Autism symptoms in GIRLS
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Autism symptoms in girls can be quite different from the stereotypical presentation we see in the media (and which was taught to me as a Psychology undergraduate 10 years ago).
Autism in women and girls is far more likely to be diagnosed later in life, but we still struggle just as much as men on the spectrum, and struggling through when undiagnosed can be very detrimental to our mental health.
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Social skills/communication
Executive functioning
Special interests
Sensory issues
Co-morbid/ misdiagnosed mental health conditions
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No. No you weren't wrong. You're brilliant and this helps me more than you could know! I myself am a therapist, and this wasn't taught well at ALL. Cheers 🥂
No. This actually made me think about some things... I think I'm on the spectrum.
it's called being an earth sign. ridged, fastidious, materialistic and uninterested in people. water signs are home loving too so they're social skills aren't always that sharp and they can be shy.
Thank you so much. You just discribed my life to me. I had no idea that I might be on the spectrum. I can't thank you enough ❤️
@@Vicebound that’s extremely disrespectful. To claim a mental disorder or neurodivergency is because of when they were born? Bruh
I’m just an introvert, I’m just an introvert, I’m just an introvert,...
We're just quirky introverts, right?
Becca B yup I have tell myself this so I don’t self diagnose
Izzy Dandrea honestly, self diagnosing is totally fine if you do your correct research and if you currently can’t afford the actual diagnosis :)
YES OH MY GOD. i constantly am like i am just a weird awkward introvert nothing going on here
ask a doctor before you go self diagnose!! lol
"Shy? Weird? Lazy?"
me: *who summmoned me*
The algorithm gods
sameee
Same 😂
same
same
is anyone else just like "maybe i just have all the symptoms listed but im not actually autistic"
Yea me
oh my god definitely
@@naomiea.naomie6665 🥲🥲
I read heavy anxiety cause of trauma can hve similar symptoms
@@jjba3571 oh gosh
I relate to:
Feeling like you dont fit in , in friendship groups and with people in general
Inability to talk to boys
Being obsessed with certain things and info dumping on people
Finding it hard to ask for help
Always procrastinating and doing things last minute
Being depressed and suffering with social anxiety
I used to bite my cheeks a lot/ hair sucking as a child
Daily adult tasks such as managing a house is really difficult
Retreating into my own world
Feeling so different and not knowing why
Most people feel like that growing up … 💛🤗🌸
@@sarahbrennan1342 that’s reassuring😊thank you. Things just seem extra difficult but 🤷🏻♀️
On another note, we have the same first name☺️😊🥰💗
@@sarahellis6025 hi Sarah lol 😆…. I felt the same… always felt the odd one in a group..never felt comfortable in a big social group . But I never changed the way I was to be one of the crowd either… it’s all part of growing up … not everyone is outgoing and a social butterfly🌸… I remember I couldn’t chat to boys either 😂.. Bright red my face would go 😂 But everyone is unique… it’s all part of growing up..and taking the good with the bad… it’s doesn’t mean you have anything wrong with you… it just means your a sensitive person…Take it a day as it comes .. and enjoy .. it’s all part of learning about yourself 🎀💖🌸🥰
@@sarahbrennan1342 What a lovely thing to say🥺🥺🥺🥺thank you so much 😢💗💕🌺🌸💐🌈
Is this true for people on the spectrum? Because I relate to all of it im so tired of not knowing what is going on with me im so stressed out and lonely. I keep thinking im possibly on the spectrum because I don’t feel the same connection as other people, i might be misreading myself and misdiagnosing myself.
im just a hypersensitive introverted nerd, im just a hypersensitive introverted nerd, im just a hypersensitive introverted nerd...
Thank you! Never too late!
Same 🤞
Me too
Me tho
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"Shy? Weird? Lazy?"
**is panicking**
vonwolfe lol! I was like, that’s me! 🙋♀️
Exactly
I was never shy but always labelled with the other two. Only started questioning those labels in my 30s and realised they were wrong.
vonwolfe same! I was worried for myself
This is also me
Either this needs to stop being relatable or I need to get tested.
There is no test for autism. There are a bunch of questions that a doctor can help you answer but there is no definitive test
I literally tried to like your comment multiple times
Don't be shy, get tested
Same but not every thing fits me
Sometime ago I watched a video where they listed 35 signs that people with autism have. And guess what? I had 34 of these signs! ^-^ I'm currently searching for a psychiatrist to know what is happening to me, cuz these days everything is getting worse...
Me: “I’m probably not autistic I just have social anxiety and am weird and don’t understand social cues and politeness and unspoken rules”
Also me, 10 times a day: “Am I making too much eye contact or not enough?”
That could be social anxiety, I struggled with nitpicky self criticism every moment I was in highschool. (Of course, I'm also here, but I don't relate to some of the things she described so I think I'm just a mix of various brain problems. I've talked to mental health professionals before and they never brought up autism (they were both old white men though so idk maybe they weren't taught this perspective on it).
@@BlueDragon-vm1bt I thought I just had social anxiety so I was seeing some mental health dude for that (who happened to be a pro at recognising people with autism cause he specialises in that or something). My whole life my mum told me I was definitely not autistic and I was the normal one of the family.
Mental health dude said 'You probably have autism' then I got diagnosed with autism.
Finally got my needs understood. Please at least try to explore whether or not you have it, even if you don't it could be very helpful to know.
@@erinbrown3778 Thank you, your perspective helps. I always worry that I'm being overdramatic and so I tend to downplay my problems which is the main reason I'm only just now seeing someone and I haven't brought it up to him at all yet. It's hard because he wants to be optimistic too. My sister is on the aspbergers spectrum so it does make sense that I should get tested. I've just never had problems that were as obvious or life-disrupting as hers, so that's probably why my family assumed I didn't have any at all. I'll bring it up to my therapist the next time we meet. He thinks I have adhd too so I should probably get the actual testing done, but I'm a college student and it's like $500!! I can't pay that! I'm an engineering student trying to be involved in clubs, and I don't even have a car, so there's no way for me to have a job. *sigh*. Maybe when I get a job over the summer I'll make enough to cover it. We'll see.
why are you me omg
and then "which eye do I look at?"
im just gonna act like I didn't relate to any of these points and never watched this video
We all relate, in a big way or small way. It's a matter of balance.... learning earth life n sharing our talents, gifts, skills that's valuable to earth n to us. .. Namaste... 🍀🙏😘🌈✨
Why hello butt cheek
butt cheek i I know right lol
Lol right. I have all of these symptoms. Guess im autistic 🤣🤷
leah1990 I toke a test turns out I’m not.😂
My main struggle so far is constantly asking myself "Am I autistic or am I just deluding myself to give myself an excuse to all my failures?". I've learned so much about symptoms that all the tests that are given to me only cause more anxiety because I feel as though I'm cheating on it.
Updating this for those who are curious. I self diagnosed myself with autism after a continuous research and conversations with autistic people. Unfortunately it's near impossible for me to get an official diagnosis in this country at my age but it's probably for the best considering how autism is perceived in this country to begin with (i.e. this might cause complications with jobs). Other than that, it's really nice to finally be at peace with myself. It obviously doesn't end there as I've still got a lot to learn. Hope this works out for you guys as well.
SAME! I am in the process right now with a psychologist to see if I have autism or not, but the questions are so hard for me because of exactly this fear you're describing
Same too! I really need to get tested but i stress if my answers will actually be that truthful or if the therapist would take it seriously. Which I guess this type of anxiety and thinking would be a trait of autism
@@WhyRUclipsWhy omg finally there are words that can describe this feeling :')
@@maritbruinsma6873 Everytime I saw my psychiatrist I felt like this lol, so annoying
This. This just describes it all
ahh yes the daily struggle of “is this a symptom of adhd.. anxiety.. depression... asd or all of the above?” 🤠
Yeah, when I was young, I was diagnosed with ADHD, but now that I'm older, I've started to notice that a lot of ADHD symptoms are also ASD symptoms, so now I'm questioning it. But, at the same time, I don't have some of the more severe symptoms of ASD, so I'm just very confused.
@@sadies8100 same here!! lol
Add Complex Trauma and you're me. It's insane how there's so much overlap with it all.
I think i have all except autism
I’m so scared to bring this all up because I don’t want to be wrong. I think I have adhd or autism. They’re so similar
God the last past where you talked about slowly developing social anxiety due to micro rejections…. nearly brought me to tears. That shit is exactly what happened to me in middle school. You set out to help at least one person with your video and I think you’ve outdone yourself. Thank you so much for making this.
It doesn’t mean you’re autistic but yes this is usually how social anxiety develops. Negative experiences are often the cause of most anxieties.
I wonder if all my friends"my merry bunch of weirdos" i say in a truely loving way, are maskers!! I must be. i call supers. You are Super. Who wants to be part of a mob anyhow. Find ur cozy. Venture out. share ur spark! but dont let the mob mentality suffocate u. Thank you for ur sharing understanding appreciated much one love find the root of peace
Do you know everybody's experience this, humans are not the most kind species, they operate passive-agressive a lot
I literally can't process when people GENUINELY like being my friend who are more "normal", I put up walls so much because of this.....thus making less friends...vicious cycle man
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well. He now respond to name, point at what he wants and call mama/papa. God bless you doctor
"You constantly feel different and you don't know why." Oh dear now I'm crying...
