Im going to spill the whole tin of beans after 22 years of studying trauma and how it is responsible for 95% of all mental health issues and how to resolve it. And Im doing it for free. No upsells, no baiting or any of that bollocks, Im going to give it to anyone who wants it as is. You dont need a PHD and you dont need to spend thousands of pounds to get better. Being SANE and happy is your natural state. You have a right to know how to protect yourself and how to look after yourself. Dont listen to these greedy gatekeepers who want to mystify you and obfuscate the issue to keep you paying for the same "round and round the garden" tea and biscuits chit chat. That more often than not goes nowhere: thats not my opinion, thats the peer reviewed published research on ALL therapeutic modalities. Life is too short to be spent chatting about the shitty things that happened in your life. PTSD, addiction, Depression, anxiety, anger management and dissociation can all be resolved by a BETTER understanding of the cause of trauma: these are PROTECTIVE responses. When we skillfully and compassionately lead the client (or ourselves) back to safety the symptoms dissipate of their own accord. Why? Because the human system works perfectly well. We've just been using medieval maps to navigate it. Now lets observe where the pushback to me doing this comes from :D will it be from those invested in NOT SHARING what works? Onwards. ruclips.net/video/hG-frPf8Iq8/видео.html
Thankyou Richard for putting this out there. Its very helping to understand myself in these terms and make a strategy, will be focusing on discipline towards learning how to deal with myself, people and life in a different light. I hope I can do this in working with my therapist.
Freaking BRILLIANT Richard. You have broken the sound barrier for your field of work. Truly Amazing. Congrats to you. I hope a million plus psychologists and mental healthcare workers see the work you are providing and apply it to their clients and patients. Blessings to you! ❤️
I'm Fawning now! Begging u to stop the jealousy, the emotional abuse, the cruelty, and the paranoia!! You need help! This is not right! Check your self into a mental hospital Nigerian Narcissist.
You are a genius Richard! I'm looking forward to meeting you one day -after I put all this behind me! To Thank You, for all of your wonderful advice. I'm very grateful to you!
Hi.Had a baaad flashback at a coffeebar this morning.26years after.This was the BIG one.Sat frozen at a plate of food.He had been trying to 'train'me not to eat Ever. Richards video called me back. Thankyou Mr Grannon.
Trusting seems to be the most challenging, so I left this course for a while. But what I see, this course in combination with the help of a friend and education by a scientist braught more than anything else. Lost within shortest time weight, what never worked out before, eating healthy with joy, aslept mind woke up, many things became clearer, couragness went up, thoughts are more focused and new wonderful aims seem to be doable. Doubt, that old established methods would have such an immense positive impact. Thank you very much.
Thank you for the direct and holistic philosophy on this subject. My therapist wanted me to go ro anger management, but I didn't think that was the issue. I let myself stay in a relationship for fear of being alone to the point where it destroyed me and my ability to control my 4 F's. Fight finally came out after years of fawn, flight and scary episodes of freeze where I lost hours of time. This makes far more sense than anything else.
I think that if a child was raised in an unstable home w/intermittent violence, that child will have a strong fawning/freezing response. A Flight response was not possible for an infant. A Fight response would be counter-productive (ie. The child would not survive a fight with a raging adult). I have spent years of therapy that did not help me to get at this understand of why I am seemingly blocked from having agency. I told my therapist it's as if I was only able to do defense, no offense & I'm constantly backing down the field of life with no hope of getting to the goal. I'm grateful for your work & getting this info out.
Great Job! Your explanations are to the point and cut through so much of the 'information' we receive today regarding how humans react to pain. Learning to think about the way we think can help us all better learn to appreciate the desire of the body's innate systems to protect us until our consciousness has learned to become part of that process. Again, thank you for what you do. Your work gets better and better.
I listen to both of you and have learned so much about the human mind and how we process things. You are a blessing because you give understanding in this game of life. It feels like a game sometimes and there are winners and losers.
Love the name! I've been calling my place The Fortress since I started healing. I even have a 6 foot cedar fence around it & all locked up tight. Nobody gets in without my consent. New rules, safe space.
Me, too. I believe it was Richard's video titled "Dis Flashback" that totally rocked my world when he said that disassociating is an emotional flashback. I had to re-watch that video about 4 times to fully take it in and realize that means I've been in emotional flashbacks for a great portion of my life.
You are the best. I feel hopeful like a map has suddenly appeared in my back pocket to help navigate me out of the scary forest I have been lost in. The fact you are freely giving this content is genuinely healing as I have been played and reinjured once too many times after mustering courage to do something about my issues only to be fleeced . I need to do this for myself . Be my own advocate. God help me find balance and ease on down the freaking road and be the person I used to enjoy so much. God bless you with the best of everything for your kind generosity
@@curiousme113 I've experienced great frustration & anger at needing a map. It seems other people are enjoying life, living carefree but, I'm ticked that a 'map' has been necessary to survive. Along with well calculated steps so as to not step on a land mine and get sucked back in. It's an oxymoron I know, a map is necessary on the long journey to wholeness...life shouldn't be that difficult or painful.
EstherAnn I wish profusely I could have that carefree life some people get to experience-or at least find it way way easier than I do. Hopefully this will offer a way to get at least someway near that. Wishing you peace and prosperity ❤️
Wow! Holy Cow! All these years...35 years therapy...treatment for addiction...15 years in 12 step programs....3 marriages.....and this starts to make sense.
There have been times when I wished to God you were my friend... but through your teachings, insight and generosity I am learning to be my own friend... it’s slow but it’s definitely happening! So for now you can be my RUclipse friend! I hope one day to shake your hand and say thank you! 😊
Having followed you for a while I can say that this channel will serve as a fountain of healing for those whose minds are weighed down by fear and depression.
This is amazing and a very compassionate approach to issues. I find that I feel less guilt when I look at addiction or disassociation through this lens.
I have been working persistently, and it's taken a month, but ... I see a SIGNIFICANT difference! While FMH Protection requires persistence and work, it is way easier and I believe, more therapeutic than DBT. Don't get me wrong, DBT is good, but it's simply an educational and effective course on successful social navigation and does not address core content. I feel calm enough to finally develop my moral philosophy. This isn't hard as of mid July 2020. I see many things I identify as WRONG to do to others. I am a US Veteran, and I Sincerely Thank you sir. I will be referring fellow Veterans to this channel. P.S. I enjoy all of your channels:)
I had a toy bunny that I held every time violence broke out in our home. Bunny told me how to be safe: freeze & become invisible, don't fight back, don't want anything. Very successful to SURVIVE the home I was born into! Later when I'd become almost narcoleptic at school it became obvious that that reaction was definitely Not successful.
That a little child could create an effective survival strategy that eas within a childs undersyanding was a leap of brilliance. I'm glad you survived! Reality changed and it was no longer the thing to do. And you realized. I'm going to try to remember what I did.
@@orianna9200 I'm now over 50 yrs old & so happy to be able to have lots of joy in my life now. We are learning so much about the plasticity of our brains & healing abilities of our bodies every day. Yes, there's been much time that I've lost & bad relationships that were hard to let go of but I've made it so much further than my parents were able to. I want all traumatized children to have these tools that can allow them to where they are not defined by their past🎇💖🙂 I excited to see what my next 50yrs could be!
