Why Modern Dating is Fundamentally Broken | The Rise of 'Situationships'
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2024
- Monogamy is good, but humans are not monogamous by nature.
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If one day you do end up putting the flag of proud austrian painters, make sure you bring out the LGBTQ one and the BLM one just in case, higher odds of not getting banned
The LGBTQ flag overrides every other flag
A specific ideology is censored while other ideologies are not.
Who's the true enemy of the system?
@@Leon-th6nlhorseshoe hopping
@@Leon-th6nl We all are becoming great noticers it's inevitable
See Kyle fren 🙋🏼♂️
The Israel and Palestine flags would go great right next to each other.
he should put the zoophile flag up there too
And also put a Roman empire one on the top of two
Gotta play both sides fam, could be anyone’s game
One struggle 🤝
HOLY FUCK I WAS GOING TO COMMENT THIS
yeah bro dating is so cooked. Fumbling a good woman in these times is like tearing your acl in your prime
Career ending for sure
I fumbled quite a few. I look back with such intense regret. I couldn't really do anything else at the time because I was a loser with no male role models, but yeah...
prime anthony
@@Tmate4444stg this is my life story
@@Tmate4444I fumbled one back in high school and feel that regret and guilt to this day. Been a decade
Never stops with the Jordan Peterson impressions pls
Ohhhh! All I could hear was Letterkenny. 😂 Canadian accents are silly.
Boaddum of the Doaaminunce hierarky!
As soon as I read this I got to that part lol.
"Wash your penis!"
The holy windmill of peace is absolutely necessary as a wall decoration
It’s funny because some areas especially in Asian countries still use it as a symbol of peace before it was used for so long in their ancient culture
It’s actually illegal in America
LOL
Trans inclusive lgbtq "german" flags
@@We_silly it definitely is not illegal
Make virginity great again
❤
@@Brainrot811 Asian country?
@@Brainrot811 my bro 👏
@@Brainrot811 Which country do you live?
If it's by choice go ahead. But I should have had sex a long time ago.
Texas suburbs can go to hell for this
Don't need wars with zero community society. This country will fall apart on its own.
facts
war would keep America going a bit longer with it giving everyone a short-term purpose
Land Of The Free
War actually unites and tricks people into fighting. Especially if you scare citizens on their door step.
We’ve been overdue for a long time now….
It's annoying when people say that it's all in your head and that you are wrong. It's incredibly invalidating especially because a lot of this is not under your control. So many macrolevel forces are affecting us, and while I do believe there is some internal responsibility, we cannot solve these problems alone.
Yeah. Studied longitudinal stats are definitely in our heads.
It was all in le head.
Head?
Technological advancement definitely plays a role into this issue. There have been similar patterns of event in history like what we are going through but it’s like the tables have turned for the first time in history. This technology we had in the past are nothing compared to what we have now like phones and internet.
Sadly it’s inevitable. If it was purely social there is a chance things could change but because technology advancement is inevitable you will never be able to fix this issue. Unless you nuked the whole earth and we restarted evolution or something from day one
@XanaxMilf I'm down for a nuclear apocalypse
Great name btw
"14 cougars in a Skype call." You know they're old using such retro technology.
my cougars use white piegons
I thought Skype turned into Teams. Wtf lol that’s like Limewire still being around despite Spotify.
I used to lewd cam for cougars on MSN messenger.
@@XanVicious Fuck spotify i used limewire when i was a kid, sure there are alot of shady thing with that like viruses but mostly you got alot of good music, it's a shame that us govt shut it down back in 2010.
@@XanVicious Limewire is great, despite all the bad thing like virus. A shame the feds shut it down back in 2010. Thanks Obama!
“Moving through the grass like a serpent, I’m the only one real y’all some snake oil merchants” 🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏🏾🙏🏾🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
pure bars
we movin out the gynocentric society with this one
🔥✍️
This was one of his sharpest spits yet
Woooooooooooooooooooooooooot!
Inflation makes social interaction even worse these days because the average young man is basically shunned from so many things. Sure, you can read old books, watch old films and go out on a hike in nature; but we don’t meet anyone to socialize with.
Community college and skilled trades are wonderful career paths, but once again, you surround yourself with much older people that cannot socialize with you.
Many third places such as cafes have been demolished for parking lots and entire urban downtowns have been turned into another “Disney Land” that is exclusive to only the wealthy. So, the problem goes nowhere when older folks say, “jUsT gO oUtSiDe.” To what?
Exactly, I live on a budget. But if I at least knew where tf to meet people I'd certainly like to try. But I literally have no idea where to go.
@@PBart7target, bro
@@PS-lv1mrFucking sad you're right. Target/TJ Maxx are some of your best bets these days 😢
@@PS-lv1mrno, people will call that creepy
@@SlashinatorZ I mean if you act creepy then sure I suppose
I’m glad to see Gerbert putting his foot down and actually calling out this degeneracy in contemporary western society for what it is. If we want to see a change or at least resist the increase of degeneracy, we need to call it out and can’t be afraid to judge it.
But he just complains about it - he has no practical solutions .. that’s the problem with channels like those- it’s just complaining
@@brianmeen2158 I mean it starts with awareness. You think a 20 year old boy has the answers for society's problems?
