Your dress is so pretty! Yes, ride the wave with parenting. I have been through it all with my kids. 1, pick your battles 2. The mess will be there for you no matter what, so take care of yourself, and 3, enjoy every moment, be present, they grow up so fast!!!! Great video Kim!
Hi Kim, I have never had kids and I am at the age where I won’t, but I watched this video because you are my friend and wanted to hear what you had to say and let me say you did not disappoint! I LOVED it, you are such an inspiration to so many, love your attitude and your advise. I hope you know how truly special you are to all of us❤️
Amen to that!! 🎉🎉 it’s something I read maaaaany years ago and totally stuck with me! Some people find it easy to pass judgements but no one knows what other peoples circumstances are 🎉 we all just do the best we can!
Lolllll oh boy. My sister kings are all older than me and so I’ve heard their stories of menopause while raising teens as well!! Menopause is enough to go through!!!
@@thewadsquad mine was great! No more mood swings! I think I could have kicked a animal due to my periods. I had severe headaches, bloating , periods lasting forever, cramps. Then it stopped!! Angels sang. I was lucky. I felt normal again. ❤🌺
Lol after 42 years of cramps and heavy periods and all types of interventions - menopause came and was uneventful and the best years of my life!!! No more monthly suffering. I’m 67 now!
Morning gorgeous! You amaze me and are 100% right. Too much pressure from so many people for everything. 1st during pregnancy then after everybody has "opinions" which come across as criticism to moms. You should always do you. Thank you, Kim. You are a ray of sunshine. Stay hydrated, nap a lot, keep churning the happy and stay awesome! xoxo
Yessss everyone seems to think the way they did it was best- but it may have just been best for them! 🎉 everyone is different and wants different things ♥️🎉
I'm pregnant with my first one. I'm due Halloween! 😳 I am 14 weeks and it has been so easy. No sickness and baby is growing perfectly. I'm so happy for you that baby is growing perfectly and having a healthy pregnancy.
I love that you wait till the baby makes his or her appearance to learn the gender. It was relatively new technology when I had my daughter in 1984 and literally EVERYONE was crazed with finding out if they were having a boy or a girl. (Of course, at that time there were a fair number of mistakes and boys who went home to frilly pink rooms and girls who went home to sports themed blue ones! 😂) People would become actually ANGRY with me over my decision to wait - and we’re talking about people who should have zero opinion, like co-workers, the checker at the grocery store, etc! Thank goodness that has calmed down some and people are ready to see that as a choice rather than a necessity. I am so happy to see you feeling much better, even if not 100%) and to hear that things are perfect with the baby. 💕💕
@@ebonitompkins Yes! 🤣🤣🤣 And all the old wives’ tales come out - except nobody can remember exactly how they go! Most of them are weird things you’ve never heard before! They speculate on the size of your bump, the shape of your bump, whether it’s high or low…but they don’t remember exactly what any of those things mean. Then there’s the ever popular needle on a string held over your palm. If it swings back and forth, it’s a girl and if it swings in a circle, it’s a boy - or is it the other way around? I had people get into heated arguments over that as I just walked away! They all had pretty good odds of being right at 50%!
Good morning Kim! I’m in Canada and I had natural births with both my boys with a midwife in the hospital and was lucky enough that our hospital policy is that we have to stay a minimum of two hours after birth! I was so thankful to be able to have the security of birthing in the hospital but also the luxury of being able to be at home with my newborns.
I'm also in Canada and that was my experience also...if your baby is trouble free. With my second I told the staff "hey I had a shower I'm good I would like to go home." But I couldn't because my baby had complications, so for baby I stayed.
Kim you are a true blessing. This video will be so helpful to many women especially first time mothers. Thank you for caring enough to support and help others. 💕
Loved this video, watched with the Hubble and he was so interested, what’s a doula, what’s a perineal thing, a tear - where does that happen?? It was brilliant and he’s horrified - YOU CAN POOP!!!! Thank you so much for entertaining me and watching my husband squirm!! Also loving Waddy worthy Wadsworth it’s a keeper for sure. Enjoy your ‘last’ pregnancy and I think you need to write a book, you’re brilliant and we’re big fans. Sending lots of love to you all including baby Waddy xxxx
I have 5 young children and totally agree, western medicine is helpful when needed and I had one rough delivery that I was grateful for the help! Not enough people grasp that concept that there are other options in all type of medical situations, both can be useful and you should always have a choice 🙌
Oh my goodness. My baby is almost 37, but I thoroughly enjoyed this video. So many things have changed, yet much has stayed the same. Thanks for sharing and candor. Have a great day.
My little one is 8 weeks old and hearing you talk about birth and answering all of these things just made me so happy and a touch emotional. ❤️ I had such a beautiful birth this time around. I loved this video Kim!
I don't know why but this video made me soooo emotional. I am 28 weeks pregnant with baby #3 with a very limited support system and hearing you talk about your experiences was so eye opening. Thank you for this!!
I have been watching you for years and Im currently at week 10 as a first time mom. Watching this in bed and my husband is listening in and he's learning so much. Thanks for this long video as I lay in bed trying not to throw up :)
As someone who has never had kids, I learned a lot of new things from your chat today! So glad to hear you are adding on to the house and that each child will have their own room. Thanks for sharing your beautiful family and your lovely home with us. You and Alex are so blessed!!!
This was such a special video! I have a 15 year old daughter and lost 2 babies through miscarriage, so I don’t have the extensive experience you have giving birth or those few weeks with a new-born. I do relate and it brought back memories of her birth and those special few months. Best message you gave is to do what works and that it is a season that will pass-most likely quicker than you can imagine. It’s a wonderful time!!
Oh Kim...I wish I "knew" you 14-9 years ago...I let my inlaws ruin the newborn stages for me...I didn't do anything right and I let it crush me. Heck. I don't think I'm doing I'm still doing anything right after seeing my mother in laws most recent FB Post...but today 14 & 9 years later, I truly don't care as much!! But man your words could have been gold to me in some pretty dark hours!! I had fun hanging out with you today and hearing about your pregnancy!!
For me, combating post-partum (I've 3 kids, teens now... don't get me started, it never ends) involved finding a community of moms. The infant massage and music classes are worth the money - not for the baby (s/he doesn't care) but for the MOM. I still have 7 incredibly close friends from my eldest's baby massage class. She's 18 now. That group met weekly for a decade...
When I told my mom that I was naming my daughter Aspyn she said "that sounds like trees" 🌳 🤦♀️ lol, I mean, I found it humorous since my name is Ashley, which literally comes from "ash tree meadow" 😆
Oh my gosh Kim, I loved this! I only started losing weight when I was 1 year post babies. It was my first pregnancy. Seeing you speak about this as an experienced mother is so encouraging. Thank you!
There’s something so special about your q&a videos & the candid talking moments! You 100% need a podcast. On motherhood, pregnancy, breastfeeding, postpartum, placenta encapsulation- all of it!
I’m so happy for you and praying for a successful pregnancy/labor and delivery. I was blessed with one baby 23 years ago, after being told I would never conceive. I was also geriatric, high risk and anything else you could throw at me. Even tho I had always wanted a house full of kids, I feel so blessed to have the one! Life is so good
I could listen to you rambling on all day! So happy for you and your family. I have one toddler and can’t wait for number 2. I was induced after my water broke but was still able to have a natural (other than Pitocin) birth. I just love hearing birth stories! Flex and flow!
I watched the whole video even though I'm well beyond that season of life. My youngest is 17. It just shows how great you do your topics/content. Keep up the great work Kimberly Whisk. Always a fan of all your videos. You look great!!
I am 67 and my youngest is 34. But I love your videos , esp the mom and pregnancy ones. My 39 year old daughter has a 3 1/2 y/o son and 1/1/2 y/o daughter. Possibly one more in future for them. I ADORE being grandma so much we are moving close to them in a month! You really should write a book regarding your approach to pregnancy , birth and beyond.
Don't ever change & "get it all together"--you are perfect just the way you are!!! So happy for you that everything is going well with the baby. I cracked up on you blanking on your daughter's name! In a similar way, I can remember calling my grandchildren by my cat's names!!!
The first two times I hated being at the hospital. The third time I was quite a bit older and was like yesss let me stay as long as possible. Let me be waited on, fed, taken care of, etc. It was amazing. Food was excellent. I also had no one at home so it was all me. It was my break to be with just my newborn and to focus on him for a few days. Edited to add: so excited for you to be able to get your jack and jill!
