telling my conservative dad i'm trans (MtF) | Samantha Lux
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- telling my conservative dad that i'm transgender (male to female)
happy #pride everyone! i hope you enjoy and can find this video of me coming out to my conservative dad somewhat useful. please remember to stay safe, i love you!!
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When I came out to my mother and older sister, it was hard but not as hard as it was to come out to my older brother. I thought he wouldn’t accept me because he *used* to say these homophobic slurs and used to tell me “once you’ll get old enough, we’ll go to clubs together, party together, go to the gym and get some chicks.” he joked. He always wished for me to do all these ‘manly’ things with him, being bros and all that. I’m very feminine so I was scared to come out to him as gay because I thought I would be a disappointment to him. When I came out to him I was crying and he was crying with me actually, he told me that he’d accept me no matter what and then gave me a hug.
Best brother in the world right there.
Acceptance is the only way to go. Allow people to be who they want to be. Who they were meant to be.
Isaac Zammit must be nice
i’m so scared to come out to my brother as pan because he always says how much he hates gay people. i don’t know what to do
Kyla Rose There’s no need to rush things. One day, you’ll find the right time to tell him or maybe you could not tell him but also embrace who you are and if he asks if you’re pan, then say yes. 💓
I'm very happy for you. what's your new name ? ?
Dad’s Love was stronger than His bias✨👑
Hello 👋 Mr Vargas , we meet again, how's your day going
Paras Suneja Good morning my Friend, awakening to your response.
Good night Samantha, thinking of You ✨😻
Love conquers all.
Absolute king shit
i am a closeted transgender girl. i come from a very christian family and if i ever told my family im trans i'd be kicked out of the house. i have been passionate about changing my gender for over a year now and its something im positive about. im really scared and nervous about what would happen or what would be done to me if i came out. your content is really inspiring to me but i know that i'll be forced to live as a male forever. im hoping when i move out for college i can make this change. i will continue to watch your content and continue to be inspired by it. please give me some tips to coming out because i dont think i want to wait until im 18 my mind wants me to be free.
please do not come out if you won't be safe
your safety is the number one priority, please stay safe!
you could come out to your friends, so they call you your preferred name etc etc but please do not come out to your parents if you wouldn't have a home after that
im very sorry to hear this and i hope ypu will stay strong, remember that - despite your family not accepting you - you are worthy of respect and love and it will get better
If I could offer some advice, find a backup. Find a supportive friend with supportive parents who'll accept you. When you come out have them on standby. If it starts to go south you can leave and go to their house. There's always a chance your family might be more accepting than you think, or that they'll educate themselves over time and come around, but there is also a real chance you might lose them forever. Remember that the family we choose is much more important than the family we are born with, the same way that the life and expression we choose is more important than what we're born with.
jordon qt I know it’s hard! If you need ANYONE to talk to,you can talk to me!!! I would love to help! If you want to talk, reply to me and I promise I will figure something out so we can communicate❤️❤️❤️
Good luck! Do you have certain teachers, friends or places you could tell? It may help you and you can feel yourself around them. The other thing to remember is even though they say and act likemight kick you out, it’s always different when it actually happens. Stay safe, I wish you the best :)
Be strong girl
i know all these comments are coming out things, but when she said “transparent” i kinda cracked a smile cause i mean- her parents- that would be the perfect dad joke.
“Dad... i’m trans.”
“Oh...”
“What do you have to say to that?”
“Does that make me a... *trans-parent*?”
**dad high fives mother**
I've seen a meme with this lolll
The corn is strong with this comment and I love it
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DEKU US BEST BOI
Haha
I was 13 when I first started questioning my gender and both of my parents and most of my family is very conservative and Christian.
Both of my parents just brushed it off and basically forced me into the closet. Dad basically said that he didn't question himself, so why should I and mom said that I was born Male and that it wasn't a mistake.
This was in 2006/07.
After 10 years I finally understood and accepted myself as trans, but I haven't said anything to my folks, I was 23 when I accepted myself, 25 now.
I would transition myself, but my Cerebral Palsy makes finding a job very difficult and I rely on my folks for a lot of things.
I'm genuinely happy that your folks are accepting and supportive, I just wish mine were of me.
i hope but know everything will change for you ❤️ keep staying strong in the meantime. you’re beautiful
I wish you all the best this is really hard to hear I'm sorry you had to go through that
@@dakotakeller1606
Thank you
Hey there, Alexis (assuming that's your preferred name)! Coming from another CP disabled (thankfully a mild form) trans girl, I hope you're doing well! My family hasn't been the most supportive either, but I'm thankful that I've made wonderful friends who see me for myself. I also hope that you (and anyone else reading this) finds support one way or another!
@@ElysiumsJourney
My 2 siblings are very supportive and I have a couple supportive cousins, hoping to start hrt next year.
Love you hun.
'That girl looks like Sam'
'That girl Is Sam'
Imma start crying wow
Sam is male.
@@florian5560 Males are men. Sex and gender are the same thing.
@@Network126 gotta love it when uneducated, willfully ignorant people speak 🙄
I don't even care to reply, just report and move on with my day
@@florian5560 it's a shame that some people will be like 'but still she'll never change her chromosomes'
like who cares about f-ing chromosomes, what are we biology class in 8th grade?!
