Thanks for the encouraging video. I always start to feel guilty if I don't submit to my OCD thoughts or if I try to distract myself, because I'm afraid that if I don't obsessively think about them and not always on alert, then they'll actually happen. I have to remind myself that the only thing that these damn thoughts have done is make me nervous and unable to actually focus on anything. Thanks again for making videos!
So true. A part of me knows im still being held hostage because these thoughts always demand my attention in order to make me temporarily feel like things are under my control. Brain fucking lies
James.....after 30yrs of wasting my time & hurting myself with drugs & alcohol because of OCD, this video hits the ball out of the park. I'm sold on you brother. I'm taking your advice.
The thought will not go away easily. It will be there at the corner of the brain. But once, you stop focusing on that thought & also not doing any compulsions, slowly that thought will fade away. It may take months also.
This is a temporary fix. Learn how to accept the thoughts and fears without judgment and with compassion. Simply "hang out" with however you may feel, you are not your thoughts
When it's the bad, it's usually good to just accept whatever's bothering you and sometimes try to deliberately focus on it. To choose to pay attention for a specific amount of time towards your thoughts/feelings is part of ERP Therapy. The most effecting kind of treatment for OCD. But you should only do it when you feel that you can make yourself not freak out over the exposure. Research is key to finding out how you can get rid of OCD to the fullest extent. Good luck!
When you actively unable to distract or divert, just give in. Just surrender. Think you are powerless in front of the thought, its too powerful, you are too weak and exhausted to follow it. Then when you feel the slightest bit better, get back up quickly and distract yourself. Basically play dead then runnnnnn bitchhhhhh. Run for your lifeeeeee
I cannot emphasize enough how inspiring, moving, educational, and useful this is. Simple as it sounds, make the choice to do something differently, when you feel like you "can't," and bam... you get a new result and what was once insurmountable begins to fade away. I would add to the quote that if a thought makes you feel like anything less than who you are, if it's limiting you or taking you away from what you love, if it's hurting you... then don't follow it... make that choice to set yourself free... don't look back. Thanks for the wonderful video! ♥️👍🏻Simple yet profound
Wow! I mean WOW!! "If a thought doesn't give you inner peace, don't follow it." That's the best line I have heard in years. I think this one line can help me sail through most of my OCD problems :)
One doctor said. That you should Not base any action on the thought. Do not do anything because of the thought , and don't leave anything because of the thought, he said this is the cure. You continue as though nothing happened. This those thoughts and feeling associated will fade. You make thoughts stronger when you give them time, acknowledgement, and emotion. Usually when a thought pops in your mind. You forget and move on. But you sat with, accommodate, magnified.discussed it, gave it time, Multiplying trying to avoid in the first place while it meant nothing and hold no weight. When in reality all you had to do is continue with what you are doing, and don't start doing things because of it. Thats how you ignore. You don't ignore with force, but this won't work if yoursomeone. Who doesn't have much Todo in his day. If your idle you will remain in it. They will go when you have bigger plans and problems. Emotion and reppitition is reinforcing what is actually not true in your mind. Act as if nothing happened, pretend you didn't say anything or did anything. Don't argue, don't discuss don't explain or justify. It will not help at all. It will only make things worse. You just need to get busy and when they come you continue and let them fade.
I just want to say a massive thank you for these videos. I have been hit with a very intense OCD and these videos are a life line for me to get through it. God bless you
Watched your video last night it showed me more insight into this problem than all the hours spent with many doctors. Thank you and best wishes from England
I wish I knew I had OCD when it was really bad so that I could've found a way to deal with it sooner. At least I have ways to deal with it now! thank you
Now is the most important thing ! Dont think about the past. I also think that: what if I had found about it sooner but I know that sooner wasnt the best time, accorsing to God's plan my time to change is now I believe in God and believe that everything hppens for a reason at the right time :) now i found how to deal with it. I think i have pure O but i dont know sometimes i feel its juste the habit of excessive thinking, overthinking. But maybe thats pure O . Anyway i think we have the solution now !!
