Absolutely! Shame prevent narcissists from reaching out, which can be a good thing for those on the receiving end. Thank you for sharing your perspective!
The never again list is the best place to be!!! I give God the glory everyday that he removes this demon from my life!! My soul feels so good! And it's because IT is gone! I didn't realize how draining being in that type of relationship was. I'm a thriver!!!!!
I’m so glad to hear you’re thriving and feeling such relief! It’s amazing how freeing it can be to let go of toxic relationships. I wish you all the best on your journey to continued happiness and strength!
I remember when i use to beg him to pretend to Love me even if he doesn't. Just because i always feel like he's an enemy trying to take revenge on me. But thank God for the awareness.
It's powerful that you've gained that awareness! Recognizing those patterns is a huge step towards healing and reclaiming your strength. I'm glad you're moving forward and prioritizing your well-being. Stay strong!
You raise an interesting point! Many people believe that narcissists often lack genuine shame, which can contribute to their manipulative behaviors. It’s important to recognize these patterns to protect ourselves. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
During the smear campaign earlier this year my ex lied and told people that I had said this and that to her in private messages. People asked her if she still had the messages and she replied no. Quite convenient as all the messages I had sent her were nice and full of empathy. The fact is she is full of guilt and shame due to her actions and the fact that she has pushed away another decent human being
I'm sorry to hear you went through a smear campaign, that can be incredibly hurtful. It’s clear you acted with kindness, and it’s frustrating when others try to twist the truth. Your strength in facing this situation is commendable, and I appreciate you sharing your story!
It's unbelievable to me how they really are. I am getting abused by a couple of them and for one of them to have gone above and beyond with his abuse, is still unbelievable. I don't even know him at all nor did I feel like we ever had anything good or solid, it was just sex to me and I most definitely know that it was the same for him plus, in his mind he "kept me" because he wanted to exploit me financially, nothing more. Idk, I have absolutely no respect for him nor will I ever ever seen him like a normal human being.
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through such a difficult situation. It’s heartbreaking to encounter people who exploit and abuse others. Recognizing the truth of the situation is a strong step towards protecting yourself and finding your worth. Please take care of yourself, and remember that you deserve kindness and respect.
Do not forget the REVERSE DISCARD that they make you do, instead of discarding you themselves. This is the most coward way to END a relationship and they are so f. sneaky and hypocrite that the blame goes on you instead of on them and they keep their reputation intact. The thing is the devaluation is so strong that you have no choice to take action.
You’re absolutely right! The reverse discard is a manipulative tactic that can leave you feeling confused and hurt. It’s infuriating how they can shift the blame and maintain their facade while causing so much pain. Recognizing these patterns is crucial for healing and reclaiming your power. Thank you for sharing your insight!
I don’t think the narcissist will ever Hoover me again I caused a narcissistic injury and shame by confronting him and telling him that he is dead to me. I do know that no matter how bad the fight or argument can be the narcissist can be very bold and still Hoover but this time feels very different. About 10 months ago I was no contact he kept hoovering me I finally got tired of the hoovering and stood up to him telling him I know what he is. I said he needs to get help he’s a narcissist. After getting upset at me that I wasn’t going for the love bomb and wasn’t trying to sleep with him anymore he got upset switched it up on me and said I’m delusional and need help and for me to go heal and live my best life. I told him I most definitely will live my best life without you and told him he is dead to me. He responded back saying don’t ever talk to me again. I guess he expected me to chase but nope I didn’t and didn’t respond and went back no contact. It’s been 3 months I haven’t heard anything and I’m glad. I won’t be surprised if he does Hoover but then again I feel like this was the last discard. I did get randoms numbers call me last week it could of been him but I highly doubt it. I even got a random text from a fake number right after I announced me moving to a different state on my social media. The text simply said my nickname that close friends and family only call me with a link of available apartments attached to the text to simply stay in this town even though I’m moving to a different state. It could of been the narc but I try not to think to deep into it. Anyways I did have a dream about him last night of him trying to get me back and Hoover me. I hope this is the final straw I just want to move on and live my life without all the toxic bs.
