My Ex Seems Happy After Breakup
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- In this video Coach Lee discusses what's likely going on if your ex seems happy after the breakup or if your friends have said that they look happy.
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"let them leave. Don't beg them to stay. Whatever's meant for you, will always be yours"
Yesssss
I feel the EXACT same way!
Hello I know somebody who can help you bring back your ex without stress or delay, he once helped me too
I hope this is true
@@sherrymatthews2199 .+:1 : (:2:1:3:) :9: 2:1: 3:8:9 :4:
whatzpp him I was like this before I know who can help you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here
“Time is an ingredient.” A true life lesson.
But life is to short....
Amen brother
@@Angel-od3up that's why you need to work on yourself instead of waiting around
Coach Lee, I used your advice and got my ex back. I waited and only responded when she reached out. Most important in the space, I learned to be ok with being alone and seeing that I was the prize, I was focused on becoming the better me and attracting the life and relationship I wanted (not the person I wanted) she came back and was afraid that I moved on due to (no contact) really it was the reset we both needed to work on the areas that made us split ( A lack of us being responsible for our own happiness) and not putting the pressure on each other. Keep no contact, they will miss you, and most importantly if they don't then you never needed them. Hang in there!
The Genius how long were u apart
Elijah Barnett so we took 2 breaks.. the first break happened in December and it only lasted a week or so. Then we rushed back too soon before we could both heal from the wounds we gave each other. So this last break was about 40 days with about 2 (text messages) from my ex before the no contact finally did what it does best. But each time you contact them it really does start the time over. So def don’t reach but keep your own energy good, when you feel good you attract the things you want more than anything. Hope this helps
That’s amazing to hear bro ! Just a question you said you only answered when she reached out ? So my ex girl after two days no contact is reshaping out saying I haven’t heard from you I miss you on all platforms. Should I just be casual and dry still ? What would you do ? I really want her back and willing to stick to non contact
Corey Bullard Thank you bro, Honestly I know what you’re feeling right now. I can humbly say this, it does help to use this space to reflect on the “real” reason this split happened, if it’s something you did and pushed her away then work on that issue so when she comes back, which she will it won’t lead to another break. Mine reached out a few times to test the water, I always delayed and only answered when I truly felt good about it. Don’t reply with anger or hurt in you, that energy will bleed into the convo. When she reaches out keep it light and short in a way to leave her wanting more convo than text. You were her to miss you to the point she sending you “ I’m sorry I made a mistake, I miss you and can we talk” once we got to phone convo I kept showing off my new improved attitude and body. It attracted her back. Even later found out she lightly explored the waters and couldn’t find anyone like me. Not about them being handsome, or rich, if you have a bond with her.. that’s strong and something she’ll appreciate as you continue to give her space and keep it cool. Hope that helps bro.
The mistake i notice a lot of ppl makes is getting into new relationships when their heart is really with the person they just broke up with
Making the reconnection a messy process. In my experience
"One who talks, does not know. One who does not talk, knows." - Lao Tzu. Don't tell anyone your business.
toiletfarm He use to say a lot of strange things,always found my doctor knows what he’s talking about when I tell them my symptoms just saying
Thank you.
Any one can “look” happy and be dying inside.
But when you know they are happy going out and not wanting to come back.
In case anyone wants to hear , it’s ok to want an ex back and to rekindle it but let it happen when it’s suppose … NC and time … what ever is meant to happen will happen …. Hang in there folks
THE BEST COMMENT EVER. I DO FEEL AND THINK THE SAME
Thank you
Update : my ex and I got back together a year ago and we are doing well , just welcomed our 3rd child home and are living happy…. I did have to give her space and distance and worked on myself but in time we came back together. Good luck to anyone hurting it’ll get easier
@@bo_libido_buckets4429 hey thats great, happy for you
Time + No Contact = Best Chance.
This is what I got after watching these helpful videos.
Day 4 of NC, its tough but I am determined.
Any update for you? I'm on day four now
@@Jw-pg8ue what happend to you man did you win?
Fr
I hope you know how appreciated you are. You literally lead people to happiness, whether it be directly or indirectly you do a great thing for people.
My ex contacted me after two weeks to test the waters, I was nice and polite and let the conversation fade, she’s not posting happy pics on social media, I heard from mutual friends she’s desperate, depressed and she’s finding the courage to talk to me again. Last week she unblock me from all her social media expecting me to contact her, but I didn’t, this is the 4th week and so far No Contact is working. I booked a call with Coach Ken on Tuesday, I can feel she’s contacting me soon. I need your prayers, she’s so important to me ❤🙏🔥
How’d it go?
@@FLATLINE_au So far so good, she’s completely different, now she listens to me and follow my leadership
11 months NC. Wow didn't realize how long it was. Idk if she'll ever talk to me again. But i just been keeping myself busy making myself into a higher value Male. Just keep yourself busy guys. Its hard at 1st but day by day you feel calm..
2012donavan ...11 months for me as well.