My absolute favorite of yours, when I was at my worst I played this at least once a day, especially before hitting the hay as it would calm me down. Thanks Jim
This was a great metaphor. You explained it really well. Thanks! The only thing I couldn't relate to is being among people to distract myself from my OCD. My OCD theme is a fear of people judging me so being around people just increases my OCD sadly. I wish everyone the best of luck in overcoming this painful disorder. It's really hard but it's possible. I've made a lot of progress already and I know everyone else can too.
The two challenges i face in my ocd is doubting and felling like it's my thoughts . So if this is my thoughts why i reject them why i fight them ? Why they hurting me so like that ? So if we make a distance between ocd and the true self i think we can heal . Ocd is curable . I met many people who cured . I wish we all get cured.
Viking v ocd is not a disease. Its a category of anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorder = just a person who has so much anxiety that it creates symptoms. Ocd is not a monster or mentail illness and i had it. Yes it feels awful but of course you can get "cured". About thoughts follow this right here. We have no control of what pops up into our minds. Its not ocd attacking you or smth like that. You me all people dont control our thoughts neither thats an issue.ITS OUR REACTION TO THEM. here follow that rule below. Thoughts have no power and no concequences UNTIL WE DECIDE TO 1)dismiss them (do that) 2)engage to them/focus on them/"follow" them (dont do that) or if you do switch to number 1. Or 3) ac on them/believe them to be true (dont do that..) . Good luck !!
@@JoeySkate24 my OCD is kind of different. Instead of "bad" thoughts stuck in my head, i keep thinking of repetitive thoughts on how to improve myself. My compulsion is i keep writing and rewriting the same thought down in my notes app on my phone and they're all like "don't be like this", "be like this", "don't do this", etc. but they're the same thoughts .. my ocd keeps pressuring me to write it down anyways even though i've written it a hundred times before.I keep telling myself not to write it down but in the moment when that thoughts pops up, it scares me into thinking i'll stay the same way forever if i don't write it down because i'll forget it.
@@user-nc1bi5ro2i instead of improving yourself you should first learn to accept yourself. What youre describing is perfectionist based where your mind goes on a repetitive cycle of thinking how ill become better. Read on perfectionism then read on mindfulness meditation. As far as the repetitiveness goes try little by little to react to these thoughts by dismissing them ( for example: nah.. these are just thoughts of the mind... or ok brain whatever). It doesnt matter if they show up again or break ur balls.. just keep on reacting to your minds chatter this way and study how to rid yourself of perfectionism. Also watch sadghuru videos on youtube on thoughts and emotiones. Hope i helped
this is actually very good if you combine it with mindfulness, yes you are right DIVERT YOUR MIND from anxious thoughts with something which will engross your attention, but because anxiety sufferers including ocd's have great thinking minds i like to do creative things and put the ability to better use, that way we're using thought for something positive and not following those thoughts as you say, nice vid
In order to distract yourself, plug in some song and sing along. This helps for me. If the thought enters simply humm your favorite song and distract yourself.
I have depersonalization / derealization an harm ocd an it's ruining my life I have no health insurance I have no money to get rid of this with medicine or doctors I recently started trying CBD oil I originally got the depersonalization be realization disorder from smoking weed because my intrusive thoughts got so bad but I just wanted to happen escape. I have looked up constantly on the internet if anyone is going through through these things at the same time and I can't find anything it's made it hard because I can't relate to anybody. I don't want to hurt nobody I love my family I love my mother and I love my father I've always wanted to be a person I would inspire hope and give hope to people and help people and I'm confronted with these ideas these terrible thoughts in my head sometimes I get the urges and I feel terrible the only thing that I want to do is just leave and never come back but I there were times where I did leave the house and then came back during covid it's not really easy either because you have to stay home it's terrible. But I'm trying to stay hopeful if there's anybody out there that's going through this but I hope you make it through it I want to make it to it too I'm crying while I say this, but yeah,,,, I cryed when I saw this video.
