Try Jesus.. Don't try ME?? | Conflict Resolution, Setting Boundaries, People Pleasing.. Ep 4
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Why is “that’s good because…” my favorite thing ever 😭😂🤣
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God woke me from my sleep saying "If you read my Word I will make you perfect." That proposal was not just for me so I love that she mentioned that He told her to read more. It's time for us to get consistent yall. He's coming back to a bride that is prepared
Jess, your husband is very wise and I am so glad that God is allowing you too to grow in grace together. Definitely incorporate more Bible study together. It strengthens you both and definitely the marriage. I still live with my parents since Im not married and my son, and we have Bible study together throughout the week and I have Bible study with my son every morning (he's 11) Mon-Fri. It helps with dealing with offenses and really letting God's joy, peace, rest and love be your strength through His word, prayer, and worship. It really is all about the fear of the Lord. Just reverencing Him in every aspect of our lives. You guys are beautiful people in the Lord. Just continue walking with Him and you will continue to grow in Him. Just remember, we will always be persecuted for His name sake. We still have to walk in love and trust me, that can be HARD!! BUT.......as Jonathan says, just pattern after Jesus. Sorry so long 😢. Love you guys!!!! More blessings for you both!!!
Thanks for the advice, we’ll definitely try to implement!
What a time to watch this as I'm upset at my husband and in the spirit of pride I chose not to talk about how he hurt me, but now I feel convicted 😒 I'll have to talk to him now pray for me
Look at God working girl! 😂
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Jess: Your finger in my face watch out
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I can relate to Jess in terms of growing up in a home or environment where people didn’t take my words to heart so I’ll spit anything out to my past relationships without thinking of the consequences because forgiveness was so freely given to me in the past.
I hate when people say try Jesus don't try me. Not sure why but I find it to be offensive. I love this podcast. Keep them coming.
Whew, “do you feel turning the other cheek sometimes is offering up yourself to be hurt over & over again” honestly, sometimes I definitely feel this way! I’ve been learning to create boundaries though for the past year.
My husband and I just had Bible study the other day and we discussed the power of a woman’s tongue and how it can have a negative impact for generations after.
We were referencing Rebekah in genesis and how her jealousy made her persuade Jacob her son to deceive his own father to take Esau his brothers birth right. But then that decision led to Jacob being deceived later on his quest to find a wife and having to work for the 14 years instead of 7 because he really wanted Leah as a wife because she was prettier than Rachel.
I think sometimes we forget how our words have power but also consequences to people around us as well. ❤
This was a great pod episode. Thank you for covering this topic! New subscriber here too!
Blue Letter Bible helps me a lot. Sometimes it's hard for me, as a millennial, to tell when the Bible should be taken literally or when it's a colloquialism or metaphor. It's amazing that we live in a day and time where resources are just at our fingertips. Thanks for being so open about your studies and your faith ❤
God tells us to turn the other cheek as to be patient and long suffering. I struggle with that because I will fight. Then God drops this nugget on me, love your enemies, because WE are His enemies, yet He loves us.
27:00 got me. Sometimes, it's hard. But I loved every minute of this podcast. ❤
“I’m not turning no other cheek” 😂 took me out because I was definitely saying the same thing 😂
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I pray to God for forgiveness of saying things that were hurtful to people years ago. My tongue could be a knife, I had no filters, said what I had on my mind and walk away leaving the person shocked. Now I really wish I had never said those things, how could I have said that? I’ve even thought about apologizing on Facebook to everyone I hurt with my words. As you get older , I’m 70 your mature fan👋🏾 you think about it and have regrets. I’m glad that you recognize that you are being unkind, the Holy Spirit is a wonderful person to know🥰. Let’s continue to pray for each other to be careful with our words.
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this was such a good topic. I agree that our culture and society almost boastful about being petty and toxic. I feel like the reason we may have the propensity to retaliate rather than respond with kindness is we want people to respect us enough to not "try us". A lot of times, being forgiving can almost serve as an invitation for people to treat you any kind of way, and no one wants to be the push over, so they react in a way that will protect them from that.
