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THIS! You just descriped my older sister perfectly. She is such a master of acting and manipulate other people to believe all her lies. Her life is nothing but a constant abuse and controlling other people for her will. You are either friend or enemy for her, no other options.
Shut them down! My toxic ex-coworker exactly followed the steps from #1 to #3: 1. He blackmailed me blaming me for things I wasn't responsible for. 2. He took advantage of my boss as an enabler or a flying monkey. (The boss was also a covert narcissist). The coworker told the boss how poor he was because of me. 3. He started yelling at me. I didn't take the bait! I just ran away from the rotten workplace. I'm glad all healthy coworkers also left the company.
I lived and died slowly with a Narcissists over eight years. During that time I was degraded, insulted and made to look like an abuser. Court to her was a play ground as she had everything built up over years of calculating chess moves. In court during the divorce, I was looked down upon by the judge even though I did nothing. In the first year I did not see my son, she made me fight for everything including visitation. Communication was limited to emails and in emails she would twist words, phrases and general conversations into something she would use against me in court. My best advice is to limit your responses to yes or no answers. Don’t engage, let your lawyers do that for you. Limit your exposure as much as humanly possible and move on with your life. I am about 14 years past my divorce, have zero contact with her and yet I still get upset with myself once in a while for what I let go on so many years ago. Destruction of your humanity is a fun and quick game for them, but healing is a slow process for you. Don’t give up on yourself only give up on them. Walk away as fast as possible….
Agreements mean nothing to them. As soon as they get what they are wanting, they will try something like kicking you out of the house after you buy the big ticket hard to move items, or things that are affixed to a house they own and will think they're totally entitled to it. Shut them down! Also, boundaries are quite the trick for just saying NO, when they try to "shitdump" all their responsibility and expenses onto you.
My Mom says I’m abusive when I calmly ask her to tell the truth. We haven’t spoken in a year ….she lies and gaslights like it’s her job. I have been building myself up for a year , and realize I am probably better off never talking to her again. Narcissists won’t change , they will lie to the bitter end
@@jessicathompson5362 A bulletproof narcissist will never change no matter what you do. I have older sister who have abused me physically and mentally whole life. I have basically been waiting over 30 years that she will change and I have tried everything. In matter of fact, its just go worse and worse the older they come, I have seen it. I have recently gone "no contact" on her and I'm erasing her from my life permanently, because that is the only way I can continue life like a normal human without anxiety and oppression by her.
Twenty three years today, it started on that very day. I was lied about, provoked to anger and made to look crazy as well as stupid. Praise God, his sister lied for him so he wasn't served his paperwork, due diligence was served and he will have the repercussions for all he's done.
My ex did the exact same thing to me, especially with tactic #2, as if I were the abuser. He had already planted everything right before we broke up. He even made me feel crazy to his family."
My narc wife and her mother got a kick out of that because they felt the law was on their side since they were women. They often did it with my daughter, who was still young at the time, in the midst of it, but when I saw how hurt my daughter got when I responded to them in kind, I stopped reacting and left them to play their foolish games. I left last September, but what worries me is that my daughter is now stuck with those two vipers.
Once I said “NO” realized it’s time to set my boundaries : it made him so mad , after few months he told me he does not love me anymore ! Not a single explanation or whatsoever ! They are sick creatures & we giving / sensitive people : must stop playing their manipulative sick games
yeah.. my mom maked up a story about me to a close family friend, which i considered to be trustworhy, and I used to consider her like a grandmother, and then she came telling me that ,,i have 2 sad angels by my side that I am bothering,, something like that. I was like , really ?? I can t believe how my mom turned her against me with her ,,sad story,, of ,,how i am treating her,, . I used to tell my mom everything, and I am still struggling to stop. I am working with myself to stop this miserable ,, realationship,, that I used to think it was genuine.
Yes, this is true. Thank you for your expert advice. I have noticed that diet plays an important role is keeping calm. Avoiding sugar, white bread, alcohol, excess coffee and other stimulants and using healthy foods for preparing meals help a lot, if you add intermittent fasting, meditation, exercise and self-care to it, you arrive at a calm place and get the emotional strength to deal with the narcisists. And a lot of patience and love for the self is a must.
Shut them down ! Happy Monday ! Thank you for all your videos & everyone comments here & you & all the survivors here to have a wonderful beautiful blessed 🙏 evening / night
Thanks to my career and training it was the worst thing in the world to my wife (narc) because I have been writing detailed reports and keeping evidence due to my line of work it taught me how to document everything she did and she hated it
@@Grrrrrrr123 not at all I have had to be in therapy for 2 years now try to get through all this and it hurts so much what has happened my babies are suffering as well as I am I kept everything in order to save myself I have been accused of rape of having my friends rape her.
@@Grrrrrrr123 An abuser doesnt need to write anything down. They make it up as they go along. Whatever suits them is what they say. They will contradict themselves and not care. I have mounds of handwritten journals and notes on my phone of incidents and stories from all the years. If you don't they twist and deny the facts and make you out to be the abuser, just like Rebecca says right in this video.