My child bearing years are well past, but grandchild #1 is due in just weeks! It is lovely to see you being so very enthused with the choices child birth presents you with, and your ability and right to make choices that suit you (being the individual rather than specific person). I'm going to share this with the pregnant mumma to be and hope she gains some positivity in HER day, just like I did mine. Thanks Kim for another great start to the day. xx
I’m 23 and currently have a two year old son and a one year old daughter and I’m also pregnant with baby number three. I’m due mid September! And I delivered both my babies naturally at a hospital (I was induced with my son 20 hr labor! and went on my own with my daughter 15hr labor) I definitely plan on going naturally again (non-medicated) love the whole experience and being in control of my body! I love laboring in the dark with minimal noise so I can focus on moving the pain from the contraction to a thought (if that makes sense lol) ! I’m so excited !! So cool to be going through this journey around the same time as you! I’m also from around the Tampa area which makes the world feel so small lol
Hi Kim, Doula here! Thank you sooo much for giving a shout out to the Doula community! I appreciate you speaking so highly of your experience when working with one. It means alot!
Kimberly, I really enjoyed your Q&A today! and laughed so hard at your 'Postpartum brain' story, you see I can laugh because i have lived through raising two daughters by myself and lived to tell the stories!! Yes, it is true we can live several years with sleep deprivation and live to tell (and not even be embarrassed one bit) and most importantly, our children will survive. Best advise i received from my Dr before i left the hospital was to not listen to anyone, just sleep when the baby sleeps, feed when she wants to feed, and soon you both will fall into a perfect schedule, and we did, second daughter not so much...oh well. You see, they give you so much joy at all different times in their lives and all different ways and now i am blessed with 5 beautiful grandchildren! overloaded with blessings and joy! You are as well, and I know you are well aware of that. You are a beautiful mom. Love your pregancy vlogs and your cooking videos as well. Thank you!
I’m with you, I didn’t find out the gender for either of my kids until I delivered! We had many family members complaining about my decision but it was my pregnancy and they had their time 😂 it’s fun to wait until the moment happens. No one waits anymore it seems!
Hi Kim ☺️ I've just found and fallen in love with you and your personality. Loving the inspiration you provide others, and me to be more productive ans grateful mothers and women. I only wish I had a friend like you close by to me, and a husband I could have more children with! (I just have the one 8 year old boy). Looking forward to watching your video tonight 😁❤ Rachel from Australia x
I am 68 yo. I don’t need any preg info. Yet I listened to every minute of this video. I admire you as an entertainer and influencer but now I also respect you as an educator. I hope all preg mommas and all future preg momma listen to your information. (Note: I didn’t say advise as you repeatedly said you shared what was right for YOU and your baby.) Gotta love you Kim!!!
Hey Kim have been watching you ever since your pregnancy with Meredith. Thank you for being so down to earth and honest. I, too, put on so much weight during pregnancy and it took me only 9 months the first child to get back to my pre pregnancy weight, but I never got back to it with my second or third child. Your views on pregnancy, postpartum and childbirth are refreshing! Also, wow, I never knew placemtal encapsulation could help prolonged bleeding. I bled 10 weeks plus, on an off, with all 3 of my babies! My doctors would tell me its probably just my perjod but I would digress. It never felt or smelt like a period, ifykyk! Somebody once told me that women with low iron levels could suffer from this, and I think this is the reason why this happens to me. I wish I knew placental encapsulation could help as I would have done it. Too late now!
I have zero interest in ever having children but I watched all of this and learnt a lot. I think what people go through to have a family is incredible.
Hi Kim. My wife and daughters are so addicted to ur videos. They don't miss any of it. Even though we just started watching it recently. Hope to see more of ur videos. God bless ur beautiful family.
I am so happy to hear that your sweet little one is doing great. I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering with nausea and other pregnancy issues. I was sick my entire pregnancy with baby 2. Yet there was a 3rd baby. They were all C-section deliveries due to cephalopelvic disproportion. I had no one to help me with babies 1 and 2 postpartum. Baby number 3rd my husband was able to take three days off. My oldest daughter was so scared to have her first baby. I kept telling her that her 5' 9" slender frame was going to deliver her baby just fine. I told her not to worry herself because the nurses and doctors will get her through it. She delivered a beautiful baby girl without a hitch. The first thing I asked her an hour after delivery was how she felt about it. She told me it went fantastic. She did ask for an epidural close to the end because she was afraid to feel her exit. I was so proud of her. You have such a fantastic outlook on pregnancy and post partum. It doesn't do your pregnant friends or kids any favors by freaking them telling them traumatic situations.
My Best advice for first time moms: I always tell people that “No amount of advice can prepare you for being a parent. No words can prepare you for how hard it is OR how amazing it is!! So nod your head & smile when people give advice… then let it go” 💙💖💙💖💙
To the other moms, I just wanted to share something when it comes to back labor. Use a heating pad on your back. It was a must have for me and hasmade a significant difference. I used 'heat in a click' but I'm sure any heating pad will do. Thanks Kim for ask the information. You are truly an amazing mother and I love your videos. Looking forward to seeing your new bundle of joy.
What a wonderful attitude you have. I am way past child bearing age but still feel great for having listened to your loving and accepting video. God bless!
This brought back the births of my sons (all natural ones). I think that you have helped so many others as they go thru their pregnancies. My ex just didn't understand or care about my healing. Three days in hospital and he nails me the moment I get home. I finally got out of that abusive situation after 10 1/2 years. The only thing that I got out of my one and only marriage was my 3 beautiful and amazing sons. 💓🤗
Yay Kim time!!! Thank you so much for all your tips and knowledge! I wish I had this almost a decade ago when I had my son at 24yo. Fear ruled my life and it was a miserable experience. Sending good vibes and hope your pregnancy continues going smoothly! ❤️🥰
Oh you had me giggling when you said you couldn't remember your daughter's name. I was also like that. My daughter's name is Chloe-Maree but I kept on calling her Linda for some reason, and if I woke from a nap I would call her Rita (my sister's name). But the funniest was when I went to the doctor and I couldn't remember my new married surname. I literally had to take my clinic card out to have a look, the woman behind the counter thought I was being suspicious because didn't know mine and the baby's surname. hahaha
OMG Kim, you are a Godsend to me. your videos have been a huge highlight in my life for the past 3 years ever since I stumbled on your channel. I found out I'm 3 weeks pregnant 2 weeks ago, and my only thought has been I can do this it's ok, Kim is here with me she's going to teach me. I'm 34 so I'm a little late in the game. I appreciated every bit of knowledge you are willing to share with us and I was taking notes, there's so much I don't know.
I love being a mom. My baby girl is 13 months. But I had horrible post partum depression and ptsd. I got to ten cm before they had a chance to give me an epidural. So if anyone is reading this and going through that, please get help. EMDR and my family and my faith got me through it. But spend time bonding with your baby the best you can and know YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS I promise. You are strong and you can do this!!
I'm excited for you, Kim! A real Jack and Jill bathroom!! Name the child "Jack" or "Jill". :) Love these videos. Thank you for all your sharing. Your videos are so fun. And I love that dress too.
What I wouldn’t have give to have had someone share info like this when I had my first back in 1979. This is priceless. Thank you on behalf of all new moms. I’m betting this video is worth everything for some young mama to be. Much admiration for you, Kim.
My daughter is expecting number 7 in June. I love them all but I have had a crib in my house for 11 years now! I feel I need to update my crib. I care for her babies 2 days a week while she does her office hours and sees clients. She is a CedRD. She homeschools them the other days. 🤪my son has two so this will be my 9th grand baby. They are both in town. Papa and I see them all frequently and help when needed and love to have them here for play dates. I wouldn’t trade these years for a billion dollars. Love, love my grandbabies
Gosh I love how open and accepting you are of all types of birth. I’ve had three c sections (medical reasons) and the amount of ppl I’ve seen not acknowledge how hard it can be. “Haha your vagina will thank you” quite of the day!
I agree there’s a misconception that it’s the “easy way out” but ummm… that’s total ignorance because it is not lol every mama needs different things during labor and delivery! ♥️♥️
Same! 3 c-sections here too. It is all kinds of crazy to deal with hormones AND healing from major surgery. I did feel like the healing got easier with each one. Did you have that experience too?
