She Never Expected This! 50 Year Old Married Couple's SHOCKING Revelation!
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I met this beautiful woman but I told her the very first day I’m trans and she left me . I would never lie about this
Hey girl. I had almost the exact same experience except I started to transition at 25 years of age and I wasn't dating / married because I was so unbelievably depressed and empty. I am very proud of you. I think it is getting more medically feasible and more accepted. Thank you for being so brave. Thank you for finding yourself and your voice. Love you. Feel you. Stay strong. Stay true
Thank you for sharing
Thanks for watching 💖
i was gonna get married and she canceled the marriage and ended things with me because I came out as trans. I haven't even begun transitioning but i already have all the appointments in check. i was devastated when I knew I lost the love of my life, but now I'm happier than ever.
Wow, i need so much to hear thing like this
Thank you, anne-Sophie
@@reggielelion5940 I'm really glad I can help. At first i felt the world was crumbling around me but started estrogen anyway and 8 months later I've socially transitioned and found a partner that accepted me and loved me for who i really am. I have not a shred of regret for making the decision to be myself and life has only gotten better.
@@DoppyDo
How? It feels to your real family who loves you that you are gone. They wouldn't greive the loss of you if they didn't love you. These fake online communities are not the real family who loves you 😢
First:
This is called a strawman argument. when you misrepresent something to enable a point that wouldn't work otherwise. These communities are support groups and they're saving lives. I don't consider them family. I see them for what they are.
Second:
My ex (the woman i was gonna marry) is still one of my best friends and we've gotten into relationships with other people and are very happy.
last:
My entire family supported my transition and were very happy for me when I came out. My relationship with my parents, siblings and friends has not been damaged, if anything, its only improved. It appears you're surrounded by people who think that transitioning means loosing themselves. This would explain your perspective. If anything, when someone transitions, they are more themselves they have ever been. I still do the same activities and share the same time I used to share with my family and friends before transition.
Let me know if you have any questions I'm more than happy to clarify.
I can say you are in a class of your own, this is a good thing. I like how you talk about your experiences and no sugar coating. For you being you, I respect you, and I appreciate all the back story, to the present day. I hope to see more videos to come. You are absolutely a beautiful woman! ⚧💜
Thank you for your kind words 💖. I am currently working on some more videos and hopefully will be posting them soon!
I love your candid honesty. You have a special gift to share your story. I was more captivated by your storytelling ability than I can ever remember. You are special!!!
THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING. I FEEL YOUR PAIN AND RELATE. I'M LOST. HUGS, RILEY
Each one of these stories is incredibly difficult to relate to people, thank you for your courage!❤️❤️❤️
I subbed! Love hearing stories like this! Ty for sharing!
This video is so profound!
You're impressive the way you're showing so much respect and love to your wife.
We're same age, I have similar story but it includes kids
One thing I was desperately searching for before and after I came out to my spouse was, have others made their marriages work after coming out. My thoughts about it have changed since 3 years ago and I’ve found no consensus on whether they do. There are so many variables that go into a relationship and in my opinion, the most important thing is to be patient and don’t rush into any hasty decisions. I’m in a better place mentally now and able to accept whatever our relationship will be in the future. Hopefully by sharing my experience you found this video helpful. Love, ~Jayme
thank you, I understand
Will you be my mom?I wii be your son. I am 23 years old.
Thanks for sharing 🙏
Oh bless you,
I have had the same experience too.
Thank you for taking the time to speak about your experiences it really helps a lot of us girls.
I have been married for over 30 years and we too live together for now a d my wife says the same thing to me, that she never married a woman and she needs a man.
Although I love her deeply I know that I have to let her go to find happiness.
Love Emily
Your loss
Hugs! Blessed be!
Good job with this video. It’s important. Thank you for sharing. I’m in a similar predicament and your video confirmed for me what I suspected. Ever since I admitted some things she has gone into overdrive trying to get me more attracted to her. I’m dreading how it will play out. I almost wish I didn’t discover this. I’m happy I figured it out because I definitely wasn’t putting it together for a long time. I’m afraid of this situation playing out in a way the causes that hurt and trauma. Sigh. Guess therapy is next for me.
