5 Surprising Things People Get Wrong About the World

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  • Опубликовано: 8 июн 2024
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    If you’ve ever been stuck working some BS desk job thinking there’s got to be more to life, then you were right. There’s travel.
    High-quality, intentional travel is one of the most transformational experiences a person can have. Without a doubt, my 10 years living abroad made me more confident, more self-assured, and ultimately more educated about the world and the people in it.
    It also informed a lot of the philosophy that I've written about over the past 10 years-the counterintuitive approach that so many people have come to love.
    This episode dives into the key takeaways I got from my years of traveling. I can’t be sure, but I think they might inspire you as much as they have me. Enjoy.
    00:00:00 Introduction
    00:01:42 How it all began
    00:04:18 Lesson #1: Everything is a trade-off
    00:08:48 Lesson #2: Happiness is cheap, dignity is expensive
    00:16:52 Lesson #3: Solo travel is great for personal development
    00:23:14 Lesson #4: Most people are good
    00:30:27 Lesson #5: Some cultures produce better outcomes than others
    00:36:32 Mark’s travel tips
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Комментарии • 573

  • @stevensantora2976
    @stevensantora2976 4 месяца назад +278

    1. Everything is a tradeoff
    2. Happiness is cheap, dignity is expensive
    3. Solo travel is great for personal development
    4. Most people are good
    5. Some cultures produce better outcomes than others
    Mark's Travel Tips:
    1. Travel for an extended period.
    2. Read a book on the country you are going to while you are there.
    3. Avoid the resorts.
    4. Limit tourist activities to the first two days.
    5. Find activities that help you interact with the locals

    • @papeleriainfona-zr6gb
      @papeleriainfona-zr6gb 4 месяца назад +17

      thank you, now i can skip the whole video because my fish attention span doesn't even let me watch 5 minutes straight without looking at the comments

    • @torachan23
      @torachan23 4 месяца назад +3

      Thank you

    • @CorwinYoutube
      @CorwinYoutube 4 месяца назад +2

      Thank you internet friend! 🙂

    • @chris_cringe2255
      @chris_cringe2255 4 месяца назад +1

      I am at 0:59 reading this. Fuck me

    • @supermonk3y07
      @supermonk3y07 4 месяца назад

      Great summary! Some of the things I don't agree with and some I do despite some of them being uncomfortable truths that I wish were not true. Either way, it's interesting and nice to know Mark Manson's insight on the society.

  • @mariawesley7583
    @mariawesley7583 4 месяца назад +69

    A friend returned from a vacation abroad and described the resort where he stayed. I asked him if there was a lot of crime in the country he was visiting, if there were any safety issues and he replied with a straight face, "No, it's very safe. The resort is fenced off."

  • @gregorybresnahan2161
    @gregorybresnahan2161 4 месяца назад +109

    “Traveling helps you to see what remains constant when you leave an environment and what changes” may be my favorite quote from Mark yet. Reader and follower going on 5 years. Thank you for everything you do!

    • @MrPanSzymon
      @MrPanSzymon 4 месяца назад +2

      isn't constant and the same synonyms?

    • @gregorybresnahan2161
      @gregorybresnahan2161 4 месяца назад +1

      @@MrPanSzymon just noticed that, thanks!

  • @Tracey66
    @Tracey66 4 месяца назад +27

    24:49 You started talking about my Ruiner Theory - I figured out that about 3 to 5% of people are Ruiners. I have also figured out that about 3-5% are Fixers. The rest are POLRs - Path of Least Resistance people - they go with the flow.

  • @CK2008able
    @CK2008able 4 месяца назад +97

    One of Mark's best podcasts yet. Travelling is such an eye-opening and positive experience, and you'll find we've way more in common than not.

  • @RealziesCuts
    @RealziesCuts 4 месяца назад +385

    490 days no alcohol 🥇✊

  • @jennajewel
    @jennajewel 4 месяца назад +46

    I haven’t travelled abroad but I did a solo road trip of over 4000 miles a few years ago and it changed everything. I was able to figure out what was going on in my mind and the changes I needed to make that I had been avoiding. I am so grateful I did it. I’m still reaping the benefits.

    • @shamusenright5387
      @shamusenright5387 4 месяца назад +2

      Yes. You're learning about yourself rather than the place in which you're travelling.

    • @KizetteandTotoro
      @KizetteandTotoro 4 месяца назад +1

      That totally counts. Just going to the city next to yours, but do it mindfully. Be interested in others, how they think, and take time to think about your own reactions to the encounters too. Great example for all of us, thank you.

  • @nurrnena7798
    @nurrnena7798 4 месяца назад +47

    Funnily, whenever I travel to a country, I always feel like my home country is the best place to be. Adventures can still happen and will excite me inside my small country.

    • @Daveighna
      @Daveighna 4 месяца назад

      Hello! Where are you from?

