"Living As a Genetically Inferior Male"
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2024
- Genetic Determinism is a huge deal.
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few things hit as hard as gerby's utterly deranged bars
Mentally Unstable flow🔥🔥
Gerby coming at us with that confession flow 🥶🥶🥶💯💯💯🗣️🗣️🗣️
I don't know man, you ever been smashed in the face with a fuckin stilson wrench? 😂
All it needed was the ass clapping for the woooooooo part. Pure genius
idk dads belt is up there
That jihad line was actually crazy, Gerby needs to drop a maxtape
Would you mind explaining it to an obtuse genetically inferior man like me?
The only thing Gerby’s gonna be dropping is bombs on innocent civilians 💯
When your name is jahadi 😭
@@jahadilee8944 u live in us bro?
@@jahadilee8944 bro tragic 😭😭
Genetics will play major role in how others treat u, and shape u as a person growing up. The ugly/short kids will get mistreated, disrespected, and bullied by their peers, and carry that resentment into their adulthood. Which makes it difficult to have a positive, fun mentality when interacting with strangers, because subconsciously u are thinking is this person judging me and they probably don't like me anyways.
Look to Francisco Franco of Spain,short,bald,ugly,lost one ball by a bullet,were not even the one suposed to lead the revolution,and finally he won the war and made up to governt from 1939-1975.May God bless him
Little painful to hear it in words but this was well put
Yup this is it 100 %
@@FlameSlayer1901 hurts it more than the fall of the Ottomans?
@@trabajodisciplinacrecimien8230 the fall of Constantinopole was the worst things
Just had my first child. Named him Gerbert in honour of the great man.
ain't no wayy fr?? 😂😂
Based
Based
I salute you
you capping rn fr?
Gerby really just continued as if he didnt drop literal bars🔥
Haha we are laughing
Like Turkey continued in 1923 like they didnt lose all the balkans,all the levant,and all north africa.
Bars to bar himself
from experience, every body is a psychopath, from your mom that wouldn't let you shine cuz she fears becoming lonly, to your tyranical dad that fears being out grown and out powered, to the friends that hate your brilliance and try to feed your weaknesses, to the love of your life or girlfriend that is acting compassion and sympathy for you when winning but makes devilish plays to put you under her boots. just look at all those people who act caring when you are suffering, how many of them actually helps you stand back up? in my case NONE and those who did were either preparing me for a deeper fall or misguiding me all along .
so man trust no body, but recognize that we are also the same deviled entities , we do the same or worse unconsciously.
meeeeeh life is so overrated
Existence is overrated
yeah thats all true but if i was good looking i would be able to enjoy life not rely on anyone and get away from all that
@@MikeJensen-w2v yea but, whatever
@@MikeJensen-w2v if you were attractive youd have even more lyers and gaslighters trying to get something out of you money sex work all kinds of things be happy that people ignore you you can make your own path and the people you meet that like you do genuenly like you
Your perspective
As someone who is slightly older than you bud, I genuinely respect the shit out of you Gerby.
As for advice, honestly just do what ya have to do, the more ya think and worry about everything around you the less you'll be able to enjoy your life. It's a bit of a balance between ignorance and knowledge. You know what you have to do, a miracle may or may not happen but you'll never know unless ya try. So don't give up and keep at it!
To get motivated remember you were not born in the Gaza strip.
@@trabajodisciplinacrecimien8230 fact
@@DARTH-R3VAN "fatah"
wow crazy you said this before the events occurring now@@trabajodisciplinacrecimien8230
@@trabajodisciplinacrecimien8230are you a psychic?
The only way to change that "short/ugly guy" mentality is to be delusional and think very positively about yourself whenever you're around others, and don't let other people's opinions of u, pull u down.
I.e. blue pill
Yooooo Alpha 17 pfp
@@cb8608 we've come full circle
"Short ugly mentality" lmao maybe they aren't that ugly but being short isn't a mentality 💀
Just buy shoes that make you 5 inches taller. Stonks or am I crazy?
Even if you're a chad if you constantly consume blackpill content It will mentally poison you to the point where you're incapable of having a relationship
Depends, because as a chad you know you have an advantage, if anything, watching black pill content gives you positive reinforcement as a chad, knowing you can choose a woman who is maybe 1 or 2 points below you because the woman will see you as a catch as you’re above her in looks and actually be submissive and loyal in a relationship for the most part
Cope, Chads get approached constantly, there was a chad who was socially awkward, used to stay alone in the classroom and couldn't speak with people and girls would literally go to the classroom and sit next to him just to be with him and trying to speak with him.
@@SirAuron777 In my experience feelings of insecurity and inadequacy will lead a female to cheat. Do not try to understand them it will only lead to despair.
If you're a chad blackpill will never poison you and you'll never be bitter, everyone else is bitter because of cognitive dissonance, "grapes are sour because I don't have them" type stuff.
So gay
I'm genuinely surprised that people still argue that looks don't matter especially in today's social media digitalized world. If you're a male and you don't look like you come from a anime romance novel it gives girls, the "ick' (i hate that word so much lol) Best option is to looksmax and hope for the best.
W for me
Respectfully I disagree that there's no hope for normal people, I have seen so many bad bitches with some absolutely silly goofy looking guys.
You’re so right
If you look at any social media content, it’s all attractive people fishing for clout because they know they’re attractive.
Looksmaxxing is the way, it produces tangible results. Average looking people have the most to gain from this compared to people at the bottom or the top. You can't set out thinking you're doomed from the start, if you do then that will be a certainty.
Been in a relationship for over a year after beginning looksmaxxing. The most important thing I did was 100% normie/optimistmaxxing. I stopped exposing myself to any kind of content that would demoralize or otherwise affect my psyche negatively(politics/news in general, blackpill bait, redpill bait)
how u feeling rn?
