Kardashian-Style Birth? Postpartum Bleeding? Lube? Urge to Push? Surrogacy & MORE!
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Happy 2021!!! We made it!! I'm back for your last (technical) coffee and questions of 2020! Today I'm going to cover:
Delivering your own baby
Your rights to autonomy and making your own decisions
Do hospital policies apply to me?
Do you have to deliver on your back?
How to make decisions in the hospital
Is effacement more important than dilation?
Postpartum bleeding - when to call the doctor, what is normal/not, clots
Lubricant for delivery?
Tips for transition, wanting to push too early? How to prevent pushing?
Surrogate birth
Second baby comes fast? What if it’s a VBAC?
Can they induce labor when the head is not engaged in the pelvis?
Virtual/ Online childbirth classes?
Can a catheter tear you? Risks of catheter?
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Disclaimer: all information shared is for educational purposes only and framed through the lens of birth in North America. Please consult with your doctor before attempting any of the suggested things. Anything mentioned in any of my videos is never to replace the advice of your doctor or midwife. Make sure to check with them before you try anything suggested in my videos and if you have any further questions. I do not give out medical advice.
Most hospital policies surrounding laying down for delivery are 100% about liability. Of course there absolutely can be situations where being on your back is truly safest, but this ‘one size fits all’ policy is absolutely not evidence based. Evidence, along with human anatomy and physiology, overwhelmingly tells us that being on our backs is NOT an ideal position for birth. It’s one of the worst, in fact, when looking at positions that best facilitate normal low-risk vaginal birth. Hospital policies that encourage/recommend women be laying down exist because of convenience (to hospital staff), provider comfortability, and risk of liability.
I firmly believe that ALL of the above needs to be disclosed to patients beforehand, especially if this policy exists in that particular hospital.
I just had my first child on Christmas delivered her myself in the car while dad was driving and honestly your videos were so helpful!!! It was such an easy birth for me she was out in three pushes. my body did all the work on its own. Thank you!!❤️
Third time mom and I’m 37 weeks right now. 90% effaced and 2cm dilated. Getting nervous! And still learning so so much! I had a very traumatic labor with my second. So I’m trying to educate myself on absolutely everything. Thank you for doing these videos!!
I delivered my own VBAC baby!! I asked my doctor ahead of time if he was cool with it. At the hospital I kept reminding the L&D nurse. The nurse then reminded the doctor when it was time :)
Love these vids!!! On the patient rights or different vid can you do important medical terminology we should know that they use in labor and delivery!!
My fiancé caught our son coming out!! I just asked the midwife who was on call when we were at the hospital and we have zero regrets!! It was such a beautiful experience and I’m so glad we did it 😍😍
If it wasn’t for you and your videos, I wouldn’t have been an advocate for myself during my last pregnancy. My doctors were scared of me having a bigger baby and out of the 6 OBs I had, 1 kept pushing for me to do a c-section. I think it’s crazy how they just try to push things out of fear. They told me everything that could go wrong with a “big baby”, but refused to say what the complications were of a c-section. I stuck to my guns though since this was my second baby and I had gone through a natural delivery before without complication. I had my 9lb 3oz baby with no shoulder dystocia, only 2nd degree tearing, no baby distress, I was healthy. She got out in 4 pushes. Again, I know not everyone’s situation is the same. But I hate how that one doctor put so much doubt in my head and my abilities to birth. My OB who delivered was so shocked and was like “wow you can deliver big babies!” Lol.
I recently gave birth ..and let me tell you sarah,your content was soo helpful which made my journey much more easier and happier rather than a horrible birth experience.Thank you soo much for such an amaxing support system😍😍😍 love you loadsss
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Just wanted to tell you that all of your videos made me so prepared for my birth and wanted to thank you for all your knowledge and fun way of getting it across! Extremely grateful!!!
Hello Sarah! Watched you throughout my pregnancy with my daughter and loved your videos 😊 Now we are trying for baby number 2. The tricky part is, it took me 4 1/2 years to get pregnant with my daughter. Praying it happens quick this time. Blessing to you from Minnesota ❤️❤️ You’re great!
Kristina
Honestly, transition was the most intense, but I got longer breaks in-between contractions. I had a home birth last week!!!