@@brianmeen2158 Because there is no one size fits all solution to this degeneracy without letting the state control all of our personal life. It will only be solved if the vast majority of people do not take part in this degeneracy and shame those who do, and the only way to do that is by talking about it as much as we can so more people are aware of it. We are playing the long game here.
@@brianmeen2158 that’s what they’re for. There are no solutions because those in power don’t want there to be any.
@@excalibro8365Our movement need more physical spaces to meet up. Living in low trust society makes that difficult though.
I’m 31. You do not think too much. In the past, you would have been a journalist, comedian, playwright, poet, teacher, etc. You have the drive to not only learn but to share with others. Society has been engineered to disenfranchise people like you. How do I know? You sound just like a younger me and anyone who genuinely knows me says exactly that. It’s beneficial to the people who are changing the world if the other world changers are castrated.
Im 27 and im impressed with how insightful and wise gerby is, his vocabulary is also impeccable
“I’m doing that or I’m going monk”
I’m with you brother. I had one serious multi year long relationship with a girl I thought I was going to marry. She ended up cheating on me. I really don’t feel like I’m built for anything other than serious monogamy so at this point for me it’s either find a better girl (lol) or go monk. If you can’t get a wife may as well go monk.
I've been in a 7 year one (cheated on me), a 4 year one (too different life goals. Parted amicably), and a 1~ year one that was literally just me being played (went back to her ex after someone in town got her pregnant. He took her back). I used to think I was a failure when it came to romance, relationships, and 'experience,' but nowadays I'm not so sure.
I'm giving it 2 more years to find a woman with a brain who wants to have 3+ kids. If I can't, I'll accept that my bloodline dies with me.
@WinglessRain Wait so the chic that played you got pregnant with some random guy while you were with her , and then her ex took her back? Jesus christ ,how desperate are these mf to bang and even date someone that low
get your passport bro!
@@WinglessRainjust keep trying to some extent man, giving up is the only way you can truly lose
Don't give up. The advantage men have over women is time. I don't like to mention the wall because there are plenty of beautiful women in their 30s, but their time in the sun is in fact shorter than yours. I'm not saying to go full DiCaprio, but he's still a beloved figure despite dipping into the younger brackets. Find a safe place you can call home and really root yourself in its community.
Me, personally, I've considered Japan because it's beautiful and much less egregiously crime-riddled. Now, some fear-mongering content would have you believing that it's the train diddling capital of the world, but just teach your female family members mild self defense skills and arm them with pepper sprays and they'll be a million times safer than any major city in the US.
Or just find a smaller US town with a nice forest and relaxed gun laws, get a good alarm system, and remember change your bug lamp batteries. You'll do just fine anywhere you go as long as you approach it with the level of care and attention expected of someone who knows what the black pill is and is 4 or 5 self-improvement youtubers deep into the rabbit hole.
I cited that same study in a video of mine. All the Red Pill dudes thinking they don't need real, committed relationships are going to grow up to be lonely, empty and mentally unwell.
LOL you sound needy. How many times are you going to comment?
That's not the RP, that's the BP. RP is saying you need to be misogynistic to women.
@@granddefectus4602then why does RP also pick on incels?
I agree with this statement HOWEVER i think it is the lesser of two evils when compared to the possible repercussions of divorce and financial ruin. I'll pick the lonely and mentally unwell option any day of the week, and I think a lot of other men are coming to the same conclusion. I can do bad all by myself.
@@WINT3R_94 Agreed. 85% of woman initiate divorce meaning this is a social/cultural problem.
It feels so good to hear another young person say this. I'm 22 and got married last year and what did almost everyone have to say? Why so young? U should date around more, u don't know what u like. U haven't got to experience having sex w other people. Forget that. I dont like dating, I dont want to sleep around. I married my husband bc I love him and I know we can have a wonderful life together. Marriage is hard work and I'm up for the challenge. We're def still in the honeymoon phase which I love but even when hard times come, I'll be by his side for the rest of his life and if this doesnt work, I'm never remarrying and I'll be celibate til I die cuz I don't want to try again. This or nothing.
These are my exact feelings. I’m 20 years old and happily engaged, but many people say I’m too young and should have more “experiences”. My fiancé and I don’t care for hooking up or partying or whatever. I’m just very excited to share our life experiences together side by side. I’m looking forward to growing old and raising a family with the only man I’ve ever loved. This or nothing fr
Best of luck to both of you. You are unbelievably lucky.
How old is the dude?
Empty words at 22
Sorry to ruin the mood here. You said you know that you two can have a wonderful life together, but the thing is you don't know that, you believe that. All that said I hope for the best for you and your husband. We need more couples like you.
Chronically on line enough to show up here in the first 20 minutes
just stop then(im chronically online for last 6 years)
20 minutes is criminally insane
Just shower and you’ll find a wife bro 😂
I’m 6,4 and have a six pac and I still struggle
Gang gang gang
The mustache man flag would get you kicked off, don't do it brah. We know who controls entertainment
the all dolf flag ?