11 days No Contact today and i feel like diein. Wow...11 mths for u??? Hmmm....i barely made it dis far.
7 months for me and counting NC is the way to go .
@@stacym2201 Keep going. Been 5 days of 100% nc for me. 7 days now since our break up. 23 months together. It hurts like hell. But I'm hanging in there! Thank you coach lee for helping me to cope and backing away.
Mine 11th month 😁
Words of encouragement for anyone in the comments going through a fresh break up ! Mine happened in October 2019 came across coach lee binge watched his vids they helped SUPERBLY ! I thought I’d never get over the pain and now I’m at a point where I have no feelings for that person at all ..it’s amazing ! listen to this guy ! please 🙏🏾 and whatever you do ..don’t use other people to distract you from them genuinely heal from the hurt so it doesn’t carry into your next relationship in the form of insecurities/trust issues !
Axel Briggjern 2.5 years and we were very close Like but people can change like the weather lol
Coach Lee has helped me so much. Mostly to learn to value myself and have some self discipline. Hang on. It hurts. You really are going to make it through🌼
@@sherrymatthews2199 this was last year I’m doing way better not even thinking about the person no hurt to bad blood no hate just progress and self betterment 🙌🏾
Thank you for saying to genuinely heal from the hurt… I needed that
@@MissRegina79 often times we cling to the first person that smiles bright at us during our heart ache ..I wouldn’t recommend it ! I hope things get better soon for you remember! Self improve 🙌🏾
I really want to thank you for everything Coach Lee, but I finally decided to let go today. I don’t think we are meant to be. I will take everything you said about life and relationships and use it wisely on my next relationship. You are a wise man. Thank you, but I am signing off from now on.
For the future people who will see this video and comment in months or even years: I guarantee that you will be okay. It doesn’t seem like it right now and it is very difficult, but it will. Please don’t be heartbroken. You probably will find someone who does appreciate you and will see your worth. There are so many people in the world, so many people that can love you! See it as a lesson and move on. Reframe your mind, there are better things to come!! You can do it! x (:
Nada S I'm very happy my ex his back someone help me bring him back if you need help try message him
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Love u from core if heart
How long did you wait?
Love yourself more than anything and everything will fall into place.
Lee, You are a very wise man. Every time I listen to you, I hear some part of your video that I had not been able to process before. This one hit home, as many of your teaching videos do (actually they all do). Thank you my kind an generous friend. The Universe will also be kind to you because you have been so kind and sincere to all of us. Whatever happens in my case, at least I have been very enriched with the knowledge you have shared. Thank you again Lee. K
Coach lee you looking better and better, you are so handsome mind and looks ,
I'm jealous of your girlfriend or your wife😊
contact him Mr
Wilson.
He has the power of restoration
+ 1 7 5 7 7 0 4 3 5 6 4.
I hear ya calming and caring and sharing insight. I also think he is an amazing coach
Sometimes gone is good. In time you won’t even see what you wanted in this person. That’s how it’s always been for me. “Rejection breeds obsession”. My ex lived like a pig in a house that smelled horrible from her 7cats. Had other issues as well. Needless to say I didn’t see a future with her.. didn’t put a lot of effort into her. But it bothered me a lot when she broke up with me. Would things be different with her? No. She’s still sitting there in a stinking mess today. Let the other guy smell that and put her on a pedestal. I couldn’t.
What are you guys doing entertaining women with untreated mental issues? Doesn’t that say something about you too
@@TheCc064 because you can't just judge somebody's mental health from looking at them. It takes time, you need to get to know them for long enough to understand their mental health.
It's been , 2 months and I am moving on now. I don't want him now , I hope I never see him. I hope never.
Over 5 months and not a peep....
Shes a goner! Oh well
Yea my ex left a year ago. She was a psycho so I’m glad she left
TheSeattlegreen 10 weeks for me. It’s been so hard. But taking it day by day
Good riddance
Imagine 3 years .. you suddenly fall sick.. she was the person who suppose to take care of you...
@@stealthassulter
Damn man sorry to hear that.
You haven't been with any other woman since her?
I thought i will die during no contact period, but now i am happy and feel so lucky that break up happens, dont wanna contact him anymore
I excited for you. That you got through it
I'm starting to feel this way now about my ex..
u gave me hope.
@@mizzcrazygal everything will be fine, trust me believe me if break up happened it means you deserve much more better relatioships then you had
@@XPaddme ex didn't come back? 🥺
wow just the perfect video i need right now.. 3 weeks in no contact and now she's posting some happy stuff all over insta, i'm the dumpee, thank you coach!
She is not over you...she is pretending to be happy without you
It’s been a month for me. You have your ups and downs. I come here just to listen and it helps control my emotions
You have to be willing to let it be and what will happen, will happen. You deserve someone that knows they want to be with you. Post break up, work on a life for yourself.
Will your ex reach out at some point? Most likely.
Do they think about you? Of course.
