I was quick to judge my own mother harshly today for something that wasn't even a big deal, and I feel a deep sense of regret. I hope Christ will find it in His heart to forgive me.
Thank you so much Father. Lately I have been asking Jesus not just for mercy but to make me good, at 82 I haven't much time to correct so many things and you have been he answer to that prayer.
Father, could you speak more on what is and is not judgement? Thinking in terms of a parent with their children, or a manager with employees. These, and other roles, can require us to do things that might appear, or press right up against the line of, judgement. Can you clarify the difference?
I also think these things can be unclear, for example if I see someone posting or saying something about celebrating pride month, is it wrong for me to think in my head that the person is wrong?
Yeah like idk what counts as judgement because sometimes I think I’m just trying to help people and than I catch myself, and think, is that judgement? I just don’t know
Very helpful advice, thank you! By my old age I am judging people less and less but this tendency still slips in every now and again. Prostrations would be difficult now for me but I will use the short invocation! I am using similar tactics with nasty or mocking or blaspheming voices in my head - I know they are not mine! I mock them back, I call them out, I tell them I can see through them. I find it very effective.
I judge people too much and I also judge myself harshly . This sin is so heavy and I feel tired from it. I remember once I was furious at my boss for some decision he made . I was so angry and I didn't know how to handle this anger so I started praying for him and suddenly my anger subsided and I started feeling empathy and even love for him. But every day it's a challenge, I live in Bucharest, I talk and meet with dozens of people every day and it's really hard to guard my mind and heart from this sin. Thank you for the advice father
Thanks Father, i like the idea of examining my behavior at the end of the day, i know its a practice that has been adopted by clergy and been helpful. I draw a distinction between judging and making an assessment and checking it out with questions. Assessments can be necessary and helpful when combined with attentive listening.
Father. Another beautiful lesson. I have been learning so much for you and I can’t thank you enough for your videos. I try to use the tools and books you use as well
Dear Father Paul. I thank Our Lord Jesus Christ for inspiring you to make this incredible videos with so much teaching, and compassion, thank you so much. May the Grace of Our Lord, the protection of the most Holy Theotokos be with you 🤗
Fr. Paul, I wonder if that prayer is inspired by Psalm 61/62 where verse 4 mentions all the murderers, and verse 5 says that they inwardly curse (judge?). Powerful, short prayer. Thanks!!
As a patriarch of the family, one must be judging left and right on a daily basis as various issues arise within the family whether we like it or not. Perhaps this advice applies to people who are not in a position to run family or brotherhood of monks or are not in any position that requires decisions making.
My issue with judgemnts comes only when Theology or Orthodoxy specifically is being mentioned in a debate.But, I feel also we make a lot of "loving judgments" in our lives like with family or close friends for their own sake. Like when I try to stop my parents from smoking for example.
Judging the PERSON is the problem. The use of discernment is necessary to judge what we see in the world… whether it is righteous or not, helpful or harmful. But condemning the person - especially on a self-righteous manner - is specifically condemned by Christ.
I was quick to judge my own mother harshly today for something that wasn't even a big deal, and I feel a deep sense of regret. I hope Christ will find it in His heart to forgive me.
“Lord, the murderers are come. Save me.”
Thank you, father
Thank you so much Father. Lately I have been asking Jesus not just for mercy but to make me good, at 82 I haven't much time to correct so many things and you have been he answer to that prayer.
Thank you Father, thank you thank you thank you.
Yes! Thank you so much. The prostrations will be very helpful.
Father, could you speak more on what is and is not judgement? Thinking in terms of a parent with their children, or a manager with employees. These, and other roles, can require us to do things that might appear, or press right up against the line of, judgement. Can you clarify the difference?
I also think these things can be unclear, for example if I see someone posting or saying something about celebrating pride month, is it wrong for me to think in my head that the person is wrong?
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Yeah like idk what counts as judgement because sometimes I think I’m just trying to help people and than I catch myself, and think, is that judgement? I just don’t know
You can recognize it by what the thoughts promote inside your heart: more love for the person you are judging, or more of the opposite...
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Thank you Father!
Very helpful advice, thank you! By my old age I am judging people less and less but this tendency still slips in every now and again. Prostrations would be difficult now for me but I will use the short invocation! I am using similar tactics with nasty or mocking or blaspheming voices in my head - I know they are not mine! I mock them back, I call them out, I tell them I can see through them. I find it very effective.
I judge people too much and I also judge myself harshly .
This sin is so heavy and I feel tired from it.
I remember once I was furious at my boss for some decision he made . I was so angry and I didn't know how to handle this anger so I started praying for him and suddenly my anger subsided and I started feeling empathy and even love for him.
But every day it's a challenge, I live in Bucharest, I talk and meet with dozens of people every day and it's really hard to guard my mind and heart from this sin.
Thank you for the advice father
Thanks Father, i like the idea of examining my behavior at the end of the day, i know its a practice that has been adopted by clergy and been helpful. I draw a distinction between judging and making an assessment and checking it out with questions. Assessments can be necessary and helpful when combined with attentive listening.
Thank you, Father
So frequently who we judge are acting in ways that we don't like in ourselves but we are blind to our own guilt
Father. Another beautiful lesson. I have been learning so much for you and I can’t thank you enough for your videos. I try to use the tools and books you use as well
Insightful and very enlightening. Thank you Father Paul.
thank you very much, I am struggling with this too and thought of this as a minor sin until now and until I read 30 steps to heaven
Great advice as usual from Fr. Paul. Sometimes I'm not sure WHEN I'm judging.
Thank you Father. I felt my heart healing with this simple yet powerful spiritual guidance. God save us ☦️
Much needed struggling with this
Dear Father Paul. I thank Our Lord Jesus Christ for inspiring you to make this incredible videos with so much teaching, and compassion, thank you so much. May the Grace of Our Lord, the protection of the most Holy Theotokos be with you 🤗
Wonderful advice, thank you Fr Paul
Fr. Paul, I wonder if that prayer is inspired by Psalm 61/62 where verse 4 mentions all the murderers, and verse 5 says that they inwardly curse (judge?). Powerful, short prayer. Thanks!!
Thank you for the practical advice! Just on time!
I really needed this. Great counseling. Thank you!
Needed this ☦️
Good one! Thanks 🙏
Great practical advice. I’ll add it to the weapons of spiritual warfare.
You are awesome Fr. Paul God Bless
As a patriarch of the family, one must be judging left and right on a daily basis as various issues arise within the family whether we like it or not. Perhaps this advice applies to people who are not in a position to run family or brotherhood of monks or are not in any position that requires decisions making.
You are describing discernment, not the judgment that Christ warns against.
May God grant you many blessed years.
Do you recommend that every night we analyze our sins of the day as a daily practice?
God bless my brother ☦️
Thank you
thank you, father for advice we can implement in our real lives! Praise God
Amen
My issue with judgemnts comes only when Theology or Orthodoxy specifically is being mentioned in a debate.But, I feel also we make a lot of "loving judgments" in our lives like with family or close friends for their own sake. Like when I try to stop my parents from smoking for example.
You said to do prostrations, But What If it is sundays and other feast days?
Are you talking about judging someone's actions or their intentions?
Judging the PERSON is the problem. The use of discernment is necessary to judge what we see in the world… whether it is righteous or not, helpful or harmful. But condemning the person - especially on a self-righteous manner - is specifically condemned by Christ.