That's the reason they don't like it. Not that entire motherfucking war that happened and all the dead soldiers, civilians, blitzkriegs, around the clock bombings, invasions, and occupations. I'm sure Poland are huge fans. Not to mention the French, Brits, Russians, Americans with relatives who fought in Europe etc etc.
The most beautiful flag
Vaush is going to get so mad, more mad then the time he lost 123gb of “cheese pizza” videos
@@brickofwar9727Vaush wouldn’t give a fuck. He supports terrorism against Jews.
Romanian iron guard flag is top tier
Iron Guard represent!!
TLC!
True
I know damn well you play HOI4....
because that's how i knew that one as well
Traiasca legiunea si capitanul!
You're right, good relationships are difficult and rare because they are inherentely unnatural. But if you look around you'll see that society is unnatural. And that's not a bad thing. Rivers, trees and hurricanes are natural. Skyscrapers, bridges and walls are not. We fight nature to build a comfortable place to live in and same with relationships. It's a battle to understand and control or work with the natural. And if done in a healthy way it can be very rewarding.
Why have they been Successful in certain decades before?
Good point. I often wonder why people who argue against things solely on the basis of them being “unnatural” don’t consider this. Plastic bags are unnatural, cars are unnatural, smart phones are unnatural, etc. Yet, they are created by us, biological organisms that naturally inhabit this planet, using resources extracted, chemically altered, and engineered - from this planet! Thus by definition, isn’t everything we do actually natural? When we advance even further with being able to alter genetic code, develop even more sophisticated AI, and robotics, isn’t that natural? We, beings of this earth, advancing in technological sophistication and altering our environment is occurring naturally over time. Food for thought
@@porkerpete7722 There area few reasons. People no longer agree on beliefs, values and visions. There isn't anything uniting us. Most feel current society is unredeemable and needs to be overturned. People used to argue about policies and laws but would all agree that the system needs to be preserved. The fundamentals were settled and the discussion was about the implementation. Now people can't even agree on the fundamentals. They're even arguing about shape of this planet.
And if you believe that the current system is evil, it would be immortal to support it.
Hookup culture is very intuned with our nature
Rivers, trees, hurricanes>>>>> skyscrapers, bridges and walls
Ever since the society started to shame people who haven't had at least 50 sexual partners before the age 15, there's no wonder we can't commit to monogamy. Shows like Friends set the foundation for normalization of casual sex.
Damn right
The sexual revolution and it's consequences.
So true. People tend to blame feminism for the downfall of relationships. The biggest downfall was the decline of religion/morals. The concept of virginity/ purity was viewed as backwards and oppressive, so sexual revolution took off in the 60s/70s.
I 100% blame Friends, particularly Joey, for my messed up worldview in my 20s
The Industrial Revolution and its consequences
Casual sex benefits no one. It’s all done to fill a void which would be solved by being in a loving monogamous relationship, but people cope and mask it as ‘experience’ thinking that it’s going to be a benefit for their future partner, when in reality the damage done by sleeping around is far worse than not being ‘great in bed’ from the get go.
It benefits me.
The only people it doesn't benefit are those who cannot get it.
@@kenofken9458 Congratulations
@@kenofken9458😂 don’t get used to it, can definitely catch something nowadays if you get em by dating apps.
@@kenofken9458Where do you live? If around you the birthrate is falling, yes, it will affect you. Pretty soon probably.
We're in absolutely no danger of running out of people.
bro left us with a cliffhanger
the cut was so funny tho
The importance of relationships (friendships included) is also why the average autist self-terminates before he or she turns 39, and why the ones that don't develop all sorts of brain problems and physical conditions decades before normies. No one wants to talk about it, though.
Do you have any studies you can link about this? Interesting topic but ive never seen anyone talk about it
@@username113 Yeah, I’m right there with you, I’m about to start Googling, lol
Damn is that true? I'm 35.... Rip me
Just looked for up and apparently if you as an autist also have an IQ of 120 or greater, you're 6 times more likely to self-terminate. Welp, I'm boned...
Yeah I rarely see any old autists. I’ve seen maybe like one elderly autistic person.
@@Tmate4444 They did some research not that many years ago that showed that autists are responsible for 18% of all self-terminations worldwide. Last I checked, which was a decade ago, mind, so the numbers might be very different in 2024, only 2% of the population were autistic. Says a lot about our future prospects.
I'm also in the 120+ IQ category, and 38. Life is extremely lonely, bleak, and cold, but I'm going above and beyond to change my life situation, so I can have the dignified life the world owes me.
Great to see an bisexual Indian man of color coming up in the rap game.
The globalization of the dating market via social media and dating apps ruined everything
This is probably the number one reason, from what I've heard pre social media a sub 5 could still have a decent chance of atleast getting something
@@UraniumStorm yeah before social media and dating apps, you would see people get with their looks match for the most part. Now ugly women want guys who are way better looking than them, because they see how many options they have online and try to pick their best ones, which makes sense, so you can’t blame women 100%, as men would do the same if we had the same amount of options. It’s social media and dating apps that are the main issue.
@@JesterMax24 yup, I’ve made the same observation
@@SirAuron777
It’s all by design. Same people who created all these dating apps create all the p-rn.
