Nah, they weren't interested in "saving" anyone. The only thing she was interested in was the money she would make from vlogging the adoption. Her channel was tiny, and she knew adoptions get tons of views. Her channel blew up when she vlogged the adoption. Huxley was nothing but a cash cow for her and when she no longer needed money, she just got rid of him.
JulianaHereOnEarth Agreed. White saviorism is never about saving anyone, it’s about the savior themselves and themselves only. I’m sure she wanted the channel growth that came with documenting the adoption and saw “rescuing” a poor child from China as a nice side effect that would make her appear to be compassionate. Just can’t believe they had another kid in the midst of this and thought it would solve anything?
you know what? my parents adopted two little kids with mental health issues, and sh*t got real hard - but guess what? they didn't toss us back, they got help. this situation makes me want to punch the screen. imagine adding additional trauma to a child who already has mental health issues and likely already experienced more than their fair share of trauma already... so angry at this
my little brother was adopted and we found out he has autism when he was around five years old. my parents would never consider throwing him back in the system like this
Elizabeth Shipp it’s not safe for the child or parents because it is the FAULT of the parents.. for being so naïve and illogical about the reality of adopting a child with special needs! It is their stupid ass faults for further traumatizing that child!!! Do not dismiss their actions when they were so deeply flawed. They should have seen reality for what it was instead of acting on their savior complex.
I think it depends with each case. i have a low functioning autistic cousin. it was hard but he was manageable with a lot of effort and money when he was a young (they were somewhat wealthy). Then he went through puberty and it became a nightmare. Suddenly he had sexual urges and uncontrolled emotions/anger, all bottled up in a soon-to-be man's body. He's become a threat to people and it's so sad and scary. It's not always a Lifetime movie with a happy ending if you put enough time into it. They're trying to find some home that can take him so they can get him out of the house for safety, but no one will have him. I know they love him, but he's also destroyed their family.
@whateverforever Thank your parents for all of us for still letting us have a sliver of hope that there are great adoptive parents in the world. Gives me hope that this little boys next family is more like yours!
THIS. I have thought this for such a long time! There are so many hateful people that say gay couples should not be allowed to adopt a child because it’s going to be a horrible and unhealthy environment for the child, but we never really hear about gay couples treating a child like this.. so really are we sure that’s the most toxic situation for a kid? Ugh. I am in a same sex relationship myself and things like this infuriate me. I hope that little boy is going to an amazing family. 💛
There are also people who can't physically have biological children, and spend years and years on the waiting list just to get the opportunity to possibly adopt a child. It would literally mean the world to them. And Myka and her husband (can't remember his name) laughed in the face of that and treated it like no big deal.
@@rubysilverburg1937 nobody said sexual orientation dictates humanity??? Gay couples are more often than not, denied the right to adopt. People who have been in super long term relationships, stable, loving people, have been denied the chance to raise a child because of who they love. Meanwhile you have a straight couple get approved and adopt a child, just to give him away like an animal. Why are gay people denied adoption? Because 'children need a mom and a dad. Otherwise its toxic' according to most people in power in the world. More toxic and traumatic, apparently, than being adopted and abandoned over and over again because while they look for any reason to deny a gay couple a child, they seem to do the opposite for wealthy straight couples who just want to use him for money and views.
He was always treated like an ‘other’ in their family. The dad said they would put him to bed early so they could have alone time with the other kids and his wife. That makes my skin crawl.
At the very least they need to take all the money they made off the child and put it into a trust fund or something. At the very least they can put HIS money into a trust with regulations that help the new parents raise him and pay for his education or something.
Yes! It feels extra exploitative if they give him nothing from all that monetization. Like child actors. Imagine if your parents used you as a baby to make money and saved none for you and then gave you away (so then people who weren't your parents, just temporary caretakers, did this)
Another victim in this story is their current children. Could you imagine being a little kid and finding out your brother is being abandoned?? Children don’t think like adults. They probably think they’re next
Honestly she seemed to separate Huxley from her other children, who shed refer to as her "bio" children and treated him a lot differently. I can't imagine what she's told her other children as to why Huxley isn't in their family anymore, but I have a feeling it isn't good.
I’ve been crying about this. They watched their disabled brother be pushed out. And not to mention he probably had that “bad kid” label of the family. If I was a kid and saw my disabled brother act out I think it’s because he’s bad not because of his mental disorders. And so they saw him be “bad” and now they probably live in fear if they are bad they will get sent away. 😭 I want to hug them so close and keep them safe. All these children are suffering.
They’re white, they know they’re ok. The person who this damages the most is the boy. He might face suicidal thoughts because of abandonment and trauma. The other kids never were relinquished. - I’m adopted as a brown child in a white family and always feared I would be sent back. This is so triggering.
That’s a fucking joke right look how many parents rehome foster kids if it’s not a good fit you don’t get to force it. Way to go for comparing children and dogs though.
I knew of a couple from my parent’s church who were in the process of adopting two little boys (brothers) and were fostering them at the time. They had them for at least a couple of years, and the boys both called them mommy and daddy. They ended up getting pregnant and IMMEDIATELY stopped the adoption process and sent the boys back into the foster system because they had heard they could be “hostile” towards there new child that wasn’t even born. I lost all respect for them.
That is truly despicable. Biological children can be jealous of a new baby. I didn’t throw them in the foster care system because of it. I bet they still consider themselves good Christians too. Smh.
Holy shit?? I don't understand how you can foster kids for Years even and you don't love them??? They're basically your kids already??? Thats extremely cruel and horrible psychologically
They didn't want to step up and be parent's, they wanted a child of a different race like they wanted a pure bred puppy. They talked about him finding his "forever home" like he was pet,Disturbing. They knew he was special needs and needed extra care before they adopted him. Seems to me they thought he'd be magically healed when they adopted him.
@@DiscClub6 a common misconception apparently, many people whether it's their child or not seem to think they'll "grow out of it". I'm very happy autism and development issues are talked about more nowadays.
I’m wondering actually how they will manage if they was living in another country, where rehoming don’t exist and forbidden by government ? I’ve heard about this family, and discover what “rehoming” is. I do not understand how it is legally possible. As this concept or comparable ones do not exist in Europe. I hope this horrible situation will help to put in place legal protection for kids, and obligation for parents to deal with and justify they act facing a court. Perhap’s capricious and irresponsible people will think twice before. I hope that all this horrible situation helps finally this little guy to meet caring and responsible persons on his way.. 🤞🤞🤞
Exactly this, the way they said "forever home" was incredibly disturbing. The fact that they claimed to not know the extent of the child's disabilities and used that as an excuse was truly disgusting. When you give birth to a child you aren't give a list of problems they're going to have once they come out, you don't know and you deal if and when they come along and you make it work because it's your CHILD. If you aren't prepared to treat an adopted child this way, you have no business adopting a child. As an adopted child this absolutely sickens me, my sibling and I are both adopted and neither one of us have been a picnic for our adopted parents but they dealt with the situations and didn't try to get rid of us because that's what you do when you become a parent. Children being re-homed is a sick process that shouldn't be legal. These people are sick and they fact that anyone can watch them after this and think otherwise is completely f*cked up. They clearly adopted this child for RUclips views. How sick.
Go off sis!!! When you said I’m gettin way to emotional about this I realized how mad I was with you!!! Adopting a child isn’t a game. Either do it or fucking don’t.
Family vloggers saying "REspeCt oUr PriVAcY" infuriates me to the core. How are you gonna sit there and act like a victim when you're the one exposing your child's whole god damn life on the internet knowing full well what internet can do to a person?! How about YOU stop invading your child's privacy and get a decent job like other decent parents (or make videos that dosen't involve their child)?? Some self-awarenes would be really nice for these people. Also, how are we not talking about the power dynamic between a parent and a child? How can a child consent, or more importantly object to parents when your parents literally hold your rights of life? Grownups can easily manipulate/sway a child into doing things that can have detrimental effect. Especially if you're the parent, all you need is a toy and a snack. That's all the "persuasion" they need for the children to do things that can haunt them for the rest of their life. A CHILD CAN NOT CONSENT. It's that simple. Bring me a child who fully understands the consequences of putting your whole life on the internet, you can't because they're children for god sakes.
THISSSS. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 a child cannot consent to be on the internet! They have no idea what’s going on! AND if they could, they should be paid for their participation.
EXACTLY!!!!! They made bank off of exploiting this child, but when people want answers as to why he was dumped like an unwanted dog, they're all about protecting his privacy. Gtfoh.
This whole situation disgusts me. They completely exploited this child. They went out of their way to adopt a child with special needs and used him to make money.
I can see why it would seem that way. I just don’t feel like anyone would go through the emotional turmoil and everything they did to adopt a child and then make this decision. I DONT think it was an easy decision to make for them. I don’t think they WANTED to do this. Regardless of everything, they are still human being with emotions and feelings. They wouldn’t willingly make this decision if they didn’t care one way or the other because they knew based on the video posted, that they were going to get a lot of backlash for it. Why put themselves through exactly this if it was just for money. I just don’t see it.
I used to watch a channel called "Texan In Tokyo." They were a young married couple living in Japan, vlogging about their daily life and their channel was really taking off. Then, one day they announced that they would no longer be filming because they were thinking about starting a family and did not want to film their children and put them on the internet. I missed them like crazy and still re-watch their videos but I respected the hell out of Grace and Ryosuke for making this tough decision and just walking away. THIS is what true respect for your children's privacy looks like. What this family is doing is BS. You can't monetize your kid when you want to and then claim to be protectung their privacy when you make a douchebag move.
some women, even with their own children, talk about having babies like they’re collecting objects and it really creeps me out. i myself would never even consider motherhood unless i could give 100% of myself to my child.
Not a mother and not planning to because of personal issues but I do feel very motherly instincts. I'm sick to my stomach thinking of myself caring for this baby and then years later sending him away. I get chills. I couldn't live.
Mom to 2 here and real talk: really caring for kids and a household is damn hard and takes everything from you. My work days are 16+ hours, no weekends, no holidays, no payment. It is so time consuming to entertain them, teach, clean, dress, feed them, work them out and soothe them, and on top of that do everything to manage a full household, including shopping, cooking, cleaning, sorting, folding, washing, repairing, building, planning, driving etc. And then youre supposed to work on the side, be active + fit, maintain a happy relationship AND have downtime because mental health (haha). And during all this you endure pregnancy, childbirth and a newborn. How in the world can anybody have more than 2 kids?!?? Why would you want more?? More work, more responsibility, less time. I am convinced that something has to suffer severly when you have more than 2 and no outside help. You either dont spend much time with your kids / your house is a mess / you dont cook ever / you have lost yourself completely. I also believe that women who have kid after kid are selfish. It is impossible to give every kid the attention they deserve and need with so many responsibilities. They just fulfill some need/trauma/fantasy of themselves.
I hate it. The fact they expect a child with disabilities to handle being abandoned but they can’t handle MeAn CoMmEnTs, you monetized your adoption process you can handle the back lash. It sucks and I’m sure some of it’s straight up nasty. But you want to know what is also nasty? Putting a child with disabilities out of your family because you can’t handle it.
Not just RUclips, all websites should child protection laws. There are a lot of people who keep posting their young children on instagram for likes and followers.
They make it sound like they feel ripped off. They didn't know about all of his FUTURE needs because he was only two years old. Developmental disabilities cannot be specifically diagnosed that young because it's just too early to be sure. That's why toddlers get the label "developmentally/speech delayed" and it's updated to be more precise when they're older. It may just genuinely be a delay, or it may be the budding roots of significant disabilities. I was a baby with a delay that turned out to genuinely just be a delay. I still couldn't sit up unsupported by seven months. It turned out that I just learned that skill later than most babies, but it also was a warning sign that perhaps I'd have neuro or muscular issues. I don't. My brother was diagnosed with developmental and speech delays that turned out to not just be delays. He's severely intellectually disabled and severely Autistic. If he's capable of understanding what happened to him, it'll really fuck with his head. I can't imagine how I would have felt if my parents literally gave my little brother away because he was who he was. This is straight up like if my parents gave away my brother at age four because him being nonverbal and freshly diagnosed as Autistic was too hard. It WAS really hard, and my mom has a story of breaking down sobbing in the pediatrician's office because she didn't know what the hell was wrong with her kid and why he couldn't talk and refused to sleep in a bed. They never considered putting him up for adoption. They just asked for resources to help their baby because he had a problem and needed help.
That’s one of the things that disturbs me most about this situation. As Hannah said, if it had been one of their biological children, rehoming him wouldn’t have been an option. But because he’s adopted, it’s suddenly acceptable to put him through the trauma of finding a new placement? I’m trying to be careful in my judgement as someone who doesn’t have kids or ever plan to, but I’m just so sad for this little boy.
Amanda Charlebois I can understand your point of view but as behavior therapist who has first hand seen how kids with severe autism can be extremely violent towards their parents and siblings to the point where they self isolate in their own home - and this is even with intensive therapy since an early age - when it concerns your child as far as I know you don’t just have the option to “rehome” them. It’s scary, it’s intimidating, it’s enough to give you a breakdown. But you can’t give the child up. I’ve been a witness and subject to extreme behavioral outbursts. But the point of therapy is to work through those and find an opportunity to teach a more functional way to express themselves. That takes intensive repetition and reward for behavior change. And young children, especially with autism, can be inadvertently rewarded for behavior that can be hard to change causing them to engage in it, even when not functional. It takes time to teach functional behavior and make it stick. It’s not impossible. It’s just an ongoing process.
This whole situation is so upsetting. My older brother has ASD and this hits close to home. I really hope these people do stop putting their children in videos
These family vloggers will never stop. Too much money and they love the fame/notoriety. One of the reasons I stopped watching any family vloggers is I felt like they were pimping their kids w/o any regard for the child.
I'm autistic, and we often times face discrimination when we want to have kids and adopt. Yet, these degenerates get to adopt kids for clout, then throw them away like they are broken toys.
If my biological child physically or emotionally abused my other biological child due to his disabilities, you best believe I would do something about that. For their safety, for both of them, I would even consider temporary or permanent removal from our home. I wouldn't completely disown him, but still we need to somehow find the solution if the behavioural therapy doesn't work out. I'm not putting my kids through hell when it's not necessary. I don't know Myka's REAL reason. Kids are already difficult to deal with these days, let alone with mentally disabled ones. Let's not fool ourselves, if this boy was still unborn and women found out about his disabilities, big part of them would have aborted him.
@@milicadjordjevic4498 i understand yout perspective, i do. I hope to never be in a position where 1 of my kids is a threat to my other kids. I dont know how I would react. Yes, of course i would do all I can to protect my kids, but the "dangerous child" in this scenario is also my child and I would do everything in my power to help ALL of my children. While I also see your point that if such issues were known while the child were still a fetus, many would abort.... thats not what happened here. In the case of a biological child and parent, you can truthfully say the parents "didnt think they signed up for that" (although in reality you sign up for every possibly when you have a child, and most still wouldn't "rehome" a difficult, biological, child). But in this case, they DID "sign up for that". They basically Asked for a very challenging child, but once they got what they asked for they changed their mind.
I totally agree. I've had some very challenging dogs which pushed me to learn about how to deal with difficult behavior. Something these people needed to do, and then stick with it.
@@AlisonCasilli Hopefully he is in a loving, patient home. It's hard to be unwanted. My parents didn't want me, it still stings even though I know they loved me.
I rehomed a dog when I was so poor I could barely even afford food for myself. The old couple had a farm for him to run free & be happy on, but damn I cried all the way home. The woman still tags me in pictures she takes of him on Facebook. If I had such a strong reaction to giving away my dog I could never give away a kid, that's for damn sure.
I would never rehome a child I had adopted, he same way I would never give my biological child up for adoption. Once they’re my baby, they will stay my baby!