My first was an emergency C-section I was 17 and no one believed me that I was in labor for the past 48 hours so to save my boy and make sure he came into the world safely I was rushed into surgery. Shortly after I had a nurse joke with me saying “eh At least you’re still tight” wtf? Who says that and frankly I would do absolutely anything to have a natural vaginal birth, it will never happen for me ever and it sucks but I have three happy and healthy children. This is the one woman that doesn’t make me feel like a birthing failure! ♥️
@@teeandkids937 Sometimes nurses can be very insensitive…as if “being tight” is what’s important to an expectant mother 😑 It’s so nice that Kim acknowledges c-section mamas and everything we deal with too 👍 We’re all mamas no matter how our babies came into the world 🥰
Kim, you are that great friend that everyone wishes that you lived nextdoor😘😘. You are such a wonderful friend to all of us and we enjoy listening to you…it’s like we’re talking and listening to someone who truly cares about us and wants to help in any way possible!! That’s why we love you and your family💜💜💜💜!!
I am currently pregnant with my second child (24 wks). Thank you for your experience and a refresher. Also, about hospital food... I was on a strict diet due to borderline gestational diabetes and when I gave birth the chocolate cake from the hospital was heaven!!
In addition to all of the insightful information you share, you’re an amazing storyteller!!! You say you feel like we are your friends & it’s because you make it easy to be a friend! 💛
Hi Kim! My 4 y/o has started watching ur videos with me & he really seems to like u!! This is a lovely video to open up a conversation about birth & the magical work a woman’s body does ❤️ glad baby is doing fine!
Waddy Worthy Wadsworth😳 bahahaha, I’m dead😂😂🤣 that’s frikkin hilarious, omg🤦🏻♀️ This was great to watch, I’m so excited bc my 1st “great” niece is scheduled to be delivered by C-section on Wednesday May 4th, her original due date was the 17th but evidently she’s a biggum and ready to be here, she’s my nephew & his wife’s first baby so it’s exciting, listening to you brought it all home for me so I thank you very much. I hope the remainder of your pregnancy is smooth sailing and that you feel wonderful, I know it’s been hard for you being so sick. TYFS, I hope you have a great weekend, enjoy!♥️💫✨👼🏻✨💫♥️
Kiiiimm I'm so happy to hear about your house add-on plans! A Jack and Jill bathroom?! Yaay finally!!! Can't wait! So glad that both of you are doing good. 🤰🏻❤️ My birthday is also in the first week of October lol. It's exciting to wait for the due date & gender reveal! Here's hoping that you've a smoother sailing for the rest of the journey. 🤞 And I'm beyond grateful for the amazing talk related to motherhood, pregnancy, delivery, postpartum, useful products etc. Nobody talks about these like you do! It's super helpful! Wish you'd do a whole playlist regarding the same topics. And please don't worry about digressing. I can happily listen to you all day! ☀️🎉💌
The best advice I got when I had my first was....... The baby is going to cry a lot, if they aren't hungry, wet, or sick it is ok to let them cry. Don't think you have to pick them up every time they cry or you will set yourself up to be holding baby 24/7 and never get time for you or the rest of the family. You need time to heal and get used to having a baby in the house as well as baby getting used to being out of the womb. My babies are 37,36,and 32 years old and I am still not down to my pregnancy weight. I have also had toxemia with my pregnancies. With my first at 20 I lost 82 pounds by the 5th month and gained 120 by the time he was born, with the 2nd I didn't have toxemia but he was 6 weeks late and the old-time farm doctor I had said "he will come when he is ready". Then with my daughter I had to move apartments up 1 floor and into a 3rd floor apartment so I got a great work out, that I shouldn't have been having because I had just given birth and had my tubes tied. My husband at the time refused to help so I had to do it all with 2 toddlers and a newborn fresh from surgery two days before. I blew out the stitches from the tubal, but I got it all done and survived so I guess that means I am a pretty tough cookie.
Kim.. on the subject of baby names, the Ultra sound tech asked me what I was planning on naming my daughter. I told her Nora Lynn. She straight out told me without regret, "that's an old womans name".. I almost kicked her in the face.. lol
Thank you so much for all you have said in this video. I agree with so much. Women are so hard on themselves and each other. Giving birth and mothering is such an amazing thing we do mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually and I think so many of us don’t really consider what we have done. It’s truly remarkable! You are amazing, thank you for being so down to earth and for sharing your thoughts/perspectives on this subject! I’m a 3rd time mom and found this very relatable and nice to hear :)
In case no one else mentioned it...Bridgerton 😊 That's where Eloise is gaining popularity from! I love this video. I have 3 kids and I still found myself watching this entire video. Kim, you have a wonderful way with words and wonderful advice. I wish this could be transcribed and printed into a book including anything else pre- and post-partum that you wanted to delve into. ❤
I'm a seasoned mum and still couldn't help but watch this, I could listen to you talk about absolutely anything Kim 😂 thank you for always making my day!!
I’ve had three babies in the last 8 years (and we’re done!) . But this is one of the most useful and sensible advice vids I’ve ever seen. If you’re a first time Mumma. This is all great advice! 💚
Babies are all different and you will learn what your baby needs. Take some advice from others but always remember that they will teach you what they need. Also, gas drops were sent from above and helped both our babies! We did not sleep train but we only kept a little night light on, did not turn a big light on, and did not talk to baby when they woke in the night. We went in kindly and took care of them gently but we only changed their diaper and fed them and they both turned out to be good sleepers.
I love your advice on naming your child! It's your child and your choice and honestly people shouldn't be asking what names you're thinking of to then go and judge them. I need to remember when the time comes it's about us and our child and no one else ❤️
When I was pregnant with my first child to help me with nausea sipping on Dr Pepper really works. The vanilla in it helps soothes your stomach and laying on my left side also helped. Just in case anyone is curious ❤️🤰🏼
Your last segment about pp weight loss/body image made me tear up. Thank you for saying that. I had my 4th child 9months ago. Im still hainging on to 50 of the 100lbs I gained..before i was pregnant this last time I ran 10 miles daily and was in the best physical shape of my life....so its been hard to look at myself in the mirror, kinda dont feel like the same person at all...so thank you for that pp pep talk I needed that today❤️ wishing a safe delivery for you!
One thing especially new moms do is always think something is wrong if baby is hungrier, less hungry, more or less tired, grumpy, etc. It's often forgotten that they are humans too, and just like us and all other humans, we have days grumpy, more or less hungry, want more or less sleep, etc. I was a young mom mentor and found when they understood that and had that perspective, they didn't panic over every little thing, and less stress makes for a calmer and happier mom.
“I hate being in water”!!….buys a house on a lake 🤣🤣 lol oh Kim!! You crack me up! I remember being pregnant and watching your birth of Meredith and being in awe of how composed you were! I was definitely like “oh ya I’m going to be tough like Kim was” pfffft 🤣 nope, I was not lol anyway, you’re the best!!
My baby is 12 weeks old and I had an emergency c section followed by having to supplement formula with my breastfeeding at first that transitioned to fully formula feeding because my supply sucked and my baby just wouldn’t latch on. I also am doing this about 95% on my own: So kinda completely opposite from your experiences but damn did I love this video. I love how you can share your experiences without sounding harsh or judgy like some of these RUclips moms are. I wish I would’ve known about placenta encapsulation before i gave birth. My postpartum bleeding and depression/anxiety were awful. Thank you for sharing I loved this video ❤️❤️❤️
It's ok to share rooms. To me it helps the bonding between those 2 that share the room. There was a 5 yr age difference, we fought alot but it seemed at night we would connect and discussed what we would fight about or if we were worried about something, we would be each other's champion.
I remember sharing a room with my sibling who is 7 years my junior. That all went well until I hit my teens at around 11-12. We had just gotten a home computer, and so I made a whole power point presentation about the advantages of us having separate rooms, just like DJ on Full House. Oh my, the memories 😅
@@thewadsquad it doesn't work for our girls either. We tried so many different things and for so many years and it just never worked. Separate rooms have worked fantastic for us too!