Gratitude 🙏🏻
Wow your looking beautiful here, I love your makeup look💄
Heart goes out to you Jayme if nothing else still have the stratocaster on your wall
1000% this 💕💕
I feel you 💕🏳️⚧️
Also I was 49 and been with my wife for ~25 years 💕🏳️⚧️
I was in your wife's shoes. It has left me devastated and broken. I don't think you're brave. Brave would be having the fortitude not to marry someone unless you were certain who you were or what you wanted out of life rather than just going along to get along. Brave would be reckoning with your feelings and why you have them way sooner. The pain that coming out as trans late in life brings to spouses is just as deep as your own. Maybe worse, as we had no choice in it. Make your own choices in life to transition or not but leave others out of it.
My poor kid is watching her dad do this again...
he swore he'd never do that!
I agree with everything you said, and my heart goes out to both of you. The loss, betrayal, and soul-destroying pain must be horrific.
If people is transgender they should not married or lie about this .
Respect you....stay strong
I think it’s absolutely fabulous you came out I am exactly the same my whole family has known since I was 3 lol so it’s no surprise to them but I still suffer in silence with a wife typical ( male) life
If only society just accepted men wearing women’s clothes and makeup and women wearing men’s clothes a short hair. Seeing people as people and not their sex.
I'm glad to hear that both you and your ex have each found a way to move on in your respective lives. If your ex needs a man because that's her preference then that's how it is. And you're a strong woman for recognizing and honoring that.
I am seeking a nice transgendered lady for marriage my dear lady yours Kelly
I was 7 or 8 in the early 60's when I realized I was trans after reading stories in the Inquirer about Hedy Joe Starr, but lived my life as how my family thought I was supposed to live being assigned male at birth. Got in trouble at 18, wound up in the Army, did a tour in Vietnam, came home go w woman pregnant and married her in 1974. We had two children, separated and divorced by 1986 and lived with a woman and when I told her after she found some of my clothes, she went off the rails. Long story short, sold my house in Rochester, NY and moved to LA in 1987 and began my transition in 1988, met a nice man got married in 1991 and he passed in 2012 and finally had the funds to get my GRS just this past July 6th with the blessing of my children and wonderful now adult grand daughters and now that I'm complete I'm so much more happier and my friends can see the difference in me mentally. Life is too short, so enjoy it and be as happy as you can
about the tour in Vietnam: how many 'kills' did you make? nobody ever admits to that. You know that you had no right to be there?
@@oliviawutam I don't know, I was a Huey crew chief
im happy for you...but im sad for you as well..your story touched me..i was never married or had kids, so my transition was relatively easy...i wish you all the best..
I am seeking a nice transgendered lady for marriage my dear lady yours Kelly
@@kellydavid6334 not really interested in marriage...sweet of you though...
Oh hun, I'm in that exact same situation. Cant believe the holiday weekend was even the same. Labor day 2020, I came out to my wife as transgender, and tho it started out with reassurance in "baby, we'll get thru this", it soon spiraled into the universal "I didn't sign up for this" I know the pain, and the roller coaster arguements, and twisted logic constantly battling feelings of distrust and dishonor. We have thru much turmoil found a mutual understanding of 'true self, true love'. We have decided to support each other not just as room mates, which we were, but in what we each needed, without pointing out each others failures in doing so. Since doing so, the daily getting on with life has become more level, and easier to see each other as "spouses". I knew that my role as "husband" would by necessity morph into a 'wifeband', with some roles retained for knowledge sake, and other roles having been made more clear. We are now more wife & wife as an understood arrangement, with friends and family watching on curiously, but hopeful. At 56 yo, to say I repressed my identity is a monumental understatement, tho I knew Deanna was always there within me. I have to say that finding a true friend in the trans community was instrumental to my wife accepting who I am as reality, and not just a delusion of stress. I could not be happier knowing that the rest of my life will never again be a lie, even if I have to walk away. Do not merely survive in the confinement of restricted worth. You are beautiful as your true self. Simply allow yourself the peace of being you...💕👩🦰
Thank you Deanna for your wonderful comments and sharing your story 💖. It defiantly sounds like we have similar experiences, but I'm glad you seem to have found a workable arraignment in such a short time. We are in a good place now, it just took longer I guess. We truly still enjoy each others company and can laugh together, but we also have the freedoms to explore what makes us happy and don't have any restrictions placed on each other. Thank you again for sharing and I'm so happy that you are able to now live your life as your true self 💖
Deanna, women have more capacity to feel and intuition to alert and guide. no one can tell me, they had no idea. there was a song, long time ago that went: "It's in his kiss" that says it all. If a woman doesn't detect those changes, then she is not very feminine, sorry.
