This Makes Him Think: "I Hope I Don't Lose Her"
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The solution is to re establish now
God so true about sleeping together without knowing jack about each other. I used to have a shirt that said "I know Jack"
I am a little bit aggressive, but I am also understanding too of their feelings
1. Always say 'Thank you' of his effort or 'I appreciate you'
2. Find out love languages
3. Fight fair, not win-lose
4. Show a man, respect by asking advice
Thank you for posting...
Thank you for summarizing because he was hard to follow
@@seekingenlightenment2026 I find him easy to follow, though it's understandable and okay if your experience was different. :)
When someone doesn’t love you, even you do everything in the list perfectly he won’t care.
Very true
There's a whole generation of boys who watched to much little rascals and joined the he man women haters club and stayed in the club when they became grown men. They are out there spot them early and save yourself a lot of time and misery.
And that's when you run the other way as fast as possible.
Honestly, when the REAL LOVE passes into your life, it's like WTF am I ready for this jewel. It's kind of scary and surreal, no matter what your age.... hopefully we can give as much love back as we get.
I appreciate you saying dating nowadays is a sh*t show. I found myself dating again after 25 years of relationships and I've just been aghast at modern dating! I thought maybe there was something wrong with me, wanting a no games partnership 😂 and dating wasn't working out the was all the so called experts said it ought. So when I started watching your videos and you've confirmed it's a sh*t show I was so relieved!!
Thanks for sharing!!
Isn’t that the truth?!! I recently came back in the game. After fasting from any relationships, After divorce, death of husband, bad relationships, etc. Yes. I can’t believe the dysfunction: The facades, the confusion, the acceptance of mindsets unlike my own, lack of values, it’s mind boggling! Strangers? Wow. Knowing more about a particular person that I am interested in: absolutely!!! And necessary. 👆🏽
@@hilo5901 The three dates rule, that a guy expects sex after the third date, is the PITS. I refuse to allow anyone to bulldoze me into bed. Not happening, I'd rather go without sex than do it because he expects it! That's just crazy as hell.
@@LisaGemini exactly. I agree totally. What makes them think they are ‘entitled’ to a woman’s body? I don’t get it…🤔
Sophie, don't feel bad. I'm 62 and still hoping to find my first husband!!
I feel blessed, I'm in an amazing relationship with a man I've known for 2 1/2 years, where I worked as a waitress, before we ever went out . He had asked me out 2 times during those 2 plus years, where I had had said I'm not in a good place to be dating. He told me later, he planned on asking me out one more time.. it s so good to feel his admiration to me, he always ❤ makes me feel special and yes my needs are important to him ❤. He's attentive, always has plans for us each week, calls me every day, and I can feel her appreciated me, as I do him. Finally it been a long time I've found such a wonder love.
I'm happy for you! It's so hard to find a good man these days. Hope you two are together for a long time to come! 🥰♥️
Jonathon, I love your authenticity and frankness. God bless you for being the kind of man that all women need in this world. Your advice, charisma and guidance is SO necessary to us all. I salute you. (Listening and watching from Toronto)
I'm giving up on dating and focusing on loving myself. There, I said it! I'm fed up with advice that says I have to twist myself like a pretzel to make a guy happy. I'm gonna make ME happy! It was so much easier thirty or even twenty years ago. Before smartphones, social media and dating sites.
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Some people are just not relationship compatible...
I can definitely relate to you Lisa Cunningham! I too have pretty much quit, too complicated now days, I miss the days you could find someone face to face instead of iphones or computers and call that "dating."
Absolutely. I love everything about me, I give myself everything I need and I never let me down :D
You don't have to twist yourself like a pretzel.
I been alone for many years...
I needed to heal....
I prayed a whole lot...
I tried to put out an energy, that says, I am lovable... I will 💘 love....
Didn't do any twisting...also didn't mind if I was alone...
My best friend still found me....
He exceeds any dream....
He is an answer to all my prayers....
He is my best friend! And God sent him...
Trust in the Lord!