My son turned 21 in February, he’s my only child. Yes, I wanted more children, but that wasn’t in the cards for me. There is so much I didn’t know back then, I was 23 yrs old when he was born. I was still young, a kid myself. Although I thought I had it all together, I didn’t. I had a C-section for failure to progress & preeclampsia. I was a mess that day, anxiety, stress, fear, anticipation that I didn’t cope with very well at all. I was worried about my son being safe. Although I thought I was prepared, we took prenatal classes/breastfeeding classes/newborn care classes, when the day came, I wasn’t prepared. I had graduated nursing school in 1997 (almost4 yrs prior), had done maternal fetal medicine rotation in school. Also worked at a gyn/ob practice my first year of employment . I knew a bit, but not nearly enough. I wish I had a doula, the support of a doula would have helped me SO much. Although my ex-husband was the most supportive that day, more than he was in our entire marriage, it was such a blessing to have his support and encouragement, he was truly wonderful. The day my son came into this world is the best day of my life. It was such a rough day, an emotionally and physically exhausting day, but I look back at it fondly. My son is the reason I am here. Hearing his first sounds, then seeing such a beautiful baby were moment in my life I will never ever forget. I will never forget that moment or the moment when my dad passed while I was holding his hand in the same hospital 11 years later. Some moments stick with us for the rest of our lives. Nothing will ever compare to the joy of having a baby, it’s stressful but the absolute best job in the world. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Mistakes will be made, we are human. Love them, teach them to be kind individuals, read to them, sing to them, laugh with them, take time for them, express your love for them every chance you get. There will be stress along the way, parenting is incredibly challenging. They grow up WAY too fast! Then they are a semester away from graduating college… I wish encapsulation was more known back in 2000/2001, I had no idea about it. I have struggled with depression throughout my life. I had a really difficult time after my son was born. Breastfeeding was difficult for us and I pumped and fed for 18 months. I tried and tried and we couldn’t get the hang of latching on correctly. I tried everything I could find to try. I felt like less of a mom for feeding him my breast milk from a bottle. He got the benefit of my breast milk, I needed to give myself grace and not be so hard on myself. The first few weeks, he needed some supplementation with formula. I was so upset at myself for not producing enough nourishment for him. He was getting the nutrients he needed, that’s what truly matters. Having a couple bottles didn’t harm him. At 21, he’s not upset with me because of it. Again, give yourself grace. You are human, perfection isn’t reality. Do the best you can and do ask for help if you need it. Take that offer to hold baby while you take a shower, wash your hair, and enjoy those few minutes of your shower! Best of luck to you! Thank you for reading this. I’m sorry for my book. 😊❤️
Oh my goodness! What great advice-I am 62, I have 6 grown children and many grandchildren-so lots of experience under my belt. I agreed with you about what you were saying here! Listen up ladies this is one wise women.
This video was wonderful! You are amazing, you are sweet and so so warm and real!! I had an emergency c-section, my waters did not break and baby had the cord around her neck 3 times! So nothing went as I hoped. But going through it the last thing I thought of was if it is what I planned. All that happened was what my baby needed to come to this world. Iris is 2years old now and hearing people talk about giving birth naturally and being able to breastfeed still makes my cry, but now in a good, I am happy for them way.
YOU are such a gem!!!!! Thank you for being my friend and bringing JOY to my life!! My grandson and granddaughter in law are pregnant with their 2nd boy. Camden just turned one on Apr 15 and we found out the gender of #2 greatgrandsons yesterday! Baby boy due Oct 20. I'm SO happy for you all too. Got ya on my calendar, sweetie! I'm 68 and relived my pregnancies and births when you were sharing with us. YOU did an awesome job explaining it all!🤗😉😋
Kim, I’m so embarrassed that I totally missed this video when it originally came out (had friends from out of town visiting for a while🫣🫣🫣!! The other day I asked you about your delivery date, etc.🙃🙃🙃🙃!! Today, I saw this and it answered all my questions😉! All I can say, is I really wish I had known someone like you when I was first pregnant! Back then, we didn’t have U-Tube😂😂! You are so sweet and kind….never change😘!!
Kim the ‘contraction’ pain I get it totally! I always called if ‘productive pain’. My first was horrid and induced due to broken water but nothing. But the next two were induced ( I refused epidural) and I felt so much better and in control as I knew it’s going to hurt but it has an end. The pain is ‘productive’. Very much ‘you do you boo’ but I do like being able to walk to a shower after the ‘pop’
@The Wads I have been pregnant 7 times with 4 live births, a stillborn, and 2 miscarriages. I thought I knew a lot about about pregnancy/labor and delivery, but I’m 40 minutes into your video and I’m floored at the amount of information in this video. Unfortunately today would have been my youngest son’s 15th birthday, but he passed away at almost 3 months old in his sleep from SIDS.
I'm 5 minutes in and I just want to give you a hug. I know you cut the video when you started talking about your sister, which I can only imagine was because you started to get emotional. It's easy for the outside world to continue on, and you feel like that tragic time has been forgotten. I just want you to know that I have not forgotten and my thoughts and prayers are still with you.
That's incredibly sweet of you, thank you so much! Holidays and milestones sure are the hardest! I think about her kids all the time and wish I was closer to them to be there for them in more ways! I feel your love, thank you so much
Thank you for all the great info, Im currently 7 weeks pregnant with my first child and this video gave me a lot of great things that I can think about going forward in my pregnancy and childbirth and after. Love you and your videos so much.
I will say I work in the NICU and the button sleepers are THE BEST because all of the baby's IVs and cords can come out as needed. So if your baby needs a NICU stay it would be worth getting them.
Kim, I also had my first child in 1972. You're right! I had no baby shower, was very poor and I barely had anything! Back then no car seats for infants except for carry all's. Put my child between the bucket seats in the carry all. Used cloth diapers also. I bought 5 sleepers in white and yellow. Two draw string baby gowns. Undershirts (3) a pack of socks, a pack of umbilical covers and (2) sheets. That's it! I made out fine and my baby was happy and content.Kept him in a bassinet for (3) months next to me and then transferred him to his crib (used)! Now days mother's buy so much and that's fine, but really you can do just fine with bare nessities. Wash a lot more....but that's okay! Just thought I'd share . ❤️🤗
Kim, you are a phenomenal mother and person, but what you provide in information for other mothers is priceless. You are the Mother across the room.
Well said!!! 👍👍
😭😭 that is seriously so nice of you to say! I feel like I’m in really good company with the other mamas here with me on the channel ♥️♥️🎉
I definitely agree Kim. You are the mother across the room in all ways ❤️
Yes totally agree!! ❤️
What a great comment!! ❤️
Your dress is so pretty! Yes, ride the wave with parenting. I have been through it all with my kids. 1, pick your battles 2. The mess will be there for you no matter what, so take care of yourself, and 3, enjoy every moment, be present, they grow up so fast!!!! Great video Kim!
#1 is spot on!!
Kimmyyyyy!!! Look everybody it’s Kimmy!! Great tips from a veteran mama!! ♥️🎉
Hi Kim, I have never had kids and I am at the age where I won’t, but I watched this video because you are my friend and wanted to hear what you had to say and let me say you did not disappoint! I LOVED it, you are such an inspiration to so many, love your attitude and your advise. I hope you know how truly special you are to all of us❤️
I love that you answer your followers questions instead of ignoring them and include your beautiful children's lives.
I would never want to ignore you people!!! 🎉🎉
Every Mom is different and every Mom is right!!
I love that Kim. It should be on a Billboard.
YES!
Amen to that!! 🎉🎉 it’s something I read maaaaany years ago and totally stuck with me! Some people find it easy to pass judgements but no one knows what other peoples circumstances are 🎉 we all just do the best we can!
Good morning Kim and party people!! I hope everyone has a wonderful day!!!❤️❤️
You too Desiree ❤
Hope you have a great day too!!
@@brilliantbutblue thank you friend!❤️
@@thewadsquad thank you sweet friend!💕💕
@@thewadsquad thank you!💕
Something to keep in mind. I had my last at 36. Teenagers and menopause was BRUTAL!!
Had my last at 31 yup hearing you 49.5yrs old with an 18.5yr old it's a joy 😜
Lolllll oh boy. My sister kings are all older than me and so I’ve heard their stories of menopause while raising teens as well!! Menopause is enough to go through!!!
So so true!!