I have had 4 exes in my life and all 4 eventually reached out. When they see you doing well, that’s when they’ll reach out. Work on yourself. It’s a bonus if they come back. It’s an even bigger bonus if you get back together
Good luck. We only get one life. Enjoy it. ❤
You're a good dude Lee!
35 days into NC, she called after a week and I played it cool when she threw the friendship crumb. The lockdown has made me over focus on the situation but the Coach has helped me in the worst moments. I removed her from social media as she kept posting about how happy she is. This video is well timed for me...thank you!
I see him very happy now, he’s always active on tiktok and he interact to his followers very well. Last week he also said to me, that I should move on.
The real question is How is Coach Lee getting haircuts in quarantine?
Could be cutting it himself.. it's possible
Trust the NC, the barbers eventually came begging to cut his hair
Regret is so tough, Especially now! I’ve watched EVERY ONE of your coaching on RUclips over the last few days. You my friend are a STAND OUT. Thank you for being so brutally honest. Thank you for not focusing on your image. Thank you for not dropping the Fbomb on a regular. My situation is a mess & too late to fix. I really did it this time😔 but I will share your site & council to as many people as I can. Best
@@markgoodday6132 I think Coach Lee is awesome. In 2 1/2 weeks my ex was calling. Unfortunately he isn’t good for me & only wants sex & to see my on the side. I want him to regret hurting me by kicking himself over & over for letting me go. It’s my pride I know. But I really did love him and my heart is broken. Thank you for the referral but I know my ex is bad for me. I want a coach now that teaches me ,
(regarding toxic people)
How to:
LET GO and Actually want to let go of the virus.
OMG Coach Lee. You get more handsome in every video you make.
My ex left me (ldr) i bet for someone else. She texted me few days ago and says she takes pills for depression and maybe need sleeping pills. She asked if we could talk and I said talk about what and she said something like a friend, friend who cares about her and she send pictures of us. I told her, u already know im not friends with women and hope u get better and other then that wish u the best and take care. She replied and said maybe she should take sleeping pills. I didnt reply. She left me when i lost my job and efter we broke up i got my job back after 2 days and now working on myself and feeling very good. And I bet the guy she left for dumped her now she is feeling shit now when she is all alone but that karma but hope she feels better, dont wanna hold grudges
I was really depressed a few days ago about my breakup, but after watching your videos i know that if i stick to NC im actually the one in control and i know i will probably get her back. Thank you for your content!
Nicely put...🤴
How’s it going ?
don’t expect. Be hopefully n faithful that gods timing & the universe will play out however it’s supposed to. You can want but don’t depend on it. wants not needs
update?
Did it work?
I talk about it to my friends as they don't know my ex (or have only met him a couple of times). A friend in particular has been very helpful as she has never watched or read coaching advice to get your ex back but she gives me the exact same advice as in your or other coaches videos, based on her own experience.
give them the break up. Let them live their choices, and if it works out against you, then that's life. Your happiness shouldn't depend on anyone. and if they regret ... then let them crumble before you, it's a beautiful thing to see her regret.
Day 3 no contact. This is tough, but I can feel my strength coming. I will get over this, I will get over her. Eventually.
One day at a time.
@@RealCoachLee God bless you for your good work. You are literally giving me free therapy. My life is becoming better thanks to your content.
how are u now?
@@jty5009 Still not easy. but waayyyy much better. she broke NC, but I'm much more focused on myself now. Do not do NC to get her back. Do NC to get YOURSELF back. Hang in there!
@@hillarykittim8186 what did she say?
Please coach Lee do a video on On and Off relationships.
Yes, I hope he sees this, but he has mentioned in previous videos about this topic. He has basically said that couples in this dynamic more often than not end up staying together for longer. He uses the reference of married couples that have been together for 20 years, saying they would have broken up multiple times if they could. I hope he answers your comment, I would love to see a vid on that.
Yes please make a video on it.
Yes please
It's been 8 months...
We have a child. I'm at a total loss. 7 year relationship. Just damn... Utterly heartbroken...
Craig Friscopo, I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome! It does work.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Same exact situation!
Coach Lee is just Awesome..every time I’m down and out , he gives me a new perspective and helps me feel stronger and stronger each day!
No contact doesn’t work if they found someone else. I just went through a break up and watching all these videos is just bs! What they should be saying is move on. Who cares if your ex is happy without you. 9 out of 10 times they leave for someone else, clearly after watching these videos and reading comments that’s what happens! My advice it to move on and live your best life and don’t sit around waiting on anybody. If they left you in the dust then they aren’t for you. I seen comments of people waiting on their ex for months even yrs and that is such a waste of your precious time. Move on and be happy.
Beautytrends77 that isn’t the end of the story, the honeymoon period of a relationship is an extremely powerful short term emotion. When someone is having an affair they call this limerence.
However I do agree that if someone is pining after an ex and cannot move on for themselves then you are wasting time. Coach Lee explains that no contact is primarily for YOU and not for your ex.