I was assaulted decades ago when I was a young woman. A person had entered my home. My initial response was to fight and scream and bite his lip and he became enraged when I bit him and he covered my mouth and nose with his gloved hand and almost suffocated me . I let go of the fight and allowed him to rape me. When he was done I whispered in his ear " don't worry everything is going to be all right" I used a gentle comforting voice., I rubbed his back. He jerked himself up and looked like he had just woken up out of a trance and had seen me like for the first time. He then ran out of my home. The response "to Faun " may have saved my life that time - I always wondered where that came from until I heard the "Faun" response being added to flight fight and freeze in the eighties in psychobabble land. What I understand is it is a response that is more commonly used by women. It may have actually been adaptive in that instance. I have learned over the years that that response unfortunately kept me in relationships that did not serve me. The last Narc I was involved with I did not Faun when abused. I simply left. Never to be heard from me again. As Picasso said "It takes many years to grown young" To regain the natural good instincts we were born with before they became corrupted by affected family around us. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. Our reptilian brain can be listened to again - If it hurts "just don't go back"
Sorry that happened to you, I can relate. It's good for them to see you as a person and to try and speak with them so they can see your humanity. I won't go into my own experience, you were very brave to but I will say I knew someone that stopped getting raped by speaking with them calmly when he had dragged her into a bush. Another man I knew got jumped out on, was about to get mugged with a knife and he said to the man, "what would your mother think if she could see you now?" and the knifeman ran away. My friend at school had an experience and the police's advice to her was to start picking your nose as it disgusts most people and puts them off. Who knows, everyone is different I suppose. I've shouted with all my might fiercely when someone stalked me and kept staring when I was walking from Stockwell to Brixton one night, I wouldn't usually do that (walk on my own somewhere dodgy in the early hours or shout at them) but I'd just had a severe injury from one of ex's and couldn't run. He'd smashed my phone so I couldn't ring for help. The matey immediately turned around and went the other way so that worked. A good thing to do if you're in danger is shout FIRE, not help, a lot of people are too scared to look or help but they will try to cover their own backside if they think they're in danger. Whack a car door to make the alarm go off, make as much commotion as possible shouting fire, fire would be my strategy, if no one's around run if you can. If someone tries to mug you, throw your handbag a distance away from yourself, as they'll probably want that more, giving you time to get away. Keys are a good defence weapon, umbrellas, those marker sprays or alarms are good. Don't wear a pony tail if out on your own, I read this article interviewing convicted rapists and that's what some said they went for, easier to grab and drag, they'd avoid those carrying something like a rolled up newspaper or umbrella. If you're stuck in the boot of a car, with some you can kick the tail lights out, (or you used to be able to) stick your hand out and wave, someone might be able to see you and call police. Stay safe people.
@@Jeweli. for you acknowledgment. I appreciate it. Comforting an aggressor may have helped that one time. I was groomed by a mother who looked for me to comfort her from age 3. This was an abuse of omission Her job was to comfort and care for me. Not the other way around. So my first and very inappropriate reaction to abuse was to "faun" the abuser Try to comfort and soothe their anger. When the appropriate response was to ask the person to leave or to leave myself and say "glad I missed that bullet" Today I have learned to trust my feelings and simply not engage with abusers. I trust my instincts I do not faun anyone who is mistreating me. I leave - adios goodbye - never to be seen again. Finally I have learned to put my own comfort and protection first before anyone. "Picasso says " It takes many years to become young " Very young children trust themselves. They like what they like and dislike what they dislike and own and respect those feelings These natural instincts become corrupted by early childhood abuse or emotional neglect. We learn to faun others as a way of protecting ourselves. We abandon our true feelings We never have to do that again . Yeah !!!
@@greta9558 Thanks for reply margie, sorry my comment was for you and tips were for everyone in hopefully trying to be able to protect themselves under different circumstances. Just putting down what I'd learnt and I agreed with you to be calming so they could see your humanity. I've learnt reacting with fight got me broken but I don't know if I would do that again or not, it would depend. Wasn't all piled onto you and there was and is nothing wrong with fawn response to protect yourself under those kind of situations. You came out of that alive and you relied on instincts, no one knows until they've been through it what kind of response they'll have at different times. One time might be different to another depending on who it is, how you feel, what's happened. I think I may do something awful if under some circumstances but your comment made me think again about how I may possibly react. Who knows unless I have to go through it again or anyone. Good for you looking after yourself and not abandoing your true feelings. Much respect to you for being as lovely as you are, just exactly how you are. ((hugs))
Bravo. I see autism as a fear based response to sensory stimuli. The autistic individual operates out of the amygdala. I have successfully worked with autistic children with gentle exposure therapy and generous amounts of love and attention. It has worked. I love how this dovetails with my work and theories.
Thank you for your great generosity! All of us who are committed to reclaim our authentic power add health to the collective consciousness. These are brilliant tools that I am using to transform my every day. 🎇
Past 40 days of doing this, and i have noticed my rage and sadness attacks have reduced significantly. I was having them almost every day and I've had just 3 episodes in the last 40 days which is a huge difference. I'm doing the Mnemonic excercises every single day, some days im doing them 20 times and really concentrating. I've noticed a trigger time for me seems to be waking up around 5am and thoughts and feelings start to race and then I Mnemonic the shit out of them, interrupting the pattern and creating a bit of space. Thanks Richard.
Just signed up for new 30-Day challenge July 2022. Way to kick off my Independence Day Vacation on the Oregon Coast! My third challege to date. Feeling ready for the next level of my own healing & growth...
Wow thank you. For years I've wondered why, in the middle of really stressful arguments with the ex, I would blank out and suddenly have no idea what he was mad about, and be unable to answer his angry screams about WHY DID YOU DO THIS OR THAT? I'd have forgotten what he was asking me, and this would only infuriate him more. I must have been dissociating/freezing. That was in my late 20's and early 30's. I don't know if I ever did this at any other time before or since but it sure happened then.
Brilliant Richard. If I didn't know any better, I would think you used me as your test theory!!!!....my home as a child was a war zone. Violent break outs between my parents, terrible fights between them and many times just out know where!....I would be terrified and run (flight) to my room and hide. I would freeze, be very still not to drawn attention to myself because I didn't want the terrible brutal beating my mother was enduring. After the dust settled, I would walk on eggshells. Didn't want to stir them up again. Nobody talked about!!! After a few days, all was back to normal as if nothing happened. Seemed like I was the only one who wasn't ok with it and concerned that someone could get killed. They lived like animals!!!! I had issues with freezing every time someone would elevate their voice or yell. I would freeze than fawn as if to say """ok you win""...your work is so on point as it is one the very things my therapist assisted me with. I'm safe now, I can leave and don't have to face anyone screaming or elevating their voice at or near me. I can also ask for them to lower their voice if I'm uncomfortable. Keep up the great work. We need to learn that our lizard brain no longer runs the show!!!!! Warmest Regards.
@Karen Turner, Thank you to shering your story. It helps me to understand better my children. With their father who was psychopath and master of gas lighting at home was endless very loud with very bad words to make me down. On one side this is past, but I as a person with a broken boundaries I raise voice when I'm frustrated. My children they don't like it and they saying it. Your post opens more my eyes. Thank you. God bless you😘🙏
@@hama-gl3fm ....thank you for sharing your story. It's very brave of you and my hope is our stories can help another. May you and your children find peace and love always. Warmest regards.
Richard, I admire your ability to pull all that psychology together, connect the dots and actually make something usable from it that'll heal tons of people. You make sense of it all! You should get the Nobel prize for psychology, this is genius! I'm quite certain now that once you increase your neuroplasticity again you can heal from almost anything. Including a lot of physical problems that have their root in inflammation or hormonal imbalances that are caused by the brain. Feed your body with the right bits, change your habits, learn something new and be creative every day. Dance, read fiction, meet new people that make you laugh. You will heal. Seriously. This is gold. Thank you! 🙏🙏 (And I had this posted under the wrong video before, oops!)
