pre age 40 I was able to do all of the above. But after 40, and 4 kids, I had time for none, but it's not the kids' fault, it's the lack of LOVING SUPPORT around them!
I’m an NHS doctor . I’ve been in denial about these very symptoms in me , chronic bone deep exhaustion , poor sleep , disconnection and not able to do any life tasks outside of work. I guess recognition and acceptance is the first step to recovery. Thankyou
No one teaches us about boundaries, and saying NO to stay sane. Everything else is put above self-care. I had none for many years, and it finally caught up w/ me. I hope you’re successful with turning things around.
Have you ever worked so hard and so continuously that when you finally get to socialise, you feel like you’re still exhausted and your body and mind is adjusting to the real world again like you just got out of prison?
my job is to give people a really good time on their vacation- I own a small travel agency.Some of my friends and family are saying I am living the dream, I am on vacation 24/7. Let me tell you, I have never been so stressed in my life. I am completely burnt out, have anxiety, can t disconnect ever from work and anxiety…I am feeling every word of this video. On my days off I just want to do nothing at all, I just don’t want anyone around me, I procrastinate a lot, I hate it.
I was a nurse and totally burnt out by people - im no longer a nurse, i live a quiet sedate life which i love and i happily insulate myself from peoples emotions
I can say that nursing seriously has ripped the life out of me. It should have been a rewarding profession but i feel soulless. The thing is, i’m still caught in between needing the money so I now have to even do more extra shifts, oncalls and overtime.
@@plasmichoneytrip I was once in that position but I walked away to save my sanity. You will need to change everything. Simplify your life and learn to live with less. Don't try to keep up. Stop and downgrade everything. You would be surprised how your life can change. Tell your family what you plan to do and if they don't understand...save yourself! I live a much happier life now. Luckily for me my husband came to the understanding that I was never going back to that kind of life. Good luck.
@Hope_Faith_Strength Sorry to scare you. My advice is go into a field of nursing which supports your daily life. My work is in the OR and like with any acute setting, it could be busy but normally they are off on weekends except for on-call staff. So check the field of nursing that fulfils you or at least suits your private life and perhaps work at a hospital or an organisation that is not too big.
Totally agree. Having been depressed before, I can tell there is a difference between current feeling of total exhaustion and failure, compared to standard depression. This is very different. I now recognised I am rock bottom and need a total break. You are a life saver. Literally. You just made me feel like there might be a glimmer of a solution. I am not a failure. Thank you so much.
I also discovered that I may be a Highly Sensitive Person. Whole new concept, which may explain why I have been do good in my job of patient support. I totally understand patients newly diagnosed with a rare cancer, and manage to help them. But as I just recognised my burnout, due to other work tasks, I can see I can't keep going. I am empty and been feeling like a failure. And feeling so guilty. I am also constantly criticized and harassed for not completing what is required.
Honestly thank you for this video. I’ve been caring for a family member since I was 15 and am now 31, it’s kinda the norm to me to just get on with it and to not complain. Over the years I’ve felt exhausted and stressed and felt like I’ve not have any real reason to feel that way, so have just been trying to carry on. I’ve been to many therapists because I just thought I was lazy and useless. Realised I’ve not actually stopped to acknowledge that the work I do is REAL work ( I’m not paid which makes it hard to remember that it’s genuine work. I’ve been shamed by most around me for not “trying hard enough to find work, or that I’m just scared or sabotaging myself” when really the work I already do has not been appreciated or seen for what it is. It’s made me feel like I’m alone and that no one get it or sees the work for what it is. I’ve done uni and graduated whilst caring full time and that was what tipped me over the edge. It’s all become too much. But again I’m not sure how to feel liberated and empowered and seen for all I’ve done. I think a lot of people who are burnt out just want to feel seen and held and appreciated (besides having enough down time) Everything dr describes I feel, I’ve seen many therapists and nothing has ever felt like the right diagnosis. I’m an artist but no longer have the drive or fire to peruse it, I want to stay in bed and nap always as a way to avoid my responsibility. I was also assaulted back in 2010 and now also deal with ptsd and that on top of burn out is tough. Soz for this rant, but this genuinely feels like the only place where I can get this off my chest and feel safe doing it. I’m not sure if I’ll get the validation I need with the carer situation, but this has given me tools to try on my own and am excited to make change, but hope my story can help anyone else out there feeling alone. Sending healing love and peace for anyone feeling this way x
action plan to put you back in control 21:30 awareness 23:51 intentionally engage with another human being 28:15 prioritizing your sleep 35:17 do something that you love every day 39:37 learning how to say no 46:23 schedule rest 53:47 movement 55:41 pay attention to your food intake 58:26 define the end of your workday 1:01:07 Find your core values
As a retired 72 yr old introvert, widowed last december, I have only a few friends which has left me scratching my head as to where to find new friend. Of the friends I have, one is even more introverted than me! And the other can't say NO to her children and grandchildren, so both are unavailable a lot of the time. Another lives in Vancouver BC. Then I fell down on keeping up with 2 others while dealing with a dying cat over the summer. Needless to say, this program has identified for me that full blown burnout rather than depression sneaked up and fell over me like a soaking wet king size wool blanket in early Sept. Ive recovered a bit and now plan to implement one or two of your suggestions to start. Finding new friends....not sure where us older people go, but maybe in the process of getting back to living more fully will open up a wider world of people. Thanks for a great presentation!
"Burnout steals your autonomy... " Thank you so much Doc, you've helped me identify what I've been going through, and this has helped to develop a clear perspective about my life. 🙏🙏🙏
It snuck up on me. I am an avid science and psychology follower but I did not know burnout was different from stress. Stress happens first. I ignored the signs and then totally hit the wall. 4 years of stress symptoms. Don't do it. I got chronic fatigue and depression. It took me a long time to get back to me. I elimated all packaged food and sugar on my own and I know that helped but quitting my nightmare job and getting out in the world made the biggest difference. Burnout sucks but don't let people say you can't recover. Even my doctor and therapist told me I might need to adjust my idea of normal. Thats how bad I was. Loneliness is a thing. Science doesn't lie. Hang in there people. And great video! Thanks for calling out lack of creativity. Looking back I see everything.
Good advice. Ive been a psychiatric Nurse for 18 years. Most staff i know are on the road to burn out. Losing your sense of humour and taking everything personal is also a big sign.
For most of my life I thought I was lazy and didn't care about things like cleaning, socialising, and so on. I was diagnosed with burnout in my mid 30s, took the steps and thought I was passed it. 15 years later I hit the wall again, even though I was taking good care of myself, meditating and resting. Still, I had to work through this burn out, but changed my meditations, learnt more and began to move out of it and finally decided to quit my job just as the pandemic hit. It took me 2,5 years of dedicated learning, energy clearing, and meditation to get out of it. Turns out that I never knew what it was like to not be in burn out. Not even when I was a kid. I have traced it back to when I was 4 when a series of events moved me into survival. Of course nobody knew or understood that those events affected me in a traumatic way because adults don't understand how kids don't understand what goes on around them, and when we don't understand something it's always interpreted as potential danger, and survival kicks in. I'm still not where I want to be, where I can feel now that I'm meant to be and can be, but I can now see that it's right there, accessible and I know that I'll be there soon. Frankly, I think almost everyone in our society is in burnout to a degree. Thanks for bringing up these topics that are so important from the medical doctor angel, because it's needed.
Dr. Chatterjee , thank you very much. I’m a Gynaecologist and obstetrician. After suffering from Covid with long Covid complications and simultaneously my father’s death made me completely burned out. I have lost all interests in life , but today I have seen your video and feeling good . Your talks touch my heart and motivated me to love myself. Thanks Doctor.
The main cure is money without working for it. You can slow down your run or possibly even jump off your hamster wheel for a moment. Or if you have extra money you can paint your hampered wheel a different color or put it in a different part of the cage to multitask different things.
I feel it right now. Been feeling this way for months.I have lost self-esteem, I feel tired mentally and physically, I don't wanna do anything, I keep on delaying important things that am supposed to do, I don't follow my plans as scheduled , I don't even want to meet my friends or receive their calls. Am angered! It's terrifying me.
I don't know if this is a real good advice. I've had these problems for years. I had real bad depressions took almost every antidepressive stuff. Didn't help really. I got myself out of the hole with kratom. This stuff isn't probably good for the body but it helps me a lot to at least start the day and get up. Best wishes from Germany.
I’ve been struggling with burnout for four years. Finally gave up a job I love and closed down my dog rescue. Thank you rangan, I’m going to start small and preserve. Can’t see myself keep going on the way I have been anymore
Hello! This topic caught my attention. This is so interesting to me. I stepped out of the classroom after 17 years as a 2nd grade teacher. When I left, I was definitely burned out. All I wished for the new school year was to do nothing, have no checklist, and I wanted to not feel responsible for anything or be needed any more. No emails, no parent meetings. No lesson plans, no duties, no spreadsheets, nothing! It’s wildly happening right now! I’m not needed! I don’t have to be responsible and it’s the most liberating! Thanks for this video! 💖
As a 22-year-old student, I always thought I was just "depressed and lazy" and blamed myself for not being able to get stuff done. After watching this video, my current situation ticked all the 7 boxes of being on the road to a burn out. I had heard of burn outs before in my life, but that was mostly about older people. I never thought I could possibly be heading that way... thank you for making this awareness video, I am happy that I subscribed a few weeks ago and this video showed up in my recommended videos. Keep up the good work Mr. Chatterjee, you are that one missing puzzle piece that people need to become self-aware.
I have heard good things about the empathy guide to the universe. If you have had childhood struggles and choose to be healthy it will be a lonely path as your main competition will be people with healthy families backing them. The world is more harsh than taken on in this nice video.
Protect your peace. Work hard if you feel like it's worth it, or if you have bills to pay, but try to find better opportunities that don't steal your energy for a crappy wage.
This is me. I'm a therapist working in community mental health. In the last 3 years of working there, I've developed chronic severe migraine and vestibular migraine, pre cancer of the cervix, gained 30 lbs, and now have severe sciatica from most likely an issue in my back. My parents also got divorced a year or so ago in an awful way and I've been estranged from my dad and taking care of the fall out for my mom. I haven't been okay in like a year and a half. I keep trying to take care of myself where I can but it's just hard. I have a fantastic support system and that's what keeps me going but I know something needs to shift. I used to be a distance runner and now with my back and nerve stuff I can't. It was my main coping skill.