MsJones I see what your saying. My ex just broke up with me and is another relationship already. Yes I know he met her before we broke up but this always seems to be the case. I was with him for 8 months and he acted like I was nothing and discarded me. He lied and said he didn’t want to be with me because he had too many problems, meanwhile he’s in another relationship.
Beautytrends77 I was with my ex (broke up in Jan) for 5 years, owned our house, wedding booked and have 3 year old child. He also discarded me like I was trash.
From what I have learnt, men will distance themselves from a situation when they are not happy, especially if we as women get emotional. They will also get a rebound and go out drinking quicker than women. We tend to obsess and they look like they’ve moved on! However it usually hits them like a ton of bricks at some point when we have moved on
MsJones wow I’m sorry to hear that. Yeh he wasn’t happy with his life. I actually contacted the rebound and what a waste that was. He made me out to be crazy of course but I was just so angry how he discarded me like I was nothing. He tried to break up with me through text. At the end of the day I’ll get over this. I’m just going through the motions now. These videos need to teach people to move on.
MsJones
you are a blessing and
you speak the truth
you encourage and empower
us all with your words 🍓
thank you
it is about boundaries and
self respect that is what
we have the chance to
discover, appreciate, develop
during NC and while working
on ourselves
i regreted so much that i havent been watching this on our first week of breakup. now i fucked up 7 weeks and counting still hurts alot but i can feel the numbness slowly creeping in.
any update?
I must’ve seen most of your videos about 10 times each to keep me going , more than a month now , 44 days since break up and counting. THANK YOU!!
updates？
Fiamma Groen I broke no contact unfortunately, I felt like a clown for sure because I still don’t exist to her . Not a word from her .
@@hugoragan sorry to mention that ,i hope things will be better soon
Fiamma Groen they did get better , time has helped me heal my anxiety greatly, I no longer feel rushed to get anyone back. I’m focusing on myself and learning new skills and reading all my books I had backlogged. Everything is more or less fine. Thank you and good night.
How about another update? It’s been a year +
Guys please listen to Lee.... It’s been almost a year Since my ex broke up with me For his ex. It nearly killed me...we didn’t get back together but I still kept my dignity intact because I refused to chase him. NOW I’ve heard that he is truly miserable because the person he left me for has put him in a financial crisis...LOL...yeah karma is real...but the point is that if someone chooses to leave you, especially for someone else, then let them go!!! They have to live with the consequences of their actions! In addition, I’ve really learned a lot about myself through all this. Just keep watching these videos..over and over if you have to. It’s almost like quitting an addiction...sometimes it’s one day or even one hour at a time. You can do it...I promise!!
Sounded awful. How are things now
Don’t let emotions overtake u
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Please do a video about "Hot and Cold" behavior. (reaches out.... backs away for a few weeks... reaches out.... ect)
SonyMouse yes I agree I’m going through this right now too
It's almost like they have been programmed to stay away from relationships.
Penguin Magic I always think most of the time we are used as a stop gap when they are having relationships with somebody else, when it goes wrong they want reassurance from us to feed there ego, I really want to block mine now but just not ready as I know there somebody else so Iv heard
@@mandyarrowsmith1264 you can always block and unblock. Make sure to write the phone on a separate piece of paper so you always have it ready for reference. You have to do what is best for you. The other person might just be a poor substitute, Coach talks about, in his newest video about how friends start rumors, sometimes, not always.
He’s testing the waters probably meditating about if it’s a good decision to go back. Let him be because it can go either way. He might or he might not. If he doesn’t at least you have closure.
Jealous friends..WANT..to see you fail...because they want what you might of had...so taking their advise...is stupid..
John, this is often very true. You are wise my friend!
I´ve been working on myself and my ex has been reaching out more often. We are still on good terms and I can tell that he misses me, because when we speak, he gets very talkative and shares many things that´s going on in his life, things that we always used to talk about. Of course I´m still very sad about the breakup and very afraid that we´re not gonna end up together, but I´ve been able to keep it to myself and look and be carefree and chill around him. Now he had a birthday and my mom congratulated him on his birthday. Today she showed me what she wrote to him - she told him that I´ve been very sad and withdrawn after the breakup and that I´ve changed very much, that I doesn´t share my feelings with anybody anymore and want to be alone all the time. Did she hurt my chances to fix things with him by making me seem weak and miserable?
After the break up my ex continued to bar hop and ride the CC for many months. She is happy now settling for a beta male provider. Only a month into the relationship she has a promise/engagement ring. Moving into a house together. He is a married man btw. It is absolutely disgusting the things she has done to me and herself. I will continue to work on myself and not let any of that affect me and what I'm doing. I will wait bc some day I will find the woman of my dreams.
J Harris yep. same song here. wish i never met her.
U deserve so much better bro
Wish I could just cut ties completely with no contact but it is not an option for me because we have a 4 year old child together that means the world to me.
Wow. She sounds..... I´m not even gonna say it but you deserve SO much better-please remember that!! I understand the situation is tricky bc u have a child together so NC doesn´t work in your case. You seem like a very loving and caring man. I hope you find happiness soon
Ex is engaged to a married man? Smooth...