I fall back on this Often, especially when I'm panicking with OCD, like I was earlier. Sometimes I tear up watching it, and that's ok as well. Happy Holidays
I've been doing a lot of reading on OCD without myself having OCD but the experts say that distraction is not the way to go. Distraction is actually a compulsion. What you need to do is accept/allow/give some time for the thoughts that are intrusive and producing the anxiety/fear to dissipate.
A way you can deal with this is, you can say give it all you have, I want that anxiety, make me feel it. This is not so much as in you are following the thought but more of training yourself to stand it without trying to make it go away. Without you fearing it that much, there is no room for other bad emotions.
Thanks for the encouraging video. I always start to feel guilty if I don't submit to my OCD thoughts or if I try to distract myself, because I'm afraid that if I don't obsessively think about them and not always on alert, then they'll actually happen. I have to remind myself that the only thing that these damn thoughts have done is make me nervous and unable to actually focus on anything. Thanks again for making videos!
Same! They are lies and that's what I tell myself
This is exactly what I have experienced since childhood and for the longest time i thought I was only one doing it.
So true. A part of me knows im still being held hostage because these thoughts always demand my attention in order to make me temporarily feel like things are under my control. Brain fucking lies
Yes!
I have religious OCD, so my obsessions are about God, and when I try to distract myself, I feel guilty because I worry that I'm ignoring God.
@@bambi1051 same here brother :(
This man is one of the heroes of this world.Thank you sir for remembering me how to manage my thoughts.
I just want to be free
chum TV hugs to you. me too. I wished we all didn't have to go through this.
YOU can BE free!
FREEDOM is a CHOICE
Don’t let THEM fool you!
Same here, bro please
You are ♥️♥️
How are you doing now bud?
James.....after 30yrs of wasting my time & hurting myself with drugs & alcohol because of OCD, this video hits the ball out of the park. I'm sold on you brother. I'm taking your advice.
Even when I try to distract myself that thought always is there in a corner of my brain
The thought will not go away easily. It will be there at the corner of the brain. But once, you stop focusing on that thought & also not doing any compulsions, slowly that thought will fade away. It may take months also.
Yeah same!!
same
This how I beat health anxiety
Same
This really illustrates how OCD works in suck an easy to understand way. Brilliant.
This is a temporary fix. Learn how to accept the thoughts and fears without judgment and with compassion. Simply "hang out" with however you may feel, you are not your thoughts
Well-said!! This is what I tell myself
This helped a LOT when I first started trying to deal with my issues. Thanks to the Callner family for making these
The worst thing is when you can't even divert or distract yourself, which happens to me a lot... Thanks for the video. ❤
When it's the bad, it's usually good to just accept whatever's bothering you and sometimes try to deliberately focus on it. To choose to pay attention for a specific amount of time towards your thoughts/feelings is part of ERP Therapy. The most effecting kind of treatment for OCD. But you should only do it when you feel that you can make yourself not freak out over the exposure. Research is key to finding out how you can get rid of OCD to the fullest extent. Good luck!
When you actively unable to distract or divert, just give in. Just surrender. Think you are powerless in front of the thought, its too powerful, you are too weak and exhausted to follow it. Then when you feel the slightest bit better, get back up quickly and distract yourself. Basically play dead then runnnnnn bitchhhhhh. Run for your lifeeeeee
I cannot emphasize enough how inspiring, moving, educational, and useful this is. Simple as it sounds, make the choice to do something differently, when you feel like you "can't," and bam... you get a new result and what was once insurmountable begins to fade away. I would add to the quote that if a thought makes you feel like anything less than who you are, if it's limiting you or taking you away from what you love, if it's hurting you... then don't follow it... make that choice to set yourself free... don't look back.
Thanks for the wonderful video! ♥️👍🏻Simple yet profound
Ishpreet Chawla wow that's a nice quote. thank you.