I’ve been subscribed to you for years and knew what you had to say was special and true but I just couldn’t piece it all together. Thank you for putting the puzzle together for me in an easy to understand format. I am so excited for whats ahead and you are at least greatly to thank. Thank you so so much for sharing your wisdom and research and efforts with us 🙏🏻🧿
I space out so much I thought something was wrong with me. Thank you for the clear explanation! I'm just starting to understand and it makes a huge difference
Hi Richard, I have recently qualified as a hypnotherapist and I incorporate mudras for an anchor in some of my practices. I absolutely love this method and what you do. In discovery of myself over the last 3 years after yet another turbulent relationship to say the least, I Have started the process in healing and understanding myself, I have been looking into many methods and forms of healing etc, spent a fortune 😂 and experienced some pretty out there shit! 😂I love your approach and I can see how I could possibly incorporate some similar methods into hypnosis too... which is so exciting. I am now passionate about wanting to help other’s, I believe once the door starts to truly open that’s when we need the most guidance. In understanding, and making positive changes to change our story and heal our inner selves, change the blue print❤️! Love the work that you do, and it inspires me so much to want to do the same! Thank you so much, it’s people like you that truly unravels others minds in an “unwoowoo” way, and for the greater good. I live in Glastonbury uk, so you can probably imagine the alternative methods around here! 😂 some are fun haha! Thanks again, you are awesomeness 😊🙏
This significantly helped me a couple years ago when I was going through a very traumatizing period. I felt a massive difference by the end of the month. I am going to do it again because I’m again going through a very destabilizing period and am getting triggered again frequently because of it. Glad it’s still here. Time for a tune up.
yes its so great. i have had years of therapy too, many different therapists, AA for years, but there is something about Richard. He explains things so clearly and cuts through all the crap, what he ways rings so true. i am excited about doing his courses
I really do fuckin love you . The authenticity is like something you can't stop looking at. Seriously the intent of just purely hoping to help others but coming from someone who only stammers when he's ending the video. I love the delivery and of course respect the message. Given with a whole heart and accepted from one as well. Cheers.
Like so many i've suffered years of abuse followed by years of therapy. Your amazingly well articulated content has finally joined so many dots for me and I am so grateful. Thank you
Refreshing this course due to experiencing brain fog because of emotional flashbacks. The brain fog made me forget these steps. I've been doing good coping strategy methods. Need the reminder & see if I'm missing something. Thank you. XOXO Moon.
1st, a coping skill of music to get me in the mood to listen. Into this moment,in between, cause that's where I am. And that's okay. ruclips.net/video/pjOtKC_GZ9o/видео.html Isa wardruna cause I need more coping to listen. ruclips.net/video/1GCLhaQ1imE/видео.html
Thank Richard so glad I have discovered you. Really can see how much work you've done on yourself your and compassion to pass this on is very much appreciated
bravo Richie.. I believe you are totally spot on with this. trauma activating primal survival mode mechanisms the 4 "F"s we get stuck in. in the body/mind connection my interest is in also releasing the trauma from my body. I am so looking forward to your next video and resolutions. thank you MUCHiLY
Thank You for your time; all the solid research and work, then to altruistically give away this life changing teaching for free.. Cheers Richard! >taking a seat up front< I love the Krishnamurti quote : 'It is no manner of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.' Any sensitive soul who opens there eyes and is aware of such awful and needless suffering in the world becomes, naturally, to varying degree, maladaptive. In my own life I have battled addiction, depression, anger, disassociation, self-harm (which it all is ultimately), narcissistic abuse, and pretty much all those other lovely quirks of the lost. As a young child my mother took me to the doctor because I couldnt 'walk in a straight line' (no joke). The docs diagnosis was 'chonic daydreamer' (thankfully before the invent of ADHD, or else they'd have given me Ritalin!), and that I'd grow out of it.. my head's still on Venus tho doc, but I digress. The essence of my own recovery is self- love and self- responsibility. I no longer blame anyone, or anything 'outside", and refuse to be a victim, yet still can't relate to what most consider 'normal' I still need help staying balanced in a world walking straight and am here as an avid student. Cheers Richard, for helping me grow and evolve, especially when I'm skint! Much love
Thank you for gifting this to us mere traumatized mortals. :) I thought I'd moved past my trauma from being through 7 years of extreme narcissistic abuse. But see now that I'm still disassociating by staying disconnected from people, not getting back into life, and using the lie of "I'm just an independent person", out of fear they might hurt me. Sh!t.
Very good presentation. I don't like operating from the reptilian survival part of the brain. Can't relax unless I feel safe, once I do, I can focus on other things that need to be done. I spend a lot of time on alert though, sometimes it's like 1 step forward, 2 back. I always thought of daydreaming as letting the mind relax and wander, like just before you fall asleep but being awake so not quite the same. Meditation!! I noticed this years ago when the vast majority of my attention was taken up by others and with all my responsibilities. When I rarely got on my own and had time and space to think it was wonderful as that's when I got lots of idea's and piecing the puzzle together, it comes better to me in that state of mind. I reprogram my brain saying positive things, saw that in your last vid but commenting here. No one will hardly say, wonderful to see you or give praise much so I give myself affirmation from scripture and say it aloud. It really helps change the mindset and myself when I hear positivity, even if it's only me that's saying it so I can hear it, has to be done on repeat to go in and stay in. Habit is by habit overcome. I see it as fighting the good fight, beating down the negativity that comes by replacing it with positive. It's a battle! On guard, Hiawathaaa meep meep!
Thank you so much for doing this. I am working on my emotional flashbacks and trying to get my sister and partner to do the same. I love the opening to the videos and the presentations are beautifully thorough and clear, as they always are. That is really helpful for a person with chronic dissociation.
@ 8:46 I would agree with you on your take, however I would argue that it's not so much caused by a MALadaptive coping technique; rather that the stressors haven't been dealt with properly / looked at EVER in the organism. That's why these issues are coming up. From long-term not looking at these things / blindness
Thanks Richard, you make perfect sense. I'm going to follow your advice to the letter. I've wasted to much time and money on trying to heal my pain. Your advice is by far the best I've heard.
I don't know how I bumped into your channel, though I gladly realized there is a reason for this and Yes, it's brilliant and helpful to know how to deal with these issues especially at this time and age. Thank you for taking time out of your own to share this great information
I'm looking for that LOVE button. :-D Thank You Richard. You are an amazing human being to care so much that you freely give and so generously share your knowledge to help heal our badly wounded humanity. I pray that your generosity boomerangs back to you with, eventually, a much more mentally healthy and thriving humanity. God Bless you.
Amazing. I really look forward to your next video. You've helped me massively over the years and I like many are extremely thankful for your generosity.
I had a traumatic episode in my teenage years which then resulted in PTSD, with real flashbacks triggered by random unconnected words, but that went fast. I do agree that there isn't such a difference between PTSD and CPTSD. The analogy between the two types of guns was very good!
Wow! Wow! Wow! Richard - you are brilliant! It is so rare to meet people who are that much passionate about their field of study. Thank you and thank you again for all the videos!!!
I think watching loads of horror movies and violent movies when I was a kid, as well as living in an emotionally turbulent family environment caused me to be somewhat disturbed.
I've just started yesterday and I'm very excited. I'm optimistic since I find this program very useful and well suited for me. Thank you for doing this Richard!
Bravo Richard I have been watching you for years. Your own recovery is shining in you new professional presentation. Your ideas - your unique , brilliant, funny style is still there but now professionalized . Thanks for showing all of us you can get better and thrive. You business is visible display of what you are offering.
Thank you Richard this is my first time on this particular Channel. The other day I watched your video about procrastination that is me. I have been trying to go through papers for the last 11 years I hate mail and any kind of paperwork. I'm getting older and I have a lot of important papers I need to sort through but I seem to hit a wall and I'm being inundated by papers. I'm not a hoarder but because I can't go through these papers it seems like I'm hoarding them but I'm afraid to set them on fire because I think I may need some there are some that are important like Deeds and other important papers. I have C PTSD in a bad way. I Now understand why I have so many walls that I run into and I cannot overcome. Even as I have attempted to do your lessons before I have run into these walls. I bought Pete Walker's book on C PTSD and I began to read it and it's gotten lost in the ton of papers and I don't know where it is and for whatever reason I have this deep aversion to going near those papers. I really hope that watching these videos will help me to be able to break through these walls and become the human being that I've always wanted to be. I'm nearly 60 years old and I don't have much time but I want to use the time I have left to be the best version of me. C-ptsd has left me in a brick box fortified with iron and I long to be free. Thank you for all you do I hope that it can help me.