    • @nurrnena7798
      @nurrnena7798 4 месяца назад +1

      @@Daveighna Estonia

  • @ChrisBrown-or8ky
    @ChrisBrown-or8ky 4 месяца назад +43

    There's a Buddhist saying that on every great journey, you must die once. Unsure what was implied by that, but I've lived and traveled overseas and each time had my own character revealed to me through other societies, or their hardships, and my own mini-crises. I had a meltdown in a Wuhan train station in 2004, and while it wasn't fun, am so grateful for it. Never been the same since, but oddly healthier, and became easily more honest to myself and others

    • @thebettybassettproduction2458
      @thebettybassettproduction2458 4 месяца назад +5

      You never step in the same river twice you are not same person and the river is not the same.
      Maybe that's what Buddha meant.

    • @gilbertdaroy6080
      @gilbertdaroy6080 4 месяца назад +2

      You should tell us about that 'meltdown.'

    • @miahconnell23
      @miahconnell23 4 месяца назад +1

      I might have witnessed part of this break-down: in a train station, another foreigner (rare) tried to get me to help him with something and the vibe was off, so I kept on walking. The foreigner’s screams of anger at me (for walking away) were something conspicuously incongruent with the ambient cultural norm-

    • @PSModelling
      @PSModelling 4 месяца назад

      Thanks that's a really wise comment, easy to get caught in our own bubbles so this resonates with me.

  • @sharonlibator
    @sharonlibator 4 месяца назад +26

    Three things: (1) Travel when you're young if you can. Travel does change you, your perceptions, your mind, and your ways, and if you go early, those changes will benefit you for the rest of your days. (2) 100% agree with the read a book advice. I usually look for at least one piece of great literature written in the local language (translated if necessary). For example, I found "The Book of Disquiet" by Fernando Pessoa before going to Portugal and loved it! (3) Learn as much of the language as you can. At least learn hello, thank you, please, excuse me, I'm sorry, where is the bathroom, and what do you recommend. I am an enthusiastic language learner and have continued with German and Spanish, the state of my Japanese is sad, though. Knowing another language opens up a new cultural world.

  • @daveking3494
    @daveking3494 4 месяца назад +8

    After living outside America for 50 years, I can’t imagine ever going back. I have realised that no matter where I live, the most important thing is the people and friends that I have around me, plus it is fun to learn other languages and experience other cultures. America is definitely not the world.

  • @user-ty4uy8pt6e
    @user-ty4uy8pt6e 4 месяца назад +17

    Sad fact is as an Indian you will listen to the suffering mentioned by him in India and think bro this is something we go through at times. But having awkward conversation with parents is difficult than this.

    • @the_ab101
      @the_ab101 4 месяца назад +6

      same, as an India i was interested in Mark's experience in India
      but it's just sad to know..

  • @timothyy7
    @timothyy7 4 месяца назад +15

    I got into travel hacking, traveled to several countries, mostly in Asia and SE Asia. I never spent a dime on travel, but I was also able to destroy all my bad consumer debt that I accumulated in NYC. I now live in Vietnam where my cost of everything is exponentially cheaper. I still act cheap to keep my discipline and live like the locals and really immerse into the environment to know how it feels to be a local here. The only hardest shit is communicating in Vietnamese. I can only speak some Korean and mandarin but Vietnamese is on a whole ass level of difficulty.

    • @KizetteandTotoro
      @KizetteandTotoro 4 месяца назад +1

      well done. You can do it!

    • @hangto5038
      @hangto5038 Месяц назад

      I am Vietnamese and totally agreed.

  • @RaidenHusky
    @RaidenHusky 4 месяца назад +30

    When you say that "Most people are good" I liked the word "Hospitible" more, because I think there are a lot of people, whom when you get closer to them or spend more time with them, can be bad. Someone can smile and offer you dinner and a place to stay, but be abusing their child behind the scenes. I still agree with the "glass half full" view that more people are good than are bad. But I think simularly to the idea you shared about spending time in less well off countries to see how people are REALLY suffering when you spend time with them, I think there can be a lot of people who can be doing bad. And just because they give us food and a smile we can believe them good. Again, Im still glass half full here, but a glass half full is simultaneously a glass half empty. Its not MOSTLY full

    • @delta._.6456
      @delta._.6456 4 месяца назад +4

      i think is kinda true not completely, as generally people are nice but the reason they can be bad due to getting closer, is because you discover more differences because people are different and your differences could lead to hostility. But also, most of the bad is just incompentence not malice, like more of a chance for an native to have a different view on the world, like money is king and this is further reinforced by his life expieriences, but you know that money isn't everything and this difference is why you could say they are "bad", it is more of a case of being different in morals and ideas and the system and worldview they have.

    • @RaidenHusky
      @RaidenHusky 3 месяца назад +2

      @@delta._.6456 @delta._.6456 thank you for this reply 💚 I really like that reminder. We shouldn't mistake for malice what can easily be explained by incompitence or ignorance. Or us not realizing the life experience that lead someone different than ourselves to believe their actions to be the right thing

  • @70Gabstar
    @70Gabstar 4 месяца назад +6

    I started travelling solo because plans with travel companions fell through...and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Since then, solo travel has become my default. I can spend all day in a museum if I want, and I can walk for miles just observing daily life and not have to listen to complaining. Travelling solo forces you to interact with others - locals and fellow travellers alike.

  • @user-uh6iz4tx5h
    @user-uh6iz4tx5h 4 месяца назад +8

    I just found your Chanel and it’s a breath of fresh air!! Especially for a young person ( I’m 64) realizing things I’ve realized by living
    long years!! Bravo 👏 love your contents, will recommend to my adult kids!! 🙏🥰
    I’m a Korean American woman ready to retire soon and just love your thoughts and comments!!