Nice quote's
Wow! I mean WOW!! "If a thought doesn't give you inner peace, don't follow it." That's the best line I have heard in years. I think this one line can help me sail through most of my OCD problems :)
One doctor said. That you should Not base any action on the thought.
Do not do anything because of the thought , and don't leave anything because of the thought, he said this is the cure.
You continue as though nothing happened. This those thoughts and feeling associated will fade. You make thoughts stronger when you give them time, acknowledgement, and emotion. Usually when a thought pops in your mind. You forget and move on. But you sat with, accommodate, magnified.discussed it, gave it time, Multiplying trying to avoid in the first place while it meant nothing and hold no weight. When in reality all you had to do is continue with what you are doing, and don't start doing things because of it. Thats how you ignore. You don't ignore with force, but this won't work if yoursomeone. Who doesn't have much Todo in his day. If your idle you will remain in it. They will go when you have bigger plans and problems. Emotion and reppitition is reinforcing what is actually not true in your mind.
Act as if nothing happened, pretend you didn't say anything or did anything. Don't argue, don't discuss don't explain or justify. It will not help at all. It will only make things worse. You just need to get busy and when they come you continue and let them fade.
Dude this video is amazing, I'm dealing with OCD and you really touched me with this!
5 years ago I Watch this. And it help me so much. Now i can control my OCD. And i am sharing this video since then.
I just want to say a massive thank you for these videos. I have been hit with a very intense OCD and these videos are a life line for me to get through it. God bless you
I cried while watching this
soloSpiif ø me too, it felt like someone was validating me telling me it's okay to ignore my thoughts. I needed that
Omgoodness, I did too.
Thanks for this short video. Beautifully simply and inspiring.
Me too
Yea ,it's a great one to fall back on. Glad I found it
This is such a good way of explaining ocd, totally relate to it!
Watched your video last night it showed me more insight into this problem than all the hours spent with many doctors. Thank you and best wishes from England
a rare encouraging and positive thought . thank you
Love this , have for years. Always a big help when I'm struggling
I wish I knew I had OCD when it was really bad so that I could've found a way to deal with it sooner. At least I have ways to deal with it now! thank you
True, not knowing what is is on the first place exacerbates it
Now is the most important thing ! Dont think about the past. I also think that: what if I had found about it sooner but I know that sooner wasnt the best time, accorsing to God's plan my time to change is now
I believe in God and believe that everything hppens for a reason at the right time :) now i found how to deal with it. I think i have pure O but i dont know sometimes i feel its juste the habit of excessive thinking, overthinking. But maybe thats pure O . Anyway i think we have the solution now !!
As my therapist would say Don't go down that road (with your thoughts). Loved this visual. Very helpful! Thanks.
That's an incredible way to show what you mean. I'm really going to try. Thank you x
My absolute favorite of yours, when I was at my worst I played this at least once a day, especially before hitting the hay as it would calm me down. Thanks Jim
great knowledge to get free from ocd
This was a great metaphor. You explained it really well. Thanks!
The only thing I couldn't relate to is being among people to distract myself from my OCD. My OCD theme is a fear of people judging me so being around people just increases my OCD sadly.
I wish everyone the best of luck in overcoming this painful disorder. It's really hard but it's possible. I've made a lot of progress already and I know everyone else can too.
Thank you this video was a great example of how OCD works.
Good video. Please do more videos.
Excellent and great video! ... james.. most needed ...
thanks... ☺👍
i'm suffering from ocd 16 years,i can't get rid of this.i'm getting worse .this is a curse !!!
Hawk Vision did you ever get help from a therapist?
Hawk Vision please see a therapist who specializes in ocd. They can really, really help.they helped me.
Loved the analogy of the ball going down the stairs gaining momentum like OCD negative thoughts.
great stuff James..
THANK YOU
That's probably one of the best videos I've seen on intrusive thoughts and OCD. Thank you.
Love the quote at the end of the video...perfect..