I am up to week four of doing the pneumonics daily, and am really noticing a difference in the frequency and intensity of my emotional flashbacks. I am quite surprised as I wasn’t sure how it would work. They haven’t gone away completely and maybe won’t ever but the intensity has definitely lessened and the recovery time is faster. I am also journalling regularly. I’m going to continue doing the pneumonic exercises indefinitely. Very grateful for this information.
This makes me feel that humanity has a chance. That we can heal and come together as equals in respect and reverence of each other. Rather than be consumed by negativity to the point in which the world eats itself.
Thank you so much for this. You are absolutely correct. I was drugged, beaten terribly , neck snapped, thrown down stairs, gang raped and now live with a traumatic brain injury. I switch between every emotion you speak of just to survive each day. I’ve gotten more out of your videos than any counselor. Many blessings to you.
I'm SO sorry that happened to you, it wasn't your fault and you didn't deserve that at all. May God bless and heal you in every way, blessings to you. You're a survivor!
I've just read this. Makes me sooo angry you must go through all that! Wish you succesfull healing and recovery. You can do it! Cheers and hug Chakka Kon 🙂
I appreciate you so much Richard. Thank you so much for all you're doing to help others get out of this awful trauma affliction. You truly are the rarest of gems.
Richard, Chronic Pain can be held down, suppressed emotion. The nervous syndrome decided you can’t deal with the extreme traumas and emotional baggage of life...and gives you chronic pain. Read Dr. John Sarno’s work ...Mind Body Prescription, The Divided Mind, Healing Back Pain. It’s called Tension Myositis Syndrome. I’ve been doing the emotional work and relieving a Pain Syndrome no doctor could help me with. Go to the TMS wiki for more information. You can also watch Dr. Sarno’s 20/20 interview here on RUclips. You could help millions of pain sufferers by getting this out there ...as the medical model refuses to link chronic pain and trauma. There are thousands of testimonials on RUclips and other resources. Thank you !
Andrea P I hear you Andrea: chronic pain and fibromyalgia are both things I will get into but I have to read more of the literature first. Thanks for your patience.
Awesome! Thank you , Richard! Dr Howard Schubiner wrote “Unlearn Your Anxiety and Depression” and” Unlearn Your Pain”....both are in the same vein of what you are discussing....all based on John Sarno’s work.
@@RICHARDGRANNON My fibromyalgia began when son went to afghanistan. I am a gold star sister (nam). When I got the phone number to call for his flight home time...I slept for 3 days. over the last 8 years it has creeped from hands up to shoulders and from feet to above knees. Takes 1/2 hour for this tin woman to get out of bed. Absorbine Jr is my friend. When flashbacking I can actually feel the chemical reaction go from heart (brain cells in heart) to the extremities. That is fear. The damage to neurons has been imaged. I think we are actually frying our nerves. hey, can you ask if those who are emo black belts who have had fibro if their system has calmed down, too?
@Andrea P Thanks for the heads up, I will check him out. I have chronic pain from tension, Dr's called it tendonitis, it is fibromyalgia I think and I get such severe pain from old injuries too. I've been through the mill! Dr Gabor Maté speaks a lot of sense too linking trauma and pain. I won't do the ayahuasca again though, was spiked and didn't know what it was until years later when I read about people's experiences. I was like wow that's what it was!!
Thank you so much for this clear & straightforward explanation. To be able to put 'full circle truth' in a mere 19 minutes is proof of your talent for supporting people through this medium.
I used get into massive rage panic attacks when I fell into an emotional flashbacks, and then just freeze, sometimes just stand there for hours, frozen in place, unable to move. This used to happen a few times a day, every single day. Now the rage is WAY less intense and it only happens once a month. I would like to get to a point where I can just let it pass, like a cloud on a windy day, and a few seconds later, it's gone. That's the goal. That's my intent.
Thank you Richard. That was very informative. I've been telling myself for sometime that my anxiety is just trying to help me be safe. If I am anxious it is because I do not feel safe. And I am definitely a freeze/fawn so I do a lot of trying to escape from my anxiety instead of trying to figure out how to feel safe. Well it's time to stop doing that. No more cold Bambi for me.
I really love this video, I feel it's very complete and crystallly . I think that some people will have a kind of pre , genetic, soul, thing that can mirror things differently, but maybe. This idea feels complete , original, and has the true zing,, thanks for your caring work, love and peace everyone
.. Richard, you have the ability to explain concepts clearly and effectively. You are Perfect in that department. The micro- trauma concept is very interesting, because it can result in a cycle of micro-trauma. My trainer said this to me a while ago, because we were debating someone feedback: The arrows that wound us emotionally are not obvious to the necked eye. So..WHO speared my surfboard? That visual hurts.. Today is an odd day with the interruptions from others. I will continue with the course tomorrow, because I need to create a floor routine for Pilates: warm up, workout and cool down. For the workout: upper body exercise, Lower body exercise , Core exercise: upper abdominal, lower abdominal , obliques and back exercises. Thank you, Richard.
Im going to spill the whole tin of beans after 22 years of studying trauma and how it is responsible for 95% of all mental health issues and how to resolve it.
And Im doing it for free.
No upsells, no baiting or any of that bollocks, Im going to give it to anyone who wants it as is.
You dont need a PHD and you dont need to spend thousands of pounds to get better.
Being SANE and happy is your natural state. You have a right to know how to protect yourself and how to look after yourself.
Dont listen to these greedy gatekeepers who want to mystify you and obfuscate the issue to keep you paying for the same "round and round the garden" tea and biscuits chit chat. That more often than not goes nowhere: thats not my opinion, thats the peer reviewed published research on ALL therapeutic modalities.
Life is too short to be spent chatting about the shitty things that happened in your life.
PTSD, addiction, Depression, anxiety, anger management and dissociation can all be resolved by a BETTER understanding of the cause of trauma: these are PROTECTIVE responses.
When we skillfully and compassionately lead the client (or ourselves) back to safety the symptoms dissipate of their own accord.
Why?
Because the human system works perfectly well.
We've just been using medieval maps to navigate it.
Now lets observe where the pushback to me doing this comes from :D will it be from those invested in NOT SHARING what works?
Onwards.
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Onwards and upwards
Couldn’t click on this fast enough. Cannot wait to watch/listen.
Thankyou Richard for putting this out there. Its very helping to understand myself in these terms and make a strategy, will be focusing on discipline towards learning how to deal with myself, people and life in a different light. I hope I can do this in working with my therapist.
Thank you doesnt begin to cover it.
So grateful for all you are doing to help! ❤
Freaking BRILLIANT Richard. You have broken the sound barrier for your field of work. Truly Amazing. Congrats to you. I hope a million plus psychologists and mental healthcare workers see the work you are providing and apply it to their clients and patients. Blessings to you! ❤️
I agree with you but for god's sake stop worshipping him or he may go all Hollywood on us.
Yes!
TRUE! Thank You, Richard for sharing Your knowledge and experience! Extremely clarifying and helpful!
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I'm Fawning now! Begging u to stop the jealousy, the emotional abuse, the cruelty, and the paranoia!! You need help! This is not right! Check your self into a mental hospital Nigerian Narcissist.
You are a genius Richard! I'm looking forward to meeting you one day -after I put all this behind me! To Thank You, for all of your wonderful advice. I'm very grateful to you!
Hi.Had a baaad flashback at a coffeebar this morning.26years after.This was the BIG one.Sat frozen at a plate of food.He had been trying to
'train'me not to eat Ever.
Richards video called me back.
Thankyou Mr Grannon.
So grateful to have found your channels, Richard Grannon. Literally saved my life! God bless you.