Look after yourself ❤ take five minutes just for yourself every day and try to stay aware in the now to observe your resistance to things in life. Tell yourself you do your best every day and rest you case❤
I tick absolutely every single box. And listening through tons of tears, having thought i was totally useless. Thank you SO MUCH. You are an amazing person. I got zero support workwise, to extent that people pushed me under even more, despite recognising and acknowledging risk of burnout.
This is so me with the now health issues. Hormonal imbalances, fibroids, autoimmune, chronic pain and everything he said. I retired from the Marine Corps and noticed 5 years before retiring I felt this but not to the point of debilitating. I feel my fight and flight hormones got me through it. Then I retired and I thought I would feel better. Well it’s a title wave now. I struggle to figure out how to get my life back.
This is truly amazing! This guy has just described my whole adult life in under two hours. I identify all all seven signs in my life. Now i know for sure that I've been suffering from burn out for over two decades.
This is real I am 10 years with no partner or live in boyfriend/ husband it is exhausting on my own. Im struggling. I think having a partner to go through life with is so helpful. Help each other. We are not meant to be alone.
I understand the desire to have a spouse. I was “lonely and alone” for years. But a spouse doesn’t fix that. I also spent a lot of time alone and lonely in a marriage. A friend of mine had the love of her life die in a car crash. We can’t be defined by others. The connections he talks about aren’t spouses. It can be, but it can also be friends - at church, gym, down the hall, a phone call away. Positive friends (stay away from the chronic complainers or catty ones) and find one thing each day that you enjoy and savour it (that morning coffee, sun on your face, your cat purring) and then look for more of those. They are there, you just have to find them. It’s not easy - I get it. I had to ditch the “I’m not a whole person without someone else” feeling, and life got waaaayyyy easier. Do all his other steps and tell yourself that you are going to take 2023 (or just a week or a month) to work on your “self” and purposely not look for a partner. Give yourself a dating break. Try it please and see what I mean. It did wonders for me.
@@youtubechanel5243lp My mother has been through a lot and after being alone and living independently for almost a decade, she has finally found someone that I can officially say that brings her happiness. She's been through a lot of crappy and toxic guys that I've had first hand experience myself, as I grew up in adolescence watching it unfold, and now as a young adult living together with her, I can also give my two cents in that he's a really cool guy and that I don't have the same fears around him in contrast to her previous relationships. I agree that it's almost virtually impossible to live on your own in this day and age, depending on where you live in the world. You're strong to have been supporting yourself for a decade, I know that I could personally live on my own, but I'd be lying that I like having the company of someone else present from time to time. Like my mother, I wish that you find a wonderful person to spend the rest of your life with. :)
Thank you for this episode Rangan! It really helped me to recognise and accept The fact that Im burned out, removing The shame and guilt for my belief that Im letting my colleagues and patients down by taking a sick leave to focus on my own recovery. Your wisdom has truly given me hope, self compassion and confidence that its ok to focus on my own recovery. Much love, Norwegian psychologist.
We live in a neurotic society in the US. It's advisable to think about sabbath and/or other structures where we shut down businesses and services (excluding essential services, of course) and have downtimes in life that are sanctioned and supported as a culture. I grew up in Germany. I liked those experiences. Parents had a business. They started at 9am. Shut down 2 hours for lunch. Opened again and shut down at 6:30pm. Dad went for a walk and was home, every day, at 7:30pm. Then, we had family dinner. The basics can save us more than we think. We have lost our way. We have sacrificed health, sleep, and family for a little more profit.
I started teaching in 2009 and I now believe, after pandemic lock downs, I've got severe burnout. I quit my full time job and gone casual supply. I just can't shake this deep exhaustion. I've got absolutely no tolerance for any bs that comes my way, I feel I've got no juice left in the tank to deal with it and I'm extremely lonely. I've gone to the doctor asking for help and she did a blood test and only talked about my cholesterol until I pointed out that stress raises cholesterol. I'm trying to quit teaching for good but I'm going thru this alone. But I'm forcing myself to go to the gym and lift weights, play my violin in the Irish group and looking for another job that can help me slow right down and still pay my bills. The lack of creativity is a key point for me as well. All the points raised are what I'm experiencing every day. I've met so many teachers who have had breast cancer or bowel cancer, I don't want to be another fat, white statistic.
I'm currently on the road to burnout. All the signs are there. Thank you foe this video. It hit home, hard. In fact it was a relief to hear it identified in straighr simple language. Now I will try your step by step plan to pull myself out of it. Thank you.
Dr. Chatterjee, you just may have saved my sanity. Your presentation touched on every single aspect of my character/personality and diagnosed point by point my soul's downward spiral. I cannot thank you enough. The pressures we place on ourselves can be devastating. I had to retire from a profession I used to enjoy, one in which I demanded perfection from myself. I was raised in a competitive family (one parent an alcoholic, another a workaholic) and environment where one required self-excellence and to walk away...the "winner." I beat myself up in the process, nay, burnt myself out. I allowed "paralysis by analysis" to _slow_ me down (or beat me up!), day after agonizing day. Be well.
This is probably the best video I've seen in terms of strategies to help with wellbeing. Everyone can benefit from this. I reached burnout because of working in isolation during Covid. I barely moved from my computer, I did everything that leads to burnout. I will be watching this video again. My journey out of burnout is a slow one but it's one step at a time. Thank you doctor.
This all sounds great and I understand the rationale behind it. Been doing years of therapy, MBCT, took time off, switched employers. Bottom line is that all the roles are similar. If I take an hour after work to work out, it just means I'm another 100 e-mails behind when I get back. Cost of living keeps increasing, jobs are tricky here right now, so don't really have a choice but to keep going. I have the chest pains, severe insomnia, pure exhaustion, difficulty even brushing my teeth, poor eating. I know it's not healthy, but need to keep paying the bills.
Hi Barbara, I hear you, I feel you. I hear that you cannot see that you have any choice. Please just try something really small, like taking 30 seconds a couple of times a day to just focus on your breathing? It can feel like just one more thing that you've got to do on top of the heavy load you already carry, but it could actually pay dividends by buying you a bit more sleep or more focus to prioritise those emails. There has to be a way to insert a little kindness and compassion towards yourself into your life....
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Really glad you enjoyed this video. I am considering doing more videos just like this. Any topics you would like me to try and cover, please do let me know. Thanks Rangan
I am the kind of person that always seek from the truth, the truth and wisdom that come from God... Whoever, believe in Him or not... I truly believe in His truth... And because of that, I was able to save my life,..., Without the medical protocols that would destroy and deplete my health. You are those physicians that deserve 5 Stars! You expose the good deeds that we all are called to do so...I can perceive your love, dedication, and passion for the human beings! I can see that you don't want to masquerade this truth..., You love to support this truth along with other Drs. Continuing, and fullfiling this mission in behalf of others. Congratulations from my heart!
Of course. Now you know what you'll be doing for the next hour and three quarters of your life. And what will you watch after this video? And then after that? Try a sitting meditation where you attempt to really connect with your breathing process and life force.
@@howardrobinson4938 well actually, 10 hours later I'm on my third attempt to get through the whole thing and will probably need a second listen, to put it all together. Distractions can be a problem at times. 🙂
Thank u Lord and thank doc We need Sun i walked my dog Coffee Shut off your gadgets 1 hourbefore bed Rest your brain No news or soft operas drama movie Daily dose of pleasure 5 mins a day I can not think of this for now i just jumped to my trampoline for 5-10 mins Saying NO was my problem before but now i have over come the hard way I have a lot fr u doc because before i get to watch u i was suffering loneliness and just prayed and i was answered at once because i found u… I will watch this again and share to my freinds…
I am so glad to hear that. The Dr. made me see a easy way to change my day life. I used to set up goal so strong and difficult, now I am free. Thank you doctor Rangan Chatterjee. Você é o melhor!!
Seriously Dr you are an absolute treasure and I'm so glad that I discovered your podcast and work. I've not been able to find any other content that has resonated with my feelings even remotely close to what you have just done and I'm only 9mins into the video! You are speaking to me directly, I feel understood and HUMAN finally because you are right, I have been thinking it's me. Thank you Dr, I am looking forward to the rest of this video and actioning the 10 step plan.
This describes what I am going through precisely and have been for years. I’ve been a caregiver for my 90 year old mom for 20+ years in different capacities. Working full time and tending to her 6 days a week has left me totally mentally and physically drained. I find myself apologizing and feeling guilty about not saving time for my friends and my husband but the thought of adding something to my calendar stresses me more.I will work on forcing myself to schedule more get-togethers and implement some of these suggestions. Thank you!,
I watched many videos regarding burnout and I got to say this is one of the most comprehensive video regarding burnout symptoms/ treatment. Thank you Dr. Rangan putting this video out on RUclips. I'm currently going through moderate-severe burnout and need help/ recovery. Sadly I really thought my symptom(s) are normal being in my 30s having more responsibilities at my job/ in life.🙁
First, I’d like to say that I always enjoy Dr. Rangan podcasts. I feel strongly that on the first point mentioned in this video that it is important to consider whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. This makes a tremendous difference in treating burn out. A great book on this is ‘Quiet’ by Susan Cain. I personally am a social introvert. I get recharged by getting time alone in solitude. Solitude is actually one of my favorite environments; it brings me to life and I really don’t get lonely…perhaps it’s possible.. I have many friends, just loneliness isn’t something I experience so much. As much as I feel, the advice, on the first point would be great advice for an extrovert, I do not believe that this would help an introvert like myself. Introverts, love and care about their family friends, they care about their tribe just as much as anyone else, however their personal needs demand quiet time alone and they do not often find themselves lonely when they get this time. In a society driven by extroversion, it has stressed introverts and been the cause of burn out and exhaustion in our lives. If you find yourself craving solitude for a breath of fresh air, go for a walk in nature, go swimming, jogging, and most definitely consider reading ‘Quiet’ by Susan Cain. It’s on Amazon audible as well as paperback. If you’ve been stressed by too much community or are over burdened by social obligations…especially this time of year. Treat yourself to this book and the empowering knowledge you will get from it. It’s personally my remedy for burn out.
