I think at some point I started saying Hypothalimus and not Hippocampus (lack of coffee). As explained its the confusion with the physical affects on the Hypothalamus ANS the Hippocampus. Both are physically affected. In the HPA axis there is increased T4 and neuroephinephrine making you more anxious and prone to startle. To be clear Im not trying to affect those things (it may not be possible without drugs, I dont know) my focus here is SOLELY the Hippocampus (named for the sea horse shaped part of the brain) that is thought to alter in volume and to be related to memory and emotion. The research to be read that is the background to the hypothesis I present here. All have very very easy to read abstracts, you dont need to read the full method if you dont want to. But please... I made a lot of effort to put these concepts together, I dont mind polite debate, but if you post a comment that shows you havent bothered to read the clear abstracts of these 8 papers (takes less than 10 minutes) then I wont be particularly fussed about answering you. NONE OF THIS IS MEDICAL ADVICE. Do as your doctor, psychiatrist or psychotherapist advises you. You will NOT replicate the results of the studies by playing Tetris...OBVIOUSLY. Once the memory is set (no longer malleable) it will have no effect. You must do the emotional literacy exercise regularly in the hope it generates neuroplasticity and malleability and reactivates the hippocampus. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29489273 "The hippocampus is the "flash drive" of the human brain and often associated with memory consolidation and decision making, but it is far more complex in structure and function than a flash drive." Thats the science folks, it really is like the hard drive I describe here. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3182008/ Hippocampus SHRINKS in volume and becomes less active. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23021615 The intensity of the ptsd may be the distinguishing factor in brain changes. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21443892 Twin study showing smaller hippocampus of twin with combat ptsd. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5678449/ Tetris and PTSD, I dont know why the title doesnt match the methodology and yet it still got published, lol!. Its not "several days after" in this study it was up to 24 hours after and usually within 6 hours of the event. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/14534587 Memories are malleable during the consolidation phase, which is thought to end after approximately six hours. Ladies and Gents - all the DAMAGE listed is fixable, the Hippocampus can return to full volume and the HPA axis CAN be re regulated. Take heart, do the work please.
At least you didn't say hippopotamus. I'm 37 and I only realised I've been spelling the word "yacht" wrong my whole life, was spelling it as "yaught" and I thought Alzheimer's was called old timers disease. Jaysis Christ.
I was about to say I think you mean the hippocampus. There was also a study of taxi drivers in London, they have large hippocampus because they have to use memory to drive around London. It was on a doco on depression I think somewhere on the RUclips. Thank you for this video and sharing the secret. This explains some stuff that I have been observing about myself lately. When I first started doing the hand mnemonic it took a couple of days to just remember what to say but after that I started recognising when I was having a flashback. It is life changing. Easy and effective to do. I am loving the 30 day challenge and the progress I am making so I thank you so much for that too. 💖💪😁🦅
There's a single word that I used 2 get when I was on topic that would always make me think, ah- the vocabulary word of the day, people!!!! & that was the word, "poignant". It still makes me laugh....
The first time I tried the hand mnemonic, last year, my resistance to it was off the scale so dumped it almost immediately. Second time round, and it was the different version you offered: 1. I am not my emotional flashbacks 2. My goal state is calm serenity; powerful agency and emotional regulation 3. I welcome my feelings, they are teaching and guiding me 4. I am comfortable with self interested action, I am happy to put myself first 5. I am my own self, the captain of my own ship. My life is my responsibility, and your life, is yours (personal tweaks added to make it stick!). I've been doing this one since January as a daily practice. It. WORKS. Trust the process, DO it. Thanks so much Richard.
Luscher: Thanks for the excerpt,I was just wondering where to find the mnemonics or whether to make some myself. Do you Do them any time,or when you've had a negative emotion, or at set times, please? Did I hear Richard say to set an egg clock 5 times a day for it?
I love this thank you for sharing I had in my notes very similar this will be easy for me to follow I look forward to doing more of this five times a day
I'm definitely one of those guys who has stayed much longer in his emotional dysregulation because I've enjoyed consuming this stuff intellectually rather than just DOING the exercises consistently. Thanks for that reminder towards the end.
This IS gold!! After years of trauma, I was in such a dissociative state, blank, lost time, etc. or in such an over-reactive flight fight freeze state I could no longer function. My hypothalamus must be shrunken to a microscopic size!! Thank you so much for this information. After over 30 years working as an RN I was placed on disability and mildly brain-damaged. I literally forgot the simplest things. This makes do much sense.And gives me hope!
I was removing dust from the leaves of house plants which helped me to focus (and get sth done! While watching another video) when suddenly I felt called back to look at the screen 🤣🤣🤣
For me, a miracle happened. I am 77 years old (female). I have been in therapy (serious therapy) practically full time since age 30. I also went to a treatment center for alcohol, drugs and SLAA. I have had an eating disorder that seems to be stable now. I also smoked from the age of 14 and quit when I got clean and sober 35 years ago. I am now seeing a psychiatrist that was assigned to me when I ended up at a psychiatric hospital at the end of a five year legal battle with my sister. I continue to see that psychiatrist right up through today. Months ago she started pressing me in a different way as things in my life continued to run out of control. I was wandering around the bottom of the pit. And, about two months ago, I found you on RUclips. (I am in the process of trying to establish a channel on RUclips.) I have watched with total enthusiasm! I did the finger exercises for I think about three weeks. Therapy was getting heavy and so after the finger exercises I didn't watch you for a couple of months. Then about two weeks ago I started watching again and got directly to the emotional literacy information but I couldn't figure out how to get to the part that told me how to do it. Finally I did. I did 4 or 5 days of exercises (which I found really interesting) and then a few days ago I was alone in my car driving when all of a sudden out of the blue the whole family dynamic and my position in it came roaring to life. I saw the whole complete picture for the first time. I started raging at the family, screaming at the top of my lungs saying all the things I guess I always wanted to say. I could just feel this huge mountain lifting off of my shoulders. I got to the store and ran into an old friend who said you look so happy you look just great. With that I burst into tears, tears that I know were for the little girl inside. A huge shift has taken place. It is as if I can finally see it all so clearly now. I understand it all. I can hold all of them responsible for each part they played in using me and in keeping me outside of the family circle. My whole life makes sense. I feel a calm I have never felt before. The rage that was controlling me is now focused solely on the family and it feels contained for the first time. I think I will never suffer road rage again, or suddenly start screaming at some innocent person who did some minor thing. When I watched this video tonight it all made so much sense. The way the process works and why. I cannot thank you enough. I have only wanted to die for the last 57 years. I know I have so much more work to do, but realize how hugely important the emotional literacy exercises are for me. I will continue to do them and to watch you. You have changed my life. I can't thank you enough. If there are times, as I am sure there must be, when you wonder why you are working so hard...well here is one reason why. My life is forever changed. Whatever years I have left will be lived in a kind of peace I didn't know was possible.
