The Biggest Problems in the Gay Community: Social media, Dating apps, and Cliques

0:00 - 4:50 - Intro
4:50 - 9:50 - Definition of community and feeling disconnected
9:50 - 22:00 - Social Media - Insta gays and idealized bodies
22:00 - 36:30 - Dating apps - the digital bathhouse culture
36:30 - 41:50 - Sex addiction - the constant need to hookup
41:50 - 1:02:00 - Cheating and abusive relationships
1:02 - 1:15:00 - Friendships and toxic cliques - feeling excluded from a community
1:15:00 - 1:19:45 - Gay pride - what do we have to be proud of?

[@jonathan.tyler.callanta]

This is such a profound, thoughtful, and inspiring video. I really enjoyed listening to your insights and I agree with everything that you have said. You are like a breathe of fresh air because listening to you made me realize that I'm not alone in this 'community' that thinks and feels this way as well. Sometimes its really difficult to just navigate the realities of this dating era but I also strive to be optimistic that there are other men who share the same values as we do. I always thought that not just for gay men, but literally everybody in today's dating era need more opportunities to organically connect and be more open with each other. We all need to come together somehow...Thank you so much for sharing! I support you and your ideals! You are truly inspiring!

[@PsychedPerspective]

Everything you were saying is so true. I have definitely experienced the preference back-and-forth conversations. Speaking as an intersex, trans guy. I am often not peoples preferences and I know that. I know I’m not conventional. Which I respect peoples right to their preferences. And at the same time, is it a preference or is it a no. The reason I ask this is, you’re essentially borrowing yourself from meaning, potentially great people based off of superficial, surface level, and materialistic factors. Because will be the love of your life but because you have a preference to only date cis, gender people, you would never meet that person. Just like that person that’s ““ feminine could probably be the love of your life, but because people have the preference of no fans you’re not going to meet that person. And similar to what you said, I have also talk to people that were “” conventionally attractive, and they were some of the most ignorant airhead. It ain’t about shit people you’ve ever met. Because in my experience often times the conventionally attractive people they know they’re attractive and that’s the only thing they’re bringing to the table is there looks in sex that’s it.

[@loredelore7286]

Your loved lovable and lovely 💚