Exact same people…
@@JesterMax24no they wouldn’t because they know how to go out and approach women and talk to them.. even the nerdiest boomer I know knew how to walk up and talk to a woman. They might have been awkward but they would still do it.. your generation has paralyzed itself into thinking cold approach is impossible
Correct. We're not monogamous. However, we self-domesticated a very long time ago and enforced it, and as a consequence, societies started forming. In some ways, the average dating app addicted hookup Chad has reverted to an almost caveman level, and the same could be said of the average adult entertainment lifetime enthusiast.
The irony is modern technology has knocked our dating practices back to the stone age.
@@Krelian4400 Unfortunately for the establishment, only the golden billion members are experiencing stone age dating, while the rest of the world seem to be on the upswing, despite often repeated statements in the 'true and unbiased free media of the western liberal world order.'
@@Krelian4400 basically. But during the Stone Age, a pretty boybchad wouldn’t be able to save a woman from a dinosaur, so that’s when woman chose protectors overs physical looks.
@@Satanic-Dan However in the end, women in both cases ultimately chose both for the sake of pursuing power. It is, to be frank, a lie that a woman can like you for _who_ you are. Eve ate the apple. Men are too simpy to realize this, women far too cold and machine-like to care, as the jig would be up for their genetic ponzi scheme. They are the more social creature, for this they are more prone to the tides of mainstream forces. _Worldy_ mainstream forces. There's a reason so many girls are into witchcraft, horoscopes, etc. Only Jesus solves this. Weimar 2.0? That would certainly be a nice little surprise if we could manage anything worth salvaging here in a country that God blessed. Ball is in our court. Are we truly blessed? Will we acknowledge our gift? Or will we, in the end, rape Jesus and in doing so taking what is his but leaving _him_ out of our picture? Chapter 18 Revelation is our fate otherwise.
I really think cavemen had better mental health
Just died 2 mins ago but returned to the living world when I realised Lil' Gerbster has returned once again to educate the tiktok generation
thanks for shining the light on this - You and Jennerrr are the only creators that talk openly about the dating market reality and how young men have been screwed over
gerbert dropping the heat as usual
I think a large part of it is to do with the overregulation of relationships. The whole discourse around dating, whether it's redpill, feminist, conservative or progressive, imparts protocols and social pressure on people, thus turning relationships into partnerships where people are seen as functions and the relationship is seen as an obligation. This dulls and ultimately kills the feelings of love.
I'd say it's the opposite, we need more regulation. Unregulated dating is what has led to this Chad monopoly and situationships.
@@Krelian4400 I mean overregulation in the sense of overinvolvement. You can't pressure people in how they should fall in love but that doesn't mean traditions can't exist and be passed on. Relationships in the 50s were kept mostly private, but now people are so open and there's all this over dissection of how to treat a partner and what is abuse and how to look for it and avoid it. Yet relationships aren't getting better.
You have zero idea what's going on. The red pill didn't magically fall out of the sky, and the red pill is literally just about reality. You don't even know what it is. It isn't a "protocol."
This really hits the nail on the head, so many times I hear the supposed solution to our quandries about love always coming from these pessimistic miserable gen x people that subscribe to some deontological view of marriage as state sanctioned reproduction; that love is a stoic, transactional, passionless enterprise that only starts after the feelings die. But healthy love doesn't die, it cools from the high of the butterflies into something deeper, something more holistic and gratifying, like long-term happiness. The fact that these people think it's ideal to begrudgingly spend 40 years of your life sticking it out for nothing less than a roommate you occasionally fuck and pay your taxes with; that's not love, that's complacent security
We can’t go back. I refuse to have a monogamous long-term relationship with these blown out 304s
FACTS 🔥🔥🔥
@@JesterMax24my mother married when she was young and pure..they didnt divorce. But they had a dead bedroom for decades now 😂 marriage isnt for anyone
Fortunately there's more virgin Asian women in SEA alone than there is people in the entire population of Europe
My mum and dad married each other at 17 and 21, they're 30 years strong with 7 kids and still like treat each other like newlyweds. It's impossible for me to have a life like this cause the market is full of 304s. This is such a sad reality.
@@hanalala3164 I believe there comes a time when a woman gets bored of having intercourse with the same man over and over. No endorphins are released at that point so she’s turned off by it. Monogamy isn’t working.
Gerbert's bars unironically better than 80% of other rappers/drill artists
i like how you separetaed rap from drill lmao
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I don't even have the option of having a situationship
Such is for most men today
If a guy can get with 304s in their young 20's, it can work. Getting with them at 28-ish means baby rabies and it's not worth the risk.
we're done for pals
it’s over lmao
Usury sucking the financial life out of younger generations seems to be a big factor also, marriage and birth rate would probably be higher if most young guys weren't giga broke.
And young guys get sucked into pornography, gambling, all the sins. Find the common denominator in these and usury.
@@xa0wnerxthe denominator doesnt matter in multiplication, most young guys engage in these sins because of circumstances and upbringing, dont blame them so much
People are not broke because of "usury," they're broke because there are fewer economic opportunities or because they make dumbass financial decisions. Often times both.