Hi Coach, I've bought your program, but I fear I am a lost cause. My ex seems elated just two weeks after officially breaking up. A whole weight was lifted off her shoulders and she feels relieved. She's already talking to other guys so I can't have meant that much to her. We entered into a rocky path in January 2020 - I messed up and I went on tinder to check our old messages, she saw and thought I was messaging other women. She said she needed space and I bombarded her with calls and texts to save the relationship. She said she "no longer knew me" and that I had changed. Then came three months of trying again, where, when we saw each other, we were like normal - she even said she felt in love again. But, her excuse was that this just felt like a sticking plaster over the issue. I must confess, I was insecure and needy, for example, I checked her phone like 4-5 times during our year-long relationship for my own peace of mind because I do have OCD and anxiety which shouldn't be an excuse. I know you can't do that, and she said I made her feel guilty for going out with her friends (I was sad I wasn't with her, but I'd never stop her going out). She said we didn't communicate well and that we were incompatible. We had 2 two-hour long phone calls two weeks ago where I apologised and told her the mistakes wouldn't happen again, but that she has totally moved on and doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. I feel heartbroken, she was so cold and appeared completely different from when we were going out. She was so insecure when we were together - each day she'd have something else to hate about herself and I was there to support her all the time. In fact, she mentioned that we felt like friends for the past few months not a couple, and that we didn't have 'banter' anymore. But, my point was the fact that I felt I couldn't have banter with her because she would take it the wrong way, particularly when she felt so low about herself all the time. I began NC two weeks ago but I still feel sick, I feel lost and empty, I feel like someone has died. I miss her so much, but she clearly spent the past three months getting over me whilst I continuously tried to patch things up.
My ex is a gentle kind hearted person whose dad and other people encouraged him to break up with me. I am partially scared no contact when I see him in person might scare him away or something (or itll make him believe we arent just meant to be). We both made it really clear we want to get married still and love one another, but now I just realized these things and it's made me doubt. I wish you still did coaching calls.
Any update?
Do not talk to your friends
Me: I spoke to them already lol
Haha
Lol!
All of your videos are high quality in a sea of unethical coaches. Thank you for doing it right
He looks really sad at the beginning of relationship and now seems really happy ): so made me thinking i should let him go
I think sometimes no contact periods can last for more than 70 days. In my own experience right now, it's been over a year.
@@ameliajones8727 okay
Did she ever contacted you to get back to you??
@@britneyvelazquez1042 we have been in contact over. issues concerning the kids. However a couple of months ago, she reached out in a direct/indirect sort of way about needing her a jump for her car. She has roadside assistance on her insurance policy which I am paying for still and the car was in the garage. I felt as though she was trying to communicate with me to reconnect but I didn't want to get my hopes up.
My ex came back 7 years later...it didn't work out even as friends because they are very negative. But have hope guys!!!
7 years? What did he say to you ?, Couldn't forget about you? , Idk why exes let so much time passes by and pretend everything is gonna work like before
@@nayeliestrada8000 well wanted to see how I was. Yes my ex still loves me. I found out she's intersex and I am not gay so it will never work. It takes them awhile to realize what they had.
15:55 until the end 🙌🏼 encourages me a lot !!
My relationship was 21 years long we had very strong connection best friends best partners best lovers. Of course with children we fallen for the routine we kind of grew apart. Deep inside I believe he still loves me but he has to prove himself God knows what. I’m calm and still. I’m not making important decision about our situation. I hope whatever happens is for the best for both of us.
You are truly helpful ....it’s tough right now only been 8 days but I’m pushing through and finding peace in no contact
I think of how each person in a marriage or relationship owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life that is the only way to grow together instead of apart.
I gotta say, don’t try to find some solace in the comments section. You keep scrolling, wishing you’d find something that may relate you, then you find something someone posted and he said he’s like 7 months in NC, heartbroken, doesn’t know what to do. Well let me STOP you know. I did this, and it ended up hurting so much more. These people have their own relationship issues. Listen, i couldn’t eat for the first 4 days. But i realised i needed to change for my mistakes (if you did) so all i did was go NC, but i spent few days embracing the real breakup, that i wouldn’t get back up - ok now you’re over that. Now, book an activity, even if by yourself, i booked a supercar day out just for me. This helps so much, you’re on your first move out of the previous zone. Next, i’ve realised, i’m going to start “using her” to become better. She said to hit gym, so i’ve got a PT ready for Monday and i’m gonna smash this now, i’m gonna be everything she saw as perfect. BUT WAIT, this is only helping you. Use her as motivation, and when you realise you have become so much better, you’ll be wondering why you wept over that. She will chase you. My point is: use her as motivation to chAnge for the future, but as time goes and you become better, you get to decide!