@@oliviawutam not really sure what your comment is implying. Either I'm not telling the truth, or that my wife being less feminine, and a retired law officer somehow lessened her in her reaction,..because she's not "feminine" enough to have known.
To be quite frank, it was no secret that I held little regard for many masc activities, stereotyped as they are. I rather was the primary parent of two daughters(first marriage), a rather good cook and baker, and more comfortable in the presence of a group of women, than having to listen in on the bravado of weekender conversations. The truth is, that in marriage no one wants to believe initially that they weren't woman enough to keep their husband satisfied in their relationship. This is presented in loud angst of dishonor, I didnt sign up for this, and your too masculine to ever pass as a woman. Lite to no regard is given to most MTF women as they desperately show themselves in their most vulnerable state. If it weren't for the lifetime of male shell survival skills amassed, few transwomen would survived their marriages...💁♀️
@@deannacocker9572 , thank you, you support my argument. You were always the sensitive one, the glue holding things together. women are not automatically the gentle ones, Only when you wanted to live your truth, you got the unpleasant reaction and accusation ( as thanks) be happy, it's your life, it is ticking away . .we trans women have the advantage of knowing both sides.. enjoy your new life. NO guilt trip, please.
Yes sweetie it is hsrd to come to family. Much easier to come out to friends and co workers. Most people don t know how hard it is to cone out.
I made comments on your partners vid. I am 56yrs marriage M/F !! You are on the right path !! Stay strong ! ! !
Thank you 💖
Dear same situation married 27 yrs im 63 shes 52. We love each other but when i came out things changed. We're both celibate but we still do things together and still live together as best of friends. Hugz dear.
Jayme, I can definitely relate It was 2017 .I was 49 when I Broke it to my wife of 12 years at the time. She balled and cried all day . She started drinking hard . And at 2am in the morning threw herself on the driveway in the pouring rain . And me trying to get her up. It hasn't been easy but we are in the same boat as yall . But she won't date . And she refuses to let me date . But we love each other and live a salabit life together
Thank you for sharing 💖. It's definitely not easy for either spouse. It takes time to find someway to work and unfortunately for many it doesn't. I wish you luck in finding happiness for both of you 💖
@@jaymejae I wish we had the open relationship. She won't have it. But we don't have a sexual relationship between us either. That's the screwed up part. It's like being born into woman hood then being handed a chastity belt for being born into woman hood
@@charlesorcharlenepastore4657 sorry, but sex is overrated, most couples are unsatisfied
@@oliviawutam I fail to see how her desire for physical intimacy has anything to do with chastising her for wanting a healthy sexual relationship. I'm sorry that your opinion of her having such a desire is so low.
To me it sounds like you may have AGP which is okay and a lot more accepting for a wife to understand than the trans thing. Since therapists are mostly taking the affirmation route it is hard to find therapy for AGP but there are still good therapists out there. Good luck
Jayme, I do not find the F-bombs helpful. BTW I'm a trans woman . I transitioned at 72 y. please don't beat yourself up over this, I understand
I'm almost on the same case as you. Older.
Same karma.
Take care sister🌺🌺💖
Jackie, I was always late with everything due to sad circumstances. Finally at 64 , I took the initiative to become whole, Better late than . . .I''m very happy, without the problems they have in the US.. ;)) XOXO
I am seeking a nice transgendered lady for marriage my dear lady yours Kelly
I completely understand. My spouse and I still love one another very much.
Thank you so much for sharing with us. I am proud of you, and I hope that things continue to work themselves out. I am a young trans person, and it is meaningful to me to hear your story.
Thank you for the kind words. I'm so glad you found my video helpful 💖
I am seeking a nice transgendered lady for marriage my dear lady yours Kelly
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Jayme, you know that you both are the same people as before. If a woman forgets that fact, then she never knew or loved you. Most couples lead almost sexless lives. good luck sister I'm much older than you and free and happy , great video
A lot of women see this as a fetish sex kink so are quite put off by it. If my husband did this, I would consider that an annulment of the marriage I'm afraid. I agree that they are both the same people as they were before - the thing is - she didn't know that this was who he was because he was not being 'his true self' when he dated her.
. It must have bee shocking for her.
No. His wife discovered that he's not the person she thought she married. He's a man who sex stereotypes, objectifies, fetishizes and dehumanizes women. That's immediate grounds for divorce and perfectly understandable and reasonable. I don't think these men realize how obvious they are, and how offensive it is to know that that's how these men see us.