Thanks so much for this video! it helps me explain to friends and family how my thougths work. A heart felt thank you!
This is a perfect video if you are a “visual” person. Thank you so very much!
This example is pretty good, really helped me, thank you! God bless!
Still one of my Go To videos
The two challenges i face in my ocd is doubting and felling like it's my thoughts .
So if this is my thoughts why i reject them why i fight them ?
Why they hurting me so like that ?
So if we make a distance between ocd and the true self i think we can heal .
Ocd is curable . I met many people who cured .
I wish we all get cured.
Viking v ocd is not a disease. Its a category of anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorder = just a person who has so much anxiety that it creates symptoms. Ocd is not a monster or mentail illness and i had it. Yes it feels awful but of course you can get "cured". About thoughts follow this right here. We have no control of what pops up into our minds. Its not ocd attacking you or smth like that. You me all people dont control our thoughts neither thats an issue.ITS OUR REACTION TO THEM. here follow that rule below.
Thoughts have no power and no concequences UNTIL WE DECIDE TO 1)dismiss them (do that) 2)engage to them/focus on them/"follow" them (dont do that) or if you do switch to number 1. Or 3) ac on them/believe them to be true (dont do that..) . Good luck !!
@@JoeySkate24 my OCD is kind of different. Instead of "bad" thoughts stuck in my head, i keep thinking of repetitive thoughts on how to improve myself. My compulsion is i keep writing and rewriting the same thought down in my notes app on my phone and they're all like "don't be like this", "be like this", "don't do this", etc. but they're the same thoughts .. my ocd keeps pressuring me to write it down anyways even though i've written it a hundred times before.I keep telling myself not to write it down but in the moment when that thoughts pops up, it scares me into thinking i'll stay the same way forever if i don't write it down because i'll forget it.
@David Sharma no worries man. Glad i helped
@@user-nc1bi5ro2i instead of improving yourself you should first learn to accept yourself. What youre describing is perfectionist based where your mind goes on a repetitive cycle of thinking how ill become better. Read on perfectionism then read on mindfulness meditation. As far as the repetitiveness goes try little by little to react to these thoughts by dismissing them ( for example: nah.. these are just thoughts of the mind... or ok brain whatever). It doesnt matter if they show up again or break ur balls.. just keep on reacting to your minds chatter this way and study how to rid yourself of perfectionism. Also watch sadghuru videos on youtube on thoughts and emotiones. Hope i helped
@@JoeySkate24 thanks so much! you should be a therapist lol you actually know how to give good advice
Thank you. You videos give me hope and they teach exactly what i need. Thanks
Saqib Naveed I thought he should have written "hope" on the last ball ;)
Thank you for the clarity of your message and metaphor. ❤🐞
Finally , freedom 😭😭😂
Rainbow Blitz I hope this vid will help me my hands have been bleeding from hand washing and my hands are almost scaly :( my hands sting alot:d
Rainbow Blitz ikr
Sometimes I think to quit but somehow move on. OCD is like dying without the actual death 😭😭😭
thank you so much for teach me again thank you
Damn. This was good. To the point and easily digested. Thanks.
Thanks for the video. Simple but so true and very helpful 😊
this is actually very good if you combine it with mindfulness, yes you are right DIVERT YOUR MIND from anxious thoughts with something which will engross your attention, but because anxiety sufferers including ocd's have great thinking minds i like to do creative things and put the ability to better use, that way we're using thought for something positive and not following those thoughts as you say, nice vid
RLP1989 that's actually a very good tip, even though sometimes it's hard to follow...
Really you are right!
Can't thank you enough for this!!
the ending song just gives me so much peace:(
In order to distract yourself, plug in some song and sing along. This helps for me.
If the thought enters simply humm your favorite song and distract yourself.
Love this video....so simple and so true. Thank you for helping me this "cloudy" morning. I have opened the door.
This video always calms me down. Thanks Jim.
Thank you!
Excellent!
Thank you for this video. It helps me a lot in understanding OCD.