I should try that
copemaxxing
Love is not attraction tho. Attraction gets your attention and and starts of the prospect of relationships but at the end of the day love is a choice. I’m an 18 yr old dude and who’s had a stable relationship with a girl for about a year now and it’s tough not gonna lie. For a lustful dude like me I find it difficult when more attractive women come my way but I stave it off, because at the end of the day they might be attractive but they’d never treat me the way my gf does and I can’t and won’t let my worm ruin something like this. It’s a choice to stay with that person despite their flaws and despite your own. Find someone you can be honest with, someone who’s forgiving and honest with you too. Find someone who wants the best for you because at the end of the day that’s what you want for yourself too.
You're the realest person I've seen in this comment section, and I whole heartedly agree with you.
lol cope, just because you found a unicorn doesn't mean everyone else is able to
@@iiCounted-op5jxust read black pill post 8 hrs a day, be pitiful about yourself and invalidate positive experiences bro, surely that will make you happy and social.
@@iiCounted-op5jxI found one
😂😂😂 this community is on the copium like non else.
"Just be confident"
I was born with deafness and an awful skin condition, Genetic Determinism definitely rings home for me.
Even when you can't see it straight away you know "others" the way we act. Either aggressively positive or really quiet.
I'm a shortcel. So I can relate
bro dont let some natural defect ruin your experience of life.
@@teaadvice4996wtf is that lol
@@nikolt2000its already ruined, you don't "let" it ruin your life it ruined it for you, dont gaslight man
a lot of it is just social skills/time.
im 6'2, always been athletic and into sports, i was always in the popular groups in school and did well with girls, i was in these groups because i was blessed athletically.
in grade 10 i destroyed my shoulder (labrum) and had to take a year off, then covid came
lost my entire friendgroup and circle in a year and got fat, had 0 female prospects, got very quiet and depressed and it just made my lack of a social circle even worse.
if you can just ingrain yourself into a healthy social outgoing group (sports club probably) you will have way more access to women.
im a tall guy, im fit now, im decent socially, but i have no friend group, ive tried cold approaching with no success, havent tried the apps (not going to)
looks dont matter as much as community, its kind of hard to find good community though.
Yes in my experience at least at school girls will only show interest in you if they see that you have friends and other boys like you
genius
Poor 6’2 guy I feel so bad
@@leroysanchino I don’t think he was looking for sympathy
@@leroysanchino if it helps id trade my height advantage away to have never destroyed my shoulder.
if you grew up as a short guy with no social hobbies/interests then your lack of social interaction is a result of preferring to play DOTA than to go practice a team sport at school, or do the drama stuff, choir, etc. and ingrain yourself into a group.
always something to be envious of from others, you think 3rd world kenyans growing up as child soldiers have it better than you?
im just vibe out until society collapses or some shit
Based
0:02 obama when he got drone access
Bro I’m stealing that Taliban line 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
The reason I watch Gerbert is because I relate to everything he says. Each time I have thoughts like this, I see a Gerbert video a couple hours later.
Are you melancholic too?
Cuz I feel like I relate to him cuz we both are melancholic.
26:00 I agree with what you're saying about trying not to base your happiness on others, but it's difficult when love, intimacy, and genuine connection with girl(s) is an essential part of the human experience, and if you're lacking that aspect in your life, then you're going to be extremely unhappy, and go insane.
Very well put. It's in our dna that we want compassion and love, especially from the opposite gender (well, at least for most of us)
Romance and intense love doesn't last that long, eventually you will be met with the other side of the coin, intense grief and pain
@@Yggdrasill8 That's true. It's fun while it lasts though.
@@Yggdrasill8 It's still in the second most important sphere of human needs. Love isn't something that you find, or even something that you can only have once, but something that you build, and then it takes a lot of time and energy to maintain it.
Facts. That actually happened to me back in 2020-2021 for about an 18 month period. Had untreated BPD and lived a very solitary life once I got my own place. And of course covid going on… Had crazy hallucinations the whole time and thought my apartment was just haunted. I didn’t know it was due to me being mentally ill until just recently. You gotta get out and be around people, even if it’s just small interactions or sitting at a park around others. If you don’t, you could forget that you’re human.
Mannerisms and personality being genetically determined is hugely underrated in the bl*ckpill sphere. Since 99% of guys are not good enough looking for looks alone to carry them, there is a socialising, personality aspect where coming across as aspergers / autism will screw you over every single time.
Anyone can develop social skills, and some women will find "awkward" guys attractive
@@Tennisers social skills are not the same thing and completely separate to being normal. Awkward to women is goofy or clumsy or shy. Again, not the same thing as weird which being on the spectrum exudes
Cope
I met a 6'4 good looking guy but was very autistic or something and the girls just fooled him for fun.
as the saying goes: "Two things can be true" : the OP could be coping but what they are saying can also map to reality quite well - good looking guys can act weird and the vibe throws women off. Forget autism, imagine a solid 9 guy being on a drug that makes him twitchy and paranoid, do you think a good looking normie chick would go for him? theres a tendency to assume psych methods for coping as motive for every man's post, unless you doxx and do a background check you cant even make an educated guess, unless you can read minds there is no way to know
Honestly, I think there is a lot we can learn from Acceptance.
could you accept yourself if you were 5'4 ?
@@Bestofemmmm you could be severely disabled. You could be in lots of worse states
Like AMS says, accept your insecurities. If you do that, you'll be ahead of most people.
@@Bestofemmmm I'm fairly average height at 5'10" been skinny, and got a decent penis size, Not ugly. However, The only thing that stopped me from succeeding early in life was myself.
Not accepting failure ruined my 20s. And teen years.
You can whine and cry about your height your entire life, and you will condemn yourself to failure.
Acceptance, is the key to mastering the cards you are dealt.
@@chefboiardeeznutz9881AMS 😂😂😂, absolute joke, just date 10 girls!
Gerby you’re just like me man. I feel like this type of deep thibk just doesn’t exist anymore, it’s so hard to hold my opinions about life in all the time because no one understands it or cares to listen. Your videos are the only thing that gives me that relief man
I'd suggest this channel called Natural Hypertrophy, supposedly he's a "fitness channel" but it's a treasure trove of profound content and you can tell he's put a lot of thorough effort and pondering into his more philosophical videos. And yes, Gerbert is literally me- literally us
Didn’t think I’d hear a natural hypertrophy being uttered on this channel
The last thing that you addressed is included in the bible it talks all about how life as a whole is vapor in the book of Ecclesiastes.