I'M SUPER PUMPED TO BE STARTING THIS PROGRAM. THANK YOU DUDE!
Trusting seems to be the most challenging, so I left this course for a while. But what I see, this course in combination with the help of a friend and education by a scientist braught more than anything else. Lost within shortest time weight, what never worked out before, eating healthy with joy, aslept mind woke up, many things became clearer, couragness went up, thoughts are more focused and new wonderful aims seem to be doable. Doubt, that old established methods would have such an immense positive impact. Thank you very much.
Thank you for the direct and holistic philosophy on this subject. My therapist wanted me to go ro anger management, but I didn't think that was the issue. I let myself stay in a relationship for fear of being alone to the point where it destroyed me and my ability to control my 4 F's. Fight finally came out after years of fawn, flight and scary episodes of freeze where I lost hours of time. This makes far more sense than anything else.
I think that if a child was raised in an unstable home w/intermittent violence, that child will have a strong fawning/freezing response. A Flight response was not possible for an infant. A Fight response would be counter-productive (ie. The child would not survive a fight with a raging adult). I have spent years of therapy that did not help me to get at this understand of why I am seemingly blocked from having agency.
I told my therapist it's as if I was only able to do defense, no offense & I'm constantly backing down the field of life with no hope of getting to the goal.
I'm grateful for your work & getting this info out.
Great Job! Your explanations are to the point and cut through so much of the 'information' we receive today regarding how humans react to pain. Learning to think about the way we think can help us all better learn to appreciate the desire of the body's innate systems to protect us until our consciousness has learned to become part of that process. Again, thank you for what you do. Your work gets better and better.
I love both of you :)
Thanks for being the work you both do!
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Lisa I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your help.
Thank you both Lisa and Richard for all you do and sharing the knowledge you have. I appreciate it so much. ❤️
I listen to both of you and have learned so much about the human mind and how we process things. You are a blessing because you give understanding in this game of life. It feels like a game sometimes and there are winners and losers.
@@jaykay6107 it’s an honor🙏
Love the name! I've been calling my place The Fortress since I started healing. I even have a 6 foot cedar fence around it & all locked up tight. Nobody gets in without my consent. New rules, safe space.
That makes so much sense. I'd never have thought of myself as dissociative but I've been a chronic daydreamer since I can remember.
Me, too. I believe it was Richard's video titled "Dis Flashback" that totally rocked my world when he said that disassociating is an emotional flashback. I had to re-watch that video about 4 times to fully take it in and realize that means I've been in emotional flashbacks for a great portion of my life.
@@meghanworkman6449 Interesting, I'll take a look for that, thanks!
@@maureenbouey you bet!
Maureen Bouey it is called maladaptive daydreaming. Research is been done by Eliezer Somer. You can look it up here on yt
Me too. I found the regulation exercises life changing for not getting caught in the loop again.
Richard.. Innovating always innovating. May God protect and keep you happy always. الله يحفضك يا غالي
Warrior Life “god” didn’t protect us when we were being abused, did he?
Jake Curtis if there were no evil in the world then there would be no good.
Amine ya rab ❤
@@dotdashdotdash 100,000 thumbs up.
This is absolutely unbelievable. Entire life explained in 20 mins.
You are the best. I feel hopeful like a map has suddenly appeared in my back pocket to help navigate me out of the scary forest I have been lost in. The fact you are freely giving this content is genuinely healing as I have been played and reinjured once too many times after mustering courage to do something about my issues only to be fleeced . I need to do this for myself . Be my own advocate. God help me find balance and ease on down the freaking road and be the person I used to enjoy so much. God bless you with the best of everything for your kind generosity
Been looking for the "way" out this insanity.... who would've thought an actual "map" could help
@@curiousme113 I've experienced great frustration & anger at needing a map. It seems other people are enjoying life, living carefree but, I'm ticked that a 'map' has been necessary to survive. Along with well calculated steps so as to not step on a land mine and get sucked back in. It's an oxymoron I know, a map is necessary on the long journey to wholeness...life shouldn't be that difficult or painful.
EstherAnn I wish profusely I could have that carefree life some people get to experience-or at least find it way way easier than I do. Hopefully this will offer a way to get at least someway near that. Wishing you peace and prosperity ❤️
Wow! Holy Cow! All these years...35 years therapy...treatment for addiction...15 years in 12 step programs....3 marriages.....and this starts to make sense.
Me too! Decades….
Same
Those darn addictions really make the head and heart ssssllllloooowww.😂
Great explanation! I noticed after sticking to self-discipline routine long-term, my anxiety diminished.
There have been times when I wished to God you were my friend... but through your teachings, insight and generosity I am learning to be my own friend... it’s slow but it’s definitely happening! So for now you can be my RUclipse friend! I hope one day to shake your hand and say thank you! 😊
ITS one the best on the subject to me he’s the best!!
Having followed you for a while I can say that this channel will serve as a fountain of healing for those whose minds are weighed down by fear and depression.
This is amazing and a very compassionate approach to issues. I find that I feel less guilt when I look at addiction or disassociation through this lens.
Very helpful for someone who’s 6 months free of prescription drugs! Thank you!
I have been working persistently, and it's taken a month, but ... I see a SIGNIFICANT difference!
While FMH Protection requires persistence and work, it is way easier and I believe, more therapeutic than DBT. Don't get me wrong, DBT is good, but it's simply an educational and effective course on successful social navigation and does not address core content.
I feel calm enough to finally develop my moral philosophy. This isn't hard as of mid July 2020. I see many things I identify as WRONG to do to others.
I am a US Veteran, and I Sincerely Thank you sir. I will be referring fellow Veterans to this channel.
P.S. I enjoy all of your channels:)
I had a toy bunny that I held every time violence broke out in our home. Bunny told me how to be safe: freeze & become invisible, don't fight back, don't want anything. Very successful to SURVIVE the home I was born into! Later when I'd become almost narcoleptic at school it became obvious that that reaction was definitely Not successful.
I had a toy bunny too.
That a little child could create an effective survival strategy that eas within a childs undersyanding was a leap of brilliance. I'm glad you survived! Reality changed and it was no longer the thing to do. And you realized. I'm going to try to remember what I did.
@@orianna9200 I'm now over 50 yrs old & so happy to be able to have lots of joy in my life now. We are learning so much about the plasticity of our brains & healing abilities of our bodies every day. Yes, there's been much time that I've lost & bad relationships that were hard to let go of but I've made it so much further than my parents were able to. I want all traumatized children to have these tools that can allow them to where they are not defined by their past🎇💖🙂 I excited to see what my next 50yrs could be!
@@PC-kc4lw This is lovely.
Thank you for posting. I had forgotten that mine was Raggedy Ann. Still have her (stored away now 😍).
This is great. Three minutes in, and I can stop the video and think about what you just said about pain and stress. I like this.
I was assaulted decades ago when I was a young woman. A person had entered my home.
My initial response was to fight and scream and bite his lip and he became enraged when I bit him and he covered my mouth
and nose with his gloved hand and almost suffocated me . I let go of the fight and allowed him to rape me. When he was done I whispered in his ear " don't worry everything is going to be all right" I used a gentle comforting voice., I rubbed his back. He jerked himself up and looked like he had just woken up out of a trance and had seen me like for the first time. He then ran out of my home. The response "to Faun " may have saved my life that time - I always wondered where that came from until I heard the "Faun" response being added to flight fight and freeze in the eighties in psychobabble land. What I understand is it is a response that is more commonly used by women. It may have actually been adaptive in that instance. I have learned over the years that that response unfortunately kept me in relationships that did not serve me.
The last Narc I was involved with I did not Faun when abused. I simply left. Never to be heard from me again.
