she always looks so polished. I'm doing the work to upgrade my wardrobe and put together better looks on a budget. I think to myself.. how would she style it? how can I style it on myself ? I use jealousy as fuel to improve myself instead of being wistfully and self defeating jealous .
Good for you! Best wishes on your leveling up journey!
Nah you need therapy instead trying to be like someone else you need to figure out what in you makes you jealous of another woman. You doing what see does is obsession. Be your own woman.
I seriously don’t get the pathology of women who are jealous of another woman
You will never find haters who are doing better than you 😉
Btw I love that the timing of the video is 11:11 and there are right now 11 comments 🥰🤩
"you will never find haters who are doing better than you" o.O this. thank you.
ps. I also noticed the time 11:11 and smiled to myself :)
@@AsNatureIntended13 🌻
So true. If I pass by those who have it together, they mind their own business and don’t get rude to me.
Not true greedy people are the difference
My mantra is other's people insecurity isn't my problem. I usually just smile, nod, and leave the situation 😊
As much as I love social media, it is playing a big role in mental health issues IMHO. Many lies and liars around making people feel insecure and less privileged, to say the least. Everyone is “rich and pretty”. Perhaps if we try to be honest when we put ourselves out there, we would be able to help to make a better world. Great video Anna. Sending love.
I had an art classmate who finished my joy in the class - she saw the teacher really liked me & my work, so she acts sweet but would interrupt every time i spoke to the teacher (& doesn't to anyone else). Also, pushes me off the benches by setting her stuff up near mine, takes my equipment...& finally when she realised i stay last & have nice teacher time, she brought in work to show the teacher at class end. They also talked about me in a different language & she got the teacher to speak in that for her one on one advice, so i couldn't listen in & learn too.
I was always the one who looked bad, since I would raise my voice when: she pushed me off, interrupted, & took my stuff- so it always looked like i was the one being unpleasant instead of her!
Luckily, because I've had so many problems with people being jealous, this time I saw it right from the start, so i didn't waste much emotional energy on feeling hurt, sad and angry.
And luckily i reached a point of wanting to pursue other goals and could just leave permanently.
I had a horrible issue about a year and a half ago when someone (family) got struck by jealousy towards me. I was once the solution person and then I ended up being the problem. I’ve learned a lot from that and I’m so much stronger in mind, and so much happier one year later. Thank you for this video.
It's really not just women who are jealous of women. Many men nowadays are also extremely jealous when they see a woman succeed, and they constantly try to put her down. I'm seeing many cases of bf's breaking up with their gf's only because they are more successful in their career.
This video is so well-timed for me... Apparently, some friend cannot deal with the fact that I met someone who makes me the happiest and have just to cut off the relationship without a word face to face! And you're right, who cares who's judging :)
Prioritize you❤ you'll build your life with your spouse not those jealous friends
I think compassion towards others is very important. Jealousy is a very painful mind, they are suffering. No need to be angry or look down on jealous people. And we also have jealousy sometimes. We need to learn how to deal with it in our own mind when it arises for us❤
Your video came in right time, my neighbour is really mean to me for no reason.
Anna, fantastic. This topic must be analyzed more. It ruins lives everyday. Im glad to work from home these days and be away from certain jealous ladies. Its sad we cannot support each other 100%.
So true I really don't wanna go to office because of a bitch
I think the jealousy out there, along with insecurities, has escalated to making navigating the social world like an all out daily war. If some women have talent, beauty, feminine gentleness, feminine kindness, critical thinking abilities, anything people see as "high quality." Instead of enjoying this in a person they make reputation sabotaging comments. This is why women dim their light and hide their benefits. Men really must search to find these hidden gems.
Jealousy is just a fact of life - people will be jealous of me, and i'll be jealous of other people. i look at it like any other emotion: harmless if fleeting, and very damaging if left unchecked. it's up to every person how they handle their jealousy - i try not to fixate and change momentary jealousy into something more motivational: "She has such gorgeous hair/skin/style/whatever, I wish i had that...what do i have to do, to gain it for myself?"