My ex broke up with me today and we still live together (moving out soon) and he seems happy right away. I can hear him laugh and have a brilliant time with his friends online and he was joking with me, acting all energetic. Makes me feel like he really couldn't wait to get rid of me. We broke up before and he came back to me after no contact. 6 months later, he decided to dump me again. I feel stupid for even wanting him back still
i remember my ex posting "love of my life" just to attack me on instagram status, he used to say this to me, I SAY NOTHING, makes him furious lol
This is the kind of question I've been asking myself for a while. Not only wondering if she is happy, but if she thinks about me at all. It will be a year next month (June 22) since we broke up. Not a day goes by that I haven't thought about her. I have made a great deal of progress since going into no contact 7 months ago, but I still love her as much as ever. The past month and a half has been very weird with the Coronavirus and quarantine, giving people much more free time, thus allowing me to think about her more than usual. I can't help but wonder if she has thought about me in the same way. That thought has become even more of a curiosity because I haven't contacted her in 7 months as it is. Trying to stay strong right now is very hard because it's difficult to fill my time when the things I was occupying myself with are closed for the time being (the gym, etc.). I want to be able to move on properly, and I made a decision to do so right before this pandemic hit (which is strange timing in itself). It's not an easy time to be single, especially when I still love her.
Keith. I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
She is partying blocked me on instagram followed a bunch of guys. All I wanted was her and I love her still, idk why she would give up on us I’m going through hell rn don’t even think I’m gonna make it. Trying to take it day by day but it feels like I lost my soul when she left.
Yourboy32, I suggest you book a Coaching session with Coach Lee or a coach on his staff
myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/
Sometimes your so called friends...wanna see you fail because they have never had a good relationship themselves...so they will give you bad advise,maybe even stick their nose in your biz..(phine calls,E-mails,etc)...so Lee could very well be correct..
Great video, Lee. I drop in to listen to you a lot. It's been years since I've seen him, and I told you he rebounded 2 weeks after our breakup of 5 years, and married her. I'm doing fine, and TIME is a big factor. You're still the BEST! I forgot to add that my friends saw how my ex was USING me, and they were right. I guess there is an exception since they were being objective. I didn't listen at first, but in the end, they were all right...
I had a moment of weakness and watched a livestream that my cousin streamed he was playing with my ex on siege (they dont know i watched it) and i got extremely emotional becuase i could hear my ex and he sound extremely happy. I came here to calm down and come back to my senses. I now realize that maybe hes still in the relief stage (we broke up 3 weeks ago but the stream was a week ago so at the time the stream was happening it was 2 weeks after the breakup) and i now know he was just having fun with his friend (my cousin knew him longer then i did and my cousin is the reason why i met my ex in the first place) ive calmed down and told myself not to do that again as it just hurts me and i shouldnt overthink or assume. :) thanks Lee
Peak chemicals at 45 days
Me at day 21: migraine attack, panic attacks, constant spiraling, disassociating, feelings of intense fear and abandonment, a feeling I can only describe as being in the middle of the ocean, lost, with no direction or idea how to get back to land.
My only thing about all this, is that theyre also building emotional connections, experiences and memories with this new person. So even if they break up and come back to you, wont they have these same stages for that person while theyre with you too now? Missing them, remembering their good times, being reattracted due to time etc...😔
If they come back then who cares about the other person. You have to realize why it went wrong in the first place. If you can identify what went wrong and fix it. Smooth sailing.
The initial breakup is just between you and your person. They did not break up with you to be with someone else. Whereas in this scenario, they left this person for you. Take comfort in that 🤗
Sound7heWarCry what are you saying here?
oa3rosolo that’s what I’m so scared of
Naa it's not the same.A rebound relationship is one where someone is trying to fill the void that you left so during that time they have no real feelings for that person nor are they emotionally available to have a real connection and if they were with the person before you break up no contact is still gonna hit them hard because they wudv spent more time with you and still have a whole bunch of memories and emotions to process.
Saw my X a few weeks ago. Everything she had in her car. I offered to put her things in the garage. Pride. She gained about 80 pounds. I'm gonna enjoy the sun Ray's in my back yard.
My friend told my ex that I “thought she still wanted me”. That was not the case at all. I had told him that I MAY be able to resolve our issues and get back with her, but he assumed that I meant I thought she wanted me.
Ever since that day, it has NOT been the same. It’s been an AWFUL trek the whole journey, and I’m still not happy with the scenario I am currently in. She doesn’t trust me. She believes she can’t talk to me without giving me hope. She believes I still absolutely long her for soul, even though I’m pretty much content and over it at this point.
Yes I would love another shot with her, but it’s not the end of the world. I would at least like to make a friend out of her, but she is (unfortunately) feeling guilty, and will not talk to me without stepping over landmines that aren’t even there. She doesn’t realise I’m actually okay, and unfortunately that’s my fault for telling my friend.
I now notice small signs, and she has opened up to me since. But there’s usually a lot of pullback, after realising she could have possibly given me hope. Her pullback can often last weeks, and force me to start over again.
You’re awesome! Got me through my broken heart 💔.
