I have been a victim of anxiety for a long time but it is beatable. My learnings - I was biased towards negativity. One bad thought is like a seed that can grow in the day. You can forget it then, bam, it is in your whole being. Positive thoughts have the same power. Dont think they dont! Even if you can't think of anything, throw out some seed bombs - happy, health, joy, hope, future. Even if you may not feel it, they are planting and growing in your soul like the negative ones. Death of negativity, by a thousand cuts. Don't give up people. We can retrain our brains
Thank you, this is another tool that is useful. I am 69 YO & have told myself these negative words all my life. I do have moments where I can reel myself back to positive thoughts but, negativity is the default position.
2:41 THINK Before speaking ask yourself is it True Helpful Inspiring Necessary Kind The original is inspired by Buddhist philosophy but does not include the H for helpful nor the I for inspire. Often referred to as the "three gateways" - True Necessary and Kind - through which one should pass before speaking. Apparently indications for "right or proper" speech in the Buddhist tradition actually include four or five portals. However this True/Necessary/Kind one is often quoted and easily resonates. Adding the "H" and the "I" enables the acronym. I appreciated the idea of applying this to myself ..not only in communciation with others! Thanks
I don't know how accurate this is, but I have a note on my office door - "If you proposed to speak, always ask yourself; Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?" -- The Buddha
When on my own I can pass very long periods of wallowing/romanticising over depressing thoughts. I'm 56 now and perhaps it has become an impulse thinking. The problem is that I seem to enjoy these miserable epic dreams/thoughts. Within them I just want them to continue and continue - and I don't want a positive thought to come in and spoil the party. These thoughts make for a horrible soulless way of living
Really great explanation - have used THINK before myself and with clients, but never thought about using it with respect to our own internal dialogue and of course this conversation we have with ourselves is so important. Thank you for the idea! :)
Thank you for this! The THINK acronym is really helpful for stopping the negative thoughts, even about simple things (while on a walk to the beach: look at all that garbage people leave!) that still become downers.
This was invented by Rishi Raman Maharshi. 100's, ....1000's of west people have made him mentor. Raman remain silent for 11 years in cave. He taught to stop your thoughts by asking. Who am i? what will be my next thought? Are my thought useful? where are my thoughts taking me?
I just decided that if there’s an afterlife, being Jewish I don’t believe there is, but if per chance I return and choose new parents, I’m going to see if you and Stefanie will raise me! I probably will regret sending this after sharing that thought here, but I’ve found humor to be helpful in my life oftentimes bringing lightness, brightness and laughter in the moment. Jokes aside! I actually loved this short video with the acronym THINK, for a few reasons. Your explanation was clear and concise. Unfortunately these days it doesn’t take much to make my head spin and my heart feel like it’s been hit by an arrow. I habitually judge myself harshly. I am guessing that combination alone can affect the brain and capacity to think clearly. So when I tell myself, I’m a mess and can’t do anything right. I tend to follow that thought with another thought to support the 1st one, kind of like a dog following a scent. I think that’s where I live a lot of the time. So it’s no wonder I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression a good part of my life.. Even when I’m feeling “fine” I think there is an undercurrent of stress that is always there, ready to be triggered by my thoughts. I would say even more so, than an actual event taking place giving rise with good reason for anxiety or causing one to feel depressed. But back to the acronym. After going over the exercise, for me I found a moment of levity as you first went to grab the actual piece of paper with the letter on it with your dog by you side. Suddenly I’m chuckling and smiling! The saying, where your attention goes, energy flows. Let’s hear it for levity! So in that moment, my attention went from the letter T thinking what a mess I am which immediately triggered sadness. But by asking myself is it a fact? I was able to transform my predictable answer to heck NO! I am not a mess! Clearly I have too much time on my hands and my comment was a long way of letting you know, that I personally found your presentation not just helpful but also entertaining! Thanks for sharing and caring.
I love this Ilene :). You know you're not alone with any of this and what a great example of processing. I hope many people get to read what you wrote here to see what it looks like to move through it all and come out the other end not only with insight, but with a bit of entertainment too ;).
Give your negatives thought to him ask him to heal the thought and send it back as a healed thought that you can let go pray for the people in the thought
How do I control my thoughts in school I sit with people and bunch of thoughts come in and my heart starts racing and rapid movement in my legs I think that if I look in a certain way they will think I’m weird I don’t know if that sounds good.