A healthy attitude:)
Your momentary jealousy turned into envy - which is something way better than nasty jealousy, I love your comment!
Ur the only person in this comments section who is being honest, everyone else is like “people are jealous of me and I can’t stand it and I never get jealous”😂 like these people don’t know that we know they are human
Finally 🎉 I am constantly punished by others’ insecurities.
I didn’t have a problem with people being envious or jealous of me until they started putting in the action by setting me up to embarrass me etc then i stayed away.
Just from the title I'm liking this video. You are doing the Lord's work.
😂
I’m rarely feel jealous of fabulous woman, I’m more admiring than jealous, sure there’s a hint of envy but for the main I love the spectacle of a woman at her finestI
So jealous ? Ghahahaha
I had lots of girls and even teachers in school who were jealous but I never allowed that to pull me down.
My feminine and calm mature manner was what got me through just being myself. Also my long hair since I've always had long luscious hair, my hair gets tons of compliments when I'm out. It's rare to find someone especially where I live to have the length of hair that I have.
I don't know why but they're specially jealous about long, voluminous and precious hair
@aylaa5842
It's rare escape where I live that anyone has the length of hair that I have. I can't go anywhere without getting stopped by someone about how long it is lol
That’s exactly right you can only control yourself.
Until they act on that feeling and make it difficult for you at work, etc.
Ive been watching you since 2022 & stopped in 2023. I am back watching you again in 2024.
I want to say that you have truly level up in term of contents cause at some point they were very repetitive. I am truly amazed by your perseverance & dedication. Good luck
Exactly my story.
I don’t have jealousy problems because I’m secure, healthy and happy. I have my 👑 and everything I need.
We’ve strayed farther and farther from being the communal creatures that we are & have adapted very masculine tendencies-competitiveness is one of them.
Absolutely, the me me me culture and greed
@@rosyapplekitchen635 Absolutely 💯
No women are just narcissistic lmfao
@@balleraap007 Maybe you weren't aware, but statistically men far outweigh women as diagnosed NPD in the data & research.
@@spiritualbridger sure they are 🤡😂 *laughs in women’s anti depressant usage rates*
I enjoyed this very much and sometimes women are their worst enemy in the work force.
Love that the video is 11:11 minutes long confirms to me that you are speaking from the heart and from experience 💕
Anna I love the fact that you are talking about things women need to deal with, it just shows you are not a snowflake, a woman without depth, instead you are woman that is beautiful with brains, a deep thinker. Thank you for delving into deeper topics.
She is making money off you low iq western women who don’t know their place hahah
"The best thing you can do is to let go, practicing letting go is a very difficult art but it's going to help you in the long run."
Absolutely, I realized this last week alone. It's NOT my battle to fight, I just keep living my life and not own this Negative energy they try to put on me. Just keep loving. Love repels evil.
My RUclips account heard what I said to my therapist tonight and delivered this to me. I got a big glow up in the last few years and I get the WEIRDEST comments and cold shoulders from other women. Some of them are almost comical.
On one hand I want to respond and be like “Jennifer, what the hell?” But eyes on the prize (and God knows I still have goals yet to be reached and projects yet to be finished) is the way. Perfect content!
Turn the focus on yourself instead of being jealous❤
People wonder why some females’ friends are nearly entirely male, forgetting that no matter how nice a girl is, others often are malevolent toward her and cannot be trusted. Not everyone has the luck/circumstances to be near ethical peaceful females. Some women have even stalked other women and started defamation campaigns against them. Trust is something that should be earned and not easily given. Better safe than sorry.
💯 👏 Thank you for posting this. So very true!!
Jealousy is one of the lowest vibration emotions that people commonly experience.