man, you are right 👍 about this. when I found out about my supervisor who I wanted to make look good was trying to sabotage my work and ruin my reputation, I stroked back at him and made sure everybody in the company knows his empty soul, I knew I was on my way out but I couldn't resist the urge to get back at that SOB, he was so awful, he enjoys destroying people's lives and be right there looking at them while they are in pain, and they have nothing to do, I saw that smile on his face and I determined to do what ever I can do to bring him down,as we all know narcissists are not that smart and they tend to behave consistently the same way over and over again, I put it in writing when came to work and I played a video about narcissisticm so he can hear, the video was about how to unmask a narcissistc Jerk and expose them 😂 I saw his body language, he got soooo angry, and believe me I made him miserable for the rest of the days before I quit,non of his tricks worked on me, God knows I wasn't doing that to hurt him but I did it because I had went through a lot and I just couldn't tolerate any more, conclusion is that he got fired days later, he collapsed and went on an emotional breakdown and people couldn't figure out what the problem was, I'm asking God to forgive me for what I did, I know someone like that can not win against God
I don't think that is no contact, I don't think that you caused much shame/injury, and I think that you are hoping to get a message out to him for some reason, and hoping that he will hoover leaving him easy access to you while going 'no contact'. If you're not hoovering him amidst a smear campaign. I don't know, but there's a high probability that your situation has not been resolved.
It sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's inspiring to hear how strong you've been in standing your ground. Going no contact can be a powerful choice for healing, and it seems like you're really committed to living your best life without the toxicity. Trust your instincts, and keep focusing on your journey forward! Thank you for sharing your experience.
@@TheMelancholyangel sweetie I have been no contact your a outside looking in. I have broken up with him last year I was no contact with him for 10 months going on 11 months. Because I got tired of him hoovering me I made it clear that he was dead to me and I didn’t want anything to do with him. I broke my silence so he can leave me the hell alone because that’s what he does he Hoovers me and tries to bait me so I can sleep with him I don’t want to sleep with him or anything to do with him. Just want to be left alone. In a previously narcissist video this person made they stated in the video to make it clear so that’s what I did. Because I made it clear he got upset which did cause shame and narcissist injury. No I do not and am not looking for a message out him why would I want that if I made it clear that he’s dead to me so he can stop harassing me. Leave the false narrative to yourself. Why would I Hoover him you sound crazy. I’m trying to get away from him which is why I’m moving out to a different country . Which I stated in the comment. Reading is fundamental!!!
I'm glad you liked that part! The "never again" list can be a powerful tool for reminding ourselves of the lessons learned and the boundaries we want to maintain. Thank you for your feedback!
I'm so glad to hear you're finding happiness and strength in your decision! It's empowering to know that you’re prioritizing your well-being. Wishing you continued peace and clarity on your journey!
I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult situation. It must be challenging to navigate these feelings and dynamics. If you need support or someone to talk to, I encourage you to reach out to trusted friends or professionals who can help.
My wife was so Stupid , she would try to call me and leave a message saying I Really don’t want to talk to you in Person or on the Phone. My thought was then Why are you calling?
It sounds like a frustrating situation. Communication can be really confusing, especially in difficult relationships. I hope you find clarity and peace as you navigate through this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
My ex was the same, she would break up with me and as soon as I accepted it and told her I will move on I got “look how easy you give up on me, you don’t even try to get me back” insanity.
I love that , they are so stuck on themselves thinking THEY ARE THE ONLY ONES in the WORLD and no one else can have US, and put US ON THE BOOKSHELF . Isn’t that FUNNY, my wife is a LIBRARIAN and should know that there is PLENTY OF BOOKS for OTHER MUCH MORE DESERVING WOMEN out there just waiting to find they RIGHT BOOK to OWN and ACTUALLY LOVE. What these NARCS think is what they have between their LEGS is BETTER than ANY other and should be good enough , they have TOTALLY DELUSIONAL thinking.