Elisha, Saw you in the video doing some house tasks. I am having trouble there. How do you address and find these things with your spouse? Brian in New Jersey
irrelevant. my mind simply goes from one negative thought to the next constantly. Every bad thing that’s ever happened to me every bad thing that is happening to me and every bad thing that could possibly happen to me… reliving all of the things other people did to me etc… if I try to think of puppies my mind searches for all the negative associations such as all the ones I saw ran over or watched die. There is nothing positive and peaceful that I can try to think of that my mind does not find the negative association
Hey Peter, no piece of instruction is for everyone. In other words, there's no one size fits all. However, the idea with anything you hear is to try it with a sense of curiosity and you might need to adjust as needed. If it's not supportive, leave it and play with something else.
Absolutely…it’s been called a lifesaver to many. Play with it and see what you notice, let your experience guide you… also knowing nothing is a panacea and while something may be a support to some, it may not be for others.
i know my comment was a bit rude but hopefully you understand that i'm coming from a place of real darkness hence i'm watching your video.. hopefully this will work and thanks for your kind comment!@@drelishagoldstein
I have been a victim of anxiety for a long time but it is beatable.
My learnings - I was biased towards negativity. One bad thought is like a seed that can grow in the day. You can forget it then, bam, it is in your whole being. Positive thoughts have the same power. Dont think they dont! Even if you can't think of anything, throw out some seed bombs - happy, health, joy, hope, future. Even if you may not feel it, they are planting and growing in your soul like the negative ones. Death of negativity, by a thousand cuts. Don't give up people. We can retrain our brains
I appreciate you
This was so helpful. I'm a yoga instructor and shared it with my students. So uplifting! Thank you!
I do a lot of projection, so becoming aware of that and snapping out of fantasy land helps
Are these kind thoughts? inspiring, focus on kindness, fierce kindness and patience, self-compassion, choice, energy we want, hope, joy, love Yes!
Thank you, this is another tool that is useful. I am 69 YO & have told myself these negative words all my life. I do have moments where I can reel myself back to positive thoughts but, negativity is the default position.
You are so welcome
2:41 THINK Before speaking ask yourself is it
True
Helpful
Inspiring
Necessary
Kind
The original is inspired by Buddhist philosophy but does not include the H for helpful nor the I for inspire. Often referred to as the "three gateways" - True Necessary and Kind - through which one should pass before speaking. Apparently indications for "right or proper" speech in the Buddhist tradition actually include four or five portals. However this True/Necessary/Kind one is often quoted and easily resonates. Adding the "H" and the "I" enables the acronym. I appreciated the idea of applying this to myself ..not only in communciation with others! Thanks
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I think my brain is wired as a pessimist even as a child, the negativity has caused a great deal of anxiety, panic attacks and depression
Thank you so much. I have a hard time with unwanted thoughts. I am so tired.those thought making me feel krazy
I don't know how accurate this is, but I have a note on my office door - "If you proposed to speak, always ask yourself; Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?" -- The Buddha
Elisha, Thank you for describing “THINK” in such colorful terms
I have a recipe box filled with Acronyms of Wisdom. I love it. Wonderful lesson!
This is absolutely Biblical. & it works!
thank you so much for the information, im experiencing bad thoughts 🥺and anxiety but thank you so muccchhh
When on my own I can pass very long periods of wallowing/romanticising over depressing thoughts.
I'm 56 now and perhaps it has become an impulse thinking.
The problem is that I seem to enjoy these miserable epic dreams/thoughts.
Within them I just want them to continue and continue - and I don't want a positive thought to come in and spoil the party.
These thoughts make for a horrible soulless way of living
Thanks for sharing your Professional experience with Us.
Thank you Elisha! This helps to deal with the pervasive thoughts about Omicron! Love THINK! Love your canine!
Thank you for this. Definitely will put this to practice.
You're so welcome!
A huge thank you for sharing your knowledge. Also thanks for introducing your furry family member 😀
Thank you Dr. Elisha, that WAS helpful.
Love the way you explain things!!
Thank you for this video. Very helpful.
You're very welcome!
It’s RUMI! And he wrote it about posting on the internet! Hahaha! Lots of great RUMI mindfulness poems and quotes.
Yes! Thank you!
You could do a whole video series with RUMI poems. Check him out!
I love this acronym! I use it daily T.H.I.N.K. Thank you!
Really great explanation - have used THINK before myself and with clients, but never thought about using it with respect to our own internal dialogue and of course this conversation we have with ourselves is so important. Thank you for the idea! :)
Yay - Glad it was supportivel! Feel free to share with clients if helpful :).
@@drelishagoldstein Already have this morning! Instantly useable :)
That's why practice ŵhat you preach.
Thank you very much.