Here’s one of my favorite verses in Ecclesiastes.
“For in much wisdom is much vexation, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow.”
Ecclesiastes 1:18 ESV
i must be jihad the way i tally all these bands is actually fire
The world sometimes just feels like one huge sperm bank
accurate also because sperm banks wont allow you if youre below 5ft.9.Why does that seem familiar 🤔Edit:Not all banks will deny you however, women choose the donor so why pick a 5 ft 9 guy?
@@lovingdemon2932 lmao or I'd you have poor sperm quality either virility or sperm count
@@lovingdemon2932 is that true?
@@20thcentury_toy It is true but not for every bank it depends on the ones you can get to.However,women will choose the donor so why would they pick most 5 ft 9 guys?
@@lovingdemon2932 you actually have to be 5.95 (176cm) to donate your sperm
sometimes when i watch these videos i feel like im looking at a great thinker of our time, but because hes born in this era he doesnt write books but uploads youtube videos. Seriously high quality thoughts about the mening of life, religion, genetic determanism and how to navigate modernity. keep doing what you're doing my guy!
Natural Hypertrophy?
Be for real.
One day everything will be as it should. Till then, try not to slip into darkness fellas. It’s too easy to fall into it and a bitch to get out.
Yep. I have made peace with this. I stay busy , gym, work, side work. And recently bought a fast electric bicycle…it is quite peaceful to just cruise and take in fresh air and sunlight. It almost gives me a “high” and makes me realize that not much else matters in life and I should feel lucky for what I have.
I think this all comes down to who can be an optimist despite living in a world of pessimists and pessimistic evidence. That one change can get people pretty far I think, even without things like looks-maxing, working out, or learning skills (though these things make it FAR easier to be hopeful, confident, and optimistic). Simply being positive about how things will turn out and how you will be treated, despite the evidence, despite past experiences, and despite what you have bee told. Its really hard though, and I can understand how so many people don't make it to that point. We need to channel that indomitable human spirit, that unshakable hope, that people keep talking about, despite how dark things are. Its like how bravery works, you feel scared, but you do it anyways, and one day you don't feel that fear anymore. You feel like nothing will work out, but you act and speak as if they will, and hopefully one day you will believe it.
You're actually getting too clever with these bars now. The jihad bar in this video and the cocaine one from last video were actually witty and clever.
I feel like just in general having a decent social life even with one or two ppl can change your confidence and how others see you and this is an important step towards being see positively by others including potential partners. It’s all about being open to meeting others so that you can find a person you vibe with who will help you with your morale. Also being able to avoid bad ppl while improving yourself to be more amicable to others. You have to be nice to everyone so that you can find that person you rlly click with. Takes patience too.
• so fax
Not everyone cares to or wants to be social.
@@dylanshorrorchannel1378 well you reap what you sow
@@BIG-qn6ed Lol Cope. Chad doesn’t need friends to be successful with women and that line doesn’t even make sense to this situation. If anything you’ll avoid pain by not involving yourself with others.
@@dylanshorrorchannel1378 you don’t get anything good if not through painful labor (unless you’re a criminal). Also you’re not “chad” if you cower away from rejection or disappointments in relationships.
currently in the process of a glowup, almost done fixing some ugly teeth, eating more protein and less processed fats, working out 5 days a week, and actually making progress on passion projects. missed out on having fun in hs and college but at least i can say that i didn't peak as a teen. Jimmy Butler is a huge inspiration.
Edit: processed, not saturated.
Less ”saturated” fats? Those are the good fats.
Jimmy butler is an amazing example of how far hard work and wanting to win can get you.
Why avoid saturated fats?
@@osku388don’t comment that you might get harassed by some carnivore coper
Don't think abt the past. In the end it doesn't matter anyway since you will die. Instead look at the today since you are still young and have a long future before you.
Ted Kaczynski has passed away today 😢
Ik may he rest in peace 👑😢
ngl i feel like gerbert can unironically make a banger, like if the next billboard top 100 is written by this man i swear on my dog i wouldnt be surprised (fr i think u should drop a song unironically)
On G no cyap Lil Gerby needs to drop an album
U delusional bro. He ain’t even gonna get 10 streams
These videos keep getting better man. Can’t wait to see where your content is at in a years time. Keep going gerbiskahn
i'm an attractive tall guy and i've had that introvert personality most of my life probs from some childhood shit and over the past 4 years or so i've been working to get over that shyness and i can 100% tell you it works. I noticed one day goddamn i'm just striking up conversations with strangers now wow this is really fucking enjoyable. I get my experience could be different to an ugly guy but really it's not. I've got a friend who is a very short skinny fat not that attractive guy who is very well liked and honestly a hit with the ladies because of his personality. Basically don't limit your self belief because of how you look it's a stupid thing to do no matter what you look like.
The only time I’ve been super outgoing was when I worked a customer service job for a few months where I had to interact with people and ask them questions constantly. I could talk to anybody after that but it’s like a muscle and the less you use it the more it atrophies.
@@garbearfar1394 fr u have to get in the "zone"
Your best rap jingle to date!
Once you stop caring so much about certain aspects of life, it gets easier. I don't mean that in a nihilistic doomer mentality kinda way, but rather that some people hyperfixate on that which society has outlined as a 'necessary' or 'normal' part of living a fulfilling life. Find the courage and strength to change that which can be changed in your life, and learn to accept that which cannot. If you remain fixated on that which you have no control over [like your looks to an extent, your height, Etcetera] then you'll forever be miserable.
Well, there’s limb lengthening for height.
😳 damn, droppin' daily with them fire rhymes huh 😳
In another time, the guy who wrote in could have potentially become a writer or an artist, possibly one of note. When smart, introverted people didn't have the internet hellscape to astral project their consciousness into, their only outlet was a pen, a brush or an instrument. This dude clearly has a brain and the ability to express insight, he just wastes it emailing Gerb.
