Sneaky Ways Narcissists Control You

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  • Опубликовано: 6 ноя 2024

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  • @JessicaJLandi
    @JessicaJLandi 2 года назад +36

    I had forgiven and released the toxic friend in my life and set a healthy boundary, but after six months I stupidly said one pleasant thing to her in passing and within hours got a text from her: 'today was the first time you spoke to me in months. I'd really Iike to be at peace with you." Funny, my healthy boundary put the distance between us that gave me peace. I took care of my peace with her. She seemed to indicate I needed to do something so she could "be at peace with me" but her peace is HER responsibility. Don't take the bait to be responsible for someone else's emotions or let them guilt you for setting appropriate boundaries!!
    I responded to her text that: "I am at peace. I hope you can find peace."
    No more contact. My peace is maintained by my healthy boundary keeping a toxic person at a distance.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +6

      Congratulations on the peace you now have ❤

    • @HARRd_
      @HARRd_ 2 года назад +3

      I really have to try these

  • @michaelrocha8365
    @michaelrocha8365 2 года назад +1

    Thanks Rebecca. My youngest brother is married to a narcissistic. Ladies. I started pointing things out to him .she found out .and maid him feel so guilty he stopped talking to me ..I miss my brother. You are so on point.

  • @patorr69
    @patorr69 2 года назад +17

    As someone with Autism dealing with at least 2 covert narcissists your channel, content has been a blessing to find. Im developing the useful tools from these videos in how to keep my emotions in check and no contact.

    • @CurlyHostile
      @CurlyHostile 2 года назад +1

      From my situations and these videos, I’ve figured that healthy boundaries are key.

    • @Jackgritty28
      @Jackgritty28 2 года назад

      Does Rebecca know what she's talking about,don't need to hear her to sound repetitive,and she's dogmatic about it.Its the way she makes her living I guess,but tell us something we haven't heard yet,she is focussing only on narcissism,why doesn't she branch out into other fields,I've heard it all before.sorry if I annoy you,maybe I'm a narcissist 🆘🚩💲✔️🏦

  • @jennakoenig8695
    @jennakoenig8695 2 года назад +4

    TURN THE TABLES and run, run, run, and never look back and break free from the narcissist and don't let them control you and don't let them destroy you and ruin you like mine did for 11 years and i found out from my friend Chelsea that my ex still has my number and he can't delete numbers off his phone and it seems like a nightmare that i can't escape from and i have new bf now who treats me away better than my ex did to me.

  • @RebeccaZungEsq
    @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +8

    Do you want to know more about how narcissists manipulate their victims, and how you can break free from their control? Join me in my free webinar where I share tips and tricks. Sign up here: slay.rebeccazung.com

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +1

      I'll see you all there! 🙌

    • @Skeeterweezer
      @Skeeterweezer 2 года назад

      Do a video on Narcissists and litigation Abuse, and how we can put an end to it... What proof do we need...?

    • @barbiekoopa5230
      @barbiekoopa5230 2 года назад

      I signed up!
      Dare I hope.....?

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад

      @@Skeeterweezer Check out my videos on How Narcissists Weaponize the Court System (ruclips.net/video/3nV_wJuw_L0/видео.html) and How to Successfully Litigate Against a Narcissist with Dr. Ramani Part 1 (ruclips.net/video/o2iMpIVE6LM/видео.html)

  • @quantum07277
    @quantum07277 2 года назад +6

    Please do a video on “reactive abuse.” For 14 years with my wife I never heard this term before till today. I read a quick article and broke down. If you could reach out to me, I’d love to share my story.

  • @grammys02
    @grammys02 2 года назад +6

    When I tell my Narc husband “ nobody else treats me bad like you do” his response is “ they don’t live with you.” What a bunch of BS!

  • @TriKittah
    @TriKittah 2 года назад +16

    My narc husband would wait until I was asleep to wake me up, but not enough to really be awake, to have those "important conversations".

    • @laurieannJake
      @laurieannJake 2 года назад +5

      11 pm when he knew he absolutely freaking knew how I wanted to sleep so badly!! Wouldn’t talk all day then had the unmitigated gall to treat me as if I was the freaking problem and wouldn’t let up on me .. I’d tell him to leave me alone I’m not doing this right now and like a spoiled rotten brat keep coming at me!!