This made me cry. So much humility for you sharing this with us and hope you live happily and peacefully. I just found these videos today ... i feel anticipatory relief and a lot of excitement about my future. Best wishes to you and huge gratitute to @RichardGrannon
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for putting this information out there. You've done more to help me and give me hope than any counselor or therapist has ever done. PLEASE don't stop. The world needs people who aren't afraid to say what needs to be said and to risk being scorned for telling it like it is. People like you are one reason I haven't completely given up on humanity as a species yet.
I’ve been using it 5times a day for about 3 months now and I feel fantastic every time my alarm goes off now I get an excited feeling and feel happy ha ha I love it xx
Wow, that part towards the end about the post-hypnotic programming explains a lot in relation to abusive relationships as well. After an incidence of physical abuse from my ex, he would then sometimes nurture me and whisper in my ear that he loved me and would never intentionally hurt me, he was a "good guy" etc while i was in shock, programming me repeatedly to believe it was some kind of rare, out-of-character event rather than a cycle or pattern of his behavior that would later reveal itself to me. Excellent video and fascinating ideas!
Amazing insight Kiah, I suddenly had a breakthrough moment when I read your post. That is exactly what has been happening to me for 20 years. First the abuse, then the nice guy comes out saying all the right things while I am still reeling from the shock of what has just happened. Thank you so much for mentioning that.
While I was being abused I would long for his “nice” side to come out and save me. Soon realised nice version only ever stuck around for a week while abusive version was the main man. Years later realised that nice version was faked to keep me in the cycle. I really, deeply loved it too :(
From one who "stuck right the way through" the vid- wow! Thank you thank you thank you. The shrunken -hypothalamus- hippocampus explains so much, and the idea that it can regenerate through these exercises and maybe give this hopeless person, a formerly very bright and capable human who now has very little agency, is severely depressed, can't seem to get much done, doesn't track very well, has serious short-term memory problems and seemingly very little executive function, isn't coping, is disorganized, has a messy home, and struggles with even small decisions-- maybe there is a way out of this nightmare that my life has turned into? You've given me hope. Yes I will do the exercises.
Through doing your course I am able to access memories from when I was 4yrs old and told my mum things that happened and she dropped her biscuit. She couldn't believe I could go that far back and describe incidents and events in vivid detail. I even recalled when she lied to me that my pacifier had been lost in the flood that ravaged our town, she couldn't believe I recalled that and called her out on lying to me when I was 4!!
In the beginning I found the emotional literacy very difficult...I kept coming up a blank. So I looked up a list of emotions on google. It's getting a bit easier, I still sometimes have to look at the list. Im working towards not having to look at the list...Steadily progressing!! Thanks Richard!!
Francesca the same for me! I had to look up nuances for what I was feeling but watching the video made me feel that if I’m doing that then am I really tapping into my matrix lightning memory box to get the feeling or am I literally getting it from a webpage?!!
This is just so absolutely brilliant. Just clever and funny and ace and very, very helpful. I love the visual of the grumpy cop searching the evidence room! Yep. That’s about right!
Thank you for doing that. My clinical social worker side is gratified. I did them. I will now set my phone alarms. The knot in my stomach feels better already.
@@topsi91 you just have to work at it. For example: I used to be shy & socially awkward. I started working as a waitress and continued to work in food service for caterers and hotels. I HAD to approach people and speak to them, greet them,serve them food, ask them questions, and engage with them in a pleasant way. It was my job. It was stressful & difficult at first but I got used to it, got better at it, got better jobs because of it. Now I don’t even think about it, it’s just something I do without any self consciousness at all. It’s also a skill that I can apply in any social situation. It was simple work & repetition!🤷🏼♀️
I am super appreciative of all your efforts at healing emotions, Richard! This is very clearly explained and I believe I followed. For some reason, I always do better at tasks when I know why. Very motivational! Thank you SO much! You are healing the world a bit at a time & I love you for it!
Your methods work. I had to meet extended family I have not seen in 25 years at a very tense funeral. No flash backs. Thank you. You have lighted my pathway to freedom from trauma.
You have the heart of a teacher, and that makes me trust you. I’m sad there has to be a self defense process already in place when your heart’s desire is to help. But I get it, too, because I am a teacher. (English, 8th grade, in the US) Thank you for this video. I just recently found you and I’ve been voraciously consuming your work. I need to back track and find the lessons on the hand mnemonic and emotional literacy. I’m reeling from betrayal trauma and covert abuse, as well as therapeutic abuse. I’ll find the lessons and I’ll effing DO THEM! ( I will, I promise.)
The phenomenon of me beginning to forget big chunks of events made me really worried (I always take care of others people fillings and emotions. If someone asks me how I am, I'm always feel off for a moment and automatically answering "I'm great, thanks." , switching the conversation to everything about them. This was the turning point to find answers. Thank you for your generosity to give information for free. Because there are many people ( in this century) that for many reasons can't have access to therapists.
About the "retreiving process" of emotions: I usually have a kind of weird process that works really well for me, I ask myself what do I feel, nothings gets out, then I take a walk or short road trip (music on, blasting sometimes)... and BAM, it gets out !!! 😄😄. But in the begining it seems like nothing is there.. when at the end of the trip actually a LOT of emotion is there. Moving the body helps accessing emotional content, I'm a big believer in that!
I started to think that the less emotional literacy people have the better is for the current World Order. This is an invaluable work you are doing, Richard. "All" we need is to develop: WILL and COURAGE to act, BELIEF in having the right to have our values, INSIGHT to see the necessity in building the skill of self-reflection, TRUST and RESILIENCE to be able to face whatever we realise, PERSEVERANCE and SYSTEM to keep up the work and LOVE that is able to be born and grow in ourselves... While it is not a piece of cake, you show it how we can see it that way so we can succeed. Warmly, Anita
I haven't got the words of gratitude required... I'm 14 days in to this program..I have total intent...I do it all as you have said..the hand work..the emotional literacy and the goal state work... What do I think? Yes it's simple...simply genius!! I feel strong..powerful even...in control...calm...aware of self... physically well... spiritually connected... purposeful and I know where I'm going. So simple yet so beneficial.