  • @AliceChen
    @AliceChen 4 месяца назад +91

    As someone who has traveled to 30 countries, majority alone, I think a lot of these ideas are great! I also lived in China for about 2 years when I was younger and those experiences were EYE OPENING. I definitely agree with you that you simply have to acknowledge that some countries do things better than others - that's fact.
    The thing about the anecdote with your friend building schools is great because it highlights that simply providing things is not enough to create social change. Behaviors exist for a variety of reasons, and culture and social norms are particularly important for development and public health work (historically development aid has not acknowledged or addressed this). You can't just build schools and not address teacher-student dynamics, empowerment of women and girls, acceptance of teen pregnancy, etc.
    The other thing is that police does matter - the problem is that there are flaws in the US policing system and they are not treating people the same. The US police system has made significant trade-offs in funding police systems that end up doing harm to the communities they're supposed to be helping while underfunding education, health care, public transport, etc. Law enforcement systems are not inherently useless, it's mostly about how typical police systems are implemented.

    • @Azurethewolf168
      @Azurethewolf168 4 месяца назад +2

      Well for the police stuff, they have systems that go after places with more crime where they’ll put more officers, and more often than not it’s in black neighborhoods. That’s due to cultural and social issues in the black community, along with a minority of police officers

    • @Azurethewolf168
      @Azurethewolf168 4 месяца назад

      Empowerment is probably a bad thing to say since it’s conflated with more like the modern west where women basically get everything with no work, and that is the more extreme end. I feel that it’s good for women to have some things but also realize that women are not rational like men, they go off of emotions and this is why most of the people who make outrageous comments online are women. It’s really sad how rational thought is superseded by social pressure or whatever the west thinks.

    • @RanjakarPatel
      @RanjakarPatel 4 месяца назад +3

      he is race. he no speak four india. he no like my color. my color good color. all color good color. y he no like make inside four me india? y he no visit inside?

    • @RanjakarPatel
      @RanjakarPatel 4 месяца назад +1

      he fourget martin luther king dreams.

    • @Azurethewolf168
      @Azurethewolf168 4 месяца назад +1

      @@RanjakarPatel what?!

  • @mrcsrkcrz
    @mrcsrkcrz 4 месяца назад +32

    I grew up in Brazil and moved to Germany with 10 where I lived for 19 years (-1 year after high school where I lived in Australia and - 1 semester I studied in Indonesia). Then I left in 2021 after finishing my masters in Architecture (and working for a year to wait out covid and make extra cash). Since then I've been traveling and staying for long periods (at least 6 Months) in certain Countries, like USA, Mexico, New Zealand with shorter periods in others all over the world. I traveled to roughly 30+ countries in my life, currently I'm back in Brazil for roughly 6 months as I renovate the apartment where I grew up in and I'll keep going after. My goal though is to maybe find a "real" job and a place to live again, maybe by the end of this year.
    I totally get what you say as the trade off thing is something I think about and feel a lot. In people, cultures, countries, way of living.. anything! I love balance and the truth is for me the best way to get that is to move between countries and activities with different trade offs. I'll eventually get sick of one thing and later miss it again. At the same time after moving a lot and not having my own place for almost 3 years now I also now miss the stability I'd have when I was not traveling. We never get everything at once obviously.. Traveling gave me tons of insights and moving to a very different country/culture at the age of 10, having both nationalities makes is very hard to decide where to live, which trade off fits me best. It is great to simply understand the world, why some places are the way they are, why people are the way they are. I barely judge as everyone has a story. I traveled almost everything by myself, often times also with people but always knowing it's just for a limited period. I had tons of variation on what kind of traveling would happen. I hiked the entire length of the US, later Jordan and also the south Island of New Zealand. I'd work sometimes, teaching surfing, picking fruits, making hand-poke tattoos, doing design work for a free accommodation etc. I camped, couch surfed and hitchhiked a lot and slept and traveled in pretty much any way you could imagine. I mostly lived extremely frugal but also being an "educated westerner" made me become friends with all kinds of people... Homeless people, Drug dealers, Prostitutes and strippers (not through their services), Addicts, Hippies, Gang members, Artists, Farmers, Business owners, Scientists and some millionaires, everything besides the usual travelers. All are helpful and treat you with love if you respect them the way you wish to be respected. No matter our differences.
    It is a very humbling experience. I learned that all the people are lovely but the system often reflects their deeper minds, like you said about more corruption happening/being culturally accepted. And it defines them too as we humans adapt way better than we think we can, especially to follow a higher power.
    And as you said there are just different values.
    So for me it is still hard to say/accept what you claim.. That money is important, that some "ways" are better than others. One of the biggest issues is that some cultures are more powerful than others and the weaker ones suffer in general from the power and influence of others and also from simply the knowledge of other standards! And there is no way out anymore. Actually I like to say corruption is everywhere it just looks and feels different depending where you are. So money might be good but only with the knowledge that having enough probably means others are suffering because of it somewhere. So in our reality it ends up being a selfish choice to have more (very indirectly and we can use it to do some good too) but as a system it's massive trade off!
    It's all like yin and yang "you can't grow the white without also growing the black" in this world if that makes sense... Globalism is great but it also has it's price. With the examples of indigenous people before colonialism. In my opinion they probably had a very good life, without money without great comfort, without a good health system and barely any chances to decide how their life would be. But it's a bare bone type of living, you only care about surviving and have a role/importance in your tribe, a strong sense of community and you don't know on what your missing out what others might have. I don't think we would argue that bees could be happier if they would leave their hive and evolve to have more choices and higher standards (it's a weird analogy but we're all living beings with a role in nature). "If white is small, black is small".
    But if you know and grew up in a first world country (actually hate that word), you'll miss what you had eventually. The comfort and safety and specially the choices you have in life. So I don't think in general that money, and "certain ways" are better than others... It just depends what you need, what your values are and what trade offs are the ones for you. I'm still on a journey to find out more and I love it.. and I hate it a little at the same time though, the more you know the more you understand what you're missing out in other places and cultures. Not having a single home country makes it almost impossible to find the right culture and values for me.
    I'm not a great communicator but I hope I still made a point some can understand... So yeah go out and travel, you'll have tons of great experiences, memories and you'll grow a lot. But knowing more doesn't make live simpler, just richer as there's always a trade off :)