My fiance has been working from home since covid hit and I'm working outside the house all day and also have physical issues that sometimes prevent me from being able to do anything. He always has dinner ready for me or is making it when I get home. All that is great but it's even more sweet to be with someone who looks at me as his equal not someone who is less than him because of my life struggles
@@judeihim2779 already have the perfect match
Jonathan the T-shirt is hysterical 🤣
Gottman covers trust in his books.
I had a postcard on my mirror as a teen that read. Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.
Many men won’t do the love language test.
The sarcasm of your shirt makes me smile.
I’m dating intentionally with an attitude of gratitude.
I am a big believer in establishing strong ,clear and honest communication . If you have to present a person your not to someone; I think at some point you won't be happy because you aren't true to yourself.
You'll know it's all done to try to keep the partner happy. You'll know you aren't accepted for who YOU are.
And that's disheartening.
I'd rather risk loss to find and gain something true and real .
My man and I had the deepest most intimate conversation yesterday that I’ve ever had with any man/partner. You’re right- I don’t want to lose him and he doesn’t want to lose me.
Happy to hear...
Thank you. I miss when each other’s feelings matter to each other. As a person, regardless if it’s a man or woman, I say to friends and family I appreciate you. I make people smile and it makes me happy too I smile.
Exactly
When you’re trying to refrain yourself from cursing, that’s soooo cute 💝 don’t know if it will last but definitely deserves my thumb up for the tremendous effort 👍🏻Thank you so much 😻
Right?! lol
Everything you say I have already conquered myself by all my hurts and trials and strife! This is amazing because I am already there and without the books! I love myself and understand all! Yes I agree with you on everything! When you speak on your videos it’s like I know what you are going to say and I can finish your sentences of what you speak!! Yes yes yes I’m there!!! I am a success! The problem is finding a great man who I can show him my worth, value, respect, honor etc! I am that lady I will always show respect always turn on his hero instincts by asking him for help, I do speak with kindness when upset, I can let someone know how I feel in a nice respectful manner! You know the answer to this is like you said, self love, self respect, self honor, etc!!! You give it to your man and there is a two way road! I appreciate you John so much and I love your videos!! I talk the way you do when I talk to others!! It’s amazing!! Love you and appreciate you my friend!!🥰
Thanks for this video. Dating nowadays is a mess and the pandemic made it worse. As a woman, I feel many men are passive and have no idea that they want from a relationship. I see the same men for YEARS on dating apps because are looking for MS. PERFECT, and they don't do any work to heal past relationships.. To be radically honest, more women have to conform to a man's life (move into his home if they want to get married or be committed forever). If I love someone, I will conform to his life (because I want to not because HE TOLD ME TO DO SO). I also feel there are more single women than men. Men have more options and will purse the women who will conform to their life.
On some level, hasn't it always been that way?
@@JonathonAslay Yes and again there are more single women in the world so we really have to be more open to conform than a man. I love your advice and channel, Jonathon, but still believe it is a man's world in dating.
They pursue 1 who will CONFORM✓
Because more women are desperate for relationships (and a family) than men are usually. It's from growing up playing house and having baby dolls.
@@kimgordon3695 As long as hes fully providing for me and protecting me, why not?
Thank you, Coach! Iced-in here, Austin area. Catching up on your teachings! I am sharing it with the men I date. You're reaching men and women, Sir! We Ruv Roo 🙏
I appreciate this more subdued style on this video. No shouting needed to get your point across. I didn’t cringe when you said “claim you” today. 😫Thanks Jonathan Your words are always wise
A real relationship takes time, patience , hard work and time. Thanks Jonathan you are so appreciated. Best Wishes, Marty Kozee Masden😉✌
I think you've really uncovered something very important when you cited communications problems in general as the reason most people find it difficult to attain and contentedly function in a relationship. Seems like both sides are so afraid of showing their vulnerability and worried how they will be perceived for it, that they don't communicate well at all! Which wrecks the entire relationship. So glad I watched this particular video. Also LOVE that t-shirt you're wearing. Especially the last half of the statement : )))))))))))))))))))))))
Did good Johnothon, love listening to you. Love has no room for fear. It was a soothing counsel, thank you for 🥰
Thank you Jonathon again,
I love and agree with every word you say the more that I am Leo as well.