Even if they do sign a ridiculously high loan that's their dumbass's fault, not the guy who offered them the loan. If a grown ass adult can't understand what's on the paper they're signing but they sign it anyway, that's not anyone's fault but their own.
@@xa0wnerx no, they allow themselves to be beholden to these vices. Is anyone making you watch porn or go to Vegas? Nah.
Every single society from China to Spain to Canada has all these vices because people want to partake in them.
(((usury)))
She: Im so lonely, i cant find any boyfriend!
Me: Ok i can hang out with you
She: How Tall are you
Me: 5,7
She: ah, nah ure too short ( Shes 5,1)
so much with "any" 💀
I'm 6'5". Still over.
This def didn’t happen, also you set yourself up. Stop settling for anything you can get
You guys stuck on height are just silly. You have totally talked yourself out of the game and you will feel it hard later on and you won’t have anyone to blame other than yourselves
@@Cookedfrfrfr Brutal.
@@Cookedfrfrfr plz stop lying. You’re 6”4.9. Jokes aside how is that possible with your height unless you’re sub 4?
havent watched but, a big issue is the lack of risk. people have "situationships" because they're afraid to commit to a "relationship". a "relationship" sounds scary and requires more expectations.
Pretty sure I read an economics paper that claimed because of MMT money printing we have gotten less risk averse in every aspect of life, not more.
@@tann_man yup
It’s just a gen Z term for casual sex. Two people using each other to satisfy a temporary base desire. Like two addicts helping each other score some drugs lmao
@@BlueBones8 not even, alot of situationships barely have sex. Mostly the emotional attachment
@@wtfimcryingyes, Man, there is a girl i know, she gets this dudes on Omegle/insta Just to have a "bf" 24/7 to share feeling, say "i love u", talking about her life in general, its not even sex Man lol
We might not want to BE monogamous by nature, but both men and women want their partners to be monogamous, and I think that is in our nature.
This is the thing about our “nature.” Ought we follow our nature? Is there some law that says that it’s better to follow our nature?
To a point. The lower value the woman, the more they will put up with it, but they would prefer to have ALL of Chad's time, attention, and resources. If the woman is high enough value, (virgin and religios) she will require monogamy. @@JesterMax24
No, and no@@YukonV
@@JesterMax24doesn’t make it right
Yes and no.
Men are programmed to seek out variety. Women are programmed to follow their dual mating strategy.
Once the programming's executed or successfully resisted, then most people want it. Also, every holy book ever spends chapters talking about how some people just aren't build for relationships.
thing im really starting to feel latetly, is how little we actually can do to drasticly change everything. We can only play our part, our life in the hopes it will turn out. but we cant decide or control anything outisde outselfs. we dont control how other react, respond, feel etc. i feel as if im trapped as to how other respond to me. if they react in a way that makes me feel good i feel good but if they react in a way that makes me feel lonely i feel bad. it almost seems as if this is the only factor which determines if im happy or relaxed. other feel the same? and if so, my happiness depends on something i cannot control or ever will be able to even predict... just the situation i am in right now, wondering if others can relate.
but on the other side, i feel a lot more accepting towards my situation and life now that i kinda feel this way. If others dont like what i do, well so be it, not really anything i can do about it by trying harder or doing more. others like how i am, well great, i love that. if im not meeting excpectations or life op to other peoples idea it feels less like my fault and feels more like that process is in the hands of the other, wheras before i felt like everything was my fault.
feels like i can only work on myself in an indirect way, getting bigger, getting a degree, getting more fit, more skilled fighter, better guitarist etc. but actually trying to be the person you think other people want only makes me realise that thats way too much effort for the reward.
I struggled with this sentiment for the longest time before realizing that at the end of the day, every person that you are trying to win over by bettering yourself is locked in their own little battle and is dealing with their own trauma or whatever is going on in their lives.
I hate for this to sound pessimistic, but I was able to move on from constantly worrying about people's perception of me by asking myself "Who really cares?" over and over again. Not in a "Ohhh nobody loves meeee waaaaah" kind of way, but genuinely. No one knows what you go through on a daily basis except yourself. For example, if I see somebody who's jacked in public, I think to myself "That person's jacked. Whoa." and then go about my day. I'm not thinking about what put him in the gym in the first place. I'm not thinking about how hard he grinded for his physique. I'm not thinking about his personal struggles. I just notice the surface level.
It's so much more rewarding when you put in the work to improve yourself rather than working on yourself for others. A close friend of mine gave me some advice that changed my life: "Don't go chasing butterflies, build a beautiful garden [mind + body + spirit] so that they come to you."
(If I misunderstood your comment pls let me know 😭😭)
@@eljeff1111 hahah, you did misinterpreted it, but thats oke. its my first time expressing these feelings so my comment probably wasn't that cohesive or clear.