    • @jordanvarbev
      @jordanvarbev 4 месяца назад +4

      Thank you for the effort to write all this!
      I wish you all the very best, but most importantly - good health - as we all know, this is the one thing we should not trade off for anything else ;)

    • @vandalpaulius
      @vandalpaulius 4 месяца назад +4

      I think the point Mark was trying to make - some cultures are better than others for providing bodily security (food, shelter and general security) because they are better at keeping those 3% assholes at bay, who compromise everyones living.
      And I agree. Most of the cultures were like that back in the day, but some evolved to keep majority people relatively happy and others didn't. It's not because they are inherently worse, but due to timing or other cultures exploiting them, they stagnated in culture evolution for general people prosperity. At least looking from "now" lens

    • @yara-um6tx
      @yara-um6tx 4 месяца назад +2

      I’m also Brazilian, and moved to England when I was 9 years old, currently living in between England and United Arab Emirates (where my fiancée lives), so I relate so much to your comment!!!

    • @hannesRSA
      @hannesRSA 4 месяца назад +3

      Bro you travelled to 30 countries, that's a very privileged position you came from and thanks for your post.
      But you need to learn to summarise and learn some situational awareness.

    • @mrcsrkcrz
      @mrcsrkcrz 4 месяца назад +1

      @@hannesRSA Yeah really need to summarize better and i work on it (it's way easier when i speak) but sometimes it's hard for me, and since it's just a rare occasion on yt I just left it like that.. wondering if your comment on situational awareness is also based on how I wrote or what I wrote about?
      And yes you especially learn to appreciate this privilege after traveling and meeting so many people who'd love to do the same but can't.

  • @philvd4000
    @philvd4000 4 месяца назад +23

    As a french-argentinian born in New Zealand that has lived in Brazil, Australia and currently Spain, I can honestly say that I agree 100% regarding the topics mentioned by Mark & Drew. For example, In Argentina we have a very passionate culture/family focused, which is awesome, but we also have something called the "Viveza Criolla" which explains why the country is such an economic mess

    • @KizetteandTotoro
      @KizetteandTotoro 4 месяца назад

      Excuse for asking, how long have you been living in Spain?. I came here almost four months ago and I am suffering from terrible culture shock. (my parents were spanish but I spent most of my life living in te UK. Also I came back after living in Japan for six years (where I never had this problem) Do you have any advice? I’m really having trouble adapting . Thanks.

    • @DarthTyranusbr
      @DarthTyranusbr 4 месяца назад

      "Jeitinho brasileiro".

    • @Kolach0
      @Kolach0 4 месяца назад

      @@KizetteandTotorogo back to the UK. Spain is great to visit only

    • @KizetteandTotoro
      @KizetteandTotoro 4 месяца назад

      @@Kolach0 Thank you. I have been thinking about it. It seems it is the only option. This is just uneccesarily difficult..

    • @Kolach0
      @Kolach0 4 месяца назад

      @@KizetteandTotoro be happy with what you got. Comeback to Spain with lots of money to retire or just as a tourist

  • @cassieoz1702
    @cassieoz1702 4 месяца назад +8

    Broke, solo travel is a different prospect for women

  • @eddiebrugal8660
    @eddiebrugal8660 4 месяца назад +13

    how good is this guy? loved this. His advice is Try the Food after one of his worst travel experiences was food poisoning in India

    • @RuudAwakening
      @RuudAwakening 4 месяца назад

      Though I believe he trusts his audience to add “if it isn’t still breathing” without saying xD

  • @angelajohnson2830
    @angelajohnson2830 Месяц назад +1

    Agree. “Solo” traveling with a child has had the same effect for me. Overcoming language barriers, navigating unfamiliar territory, etc all while keeping my daughter safe has given me so much confidence. I feel I can overcome anything now

  • @elanamarshallsea4781
    @elanamarshallsea4781 4 месяца назад +10

    I haven't solo traveled abroad but I did solo travel within the US and focused on small towns. I found the same kind of culture differences depending on where I went ( Bible belt vs. Uncharted townships vs tourist routes). I agree that solo travel is Extremely thereputic.

