My issues were when I felt shame and anger towards myself and punished myself. I always hid my scars unless I really needed medical attention and it wasn't a cry for help. For some the pain is better than feeling numb. One suicide attempt led to kidney failure. Thankfully I now am older, married and have kids (several failed relationships but finally found my rock). Thanks for this video, it is a topic people don't like to talk about.
I just wanted to thank you all for talking so openly and for the insights you are sharing. I don't have BPD, but I am quite a sensitive person (it's true, Xannie... some of us without BPD still feel things intensely!), and I think that trait has contributed to the mental health challenges and imbalances that I have experienced in my life. So... hearing you all talk through your experiences, and especially what it looks like to practice new coping strategies and self-care even through it all, is really valuable. Valuable for anyone with BPD I bet, and also valuable for some of us with related challenges. Thank you for your hard work in finding new ways forward that work for you, and for all you share.
The first time I saw my pwbpd self harm it was shocking and frightened me immensely. She was unaware of what was wrong with her at that time and now with awareness and a desire to get better I sincerely hope the self harming will fade in her rear view mirror. She's a beautiful person who doesn't deserve the turmoil she has endured. I did a lot of research into this terrible urge to self harm and the best explanation I got was that it's a maladaptive meditation. Hopefully everyone who suffers can get proper diagnosis, treatment and learn healthy coping mechanisms for life's challenges. Good luck to everyone fighting this battle.
Thank you so much for creating this channel and sharing these perspectives! I am at a point in my own recovery journey where it's really helpful to hear from those in functional recovery because I'm just not sure what it might look like for myself. Thank you!! Please keep the videos coming!
THANK YOU SO MUCH, Xannie and this episode’s panel! 👏👏👏 I can relate to so many things you all shared. Special shout-out to Alex because I feel like I related the most to everything you shared in this episode. Keep up the great work, everyone! You sharing your experiences breaks the stigma and inspires other people with BPD to tell their stories too! 😁
First, thank you to all of The Bunch! Second, the T skill of the TIPP Skills is SO powerful! When I first heard about it, I thought that it couldn't really be that great. But I figured, why not try it? The worst case would be that I get a wet face in addition to self harming or breaking something. I was so amazed the first time that I used it. As pointed out a bowl of ice water isn't typically handy outside of the home, but I have taken steps to cope ahead when possible by taking along a re-freezable ice pack (as one would use in a lunch pail) to situations that I know may be triggering. It doesn't work as quickly as the bowl of ice water, but it sure beats the alternative.
Thank you for creating this channel. I find it very encouraging. I was diagnosed with BPD around 18yo. I am currently in my mid 30s and after a difficult journey I am much much better than I was yet have to keep aware of my thoughts and behaviours. I haven't been suicidal in a longtime, though it is very reassuring to see you all talking about suicidality and self harm in a non judging and empathetic way whilst at the same time not encouraging it.
I'm new here. I got my dx in 2017, but my husband said we couldn't afford DBT. I did manage to get about 2 months or so of tx before he found out about the cost. Anyway, since then in 2023 my husband of 18 years divorced me. ... Long story short, if anyone ever doubted I truly had BPD, let's just say they don't anymore. I'm struggling a lot now with all these symptoms. I really need GFs like all of you right now. I really appreciate all the work that goes into each and every episode. I hope someday I'll actually be in functional recovery and y'all inspire me. Thank you
I could relate with motive that says I want to show people how much I´m hurt and how bad I feel b4 them. 2 months back I felt really out of control in my situation, so I self-harmed and only two close people know the fact that I self-harmed. However in my sense is self-harm much broader than cutting wrist, bcs I experienced it also in form of sexual masochism, emotional punishment from others etc.
For me self harm was also embarrasing. I did not want people to see it and i covered the marks. I did it more When my anger was so intense and i didnt know what to do with All! of that. Somehow feeling the pain with the cuts helped me free that anger .
There is so much misunderstanding, shame, and regret. I'm afraid of my age. I never will understand myself fully if it wasn't for one of my family members today. I would probably follow through with my suicide idolization. I have convinced myself not to live past 70-year-old
My issues were when I felt shame and anger towards myself and punished myself. I always hid my scars unless I really needed medical attention and it wasn't a cry for help. For some the pain is better than feeling numb. One suicide attempt led to kidney failure.
Thankfully I now am older, married and have kids (several failed relationships but finally found my rock).
Thanks for this video, it is a topic people don't like to talk about.