@@thewadsquad mine was great! No more mood swings! I think I could have kicked a animal due to my periods. I had severe headaches, bloating , periods lasting forever, cramps. Then it stopped!! Angels sang. I was lucky. I felt normal again. ❤🌺
Lol after 42 years of cramps and heavy periods and all types of interventions - menopause came and was uneventful and the best years of my life!!! No more monthly suffering. I’m 67 now!
Morning gorgeous! You amaze me and are 100% right. Too much pressure from so many people for everything. 1st during pregnancy then after everybody has "opinions" which come across as criticism to moms. You should always do you. Thank you, Kim. You are a ray of sunshine. Stay hydrated, nap a lot, keep churning the happy and stay awesome! xoxo
You stay awesome as well Aimee 😘
@@brilliantbutblue Thank you! You have a blessed evening and stay awesome as well!💗
Yessss everyone seems to think the way they did it was best- but it may have just been best for them! 🎉 everyone is different and wants different things ♥️🎉
@@thewadsquad 🥰
“Every mom is different and every mom is right!” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I'm pregnant with my first one. I'm due Halloween! 😳 I am 14 weeks and it has been so easy. No sickness and baby is growing perfectly. I'm so happy for you that baby is growing perfectly and having a healthy pregnancy.
I love that you wait till the baby makes his or her appearance to learn the gender. It was relatively new technology when I had my daughter in 1984 and literally EVERYONE was crazed with finding out if they were having a boy or a girl. (Of course, at that time there were a fair number of mistakes and boys who went home to frilly pink rooms and girls who went home to sports themed blue ones! 😂) People would become actually ANGRY with me over my decision to wait - and we’re talking about people who should have zero opinion, like co-workers, the checker at the grocery store, etc! Thank goodness that has calmed down some and people are ready to see that as a choice rather than a necessity. I am so happy to see you feeling much better, even if not 100%) and to hear that things are perfect with the baby. 💕💕
I think it's hilarious to hear what people "think" the gender is when you don't know.
@@ebonitompkins
Yes! 🤣🤣🤣 And all the old wives’ tales come out - except nobody can remember exactly how they go! Most of them are weird things you’ve never heard before! They speculate on the size of your bump, the shape of your bump, whether it’s high or low…but they don’t remember exactly what any of those things mean. Then there’s the ever popular needle on a string held over your palm. If it swings back and forth, it’s a girl and if it swings in a circle, it’s a boy - or is it the other way around? I had people get into heated arguments over that as I just walked away! They all had pretty good odds of being right at 50%!
Good morning Kim! I’m in Canada and I had natural births with both my boys with a midwife in the hospital and was lucky enough that our hospital policy is that we have to stay a minimum of two hours after birth! I was so thankful to be able to have the security of birthing in the hospital but also the luxury of being able to be at home with my newborns.
I did this as well- our hospital policy is three hours, but still so nice
I love that!! Also great that zero complications allowed that to happen!! ♥️🎉
I'm also in Canada and that was my experience also...if your baby is trouble free. With my second I told the staff "hey I had a shower I'm good I would like to go home." But I couldn't because my baby had complications, so for baby I stayed.
Kim you are a true blessing. This video will be so helpful to many women especially first time mothers. Thank you for caring enough to support and help others. 💕
Loved this video, watched with the Hubble and he was so interested, what’s a doula, what’s a perineal thing, a tear - where does that happen?? It was brilliant and he’s horrified - YOU CAN POOP!!!! Thank you so much for entertaining me and watching my husband squirm!! Also loving Waddy worthy Wadsworth it’s a keeper for sure. Enjoy your ‘last’ pregnancy and I think you need to write a book, you’re brilliant and we’re big fans. Sending lots of love to you all including baby Waddy xxxx
Omg I cut out a whole part of me jabbering on about testing and episiotomies!!! Haha he had no idea that he would hear about so much this morning’. 😂😂
@@thewadsquad he’s learnt a lot!!😘😄😄xx
I have 5 young children and totally agree, western medicine is helpful when needed and I had one rough delivery that I was grateful for the help! Not enough people grasp that concept that there are other options in all type of medical situations, both can be useful and you should always have a choice 🙌
Oh my goodness. My baby is almost 37, but I thoroughly enjoyed this video. So many things have changed, yet much has stayed the same. Thanks for sharing and candor. Have a great day.
My little one is 8 weeks old and hearing you talk about birth and answering all of these things just made me so happy and a touch emotional. ❤️ I had such a beautiful birth this time around. I loved this video Kim!
I don't know why but this video made me soooo emotional. I am 28 weeks pregnant with baby #3 with a very limited support system and hearing you talk about your experiences was so eye opening. Thank you for this!!
I have been watching you for years and Im currently at week 10 as a first time mom. Watching this in bed and my husband is listening in and he's learning so much. Thanks for this long video as I lay in bed trying not to throw up :)
As someone who has never had kids, I learned a lot of new things from your chat today! So glad to hear you are adding on to the house and that each child will have their own room. Thanks for sharing your beautiful family and your lovely home with us. You and Alex are so blessed!!!
I’m so glad your pregnancy is normal. I know that’s got to be a relief! ❤️
Agreed ❤
It is much less mentally draining for sure!! So many things are out of our control ♥️♥️🎉
This was such a special video! I have a 15 year old daughter and lost 2 babies through miscarriage, so I don’t have the extensive experience you have giving birth or those few weeks with a new-born. I do relate and it brought back memories of her birth and those special few months. Best message you gave is to do what works and that it is a season that will pass-most likely quicker than you can imagine. It’s a wonderful time!!
Oh Kim...I wish I "knew" you 14-9 years ago...I let my inlaws ruin the newborn stages for me...I didn't do anything right and I let it crush me. Heck. I don't think I'm doing I'm still doing anything right after seeing my mother in laws most recent FB Post...but today 14 & 9 years later, I truly don't care as much!! But man your words could have been gold to me in some pretty dark hours!! I had fun hanging out with you today and hearing about your pregnancy!!
For me, combating post-partum (I've 3 kids, teens now... don't get me started, it never ends) involved finding a community of moms. The infant massage and music classes are worth the money - not for the baby (s/he doesn't care) but for the MOM. I still have 7 incredibly close friends from my eldest's baby massage class. She's 18 now. That group met weekly for a decade...
Kim! THAT was FABULOUS!!! As a prior labor and delivery nurse, you nailed every single topic so eloquently and beautifully.
When I told my mom that I was naming my daughter Aspyn she said "that sounds like trees" 🌳 🤦♀️ lol, I mean, I found it humorous since my name is Ashley, which literally comes from "ash tree meadow" 😆
Oh my gosh Kim, I loved this! I only started losing weight when I was 1 year post babies. It was my first pregnancy. Seeing you speak about this as an experienced mother is so encouraging. Thank you!
There’s something so special about your q&a videos & the candid talking moments! You 100% need a podcast. On motherhood, pregnancy, breastfeeding, postpartum, placenta encapsulation- all of it!
You're so awesome, thanks for loving the friendship!!
I’m so happy for you and praying for a successful pregnancy/labor and delivery. I was blessed with one baby 23 years ago, after being told I would never conceive. I was also geriatric, high risk and anything else you could throw at me. Even tho I had always wanted a house full of kids, I feel so blessed to have the one! Life is so good
I could listen to you rambling on all day! So happy for you and your family. I have one toddler and can’t wait for number 2. I was induced after my water broke but was still able to have a natural (other than Pitocin) birth. I just love hearing birth stories! Flex and flow!
I also 100% believe I had a shorter labor from eating dates. And they are so healthy
Just throwing it out there… Kim if you wrote a book on pregnancy & labor & delivery 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
I don’t even plan on having children & I would buy it 🤣
I watched the whole video even though I'm well beyond that season of life. My youngest is 17. It just shows how great you do your topics/content. Keep up the great work Kimberly Whisk. Always a fan of all your videos. You look great!!
I am 67 and my youngest is 34. But I love your videos , esp the mom and pregnancy ones. My 39 year old daughter has a 3 1/2 y/o son and 1/1/2 y/o daughter. Possibly one more in future for them. I ADORE being grandma so much we are moving close to them in a month! You really should write a book regarding your approach to pregnancy , birth and beyond.
Don't ever change & "get it all together"--you are perfect just the way you are!!! So happy for you that everything is going well with the baby. I cracked up on you blanking on your daughter's name! In a similar way, I can remember calling my grandchildren by my cat's names!!!