  • @fabiosuccess2895
    @fabiosuccess2895 4 месяца назад +5

    Some people confuse "happiness" with simple joys. Also it would help if people weren't so distracted focusing on their "smart" phones. Some people swear by using a "dumb" phone to simplify their lives and create opportunities of conversation.

  • @user-fx7lk5dl4j
    @user-fx7lk5dl4j 4 месяца назад +1

    Hey Mark. Love the return to your long form vids. They're the perfect length of information and even better to listen on long walks.

  • @sbennett891
    @sbennett891 4 месяца назад +19

    Great video but wait if you're under 30 go for it? I'm 60 now and it still applies, solo traveled in 40s it was amazing and want to do more. Thanks for podcasts Mark!

    • @mrcsrkcrz
      @mrcsrkcrz 4 месяца назад

      I was going to say.. I'm 31 and don't intend to stop traveling and would never say someone it is too old to start!! Maybe you won't just be getting drunk in different countries (probably sometimes) but still have tons of great experiences

    • @rkentwenger5095
      @rkentwenger5095 4 месяца назад +4

      Well, I think maybe the idea is the if you're under 30 you probably don't have that many commitments, so you should just do it without really questioning it (obviously not if you have kids...), but over 30 you're likely to be more established in ways that you don't want to mess up. But I did my biggest and best trip so far (3 months) at 50 -- and I was able to do that without drastically disrupting my life. A lot depends on your circumstances...

  • @RonSwansonIsMyGod
    @RonSwansonIsMyGod 9 дней назад

    The happiness thing, classic man. Like the Hamlet quote, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so”.

  • @pinkeswalross
    @pinkeswalross 4 месяца назад +3

    I’m originally from Germany and moved abroad 5 years ago, first to Lebanon, now to the US, and spent over half a year in Kenya - I can relate to this a lot.

  • @ronakchauhan8137
    @ronakchauhan8137 4 месяца назад +3

    Loved it. All the takeaways were amazing but the one which struck me was everything's a trade off! Thank you Mark❣️

  • @justfizzbuzz
    @justfizzbuzz 4 месяца назад +2

    Wow, this is pure gold! I had to interrupt what I was doing just to fully listen.

  • @2BLAYVE
    @2BLAYVE 4 месяца назад +7

    Hey Mark, I think your travels should be explored in your next book!! Have you thought about writing one in greater detail about your travel experiences? Either that or another in depth podcast about it.

  • @resumefreak
    @resumefreak 4 месяца назад +2

    As I’m wrapping up a one week trip from South America, this video came out at the perfect time. Thank you bro!

  • @robertcristiandobrica6928
    @robertcristiandobrica6928 4 месяца назад

    There were so many real insights shared here. Thank you very much for the honest content. It feels very empowering! Please do an episode 2 with the things you would do different if you had a middle age crisis and decided you want to travel again.

  • @peznino1
    @peznino1 4 месяца назад +1

    Really interesting chat. Mark you've got a real talent for observing how humans live and think and an uncanny knack of drawing really insightful conclusions. 👏

  • @jamsaddis9313
    @jamsaddis9313 4 месяца назад +4

    Thanks for sharing that side of you. Greetings from Addis, Ethiopia.

  • @raphaelklijn6358
    @raphaelklijn6358 4 месяца назад

    Great conversation. Thanks for putting things in perspective.

  • @gillrobinson3517
    @gillrobinson3517 4 месяца назад +6

    Surprisingly I agree with pretty much all he said. I have predominantly traveled solo and in the ways he has. I prefer to attempt to understand how other people are, although without having a language to share that can almost be impossible...
    On another note, I like to read novels about that country I'm in by an author from there. Or a movie. You can learn a lot of subtle things about cultures by doing this.
    But selfishly I prefer that most people prefer the tourist spots. Then where I like to go is not overdeveloped and touristy.
    Really enjoyed this conversation. Thanks guys

  • @Vivi_9
    @Vivi_9 4 месяца назад +5

    I think your conclusion on individual-based societies being better is fundamentally flawed because if a community-based society creates happier people then that should automatically be better than an individualistic society that gives psychopaths the opportunity to thrive and leaves everybody else miserable, even if they are presented to have greater opportunities to get flashier shit that doesn't actually matter in the long run. Even if happiness is cheap, isn't that still better than being in a materialistic society where people don't trust each other and levels of mental illness are the highest in recorded history?

    • @Vivi_9
      @Vivi_9 4 месяца назад +2

      Not to mention your whole philosophy is that suffering gives you meaning. Being happy while suffering surely beats suffering and being completely lost

  • @arielmayo5054
    @arielmayo5054 Месяц назад +1

    Very interesting video, Mark. Congratulations and greetings from Buenos Aires, Argentina.