#1 - yep. He's been "building his case" for ever!!! Trying to. He texts or emails me of things that I did that I didn't do and I reply "just because you say this doesn't mean it happened. None of this happened." #2 - I don't know if he has flying monkeys but I would tell my friends/family what was going on with me. And in my own conversations for YEARS I would say "what did I do here? Where did I go wrong? What is wrong with me?" and they would tell me "you're being abused." and I would say "no. he doesn't abuse me. He's just really effing MEAN!" So now, I've got a lawyer and he knows I've been gaslit but I used the word abused in an email to him and I am terrified that my own lawyer is going to see me as the crazy one. And he's a good dude and has never lost a case to my husband's lawyer. Ever. #3 - I had to get a PFA because he threatened to drag my face down the driveway. He wanted me to drop it and I said "okay but you will NEVER threaten me again." Now he says I made him agree to "RULES" to get me to drop it. Yes. My "RULE" is that you do not threaten to drag my face down the driveway. Oh but what made him say that? He was busy berating me and I finally said "Are you talking to me or are you having this conversation with your mother." Then after he moved out I was having a yard sale and he had my big cooler in his shed in the house next door that WE own together and is marital property. I told him I was going to get it and he threw a big fit and then came over here, parked next door, leaned on his car and stared me down to the point that I got spooked! So I called the police, like they told me to do if I ever felt intimidated again or afraid of him. So now he says "the whole police department thinks you're an asshole. I was just leaning on my car." He was super calm and yes, I got dramatic. He scares me. He's thrown furniture out the door. He's broken doors. He's flipped a table over on me. He's thrown everything out of the pantry - flour everywhere, sugar... #4 - I have no idea what kind of pleadings he's going to try to do. I'm freaked out that he's trying to get alimony from me when he quit his job on purpose a year ago, could go back into his career easily for 100k a year but chooses not to. Has requested that I pay his attorney and fees. He is claiming he has no money but has received $40,000 less than 3 months ago from selling OUR 401k and getting OUR tax returns. It's difficult. For sure.
Oh this is very perfect timing. Just received a text (from STBX family law attorney) saying she wants to be civil and non-litigious while also simultaneously asking me to pay an absurd amount of $$$$, then gets mad when I said I need to speak to an attorney first, even though said would also like to be non-litigious. This soon to be divorce seems to be my repayment for helping her build up her career to where she can now go alone.
As we learn more and more about these crazy narcs (and psychopaths and sociopaths as well) and all the evil they cause in society, I think we really need to start asking ourselves: is it evil to kill these narcs? They're evil, they're like zombies. Is it evil to kill zombies?
SHUT THEM DOWN! They stoop soooo LOW! Its so horrible. Constantly trying to "Project" onto me what THEY are guilty of! i need waaaay better Legal help/representation BIGLY 😕
You are the only person who has brought me to the place I am now it was instantly when I heard from you what I was going thru I know most people will not understand what we have been thru immediately but I guess I'm just as smart as you having been thru this but not without the articulation that you give us all let me relate a story I remember my first birthday party in summer school as a pre teen and I was crying on arrival at my own birthday party at the community center and the I think I was about 8 years old then and the children who were invited one girl asked when I arrived why is he crying and as you and I both know it's not your birthday party it's their opportunity for narcissist supply
Like the malignant narc alcoholic I divorced they set you up to be the bad guy abuser projecting and blame shifting their guilt and shame for what they’ve done and plan to do onto you as they hit and run and to Get off hook for any accountability they face While playing victim
I have been listening to your channel for a while now. This video feels like you've been filming my life. I have walked through a nightmare that never seems to end. This is EXACTLY what I've been going through. The smear campaign has been and is relentless. She continues to accuse without any basis via the court app. I have documented everything. MT children have and continue to suffer. This has been going on in the discard phase for 8 months. The smear campaign went on for years, to include parental alienation and the most heinous accusations.
The abuser is the narcissistist, don't be fooled by that,the dynamic suggests that your the victim,do something about it.If your against them,do not agree to any agreement,take the credit for their demise.Accuse you of something you didn't do,manipulated by lies and slander,if they do this,be aware of it,to avoid any complications.You don't deserve to be treated like that,people will misjudge you,because of a smear campaign.Believe that you could dismiss their efforts,be calm,and retaliate in kind.If it eventually ends in assault,claim self defence,make sure you keep any details about the incident, document any situation that affected you,defend yourself by writing about it🚩🆘💲✔️🏦
I’m doing great I’ve made a lot of positive changes in my life. I really think watching your posts has allowed me to build on those issues self esteem, introspection , and self confidence.
SHUT THEM DOWN---many yrs ago in I was married to a possessed lady that would always sign TRO's against moi, first one she dropped it in a week, the 2nd one took 2 weeks in court she dropped it, 3rd she finalized it but dropped it a few weeks after, then signed a 4th against moi but I finally left her in AZ, then called me at my parents house a few yrs after that
My mental health case worker is ironically doing this to me. But all I have access to on Medicaid is CBT which has been nothing but invalidating to me. I have no way to get money for anything better having an undiagnosed chronic and debilitating illness. I can't find a physician that won't be dismissive and gaslight me because I'm poor and can't dress nice.
FYI there is an app for text messages that print off the date time and person it went to beside their phone number, this makes them admissible in court as you are able to tell their legitimacy.