I had a cousin adopted from China. He got cancer and died just 5 years after they adopted him. Did my aunt and uncle give him away when he was diagnosed? Was it “too much” for them? NO?! Hell no! They moved across the country to live with him at St Jude, quit jobs, put life on HOLD. Because he was their SON. This Stauffer family is a disgust to me.
“YOU took his privacy away.” EXACTLY. This poor boy. It makes me sick that this happened to him and I hope the family he’s with now truly loves and cares for him.
They SPECIFICALLY wanted a child with special needs and justified it by saying how she used to be a nurse, the both KNEW about his health and conditions, so why bother trying to play oblivious now as if they didn't create their entire following off of "adopting a foreign special needs kid" - they used him for fame and money and it's disgusting. WATCH THE BLOGGER "WITHOUT A CRYSTAL BALL" she has MULTIPLE VIDEO RECEIPTS FROM THEIR OLD VIDS AND BREAKS IT DOWN WELL
Yes And he was so little when he was adopted! So he really sees them as his parents!! He grew up with them. They where his parents and siblings!! He wil cry every night because he misses his family. Imagine the pain and confusion on huxley😢. Also he is autistic do you know how bad this wil affect him. He is away from is save place and structure that he need as someone with autism.
I'm honestly so tired of mommy/family vloggers. They're all the same. Big, white decorated houses, everything is just so fake. Not to mention exploiting their children who cannot consent. Not my vibe I guess as a mother myself.
Tamakingston 20......I absolutely feel exactly how you do about family vloggers!!!! Are you watching the The Dad Challenge Podcast youtube channel??? He is doing everything he can to get children off social media!
@@mariaGarcia-su6yv I believe that Angelina Jolie is a genuine person who adopted out of love for kids. That's why I said "To look as angelic as Angelina Jolie"
@@eftcafe2443 yeah but what Marie meant was that Angelina J. didn't exploit her adopted kids for one, she didn't need to. and that's why They will never be angelic at all.
They litterally bought a mansion and had enough money to have another child after they adopted him, they could afford getting him at home help if it was that hard for them a lot of parents dont have the money or acess to resources that they have and they care for their kids
In my opinion she could have also left youtuber to care for him in the way he needed. The husband has his channel and it doesnt look like they are struggling. Its called sacrifice and there are parents that do just that everyday.
Bailey Wilson I completely agree. I think they were at least thinking about giving him back when they had another child. Why add another baby to the mix if they were so stressed. This story is so heartbreaking. I truly hope Huxley is ok.
Woah. Honestly, people should try to get this going. They might even do it for views. But it will still go to him and his family. This thought will never cross their minds on their own, though
This baby was adopted to be a character in a youtube series. That’s it. When they realized the return on their investment wasn’t good enough they shipped him off to somewhere he should’ve been all along
Update: Myka just put a copyright strike on kat blaque’s video on this situation. Watching Kat’s video now puts money in myka’s pocket. Woman knows no shame
I was adopted at age 8, and the next 10 years were incredibly difficult for my parents. I came with several mental health issues and intense PTSD. However, no matter how hard it got, my parents never "rehomed" me. Because they were my parents. They understood, that when they adopted me, it was for forever. That they were taking me from a group home, and giving me a family, and family stays together. I wasn't a pet that they could just "rehome" if I wasn't fun anymore. I'm shaking with anger as I write this. I've always been so angry that our society doesn't care about foster children, and this lady proves it. She treated the child like an accessory, made tons of money, and now she's dumped him off since he's too hard to handle. Guess he's not a good enough asset anymore.
Cheri Mendez Please, don’t dwell on this. I say that for *your* sake. For *your* heart. You had the great good fortune to find parents who love you and committed to you and, Lord willing, Huxley has too. These creatures will be paying for their horrible behavior.
I'm glad your parents did not abandon you and helped raise you into an awesome person. Yes, those people did treat this boy like an accessory and it is infuriating.
my brother and I are adopted from China, he has special needs and I don't. The agency was very thorough in educating the parents about the pros and cons of adopting children from china and adopting a special needs kid. The knew what they were getting into. The people don't get to be called parents. They don't deserve that label. People like this disgust me and shouldn't have a platform. Children are not business transactions.
As a mom of an adopted son who has special needs, this. makes. me. SICK! I feel no compassion for all the crap these people are getting and you know another thing? Adoption expenses are fully refunded come tax time so these people made money off their child's adoption also by raising money (via Go Fund Me or whatever) prior to his adoption. If that little boy had an attachment disorder before, this will 100% make this worse, not better. Of course, they did duct tape their son's thumb (to stop him from sucking it, probably) so maybe he will be better off without them. I also feel bad for their other children who will think children are expendable and will wonder if they're next.
Maybe things have changed, but my adoption expenses were not refunded. We did get about 12,000? back. But our adoption cost about 40,000. This was a Russian adoption ten years ago.
@@elainerobeck6895 Yes, I've heard adopting from Russia is very expensive! A couple from our church adopted three children at once. We adopted from the foster care system and it cost us $40 for a birth certificate and duplicate birth certificate.
They are not fully refunded! There is a tax credit of $12-13k but our adoption was over $25k so we paid A LOT out of pocket and we adopted domestically!
They are trash. Simple as that. They monetized Huxley, then discarded him when the new baby came along. They gave him away like he was a litter from a cat.
My theory is that they were trying to get pregnant with a fourth child, but maybe idk the father's sperm was trash and it wasn't working, so they decided to kill two birds with one stone and adopt a special needs child. Then, when she finally got pregnant with the fifth child, they gave up Huxley
I think you hit the nail on the head. They probably wanted a fourth child and when they got pregnant, well they didn't need their new token adopted child. So sad and horrible. I hope Huxley is taken into and raised by a loving, cherishing family who tells him how important he really is.
@Melissa Callia, thank you for doing what you do. My husband and I are just now seeking help for our 11 yr old daughter for her behavior issues. I'm praying we find someone as compassionate as you are to help her and us. We love our little girl so much and just want her to be happy. Itll also be nice to not get screamed at every day..lol! Ugh! ❤
I thought it was weird that they’re saying the adoption agency decided it’d be better to find a different family for the child.... that’s not how adoption works? The agency wouldn’t have put him in their home if they weren’t a good fit. However there usually is a few month long period where the adopting parents can back out. I’m guessing that’s what happened. Now they wanna pretend it’s out of their control. Edit: Someone said they had the boy for three years holy that’s horrible if so. I thought they had him for a much shorter time.
From what I research "rehoming" ois a shady business. Because they don;t go through the prper channels - ie Foster care, their adoption agencies. The process is regulated the new home needs to have a home study done, the new parents vetted, adopted parents have to terminate their rights through the court etc. Apparently the Stauffer didn't do that becasue the Ohio foster care system, child services were not involved and there are no laws prevent a parent(s) from throwing their child into another home and abandoned them without contacting Child Services. Also their adoption agency wasn't contact either (they woudl have followed a similar protocol. The representative from Ohio stated that they can't get involved unless the child was abused or neglected!? (WHT? How is this NOT abuse AND neglect????) This is literally what they said to reporters!
I’m not sure what you would call this. This is so uncommon, I don’t think there is a good term for it. There probably shouldn’t be a word that exists to describe it because it shouldn’t happen. But what would you think is a better way to address it? Re-adopted? Honestly I’ve never even heard of the term re-home till now. This is just awful.
Can you imagine the trauma the rest of their children will grow with as well - the fear that if they become too inconvenient or troublesome their parents might give them away?
They showed their children that they’re disposable and that’s a feeling a child should *never* have to experience it, Hux and the biological children equally.
There’s a video that she posted saying BEFORE she adopted him a doctor told her how severe his condition can be and that it could be difficult for them to care for him - maybe they shouldn’t go through with the adoption. Myka’s response: “that information went in one ear and out the other..i’ll always love my son”. yet you give him up.. okay.
“In one ear and out the other” she literally said that she didn’t take what he said seriously. This woman is ridiculous. I hope that poor baby boy is in a good home now
Doctor: *warns Myka of the child's condition* Myka: "That information went in one ear and out the other (because I'm going to make a lot of money and fame off this child)... I'll always love my son (until he's no longer useful to my influencer career)"
I just hate this disconnect between having biological children and adopted children. When you choose to adopt a child you need to then treat that child as you would your own biological child. Would she rehome her biological child? Adopted children shouldnt be treated like trial cases or "returnable goods". They are human beings. And they are now *your* child.
I agree. I at first wasn't sure why so many people were so upset that they did this, because I'd only read the headlines, and I thought they'd had the kid for a week or so and then made this decision... It's still not right, but more understandable I guess if they realized that maybe this "being a parent" thing wasn't for them. That way it would seem like it was to the benefit of the child. But this is terrible
Exactly! My youngest is adopted. I had two older children when he was adopted. I NEVER have and never will refer to my youngedt as my adopted son! He is my son, period! He ended up having multiple developmental issues but my husband and I would have never given up on him!
I don't think there's a lot of countries outside the usa where you can """rehome""" children as if they were some merchandize... The fact that it's a legal possibility might not help... It's very sick...
Capuc!ne Chaussonpassion I’m not so sure how “legal” it is here either. Allegedly, they did not go through their adoption agency to “re-home” him (their words which disgusts me) while I do know that Ohio CPS has stated that they are not involved so he was not relinquished to state custody. Nothing about this situation seems kosher.
my opinion: Children who are working on youtube should have the SAME regulations as child actors. These kids are exploited for views, no one who still watches the ACE family watches for Catherine and the guy they watch for their kids. Its gross their kids didnt get a choice to be on camera.
I watch a lot of teen mom channels here on RUclips and most of them do haul videos and daily vlogs and their kids are in the background of the video unless its like a birthday video, etc. I still agree that kids having their identities on the internet from birth should be entitled to some portion of the parent's income in a account for their future. But I think it can be ok if its done as a lifestyle/mom channel with babies featured occasionally throughout the video. But I hate how severely the ACE family exploits their girls
They wanted a perfect picture life with a adopted child to make them look like saints and boost their RUclips channel. She posted on a Facebook group asking for the easiest disability that others think is hard to care for. They just wanted the attention and money. Turns out its extremely hard to take care of a special needs child /s. The photos of him with ductape on his arm to stop him sucking his thumb broke my heart. Plus the video of her complaing about paying for his therapy while wearing thousands of dollars of jewelry. This kid got screwed. They "rehomed" him like a dog of craiglist. Yes, he has severe problems but they knew. They play victim and say China lied to them but they knew fully. Go back and watch the videos. When you adopt you're accepting everything about that child and to help and care for them. To be their PARENT. She completely failed. She deserves no sympathy. She knew what she was getting into and thought it was cute and good content. They should've left China without him because they knew it wasn't going to work out then and there but kept going for the sake of social media. This poor child's life was hell for the sake of RUclips content. I pray that this child can heal from losing his original family, country and new parents and siblings. I hope this doesn't damage his siblings from losing him. This is truly so sad and devastating. Thank you for making this video.
The duct tape infuriated me, especially if she knew he had autism. Children with autism use thumbsucking as a way to stim, or an action they repeat because I helps their brain to process what is happening/how they're feeling, so she was essentially taking away what was probably one of his few comforts and ways to process and probably shaming him for it expecting it to be fine. Not letting autistic children be autistic is abuse as someone who IS autistic I can attest that not letting autistic children be who they are is severely traumatizing an the fact that they seemed to be going down that route of "treatment" makes me so happy that boy isn't with them anymore
F Santos I think a good question to ask these defenders is if it was one of her biological children that was diagnosed with autism would they also be placed in a “forever home”?
Kathatherine C that’s what I asked myself as well. Also, they knew beforehand that the child had special needs (which wouldn’t happen with a biological child). They were so irresponsible not only for doing something so important as adopting a child just for the sake of it, the exploit him for money on their channel, and then toss him out. It was her bio child, they wouldn’t have done it. This whole situation is crazy.
I was re-homed, my two biological sisters were re-homed, it's dehumanizing and left us all with years of emotional trauma. At one point, one of the foster families shopped my sister around by taking her on "play dates" with potential families. I remember realizing what was happening and panicking but also unable to tell my sister to stop playing with these people's kids. The uncertainty and emotional back and forth is devastating. Adoption is a promise - these people said they were his forever home and then gave him up. That really, really hurts - and I say that as just a human and a person who was re-homed 4 times by folks who all said they were my forever family.
100% agree, but I am ok with the back lash they are getting for this. Since they did the investigation it came out that H is with a new family and happy and smiling. So he is happier and he deserves to be loved completely!
My problem is that she specifically went looking for a child with additional needs while she had small children with their own needs at home. What was the rush? I know, channel views.
The really strange thing is that while she was going through all these “challenges” with Huxley, she was posting in adoption groups about actively seeking out another child to adopt. From China. She was allegedly soooo overwhelmed with Huxley that she had to give him up, yet she was basically shopping for Chinese orphans online during that time. It just doesn’t compute for me.
Big difference between wanting to adopt a special needs child to help them with their need to improve the child’s quality of life than wanting a special needs child to make themselves seem like good ppl.
Right?! And she also had a fourth biological child! As soon as that new baby was in the picture they replaced him. Her husband JAMES is just as accountable! If life was so difficult with Huxley why on earth would they have a newborn? Then after they put him in foster care went on an island vacation!? While they were on vacation they were blocking and deleting comments about Huxley. Ugh just so gross all around.
One thing that really rubbed me the wrong way, they talked about the "unknowns" of adoption. And how they weren't prepared. That's literally what parenting is. Regardless of how you get your child. You don't know what their gender, (dis)abilities, personality, talents, possible traumas they experience throughout their lives will be. They knew more than most parents do going into it. Why are they using that as an excuse? Just ugh. I'm heartbroken for this little boy. And his (former?) siblings. Imagine wondering if your parents will get rid of you too.
Maybe Myka should have not ignored the doctors concerns regarding the child’s health and subsequent needs, perhaps she could of educated herself beyond the bare minimum in order to gauge whether or not she could provide adequate care for this child, perhaps she could of not been so ignorant and smug regarding her abilities to rear this child, sadly though this woman seemed determined from the start to hand select a special needs child from a foreign country in order to gain clout and look like the savior of the family RUclips community. I feel for this innocent babe who will not be unscathed by this traumatic event, as well as his former siblings who must now grieve the absence of a sibling that was a part of their lives for 3 years.
Exactly. If this was their bio kid, you bet your ass it never would have even occurred to them to give him up. But because this was a little 'foreign' accessory Myka got for clout and to satisfy her savior complex, the moment things got hard, they dumped him. They viewed this kid the same way people view purebred dogs, such as huskies-they buy them for the aesthetic because they're adorable when they're puppies, but the moment they grow up and become what they're supposed to be-strong, stubborn high energy sled dogs-they dump them, because they suddenly require a lot of work, and aren't a cute little ornament any more. Fuck these two honestly.
As a person with autism (and a psychotherapist) and raising a son with autism this story truly breaks my heart. Children with autism already have so much difficulty connecting and I can't imagine how this child must feel at this moment. I can only hope that this child finds a loving and caring home that's filled with kindness and compassion. Anyone that reads this remember this, people on the spectrum are different not less.
Aren't there studies that autustic behavior can be a reaction due to a narcisistic unloving parent? I am not officially diagnosed so I may be not well informed. I read something about a mother who does not hug their children so the children themselves can start not wanting physical contact. The doctors can't distinguish which one is nurture and which is nature. I am not saying this about you, but can imagine it being the case with Huxley.