The first two times I hated being at the hospital. The third time I was quite a bit older and was like yesss let me stay as long as possible. Let me be waited on, fed, taken care of, etc. It was amazing. Food was excellent. I also had no one at home so it was all me. It was my break to be with just my newborn and to focus on him for a few days.
Edited to add: so excited for you to be able to get your jack and jill!
Haha yes I feel you- it’s like a little vacation as weird as it sounds 😂🎉
My child bearing years are well past, but grandchild #1 is due in just weeks! It is lovely to see you being so very enthused with the choices child birth presents you with, and your ability and right to make choices that suit you (being the individual rather than specific person). I'm going to share this with the pregnant mumma to be and hope she gains some positivity in HER day, just like I did mine. Thanks Kim for another great start to the day. xx
I’m 23 and currently have a two year old son and a one year old daughter and I’m also pregnant with baby number three. I’m due mid September! And I delivered both my babies naturally at a hospital (I was induced with my son 20 hr labor! and went on my own with my daughter 15hr labor) I definitely plan on going naturally again (non-medicated) love the whole experience and being in control of my body! I love laboring in the dark with minimal noise so I can focus on moving the pain from the contraction to a thought (if that makes sense lol) ! I’m so excited !! So cool to be going through this journey around the same time as you! I’m also from around the Tampa area which makes the world feel so small lol
Hi Kim, Doula here! Thank you sooo much for giving a shout out to the Doula community! I appreciate you speaking so highly of your experience when working with one. It means alot!
Kimberly, I really enjoyed your Q&A today! and laughed so hard at your 'Postpartum brain' story, you see I can laugh because i have lived through raising two daughters by myself and lived to tell the stories!! Yes, it is true we can live several years with sleep deprivation and live to tell (and not even be embarrassed one bit) and most importantly, our children will survive. Best advise i received from my Dr before i left the hospital was to not listen to anyone, just sleep when the baby sleeps, feed when she wants to feed, and soon you both will fall into a perfect schedule, and we did, second daughter not so much...oh well. You see, they give you so much joy at all different times in their lives and all different ways and now i am blessed with 5 beautiful grandchildren! overloaded with blessings and joy! You are as well, and I know you are well aware of that. You are a beautiful mom. Love your pregancy vlogs and your cooking videos as well. Thank you!
I’m with you, I didn’t find out the gender for either of my kids until I delivered! We had many family members complaining about my decision but it was my pregnancy and they had their time 😂 it’s fun to wait until the moment happens. No one waits anymore it seems!
Hi Kim ☺️ I've just found and fallen in love with you and your personality. Loving the inspiration you provide others, and me to be more productive ans grateful mothers and women. I only wish I had a friend like you close by to me, and a husband I could have more children with! (I just have the one 8 year old boy).
Looking forward to watching your video tonight 😁❤ Rachel from Australia x
Hi Rachel love from Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺
@@brilliantbutblue Hello. I'm in Qld ❤
I am 68 yo. I don’t need any preg info. Yet I listened to every minute of this video. I admire you as an entertainer and influencer but now I also respect you as an educator. I hope all preg mommas and all future preg momma listen to your information. (Note: I didn’t say advise as you repeatedly said you shared what was right for YOU and your baby.) Gotta love you Kim!!!
Hey Kim have been watching you ever since your pregnancy with Meredith. Thank you for being so down to earth and honest. I, too, put on so much weight during pregnancy and it took me only 9 months the first child to get back to my pre pregnancy weight, but I never got back to it with my second or third child. Your views on pregnancy, postpartum and childbirth are refreshing! Also, wow, I never knew placemtal encapsulation could help prolonged bleeding. I bled 10 weeks plus, on an off, with all 3 of my babies! My doctors would tell me its probably just my perjod but I would digress. It never felt or smelt like a period, ifykyk! Somebody once told me that women with low iron levels could suffer from this, and I think this is the reason why this happens to me. I wish I knew placental encapsulation could help as I would have done it. Too late now!
I have zero interest in ever having children but I watched all of this and learnt a lot. I think what people go through to have a family is incredible.
Hi Kim. My wife and daughters are so addicted to ur videos. They don't miss any of it. Even though we just started watching it recently. Hope to see more of ur videos. God bless ur beautiful family.
So glad they enjoy watching!!
I am so happy to hear that your sweet little one is doing great. I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering with nausea and other pregnancy issues. I was sick my entire pregnancy with baby 2. Yet there was a 3rd baby. They were all C-section deliveries due to cephalopelvic disproportion. I had no one to help me with babies 1 and 2 postpartum. Baby number 3rd my husband was able to take three days off. My oldest daughter was so scared to have her first baby. I kept telling her that her 5' 9" slender frame was going to deliver her baby just fine. I told her not to worry herself because the nurses and doctors will get her through it. She delivered a beautiful baby girl without a hitch. The first thing I asked her an hour after delivery was how she felt about it. She told me it went fantastic. She did ask for an epidural close to the end because she was afraid to feel her exit. I was so proud of her. You have such a fantastic outlook on pregnancy and post partum. It doesn't do your pregnant friends or kids any favors by freaking them telling them traumatic situations.
My Best advice for first time moms:
I always tell people that “No amount of advice can prepare you for being a parent. No words can prepare you for how hard it is OR how amazing it is!! So nod your head & smile when people give advice… then let it go”
💙💖💙💖💙
This was such a great and interesting video! Nobody ever told me that much about pregnancy, giving birth etc. So thank you very much!
To the other moms, I just wanted to share something when it comes to back labor. Use a heating pad on your back. It was a must have for me and hasmade a significant difference. I used 'heat in a click' but I'm sure any heating pad will do.
Thanks Kim for ask the information. You are truly an amazing mother and I love your videos. Looking forward to seeing your new bundle of joy.
What a wonderful attitude you have. I am way past child bearing age but still feel great for having listened to your loving and accepting video. God bless!
This brought back the births of my sons (all natural ones). I think that you have helped
so many others as they go thru their pregnancies. My ex just didn't understand or care
about my healing. Three days in hospital and he nails me the moment I get home. I
finally got out of that abusive situation after 10 1/2 years. The only thing that I got out
of my one and only marriage was my 3 beautiful and amazing sons. 💓🤗
Yay Kim time!!! Thank you so much for all your tips and knowledge! I wish I had this almost a decade ago when I had my son at 24yo. Fear ruled my life and it was a miserable experience. Sending good vibes and hope your pregnancy continues going smoothly! ❤️🥰
Oh you had me giggling when you said you couldn't remember your daughter's name. I was also like that. My daughter's name is Chloe-Maree but I kept on calling her Linda for some reason, and if I woke from a nap I would call her Rita (my sister's name). But the funniest was when I went to the doctor and I couldn't remember my new married surname. I literally had to take my clinic card out to have a look, the woman behind the counter thought I was being suspicious because didn't know mine and the baby's surname. hahaha
Lollll this all made me laugh!! So glad I’m not alone!! I remember calling Eleanor “Emma” like- all the time!! Oh gosh. That’s great
Holy cow! The imagery for the tearing, I’m scarred for life. Mad props to moms.
OMG Kim, you are a Godsend to me. your videos have been a huge highlight in my life for the past 3 years ever since I stumbled on your channel. I found out I'm 3 weeks pregnant 2 weeks ago, and my only thought has been I can do this it's ok, Kim is here with me she's going to teach me. I'm 34 so I'm a little late in the game. I appreciated every bit of knowledge you are willing to share with us and I was taking notes, there's so much I don't know.
I love being a mom. My baby girl is 13 months. But I had horrible post partum depression and ptsd. I got to ten cm before they had a chance to give me an epidural. So if anyone is reading this and going through that, please get help. EMDR and my family and my faith got me through it. But spend time bonding with your baby the best you can and know YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS I promise. You are strong and you can do this!!
I'm excited for you, Kim! A real Jack and Jill bathroom!! Name the child "Jack" or "Jill". :) Love these videos. Thank you for all your sharing. Your videos are so fun. And I love that dress too.
Love to watch you Kim. Your kids are lucky to have you.
What I wouldn’t have give to have had someone share info like this when I had my first back in 1979. This is priceless. Thank you on behalf of all new moms. I’m betting this video is worth everything for some young mama to be. Much admiration for you, Kim.