For whatever it's worth, I've been following you years now as years ago I didn't understand how anybody could "want" to transition, and I thought by watching vlogs and hearing people's stories about this stuff, maybe I could.
Your story in particular got me me over the line. I wept openly when you told your first dating story on here and when you shed tears, I did too.
So, you know, here's yet another 40 year old straight cis white dood who went from "I don't get it" to "I want these humans to be happy and they deserve whatever they think they need for that." Thank you for sharing your story. I can't be the only person you did that for. Every vote I can cast for you all, I will.
I'm really happy your father got there too.
Thade thank you so much. This means so much. Love Samantha’s Mom
You are an amazing human being. Being open and willing to listen and learn. This world needs more people (especially in your demographic) like you
@@mompitbull7917 hello, Samantha's mom, Thank you much for all you do for Samantha, I've watched the 'graduation video' your family is united and 'beaming' all the best to you all. Olivia
olivia love is love
Thade you’re comment sounds like my journey to understand more on this subject. Thank you so much Samantha for educating us! Keep up the good work you awesome individual!
As a conservative dad , or any dad really, we process stuff differently, and we need time to process. When i was married one of my brother in laws came out as gay . Their dad blew up, got drunk , making death threats, worst case scenario in a way. But after a few weeks maybe a couple months he calmed down . Things are fine now and this was several years ago too back when we didn't have things like RUclips so information is more available. Videos like this can help family understand what trans people go through and how they feel , plus maybe help a trans person understand themselves. Good vid. I hope it helps those who need it.
Wow i never knew you could be conservative and supportive of us at the same time, i am surprised in a good way : D
Thank you
Love you.
@Anthony Burkard i don't understand the "subs affs" part but ya true to the rest. It was kinda what i was trying to say. I'm just not always good at explaining things .
@Anthony My girlfriend is transgender and she's a republican conservative
@@justin.s9783 i think its harder(maybe) for dad's to have a boy who expresses and needs to be a girl,my dad wasn't the most accepting of my feelings that somethings not right which in turn I wasn't sure how to express it,at puberty 13/14 is when it was really hitting me hard and when i got caught in my girl clothing the rising voice and questions of why? "I don't know" and dad asking who's making me do this? "Nobody" no,someone's making you now who? And that went for awhile and in my infinite wisdom and smartassery decided to say "God" what? "God"God's making me do this"in my mind there was no other explanation cause I didn't and then an ass beating and grounding with destruction of the clothing i'd bought,so i hid it better,i thought,and so on,Mom after the second time knew but didn't see most of it until after dad moved out and one day after washing my clothes from a vacation(told her don't about them)she hung or folded them to my surprise then said when she was pregnant she thought i was gonna be a girl,guess what Mom i am(kinda),was born in '63 so internet? And Christine Jorgensen was the only Transgender person i'd read about,enough of my story,glad things are different these days as who would volunteer for a life of discrimination,unemployment,murder,abandonment from family,and on to some killing themselves,its a tough enough life but Thank You for finally seeing things differently.
ur beautiful n really pretty no matter what!! DON"T LET PEOPLE BRING U DOWN JUST BE U LUV!!
@Gretchen White Look, I just meant that don't let people bring you down, that's all, jeez. And I know being beautiful will not get you to heaven. Now get over it luv
@There is a difference There is how totally not cultish of you
I don't know about cultish; but, that Samantha Lux is pretty!
@There is a difference There is please... Stop lmfao
@There is a difference There is Jesus had love for and spent time with the most disadvantaged people in his society. You are not following his example by bashing oppressed people.
I remember being completely fine with coming out to my mom, she hugged me and told me she loved me. The problem was my dad, similar to Samantha my father was also very strict with his views and set in his ways. He grew up in a time where that being gay and whatever was wrong whether you were a woman or a man. I wouldnt label my father as homophobic, he's made ignorant comments that I believe he made out of pure ignorance, not that he wanted all gays to burn no nothing like that that, just that he didnt support it that made me sad and when I later did realize I was gay I was scared, and I remember sitting him down one night shaking and I said "I need to tell you something important." And he replied "Oh god, what? Are you gonna tell me you have a boyfriend?" I was already so worked up I just shook my head and said "No, you don't have to worry about that because I dont like men." and ran to my room, I couldn't even look at his reaction because I was terrified. A few minutes later he came into my room, told me not to run away like that and that he didn't mind. Personally though, I think he only said it to reassure me at first but then my mom probably talked to him because knowing her she would have gone off at him. Now, it's been one year since then, and my mom and dad even came with me to my first pride festival. I guess you could say he grew the fuck up. 😊☺
This story made me tear up. My dad is the exact way but I genuinely don’t think he’s homophobic. I think I’m straight but in any case I’m not sure. Telling my dad would be the hardest. I love him but he often makes comments that he hates piercings on men and stuff like that. ❤️ You’re story truly hit me. Best of luck to you.
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My dad's the same but with trans. I'll be comfortable coming out as lesbian to him when I do, but my friend that he has met many times before recently came out as trans to me, and so now I'm worried if he'll accept my friend.