    • @kimberlys.7097
      @kimberlys.7097 2 года назад +3

      Yup. Mine would yank the pillow from under my head. So I learned to sleep without a pillow in retaliation!!

    • @jamespimentel1794
      @jamespimentel1794 2 года назад +4

      Yes there ALWAYS looking for when your most vunerable

    • @HARRd_
      @HARRd_ 2 года назад +2

      They are always crafty

    • @sgtmuffinbadger6147
      @sgtmuffinbadger6147 2 года назад +1

      Same

  • @snoopy4802
    @snoopy4802 2 года назад +10

    I agree 💯. My ex fiance woke me up at 2:30 am and had the nerve to ask me what the definition of dumb, stupid and ignorant was. From time to time he would talk to me as if I were those things so my reply was don't treat me as if I was. Well at the time he woke me up and asked me that I rolled over and didn't say a word. When I woke up I looked at him and said If you ever wake me up again and ask me that I'm leaving and don't ever ask me that again do not insult my intelligence. Ugh He tried everything you just talked about. I could sell my life with this man to Hollywood and make a movie. It was that bad. I am glad I got out and noticed he was a narcissist. I don't think the time your with a narcissist matters it's the treatment of the narcissist is what matters on your health. He literally broke me down fast and I am so glad I was a strong enough woman to stop it.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +3

      It's great that you've found your strength and was strong enough to leave. Keep it upand stay strong!

    • @HARRd_
      @HARRd_ 2 года назад +2

      I'm happy for you, an experience with a narcissist is so unhealthy

    • @barbiekoopa5230
      @barbiekoopa5230 2 года назад +1

      So happy for you, please be safe & aware in the future so he will be your last narcissist

  • @glendaeddy859
    @glendaeddy859 2 года назад +2

    Absolutely correct 💯 on all counts Rebecca Zung!

  • @charlenetucker-dannemiller7688
    @charlenetucker-dannemiller7688 2 года назад +6

    Turning the tables….one day at a time

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @lechaewilliams4524
    @lechaewilliams4524 2 года назад +5

    So spot on. Thank you for enlightening those who are victims of Narcissists.

  • @tlove6932
    @tlove6932 2 года назад +2

    Turn the Tables! The worst for me is waking me up at 1,2,3 o'clock in the morning simply bc they couldn't sleep & need to have this heavy, loaded conversation or argument right then! ugghh! Selfish!!! Excellent video as always Rebecca👍🏻💯🔥 You are an incredible Angel! 🌹😍❤

  • @hologramgrave
    @hologramgrave 2 года назад

    All of the above. Thank you for explaining them so it’s easy to understand. I had PTSD after I left, as well. Absolutely horrible.

  • @cynthiascott3422
    @cynthiascott3422 2 года назад +3

    The really ironic thing to me is that narcissists accuse you of the things they are actually doing, not you. Plus, if you stand up for your boundaries, they try to make you feel guilty like you hurt them. For example, when I would try to get off the phone to rest after my spouse had monopolized a whole phone conversation talking about her own problems for hours (while not even allowing me to say more than 2 sentences or "uh huh" the whole time, or waiting while she kept through songs on RUclips), she would start an argument when I said I was exhausted and needed to go to bed. Then she blew up my phone with texts about how mean I was for not staying up to talk with her as long as she wanted. I used to stay up 3, 4, or even 5 hrs listening to her.

  • @pumlamlondo9912
    @pumlamlondo9912 Год назад

    Thank you so much Rebecca. May God bless you for freeing me. It finally makes sense🙏🙏🙏

  • @maryannschlear5161
    @maryannschlear5161 2 года назад +6

    New learners need to be educated and warned.

  • @cayotelives
    @cayotelives 2 года назад

    Wow....this is so accurate. Thanks so much. God bless you. Thanks God I walked away. This is some sick shit .I thought was genuine reactions but its really low blows.

  • @CLHS1944
    @CLHS1944 2 года назад +6

    He did them all! Bye narc!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +2

      Good for you! Absolutely get away from the narcissist!