Damn relatable 💯
Yep. I just about burst into tears at that. :/
🙋 Same here! Been crying for decades when I am angry or misunderstood but everyone calls me childish or manipulative, even though I am not trying anything except wanting to be left alone, maybe...
Me too
when she said alien i started bawling
I'm scared to tell my mother I believe i have autism because I dont think she'll believe me and think I'm being dramatic :/
Same
same
I’m Autistic it took almost half my life to get diagnosed for me because I was born as girl and most people don’t know I have it because I’m a girl and smart
I was diagnosed last week I was confused to why I had to be tested because I thought I wasn’t but now I look at these videos I realise there are others like me 😊☺️
Same
i’m an introvert with anxiety, just an introvert with anxiety, just an introvert with anxiety
did you steal this comment?
Same
I feel like I am just an introvert with a bit of anxiety and light and sound sensitive. I don't get the obsessions with things or the overthinking.
@@Jazzy31 oh, I do all of those things...I think this might explain a lot.
I have terrible anxiety and I'm an introvert. And I'm shy. And i over think- ok that's enough.
The part about outwardly having friends but not feeling like having them, I relate to SO much. I used to tell my parents all the time that I had no or very few friends. I remember saying this a lot in middle school especially. Then my sister would ask me to name all my friends and I would list off seven or eight people and my sister was like see? You have friends!
But I would always feel like such an imposter when with them. Only one person out of those eight was someone I felt truly, wholeheartedly comfortable with. I was always afraid they weren't real friends or that they were always secretly judging me, even though, looking back, they always treated me like I was one of them and they probably did consider me a friend. After growing older, I just assumed those thoughts were from anxiety, especially since I STILL have those thoughts with people who are close friends. But maybe it's not entirely anxiety
Damn hit the nail right on the head. I'm so sorry you went through this.
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well. He now respond to name, point at what he wants and call mama/papa. God bless you doctor
true
The daily struggle of “is this adhd, anxiety and depression combined” or “is this adhd and autism”
Edit : I got diagnosed with all four
Twins
Literally me rn
Also can I ask what was it like to get diagnosed? Did they ask u stuff or what I’m really curious
@@jayfeather1007 ik u didnt ask me but I can answer you, I got diagnosed with autism and yes they do ask u stuff, ALOT of stuff, and ur parents like about your pregnancy and stuff, and then they talk to other people and u play games like trying to make sentences to see if u can use correct grammer and stuff. Just alot of stuff like that.
I’m sorry but the clarification edit is so funny to me
@@mourne4899 LMAO
"I could write an essay on a complex topic but I couldn't express my basic needs" That resontated with me more than I expected it to.
Edit: why do comments that just agree with what the video says get so many upvotes? Don't like this comment, like the video. I didn't contribute anything to the conversation!
same.
people have been telling me this for years oh my god
I as well
Omg same. I was exceptionally good at english, writing and grasping concepts in general yet I couldnt articulate my feelings properly
This. I wish I could just show this to my parents it describes my deliema perfectly
Did anyone else go wide-eyed when they realised this pretty much perfectly described their experiences?
Literally me, it’s scary
Yes!
I sure did. But I also tie it to childhood trauma and experiences. I would like to get a study done because I feel I’ve been misdiagnosed or under diagnosed for a lot of things. I feel it’s partly because I don’t know how to fully express what’s going on in my brain.
100%
I am literally in denial at how closely I relate to this, it's scary.
I was clocked for autism within the minute I met my therapist. My brother was diagnosed but I was overlooked and struggled so hard. It came as such a shock for everyone, especially me
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well. He now respond to name, point at what he wants and call mama/papa. God bless you doctor
I want to talk to a psychiatrist about this but idk how to bring it up without sounding like a hypochondriac..
im also having this. my parents were supposed to get me tested and my special interest/ hyperfixation/ cant stop is psychology and i know so much im scared theyll just write me off as having memorized criteria & being a hypochondriac
Same...it gives me anxiety.
i feel the same way. and i had docs write me off for far less extreme 'self-diagnosis'. so i'm super wary about psychological or autism related diagnosis by now.
Even though hypochondria exists I think as long as you're not actually that you should be good like....don't ever over exaggerate symptoms or speak of full knowledge of a disorder, or, I don't know. It's hard, it's very tough, because doctors can be so judgmental, I tried to reach out to doctors for my problems and a lot of the times my hopes to get help never happened.
I also worry about coming across that way.
One of my issues is not knowing how to talk to people my age. I find it extremely difficult to relate to them. Talking to older people has always been way easier for me. I also experience a lot of social anxiety and see every little thing, like you said, as a sort of rejection: shifting eyes, pauses, sighs, etc. This would explain it, but my parents would never take me seriously if I mentioned my concerns.
I feel the same way. I can't relate to people my age either. I rather talk to older and younger people, and often struggle trying to talk to the other students at school. I try telling my mom about how I feel, but it comes off as if I'm joking and she doesn't take me seriously.
Oh my gosh, me too! In school I talked to the younger kids on the bus and avoided people who were my age, and at home I talked with the aunts and uncles or grandparents more than my cousins.
Same here! I’ve been to a couple of boyfriends houses and I’ve always been way more engaged in talking to mature adults than kids my age
Trust me, take it to a psychologist/psychiatrist. My parents refused to believe there was anything wrong until I got enough courage to look for someone who knew better. They didn't listen until it was coming from a professional. And it was worth it, I'm in a much better place now.
Same, except i’ve always been able to relate to younger kids more. I would always hang out with my sister and her friends rather than someone my own age. This gave me many problems socially in middle school cause i was still trying to hang on to my old friends but they were more mature now and i didn’t have anything in common anymore. And then when i didn’t know anyone in my class i struggled with conversations where i could only say like a one word response. throughout middle school i ended up just sitting at lunch and reading a book cause of it.
I love when people info dump to me, much more interesting than small talk.
You say that now - don't get me started about crows or 18th century cooking LOL
@@tdoran No, please go on, sounds interesting. (Do you also subscribe to the Townsends youtube channel?) Wanna hear me talk about random features of living and extinct languages I dont actually speak?
@@SteinGauslaaStrindhaug I love Townsends! Actually I would love to hear about all those things!
🙌🙌🙌 yes saaaame
If you ever want to know everything, and I mean EVERYTHING about Metallica, have a chat with my 12 year old daughter. She can info-dump about metal music all day long.
I'm a 40 yr old guy that recently began to realise I'm on the spectrum after my son's diagnosis and I just wanted to say how much of your video rings true. It's strange but somewhat relieving to look back on how I've coped in social situations throughout my life and finally understand why I found them so difficult. Thank you for spending your time trying to help others in such a way. You made me feel understood somehow 🙂
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well. He now respond to name, point at what he wants and call mama/papa. God bless you doctor
*thinks to myself "I didn't stim when I was younger"*
*suddenly remembers chewing my pencils into splinters on the daily and constant leg shaking*
NOT THE LEG SHAKING 😭😭 my legs would be bouncing ALL DAY lmaoooo
When I was a child and got stressed, I would go into the bathroom and pick at the bar of soap with my nails. This resulted in wierd soap sculptures that drove my mother crazy. I had no idea why I was doing that.
@@katerineella274 I STILL MAKE SCULPTURES WITH THE SOAP OML
@@patasmaranas9711 im glad to hear im not the only one. My mother told me every day that I was weird, crazy, stupid, mean, lazy and wasteful because of the soap thing. But I kept doing it. It was a soothing thing and God knows I needed soothing. Nice to meet a fellow soap carver.
@@katerineella274 yep 😌 sometimes I make giant holes in the center of the soap or sometimes I just draw on it. I also carve faces or shapes with my nails. If the soap is small and soft enough I squish it in my hand and just play around with it. Its really fun but it uses up my time in the shower. Half the time I forget to use shampoo 🤦♀️
The traumatizing thing isn’t the label. It’s the added context that every time I’ve insisted that I’m different, it was brushed off or ignored
same lmao
I talked about my troubles to a shrink who said: " that's just normal, we all feel that way sometimes". Since then I've been convinced I'm just a lazy hypochondriac.
@@Weirdkauz I think I'm misunderstanding you. Are you saying that was all your therapist said and from there you feel like a lazy hypochondriac. I would think there was a lot more said for it to come to that
@@NoName-eu2xw it wasn't really "my" therapist it was a psychologist working in the hospital I was in getting cancer treatment. Therapists are hard to come by here in Berlin, and as a freshly operated I had the right to see her, so I took the opportunity to swing by… and yeah, that was indeed pretty much all she said to everything I came up with: "Don't worry, we all feel like that sometimes".
@@Weirdkauz oh ok.i see more of what you meant to say. Yes, there are common emotions that we all feel from time to time but if yours are consistent then maybe that's something to look into
"...Bite the skin off the inside of my cheeks..."