Mom here. You don’t have to understand. You do have to love. Love is love. We love you so much. Your father is amazing. Best Dad ever! We are so proud. I love you.
❤️
Is this really her mom? No disrespect please teach your child to be respectful of others?🤍❤️💕
as someone who came out to their conservative parents a few years ago & can feel they love me but arent accepting my sexuality, it makes me so emotional whenever people further down the road tell about their parents who after many years finally became truly supportive. that keeps me strong. thank you, & happy pride ♥️
I'm in the same spot they love me but will never accept me
My girlfriend is transgender and also a conservative republican
@@johnmclawson3982 Being conservative doesn't mean you're automatically bigoted
@@appleglassjuice11 Most conservatives are bigots. A lot of conservative ideology revolves around bigotry. Even trans people who pass like Blaire White can oppress other trans people who can't pass as well due to medical issues such as a trans girl in the comments who said her cerebral palsy does not allow her to transition. You can be conservative and believe in traditional stuff for yourself, but when you start harming others is when it becomes a provlem
@@kumakumab that's not true at all...your political stance has ABSOLUTELY ZERO bearing on your morality. Coming from a centrist who leans right on practical issues and left on social ones. There are an equal amount of assholes of all kinds, including bigots, on all sides. There's also an balanced amount of pure sweethearts. Both sides have the infuriating habit of taking the worst type of extremists on the opposite side and demonizing the collective based on the few. Yes, the alt-right are horrible nazis. The far left isn't much better. The majority of people are moderate and don't belong to either of those groups.
This. Just...
This actually got me crying. My dad was the last person I came out to, and he told me that he didn't want me to present femme at all for my step-sister's sake. Being 5-6 months HRT at the time, I told him that I couldn't hide it, and he left it at that I would have to if I wanted to be with them.
I feel like I could get over my dad and my stepmom rejecting me. But my dad's side of the family shares the same sentiment, that it should be kept from the kids, and so it feels like I'm being rejected, through a part of my family that doesn't know and whom I'm not allowed to tell.
Everyone is saying I should cut them out of my life, that I have a massive support group and that I have the means to surround myself with supporting individuals and make a family that way. But somewhere, I feel like I'm still holding out hope that they'll bring it up with the younger children and they'll somehow get it through to the family that I'm hurting over this.
Their being ridiculous! I’m pretty young (legally a child) I open my arms to anyone. If a family member was going through this I would fight to help them. Best of luck.
aw i'm so sorry :(
Stop
My beloved wife and my friends have accepted me for me but my family never will. And that's why my family will never know the true me. They don't deserve to.
True if they don't accept you then they don't deserve you either.
Lucio Centurión What does that have to do with anything?? Some families are trash and don’t deserve to know real you, so stop being a kid.
period
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I had an identity-crisis and i thought i was bi-gender for almost 3 months but then i realised the truth and now i identify as nonbinary
ok are they not the same thing or am i dumb
Sophie Hayes yes she just used them together
@@sofiaromero4304 nonbinary is that you don't identify with any gender so it's not the same
currently questioning mine lmao
Glad you found yourself :)
I just went to the Wichita Pride Unity March(Kansas) yesterday and stood with the Free Hugs From Moms and Dads folks! They are some amazing people. If anyone reading this comment has been disowned or rejected by their parents or family for making a statement of who you are, find some of us in your local area. Some very classy people! Much Love Samantha!
Jason Keith this Mom is available.
Well that was what I wanted in 1959 a MTFSRS when I was a kid I was so much like a woman and I couldn't do anything about that but now I have waited for 59 years it's time to start taking hormones to become the woman I have always wanted to be!! Michelle Laney Rowe
Oh my goodness that is so wholesome, thank you and everyone else who does this, we really need more people like that in this world
God only knows the horrible things my dad would say if I told him I was non-binary ._.
EDIT: there's a silver lining tho at least, came out to my friends recently and they were very accepting :>
Me too-
we in this boat together
Same
@@inkcapmushroomindisguise same
Thank God my parents were not that bad when I came out as bisexual, my mom thinks it’s a faze cause she went through one and my dad just acts like he never found out
My parents know that I drag. I've done it at my highschool (all-boys, Catholic, conservative) despite their thoughts. My father says they were fine with my decision, but I still see them flinch and withdraw (especially my mother) when I mention anything about it to them.
Honestly, if I somehow end up trans, I feel I won't receive the acceptance and support from my parents like you did. It must be nice.
I never had the chance to tell my dad that I was on hormones for 3 years before he passed, he would not understand either, I know him. I just couldn’t do it to him. It would break his heart.
yhe i get the feeling, my dad died when i was 16 and after he passed away i tried to explain to my mom that i liked boys instead of girls, and his face of disgust, shock and horror still haunts me.