@@angelikalaser7778 no, there is a lot of false information going around (by parents and organizations that want to 'cure' us and commit eugenics essentially). so you might be informed by this, but i can assure you that this is wrong. autistic people (such as me) are this since birth and does not develop later on in life or in response to something. some people might on the other hand argue that 'autism becomes less bad as you grow old', but this is rather a case of autistics being forced to change behaviour until we behave in an acceptable way. this is done through social pressure, as well as highly abusive systems such as in ABA therapy. (autistic self-advocates have argued against this abusive method but sadly ABA is still a thing in multiple countries.) however, bonding with someone and learning new communication forms can indeed be harder when the parent is so neglectful. but 'autistic behaviour' is not in response to neglect, as autism is inherent. i highly advice looking at autistic-led initiative ASAN ( autisticadvocacy.org/ ) and also avoid Autism Speaks (which seeks a cure for autism (it's not an illness!) and protects abusive parents).
I have 3 kids. 2 are diagnosed with autism and we suspect that our third child is as well. It can be difficult, it certainly has been in different ways, but they’re my children and I wouldn’t change them for anything. And I certainly wouldn’t dump them in foster care because they weren’t what I expected. This story makes me so angry.
when you adopt a child, they become YOURS. if one of her biological children had similar problems, I’m sure it would be a totally different outcome. so sad.
She’s from the town next to mine, and I would say that exploiting a child as a means of looking like a saint to others is not just a RUclips thing, it’s also something that people from that upper class area do often. It drives me up a wall.
It doesn't just have to be upper class areas. Upper class people in lower class rural neighborhoods also try and do things to make them look more saintly.
Exactly, I personally know a whole group of people (white privileged 50+ ) who were beyond showing off wealth with material things, they found an adoption lawyer that hooked them up with African babies. It's havoc. They thought it'd be easy. At least half the couples are now separated, some children are outright neglected, not because money is a problem but because those people should not adopt a child. Basically what they did was the equivalent of getting a teacup puppy and showing it off while it's cute, until the puppy is no longer desirable. It's horrific. I actively help one if the moms who is single and adopted one if those babies because I'm very worried and the kid needs a level of normalcy that it's not present. Unfortunately the process was very VERY shady and there's no follow up from social workers. Not in the US btw.
So I'm a pediatric OT, which means my job is to provide therapy to special needs children. I've worked with just about every pediatric diagnosis you can think of, and have seen the wide array of behaviors that can accompany those diagnoses. And let me tell you, the ignorance of these parents appals me. To think you can quickly "fix" developmental delays is ridiculous. Most kids I treat have no shorter than 6 month timelines on their goals (goals like being able to sit at a table for 3 minutes or share a toy). Watching videos to learn about disabilities is absolutely absurd. I spent two years in college learning about these things and I felt completely unprepared the first time I had to treat a child with a delay. Also, so many of my kiddos shut down at the tiniest change in routine. If you're someone who can't handle having lunch 10 minutes later than usual, how do you think you'd handle bouncing from home to home to home? I got a kid on schedule once who wouldn't work with me the first month because I wasn't his old therapist that he had been seeing for 3 years. How do you think he would have reacted to a new set of parents? Sorry for my rant but this situation really, really bothers me... That poor baby. I hope whoever takes him in treats him with all the love and patience he needs, for as long as he needs it.
My partner and I have decided that we don’t want to have children because we feel like we might have selfish reasons to do so. We noticed that every single one of our friends who are parents always tell us things like “You need to have a baby, it’s great it’ll change your life.” 🤔 But what about the child’s life? If we know we aren’t in a great position to properly nurture and care for a child, what’s wrong with deciding parenthood isn’t for us right now?
jesssleeps: and it never stops either...even when you’re over the age of being able to bear children, people will helpfully let you know that you can still adopt! In all seriousness, props to you and your partner. I used to work in social services (and am a huge fan of reproductive responsibility). I wish more people would seriously consider everything having a child actually means before just doing it.
Happy to hear that you both decided that. Unfortunately people will never stop saying something along the lines that you aren't truly happy until you have kids. Recently I got married and almost immediately people asked when I'll get pregnant. Sad thing is I am changing my mind about having kids because of personal health issues and anxiety. I feel like I wouldn't be able to take care of a child when some days I can't take care of myself. My husband wants a family and has been sad about me changing my mind but understands my reasons because he understands I would be the one caring for the child since his job has him working long hours. He worries about me when he is out, I don't want him to worry about more people. Having children is a huge responsibility and a big change in your life. I'm working on my own health to better myself for my own sake, then in the future I'll decide if I'm ready. Hard thing is that not many know this and are urging me to get pregnant, I have tried to explain but they say that having a kid will be the solution. Which just sounds stupid to me, so I stopped explaining and just say I want time to get to know my husband more as a married couple and just be us two. I'll start having kids in the years to come and that seems to be an okay answer that they shut up. Also helps that I'm still in school so I use that as another excuse to not be kid ready yet. Which is hard for me to understand how upset people get when you say you don't want kids in your life. It is your life and you know how you can live it and how you want to live it. Sorry about the little rant.
@@silverstream6063 As a woman who is contentedly child-free by choice (and rarely has to tell anyone that twice), my advice would be to nip it in the bud by looking people in the eyes, take a deep breath and confidently respond: "Husband and I are not focusing on that right now, but I'll call you up if I want to discuss that topic in the future, thanks." Then immediately ask them a question about an unrelated topic to brush past any awkwardness and signal that you've (politely) shut the door on that topic. It's really none of their business. If they press despite that, they're honestly being rude and you could then say, "Actually, that's between _____ and me, and I know a good friend [or "kind person" or "loving Aunt," etc.] like you will respect our desire for privacy." You don't owe them excuses and you don't need to rush-just listen to your heart and focus on your health
I have been married for 16.5 years and people STILL tell me that my husband and I “have” to have kids. I mean, get over it! I keep thinking it’ll stop sometime soon but I assume it’ll take me reaching and going through menopause for people to give up.
But if they did that, they (Cops) could obtain those records. Right? There would be a paper trail. Why would an investigation be underway, if they did it legally? I’m asking, not attacking. Not sure how private adoptions work.
What is disturbing (I've been doing research) is that the "mother" was a Nurse for a brief period of time. She was fired from her first job because she assaulted a pregnant co-worker. There was a video where she literally pushed her son away and said "I don't want to be hugged". Someone posted a tweet the father made ranting against his son for watching him eat. His poor kid was rejected before he was rejected.
i saw some other adoption agency said that myka reached out to them and asked them what kind of disabilities would be easy to manage but other people would think are harder. so she was literally seeking out a child that would make her look good without her actually having to put the work in
I can be understanding of the fact that there are times when adoptions don't work out because it's not the right fit, but they MONETIZED this child's adoption. They used an innocent child for income for years, and then they 'rehomed' him. There are no words for how messed up that is. I hope that his new family will be a really good support and help him flourish!
They should give some of their yt money to the new family or atleast donate it to an org it makes me sick they had the means to get this kid help they just didnt want to.
i hope there's a wave of lawsuits in 15 years or so where all the family vloggers' grown up kids sue them for never having the chance to consent to their entire childhood being irreversibly put online for their parents' selfish gains
As a childhood special education teacher I am horrified at this situation - it is never about how YOU want the child to be progressing, we must be there for these children throughout the highs and lows especially your OWN child
As a foster mother who took in 6 sisters, this story makes me sick. The girls I took in were from 3 months old to 15 years. I went from 0 children to 6 in one day. Each had special needs in different ways and I would NEVER have put their lives on line for others to see. Their story is theirs to tell and not anyone elses. My heart is breaking for this poor little boy!
rachael fredenburg thank you for what you did. You made 6 lives exponentially better. You’re amazing and you set an example for people like Myka Stauffer.
Wow! That was an amazingly selfless thing to do. Best of luck to you and your family. Your story was the antidote for this poor little boy. On a side note, I can’t imagine how much fighting is going on over the bathroom with 6 girls. 😉 I hope you all stay safe and healthy! 😊
@@Julia-bl1qp Well I got those girls back in 1994 and they are all grown up now. I did adopt and now have adoted one of the girls little girl. So 6 girls from one mother, and one child of one of those 6 girls. I have lived a full and wonderful life, and I guess at least one of them thought I was good enough to let me raise one of her children! I guess that says I did an alright job with them. But you are right the bathroom was a night mere since we only had 1! I think the only thing I don't miss about those days is the PMS LOL Prayers to you and your family to stay safe during this mess with CV19.
Some people think that because they "rescued" the child they are automatically entitled to the child's love That's not how it works, it takes time, genuine love and care, and maybe professional help if it helps the child open up The whole situation is just heartbreaking
If they weren’t a family vlog channel, this would just be an upsetting situation and a family trying to do what’s best for all of their children, biological and adopted. But the fact that they monetized him from day 1 just changes the situation completely for a lot of people 😕
Completely agree. That’s why her comments about “his privacy” made me so mad. Oh, so NOW you care about his privacy after showing videos of his tantrums and how “difficult” he was to deal with.
And that’s where I draw the line. I’m so angry and furious. The situation in general is horrendous but the monetization just screams “aesthetics for money” vibe.
My mom was adopted from Korea and I spent an hour crying on the phone with her about this. She said “there’s already a hole in my heart from my Korean mom. I can’t imagine another hole there” :(
I also want to say that my grandma had two other biological children after they adopted my mom and one of them has developmental delays. They loved all their children the same. Thank you to everyone for the love for my family, my mom is one of my favorite people.
I am a former subscriber from when they started their journey to adopt Huxley and the time afterwards but unsubscribed when I started to notice that they, especially Myka, were treating him differently compared to how they interacted with their biological children and I felt like he didn't receive as much love and attention as the other kids. From what I've noticed by watching Myka's body language, she was the one rejecting Huxley and she didn't look like she actually tried to love this child and form a bond. That's why I could no longer bear watching this family because I felt so sorry for this little boy. I just hope that Huxley won't suffer longterm from this experience and the separation trauma and is now with a family who truly loves and cares for him and his needs. But in the end, I guess it's better this way because these people are obviously not fit to be the loving family he deserves and needs. If you adopt a child, they become your child and you are responsible for caring for them. They are not an object that you buy and return in case they don't fit into your lifestyle. And they knew very well beforehand that he has the special needs that he has. The sad thing is that if Huxley would have been their biological child, they probably wouldn't have given him away.
I just can't imagine the level of trauma that comes from being put up for adoption a second time. And the couple went to Bali a few weeks later and posted about it being a dream come true, while the child was having to adjust to a new family again.
I feel like a lot of family vloggers exploit their children and I don’t think the kids would agree to be on you tube. Shame on these people! This is a child not a puppy ! I don’t understand how you give a child back.
@@brittxoxo2 I disagree. I watch family vloggers who vlog their kids and its all fun and wholesome content. As long as its nothing inappropriate or too personal. These people were either vloggers before they had kids or they just started vlogging as a hobby. I know one channel of a father who vlogs to help people and spread positivity to make a difference in the world. In this case I think they were using their kid for money though.
As someone who has a disabled little brother and everyday is a struggle. This disgusts me. It hurts and actually very disturbing. It greatly offends me. Thank you for speaking about this.
Hi Erxn Frith, Hows things? Sorry to hear about your brother that's awful, but I myself know what it is like to have an illness and struggle everyday, I was ill for years and the doctors couldn't really help me, I don't blame them there was only so much they could of done for me, Then Jesus gave me a miracle and healed me, He is the God of miracles, God done amazing things in my life and in the lifes of my family, He can do the same for you and yours, Jesus loves you, when you need Him call out to Him, The bible tells us in Romans 10:13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved, God saved someone I love from an illness leading to death, There is nothing impossible to God, Its as simple as asking Jesus into your heart and life to be your personal Lord and Saviour, Jesus will answer you, I know this because He answered me when I needed Him, Take care
I grew up going to a very white Christian church and I saw A LOT of white families adopting kids from other countries without being prepared to give them the proper support, they didn’t consider everything involved they just wanted the pat on the back. I think after seeing so many of these situations, I’m just skeptical. As a law student who had that in the back of my mind (and have a mother who runs a daycare) I considered child advocacy, I talked to a lot of child advocacy attorneys and I did a lot of research. I am not a child advocate, I decided on juvenile justice so grain of salt but I do not know what “legal” aspect she is claiming is stopping her from talking about this. It seems like another excuse. What REALLY bothered me was her saying she hadn’t addressed this yet to “protect his privacy”, they exploited him for views on RUclips they took away his privacy and now they’re using it as an excuse for not fully being held accountable for their choices. Ugh I got so worked up about this whole situation and knew you’d cover this well I’m glad you made this video.
As a fellow law student, I would love to sue the hell out of the adoption agency and those parents, the amount of damage they have done and will cause this little boy is beyond repair.
I had a friend who was adopted, from Korea, by a religious family. She once told me that her “mother” told her, “If I could have had children of my own, we wouldn’t have adopted.” I remember thinking that was a very cold thing to say. I still remember that comment after 30 years.
It's convenient he/she's deleting mass amounts of videos that do show her talking down to him, shutting him in his room, taping his hands (which, yes, there really was a video of) for thumb sucking (and the older siblings were in the background also sucking their thumb but they didnt get duct taped), calling the other kids around him the "bio" kids, complaining about 500 a month in therapy when they had thousands spent in jewelry/products/trips/upgraded home/cars, getting annoyed with him not responding shortly after adoption and instantly claiming nonverbal when...Idk maybe the natural first response would have been that he doesn't know English for one.
As soon as I learned about this, I was disgusted. I am currently working on getting my MSW. My previous job experience has been working with autistic children and their families. One particular family that I became incredibly close with were white parents who had adopted two girls from China, one is my age and the other (who I worked with) was 17. She is autistic, and they had adopted her as a baby before anything regarding her autism was known. When I tell u that those parents dropped everything to care for their child.... her mom left work in marketing to go back to school to get her masters in behavioral analysis. She has fought so hard for her daughter and advocated for her to get the treatment she needed regardless of how other adults perceived her as a mother.... I’m sure if she heard about this situation she would have MANY things to say...
I was slightly shocked viewing their channel a few days ago...the "perfect family image" "perfect mum" "perfect morning routine" "perfect cleaning" etc..etc...is still there...no troubles in paradise! Truly incredibile...how dare they? How can people still believe that crap?
I’ve tried to see it from both sides...and I still can’t understand. How do you give up a child...a baby...you were his home! The rhetoric they used to explain his “situation” broke my heart. I hope the child is given every opportunity to flourish and be happy.
I honestly don’t see how anyone could defend this. Decided to “rehome” him what 2? 3? Years after he’s been with them?! I can’t imagine how scared and confused he was. It breaks my heart. This world breaks my heart 💔
That's the main horrible thing about this. I know some adoptions don't work out and after a few weeks, the parents realize they can't take care of the child, but doing it after YEARS??? This would be devastating for any child and unimaginable for an autistic child. They would never do this to their biological children and its vile.
3 freaking years and they talked about him like he was a puppy who became hard to handle and it just didn’t work out- he’s a little boy! Was supposed to be their little boy! 3 years😭 literally makes me want to break down in tears, i can’t wrap my head around it
Yes And he was so little when he was adopted! So he really sees them as his parents!! He grew up with them. They where his parents and siblings!! He wil cry every night because he misses his family. Imagine the pain and confusion on huxley😢. Also he is autistic do you know how bad this wil affect him. He is away from is save place.
basically she kept him for three years, made most of her money off him and gave him away. Don't adopt a child if you don't have something good planned ahead (good goals for the child).
You hit most of the points I was concerned about. I also wanted to note the impact of this on their other children? How do you process having a new brother- all their memories together for 3 years- then your mum and dad giving him away again... And that's it? Not to forget all these videos of your "ex-brother" online? How worrying- do they think they could be given away too if they do something bad? I dread to think.