Me too! I definitely had to focus so much harder on breathing and relaxation during transition because contractions were much more intense, but actually I felt like I got longer breaks in between to recover. I was able to fully relax and actually slept between contractions in transition! Which actually makes sense as physiologically your body is preparing and conserving energy for the delivery. Our bodies are so cool and perfectly designed 💪💕
@@beth90 aww yes! I slept in between contractions at that stage too. It’s when I finally surrendered. It was great! Also did you ladies experience like a euphoric surge of hormones during the pushing stage?? I felt like I was floating in the clouds and suddenly felt zero pain. I’ve not heard anyone talk of this so far but it gave me that extra energy at the end to push and just truly miraculous that it had a natural numbing effect!
Nearly painless for me
highly suggest this midwifes article on cervical lip alongside early urge to push: midwifethinking.com/2016/06/15/the-anterior-cervical-lip-how-to-ruin-a-perfectly-good-birth/
i think the idea that pushing before full dilation can result in swelling or tearing of the cervix makes sense (especially if baby is posterior making this urge more common), but if a women has a physiological birth she knows when she should push. many times these women wouldnt be having a vaginal exam to check for dilation anyway + even if she did, she could totally be "just 7cm" and 20mins later be completely dilated so in this case i think someone telling her not to push on the assumption that she isnt fully dilated could cause more problems than just telling her to listen to her body.
Thanks for sharing this link. It was so informative and I made sure to save it
This! I gave birth a week and a half ago, i was 7cm when first checked and 5 minutes later upon walking to my l&d room was full on pushing standing up. Sometimes your body just takes over and is like im doin this thing!
Thank you for shout out Sarah!! 🥰😍❤️❤️❤️
Hello! Love your channel found you in my last 2 months of pregnancy. I gave birth in July 2020. I guess I was an atypical case since my labor was like nothing I’ve read/watched/heard about. If my OB wasn’t extra cautious I don’t think I would’ve made it to the hospital because according to all I knew and even calling triage I was NOT in active labor. Can you talk about atypical labor symptoms and what to look out for? I only had gas aches and delivered unmedicated. Only intervention was breaking my water(s) at 7 centimeters. Arrived at the hospital at 5 centimeters. The machine never saw any contractions. My stomach never got hard and my “contractions/waves” were persistent. Never regular and only intensified after my water was broken but still felt like bad gas + pressure. No pain. Weird, no???
Can you do a video on going into labor during the pandemic and what to expect
I absolutely LOVE your videos, and I hope I've commented that already, as I've been watching them for ages now.! You are always first on my recommendation list for my pregnant friends, and looking forward to re-watching your videos in the future as needed! I would LOVE to see more nursing related videos - currently working as a postpartum nurse, and doing training on my unit, now focusing on the L&D side! REALLY would love to see more L&D nurse things to learn even more from you! :)
about that first questions..It's been a couple months I delivered my baby and (un)fortunately things precipitated (I had my 1st boy 1.5years ago-so=>paved road as my doctor said) and I delivered in my house..and yes, baby pushes himself out, head out, I instinctively put my hands down, took his head, next push body out, and did like Sarah explained...it is actually basic instinct...to be understood as when you have no medication..
Can I just say that I love your intro music? 🎶 Every time it comes on I start to salsa! 💃
My best friend is pregnant with twins! Could you do a video about important things to know and tips for those who are pregnant with 2+ babies?
I wish I could take you to the hospital with me when I go into labor 💕💕
You can take her via FaceTime for as little at $1800 lol
Hi 🙋♀️ have had 4 kids and love watching your videos. So you think you can do a video of Covid 19 . I know you did videos and I watched them but I feel maybe a updated one ? Also one for back pain. Thanks !
I absolutely love your content!! It’s been so helpful to educate me for my deliveries!! I’m 30 weeks with my second and I was wondering if when I went into labor with my first has any bearing on when I’ll go into labor with my second??
It’s not always about z hospital policies that u have to deliver on your back. When I was delivering even there were no policies like that, but all those wires like epidural, baby monitor, IVs were not long enough to maneuver around with positions on z bed even though I crystal clearly felt that if I changed position to any other than on my back it would’ve gone faster n easier☹️
1) LOVE you and your channel!
2) My question is: Will a hysteroscopic metroplasty to remove a uterine septum increase the chance of a c-section or complications during labor/birth? The operation is coming up and the hubby and I are waiting to try for a while afterwards to make sure I’m all healed up, but I want to set realistic expectations since physiological birth is very close to my heart and important to me ❤️
(Bonus question: Long story short, I have one kidney that seems to be a rebel and only makes up for about 30% of the work, doesn’t drain properly, and presents with hydronephrosis. Will this present complications in pregnancy?)