As Picasso said "It takes many years to grown young"
To regain the natural good instincts we were born with before they became corrupted by affected family around us. But there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Our reptilian brain can be listened to again - If it hurts "just don't go back"
margie thanks for shareing
Sorry that happened to you, I can relate. It's good for them to see you as a person and to try and speak with them so they can see your humanity. I won't go into my own experience, you were very brave to but I will say I knew someone that stopped getting raped by speaking with them calmly when he had dragged her into a bush. Another man I knew got jumped out on, was about to get mugged with a knife and he said to the man, "what would your mother think if she could see you now?" and the knifeman ran away. My friend at school had an experience and the police's advice to her was to start picking your nose as it disgusts most people and puts them off. Who knows, everyone is different I suppose. I've shouted with all my might fiercely when someone stalked me and kept staring when I was walking from Stockwell to Brixton one night, I wouldn't usually do that (walk on my own somewhere dodgy in the early hours or shout at them) but I'd just had a severe injury from one of ex's and couldn't run. He'd smashed my phone so I couldn't ring for help. The matey immediately turned around and went the other way so that worked. A good thing to do if you're in danger is shout FIRE, not help, a lot of people are too scared to look or help but they will try to cover their own backside if they think they're in danger. Whack a car door to make the alarm go off, make as much commotion as possible shouting fire, fire would be my strategy, if no one's around run if you can. If someone tries to mug you, throw your handbag a distance away from yourself, as they'll probably want that more, giving you time to get away. Keys are a good defence weapon, umbrellas, those marker sprays or alarms are good. Don't wear a pony tail if out on your own, I read this article interviewing convicted rapists and that's what some said they went for, easier to grab and drag, they'd avoid those carrying something like a rolled up newspaper or umbrella. If you're stuck in the boot of a car, with some you can kick the tail lights out, (or you used to be able to) stick your hand out and wave, someone might be able to see you and call police. Stay safe people.
@@Jeweli. for you acknowledgment. I appreciate it. Comforting an aggressor may have helped that one time.
I was groomed by a mother who looked for me to comfort her from age 3.
This was an abuse of omission
Her job was to comfort and care for me.
Not the other way around.
So my first and very inappropriate reaction to abuse was to "faun" the abuser
Try to comfort and soothe their anger.
When the appropriate response was to ask the person to leave or to leave myself and
say "glad I missed that bullet"
Today I have learned to trust my feelings and simply not engage with abusers.
I trust my instincts I do not faun anyone who is mistreating me. I leave - adios
goodbye - never to be seen again.
Finally I have learned to put my own comfort and protection first before anyone. "Picasso says " It takes many years to become young "
Very young children trust themselves.
They like what they like and dislike what they dislike and own and respect those feelings
These natural instincts become corrupted by early childhood abuse or emotional neglect.
We learn to faun others as a way of protecting ourselves.
We abandon our true feelings
We never have to do that again . Yeah !!!
@@greta9558 Thanks for reply margie, sorry my comment was for you and tips were for everyone in hopefully trying to be able to protect themselves under different circumstances. Just putting down what I'd learnt and I agreed with you to be calming so they could see your humanity. I've learnt reacting with fight got me broken but I don't know if I would do that again or not, it would depend. Wasn't all piled onto you and there was and is nothing wrong with fawn response to protect yourself under those kind of situations. You came out of that alive and you relied on instincts, no one knows until they've been through it what kind of response they'll have at different times. One time might be different to another depending on who it is, how you feel, what's happened. I think I may do something awful if under some circumstances but your comment made me think again about how I may possibly react. Who knows unless I have to go through it again or anyone. Good for you looking after yourself and not abandoing your true feelings. Much respect to you for being as lovely as you are, just exactly how you are.
((hugs))
@@Jeweli. Thanks Jeweli
your compassion and wisdom shines through ! ✨
Bravo.
I see autism as a fear based response to sensory stimuli. The autistic individual operates out of the amygdala. I have successfully worked with autistic children with gentle exposure therapy and generous amounts of love and attention.
It has worked.
I love how this dovetails with my work and theories.
You’re the big brother/friend we all need on this journey.
Yippee. I’m finally starting to heal. Thank you Richard. God bless 🌞
Thank you for your great generosity! All of us who are committed to reclaim our authentic power add health to the collective consciousness. These are brilliant tools that I am using to transform my every day. 🎇
Your most clear and descriptive explanation yet! Honorary PhD to you! Thank you! Am sending this link to a few who need to hear this now!!
Best video on the subject out there. No question
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Spreading a noble creed,
Bringing happiness to the Land,
With a message thats Grand!
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Past 40 days of doing this, and i have noticed my rage and sadness attacks have reduced significantly. I was having them almost every day and I've had just 3 episodes in the last 40 days which is a huge difference. I'm doing the Mnemonic excercises every single day, some days im doing them 20 times and really concentrating. I've noticed a trigger time for me seems to be waking up around 5am and thoughts and feelings start to race and then I Mnemonic the shit out of them, interrupting the pattern and creating a bit of space. Thanks Richard.
Just signed up for new 30-Day challenge July 2022. Way to kick off my Independence Day Vacation on the Oregon Coast! My third challege to date. Feeling ready for the next level of my own healing & growth...
Wow thank you. For years I've wondered why, in the middle of really stressful arguments with the ex, I would blank out and suddenly have no idea what he was mad about, and be unable to answer his angry screams about WHY DID YOU DO THIS OR THAT? I'd have forgotten what he was asking me, and this would only infuriate him more. I must have been dissociating/freezing. That was in my late 20's and early 30's. I don't know if I ever did this at any other time before or since but it sure happened then.
Never subscribed to a channel so fast...looking forward to the gold mine of content to come!
Your voice is like liquid gold! I absolutely love this new mental health paradigm, makes so much sense! Thank you!
Brilliant Richard. If I didn't know any better, I would think you used me as your test theory!!!!....my home as a child was a war zone. Violent break outs between my parents, terrible fights between them and many times just out know where!....I would be terrified and run (flight) to my room and hide. I would freeze, be very still not to drawn attention to myself because I didn't want the terrible brutal beating my mother was enduring. After the dust settled, I would walk on eggshells. Didn't want to stir them up again. Nobody talked about!!! After a few days, all was back to normal as if nothing happened. Seemed like I was the only one who wasn't ok with it and concerned that someone could get killed. They lived like animals!!!! I had issues with freezing every time someone would elevate their voice or yell. I would freeze than fawn as if to say """ok you win""...your work is so on point as it is one the very things my therapist assisted me with. I'm safe now, I can leave and don't have to face anyone screaming or elevating their voice at or near me. I can also ask for them to lower their voice if I'm uncomfortable. Keep up the great work. We need to learn that our lizard brain no longer runs the show!!!!! Warmest Regards.
@Karen Turner, Thank you to shering your story. It helps me to understand better my children. With their father who was psychopath and master of gas lighting at home was endless very loud with very bad words to make me down. On one side this is past, but I as a person with a broken boundaries I raise voice when I'm frustrated. My children they don't like it and they saying it. Your post opens more my eyes. Thank you. God bless you😘🙏
@@hama-gl3fm ....thank you for sharing your story. It's very brave of you and my hope is our stories can help another. May you and your children find peace and love always. Warmest regards.
Richard, I admire your ability to pull all that psychology together, connect the dots and actually make something usable from it that'll heal tons of people.
You make sense of it all! You should get the Nobel prize for psychology, this is genius!
I'm quite certain now that once you increase your neuroplasticity again you can heal from almost anything. Including a lot of physical problems that have their root in inflammation or hormonal imbalances that are caused by the brain. Feed your body with the right bits, change your habits, learn something new and be creative every day. Dance, read fiction, meet new people that make you laugh. You will heal.
Seriously. This is gold. Thank you! 🙏🙏
(And I had this posted under the wrong video before, oops!)
A clinical license therapist could never deliver a life changing message like this! Thank you for creating and demonstrating hope for the hopeless 🙏🏼
I’ve been subscribed to you for years and knew what you had to say was special and true but I just couldn’t piece it all together. Thank you for putting the puzzle together for me in an easy to understand format. I am so excited for whats ahead and you are at least greatly to thank. Thank you so so much for sharing your wisdom and research and efforts with us 🙏🏻🧿
I found your channel today and i'm finding new hope. Thank you for everything that you share here, and for free too. Bless you.