Thank you for this! The THINK acronym is really helpful for stopping the negative thoughts, even about simple things (while on a walk to the beach: look at all that garbage people leave!) that still become downers.
Definitely helpful T and H!
I try to remind myself that negative thoughts (depression) are like the weather. Given the chance, they will change. (Borrowed from Pema Chodron)
love it!!
This was invented by Rishi Raman Maharshi. 100's, ....1000's of west people have made him mentor. Raman remain silent for 11 years in cave. He taught to stop your thoughts by asking. Who am i? what will be my next thought? Are my thought useful? where are my thoughts taking me?
I just decided that if there’s an afterlife, being Jewish I don’t believe there is, but if per chance I
return and choose new parents, I’m going to see if you and Stefanie will raise me!
I probably will regret sending this after sharing that thought here, but I’ve found humor to be helpful in my life oftentimes bringing lightness, brightness and laughter in the moment.
Jokes aside!
I actually loved this short video with the acronym THINK, for a few reasons.
Your explanation was clear and concise.
Unfortunately these days it doesn’t take much to make my head spin and my heart feel like it’s been hit by an arrow.
I habitually judge myself harshly. I am guessing that combination alone can affect the brain and capacity to think clearly.
So when I tell myself, I’m a mess and can’t do anything right. I tend to follow that thought with another thought to support the 1st one, kind of like a dog following a scent. I think that’s where I live a lot of the time. So it’s no wonder I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression a good part of my life..
Even when I’m feeling “fine” I think there is an undercurrent of stress that is always there, ready to be triggered by my thoughts. I would say even more so, than an actual event taking place giving rise with good reason for anxiety or causing one to feel depressed.
But back to the acronym. After going over the exercise, for me I found a moment of levity as you first went to grab the actual piece of paper with the letter on it with your dog by you side. Suddenly I’m chuckling and smiling! The saying, where your attention goes, energy flows. Let’s hear it for levity! So in that moment, my attention went from the letter T thinking what a mess I am which immediately triggered sadness. But by asking myself is it a fact? I was able to transform my predictable answer to heck NO! I am not a mess!
Clearly I have too much time on my hands and my comment was a long way of letting you know, that I personally found your presentation not just helpful but also entertaining!
Thanks for sharing and caring.
I love this Ilene :). You know you're not alone with any of this and what a great example of processing. I hope many people get to read what you wrote here to see what it looks like to move through it all and come out the other end not only with insight, but with a bit of entertainment too ;).
The Holy Spirit led me here! That’s all I can say.
Give your negatives thought to him ask him to heal the thought and send it back as a healed thought that you can let go pray for the people in the thought
How do I control my thoughts in school I sit with people and bunch of thoughts come in and my heart starts racing and rapid movement in my legs I think that if I look in a certain way they will think I’m weird I don’t know if that sounds good.
I would look to grounding practices ... look to my anxiety playlist on RUclips.
What happensn if its true but it happened years ago and you are afraid it will be brought up to people you dont want to know
Yes help me
what books do you recommend?
You can always start with Uncovering Happiness..
@@drelishagoldsteinany books for anxiety and negative thinking
Elisha, Saw you in the video doing some house tasks. I am having trouble there. How do you address and find these things with your spouse?
Brian in New Jersey
Thanks for watching, I'm not sure I understand your question Brian.
I had heard that THINK comes from either the Torah or the Old Testament?
irrelevant. my mind simply goes from one negative thought to the next constantly. Every bad thing that’s ever happened to me every bad thing that is happening to me and every bad thing that could possibly happen to me… reliving all of the things other people did to me etc… if I try to think of puppies my mind searches for all the negative associations such as all the ones I saw ran over or watched die. There is nothing positive and peaceful that I can try to think of that my mind does not find the negative association
My throat is in my chest with no neck i chizzle all 😢day long after a house fire on top of a sealed body.
Tried this and it did precisely nothing.
Hey Peter, no piece of instruction is for everyone. In other words, there's no one size fits all. However, the idea with anything you hear is to try it with a sense of curiosity and you might need to adjust as needed. If it's not supportive, leave it and play with something else.
Totally agreed. I tell my clients this all the time. There is no downside to trying.@@drelishagoldstein
Does someone actually benefit from this B.S
Absolutely…it’s been called a lifesaver to many. Play with it and see what you notice, let your experience guide you… also knowing nothing is a panacea and while something may be a support to some, it may not be for others.
i know my comment was a bit rude but hopefully you understand that i'm coming from a place of real darkness hence i'm watching your video.. hopefully this will work and thanks for your kind comment!@@drelishagoldstein
Thank you!
You're welcome!