It didnt matter i was the only child out of 5 that didnt made mistakes like gettng a random woman pregnant or stealing or falling in perpetual debt that downed the family for 10 years, she acted as if my thing was worse, close to my mom deadh bed she tried to apologise and how sorry she was for not understanding me not only wanting a bf that i was never allow to have much less to discuss or even show interest in public since she had a religious image to protect while simultaniously denaying to care for others opinion.
she count simply not understand that, much less that i wanted to be a girl... but well it was too little waaaaay to late, i just muble some sort of 'yhe i guess i forgive you' but in my heart the damage was done... its been 6 years since and while i have a lot to heal and worth aside from my transition, im just glad they arent around so we dont 'hinder' each others path
I’m so sorry☹️
@@Sesshounamaru7First of all I'm really sorry that happened to you. Secondly don't forget you're amazing and special just because your dad found it bad that you liked boys which is COMPLETELY NORMAL doesnt mean it should haunt you. Thats not your problem and you cant control who you like whether its a boy or a girl. I hope you leave it past you because you have done nothing wrong
@@issa7226 thank you for you kind words :') they do help
“If your kid wants a Barbie in a store, get the fucking Barbie it,s not that deep”
-Samantha Lux whenever this was posted
It‘s pretty hard! I am a gay guy who loves dressing up as a girl and yeah, a Part of me is a girl too! My father was disappointed, told me that I could go out alone. So that was the First time, I showed the world the real part of me. And also to show him, that his opinion will never rule my life.
Now I go out as a boy and a girl, showing the world who I am. And it is better than ever. My father accepts me now. My mother did that from the beginning!
So I am so happy and proud of you an your family! It‘s Not easy when you realize that you are „different“. But it is worth it with every single breath^^
❤️
all i see is a smart and beautiful woman :)
You need glasses
I’m not transphobic but anyone that says that is lying.
No ...... shes a lady
@Pipi Land_Unlimited facts
@Pipi Land_Unlimited listen if a male changes the way their body looks to try and be a girl and you say they are a women your are lying
As someone who is trying to understand and learn more about trans people you have really opened my eyes to so much. Thank you.
Samr
I’m fifteen now and I’m terrified to come out to my grandmother as a trans guy and a bi one at that. I know she wouldn’t get it or accept it. She used to give me several speeches that all went the same way. “Do you wish you were a boy? Do you wish you were born a boy? You’re a girl. You need to be more feminine.” I also tried to hint at the fact that I was bi so I said “and what would you do if I had a girlfriend I mean boyfriend?” (She thinks I’m a girl so that’s why I said girlfriend.) First thing she said “well I hope you never have a girlfriend.” She then went on about how we have to accept gay people but it’s not normal and Adam and Eve. Then some other time she was upset because there were lesbians on tv and she was saying how they shouldn’t be on tv because again it’s not normal in God’s eyes, how there’s something wrong with their hormones, and how it’s nothing to be proud of. She then also mentioned the other day that when we were younger she made us leave the pool because a lesbian couple kissed and she didn’t want to set the example. She also made a big deal out of the fact that I bought guy’s shorts. She also would never let me cut my hair short (unless it’s a pixie cut.) Plus if I keep wearing these clothes and stuff she’s going to think I’m a lesbian.
CUT YOUR HAIR!! DO WHATEVER YOU WANT AND SHOVE IT IN HER FACE!! 😝
SHE CANT FORCE YOU TO LIVE A LIFE YOU DONT WANT TO LIVE
i would just say, as a closeted bisexual with a very conservative family on mostly my moms side, that whenever you can, leave. just tell her and leave. i know it’s hard, but they are ruining your life. live your life, fuck all those other people trying to rule it. i know how it feels to be uncomfortable because they are critical of EVERYTHING.
do you ever regret your name because i used to almost have the same user i-
unrelated but i love ur username
get your hair cut short, then say they did it wrong
You’re seriously one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen. (I’m a straight male, 27.) I know you’re trans, and I want you to know that you’re not just “passing” to me: You ARE a woman and deserve to be treated as such! Much love ❤️
Last night my dad called me 'daughter' .. It wasn't snarky like the first time. .. But I still feel tense. ~nya
TRANS CATGIRLS ARE SO VALID 💖💖💖
@@mikuenjoyerXD thank you for the validation 🥺👉👈 💜 ~nya
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Thanks for all the likes but ... Things have gotten worse again. He told me to go to hell when I suggested again that he go see a therapist last week.
2 days ago I texted him to not talk to me until he has spoken to a therapist to learn how to deal with whatever problems he's going through, instead of yelling and taking it out on me and my mum cause we don't deserve that. ~nya
That's it girl LOUD and PROUD as you should be.
I'm really glad your parents were able to accept you for who you were always meant to be. The beautiful Samantha Lux.
I doubt it would mean much to you but I'm proud of you too. I'm sure there are a lot of young, confused, and scared people out there that look up to someone like you. You are a beautiful and amazing young women. xx
Michael Grace it means a lot to Sam and her family. Thank you.
Any dad should be proud that their awkward shy child bloomed into a beautiful intelligent young lady. I see him walking you down the isle in your beautiful wedding dress, giving you away to your groom.