Mine would often rage in public but it was usually when we were on a family outing and everyone was enjoying themselves, we would be laughing and just having fun, out of the blue(it would seem) the abuse would start by him making a spectacle out of me in my face raging. I would be in shock because I had no idea what was going on. I truly believe it was a way to shift me back into emotions of making him happy rather then enjoying myself. It has something to do with the fact they can't enjoy themselves when they aren't the center of attention.
Prior to this video, I hadn't considered that he might bring a fly monkey to my house to witness any reaction to his coming here despite my repeatedly telling him to stop coming here. Thank you for the heads up about narcs setting up a scenario where they try to trigger an emotional response. It serves as an important reminder to be vigilant about that. Since he has gotten zero contact from me, that may just be his next move!
I enjoy the videos and the information i very much appreciated! When a covert narc goes silent when parallel-parenting, what does that mean? Especially after the harassment and arguing. I'm paranoid and confused all at once.
I discovered that my husband had planned meetings with his ex at the supermarket...I confront him about this. He wants to take a shower and says. Are you done or am i allowed to take a shower? He then tells his coworkers, friends and family how I dont allow him to shower?? Just 1 example of many many many. Completely out of context, now everyone he know, actually thinks I dont let him take a shower!!!!!
mine does the same!!! will start an argument , behave badly then I am the one chasing around the house to finish the conversation, and she won't leave me in peace !!!OMG!
I definitely leave him in peace anymore. I've come to realize he loves the chase, its what hes after. It makes him twitch when i cant be bothered. I could care less anymore who he meets anywhere. I now just look at it like, better them them then me. Makes his head spin. He creates a lot of drama because it makes him feel wanted, that disgusts me. Its had the opposite effect because I dont want him at all now. Juice isnt worth the squeeze
The discard phase, is this just the discard? I got trapped by a covert narc and i became to realise that he needed a villain in his life. He had to have someone to blame for what is wrong in his life. To me the put downs and the insults are a form of supply to him in that he needed to be putting someone down to make himself feel better. When he ever started this behaviour I was always in a position to show him the door and i realise now I should have. But then I fell seriously ill and the abuse and neglect ramped up. I wasn't really aware of what was going on because hes a covert narc but he managed to claim I was abusing him because I wanted out and eas trapped. I started shouting but by that time hed already turned my son against me.
Shut them down❗ lol. That's hilarious about screaming, shouting and saying things like don't hit me etc. So true. That's what they do. Crackheads. Yes, they certainly do lie in court.
They are so punitive OMG! It's so annoying how tit for tat stupid they actually are. So oversensitive ... the tiniest 'surprise' rattles them into giving them the licence to comeback with amps way up higher to gaslight...dominate you. It's truly exhausting. I refuse to do any eggshell walking around them anymore. I wanna shut them down with my ignorance. See who's getting tired of the mindgames.
I filed, my soon to be x started doing this on trips and in public, especially at hotels and I told her I would never take her to these nice places ever again and I never did. It was child like. She would try to turn it around like I was the problem and no.. out of the blue if I struck a nurse or triggered her she would just go berserk and get louder. I would ask what are you doing, why are you getting so loud. I walked out and almost left her there at a couple times.
My soon-to-be ex husband acted friendly, but he doesn’t follow through. He said “I give you x amount” of something, but then he transferred a lot less or didn’t hand it over at all. He tried to ignore even agreements we made with both our lawyers present. It is a wild ride and I can’t wait for this to be over!
I've been in a marriage for 37 years with a narcissist, his whole family was a litter of narcissistic abuse, I've raised my son with this sadistic family, he's a horrible human, and I as an empath, so I have my strings pulled daily, it's a constant love bomb, devalue, now we are in the discard phase, it's very disturbing, I'm terrified of getting out of this marriage..I have been taking care of our home, property and I hold this place together, he runs his own business out of the home that I stood by him for 30 years when he asked me if I would support him in this business, of course I did, now he is hiding money for his own benefit. I haven't worked in years, now I feel stuck..I'm so lost, but hanging in there, I'm a strong woman, and I'm reading and listening to self help podcast like yours, and I thank you for all the knowledge you have provided..Someday I will break away from all of this emotional abuse and find happiness, balance, harmony, and a chance for peace!! Thanks again❤️🙏
I'm sorry but the long drawn out exaggerated speech distracts from the content. Off the bat I heard my mother by default's mantra, "you're for me or against me". Is there a way to speed up the speech on my end?
They’re always disregulated. They cal me the crazy one. Etc. nothing makes them happy. I have email but no more texts. I was at work and felt the emotional whirlwind start. Like I got a punch in my stomach. I knew I shouldn’t have responded to her texting. She was looking for supply. Then I was miserable at work . I set boundaries that she basically laughed at to get what she needed.