I space out so much I thought something was wrong with me. Thank you for the clear explanation! I'm just starting to understand and it makes a huge difference
That's absolutely brilliant. It should be on prime time TV!
Hi Richard, I have recently qualified as a hypnotherapist and I incorporate mudras for an anchor in some of my practices. I absolutely love this method and what you do. In discovery of myself over the last 3 years after yet another turbulent relationship to say the least, I Have started the process in healing and understanding myself, I have been looking into many methods and forms of healing etc, spent a fortune 😂 and experienced some pretty out there shit! 😂I love your approach and I can see how I could possibly incorporate some similar methods into hypnosis too... which is so exciting. I am now passionate about wanting to help other’s, I believe once the door starts to truly open that’s when we need the most guidance. In understanding, and making positive changes to change our story and heal our inner selves, change the blue print❤️! Love the work that you do, and it inspires me so much to want to do the same! Thank you so much, it’s people like you that truly unravels others minds in an “unwoowoo” way, and for the greater good. I live in Glastonbury uk, so you can probably imagine the alternative methods around here! 😂 some are fun haha! Thanks again, you are awesomeness 😊🙏
This significantly helped me a couple years ago when I was going through a very traumatizing period. I felt a massive difference by the end of the month. I am going to do it again because I’m again going through a very destabilizing period and am getting triggered again frequently because of it. Glad it’s still here. Time for a tune up.
Thank you for being there!
My "Higher Power" led me to your channel ~ Synchronicity at its finest.. Ty Brother for taking up your calling! 🙏❤😇
This is a superb series. When you're afflicted with CPTSD, and tried everything this maybe the solution.
I've needed to hear this all my life. Thank you so much for the very informative, simple to understand, and straight to the point video.
Thank you for doing this. I have CPTSD. Reg therapies and prescriptions are not really helping. I look forward to your next video.
yes its so great. i have had years of therapy too, many different therapists, AA for years, but there is something about Richard. He explains things so clearly and cuts through all the crap, what he ways rings so true. i am excited about doing his courses
I really do fuckin love you . The authenticity is like something you can't stop looking at. Seriously the intent of just purely hoping to help others but coming from someone who only stammers when he's ending the video. I love the delivery and of course respect the message. Given with a whole heart and accepted from one as well. Cheers.
What an amazingly kind thing to do. Thank you Richard.
Like so many i've suffered years of abuse followed by years of therapy. Your amazingly well articulated content has finally joined so many dots for me and I am so grateful. Thank you
Refreshing this course due to experiencing brain fog because of emotional flashbacks. The brain fog made me forget these steps. I've been doing good coping strategy methods. Need the reminder & see if I'm missing something. Thank you. XOXO Moon.
1st, a coping skill of music to get me in the mood to listen. Into this moment,in between, cause that's where I am. And that's okay. ruclips.net/video/pjOtKC_GZ9o/видео.html
Isa wardruna cause I need more coping to listen. ruclips.net/video/1GCLhaQ1imE/видео.html
Thank Richard so glad I have discovered you. Really can see how much work you've done on yourself your and compassion to pass this on is very much appreciated
bravo Richie.. I believe you are totally spot on with this. trauma activating primal survival mode mechanisms the 4 "F"s we get stuck in. in the body/mind connection my interest is in also releasing the trauma from my body. I am so looking forward to your next video and resolutions. thank you MUCHiLY
Well done...thank you so much Richard
Thank You for your time; all the solid research and work, then to altruistically give away this life changing teaching for free.. Cheers Richard!
>taking a seat up front<
I love the Krishnamurti quote : 'It is no manner of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.'
Any sensitive soul who opens there eyes and is aware of such awful and needless suffering in the world becomes, naturally, to varying degree, maladaptive. In my own life I have battled addiction, depression, anger, disassociation, self-harm (which it all is ultimately), narcissistic abuse, and pretty much all those other lovely quirks of the lost. As a young child my mother took me to the doctor because I couldnt 'walk in a straight line' (no joke). The docs diagnosis was 'chonic daydreamer' (thankfully before the invent of ADHD, or else they'd have given me Ritalin!), and that I'd grow out of it.. my head's still on Venus tho doc, but I digress.
The essence of my own recovery is self- love and self- responsibility. I no longer blame anyone, or anything 'outside", and refuse to be a victim, yet still can't relate to what most consider 'normal'
I still need help staying balanced in a world walking straight and am here as an avid student. Cheers Richard, for helping me grow and evolve, especially when I'm skint!
Much love
Chronic Daydreamer. That'd make a cool t-shirt slogan. I'd buy one, if it's a black organic cotton T with basic white font.
@@thaliakate444 hemp ;)
@@aspiritrebellious3258 yes, better yet hemp.
Thank you for gifting this to us mere traumatized mortals. :) I thought I'd moved past my trauma from being through 7 years of extreme narcissistic abuse. But see now that I'm still disassociating by staying disconnected from people, not getting back into life, and using the lie of "I'm just an independent person", out of fear they might hurt me. Sh!t.
So glad I rediscovered you and your work. My CPTSD brain feels soothed with all this info.
💪 thanks Richard. You are an amazing human for helping people the way you do.
Mate, devouring your videos. Thanks for uploading!
Very good presentation. I don't like operating from the reptilian survival part of the brain. Can't relax unless I feel safe, once I do, I can focus on other things that need to be done. I spend a lot of time on alert though, sometimes it's like 1 step forward, 2 back. I always thought of daydreaming as letting the mind relax and wander, like just before you fall asleep but being awake so not quite the same. Meditation!! I noticed this years ago when the vast majority of my attention was taken up by others and with all my responsibilities. When I rarely got on my own and had time and space to think it was wonderful as that's when I got lots of idea's and piecing the puzzle together, it comes better to me in that state of mind. I reprogram my brain saying positive things, saw that in your last vid but commenting here. No one will hardly say, wonderful to see you or give praise much so I give myself affirmation from scripture and say it aloud. It really helps change the mindset and myself when I hear positivity, even if it's only me that's saying it so I can hear it, has to be done on repeat to go in and stay in. Habit is by habit overcome. I see it as fighting the good fight, beating down the negativity that comes by replacing it with positive. It's a battle! On guard, Hiawathaaa meep meep!
Thank you so much for doing this. I am working on my emotional flashbacks and trying to get my sister and partner to do the same. I love the opening to the videos and the presentations are beautifully thorough and clear, as they always are. That is really helpful for a person with chronic dissociation.
You just cracked me open. THANK YOU! Please continue these! You explain so clearly, it hit me in such a profound way.
Thanks a lot, Richard! You are great! From 🇧🇷
@ 8:46 I would agree with you on your take, however I would argue that it's not so much caused by a MALadaptive coping technique; rather that the stressors haven't been dealt with properly / looked at EVER in the organism. That's why these issues are coming up. From long-term not looking at these things / blindness
My journey to heal, has begun. THANK YOU.
Thanks Richard, you make perfect sense. I'm going to follow your advice to the letter. I've wasted to much time and money on trying to heal my pain. Your advice is by far the best I've heard.
I don't know how I bumped into your channel, though I gladly realized there is a reason for this and Yes, it's brilliant and helpful to know how to deal with these issues especially at this time and age. Thank you for taking time out of your own to share this great information
Just amazing It is the best possible problem statement!!
All the works are in place, just for 17 minutes!
Thank you!
I'm looking for that LOVE button. :-D Thank You Richard. You are an amazing human being to care so much that you freely give and so generously share your knowledge to help heal our badly wounded humanity. I pray that your generosity boomerangs back to you with, eventually, a much more mentally healthy and thriving humanity. God Bless you.