I'm an introvert. INFJ is you're a myers briggs fan. I love that book. I love spending time by myself. I get overwhelmed frequently. But I got the most serious form of burnout partly because I isolated myself. Extroverts don't need to recharge after engaging socially. We do. That is the difference. BUT we are still social creatures and MOST of us will get sick and suffer if we don't engage with other humans. I think that Susan Cain would agree. She encourages introverts to find their way in an extroverted world. She wants us to engage. Burnout can kill. Too much isolation is deadly. I know.
Thank you for sharing. I’m glad to hear that you got to recharge Anna that you’re a fellow introvert 😊. I totally agree with you on that one of our biggest differences with extroverts is how we recharge. Everyone is so different on the level of social interaction that is healthy for them. I feel we are all social creatures, but also so many different levels. For example, some scientists are so fascinated by their craft, they submerge themselves into it to the point of isolation and are just fine with that; for some it’s the lifestyle they prefer. For some, isolation is fine for a month, two months, a week, a day, some people a couple hours. We’re just all so different. Whatever our threshold is, it’s unique to us each and the danger of lack of or even over socialization would be unique to each of us as well. I agree that Susan Cain would say we are social creatures, but I think she would also agree that ‘how social’ is variable.🌿
I needed this today , I'm currently in bed recovering from several infections that's left my body shot ! ..but everything you have spoke about 100% relates to me , I've felt so emotional , not coping , but fundamentally I haven't seen anyone for a while, my adult children left and I didn't know what my role was anymore , and I didn't nurture friendships, so I don't have any , I've been so stressed I've just wanted it to end ..but there is a part of me that's searching for change .
Hope you are better now. I have been in a similar position. Luckily, it was a temporary job. I resigned after struggling for a month. I have a week left and on the way to recovery.
Heather i Hope you listen take notes and act. To help yourself get out of this hole . Because you matter you really do. Even though you say ur job of rearing ur children is finished, You've still more to give, and to gain. In this new stage of your / our life. I do know what you mean, I am in the very same situation as yourself. Dr Chatterley is giving us a lot of great advice. Let's take it, why not write it out, once you see it on paper, you will see how you will start with 1 or 2 . All in your own time, decide them a day. And let's get out of the hole we've made for our selves . Gently and slowly. Let's work through Dr C list. I wish you the very best. And I pray you make the change. For you. As I will for me. Heather please say every day to self I am worth it. Because you are. And I am. 😊 🎉 🎉 😊
Your really a genuine, kind hearted, helpful and extraordinary doctor. I can feel like your talking directly to me and I'm sitting next to you. Your really a wonderful person trying to help people on RUclips. Thank you so much Doctor I wish there were more people like you in this world. God Bless.
Dr Ramjan 😊 I totally agree with above. Thank you so much for this podcast, iv just come accross you, you have described me to a T. I will get working on all you have suggested, what a gifted man you are, and you are so blessed, by allowing yourself to freely share your knowledge with others. And you are happy to do so. I Praise the Lord, for people like you Doc, never change, from who you are, you've got many gifts. I have had a vr heavy heart, along with all of those symptoms you've described, I am also living many years with Fibromyalgia, 20 years now. Going from Therapist to Therapist. With no lasting ease. Coeliac from Birth, Thyroid probs, Severe Migrains, Empty nest syndrome, Break up of my marriage of 50 years , still living with said Alcoholic man, and all that entails, the death of my beloved Dog of 16 yrs, And the death of my dearest precious mother. 😢 😢 My heart is not so heavy since iv listened to you describe me. And amazed so many others have those symptoms too. Lord Bless each one, of these precious people, give them the will to take on all, you've advised of self help . Because they are worth it. In joining the road to healing, Slowly taking one day at a time, So big thanks to you again Doc Ranjan Now I too can work on those suggestions of yours. You have the tools, you mind you, and your precious family. 😊 😊
I discovered your channel yesterday, with your interview with Gabor Maté. You're very calming and insightful to listen to. I've lived with several decades of anxiety, depression, and 10 years of chronic pains from stress. I'm glad I found your channel. I've been talking about feeling burnt out for years. I'm glad I came across your channel. I've been focusing on working on myself in recent months. Regular yoga, breathing exercises, massage etc. I'm finally starting to feel like I'm looking after myself - after years of people pleasing and co-dependency. Thanks again, and keep up the good work. All the best.
I don’t have any friends. At least none that don’t want something from me. Every time you talk about going and meeting friends for coffee, going for a walk with them, I can’t think of anyone! :(
I completely understand, I have about one actual friend. I don't currently have the energy to go and make more. I believe I need to work on myself, slow down and build my energy back up before I can go out to make more friends.
Homeless are burned out as children as most all suffer extreme childhood abuse. Their spirits are broke and they have to work 10x harder to step up just to maintain a home. They are isolated because only people willing to personally interact will be homeless and poor and too many have poor habits.
You could be talking about me right now. 55, retired, social worker for 23 years and 11 years as a nurse before. Not what I thought my retirement would be. I sleep constantly that’s the only difference. My goal today is to get my Xmas tree up. My disconnect I describe as being ‘peopled out’. I’m away to call my mum 😊
Why say that ? It sounds very judgmental. Highly stressful careers such as nursing and social work are difficult to maintain as you get older. Someone experiencing burnout doesn't need to be guilt tripped by you !
I felt I might be going through depression but it seems more like burnout. Thank you for your video. Luckily I'm not that deep into burnout...I feel it eek in here and there
I hear that, I lost most of my family before COVID, lost the house, the truck, the pets, I feel like a bad country song. This includes my husband, grandma grandpa
Im not rich but sometimes i buy friends i treat them to to have someone talk and share experiences and it works, one thing i asked is ( did it happened to u that u just cry without any cause ? ) and they yes … so having someone to talked to is very essentials in this lifetime aside from God which we can talk with… but having some to laughed with even with small things is so important…
I was in the Army on a 6 week exercise driving with night vision goggles. I had sleep deprivation with many moves and work during the night with only 2 to 4 hours sleep a day. I came back to work with only a weekend off and had a big burn out. My brain reset like a computer crashing and I could not function with many symptoms. Luckily, I put my hand up for help and got the time off and support I needed.
Here's what I do to cure my burn out: I go on a 10-day solo trip to a new place, preferably with a lot of nature time. I go from "wanting to quit everything" (including life) to "can't wait to go back and do my best work". Unfortunately now I'm not single anymore and can't really go on 10-day solo trips anymore 😂 Thanks for watching my TED Talk
Man, that's exactly what I feel like and hoping that a vacation will reset things for me. When I was a regular employee, vacations always did that to me, I came back on fire ! Now I have my own construction biz and haven't had a vacation in 5 years and feel like I'm losing my enthusiasm for so many things, as I'm always working.
I'm going through this right now and it's bad. I seem to be stuck in a cycle of recovering, then burning myself out again and on top of all these symptoms is the negative thoughts and feelings that come with it. Working on self care now though and hopefully adopting better lifestyle habits so I can finally break the cycle. Thanks for this video, it perfectly nails what I'm going through and great ways to recover/avoid it.
I am an RN of 17 yrs with 2 kids. My husband has Hodgkins...thankfully he's doing well right now. This video completely hit every point for me. Totally burned out the last few years. I'm really trying to find my old self again, I miss me. Thank you for this video!! I find it very helpful 😌
@@debbiesteppings8406 That is good news! I am so happy for you! Give her lots of sunshine (so much info coming out about those that did get lots of sunshine did not get Covid) and lots of vegetables, especially the green leafy vegies!❤🩹💚🥬🥦🥒🥑🥥🧄🍋
Hope you are doing better now. I’ve been unhappy because of life-changing effects of covid since contracting it in 2021. I have actually often thought your exact words - wanting to be my old self again and missing me. You are not alone.
A video on how to get through burn out would be really useful. Watching these podcasts at the moment whilst signed off, through battling PTSD for over a decade, and bringing up a family on my own. Nothing unique there, obviously, but the symptoms seem insurmountable. I kept pushing on and on through the symptoms and then just suddenly, snap. Couldn't keep going.
I realised I was starting to get anxious leaving the house. Then I began losing my temper when I finally made it to work. I wasn't able to make decisions and the only place I felt calm is at home. I can't go to the gym because it is too loud and too crowded. My doctor is treating me for anxiety now and burn out. I had to tell my boss he can stuff his 24/7 work regime that I have been under for 5 years. That helped too.
Half an hour ago, I realized that today I felt totally fine and relaxed, and just normal, without issues, interested in something I used to be interested in, for the first time in quite a lot of years in which I had serious mental health issues! Don't get me wrong, I have a lot of difficult things on my to do list, but i feel fine. So, i guess, you can overcome it! I realized I was burnt out about 10 months ago and since then I did basically nothing except taking care of things I let slide before, and lived on my savings, mostly stayed home, for a whole year, and I guess it helped.
Great help for me. I am 40 and I struggle a lot. I work for the great company and I feel lonely. I started cycling to work and I go for walks with coworkers. Now I have plan. You didn’t mention alcohol and drugs by the way.
I'm currently burnt out. I'm ill, had to take time off work and struggling to get out of bed as I don't feel well. I'm stressed from work and it's just built up. Looking forward to watching this. Just watching this already I really relate, not to every single thing but I like the rubber band analogy and also procrastination.
Your podcast have been excellent. Please keep up your care and desire to use your MD to get out of linear thoughts. You’re much respected by me and I’m starting NOW. THANK YOU. 😊❤🙏☺️❤❤❤
Just a great interview. For years I just wanted my father to apologize for treating me like garbage. That never happened plus he made terrible lies to my other siblings. Since his death, I chose to think of the man who helped his military colleagues fight their addiction issues. I also do what I can to show empathetic and help those in need. We are a community and there are those that need people to stand up for them. Guess you can say the military thing was multi generational.