I am 60 and I try again and again to find that friend,lover soulmate the way it should be.We all are more or less dysfuncional in our relationships as you said,so it is a process but I am learning,getting better and don’t give up.
Thank you 😊
Jonathan, thank you for being a part of my Sunday surf. I enjoy your videos. You are like a fun big brother in teddy bear form!!! Muah!
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Just wow!! I have to say I so much enjoy listening to you!! I’m in agreement with and feel everything you say. I completely relate. You’re so incredibly well connected with everything you say. Finally someone who gets it!! Thank you for your work!!
Awe... thank you 😊
I've done all the above in my relationships - good to know I get an "elephant stamp"😁 Thanks Jonathon
If one wins, both lose! 💯 operate and fight while staying on the same two person team.
Hi Jonathan. Thank you again for another enlightening propos. BTW, love the t-shirt, wishful thinking and all 😉.
I really like this part, learn a lot.Problem with receiving love…
Thank you
WOW, I’VE BEEN LISTENING TO YOU /DISCOVERED YOU COUPLE OF WEEKS AGO…and THIS particular you-tube episode I am noticing a definite change in YOU/your demeanor and delivery here ! you are calmer, and spelling out the “F” or other words, I think I like this version of you Better.
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He may be dating someone and is finally "satisfied."
I love seeing your channel grow! Cheers!
Thank you for great information. I am struggling in my relationship of 7 years. I appreciate your knowledge so much, for sharing your training skills.
I so needed this today . Thank you Jonathon .
Hi Jonathan 😁. First and foremost, I want to share that your “Jonathan From The Heart” videos on Sundays are my favorite videos to watch. They are so calming. I do like the majority of your content in your live shows during the week. However, sometimes they can be pretty passionate and high energy, after working in a high energy classroom with middle school students all day 😮💨😆. I still watch them anyway, because you are showing up as your authentic self, doing your best to captivate and express yourself in a way to make your truth, knowledge, and wisdom heard. That is very important in your expertise of profession.
I would also like you to know that you played a role in inspiring me to do a photo shoot with my brother’s cat. His name is Lil Nipsey, after a rapper that my brother likes to listen to(I’m not as much of a fan of rap as I used to be in my younger days, because I outgrew listening to the stereotypical and superficial messages that a majority of rappers use in their songs. I tend to listen to music that feeds my mind and soul for love(including self-love)and personal growth. Thank you for sticking through my long-winded side conversation.). Nipsey has a teddy bear that my brother uses to play with him, so that his arms and hands can have a break from playful biting and scratching(It appears as though my brother has a glutton for playful punishment 😆.). I decided to get some pictures of Nipsey getting a big bear hug. The bear doesn’t have a name, but I think that I dubbed him Yogi. Nipsey is smarter than the average bear. He is beautiful and hilarious in how he shows up and plays. I think that he is a mixture of Mainecoon(sp?), Tabby, and Ragdoll. He is a long-haired, beautiful beast, with giant paws. It is very entertaining to watch him use those paws, because he is far from dainty and agile, like most cats, and he is quick. It was so adorable when he wasn’t aware of his size, because he was afraid of the smallest of animals, and would run away. Within the last couple of weeks, he has come into his cat manhood, because he has brought my brother a couple of birds as present, maybe as symbol of his strength, or the fact that he perceives humans as bad hunters 😉😆. I got Nipsey for my brother as a birthday gift a couple of years ago, because the summer beforehand, my cousin’s rescue cat Shorty(short, for Too $hort), ended up getting cancer. My cousin wasn’t around to take care of him or make an executive decision to send him to “Kitty Heaven.” So, my brother felt that it was his duty to step up and make the decision. It took a huge emotional toll on my brother. My mom and I were there in support, both sobbing our eyes out. It also prepared him for what happened just a few days ago. My brother again, had to make a tough decision to send his own 16 year old Norwegian Mountain Cat, Flint, to “Kitty Heaven.” I figured that it would be helpful for him to have another companion ahead of time, to support and soften the situation.
I didn’t intend for this comment to go into such a sullen direction. Thank you for taking the time for my self-expression 🙏.