Amazing. I really look forward to your next video. You've helped me massively over the years and I like many are extremely thankful for your generosity.
Makes total sense. I was watching your videos on the other channel, didn’t know about this Fortress. Sorry for my confusion.
I had a traumatic episode in my teenage years which then resulted in PTSD, with real flashbacks triggered by random unconnected words, but that went fast. I do agree that there isn't such a difference between PTSD and CPTSD. The analogy between the two types of guns was very good!
Wow! Wow! Wow! Richard - you are brilliant! It is so rare to meet people who are that much passionate about their field of study. Thank you and thank you again for all the videos!!!
I think watching loads of horror movies and violent movies when I was a kid, as well as living in an emotionally turbulent family environment caused me to be somewhat disturbed.
I've just started yesterday and I'm very excited. I'm optimistic since I find this program very useful and well suited for me. Thank you for doing this Richard!
Bravo Richard I have been watching you for years. Your own recovery is shining in you new professional presentation.
Your ideas - your unique , brilliant, funny style is still there but now professionalized . Thanks for showing all of us you can get better and thrive. You business is visible display of what you are offering.
Thank you Richard this is my first time on this particular Channel. The other day I watched your video about procrastination that is me. I have been trying to go through papers for the last 11 years I hate mail and any kind of paperwork. I'm getting older and I have a lot of important papers I need to sort through but I seem to hit a wall and I'm being inundated by papers. I'm not a hoarder but because I can't go through these papers it seems like I'm hoarding them but I'm afraid to set them on fire because I think I may need some there are some that are important like Deeds and other important papers. I have C PTSD in a bad way. I Now understand why I have so many walls that I run into and I cannot overcome. Even as I have attempted to do your lessons before I have run into these walls. I bought Pete Walker's book on C PTSD and I began to read it and it's gotten lost in the ton of papers and I don't know where it is and for whatever reason I have this deep aversion to going near those papers. I really hope that watching these videos will help me to be able to break through these walls and become the human being that I've always wanted to be. I'm nearly 60 years old and I don't have much time but I want to use the time I have left to be the best version of me. C-ptsd has left me in a brick box fortified with iron and I long to be free. Thank you for all you do I hope that it can help me.
I am up to week four of doing the pneumonics daily, and am really noticing a difference in the frequency and intensity of my emotional flashbacks. I am quite surprised as I wasn’t sure how it would work. They haven’t gone away completely and maybe won’t ever but the intensity has definitely lessened and the recovery time is faster. I am also journalling regularly. I’m going to continue doing the pneumonic exercises indefinitely. Very grateful for this information.
This makes me feel that humanity has a chance. That we can heal and come together as equals in respect and reverence of each other. Rather than be consumed by negativity to the point in which the world eats itself.
generous info and yes, you are breaking the sound barrier indeed
Thank you so much for this. You are absolutely correct. I was drugged, beaten terribly , neck snapped, thrown down stairs, gang raped and now live with a traumatic brain injury. I switch between every emotion you speak of just to survive each day. I’ve gotten more out of your videos than any counselor. Many blessings to you.
I'm SO sorry that happened to you, it wasn't your fault and you didn't deserve that at all. May God bless and heal you in every way, blessings to you. You're a survivor!
Jeweli thank you for your beautiful word. Many blessings to you!
I've just read this. Makes me sooo angry you must go through all that! Wish you succesfull healing and recovery. You can do it! Cheers and hug Chakka Kon 🙂
Incredible thank you!! Love the channel name too.
I appreciate you so much Richard.
Thank you so much for all you're doing to help others get out of this awful trauma affliction.
You truly are the rarest of gems.
Richard, Chronic Pain can be held down, suppressed emotion. The nervous syndrome decided you can’t deal with the extreme traumas and emotional baggage of life...and gives you chronic pain. Read Dr. John Sarno’s work ...Mind Body Prescription, The Divided Mind, Healing Back Pain. It’s called Tension Myositis Syndrome. I’ve been doing the emotional work and relieving a Pain Syndrome no doctor could help me with. Go to the TMS wiki for more information. You can also watch Dr. Sarno’s 20/20 interview here on RUclips. You could help millions of pain sufferers by getting this out there ...as the medical model refuses to link chronic pain and trauma. There are thousands of testimonials on RUclips and other resources. Thank you !
Andrea P I hear you Andrea: chronic pain and fibromyalgia are both things I will get into but I have to read more of the literature first. Thanks for your patience.
Awesome! Thank you , Richard! Dr Howard Schubiner wrote “Unlearn Your Anxiety and Depression” and” Unlearn Your Pain”....both are in the same vein of what you are discussing....all based on John Sarno’s work.
I have had severe traumas Cptsd and have fibromyagia its dibilitating and painful.
@@RICHARDGRANNON My fibromyalgia began when son went to afghanistan. I am a gold star sister (nam). When I got the phone number to call for his flight home time...I slept for 3 days. over the last 8 years it has creeped from hands up to shoulders and from feet to above knees. Takes 1/2 hour for this tin woman to get out of bed. Absorbine Jr is my friend.
When flashbacking I can actually feel the chemical reaction go from heart (brain cells in heart) to the extremities. That is fear. The damage to neurons has been imaged. I think we are actually frying our nerves. hey, can you ask if those who are emo black belts who have had fibro if their system has calmed down, too?
@Andrea P Thanks for the heads up, I will check him out. I have chronic pain from tension, Dr's called it tendonitis, it is fibromyalgia I think and I get such severe pain from old injuries too. I've been through the mill! Dr Gabor Maté speaks a lot of sense too linking trauma and pain. I won't do the ayahuasca again though, was spiked and didn't know what it was until years later when I read about people's experiences. I was like wow that's what it was!!
This Guy knows! He’s the best
Brilliant! Thankyou so much Richard.
Thank you so much for this clear & straightforward explanation. To be able to put 'full circle truth' in a mere 19 minutes is proof of your talent for supporting people through this medium.
I used get into massive rage panic attacks when I fell into an emotional flashbacks, and then just freeze, sometimes just stand there for hours, frozen in place, unable to move. This used to happen a few times a day, every single day. Now the rage is WAY less intense and it only happens once a month. I would like to get to a point where I can just let it pass, like a cloud on a windy day, and a few seconds later, it's gone. That's the goal. That's my intent.
Thanks, that really helped. I'll stick around to watch the rest of the series.
Absolutely amazing! I can't thank you enough for this. This saved me! 🤗
Thank you Richard. That was very informative. I've been telling myself for sometime that my anxiety is just trying to help me be safe. If I am anxious it is because I do not feel safe. And I am definitely a freeze/fawn so I do a lot of trying to escape from my anxiety instead of trying to figure out how to feel safe. Well it's time to stop doing that. No more cold Bambi for me.
I really love this video, I feel it's very complete and crystallly . I think that some people will have a kind of pre , genetic, soul, thing that can mirror things differently, but maybe. This idea feels complete , original, and has the true zing,, thanks for your caring work, love and peace everyone
.. Richard, you have the ability to explain concepts clearly and effectively. You are Perfect in that department. The micro- trauma concept is very interesting, because it can result in a cycle of micro-trauma. My trainer said this to me a while ago, because we were debating someone feedback: The arrows that wound us emotionally are not obvious to the necked eye. So..WHO speared my surfboard? That visual hurts.. Today is an odd day with the interruptions from others. I will continue with the course tomorrow, because I need to create a floor routine for Pilates: warm up, workout and cool down. For the workout: upper body exercise, Lower body exercise , Core exercise: upper abdominal, lower abdominal , obliques and back exercises. Thank you, Richard.
Absolutely brilliant. You have created a clear, common sense translation of this heady subject! Thank you for you diligent work!
Thank you to no end!!!
your work is amazing, it is helping me so much.
humbly and moved, im following you. intelligence feels safe
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Fawn Freeze is also Frozen Helplessness. It can be seen in very small Children when they suffer Trauma from an Adult