I just listened this great talk.i knew I am burnt out but was not taking it seriously.you are my favourite and I listened all of you.But "bunn out" and "habit change" and "breathing" have started changing my life to positives.i am 72 year young busy practicing pediatrician living each moment beutifully
Thank you Dr Chatterjee. I watched this video and every single symptom made me finally conclude that I have burnout - I tendered my resignation one hour later. I instantly felt a burden lifted :)
Good - except being left alone doesn't necessarily mean feeling lonely, for some people it's perfectly fine and preferable. Not essential to getting better at all. Could go for a long, long time all by myself, and be quite happy.
People, overrated.. Also, what if people around you have been toxic ? I was fine on my own, except I thought I needed a significant relationship.. big mistake, for all the grief that got me, and burnout among them.
Omg! I took several minutes to wake up (Think) if I had done these 7 Steps in my life! And low and behold, yes I have. I want to thank you for reminding myself that you are important and to listen to my heart ❤️ and brain. The few minutes I really needed were to tell myself look at your list and continue each day to do something that will make me Happy. ☺️ Thank you for your messages of self awareness and to be more kind to others. I try to do at least 3 things to other people that they are important, beautiful and kind. Just one nice compliment about them and pass it on! Then I would see them smiling from ear to ear.. 🙂 🥰
It’s never late until it is! I was diagnosed with a scleroderma because I couldn’t recognize the signs. Chronic stress!!! There you go. I changed all my lifestyle. The doctors are going nuts because they can’t understand that the disease is reversing because of the lifestyle changes. Actually they are in shock because they don’t understand and when doctors don’t understand something they tend to have problems with acceptance. So yes, I’m healing thanks to all the other things that I’m doing that have nothing to do with conventional medicine. Amen 🙌🏻
I am in my child's second year of life and I was wondering lately exactly this. If I am lazy or if there is something else going on. And here I stumble upon this video and I am in awe of how this video is an accurate depiction of myself. My husband has just pointed out that nothing makes me happy anymore and I replied that he was exactly right, nothing makes me happy, motivated and I am bothered by the smallest actions from the people around me. I really don't know how to move forward because I feel I am not there 100 per cent for my child during her early years.
Thank you this is just what I needed I was a carer for my Husband who is now in care so I felt I lost all my metal happiness I have burn out I am lonely I am always on my own I need this help ❤
I have been practising the Mindfulness of Breathing technique ruclips.net/user/postUgkxIIDVgnLN8pF_fPOyoZ1nTjbLvvZcib6r as taught in this CD for about 2 years having read about it in Paramananda's Change Your Mind book and taken a real liking to it. However at times I struggle to remain focused on the breathing and thought that at such times this guided version might suit me. So after two years I finally decided to buy it! The first 7'24 of Track 1 of the CD is a body relaxtion which I do not use: I don't like body relaxation techniques and I find 27' just a little too long for meditation. The remaining 20' of gentle, guided meditation helps me tremendously to relax and stay focused. I find him's voice very soothing and whilst he is present to guide you through the 4 stages of the meditation, his presence is not intrusive or distracting. For the past two years I have tried to follow this technique as best I can with gentle meditation music despite music not being recommended. Having used this CD a couple of times I think I will try from now on to adopt a new routine of no music and just this CD as I find it so helpful. I realise now that the music really is distracting and I have enjoyed listening to the ambient sounds around me which I am normally unaware of. I can not comment on the other 2 tracks of Metta or Walking Meditation as I bought the CD solely to help me with the Mindfulness of Breathing and it does just that - very effectively. In my opinion this CD is money very well spent as it will guide you through a thoroughly useful and beneficial meditation technique and I don't think you can put a price on that.
I have never watched a video that resonated with me as much as this one does. I vow to take action and change my job, is scary and difficult as that may be.
I was a science teacher.all I did is work and work only now that I want to enjoy life I got sick l advise people enjoy life a little more than usual life is not only about work.Enjoy life while you can .
I’m 90 and have depression all my life it’s tough. Good social friends. Thatch make me laugh is the way. Eat right. You will. Get through it Meditation is great No anger no resentful thank you
Straight out of high school I started working with my Dad at the Dry Cleaner he owned. At first all I did was assemble orders and worked on the counter (taking orders in and giving them out). At that time we had a bunch of people working with me. I remember at the time thinking that working 5+ hours was too much for me. 😂 As time went on we had people leave and come but overall I took on most of what we had to do, most of what I called running the front (this includes assembling orders, working on the counter, and tagging the orders so we knew who’s they were). Eventually as I learned more I started helping in the back of the store (this is where all the pressing and cleaning would actually happen). With this I would be basically doing most of the things in the store not counting the pressing of everything. So there would be some days if Dad had to leave on deliveries I would have to run both the front and the back, and make sure the orders Dad needed were done and bagged. This stayed this way for a bit until the pandemic hit. At this time I was the only person running the front. When it first came out pressers stayed and continued doing what they did but eventually for one reason or another they quit. So. I had to do that. Now Dad took on running the front, and this let me do a bunch of the pressing and I hadn’t yet had to take on all of it. We still on person helping. This stayed true until about 2021. We lost our last presser. If I remember correctly they went to jail. 😅 This is the point where I think my burnout started. I remember very clearly at this time that even though I was pressing all the shirts. I could still come home and work out for an hour (I was and still am overweight at the time of writing this so I wanted to lose a bunch of weight!). Once I took on pressing everything. I just couldn’t anymore. I could do maybe 30 minutes at most. And not even what I used to. Fast forward to 2022. Over the past 2 years we got kicked out of our first store( that landlord was a piece of work), started pressing all of our stuff at one place, then had to move to another location, the FINALLY getting our location were I am typing this at now (Lunch time! I’m eating enchiladas!). Now because we have two locations one that cleans and presses, and another that takes the orders in I am here by myself. This is what I do know (I own the business now btw). I wash all the clothes, press all the clothes, run my store because it has a front also, and I do all the admin stuff, ie. bookkeeping, paying bills, etc. At this point I don’t think I have ever felt more tired than I do now.. we just got of a short break because of the Holidays. But all the resting I did just doesn’t help. I am sad, angry, frustrated, most of the time. I don’t want to sleep when I get home I just want to have free time. I work 7 to 8 most days. So by the time I get home and have dinner done it’s 9 pm and I barely have any energy to do anything. Now I will still play games or stay up late talking to friends but that cuts into my sleep. These things have been compounding for years at this point. Next year will mark 8 years that I have done this. I will be making it my goal that this time next year I will have sold my business. I came to this conclusion about this time last year (January 2023). I have spent most of last year (2023) working out a plan. The plan will be set in motion this month (January 2024) and I hope to remember and update this post next year. If you read this far thanks! Really appreciate listening to my rambling!!
I have a grup of girlfriend who we met every month no matter what and the feelings after is so energizing. My husband incurage me to keep going out because he see me having a better energy and mood after. I incurage everyone to the same is very beneficial to your mind.
I think i am burning out trying to be positive in my current love relationship, career, finance, aging (40s)... Im trying to surrender but i am not there yet...
The “if you had any good in yourself” about making one’s partner a coffee.. Very true though. I look forward to having such a thing, but so grateful I’ve been learning these lessons before and not after.
Signs
1. 5:20 Disconnection
2. 7:10 Emotional exhaustion
3. 9:02 Lack of creativity
4. 9:46 Inability to gain pleasure
5. 10:35 Procrastination
6. 15:04 Self-care starts to dissappear
7. 17:18 Physical exhaustion
pre age 40 I was able to do all of the above. But after 40, and 4 kids, I had time for none, but it's not the kids' fault, it's the lack of LOVING SUPPORT around them!
Thank you for that! :)
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Thanks 💎
Thanks so much!
I’m an NHS doctor . I’ve been in denial about these very symptoms in me , chronic bone deep exhaustion , poor sleep , disconnection and not able to do any life tasks outside of work. I guess recognition and acceptance is the first step to recovery. Thankyou
I am glad the video has helped. I wish you all the best in the future - these symptoms are so, so common in healthcare workers
No one teaches us about boundaries, and saying NO to stay sane. Everything else is put above self-care. I had none for many years, and it finally caught up w/ me. I hope you’re successful with turning things around.
Thank you for your comment😊 I am starting acknowledging all these symptoms myself and stop to be in denial
Thank you for all you do
Have you ever worked so hard and so continuously that when you finally get to socialise, you feel like you’re still exhausted and your body and mind is adjusting to the real world again like you just got out of prison?
I wish you were my doctor - I wish I had a doctor... a real one, not just someone you see at a walk-in clinic when something is wrong.
my job is to give people a really good time on their vacation- I own a small travel agency.Some of my friends and family are saying I am living the dream, I am on vacation 24/7. Let me tell you, I have never been so stressed in my life. I am completely burnt out, have anxiety, can t disconnect ever from work and anxiety…I am feeling every word of this video. On my days off I just want to do nothing at all, I just don’t want anyone around me, I procrastinate a lot, I hate it.
I was a nurse and totally burnt out by people - im no longer a nurse, i live a quiet sedate life which i love and i happily insulate myself from peoples emotions
I think that at some point in life that's what we all need. Give me a peaceful remote life with God and my love ones.
I can say that nursing seriously has ripped the life out of me. It should have been a rewarding profession but i feel soulless. The thing is, i’m still caught in between needing the money so I now have to even do more extra shifts, oncalls and overtime.
@@plasmichoneytrip I was once in that position but I walked away to save my sanity. You will need to change everything. Simplify your life and learn to live with less. Don't try to keep up. Stop and downgrade everything. You would be surprised how your life can change. Tell your family what you plan to do and if they don't understand...save yourself!
I live a much happier life now. Luckily for me my husband came to the understanding that I was never going back to that kind of life. Good luck.
I feel the same way.
@Hope_Faith_Strength Sorry to scare you. My advice is go into a field of nursing which supports your daily life. My work is in the OR and like with any acute setting, it could be busy but normally they are off on weekends except for on-call staff. So check the field of nursing that fulfils you or at least suits your private life and perhaps work at a hospital or an organisation that is not too big.
I feel that just having a doctor change the word from " DEPRESSION" to "BURNOUT" so profound...!!! 💙
Thanks Doc x
My pleasure Noel
Totally agree. Having been depressed before, I can tell there is a difference between current feeling of total exhaustion and failure, compared to standard depression.
This is very different.
I now recognised I am rock bottom and need a total break.
You are a life saver.
Literally.