This was very good. When on the couch with Freud , he claimed that to pause in the association the patient was not telling the truth and also Freud was much criticized, because he also said that to blurt out quickly was inauthentic. Freud said that he just knew. I feel that I just know that the emotion is absolutely true, when I get a bodily response (sinking, tightening etc) If it doesn't have an associated somatic response, I will question it. I love the way you put all of these concept in an understanding format. I could listen to you all day, Richard. By the way ... I am close to 70, so that was a sincere, pure and heartfelt compliment!! LOL
Hi Richard, I'm a new subscriber. Right around the time America started shutting down, I confronted the fact that I'd been involved with a narcissistic psychopath (possibly sociopath) for the past few years. The global hysteria and political narcissism coupled with the realization that I'd been psychologically/emotionally abused by the man who was "my person", led me on a profound personal awakening. He wasn't my first narcissist. Here's the thing...I've celebrated 42 rotations around the sun and the majority of them have involved some level of narcissistic abuse. I am resilient and am ready to heal to embrace life and love. I started therapy for C-PTSD and had my first session of EMDR today. It was extremely exhausting in a very positive way. I found you about a month ago and have learned a lot already. I'm a single mom of a 7 year old girl. I want to heal, so that she doesn't have to. I want to do the work. How can I take part in your 30 day challenge? If I'm too late for that, are there certain videos you recommend I watch first? Thank you for doing what you do! 🙏🙏🙏 Stacey
The intention to heal is everything ... and can be dastardly slippery. You might think you have the intention but if you don't really believe it's possible, you can't form a real intention and without that you cannot reach the goal. The evidence out there for nervous system plasticity is a huge game changer for the traumatized because we now have physiological 'reasons' for our perceived painful reality AND solid evidence that those physiological manifestations of trauma can be reversed. Gotta take heart and do the work. And thank goodness that an honest healer is offering the info without demanding a half year's wages. Right on Grannon!
Thank you so much for explaining all this. It's so helpful to me, a half-intellectual. Logic and being incredibly stubborn about rejecting anything I couldn't track entirely from point A to point Z is 80% of how I survived my childhood without winding up dead or in prison. Watching all your videos from the very first one over the last year or so was completely necessary for me because the toxic superego still had such a stronghold, you couldn't just come right at it. It had the upper hand in a face to face battle, every time. Watching it all in a fairly passive and comfortingly detached way was the giant NLP dance that was required to send anything past the minefield so I could HEAR you tell me what to do. And I'm doing it, and it's working. My life is different just like you said, and the biggest change by far is that I know it will continue to change. The hopelessness left when the majority of the self-loathing was dismantled. Now I'm at a point where the second-biggest change (accepting the idea that messiness is okay and not a failure) has allowed for every chunk of progress to be accepted and celebrated and bolster another chunk in a big lovely accelerating feedback loop of healing. I am so grateful for your simple commands but equally for these detailed explanations. You're amazing, thank you so much Richard.
I have not laughed so authentically nor have I felt more positive in years... you are INCREDIBLE... respect from a crippled intellectual and totally unrecovered cptsd child of protracted NPD parenting... bloody hell! I am delighted to have been told about this channel...
Wow. I was exasperated. When the narcissistic abuse finally became clear to me I thought:how in bloody hell are you going to find an EMDR or similar shrink who is going to wipe all of this mess away. So that you can finally perform your maternal obligations and have a life. The therapist search became a huge problem in my mind. It is a task almost as difficult as the healing process. Now I have found this precious toolkit which makes me independent. Thanks so much for it. You and Sam are the best! You have become part of my family at least in my mind.
It's so F* simple but it is helping ALOT. I don't care for complex shit, had a damn nuff, I will DO ANYTHING to feel better. Thank you Richard. Can't go completely no contact, but I am feeling STRONGER everyday.
Richard is the real deal. This really does work. I took his stop emotional flashbacks course (the hand mnemonic one) and the emotional literacy course and they made a big difference. For anybody on the fence: do it, no matter how "silly" it may seem to you.
its beautiful how you present all of that profound wisdom. damn youre good at what youre doing... just rewatched and want to share that I experienced exactly what is said about how practicing consistently develops the self-awareness of emotional states. I thought I was getting it right from the start but after 90 days consistent work with this exercise within the 'Unplug' course I experience there is more coming up and layers that reveal and the 'inside dude' is getting better at getting what I asked for out of the former chaos or at least is getting much better at finding authentic instead of made up ones. it really takes time after decades of chaotic mental state. this is so valuable.
Man, this one is one of the best videos you have done. I started watching your non-Fortress channel about 2.5 years ago on the back end of a painful break-up, exploring CPTSR, and then read Pete Walker at your suggestion (Sad Baby). I just found the Fortress set a couple of days ago. I had some revelations toward the end of this thing regarding my crappy memory (it always has been) and strange inability to associate certain types of information sometimes (though I do have a good long-term memory) This information is spot on. I'm going to have to do the exercises. Very well-explained. Also I had about three belly-laughs at some of the impromptu jokes. Also I'm glad you cuss like a sailor. So do I. (Doesn't everyone???)
You are a rare and precious person. I am an atheist and believe critical thinking and the scientific method is imperative. The ironic part of my life is, I could do and used to do readings and I cannot explain how I could be so detailed. I could explain the red and white checkered curtains in someone's kitchen or the long dirt drive way to a person's house. It has to be scientific in a sense, that we are all part of energy and the universe.
Richard, of *course* I watched the whole thing. Nothing could drag me away. Thank you - for the insights and even more importantly for *how* you communicate them. I plan to DO IT. Watching you not only motivated me though ...... your manner, who you are as a human being, has something healing about it too. Is it just me? I doubt it. I can't quite put my finger on it. Thank you again.
I miss the swear words but you kept it professional. I appreciate your work, I can’t find anyone else who breaks down our mental problems for some of us to understand. Thank you Richard.
I stuck through till the end. I don’t mind the longer videos and I don’t mind the cursing but, it’s not all about me. (: I was with it and it was all clicking until the last bit on accessing the feeling and the part of us that has physically shrunk, etc. but I’ll get it. I’ll watch it again. I’m sure there’s a metaphor there. Anyway, thank you Richard, as always. The explanations really help...
Going to do it. I transformed my body in 8 months before eventual divorce. Thanks for the analogy, I get it. I'm going to do it and am back to body transformation after a difficult divorce. Have my before pictures ready. Already on my way with mental health and I want to do more. This will also help me when I start working with adolescents with complex mental health issues...thank you. Channels like yours have helped me to move forward!
It's wonderful how far you've come. We need people to work with young people's mental health, I wish I had had someone to help me before I became so incredibly damaged. Sounds like you will be amazing in your chosen field...
Hi there, i really need to thank you, as i started on the 1st of july and really followed to the letter all the instructions you set out and i don't feel so down and desperate as i have been feeling for the last 7 months! Thank so much! I am going to keep going, i was already doing aerobics classes one a week, body combat once a week, weights twice a week, tennis 4 times a week, and i am well over 60, your program has made a difference already, i will get there... I am determined to find my old self and some bits of new too.
i have discovered just today your free exercises and i'm doing them all day and there is literally no more pain i have been experiencing in last 15 or so yrs. it's enough to say this is my flashback and pain, anxiety etc is gone. i went trough 7 yrs therapy, but this is major discovery. thank you richard, from the bottom of my heart.