Yes yes yes!!! He sent his 8 year old daughter to get his knife and told me he was going to cut my throat. Walked right up to me and grabbed my hand, bent it back…..my response shut him down I told him “you better bend it back farther so I can make sure you go to jail” he immediately let go and called the cops. A week later I was served with a protection order
Happen to me with the 🚔. I let the dogs in at 600am in the morning from dog room. Apoplectic scream that came and verbal abuse. You wouldn't speak to an enemy with disdain. Anyhow what happened is, was I poured my coffee on my side of the bed and smashed coffee cup on my side. I said , no one in this world needs to be spoken to in that way I never want to sleep in this bed again with you My eldest daughter came in to comfort the narcissist ( victim). I went into the lounge and to reflect in why I had. Heard them both whispering ,heard her say to my daughter call the police. She told me to leave but I stayed. Police arrived I told them what had happened. Nothing came about it but was documented by the police. Later on after the divorce had care of my youngest daughter. She rocked up when I was at work and took my daughter without my consent. She narcissistic woman has no boundaries at all, apparently she is above the law.
My daughter married one of these monsters. My daughter inherited a house shortly after. He has targeted me, as the person in her life that saw him for what he was minute one that I met him. He has been lovw bombing for 5 years and has held her hostage in her own home, takes her car 12 hours a day and uses every childhood negativity as his leverage. He fabricates complete lies about me and they are believed. she has lost any ambition in her life and become histrionic with me 0 to 60. It's absolutely tragic. they are selling the house and I'm sure he's being sweet as pie until that money is gone. wish there was something I could do, but he has demonized me, projected his behaviour on me and I've lost any and all respect. He will destroy her entire life if she doesnt wake up. she's got 30 days and again, he'll be on his best behavior.
The narcissist is my mom. When she didn’t have me anymore to manipulate and accuse she started with her upstairs neighbor. She called the cops on her because she left the front door open. Anytime I went to visit her she’d be talking about her and how she vacuum to make noise so she can’t sleep. She has friends that she’d start talking about to me. My brother is worse than her. On Christmas Day I was eating at the table he talks over me accusing me. Then finally said he hates me and never wants to see me again. He said I was gonna stab my nephew. I moved to Tampa Florida. He told my cousins all this stuff. Crazy drama. I’ve been on medication and went to therapy for years. This week my mom started texting me some drama. I now blocked her texts. I need to heal. I need space.
he followed me on facebook undeR alias. he had a neighbor do the same but I blocked them. i left the state and left him the house. trailer etc. he and his girlfrriend had cleaned alot of the furniture out of the house while I was in the hospital. my hip surgery wouldn't allow me to walk for six months. he left when I came home...he gave her alot of my clothes....all of my memorablia
Soon 2 be ex sends his lackeys / monkeys to casino I work ; monitor me ( in & out times ) he takes data ( in his yellow folder ) which days I did not go to work etc 🤢🤮. He wants to be out of the marriage & still controls / asks my whereabouts via his gofers ! H. Resources has all data , now they monitor him . Hope they will ban him from entering my work place for good 🙏
I had to start recording my husband because he is so good at blame shifting and playing the victim. I have an app on my phone that records for 12 hours straight before it cuts off so if anyone listens to it, I can prove that he wasn't baited into an argument, because things will seem normal for so long before he starts gaslighting and flipping out when I don't take the bait.I'm the only one that has listened to the recordings and it would be very clear to any sane person that he is the one that's batshit crazy. People would be shocked to find out that does and is everything he has acused me of.
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Oh yes. The table turning malignant manipulator. Its a crazy conundrum to deal with. Always glad to see you
Narcissists are excellent at acting. They get people by their charm and performance. It can leave you confused because they are so innocent in playing victim and pointing you as the abuser. Don't fall for it!💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
THIS! You just descriped my older sister perfectly. She is such a master of acting and manipulate other people to believe all her lies. Her life is nothing but a constant abuse and controlling other people for her will. You are either friend or enemy for her, no other options.
Shut them down! My toxic ex-coworker exactly followed the steps from #1 to #3:
1. He blackmailed me blaming me for things I wasn't responsible for.
2. He took advantage of my boss as an enabler or a flying monkey. (The boss was also a covert narcissist). The coworker told the boss how poor he was because of me.
3. He started yelling at me.
I didn't take the bait! I just ran away from the rotten workplace. I'm glad all healthy coworkers also left the company.
I lived and died slowly with a Narcissists over eight years. During that time I was degraded, insulted and made to look like an abuser. Court to her was a play ground as she had everything built up over years of calculating chess moves. In court during the divorce, I was looked down upon by the judge even though I did nothing. In the first year I did not see my son, she made me fight for everything including visitation. Communication was limited to emails and in emails she would twist words, phrases and general conversations into something she would use against me in court. My best advice is to limit your responses to yes or no answers. Don’t engage, let your lawyers do that for you. Limit your exposure as much as humanly possible and move on with your life. I am about 14 years past my divorce, have zero contact with her and yet I still get upset with myself once in a while for what I let go on so many years ago. Destruction of your humanity is a fun and quick game for them, but healing is a slow process for you. Don’t give up on yourself only give up on them. Walk away as fast as possible….
Agreements mean nothing to them. As soon as they get what they are wanting, they will try something like kicking you out of the house after you buy the big ticket hard to move items, or things that are affixed to a house they own and will think they're totally entitled to it. Shut them down! Also, boundaries are quite the trick for just saying NO, when they try to "shitdump" all their responsibility and expenses onto you.