Not really, those "smart, introverted" people would still have to put themselves out there, network with others and convince people to publish their shit first. Cant blame the internet for everything, if anything its reduced the barrier to entry
@@DumplingDoodle Thats not what im saying. We dont live in a meritocracy and being "smart" doesnt mean success. No matter the quality of the book or anywork you do, people often have to like you first to do business with you, or in this example publish your book. Do you know how many people try to get books published and claim its the best thing ever? The publishing companies have to be cut throat so they dont waste their time and money, and so you need every advantage possible to convince them.
Introverts are already at a disadvantage since usually they dont have the people skills or the charisma needed for connecting with people, they most likely dont have the networking skills and connections that help people get their foot in the door in these scenarios since that socialisation isnt in their nature, and on top of that being "attractive" has been shown to be a very important factor in convincing people to do things or getting them to like you, which is unfortunate but its the truth (not saying introverts are ugly lol, just that its more prevalent in people who arent conventionally attractive).
Not saying you should let this stop you by the way, just something to keep in mind, because this is FAR from the only factor that influences the opportunities a person receives, its just an important one. But i fully agree, the internet makes it much bigger issue than it actually is in real life
@@DumplingDoodle bro im agreeing with you, i've been there too, its not the only thing that determines things, I've had my failures and my successes and done my personal work to see that. I cant remember, since its been a while, but I think the point I was making was that the original poster blamed the internet for this guy's failures. But clearly, it goes deeper than that and he has ALOT of personal issues that are holding him back too, and he'd still have them even if we didnt have the internet. I dont mean to come off nihlistic, maybe my comment reads that way, but I'm pointing out that in many ways we have so much at our disposal right now to become better and things weren't significantly "easier" back in the day. Just coming offline isnt going to solve all their problems, but people usually boil it down to just that (hence social skills, networking etc.) People blame the "times we live in" but, as you say, its up to the person to do something about it. Hope that makes sense, glad you managed to turn things around too, respect for saying that
Artistic outlets are already oversaturated
@@VarsityAthlete04 What does that mean?
I'm in the same mud. Been alone and cynical for too long and now, although I'm in a long term relationship with marriage on the line (2+ years already) I'm still blackpilled and don't enjoy any of it because I see all the "transactions" that went into making the relationship work.
I still want to have kids though.
I do not know what you mean by transactions, care to elaborate I'm just curious
@@rns6889everything is paid for he doesn’t see the women loving him if he has no income at all and even if you’re good appearance it’s not enough because no money so you’re only lusted after it’s a double edged sword
There is no other alternative. Even if you dont get a gf or be in a relationship, what can you do after that? The only thing you have left is your own goals and aspirations. If you chase girls you are fked cause you cannot force someone to like you - its subconsciously chosen at sight (fkable or not in one millisecond). The only thing you can do is try. Cause if you dont you are triplely fked in all areas of your life. And even if you dont get a relationship, at least you know you tried. Ye it sucks you have to do a more jumps or proving yourself, and maybe that might not even be enough. But at least you tried - at least you gave it all to improve. Thats all we have at the end of the day.
Facts. This there is no try only do mess has been the cause of so much chaos, death, and destruction. Maybe if people gave each other a REAL leg up in the world and not the lame crap they’ve been doing, society wouldn’t be going in the toilet and we wouldn’t hope for the Russians to just launch it…
True. I think you should look Maxx and try to get a relationship for a time. The time period should be 15-24 while looking maxxing don't neglect your education, education will help you find a good job so you can live a smooth life.
That leads to a higher percent chance of being cucked which nullifies all your hard work
well said.
there's so much more shit to do than to chase girls lol it's called having hobbies
“The worlds too messed up to have kids” is something I’ve struggled with too but I think if you truly think that idea through it solves itself. If the world is so messed up put people into the world that can make it better. Raise kids that make the world a better place instead of letting everyone who you disagree with have kids and impact the world put your vision of the world into action through properly raising them your own.
Yeah your kids will have the happiest life make them alive please
The world is only as good as the people in it. Thus, to make it better, bring better people into it!
Blue pill
I wish I could have romantic steamy brainsex with a comment, because this would be the comment I do it with
We live in the worst World possible just stop procreating and cease the pain
"Hard work is it's own reward." Truly based.
a video i watched when it first came out
who knew it was exactly what i needed to hear rn
You're one of the realest people man
Coming from a slightly different angle of physically always being the ideal. Been over 6’ since I was 14 and a athletic build. I do have that introversion genes going on , definitely ruined everything socially for me. I got superficial respect because of my appearance but most people would avoid me. Because I communicated differently then the norm. Nowadays as an adult it does seem very transactional, only way I can get laid is if I practice how to act and behave just long enough to get the job done. As soon as I drop the act , the chick almost always bounces
Damn that's kinda sad homie. Fuck putting on a facade. Of course work on weeding out your bad habits but don't change your authentic self for someone. 😢
@drakemoreland9787. Same with me, tall and athletic, but autistic af. So I had to act like a normal person to date girls. Never could enjoy or even maintain the relationships due to being too scared to drop the act. Only people I act myself around is my family, kinda sad really.
Yeah , I’m nearly 31 now and it hasn’t gotten any better. My advice is to focus on getting good at life. Finances , physical fitness building your mental health as best as possible because the social aspect is a losing battle. You either have it or you don’t, it’s not something you can learn which you’ll constantly be gaslit into being told otherwise by the ignorant and society
@@drakemoreland9787 . I agree it's a losing battle, some people just effortlessly have amazing friendships and relationships while I had to work endlessly on myself. But I'm still going to keep working on it because it's the only thing I'm missing. You say it's impossible to learn but I feel like I'm gradually improving, though I went to extreme lengths to do so. I can pass for a normal person on the outside now, so now I'm trying to improve the inner.
Yeah my thing is I never know if I’m acting normal or not. Ultimately if I share a common interest with someone and they are pretty chill I can get along with them. But the
Majority of people I am unable to click with. I am uncomfortable talking to them and they visibly look uncomfortable as well. So I don’t see the point in trying when it’s not at all a pleasant experience. I’m good at “appearing” normal up till someone talks to me
Gerby still holds the smoldering hatred of a peasant
All of the decisions you make come through your brain and personality, which are genetic at their heart. Everything you can do definitionally lies within your potential, and your potential is constrained by what your genome permits.