I plan on putting up Nipsey’s picture, as my profile picture, so that you can reap the benefits of your inspiration 🤩.
Aww that's such a sweet post it also made me laugh about a cat named after a rapper🤣🤣🤣.I love cats and the Norwegian forest/mountain cats are gorgeous as well as mainecoon ones.So sorry to hear about the cat's ill health.I enjoy your posts and admire you working in a school- great if not tough vocation.
Your personality is refreshing. Thanks for the insight. 😊
Loved this Video...thank you for sharing this important info and advice. I also appreciate the book recommendations...😘
Ty you so much for sharing and lessons, I love you Mr Aslay. Your lessons touch my heart, more successful in the future!! ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Jonathan for sharing that you react before thinking sometimes.
I'm human... 🤪😁🤗
I never understood to arguments and fighting in relationships. However I really appreciate what you said about coming from a point as a team. I do believe if 1 wins both lose. Very valid
Real trust is a place where If I'm not feeling good, you're not feeling good, if you're not feeling good, I'm not feeling good. In other words your needs matter to me and my needs matter to you. It's that space where the other person's need matter to you
Jon I have to hand it to you,you're one of the funniest people that I've ever come across; that includes people who are comedians for a living. I am someone who laughs a lot everyday but I have to say that since August last year,I've never laughed so much.You're absolutely barking mad and I mean that in the nicest possible way 🤣🤣🤣.It's even funny when you're trying so hard not to swear.You need to be on TV 📺 mate. It's a crime that Oprah has never had you on her couch.It cracked me up when you forgot your words and said 'hug a pet' and couldn't remember the rest🤣🤣😂
I need to listen to all your videos. Thank you for all your knowledge. 🙏 ❤️
Thanks for this insight Jonathan
Thank you, Jonathan for your extensive books resource list. Although there are many ‘self-help’ books - lots are out-dated and/or unrealistic. Even if one were not searching for an intimate relationship most of these books even help with understanding the self which is very valuable!
You're very welcome!
Wonderful Content~💖
Thank You for the Work you do Jonathon...
LOVE everything you teach !
I am a Leo and yes we need to know you care with your actions and words.. And you will get it all from us....when I say all yes All
You really put yourself into your presentations and I appreciate it. Keep doing a good job of letting people know there are alot of people who have a bad pasts and have built defenses so they don't get hurt. Not everyone comes from the same viewpoint. Take time and know who you are dealing with. Create a safe place of honesty and caring in your relationship. Life is hard enough without speaking the truth.
Appreciate one another...but agree to disagree.
Trust has nothing to do with fidelity; but commoradary (say ThankYou)💕
Thank you for adding value to my life oh great Leo, keep on roaring.😁🌞🐈
You are so welcome
Excellent content here in a concise video! 👍
Glad it helped!
Emotional intimacy takes time and experience so not sure how we can meet strangers yet be emotionally intimate. I don’t need to interrogate, I listen and observe
I’m a Leo too , Love your content..
A hug is so beautiful 😍
Very well said Jonathan 👌❤️stay cool and funny 😂
I think someone has to make a move,if they don’t I will. I know then it will either go or not.But I am also fine either way. I can either stick around or I can move on lol sorry people waste time when they know the man isn’t interested.and yet they persist. I don’t lol
Will keep that in mind, thanx coach
Everything fine with my relationship,, he is just overload with work, i must just be strong🙏✝️😊
We share oir appreciation for each other daily . . . Even after a disagreement . . . We share love languages, which is a plus 💖💖💖
Well said!
Love the shirt, Jonathon! 😂
Thanks
Beautifully stated..I agree .
Jonathon -YES!
He adores me and a Leo.❤
Hi Jonathon,just came out of quarantine Thursday, was dizzy for a couple of days after. Hope you are doing well
I love your coffee mug and Tshirt you’re so funny 😂 💕I love your videos great advice 🙏💕
Amen to mutual relationships!
You’re amazing!!
Your words are super and great advice esp. this video. Love you ❤
Elly
Glad it was helpful!