To everyone struggling with these feelings: you have a valid place in this world, please love yourself, stay safe,surround yourself with supporting people and live your happiest life. You are wanted and loved 💜
when you said that you and your dad have never been closer, I started weeping! This is such a sweet story, so happy for you
I have a very supportive family and when I told my mom that my brother doesn't accept me because who I am she talked to him she finds these acts unacceptable because we're family. But whatever she told him he doesn't care so I decided to let him go and just see as life will continue on even without him because of his poor judgement I can't wait for someone to accept me so I have this moto where " I will not bet to be accepted I their do or don't"
I am happy that both of your parents are accepting, after 8 years of my transition my dad is still an unaccpting prick and we have no relationship anymore,,I basically decided to cut that cancer out of my life forever.
As always you did a great job with this I have been with you through your whole transition I have always said that you have some great parents. I SO GLAD YOU put your Dad in the lime light.
Bobby Tolsma you sure have Bobby! Mom
My friend came out to her dad as pan-romantic 9 days ago, and her dad bought her a rainbow tutu after saying that "he needed to get groceries" and that was how he showed my friend that she could be supported. He never said anything to her about being pan-romantic until the next day. All he did was give her a rainbow tutu. LOL.
That's actually adorable
My response would have been "that's fucking retarded 🤦. Just say you are pansexual... OMG".... Seriously? Pan romantic? That's a stupid ass word. Just say pansexual..... Also, pansexual basically means you are sexually attracted to ANYTHING you have romantic feelings for .... So that makes the word panromantic even more stupid.
@@NCXitlali
sexual orientation≠romantic orientation
The could be Ace-spec
@@mountain9310 ..... You actually made a good point. Well done.
Wow. Just wow. I just can't even find the words to explain how beautifully elequent u explained this journey. I know this vid will help so many families come to terms with their child's identity. Good job Sam. This is so important.
my mom used to say when i was younger that if any of us came out as “gay” she would disown us. luckily my parents divorced before i came out as bisexual, but she would send me hate messages on social media for a long time after i came out. she’s also very conservative. :/
You know that you can ignore messages for time being, if she comes around then you can talk to her again
Straight, cis-gender people should take a moment to consider how easy life's been for them, not having to come out like this.
Life is never easy... for anyone. saying this is really ignorant and closed minded.
@@CharlieBarnesTech You have taken what I’ve said far too seriously. True, no one gets through life without having to deal with certain issues, but many people won’t have to face this particular issue, and for that they should be thankful.
as a cis person people like samantha help me remember how lucky i am to have my gender match my body. huge respect to my trans and nb homies out there, yall are stronger than i could ever be
@@lillyw2695 Thankyou Lilly W, clearly you understood my comment much better than Tech Dot did.
Definitely, it’s something I try to remind myself.
Tears right now. I just love Sam so much and her Dad is amazing. Above all else he loves his kids. Married 36 years and going strong. It’s our job.
tfs2O3 this mom loves you.
I just realized, since you're samantha, you're like a reverse sam colins
I hope they collab soon 🥺🥺
Thank you Samantha. I love your videos. It makes me feel like I'm understood.
You are so beautiful and sweet! I could just eat you up. I teared up at this story, but I am so glad that your dad has the unconditional love for you that all dads should have.
When my sister came out it wasn't surprising. She avoided us for about a year and I remember asking her why she did this. I remember asking her if I did something wrong. When she told my brother and I we didn't bat an eyelash. I was upset though because she told us she's been avoiding us because she was afraid well disown her. I felt like she mislabeled me but then again sometimes people aren't as lucky
I’m non-binary, and I came out to my mom in July. She is sort of conservative and has not used my name or pronouns because she says it “confusing” and that she can called me by my legal name my entire life. My friends and younger brother have been so much more supportive. And I’m glad my friends respect my name and pronouns when my parents don’t. So any piece of advice I can give to anyone non-binary is that it will be hard at first, but there will always be someone that accepts you even if your parents don’t
my mom demanded to see an “about me” video assignment I did for school and that’s how she found out I use they/them pronouns. i knew it wasn’t going to be pretty the moment she stomped into my room gripping my school ipad. it hit hard to know that she’s never going to accept me for who i am
@Cocomelon Stan any askers? anybody?
Im a bi and pansexual person and you really do inspire me. I come from a STRICT Asian family and I feel like my parents will never except me. I told my elder sister about this and she told me it was gonna be ok and that she felt similar. My sister also told that I should wait to tell my parents until Im in my twenties because my parents care about my education so much they don't want me distracted by anything. (they literally told my sister and I we weren't allowed to date until we were 29!) So I guess I will wait until my twenties since I feel like they will understand me more when Im an adult and actually know what im saying. Though I think that is wrong because even if I am a teen right now I still am saying something believable and not stupid. You really do inspire me Samantha and I give all my respect to and your decisions ^^
I’m really glad you’re father eventually came through. A lot of the hate against trans people I think comes from misunderstanding and a bit of innocent ignorance. Im really happy for you, and keep bringing content like this, girly!
I LOVE THIS VIDEO. I also just came out over Facebook yesterday and I've been so surrounded by love and support and it feels like the first time I've been alive!! Thank you for sharing your beauty with the world
I literally love you so much , you are such an inspiration to me as a person who has not come out to everyone yet and just watching your videos makes me feel so much more excepted in this world so thx xx
Omg you actually liked my comment thank you so much
MINE mine, good luck to you
Soon you’ll have him walking in the pride parade holding his lil girls hand waving the pride flag.... 🤪 🏳️🌈 🏳️🌈 🏳️🌈
Lamont Simpson
I just love your user picture a lot.