Complex trauma does not require complex system to heal. I know this after seeing doctors and therapists for years who tried different complex ways to deal with my trauma- their 'simple' answer was medication. I'm 51 and had all forms of abuse for 46 years. I'm the biggest cynic you could wish to meet as a result. The system Richard has developed works. I have hope where I didnt have it before but it takes work and conscious attention to keep the flashbacks at bay, to do the mind map, to address the critic when it rears its head. Anything that takes effort can take a while to get used to doing it but it is worth it. Thank you 😊
Thanks Richard. That makes a lot of sense, and worth persevering with the lengthy session. Very Pythonesque - perfect analogy: easy to understand how and why it works. I've been doing both exercises for a while now. Makes a huge difference. Now I understand how and why I'm feeling better. Excellent.
I’ve been doing the hand mnemonic for at least 60 days now. Still have the alarm on my phone, even though I don’t need it, it helps. At times, the hand exercise is easy, sometimes it is still quite difficult, especially the third finger - BUT that’s the key, I push through it and name the emotions as best I can. Also, I still occasionally drift into negative thought while doing the mnemonic, but I recognize it and get through it. Thank you Richard. It does work.
Love you Richard . I hope that you know just how skillful you are at teaching and just how much your extensive knowledge is appreciated and your ability to translate it into easy understanding is outstanding . Your confidence is also very contagious . Thank you - just starting
When people say 'I bet you've never heard a story like mine!', what they're saying is _my_ suffering is unique and it _cannot_ be treated. But the truth is the exact opposite: your situation isn't unique to you (and thank God that there are other people out there who you can sympathise with), and it is treatable. YOU do the work, YOU treat it YOURSELF. You can do it.
Richard, ..WOW!..AH!..what kind of clients are you dealing with ? I am exhausted just by hearing you talk to them. I admire you, so much for the detail work that you do with your clients..I literally workout with my clients..I do the routine with them, like little kids.. I am looking forward for your coaching in the near future..I will go to boundaries and I will leave my new self in there..I got a ring for the hand Mnemonic for the relationship with myself finger from Tiffany&Co, because I am a visual mind.. it reminds me that you are present in the moment with me and I move in the right direction with awareness..Thank you, Richard.
That was amazing information Richard. It cleared up alot of confusion about the lies that my unconscious has been fobbing me off with in the past. Now I find the Hippocampus manifesting as a Horse which I can ride on and journey to hidden places which is always revealing. Sometimes it is more like a mystical journey to recover lost connections. That Horse just appeared out of nowhere!
@@St.Raphael... Hippo is the Greek for horse. Taming the Hippocampus as Richard speaks of is akin to taming your wild horse. The unconscious throws up these images in visual ways to help you understand.
Brilliant.. and lateral thinking funnies..You are funny. Well I discovered you about a month ago.. and began to do this for a week or two consistently.. and low and behold a clearer, stronger more fearless me!! Waayhaayy how something so easy can 'wake you up!'!! Thankyou Richard! What a gift for humanity! But I also know the work needs to be done continuously for as long as..and some more
Thank you Richard, I simultaneously learned the most and laughed the most watching this video today than in years of trying stuff out. I will do the work. God bless you.
I love your work Mr. Grannon. I'm doing lisa romano life coaching for my healing. Both u and her rock!!!. U both and her facilitate my healing and growth.
This shit do work as u say!! Thank u for doing the work and teaching! To have someone teach from own experience is priceless, mainstream psychologists dont do that they just sit like robots starring at you talking programmed nonsense from their programming educations, its very hurtful going to people to talk who are so disconected and non humble, with no real life experience so they cant empathise with u properly, its actually very hurtful. But coming to u is very healing, u feel emotionally connected one can trust u cause u feel that u have gone through it ur self and u recognise everything u say and it becomes like an open road straight to healing! By u doing it urself u created like a highway path straight to healing for others so thank u!!!❤️🤘🐲🔥
"I feel like this is what it is, so that is what it is" Since I started to emotionally literate myself, I asked me a lot of times: how do I know that I am really feeling that? and I had to convince me hard that my emotions were actual and true just because I was feeling them. That's how disconnected I was from myself, I didn't even trust that what I felt was true. Only the flashbacks were real to me. I was so lost and rusty, exactly how you tell it, I have to laugh hearing you now, I am on the mend and nodding to each of your words. Richard Grannon, thank you so much, I am doing the job, but it was you who awoke me to do it. Listen to you is gold.
Oh my God ...... that was a bit of a surprise...... I had listened to this earlier, but got distracted and couldn't finish, so I was preparing dinner and continued my listening. I had my wireless headphones on, and I was rinsing a bowl, when 30:40 of the up-load was spoken. I stopped cold.... I was like, "Oh......Dear.....God, he's talking to me......😲" Other than that, it was an absolutely stunning, and unbelievable moment! That talk in its entirety, was a complete delight! I truly, truly enjoyed it! (And quite honestly, that did sound like a Monty Python sketch! You may have a fabulous new direction!)
I was watching this early in the morning and fell asleep again. Dreamt of a guy who came to visit, told me this is great stuff, hand mnemonic and all, he had done it himself but would like to exercise some more😉
I literally am never confused or left with half an explanation after any of your videos Richard. I am greatly appreciative of your videos and time, although I’m sure you do it because it’s comes natural to you, as is very evident. You’re a brilliant human being! THANK YOU!
After 2 weeks using the hand mnemonic I was suddenly able to stop and see the flashback and say to myself, "Oh - it's just that old trigger getting touched again" and was able to step back and see it as 'not me' instead of identifying subjectively with the feeling. THANK YOU SO MUCH, RICHARD! It saved my marriage, because I stopped blaming my husband for the way I was being triggered.
OutStanding, Mr. Grannon! MJ Cranston recommended listening to your videos as I will be starting a support channel myself. Many years of therapy yet this video here, clicked a few remaining pieces into this puzzle called Laura. Thank you.
"He wants another file!" Lol.. You could do a 'Man in the Box' voice (Rob Brydon) Thank you for this comprehensive video - you're 👍Awesome I have encouraged numerous others to consider watching your videos, they're among the best resources out there, without a doubt I love the way you've brought so many strains of historical thought together. All encompassing and full of wonder, and truth.. an alchemist indeed you are.. You're an inspiration to this Piscean
Wow. Wow. Wow. Thank you for this video. I laughed, cried, scratched my head, replayed parts, jotted lots of notes and am feeling amazing that my healing is in my control, with possible great side benefits like restoring some childhood memories and shoring up my emotional literacy. Thankyou so very much.
clicks a lot with go rin no sho for me. you must train constantly (especially when you have to train yourself to relax every once in while). started doing this back in december and i'm doing much better now; glad to see you're still pushing for it :)
Profound observation. Me, too. Intentionally practicing phrasing positively versus negatively is proving to be not only a feat requiring a surprising output of effort, it's also quite a reality changer. Here's to healthy recovery of the hypothalamus!