You are courageous, I struggled for 62 years feeling that something inside of me was not right I played the role of Alfa Male because I was the oldest in my family and I needed to be the example for my other brothers, I married and raised a family, my kids are professionals, but my family ended 20 years ago when my wife cheated me, finally 9 months ago watching a video trans in youtube I understood what was going on in me, actually, I am in HRT and I feel that I am in a real way for the rest of my life, I congratulate you for giving the step and stop living in a lie.
I am seeking a nice lady transgender lady to fall in love with
@@kellydavid6334 I'm just puzzled, but what specifically do you seek in a transgender woman, is it a fetish, you are ether attracted to men or women, but why a transgender woman, I'm a post-op transgender woman and recently married my boyfriend, now my husband but he fully and completely accepts me as a woman, he didn't seek a trans woman, he fell in love with a woman, I told him on our 2nd date I was transgender, my history born biological ''male'' but successfully and completely transitioned to female, I wish you luck in falling in love with a special woman, why a trans woman, just asking.
You are an amazing lady! Stay strong my friend.
Thank you, I will 💖
Been married for 50 years now. My wife knew before we got married but thought I would change. Well that never happened. We are friends and go out as women but it's not the same. It's been hard on her and for that I'm sorry, but you can't change what you are.
Jayme dear, Jayme, let me stop you, women have more capacity to feel and intuition to alert and guide. no one can tell me, they had no idea. there was a song, long time ago that went: "It's in his kiss" that says it all. If a woman doesn't detect those changes, then she is not very feminine, sorry.
I’ve done the same thing. She has been accepting as well as she ken be
I hope your wife was able to move on and find a man who knows who he is and loves her. She has a great chance at that happening for her. You on the other hand who married her under false assumption, will now be forever chasing what you cannot be.
I’m not trans it takes a lot of courage what it takes for you to embrace the real you good luck billy uk x
I had to come out twice and once all is said and done it will be 3 times. The first time was coming out as a cross-dresser. The second was coming out as transsexual. Though some people know I am not fully out as a trans lesbian' I am 41 and did not even accept that I could even be a trans lesbian until I was 39 for the fear I would be rejected by both sides.
I want to and i need to come out to my wife too. I thought also that i was nice or gay and it wasn’t enough, i knew I only felt right being feminine and dressing as a woman then i could see myself with a man. I even tried to convince myself that i am a man and that i needed to act like a man, i even threw my female clothing away but it still didn’t change me, i dress as a man but i feel like a woman inside.
Jayme, we have a lot in common, I am 74 years old I have wanted to be a girl/women all my life , you sound so sad my heart hurts for you . Back in our day you couldn’t come out and tell people you were trans, as you tell your story it sounds like me, I love my feminine side. I told my wife after 10 year. She told me not to throw it in her face. But she understands after a long talk . I would like to talk to you more. If you can send me your email.
I am seeking a nice transgendered lady for marriage my dear lady yours Kelly
I have been with my wife for 20 years and I haven't told her and I'm on hormones now I'm afraid of how she will react
Thank you for sharing. Unfortunately, it's not going to get easier the longer you wait. Also, it will be harder to hide the longer you're on hormones. It's important to live as your authentic self. As hurt as my spouse was, we were able to work through it and remain friends. It takes work and a willingness. There's also the possibility of you remaining together too. From my experience, it's best to tell her sooner rather than later. Wish you the best ❤
Hey friend do you know someone loves you so much that he died on the cross for you his name is jesus christ has prepared heaven for you u just need to love him back
I’m going throw the same I’m now 50 and my wife doesn’t know I’ve started taking hormones and seen my doctor twice. I love my wife so much how do I tell her.
Thank you for sharing. Unfortunately, it's not going to get easier the longer you wait. Also, it will be harder to hide the longer you're on hormones. It's important to live as your authentic self. As hurt as my spouse was, we were able to work through it and remain friends. It takes work and a willingness. There's also the possibility of you remaining together too. From my experience, it's best to tell her sooner rather than later. Wish you the best ❤
I don't get it, a lot of people are saying, I respect you being honest, he should have been honest before getting married, an saying his wife is happy, i dont believe that, there's 2 sides to a story,i actually feel sorry for his wife, just sit back an think about it,it really is messed up, an 99 percent of the people that's saying i respect your honesty is transgender,an saying they remember when they came out,but forgetting about the real situation the video,an let me make it clear,i have nothing against transgender people,at All,but what's right is right,an what's wrong, is wrong, that's all I'm saying!!!