1. I'm a Leo I match my effort to your effort no effort on your part will get you no effort on my part.. Guaranteed!
2. If your love language is hit it and quit it I will shut you down in a New York minute!
3. If I'm attacked in a fight I will attack you back with everything I got!
4. I was raised that respect is earned if you don't give it to me, then you don't get it from me!
This Taurus agrees with you ..100% I could've written this!
@@jessieb781
The last relationship I had was with a Taurus worst relationship I've ever had. Next time I'm going for another Gemini
Dating sites are like, standing amongst all the other cattle at the stockyards, and hoping you get the highest bid.
Thank you Jonathan!
I heard on a psych video Once regarding people who frequently swear that it eludes to strength and resilience in their characters 🤷🏽♀️💪🏽♥️....defiantly explains why I swear like a sailor 😁
Love it...
Love it 🤭
I had an English professor tell me that in college
Thank you for your videos. I do have someone that doesn't want to loose me, but his actions are showing different. Meaning his actions/how he talks towards others shows me a different side of him that is less attractive. I'm about to have a talk with him, with what I've noticed & what I need in my life & my standards. It will be done with his feelings in consideration, but a little bit of tough love added (as there is some other things that needs to be addressed) if he wants to see this continue.
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ThankYou for this. Keep us posted 💕
Hahaaaa🤣🤣 another great tshirt! You’re awesome Jonathan. My fave RUclips vids. Cheers xx
A romantic relationship is between TWO. It takes the efforts from both. Love yourself enough to level UP and accept nothing else. 💪 ♥️
Great show! Communication in a honesty nice way luv that. I like your mug!!! Cute no swearing! Dont like shirt saying. Lol 💘😊
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Haha I remember the ‘be a good wifey’ readings they cracked me up then and still now haha♥️😂
My coffee mug says… ‘ let the s**t go’ haha and why can’t people get to know someone before they ‘bonk’? 🤷♀️ trust is at a heart level. If I want to cook a nice meal for my man when he can sit and eat together when he comes home then I will, but it is nice for him to do that too. Both ways. Anyhow I have said enough.. I do motivational speaking so I have to learn to ‘shut up’ lmao bye for now sunshine ☀️ ♥️🌈
Setting the reminder 😃
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Very nice video something I never considered..
Thanks...
Hey Jon another fine video- great content 👌🏾.I will be saving this and also passing onto my chum who has just started dating someone.
I find you trying not to swear hilarious. It's always funny when you do swear as it's the juxtaposition of this erudite man with a great command of English cursing like a sailor/Stevedor 😂😂😂.I like the nice touch of the seagulls squawking in the background -perfection 👌🏾.I'd love to have a couple of pints of beer 🍺 with you in an English pub- what a laugh that would be.I'd be drinking lady pints i.e 1/2 pints 😋😋.Keep up the good work- never change!
Thank you 😊
Jonathon
I’ve met a guy who is everything a woman coukd wish for.
It’s like “in to
Me you see” as you say. He is open, vulnerable, loving, wants to protect me, thinks the world of me and only after a few dates it feels so comfortable. He isn’t pushing for sex but kisses me a lot. He RESPECTS me. He even said, he thinks I’m the one!!
I am hesitant as I don’t want to build my hopes up. Both of us lost our partner after 37yrs of a good marriage…… and it feels so right. He says I hope I don’t lose you. I’m falling for you!
I get a little scared he is so happy and loving.
He says I hope you don’t let me down.😳
I said let’s go slow and he said yes forever together. This guy is someone so special. ❤️
Can this be true??? He is a Leo.
Great video, love it!!! You have swore on weekends. Remember the scooby Doo virgo. You said Fuc$. Lol. I love your content 👏 bravo.