Yes!! I could imagine the other kids are now worried that they are also disposable. They saw it happen, I’m sure they now think it could happen to them. It’s really awful. They appear to have the money that they could afford top of the line care for their son, even to the point of having a live-in aid that could’ve helped without traumatizing Hux and the rest of the kids. All the money that they made off of this poor child should be allocated to his care considering he was never able to consent to his life being shared online. I wish there was some kind of legal recourse for this but I don’t think there will be. What a terrible situation.
@@KathleenAndEmmaShow Exactly. There is also nothing wrong with seeking professional help to take care of a child with developmental disorders, it's the RIGHT thing to do. It doesn't mean you fail.. it just means you want the best for them. Man I just feel so sad about this and I've never heard of this woman and her family.
I was finally adopted by the most beautiful person ever, but before she was able to take care of me I was relocated many times and that process of moving out to a different house with different ppl scarred me for life it made me a dark quiet avoidant person and I'm still in therapy for the childhood I had, but I was lucky to met my beautiful mom and she adopted me at the age of 7 years old, my life change for the better, that woman saved my life, and for all the kids out there in a situation like that I pray they find the right parents. Thank you for talking about this Hannah ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My mom has thirteen siblings, ten are adopted. I can’t even fathom my grandparents up and deciding to send one of their children back because it got “too hard.” My cousin was taken out of an adopted home because that “mother” couldn’t handle him being hyperactive; she had him exercise in the heat nonstop until he went unconscious. He has scars and had brain surgery from what that person did to him as a preschooler. When my grandma got the call about him, my whole family jumped into action to get him into our family and safe. Today he is thirteen and the sweetest boy I know and I can only hope my future children are like him; he has trouble retaining information because of what that person did to him. My grandparents fostered after the adoptions well into their fifties. The last child they fostered was adopted by a close family friend and they’re both treated as family. I cannot wrap my head around two grown adults adopting a child up to glorify themselves. There’s no way they would have done that with their biological children. Makes me wonder if he ever really was a son to them. I pray that little boy gets the protection and love he deserves.
Jessica Murker......I agree with you 💯. Have you been subscribed to "The Dad's Challenge Podcast" and see what he is doing to try and get family channels to stop exploiting their children????
Right!?? That’s what I thought. So creepy and manipulative. “I love feeling his skin. Sometimes i want to steal it for myself. That’s why I like adopting them nice and young” barf
When she said that it just made me think she goes into the laundry room after she does their laundry and just sniff their clothes for like 5 minutes straight.
She’s absolutely gross. It’s all about her: what SHE lacked as a result of this adoption. What a total narcissistic creep. We already had one Joan Collins, we are NOT hiring for another!
Maybe because the youtube channel is in her name and she’s the face of the channel always giving patenting tips and stuff. The father should be held equally responsible, you are correct, but I think the reason people are focusing her because she’s going against her own words.
The husband said he didn’t know about adoption but this will be an adventure they’ve never done before. It’s like it was a to-do list like this is something to check off🤦🏾♀️
I have been mentioning this all over the place. He just follows along with whatever she says and does for money and fame. He should have put his foot down and said no we are not going to do this. They are two greedy fame driven fake people. He has nearly a million followers on his channel StaufferGarage. Please go to his channel and speak up.
Girl do it! Get kids rights on social media, sick of parents exploiting their kids. She's made the adoption video private but she needs to make all of them private from the last 2 years. She needs to give him his money sonhe can get therapy and he can have money for the rest of his.
As a Chinese adoptee who had special / medical needs myself, this whole situation absolutely disgusts me. I can only imagine how being abandoned a SECOND time will affect Huxley. They knew what they were getting themselves into before they chose to adopt him and yet they still did not do adequate research. If their own biological children had health complications like his, they would never abandon them. It truly angers me so much that they profited off an adopted child that has Down Syndrome and then once they decided that they had enough of him, they literally tossed him aside like an object. Thank you so much for making this video and raising awareness about how corrupt these people are. You hit a lot of huge points and shared your observation of this mess in a very professional and informative manner. We need more people like you! ❤️
My sister is autistic, and this situation makes me sick to my stomach. My sister is my biological sister, but the idea of someone “returning” a child because they can’t handle them hurts my heart.
International adoption especially from Asia has always made me uncomfortable. If you know the history of East Asian adoption it has always been closely tied to a white savior complex, so thank you for naming that. As a WOC I couldn't even watch their video because it felt like my own brother was being abandoned. It was too painful.
Just putting this out there. The Stauffers are going to need to get real jobs because they've been selling themselves as family vloggers. People aren't going to watch them after this.
Sad to say but their subscribers are very supportive of them. Just look at the amount of support they get in their comments. The subscribers think the Stauffers are angels and that it couldn't be helped they had to give up Huxley.
They also need to stop saying that they “re-homed” him- they have their son up for adoption because he was special needs...the fact that he is adopted should be taken out of the equation
this entire thing just sounded like they wanted him to be a foreign, special needs child just so they could not only pull the white saviour complex card of him coming from another country, but probably also so they could show off to their fans how they were able to "fix" this poor little boy. and when they realised that no, these are serious, deeply rooted issues that can't be kissed away in the span of a couple of vlogs and healed with sunshine and rainbows, he became useless to their purposes. just the sheer entitlement of them abandoning him like a broken toy, it disgusts me, especially when you consider his attachment issues. what they should have done was to stop broadcasting their kids' lives, and invest the money they both make from their (definitely monetized) youtube channels to get professional help, away from the cameras, and make sure they would be able to give this young boy the life they PROMISED him, and that not only they, but also their own kids worked so hard on. can you imagine being a child in that household? seeing your brother being taken away forever because he was too "difficult" for mommy and daddy, after you tried for years to get along with him and form a bond like proper siblings? in a developmental phase so important as his age right now, ripping away whatever bonds he was able to form despite his issues is probably the most traumatic thing they could have done to him, and he will probably have to carry this with him for the rest of his life, maybe even have more mental issues arise from it. they are completely destroying a young life, just because he became too inconvenient for them after they specifically CHOSE him, and now they will just get away with it, like that. it infuriates me beyond words.
100% agree with all of this. This was basically a case of white savior complex that is publicized for the world to see. Quite literally, the more special needs he was presented as being prior to adopting, the more it fed her ego and her feelings of being a saint and such a Godly giving woman for taking such a "poor helpless child." Which is also why she happily advertised all of that information on her RUclips...aka humble bragging. The second it stopped feeding her ego or validating her feelings of being this amazing selfless mom, she immediately started looking for justifications and rationalizations for re-homing him. She literally said he told her that he wanted another family. Lol. Yes DEFINITELY MyKa. This 4 year old with severe autism and reactive attachment had the mental faculties to very eloquently articulate his desires for a different family...and as a child he definitely is capable of recognizing the severity and magnitude of a decision beyond what's happening in the moment. First off, a 4 year old without any developmental delays is also in no way fit to make decisons of that caliber. I know 4 year olds that very fervently would like to eat icecream 24 hours a day, but as the big kid adulty person I sure as shit am not going to enable that. She is narcissistic human garbage, and I'm glad she's being exposed for her complete exploitation of this child. It's beyond revolting.
Unfortunately these disgusting youtubers are just a slice of the reality. This has been going on for ages, guys. People adopting from abroad and then abandoning the child after months or years. There was a series on youtube about now grown up children like this, adopted from far countries and then abandoned once problems started arise. Some "parents" wouldn't even bother to do paperwork for their foreign kids and these kids would get deported from the US at legal age when they lived all their life there!!! I hope these bloggers get the backlash they deserve but most importantly there must be done something to enforce accountability for these things.
@@crazydanger do you remember the name of the series??? I'm with you though. If anything, I hope this whole thing sheds more light on international adoption and the objectification and dehumanization of non-white and non-American babies. It's so sad that I only recently started learning about all of this. Big thanks to Myka for being the poster child of this shitty phenomenon! What a hero
I literally knocked out my little sisters tooth when I was 9 and she was 6 during a play brawl taken a bit too far. We used to beat the crap out of each other all the time and even 9 years later we still playfully fight. Huxley was only 4 tho?? Like, how hard can the little tike punch?
Seriously, everything they said he did sounded like normal sibling behavior...smh. He might not have been so “aggressive” if they actually educated themselves about autism to begin with. They complained about him biting and pinching like he was setting the dog on fire, yet they never thought to get him a sensory chew? Yah, no, these people suck.
As an internationally adopted child who had a great life because of my amazingly loving parents, this situation makes me so angry and sad for this child !
I was adopted when I was two years old. My adopted parents never once thought of giving me back nor did I have such an extreme medical condition. Yet I am 21 years old and still suffer from attachment and neglect issues. So I can not imagine what this child is going through considering the prior medical conditions effecting him. This is cruel and only putting this child through even more trauma. My heart is literally breaking for this child.
19:25 "if one of their biological children had developmental delays, there'd never be a thought to put them in the foster system" literally what I was screaming while watching their video....... *internally screaming*
She hired a personal trainer immediately after getting rid of him! She's got her priorities in place. I think the public deserves more information. We all need to see the proof little boy is being looked after. + Her videos involving Hux need to be reported.
Stacey A a personal trainer?? She possibly gave a child lifelong trauma so that she could get into shape?? That’s absolutely disgusting!! She needs to be deplatformed.
Let's be real - he was never her son. He was her white saviour prop.
Nah, they weren't interested in "saving" anyone. The only thing she was interested in was the money she would make from vlogging the adoption. Her channel was tiny, and she knew adoptions get tons of views. Her channel blew up when she vlogged the adoption. Huxley was nothing but a cash cow for her and when she no longer needed money, she just got rid of him.
JulianaHereOnEarth Agreed. White saviorism is never about saving anyone, it’s about the savior themselves and themselves only. I’m sure she wanted the channel growth that came with documenting the adoption and saw “rescuing” a poor child from China as a nice side effect that would make her appear to be compassionate. Just can’t believe they had another kid in the midst of this and thought it would solve anything?
Truth
I just commented something similar on another channel, I agree
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you know what? my parents adopted two little kids with mental health issues, and sh*t got real hard - but guess what? they didn't toss us back, they got help. this situation makes me want to punch the screen. imagine adding additional trauma to a child who already has mental health issues and likely already experienced more than their fair share of trauma already... so angry at this
my little brother was adopted and we found out he has autism when he was around five years old. my parents would never consider throwing him back in the system like this
Bless your parents!!
Elizabeth Shipp it’s not safe for the child or parents because it is the FAULT of the parents.. for being so naïve and illogical about the reality of adopting a child with special needs! It is their stupid ass faults for further traumatizing that child!!! Do not dismiss their actions when they were so deeply flawed. They should have seen reality for what it was instead of acting on their savior complex.
I think it depends with each case. i have a low functioning autistic cousin. it was hard but he was manageable with a lot of effort and money when he was a young (they were somewhat wealthy).
Then he went through puberty and it became a nightmare. Suddenly he had sexual urges and uncontrolled emotions/anger, all bottled up in a soon-to-be man's body. He's become a threat to people and it's so sad and scary.
It's not always a Lifetime movie with a happy ending if you put enough time into it. They're trying to find some home that can take him so they can get him out of the house for safety, but no one will have him. I know they love him, but he's also destroyed their family.
@whateverforever
Thank your parents for all of us for still letting us have a sliver of hope that there are great adoptive parents in the world. Gives me hope that this little boys next family is more like yours!
It makes me sad that there are gay couples who are denied adoption, while these people like this can just give away their kids.
THIS. I have thought this for such a long time! There are so many hateful people that say gay couples should not be allowed to adopt a child because it’s going to be a horrible and unhealthy environment for the child, but we never really hear about gay couples treating a child like this.. so really are we sure that’s the most toxic situation for a kid? Ugh. I am in a same sex relationship myself and things like this infuriate me. I hope that little boy is going to an amazing family. 💛
Exactly! We’d love and cherish those kids FOREVER .
There are also people who can't physically have biological children, and spend years and years on the waiting list just to get the opportunity to possibly adopt a child. It would literally mean the world to them. And Myka and her husband (can't remember his name) laughed in the face of that and treated it like no big deal.
@@rubysilverburg1937 nobody said sexual orientation dictates humanity??? Gay couples are more often than not, denied the right to adopt. People who have been in super long term relationships, stable, loving people, have been denied the chance to raise a child because of who they love. Meanwhile you have a straight couple get approved and adopt a child, just to give him away like an animal.
Why are gay people denied adoption? Because 'children need a mom and a dad. Otherwise its toxic' according to most people in power in the world. More toxic and traumatic, apparently, than being adopted and abandoned over and over again because while they look for any reason to deny a gay couple a child, they seem to do the opposite for wealthy straight couples who just want to use him for money and views.
C Au they were replying to someone who said you don’t hear of gay people treating children like this.
He was always treated like an ‘other’ in their family. The dad said they would put him to bed early so they could have alone time with the other kids and his wife. That makes my skin crawl.
WHAT?! R u kidding me? That is soooooo wrong!
No wayyy
That's so horrible.
Omg that is appalling!
Where did he say this?
At the very least they need to take all the money they made off the child and put it into a trust fund or something. At the very least they can put HIS money into a trust with regulations that help the new parents raise him and pay for his education or something.
I think this is a fabulous idea!!!
Yes!
I hope there’s a lawyer out there who can sue this couple on behalf of this child. This boy deserve to get most of this family’s RUclips wealth.
Yes!!! It was be the most decent thing they could do now that this has happened
Yes! It feels extra exploitative if they give him nothing from all that monetization. Like child actors. Imagine if your parents used you as a baby to make money and saved none for you and then gave you away (so then people who weren't your parents, just temporary caretakers, did this)
Another victim in this story is their current children. Could you imagine being a little kid and finding out your brother is being abandoned?? Children don’t think like adults. They probably think they’re next
That's really sad
Honestly she seemed to separate Huxley from her other children, who shed refer to as her "bio" children and treated him a lot differently. I can't imagine what she's told her other children as to why Huxley isn't in their family anymore, but I have a feeling it isn't good.
I’ve been crying about this. They watched their disabled brother be pushed out. And not to mention he probably had that “bad kid” label of the family. If I was a kid and saw my disabled brother act out I think it’s because he’s bad not because of his mental disorders. And so they saw him be “bad” and now they probably live in fear if they are bad they will get sent away. 😭 I want to hug them so close and keep them safe. All these children are suffering.
They’re white, they know they’re ok. The person who this damages the most is the boy. He might face suicidal thoughts because of abandonment and trauma. The other kids never were relinquished. - I’m adopted as a brown child in a white family and always feared I would be sent back. This is so triggering.
Keel - I’m sure she villianized him as she claims she never displayed his most extreme behaviors “out of privacy”
My husband and I took more consideration adopting our third dog.
Myka has gone through MANY DIFFERENT DOGS - ALL HAVE BEEN RE - HOMED.
@@tammykoble236 damn, and she thinks she can adopt a child?
I’ve seen an adoptee on ig recently saying a lot of dogs are treated better than adoptees. Breaks my freaking heart
I've taken more consideration adopting an attitude. 😉
That’s a fucking joke right look how many parents rehome foster kids if it’s not a good fit you don’t get to force it. Way to go for comparing children and dogs though.
I knew of a couple from my parent’s church who were in the process of adopting two little boys (brothers) and were fostering them at the time. They had them for at least a couple of years, and the boys both called them mommy and daddy. They ended up getting pregnant and IMMEDIATELY stopped the adoption process and sent the boys back into the foster system because they had heard they could be “hostile” towards there new child that wasn’t even born. I lost all respect for them.
Ew. Poor kids :/
That is truly despicable. Biological children can be jealous of a new baby. I didn’t throw them in the foster care system because of it. I bet they still consider themselves good Christians too. Smh.