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I always called him out!!!!!! That's why he left me for good!!!! I will not allow him to return for the rest of my life!!!! He can be narc or not narc. I don't care and don't want him!!!@
Exactly once you start calling them out they get to running cause they know they are fake empty and full of shit and they know you are telling the truth about them and it hurts them so bad fk the narc
It’s empowering to hear that you stood your ground and called him out! Setting boundaries and refusing to allow someone back into your life is a strong choice for your well-being. Stay strong, and keep prioritizing yourself!
With mine it's always the deep visible sadness that begs for pity. It's the damn pity ploy and then he gets angry troll face if I don't feel bad for him 😔
That’s a tough situation to navigate! It’s frustrating when their sadness feels like a manipulation tactic. Recognizing those patterns is crucial for protecting your own emotional well-being. Thank you for sharing your experience. You're not alone in this!
My ex narc of 25 years has no empathy so he will not feel shame. I believe I don’t hear from him is because he has returned to a controlling religious group…. The Jehovah Witnesses. So I believe his main focus is trying to be accepted and back in the hall. It may take a year or so before he is accepted back. That’s crazy. Let him go please his mother. Happily divorced since August 2024.
Awww no sweetheart. I am one of Jehovah’s witnesses and love my God dearly. He could never be accused of being controlling honey. People choose to believe in ways that don’t truly represent who he really is. That’s part of being so imperfect. If he’s going back because he’s truly sorry then that’s good, only Jehovah God knows what a person’s true motives are and trust me if it’s not pure and honest he will hold him accountable for his actions. But at the same time if he really is repentant then he will forgive him. Controlling? No. We all have free will and decide whether we want to listen to what the Bible teaches or not. I hope that clears things up at least a little bit. ❤ I have to stand for truth.
@@pamelahayden3562no they organization is controlling. I was married to him for 25 years. His mother held it over his head and treated him so bad cause he married someone not in his religion. His brothers were disfellowship and cause they help her financially she fine with them. My ex narc suffers from mental illness she was not nice to him. She controlled him and so will the religion. Hence that is why watch tower has its name. They watch you and all what you do! They control the way you think! Look at how they study with you. It’s mind control. Wake up like other JW and get on with your life and live it well. My ex narc is a porn addict f”been one for 42 years I’ve learned. And although he has returned doing Bible studies he will always watch porn! He will play the hell out of that organization and hide behind his filth!! So if they accept him back I pray the women in the church watch their kids. Cause he is into a lot with the porn… men and children as well!! He gone back to please his mother what she should have done was get him the help when he came to her at 19 while he was in the JW hall. If his mother was a true person of god she wouldn’t have treated me differently cause I am not in her religion. She never got to know me. That was evil of her. My ex narc even said he wished his mother didn’t get in our business. I told the elders of both of them. They need to know!
It sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's great to hear that you're happily divorced! Focusing on your own well-being while he seeks acceptance elsewhere is a strong choice. Wishing you continued strength and happiness on your journey!
@ thank you so much. Sad thing is I have never heard about narcissism until my last 8 months of marriage. I didn’t know what I was dealing with all those years. Had I have known, I would have left years ago. Also learned along the way he was a porn addict of 42 years. All I did was help him.. it was like I was his mother, his doctor, his nurse, his psychologist, etc. so yes I have been through a lot. To this day, he has never apologized to me, but I guess I shouldn’t expect an apology because he feels he has done nothing wrong. My closure is learning of what he’s done to me go out, so it all and he would have to answer to him one day.