It's funny that I try to think about the real issue when something happens. When I know that I want to react a certain way (not Christ-like) I always remember that it is satan that is trying me. And for that reason I try not to reciprocate the energy, because I know that is what satan is looking for. So yes I also use the pause button in these situations and remember that we don't wrestle against flesh and blood
Cause for pause! I have to or else the wrong side of me will take center stage 😭
@@OnlyOneJess the battle between old me and new me is real😂😂😂 Good thing God understands us like no other🙌❤️
Great topic. People will use these types of verses to manipulate others so clarity is great. There are Bible verses that teach how to deal with conflict so if Jesus expected us to just continue to turn the other cheek and allow people to slap us then He wouldn't have given the tools to deal with conflict. I agree with Jess it is a metaphor and there needs to be a balance/resolution.
Really been enjoying the podcast.And praying for strength and comfort for the loss of your family. Sorry for your loss ❤🙏🏾
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….. and now were us 😃
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Yall that was a good word!! When you talked about not saying everything that comes to mind and being willing to put in the extra work to be kind bc its not always natural or easy
I live to see Jonathan's little touches of support or affection towards you Jess 11:46
ahhh thank youu, he fills my physical touch love tank all the way up!
I just love this podcast. Great job you guys.Jonathan is very good teacher.
Glad you enjoy it!
Re the striking n turning the other cheek I like how Jesus’ response in John 18:28 ““If I said something wrong,” Jesus replied, “testify as to what is wrong. But if I spoke the truth, why did you strike me?””
John 18:23 NIV
Also it's not about walk away. Overall you should always protect t yourself. So no matter what situation or experience that happens to use your judgment on how you should react. Because that's like someone attack you and you do nothing back. You should defend and protect yourself. As much as church says that if something happened to either of you definitely your parents will react and defend you accordingly.
Absolutely! The Bible does not call us to be doormats either so we must act accordingly lol
This was such a goooooooood episode ❤ each time I tune in, y’all have me stretching to think more, do better and stay in my word 🗣️✅💯 Thank y’all 🙏🏾
ps. That “Jesus flipped a table” line? When I say I was CONVICTED 😂
lol God is good that way 😂
I look forward to the weekly podcast , yayyayay. This was amazing!!!
Love this. Haven't read my bible in a while and just like Jess said, i know i need to start studying more.
It really comes down to your belief of what truly happened at salvation. The scripture says that those who were saved and filled with the Holy Spirit, we are new creatures and Christ now lives in us. So now knowing that Christ lives within me, I choose to live just as He did in order to not defame His name. It’s no longer my life to live or defend, it’s His and He didn’t defend His own life so we shouldn’t defend ours. Also, our response as Christians should never look like the response of the world. The world could easily walk away from a situation where they are hurt, but they wouldn’t put themselves in the position to get hurt again. But Christ would. The world sees that as weak but it is actually power. Reading the Word has helped me to learn the actual power that we have as saints. Love you guys!
I can tell Jess grew up Jamaican cause the only thing we offering is a slap not no other cheek, if we don’t walk away.
Love this, very in depth & appreciated ❤❤
Listen, you guys are killing this🔥. Thanks for the shared wisdom, this is truly edifying. Keep them coming ❤.
I absolutely loved this podcast. I was taking notes. I hope you will do more like this. ❤
Gems are being dropped and I love it. Thanks Johnathan and Jess!
This video was right on time and just what I needed to be reminded of. Confirmation! Great podcast💛
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Thank you . I truly enjoy your new podcast. Keep up the great work 😊. Blessings
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Excellent topic! Thank you both!❤
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Whew! I really needed to hear this!!!
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This was so much fun!!
I agree that boundaries need to be set especially when it comes to disagreeing or arguing between people in long term or married relationships. After 30 years of marriage, we are still evolving forward with disagreements and how we communicate in those moments.