To put it short, you can change yourself a lot but there's little that can be done to change your circumstances. Realistically, you should do as much as possible to change your circumstances because most likely there isn't anything majorly wrong with you, just with what's around you. To be perfectly honest you could hop to some SEA country and be drowning in more women than you knew what to do with meanwhile you can be a millionaire runway model in the west and still be inkwell
A revolution is always an option, but people are just too complacent
WESTERN SOCIETY COLLAPSING W THIS ONE💣💢💯
12:53 i fucking love your jordan peterson impressions lol
Soyciety
The main thing that stops me from having a relationship and getting married is the fact that women are known for dumping their partner for no reason at all even after decades of marriage. Statistics show that over 70% of divorces are initiated by women. I also saw (online and irl) endless cases where men got dumped by their gfs/wives out of the blue. Why would I be excited about something that's most likely gonna be temporary?
In those marriages there might be a communication problem, if it’s out of the blue then they must have grown apart without realising it
@crocs4304 I think the main reason is that women need to be constantly stimulated during the relationship. They get bored so easily.
@@swgg2887 Well yeah every relationship requires maintenance
I’m wondering how many of the divorces came into being because of the guy turning into a bum. Not saying that the women are innocent but normal people don’t immediately resort to divorce.
Guys stop obsessing over studies - seriously just go out and meet girls and date them. Just try to have fun. You guys are letting flawed studies stop you from living
You forgot an important factor; women with degrees are much more likely to initiate divorces than women with lower education.
Thank god Gerbizzle is here to drop another banger
Waiting for the don't tread on me flag
I have one that's rainbow
I like the rainbow flag. 😘
Gadsden Flag*
Gerbie's Jordan Peterson impressions never fail to make me laugh
ur videos make me so depressed but feel like less of an alien at the same time
Bro your hilarious honestly most people can't make me laugh like you. 💯
so true!!
real brother
Flags:
Left - Anarchist flag
Middle - Legionary Romania I think
Right - Posadist Flag
I know these thanks to hearts of iron 4 (I have never seen the sun)
I think you should do British Union of Fascists flag next if you haven't already
ROMANIAAAA MENTIONED
@@miculprint.🇷🇴
For most of monogamous human history, love was familiarity over time. I would say an elderly couple married for decades is more in love than two young people making out on a bench. Back in the day your life partner was often selected for you
Marriage was about two families coming together to raise the status of their combined legacy. Love was optional.
My maternal great great grandparents had no love for each other, but brought a moderately well off farming family together with a higher status but poor metalworking family, and one of their 4 children became a very wealthy, very high status blacksmith and artisan. He made every cemetery gate and cemetery fence in the municipality, virtually every crucifix on every church roof even in neighbouring municipalities, grave crosses for both peasants and the rich, knives, rifle barrels... It's all standing to this day.
His daughter, my maternal grandmother, was thus born into a high income, high status family, and her blacksmith father discovered that she was a musical genius. She was sent off to learn how to play the accordion and the piano (because he was rich and educated himself, so he could give his daughter that), and got so good that she was invited to tour places like Russia and Austria.
Her only child, my mom, went all in on college education (as opposed to the private education everybody in the family had received before her), equality, 304 phases, and wasted her best years chasing vain goals, conceiving me at the age of 32, with a man who was a lot like her, yet they didn't marry, because 'too oldfashioned,' and at the first sign of trouble, dad left, and mom turned into a single mother 304.
I wish someone would have selected a life partner for me.
@@WinglessRainmarriage dont serve women 🤷♀️ the only reason they last in the past was the taboo of divorce. Not happiness. Id rather be a happy 304 tbh. I wouldnt bring a child into that though. Having kids outside of marriage is never smart🤷♀️ being a 304 is fine so long as i dont drag kids into it
@@hanalala3164 Marriage serves both sides by virtue of passing on your genes and making a legacy. All the 304s I knew when I was in my 20s are now miserable and alone, and all they're good for is more 304 duty.
@@hanalala3164except literally every facet of civilization serves women...you're not even capable of fending off a wild dog or gathering berries unless a man is there to protect you or show you how. This is why there is zero presence of feminism in any developing nation since women are incapable of developing or maintaining anything without enormous amounts of government supplementation and supervision which in those nations does not exist and why said supplementation in countries where it does exist results in the average woman being a tax net negative in every single feminist nation there is
@@hanalala3164slayed
18:45 this is unironically one of my biggest fears and my top reason for wanting to self forever sleep
I think the black sun would go under the youtube radar
Sherbert Johnson bringing us another frosty treat!
Bros Cheekbone game on point
He was mewing before the video 🤣🤣
When you talked about instilling some kind of fear or policing monogamy it reminded me of a text in the Bible it goes like this "The fear of God is the BEGGINING of wisdom" to me that means that fear can be good, but one only can have full wisdom when he respects/learns to love God.
the problem is u dont meet your partners in real life anymore. i had so many relashipships in hs and college due to people being my age and having similar lifestyle. but all those prospects went to 0 after graduation.
I got a Tinder ad before this video
Girby you really are starting to master your craft. I remember back then you couldn't even make a video over 10 minutes. Keep up the good work bro.
This might be your best 30 second freestyle so far since I’ve been watching 🔥🔥🔥
Still waiting for the album to drop.
Maybe I'm being naive but on the face of it seems to me the study found a correlation between health/longevity and relationship quality but this does not mean close relationships CAUSE better health incomes. It could be that people who are healthier and happier are better able to attract and maintain relationships with others.
