A Family Experience with Gender Transition from the Parent’s Perspective

0:00 Intro
0:33 Dr. Nisly, for Mary: Did you know all along or were you surprised?
0:50 Mary, “There was no typical story for us.”
2:19 Dr. Nisly, for Bruce: What was your experience of her coming out as transgender?
3:06 Bruce, “A piece of me was really angry.”
4:34 Bruce on how coming out demonstrates trust
4:57 Dr. Nisly, for Mary: What was it like losing a son and gaining a daughter?
5:11 Mary, “I cried a lot, but I also knew it didn’t matter on some level.”
5:58 How the college administration responded to the news
6:46 Using preferred pronouns
9:02 Mary on using preferred pronouns when talking about the past
10:09 Dr. Nisly, for Bruce: Were you concerned about her future, family, and career?
10:27 Bruce, “I think we all live with that…”
11:08 Dr. Nisly, What else did you to support your daughter?
11:20 Mary on navigating the legal name change
12:00 Bruce on name change challenges state by state
13:22 Dr. Nisly, for Bruce: How did your daughter’s gender identity affect your choice to become president of the University of Iowa?
15:57 Dr. Nisly, tell us about the joys of seeing your daughter now
16:50 Bruce, “I would argue our relationship is even deeper.”
17:46 Mary, “You spend a lot of energy worrying about telling people.”
19:31 Bruce, “As long as we’re continuing to talk, we’re in a good place.”
20:31 Dr. Nisly, What would you tell couples whose children are beginning to transition?
20:54 Mary on navigating your faith through your child’s transition
21:29 Bruce on how it’s not going to be easy but that’s ok.
Please note: We made this video before the COVID-19 pandemic. UI Health Care staff follow our most current guidance to wear the appropriate personal protective equipment when seeing patients. For more information about our safety efforts, please visit uihc.org.
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