To me the best way to cope with jealousy is to transform it into joy & motivation
An unbalanced Solar plexus chakra leads to jealousy & possessiveness
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I believe jealousy and envy are slightly different in that as a married woman, if another woman flirts with my husband, it is natural for me to have a certain feeling about that situation “ I would feel jealous.” On the other hand if I for example love handbags and I am a collector and maybe Anna has a nice rare handbag that I would love to get and I can’t obtain that bag, and I begin to have some negative emotions because I want something that belongs to someone else, then that is Envy and it’s quite dangerous.”
This! There is a proper jealousy. Best believe if someone is shamelessly flirting with my man I’m not telling myself to get over it 😂
Exactly, I see in English the word jaelousy is much used with the meaning of "envy". Envy is always a mean feeling. Jaelousy can also be the innocent attempt to protect one's beloved from being "stolen" by someone else...
No one is jealous of me... but I've definitely learned to get rid of it in my own life and I am glad for that.
Loving this new content you are creating 💕
Me too. Elegance of the mind and heart ❤❤❤❤
Thanks for talking about this uncomfortable topic. I have been jealous due to my own insecurities and feelings of inadequacy. But, even though I used to feel like the underdog, lots of women have been extremely jealous of me. It is not a matter of self perception: Even when self perception is not adequate other people can envy certain things about you. I started been aware of external jealousy back in College. Some people even tried to harm me with character assassination and more extreme behaviors. To be in that situation is terrible, where you can't trust no one. As my self confidence grew, as I found my true self, my fear of them lessened to the level of not caring about their shortcomings. It took me years to build a strong personality, but now as an adult I live my life with a true sense of personal validation and appreciation.
Thank you Anna for talking about this topic! I ve been struggling with jealousy my whole life and affected by the negative comments of other people who wanted to bring me down. As you said, the key is accepting that this kind of people will always be around and focus our energy and time on something that matters m!
When I feel jealous, I look at myself and ask how I improve myself or what I get inspired from that insecurities.
I think jealousy is the reason behind everything negative in a relationship…if you’re in the shits with someone, it’s core will be jealousy….if someone is mean to you-jealousy…if someone won’t talk to you-jealousy…someone spreads rumours-jealousy…..
It’s called Tall Poppy syndrome. It was discussed recently when UK journalist Louise Perry interviewed top Canadian female sports coach. Many experiments were carried out where a group of girls and women were exposed to a beautiful and successful athlete that entered the room dressed in a provocative outfit. Gossiping, tearing down talk, side glances and even bursting with laughter were all captured on film by the researchers.
I've been experiencing this all my life and I don't even have to wear a provocative outfit.
This experiment is ridiculous. Of course people aren’t going to like when someone is dressed provocatively, they are looking for a safe friend to share a life with, which includes access to there significant other. I absolutely refuse to allow an immodest woman around my daughters or husband. It’s a basic protective instinct.
@@sigma.ateonperiod there are no immodest outfits, they're jealous of a natural hourglass figure. I can't help the body I've had since I was TWELVE.
@@seabreeze4559 I have the same body type plus 550 cc breast implants. Before Jesus saved me I was really into plastic surgery. I dress modestly. I don’t wear skin tight clothing, I don’t wear super short dresses or crazy small slivers of clothing. Try that argument with someone else.
@@sigma.ateonperiod What argument? Also Jesus saves your soul as a possibility, you are not guaranteed to be saved. That's pride. He says many will claim to know him and he will say He never knew them. So check your conceit and as someone with a naturally superior figure, I had no say-so in being objectified at the age of 12 by creeps. It didn't matter what I was wearing. I tried everything. Nothing worked. So gaslight someone else.
This is the best color I have seen on you. You look so beautiful and it makes your features stand out. You're probably a light summer
I understand that there will always be jealousy unfortunately as I’ve lived it frequently; but what I fail to understand is all of the advise says “focus on yourself” and/or “limit contact,” well that’s what I do and have always done…. But when these jealous women engage in what Anna mentions earlier: “smear campaign”, “sabotage”, etc and you are obviously being negatively affected despite best efforts (and maybe also forced to be around these people..) WHAT ARE YOU TO DO THEN?!!