*called tf out*
Jill Reynaud llikeeeeee CHUNKS?
I thought it was normal D:
@@rubycarson4009 sometimes. But it more like biting off little layers until you taste blood and then you realize and stop like 'oh shit'.
I do that when I get anxious,,, if my cheeks get too raw then I'll bite on the sides of my tongue too
I do that and dig under my nails so I have to cut them short,,, I do these when I'm anxious alot pfft
@@sock9118 i also tend to bite the inner corner of my lips, my lips, and at the skin around my nails
I just wanted to say that I burst into tears when you brought up micro-rejections. It's so hard to explain to people. They lecture me on how a bad reaction might not have been related to me, or how it doesn't reflect badly on me, but it hurts when the rejections pile up from everyone.
When you got to STIMS I instantly thought “Oh yeah I don’t have those” AND THEN YOU BASICALLY LISTED EVERY MINOR THING I DO AND IT WAS MIND BLOWING-
Same
These are all normal behaviors. The problem comes when faced with the need to stop them. Do you think, "Yes, it'd be a good idea to quit biting inside my cheek, but I just don't think I can kick the habit"? Or does the mere thought cause you anxiety? Not normal anxiety, like, "How can I do that?" but more like a feeling of having your security blanket taken away? Autism is all about the degree, not simply the behavior.
Same, it literally made me cry by everything she just said.
I am a highly sensitive person and as a young child I was pretty much a "crybaby" and cried at every little thing. I feel like I have a lot of these traits that you have talked about and I think I might also be on the spectrum.
I seldom cry when I'm sad, but when I'm angry, watch the floodgates!
In my younger days, people were amazed to get punched in the face by a chubby, petite woman who is crying her eyes out.
I don't fight anymore. Got tired of setting my broken nose, after the 11th time. Guess I wasn't making the connection...
Same. And my connection to music is a bit insane. @_@;
But its so confusing to me bc what if youre genuinely just a sensitive person?
I suspected I may have autism in the past. but then again, I may genuinely just be an emotional, introverted, awkward person. Also goofy. Lol
I haven't watched the video but these are just my thoughts 🤔
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
I believe "highly sensitive person" is just a made up term to refer to undiagnosed autists, multifocals (ADHDers) and others NDs with enhanced sensory capacities and intense emotions. "HSP" was coined by non-professional people wanting to give a name to their uniqueness and the term has gained no recognition among professional neurologists or psychologist.
“I developed anxiety because of small, systematic micro-rejections.”
Gosh if that isn’t me holy crow.
“Micro-rejection” is such a perfect word for it because in my experience most of them aren’t outright (though the blatant ones were especially awful). Just a slow, creeping, awful feeling that something is horribly wrong with you.
I wish I had found people at a younger age that didn’t treat me that way, would’ve saved me a lot of pain and forced masking
God, same here. I'm not autistic or anything, I just watched this out of curiosity but that point hit home hard. I haven't been diagnosed with social anxiety, but I've been trying to find out if I have it for a couple of years now. When I think back to how much of a carefree kid I was, and how certain "microrejections" and bigger ones over time shaped me in the person I am today, It makes me sad im not nearly as confident in expressing myself anymore. Anyone relate?
I've had anxiety since I was born. I remember having anxiety and panic attacks in preschool from too many adults being around. There was nothing that triggered it, per se, just the fact anxiety runs in both sides of my family. So basically, I was screwed the moment I was born.
Ryder the Sinful I get that angel ❤️ I think how diff my life would have been if I hadn’t had the anxiety around me!! 😢
@@Mel-os3ld yeah, anxiety can be very harmful to a person's life, especially if no one around you understands it. That's why you have to find people like you, though, who can remind you how strong you are.
Ryder the Sinful yes my darling.. learned many great lessons on a deep level, others unlike us would understand, learning all types of behaviours and personalities and signs! ... thank you for reply.. ❤️❤️❤️
The first girl I genuinely ever loved turned out to be just like me. We were both skinny, high functioning (only found this out later), and interested in many of the same topics. We also had the same sense of humour and were just as awkward around other people as eachother. Despite how hard I tried though, I could never make her see me in the same light. Eventually we just... split apart and it became awkward talking to each other. Life can be lonely and it can suck, but at least I know what love feels like now. I ain't going to give up on life just because I've been dealt a disadvantaged circumstance where I find it hard to blend in with other people, instead I'm going to make the most out of life.
How’s the search going? ❤
Oh, guy, you've just described the only boyfriend I had. It was almost spooky how much we had in common. I am not normally a touch oriented person, but he was one person who made me crave cuddles. He said multiple times that he thought we were too similar to be compatible, but I loved being around him and fell for him. I got really hurt when he ended it. He said he'd always be my friend, and I want to hold him to it, but I don't want to scare him off. I'm trying to do what you're doing and make the most out of life.
I've not been officially diagnosed yet, but online assessments point in the direction of ASD.
I recently spoke to a psych about me potentially having autism and she said “female autistics are the masters of disguise” and I really felt that. We just adapt and learn to try and blend in as much as we can
K N 💯 yep
Can you really be a master of disguise and are unable to be social with boys? Lol if anything when gender doesn't determine you blending into societal norms now your talking
djnaenae102490 what? I’m confused..
djnaenae102490 it is unclear what you are saying. Yes we try to blend in all our lives. And yes socializing is still very difficult.
That's an awesome psychologist you have, then!
Me when she says “difficulty organizing things, procrastination and lack of organization...” 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳 And talking about lying about it. Hold on, imma deep dive into some research.
Add in the thing where I'm a librarian, and you have a picture of the chaos that is my life.
I cannot keep anything organized, always procrastinate and lack motivation. Though how much of that is depression's affects on me or other issues/asd etc.? I really don't know.
@@PetMama1313 Same. I see how a lot of my life experiences have affected the way I am, I don’t think all of it is inherent. But I have a lot of questions. 😛
Those are extremely common habits.
38 n i still cant 'adult'
I got an autism assessment done a few years ago. They told me “you have every aspect of autism but you don’t have autism. You have anxiety”. My friends who have autism have told me many times that I should get a second opinion. I can quite relate to this video, thank you for making and uploading this video, it is very helpful. God bless 🥰❤️🙏.
I had the opposite of this. I spent my whole life trying super hard to be, think, talk normally and it was hard for my autism to be picked up on
I also did some tests on which I scored autism-kinda high, but due to my age, they decided on borderline instead. Which is rather frustrating because I don't recognise borderline traits, but I do autism and adhd. I taught myself what behaviour COULD be wanted in certain situations, but it always remains a gamble and it never feels natural. Extremely fussy eater (still at 30), I just have a bad day if things don't go similar at least (taught myself some flexibility) to my routines, people always consider me rude when I seriously think I'm being neutral, and I get panic attacks from sensory overloads. I've been waiting to get a second opinion for a year now, will probably be 1,5 years. :-/
What the f***
I have diagnosed anxiety and autism lol
This happened to me too got told I was a few marks of from being diagnosed with autism. Was strongly diagnosed with adhd though xx
Glittery, sparkly things are a huge comfort for me. So your sparkly background honestly changed my mood from feeling highly anxious at the beginning of the video, to calm by the end 🥹 Thank you! Also - this was an excellent, informative video.
Same!
"I was able to write an essay on a complet topic quite easily but I couldn't express my basic needs" I never heard somebody else speak about that and this is literally the story of how as a child I could function but would panic for hours if I had to express a need, so instead I would wait and eventually have a crisis.
Same! The first time it came up for me was in sixth grade, where I actually failed my math class because the idea of asking my teacher for help was literally inconceivable to me. And even now it is SO, so hard.
I can relate so much. That actually affected my academic life because I was naturally intelligent in elementary school, but since I wasnt used to studying and working hard, I started failing in high school.
Same. And doing activities fluently is impossible for me. There is always a fixation on one thing so I'm often late and in rush, I forget things and miss opportunities ;[
Yes. This really opened my eyes, and so many things click for me now.
Writing a 50-page essay on women in early animation, no problem.
Telling a professor I need to miss class because I'm not feeling well, the hardest fecking hurdle in the world.
It never occurred to me that I could be autistic but I literally identify with every one of these. Oh gosh.
Sunshine Hope o m g SAME HERE
Ditto.
I am becoming increasingly convinced that I am, indeed, autistic. Learning this, at my advanced age, is deeply unsettling. If only I had known this 60 years ago.
Oh Beth. ❤️🌷
It's irritating huh? A while back I posted to Facebook that I might be a little autistic, and someone who has met me suggested the hsp thing instead. Lol But what is really the difference??
I mean I'm not 60, but I am not a teenager either or super young anymore and it's irritating going all your life feeling neglected like no one cared enough to even like point this out.. Not even your parents. (Though mine were shit.)
Same.
Beth, I'm with you. Almost 60, and just realizing that I am autistic. It explains so much about my past.
"My academic ability really masked the struggles that I had . . . " I can relate to this 100%.
Thank you for making these videos!
I remember on school, when someone was trying to talk to me, the only thought I had in my head was: "someone is talking to me, someone is talking to me....". And then I couldn't really pay attention to what the person was saying, so I used to just smille and make "yes" with my head as if I was listening.