  • @michaeljames955
    @michaeljames955 2 года назад +4

    when the "born again" narc says she falls from grace because of me, it means she is either committing, or about to, adulterate a new supply source

  • @Narcissisticsurvivor47
    @Narcissisticsurvivor47 2 года назад +1

    Also I wanted to send her some money for my son to get a hair cut she tried saying it would be too complicated for me since I do not use these phone apps to transfer money yet I figured it out..I'm excited I have a better understanding of these snakes

  • @brianbottoms1549
    @brianbottoms1549 6 месяцев назад

    Turn the table

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 2 года назад +9

    NARCISSTIS TARGETS CODEPENDENTS..
    NARCISSTIS MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL.
    NARCISSTIS GASLIGHTS
    NARCISSTIS PLAY HOT AND COLD GAMES ..

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +2

      Sad but true. You definitely can turn the tables and win against the narcissists!

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 2 года назад +2

      @@RebeccaZungEsq THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS
      UR VIDEOS HAVE HELPED ME TREMENDOUSLY..
      IM SEVERELY TRAUMA BONDED IM STRUGGLING TRYING TO DISCONNECT..
      NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS BRUTAL IM BEING GIVEN THE SILENT TREATMENT

  • @glendaeddy859
    @glendaeddy859 2 года назад +1

    His b.s. in gaslighting was quite weak!! I, just laughed my ass off!!

  • @kiyomicardella7727
    @kiyomicardella7727 2 года назад

    Turn the table!

  • @DidiyogasalsastudioTM
    @DidiyogasalsastudioTM 2 года назад +1

    thank you for opening my eyes to it 💞💟💫

  • @stevemiller8895
    @stevemiller8895 2 года назад +2

    If you're attracting narcissists in your life you have not forgiven The Narcissist in your life who is now inside of you and it is there because of your unforgiveness, your holding onto, bc you have chosen to hold onto these traumatic experiences blaming the narc, instead of letting go of the offense,from the narc.
    You in essence stored up your woundedness of narcissistic abuse and if you do not forgive that abuse then you become that abuse in essence you become what you will not let go of, so first internally, then externally.This is why it is imperative to give your feelings emotions and isdues love and respect so that you can process these feelings , emotions and issues, so that they can move through and out of your mind, thereby no longer stumbling over what you not willfully , acknowledge and accept. If you will not then you will become what you do not let go of you will become what you hate you will become the offense that you were offended by so you need to process those feelings and let go!
    This is why meditation and the ability to acknowledge and accept your woundedness with loving kindness and hospitality is essential to your inner healing. When those issues come up in the moment welcome them with loving kindness and hospitality and embrace them like you would your own child allow them to stay in your Consciousness, in your presence for as long as they want and soon they ( your feelings emotions issues etc.) Will leave as you let them run their course through your consciousness do not resist your feelings your issues your emotions, just let them be and let them run their course through your mind. In essence stop holding on and start letting go!
    Then grace will abound and joy will follow!

  • @elisaswan5513
    @elisaswan5513 Год назад

    Turn the TABLES

  • @billiebass3973
    @billiebass3973 2 года назад +2

    Thank you

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @skatingmom4
    @skatingmom4 2 года назад +3

    I can identify with all you said. Wow.

  • @frntehannemikkelsen1630
    @frntehannemikkelsen1630 2 года назад +3

    Turn the table💪🏻🌟

  • @nadinew2141
    @nadinew2141 2 года назад +2

    Exactly. So turn the tables 💪

  • @TenderhornH
    @TenderhornH 2 года назад

    TURN THE TABLES!!!

  • @Indy__isnt_it
    @Indy__isnt_it 2 года назад +4

    You know what's bugs my ass more, when you outright tell them DO NOT CHANGE MY MOOD. (it was over me not reading legal documents, nothing that mattered to anyone but me., I was NOT going there when I had told him NOT TO. He could not stop himself. I listened to a totally new approach from a survivor. He was talking about what makes the narc tick, my words, and with that says the narc had a drive in him he can't control, much like a virus infecting your cells. They have no control once that drive kicks in.
    This to me is the scariest thing concerning a covert narc, and their underhandedness paired with no conscience. If it's in their mind, and they have drive? Sounds much like the deed is close to done.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +1

      True! Seeing their victims miserable because of what they did is one of there narcissistic supplies.