I am married to a covert narcissist for 44yrs. Lies..secrets and controlling. He has brainwashed my son against me. Finally I am going to divorce him. Serving him the divorce papers in January. No physical or emotional contact for 10yrs. Keep me in your prayers ❤😢❤
I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through for so long. Making the decision to divorce takes immense strength, and I admire your courage. I truly hope you find healing and peace in this new chapter of your life. ❤✨
💙This installation has answered so many questions. I guess letting her know her daughter was surreptitiously named after a previous girlfriend (right under her nose and with her unknowing acceptance at the time) and that I confronted her about her infidelity was just too shameful for her; especially when it all was done in front of one of her sisters. Sometimes it is best to follow your instincts. (big smile and celebratory howl at the moon!)
I’m glad the video provided clarity for you! It sounds like you’ve navigated some tough situations, and trusting your instincts is so important. Keep celebrating your journey, and thank you for sharing your experience! 💙
When the narc ghosted me over Thanksgiving week i blocked him for 2 weeks, then saw him and told him he was getting punished for ignoring me during Thanksgiving week which is my favorite holiday. Anyway, i think i won't hear from him anymore. Darn!
It sounds like you took a strong stand for yourself, which is commendable! Setting boundaries is crucial, especially when it comes to protecting your feelings. Whatever happens next, prioritize your well-being and happiness. Thank you for sharing your experience!
It's understandable to feel frustrated with a narcissistic personality, especially when it affects you deeply. Remember, focusing on your own healing and well-being is essential. Thank you for sharing your feelings!
I think my ex narcissist is not hoovering because he is pist that I for the first time I walked away from him after he disappeared on me for a month. Never threatened to leave and always took him back without question. I knew that one day I would walk away and lose the love I once had for him. I resent him and will not ever return to him.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you've made a powerful decision for your well-being, and it's important to prioritize your own healing. Recognizing how these patterns affect us is a significant step forward. Stay strong!
I got quite a few indirect hoover attempts I rejected. One attempt was a picture of flowers he gave me after a serious medical event that almost cost my life, would just suddenly pop up on my phone then disappear... is this something to do with spy ware? I found it a little disturbing and was not tempted into unblocking. Done and dusted!
It sounds like you handled that situation with strength and clarity! Indirect hoover attempts can be unsettling, and it's great to hear you stayed firm in your decision. Trust your instincts, and prioritizing your well-being is always the right choice. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I’m glad you enjoy the content! Just to clarify, while AI plays a role, this video is based on personal experiences and observations as well. It’s important to share real insights alongside information. Thank you for your support!
maybe it is the way how to cure my wife and get her back to new relative healthy relationship (4 months from brutal discard and she is living with new supply)
It’s understandable to want to restore a healthy relationship, but it's essential to prioritize both your well-being and hers. Healing takes time, and focusing on your own growth can be a powerful step forward. Wishing you strength on your journey!
"Hoovering" refers to the tactic used by narcissists to suck someone back into the relationship after a breakup or period of no contact. It's often characterized by attempts to reconnect and manipulate emotions. If you have any more questions about it, feel free to ask!
That’s incredible to hear! Blocking him and staying strong despite the gestures shows just how far you’ve come. It’s great that you’ve woken up to your worth and are focused on moving forward. Keep prioritizing yourself, and thank you for sharing your journey!
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Having too much shame to reach out.. GOOD, keep it that way
Absolutely! Shame prevent narcissists from reaching out, which can be a good thing for those on the receiving end. Thank you for sharing your perspective!
The never again list is the best place to be!!! I give God the glory everyday that he removes this demon from my life!! My soul feels so good! And it's because IT is gone! I didn't realize how draining being in that type of relationship was. I'm a thriver!!!!!
I’m so glad to hear you’re thriving and feeling such relief! It’s amazing how freeing it can be to let go of toxic relationships. I wish you all the best on your journey to continued happiness and strength!
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My experience is they will avoid you face to face however they secretly stalk. its very creepy.
I remember when i use to beg him to pretend to Love me even if he doesn't. Just because i always feel like he's an enemy trying to take revenge on me. But thank God for the awareness.