My daughter is expecting number 7 in June. I love them all but I have had a crib in my house for 11 years now! I feel I need to update my crib. I care for her babies 2 days a week while she does her office hours and sees clients. She is a CedRD. She homeschools them the other days. 🤪my son has two so this will be my 9th grand baby. They are both in town. Papa and I see them all frequently and help when needed and love to have them here for play dates. I wouldn’t trade these years for a billion dollars. Love, love my grandbabies
Gosh I love how open and accepting you are of all types of birth. I’ve had three c sections (medical reasons) and the amount of ppl I’ve seen not acknowledge how hard it can be.
“Haha your vagina will thank you” quite of the day!
I agree there’s a misconception that it’s the “easy way out” but ummm… that’s total ignorance because it is not lol every mama needs different things during labor and delivery! ♥️♥️
I've had two natural births and feel lucky as I'm sure that a caesarean must be loads harder, coping with a newborn after major surgery! Omg !!
Same! 3 c-sections here too. It is all kinds of crazy to deal with hormones AND healing from major surgery. I did feel like the healing got easier with each one. Did you have that experience too?
My first was an emergency C-section I was 17 and no one believed me that I was in labor for the past 48 hours so to save my boy and make sure he came into the world safely I was rushed into surgery. Shortly after I had a nurse joke with me saying “eh At least you’re still tight” wtf? Who says that and frankly I would do absolutely anything to have a natural vaginal birth, it will never happen for me ever and it sucks but I have three happy and healthy children. This is the one woman that doesn’t make me feel like a birthing failure! ♥️
@@teeandkids937 Sometimes nurses can be very insensitive…as if “being tight” is what’s important to an expectant mother 😑 It’s so nice that Kim acknowledges c-section mamas and everything we deal with too 👍 We’re all mamas no matter how our babies came into the world 🥰
Kim, you are that great friend that everyone wishes that you lived nextdoor😘😘. You are such a wonderful friend to all of us and we enjoy listening to you…it’s like we’re talking and listening to someone who truly cares about us and wants to help in any way possible!! That’s why we love you and your family💜💜💜💜!!
I am currently pregnant with my second child (24 wks). Thank you for your experience and a refresher.
Also, about hospital food... I was on a strict diet due to borderline gestational diabetes and when I gave birth the chocolate cake from the hospital was heaven!!
In addition to all of the insightful information you share, you’re an amazing storyteller!!! You say you feel like we are your friends & it’s because you make it easy to be a friend! 💛
Hi Kim! My 4 y/o has started watching ur videos with me & he really seems to like u!! This is a lovely video to open up a conversation about birth & the magical work a woman’s body does ❤️ glad baby is doing fine!
Waddy Worthy Wadsworth😳 bahahaha, I’m dead😂😂🤣 that’s frikkin hilarious, omg🤦🏻♀️ This was great to watch, I’m so excited bc my 1st “great” niece is scheduled to be delivered by C-section on Wednesday May 4th, her original due date was the 17th but evidently she’s a biggum and ready to be here, she’s my nephew & his wife’s first baby so it’s exciting, listening to you brought it all home for me so I thank you very much. I hope the remainder of your pregnancy is smooth sailing and that you feel wonderful, I know it’s been hard for you being so sick. TYFS, I hope you have a great weekend, enjoy!♥️💫✨👼🏻✨💫♥️
Kiiiimm I'm so happy to hear about your house add-on plans! A Jack and Jill bathroom?! Yaay finally!!! Can't wait!
So glad that both of you are doing good. 🤰🏻❤️
My birthday is also in the first week of October lol. It's exciting to wait for the due date & gender reveal! Here's hoping that you've a smoother sailing for the rest of the journey. 🤞
And I'm beyond grateful for the amazing talk related to motherhood, pregnancy, delivery, postpartum, useful products etc.
Nobody talks about these like you do! It's super helpful! Wish you'd do a whole playlist regarding the same topics.
And please don't worry about digressing. I can happily listen to you all day! ☀️🎉💌
The best advice I got when I had my first was.......
The baby is going to cry a lot, if they aren't hungry, wet, or sick it is ok to let them cry. Don't think you have to pick them up every time they cry or you will set yourself up to be holding baby 24/7 and never get time for you or the rest of the family. You need time to heal and get used to having a baby in the house as well as baby getting used to being out of the womb.
My babies are 37,36,and 32 years old and I am still not down to my pregnancy weight. I have also had toxemia with my pregnancies. With my first at 20 I lost 82 pounds by the 5th month and gained 120 by the time he was born, with the 2nd I didn't have toxemia but he was 6 weeks late and the old-time farm doctor I had said "he will come when he is ready". Then with my daughter I had to move apartments up 1 floor and into a 3rd floor apartment so I got a great work out, that I shouldn't have been having because I had just given birth and had my tubes tied. My husband at the time refused to help so I had to do it all with 2 toddlers and a newborn fresh from surgery two days before. I blew out the stitches from the tubal, but I got it all done and survived so I guess that means I am a pretty tough cookie.
Kim.. on the subject of baby names, the Ultra sound tech asked me what I was planning on naming my daughter. I told her Nora Lynn. She straight out told me without regret, "that's an old womans name".. I almost kicked her in the face.. lol
Omgggg you think she would know better since her job was being around pregnant women all day!!! 💀💀💀😂😂💀💀
Why do people not have better filters anymore these days?? Nora Lynn is beautiful 😍 ❤
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this video is everything . i love your thoughts and perspective on birth and motherhood, your such a breath of fresh air.
Thank you so much for all you have said in this video. I agree with so much. Women are so hard on themselves and each other. Giving birth and mothering is such an amazing thing we do mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually and I think so many of us don’t really consider what we have done. It’s truly remarkable! You are amazing, thank you for being so down to earth and for sharing your thoughts/perspectives on this subject! I’m a 3rd time mom and found this very relatable and nice to hear :)
In case no one else mentioned it...Bridgerton 😊 That's where Eloise is gaining popularity from! I love this video. I have 3 kids and I still found myself watching this entire video. Kim, you have a wonderful way with words and wonderful advice. I wish this could be transcribed and printed into a book including anything else pre- and post-partum that you wanted to delve into. ❤
I'm a seasoned mum and still couldn't help but watch this, I could listen to you talk about absolutely anything Kim 😂 thank you for always making my day!!
I’ve had three babies in the last 8 years (and we’re done!) . But this is one of the most useful and sensible advice vids I’ve ever seen. If you’re a first time Mumma. This is all great advice! 💚
You are such a great resource for pregnancy, thank you.
Good morning Kim!! Glad that baby is doing well! Can’t wait to meet the newest little Wad😊
I love the rambling way you answer questions! Thank you for always being so happy and real! It is very much appreciated!
Babies are all different and you will learn what your baby needs.
Take some advice from others but always remember that they will teach you what they need.
Also, gas drops were sent from above and helped both our babies!
We did not sleep train but we only kept a little night light on, did not turn a big light on, and did not talk to baby when they woke in the night. We went in kindly and took care of them gently but we only changed their diaper and fed them and they both turned out to be good sleepers.
I love your advice on naming your child! It's your child and your choice and honestly people shouldn't be asking what names you're thinking of to then go and judge them. I need to remember when the time comes it's about us and our child and no one else ❤️
God love it! This was fun! Loved the dress! Super cute! Loved the video! Have a fabulous weekend WADS and party people! 💚💜🧡💃🏻
When I was pregnant with my first child to help me with nausea sipping on Dr Pepper really works. The vanilla in it helps soothes your stomach and laying on my left side also helped. Just in case anyone is curious ❤️🤰🏼
Your last segment about pp weight loss/body image made me tear up. Thank you for saying that. I had my 4th child 9months ago. Im still hainging on to 50 of the 100lbs I gained..before i was pregnant this last time I ran 10 miles daily and was in the best physical shape of my life....so its been hard to look at myself in the mirror, kinda dont feel like the same person at all...so thank you for that pp pep talk I needed that today❤️ wishing a safe delivery for you!
One thing especially new moms do is always think something is wrong if baby is hungrier, less hungry, more or less tired, grumpy, etc. It's often forgotten that they are humans too, and just like us and all other humans, we have days grumpy, more or less hungry, want more or less sleep, etc. I was a young mom mentor and found when they understood that and had that perspective, they didn't panic over every little thing, and less stress makes for a calmer and happier mom.