  • @swissms5808
    @swissms5808 2 года назад +4

    Exactly how it goes. 😔

  • @gretchenmorantowers4
    @gretchenmorantowers4 2 года назад +1

    TURN THE TABLE!

  • @stefangebhard7074
    @stefangebhard7074 2 года назад +2

    Turn those tables…for good!

  • @yoyingeulogio3600
    @yoyingeulogio3600 2 года назад

    Turn the table,

  • @laurieannJake
    @laurieannJake 2 года назад +1

    Turn the tables
    SLAY!!

  • @heatherkelly4787
    @heatherkelly4787 2 года назад +4

    How do I turn the tables on him?

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +2

      Hey Heather - feel free to email support@rebeccazung.com and the SLAY team will be there for you for extra support. Stay strong!

  • @barbiekoopa5230
    @barbiekoopa5230 2 года назад

    July 25th will be 19 long, more miserable than not, years of walking on eggshells, always getting blasted for 'saying the wrong thing', countless bottles of Pepto and Prilosec, I AM SO DAMN READY TO TURN THE BLOODY TABLES!
    I absolutely CAN NOT take much more at all. I'm miserable, I have a difficult time explaining it to anyone because when I do I feel like I'm being looked at like I'm exaggerating that it's not really that bad. And I feel like I am losing it. The hot and cold he plays is getting so old and I am very affectionate and what I would think is rather warm toward people. And I feel deep empathy for people and and their situations, for the Earth & the environment and especially for animals, and I think this put a Target on my back from this person and I think it's caused him to do more damage to me than a typical person that don't feel things the same way I do is that makes any sense. I'm at the point now I'm just ready for my number to be called. I would never do nothing to hurt myself but I just don't want to live anymore, and he has done this to me nothing but him. And I feel he's been trying to push me to hurt myself but not doing it I feel that very strongly No One Believes Me, the few people I have in my life now. which is VERY few. he's run everybody off.... in some kind of weird way... people would suddenly stop talking to me or avoid me & I didn't know why.... for yrs I was oblivious, now I feel stupid, stupid for trusting someone so much, stupid for not catching on much sooner, stupid for not doing something about it before he squeezed out the last few (of what I feel like are) good years that I had left. Now I know he has ALWAYS been behind the scenes, playing either the victim or the player, both were to my disadvantage, and makes me feel & look foolish. Just as bad, the fasct that NO ONE built the need to come to me and give me a hint for me in the right direction or just directly say to me- "hey, this is going on...." say something give me heads up either says he is damn good or it says I'm very unlikable. The bottom line is I've got to be deprogrammed. What's so bad about it I went through years of therapy to get over 17 years of maternal abuse- physical, verbal, emotional, mental.... everything except sexual. I had to get my self-esteem built up and actually became fairly well-rounded considering. Although I did have a case of PTSD which has been blown out of the water because so much of the actions I get done by him on just like hers except I feel way more hate coming from him than I did her and with her I knew there was an end once I turned 18. It looks like here, the end of my nightmare doesn't come until he or I quit breathing

  • @samanthacheek1747
    @samanthacheek1747 2 года назад +1

    I need you to be my lawyer but I can't afford you.

  • @dameech6697
    @dameech6697 2 года назад +3

    turn the tables

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @NoFoodFromNoOne
    @NoFoodFromNoOne 2 года назад +1

    All of the above!

  • @HARRd_
    @HARRd_ 2 года назад +1

    Awesome

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @reganm840
    @reganm840 2 года назад

    YURN THE TABLES

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @xochitlonsurez9624
    @xochitlonsurez9624 2 года назад +1

    Turning the tables.

  • @georgew.5639
    @georgew.5639 2 года назад +2

    Any further attempts by my former narcissist wife at control over me will be dealt with in Jonny Depp style. Only my suit will be far bigger. 😁

  • @Skeeterweezer
    @Skeeterweezer 2 года назад +1

    Litigation is also a way...😡
    In the state of Colorado (or any state other than), is recording a family court proceeding legal or not...?

  • @fieryred518
    @fieryred518 2 года назад +1

    Turn the tables!