"No matter how I spin it or how hard I’ve ever tried to do something else, I am who I am. Some of it has been my own decision, some hardwiring, genetics, upbringing and so on, but the man I am today is what I have to work with. We can and should continually look to better ourselves (a hard enough concept to really define- what is better? What is worse?) and change certain aspects of that circuitry and blueprint, but the base material we have to work with will always be the same. Junger said that,
'We do not escape our boundaries of our innermost being; it is true, we may transform ourselves, but we always walk within our boundaries, within the marked off circle.'"
-Paul Waggener
RUclips really knows what kinda a videos I need
Based pfp
this video hit so close for me.
I’ve been grappling back and forth between my heart and my brain. I yearn for this feeling of love that doesn’t exist. The closest thing is extremely strong attraction mixed in with desperation to the point where someone will do anything for you.
Do I even want to be in a relationship? No not unless ik for sure she just won’t leave me for someone else, unless she wants to go through good times and bad times, unless she wants to be with the same person for basically her whole life.
When I learned that men and women love differently it was over 😭. I never understood dating until you find “the one”, because that means everyone else you’re with is a waste of time even tho you claimed to have loved them the same.
If I’m being honest with myself, I’ve only loved 1 girl and I never got the chance to actually be in a relationship with her. Every other girl can be categorized as a crush regardless if we dated or not. I truly do not think I can or will allow myself to feel the way I felt about her towards anyone else.
true man
i had my moments but none of those girls were ever really attracted to me im not good looking and im not that tall also im not impressive down there either
and all these things matter to women
theres a reason good looking dudes are sought after by women and the rest of us gotta fight and compete to be her third option
being average sucks but being completely average makes you genetically inferior there is nothing good about you so girls will never be crazy over you
youre just there..
“The way I tally all these bands” -GERBY 🔥🔥🔥🔥
you are the wisest twink I know. thanks for being so vulnerable.
I think we are genetically designed to "want/need" to protect and care for women. Being comfortable and having relatively easy lives has made being the provider/protector less necessary. We still cling to this romantic need that probably can't exist anymore.
I'm an old fuck who was married 20 years. People hated us because we were so perfect together. We had moved to South America to escape and toward the end I started to realize how nasty and unappreciative she was to me. I told her that she would need to change if we were to continue. She wouldn't even consider changing and 3 months later I left her and never looked back.
I "glowed up" as I aged as well and living in Latin America opened a lot of "DOORs" 😄 for me and I had the opportunity to "entertain" lots of women who wanted relationships. "Passport Bros" isn't the answer because the "TikTok virus" travels via the internet everywhere. It's better but still broken.
I think we need to find fulfillment in our own lives. Stoicism and mastering emotions has helped me but a lifetime of brainwashing is hard to shake. I can pull slizz but it is a lot of work and gets boring fast. I'm not sure I can believe in having a wife or living with a woman anymore.
Dude, I feel so sorry for you. I'm actually a bit older than you and probably most of the people who watch your content, but let me tell you a few things. I've been in your situation too and I know the feelings you have. I promise you there is a way out, and some of the things you say luckily aren't true and exist only in your mind. The idea that when you eventually find yourself in a relationship, you won't appreciate it is absolute nonsense, for example. I was so excited when I had my first relationship, and it filled me with so much joy to experience love. There really is such a thing as love where things like appearance and success don't matter. In the end, we are human beings, and what we truly appreciate is being a good person. As for the self-improvement aspect, I partly disagree because it suggests that one must read specific books or go to the gym. Everyone should find their own path to "self-improvement." For one person, it might be working on a millennium math problem or becoming a professional athlete, while for another, it might be becoming a good nurse! Try to figure out exactly what fulfills you and what you want to contribute to this world. The thing with women, this question currently carries too much weight in your life. It's just not working out, so it's better to let it go instead of letting it destroy you. There are many other things that can fulfill you. Maybe in five years, you'll randomly meet someone with whom it works out, but stop letting it destroy you so much right now
I’m kinda like you, maybe younger, I consumed a lot of Black Pill/Red Pill content but mainly because I feel sorry for all those guys that are stuck with those toxic ideas and mindset
I’m not a chad at all but I’m socially active and girls aren’t an issue and many guys are missing a lot because they don’t go out/try to find a community
Please keep doing what you do, for the future
I am a 21-year-old Brazilian guy and short - I'm 158cm/5’2″ tall. It sucks, but I think that quite slowly you get used to it sucking
Much respect to you brotha
So smart for your age Gerb! Amazing
"I must be jihad the way I tally all these bands"
holy fuck that's actually the hardest bar I've heard in months wtf
Brutal. Its beyond oovvaahh
You talking about this really gave me some perspective, I was a pretty ugly kid. But now that I’ve grown into my looks the world is so much kinder, easier, more positive, people want to be around you.
When I was a child no one wanted me around, consistently I felt I was a burden, I felt annoying, eccentric. It’s really such a shame, the young boy I used to be was so neglected by the entirety of society. I can’t imagine how much more difficult life would be had I not grown into my looks. I’d be someone absolutely different, maybe instead of spending all my money on social interactions, fashion and music I’d have saved up my money and bought land in the middle of nowhere to be alone like society had decided I’d be.
I’ve even noticed my avoidance now for less attractive people. It’s usually because the person themselves is not really desirable to know, they have nothing of value in their life at all, not personality, not relationships, not objects. And it’s no wonder they don’t have those things because society and human nature has turned on them just as it had when I was a boy. The point of this last section is this; what’s the point of befriending someone when they don’t reciprocate effort or aid in your life? I’ve just noticed more attractive people can more often end up healthier emotionally and make for better friends.
That’s not to say unattractive people can’t develop themselves and make good choices it’s just that most of the ones I’ve been around haven’t done much for themselves and that’s hard to keep holding on to as someone who is constantly striving to improve. If someone’s hideous but very well respected in their field I could care less about their looks, they earned success and I’m happy for them. But from my perspective this doesn’t often happen.