Can you please do a video on “moving on and letting go forever “?its now been 3 months NC.. he reached out 7 times 🤦🏽♀️ I have not replied to any . I packed up and moved to Alaska he’s still in Cali thank goodness 😅 I will never ever run into him . I rather look at bears and natures in the eyes 👀 before I ever reply back 🙏🙌🏼
Why don't you just block him?.
Sandra Blanco yes, I’ve blocked him now .
I absolutely love your videos and I ordered your Emergency Brake Up Kit. I has helped alot. Although you touch on alot of issues, my issue may be unique. My ex' s mother was very sick from July and passed away on April 4th. We were in a 2 year long distance relationship. He was basically her caregiver for the majority of the time. I was supportive, didn't complain about anything. I went months without seeing him. We live in Louisiana and COVID 19 is rampant. The day after his mother passed, we were talking and i mentioned that I wanted to see him. He told me "No", which hurt but because of the virus, I shouldn't come. I asked again, not wanting to come right then, but to make a plan in the future to see him (I couldn't get that fear in the conversation because he got upset that I asked again). He asked "what purpose would that serve"? I then told him that I felt that he didn't want to see me. He got upset and hung the phone up. A couple of days later I reached out to talk and he texted saying basically that I was being selfish, he couldn't look at me the same way because of all that he was going through. I apologized profusely via text! I called him once, texted him on the morning of his mother's funeral and texted "I miss you" . No response. I started watching your videos and have been using No Contact. I'm afraid that he associates me with the pain of his mother's death, that I "nagged" him when he was most vulnerable and that he is done with us. I told him in the first text that I wanted to be there for him. I didn't get to tell him why I made that statement, which he probably doesn't care about. If you can't help me directly, maybe you can make a video about this. I would appreciate it. There are many other layers to this but I don't know what to do. I want him back!!
HELP!
Honestly leave him alone. But here's my question why commit to a guy who doesn't want to see you In his picture? Let him come to you start that 30 day no contact asap
He said with all of the virus stuff going on, I shouldn't come down. The parish got hit hard. I didn't add in the above comment that he lives in Houston, his mom lived in Houma and I live in Louisiana as well. Around this time the border in Texas was closed which caused more anxiety because if he went to his home in Texas, there is no telling when I would be able to see him. That's why I reacted like that.
Everyone handles grief differently. My dad passed away AUGUST 31,2019 and I wanted comfort and also space. My ex at the time was my good friend and he didnt text me or anything to check up and I was wondering why. So I texted him and he said because when my grandpa passed away i wanted to be left alone. Honestly you done nothing wrong to ask to see him. Grief and healing comes with mix emotion. Best thing to do is let him text you. Being pushy will probably irritate him since his mom just passed soo he full of emotions
@@DestinyBudgets I feel so guilty, like I ruined it. The timing definitely wasn't right to tell him that but that's what I felt at the time. I felt useless and irrelevant when I thought he would have wanted me there. I think that's the problem, that's what I would have wanted. When my dad died in 2011, I was dating someone who was really a jerk but all I wanted was to talk to him. My expectation of his reaction was sadness and all I got was anger. I understand that they are interchangeable at times. It's just rough. He may have thought I knew he wanted some space during this time, but he didn't say that
@@ericavalentine387 Dont you done nothing wrong but wanted to be by his side 🙂 dont blame yourself for trying to comfort him. Just give him his space for now. He grieving and that's a mix emotion.
I won't say he is happy ..but he is also hurt... And still not coming ..
My ex is laughing more with other people and guys. It makes me so angry and I die inside because she knows I’m suffering but she’s laughing it up after breaking up with me
I just miss her so much, she was such an amazing woman. I'm the one who messed up everything when she wanted the relationship so bad💔
I have a video coming out about that tomorrow or Monday.
70 days no contact today. Not a word. But I've been able to glean from social media that she's been dating, hooking up, etc. So whatever. Devasated but whatever. There was an extremely deep connection. But again...whatever.
Space vs Pitch, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
It sems sad to hurt someone we love, but there are times where we need to tell the truth to our spouse about our relationships on how we feel inside.
Is happiness a look? 😂😂Coach
Hey coach looks are deceiving. Right?
Holly Drucker, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I stopped watching other coaches to watch the O.G. COACH LEE😁😁😁😁MY GUY
Thanks coach lee you help me with every video you do, your a blessing and a saint we love you! ❤️
“My Momma told me - You’d better shop around.”.
And my momma said "you can't hurry love that love don't come easy I keep waiting anticipating for that sort voice to talk to me at night. "😄
Hello I know somebody who can help you bring back your ex without stress or delay, he once helped me too
I have to say I adore your expertise and understanding
Yes! Thank you for this video. I do agree people start to think they are expert in law, medicine etc. Especially avation because I am a pilot and the only thing they know is that a plane has two wings. I do agree some people just want to talk and sound like they know things. I enjoyed this video alot and the way you describe everything. Your quotes are great too! Time is an ingredient. Thank you
She went to our apt when i was at work and took her things. Her mom told my mom she didn't wanna face the emotions of it all. So I texted her and she said she had no intentions to talk over coffee or the phone because it would hurt her too much. She's literally avoided me for two weeks now and seems like i never even existed.