Holy shit?? I don't understand how you can foster kids for Years even and you don't love them??? They're basically your kids already??? Thats extremely cruel and horrible psychologically
That is absolutely terrible. I feel so bad for those kids.
thats terrible
They didn't want to step up and be parent's, they wanted a child of a different race like they wanted a pure bred puppy. They talked about him finding his "forever home" like he was pet,Disturbing. They knew he was special needs and needed extra care before they adopted him. Seems to me they thought he'd be magically healed when they adopted him.
They really thought they could “cure “ him
@@DiscClub6 a common misconception apparently, many people whether it's their child or not seem to think they'll "grow out of it". I'm very happy autism and development issues are talked about more nowadays.
I’m wondering actually how they will manage if they was living in another country, where rehoming don’t exist and forbidden by government ?
I’ve heard about this family, and discover what “rehoming” is. I do not understand how it is legally possible. As this concept or comparable ones do not exist in Europe.
I hope this horrible situation will help to put in place legal protection for kids, and obligation for parents to deal with and justify they act facing a court.
Perhap’s capricious and irresponsible people will think twice before.
I hope that all this horrible situation helps finally this little guy to meet caring and responsible persons on his way.. 🤞🤞🤞
Exactly this, the way they said "forever home" was incredibly disturbing. The fact that they claimed to not know the extent of the child's disabilities and used that as an excuse was truly disgusting. When you give birth to a child you aren't give a list of problems they're going to have once they come out, you don't know and you deal if and when they come along and you make it work because it's your CHILD. If you aren't prepared to treat an adopted child this way, you have no business adopting a child. As an adopted child this absolutely sickens me, my sibling and I are both adopted and neither one of us have been a picnic for our adopted parents but they dealt with the situations and didn't try to get rid of us because that's what you do when you become a parent. Children being re-homed is a sick process that shouldn't be legal. These people are sick and they fact that anyone can watch them after this and think otherwise is completely f*cked up. They clearly adopted this child for RUclips views. How sick.
Go off sis!!! When you said I’m gettin way to emotional about this I realized how mad I was with you!!! Adopting a child isn’t a game. Either do it or fucking don’t.
Family vloggers saying "REspeCt oUr PriVAcY" infuriates me to the core. How are you gonna sit there and act like a victim when you're the one exposing your child's whole god damn life on the internet knowing full well what internet can do to a person?! How about YOU stop invading your child's privacy and get a decent job like other decent parents (or make videos that dosen't involve their child)?? Some self-awarenes would be really nice for these people.
Also, how are we not talking about the power dynamic between a parent and a child? How can a child consent, or more importantly object to parents when your parents literally hold your rights of life? Grownups can easily manipulate/sway a child into doing things that can have detrimental effect. Especially if you're the parent, all you need is a toy and a snack. That's all the "persuasion" they need for the children to do things that can haunt them for the rest of their life.
A CHILD CAN NOT CONSENT. It's that simple. Bring me a child who fully understands the consequences of putting your whole life on the internet, you can't because they're children for god sakes.
Excellent response 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
THISSSS. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 a child cannot consent to be on the internet! They have no idea what’s going on! AND if they could, they should be paid for their participation.
Yes. And this is why I don’t watch family bloggers.
EXACTLY!!!!! They made bank off of exploiting this child, but when people want answers as to why he was dumped like an unwanted dog, they're all about protecting his privacy. Gtfoh.
Exactly! They chose to be online! Disgusting people!
This whole situation disgusts me. They completely exploited this child. They went out of their way to adopt a child with special needs and used him to make money.
My feelings exactly.
Yes, that’s exactly what happened! Those assholes
I can see why it would seem that way. I just don’t feel like anyone would go through the emotional turmoil and everything they did to adopt a child and then make this decision. I DONT think it was an easy decision to make for them. I don’t think they WANTED to do this. Regardless of everything, they are still human being with emotions and feelings. They wouldn’t willingly make this decision if they didn’t care one way or the other because they knew based on the video posted, that they were going to get a lot of backlash for it. Why put themselves through exactly this if it was just for money. I just don’t see it.
And the also wanted to adopted another child
@@ore9000 omg I didn't know that
Huxley deserves the money they made off of him. Possibly put away for when he becomes an adult.
Shortbread GirlScout You’re correct, be nice if this would happen
They probably spent it all on their lavish lifestyle and international holidays 😒
@@LOOL134 some said that after rehoming him, they went on a luxury trip.
@@Kare29 they did
Yeah, that would be nice. Unfortunately, the money is in control of the parents until Huxley turns 18 :(
I used to watch a channel called "Texan In Tokyo." They were a young married couple living in Japan, vlogging about their daily life and their channel was really taking off. Then, one day they announced that they would no longer be filming because they were thinking about starting a family and did not want to film their children and put them on the internet. I missed them like crazy and still re-watch their videos but I respected the hell out of Grace and Ryosuke for making this tough decision and just walking away.
THIS is what true respect for your children's privacy looks like. What this family is doing is BS. You can't monetize your kid when you want to and then claim to be protectung their privacy when you make a douchebag move.
I completely forgot about them!!
But I watched them too. :D
Man oh man I remember watching their videos!
TRUE. That is the example youtubers should follow.
I never watched them, but I love that they care enough about their children to not use them for views.
That's so good! Rare case of integrity in the world :)
some women, even with their own children, talk about having babies like they’re collecting objects and it really creeps me out. i myself would never even consider motherhood unless i could give 100% of myself to my child.
sara alice yep. "...No natural affection..."
Not a mother and not planning to because of personal issues but I do feel very motherly instincts. I'm sick to my stomach thinking of myself caring for this baby and then years later sending him away. I get chills. I couldn't live.
I agree
Mom to 2 here and real talk: really caring for kids and a household is damn hard and takes everything from you. My work days are 16+ hours, no weekends, no holidays, no payment. It is so time consuming to entertain them, teach, clean, dress, feed them, work them out and soothe them, and on top of that do everything to manage a full household, including shopping, cooking, cleaning, sorting, folding, washing, repairing, building, planning, driving etc. And then youre supposed to work on the side, be active + fit, maintain a happy relationship AND have downtime because mental health (haha). And during all this you endure pregnancy, childbirth and a newborn. How in the world can anybody have more than 2 kids?!?? Why would you want more?? More work, more responsibility, less time. I am convinced that something has to suffer severly when you have more than 2 and no outside help. You either dont spend much time with your kids / your house is a mess / you dont cook ever / you have lost yourself completely. I also believe that women who have kid after kid are selfish. It is impossible to give every kid the attention they deserve and need with so many responsibilities. They just fulfill some need/trauma/fantasy of themselves.
@@emiliana1767 Well stated. I don't even want to ever have one.
Her followers still praise her for being "brave" and "honest" about the whole situation. That truly disgusted me.
Because they’re censoring and deleting the negative comments. It’s terrible
EMELIE W ugh so gross! They are clearly drinking the cool aid
Caralyn Charles Which is pathetic in my opinion, at that point just turn off your comments.
I hate it. The fact they expect a child with disabilities to handle being abandoned but they can’t handle MeAn CoMmEnTs, you monetized your adoption process you can handle the back lash. It sucks and I’m sure some of it’s straight up nasty. But you want to know what is also nasty? Putting a child with disabilities out of your family because you can’t handle it.
She just blocked me from commenting bc i said she's disgusting for exploiting Huxley
When youtube finally creates a law that protects kids on youtube, I would like to be called 'Huxleys Law'
i love this!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Amen to this!
Huh, it has a nice ring to it!
Absolutely Looooooove this idea!!!!! I'm not even an mother and I want this so bad for children!!!!! I just not right!
Not just RUclips, all websites should child protection laws. There are a lot of people who keep posting their young children on instagram for likes and followers.
They make it sound like they feel ripped off. They didn't know about all of his FUTURE needs because he was only two years old. Developmental disabilities cannot be specifically diagnosed that young because it's just too early to be sure. That's why toddlers get the label "developmentally/speech delayed" and it's updated to be more precise when they're older. It may just genuinely be a delay, or it may be the budding roots of significant disabilities.
I was a baby with a delay that turned out to genuinely just be a delay. I still couldn't sit up unsupported by seven months. It turned out that I just learned that skill later than most babies, but it also was a warning sign that perhaps I'd have neuro or muscular issues. I don't. My brother was diagnosed with developmental and speech delays that turned out to not just be delays. He's severely intellectually disabled and severely Autistic.
If he's capable of understanding what happened to him, it'll really fuck with his head. I can't imagine how I would have felt if my parents literally gave my little brother away because he was who he was.
This is straight up like if my parents gave away my brother at age four because him being nonverbal and freshly diagnosed as Autistic was too hard. It WAS really hard, and my mom has a story of breaking down sobbing in the pediatrician's office because she didn't know what the hell was wrong with her kid and why he couldn't talk and refused to sleep in a bed. They never considered putting him up for adoption. They just asked for resources to help their baby because he had a problem and needed help.
I can’t imagine how much pain their biological kids feel 💔 They threw their brother away:(
That’s one of the things that disturbs me most about this situation. As Hannah said, if it had been one of their biological children, rehoming him wouldn’t have been an option. But because he’s adopted, it’s suddenly acceptable to put him through the trauma of finding a new placement? I’m trying to be careful in my judgement as someone who doesn’t have kids or ever plan to, but I’m just so sad for this little boy.
Lena Boyer agreed. That’s why I am upset at this family’s choice to remove the child from their home
Amanda Charlebois I can understand your point of view but as behavior therapist who has first hand seen how kids with severe autism can be extremely violent towards their parents and siblings to the point where they self isolate in their own home - and this is even with intensive therapy since an early age - when it concerns your child as far as I know you don’t just have the option to “rehome” them. It’s scary, it’s intimidating, it’s enough to give you a breakdown. But you can’t give the child up. I’ve been a witness and subject to extreme behavioral outbursts. But the point of therapy is to work through those and find an opportunity to teach a more functional way to express themselves. That takes intensive repetition and reward for behavior change. And young children, especially with autism, can be inadvertently rewarded for behavior that can be hard to change causing them to engage in it, even when not functional. It takes time to teach functional behavior and make it stick. It’s not impossible. It’s just an ongoing process.
This whole situation is so upsetting. My older brother has ASD and this hits close to home. I really hope these people do stop putting their children in videos
These family vloggers will never stop. Too much money and they love the fame/notoriety. One of the reasons I stopped watching any family vloggers is I felt like they were pimping their kids w/o any regard for the child.
I'm autistic, and we often times face discrimination when we want to have kids and adopt. Yet, these degenerates get to adopt kids for clout, then throw them away like they are broken toys.
love your channel Tiffany! I'm interested in seeing a video of your POV as well
Please make an analysis about this! This said a lot about us as a society
I love your channel so much, it'd be really interesting to hear your perspective
It’s like you said, if this were their biological children they wouldn’t have done this. This is heartbreaking.
Yeah Hannah saying that made my stomach turn honestly. It's truely heartbreaking. I'm not even religious and I want to pray for this child.
to be homest, i wouldnt pass this by them. if the child does not fit into her image of perfect - she would do it
I worry if one of their other children got into a car accident and became disabled, would they also give that kid away?
If my biological child physically or emotionally abused my other biological child due to his disabilities, you best believe I would do something about that. For their safety, for both of them, I would even consider temporary or permanent removal from our home. I wouldn't completely disown him, but still we need to somehow find the solution if the behavioural therapy doesn't work out. I'm not putting my kids through hell when it's not necessary. I don't know Myka's REAL reason. Kids are already difficult to deal with these days, let alone with mentally disabled ones. Let's not fool ourselves, if this boy was still unborn and women found out about his disabilities, big part of them would have aborted him.
@@milicadjordjevic4498 i understand yout perspective, i do. I hope to never be in a position where 1 of my kids is a threat to my other kids. I dont know how I would react. Yes, of course i would do all I can to protect my kids, but the "dangerous child" in this scenario is also my child and I would do everything in my power to help ALL of my children.
While I also see your point that if such issues were known while the child were still a fetus, many would abort.... thats not what happened here. In the case of a biological child and parent, you can truthfully say the parents "didnt think they signed up for that" (although in reality you sign up for every possibly when you have a child, and most still wouldn't "rehome" a difficult, biological, child). But in this case, they DID "sign up for that". They basically Asked for a very challenging child, but once they got what they asked for they changed their mind.
I could never even rehome my animal... how could anyone do this to an innocent little child? Im so disgusted.
I totally agree. I've had some very challenging dogs which pushed me to learn about how to deal with difficult behavior. Something these people needed to do, and then stick with it.
@@CM-sm2pk I am trying really hard to hope that they just don't have that skill and know it but wanted the best for the kid. Trying really hard....
@@AlisonCasilli Hopefully he is in a loving, patient home. It's hard to be unwanted. My parents didn't want me, it still stings even though I know they loved me.
I rehomed a dog when I was so poor I could barely even afford food for myself. The old couple had a farm for him to run free & be happy on, but damn I cried all the way home. The woman still tags me in pictures she takes of him on Facebook. If I had such a strong reaction to giving away my dog I could never give away a kid, that's for damn sure.
I would never rehome a child I had adopted, he same way I would never give my biological child up for adoption. Once they’re my baby, they will stay my baby!
I had a cousin adopted from China. He got cancer and died just 5 years after they adopted him. Did my aunt and uncle give him away when he was diagnosed? Was it “too much” for them? NO?! Hell no! They moved across the country to live with him at St Jude, quit jobs, put life on HOLD. Because he was their SON. This Stauffer family is a disgust to me.
I'm so sorry your family went through that. Your aunt and uncle gave that boy the best life he could of in such a short time xxx
I’m so sorry to hear that. They sound like beautiful people. God bless them 💗
“YOU took his privacy away.” EXACTLY. This poor boy. It makes me sick that this happened to him and I hope the family he’s with now truly loves and cares for him.
They SPECIFICALLY wanted a child with special needs and justified it by saying how she used to be a nurse, the both KNEW about his health and conditions, so why bother trying to play oblivious now as if they didn't create their entire following off of "adopting a foreign special needs kid" - they used him for fame and money and it's disgusting. WATCH THE BLOGGER "WITHOUT A CRYSTAL BALL" she has MULTIPLE VIDEO RECEIPTS FROM THEIR OLD VIDS AND BREAKS IT DOWN WELL
This is the most horrific thing I have ever heard.
That poor boy was just a marketing strategy to launch a channel.
It’s horrifying... they did it for the god damn views and we all know it
There’s a video of her saying the doctor told he it was really severe and they probably couldn’t held before she even adopted him.
@@Daaaanielle He bought them the McMansion they live in now. Let that sink in.
Yes And he was so little when he was adopted! So he really sees them as his parents!! He grew up with them. They where his parents and siblings!! He wil cry every night because he misses his family. Imagine the pain and confusion on huxley😢. Also he is autistic do you know how bad this wil affect him. He is away from is save place and structure that he need as someone with autism.
I'm honestly so tired of mommy/family vloggers. They're all the same. Big, white decorated houses, everything is just so fake. Not to mention exploiting their children who cannot consent. Not my vibe I guess as a mother myself.
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I'm not a mother and don't intend to be, but I agree with you. It's absolutely horrible how their exploit their children for views and money.
The only mommy vlogger I respect is kimono mom all she does is cooks and her baby helps her
@@carolbaskin1857 omg yessss I love her
Tamakingston 20......I absolutely feel exactly how you do about family vloggers!!!! Are you watching the The Dad Challenge Podcast youtube channel??? He is doing everything he can to get children off social media!
She adopted him for clout. To look as angelic as Angelina Jolie.
So true but too bad she didn't follow Angelina's example on actually being a parent to your adopted child.