You can count your blessings then and live the rest of your life a hypocrite. Congratulations.
You think you’d have more empathy for them lol that’s an oddly developed perspective
i think u can definitely "change" your personality in a way. you can bring out the parts that are good, and avoid the parts that are bad. whatever that means to you. for me, it was a matter of changing my environment. i had really bad social anxiety from just self isolating as a kid and not having a good home life, but now at age 21 i feel comfy as myself and somewhat likeable wherever i go. a big part of that was taking a job that was really socially challenging bc of all the cool people that work there lol. and i had to learn to talk to and be around the type of people i like the most, not just the type of people i feel induce the least anxiety (quiet people, outcasts). i now feel way more confident hanging around people i would have avoided like the plague before, and those types of people bring out the better parts of me. and the longer you're in that mindset where u're actually pursuing shit/people you like, i think the more your neural pathways develope in the right ways. it's obviously uncomfy at first but u gotta go do what you think your most ideal, happiest, most confident self would do.. cause u won't become it without action. but anyway
I’m 6’2, and grew up “ugly” but had a glow up. Combination of taking the gym seriously and growing into my features.
Growing up that way kept me grounded and even to this day I am anxious and underestimate my attractiveness in many scenarios. I can’t imagine the insecurity of worrying about my height too, but us “genetically superior” guys are dealing with similar issues. The degree of difficulty is certainly less, but they exist.
I’m not that tall, but we have a similar story and I still severely underestimate my attractiveness and still get anxious about my appearance when I shouldn’t
Working out doesn't make you attractive. It's all in the face
@@jimfleece2880 less fat equals better face features
Just take a shower bro
Edit: and drink water
@@milling321 it wouldn't matter if your face is hideous. Also holocaust survivors would beg to differ
I dont think being a introvert makes you unattractive. I think it makes you have less shots to take.
It definitely can make you less attractive because it can make you come across as less confident if you are in a relationship and you say you don’t want to go somewhere or do something because there’s a lot of people. To you it means I just don’t like being around a lot of people I’d rather just be with my girl. To your girl or people around you it can come across as he’s not confident around people.
Being introverted can also make you seem less attractive/confident because it can effect your assertiveness and quick decision making.
Where an extroverted person can be asked if they want to go to a concert or a party they’ll say sure. An introverted person may want to go but will take a long time to decide and may try to make soft excuses as to why they don’t want to go because of the large group of people.
That's right. Opportunities were already set.
@@ICECAPPEDSKY What if you just give a firm no?
@@bigbingo5837 I mean I’m just pointing out that it’s a common problem. If someone doesn’t have issues being decisive then great. I will say that some people will get disappointed if you say no to a lot of opportunities in a relationship consistently so it’s best to also have an alternative planned out for something to do with that person if possible
Being an introvert unquestionably makes you a worse proposition for women in general. There are obviously women who are drawn to introverted men but they are the exception to the norm. This is especially true if you aren't on the high end of physical attractiveness because introversion won't come off as "mysterious and brooding" but awkward and socially maladaptive.
You also have less social proof because you're more likely to have less friends
You're less likely to be entertaining because you probably don't leave the house much.
More likely to actually be awkward because you have less social reps.
The list goes on and on. In today's world being an introvert can be quite problematic. It's no one's fault but I think acting like that's not the case is silly.
Those bars hit harder than the 2nd plane!
Those opening bars were from an excerpt called watch list and random IRS audit
definitely a video ever from G-Bert
The freestyles Are just getting better everytime
The black pill is the truth. The main reason it isn't said is because of pragmatism. society needs most men to be productive and to not give up. which some might be inclined to do after taking the black pill.
It's not good for those individuals to give up either. Living with false hope is a much better option
Yep
I prefer the videos on this channel. Yeah the other channels more fun but I really love the thought provoking, more deep discussions.
CALL ME TALLY THE WAY I COUNT THESE BANDS! (fire)
Short version: love your significant other like heartbreak isnt even a concept. Don’t push them away because you’re afraid of losing them.
19:42 on the topic of cynicism in a relationship, it’s very true. I’m only 20, I’m married to my highschool sweetheart. When we started out, I was and still am very insecure. I’m slightly overweight I look like melted butter with my shirt off, I workout regularly and it may just be body dysmorphia but I don’t see a change in my physique. Because of this and my constant psychoanalyzing of other peoples relationship, I truly believed that she was with me for a different reason. This was at its worst right before the wedding. I had proposed and I felt very good about proposing at the time, but as the wedding got closer I kept wondering if maybe she doesn’t truly love me. This insecurity and cynical attitude almost pushed her away entirely. It’s a dangerous mentality to have, and will almost always end in disaster. Winners aren’t afraid to lose. In other words, no matter how insecure or cynical you may be, if you truly love that girl then give her all the love that you can possibly muster. Don’t be afraid of heartbreak or it’ll always end in heartbreak.
hard work isn't a reward by itself
Yes, it is. It's purposeful. And that's essential to a man. To have a purpose.
@@Daisy-i6g nope im not working just for working sake
@KYLE-zo4bm you snooze - you lose. Or another way to put it, "Cut off your nose to spite yourself." Just watch - other ppl your age WILL be Go-Getters and eventually you'll realize.
When you talk about finding it hard to trust and make easy connections with people, you should remember that there is some validity to that. Most people you meet are not going to be any good for you to be close to. So alleviate yourself from the pressure you’re putting on yourself to make a good impression. The people who make connections all the time have an entirely separate set of problems to deal with, and being around untrustworthy people tends to be one of them. Embrace your own struggles and be grateful that you face largely the same battle every day, an opponent that you learn more about and can draw from previous experience to navigate. Embrace that your path is your own, but also take in the ways in which you can be surprised by the things you believed to be predictable.
this is why i believe in eugenics. too many people are having kids who shouldnt be
Welcome to my world, but you're 18 years younger than I. For periods of my life, I willed my mind to forget peoples' natures, and went along with the masquerade, which made it easier to be human, but events the past 6 years shattered my discipline, so I have to piece myself together.