Never thought our journey to have kiddos would be this long and complicated!
I’ve heard when I was young (I know it’s very not true now) but I was told that you are not supposed to push when pooping when your pregnant because it can push the baby out , now I know that like there’s a lot more to go into this , like dilation and such
I had an induction when my baby wasn't engaged! She didn't engage until she was almost born
You are awesome! I'm 30+2weeks. I have been educating myself as much as I can. Feel like I'm missing something
Can you do a video on conception, pregnancy, birth and the postnatal period for women with endometriosis please? I would find this super helpful 🙂😍 absolutely love your content 😁
Love all of your videos, Sarah! I am 24w. I always hear mention of slight differences in labor and delivery whether it being the first birth versus second birth. It's been 13 years since I gave birth to my first. Has it been long enough where my body will be more in the first birth category, or still the second birth category?
Hey you said that your worst nightmare as a nurse would be the cord snapping. Has that ever happend.? What would happen in a situation like that? And what would you do as a nurse. Lots of love from Austria ❤️
Happy New Year to you and your family and hope everything is going well for you and your family and God bless you all and stay safe and healthy. Love 💘, guys so much ❤
I love how people plan ahead how they want to have a baby then all hell breaks when you're delivering a baby :D
I don’t think it’s necessarily about planning ahead. I mean, on some level it might be. But I think for the most part it’s about knowing you have options. Like for me, my “plan” was to birth in whatever position felt right to me at the time. Whether that be laying down or otherwise. I knew ahead of time that physiologically, being on your back is actually the worst position for birth. Therefore, if I were at a hospital which had a “policy” that you must be laying down, I’d 1000% be asking questions too and advocating for myself ahead of time! And actually, what did happen when I delivered my baby was I had been in a reclined sitting position and all of a sudden felt the urge to push and my body instinctually flipped over onto my hands and knees to do so. It wasn’t a calculated decision or one I thought about ahead of time. I just listened to my body and did what I felt was right in that moment. Which was my plan all along. No way did I want to feel restricted in any way or like I wasn’t “allowed” to follow my own natural instincts. Man that would have been the sh**s! Lol
Oh girl the things you do for us 🤣🤣
This drives me crazy! I bled for 3 months, it’d go heavy to light to heavy, and I was SO light headed and felt so sick! My midwife said it was normal, but I felt so awful!
Same. 6-12 weeks is normal
At my hospital they had a syringe of olive oil they used which I thought was HILARIOUS. No medical grade anything, just good old EVOO.
Question from a mom to be... clitoral stimulation during labor or pushing? crazy or helpful?
Hi Sarah,
I love you channel !!! And as a first time mom I am so happy I came across your channel because I was so lost! I have never had a kidney stone before but with this pregnancy I recently passed a kidney stone and it was so painful! So What is the best advice to give someone that has had kidney stones during pregnancy. Is there a chance that after pregnancy they can still have those problems even if they decide to get pregnant again ? Should I be mindful about my next pregnancy given that I already am prone to kidney stones?
Can you talk about the immediate shots after delivery like vitamin k and Rhogam?
Hi Sarah, when I had my baby (1rst time mom) I've been in the first stage of labour for about 32 hours. My hospital had put us in a waiting room for hours before we could get admitted (ps I live in Canada). When I got to 4.5 cm they finally gives us a room and I was so tired and in pain that I chose the epidural, they also break my water at that point to help my baby's heart rate. At that moment they find out that she was in an op position, is theire a way to find that kind of information earlier on and could it be the reason why it took me so long to get to that 4.5cm even with contractions 2min appart for almost 8 hours? My second question is, after they brook my water I got from 4.5 cm to 10cm in 1h. Not only I had the shakes, but I vomited twice once within that hour and once while pushing. Is it normal hat the vomit was black and that I was having incontrol nausea mixt with big hurt burns? They wouldn't give me anything for it and the pushing stage was such difficult because of it, at each push I fealt like I was gonna throw up (over 2 hours with having a second degree episiotomy and manually flipping the baby) ? At the end it was a beautiful birth! Thanks and happy 2021!! Love your RUclips channel!!
Man! I really hope she answers, because now I'm curious too!