Angelina was rich by herself not because of. These parents are the worst
@@mariaGarcia-su6yv I believe that Angelina Jolie is a genuine person who adopted out of love for kids. That's why I said "To look as angelic as Angelina Jolie"
@@eftcafe2443 yeah but what Marie meant was that Angelina J. didn't exploit her adopted kids for one, she didn't need to. and that's why They will never be angelic at all.
at least Jolie didnt give up her kids to be rehomed
They litterally bought a mansion and had enough money to have another child after they adopted him, they could afford getting him at home help if it was that hard for them a lot of parents dont have the money or acess to resources that they have and they care for their kids
Honestly I think the new baby they had was a replacement for Huxley.
In my opinion she could have also left youtuber to care for him in the way he needed. The husband has his channel and it doesnt look like they are struggling. Its called sacrifice and there are parents that do just that everyday.
Bailey Wilson I completely agree. I think they were at least thinking about giving him back when they had another child. Why add another baby to the mix if they were so stressed. This story is so heartbreaking. I truly hope Huxley is ok.
He didn’t fit into their perfect family home 😑
Woah. Honestly, people should try to get this going. They might even do it for views. But it will still go to him and his family. This thought will never cross their minds on their own, though
This baby was adopted to be a character in a youtube series. That’s it. When they realized the return on their investment wasn’t good enough they shipped him off to somewhere he should’ve been all along
DeadLetter this comment is spot on!!
So are their biological children. What can you expect from those parents making money on their children. Pour child, he is abandonned twice...
Yes!! 100%, sad to say he was inadvertently an accessory
Absolutely despicable
Update: Myka just put a copyright strike on kat blaque’s video on this situation. Watching Kat’s video now puts money in myka’s pocket. Woman knows no shame
Whaaaaaa Kat doesn't ever use much footage of hers, even if there was 30 secs of it, she is using it in fair use.
The Karen of it all
I was adopted at age 8, and the next 10 years were incredibly difficult for my parents. I came with several mental health issues and intense PTSD. However, no matter how hard it got, my parents never "rehomed" me. Because they were my parents. They understood, that when they adopted me, it was for forever. That they were taking me from a group home, and giving me a family, and family stays together. I wasn't a pet that they could just "rehome" if I wasn't fun anymore. I'm shaking with anger as I write this. I've always been so angry that our society doesn't care about foster children, and this lady proves it. She treated the child like an accessory, made tons of money, and now she's dumped him off since he's too hard to handle. Guess he's not a good enough asset anymore.
Cheri Mendez Please, don’t dwell on this. I say that for *your* sake. For *your* heart. You had the great good fortune to find parents who love you and committed to you and, Lord willing, Huxley has too. These creatures will be paying for their horrible behavior.
l am glad good people made you part of their family. 💕
@@llamasugar5478 thank you for your kind words and advice. You're correct- I shan't dwell on this anymore :)
I'm glad your parents did not abandon you and helped raise you into an awesome person. Yes, those people did treat this boy like an accessory and it is infuriating.
this situation made me thankful that my adoptive parents didn’t return me to the system. i hope this child can still have a good life too
my brother and I are adopted from China, he has special needs and I don't. The agency was very thorough in educating the parents about the pros and cons of adopting children from china and adopting a special needs kid. The knew what they were getting into. The people don't get to be called parents. They don't deserve that label. People like this disgust me and shouldn't have a platform. Children are not business transactions.
As a mom of an adopted son who has special needs, this. makes. me. SICK! I feel no compassion for all the crap these people are getting and you know another thing? Adoption expenses are fully refunded come tax time so these people made money off their child's adoption also by raising money (via Go Fund Me or whatever) prior to his adoption. If that little boy had an attachment disorder before, this will 100% make this worse, not better. Of course, they did duct tape their son's thumb (to stop him from sucking it, probably) so maybe he will be better off without them. I also feel bad for their other children who will think children are expendable and will wonder if they're next.
Maybe things have changed, but my adoption expenses were not refunded. We did get about 12,000? back. But our adoption cost about 40,000. This was a Russian adoption ten years ago.
@@elainerobeck6895 Yes, I've heard adopting from Russia is very expensive! A couple from our church adopted three children at once. We adopted from the foster care system and it cost us $40 for a birth certificate and duplicate birth certificate.
They are not fully refunded! There is a tax credit of $12-13k but our adoption was over $25k so we paid A LOT out of pocket and we adopted domestically!
Can someone pls explain to me why adoptions are so expensive?
They are trash. Simple as that. They monetized Huxley, then discarded him when the new baby came along. They gave him away like he was a litter from a cat.
My theory is that they were trying to get pregnant with a fourth child, but maybe idk the father's sperm was trash and it wasn't working, so they decided to kill two birds with one stone and adopt a special needs child. Then, when she finally got pregnant with the fifth child, they gave up Huxley
I think you hit the nail on the head. They probably wanted a fourth child and when they got pregnant, well they didn't need their new token adopted child. So sad and horrible. I hope Huxley is taken into and raised by a loving, cherishing family who tells him how important he really is.
@@sneis95 yeah it's a sad story and i hope they're thrown off the platform
This really makes me tear up. I can’t believe they can do that and still post videos of themselves on RUclips smiling
As someone who works as a behavioral therapist with children that have autism, their actions and the precedent they've set absolutely disgusts me.
As a preschool inclusive education teacher I am also disgusted; I just can't get around it.
@Melissa Callia, thank you for doing what you do. My husband and I are just now seeking help for our 11 yr old daughter for her behavior issues. I'm praying we find someone as compassionate as you are to help her and us. We love our little girl so much and just want her to be happy. Itll also be nice to not get screamed at every day..lol! Ugh! ❤
@@VampyreBarbie As a parent of a teen, I can't promise no screaming but the milestones and progress will be rewarding ❤
I agree with you but as a specialist do you consider maybe the child has RAD along with autism
Girl, I’m a behavioral therapist with children with autism as well. I’m fuming mad! This is disgusting in so many ways
I take real issue with the use of the word “rehoming”. This is a child, not a pet.
Disgusting humans! They committed to being his parents.
I thought it was weird that they’re saying the adoption agency decided it’d be better to find a different family for the child.... that’s not how adoption works? The agency wouldn’t have put him in their home if they weren’t a good fit. However there usually is a few month long period where the adopting parents can back out. I’m guessing that’s what happened. Now they wanna pretend it’s out of their control.
Edit: Someone said they had the boy for three years holy that’s horrible if so. I thought they had him for a much shorter time.
even for pets, you don’t abandon them when they are not cute, this is so unacceptable and sad
From what I research "rehoming" ois a shady business. Because they don;t go through the prper channels - ie Foster care, their adoption agencies. The process is regulated the new home needs to have a home study done, the new parents vetted, adopted parents have to terminate their rights through the court etc. Apparently the Stauffer didn't do that becasue the Ohio foster care system, child services were not involved and there are no laws prevent a parent(s) from throwing their child into another home and abandoned them without contacting Child Services. Also their adoption agency wasn't contact either (they woudl have followed a similar protocol. The representative from Ohio stated that they can't get involved unless the child was abused or neglected!? (WHT? How is this NOT abuse AND neglect????) This is literally what they said to reporters!
I’m not sure what you would call this. This is so uncommon, I don’t think there is a good term for it. There probably shouldn’t be a word that exists to describe it because it shouldn’t happen. But what would you think is a better way to address it? Re-adopted? Honestly I’ve never even heard of the term re-home till now. This is just awful.
Can you imagine the trauma the rest of their children will grow with as well - the fear that if they become too inconvenient or troublesome their parents might give them away?
Right?! Didnt even think of how this would affect the bio kids
They showed their children that they’re disposable and that’s a feeling a child should *never* have to experience it, Hux and the biological children equally.
Also, imagine your parents returning your sibling and you never saw them again
Absolutely!
People like Myka do not see children as human beings, but as accessories.
There’s a video that she posted saying BEFORE she adopted him a doctor told her how severe his condition can be and that it could be difficult for them to care for him - maybe they shouldn’t go through with the adoption. Myka’s response: “that information went in one ear and out the other..i’ll always love my son”. yet you give him up.. okay.
“In one ear and out the other” she literally said that she didn’t take what he said seriously. This woman is ridiculous. I hope that poor baby boy is in a good home now
Doctor: *warns Myka of the child's condition*
Myka: "That information went in one ear and out the other (because I'm going to make a lot of money and fame off this child)... I'll always love my son (until he's no longer useful to my influencer career)"
She sounds like the type of woman who says she doesn't see colour
Don't forget her infamous quote "..my child is not returnable"
@@Natschin She is.
I just hate this disconnect between having biological children and adopted children. When you choose to adopt a child you need to then treat that child as you would your own biological child. Would she rehome her biological child? Adopted children shouldnt be treated like trial cases or "returnable goods". They are human beings. And they are now *your* child.
I agree. I at first wasn't sure why so many people were so upset that they did this, because I'd only read the headlines, and I thought they'd had the kid for a week or so and then made this decision... It's still not right, but more understandable I guess if they realized that maybe this "being a parent" thing wasn't for them. That way it would seem like it was to the benefit of the child. But this is terrible
Exactly! My youngest is adopted. I had two older children when he was adopted. I NEVER have and never will refer to my youngedt as my adopted son! He is my son, period! He ended up having multiple developmental issues but my husband and I would have never given up on him!
Thank you! As a mother of both I do not view them differently. To me they are all my children equally. I am so disgusted by this story.
I don't think there's a lot of countries outside the usa where you can """rehome""" children as if they were some merchandize... The fact that it's a legal possibility might not help... It's very sick...
Capuc!ne Chaussonpassion I’m not so sure how “legal” it is here either. Allegedly, they did not go through their adoption agency to “re-home” him (their words which disgusts me) while I do know that Ohio CPS has stated that they are not involved so he was not relinquished to state custody. Nothing about this situation seems kosher.
Social work truly is your calling. Our society needs more people like you.
Thank you so much 💕💕
my opinion: Children who are working on youtube should have the SAME regulations as child actors. These kids are exploited for views, no one who still watches the ACE family watches for Catherine and the guy they watch for their kids. Its gross their kids didnt get a choice to be on camera.
I watch a lot of teen mom channels here on RUclips and most of them do haul videos and daily vlogs and their kids are in the background of the video unless its like a birthday video, etc. I still agree that kids having their identities on the internet from birth should be entitled to some portion of the parent's income in a account for their future. But I think it can be ok if its done as a lifestyle/mom channel with babies featured occasionally throughout the video. But I hate how severely the ACE family exploits their girls
Exactly... it’s basically like reality tv with kids. But not enough people call it out
Agree
Sacconejolys should read this LOL
I don’t watch channels that exploit children.
"it feels like... she wanted the aesthetics of what adoption could bring." You hit the nail on the head.
They wanted a perfect picture life with a adopted child to make them look like saints and boost their RUclips channel. She posted on a Facebook group asking for the easiest disability that others think is hard to care for. They just wanted the attention and money. Turns out its extremely hard to take care of a special needs child /s. The photos of him with ductape on his arm to stop him sucking his thumb broke my heart. Plus the video of her complaing about paying for his therapy while wearing thousands of dollars of jewelry. This kid got screwed. They "rehomed" him like a dog of craiglist. Yes, he has severe problems but they knew. They play victim and say China lied to them but they knew fully. Go back and watch the videos. When you adopt you're accepting everything about that child and to help and care for them. To be their PARENT. She completely failed. She deserves no sympathy. She knew what she was getting into and thought it was cute and good content. They should've left China without him because they knew it wasn't going to work out then and there but kept going for the sake of social media. This poor child's life was hell for the sake of RUclips content. I pray that this child can heal from losing his original family, country and new parents and siblings. I hope this doesn't damage his siblings from losing him. This is truly so sad and devastating. Thank you for making this video.
This is a perfect summary. These parents, especially the mom, makes me absolutely sick.
The duct tape infuriated me, especially if she knew he had autism. Children with autism use thumbsucking as a way to stim, or an action they repeat because I helps their brain to process what is happening/how they're feeling, so she was essentially taking away what was probably one of his few comforts and ways to process and probably shaming him for it expecting it to be fine. Not letting autistic children be autistic is abuse as someone who IS autistic I can attest that not letting autistic children be who they are is severely traumatizing an the fact that they seemed to be going down that route of "treatment" makes me so happy that boy isn't with them anymore
F Santos I think a good question to ask these defenders is if it was one of her biological children that was diagnosed with autism would they also be placed in a “forever home”?
Kathatherine C that’s what I asked myself as well.
Also, they knew beforehand that the child had special needs (which wouldn’t happen with a biological child).
They were so irresponsible not only for doing something so important as adopting a child just for the sake of it, the exploit him for money on their channel, and then toss him out.
It was her bio child, they wouldn’t have done it. This whole situation is crazy.
Xiao Forrest he was 2yo, and they had him for almost 3 years
I was re-homed, my two biological sisters were re-homed, it's dehumanizing and left us all with years of emotional trauma. At one point, one of the foster families shopped my sister around by taking her on "play dates" with potential families. I remember realizing what was happening and panicking but also unable to tell my sister to stop playing with these people's kids. The uncertainty and emotional back and forth is devastating.
Adoption is a promise - these people said they were his forever home and then gave him up. That really, really hurts - and I say that as just a human and a person who was re-homed 4 times by folks who all said they were my forever family.
thank you for sharing this is helping me understand the harm of the situation
Thank you for sharing ❤️.
This is so heartbreaking omg. I'm so sorry you went through this
how are you these days?
That is heartbreaking. I am so sorry. How are you doing now?
to be honest, as much as i disagree with 'giving a child away' - i think this child will probably be much better off.
Not if hes in a foster home.
@@lyriclanguages3780 But she said in the video the foster parents are going through the adoption process with him. So he will have a solid family.
100% agree, but I am ok with the back lash they are getting for this. Since they did the investigation it came out that H is with a new family and happy and smiling. So he is happier and he deserves to be loved completely!
Honestly I agree because at least now he won't have a camera in his face 24/7
My problem is that she specifically went looking for a child with additional needs while she had small children with their own needs at home. What was the rush? I know, channel views.
The really strange thing is that while she was going through all these “challenges” with Huxley, she was posting in adoption groups about actively seeking out another child to adopt. From China. She was allegedly soooo overwhelmed with Huxley that she had to give him up, yet she was basically shopping for Chinese orphans online during that time. It just doesn’t compute for me.
Big difference between wanting to adopt a special needs child to help them with their need to improve the child’s quality of life than wanting a special needs child to make themselves seem like good ppl.
You’re spot on , sadly 🥺 it is so very sad!
@@justanotheranonymousaccoun6365 Are they still planning to adopt another child? That would really bother me if it was true.
Right?! And she also had a fourth biological child! As soon as that new baby was in the picture they replaced him. Her husband JAMES is just as accountable! If life was so difficult with Huxley why on earth would they have a newborn? Then after they put him in foster care went on an island vacation!? While they were on vacation they were blocking and deleting comments about Huxley. Ugh just so gross all around.
One thing that really rubbed me the wrong way, they talked about the "unknowns" of adoption. And how they weren't prepared.
That's literally what parenting is. Regardless of how you get your child. You don't know what their gender, (dis)abilities, personality, talents, possible traumas they experience throughout their lives will be.
They knew more than most parents do going into it. Why are they using that as an excuse?
Just ugh. I'm heartbroken for this little boy. And his (former?) siblings. Imagine wondering if your parents will get rid of you too.
You hit the nail on the head. Parenting means unconditional love.
Maybe Myka should have not ignored the doctors concerns regarding the child’s health and subsequent needs, perhaps she could of educated herself beyond the bare minimum in order to gauge whether or not she could provide adequate care for this child, perhaps she could of not been so ignorant and smug regarding her abilities to rear this child, sadly though this woman seemed determined from the start to hand select a special needs child from a foreign country in order to gain clout and look like the savior of the family RUclips community. I feel for this innocent babe who will not be unscathed by this traumatic event, as well as his former siblings who must now grieve the absence of a sibling that was a part of their lives for 3 years.