I don't know if there's truly a right answer, but I can tell you from experience that keeping peoples' natures in the foreground of your thoughts doesn't do anyone any good. I think I was the happiest when I accepted that I'm an outsider for knowing these things, but not getting hung up on the fact like I'm some kind of demigod. High IQ, high wisdom, and high discipline all lead to a solitary life, but such a life doesn't have to be empty.
genetics determine life quite a lot especially in these modern times of peace
Man, dont overthink it.! Do things for the joy they give you and potential joy. Work out so you feel good now and hey - you earn future feel goods! And you might be more physically attractive to a mate too - and then the reall payoff is that you know how to discipline yourself, plan for the future, handle success work hard, focus, sacrifice. All these qualities make you a better mate choice.
what to do if I'm 17, 5'6 and socially inept? it literally feels like it's over for me
who tf liked my comment but didn't answer? damn its truly over lol
If you don't improve you social skills and get out buy 25, you're indeed f***ed. You got 8 years to redevelop yourself into who you want to be. Don't waste time moping and rotting kid.
Bro I see u here in like every video😂. Damn maybe u should stop consuming this content first. Honestly it makes it feel like there is no hope. Also 5’6 ain’t that bad bro also ur 17. Focus on going into a field that will pay u six figures and workout and than ur good. Make money create and instagram and workout. Simple as that
Money and fitness. You're 17 so you can't worry about finances too much. Go to a decent college and get a USEFUL degree. Your life improves a lot when you have the ability to buy nicer stuff. And fitness just improves your overall quality of life. At 5'6 it's going to be an uphill battle to get girls. But it's not impossible. Take it one level at a time. Don't worry about women till after you start your career. You can be a no one in college and suddenly have women attracted to you because you work in corporate. It's so weird. Women are wired in a weird way.
YOU ARE 17 😂 Your fine bro. Just keep being healthy and focusing on goals. Itll pan out over time
I believe you're going to blow up on RUclips. We need to be heard, and we need thinkers like you to keep speaking out because you're making a difference.
RUclips would never let this content get big
@@just.8797 you never know but you're right if this was the early days of RUclips he'd blow up so fast
Greatness is the perception that virtue is enough. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
10 seconds in and bro is already on 20 different lists
I do love to watch some good old Gerby every now and then... I can't watch too many at once though, otherwise I start being alone with my thoughts too much and I already do that way too much 😅
Yeah I never really cared too much about blackpill because I have eyes and I can see what guys are successful. It's plenty of average guys who just have personalities that mesh well with people.
So I agree, the social/genetic stuff is what hits me. My personality is what it is and it's why I have what I have. What can I even do about that. It's crazy when I see these RUclipsrs talking about "I was an introvert but then I changed" meanwhile they're talking about how they changed during their public school years or something. That barely even counts. Being mid/ugly sucks but it's not really your responsibility to be a chad, because you can't. Knowing I have to spontaneously become a social acrobat is depressing because I barely know how to do it, but I have to do it. And it seems like it'll only get harder as I grow older and more isolated.
I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel for myself but I definitely still have hope. Just cuz I don't understand how it'll happen doesn't mean it won't happen. You gotta just trust yourself and put in all the effort you can
There’s some really good books that give you the confidence to try and experiment with social interactions more. Body language by James Borg is one I read when I was 16 and it completely changed my life. I could get a whole room of people my age to listen as soon as I started talking; just from greater resonance and improved tone in my voice to more accurate and “harmonious” hand gestures. You’ll come to understand these terms when you read the book Mark. Your main goal should be maintaining strong mental health, in order to let your true personality break through - a personality which you have broken down and refined, revealing your positive characteristics to those who you care about or potential new friends. There are some people you meet who are instantly likeable; after the conversation you are left thinking, “what was so likeable about that guy?” Ive met a few people like this and after reading Body Language by James Borg I finally understood what made them so likeable.
Your personality is as volatile and adaptable as you want it to be.
Came for the freestyle....stayed for the knowledge
How do you know you won't be able to appreciate someone else's love for you? You've never allowed someone in to even see for yourself
From 18:00, the last 10min are extremely on point ! Bravo Gerby ! If you focus on your goals and accomplish the life you want to happen for you, girls *will* show up (provided you're 'open' enough to let that happen) !
"It has become difficult for me to accept the idea of love and attraction at face value." Well, arguably, love was never the default sentiment for most couples for most of humanity's history. It's a rare, niche thing that happens only in privileged places. Even rich aristocrats would marry their sons and daughters by interest, more often than not without the consent of both parties, or of any of the parties involved. A couple may be love, but that's not enough. However, a relatively loveless couple can sustain much longer if it's caring and functional. Because : most couples are, above all, team work. What's your project ? What's your idea of your future life ? Find someone with whom you can make it happen. That's the most important.
Thanks for the great content!
I know this is a year old but this comment is gold it's almost exactly what I was going to say and people in this comment section should read this and believe it
@@brettmmontague Thanks brah!
@@hyperTorless We're all gonna make it
Reading that email made me gradually sink into myself, because I was tall, muscular, and fairly attractive in high school and I was still the outcast because I didn’t know how to talk to people naturally. I’m much more socially able nowadays but it still hurts that my formative years were fucked up by that.