TRUE! OMG!!! 💯💯💯
Yup
My Mom says I’m abusive when I calmly ask her to tell the truth. We haven’t spoken in a year ….she lies and gaslights like it’s her job. I have been building myself up for a year , and realize I am probably better off never talking to her again. Narcissists won’t change , they will lie to the bitter end
My mom would stonewall me on her death bed, I forgave her.
I pray she gets help and you two have a nirmal, loving relationship.
@@jessicathompson5362 thank you. Not possible with here though
@@jessicathompson5362 A bulletproof narcissist will never change no matter what you do. I have older sister who have abused me physically and mentally whole life. I have basically been waiting over 30 years that she will change and I have tried everything. In matter of fact, its just go worse and worse the older they come, I have seen it. I have recently gone "no contact" on her and I'm erasing her from my life permanently, because that is the only way I can continue life like a normal human without anxiety and oppression by her.
Twenty three years today, it started on that very day. I was lied about, provoked to anger and made to look crazy as well as stupid. Praise God, his sister lied for him so he wasn't served his paperwork, due diligence was served and he will have the repercussions for all he's done.
I document everything, these days, dated, timestamp usually... and I stay in my office on top of a recording device.
@susannah’s channel what type of recording device do you have?
My ex did the exact same thing to me, especially with tactic #2, as if I were the abuser. He had already planted everything right before we broke up. He even made me feel crazy to his family."
I sensed his entire family change their attitudes towards me, so yeah, I Knew, I just decided if they believed I was bad, then that’s Fine with me.
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My narc wife and her mother got a kick out of that because they felt the law was on their side since they were women. They often did it with my daughter, who was still young at the time, in the midst of it, but when I saw how hurt my daughter got when I responded to them in kind, I stopped reacting and left them to play their foolish games. I left last September, but what worries me is that my daughter is now stuck with those two vipers.
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These videos have helped me develop really useful tools to deal with the narcissists I know. Shutting them down is the key.
Once I said “NO” realized it’s time to set my boundaries : it made him so mad , after few months he told me he does not love me anymore ! Not a single explanation or whatsoever ! They are sick creatures & we giving / sensitive people : must stop playing their manipulative sick games
yeah.. my mom maked up a story about me to a close family friend, which i considered to be trustworhy, and I used to consider her like a grandmother, and then she came telling me that ,,i have 2 sad angels by my side that I am bothering,, something like that. I was like , really ?? I can t believe how my mom turned her against me with her ,,sad story,, of ,,how i am treating her,, . I used to tell my mom everything, and I am still struggling to stop. I am working with myself to stop this miserable ,, realationship,, that I used to think it was genuine.
Yes, this is true. Thank you for your expert advice. I have noticed that diet plays an important role is keeping calm. Avoiding sugar, white bread, alcohol, excess coffee and other stimulants and using healthy foods for preparing meals help a lot, if you add intermittent fasting, meditation, exercise and self-care to it, you arrive at a calm place and get the emotional strength to deal with the narcisists. And a lot of patience and love for the self is a must.
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Shut them down ! Happy Monday ! Thank you for all your videos & everyone comments here & you & all the survivors here to have a wonderful beautiful blessed 🙏 evening / night
Thanks to my career and training it was the worst thing in the world to my wife (narc) because I have been writing detailed reports and keeping evidence due to my line of work it taught me how to document everything she did and she hated it
I think you are the narc they love recording
@@Grrrrrrr123 not at all I have had to be in therapy for 2 years now try to get through all this and it hurts so much what has happened my babies are suffering as well as I am I kept everything in order to save myself I have been accused of rape of having my friends rape her.
@@Grrrrrrr123 An abuser doesnt need to write anything down. They make it up as they go along. Whatever suits them is what they say. They will contradict themselves and not care. I have mounds of handwritten journals and notes on my phone of incidents and stories from all the years. If you don't they twist and deny the facts and make you out to be the abuser, just like Rebecca says right in this video.
@@Grrrrrrr123 lol how so? I wish I recorded mine when she would threaten me.
#1 - yep. He's been "building his case" for ever!!! Trying to. He texts or emails me of things that I did that I didn't do and I reply "just because you say this doesn't mean it happened. None of this happened."
#2 - I don't know if he has flying monkeys but I would tell my friends/family what was going on with me. And in my own conversations for YEARS I would say "what did I do here? Where did I go wrong? What is wrong with me?" and they would tell me "you're being abused." and I would say "no. he doesn't abuse me. He's just really effing MEAN!" So now, I've got a lawyer and he knows I've been gaslit but I used the word abused in an email to him and I am terrified that my own lawyer is going to see me as the crazy one. And he's a good dude and has never lost a case to my husband's lawyer. Ever.
#3 - I had to get a PFA because he threatened to drag my face down the driveway. He wanted me to drop it and I said "okay but you will NEVER threaten me again." Now he says I made him agree to "RULES" to get me to drop it. Yes. My "RULE" is that you do not threaten to drag my face down the driveway. Oh but what made him say that? He was busy berating me and I finally said "Are you talking to me or are you having this conversation with your mother." Then after he moved out I was having a yard sale and he had my big cooler in his shed in the house next door that WE own together and is marital property. I told him I was going to get it and he threw a big fit and then came over here, parked next door, leaned on his car and stared me down to the point that I got spooked! So I called the police, like they told me to do if I ever felt intimidated again or afraid of him. So now he says "the whole police department thinks you're an asshole. I was just leaning on my car." He was super calm and yes, I got dramatic. He scares me. He's thrown furniture out the door. He's broken doors. He's flipped a table over on me. He's thrown everything out of the pantry - flour everywhere, sugar...