I relate so much to your experience. Its comforting to not be the only one. I would work myself up so much I would start laughing in inappropriate situations. Felt that way until my early thirties.
Absolutely! Whenever anyone (mostly strangers) talk my mind goes blank apart from “someone is taking, why aren’t you taking back, they are still talking, why aren’t you saying anything, etc, etc” until something incoherent and awkward comes out of my mouth, an awkward nod or giggle, just so I’ve made some kind of response.
THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL GAAAH
@@hollykruse113 OH MY GOD SAME
I relate so much to this, and then when the person would ask something about what he/she just said I'd just keep smiling and think 'wtf do I answer to that?'. Usually the person would just leave me with that look of 'that person is weird' and never talk to me again, and it sucked so much :(. After I grew up I learned how to deal with ppl talking to me a little better, but under stressfull situations I can just freeze or something like that and not absorb whatever is being said to me.
The procrastination part is so me... It's so hard to organise and get anything done. I'm good at learning. And I still struggle to actually start learning on time... it's unpleasant. Because once I manage to get there, I have to face my guilt.
I am horrible at time management and procrastination too... I can do things I’m supposed to but it takes ages to actually get started
Me as I'm watching youtube instead of applying to college
@@castallyourspells5330 feel you... See this comment as a reminder to get up and push through!
Lately I've been thinking it may be self sabotage, but now I'm thinking it may be a mix of the two.
I would probably have a degree now if not for poor organisation
I'm crying. This explains everything, this explains why I have been suffering so much. Never in my life, have I expected someone to understand exactly what I'm going through.i can't tell if I feel sad or happy.
When I read about this the first time I also cried a lot... lots of tears... in my case it felt like a relief but anger at the same time...
@@nicolarowan-brooks3641 thank you. And truly, I think we can both agree that it's so good to know that we are not alone in this foreign world. It will be tough for the both of us, but at least we know why. Also, since I'm horrible at ending sentences, I'm just gonna say that I hope that you have a very lovely life kind stranger.
@@goldensun3507 oh I'd love to but I'm not very good at maintaining friends, I'm not very active online
@@insomniac1184 no problem 🙃
My best window view into world is net + books 😅
Have a nice day 😉
I feel just like you. #actuallyautistics 💪
The more I hear about neurodivergence, the more I'm sure I have it. I'm almost 60, so being diagnosed with something like this wasn't an option when I was younger, but I've been dealing with it all my life. So much of this video describes me to a T. I also related to her video about having both ADHD and autism.
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@@bolinhong2598 bot begone
There is so much overlap between this and many experiences of girls with ADHD.
I got diagnosed with ADHD when I was 36 out of the blue while being evaluated for something else, and it was a shock. I fit everything Yo Samdy mentioned, but I've never thought of my cheek-chewing as a "stim." So I don't know. "Autism" is a vague term I can't really figure out and these behaviors seem vague to me as well. I know I've never been considered normal though...people have never let me forget I'm not one of them and never will be.
That's what I was thinking, how to differentiate?
@@widowkeeper4739 I was thinking about that as well. I am diagnosed with ADHD and Generalizrd Anxiety Disorder, but I always wonder what differences between those and autism would look like.
Why are girls so under diagnosed but guys get diagnosed almost instantly so what most of ours are internal we still have it
@@heidiullman1571 i was first diagnosed with GAD but turns out highly intelligent with autism and adhd which has masked a lot.
"cheek or lip biting"
Me : *slowly stop biting my cheek and act like nothing happened*
Literally was biting my cheek and saw this comment
LITERALLY ME
I dont bite but when I'm by myself or just in my head I tend to rock myself.
LITERALLY WHAT JUST HAPPENED TO ME LMAOO
I just stopped myself from biting my cheek as I read this comment 😂
When u said cheek and lip biting I realized I was doing it and stopped
lmao this happened to me but with the skin picking thing, I always pick the skin on my head without realizing it
I've got SCARS on the inside of my mouth from biting my cheeks and lips all the time. My lips are easier to control because if I have something on them, like lip balm or lipstick, I won't bite them. But there's nothing I can do to stop biting the inside of my mouth. Plus I have social anxiety, so I do it a LOT.
I'm working on it, but it's slow going.
I did too I wasn't even conscious that I'm biting my inside check
This is something I have done my entire life.
I was biting the inside of my top lip when she said it too
You described my 61 yrs of life experiences in this video. I did not understand autism until recently as I have a level 1 autistic grandson. I've been diagnosed as bi-polar but I am seldom depressed for long. Over the past 6 months I've been watching a lot of videos on other disorders, including narcissistic personality disorder because I married (and divorced) two NPDs.
I really only recently decided I probably have high functioning autism.
Thank you for producing this video. It's very eye opening and validating.
Big virtual Hugs for you, Love❣️
Hi, how are you holding up now?
@@AJ-db8kc Hanging on, pushing through, being genuine.
This is the way. ☺️🙏
i’m trying no to panic here, but i’m getting scared of how much i relate to this
No reason to panic. If you find out you are autistic it won't make your life any worse. It will just help you better understand.
@@liammarshall-butler3384 I was thinking about this. If I don't have it then idk what tf is even wrong with me and then I'll start to panic.
I've been trying to pursue a possible diagnosis in ADHD for a while but really relate to this video as well.
I've talked about it with my parents who knew I had depression and anxiety but made little to no effort to treat it. They dismissed it. I talked about it with my sisters. They criticized it. I talked about it with my DOCTOR she denied it and threw more antidepressants at me even though I have never had a formal diagnosis.
I'm still fighting for someone to take me seriously. Luckily my husband is supportive and gets very upset when he hears how others are treating me.
I didn't mean for this to be so long. What I wanted to say is that I would be ecstatic if I was able to get a diagnosis and finally figure out why life has been SO difficult for me, but scared that I am just lazy and weird.
I literally cry thinking about cleaning my house. It makes me feel like a failure
That actually sounds like something that may become a major problem. Best to get it sorted out when you haven't deluded yourself that it's totally normal yet.
Girl....same
@@JustSayRance 😂 definitely do not think it’s normal dude or even close to normal
@@bellamichelle6248 Well, that's good. Being aware of one's issues is a very important step towards solving it. Now, it's up to you to find out what causes this behaviour. It could be something which is quite a bit more serious than "laziness" after all.
And arrangement. If stuff is already in order I can keep it that way. However I just moved and I cannot organize so I cry
“You know you’re wrong somehow, you know you’re different but you don’t know why” damn...I felt that
Yeah, and then all those hip ppl celebrating how "different" they are, when they don't know shit about the pain of really being different.
Im a guy who recently started looking at videos about autism and every single thing you talked about resonated with me.
Social anxiety, depression, special interests, task managmemt problems, self diagnosing myself with different mental illnesses over the years, info dumping weird historical facts, random facts about the way things work, movie trivia or horrifying political statistics about US government corruption on unsuspecting victims who just asked one question to be nice or said something in passing. "Wow, you have a good memory." "Wow, I didn't know that." "That's the most Ive ever heard you talk." "You must have done good in school Max."
I didn't do good in school, hated it, unless it was a creative project or was related to history or writing. I didn't raise my hand, I didn't ask for help, as each grade went by it got harder and harder for me to make friends. I eventually would, always, but I had a hard time relating to the other kids. The only two things I could talk to anyone about where movies and video games. That was fine for years as a teenager, but then everyone started becoming adults and once again I feel into the gap, I haven't had any real adult friends since 18. I'm 26 now. Ive had plenty of work friends that I've socialized with and loved dearly, but no long lasting or meangingful friendships that went outside of work.
Feeling like an alien. Like a literal alien, from the movie alien. There was a time in my life a few years ago when my social anxiety was at its worst and I thought that, I felt like a black slimy thing crammed into a human suit walking around Walmart lol. I know thats not true. I don't feel that isolated anymore. Ive mostly accepted who I am and love exploring my hobbies. But I do still feel lonely and isolated sometimes. Especially when I see the way co workers talk to each other, but leave me out.
3 months ago I got help for my depression, I'm on medication, its given me so much of my life back and the next thing I want to do is get evaluated for autism. Theres so many more things I can relate to that I've seen in other videos that it makes me feel like I want to cry.
Im a picky eater, cant stand certain foods based on smell, texture and appearance. I always like eating the same things. I understand completely about the routine thing, trying different templates and organization systems, it works for a little while then something happens and it gets derailed and you have a hard time getting back in the habit or you abandon it completely.
I want to move on and live a happier life. Thank you for sharing this video, this is what's going to push me to seek help. I feel less lonely, thank you :)
Now I'm questioning my whole life lol.
Monicaiscool me to...I thought my situation was just social anxiety 🤦♂️
I mean...maybe it is???????
Right!!
Same
Monicaiscool Riiiight? 🤔😱
Ummmmm. Same. What the heck? 😳
Yup. Literally every single one of these.
I tell myself before every social event I attend "Okay, you have one task this evening: DO NOT talk about Lord of the Rings, you know you can't stop once you've started." It works about 50% of the time..