As someone whose been short throughout my formative years in school and to this day I’m still short it really ruined my outlook on everything in life all the hate and disrespect you receive just for existing to the point where all I know is when people say they like me I don’t believe them and when they hate me i know it’s real it completely changed my personality and I’ve just come to the point now where since I’m already 19 if I don’t get some kinda growth spurt atleast get to 5’8 I’ll prolly off myself I plan on getting my growth plates checked and if it turns out I’m done growing then it’s literally over this insecurity is so engraved into my head that I don’t think I could ever be normal again even if I did get taller but if I don’t I refuse to continue on like this nothing could ever change my mind getting a gf is cope I don’t care about that because Ik even if I did I would always be thinking she’ll just leave some day anyways constantly thinking about my insecurity has me fed up yet I can’t stop it
Bro don't do that. My dad is 5'6, my mom 5'9, it doesn't matter that much, they've been married for 20 years. I'm on the taller side but there's definitely a lot of guys under 5'8 that I would not fuck around with cause they'd tear my head off lol. It's gonna sound cliché but I had a similar thing, only its because I was thin as a fucking rail, not a direct comparison ik. But, lifting has really improved my confidence, maybe give it a shot. This is coming from a fellow 19 year old man, every guy has something, whether it's height, muscle, his dick, money or whatever the fuck man it's all the same. The point is, we're all gonna make it someday, and don't believe what these fucking redpillers say, a lot of women ain't half bad, and if they are they ain't worth your fucking time
I say again Ryukos trash. Satsuki better
There ll buddy
I’m 5’7 at 20 and being below 5’8 really isn’t as awful as you are making it to be. I’d understand if you were 5’2 or sumn but this problem is mostly self-imposed.
Of course if that still doesn’t help you can always try moving to Japan or sumn where that height is “normal”.
@@Hazaroth depends where you live, in netherland youre short
The problem with outcome independence is when you are hopeless, directionless and have no purpose in life, its very hard to just put your head down and work on yourself when you know that how much you can improve is ultimately dependent on mostly predetermined factors outside of your influence. And sure, he recommends religion as an ultimate cope, which might work as a purpose in life replacement, but doesnt for everyone
I really don't understand. This RUclipsr guy is a 7-8/10 attractive and is intelligent and well spoken. He's probably only 1 inch shorter than I am but a lot better at speaking and communicating his ideas. It doesn't compute for me why he's complaining about how hard dating is. Dating is HARD HARD HARD for the vast majority of men, including myself but I still am in the top 5-10% easily because most guys don't even try. If this guy just put in the effort in the right areas he'd be cleaning up. It gets a lot easier with age and $$. You can be cynical about women and "true love" if you want to but that doesn't mean you cannot have a wife and family knowing fully what the reality of the situation is (i.e. you get to have a loving wife and kids as long as you don't mess up or lose your "utility value")... At least you can still have great experiences of travel, family life, building a legacy - whether you believe your wife would stay loyal through hard times or not (she probably wouldn't because women are just not wired that way like men are). Every relationship, romantic or platonic between friends is in some way transactional. You do it. I do it. We all do it. I accept this whole-heartedly but life has never been better. Being black-pilled, red-pilled or whatever pilled... doesn't mean it has to be depressing.
He is not talking about himself excusively, he talks about general stuff and whats going. He is a smart good looking dude who sure can get girls as he please but it is not the reason here.
Dude best video I've seen of you, agree with a lot of this. Same height too 😏 my gf is 5'10", it feels kinda awesome to be a living counterpoint to blackpill
I was so melancholic I had a damn youtube about it, but I ended up finding someone and went back to college. I bet there are a lot of melancholic guys out there still struggling though, one of my strengths is that I aggressively chase what I want eventually.
I love tall women ngl.
@@insanoibro6331 tall woman produce better off spring
Bro you have a gf. Wtf are you doing here? xDD
I am 6 feet. I love love to find a 5'10-5'11 women. Problem is average woman in my country is 5 feet. I have only met a one woman in my entire life who was above 5'10.
@@crosselsmith776 yeah bro I’m 5”7 and Mexicans my preference is to date a woman my height or a inch shorter I can’t afford to take the loss for a woman that’s short no way
I am 5,4 it’s over.
Yeah sadly it is. Is insane how the world goes. Your life if pre determined by how tall you are as a man
@@mythologiasend3264 🤓
I knew a blonde hottie that dated a short dude. he was like a rooster, arrogant and very confident
@@JohnQPublic345 post a picture on your channel of this short guy with the blonde girl otherwise I don't believe you
@The_wolf2885 my friend, you must lookmax. workout and etc. this guy I spoke of, was short, but lean and cut, amd took care of himself. clothes make the man, sometimes
You are honestly the greatest and most based blackpill youtuber out there. Keep it up!
We're eventually gonna just become such a critical mass that we'll be meeting each other on the streets and making friends there.
probably true ngl
would be sick
i love your videos and i've only watched two of them, you inspire me to work on myself and i really appreciate the fact that you're trying to change young people's lives
I remember walking downtown with one of my buddies, and we walked past a couple of dudes who were at best as attractive as us with 2 girls that were actual 7-8/10. I'd put myself at a 5.5-6/10, and these dudes were 5s. One was a fat ginger, and the other was just an average looking dude. My friend never had any problems, but he's also a little more attractive than me. I was going through my blackpill phase after a bad break up(she got a train run on her one weekend) and he turned to me and said "look those guys are fucking with that and you're more attractive. It's not all about looks. Those guys have to have game and confidence. That's what you need." And it clicked for me.
A lot of its physical, but i eventually learned to have confidence and get my anxiety under control. My palms used to sweat a lot, and that made me self conscious which only made me sweat more. And then idk what happened, but one day I stopped caring, and I don't sweat outside of excersing and heat. Nobody cares. You're your worst critic on everything. When I start to doubt myself as cheesy as it sounds. I picture younger me and imagine how cool he would think I was. In the moment, I seem inferior, but looking back, I've come a long way.
I learned a lot from this. Thank you
An exception doesn’t change a rule
I love the smile he has to wipe away at the end of his freestyles
All this mess about genetics I see as a hand you get in cards. It doesn't matter, which hand you get, the matter, is to play best with given cards.
yes but if you’re gambling, sometimes it’s better to fold
Has a lot do do with parenting… your first intimate bond with your mother to be specific, if she thought the world of you, didn’t leave you crying in a dark room to “self-soothe”
A lot of mid to even attractive guys who fail socially or develop personality disorders have what’s known as “dead mothers“ women who didn’t really connect with mothering
Genetics also determine IQ and mental endurance if your IQ is below 120 you will struggle in STEM…what comes through 8 hours of study to you will come in 2 hours to dine with an IQ of 125-130.
118 over here, it's fucking over
Gerby has been dropping some absolutely exquisite content lately