It's powerful that you've gained that awareness! Recognizing those patterns is a huge step towards healing and reclaiming your strength. I'm glad you're moving forward and prioritizing your well-being. Stay strong!
Shame??? They have NONE!! 😮
They have ego, a fragil one but they don't forget those who dodged their bullets.
I don’t think so either, I don’t know about that… not convinced
You raise an interesting point! Many people believe that narcissists often lack genuine shame, which can contribute to their manipulative behaviors. It’s important to recognize these patterns to protect ourselves. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
During the smear campaign earlier this year my ex lied and told people that I had said this and that to her in private messages. People asked her if she still had the messages and she replied no. Quite convenient as all the messages I had sent her were nice and full of empathy. The fact is she is full of guilt and shame due to her actions and the fact that she has pushed away another decent human being
I'm sorry to hear you went through a smear campaign, that can be incredibly hurtful. It’s clear you acted with kindness, and it’s frustrating when others try to twist the truth. Your strength in facing this situation is commendable, and I appreciate you sharing your story!
It's unbelievable to me how they really are. I am getting abused by a couple of them and for one of them to have gone above and beyond with his abuse, is still unbelievable. I don't even know him at all nor did I feel like we ever had anything good or solid, it was just sex to me and I most definitely know that it was the same for him plus, in his mind he "kept me" because he wanted to exploit me financially, nothing more. Idk, I have absolutely no respect for him nor will I ever ever seen him like a normal human being.
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through such a difficult situation. It’s heartbreaking to encounter people who exploit and abuse others. Recognizing the truth of the situation is a strong step towards protecting yourself and finding your worth. Please take care of yourself, and remember that you deserve kindness and respect.
Do not forget the REVERSE DISCARD that they make you do, instead of discarding you themselves. This is the most coward way to END a relationship
and they are so f. sneaky and hypocrite that the blame goes on you instead of on them and they keep their reputation intact. The thing is the devaluation is so strong that you have no choice to take action.
You’re absolutely right! The reverse discard is a manipulative tactic that can leave you feeling confused and hurt. It’s infuriating how they can shift the blame and maintain their facade while causing so much pain. Recognizing these patterns is crucial for healing and reclaiming your power. Thank you for sharing your insight!
I don’t think the narcissist will ever Hoover me again I caused a narcissistic injury and shame by confronting him and telling him that he is dead to me. I do know that no matter how bad the fight or argument can be the narcissist can be very bold and still Hoover but this time feels very different. About 10 months ago I was no contact he kept hoovering me I finally got tired of the hoovering and stood up to him telling him I know what he is. I said he needs to get help he’s a narcissist. After getting upset at me that I wasn’t going for the love bomb and wasn’t trying to sleep with him anymore he got upset switched it up on me and said I’m delusional and need help and for me to go heal and live my best life. I told him I most definitely will live my best life without you and told him he is dead to me. He responded back saying don’t ever talk to me again. I guess he expected me to chase but nope I didn’t and didn’t respond and went back no contact. It’s been 3 months I haven’t heard anything and I’m glad. I won’t be surprised if he does Hoover but then again I feel like this was the last discard. I did get randoms numbers call me last week it could of been him but I highly doubt it. I even got a random text from a fake number right after I announced me moving to a different state on my social media. The text simply said my nickname that close friends and family only call me with a link of available apartments attached to the text to simply stay in this town even though I’m moving to a different state. It could of been the narc but I try not to think to deep into it. Anyways I did have a dream about him last night of him trying to get me back and Hoover me. I hope this is the final straw I just want to move on and live my life without all the toxic bs.