Hey hope you all having a great day
“I hate being in water”!!….buys a house on a lake 🤣🤣 lol oh Kim!! You crack me up! I remember being pregnant and watching your birth of Meredith and being in awe of how composed you were! I was definitely like “oh ya I’m going to be tough like Kim was” pfffft 🤣 nope, I was not lol anyway, you’re the best!!
Haha the lake is Alex’s dream!! I want to be deep in the forrest… but a dorrest that doesn’t have bugs lol
You are a breath of fresh air. I appreciate your genuine respect for others experience and of your own. 🤗
My baby is 12 weeks old and I had an emergency c section followed by having to supplement formula with my breastfeeding at first that transitioned to fully formula feeding because my supply sucked and my baby just wouldn’t latch on. I also am doing this about 95% on my own: So kinda completely opposite from your experiences but damn did I love this video. I love how you can share your experiences without sounding harsh or judgy like some of these RUclips moms are. I wish I would’ve known about placenta encapsulation before i gave birth. My postpartum bleeding and depression/anxiety were awful. Thank you for sharing I loved this video ❤️❤️❤️
It's ok to share rooms. To me it helps the bonding between those 2 that share the room. There was a 5 yr age difference, we fought alot but it seemed at night we would connect and discussed what we would fight about or if we were worried about something, we would be each other's champion.
Our kids have shared rooms since forever. for us it is not the best situation. Glad it works for you! Every child has different needs.
I remember sharing a room with my sibling who is 7 years my junior. That all went well until I hit my teens at around 11-12. We had just gotten a home computer, and so I made a whole power point presentation about the advantages of us having separate rooms, just like DJ on Full House. Oh my, the memories 😅
@@thewadsquad it doesn't work for our girls either. We tried so many different things and for so many years and it just never worked. Separate rooms have worked fantastic for us too!
My son turned 21 in February, he’s my only child. Yes, I wanted more children, but that wasn’t in the cards for me. There is so much I didn’t know back then, I was 23 yrs old when he was born. I was still young, a kid myself. Although I thought I had it all together, I didn’t. I had a C-section for failure to progress & preeclampsia. I was a mess that day, anxiety, stress, fear, anticipation that I didn’t cope with very well at all. I was worried about my son being safe. Although I thought I was prepared, we took prenatal classes/breastfeeding classes/newborn care classes, when the day came, I wasn’t prepared. I had graduated nursing school in 1997 (almost4 yrs prior), had done maternal fetal medicine rotation in school. Also worked at a gyn/ob practice my first year of employment . I knew a bit, but not nearly enough. I wish I had a doula, the support of a doula would have helped me SO much. Although my ex-husband was the most supportive that day, more than he was in our entire marriage, it was such a blessing to have his support and encouragement, he was truly wonderful. The day my son came into this world is the best day of my life. It was such a rough day, an emotionally and physically exhausting day, but I look back at it fondly. My son is the reason I am here. Hearing his first sounds, then seeing such a beautiful baby were moment in my life I will never ever forget. I will never forget that moment or the moment when my dad passed while I was holding his hand in the same hospital 11 years later. Some moments stick with us for the rest of our lives. Nothing will ever compare to the joy of having a baby, it’s stressful but the absolute best job in the world. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Mistakes will be made, we are human. Love them, teach them to be kind individuals, read to them, sing to them, laugh with them, take time for them, express your love for them every chance you get. There will be stress along the way, parenting is incredibly challenging. They grow up WAY too fast! Then they are a semester away from graduating college…
I wish encapsulation was more known back in 2000/2001, I had no idea about it. I have struggled with depression throughout my life. I had a really difficult time after my son was born. Breastfeeding was difficult for us and I pumped and fed for 18 months. I tried and tried and we couldn’t get the hang of latching on correctly. I tried everything I could find to try. I felt like less of a mom for feeding him my breast milk from a bottle. He got the benefit of my breast milk, I needed to give myself grace and not be so hard on myself. The first few weeks, he needed some supplementation with formula. I was so upset at myself for not producing enough nourishment for him. He was getting the nutrients he needed, that’s what truly matters. Having a couple bottles didn’t harm him. At 21, he’s not upset with me because of it. Again, give yourself grace. You are human, perfection isn’t reality. Do the best you can and do ask for help if you need it. Take that offer to hold baby while you take a shower, wash your hair, and enjoy those few minutes of your shower!
Best of luck to you! Thank you for reading this. I’m sorry for my book. 😊❤️
Oh my goodness! What great advice-I am 62, I have 6 grown children and many grandchildren-so lots of experience under my belt. I agreed with you about what you were saying here! Listen up ladies this is one wise women.
This video was wonderful! You are amazing, you are sweet and so so warm and real!! I had an emergency c-section, my waters did not break and baby had the cord around her neck 3 times! So nothing went as I hoped. But going through it the last thing I thought of was if it is what I planned. All that happened was what my baby needed to come to this world. Iris is 2years old now and hearing people talk about giving birth naturally and being able to breastfeed still makes my cry, but now in a good, I am happy for them way.
YOU are such a gem!!!!! Thank you for being my friend and bringing JOY to my life!! My grandson and granddaughter in law are pregnant with their 2nd boy. Camden just turned one on Apr 15 and we found out the gender of #2 greatgrandsons yesterday! Baby boy due Oct 20. I'm SO happy for you all too. Got ya on my calendar, sweetie! I'm 68 and relived my pregnancies and births when you were sharing with us. YOU did an awesome job explaining it all!🤗😉😋
Kim, I’m so embarrassed that I totally missed this video when it originally came out (had friends from out of town visiting for a while🫣🫣🫣!! The other day I asked you about your delivery date, etc.🙃🙃🙃🙃!! Today, I saw this and it answered all my questions😉!
All I can say, is I really wish I had known someone like you when I was first pregnant! Back then, we didn’t have U-Tube😂😂! You are so sweet and kind….never change😘!!
Kim the ‘contraction’ pain I get it totally! I always called if ‘productive pain’. My first was horrid and induced due to broken water but nothing.
But the next two were induced ( I refused epidural) and I felt so much better and in control as I knew it’s going to hurt but it has an end.
The pain is ‘productive’. Very much ‘you do you boo’ but I do like being able to walk to a shower after the ‘pop’
@The Wads I have been pregnant 7 times with 4 live births, a stillborn, and 2 miscarriages. I thought I knew a lot about about pregnancy/labor and delivery, but I’m 40 minutes into your video and I’m floored at the amount of information in this video. Unfortunately today would have been my youngest son’s 15th birthday, but he passed away at almost 3 months old in his sleep from SIDS.
I'm 5 minutes in and I just want to give you a hug. I know you cut the video when you started talking about your sister, which I can only imagine was because you started to get emotional. It's easy for the outside world to continue on, and you feel like that tragic time has been forgotten. I just want you to know that I have not forgotten and my thoughts and prayers are still with you.
That's incredibly sweet of you, thank you so much! Holidays and milestones sure are the hardest! I think about her kids all the time and wish I was closer to them to be there for them in more ways! I feel your love, thank you so much
Currently pregnant with baby #5 as well! Due in December 🎄🎅 loved everything you said! Relaxing during contractions is key! Definitely helps your body
Thank you for all the great info, Im currently 7 weeks pregnant with my first child and this video gave me a lot of great things that I can think about going forward in my pregnancy and childbirth and after. Love you and your videos so much.
I will say I work in the NICU and the button sleepers are THE BEST because all of the baby's IVs and cords can come out as needed. So if your baby needs a NICU stay it would be worth getting them.
Also I had a team green pregnancy and also had an Eleanor 🥰 it was the best surprise of my life!
Kim, I also had my first child in 1972. You're right! I had no baby shower, was very poor and I barely had anything! Back then no car seats for infants except for carry all's. Put my child between the bucket seats in the carry all. Used cloth diapers also. I bought 5 sleepers in white and yellow. Two draw string baby gowns. Undershirts (3) a pack of socks, a pack of umbilical covers and (2) sheets. That's it! I made out fine and my baby was happy and content.Kept him in a bassinet for (3) months next to me and then transferred him to his crib (used)! Now days mother's buy so much and that's fine, but really you can do just fine with bare nessities. Wash a lot more....but that's okay! Just thought I'd share . ❤️🤗
Due beginning of September with my first baby. I’m 21. I’ve been watching you since Cov started. Thank you so much for your mommy wisdom💗🥰