Exactly. If this was their bio kid, you bet your ass it never would have even occurred to them to give him up. But because this was a little 'foreign' accessory Myka got for clout and to satisfy her savior complex, the moment things got hard, they dumped him. They viewed this kid the same way people view purebred dogs, such as huskies-they buy them for the aesthetic because they're adorable when they're puppies, but the moment they grow up and become what they're supposed to be-strong, stubborn high energy sled dogs-they dump them, because they suddenly require a lot of work, and aren't a cute little ornament any more. Fuck these two honestly.
The horrors of living with a narcissistic parent... I am also concerned for their biological children
As a person with autism (and a psychotherapist) and raising a son with autism this story truly breaks my heart. Children with autism already have so much difficulty connecting and I can't imagine how this child must feel at this moment. I can only hope that this child finds a loving and caring home that's filled with kindness and compassion. Anyone that reads this remember this, people on the spectrum are different not less.
Aren't there studies that autustic behavior can be a reaction due to a narcisistic unloving parent? I am not officially diagnosed so I may be not well informed. I read something about a mother who does not hug their children so the children themselves can start not wanting physical contact. The doctors can't distinguish which one is nurture and which is nature.
I am not saying this about you, but can imagine it being the case with Huxley.
@@angelikalaser7778 no, there is a lot of false information going around (by parents and organizations that want to 'cure' us and commit eugenics essentially). so you might be informed by this, but i can assure you that this is wrong. autistic people (such as me) are this since birth and does not develop later on in life or in response to something. some people might on the other hand argue that 'autism becomes less bad as you grow old', but this is rather a case of autistics being forced to change behaviour until we behave in an acceptable way. this is done through social pressure, as well as highly abusive systems such as in ABA therapy. (autistic self-advocates have argued against this abusive method but sadly ABA is still a thing in multiple countries.) however, bonding with someone and learning new communication forms can indeed be harder when the parent is so neglectful. but 'autistic behaviour' is not in response to neglect, as autism is inherent. i highly advice looking at autistic-led initiative ASAN ( autisticadvocacy.org/ ) and also avoid Autism Speaks (which seeks a cure for autism (it's not an illness!) and protects abusive parents).
I have 3 kids. 2 are diagnosed with autism and we suspect that our third child is as well. It can be difficult, it certainly has been in different ways, but they’re my children and I wouldn’t change them for anything. And I certainly wouldn’t dump them in foster care because they weren’t what I expected. This story makes me so angry.
when you adopt a child, they become YOURS. if one of her biological children had similar problems, I’m sure it would be a totally different outcome. so sad.
She’s from the town next to mine, and I would say that exploiting a child as a means of looking like a saint to others is not just a RUclips thing, it’s also something that people from that upper class area do often. It drives me up a wall.
She's from the Bellisari family here in Ohio. She lives in the Dublin/Powell area..I wouldn't say that's upper class
It doesn't just have to be upper class areas. Upper class people in lower class rural neighborhoods also try and do things to make them look more saintly.
I live 15 minutes away from her 😅
Oh yeah, the classic “White Saviour” shit.
Exactly, I personally know a whole group of people (white privileged 50+ ) who were beyond showing off wealth with material things, they found an adoption lawyer that hooked them up with African babies. It's havoc. They thought it'd be easy. At least half the couples are now separated, some children are outright neglected, not because money is a problem but because those people should not adopt a child. Basically what they did was the equivalent of getting a teacup puppy and showing it off while it's cute, until the puppy is no longer desirable. It's horrific. I actively help one if the moms who is single and adopted one if those babies because I'm very worried and the kid needs a level of normalcy that it's not present. Unfortunately the process was very VERY shady and there's no follow up from social workers. Not in the US btw.
So I'm a pediatric OT, which means my job is to provide therapy to special needs children. I've worked with just about every pediatric diagnosis you can think of, and have seen the wide array of behaviors that can accompany those diagnoses. And let me tell you, the ignorance of these parents appals me. To think you can quickly "fix" developmental delays is ridiculous. Most kids I treat have no shorter than 6 month timelines on their goals (goals like being able to sit at a table for 3 minutes or share a toy). Watching videos to learn about disabilities is absolutely absurd. I spent two years in college learning about these things and I felt completely unprepared the first time I had to treat a child with a delay. Also, so many of my kiddos shut down at the tiniest change in routine. If you're someone who can't handle having lunch 10 minutes later than usual, how do you think you'd handle bouncing from home to home to home? I got a kid on schedule once who wouldn't work with me the first month because I wasn't his old therapist that he had been seeing for 3 years. How do you think he would have reacted to a new set of parents? Sorry for my rant but this situation really, really bothers me... That poor baby. I hope whoever takes him in treats him with all the love and patience he needs, for as long as he needs it.
My partner and I have decided that we don’t want to have children because we feel like we might have selfish reasons to do so. We noticed that every single one of our friends who are parents always tell us things like “You need to have a baby, it’s great it’ll change your life.” 🤔 But what about the child’s life? If we know we aren’t in a great position to properly nurture and care for a child, what’s wrong with deciding parenthood isn’t for us right now?
jesssleeps: and it never stops either...even when you’re over the age of being able to bear children, people will helpfully let you know that you can still adopt!
In all seriousness, props to you and your partner. I used to work in social services (and am a huge fan of reproductive responsibility). I wish more people would seriously consider everything having a child actually means before just doing it.
Happy to hear that you both decided that. Unfortunately people will never stop saying something along the lines that you aren't truly happy until you have kids.
Recently I got married and almost immediately people asked when I'll get pregnant. Sad thing is I am changing my mind about having kids because of personal health issues and anxiety. I feel like I wouldn't be able to take care of a child when some days I can't take care of myself. My husband wants a family and has been sad about me changing my mind but understands my reasons because he understands I would be the one caring for the child since his job has him working long hours. He worries about me when he is out, I don't want him to worry about more people. Having children is a huge responsibility and a big change in your life. I'm working on my own health to better myself for my own sake, then in the future I'll decide if I'm ready.
Hard thing is that not many know this and are urging me to get pregnant, I have tried to explain but they say that having a kid will be the solution. Which just sounds stupid to me, so I stopped explaining and just say I want time to get to know my husband more as a married couple and just be us two. I'll start having kids in the years to come and that seems to be an okay answer that they shut up. Also helps that I'm still in school so I use that as another excuse to not be kid ready yet. Which is hard for me to understand how upset people get when you say you don't want kids in your life. It is your life and you know how you can live it and how you want to live it.
Sorry about the little rant.
Good on you sweetheart. Bringing a child into this world is a huge, huge, huge responsibility. It is not something to be taken lightly.
@@silverstream6063 As a woman who is contentedly child-free by choice (and rarely has to tell anyone that twice), my advice would be to nip it in the bud by looking people in the eyes, take a deep breath and confidently respond: "Husband and I are not focusing on that right now, but I'll call you up if I want to discuss that topic in the future, thanks." Then immediately ask them a question about an unrelated topic to brush past any awkwardness and signal that you've (politely) shut the door on that topic. It's really none of their business. If they press despite that, they're honestly being rude and you could then say, "Actually, that's between _____ and me, and I know a good friend [or "kind person" or "loving Aunt," etc.] like you will respect our desire for privacy."
You don't owe them excuses and you don't need to rush-just listen to your heart and focus on your health
I have been married for 16.5 years and people STILL tell me that my husband and I “have” to have kids. I mean, get over it! I keep thinking it’ll stop sometime soon but I assume it’ll take me reaching and going through menopause for people to give up.
How is “rehoming” your adopted child without involving CPS or the adoption agency you used not considered child trafficking?
They may have? We don't have the whole story.
@@HazelJuanitaMillanHoffman they haven't and they are now being investigated
Hazel Juanita Millan-Hoffman the police are looking for where Huxley is
Attorneys and the court system is a valid and legal form of private adoption.
But if they did that, they (Cops) could obtain those records. Right? There would be a paper trail. Why would an investigation be underway, if they did it legally? I’m asking, not attacking. Not sure how private adoptions work.
when you said “i’m a social worker” instead of “i’m getting my degree in social work” i got so happy. love you hannah 💕
same. ive never felt so proud of someone I've never met 😂
This story is so sad & disturbing. That poor child
It’s extremely disturbing for me because I’m adopted. I have an extreme fear of being abandoned since I was as a child so this triggered me a lot
@@rebeccadueck9534 I'm so sorry about that.
I feel so much for this little boy.
What is disturbing (I've been doing research) is that the "mother" was a Nurse for a brief period of time. She was fired from her first job because she assaulted a pregnant co-worker. There was a video where she literally pushed her son away and said "I don't want to be hugged". Someone posted a tweet the father made ranting against his son for watching him eat. His poor kid was rejected before he was rejected.
i saw some other adoption agency said that myka reached out to them and asked them what kind of disabilities would be easy to manage but other people would think are harder. so she was literally seeking out a child that would make her look good without her actually having to put the work in
I can be understanding of the fact that there are times when adoptions don't work out because it's not the right fit, but they MONETIZED this child's adoption. They used an innocent child for income for years, and then they 'rehomed' him. There are no words for how messed up that is. I hope that his new family will be a really good support and help him flourish!
They should give some of their yt money to the new family or atleast donate it to an org it makes me sick they had the means to get this kid help they just didnt want to.
I can’t fathom an adoption “not working out”, if your biological child is difficult do you give it up and say it didn’t work out?
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Exactly!!! That is the issue
i hope there's a wave of lawsuits in 15 years or so where all the family vloggers' grown up kids sue them for never having the chance to consent to their entire childhood being irreversibly put online for their parents' selfish gains
As a childhood special education teacher I am horrified at this situation - it is never about how YOU want the child to be progressing, we must be there for these children throughout the highs and lows especially your OWN child
Exactly! I agree with you 100%. They clearly didn’t love the child. This isn’t love. I think they didn’t see him as their own from the beginning 😢
As a foster mother who took in 6 sisters, this story makes me sick. The girls I took in were from 3 months old to 15 years. I went from 0 children to 6 in one day. Each had special needs in different ways and I would NEVER have put their lives on line for others to see. Their story is theirs to tell and not anyone elses. My heart is breaking for this poor little boy!
rachael fredenburg thank you for what you did. You made 6 lives exponentially better. You’re amazing and you set an example for people like Myka Stauffer.
Wow! That was an amazingly selfless thing to do. Best of luck to you and your family. Your story was the antidote for this poor little boy. On a side note, I can’t imagine how much fighting is going on over the bathroom with 6 girls. 😉 I hope you all stay safe and healthy! 😊
@@Julia-bl1qp Well I got those girls back in 1994 and they are all grown up now. I did adopt and now have adoted one of the girls little girl. So 6 girls from one mother, and one child of one of those 6 girls. I have lived a full and wonderful life, and I guess at least one of them thought I was good enough to let me raise one of her children! I guess that says I did an alright job with them. But you are right the bathroom was a night mere since we only had 1! I think the only thing I don't miss about those days is the PMS LOL
Prayers to you and your family to stay safe during this mess with CV19.
Some people think that because they "rescued" the child they are automatically entitled to the child's love
That's not how it works, it takes time, genuine love and care, and maybe professional help if it helps the child open up
The whole situation is just heartbreaking
If they weren’t a family vlog channel, this would just be an upsetting situation and a family trying to do what’s best for all of their children, biological and adopted. But the fact that they monetized him from day 1 just changes the situation completely for a lot of people 😕
Exactly 🙌🏻
Agreed!!!
Completely agree. That’s why her comments about “his privacy” made me so mad. Oh, so NOW you care about his privacy after showing videos of his tantrums and how “difficult” he was to deal with.
And that’s where I draw the line. I’m so angry and furious. The situation in general is horrendous but the monetization just screams “aesthetics for money” vibe.
No, it’s wrong regardless. The monetization just takes it too far
My mom was adopted from Korea and I spent an hour crying on the phone with her about this. She said “there’s already a hole in my heart from my Korean mom. I can’t imagine another hole there” :(
Sending your mom so much love. I hope this little boy finds a wonderful family.
💔
@Eternal Impermanence
@@jennyveile I hope so too. This situation is so sad. I hope that he has nothing but happy days forever
I also want to say that my grandma had two other biological children after they adopted my mom and one of them has developmental delays. They loved all their children the same. Thank you to everyone for the love for my family, my mom is one of my favorite people.
I am a former subscriber from when they started their journey to adopt Huxley and the time afterwards but unsubscribed when I started to notice that they, especially Myka, were treating him differently compared to how they interacted with their biological children and I felt like he didn't receive as much love and attention as the other kids. From what I've noticed by watching Myka's body language, she was the one rejecting Huxley and she didn't look like she actually tried to love this child and form a bond. That's why I could no longer bear watching this family because I felt so sorry for this little boy.
I just hope that Huxley won't suffer longterm from this experience and the separation trauma and is now with a family who truly loves and cares for him and his needs. But in the end, I guess it's better this way because these people are obviously not fit to be the loving family he deserves and needs.
If you adopt a child, they become your child and you are responsible for caring for them. They are not an object that you buy and return in case they don't fit into your lifestyle. And they knew very well beforehand that he has the special needs that he has. The sad thing is that if Huxley would have been their biological child, they probably wouldn't have given him away.
I just can't imagine the level of trauma that comes from being put up for adoption a second time. And the couple went to Bali a few weeks later and posted about it being a dream come true, while the child was having to adjust to a new family again.
WHAT?!
They went on a fancy vacation after rehoming a child?
@Saharan Dust Flux not joking. They gave up their child and went on vacation.
The “aesthetics” comment is so heartbreaking because it’s true. Your video has lots of heart but you are also very articulate.
I feel like a lot of family vloggers exploit their children and I don’t think the kids would agree to be on you tube. Shame on these people! This is a child not a puppy ! I don’t understand how you give a child back.
Kids shouldn't be allowed to be filmed on yt unless they are teens and give consent
@@brittxoxo2 I disagree. I watch family vloggers who vlog their kids and its all fun and wholesome content. As long as its nothing inappropriate or too personal. These people were either vloggers before they had kids or they just started vlogging as a hobby. I know one channel of a father who vlogs to help people and spread positivity to make a difference in the world.
In this case I think they were using their kid for money though.
As someone who has a disabled little brother and everyday is a struggle. This disgusts me. It hurts and actually very disturbing. It greatly offends me. Thank you for speaking about this.
Hi Erxn Frith, Hows things? Sorry to hear about your brother that's awful, but I myself know what it is like to have an illness and struggle everyday, I was ill for years and the doctors couldn't really help me, I don't blame them there was only so much they could of done for me, Then Jesus gave me a miracle and healed me, He is the God of miracles, God done amazing things in my life and in the lifes of my family, He can do the same for you and yours, Jesus loves you, when you need Him call out to Him, The bible tells us in Romans 10:13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved, God saved someone I love from an illness leading to death, There is nothing impossible to God, Its as simple as asking Jesus into your heart and life to be your personal Lord and Saviour, Jesus will answer you, I know this because He answered me when I needed Him, Take care
But it’s different because he’s not adopted so you actually love him
I'm disabled
I grew up going to a very white Christian church and I saw A LOT of white families adopting kids from other countries without being prepared to give them the proper support, they didn’t consider everything involved they just wanted the pat on the back. I think after seeing so many of these situations, I’m just skeptical. As a law student who had that in the back of my mind (and have a mother who runs a daycare) I considered child advocacy, I talked to a lot of child advocacy attorneys and I did a lot of research. I am not a child advocate, I decided on juvenile justice so grain of salt but I do not know what “legal” aspect she is claiming is stopping her from talking about this. It seems like another excuse. What REALLY bothered me was her saying she hadn’t addressed this yet to “protect his privacy”, they exploited him for views on RUclips they took away his privacy and now they’re using it as an excuse for not fully being held accountable for their choices. Ugh I got so worked up about this whole situation and knew you’d cover this well I’m glad you made this video.