@@barbarahaller79 for me, it's little things to start. I bought 2 sweaters in colors my partner hates but I LOVE....im not responsible for his taste or opinions... Same with my hair and makeup....im doing what I like.
I stumbled on you have loved every video. It's nice to discover someone talking about what I've been feeling and the conclusions I've been pondering. You are a blessing. Thank you for your videos
I don’t know how you manage to put together such a complex, complicated, hard to explain and break down multi faceted concept in a lecture for us regular people to understand, is mind blowing in itself. What a gift you have. ❤️ The best analogy EVER! As to the fitness idea.👏💪❤️ It’s absolutely perfect. The latter half really reminds me of the movie “Inside Out” 😂🤣 I think that’s one of my favorites with the kids, but nowadays has grown into a whole new meaning for me. 🌱 Thank you for this video, it’s truly brilliant. ❤️
Beautifully explained. Thaaaank You!!! @56:12 "and the unconscious *_has_* to give you something.." So that means the unconscious always gives you an output based on your intention.
Richard, I cannot thank you enough for creating this content and making it easily digestible to learn and implement. When I think of someone who is living with a true purpose, you are the epitome of that. I have made and continue to make lasting change in my life because of you and your videos. I feel you would tell me, it is not because of you, it is because of me choosing to do the emotional literacy work and the hand mnemonic, etc. haha, but truly Richard, I greatly appreciate you and what you have brought to my attention. I feel that I am having breakthroughs every time I listen to you and engage in the work. Thank you for being a catalyst for my healing. Be well.
I needed Psychotherapy - it's what made sense to me - with PTSD and Counseling I would only comprehend and not learn what I already understand. need (needed) Psychotherapy to show me reasoning and purpose why I was seeing things the oppisit of healthy for me.
I'm guessing 30 days in a ROW, right??? I've actually worked with people that need that specific detail. Hilarious skit and probably very true. Then when you actually hit a true emotion that's been shoved down deep with boxes of cookies for years, you find a skill that may very well assist you for the rest of your life!!! Thank you for ALL of your time, knowledge and humor!!!
Jeez, I was listening fascinated and then at 38:42 you say: "..., there is no solution, there is no surgery, there is no 'do it to me, daddy'...oh...that sounded wrong...' and you have to chuckle yourself. There I lost it. But it was great to have a good laugh in between. Great content by the way, mate!
I watched it till the end. It's amazing that a person can do all of this for us disinterestedly. This was so helpful. I started the exercise yesterday. After watching this I hope I gather the strength to continue. Gracias siempre.
That’s really interesting that you mention only being able to access a few emotions. I have only been able to access a few emotions myself for as long as I can remember. I really enjoyed knowing “why”. I don’t do anything unless I understand why. I think that’s why I haven’t done your exercises yet. And I’m writing this, and you mentioned short and long term memory. I literally say that I have horrible short term memory allllll the time. I just love listening to you and feeling those connections in my brain reconnect. I literally feel like the two broken neurons spark up and connect when I listen to you. So, thanks for that. Also, please start up doing videos again when you feel comfortable. My kids and I have learned so much over the last year and you have been a great part of our continued healing.
Wow this is the best explanation of the unconscious that I ever seen. Thanks Richard, super interesting and funny. This is my 3rd day doing the 30 day challenge and I feel better after doing the emotional literacy exercise.
I havent seen this video yet but i want to tell you that im so much better when i started to do this hand thing 😊 you told us about! I stopped to picking on myself ( i do this because the narc told me every day that i did everything wrong,i wasnt a Good mom, so im so happy for this,thank you!🙏❤❤❤❤😘😘 U are a life savor! Love u🥰
From the bottom of my heart- THANK YOU for all your helpful suggestions, exercises and their explanations! 🙌🏻 Your simple straightforward by-self-doable approach is so very much appreciated! I’m healing and maturing in such an organic way, it amazes me that it’s even possible. Thank you.
I thoroughly appreciated the theoretical content of this video and really enjoy your humour, analogies and engaging, conversational style. I have been doing the hand mnemonic for 3 days now and am already noticing a huge difference. Ritchie, this is gold. Thank you.
Thank you for taking the time to do a video on this record it an write it... I have for a while done the whole mental exercise of that... it really does help.
Literally probably hands down the best video I have seen you give us yet!!! You have no idea how much this has helped my analytical mind...bc of this video i will be doing the finger taping method....seriously you are a god send!!! I've watched probably quite literally every video you have ever done...you truly are helping me more than any other program book or counseling session I have ever done...THANK YOU!! I hope to run into you one day I'm going to hug you and you're gonna think it's weird 😆
I think at some point I started saying Hypothalimus and not Hippocampus (lack of coffee).
As explained its the confusion with the physical affects on the Hypothalamus ANS the Hippocampus. Both are physically affected.
In the HPA axis there is increased T4 and neuroephinephrine making you more anxious and prone to startle.
To be clear Im not trying to affect those things (it may not be possible without drugs, I dont know) my focus here is SOLELY the Hippocampus (named for the sea horse shaped part of the brain) that is thought to alter in volume and to be related to memory and emotion.
The research to be read that is the background to the hypothesis I present here. All have very very easy to read abstracts, you dont need to read the full method if you dont want to.
But please... I made a lot of effort to put these concepts together, I dont mind polite debate, but if you post a comment that shows you havent bothered to read the clear abstracts of these 8 papers (takes less than 10 minutes) then I wont be particularly fussed about answering you.
NONE OF THIS IS MEDICAL ADVICE. Do as your doctor, psychiatrist or psychotherapist advises you.
You will NOT replicate the results of the studies by playing Tetris...OBVIOUSLY.
Once the memory is set (no longer malleable) it will have no effect.
You must do the emotional literacy exercise regularly in the hope it generates neuroplasticity and malleability and reactivates the hippocampus.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29489273
"The hippocampus is the "flash drive" of the human brain and often associated with memory consolidation and decision making, but it is far more complex in structure and function than a flash drive."