You just made me feel like there might be a glimmer of a solution.
I am not a failure.
Thank you so much.
I also discovered that I may be a Highly Sensitive Person.
Whole new concept, which may explain why I have been do good in my job of patient support.
I totally understand patients newly diagnosed with a rare cancer, and manage to help them.
But as I just recognised my burnout, due to other work tasks, I can see I can't keep going.
I am empty and been feeling like a failure.
And feeling so guilty.
I am also constantly criticized and harassed for not completing what is required.
Being a HSP -> I just need to be alone now… recovering from a Burnout. But people don’t understand this and even get angry at me 😢
@@wintrywinter Yup. Glad you pointed that out.
Honestly thank you for this video. I’ve been caring for a family member since I was 15 and am now 31, it’s kinda the norm to me to just get on with it and to not complain. Over the years I’ve felt exhausted and stressed and felt like I’ve not have any real reason to feel that way, so have just been trying to carry on. I’ve been to many therapists because I just thought I was lazy and useless. Realised I’ve not actually stopped to acknowledge that the work I do is REAL work ( I’m not paid which makes it hard to remember that it’s genuine work. I’ve been shamed by most around me for not “trying hard enough to find work, or that I’m just scared or sabotaging myself” when really the work I already do has not been appreciated or seen for what it is. It’s made me feel like I’m alone and that no one get it or sees the work for what it is. I’ve done uni and graduated whilst caring full time and that was what tipped me over the edge. It’s all become too much. But again I’m not sure how to feel liberated and empowered and seen for all I’ve done.
I think a lot of people who are burnt out just want to feel seen and held and appreciated (besides having enough down time)
Everything dr describes I feel, I’ve seen many therapists and nothing has ever felt like the right diagnosis. I’m an artist but no longer have the drive or fire to peruse it, I want to stay in bed and nap always as a way to avoid my responsibility. I was also assaulted back in 2010 and now also deal with ptsd and that on top of burn out is tough.
Soz for this rant, but this genuinely feels like the only place where I can get this off my chest and feel safe doing it. I’m not sure if I’ll get the validation I need with the carer situation, but this has given me tools to try on my own and am excited to make change, but hope my story can help anyone else out there feeling alone.
Sending healing love and peace for anyone feeling this way x
action plan to put you back in control
21:30 awareness
23:51 intentionally engage with another human being
28:15 prioritizing your sleep
35:17 do something that you love every day
39:37 learning how to say no
46:23 schedule rest
53:47 movement
55:41 pay attention to your food intake
58:26 define the end of your workday
1:01:07 Find your core values
Thank you for this❣️
Thank you for this!
Thank you.
Thanks 😊
Do you know which book is Dr Chatterjee is referring to!? Please and thank you! 😊
I work in NHS in mental health and im here in burnout. This is so helpful. Truly thankful for this.
As a retired 72 yr old introvert, widowed last december, I have only a few friends which has left me scratching my head as to where to find new friend. Of the friends I have, one is even more introverted than me! And the other can't say NO to her children and grandchildren, so both are unavailable a lot of the time. Another lives in Vancouver BC.
Then I fell down on keeping up with 2 others while dealing with a dying cat over the summer. Needless to say, this program has identified for me that full blown burnout rather than depression sneaked up and fell over me like a soaking wet king size wool blanket in early Sept. Ive recovered a bit and now plan to implement one or two of your suggestions to start. Finding new friends....not sure where us older people go, but maybe in the process of getting back to living more fully will open up a wider world of people.
Thanks for a great presentation!
Look at groups, clubs, online and in person
Ask a local church if they do book clubs. I saw a bridge club at my mall the other day. Lots of older folks. Take care and good luck.
"Burnout steals your autonomy... " Thank you so much Doc, you've helped me identify what I've been going through, and this has helped to develop a clear perspective about my life.
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I cannot contain my tears. This came on my feed. I am so very grateful to God for you.
It snuck up on me. I am an avid science and psychology follower but I did not know burnout was different from stress. Stress happens first. I ignored the signs and then totally hit the wall. 4 years of stress symptoms. Don't do it. I got chronic fatigue and depression. It took me a long time to get back to me. I elimated all packaged food and sugar on my own and I know that helped but quitting my nightmare job and getting out in the world made the biggest difference. Burnout sucks but don't let people say you can't recover. Even my doctor and therapist told me I might need to adjust my idea of normal. Thats how bad I was. Loneliness is a thing. Science doesn't lie. Hang in there people.
And great video! Thanks for calling out lack of creativity. Looking back I see everything.
Thanks for sharing your story Jackie. Glad you are going better now, Rangan
Same here. I just had to get me and I haven't been able to get out of bed but for two hours a day. 😢
Good advice. Ive been a psychiatric Nurse for 18 years. Most staff i know are on the road to burn out. Losing your sense of humour and taking everything personal is also a big sign.
For most of my life I thought I was lazy and didn't care about things like cleaning, socialising, and so on. I was diagnosed with burnout in my mid 30s, took the steps and thought I was passed it. 15 years later I hit the wall again, even though I was taking good care of myself, meditating and resting. Still, I had to work through this burn out, but changed my meditations, learnt more and began to move out of it and finally decided to quit my job just as the pandemic hit. It took me 2,5 years of dedicated learning, energy clearing, and meditation to get out of it. Turns out that I never knew what it was like to not be in burn out. Not even when I was a kid. I have traced it back to when I was 4 when a series of events moved me into survival. Of course nobody knew or understood that those events affected me in a traumatic way because adults don't understand how kids don't understand what goes on around them, and when we don't understand something it's always interpreted as potential danger, and survival kicks in. I'm still not where I want to be, where I can feel now that I'm meant to be and can be, but I can now see that it's right there, accessible and I know that I'll be there soon.
Frankly, I think almost everyone in our society is in burnout to a degree.
Thanks for bringing up these topics that are so important from the medical doctor angel, because it's needed.
💕🌟 thanks for sharing this, it really helped me. I hope you are doing well.
Dr. Chatterjee , thank you very much. I’m a Gynaecologist and obstetrician. After suffering from Covid with long Covid complications and simultaneously my father’s death made me completely burned out. I have lost all interests in life , but today I have seen your video and feeling good . Your talks touch my heart and motivated me to love myself. Thanks Doctor.
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The main cure is money without working for it. You can slow down your run or possibly even jump off your hamster wheel for a moment. Or if you have extra money you can paint your hampered wheel a different color or put it in a different part of the cage to multitask different things.
I feel it right now. Been feeling this way for months.I have lost self-esteem, I feel tired mentally and physically, I don't wanna do anything, I keep on delaying important things that am supposed to do, I don't follow my plans as scheduled , I don't even want to meet my friends or receive their calls. Am angered! It's terrifying me.
I don't know if this is a real good advice. I've had these problems for years.
I had real bad depressions took almost every antidepressive stuff.
Didn't help really.
I got myself out of the hole with kratom.
This stuff isn't probably good for the body but it helps me a lot to at least start the day and get up.
Best wishes from Germany.
@@IKE-j4h thank you Eike.
Rooting for your turn around!!
Try t stepbrother of ur life n do sthing completely different
Look and listen all the things u have accomplished
I'm suffering as well ♥️🤣😀😪🎆🎁🎄🎉
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I’ve been struggling with burnout for four years. Finally gave up a job I love and closed down my dog rescue. Thank you rangan, I’m going to start small and preserve. Can’t see myself keep going on the way I have been anymore
Hello! This topic caught my attention. This is so interesting to me. I stepped out of the classroom after 17 years as a 2nd grade teacher. When I left, I was definitely burned out. All I wished for the new school year was to do nothing, have no checklist, and I wanted to not feel responsible for anything or be needed any more. No emails, no parent meetings. No lesson plans, no duties, no spreadsheets, nothing!
It’s wildly happening right now! I’m not needed! I don’t have to be responsible and it’s the most liberating!
Thanks for this video! 💖
My pleasure. Thanks for sharing your story!
I did same , after graduation 2018 I walked away.l locked myself in my house two weeks , didn't answer calls...I was burnt out.l never went back.
As a 22-year-old student, I always thought I was just "depressed and lazy" and blamed myself for not being able to get stuff done. After watching this video, my current situation ticked all the 7 boxes of being on the road to a burn out. I had heard of burn outs before in my life, but that was mostly about older people. I never thought I could possibly be heading that way... thank you for making this awareness video, I am happy that I subscribed a few weeks ago and this video showed up in my recommended videos. Keep up the good work Mr. Chatterjee, you are that one missing puzzle piece that people need to become self-aware.
When you're young, you should JUST DO IT ALL! Take chances. At least you'll have interesting memories.
I have heard good things about the empathy guide to the universe. If you have had childhood struggles and choose to be healthy it will be a lonely path as your main competition will be people with healthy families backing them. The world is more harsh than taken on in this nice video.
@@calisingh7978lonely path? Nonsense. As people educate themselves they surround themselves with new peers.
Protect your peace. Work hard if you feel like it's worth it, or if you have bills to pay, but try to find better opportunities that don't steal your energy for a crappy wage.
@@BT_life2engineering students beg to differ
This is me. I'm a therapist working in community mental health. In the last 3 years of working there, I've developed chronic severe migraine and vestibular migraine, pre cancer of the cervix, gained 30 lbs, and now have severe sciatica from most likely an issue in my back. My parents also got divorced a year or so ago in an awful way and I've been estranged from my dad and taking care of the fall out for my mom. I haven't been okay in like a year and a half. I keep trying to take care of myself where I can but it's just hard. I have a fantastic support system and that's what keeps me going but I know something needs to shift. I used to be a distance runner and now with my back and nerve stuff I can't. It was my main coping skill.
Look after yourself ❤ take five minutes just for yourself every day and try to stay aware in the now to observe your resistance to things in life. Tell yourself you do your best every day and rest you case❤
I tick absolutely every single box. And listening through tons of tears, having thought i was totally useless.
Thank you SO MUCH.
You are an amazing person.
I got zero support workwise, to extent that people pushed me under even more, despite recognising and acknowledging risk of burnout.
This needs to be taught to nhs frontline staff....they need this more than most.