I think a healthy dose of jealously is good. I grow up low middle class and I was jealous of the high-class girls in my private high-school. I tried to study them and I still do on their instagrams. What they wore, the way they moved in society, the network that they had. I decided to get inspired and not mad and that helped me a lot in life.
Sameee omg i used to be so jealous of this one instagram model’s body and seductive charm in her videos but instead of hating her I also studied her and started hitting the gym and now 7 years later I have also bodyodyody and those video skills and now girls are jealous of ME 💀💀🤣 I dont use tiktok and I remember for ex one night a girl i know asked me to do a tiktok w her and I outshined her a lot in that video. Her chin was dropping and she didnt even post it bc of that in the end 💀💀 She thought bc i dont use tiktok idk how to make those videos but nah gurl ive been practicing since before tiktok was even a thing 🤪🤪 no shade to her though at all, I was just super proud of myself in that moment bc I spent so much time on this 💀 and I realize now how much effort the influencer girl mustve put aswell.
You guys are literally mindless hahahaha
I really like your practical strategy.
Anna, Im very curious to know how to go grocery shopping as an elegant woman. Some do’s and dont’s would be helpful, such as some other insights on this daily moments! Love your content Anna, always very on point 🫶🏼
1.Don't block the isle, be aware of your surroundings wait for people to go past , say excuse me if you need to squeeze by in a narrow aisle,
2.Only grab what you want. some people are weird about buying things people have already just touched.
3 Be polite to the cashier, if you bring your own bags for groceries give them to the cashier bagger first so that its not a big deal for them to pull things out already bagged and firmly and gently say "please use these instead "
4.Dress nice casual in comfortable but classy shoes - do yourself up with a slicked back ponytail and natural looking makeup if your feeling a bit lazy and don't want to do full face. think "clean girl aesthetic" You never know if you could find a potential: client/ new job / spouse/ friend or run into an ex while shopping !
I will never forget how mortified I was when I saw a lady I met at my work I was hoping to catch as client shopping the same big buy store as me while looking for deals on dvds but I was dressed in my weekend grungy gardening clothes and she looked put together ! I didn't expect to see her there and it's a completely different style of neighborhood in which I work. I felt embarrassed and dowdy. You don't have to be dressed to the 9's just neat and and have your clothes in good repair , not faded and not pilly. Take it from me , nothing ruins your credibility more than looking worn out and shabby on your day off ! Best wishes in your level up endeavors 🥰
@@HosCreates I feel very honored by your helpful suggestions! I will definitely have them in consideration the next time I do grocery shopping. Wonderful your gentleness. Thank you so much! 💛
YES! 100% Jealousy is a feeling caused by our bodies subconscioulsly when we feel threatened. As women, we percieve other women as competition. We want to be the most beautiful, most popular, get the best man....etc to get ahead in life. IT IS BIOLOGY. But there's healthy jealousy and there's toxic jealousy: healthy is being jealous of a more successful woman which will give us a push to become more successful ourselves. Then there's toxic jealousy, which is being jealous of a beautiful woman who happens to be younger than you such as cousin, coworker, even daughter (if you are a narcissistic mother). This younger woman happens to look younger and has less wrinkles, more beautiful even, and you cant be younger again so this jealousy might make you treat her like crap. We should be aware of this type of toxic jealousy and try to ignore it because it makes us bitter. It is a feeling subconscioulsy generated by our body/ biology that is in this case useless and detrimental for us older women. As women we should support other women regardless of age.
No women are just narcissists
I love this, you’re describing stoicism. I’ve been researching this for a while now and wow, it’s helped me with a jealous friend. Great advice, thank you!