This is a beautiful channel
I feel like I cannot like this video enough. Thank you!
Thank you James for showing us a path
Such a beautiful video
Very good way to put it! Subscribed
Thank you for the help ill try your advice out, thanks.
Great video. Now I have control over my life. Thanks😄😄😄
i do the same thing but the problem is i can't concentrate on my studies
whenever i start my studies thoughts are coming back
Sherlock exactly what I experience !
Haaa bhai same yahape
Me too
Medication may help you. Do at least 30 min to 1 hour.morning half an hour and evening half an hour as you want.
Much love and hug to you James you saved my life😍🙏
great analogy! well done
Loved this video. So simple and makes perfect sense.
Thank you for this! Really good analogy. Can be hard to put into practice but I’ll definitely try!
Thanks James
Brilliant! Thanks for this, gonna give it a try.
When it was really bad you helped me with the shower! Tysm! ❤️😭🙏🏻
Superb! And I like that quote...
Thank you so much for making this
Thank you so much. This was so helpful.
This helped me so much. God bless you
I have depersonalization / derealization an harm ocd an it's ruining my life I have no health insurance I have no money to get rid of this with medicine or doctors I recently started trying CBD oil I originally got the depersonalization be realization disorder from smoking weed because my intrusive thoughts got so bad but I just wanted to happen escape. I have looked up constantly on the internet if anyone is going through through these things at the same time and I can't find anything it's made it hard because I can't relate to anybody. I don't want to hurt nobody I love my family I love my mother and I love my father I've always wanted to be a person I would inspire hope and give hope to people and help people and I'm confronted with these ideas these terrible thoughts in my head sometimes I get the urges and I feel terrible the only thing that I want to do is just leave and never come back but I there were times where I did leave the house and then came back during covid it's not really easy either because you have to stay home it's terrible. But I'm trying to stay hopeful if there's anybody out there that's going through this but I hope you make it through it I want to make it to it too I'm crying while I say this, but yeah,,,, I cryed when I saw this video.
i fight the same battle, but luckily i trust in a god which is called Jesus he gives me hope
@@marcuelisei That's good don't give up Hope.
Great use of props!!! Thank you ☺
Thanks for the great video. It totally makes sense.
That's great advice, explained really well
Thank you so much, will work on this and hope it's effective. I have nothing to lose at the point I'm at
I fall back on this Often, especially when I'm panicking with OCD, like I was earlier. Sometimes I tear up watching it, and that's ok as well. Happy Holidays
Wow,what an explanation 👌🏻
very good video. I get shame and guilt after the fear starts.
I've been doing a lot of reading on OCD without myself having OCD but the experts say that distraction is not the way to go. Distraction is actually a compulsion. What you need to do is accept/allow/give some time for the thoughts that are intrusive and producing the anxiety/fear to dissipate.
Exactly no distraction..Just allow that it is there, and pills ❤
Thank you dude still love your videos and they really help dude. Thank you sooo much it really helps with my OCD
That’s amazing. Thank you sir
I like that. Thank you.❤🙏🏻
Great video 👍👍👍👍👍
I feel like I'm trapped cause everytime I follow this rule my OCD goes away only to come back later. Its horrifying. I absolute hate my OCD
This video really made me understand.
This video helped me so much! Thank youuu!
Thank you for this video 🙏🏽
A way you can deal with this is, you can say give it all you have, I want that anxiety, make me feel it. This is not so much as in you are following the thought but more of training yourself to stand it without trying to make it go away. Without you fearing it that much, there is no room for other bad emotions.
I'm crying rn😭
Have a sip of my BlankTae ......sorry to hear.😥
Thank you for the symple and powerful tool.
Excellent
Great Video 👍
Thank you ,really appfeciate what you helped me !! :D
this is amazing
Thank You!
Ocd is a skill...embrace it and create a life around it...avoid others who create stress...it can't be fixed so just put yourself into an alone state
Very cool video. Thanks