#4 - I have no idea what kind of pleadings he's going to try to do. I'm freaked out that he's trying to get alimony from me when he quit his job on purpose a year ago, could go back into his career easily for 100k a year but chooses not to. Has requested that I pay his attorney and fees. He is claiming he has no money but has received $40,000 less than 3 months ago from selling OUR 401k and getting OUR tax returns.
It's difficult. For sure.
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Thank you 🙏 shut them down! Finally I rid of him . It’s was terrible experience going through this..
Thank you! Helping me be strong for me! To approach with caution but directly with empathy but non emotionally reactive!!!
Oh this is very perfect timing. Just received a text (from STBX family law attorney) saying she wants to be civil and non-litigious while also simultaneously asking me to pay an absurd amount of $$$$, then gets mad when I said I need to speak to an attorney first, even though said would also like to be non-litigious. This soon to be divorce seems to be my repayment for helping her build up her career to where she can now go alone.
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As we learn more and more about these crazy narcs (and psychopaths and sociopaths as well) and all the evil they cause in society, I think we really need to start asking ourselves: is it evil to kill these narcs? They're evil, they're like zombies. Is it evil to kill zombies?
SHUT THEM DOWN! They stoop soooo LOW! Its so horrible. Constantly trying to "Project" onto me what THEY are guilty of! i need waaaay better Legal help/representation BIGLY 😕
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You are the only person who has brought me to the place I am now it was instantly when I heard from you what I was going thru I know most people will not understand what we have been thru immediately but I guess I'm just as smart as you having been thru this but not without the articulation that you give us all let me relate a story I remember my first birthday party in summer school as a pre teen and I was crying on arrival at my own birthday party at the community center and the I think I was about 8 years old then and the children who were invited one girl asked when I arrived why is he crying and as you and I both know it's not your birthday party it's their opportunity for narcissist supply
Every single one of your videos is so true!!!
Like the malignant narc alcoholic I divorced they set you up to be the bad guy abuser projecting and blame shifting their guilt and shame for what they’ve done and plan to do onto you as they hit and run and to
Get off hook for any accountability they face
While playing victim
My best friend just finished clocking a narc.
Shut them DOWN! NAMAslay!
Every pt presented the ex a covert narc did and still does! Plays he’s the poor victim. SMH!
I have been listening to your channel for a while now. This video feels like you've been filming my life. I have walked through a nightmare that never seems to end. This is EXACTLY what I've been going through. The smear campaign has been and is relentless. She continues to accuse without any basis via the court app. I have documented everything. MT children have and continue to suffer. This has been going on in the discard phase for 8 months. The smear campaign went on for years, to include parental alienation and the most heinous accusations.
Shut them down if you have mutual friends be prepared that you will be smeared so be prepared to drop them as well
The abuser is the narcissistist, don't be fooled by that,the dynamic suggests that your the victim,do something about it.If your against them,do not agree to any agreement,take the credit for their demise.Accuse you of something you didn't do,manipulated by lies and slander,if they do this,be aware of it,to avoid any complications.You don't deserve to be treated like that,people will misjudge you,because of a smear campaign.Believe that you could dismiss their efforts,be calm,and retaliate in kind.If it eventually ends in assault,claim self defence,make sure you keep any details about the incident, document any situation that affected you,defend yourself by writing about it🚩🆘💲✔️🏦
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I’m doing great I’ve made a lot of positive changes in my life. I really think watching your posts has allowed me to build on those issues self esteem, introspection , and self confidence.
SHUT THEM DOWN---many yrs ago in I was married to a possessed lady that would always sign TRO's against moi, first one she dropped it in a week, the 2nd one took 2 weeks in court she dropped it, 3rd she finalized it but dropped it a few weeks after, then signed a 4th against moi but I finally left her in AZ, then called me at my parents house a few yrs after that
"Shut them Down"!! Been there done that!
My mental health case worker is ironically doing this to me. But all I have access to on Medicaid is CBT which has been nothing but invalidating to me. I have no way to get money for anything better having an undiagnosed chronic and debilitating illness. I can't find a physician that won't be dismissive and gaslight me because I'm poor and can't dress nice.
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I am so betrayed.
Been needing to hear this video for the longest time
Thank you!!! I wish I had help years ago.
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FYI there is an app for text messages that print off the date time and person it went to beside their phone number, this makes them admissible in court as you are able to tell their legitimacy.
Mine would often rage in public but it was usually when we were on a family outing and everyone was enjoying themselves, we would be laughing and just having fun, out of the blue(it would seem) the abuse would start by him making a spectacle out of me in my face raging. I would be in shock because I had no idea what was going on. I truly believe it was a way to shift me back into emotions of making him happy rather then enjoying myself. It has something to do with the fact they can't enjoy themselves when they aren't the center of attention.
we must shut them down!