This conversation was absolutely great. I actually took away a nugget to use in my marriage. Thanks guys!!! 💙
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Another great podcast! Keep up the great work❤
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Mrs walls is a good storyteller, I saw the first episode on my for you page and I have been following since then, I have been blessed through this podcast and I hope to learn more ❤ Thanks to the you both
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Lol indeed this podcast has been a blessing because how is it that youre talking about what I've been going through on the same day ive experienced it 😂😂😂 but i enjoyed this topic ..... especially during the latter end with turning the other cheek sometimes people be saying some things and because u dont want the conflict you let it slide even tho u want to retaliate but then with that at some point you have to tell them what it is 😅 because everytime u let things slide they throw more punches and call it their truth and it never ends so sometimes yu definitely have to set a boundary or jus cut them off for ur peace of mind.❤
I love y’all so much! So much wisdom here and love how y’all are able to bounce questions off of each other and seeing how different the perspectives are but still flow together. I can see myself and my boyfriend in the two of you because he’s the calm one and I’m petty Betty 😂 but I’m MUCH better with that 😂
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I love the points that y’all made today-Responding is better than Reacting. I’m always working on this. Bravery and Courage to speak the truth in love when setting boundaries. Blessings to you both!
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Jess I use to have that toxic problem with arguing again stayed geared and ready for a good argument with words that were well put together to slice and dice until my husband bc like Jon my spouse wouldn't argue back he'd just get sad then I'd end up being the one to apologize when I was looking to get the apology 😂 so truth be told what initially started my change was not wanting to end up being the one who was wrong in the end and needed to apologize 😅lol but shortly after it came from a place of heart change and wanting to please God and no longer wanting to be the one who brought hurt to my partner ❤
Y'alls be doing the thing
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You guys pulled out the Bible for this one ….not an app , The actual book….. absolutely I LOVE IT 🥰 .. more more
This was such a good conversation!!! I was on my couch answering Jonathan’s questions too lol
lol thank you!! he had me thinkingggg
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I have been really enjoying this podcast, as a fresh young adult 😮💨 I find these conversations so helpful. Especially today's, I Believe the father was speaking to me through this episode. I need to work on my forgiveness and also setting boundaries! There are times where you should turn the other check, and also sometimes we pick and choose what we let hurt us and what we'll go off about. So this is truly helping me grow. Thanks yall, god bless!❤️🩹
God bless! Thanks for joining us on our journey!
I love the pause button. I need to use that within my marriage. We rarely argue but the time we do I can bring the old petty side out at time.
My pastor just preached on this last week!!! He broke it down so well. One church Gahanna. I would highly recommend
Great guys
This was a really good episode. I enjoyed it. Thanks for sharing with us❤
I was also reminded of the Bible verse..Ephesians 4:26-Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Thanks for sharing!!
Mannn I tell yuh this was podcast is all that and a bag of chips 😂 so many laughing moments but also hilarious 😂 “hi my name is Breta… hi my name is Jess”, and the part abt Jesus flipping over tables b/c it’s true. We gotta protect the temple now, both the physical and our actual bodies 😉. Man when you said Unc called you Darkie sigh but I love how you guys laughed abt it in the pod and then discussed the implications. Just fire content overall, keep up The great work in combos, both of you, your audience, appreciates your efforts and time and realness 👏
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Had a “fight” with the father of my child just yesterday and the balance between turning the other cheek and boundaries is a really tough one … sometimes you think you’re creating boundaries but you are “Eye for an Eyeing”
100%! That’s why we have God to guide us and others around who will encourage us to walk in love.