Baguette Gott I saw a aspergers/autism talk about special interest.
NT have special interests but it's more board.
Boys with autism it only a few but it's the intensity.
NT men cars and magnets are they simple interests.
So for example a autistic person would know nearly every song ever written.
Zoe K. I like the LotR and the hobbit so much that I know the dwarfish alphabet, some of the elvish one, and know dwarfish and elvish words. Oh, and watched every behind the scenes videos.
Baguette Gott, I have to tell myself to talk and try not to acr like a statue. But more than 5 people in a reunion makes me panic and freeze and if I try to say something omething weird comes out and people look at me in a strange way
@@Selkisaura even the ones for the Hobbit? Dang, that's some dedication. The Hobbit movies weren't even that good.
I'm a little jealous though, I wish I could write proper Tengwar... I'm not gonna actually learn Sindarin, but just writing English with the elvish lettering is kind of awesome.
Baguette Gott suilaide mellon means greeting friend and mae govonnen is another form of greeting :)
I’m autistic and epileptic. I hate when people stereotype me based on their ignorance of Autism. Autistics have their quirks but really who doesn’t? Autism is a label. I’m still a person.
Anyone with symptoms could look into heavy metals being an underlying issue, as autism spectrum is often caused by mercury toxicity. I would really recommend anyone who want to look into the Andrew Cutler Protocol. This is the ONLY safe protocol to this date, eating things like chlorella and cilantro has made people very very sick. Please read the child recovering stories by googling "andy cutler success stories child" and the adult ones by googling "andy cutler success stories adult" and google"andy cutler rebecca rust lee weston price" for a great article about mercury toxicity and the protocol. But the best place to learn and get support is trough the Facebook group «Andy Cutler Chelation: Safe Mercury and Heavy Metal Detox». Wish you he best!
Far too many labels in this world. I mean, the question I ask is "What is normal?!"
Trfhfihftug exactly. It's because we were raised on all of these labels, or that a certain way is "normal" per se. Really we should be able to just accept ourselves as humans and understand that we all have differences. There is no such thing as normal really. You will find that there is no human on the planet that hasn't struggled to accept themselves just for who they are at some point without having to diagnose ourselves with something because we need to have a logical reason for it. The truth is we can't logic our way out of everything, but there are many things in this life that cannot be logically explained. For one thing, when we experience mental health issues, it's our soul that is uneasy and struggling with the things going on in this world. You'll find that it's because the majority of the people here are wearing a mask and failing to be authentic with ourselves and those around us through fear of judgement. There is a certain amount of judgement that comes with these labels.
@@jessicahudson4592 exactly, people so often rely on labels for a sense of identity but it ends up holding them back / letting them accept flaws and excuse themselves for things they could improve on with practice, patience and discipline
@@siriolsen7805 the info on heavy metall is very intresting thank you. However this is the misconcept. The symptoms of autistic people are not the same as how their brain and view of the world functions. I used to think this to until I learned more. I have experience in holistic health aswell and I seen exemple of people having less symptoms after cutting milk, more after vaccines etc. But thats only the symtoms over an overloaded body. In which someone high senstive can have. The way yout brain is functioning is different. Look at Eminem, he toured the world, so his "symptoms of autism" didt keep him from doing his thing and find an outlet, but his brain and special talent is there anyway, the way his brain functions will still be there. This goes for other aspies aswell. You can eat better, get rid of toxins, treat lyme and so on. But these symptoms dosent make you autistic or not autistic. There are sensitiv people who got these kind of symptomes aswell like sound issues and so on.
Everytime I talk about autism, my family members act like I'm insulting myself. It really hit home when you talked about boys, and teachers...wow. It's eye opening. Maybe I'm not adhd, nor borderline, nor depressive, just autistic.
Me: **Has all of these**
Also me: Welp, time to get back to my totally neurotypical life. Yep, definately neurotypical
I honestly don't think that there are any extremely intelligent or talented neurotypicals.
Nice pfp!!
I notice how she looks at me-
@@stephenolan5539 I think that’s a pretty silly statement
@@hungryhippo17
The best response to someone denying the existence of of something is to give an example.
I have so many hyperfixations that change almost monthly, my special interest now is the try guys and next week it'll probably be something completely different, probably ballet
May YOOOOO MINE WAS THE TRY GUYS A COUPLE MONTHS AGO!!
I do this too
Mine is hiking. Every week I go somewhere knew. This mean hiking boots, clothing, gear etc. A few months back, before hiking it was beading, before beading it was woodworking. Painting, poetry, knitting, sewing..the list goes on and this is just the last 18 months. My husband is used to it after 20 years. Once I feel I’ve “nailed it” then I move on and find a new challenge. I fit these activities in between my complete obsession with books. All books, paperback, audio and digital. I have trouble understanding what others do with their time and how they’re not bored??
I get this but with tv shows last week was the 100, this week fear the walking dead and I can tell you every character, episode and cast member without looking it up so I told mum all this stuff I found really interesting and she just said I’m weird :/
@@SpyderT22 asfsgfjgihp
mine used to be birds too!! (I still love them and know way too much about them lol)
I’ve been called over sensitive my entire life and get told all the time that I need to get thicker skin. You explained it really well
I’m told this all the time!
@@abbie.ireland it sucks honestly 😞
@@Hannah-nw7el Watching this video I would be put into the autistic category BUT when I know whoever it is very well I DO look forward to seeing them so that leads me to wonder!
I am overly emotional - good or bad!
Me too. My family gave me the nickname crybaby. And my coworkers call me baby fingers (I use tongs and basically every form of protection against the heat in the kitchen at work)
cried during most this video from feeling heard. thanks samdy sam. I already am super confident I am autistic, currently waiting o a professional for diagnosis, but it's still always nice to know someone out there understands your experiences.
Extremely helpful, thank you.
Aged 81 I found the pandemic lockdowns suited me brilliantly - no social pressure! Not allowed to meet people! Allowed to read books and watch RUclips videos!
The "normal" modern world doesn't suit us and is a huge social effort especially when forced to be a schoolchild amongst noisy, jostling crowds of other children or students, in the charge of sometimes hostile shouting teachers.
We evolved to live in tribes; we knew everyone in our tribe, so no shyness; we quiet ones could have scraped the skins, made the stone tools, milked the goats, tended the fire and been the appreciative audience while the extraverts danced and sang. We could have chewed our cheeks quite happily and never been lonely. We could have been the keepers of our tribe's knowledge, in songs and cave paintings.
We didn't need to mix with hundreds of strangers, go out from our loving homes, to school to school to college and be scared of people every day from the age of 5 till 21. We are unfairly stigmatised, when millions to thousands of years ago we wouldn't have been anything but useful and loved members of our tribe.
It's a problem of the industrial revolution: highly specialised jobs, scattered families, fleeting friendships, loneliness, money worries, unemployment, crime. Some personalities quite rightly are unsuited to all of this. You are fine as you are, find a backwater as soon as you can.
Wonderful summation of many facets of life I've often experienced. Don't like noise, or crowds, or fast-paced anything. Very much enjoyed living in a small village in Switzerland and also in Sitka Alaska. You're spot on about the Industrial Revolution, humans are not cogs in machine wheels, yet modern society increasingly demands such adaptation and acquiescence to a non organic lifestyle. Thank you for your insight. 🦁
Love it ❤️❤️
so beautiful
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I too was quite fine sheltering in place gardening, walking, exploring the woods on my own. ❤️
My mom avoided getting me diagnosed because she doesn't like labels, but knowing that my "weirdness" was because of something out my control would've helped me so much. You really got the emotion of that described
My mom refused add testing because she wasn't going to allow medication. And I performed well academically if you don't count my debilitating anxiety. It's hard to say if it would have helped. Most of what we know about adhd and autism is so new.
I felt this bc my mom was the same way she dint wana be looked at different from ppl
We never really talked about it, but I think this was a factor for my mom too. She has this weird hatred of any and all labels.
I didn't get my ADD diagnosis until I was 11 or 12, and that was because a teacher at school said I should get tested because of my attention issues in class, and ADHD was being diagnosed a lot in that time.
Parents who think they're doing us a favor by not being labled "the Autistic kid" fail to recognize that society will give us different, and far more hurtful labels. Labels like stupid, lazy, troublemaker, doesn't pay attention, weirdo, freak, etc....
Some labels are better than others.
@Rogue Blackwood my mum was the same with getting me diagnosed with autism because of medication so she says?? don’t know if they actually give anything for autism I don’t and she didn’t want me labelled either now 16 yrs later (I’m 26) after what feels like a lifetime of struggle and bad anxiety I am now diagnosed with autism and now with some help hoping I can finally move out of my mums which is another story 😔 life 🙁 it will get better eventually 🤞
You just described my situation. She always say "you don't put labels on children! It's cruel!" But, its frustrating. I plan on getting diagnosed when I'm older to truly see.
"nail biting and skin picking"
*as i sat there, picking my nails*
Same
That could also be anxiety though
@@everestdog Autism can be related to anxiety tho, just like ADHD etc..