Thats the science folks, it really is like the hard drive I describe here.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3182008/
Hippocampus SHRINKS in volume and becomes less active.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23021615
The intensity of the ptsd may be the distinguishing factor in brain changes.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21443892
Twin study showing smaller hippocampus of twin with combat ptsd.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5678449/
Tetris and PTSD, I dont know why the title doesnt match the methodology and yet it still got published, lol!. Its not "several days after" in this study it was up to 24 hours after and usually within 6 hours of the event.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/14534587
Memories are malleable during the consolidation phase, which is thought to end after approximately six hours.
Ladies and Gents - all the DAMAGE listed is fixable, the Hippocampus can return to full volume and the HPA axis CAN be re regulated.
Take heart, do the work please.
At least you didn't say hippopotamus. I'm 37 and I only realised I've been spelling the word "yacht" wrong my whole life, was spelling it as "yaught" and I thought Alzheimer's was called old timers disease. Jaysis Christ.
Richard Grannon Fortress Mental Health Protection thankyou 1000000x
RM-PC sweet cheeses
I was about to say I think you mean the hippocampus. There was also a study of taxi drivers in London, they have large hippocampus because they have to use memory to drive around London. It was on a doco on depression I think somewhere on the RUclips.
Thank you for this video and sharing the secret. This explains some stuff that I have been observing about myself lately.
When I first started doing the hand mnemonic it took a couple of days to just remember what to say but after that I started recognising when I was having a flashback. It is life changing. Easy and effective to do.
I am loving the 30 day challenge and the progress I am making so I thank you so much for that too.
💖💪😁🦅
@@rm-pc3544 just thankful for Richard's willingness to help us, right! ❤
Being guided out of Hell has never been more fun 🤣 life saving!
very well said
There's a single word that I used 2 get when I was on topic that would always make me think, ah- the vocabulary word of the day, people!!!! & that was the word, "poignant". It still makes me laugh....
The first time I tried the hand mnemonic, last year, my resistance to it was off the scale so dumped it almost immediately. Second time round, and it was the different version you offered: 1. I am not my emotional flashbacks 2. My goal state is calm serenity; powerful agency and emotional regulation 3. I welcome my feelings, they are teaching and guiding me 4. I am comfortable with self interested action, I am happy to put myself first 5. I am my own self, the captain of my own ship. My life is my responsibility, and your life, is yours (personal tweaks added to make it stick!). I've been doing this one since January as a daily practice. It. WORKS. Trust the process, DO it. Thanks so much Richard.
@@heathershaw7946" My emotional flashbacks stem from a separate, misguided part of me". Feel free to tweak
Thank you so much for sharing this
@@heathershaw7946 My emotional flashbacks are just something I experience. ?
My emotional flashbacks are just something I have at the moment. ?
Luscher: Thanks for the excerpt,I was just wondering where to find the mnemonics or whether to make some myself. Do you Do them any time,or when you've had a negative emotion, or at set times, please? Did I hear Richard say to set an egg clock 5 times a day for it?
I love this thank you for sharing I had in my notes very similar this will be easy for me to follow I look forward to doing more of this five times a day
I'm definitely one of those guys who has stayed much longer in his emotional dysregulation because I've enjoyed consuming this stuff intellectually rather than just DOING the exercises consistently. Thanks for that reminder towards the end.
This IS gold!! After years of trauma, I was in such a dissociative state, blank, lost time, etc. or in such an over-reactive flight fight freeze state I could no longer function. My hypothalamus must be shrunken to a microscopic size!! Thank you so much for this information. After over 30 years working as an RN I was placed on disability and mildly brain-damaged. I literally forgot the simplest things. This makes do much sense.And gives me hope!
Absolutely!
RG: "For those of you washing the dishes and just listening to me."
Me: Stops packing up wardrobe and looks at the screen.
You know us so well.
Hahaha me, literally doing dishes, hanging up the washing, all of it. When are you supposed to have time to just sit down and listen anyway?!
@@marcek9910 When you get too traumatized and sleepless to have the energy to wash dishes and (hang) wash(ing). Not recommended.
@@marcek9910 I was washing dishes too lol
I was removing dust from the leaves of house plants which helped me to focus (and get sth done! While watching another video) when suddenly I felt called back to look at the screen 🤣🤣🤣
For me, a miracle happened. I am 77 years old (female). I have been in therapy (serious therapy) practically full time since age 30. I also went to a treatment center for alcohol, drugs and SLAA. I have had an eating disorder that seems to be stable now. I also smoked from the age of 14 and quit when I got clean and sober 35 years ago. I am now seeing a psychiatrist that was assigned to me when I ended up at a psychiatric hospital at the end of a five year legal battle with my sister. I continue to see that psychiatrist right up through today. Months ago she started pressing me in a different way as things in my life continued to run out of control. I was wandering around the bottom of the pit. And, about two months ago, I found you on RUclips. (I am in the process of trying to establish a channel on RUclips.) I have watched with total enthusiasm! I did the finger exercises for I think about three weeks. Therapy was getting heavy and so after the finger exercises I didn't watch you for a couple of months. Then about two weeks ago I started watching again and got directly to the emotional literacy information but I couldn't figure out how to get to the part that told me how to do it. Finally I did. I did 4 or 5 days of exercises (which I found really interesting) and then a few days ago I was alone in my car driving when all of a sudden out of the blue the whole family dynamic and my position in it came roaring to life. I saw the whole complete picture for the first time. I started raging at the family, screaming at the top of my lungs saying all the things I guess I always wanted to say. I could just feel this huge mountain lifting off of my shoulders. I got to the store and ran into an old friend who said you look so happy you look just great. With that I burst into tears, tears that I know were for the little girl inside. A huge shift has taken place. It is as if I can finally see it all so clearly now. I understand it all. I can hold all of them responsible for each part they played in using me and in keeping me outside of the family circle. My whole life makes sense. I feel a calm I have never felt before. The rage that was controlling me is now focused solely on the family and it feels contained for the first time. I think I will never suffer road rage again, or suddenly start screaming at some innocent person who did some minor thing. When I watched this video tonight it all made so much sense. The way the process works and why. I cannot thank you enough. I have only wanted to die for the last 57 years. I know I have so much more work to do, but realize how hugely important the emotional literacy exercises are for me. I will continue to do them and to watch you. You have changed my life. I can't thank you enough. If there are times, as I am sure there must be, when you wonder why you are working so hard...well here is one reason why. My life is forever changed. Whatever years I have left will be lived in a kind of peace I didn't know was possible.
This made me cry. So much humility for you sharing this with us and hope you live happily and peacefully. I just found these videos today ... i feel anticipatory relief and a lot of excitement about my future. Best wishes to you and huge gratitute to @RichardGrannon
Bless you! This is how much Richard can actually help people! I am so happy you found him and are healing yourself! Sending you love and healing! 💜❤️💖
Your work and your patience is gold Richard. Thank you so much
GOLD! EXACTLY!