Stoicism? You mean male toxicity ? You western women are gonna face hard times soon hahahaha
Thank you for speaking on this topic! I have been reflecting on this lately on how women can be jealous of me for no reason and wen I tell pple dat it seems like I'm crazy
Jealosy comes from the unknown or ignored understanding that each of us are created unique. When I understand that I am a unique and authentic person, I only compete with myself to get the best version of myself.
We cannot control the narrative or lower their envy by shrinking. Waste of time. Physical detachment from such energy works wonders, thank you!🙏🥰👍💯
Great topic and vid. Envy covets, jealousy protects. Envy is when you want what another person has.. job, life, looks, home, etc. Jealously is fear of losing a partner, or loved one, to an interloper.
Being the target of envy is difficult. Little can be done to stop a person's preoccupation with you except to keep an alert distance. Celebs deal with this all the time and will self deprecate and act modest in interviews, downplay their talents/achievements to appease the public.
This message is right on time. Thank you!❤
Incredibly insightful, one of your best videos of all time.
If you find you are jealous of someone or envious of them, you can use it as a teaching tool for yourself. Ask yourself honestly what it is you are jealous about and use that to work out what you need to work on in yourself. Use that person as a positive inspiration and a way to guide you to your own path of transformation. You're obviously admiring something about that person where you feel you are lacking so it can be a practical illustration of where you want to head and an example of what you might need to do to achieve it for yourself. Some people see someone they are jealous of and try to tear that person down to their level so they feel comfortable again without having to do any work of their own (lazy and insecure in their own abilities and fearing failure so why bother, if that person gets dragged down, no-one is special and you can kid yourself that they "weren't that special to begin with anyway" - this is often what people do), but I think it's much better to use that person as an inspiration to bring yourself up to their level instead. Speaking personally, I'm always inspired by successful people and try to use it as an example of what I can have for myself too.
I feel like the most difficult thing for me is to figure out how to react to people being jealous of me because sometimes they make weird comments and I know that their intention is to bring me down slightly (and it's very subtle but very predictable because I see the pattern repeat itself over and over again with these people) and I know they do it to make themselves feel better and not inadequate in that moment but it affects me unfortunately.
Very important message -- thank you for this vid!
A jealous person has to want to become a better person. I know people (women) who have seen multiple therapists over many years and they still give into destructive jealous feelings.
The best we can do is keep our distance from someone who shows this behavior.
Hi Anna, i don't usually leave comments but i wanted to tell you that i watch all your videos, you are doing an Amazing job and i admire how passionated and devoted your are. Thank you for being yourself and sharing so much with us 🥰❤
I absolutely love valuable content that you make for us. Digging deeper into the topic is what really makes your channel special Anna!
About jealousy - people tend to be jealous because... I'm likable person. I always talk to myself that happy and fullfilled people are not jealous in a toxic way and and feel sorry for that person. It was hard work with psychotherapist to be in that moment, but trust me, it is all worth it! ❤
Oh, Snap!! I needed this video because my husband's step-sister seems jealous of me because she's 3xs bigger than me. Sucks because we are family at the end of the day
Anna, the way I RAN to this video. I am so so glad you touched on this.
I've absolutely noticed women acting really really funny with me and doing certain sabatoging things when I was simply minding my own business and did nothing to them.
This especially happens to women in job interviews. I've been told that I should try toning down my makeup or how I dress (elevated) because it may intimidate other people and if the interviewers are women, I most likely will not get hired.
One thing though, I CAN'T STAND when people automatically call women jealous when we don't like something or don't agree with something another woman does.
I don't think that's fair. The other stuff like sabotaging another woman's job or social life is totally different.
Profound topic. Well articulated. Great content ❤
Once you learn to really let go, not give a damn about what others think or what their problem is, once you understand their opinion absolutely doesn't affect your life and that it is THEIR problem, it all gets so much easier. Just ignore it completely and take the high road, be at peace with yourself, know who you are and that's it. Took me many years, until I was in my thirties to gain that level of confidence and peace with myself.
Anna, your makeup looks so beautiful in all your latest videos! Could you do an updated makeup routine?