@@everestdog I was diagnosed by a doctor with adhd
Scrolling through the comments while picking my skin
I'm really glad I clicked on this video. I'm a guy and I've always felt imposter syndrome with my autism diagnosis, but this is the most relateable video i've seen.
Is the fact that I cried watching this video a sign that I might actually be autistic and not just lying to myself because "I wanna feel special" even though I haven't told anyone I think I'm autistic because I don't want them to think that?
I have nothing more to say except..................................same :(
Sounds like you have abusive ppl around you telling you that you do stuff “just for attention”? Don’t believe them. Your feelings are valid and you deserve help and understanding for your struggles.
But idk that that’s a clear sign that you’re autistic tho
Diagnosis can be difficult or expensive to get, depending on your insurance and which practitioners you see. Is it worth it? That's up to you. Most people who get diagnosed say that having a label has given them better self-esteem (there's a reason for the way I am, I'm not just weird or bad), and can help you learn how to cope with a neurotypical world. If you think you might be autistic, there are FB groups like Autism Inclusivity where you can listen to, chat with, and ask questions to people who are diagnosed autistic. And either way, there are things you can do to take care of yourself, like respecting and accommodating your own sensory needs and stims, that also don't require a diagnosis and can really improve your quality of life. Ultimately, you are valid and your struggles are real, and it sounds like the people around you may just be unsupportive and/or gaslighting you (mental/emotional abuse). Good luck, beautiful human
No.
It’s helpful to accept that not everyone will understand you, and you don’t need everyone to. Some people may think this. Even a couple of people very close to me think this. But I can’t control them, and ultimately it doesn’t matter a huge amount that they don’t ‘get it’. It matters that I get it, and can find useful information and resources to help me and my mental health.
I'm considered fairly high functioning for an autistic girl (that is literally my diagnosis I believe) and even I feel like I'm just blending in and that's all. I worry so much about my autistic quirks coming out and being a problem in public that it makes me to anxious to even leave the house at times. Glad to see more autistic women speaking up about their experience in the community.😊
wow not joking I’m exactly the same never talked about my autism with anyone really😔 so this is a first 🙂I’m glad women are sharing experiences never had the confidence to speak up but will get there one day🙂
high functioning/low functioning is actually a pretty outdated term that a lot of people are trying to phase out, it's kind of like saying some forms of autism or autistic people are less valid/acceptable. you can just say you have autism, you don't have to go out of your way to specify that you're not like those *other* autistic people.
@@beatofromuminekorealnotcli4574 oh I didn't know the term wasn't being used anymore! I'll be sure not to say that in the future. I was diagnosed when I was pretty young and "high functioning" was used alot on me so I've always used it. I can totally see why the autistic community would be trying to phase it out tho.
I'm not low functioning but I'm also not high functioning, my quirks come out in public and I freak out if someone's voice is too loud and or at a pitch that irritates me, I can't understand why that would be an issue all too well, I'm more or less the kind of person to cause an unwanted scene
Same I feel like everyone’s eyes are on me. I just look to weird and I walk weird and Im just off enough for people to take notice. It’s horrible I don’t even feel okay walking into stores anymore. I only feel safe in my room or by the river
“Let’s not start any piece of work until you feel increasingly panicked about it which is probably 10pm the night before it’s due.”
Me who just finished four assignments at 10pm the night before they’re due: SHE KNOWS!!!
. I stumbled upon this comment jusy as Sam was saying it in thr video. 😅
its literally 10pm too... thats the time I always started. even when it was due at 11:59
Bro I finished and handed in 2 essays 2 minutes before midnight and they were finals-
I mean like I passed but the stress was so much that I literally collapsed
I have the opposite mindset. I want to finish it all the week before for extra credit or to have the 22 page long draft be edited so that I can get the best grade possible. I hate exams and tests. Can't perfect those. They are always final grade. 😣
I finished my seminar paper in school in a free lesson at 11:15. It was due on the same day at 12.
Wow same here with identifying as a HSP. Trying to get an autism diagnosis now but even if I don’t, I’ve come to the realization myself and it validates the life experience that I’ve had.
When you do/have 90% of these symptoms but don't want to tell your parents ._.
Scared to get diagnosed
Aaaaaaaa i knoooww
I told my parents and they said ur saying stupid things cuz of your phone
@@dunjapanic8532 If you really believe and know you have these symptoms don't let them defer you from exploring it further. Sometimes autism symptoms overlap with other things like introversion, social anxiety, ADHD. This is why it's important to understand the differences. You know yourself better than anybody so only you can make the distinction for yourself.
@@katwebbxo it's absolutely true.
I could recognize myself in almost everything she said, but I don't think it have anything to do with autism.
Plus, little by little I have changed, making efforts for what I wanted to be.
I don't mean to be disrespectful, but I think the problem nowadays is that people tend to think everything is illness or is dangerous or different, but the truth is some people who should be diagnosed aren't and people who shouldn't are.
I don't think we have to differentiate ourselves and compare to others so much, because the essential for me is to act as you want yo and to be who you want to. If you need help, then ask. It doesn't even necessarily mean that it have to be because of an illness, because of symptoms or anything. If you feel uncomfortable about something, then I think tall about it could the beginning of a solution. Just don't mind the reason why ;)
(I hope it was understandable and that I could explain correctly what I wanted to :) ...)
I’m 23 and I’ve always been incredibly shy and awkward, and I feel like an airhead. I zone out and do silly things. I can’t handle loud noises, crowds or excitable extroverted people. I started a new job at the same time as another girl and she has fitted in instantly, whilst I still feel like an outsider who sits in her car at lunch whilst everyone else goes out together.
I’m in my car right now and have had a crappy day... 😕
They make me feel like a weirdo and I’m scared to talk to them sometimes. They don’t really make me feel welcome in all honesty. They talk amongst one another, making social plans with each other as if I’m not there, and they all have their inside jokes that don’t involve me....but I end up blaming myself for simply lacking social skills that would make them *want* to include me.
I feel incredibly lonely but at the same time I don’t like being around people.
I relate to almost all of these.
I’m starting to wonder...
Fear not! There are people like you.
But I don't think your autistic. It annoys me highly as what they classify as being "wrong" or "autistic" lately. It's idiotic.
This society is full of extroverts still saying introverts are the "weird" ones. -_-
Check out 16personalitys.
It's a quiz/test that will help you understand more, trust me.
You are not wrong or weird sweetie. As I thought the same, along with many others before, ignorantly.
Remember to be truthful to yourself entirely. Or else you'll receive inaccurate results.
If you receive a result that you don't relate too extremely? You did things wrong.
Once you get a result that is "you" for certain, "relatable" if I must say. Then you did it correct.
However this is just a suggestion. Trying to help people here, as many misunderstand and instead believe some other preposterous idea.
Do what you feel like. :]
@@soupey DND? Good hobby. And nah, not autism. Just introverted heavily. I relate.
@@soupey Me too. I work from home because the last time I worked an office job, things didn't go well for me. I'm so much more happier and productive now, though I still sometimes struggle with procrastination. It also helps that 100% of my work communication is done on chats. Honestly, it's freaking heaven.
To the OG poster, I just want you to know that you don't have to force yourself into that environment if it doesn't seem to be the right one for you. There are so much more options available nowadays when it comes to earning money.
And to the one here who seems to be in denial, it's fine if you don't want to believe autism that could pass as "normal" exists, but the way you're actively trying to convince others of it looks suspicious and frankly feels disturbing. It could even count as gaslighting, if I may say so. The possibility of being autistic is not as heinous to everyone as it seems to be to you. In fact, it's an absolute relief because it explains everything, not just bits and pieces here and there.
I had all that when i was a teenaer but i never let it win, ive learnt to blend in well enough for others to approach me but I can't seem to maintain friendships, just begin them... :( But i you keep working at it you can learn to get along with people and blend in easily. :) hang in there and keep trying
@@justforfungamergirl7402 Id reccomend a functions test instead of that one, it has too many false positives.www.idrlabs.com/cognitive-function/test.php like this one
I was diagnosed with adhd not too long ago but I’ve always felt that I may also be dealing with autism and many professionals have also brought it up. Thank you for this video! It helped me a lot and I really can relate to your story.
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wow. i identified with everything that was said here, it’s kind of spooky. I’ve always thought I just had severe anxiety and depression, but I never suspected i might also have autism. the selective mutism, inability to talk to those in positions of authority, constant procrastination, what I always thought were nervous ticks (peeling my skin, biting my nails, chewing my lips), and the hyper sensitivity make me think my problems are beyond just anxiety and depression... i need to go to a doctor 😕
Good luck! There's a big community online if you need any support
@@Wolf-r9d it's a good job you know better than the diagnosing psychologist who spent 6 hrs interviewing me in detail. So glad you can share your expertise in the comments section.
Try to remember there is a spiritual world we can't see. All these symptoms can manifest from the spiritual realm into our lives. You won't hear this anywhere on mainstream because they don't want you to know, which is why more of us need to turn to God through Christ for help. Be blessed.
Marsha Mish >_>!