Ive got to hand it to you Jonathon, I can see youre sincere and also Finally I see that the man ive always wanted to meet, ( I was told this man, who thinks like me, does NOT exist, my own boss told me this, He told me that NO man thought like I did, when i expressed what he'd asked,,,, hmmmm He WAs being sincere, for the person he was,,,,,,,,,,, hihihi he was a nice man and no he didnt make a move on me, but I responded to this, that If I exist and think like this, then somewhere out there, there is one man at least who thinks like me,,,, ) so Finally I see one so congrats! cos Ive Finally seen one of these rare strange beings that "dont exist", like some kind of unicorn, hahaha but it Does and This alone gives me Hope, so Thank You for this and for being you and having the guts to put your emotions and feelings out there, cos youre absolutely right,,, 99% want what they want but, are so scared of being burnt( again, most likely) that they mess up,,, ,,, ive often noticed that ppl are thier own worst enemies cos their fears dominate thier actions,, " Fear is the fruit of a Negative, over-reactive imagination" ps, i went to french and english school but still make mistakes in language and expressing myself, uffff hahhaha and forgive my lack of typing skills never was my forte,,, but i love the way you think because I think the exact same way so its Nice to know there's Another human being of opposite sex that does actually think as I do,,, to me, if theres no friendship, no give n take,, Deal Breaker,,,, thats the quickest way to figure out for me if the Other is working with me as a team or is working as 1. like they say theres no "I " in Team,,,,, love your thoughts, keep it up,, be blessed!
L💙VE that tshirt!
Hello Jonathon!
"Witio!" Yes! I gained wit today with you. His love language is acts of service. He told me and I had figured it out. He read the book.! Mine is sharing, attention and touch. He works 12 hrs shifts x 6 days a week. How can I speak His love language back to him or does he receive it in another language ????
Sooooo this . . . I was in several Patriarchal RelationShits and hated the domimance, arrogance, lack of respect and one sided control.
Relationships are most definitely based on common values, emotional maturity, & frequent communication 💖💖💖 So grateful for my partner.
Exactly!!!
Great video! Is it good to tell my boyfriend that I want him in my life for as long as he will have me? How can I word this so he won’t feel I’m putting any expectations on him? Circumstances in my life are challenging me right now (caregiving for elderly parents) so felt more tired lately, however, I want him to know he is still very important in my life. Your input is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Thank you 😊 🤗🤗
BTW, love the shirt! Where can I get one😂🤣😂🤣BIG HUGG❤️
Yes,😄I can. The demonstration looks like how a 1-way street goes... . But i don't want to and i choose to not tell you at all how to do your thing.
Hi Jonathan I am Gale Meyer from Grasston, Minnesota.
Not used to this calm Jon
Boundaries
Partnership
Conflict resolution through communication
Building intimacy
Intentional dating
How to get to know a person deeply, forming intimacy by asking better question, listening and observing.
Do not jump in bed to quick
Build on trust
Caring about each others needs
Reciprocal
Appreciation for effort
^^^ acknowledge effort
Know Love language
Mutual appreciation for one another.
To appreciate life itself
What is their love language.
What makes them feel loved
Words of affirmation and adoration
Physical touch:
Nurturing affection
Human touch
Hugs, pat on the back.
Touching of the arm or face.
Holding hands
Quality time:
Create time for the relationship
Acts of service:
What can you do for them or they you.
Gifts:
Give small gifts they like and enjoy.
Building Connection
Bonding
Shared experiences
When fighting
Come from the point of being on the same team.
What would be best for both.
Not a win or loose position.
Learning how to communicate your boundries and standards in a way that is seen heard and understood.
How to communicate and express yourself in a healthy way is so important when there is conflict. Fight fare.
Compromise to were everyone wins.
Show consideration and ask advise.
Empower each other.
nice 👕 my fav color 😍 and the saying written on your 👕
Mine too!
But it takes two cooperating people unfortunately to have a healthy, happy relationship so what do I do now??! 😟 It's rather frustrating.
You make me 😥 because I don't think I'll ever find someone as matured, loving, caring and responsible like that. Even my older cousin, she's almost in her 50's and still rather immature! If she's immature and she's a woman, what now??! Lol.
I understand
Nice One
Thanks for watching
I always say thank you every time he did something for me even a small things. But he never cared or acknowledged anything I did for him. What do you say about that?
How does one heal from emotional dysfunction in order to be healthy in relationships Jonathan?
I decided to let it go after years of trying to figure out the relationship
the J.A. 2-lane-street demo is a complete mindscrew
Can you elaborate?
I must not be valuable because every man I've ever dated except a couple of them had no issue with losing me especially the last one almost three years together and when I said I'm leaving he was so unconcerned he didn't even reply