I stopped eating as a form of self harm and to punish myself. That I didn’t deserve to eat. Thanks ladies for being so open and sharing
I just wanted to thank you all for talking so openly and for the insights you are sharing. I don't have BPD, but I am quite a sensitive person (it's true, Xannie... some of us without BPD still feel things intensely!), and I think that trait has contributed to the mental health challenges and imbalances that I have experienced in my life. So... hearing you all talk through your experiences, and especially what it looks like to practice new coping strategies and self-care even through it all, is really valuable. Valuable for anyone with BPD I bet, and also valuable for some of us with related challenges. Thank you for your hard work in finding new ways forward that work for you, and for all you share.
Thank you all for sharing. This must be very hard and it is so relateble 😘
The first time I saw my pwbpd self harm it was shocking and frightened me immensely. She was unaware of what was wrong with her at that time and now with awareness and a desire to get better I sincerely hope the self harming will fade in her rear view mirror. She's a beautiful person who doesn't deserve the turmoil she has endured.
I did a lot of research into this terrible urge to self harm and the best explanation I got was that it's a maladaptive meditation. Hopefully everyone who suffers can get proper diagnosis, treatment and learn healthy coping mechanisms for life's challenges. Good luck to everyone fighting this battle.
thank you for sharing 💙
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Thank you so much for creating this channel and sharing these perspectives! I am at a point in my own recovery journey where it's really helpful to hear from those in functional recovery because I'm just not sure what it might look like for myself. Thank you!! Please keep the videos coming!
THANK YOU SO MUCH, Xannie and this episode’s panel! 👏👏👏
I can relate to so many things you all shared. Special shout-out to Alex because I feel like I related the most to everything you shared in this episode. Keep up the great work, everyone! You sharing your experiences breaks the stigma and inspires other people with BPD to tell their stories too! 😁
Its so nice to hear you related so much 🥲 -Alex
First, thank you to all of The Bunch!
Second, the T skill of the TIPP Skills is SO powerful! When I first heard about it, I thought that it couldn't really be that great. But I figured, why not try it? The worst case would be that I get a wet face in addition to self harming or breaking something. I was so amazed the first time that I used it. As pointed out a bowl of ice water isn't typically handy outside of the home, but I have taken steps to cope ahead when possible by taking along a re-freezable ice pack (as one would use in a lunch pail) to situations that I know may be triggering. It doesn't work as quickly as the bowl of ice water, but it sure beats the alternative.
Thank you for creating this channel. I find it very encouraging. I was diagnosed with BPD around 18yo. I am currently in my mid 30s and after a difficult journey I am much much better than I was yet have to keep aware of my thoughts and behaviours. I haven't been suicidal in a longtime, though it is very reassuring to see you all talking about suicidality and self harm in a non judging and empathetic way whilst at the same time not encouraging it.
I'm new here. I got my dx in 2017, but my husband said we couldn't afford DBT. I did manage to get about 2 months or so of tx before he found out about the cost. Anyway, since then in 2023 my husband of 18 years divorced me. ... Long story short, if anyone ever doubted I truly had BPD, let's just say they don't anymore. I'm struggling a lot now with all these symptoms. I really need GFs like all of you right now. I really appreciate all the work that goes into each and every episode. I hope someday I'll actually be in functional recovery and y'all inspire me. Thank you
Thank you all for your sharing of your experience, strategies, and journies.
@12.00 made me tear up. That poor poor girl.
I want to thank you all for being so open. This is helping me understand myself better.
So glad you all spoke so openly, honestly and with hopefullness about suicide, I can imagine how validating that was for so many ppl
I can do relate to what's being said. Best thing is bpd gets better with age. Emotions are easier to manage as you age.
Thank you all so much for sharing this information. This really helps me understand a person very close to me and to be better there for her.
I like the editing style. This is a great idea and creative
Had to learn the hard way that my self-harm acted like a beacon for predators.
Is tattooing myself self harm i think so like putting the pain on the outside so i can see it
I could relate with motive that says I want to show people how much I´m hurt and how bad I feel b4 them. 2 months back I felt really out of control in my situation, so I self-harmed and only two close people know the fact that I self-harmed. However in my sense is self-harm much broader than cutting wrist, bcs I experienced it also in form of sexual masochism, emotional punishment from others etc.
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@@AL-sg2jd no I meant self-harm by cutting my wrist-this know only two people, if I know
For me self harm was also embarrasing. I did not want people to see it and i covered the marks. I did it more When my anger was so intense and i didnt know what to do with All! of that. Somehow feeling the pain with the cuts helped me free that anger .
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Me me me me me. You guys screw ppl over and only care about yourselves
There is so much misunderstanding, shame, and regret. I'm afraid of my age. I never will understand myself fully if it wasn't for one of my family members today. I would probably follow through with my suicide idolization. I have convinced myself not to live past 70-year-old
I was always told.. “Andrea, you’re a big bag of emotions” in response to the 36 minute mark. 🥹