Omg “I said what I said” Jess: “nooo that’s Doja Cat” 😭😭😭😂😂😂
lol you can tell I’m not plugged in
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Haha definitely have heard ppl use the Jesus flipped over tables reference too many times before in my church circle😄
Jess your puff is sooooo cute and takes like 10 years from your actual age you look goodt sis
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“And now we’re us”😂😂😂
Johnathan is very spiritually awake 💯 Jesus demonstrates how we should respond back to evil, because I believe love is most powerful in every situation (it’s sounds so cringe 😭but it’s true)
yes he issssss, one of the many reasons i married him lol
Thank you I enjoyed myself !!!! 65 years old🐩
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Jonathan got the story right about Botham Jean. I went to the college that Botham graduated from, and his brother Brandt was there for a year while I was there.
I remember having a lot of internalized guilt and shame. There was a meditation book called 30 Days to Overcome Guilt by Harper Daniels that helped me let go.
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While I agree that it is not healthy to say everything that comes to your mind. To not take “the pause“ and rephrase what came to your mind, can possibly result in unresolved issues that will come up in future disagreements that have nothing to do with the previous disagreement. I agree finding resolution is the key, even if the paws last days two weeks two months. Couples must come back to put resolution and closure and understanding to move forward to not repeat the past this is something that me and my husband almost 15 years to learn.
Great insight, always come to resolution!
You two are correct. I am still a work in progress. But I do recall a few occasions in the past where I put the other person first and it turned completely around. Realizing the person is coming from a place of hurt and those situations either not feeding the negative energy by being quiet, I communicated feeling hurt rather than lashing back, clearing the intention behind my words/action... The situation was descalated and we talked and healed the matter. But I also feel that is a lot easier to do with someone who is willing and who is fairly healthy. But a toxic person...NOW THAT’S WHEN I NEED GOD’S HANDS TO BE ON ME CONTINUOUSLY. CONTINUOUSLY!!!
#Bestisyettocome #workinprogress #consistency
Not the thank you for paying my bills😂 lol ik that’s right sis
gotta tell em stop playing with me lol
Two minutes in and Jess is already in my head!! I had the same experience and immediately bought “The Bible in 52 Weeks” by Dr.Kimberly D. Moore. He’s been pressing my spirit for weeks now, it’s time 😅
Come on through consistency 😅
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My hubby can’t stand us kissing when I have on lip gloss. I love yall by the way. Also keep at it
Sticky lips are a no go 😂
the way 25:18 almost made me spit out my food 😂😂😂 that was so funny to me
jessica where did your lock necklace gooooo?
it broke long time ago lol
Completely off topic but gurl I need to see how you did that puff ponytail
She look so pretty, right?!
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Thank you, question do you ask God what topic you should talk about on the podcast? Do you pray before and after the podcast?
We do pray about our podcast and marriage often and I do feel like God had been giving us topics for sure.
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I agree with Jess more. She is wise.
Jonathan is referring to the Botham Jean case. Forgiveness
he was right about the case he was talking about but i was referring to a different one lol when the mother hugged her sons killer
Yes it’s two different cases.
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Hi!! thanks for joining us
This video timing is actually scary
God is good that way 😂
I just saw a video by the Bible project which explained this wonderfully. Basically back in the days the Romans slapped their subordinates with the back of the right hand against the right cheek. So Jesus asks that you turn the other cheek, so that the offender is forced to slap you with an open palm against the left cheek which was how you slapped an equal back then. So once the see you as an equal they will come to they realization that they need to treat you kindly
interestinggggg.. lol
Sometimes it is hard to be a christian.People can just get under your skin or do things to make you mad. Turn the other cheek helps when you ignore the behavior and say a prayer in your heart asking God to help you not to fall into sin. There are times you have to put people in their place but in a assertive way. Use the phrase: What would Jesus do? Or you said it best when you say nothing at all.
My husband is the same way he dislikes kissing me with lipgloss or lipstick.
Y’all should watch the most recent video from the Bible Project on turning the other cheek. It’s only 8 mins long. They’re doing a series on the sermon on the mount and you opening to this podcast reminded of that video. In the video it talks about why Jesus said turn the other cheek. It was bc back in that time they could backhand slap you with right hand to show dominance, but opened palm right hand against your left cheek forced them to treat you as an equal (human). The video does a better job, you should watch it!