As a fellow law student, I would love to sue the hell out of the adoption agency and those parents, the amount of damage they have done and will cause this little boy is beyond repair.
I had a friend who was adopted, from Korea, by a religious family. She once told me that her “mother” told her, “If I could have had children of my own, we wouldn’t have adopted.” I remember thinking that was a very cold thing to say. I still remember that comment after 30 years.
and a lot of these families sell the rights of their stories for movies and book deals.
It's convenient he/she's deleting mass amounts of videos that do show her talking down to him, shutting him in his room, taping his hands (which, yes, there really was a video of) for thumb sucking (and the older siblings were in the background also sucking their thumb but they didnt get duct taped), calling the other kids around him the "bio" kids, complaining about 500 a month in therapy when they had thousands spent in jewelry/products/trips/upgraded home/cars, getting annoyed with him not responding shortly after adoption and instantly claiming nonverbal when...Idk maybe the natural first response would have been that he doesn't know English for one.
My first thought was madonna. She did that.
As soon as I learned about this, I was disgusted. I am currently working on getting my MSW. My previous job experience has been working with autistic children and their families. One particular family that I became incredibly close with were white parents who had adopted two girls from China, one is my age and the other (who I worked with) was 17. She is autistic, and they had adopted her as a baby before anything regarding her autism was known. When I tell u that those parents dropped everything to care for their child.... her mom left work in marketing to go back to school to get her masters in behavioral analysis. She has fought so hard for her daughter and advocated for her to get the treatment she needed regardless of how other adults perceived her as a mother.... I’m sure if she heard about this situation she would have MANY things to say...
At this point she should have her channels deleted.
All 3 of them
She should even just by RUclips's TOS saying "no kids" after the predator issues.
I was slightly shocked viewing their channel a few days ago...the "perfect family image" "perfect mum" "perfect morning routine" "perfect cleaning" etc..etc...is still there...no troubles in paradise! Truly
incredibile...how dare they? How can people still believe that crap?
I’ve tried to see it from both sides...and I still can’t understand. How do you give up a child...a baby...you were his home! The rhetoric they used to explain his “situation” broke my heart. I hope the child is given every opportunity to flourish and be happy.
I honestly don’t see how anyone could defend this. Decided to “rehome” him what 2? 3? Years after he’s been with them?! I can’t imagine how scared and confused he was. It breaks my heart. This world breaks my heart 💔
That's the main horrible thing about this. I know some adoptions don't work out and after a few weeks, the parents realize they can't take care of the child, but doing it after YEARS??? This would be devastating for any child and unimaginable for an autistic child. They would never do this to their biological children and its vile.
3 freaking years and they talked about him like he was a puppy who became hard to handle and it just didn’t work out- he’s a little boy! Was supposed to be their little boy! 3 years😭 literally makes me want to break down in tears, i can’t wrap my head around it
I agree. I feel sad for that little boy. She knew what she was getting into and she failed all of her children.
Yes And he was so little when he was adopted! So he really sees them as his parents!! He grew up with them. They where his parents and siblings!! He wil cry every night because he misses his family. Imagine the pain and confusion on huxley😢. Also he is autistic do you know how bad this wil affect him. He is away from is save place.
" Brand new baby smell" M'am this adoption not a car
Omg disturbing
Lmao I was like wtf
Myka is a nut case!
I wish I could like this 1000 times
Disturbing af. I'm shocked all this happened.
basically she kept him for three years, made most of her money off him and gave him away. Don't adopt a child if you don't have something good planned ahead (good goals for the child).
You hit most of the points I was concerned about. I also wanted to note the impact of this on their other children? How do you process having a new brother- all their memories together for 3 years- then your mum and dad giving him away again... And that's it? Not to forget all these videos of your "ex-brother" online? How worrying- do they think they could be given away too if they do something bad? I dread to think.
I was wondering that too. I can’t wrap my head around this at age 31, I can’t imagine how the kids are dealing with it..
Very good point!!
I'm worried that they will say awful things about him to their other children so that he is painted negatively in their minds
Yes!! I could imagine the other kids are now worried that they are also disposable. They saw it happen, I’m sure they now think it could happen to them. It’s really awful. They appear to have the money that they could afford top of the line care for their son, even to the point of having a live-in aid that could’ve helped without traumatizing Hux and the rest of the kids. All the money that they made off of this poor child should be allocated to his care considering he was never able to consent to his life being shared online. I wish there was some kind of legal recourse for this but I don’t think there will be. What a terrible situation.
@@KathleenAndEmmaShow Exactly. There is also nothing wrong with seeking professional help to take care of a child with developmental disorders, it's the RIGHT thing to do. It doesn't mean you fail.. it just means you want the best for them. Man I just feel so sad about this and I've never heard of this woman and her family.
I was finally adopted by the most beautiful person ever, but before she was able to take care of me I was relocated many times and that process of moving out to a different house with different ppl scarred me for life it made me a dark quiet avoidant person and I'm still in therapy for the childhood I had, but I was lucky to met my beautiful mom and she adopted me at the age of 7 years old, my life change for the better, that woman saved my life, and for all the kids out there in a situation like that I pray they find the right parents. Thank you for talking about this Hannah ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My mom has thirteen siblings, ten are adopted. I can’t even fathom my grandparents up and deciding to send one of their children back because it got “too hard.” My cousin was taken out of an adopted home because that “mother” couldn’t handle him being hyperactive; she had him exercise in the heat nonstop until he went unconscious. He has scars and had brain surgery from what that person did to him as a preschooler. When my grandma got the call about him, my whole family jumped into action to get him into our family and safe. Today he is thirteen and the sweetest boy I know and I can only hope my future children are like him; he has trouble retaining information because of what that person did to him. My grandparents fostered after the adoptions well into their fifties. The last child they fostered was adopted by a close family friend and they’re both treated as family. I cannot wrap my head around two grown adults adopting a child up to glorify themselves. There’s no way they would have done that with their biological children. Makes me wonder if he ever really was a son to them. I pray that little boy gets the protection and love he deserves.
RUclips needs to ban family vlog channels, it is absolutely exploitative. Childhood is not a commodity for mass consumption.
Jessica Murker......I agree with you 💯. Have you been subscribed to "The Dad's Challenge Podcast" and see what he is doing to try and get family channels to stop exploiting their children????
This is disgusting. This child was exploited, then abandoned.
“I got that baby scent... I never got from my son” that is just so weird to say
Right!?? That’s what I thought. So creepy and manipulative. “I love feeling his skin. Sometimes i want to steal it for myself. That’s why I like adopting them nice and young” barf
Seriously. It's like "I'm so glad I have this baby scent because I was NOT bonding with this kid since I didn't give birth to him"
@@MrXiaoqiao ewww. Really said that??
When she said that it just made me think she goes into the laundry room after she does their laundry and just sniff their clothes for like 5 minutes straight.
She’s absolutely gross. It’s all about her: what SHE lacked as a result of this adoption. What a total narcissistic creep. We already had one Joan Collins, we are NOT hiring for another!
Why is no one talking about the husband? he's as much responsible for this child as the wife.
Maybe because the youtube channel is in her name and she’s the face of the channel always giving patenting tips and stuff. The father should be held equally responsible, you are correct, but I think the reason people are focusing her because she’s going against her own words.
I asked the same question on another video. I think there should be questions asked about him too.
I think it’s because this was her whole idea and the husband didn’t want to adopt a kid with special needs in the first place
The husband said he didn’t know about adoption but this will be an adventure they’ve never done before. It’s like it was a to-do list like this is something to check off🤦🏾♀️
I have been mentioning this all over the place. He just follows along with whatever she says and does for money and fame. He should have put his foot down and said no we are not going to do this. They are two greedy fame driven fake people. He has nearly a million followers on his channel StaufferGarage. Please go to his channel and speak up.
Girl do it! Get kids rights on social media, sick of parents exploiting their kids.
She's made the adoption video private but she needs to make all of them private from the last 2 years. She needs to give him his money sonhe can get therapy and he can have money for the rest of his.
As a Chinese adoptee who had special / medical needs myself, this whole situation absolutely disgusts me. I can only imagine how being abandoned a SECOND time will affect Huxley. They knew what they were getting themselves into before they chose to adopt him and yet they still did not do adequate research. If their own biological children had health complications like his, they would never abandon them. It truly angers me so much that they profited off an adopted child that has Down Syndrome and then once they decided that they had enough of him, they literally tossed him aside like an object. Thank you so much for making this video and raising awareness about how corrupt these people are. You hit a lot of huge points and shared your observation of this mess in a very professional and informative manner. We need more people like you! ❤️
Hannah 💕💕💕💕
My sister is autistic, and this situation makes me sick to my stomach. My sister is my biological sister, but the idea of someone “returning” a child because they can’t handle them hurts my heart.
International adoption especially from Asia has always made me uncomfortable. If you know the history of East Asian adoption it has always been closely tied to a white savior complex, so thank you for naming that. As a WOC I couldn't even watch their video because it felt like my own brother was being abandoned. It was too painful.
Just putting this out there. The Stauffers are going to need to get real jobs because they've been selling themselves as family vloggers. People aren't going to watch them after this.
Hope so
I hope people stop watching these despicable parents especially as they make money off each view.
Hopefully all of their subscribers turn them off.
Sadly people are going to still watch them. There’s so many people that are on their side 🤢
Sad to say but their subscribers are very supportive of them. Just look at the amount of support they get in their comments. The subscribers think the Stauffers are angels and that it couldn't be helped they had to give up Huxley.
I was hoping you would talk about this
Angel M same I saw this today and was like whhhat in the world
ikr. as soon as i saw the story i wanted to hear hannahs takes.
And she didn’t dissapoint
Same. I saw NoWhiteSaviors on Instagram address it & I was hoping the RUclips commentary community would talk about it.
Some people see adoption as some sort of aesthetic, beautiful journey. It’s real life, it’s hard. Kids aren’t disposable.
As a Chinese adoptee myself, this story was incredibly upsetting.
Im so sorry
Can’t imagine how tough it must have been to watch this... sending love 💕
Bless you and yours. I’m white, and a mom. This is so disgusting to me. Im so sorry this is even a thing, ever.
They also need to stop saying that they “re-homed” him- they have their son up for adoption because he was special needs...the fact that he is adopted should be taken out of the equation
The money they made should be given to the child.
this entire thing just sounded like they wanted him to be a foreign, special needs child just so they could not only pull the white saviour complex card of him coming from another country, but probably also so they could show off to their fans how they were able to "fix" this poor little boy. and when they realised that no, these are serious, deeply rooted issues that can't be kissed away in the span of a couple of vlogs and healed with sunshine and rainbows, he became useless to their purposes. just the sheer entitlement of them abandoning him like a broken toy, it disgusts me, especially when you consider his attachment issues. what they should have done was to stop broadcasting their kids' lives, and invest the money they both make from their (definitely monetized) youtube channels to get professional help, away from the cameras, and make sure they would be able to give this young boy the life they PROMISED him, and that not only they, but also their own kids worked so hard on. can you imagine being a child in that household? seeing your brother being taken away forever because he was too "difficult" for mommy and daddy, after you tried for years to get along with him and form a bond like proper siblings? in a developmental phase so important as his age right now, ripping away whatever bonds he was able to form despite his issues is probably the most traumatic thing they could have done to him, and he will probably have to carry this with him for the rest of his life, maybe even have more mental issues arise from it. they are completely destroying a young life, just because he became too inconvenient for them after they specifically CHOSE him, and now they will just get away with it, like that. it infuriates me beyond words.
100% agree with all of this. This was basically a case of white savior complex that is publicized for the world to see. Quite literally, the more special needs he was presented as being prior to adopting, the more it fed her ego and her feelings of being a saint and such a Godly giving woman for taking such a "poor helpless child." Which is also why she happily advertised all of that information on her RUclips...aka humble bragging. The second it stopped feeding her ego or validating her feelings of being this amazing selfless mom, she immediately started looking for justifications and rationalizations for re-homing him. She literally said he told her that he wanted another family. Lol. Yes DEFINITELY MyKa. This 4 year old with severe autism and reactive attachment had the mental faculties to very eloquently articulate his desires for a different family...and as a child he definitely is capable of recognizing the severity and magnitude of a decision beyond what's happening in the moment. First off, a 4 year old without any developmental delays is also in no way fit to make decisons of that caliber. I know 4 year olds that very fervently would like to eat icecream 24 hours a day, but as the big kid adulty person I sure as shit am not going to enable that. She is narcissistic human garbage, and I'm glad she's being exposed for her complete exploitation of this child. It's beyond revolting.
Unfortunately these disgusting youtubers are just a slice of the reality. This has been going on for ages, guys. People adopting from abroad and then abandoning the child after months or years. There was a series on youtube about now grown up children like this, adopted from far countries and then abandoned once problems started arise. Some "parents" wouldn't even bother to do paperwork for their foreign kids and these kids would get deported from the US at legal age when they lived all their life there!!! I hope these bloggers get the backlash they deserve but most importantly there must be done something to enforce accountability for these things.
@@crazydanger do you remember the name of the series??? I'm with you though. If anything, I hope this whole thing sheds more light on international adoption and the objectification and dehumanization of non-white and non-American babies. It's so sad that I only recently started learning about all of this.
Big thanks to Myka for being the poster child of this shitty phenomenon! What a hero
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Adopting a foreign AND special needs child with no experience in childcare for either is selfishly and willfully ignorant.
“He will hit them cuz he was aggressive” idk not ONE child /siblings who didn’t hit each other coming up.
Such a weak excuse!
This kid was 4 years old as well like wtf
and who calls a toddler with developmental issues "aggressive" ??? like how does that make any sense
I literally knocked out my little sisters tooth when I was 9 and she was 6 during a play brawl taken a bit too far. We used to beat the crap out of each other all the time and even 9 years later we still playfully fight. Huxley was only 4 tho?? Like, how hard can the little tike punch?
Seriously, everything they said he did sounded like normal sibling behavior...smh. He might not have been so “aggressive” if they actually educated themselves about autism to begin with. They complained about him biting and pinching like he was setting the dog on fire, yet they never thought to get him a sensory chew? Yah, no, these people suck.
As an internationally adopted child who had a great life because of my amazingly loving parents, this situation makes me so angry and sad for this child !
I was adopted when I was two years old. My adopted parents never once thought of giving me back nor did I have such an extreme medical condition. Yet I am 21 years old and still suffer from attachment and neglect issues. So I can not imagine what this child is going through considering the prior medical conditions effecting him. This is cruel and only putting this child through even more trauma. My heart is literally breaking for this
child.
The fact that they are still monetizing his videos while claiming they are trying to protect his privacy is absolutely ridiculous
19:25 "if one of their biological children had developmental delays, there'd never be a thought to put them in the foster system" literally what I was screaming while watching their video....... *internally screaming*
Yup. That what I was thinking too. You would figure it out. Not toss the child into the street.
Yep. Wife and I said the same.
She hired a personal trainer immediately after getting rid of him! She's got her priorities in place. I think the public deserves more information. We all need to see the proof little boy is being looked after. + Her videos involving Hux need to be reported.
Stacey A a personal trainer?? She possibly gave a child lifelong trauma so that she could get into shape?? That’s absolutely disgusting!! She needs to be deplatformed.
Let's be real. Every single point you made is correct. Every.single.thing.
1000% agree
Except the word rehome its replace when it comes to the system terms replacement home not rehome home for a child
Yes!