@@Designer239 go girl and have wonderful life living as a woman!!! Michelle Laney Rowe
I love dressing like a woman but tragically I have waited to long now. But if I had it all to do over I would have started when I was 12 years old but my mother did not want me to do that. Michelle Laney Rowe
Michelle Rowe
Thank you so much for saying that to me.
And that’s so very sweet of you.
Thank you!
@@mikerowe2409 It is never too late.
I thought I heard you say "gargoyles" before I realized it was "guard rails" but gargoyles would've been way cooler.
Congratulations samantha for the strength and courage you have, for sure is not easy, more day after day you will overcome any obstacle that appears, you are every day and video more beautiful.
Same my parents are conservatives and since I am gay I have to act straight so they don't send me to any places that I should not be at but anyways be safe everyone
Act straight? You mean act normal. As a Texan I have gay friends and most of my gay friends cannot stand flamers. They act no different than other men although some of them do the limp wrist or have lisp...but besides that you cannot really tell. The ones that act femenine are just femenine and they also cannot stand people who act overly flamboyant.🤷 Just be yourself dude.
@Student Rohan Joshi there is nothing wrong with being YOURSELF but some of these people do this shit for attention. Others do it because they hate conformity....which is fine except that it becomes a problem. Then you got the SJW minority who are too childish to accept societal norms because they are degenerates and there are the people that need to go back to California. I am not perfect.... Nobody is but we must evolve and change.
@Student Rohan Joshi they shouldn't but it happens. I am from Texas so....I don't care if you are gay or not. Men should be men. Women should be tough........ now that I think about it, I just hate the weak regardless of gender, sex or sexual orientation LOL
@@NCXitlali you can be femme and strong, regardless of gender or sexuality
@@astolat2262 no
This resonates with me. I have the same fear about coming out to my dad. This helps me a lot.
I started tearing up watching this cuz I came out to my dad 2 months ago and it was kind of rocky. I think I needed to watch this in order to figure out where to start with them in terms of really beginning my transition. My dad doesn’t want me to start E for another three years at least (I'm 19 and I don't think I can wait that long) but I hope that I can change that by continuing to talk to them about all of this. Thank you so much for this.
Good luck with your journey! ❤️
Life is tough enough with these added complications! As a straight male if my child came up to me and came out i would be accepting i can't imagine not having any contact with my flesh and blood ! My sympathies go out to any of you who are going thru this! And your parents are the ones who will be missing out ! Life is too short to hate!
thanks for being so brave to share all of your story that you have on your platform ❤️❤️❤️❤️ so lovely.... ❤️
We accept you😃
Great up! The more I see your videos and those from others, the better I understand my own feelings. Thank you, stay strong!
I remember a mom who I was judging very harshly when she didn’t just welcome her trans daughter with open arms into a world of sunshine and flowers.
She said “I do love the daughter I’ve gained, but I am still grieving for the son I’ve lost. But I’m trying.”
That honestly really got me to ease up on judging her, as the mother of an 18 year old son myself. When I imagine not having a son anymore, it’s hard for me. I can’t imagine it, really.
But most important: she really *was* trying, and she eventually began using the right name and pronouns 24/7 without fail, complimenting her daughter’s outfits, laughing and being lighthearted and happy in interacting with her, etc. They ended up with a great relationship.
When I came out literally all I could do was cry and hug my mom to death she was always there for me and always had my back she would always help me be myself when I could never in middle school it was hard but when I got to high school I knew that I would be more appreciate and loved by because people will say what they wanna say and that’s ok you can have your right and opinion but don’t EVER disrespect someone for being themselves... luv ya Samantha 😘💜
when you said you used to hide in your room and watch Netflix I related to that. I do that all the time and for a long time I thought it was just me being an introvert, but now I know better.
Samantha, I love your video and hope that if parents are facing this situation with their child, that it is your video they view first!! I am trans, and came out to my parents in the 1990's. I had almost the same situation and same type of father as you (my dad passed in 2002, and I love and miss him every day, my mother just passed 2 years ago I love her to!) My father told me "I don;t understand this, but you are my kid and I will always love you! This is important to parents out there...If your child was born with a clef pallet, you have it fixed, but somehow too many people thinks because it is of a sexual nature, that it becomes taboo. My point is your child is still your child, and if you loved them all their life, they are still the same person. Samantha, you are a wonderful, well spoken asset to the trans community, and I give you a big hug for your well though out advocacy. Love You Girl! Cheryl
When a parent loves their child, they will always do their best to support them as best as they can. Sounds like you have great parents.
I'm 18 and a Male, I tried telling my parents this the first time when I was 16. They basically ignored it. Then I told them when I was 17, dad didn't understand and made fun of me and mom tried talking me out of it. I'm about to be 19 in 26 days and idk what 2 do. I'm always in my room depressed.
My parents were basically the same as urs too.