Yeah... GOLD! 💫
thank you richard
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for putting this information out there. You've done more to help me and give me hope than any counselor or therapist has ever done. PLEASE don't stop. The world needs people who aren't afraid to say what needs to be said and to risk being scorned for telling it like it is. People like you are one reason I haven't completely given up on humanity as a species yet.
I’ve been using it 5times a day for about 3 months now and I feel fantastic every time my alarm goes off now I get an excited feeling and feel happy ha ha I love it xx
You are SPOT ON, this is the way out, this is what will work!! Thank God for you Sir Richard!!!🥰🥰🥰 Totally f'ng BRILLIANT you are!
Wow, that part towards the end about the post-hypnotic programming explains a lot in relation to abusive relationships as well. After an incidence of physical abuse from my ex, he would then sometimes nurture me and whisper in my ear that he loved me and would never intentionally hurt me, he was a "good guy" etc while i was in shock, programming me repeatedly to believe it was some kind of rare, out-of-character event rather than a cycle or pattern of his behavior that would later reveal itself to me. Excellent video and fascinating ideas!
Amazing insight Kiah, I suddenly had a breakthrough moment when I read your post. That is exactly what has been happening to me for 20 years. First the abuse, then the nice guy comes out saying all the right things while I am still reeling from the shock of what has just happened. Thank you so much for mentioning that.
While I was being abused I would long for his “nice” side to come out and save me. Soon realised nice version only ever stuck around for a week while abusive version was the main man. Years later realised that nice version was faked to keep me in the cycle. I really, deeply loved it too :(
From one who "stuck right the way through" the vid- wow! Thank you thank you thank you. The shrunken -hypothalamus- hippocampus explains so much, and the idea that it can regenerate through these exercises and maybe give this hopeless person, a formerly very bright and capable human who now has very little agency, is severely depressed, can't seem to get much done, doesn't track very well, has serious short-term memory problems and seemingly very little executive function, isn't coping, is disorganized, has a messy home, and struggles with even small decisions-- maybe there is a way out of this nightmare that my life has turned into? You've given me hope. Yes I will do the exercises.
Please do the exercises, stick with them, and keep watching Richard.
Through doing your course I am able to access memories from when I was 4yrs old and told my mum things that happened and she dropped her biscuit. She couldn't believe I could go that far back and describe incidents and events in vivid detail. I even recalled when she lied to me that my pacifier had been lost in the flood that ravaged our town, she couldn't believe I recalled that and called her out on lying to me when I was 4!!
In the beginning I found the emotional literacy very difficult...I kept coming up a blank. So I looked up a list of emotions on google. It's getting a bit easier, I still sometimes have to look at the list. Im working towards not having to look at the list...Steadily progressing!! Thanks Richard!!
Francesca the same for me! I had to look up nuances for what I was feeling but watching the video made me feel that if I’m doing that then am I really tapping into my matrix lightning memory box to get the feeling or am I literally getting it from a webpage?!!
That's actually a good idea. Don't quite know what you feel, look down the list and there it is
Richard has a list on his instragm too that's helpful and the emotion color wheel is awesome too. right there with you guys
This is just so absolutely brilliant. Just clever and funny and ace and very, very helpful. I love the visual of the grumpy cop searching the evidence room! Yep. That’s about right!
This series is solid gold. Thanks so much Richard.
Thank you for doing that. My clinical social worker side is gratified. I did them. I will now set my phone alarms. The knot in my stomach feels better already.
unconscious incompetence ~> conscious incompetence ~> conscious competence ~> unconscious competence. It gets easier but you need to do it every day.
@@topsi91 don’t understand what you’re asking mate
@@topsi91 you just have to work at it. For example: I used to be shy & socially awkward. I started working as a waitress and continued to work in food service for caterers and hotels. I HAD to approach people and speak to them, greet them,serve them food, ask them questions, and engage with them in a pleasant way. It was my job. It was stressful & difficult at first but I got used to it, got better at it, got better jobs because of it. Now I don’t even think about it, it’s just something I do without any self consciousness at all. It’s also a skill that I can apply in any social situation.
It was simple work & repetition!🤷🏼♀️
@@topsi91 in what area would you like competence?
@@topsi91 I’m a stranger on the internet, I have no answers for you. Get proper counseling.
I am super appreciative of all your efforts at healing emotions, Richard! This is very clearly explained and I believe I followed. For some reason, I always do better at tasks when I know why. Very motivational! Thank you SO much! You are healing the world a bit at a time & I love you for it!
Your methods work. I had to meet extended family I have not seen in 25 years at a very tense funeral. No flash backs. Thank you. You have lighted my pathway to freedom from trauma.
The magic of small regular actions brought to you by a scoucer in socks 😉. Weight loss program thrown in for good measure. Thanks man.
You have the heart of a teacher, and that makes me trust you. I’m sad there has to be a self defense process already in place when your heart’s desire is to help. But I get it, too, because I am a teacher. (English, 8th grade, in the US) Thank you for this video. I just recently found you and I’ve been voraciously consuming your work. I need to back track and find the lessons on the hand mnemonic and emotional literacy. I’m reeling from betrayal trauma and covert abuse, as well as therapeutic abuse. I’ll find the lessons and I’ll effing DO THEM! ( I will, I promise.)
I'm still trying to put my life back together for the same things as well. I'm also an English teacher.
I'm a pediatric nurse and I promise to do them as well.
I think teachers, nurses and other professionals who live to help others are very prone to narcissist abuse. It's our empathy and compassion
The phenomenon of me beginning to forget big chunks of events made me really worried (I always take care of others people fillings and emotions. If someone asks me how I am, I'm always feel off for a moment and automatically answering "I'm great, thanks." , switching the conversation to everything about them. This was the turning point to find answers.
Thank you for your generosity to give information for free.
Because there are many people ( in this century) that for many reasons can't have access to therapists.
About the "retreiving process" of emotions: I usually have a kind of weird process that works really well for me, I ask myself what do I feel, nothings gets out, then I take a walk or short road trip (music on, blasting sometimes)... and BAM, it gets out !!! 😄😄. But in the begining it seems like nothing is there.. when at the end of the trip actually a LOT of emotion is there. Moving the body helps accessing emotional content, I'm a big believer in that!
I started to think that the less emotional literacy people have the better is for the current World Order. This is an invaluable work you are doing, Richard. "All" we need is to develop: WILL and COURAGE to act, BELIEF in having the right to have our values, INSIGHT to see the necessity in building the skill of self-reflection, TRUST and RESILIENCE to be able to face whatever we realise, PERSEVERANCE and SYSTEM to keep up the work and LOVE that is able to be born and grow in ourselves... While it is not a piece of cake, you show it how we can see it that way so we can succeed. Warmly, Anita
I haven't got the words of gratitude required...