Can you do a what to bring in your hospital bag COVID addition 😭 Im due in a few weeks
Oh yeah me too. Thanks that you commented this question!
Wondering what you think would be different than delivering not during a covid pandemic?
@@tiffanyheld7268 things some hospitals may not want you to bring, things you should probably avoid so you don’t bring the germs home, some products to help the transition from hospital to the car to avoid bringing germs home, ect.
Hi!! Love your channel and I'm so glad I found it as I go through my 2nd pregnancy ❤️ Here it goes...Thoughts on nipple or clitoral massages to alleviate pain during labor 🙄 is this really a thing? please don't come for me😘😘
I am also wondering this!
Im terrified of having a second due to post partum bleeding. I bled for 17 weeks and ended up in the ER at 10 weeks pp and kept getting brushed off. They gave me no options beside birth control and the mini pill didnt help at all. I bleeding through super+ tampons every hour. I couldnt wear just a pad because I had to double up. Whats the chance it will be that bad again? Could it be better next time?
Had no idea about that transition and it's issues. I'm due April 6th, now I'm terrified. I had a scheduled c-section with my first three years ago, breech and wouldn't turn... So I haven't been through labor. Omg. Now I have some questions for my ObGyn at my next appt.
Can you please do a video on fast labours, I'm currently pregnant with baby number 3 and my first baby was 6 hours from first contraction to delivery and second was only 1 hour and 40 minutes from first contraction to delivery and is it always the case that Labour gets quicker the more babies you have?
Would love to hear more about this too! I’m pregnant with third as well.
@@evelynbrennan8431 im not due till August 4th but would still like as much information as possible going into labour with this baby x
Weird question: Is it worth it to get really in shape in the months before conception? Looking to make pregnancy and birth as smooth and optimal as possible. Will do however many crunches/runs/exercises to make that happen
Currently 35 weeks pregnant...I feel like YES. My body would’ve benefited so much from me being more in shape. Back pain, hip pain, even just lung capacity feels like it could benefit from being more in shape. I imagine that a strong back and legs, specifically, would be soooo much more comfortable carrying around the belly than the average back. I feel like my back is average...average backs aren’t made for giant bellies😂
I was in shape with my first I walked and or went swimming for at least an hour 7 days a wk an then with my 2nd pregnancy I did alot less then 3rd pregnancy next to no exercise an all pregnancies were all the same and same pains also my first I pushed for 2hrs and only 20mins with my 2nd my 3rd is due in 7wks so we'll see how this birth goes.
Had to have a c-section at 36 weeks- water broke spontaneously on its own and little one as very breeched 😬- but my spinal block didn’t work and I had to be put under. Is this common? What are the chances of it happening again if we have another baby? It was not the way I imagined birth going and I really don’t want to repeat it. Thank you for all you are doing! 💛
First labour was with induction(total 3 hours). Is the second expected to be faster still?
Sarah, is there a way to request an episiotomy? I know most people don’t want one but I’d actually prefer it.
Such an interesting question! Out of interest why is that your preference?
After three hours of pushing, I screamed and begged my Dr for one during the birth 😅 (was totally against it during pregnancy). No regrets 🙂
@@cheriespriggs1078 to avoid over sharing with the details, my female anatomy is fused together at some parts which increases the likely hood of tearing in an odd way and possibly tearing upwards. Im also 6ft tall and from a tall broad shouldered family as is my husband. I think an episiotomy might actually benefit me. I’ve torn before in my lower region during a waxing accident and it was very painful and healed very slowly
My baby was still -3 station when I was induced
What if you and the care team don’t know who you will deliver with? They want us to attempt to see all midwives and doctors at appointments because they never know who we’ll deliver with. So if that’s the case, how/who do you inform of all your preferences if who you deliver with is so unknown?
I have a question! With and epidural, I have had two. The first one my nurse held me down strongly and it was so painful when the epidural was given(2015). The second one my nurse didn’t hold me down and I was begging her to hold me and freaking out for the pain... that didn’t happen at all(2019). Why were these experiences so different? What can I ask before hand for my third birth to know what I’m going to experience? Thank you so much for all your informative videos! You are an amazing woman!
Yess my doctor told me to do that as well like to hold your baby while pushing but i refused coz my nails were long ..😒i didnt want to hurt my baby
on postpartum bleeding: are their scenarios or things physicians can do after delivery that lessons bleeding? I had very minimal bleeding after my delivery and my doctor was like no worries it's okay, my first cycle after delivery had more bleeding than my whole post partum portion.