Narcissist AGP.
Hhhh
Why folks should never marry if they are gender questioning. Unless they tell the partner first off so they other partner has a choice to run or stay.
It's so unfair on their partners.
Yes it takes time to find your self sometimes but in ALL these cases the trans partner knew their true feelings at a young age and played a long with it because it was easy and received ALL the benefits yet expect everyone to just be fine with it.
BUT this also proves that gender and sexuality and two different things and that you CAN fall in love with whoever.
I am Happy your Happy and you look beautiful. I just would never put a partner through that, especially with kids involved.
BUT again who says that a family must look and be a certain way. Thank God we are moving away from the myth of a "traditional marriage".
women have more capacity to feel and intuition to alert and guide. no one can tell me, they had no idea. there was a song, long time ago that went: "It's in his kiss" that says it all. If a woman doesn't detect those changes, then she is not very feminine, sorry. 💜
It is not like that at all,
@@oliviawutam what do you mean by feminine - please share your expertise on this subject.
I agree, don't get married, find out who YOU are
@@tonicbottle please, you know, or is it a trick question. If you don't know, I worry about you,
Join the gym , style , fashion n figure is another sexy thing in life, see ya
Something needs to be done about the mental illness of gender dysphoria 😔 it's causing so much problems..
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are you dating another woman?
I date both men and women.
@@oliviawutam How is a person that is BI screwed up? I know myself and I'm doing just fine.
@@jaymejae ,Just for the argument: can you be with a woman And a man in the same bed ? No, of course not, You are with feeling sensitive people here . Sex is for primitive people. be respectful.
@@oliviawutam Nothing was said about sex, so one need not go there.
I cant imagine what kind of person could keep such an important thing from their wife. it always comes across as predatory when trans women transition after their wife has committed their lives to them. what an awful situation you've put her in due to not taking care of your own business
Thank you for comment, and that's exactly what we argued about the weekend I came out to her. I tried to explain briefly in the video that I did not know I was trans, because my mind refused to accept it. I could have made this an hour long video all about me and the signs that I refused to accept, but that's not the point of this video. Had I known at any point prior I would have told her. When that wall came crashing down, a year and a half before I came out, I finally saw the true me that was locked behind that wall I built up over the many years. I took the year and a half to self reflect, analyze, research, and considering not coming out. Towards the end I was starting to go down a dark path and needed to come out.
@@jaymejae this Toastyco person also left a comment on my Tedtalk. Whoever this person is, they like to simply invalidate trans people in whatever way they can. In the comment on my post, this person suggested they themselves are trans, and invalidated me for having a masculine voice and causing people to not be accepting “us.” In their comments, at least, this person is the one acting in a predatory manner. So projection seems to be a psychological issue they need to address if they want to have even a shred of self awareness.
And here, this person doesn’t sound like they are actually trans, because they don’t seem to understand the difficulty trans people have in finding acceptance for themselves over the years. Either that, or perhaps they are a very young and ignorant trans person who hasn’t considered what it would have been like for a trans person born before the 2000s to even find reliable information about what they are going through. So either they are young and ignorant, or they are completely dishonest about who they are.
No matter! This person is someone who “throws stones” and then cowers behind the anonymity easily provided by the Internet- they don’t impress me much (queue the Shania Twain song).
Either way, this is simply a person who doesn’t have much empathy for anyone else and who makes comments that simply expose their own arrogance and prejudice.
All that’s to say, wouldn’t waste much time or energy on this troll’s comments. In my case, I’m using this person as inspiration for a book I’m writing, so I’m at least gathering material for my publication here.
@@thebomarmonk Thank you for your comments and the heads up. I took it as an opportunity to try to educate, not the poster but others. I'll check out your video and look forward to your book! Good luck ❤️
women have more capacity to feel and intuition to alert and guide. no one can tell me, they had no idea. there was a song, long time ago that went: "It's in his kiss" that says it all. If a woman doesn't detect those changes, then she is not very feminine, sorry. 💜
so on the money - creepy.
you knew and still ruined someone elses life.
This was as scripted as a Biden reading off a teleprompter. This did not seem the least bit sincere to me.
Im sorry but this is textbook autogynephilia.
I'm sorry but this comment is textbook transphobic.
No, it isn't. That person is right. You are a text book AGP. I'm a textbook HSTS and i find people like you cringy@@jaymejae
You're not a woman. She needs to separate herself from you.
Ok but trans women still aren't women. They're men :)