man, you are right 👍 about this. when I found out about my supervisor who I wanted to make look good was trying to sabotage my work and ruin my reputation, I stroked back at him and made sure everybody in the company knows his empty soul, I knew I was on my way out but I couldn't resist the urge to get back at that SOB, he was so awful, he enjoys destroying people's lives and be right there looking at them while they are in pain, and they have nothing to do, I saw that smile on his face and I determined to do what ever I can do to bring him down,as we all know narcissists are not that smart and they tend to behave consistently the same way over and over again, I put it in writing when came to work and I played a video about narcissisticm so he can hear, the video was about how to unmask a narcissistc Jerk and expose them 😂 I saw his body language, he got soooo angry, and believe me I made him miserable for the rest of the days before I quit,non of his tricks worked on me, God knows I wasn't doing that to hurt him but I did it because I had went through a lot and I just couldn't tolerate any more, conclusion is that he got fired days later, he collapsed and went on an emotional breakdown and people couldn't figure out what the problem was, I'm asking God to forgive me for what I did, I know someone like that can not win against God
I don't think that is no contact, I don't think that you caused much shame/injury, and I think that you are hoping to get a message out to him for some reason, and hoping that he will hoover leaving him easy access to you while going 'no contact'. If you're not hoovering him amidst a smear campaign. I don't know, but there's a high probability that your situation has not been resolved.
It sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's inspiring to hear how strong you've been in standing your ground. Going no contact can be a powerful choice for healing, and it seems like you're really committed to living your best life without the toxicity. Trust your instincts, and keep focusing on your journey forward! Thank you for sharing your experience.
I think like in my case that he will not come back and thank you Lord. Love is not deception and pain.
@@TheMelancholyangel sweetie I have been no contact your a outside looking in. I have broken up with him last year I was no contact with him for 10 months going on 11 months. Because I got tired of him hoovering me I made it clear that he was dead to me and I didn’t want anything to do with him. I broke my silence so he can leave me the hell alone because that’s what he does he Hoovers me and tries to bait me so I can sleep with him I don’t want to sleep with him or anything to do with him. Just want to be left alone. In a previously narcissist video this person made they stated in the video to make it clear so that’s what I did. Because I made it clear he got upset which did cause shame and narcissist injury. No I do not and am not looking for a message out him why would I want that if I made it clear that he’s dead to me so he can stop harassing me. Leave the false narrative to yourself. Why would I Hoover him you sound crazy. I’m trying to get away from him which is why I’m moving out to a different country . Which I stated in the comment. Reading is fundamental!!!
I like the never again list
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Glory to God,dont reach out at all.i am happy without him.lord will remove him from my life permanently.amen.
I'm so glad to hear you're finding happiness and strength in your decision! It's empowering to know that you’re prioritizing your well-being. Wishing you continued peace and clarity on your journey!
My wife will not hover cause she gave up 28 year old Disabled daughter to Social Services and knows I know when she walked out
I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult situation. It must be challenging to navigate these feelings and dynamics. If you need support or someone to talk to, I encourage you to reach out to trusted friends or professionals who can help.
My wife was so Stupid , she would try to call me and leave a message saying
I Really don’t want to talk to you in Person or on the Phone. My thought was then Why are you calling?
It sounds like a frustrating situation. Communication can be really confusing, especially in difficult relationships. I hope you find clarity and peace as you navigate through this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
My ex was the same, she would break up with me and as soon as I accepted it and told her I will move on I got “look how easy you give up on me, you don’t even try to get me back” insanity.
I love that , they are so stuck on themselves thinking THEY ARE THE ONLY ONES in the WORLD and no one else can have US, and put US ON THE BOOKSHELF . Isn’t that FUNNY, my wife is a LIBRARIAN and should know that there is PLENTY OF BOOKS for OTHER MUCH MORE DESERVING WOMEN out there just waiting to find they RIGHT BOOK to OWN and ACTUALLY LOVE. What these NARCS think is what they have between their LEGS is BETTER than ANY other and should be good enough , they have TOTALLY DELUSIONAL thinking.
You really nailed much of my experience and I'm very impressed. Thanks so much for this information as it is validating and supportive.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad to hear that the video resonated with your experiences and provided some validation. Your support means a lot!