I’m pregnant and on blood thinner due to a blood clot ! I don’t see many videos
QUESTION: after a C-Section I've heard you can request Wound Vacuuming or Negative pressure treatment to help heal faster. What is this and is it effective?! FTM, due in May, thanks!
I know you've answered this before about how quickly vbac deliveries (or rather how not quick) they can be. My question is, does having 2 miscarriages change that? I've had 2 C-section because of no dilation with the first baby and misinformation from provider with the second. I then had 2 miscarriages, the first my body handled on its own, the second I was successfully induced. Would that factor in at all to how my body would react to labor and delivery?
Your videos have been so helpful. I do have a question I am 33 weeks and was told that my baby is breech is there any position I can do for my baby to flip ?
Question, if you're a great candidate for a vbac can one have/try a home birth?
06:56 Amen!!!!!
Can you please do a video on uterine prolapse? There isn't a lot of information online. I developed a minor one in my 1st trimester and wondering if it will impact delivery. Currently 34+6
You should check out Nikki Bergen on IG. She has lots of info.
In my last birth my epidural didn’t work. The anaesthetist attempted to manipulate the position of the tube, I changed positions and he even redid it but I was still left with a large window of pain. Will this be to do with my body/anatomy and will it like happen again next time if I opted for epidural?
Can you do a video about twins pleeeeeeeease
An add on to someone else’s question: I have had one vaginal birth and then one c section. I am pregnant with baby 3 right now and attempting vbac sometime in the next 7 weeks. In this case should my delivery theoretically be faster since it’s technically vaginal birth number 2?
I don’t want to throw up in labor but I’ve heard it’s common. I’ve had severe morning sickness this pregnancy that has really improved quite a bit so I’m just nauseous most of the time instead of actually vomiting. But nothing makes me more exhausted and miserable than throwing up and I don’t want to be throwing up and waste all my energy on that during labor. Can I be given something for nausea/vomiting in labor if that comes up?
My understanding is (and it was for me) that people throw up from the pain, not necessarily being nauseous.
First Time Mom.. I'm Due February 6 , What Are All The Possible Birthing Positions ?
She has videos on this ! Also go to her Instagram @bundlebirth for pictures or even more video explanations 🙌🏽
I think I've seen / heard somewhere that if you decide to have an epidural you most likely won't be able to be in many different positions - Just extra info, idk about you but I know I'm definitely getting an epidural!
For your next coffee and questions.
My question is can you breastfeed while pregnant? Does breastfeeding while pregnant cause a chance of having a miscarriage?
My sister had a cesarean and she said she was soaking in the tub when she got home and in the tub and also in the toilet there was like a mushroom of clotted blood
I’ve done research and it seems like vegan diets may put your baby at risk if you are not diligent with your diet. Any thoughts on vegan diets during pregnancy and breast feeding?
Well just eat well on a vegan diet then. Eating vegan doesn't mean eating grass only. I've been vegan for 7 years, had a vegan baby 2 years ago. Everything is good, always. Look up vegan nutrition if you're interested, like make sure you take calcium/magnesium, algae oil for omega fats etc.
@@89tothbianka I’ve also been vegan a long time - about 6 years. My worry is that supplemental vitamins will not be enough. I’ve been reading up on prenatal nutrition and there is a limited number of science-backed nutrition guides for vegan mums. Many non-vegan guides call for dairy products. I know it can be done, I’m looking for as much information as I can get and looking to weigh the pros and cons of temporarily including dairy products and eggs into my diet. Thank you for your input :) every bit helps
Hy sara im soo nervous the place i live has no pidural option..and im delivering normally after i had my c section with my 1st.. i dont know if i can deal with the pain.. 🙄🥺
Good luck! Just think about that everybody does it plus it only lasts a few hours then you'll hold your baby :))))
Just know Your body is built to birth!!!! 🥰
the booty meat 😂
Hi Sarah, I was wondering if you have ever experience an "orgasmic" birth with a client? Or think there is any truth behind the phenomenon. Ive heard people talk about it and always wondered if its kind of just a fairy tale people tell lol
Why tf does pregnancy have to be so hard and painful & miserable 😫
Labor was painless. Pregnancy sucked.
@@zen_mindset1 everything sucks for me besides feeling baby move