This is so me with the now health issues. Hormonal imbalances, fibroids, autoimmune, chronic pain and everything he said. I retired from the Marine Corps and noticed 5 years before retiring I felt this but not to the point of debilitating. I feel my fight and flight hormones got me through it. Then I retired and I thought I would feel better. Well it’s a title wave now. I struggle to figure out how to get my life back.
This is truly amazing! This guy has just described my whole adult life in under two hours.
I identify all all seven signs in my life. Now i know for sure that I've been suffering from burn out for over two decades.
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This is real I am 10 years with no partner or live in boyfriend/ husband it is exhausting on my own. Im struggling. I think having a partner to go through life with is so helpful. Help each other. We are not meant to be alone.
I understand the desire to have a spouse. I was “lonely and alone” for years. But a spouse doesn’t fix that. I also spent a lot of time alone and lonely in a marriage. A friend of mine had the love of her life die in a car crash. We can’t be defined by others. The connections he talks about aren’t spouses. It can be, but it can also be friends - at church, gym, down the hall, a phone call away. Positive friends (stay away from the chronic complainers or catty ones) and find one thing each day that you enjoy and savour it (that morning coffee, sun on your face, your cat purring) and then look for more of those. They are there, you just have to find them. It’s not easy - I get it. I had to ditch the “I’m not a whole person without someone else” feeling, and life got waaaayyyy easier. Do all his other steps and tell yourself that you are going to take 2023 (or just a week or a month) to work on your “self” and purposely not look for a partner. Give yourself a dating break. Try it please and see what I mean. It did wonders for me.
@@tls459 nice reply thanks.
everyone has their own goals, needs, and visions we are not the same.
@@youtubechanel5243lp My mother has been through a lot and after being alone and living independently for almost a decade, she has finally found someone that I can officially say that brings her happiness. She's been through a lot of crappy and toxic guys that I've had first hand experience myself, as I grew up in adolescence watching it unfold, and now as a young adult living together with her, I can also give my two cents in that he's a really cool guy and that I don't have the same fears around him in contrast to her previous relationships. I agree that it's almost virtually impossible to live on your own in this day and age, depending on where you live in the world. You're strong to have been supporting yourself for a decade, I know that I could personally live on my own, but I'd be lying that I like having the company of someone else present from time to time. Like my mother, I wish that you find a wonderful person to spend the rest of your life with. :)
Yes and congratulations to your mom. No one should be a lone unless they insist. 😊
@@youtubechanel5243lp alone is just fine for some
Thank you for this episode Rangan! It really helped me to recognise and accept The fact that Im burned out, removing The shame and guilt for my belief that Im letting my colleagues and patients down by taking a sick leave to focus on my own recovery. Your wisdom has truly given me hope, self compassion and confidence that its ok to focus on my own recovery. Much love, Norwegian psychologist.
We live in a neurotic society in the US. It's advisable to think about sabbath and/or other structures where we shut down businesses and services (excluding essential services, of course) and have downtimes in life that are sanctioned and supported as a culture. I grew up in Germany. I liked those experiences. Parents had a business. They started at 9am. Shut down 2 hours for lunch. Opened again and shut down at 6:30pm. Dad went for a walk and was home, every day, at 7:30pm. Then, we had family dinner. The basics can save us more than we think. We have lost our way. We have sacrificed health, sleep, and family for a little more profit.
I started teaching in 2009 and I now believe, after pandemic lock downs, I've got severe burnout. I quit my full time job and gone casual supply. I just can't shake this deep exhaustion. I've got absolutely no tolerance for any bs that comes my way, I feel I've got no juice left in the tank to deal with it and I'm extremely lonely. I've gone to the doctor asking for help and she did a blood test and only talked about my cholesterol until I pointed out that stress raises cholesterol. I'm trying to quit teaching for good but I'm going thru this alone. But I'm forcing myself to go to the gym and lift weights, play my violin in the Irish group and looking for another job that can help me slow right down and still pay my bills. The lack of creativity is a key point for me as well. All the points raised are what I'm experiencing every day. I've met so many teachers who have had breast cancer or bowel cancer, I don't want to be another fat, white statistic.
I'm currently on the road to burnout. All the signs are there. Thank you foe this video. It hit home, hard. In fact it was a relief to hear it identified in straighr simple language. Now I will try your step by step plan to pull myself out of it. Thank you.
Dr. Chatterjee, you just may have saved my sanity. Your presentation touched on every single aspect of my character/personality and diagnosed point by point my soul's downward spiral. I cannot thank you enough. The pressures we place on ourselves can be devastating. I had to retire from a profession I used to enjoy, one in which I demanded perfection from myself. I was raised in a competitive family (one parent an alcoholic, another a workaholic) and environment where one required self-excellence and to walk away...the "winner." I beat myself up in the process, nay, burnt myself out. I allowed "paralysis by analysis" to _slow_ me down (or beat me up!), day after agonizing day.
Be well.
This is probably the best video I've seen in terms of strategies to help with wellbeing. Everyone can benefit from this. I reached burnout because of working in isolation during Covid. I barely moved from my computer, I did everything that leads to burnout. I will be watching this video again. My journey out of burnout is a slow one but it's one step at a time. Thank you doctor.
This all sounds great and I understand the rationale behind it. Been doing years of therapy, MBCT, took time off, switched employers. Bottom line is that all the roles are similar. If I take an hour after work to work out, it just means I'm another 100 e-mails behind when I get back. Cost of living keeps increasing, jobs are tricky here right now, so don't really have a choice but to keep going. I have the chest pains, severe insomnia, pure exhaustion, difficulty even brushing my teeth, poor eating. I know it's not healthy, but need to keep paying the bills.
Hi Barbara, I hear you, I feel you. I hear that you cannot see that you have any choice. Please just try something really small, like taking 30 seconds a couple of times a day to just focus on your breathing? It can feel like just one more thing that you've got to do on top of the heavy load you already carry, but it could actually pay dividends by buying you a bit more sleep or more focus to prioritise those emails. There has to be a way to insert a little kindness and compassion towards yourself into your life....
I must say in my opinion... "This Post Cast is the best of yours" This video bears a unique form of information that can transform everything in our lives for a positive daily habit, deriving an authentic way to produce the health that all human beings deserve to put into their lives! You are a genuine Dr. ! God bless you and your family.
Really glad you enjoyed this video. I am considering doing more videos just like this. Any topics you would like me to try and cover, please do let me know. Thanks Rangan
I am the kind of person that always seek from the truth, the truth and wisdom that come from God... Whoever, believe in Him or not... I truly believe in His truth... And because of that, I was able to save my life,..., Without the medical protocols that would destroy and deplete my health.
You are those physicians that deserve 5 Stars! You expose the good deeds that we all are called to do so...I can perceive your love, dedication, and passion for the human beings! I can see that you don't want to masquerade this truth..., You love to support this truth along with other Drs. Continuing, and fullfiling this mission in behalf of others. Congratulations from my heart!
1 minute in and you are speaking directly to my soul. Can't wait to hear it all the way through.
Hope you find the video useful
Of course. Now you know what you'll be doing for the next hour and three quarters of your life. And what will you watch after this video? And then after that? Try a sitting meditation where you attempt to really connect with your breathing process and life force.
@@howardrobinson4938 well actually, 10 hours later I'm on my third attempt to get through the whole thing and will probably need a second listen, to put it all together. Distractions can be a problem at times. 🙂
I love this doctor. He really cares about us!
Thank u Lord and thank doc
We need
Sun i walked my dog
Coffee
Shut off your gadgets 1 hourbefore bed
Rest your brain
No news or soft operas drama movie
Daily dose of pleasure 5 mins a day
I can not think of this for now i just jumped to my trampoline for 5-10 mins
Saying NO was my problem before but now i have over come the hard way
I have a lot fr u doc because before i get to watch u i was suffering loneliness and just prayed and i was answered at once because i found u…
I will watch this again and share to my freinds…
I am so glad to hear that. The Dr. made me see a easy way to change my day life. I used to set up goal so strong and difficult, now I am free. Thank you doctor Rangan Chatterjee. Você é o melhor!!
Seriously Dr you are an absolute treasure and I'm so glad that I discovered your podcast and work. I've not been able to find any other content that has resonated with my feelings even remotely close to what you have just done and I'm only 9mins into the video! You are speaking to me directly, I feel understood and HUMAN finally because you are right, I have been thinking it's me. Thank you Dr, I am looking forward to the rest of this video and actioning the 10 step plan.
This describes what I am going through precisely and have been for years. I’ve been a caregiver for my 90 year old mom for 20+ years in different capacities. Working full time and tending to her 6 days a week has left me totally mentally and physically drained. I find myself apologizing and feeling guilty about not saving time for my friends and my husband but the thought of adding something to my calendar stresses me more.I will work on forcing myself to schedule more get-togethers and implement some of these suggestions. Thank you!,
I watched many videos regarding burnout and I got to say this is one of the most comprehensive video regarding burnout symptoms/ treatment. Thank you Dr. Rangan putting this video out on RUclips. I'm currently going through moderate-severe burnout and need help/ recovery. Sadly I really thought my symptom(s) are normal being in my 30s having more responsibilities at my job/ in life.🙁
First, I’d like to say that I always enjoy Dr. Rangan podcasts. I feel strongly that on the first point mentioned in this video that it is important to consider whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. This makes a tremendous difference in treating burn out. A great book on this is ‘Quiet’ by Susan Cain. I personally am a social introvert. I get recharged by getting time alone in solitude. Solitude is actually one of my favorite environments; it brings me to life and I really don’t get lonely…perhaps it’s possible.. I have many friends, just loneliness isn’t something I experience so much. As much as I feel, the advice, on the first point would be great advice for an extrovert, I do not believe that this would help an introvert like myself. Introverts, love and care about their family friends, they care about their tribe just as much as anyone else, however their personal needs demand quiet time alone and they do not often find themselves lonely when they get this time. In a society driven by extroversion, it has stressed introverts and been the cause of burn out and exhaustion in our lives. If you find yourself craving solitude for a breath of fresh air, go for a walk in nature, go swimming, jogging, and most definitely consider reading ‘Quiet’ by Susan Cain. It’s on Amazon audible as well as paperback. If you’ve been stressed by too much community or are over burdened by social obligations…especially this time of year. Treat yourself to this book and the empowering knowledge you will get from it. It’s personally my remedy for burn out.