I think that there is a lot of irony in the fact that every man in my life is incredibly proud of me, while women generally don't want anything to do with me. I'm nineteen years old, I enlisted in the national guard when I got out of high school, completed basic training and then got a job as a welder in a wind tower factory using the welding certifications that I got when I was in high school. I am tall, I am in decent shape, I have proven myself to be hard working, and I have a decent job. If I'm still considered a three or a four by most women I have no idea how anyone meets their standards at all.
I just practiced guitar for 26 mins and 47 seconds. Mostly bends and pull offs. Thanks for the motivation, Gerbert. ❤
his freestyles are getting progressively better
You should buy the Orthodoxy or death flag. It has skulls and swords on it and "Православие или смерть"
That flag goes hard
@@thealaskanseparatist6786 It is in fact the hardest flag out there. Glory to Christ☦️
@@s1q213 Amen to that
Soviet flag as well😊
@@porkerpete7722 Nah that's toilet paper
i didnt want to be in a situationship... she played me
Join the club. They all do in some way.
I’m edging to this
I jerged opf today on the floor of my bathroom today. felt both good and miserable.
@@bobsbigboy_ I need u
Gerbert is getting radical. I love it.
i feel like gerbert has always been radical tbh, hes just good at hiding it
@@undefinedhuman7404 true haha
Cmon, Gerbie, give us the windmill of friendship.
either long monogamous relationship or going monk. based
Facts
Gerb needs to make a video where he showcases all of his flags.
This dude is solid. He’s ahead of not only most 20 year olds, but most modern dudes in general. Much respect gained from this 39 year old
straight facts bro glad you’re putting this out here because I’ve seen it all this same way too
I wish I could make it to a situationship
They’re not worth it. Trust trust trust me. The end of a Situationship damn near hurts more than the end of an actual relationship in my experience.
@@swissbankroll1929when you have absolutely no dating experience a situationship and a heartbreak can help, that’s my theory. I’m just trying anything at this point
I wish I could make it
I wish I could
Not worth
BTW Some women have insane advances on college and career, specially if they do STEM and one of the most interesting things is how they are "girlie": they have parties, have sex, have friends, have everything. The men? They can get As and be hired after college and will feel miserable.
I wonder if women are becoming sucessful because life happens to them so easy, and frustrating things become less damaging, while if you are a loser, evey setback just adds to several life setbacks that you have.
Men need to stop comparing themselves to women, and women need to stop comparing themselves to men.
Women can get endless amounts of bedroom acrobatics with the snap of a finger.
Men can spend 3 months in the gym and go from skinnyfat to ripped.
Women get attention from every man in their 20s, then they slowly become invincible.
Men have to wait until their late 20s before the world notices they exist, but then they very slowly gain value, and typically don't stop until they're in their 50s.
Women gain status and power if they marry high status and powerful men.
Men can recover and rehabilitate themselves from single mother childhood trauma using introspection and sheer willpower.
Women are born in a positive Matthew effect loop, men are born in a negative one. Easy mode vs. hard mode. Men can turn on easy mode if they are really physically attractive and/or rich. For women easy mode is practically automatic.
If the average women loses a boyfriend she can have a new one by the end of the week if she wants. For the average guy, it can take him months or years to find another. Same with jobs, friends etc. It's brutal for men.
@@Krelian4400 it’s closing on at zero for the sub 7 man
@@WinglessRain Huge cope. Women are greatly desired at almost every age over men. Only a select few men live the great life with high value, usually men who are top percent of looks or top percent of wealth. The double edged sword of wealth is women tend to only want you for your wealth and have little to no physical attraction to you.
I think thats totally bullshit. If women have it "easier" then their expectations are higher, and the high expectations is adding to the social breakdown. You have to think meta-psychologically. You cant compare men and women with a basic hedonic model or the outdated maslow hierarchy. This has no explanation for the single mother crisis, addictions and self harm among women. If they have it so much better, why are they so miserabe? Its not even worth making a comparison, you just buy into the artificial "gender war" narrative@@Krelian4400
Women suffer poetic mythological torture compared to men: imagine 80% of men were gay and wanted to sex you. But you are neurologically wired not to want to do it with them. Thats like something you would come up in a story for poetic irony, but thats literally what women experience all the time. But they supposedly have it better lmao
one of your best videos yet, summarizes the entire problem in a concise and comprehensive way. It was always about making families, having responsibility and a duty to said family, everything else is a pointless hedonistic endeavor.
The study results could easily be a confusion of cause and effect, since it's quite conceivable that partners who are happy intrinsically and independently would make for a happy relationship. It's the unhappy, needy, and emotionally demanding partner who destroys a relationship.
we need a proper drill/trap beat for gerby to spit on
I am a regular viewer of your channel from india .
And i have noticed that what went wrong in western societies especially America that u all came to this situation.
1:The model of development which only values money and ppl have to leave their families and childhood friends contribute to loneliness very much .
2:Detoriation of the institution of marriage and family which made both genders happy and fulfilled.
3: The loss of sense of a community.