Where is the video about what to do about a smear campaign against you? Thank you for all of the information that you share.
Prior to this video, I hadn't considered that he might bring a fly monkey to my house to witness any reaction to his coming here despite my repeatedly telling him to stop coming here. Thank you for the heads up about narcs setting up a scenario where they try to trigger an emotional response. It serves as an important reminder to be vigilant about that. Since he has gotten zero contact from me, that may just be his next move!
I’m in the healing process.
I enjoy the videos and the information i very much appreciated! When a covert narc goes silent when parallel-parenting, what does that mean? Especially after the harassment and arguing. I'm paranoid and confused all at once.
I discovered that my husband had planned meetings with his ex at the supermarket...I confront him about this. He wants to take a shower and says. Are you done or am i allowed to take a shower? He then tells his coworkers, friends and family how I dont allow him to shower?? Just 1 example of many many many. Completely out of context, now everyone he know, actually thinks I dont let him take a shower!!!!!
mine does the same!!! will start an argument , behave badly then I am the one chasing around the house to finish the conversation, and she won't leave me in peace !!!OMG!
I definitely leave him in peace anymore. I've come to realize he loves the chase, its what hes after. It makes him twitch when i cant be bothered. I could care less anymore who he meets anywhere. I now just look at it like, better them them then me. Makes his head spin. He creates a lot of drama because it makes him feel wanted, that disgusts me. Its had the opposite effect because I dont want him at all now. Juice isnt worth the squeeze
He has freaked me out so bad I’ve peed my pants and freeze and can’t get the proof I need. He knows that I am terrified
Why are they so sick in the 🧠😩😩😩😩I’m sick of this abuse and how much I care for these stupid Narcs ‼️It’s like they want me to hate them…🙄😒
The discard phase, is this just the discard? I got trapped by a covert narc and i became to realise that he needed a villain in his life. He had to have someone to blame for what is wrong in his life.
To me the put downs and the insults are a form of supply to him in that he needed to be putting someone down to make himself feel better. When he ever started this behaviour I was always in a position to show him the door and i realise now I should have. But then I fell seriously ill and the abuse and neglect ramped up.
I wasn't really aware of what was going on because hes a covert narc but he managed to claim I was abusing him because I wanted out and eas trapped. I started shouting but by that time hed already turned my son against me.
Shut them down❗ lol. That's hilarious about screaming, shouting and saying things like don't hit me etc. So true. That's what they do. Crackheads. Yes, they certainly do lie in court.
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Why do courts even give a rip? It’s about splitting the assets
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Thank you.
Joyce DeMonbrun,You look cute,Hope you are not with a narcissist....
I was I am no longer! Then when I see a post that say’s: “hi you’re cute…” I see another one .
@@joycedemonbrun You deserve better.I will be glad to know you.I am Oscar Williamson from Swansboro,NC.You?
@@joycedemonbrun Which country are you from?
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I haven’t had the energy to keep record all the time 😥
Shut them down! I’m in a dangerous situation
Omg!! Rebecca Everything what you saying I feel like you talking about my so cold partner!!!!😢
Small claims court. Math doesn't lie and facts are facts.
They are so punitive OMG! It's so annoying how tit for tat stupid they actually are. So oversensitive ... the tiniest 'surprise' rattles them into giving them the licence to comeback with amps way up higher to gaslight...dominate you. It's truly exhausting. I refuse to do any eggshell walking around them anymore. I wanna shut them down with my ignorance. See who's getting tired of the mindgames.
This cat is so sneaky that he gets away with everything!
I filed, my soon to be x started doing this on trips and in public, especially at hotels and I told her I would never take her to these nice places ever again and I never did. It was child like. She would try to turn it around like I was the problem and no.. out of the blue if I struck a nurse or triggered her she would just go berserk and get louder. I would ask what are you doing, why are you getting so loud. I walked out and almost left her there at a couple times.
Shut them down.... certainly.... because they fear....
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I’m sooooo going through all this 🤦🏻♀️
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Shut them down
My soon-to-be ex husband acted friendly, but he doesn’t follow through. He said “I give you x amount” of something, but then he transferred a lot less or didn’t hand it over at all. He tried to ignore even agreements we made with both our lawyers present. It is a wild ride and I can’t wait for this to be over!
All of this. And more.
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Shut them down!
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shut them down
Shut them down! Enough of the fake drama.
I’ve already fallen for that and pay attention better so I don’t react again as I don’t doubt I’m being recorded.
Shut them down!
I've been in a marriage for 37 years with a narcissist, his whole family was a litter of narcissistic abuse, I've raised my son with this sadistic family, he's a horrible human, and I as an empath, so I have my strings pulled daily, it's a constant love bomb, devalue, now we are in the discard phase, it's very disturbing, I'm terrified of getting out of this marriage..I have been taking care of our home, property and I hold this place together, he runs his own business out of the home that I stood by him for 30 years when he asked me if I would support him in this business, of course I did, now he is hiding money for his own benefit. I haven't worked in years, now I feel stuck..I'm so lost, but hanging in there, I'm a strong woman, and I'm reading and listening to self help podcast like yours, and I thank you for all the knowledge you have provided..Someday I will break away from all of this emotional abuse and find happiness, balance, harmony, and a chance for peace!! Thanks again❤️🙏
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I'm sorry but the long drawn out exaggerated speech distracts from the content. Off the bat I heard my mother by default's mantra, "you're for me or against me". Is there a way to speed up the speech on my end?