I always called him out!!!!!! That's why he left me for good!!!! I will not allow him to return for the rest of my life!!!! He can be narc or not narc. I don't care and don't want him!!!@
Exactly once you start calling them out they get to running cause they know they are fake empty and full of shit and they know you are telling the truth about them and it hurts them so bad fk the narc
It’s empowering to hear that you stood your ground and called him out! Setting boundaries and refusing to allow someone back into your life is a strong choice for your well-being. Stay strong, and keep prioritizing yourself!
With mine it's always the deep visible sadness that begs for pity. It's the damn pity ploy and then he gets angry troll face if I don't feel bad for him 😔
He gets angry because the pity game doesn't work anymore.
That’s a tough situation to navigate! It’s frustrating when their sadness feels like a manipulation tactic. Recognizing those patterns is crucial for protecting your own emotional well-being. Thank you for sharing your experience. You're not alone in this!
My ex narc of 25 years has no empathy so he will not feel shame. I believe I don’t hear from him is because he has returned to a controlling religious group…. The Jehovah Witnesses. So I believe his main focus is trying to be accepted and back in the hall. It may take a year or so before he is accepted back. That’s crazy. Let him go please his mother. Happily divorced since August 2024.
Awww no sweetheart. I am one of Jehovah’s witnesses and love my God dearly. He could never be accused of being controlling honey. People choose to believe in ways that don’t truly represent who he really is. That’s part of being so imperfect. If he’s going back because he’s truly sorry then that’s good, only Jehovah God knows what a person’s true motives are and trust me if it’s not pure and honest he will hold him accountable for his actions. But at the same time if he really is repentant then he will forgive him. Controlling? No. We all have free will and decide whether we want to listen to what the Bible teaches or not. I hope that clears things up at least a little bit. ❤ I have to stand for truth.
@@pamelahayden3562no they organization is controlling. I was married to him for 25 years. His mother held it over his head and treated him so bad cause he married someone not in his religion. His brothers were disfellowship and cause they help her financially she fine with them. My ex narc suffers from mental illness she was not nice to him. She controlled him and so will the religion. Hence that is why watch tower has its name. They watch you and all what you do! They control the way you think! Look at how they study with you. It’s mind control. Wake up like other JW and get on with your life and live it well.
My ex narc is a porn addict f”been one for 42 years I’ve learned. And although he has returned doing Bible studies he will always watch porn! He will play the hell out of that organization and hide behind his filth!! So if they accept him back I pray the women in the church watch their kids. Cause he is into a lot with the porn… men and children as well!! He gone back to please his mother what she should have done was get him the help when he came to her at 19 while he was in the JW hall.
If his mother was a true person of god she wouldn’t have treated me differently cause I am not in her religion. She never got to know me. That was evil of her. My ex narc even said he wished his mother didn’t get in our business. I told the elders of both of them. They need to know!
It sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's great to hear that you're happily divorced! Focusing on your own well-being while he seeks acceptance elsewhere is a strong choice. Wishing you continued strength and happiness on your journey!
@ thank you so much. Sad thing is I have never heard about narcissism until my last 8 months of marriage. I didn’t know what I was dealing with all those years. Had I have known, I would have left years ago. Also learned along the way he was a porn addict of 42 years. All I did was help him.. it was like I was his mother, his doctor, his nurse, his psychologist, etc. so yes I have been through a lot. To this day, he has never apologized to me, but I guess I shouldn’t expect an apology because he feels he has done nothing wrong. My closure is learning of what he’s done to me go out, so it all and he would have to answer to him one day.
I am married to a covert narcissist for 44yrs. Lies..secrets and controlling. He has brainwashed my son against me. Finally I am going to divorce him. Serving him the divorce papers in January. No physical or emotional contact for 10yrs. Keep me in your prayers ❤😢❤
Will do, Ms. Fay!