U really should go to a doctor, I can't tell what u felling or what u have (if u have anything at all) but self diagnose is dangerous.
Hope you get well 😊
My daughter was diagnosed at 18 months, so glad we've been able to guide her through her life. She is now 31 and really independent.
You give me hope...my daughter is 4 years old and she was recently diagnosed with autism. She doesn't talk😞I mean, she sings some songs and know the colors, numbers etc but she doesn't talk like have a conversation😞 Was your daughter the same when she was a toddler?
I'm glad you were able to guide her. I am 16 and was called retarded and many other insults for many years and because I was never diagnosed I would believe them. I wasn't any good with understanding anything in class causing me to constantly fail. I finally got diagnosed as Autistic this year and it relieved me to know that I want just someone who is lazy and doesn't try nor care about my future. Although I still have anxiety and issues with learning while always being ignored despite trying to make the obvious signs of struggle. I just hope that someone will be able to help me so I can make it into University... But right now during year 11 I don't think this will happen...
I'm 31 and don't even know where to start getting help
@@Flufiesmidnight maybe she prefers to mostly stay non-verbal? try other types of communication like sign language/writing to see if she likes that better
I wish I had parents like you and not Narcissistic parents.
I'm 32yrs old woman living hell everyday.
Since looking more into these, I find myself more aware of my “quirks” lol like my constant humming and repeating of certain song lines and talking to myself- all which I thought were pretty normal. Also, I CONSTANTLY pick at my skin and hate sitting still and was aware of a sensation repulse today and wonder how many times it has happened before and I never noticed lol
hey me too! i used to do the fiddling/sucking on my hair as described in the video when i was younger, up until i was diagnosed (and i had zero suspicion of being autistic before i was diagnosed) i thought it was just me '''being a child.''' now i do what you said, reciting random song lyrics especially!! this video and the comments felt oddly comforting, like the video says girls are often really good at masking autism so i felt really alone in everything until coming here : )
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I do all of the same things. I thought it was totally normal, cause when it comes to humming and stuff, my family is the same way.
@@whenthe8810 if so many do this then it is within the normal range
Those things could be anxiety related.
Being a psychologist and now suspecting I have autism, I relate to your experience so much. Thank you for the video.
Growing up, I was the oversensitive nerd, and was often called weird. I found that having thr right friends makes all the difference.
u: talks abt stimming like biting lips/cheeks etc
me: literally gnawing my lips raw as you say it (shocked pikachu face)
Same here lol
*talks about what would happen if someone said you could never stim again*
me: Massive anxiety spike and starts shaking legs profusely
Me too...me too....me too
Lmao the pikachu face though
yea ikr i heard that you could get mouth cancer from chewing away at the inside of your mouth and have had major anxiety about it, but i cant seem to stop. Its like if i dont do it for a while my brain will go, "hey, remember that thing, yeah you should do that rn before you start freaking out"
i've been struggling with the idea i might be on the autism spectrum recently and part of me is still convincing myself that i'm just depressed or anxious. i've been on antidepressants for a while and have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and the idea that i might be autistic both terrifies me and feels like a relief because maybe i'm not a failure, the world just isn't built for me
wow this reply hit me deep. I feel exactly the same.... like I've been waiting for an answer that explains everything, but now that the answer is autism, I don't want it anymore :(
Same….and diagnosed with adhd. There’s so much
you are not a failure
This❤️
I have autism, anxiety and depression lol
i’ve gotten thoroughly tested for autism twice in my life, most recently about a year ago. the answer was always “yeah, a few symptoms”. this video nearly dictated my life stories and struggles. even though it’s not word-for-word, i relate to every issue. why couldn’t a medical professional do that?
I’m shy weird and lazy but don’t have autism
You don't know that lol
2 outta 3 aint bad... now Attack your lazy side. 🥳
@Tara Rawson as an autistic person, we are normal but where just a little different. The things that she talking about are really relied to autism because i feel the same way and it the same for a lot to people. I think your making assumptions that all autistic are dumb and weird when it not the case.
@@alysonpaquette874 where did she say dumb or weird?
@@alexxx750 "her issuses sound fucking normal" so that means that we herent normal
Just found your channel and subbed, thank you for this.
There does need to be more awareness of females on the spectrum who may struggle in not - so obvious ways, only recently found out myself. It is a relief to finally know the reasons behind all the hypersensitivity, intense obsessions, the need to be alone a lot, among other things. It’s very validating, almost like taking your dignity back after all the misunderstandings, saying no, I’m not bad or wrong, just different and that’s ok.
I have come to the realisation that my ‘condition’ has actually given me far more than it’s taken, I would never choose to change if there was a ‘cure.’ There is so much misinformation about what autism actually is, it’s shocking. We aren’t broken, we have so many good points. The sooner the rest of the world understands this the better.
Keep up the great work 👍
Edit : Did not realise this had so many likes. Thank you. Oh dear me 😊 *blushes*
Not trying to be offensive but your pic is creepy af
user name Thank you 😊
Ditto. I'm in my 50s and just found out. Explains so very much.
kj robbi same!
(Actually your picture is awesome) My question - How do you get a doctor to listen to you and not fob you off!?
I didn't have any special interests as a kid...
* remembers that I printed pictures of American Generals and taped them to my bedroom wall like boy band posters *
Oh.
This made me LOL 😂😂
LMAO! 🤣Civil War, Egyptology and Dinosaurs were my thing as a kid... and later as a teen Transformers, Gundam, anything Mecha.
OMG! I've never met another female who also had an obsession with history as a kid. I literally wanted to be a Civil War reenactor or a knight at the Ren Fest as a little girl. LOL And I was obsessed with learning about historical arms and armor.
I laughed at trains. I didn’t care much about trains, but I could tell you how to engineer an ocean liner when I was 10. I knew every single inch of the Titanic’s architecture and particularly why it was so prone to sink.
Heh I remember I was asked once “you’re going to be an engineer, aren’t you?” But I said no, I’d be a ballerina. Tutus, you know. I mean, I WAS still a ten year old girl.
But it was never just ship engineering. Everything I care about, to this day, I exhaust. My dad used to call me the Eater of Worlds.
bro, I use to do the same thing...I was obsessed with wars as a kid
I was diagnosed at 50 but thinking back many things in my childhood point to autism and like many girls I learned to mask and copy my peers. My life has been a nightmare of depression and anxiety but finally getting an answer has helped. Just wish I had known sooner as it would have saved me a lot of heartache and abuse.
Dude, imagining NOT stimming though. That sounds so BORING.
THIS
@@DaniParducci I couldn't imagine not having that rush.
@@popsicIes me neither
nurotypicals stim they just usaly only stim by tapping there let ect.not like flapping srnd
Can reading for hours on end be stimming?
I was fascinated to hear her talk about how she does have the social awareness to modify her behavior. The stereotype seems to be that people with ASD lack that awareness.
A lot of girls with autism do it because of the pressure to fit in
I believe it has something to do with how girls use different communication centres of the brain than boys. I learned to "mask" imperfectly by being told that you "always have to maintain eye contact" in order to be taken seriously and other such social skills. In my 20s I studied/fixated on learning about body language because I realised that I wasn't getting social cues like everyone else around me. I still don't get social cues, but I'm better at hiding it now lol
That tripped me up when I first started suspecting I was autistic. I am very socially aware and sensitive to other people. Then I read about how autistic girls tend to be this way and realized how hard I work to make the right faces and blend in.
Yea, imo this is almost certainly a socialization thing. Women and girls are expected to be more socially literate and therefore autistic AFAB people develop the skills to fake it. Since AMAB children are not they don't need to. Source: am transfem still can't social
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
Huh-
I could have autism.
Never even considered that as a possibility, I'm glad I stumbled upon this.
Same
@@nais-roserenier1848 I have everything I read about. Its human behaviour to identify with people. I bet you are absolutely fine...as is the very silly girl in this video.
@@jackiecarter5193 why are you calling her silly and are you a medical professional.
I agree she could be fine,but to call someone silly for speculating seems ignorant.
@@jackiecarter5193 the 'girl' in this video, is actually, a woman an educated woman, mother and someone who has been clinically diagnosed with autism. The only thing thats silly is your very silly comment.
The part where you described falling behind on schoolwork and the web of lies and ability crafted to keep myself from falling into the fire had me tearing up. It was really bad starting in 4th or 5th grade. I was the kid who had to get a homework slip signed by the teacher at the end of the day and signed by my mom and brought back to school. I managed to keep it mostly together through middle and highschool. College is where the web caught fire. The cycle of 'I can do this in a panic the night before/2 days before/3 hours before etc' followed by the 'believable excuses/lies' and the spiral of guilt and depression when the lie was believed and I was given an extension that I knew I didn't deserve and would culminate in fading into a ghost in the class and an inevitable failure/low mark. Then cue the deeper depression because low marks = not smart/not successful and what am I even doing with my life?