They’re always disregulated. They cal me the crazy one. Etc. nothing makes them happy. I have email but no more texts. I was at work and felt the emotional whirlwind start. Like I got a punch in my stomach. I knew I shouldn’t have responded to her texting. She was looking for supply. Then I was miserable at work . I set boundaries that she basically laughed at to get what she needed.
Yes yes yes!!! He sent his 8 year old daughter to get his knife and told me he was going to cut my throat. Walked right up to me and grabbed my hand, bent it back…..my response shut him down I told him “you better bend it back farther so I can make sure you go to jail” he immediately let go and called the cops. A week later I was served with a protection order
Happen to me with the 🚔.
I let the dogs in at 600am in the morning from dog room.
Apoplectic scream that came and verbal abuse. You wouldn't speak to an enemy with disdain.
Anyhow what happened is, was I poured my coffee on my side of the bed and smashed coffee cup on my side. I said , no one in this world needs to be spoken to in that way I never want to sleep in this bed again with you
My eldest daughter came in to comfort the narcissist ( victim).
I went into the lounge and to reflect in why I had.
Heard them both whispering ,heard her say to my daughter call the police.
She told me to leave but I stayed. Police arrived I told them what had happened. Nothing came about it but was documented by the police.
Later on after the divorce had care of my youngest daughter. She rocked up when I was at work and took my daughter without my consent. She narcissistic woman has no boundaries at all, apparently she is above the law.
My daughter married one of these monsters. My daughter inherited a house shortly after. He has targeted me, as the person in her life that saw him for what he was minute one that I met him. He has been lovw bombing for 5 years and has held her hostage in her own home, takes her car 12 hours a day and uses every childhood negativity as his leverage. He fabricates complete lies about me and they are believed. she has lost any ambition in her life and become histrionic with me 0 to 60. It's absolutely tragic. they are selling the house and I'm sure he's being sweet as pie until that money is gone. wish there was something I could do, but he has demonized me, projected his behaviour on me and I've lost any and all respect. He will destroy her entire life if she doesnt wake up. she's got 30 days and again, he'll be on his best behavior.
thank u 🙏🏼♥️
The narcissist is my mom. When she didn’t have me anymore to manipulate and accuse she started with her upstairs neighbor. She called the cops on her because she left the front door open.
Anytime I went to visit her she’d be talking about her and how she vacuum to make noise so she can’t sleep. She has friends that she’d start talking about to me. My brother is worse than her. On Christmas Day I was eating at the table he talks over me accusing me. Then finally said he hates me and never wants to see me again. He said I was gonna stab my nephew. I moved to Tampa Florida. He told my cousins all this stuff. Crazy drama. I’ve been on medication and went to therapy for years. This week my mom started texting me some drama. I now blocked her texts. I need to heal. I need space.
Shut them down
Please!!
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Shut them down. I can do this.
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Shut Them Down 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
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shut them down... does it have to last forever?
Really helpful
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he followed me on facebook undeR alias. he had a neighbor do the same but I blocked them. i left the state and left him the house. trailer etc. he and his girlfrriend had cleaned alot of the furniture out of the house while I was in the hospital. my hip surgery wouldn't allow me to walk for six months. he left when I came home...he gave her alot of my clothes....all of my memorablia
shut them Up and Down ! 🤔?
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Hi Rebecca I need your help
SHUT. THEM. DOWN.
Shut 'em down!
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Shut them down.
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Soon 2 be ex sends his lackeys / monkeys to casino I work ; monitor me ( in & out times ) he takes data ( in his yellow folder ) which days I did not go to work etc 🤢🤮. He wants to be out of the marriage & still controls / asks my whereabouts via his gofers ! H. Resources has all data , now they monitor him . Hope they will ban him from entering my work place for good 🙏
I had to start recording my husband because he is so good at blame shifting and playing the victim. I have an app on my phone that records for 12 hours straight before it cuts off so if anyone listens to it, I can prove that he wasn't baited into an argument, because things will seem normal for so long before he starts gaslighting and flipping out when I don't take the bait.I'm the only one that has listened to the recordings and it would be very clear to any sane person that he is the one that's batshit crazy. People would be shocked to find out that does and is everything he has acused me of.
On the I phones my ex showed me you can change the time and date stamp. Wayched her do it
Verbal agreements mean nothing to these predators
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Being calm doesn’t mean you’re not being aggressive. It just means you don’t look like the aggressor
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It's tough when they use kids to do there dirty work and even worse when ss or cps see this and do nothing
So true
SHUT THEM DOWN BECAUSE YOU CAN ... JUST BELIEVE! And something great is going to happen to you today ( :
SHUT THEM DOWN!
They like to start arguments in front of their flying monkeys 🐒.
"shut them down "
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Theres no truth in them
I could have used this video a few months ago 😥