Shadow Kitty love to you.
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You are a legal adult. You are at the age when you can do what you want to do, not what your parents tell you to do.
Begin your Transition now. Don’t look back.
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If you can successfully support yourself, then get away from them and live your life. If you have an accepting support network outside of your parents, see if you can stay with them temporarily. Transition if thats what you want. Establish solid, positive platforms to build everything else on
Ok I have been apart of you channel for so long and I still can’t get over how amazing and beautiful person you are like omg why can’t the world be as awesome as you
Really pleased that it worked out and of course, no one is perfect...So happy that your Dad is trying...Love this video and you look amazing...Love that top too...
Really tough to get what you don't understand. I'm glad to see that he got there. I'm a dad and my 16 year old daughter gives me lots of opportunities to grow.
Bill Seidel, you said the 'magic word' "opportunities to grow." that';s the meaning of life. remember 'KARMA' that's what I base my life on. I'm full of hope.
@@oliviamonkey me too😊
I agree this is one of the best videos on this subject, explaining so that other parents may understand, or at least get a real sense of how serious this matter is. ❤ - Wish I could give this video many more "likes", it deserves so.
Dibald Gyfm ❤️
I had to watch this again what a GREAT family you come from.The picture of you at Graduation with your mom and Dad tells the whole story of your support group.ALL I SEE IS LOVE FROM BOTH OF THEM.YOU HAVE BEEN BLESSED IN SO MANY WAYS AND I KNOW YOU DONT TAKE IT FOR GRANITE. THAT IS WAY I LIKE YOU SO MUCH. YOUR FRIEND
Thank you so much for making these videos they've helped me find who i was meant to be in life without these videos i probably would be questioning who i am and who i am meant to be
It felt like you were describing my parents when you were talking about who your dad was and how he acted and what he said throughout my childhood.I hope that when I come out he can learn to understand, because I’m honestly kind of scarred what he is going to say.
Such a good video, Samantha. I cried. Your folks are great.
Sam, one of the best videos ever on this subject.♥️
TheFULLMETALCHEF she makes me so proud.
I still have to come out to my dad wish me luck P.S I'm one month on HRT
good luck , just follow YOUR heart.
It probably already happen but hope it went well! If for any reason you read this please update!
Hope it went well! ❤️
You are such a wonderful and beautiful person. Anyone would be so lucky to have you as their daughter. You give courage and also inspire.
Watching this to help my nephew come out.
And not gay, but trans
Speaking as a 65 year old father of 3 grown up daughters!of 29,24,and 18:it'd kill me if i thought any of my daughters felt they couldn't ask ,or tell me anything!!!!But they know they can!They know i'm so laid back and calm"nothing would phase me!!!So my 24"year old came out as gay 2 years ago!!She had no problems at all,just came in one day and said"dad!I'm gay!"I just said"yeah"i know:so does your mum!"We knew a long time ago!just waited for you to decide!!"And her first girlfriend and my daughter lived here with me for the 6 months the relationship lasted!!!!
My spouse came out to me first. Of course I was in love with her so I supported her. She then came out to my family because we were all a bunch of open accepting weirdos. But her family was more difficult, they’re Mormon and we also live with them while we’re finishing up college. When she came out, her mom said a lot of things, like she failed as a parent, she asked me how she was supposed to accept this (to which I was like I respect that you need someone to talk to but I’m not the appropriate person because I’m first and foremost on my spouse’s side, also I wasn’t raised religious so it’s not a perspective I can help with), tried to talk her out of treatments and telling some family members like her parents, she still dead names my spouse a year and a half later. But she’s trying, she’s referred to her as Em (which is the nickname for her chosen name) a handful of times. Her dad who was super conservative and outspoken I expected would be quite contrary to all of it, but he ironically was the calmer parent. He definitely doesn’t understand and asks questions occasionally, but he accepts it and I was very pleasantly surprised. All in all, they’re still you’re kid. You only fail as a parent if you abandon them when they need you.
Literally find myself hard debating what my mum's stance on trans people is. From us being tense about a pro LGBT+ ad to her casually filling me in on the context of something on TV (a trans kid in therapy) It's worth mentioning that even if your parents are supportive of trans people, they might be dealt a big hit of cognitive dissonance and act out on their impulses when you come out. It's all fun and games letting random people be who they are, but it changes dramatically when it's your own child. To parents, you're essentially tearing down their proud image of you and replacing it with what you desire, some parents forget that what you want in life is more important than anything.
That was a touching story. Wow, .... as just an average guy I can't even imagine what it would be like. Stay strong. You are beautiful. Good Luck.
When you said that you would lock yourself in your room, in the dark, watching netflix. All i could think was "that sounds too much like me" i feel like i NEED to come out, my mom is very supportive and i dont think she would kick me out if i came out, but i need to figure out whether i am a trans male or nonbinary, i currently identify as nonbinary but ever since i was really small i would wish i were born a boy.