  • @thebettybassettproduction2458
    @thebettybassettproduction2458 4 месяца назад +2

    You are so brilliant as always.
    This is what I've always wanted to understand about travel.
    Thank you for deconstructing it.
    I just feel so much smarter after watching your podcasts. But not really just smarter, rather wiser.
    What you say leaves a lasting mark, a lightbulb moment or something that you cling to and come to again and again because it rings true.
    Thank you for being brilliant and struggling to get by so now we, the world at large get to benefit from how you experienced things as well as your takeaways.
    Thank you, thank you, thank you so much.
    You really are the best and very precious.
    Have a great day.
    Betty

    • @jordanvarbev
      @jordanvarbev 4 месяца назад

      A "lasting Mark" you mean 😊

    • @jordanvarbev
      @jordanvarbev 4 месяца назад +1

      And you have a great day too, Betty!

  • @priyankasil4537
    @priyankasil4537 4 месяца назад +7

    Hey Mark ❤ from India and also sorry for that you got troubled when you visited India

  • @JustAGuyWithThoughts
    @JustAGuyWithThoughts 4 месяца назад +4

    As to point 4: Your own experience does skew this. I worked in Security for 13 years, and yeah, I did meet some great people. But when your job is literally to deal with the worst of the worst at their lowest, and people who are scared, angry, under the influence, whatever, over time you see that EVERYONE is capable of being a PoS and it's a very thin line between civility and scum. I know people in general are okay, but I also am highly aware of how much people actually ride that line. It is something that I want to change, but again, there's no veil any more, no blase naieve innocence left to soften everything.

  • @BodyByBenSLC
    @BodyByBenSLC 4 месяца назад +11

    Once I stopped trying to find happiness, it found me.

  • @false-zd5uj
    @false-zd5uj 4 месяца назад

    This surprisingly a good talk. It got me to reaffirm what I already know and think about stuff in a different way.

  • @brandyinchina
    @brandyinchina 21 день назад

    In China since 2006, came here to "travel while I was young" ended up staying here much longer! It has reshaped every part of the first 20 years of my life. I think this podcast is the BEST I've ever heard about traveling and how it isn't what it seems!

  • @bwendy2
    @bwendy2 4 месяца назад

    This was great, interesting and right on! I traveled a little after college, not like you but had family in England and France to stay with. Loved every minute.

  • @jonathangriffiths9713
    @jonathangriffiths9713 4 месяца назад +1

    I'm 22 year old guy and been solo traveling for 6-9 months at a time for the last 2 years while doing university online around se asia, s asia, central Asia, East Asia, LATAM, middle east and many other places. I related to everything you said. Thanks again for a great video

  • @denniswatson6622
    @denniswatson6622 4 месяца назад

    I listened to this and nodded so much in agreement. I remember that I discovered your book right after I moved abroad 5 years ago and reading it let me know that I’d made the right decision.

  • @dakotapeters5654
    @dakotapeters5654 4 месяца назад

    His eyes on the front picture are astoundingly beautiful. The headline/title peaked my curiosity but then i saw his eyes as the video was loading and had to stop to zoom in a bit they are just soooo... beautiful pure green idk i love his soul.

  • @robfractal6820
    @robfractal6820 3 месяца назад

    Great advice and wisdom through experience. Thanks Mark

  • @mullergyula4174
    @mullergyula4174 4 месяца назад

    You are just too good Mark, a true gift.

  • @kats.7268
    @kats.7268 4 месяца назад

    Your philosophy around systems and the people is hands down the most important thing all peoole should realize. AWESOME. Thank you.

  • @cargon28
    @cargon28 4 месяца назад +3

    I feel glad to hear Mark using Venezuela, where I live as an example. It tells you how much have you have meet about the world

    • @RuudAwakening
      @RuudAwakening 4 месяца назад

      I have a sports trainer who’s born and raised in Venezuela, in survive-the-streets part
      I’m curious, how much part of Venezuela is like that?
      The trainer time-to-time motivates us with stories to give us wealthy dutchies a reality check to not take all we have for granted and be grateful

    • @RuudAwakening
      @RuudAwakening 4 месяца назад

      Which I am btw, there is so much freedom and opportunity that is made possible by safety

  • @thehpw
    @thehpw 4 месяца назад +6

    I’ve done 48 countries and I’m 51. Such a great experience. It will change your life in many ways.

  • @SaraLovesTea
    @SaraLovesTea 4 месяца назад

    I loved this! Thank you so much! This was soo helpful 😯😯

  • @jaanireel
    @jaanireel 4 месяца назад +9

    00:02 Living abroad changed my views in unexpected ways.
    02:02 Misconceptions about living in Latin America
    06:16 Different cultures have different focus on time orientation
    08:08 Happiness cannot solely be achieved through present focus
    12:35 The influence of human dignity on The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck
    14:31 People in underdeveloped areas may not value furniture and writing tools as they cannot read or write.
    18:21 Struggling with sickness and extreme discomfort while traveling abroad
    20:08 Travel helps you confront personal issues and find constant factors in life
    23:51 Most people around the world are really good
    25:51 Different systems for managing societal 'assholes', with varying effectiveness
    29:48 Living abroad can change political views
    31:57 The need for being more judgmental in certain situations
    35:46 Human commonalities are often overlooked in favor of slight differences.
    37:55 Try new food and read about the place when traveling

  • @followyournature
    @followyournature 4 месяца назад

    35 countries so far, with my longest continuous adventure spanning 6 months hopping around in one region. I always travel solo and I meet the kindest, most humble people on earth. I have done some "volunteer" vacation outings on some of my trips where I lived with hosts who I still keep in touch with and they would welcome me back like family. I'm an introvert but travel brings out the social side of me.... and it's just a wonderful way to meet people and open your mind, and change your perspective on the world!