Ha. Jokes on her, we have no mutual friends.
Really do appreciate you Coach Lee and all your content. Opened my heart and mind to wake up to the bigger better things in life.
He changed his instgram pic today and he rarely changes that.... he hates selfies.... my heart is beating out of my chest... it’s breaking my heart like to see him be ok... smile in a pic... HE HATED TAKING PICS
Why am I shaking 😔💔💔💔💔💔💔
Girl. Let me tell you mine does the same thing. I hope you are feeling better now😊
Lol my ex quotes about mistake(she's reffering maybe on her cheating)and she changes her profile,,,,its just gives me goosebumps,,,,tf i thought i'd move on
@@boytino2646 i know its hard asf but please i did the same thing but i don't do it nomore . My advice to you is to have a break from social media. I hope it helps🤗hugs.
@@kevinmatthew6661 im good… i moved on ✌🏾
I only talk about my ex to my mom because she only listens and tells me a few words of encouragement and that’s it. Nobody else
After no contact for 9 months, my ex ask for meet up
I love him a lot..i poured my feelings on him to not put stress on me.. when he is in stress he uses bad words on me.. there is nothing when we fight too,,but when he puts stress on me that makes me angry and 2 days back.. i told him everything that u r putting stress on me... after i typed a long message he told good mrng as normal.. and i told him whether he received the msgs i sent.. he told he saw it and he asked me.. tell me what u expected..and he is telling me that i am having high expectations on him..i got very angry on this and told i have no expectations and he blocked me.. not understanding what to do..and he put bio in his whatsapp status that.. brothers before others❤❤..i am devastated by that..
Hi King Coach Lee, walking on treadmill enjoying this video , watched twice. Thank you !
We broke up twice is there any chances he will be back? I'm the only person he was serious about and committed with but after a month of break up his in a new relationship now and blocked me on FB wow I don't want him back but I want him to regret his decision and feeling he lost me coz he will lost me forever
Best Advice by far on this. So good
My ex was horrible to me for weeks leading up to the break up. I finally reacted and he used that as a reason to leave...
About 5 weeks later we had a conversation where he was so unbelievably cruel to me.
I since blocked him everywhere but last night I made the mistake of seeing if he changed his Instagram photo and he had.
It was a real 'im so happy now I'm free and single' kind of photo... It killed me.
He's a very troubled person and I was nothing but good to him. I don't think he will realise that I was the best woman to ever enter his life until he starts dating again
If she seems happy without you, stay out of their life and move on🤷♂️
A wise man learn from others mistakes, agreed.
Time is a true thing...it's been 8 months since my ex broke up with me and im still recovering, i tried the no contact for so long but it didn't really worked for me he barely talked to me anyway :,(...now i think I'm moving on still healing but doing better.
John pj thanks for the help but i learned that he moved 3 hours away from where i live about a month ago😢 idk if its possible anymore...he doesn't seem to care anyway...but i appreciate your support:,)
Please Make video on "she broke up because of her family told to do so and blocked on social media and call" after long relationship.
It’s been about 22 days for me, she broke up with me on the 24th and it was a LDR, we were gonna be meeting in April but this shitty virus prevented that. Then we fell out and I got called toxic when I didn’t actually do anything. She said she doesn’t wanna be with me. And never getting back together. I have been clingy these past 2 days but then she blocked me. She’s done it several times before. She wasn’t perfect either. But I love her. I hope she comes back to me. Starting NC from now, heartbroken and lost. I have my hope... I’ll never love anyone again though. She was perfect and no one else is attractive whatsoever ....
Li Qiang who is that then? What do I say?
Update?
@@kungfukenny1540 lmao just saw the notification.
It seriously does get better lmao. Don’t think about her like that no more. Comes and goes into my mind but I don’t feel that pain anymore. I feel no emotion. It was fucking hard for my whole 2020 though!
She did come back several few times and I was so overjoyed! But I shouldn’t have been.
Respect yourself and love yourself over anyone.
Hope all’s well 🙌🏻
My ex is extremely happy and is with a stunning , adorable and talented woman
My ex cheated on my for several months before I found out. He has now physically been with that other person for 2 months and they are in another country. We have only spoken twice in the past month where he has said he isn't coming back and then that he is. He had blocked, unblocked and blocked me again. They seem happy on social media but I'm following no contact now and working on self development in the meantime. Time will tell if he changes his mind and wants to try again with me.
I’m so happy we have no mutual friends and she does zero social media. That would have made things so much harder. It’s been painful enough. 4 months NC.
Coach Lee will you be opening your counseling again soon? I feel as though I’ve messed up too much taking other’s advice before finding you.
Omg I needed this video. My ex saying just to be friends 😔.
PANDAMAMA007 umm no never agree to that.
Tell your ex that you cannot be friends because you’ll be lying to him or her that it’s all you want when it’s not. 🤷♀️ and just let the ex be alone go back to no contact. 👍🏼