I would desperately hope that in my next life i would be born a boy... But im afraid of changing? I feel like most of my friends (except my two closest) would leave me. I'm in a really hard time right now.. I dont know what to do?
i read the title and was like “how he not know when she look like this” lol
couldve been in her early stages
Girl, first of all the imagery of parents acting as “guardrails” is absolutely brilliant and so accurate. Plus, the advice about finding a person to be the common link between you and the person who it’s difficult to come out to.........that’s legit a great tactic. You are super intelligent and introspective.
girl you have me crying in public!!
A friend of mine once said apropos a discussion we had about depression: "Some people just won't understand until they experience it themselves." A couple of years later I was struck with depression and as I woke up one morning, that exact sentence rang out in my mind. I finally understood what he was saying. Altough it's not the same thing, I imagine gender dysphoria might be similar in that aspect. I'm glad to hear you and your dad came through on a positive side.
Love your honesty Samantha!
Just realising how difficult it is for trans people. Omg I'm so sorry people have to go though that. Bless you. All of you. 💜
That's how my dad is I always believed I had to act a certain way around him
Hearing you open up about your experiences has made me feel so much normal and so much less alone. I am not transgender but I am working on leaving the hassidic community and this made me feel validated. I'm so sorry that that was your experience with your father and it wasn't excepting, but you turned your pain into hope that we can survive and make it out of unaccepting environments .
Experience the same things with my conservative father.
I was crying listening to this story. Your Dad is a real gem, yes sure he could have been more accepting from the get go - but he had an entrenched belief system that he had to adapt. And he loved you more than he loved the belief system, so it was only ever a matter of time, not a matter of "if". This is what a true Dad is - someone who loves and supports even when they don't understand. The world needs Dad's like that. That's not to take away at all from your courage which is huge. You both held on to the love. Honestly I'm bawling my eyes out. Thanks for sharing.
Such a wonderful story. Love your videos
I’m so glad everything worked out for you with your Dad Samatha. Your parents are the ones who bring you into this world. but they also have to let you choose your own path and let you make your own mistakes, so you can learn and grow and no matter what, your parents should always love and support you, even if they don’t always agree on everything you do. Thank You again for all your videos and for sharing your stories Samantha.
♡You're so strong♡
Hey Samantha, I'm currently going through my transition MTF, I came out to my sister and she told my parent's who are very old school, they know, but never opened up to it with me, they still accept me being around them as a boy, but I now have to work up the courage to come out to them and present myself to them as a girl, your videos have inspired me and have helped me gain confidence I never knew I had! thank you for sharing your stories! I know I'll get there too! x
I know this a serious topic but I just thought about this scene when I read the title:
Daugher: Dad, I need to tell you something...
Dad: What is it, daughter?
Daughter: I am actually not a cis woman.
Dad: whaaaaat? Why do you only tell me now?
And them I remembered most parents are with their kids since they were made.
You’re parents sound amazing, I’m so so happy that you have them supporting you. ❤️
The first time I ever actually hinted at being trans, besides all of the many early signs I'd displayed. Sophomore year of high school. I'd been talking with a counselor at school, because I just stopped feeling things altogether. I'd described it as I float above myself, in 3rd person. And I wanted to fix this issue because "my body isn't my own" I informed this person that I wanted to give my body back to God so that he could make me one that first me. I didn't know what being trans felt like, or really was. I was told trans people are people who want attention. And I knew that wasn't me I just wanted to be fixed. She said she was going to call home. (Something I'm truly terrified of because I was abused when I was a kid and calling home meant you got the shit beat out of you.) I begged this counselor for hours to not tell my mom and dad what I'd told her, and to not call home. So when my parents got home I told them I'd been talking to a counselor about my issues with my body. (My dad was pissed, because it would make him look like a bad parent if I said the wrong things) I took it slowly first saying that I'd talked to someone. And then I started crying, I didn't understand why, and I still don't but just cried for a bit. Got back to telling them. I'd phrased it as my body wasn't right, and I need to give it back to someone, because it's not mine. I kept telling them it's not mine. I then told them all the planning I had done to commit suicide. My mom just said if you want therapy we can get you therapy. And my dad said that I just needed to talk to them (my parents) and I'd feel better. Every now and again through out highschool he would ask if I still needed to give my body back, to which I would mindlessly say if it keeps feeling wrong then yes. He would ask if it felt wrong and I would say yes. At the end of junior year I realized it was because I've been parading around as a girl when all I've wanted was to be me; a guy. I haven't told my dad yet. But he asked why I cut my hair so much (I keep it as short as I can, he likes it to be long because it gets waves) and I told him because it makes me feel better about the body I've been given. He also lets me buy mens clothes. My mom told me if I keep cutting my hair she wants me to kill myself lol. My conservative father cares.
*intense supportive screaming* AHhHhHhHHHHHHHHHhHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
The definition of life
It's a lesson or more like a history of mistakes and surreal events it's a mixture of emotions and a feelings of life and death it's there to teach future generations lessons and teachings of new discoveries and chronicle events that are important to our history or thus there future history.life is a meaning of time and space consisting of foundation and vowel in body everything we do or think of doing starts a new brink of reality and roads for others. we are like trees planted together at some point we will all intertwine and be one. it's life it's herself and it's within us all.
You're amazing, wish I had videos like this 15 years ago, I bet you're helping a lot people, I know it helped me.