I've NEVER had answers to WHY I do this. I hate it but this was so incredibly validating to hear because I've suspected for a long time that I may be on that spectrum. Little things, so INCREDIBLEY similar to your own symptoms that it was easy enough to be written off by myself and others as anything else. Things like my mom affectionately referring to me as her 'high maintenence child', being easily overstimulated by loud noises (fireworks, 21 gun salutes at funerals, motorcycles, screaming children, etc), bright lights (overhead lights mostly), and large crowds and the skin-picking/cheek/lip biting. And don't even get me STARTED on the executive dysfunction! XD There's more but this... this is something I really need to discuss with my therapist. It feels like I'm looking at a mosaic and I couldn't really tell what the picture was supposed to be and it just seemed odd and confusing and disappointing until someone finally washed away the mud and dust to reveal the complete image. Thank you. 💜💜
I'm 44, was just diagnosed with ADHD (no formal assessment) by my doctor, and we both suspect I am Autistic as well. This is after years of struggling with chronic depression, fatigue, and anxiety.
Your story felt as though it was a narration of my childhood, so many similar experiences. Unfortunately, instead of trying to fit in, I went the rebellious route.
That’s great your doctor listened
I tried to fit in at first but then later got tired of masking and didn't mind standing out, i wasn't forced to tell anyone so I didn't, as far as they knew I was just an odd ball (I have adhd and autism)
ahhh finally someone that didn’t try to fit in either 😭 I feel so seen
Why was you not trying to fit in unfortunate?
@Sidon Wire I assume they mean they experienced bad treatment from others by allowing themselves not to mask.
Me in therapy as a full grown adult~ "hey uh how do I clean my house?" ~ it's so hard to tell the difference between asd & adhd & depression & introversion & anxiety 😭 & just "normal" human struggles?
This!! 🥲
I was actually told by a shrink that my problems are just normal human struggle. So why don't I belong? Why does loneliness eat my heart up? And why don't I work on my book, which I actually really love doing? I must be the laziest girl in town.
Dr. Ramani has videos about some personality disorders and how to tell the difference.
When you're hypersensitive to chewing sounds to the point of crying, but your family still shames you for being too sensitive :/
I relate so much
That's horrible. I also have a reaction to chewing sounds to the point of irrational extreme frustration, I often have to put on the TV or put headphones in when eating. Sometimes my own chewing even bothers me
as awful as it is, as a young kid, my peers would ask me “if you had to lose your hearing or sight,” and without hesitation, i would tell them i wish i could lose my hearing, that it seemed so much better. i’ll understand misophonia one day, but sadly for now, i just have to keep eating alone with earbuds in
Thank you for sharing this. You said so much that I have felt over the years and just lately I and the people around me are starting to think I may be autistic too. I have 3 children and my eldest who is a boy and 16 now is diagnosed as autistic and it was a shock as I didn’t know much about it. He was 10 when he got the diagnosis and in that time of learning about what it is; I’ve understood myself and childhood and reasons why I just can’t see to cope with life the same way others appear too. And I’ve spent my whole life trying to pretend to be what the other around me expect me to be and when people say “just be yourself” I panic as I know they won’t ever accept me being who I am when I’m alone with all my weird traits and frustrations that others don’t seem to have. And sometimes I have no idea who I am anyway. I’m now learning the language to explain how I’ve been feeling all these years. I’m 34 now. And I feel very emotional at the thought of finally understanding what is making me feel so different. Plus it will mean I definitely understand my son better than anyone else too. Take care x
My brother has autism, and I always thought because I don’t act like him I must just be neurotypical, but watching this video I realized a lot of the things you listed were things I experienced and just thought was normal. My absolute OBSESSION with futurama to the point my parents even thought it was strange, my inability to do or think about anything other than fnaf for months because I was obsessive about it to a nearly unhealthy point. My hatred of most clothes because of how itchy they felt and my refusal to wear jeans for years as a child, my social anxiety and feelings of constantly being hated or judged, my fixations on very strange small little things no one else really notices (according to them) my need to stim constantly and my tics, all of this suddenly makes a lot of sense and I honestly think I made be autistic or at least not neurotypical like I was lead to believe for so long because I didn’t act like my brother
Wow you explained so many similarities to my 11 year old daughter. We are awaiting her appointment for testing this Summer. I hope you are able to find the answers you need.
You were genuinely just super interested in that show and game and becoming "addicted" to things that bring us lots of joy and interest is more normal than u may think. it's normal to be uncomfortable in clothes so many ppl dislike wearing jeans we all have our preference and style of clothes! The people in this world are very judgmental and u understood that from a young age and honestly, I see u as a very creative person. Bc when something catches your attention that intensely and powerfully, you see or think something much deeper about it than what others do/would which is creative or genius.
And lastly, overthinking a conversation or speaking to a stranger, thats normal too! I get that, I experience It too. We're not all natural Conversationalists. And another thing, the devil fills our minds with lies! You feeling as though you're hated/judged, that's the devil, he brings these negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves. You may see these as abnormal or that u have autism, but I do not. We're just human and imperfect which is fine💗
And Despite how we may feel about ourselves, God made us and he loves us, he makes no mistakes ✝️
Rebuke the devil and seek God truly and genuinely 💓 he will make you feel amazing and wonderful just being yourself, that's what he wants‼️💫
Shut up baby I know it
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
To be fair I think most little girls hate jeans. Every girl in my family refused to wear them for years and even as I’m older I will wear leggings over jeans any day
Me when she started listing the symptoms and her experience: hold up man, hold on a second, ho-
I know right ?? Replace Spice Girls and Friends with a few animes and video games and this is my life up to this point in freakishly precise terms and details.
@@ivanivkovicmusic Do you have the qualifications to prove your claims ?
@@ivanivkovicmusic Autism shows up differently in different people.
@@ivanivkovicmusic - Do you even know her well enough to claim that?
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Okay so much of this points to me being autistic. I just never got diagnosed because my parents didn't want me to be labeled 'the autistic kid'
You point out something important and sad about our society. There is still a negative social connotation associated with ASD which says more about society than people with ASD. There seems to be an even more negative view of males with ASD where some in society are attempting to paint male ASD or HFA as being possibly dangerous or narcissistic. I find such suggestions not only alarming but I also try to push back when I see people make such suggestions. Sadly society seems to be fairly judgmental and petty with the internet not helping things much. I haven't been officially diagnosed and I'm not sure it's even wise in today's social climate.
Same; I asked my parents when I was around 9 to be tested because I could tell I experienced the world differently than my peers and the expectations of adults; she refused because I was good at school and she didn’t want me to be labeled, especially as a Black child.
We wear a million labels: gender, race, sexual orientation, nationality; even if it’s not crippling your life, the point is to be seen for what’s real for you. It’s only bad to be labeled when that label is accompanied by oppression, otherwise it’s just another facet of your identity.
Yeah I literally have ALL the symptoms (some quite bad, some barely noticeable, some I just got really good at hiding), but my parents wouldn't diagnose me either, and now I'm mad because if I want to get diagnosed I have to spend tons of money I don't have. So people just either think I'm a freak, or they think I'm lying about my Autism because I don't have a diagnosis to back me up.
The more and more labelling that is being "invented", the more I agree with parents who don't like labels. Sometimes I feel if ANYONE went to a psychiatrist they would come out with one or two labels. Are we just trying to box in personalities? Trying to understand ourselves more is great. But it's the mental illness labeling that is increasingly worrying.
You just told me my whole life and I am SHOOK. Thank you so much for sharing. I've been waffling back and forth about "is it autism? Is it trauma? Is it both plus some emotional abuse?". Thus really helped.
I've been struggling to find something that matches why I always felt so out of place my whole life but could never identify it. I fall into every single one of the things you talked about in this video. Thank you.
Same, my mother constantly asked me "what's wrong with you?" Now I know, lol.
@@lastjellyontheplate8828 this video is not meant to replace proper medical evaluation.
@@chloegrobler4275 did I say it was?? Crikey I love how I make one single observation about how the video closely resembles how I am, and you jump on me for it? Don't you have better things to do?
@@lastjellyontheplate8828 "now I know" sounds like a conclusion not an infferance. i am sorry I didn't mean to offend you.
@@chloegrobler4275 you didn't offend me, your comment sounded judgemental, that's all, since my comment was a lighthearted one, and you didn't reply to the original poster and she said much the same thing.
the part about it being hard to talk to people when there’s a power imbalance between then and me is sooooo relatable, among everything else
@abc123 are you a psychologist? The woman in the video was diagnosed as autistic.
They are like "teachers" to me (as power figures), I just avoid them and I don't look at their faces, even (especially?) if they are much younger than me. Attractive, loud, happy, well organized people terrify me.
"I developed social anxiety because of small, systematic micro-rejections" oh god, how I can relate to that! Every time I suggest I might be autistic to a doctor or shrink they confidently dismiss the suggestion. You couldn't be because you have a sense of humour, or because you have decent enough social skills, etc etc. They're seeing me one on one, which I can just about handle. I'm 90% sure I am though - I relate so much to videos like this!
This video was really fascinating. The more I learn about autism the more convinced I am that I have it. I could name every episode of Doctor Who when I was a teenager so I can definitely relate to that aspect. So much of what you talked about here makes sense to me and I really appreciate your time in making this video