I'm an introvert. INFJ is you're a myers briggs fan. I love that book. I love spending time by myself. I get overwhelmed frequently. But I got the most serious form of burnout partly because I isolated myself. Extroverts don't need to recharge after engaging socially. We do. That is the difference. BUT we are still social creatures and MOST of us will get sick and suffer if we don't engage with other humans. I think that Susan Cain would agree. She encourages introverts to find their way in an extroverted world. She wants us to engage. Burnout can kill. Too much isolation is deadly. I know.
Thank you for sharing. I’m glad to hear that you got to recharge Anna that you’re a fellow introvert 😊. I totally agree with you on that one of our biggest differences with extroverts is how we recharge. Everyone is so different on the level of social interaction that is healthy for them. I feel we are all social creatures, but also so many different levels. For example, some scientists are so fascinated by their craft, they submerge themselves into it to the point of isolation and are just fine with that; for some it’s the lifestyle they prefer. For some, isolation is fine for a month, two months, a week, a day, some people a couple hours. We’re just all so different. Whatever our threshold is, it’s unique to us each and the danger of lack of or even over socialization would be unique to each of us as well. I agree that Susan Cain would say we are social creatures, but I think she would also agree that ‘how social’ is variable.🌿
I agree, I am an introvert and the COVID lockdown was the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I needed this today , I'm currently in bed recovering from several infections that's left my body shot ! ..but everything you have spoke about 100% relates to me , I've felt so emotional , not coping , but fundamentally I haven't seen anyone for a while, my adult children left and I didn't know what my role was anymore , and I didn't nurture friendships, so I don't have any , I've been so stressed I've just wanted it to end ..but there is a part of me that's searching for change .
I hope you recover and feel better soon Heather 😊
Hope you are better now. I have been in a similar position. Luckily, it was a temporary job. I resigned after struggling for a month. I have a week left and on the way to recovery.
Heather i Hope you listen take notes and act. To help yourself get out
of this hole .
Because you matter you really do.
Even though you say ur job of rearing ur children is finished,
You've still more to give, and to gain. In this new stage of your / our life.
I do know what you mean, I am in the very same situation as yourself.
Dr Chatterley
is giving us a lot of great advice.
Let's take it, why not write it out, once you see it on paper, you will see how you will start with 1 or 2 . All in your own time, decide them
a day.
And let's get out of the hole we've made for our selves .
Gently and slowly. Let's work through Dr C list.
I wish you the very best.
And I pray you make the change.
For you. As I will for me.
Heather please say every day to self I am worth it. Because you are.
And I am. 😊 🎉 🎉 😊
Your really a genuine, kind hearted, helpful and extraordinary doctor. I can feel like your talking directly to me and I'm sitting next to you. Your really a wonderful person trying to help people on RUclips. Thank you so much Doctor I wish there were more people like you in this world. God Bless.
I agree
Dr Ramjan 😊
I totally agree with above.
Thank you so much for this podcast, iv just come accross you, you have described me to a T.
I will get working on all you have suggested, what a gifted man you are, and you are so blessed, by allowing yourself to freely share your knowledge with others.
And you are happy to do so.
I Praise the Lord, for people like you Doc, never change, from who you are, you've got many gifts.
I have had a vr heavy heart,
along with all of those symptoms you've described, I am also living many years with Fibromyalgia, 20 years now. Going from Therapist to Therapist. With no lasting ease.
Coeliac from Birth, Thyroid probs, Severe Migrains, Empty nest syndrome,
Break up of my marriage of
50 years , still living with said
Alcoholic man, and all that
entails, the death of my
beloved Dog of 16 yrs,
And the death of my dearest
precious mother.
😢 😢
My heart is not so heavy since iv listened to you describe me. And amazed so many others have those symptoms too.
Lord Bless each one, of these precious people, give them the will to take on all, you've advised of self help . Because they are worth it.
In joining the road to healing,
Slowly taking one day at a time,
So big thanks to you again
Doc Ranjan
Now I too can work on those suggestions of yours.
You have the tools, you mind you, and your precious family. 😊 😊
Emotional exhaustion is where I'm at because happiness has never been harder to experience.
I discovered your channel yesterday, with your interview with Gabor Maté. You're very calming and insightful to listen to. I've lived with several decades of anxiety, depression, and 10 years of chronic pains from stress. I'm glad I found your channel. I've been talking about feeling burnt out for years. I'm glad I came across your channel. I've been focusing on working on myself in recent months. Regular yoga, breathing exercises, massage etc. I'm finally starting to feel like I'm looking after myself - after years of people pleasing and co-dependency. Thanks again, and keep up the good work. All the best.
I don’t have any friends. At least none that don’t want something from me. Every time you talk about going and meeting friends for coffee, going for a walk with them, I can’t think of anyone! :(
Maybe join new clubs around your interests. Ive made some great friends through gym classes, volunteering and choir
I completely understand, I have about one actual friend. I don't currently have the energy to go and make more. I believe I need to work on myself, slow down and build my energy back up before I can go out to make more friends.
Homeless are burned out as children as most all suffer extreme childhood abuse. Their spirits are broke and they have to work 10x harder to step up just to maintain a home. They are isolated because only people willing to personally interact will be homeless and poor and too many have poor habits.
You could be talking about me right now. 55, retired, social worker for 23 years and 11 years as a nurse before. Not what I thought my retirement would be. I sleep constantly that’s the only difference. My goal today is to get my Xmas tree up. My disconnect I describe as being ‘peopled out’. I’m away to call my mum 😊
Perhaps you retired to early !!!!!!!
Why say that ? It sounds very judgmental. Highly stressful careers such as nursing and social work are difficult to maintain as you get older. Someone experiencing burnout doesn't need to be guilt tripped by you !
I felt I might be going through depression but it seems more like burnout. Thank you for your video. Luckily I'm not that deep into burnout...I feel it eek in here and there
Dealing with loss of my partner to COVID . Two years ago . I have all the signs!
I hear that, I lost most of my family before COVID, lost the house, the truck, the pets, I feel like a bad country song. This includes my husband, grandma grandpa
Sorry to hear this. ❤
Im not rich but sometimes i buy friends i treat them to to have someone talk and share experiences and it works, one thing i asked is ( did it happened to u that u just cry without any cause ? ) and they yes … so having someone to talked to is very essentials in this lifetime aside from God which we can talk with… but having some to laughed with even with small things is so important…
I was in the Army on a 6 week exercise driving with night vision goggles. I had sleep deprivation with many moves and work during the night with only 2 to 4 hours sleep a day. I came back to work with only a weekend off and had a big burn out. My brain reset like a computer crashing and I could not function with many symptoms. Luckily, I put my hand up for help and got the time off and support I needed.
Here's what I do to cure my burn out: I go on a 10-day solo trip to a new place, preferably with a lot of nature time. I go from "wanting to quit everything" (including life) to "can't wait to go back and do my best work".
Unfortunately now I'm not single anymore and can't really go on 10-day solo trips anymore 😂
Thanks for watching my TED Talk
Man, that's exactly what I feel like and hoping that a vacation will reset things for me.
When I was a regular employee, vacations always did that to me, I came back on fire !
Now I have my own construction biz and haven't had a vacation in 5 years and feel like I'm losing my enthusiasm for so many things, as I'm always working.
@@rickduque5799 I hope that helps you! 5 years is a damn long time!
Great topic. I was born feeling like that, though extended fasting has helped a lot.
Dr. I’ve been meditating a lot. Your explanation is exactly what I’m in. Burnout is bad. I’m making a friend call NOW. THANK YOU❤❤❤❤❤❤
I've done a 21 day water only fast. It was life changing \m/
@@prototype9904 that's great!
I'm going through this right now and it's bad. I seem to be stuck in a cycle of recovering, then burning myself out again and on top of all these symptoms is the negative thoughts and feelings that come with it. Working on self care now though and hopefully adopting better lifestyle habits so I can finally break the cycle. Thanks for this video, it perfectly nails what I'm going through and great ways to recover/avoid it.
oh my gosh last night as I couldn't sleep again, I was thinking, I wish I could just start over ...clean slate!
Got the T-Shirt, Just starting to enjoy my work again, within healthy boundaries of course!
Good to hear Pete. Wishing you all the best for the future!
Great and powerful message! You are one of a kind Dr! Please keep yourself doing these kind of messages!
I am an RN of 17 yrs with 2 kids. My husband has Hodgkins...thankfully he's doing well right now. This video completely hit every point for me. Totally burned out the last few years. I'm really trying to find my old self again, I miss me. Thank you for this video!! I find it very helpful 😌
I feel the EXACT same way
I can so relate, I've just spent 2 years dealing with HL with my daughter. Finally she's in remission, we're just getting our lives back.
@@debbiesteppings8406 That is good news! I am so happy for you! Give her lots of sunshine (so much info coming out about those that did get lots of sunshine did not get Covid) and lots of vegetables, especially the green leafy vegies!❤🩹💚🥬🥦🥒🥑🥥🧄🍋
Hope you are doing better now. I’ve been unhappy because of life-changing effects of covid since contracting it in 2021. I have actually often thought your exact words - wanting to be my old self again and missing me. You are not alone.
A video on how to get through burn out would be really useful. Watching these podcasts at the moment whilst signed off, through battling PTSD for over a decade, and bringing up a family on my own. Nothing unique there, obviously, but the symptoms seem insurmountable. I kept pushing on and on through the symptoms and then just suddenly, snap. Couldn't keep going.
I love the fact that you used the word "Knackered"
Thanks Jim!! :)
I realised I was starting to get anxious leaving the house. Then I began losing my temper when I finally made it to work. I wasn't able to make decisions and the only place I felt calm is at home. I can't go to the gym because it is too loud and too crowded. My doctor is treating me for anxiety now and burn out. I had to tell my boss he can stuff his 24/7 work regime that I have been under for 5 years. That helped too.
Half an hour ago, I realized that today I felt totally fine and relaxed, and just normal, without issues, interested in something I used to be interested in, for the first time in quite a lot of years in which I had serious mental health issues! Don't get me wrong, I have a lot of difficult things on my to do list, but i feel fine. So, i guess, you can overcome it!