4:Too much public nudity
And some more.
5. politics
6. loss of common sense
7. loss of religious belief
I live in Brazil, here ia the same thing, the only ones that seem to have a Community here are the protestants who have quite of social life within themselves. even people in countryside here are prefering phone over being out).
I guess this means Im going to probably be gone in my 40s
Oh well
I tug it every time gerby uploads
Extracurricular activities, are situational. Most of the time you are a work slave. Who wants to be a slave to a bad relationship while they are also working.
Relationships are situational.
That's why people are settling down.
No one has the wealth saved up for a relationship anymore.
I dont have a ton of close relationships, but i do put myself out there, and practice assumed familiarity, and people just open up to me wherever i go. I just talk to everyone like an old friend, and mostly they just go with it, so it feels like a party wherever im at.
me and my wife are Christians we got married as virgins we cant be happier after coming up to 5 years ppl might bully us online and shit but idc one cant let others think of them effect them were happy and love each other ( the love where you put there needs before your own not the Hollywood bs 'love')
Sometimes I wish I waited till marriage
This is the key. A god fearing relationship cannot fail, it simply cannot. If it does fail then It wasn’t god fearing, simple. I’ve been with my partner for 5 years and we are saving for a house. We are both Christians, and I couldn’t ask for a better partner. She’s supportive, modest, loving, caring, beautiful, loyal and the list goes on. Yet I also get laughed at cause we worship a “sky daddy”.
yet we seem to be the most sane among alot of others@@Daogchannel1
God bless
@@Daogchannel1 Keep on keeping the faith. The pride of those who mock you will be their undoing one day
12:50 that impression was on point hahaha
"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." As simple as that, life has been amazing since creating a relation with Christ fr.
@pissedpajamas5718huh?
@pissedpajamas5718lmao you silly sausage
Gawd
@pissedpajamas5718 I would argue that Christianity is not herd morality. It's about putting God first, potentially in the face of being isolated from the herd itself. Jesus comforts those who mourn. We are collectively mourning the death of society.
@pissedpajamas5718herd morality exists whether we prescribe to it or not. It's better to reach the conclusion that most people are the kind that will turn your country into a place like India if you do not herd them through moral values whether you believe in them or not
I don't particularly like ridiculous law systems and red tape that have to be dealt with regularly but I also understand that if they weren't in place then I wouldn't be able to leave the house without being stabbed to death
I'm starting to believe that even with marriage and monogamy structures, all love relationships have a life cycle. I know no one that is still truly in love after many years. All long term relationships, married or not, all seem to be miserable. Always fighting, or just become good friends or roommates.
No one knows how to manage being with a person that operates differently after a time, no matter how much one has been in love for many years, it all just seems to shift out of love, or more into a friend love over romantic love.
Everyone I've seen and known in my life of whom has been together for a time and are married are ALL just trying to make it work and it's this endless question of how the hell they will ever feel like a couple again.
I wonder if it's more realistic that we go through several love relationships in our lives and long term marriage is just for families.
Our personalities and attachment styles are just too complicated. EVERYONE functions from unprocessed childhood attachment patterns and traumas. I don't see this happiness, these protective factors from long term marriages. I only see people trying to kick a dead horse because they're just not in any sort of love anymore.
Lil Gerb needs to make an album
0:01 this is a certified hood tragedy🔥🔥
If no family I’m not working
Gerby, boy oh boy where do I start…
Its broken for YOU not for women they are the ones writing the rules of modrrn dating and they enjoy it.
Take away their rights
@@whoisjoe5610 Yours would soon follow.
Come for the fly-ass intro, stay for thr dawg's young wisdom
Whats the point of a relationship nowadays? Bragging rights, emotional tampon and walking wallet for women.
your belief that all women are like that will forever prevent you from allowing yourself to engage with any women at all enough to ever even open the door for a potential partner
love
the other guy that commented, boxkutta, is right bro. ive had negative experiences with women before so i get what you mean but not all women are alike. the more time i spend with my platonic female friends and the more women i meet, the more i realise that women and men are way more alike in personality than the average person thinks. believing "all women bad" will cause you to never actually try to interact with a woman, causing you to never meet a woman that disproves your theory, so you will just believe in it more. get some female platonic friends bro, trust
@@boxkuttathese guys are paralyzing themselves and it’s hard to watch.. there are many channels like this saying the same shit and guys in the comments saying the same black pill bs over and over.. they complain yet put no real effort into changing
@@brianmeen2158Because they feel like there is no point in putting in the effort if they only have to contend with 304s and trauma morons.
Loved your talk with Stardusk. Would love to you go back again sometime!
That Jordan Peterson impression is better than Jordan Peterson himself
gerbie got that lobotomy flow 🔥
Why would anyone care about the situationship idea if you still can't participate
Been following you for 2 Years: love your progression throughout and i love listening to these in between my workout
Hi Gerbies, i did the relationship thingy for a year, then the butterflies just dissapeared one day and we broke up, before that i was in monk mode, so it is monk mode for me again, at least i have a fullfilling life, hope the same for you man, cheers!
Appreciate you man, all your vids simultaneously make me laugh and think 😂