  • @konigbrid6994
    @konigbrid6994 4 месяца назад +2

    thanks for not so obvious tips, Mark. Im at 2 mo of my solo traveling, watching it while eating fried rice in Bangkok

  • @EddyWoon
    @EddyWoon 4 месяца назад

    Great episode. It had reminded me about a comment that my dad had made decades ago when we were visiting a small town in the tropics. People there have the basic infrastructure like power and water, basic homes that they had built... and the kids there were happily playing with their friends and swimming in the local river. My dad said: "See these kids here, they are happy and healthy. They don't have all the things that we have but they have learnt to do with what they have available to them."

  • @quisp1492
    @quisp1492 4 месяца назад +1

    17:00 I can't possibly agree more with Mark's take on solo travel. It is the single best thing, albeit the scariest thing you can do. You get to go where you want to go when you want to go. There is nothing more freeing. It is intoxicating.

  • @yara-um6tx
    @yara-um6tx 4 месяца назад

    Such good information, deciding what I want in life and it seems I’m searching for the perfect place when it doesn’t exist, the trade off idea really makes sense

  • @nandipenxa3274
    @nandipenxa3274 4 месяца назад

    Love these episodes!

  • @kelsangsherpa7319
    @kelsangsherpa7319 4 месяца назад +1

    Such a great video!😀

  • @abdimajiidsuleiman3806
    @abdimajiidsuleiman3806 2 месяца назад

    Gone through all of the parts of video and loved without yawning a single time!

  • @mohdzaryat
    @mohdzaryat 4 месяца назад +1

    I have been following your writings for a long time and remember your blog post about your India visit causing a bit of a furore back then; so it is nice to hear you mention that trip. I don't know if you have been back since but 'a dust over India' deserves a sequel!

  • @katiewright2232
    @katiewright2232 4 месяца назад

    Great episode!

  • @vagabond989
    @vagabond989 4 месяца назад +1

    For me this is one of those pieces of content that I’ve always known and felt but could never articulate.

  • @alexjoh13
    @alexjoh13 4 месяца назад

    Currently doing this and I can confirm, it´s an amazing experience and it gives you so much insights

  • @MOR7295
    @MOR7295 4 месяца назад

    Lol it’s just a coincident but it amused me that you talked about being in Spain while bringing up the sponsor of this video-BetterHelp.
    I used BetterHelp while I solo travelled to Spain for 3.5 months during the worst period of my life (and covid pandemic), and it’s been the hardest experience of my life and greatest growth.
    Dealing with all your shit completely alone tells you more about yourself than anything else and gives perspective on life.
    I’m now planning my move to Japan for a couple of years and I can relate so much to everything you said on this video.
    I just love your content and perspective and wanted to say that 🙏🏻❤️

  • @grentreem3096
    @grentreem3096 4 месяца назад +1

    Mark's travel tips sound good!

  • @lucretiasulimay1968
    @lucretiasulimay1968 4 месяца назад +1

    Will be 65 this year, traveled 10 countries solo the last 2 years 😊😊,traveled with someone on another trip recently 😵‍💫😵‍💫,solo teaches you who you are, totally agree.

  • @infinitechallenges4818
    @infinitechallenges4818 4 месяца назад +1

    Very good quesitons and interesting answers...Impressive analysis! As a person who studied intercultural relations in Boston decades ago...! hi from Korea.

  • @avonalim3617
    @avonalim3617 4 месяца назад

    Thank you. Very interesting.

  • @estanford826
    @estanford826 4 месяца назад

    16:35. Sacrificing one’s happiness.for some greater cause or purpose. How true!

  • @littleleslie13
    @littleleslie13 4 месяца назад

    Thank you!

  • @rinacherr7788
    @rinacherr7788 4 месяца назад +1

    I need a book of all Mark's travel stories combined

  • @Banditxam4
    @Banditxam4 4 месяца назад +1

    Love these ❤❤

  • @Ven777-ly5ko
    @Ven777-ly5ko 4 месяца назад

    thank u for your video!

  • @irenepaz6233
    @irenepaz6233 4 месяца назад

    Just found you, agreed with your traveler learning!!' Shared your videos, Hoping my kids learn this early from others experience

  • @dankozuck6530
    @dankozuck6530 4 месяца назад +2

    As someone that’s dedicated themselves to true travel of 22 countries over that last few years, this was all SO true and therapeutic to watch 🤙

  • @Dansoo
    @Dansoo 4 месяца назад +16

    This video couldn't have come at a better time !
    I recently just made a huge change in my life leaving Japan and going back to my home country Malaysia after 6 years of living here during my most formative years and was feeling anxious and stressed out from it.
    I agree with Mark that living abroad has actually made me more conservative in my views and beliefs, and also the notion that maybe my home country isn't that bad after all. I left because I hated my home country, but I'm now voluntarily leaving Japan to go back to Malaysia, which is a decision I would've never even fathomed just a short 6 months ago.
    Really grateful that this video dropped as it's kinda given me a perspective on everything, and also I just recently finished subtle art of not giving a fuck, and that gave me a lot of insights into how I should better myself as a person too.
    Keep up the great work Mark and team !