I realized I was burnt out about 10 months ago and since then I did basically nothing except taking care of things I let slide before, and lived on my savings, mostly stayed home, for a whole year, and I guess it helped.
OMG!!!! This is a lightbulb moment… didn’t know what’s wrong with me… thank you so much for sharing!!!!
Wow I needed to hear this. That’s exactly what I’ve been feeling for a few years. Thank you for bringing light in my life 😊
Hope you recover from burnout soon 😊
Great help for me. I am 40 and I struggle a lot. I work for the great company and I feel lonely. I started cycling to work and I go for walks with coworkers. Now I have plan.
You didn’t mention alcohol and drugs by the way.
This is me, this is my life. Word for word you described me. 😮 thank you for this helpful video. I needed this.
I'm currently burnt out. I'm ill, had to take time off work and struggling to get out of bed as I don't feel well. I'm stressed from work and it's just built up. Looking forward to watching this. Just watching this already I really relate, not to every single thing but I like the rubber band analogy and also procrastination.
Hope you feel better soon Melissa 😊😊
Thank you very much for teaching us to manage burnout! This eat us alive!
My pleasure. Hope you found the video useful
Your podcast have been excellent. Please keep up your care and desire to use your MD to get out of linear thoughts. You’re much respected by me and I’m starting NOW. THANK YOU. 😊❤🙏☺️❤❤❤
Just a great interview. For years I just wanted my father to apologize for treating me like garbage. That never happened plus he made terrible lies to my other siblings. Since his death, I chose to think of the man who helped his military colleagues fight their addiction issues. I also do what I can to show empathetic and help those in need. We are a community and there are those that need people to stand up for them. Guess you can say the military thing was multi generational.
Just what I needed to hear today. Awesome and encouraging video with attainable suggestions. Thank you Dr. Chatterjee.
I just listened this great talk.i knew I am burnt out but was not taking it seriously.you are my favourite and I listened all of you.But "bunn out" and "habit change" and "breathing"
have started changing my life to positives.i am 72 year young busy practicing pediatrician living each moment beutifully
Add this:
1. Insomia
2. No longer enjoying what you always enjoyed
3. Problems writing, talking backwards, scattered thoughts.
4. Talking is really exhausting
5. 8 hour sleep feel like only 3 hours.
Absolutely amazing, this video should be on prescription, thanks Dr🙏
My pleasure Will. Glad you found the video useful
Thank you Dr Chatterjee. I watched this video and every single symptom made me finally conclude that I have burnout - I tendered my resignation one hour later. I instantly felt a burden lifted :)
Good - except being left alone doesn't necessarily mean feeling lonely, for some people it's perfectly fine and preferable. Not essential to getting better at all. Could go for a long, long time all by myself, and be quite happy.
People, overrated.. Also, what if people around you have been toxic ? I was fine on my own, except I thought I needed a significant relationship.. big mistake, for all the grief that got me, and burnout among them.
Omg! I took several minutes to wake up (Think) if I had done these 7 Steps in my life! And low and behold, yes I have. I want to thank you for reminding myself that you are important and to listen to my heart ❤️ and brain. The few minutes I really needed were to tell myself look at your list and continue each day to do something that will make me Happy. ☺️ Thank you for your messages of self awareness and to be more kind to others. I try to do at least 3 things to other people that they are important, beautiful and kind. Just one nice compliment about them and pass it on! Then I would see them smiling from ear to ear.. 🙂 🥰
How do I like a video more than once? This is excellent.
It’s never late until it is!
I was diagnosed with a scleroderma because I couldn’t recognize the signs. Chronic stress!!! There you go. I changed all my lifestyle.
The doctors are going nuts because they can’t understand that the disease is reversing because of the lifestyle changes.
Actually they are in shock because they don’t understand and when doctors don’t understand something they tend to have problems with acceptance.
So yes, I’m healing thanks to all the other things that I’m doing that have nothing to do with conventional medicine. Amen 🙌🏻
I am in my child's second year of life and I was wondering lately exactly this. If I am lazy or if there is something else going on. And here I stumble upon this video and I am in awe of how this video is an accurate depiction of myself. My husband has just pointed out that nothing makes me happy anymore and I replied that he was exactly right, nothing makes me happy, motivated and I am bothered by the smallest actions from the people around me. I really don't know how to move forward because I feel I am not there 100 per cent for my child during her early years.
If you feel the symptoms of burnout, but you're not over-working, it's more likely depression. Is that correct?
Burnout is caused by constant stress. If your work isn't stressful to you. I guess you are depressed.
Thank you this is just what I needed I was a carer for my Husband who is now in care so I felt I lost all my metal happiness I have burn out I am lonely I am always on my own I need this help ❤
I have been practising the Mindfulness of Breathing technique ruclips.net/user/postUgkxIIDVgnLN8pF_fPOyoZ1nTjbLvvZcib6r as taught in this CD for about 2 years having read about it in Paramananda's Change Your Mind book and taken a real liking to it. However at times I struggle to remain focused on the breathing and thought that at such times this guided version might suit me. So after two years I finally decided to buy it! The first 7'24 of Track 1 of the CD is a body relaxtion which I do not use: I don't like body relaxation techniques and I find 27' just a little too long for meditation. The remaining 20' of gentle, guided meditation helps me tremendously to relax and stay focused. I find him's voice very soothing and whilst he is present to guide you through the 4 stages of the meditation, his presence is not intrusive or distracting. For the past two years I have tried to follow this technique as best I can with gentle meditation music despite music not being recommended. Having used this CD a couple of times I think I will try from now on to adopt a new routine of no music and just this CD as I find it so helpful. I realise now that the music really is distracting and I have enjoyed listening to the ambient sounds around me which I am normally unaware of. I can not comment on the other 2 tracks of Metta or Walking Meditation as I bought the CD solely to help me with the Mindfulness of Breathing and it does just that - very effectively. In my opinion this CD is money very well spent as it will guide you through a thoroughly useful and beneficial meditation technique and I don't think you can put a price on that.
I have never watched a video that resonated with me as much as this one does. I vow to take action and change my job, is scary and difficult as that may be.
I was a science teacher.all I did is work and work only now that I want to enjoy life I got sick l advise people enjoy life a little more than usual life is not only about work.Enjoy life while you can .
I’m 90 and have depression all my life it’s tough. Good social friends. Thatch make me laugh is the way. Eat right. You will. Get through it Meditation is great No anger no resentful thank you
This is a timely video, Im feeling being burnt out very drastically, May this video help me, ang God bless me, thank you
Hey Steven - I really hope it helps. Wishing you all the best, Rangan
DR Chatterjee Thankyou for including 'The Person Centred Approach' ie, what is good for you. Such Understanding is Incredibly helpful.
I never made the connection between learned helplessness and burnout. Very enlightening. Thank you.
Straight out of high school I started working with my Dad at the Dry Cleaner he owned. At first all I did was assemble orders and worked on the counter (taking orders in and giving them out). At that time we had a bunch of people working with me. I remember at the time thinking that working 5+ hours was too much for me. 😂 As time went on we had people leave and come but overall I took on most of what we had to do, most of what I called running the front (this includes assembling orders, working on the counter, and tagging the orders so we knew who’s they were). Eventually as I learned more I started helping in the back of the store (this is where all the pressing and cleaning would actually happen). With this I would be basically doing most of the things in the store not counting the pressing of everything. So there would be some days if Dad had to leave on deliveries I would have to run both the front and the back, and make sure the orders Dad needed were done and bagged. This stayed this way for a bit until the pandemic hit. At this time I was the only person running the front. When it first came out pressers stayed and continued doing what they did but eventually for one reason or another they quit. So. I had to do that. Now Dad took on running the front, and this let me do a bunch of the pressing and I hadn’t yet had to take on all of it. We still on person helping. This stayed true until about 2021. We lost our last presser. If I remember correctly they went to jail. 😅 This is the point where I think my burnout started. I remember very clearly at this time that even though I was pressing all the shirts. I could still come home and work out for an hour (I was and still am overweight at the time of writing this so I wanted to lose a bunch of weight!). Once I took on pressing everything. I just couldn’t anymore. I could do maybe 30 minutes at most. And not even what I used to. Fast forward to 2022. Over the past 2 years we got kicked out of our first store( that landlord was a piece of work), started pressing all of our stuff at one place, then had to move to another location, the FINALLY getting our location were I am typing this at now (Lunch time! I’m eating enchiladas!). Now because we have two locations one that cleans and presses, and another that takes the orders in I am here by myself. This is what I do know (I own the business now btw).
I wash all the clothes, press all the clothes, run my store because it has a front also, and I do all the admin stuff, ie. bookkeeping, paying bills, etc. At this point I don’t think I have ever felt more tired than I do now.. we just got of a short break because of the Holidays. But all the resting I did just doesn’t help. I am sad, angry, frustrated, most of the time. I don’t want to sleep when I get home I just want to have free time. I work 7 to 8 most days. So by the time I get home and have dinner done it’s 9 pm and I barely have any energy to do anything. Now I will still play games or stay up late talking to friends but that cuts into my sleep. These things have been compounding for years at this point. Next year will mark 8 years that I have done this. I will be making it my goal that this time next year I will have sold my business. I came to this conclusion about this time last year (January 2023). I have spent most of last year (2023) working out a plan. The plan will be set in motion this month (January 2024) and I hope to remember and update this post next year. If you read this far thanks! Really appreciate listening to my rambling!!
I have a grup of girlfriend who we met every month no matter what and the feelings after is so energizing. My husband incurage me to keep going out because he see me having a better energy and mood after. I incurage everyone to the same is very beneficial to your mind.
My takeaway - define the done
I think i am burning out trying to be positive in my current love relationship, career, finance, aging (40s)... Im trying to surrender but i am not there yet...
I’m grateful for you. 🙏💜🙏thanks for making the world a better place
Thanks Carla. Appreciate the kind words
Unfortunately sometimes somebody "expert" can diagnose only nothing. Can make only danger and wasting time advies 😔 Hello from Amsterdam city
I’m the epitome of all said signs! I’m listening…..
The “if you had any good in yourself” about making one’s partner a coffee.. Very true though. I look forward to having such a thing, but so grateful I’ve been learning these lessons before and not after.