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I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through for so long. Making the decision to divorce takes immense strength, and I admire your courage. I truly hope you find healing and peace in this new chapter of your life. ❤✨
37 year marriage here. Divorced 6 years.Get a good atty that understands Narcs. I hope you saved some $. This is war.
@@NarcPediaThank you so much for your kind words ❤❤❤
Peace and Blessings family. Stay Safe & Remain Strong
Amém!
Thank you so much! Peace and blessings to you as well. Your support means a lot, and I hope you stay safe and strong too!
💙This installation has answered so many questions. I guess letting her know her daughter was surreptitiously named after a previous girlfriend (right under her nose and with her unknowing acceptance at the time) and that I confronted her about her infidelity was just too shameful for her; especially when it all was done in front of one of her sisters. Sometimes it is best to follow your instincts. (big smile and celebratory howl at the moon!)
I’m glad the video provided clarity for you! It sounds like you’ve navigated some tough situations, and trusting your instincts is so important. Keep celebrating your journey, and thank you for sharing your experience! 💙
When the narc ghosted me over Thanksgiving week i blocked him for 2 weeks, then saw him and told him he was getting punished for ignoring me during Thanksgiving week which is my favorite holiday. Anyway, i think i won't hear from him anymore. Darn!
It sounds like you took a strong stand for yourself, which is commendable! Setting boundaries is crucial, especially when it comes to protecting your feelings. Whatever happens next, prioritize your well-being and happiness. Thank you for sharing your experience!
Great lecture
Thank you so much! I'm glad you found it helpful. If you have any thoughts or questions, feel free to share!
I hate this narcissistic Virgo ♍️ with a great passion
It's understandable to feel frustrated with a narcissistic personality, especially when it affects you deeply. Remember, focusing on your own healing and well-being is essential. Thank you for sharing your feelings!
I think my ex narcissist is not hoovering because he is pist that I for the first time I walked away from him after he disappeared on me for a month. Never threatened to leave and always took him back without question. I knew that one day I would walk away and lose the love I once had for him. I resent him and will not ever return to him.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you've made a powerful decision for your well-being, and it's important to prioritize your own healing. Recognizing how these patterns affect us is a significant step forward. Stay strong!
Exxellent
Thank you! I'm glad you found it excellent! Your support means a lot to me!
I got quite a few indirect hoover attempts I rejected.
One attempt was a picture of flowers he gave me after a serious medical event that almost cost my life, would just suddenly pop up on my phone then disappear... is this something to do with spy ware?
I found it a little disturbing and was not tempted into unblocking.
Done and dusted!
WhatsApp has that kind of message that delete itself after you open it.
It sounds like you handled that situation with strength and clarity! Indirect hoover attempts can be unsettling, and it's great to hear you stayed firm in your decision. Trust your instincts, and prioritizing your well-being is always the right choice. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I do like AI generated narcissism content
I’m glad you enjoy the content! Just to clarify, while AI plays a role, this video is based on personal experiences and observations as well. It’s important to share real insights alongside information. Thank you for your support!
maybe it is the way how to cure my wife and get her back to new relative healthy relationship (4 months from brutal discard and she is living with new supply)
It’s understandable to want to restore a healthy relationship, but it's essential to prioritize both your well-being and hers. Healing takes time, and focusing on your own growth can be a powerful step forward. Wishing you strength on your journey!
Hoover?
"Hoovering" refers to the tactic used by narcissists to suck someone back into the relationship after a breakup or period of no contact. It's often characterized by attempts to reconnect and manipulate emotions. If you have any more questions about it, feel free to ask!
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Thank you for the love! ❤️❤️❤️ I really appreciate your support and am glad you enjoyed the video!
I've blocked him. He sent me roses then balloons and a stuffed animal. I didn't weaken and still moving on. Thank you. I've woken up finally
That’s incredible to hear! Blocking him and staying strong despite the gestures shows just how far you’ve come. It’s great that you’ve woken up to your worth and are focused on moving forward. Keep prioritizing yourself, and thank you for sharing your journey!