  • @arturkapelewski
    @arturkapelewski 4 месяца назад

    Mark you get that a lot probably but i have to say this. I think that you have the best Insight in Live on the Whole RUclips Man. Keep doing what you do and never stop.

  • @normang3668
    @normang3668 4 месяца назад

    Those closing remarks about fighting over our differences while ignoring what we have in common, reminds me of Emo Phillips' hilarious bit about the jumper on the Golden Gate Bridge...

  • @A_Manifestation_is_a_lifestyle
    @A_Manifestation_is_a_lifestyle 4 месяца назад

    OMG ♥️♥️♥️ loved this episode

  • @wayne9637
    @wayne9637 4 месяца назад

    thank you mark for this video

  • @djrosepark
    @djrosepark 4 месяца назад +1

    OMG!! You were in Korea!! Mark I loved your book! You should've have a book signing event or something!! I would have loved to see you!

  • @waterywingz
    @waterywingz 4 месяца назад

    Omg so much truth here. Luv this episode! 💡💡💡

  • @mike110111
    @mike110111 4 месяца назад

    Love this

  • @kathrynkeaney8874
    @kathrynkeaney8874 4 месяца назад

    Really nice to listen to...

  • @exatent5194
    @exatent5194 4 месяца назад +1

    Third! Can't wait for your books to arrive in the next few days.

  • @angelinasimon3513
    @angelinasimon3513 4 месяца назад

    I enjoyed watching this video, lots useful information and funny jokes. Mark doesn't disappoint 😂

  • @missshroom5512
    @missshroom5512 4 месяца назад +1

    There really is good and bad in everything. When making a choice it is good to write down on paper the good and the bad and then choose accordingly 🌎☀️💙

  • @aleecheev
    @aleecheev 4 месяца назад

    I think people don't get how brilliant of a mind this guy has. Ever since I found him I've seen a positive impact in the way I see the world and also the results. Please, never stop sharing.

  • @skosso1682
    @skosso1682 4 месяца назад

    one the best videos of mark manson. I will take this on GPT to get the most important info

  • @JensAWorkInProgress
    @JensAWorkInProgress 4 месяца назад

    Love this ❤️

  • @tdtm82
    @tdtm82 4 месяца назад +1

    The amount of valuable and inspirational knowledge I've accumulated from traveling and meeting people from different cultures is absolutely inspirational and staggering. I really don't undersand how there's still so many insular people afraid of outsiders; migration and others when in reality we're all human being just in different circumstances.

    • @Squire2222
      @Squire2222 4 месяца назад

      People prefer their own culture because you share values with your neighbours. I want to live amongst people that don't consider it acceptable for teachers to impregnate their female students

    • @tdtm82
      @tdtm82 4 месяца назад

      @@Squire2222 ? Did you not read my comment?

    • @Squire2222
      @Squire2222 3 месяца назад

      @@tdtm82 Did you not watch the video?

  • @Soxandnicole
    @Soxandnicole 4 месяца назад +1

    I'll take contentment over happiness any day. Contentment lasts, happiness is temporary. After a whole bunch of stuff I fell into contentment by accident and I love it.

    • @alexandraalbertz1442
      @alexandraalbertz1442 2 месяца назад

      Absolutely. Contentment and Fulfillment. And a sprinkle of joy. Add gratitude. :)

  • @fatimahusayn
    @fatimahusayn 4 месяца назад +3

    When he talked about the poor and developing nations I get it. These are the countries where you don't get hot water in the cruel winters and the electricity and gas are so expensive that they can't afford to warm their homes in winter and cool them in summer. These people don't get access to clean water or even food supplies, yet you find them happy because they take these things as ones they can't control.

  • @jerrymartinez4490
    @jerrymartinez4490 4 месяца назад +2

    wow....complete opposite of what we have experienced have been all over the world. We have learned that money is not that important and that family is more important, very different that here in the US. it has made me, I don't want to say liberal, but certainly less conservative and most certainly more grounded. As a result I no longer care about chasing this elusive "American dream" and are now just chasing my own dream. All of my experiences have led me to the conclusion that, with my family and friends, I am the richest man on the planet.

  • @MichelePonte
    @MichelePonte 4 месяца назад +14

    I am at country 55 and I wish more people would try to travel for long periods instead of staying in the comforts of home

    • @nurrnena7798
      @nurrnena7798 4 месяца назад +6

      I guess if you're mindful enough about human nature, you can actually come to the same conclusions that Mark has without travelling that much.

    • @Azurethewolf168
      @Azurethewolf168 4 месяца назад +2

      @@nurrnena7798yeah but it does help a lot

    • @nurrnena7798
      @nurrnena7798 4 месяца назад +1

      @@Azurethewolf168 Yep, agreed

    • @themacocko6311
      @themacocko6311 4 месяца назад +2

      ​@@Azurethewolf168Also costs a lot.

    • @Azurethewolf168
      @Azurethewolf168 4 месяца назад

      @@themacocko6311 so what? Broke traveling is probably the best thing to do, it’s just an excuse, if you have even just $2000 you can travel somewhere