  • @donnaloveless4266
    @donnaloveless4266 2 года назад +2

    Yes i need help but cant afford therapy.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад

      Hey Donna - email support@rebeccazung.com to know more about the extra support you can get. The SLAY team will be there for you!

  • @caseyyoung32
    @caseyyoung32 2 года назад +1

    Turn the tables!!!!

  • @danbride9407
    @danbride9407 2 года назад

    Turn the TABLES

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @8bit_paul
    @8bit_paul 2 года назад +1

    good info but the editing is way too ADD for me.

  • @fieryred518
    @fieryred518 2 года назад +2

    Exactly 💯 💯 💯 💯

  • @Raising-Zaiby-Baby
    @Raising-Zaiby-Baby 2 года назад

    Expose narcissist. Record around them…

  • @cdorothy444
    @cdorothy444 Год назад

    So the narcissist in your life was a blessing in disguise. You learned a niche and get even more edge on your skill set and knowledge 2:38

  • @ninjagirlnomeansno9403
    @ninjagirlnomeansno9403 Год назад

    Absolutely stupendous, Thank you so much Rebecca, You're absolutely beautiful, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe 💞😃🌌😊😍😍🐺💎🦄🥰✨️👽😀🌈😁🧿♾️🛸🐈‍⬛🐉👁🌷💞😃

  • @Narcissisticsurvivor47
    @Narcissisticsurvivor47 2 года назад

    Asked my narc did she still have my things since she drove off with everything I own in the trunk of the car June 1st she text back no..Asked her why she got rid of my things her reply was if the conversation isn't about out 3yr old son she was gonna block me and that's exactly what she did..I have only had 3 conversations with him since June 1st she's also upset I keep denying wanting to meet up with her to see my son and I'm not ready for that I wanna be sure she's completely out my system and I don't trust her..

  • @Melissa-py1od
    @Melissa-py1od 2 года назад

    TURN THE TABLES

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @glendaeddy859
    @glendaeddy859 2 года назад

    Immediately I, got that vibration that he was full of it. From that point forward as long as he played games with me I, threw it back on to him!!
    He said I'm in the army and he previously was however he said baby you can't let me starve here! I'm sorry however the army feeds them well! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 the sob was in the same city as me. I, can't believe he had no idea that I, research everyone! Background!
    That man was a fool and a 🤡!
    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @jenp342
    @jenp342 2 года назад

    “Turn the tables”

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @wadelinn3059
    @wadelinn3059 2 года назад +2

    Hi. Hun🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @zone1hearing
    @zone1hearing 2 года назад

    Turn the tables

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Год назад +1

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

    • @zone1hearing
      @zone1hearing Год назад

      @@RebeccaZungEsq Indeed!

  • @localizer50
    @localizer50 2 года назад +1

    They are evil people.

  • @jacquiarchambault2581
    @jacquiarchambault2581 2 года назад +3

    That is my ex who I'm still trying to divorce

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 года назад +1

      Hang in there and never give up!mYou got this!

    • @Lyndsydypyty
      @Lyndsydypyty 2 года назад

      I feel ya. I filed November 2019... 🤬

  • @cdorothy444
    @cdorothy444 Год назад

    Turn the tables
    The 11:33 after I have done so much for you CRAP

  • @dividedwefall652
    @dividedwefall652 2 года назад

    TTT

  • @miss.l.c.minister
    @miss.l.c.minister 2 года назад +1

    Hey how are you from Canada so with regards to this gas lighting situation I'm saying with us at most respect I still don't get why if you're with somebody and you got to go through any kind of changes like this why are you staying with them I don't get it help me get it. The minute you start messing up this stupidity I'm gone how did you get with them in the beginning this love bombing thing I don't understand it I don't get it you need to consider not having sex because when you when you share fluids sorry that changes everything you need to get to know the person and the minute that they start talking stupid you got to get rid of them seriously you need to love yourself more I'm saying that with respect

  • @Vibe77Guy
    @Vibe77Guy 2 года назад

    Now, apply your expertise to the analysis of today's political theatrics.

  • @tranessakulokoski5064
    @tranessakulokoski5064 2 года назад

    Info is good but I think you're spending too much time on the back story and not enough time on the subject.

  • @wolfgang7812
    @wolfgang7812 2 года назад +2

    Turn the tables!!!