I found once id conquered depression and became happy and confident, that energy pissed them off
I really appreciate the practical advices on self growth that you are giving in this new channel. I think it's very useful and needed to know how to overcome those emotional or mental behaviours that keeps us back from moving forward in our inner growth. And the practical examples you made were very relatable. Thank you for sharing your tools
Sometimes you can neither cut off more confront jealous people. They're a bunch of people in your family and of course you won't leave your entire family just because of a few jealous people. This is where you gotta intimidate these people to bring out their jealousy so everybody can see that a jealous person is trying to harm you. This way, the jealous people would not have the room to run smear campaign onto you because they'll become too busy protecting their image. And who knows it might push them to deal with their jealousy.
I loved that video and I really needed that type of guidance, I usually try to ignore them but it’s very important to avoid those people they really drain your soul
Thank you so much for all your wisely words!❤
I have a friend/co-worker who is jealous of me because I am working part time somewhere else so I can eventually leave the job I work at with her. I was surprised that she wasn't at all happy for me and instead started giving me the cold shoulder and making under the breath comments. Some friend. Love the advice Anna, you are an inspiration and so wise!❤
Dats why i dont upload my holiday pics on insta , fb or even watsapp display pic. No one knows dat i went. No one knows wat i eat or wear or the wonderful places i go.. its safe and good dat way. People were even jealous of my honeymoon and dats wen i realsied they dont be having access to my world. Not even my mom and certain relatives.
You're wise💯
Dat?
She means, that? I assume….
That can be helpful. Glad it works for you, as you deserve to be happy & unbothered. I post what I want & live live the way I chose. I’m not in charge of other’s emotional, self regulation. It’s not like their going to have any type of real effect on the trajectory of my life. 🙏
I am jealous and envious, but I believe I have worked up to control these feelings and thoughts. Self-care and focusing on "me" are some answers that helped me. And following Anna's teaching definitely contributed to this improvement ❤️
Points for the onscreen caption for people who need accessibility assistance Anna.
If that's a feature in the editing software you use, or a new feature in your preferred editing software and you know you had it enabled huge points for the in video caption.
If you didn't know you had that feature enabled and, you didn't know about the feature in the first place, you unknowingly did a phenomenal job with this particular video.
This makeup looks so beautiful
Thanks for this video Anna. This is a great conversation to have. I didn’t realize how common this was for so many people.
Greed and Envy go hand in hand and perfection doesnt exist.
Yes girl! We are all uniques, there’s no one like you! Don’t compare!
I don't get jealous , I get inspired. That's the way to handle feelings of insecurity we all get at times. I don't care how other women look - weather they prefer being "plain" or that " over the top" look because I do my best to live by the motto each to their own , without judgement of how other people want to be of look. Sometimes I wish other women would extend that curiosity to me. I have had jealous women all my life who try to compete with me. I've never understood it.
Men do that too nowadays!
YES-AND MEN TEND TO BE MORE INTENSE,WHEN JEALOUS
And towards women!!!
Estrogens in the food
@@nzingahoney are you dumb ? jealousy is not due to hormones . its due to immaturity insecurity and evilness of oneself . men have always had that jealousy thing . brothers kill each other for the sake of property and money . they start wars due to jealousy envy and hate for other's kingdom . jealousy has always existed since the beginning of humans . its not a woman trait . its a human trait
They always did.
The lack of identity is the root cause of jealousy. The ability to appreciate other human beings' achievements and beauty is powerful. Ladies, this is the secret of a powerful woman.
Had a jealous friend who always tried to get every man that liked me. She was secretly call girl for Nigerian men and somehow still wanted the little I have. She was generally feeling inadequate despite receiving more material things from men. I was receiving love.
Grateful for your chanel
Oh my God, thank youuu ❤ I can't thank you enough for you providing this new perspective that help me broaden my mind. I always wonder why women can be so bitter toward me when i always try to support them. This really help me a lot. Thank you so much ❤