I'm 14 days in to this program..I have total intent...I do it all as you have said..the hand work..the emotional literacy and the goal state work...
What do I think?
Yes it's simple...simply genius!!
I feel strong..powerful even...in control...calm...aware of self... physically well... spiritually connected... purposeful and I know where I'm going.
So simple yet so beneficial.
This was very good. When on the couch with Freud , he claimed that to pause in the association the patient was not telling the truth and also Freud was much criticized, because he also said that to blurt out quickly was inauthentic. Freud said that he just knew. I feel that I just know that the emotion is absolutely true, when I get a bodily response (sinking, tightening etc) If it doesn't have an associated somatic response, I will question it.
I love the way you put all of these concept in an understanding format. I could listen to you all day, Richard. By the way ... I am close to 70, so that was a sincere, pure and heartfelt compliment!! LOL
This is gold, a mate put me onto your channel, and I'm loving it! New mentor crush 😍
Hi Richard,
I'm a new subscriber. Right around the time America started shutting down, I confronted the fact that I'd been involved with a narcissistic psychopath (possibly sociopath) for the past few years. The global hysteria and political narcissism coupled with the realization that I'd been psychologically/emotionally abused by the man who was "my person", led me on a profound personal awakening. He wasn't my first narcissist. Here's the thing...I've celebrated 42 rotations around the sun and the majority of them have involved some level of narcissistic abuse. I am resilient and am ready to heal to embrace life and love. I started therapy for C-PTSD and had my first session of EMDR today. It was extremely exhausting in a very positive way. I found you about a month ago and have learned a lot already. I'm a single mom of a 7 year old girl. I want to heal, so that she doesn't have to. I want to do the work. How can I take part in your 30 day challenge? If I'm too late for that, are there certain videos you recommend I watch first?
Thank you for doing what you do! 🙏🙏🙏
Stacey
The intention to heal is everything ... and can be dastardly slippery. You might think you have the intention but if you don't really believe it's possible, you can't form a real intention and without that you cannot reach the goal. The evidence out there for nervous system plasticity is a huge game changer for the traumatized because we now have physiological 'reasons' for our perceived painful reality AND solid evidence that those physiological manifestations of trauma can be reversed. Gotta take heart and do the work. And thank goodness that an honest healer is offering the info without demanding a half year's wages. Right on Grannon!
Yup. That was huge for me! We have real hope, don't we- and a super guide here with Richard. We just have to do the work.
Thank you so much for explaining all this. It's so helpful to me, a half-intellectual. Logic and being incredibly stubborn about rejecting anything I couldn't track entirely from point A to point Z is 80% of how I survived my childhood without winding up dead or in prison. Watching all your videos from the very first one over the last year or so was completely necessary for me because the toxic superego still had such a stronghold, you couldn't just come right at it. It had the upper hand in a face to face battle, every time. Watching it all in a fairly passive and comfortingly detached way was the giant NLP dance that was required to send anything past the minefield so I could HEAR you tell me what to do. And I'm doing it, and it's working. My life is different just like you said, and the biggest change by far is that I know it will continue to change. The hopelessness left when the majority of the self-loathing was dismantled. Now I'm at a point where the second-biggest change (accepting the idea that messiness is okay and not a failure) has allowed for every chunk of progress to be accepted and celebrated and bolster another chunk in a big lovely accelerating feedback loop of healing. I am so grateful for your simple commands but equally for these detailed explanations. You're amazing, thank you so much Richard.
It works. I would also recommend incorporating the somatic experience work, as the trauma is locked in the body. Thank you Richard for your work.
Somatic experience work?
Somatic experiencing work
I have not laughed so authentically nor have I felt more positive in years... you are INCREDIBLE... respect from a crippled intellectual and totally unrecovered cptsd child of protracted NPD parenting... bloody hell! I am delighted to have been told about this channel...
Wow. I was exasperated. When the narcissistic abuse finally became clear to me I thought:how in bloody hell are you going to find an EMDR or similar shrink who is going to wipe all of this mess away. So that you can finally perform your maternal obligations and have a life. The therapist search became a huge problem in my mind. It is a task almost as difficult as the healing process. Now I have found this precious toolkit which makes me independent. Thanks so much for it. You and Sam are the best! You have become part of my family at least in my mind.
Arghhh Mr Grannon! I'm tryna go to sleep, then I see THIS! Now I'm wide awake, sending this to my kid abroad.. I'm excited. Thank you soo much.
It's so F* simple but it is helping ALOT. I don't care for complex shit, had a damn nuff, I will DO ANYTHING to feel better. Thank you Richard. Can't go completely no contact, but I am feeling STRONGER everyday.
Richard is the real deal. This really does work. I took his stop emotional flashbacks course (the hand mnemonic one) and the emotional literacy course and they made a big difference. For anybody on the fence: do it, no matter how "silly" it may seem to you.
Meghan Workman agree I trust what he says about this stuff, and I don’t say that much these days.
its beautiful how you present all of that profound wisdom. damn youre good at what youre doing...
just rewatched and want to share that I experienced exactly what is said about how practicing consistently develops the self-awareness of emotional states. I thought I was getting it right from the start but after 90 days consistent work with this exercise within the 'Unplug' course I experience there is more coming up and layers that reveal and the 'inside dude' is getting better at getting what I asked for out of the former chaos or at least is getting much better at finding authentic instead of made up ones. it really takes time after decades of chaotic mental state. this is so valuable.
Man, this one is one of the best videos you have done. I started watching your non-Fortress channel about 2.5 years ago on the back end of a painful break-up, exploring CPTSR, and then read Pete Walker at your suggestion (Sad Baby). I just found the Fortress set a couple of days ago. I had some revelations toward the end of this thing regarding my crappy memory (it always has been) and strange inability to associate certain types of information sometimes (though I do have a good long-term memory) This information is spot on. I'm going to have to do the exercises. Very well-explained. Also I had about three belly-laughs at some of the impromptu jokes. Also I'm glad you cuss like a sailor. So do I. (Doesn't everyone???)
You are an excellent teacher & healer... never stop teaching you have so much knowledge and I legit feel I'm faking it starting it .. crazy
You are a rare and precious person. I am an atheist and believe critical thinking and the scientific method is imperative. The ironic part of my life is, I could do and used to do readings and I cannot explain how I could be so detailed. I could explain the red and white checkered curtains in someone's kitchen or the long dirt drive way to a person's house. It has to be scientific in a sense, that we are all part of energy and the universe.
Richard, of *course* I watched the whole thing. Nothing could drag me away. Thank you - for the insights and even more importantly for *how* you communicate them. I plan to DO IT. Watching you not only motivated me though ...... your manner, who you are as a human being, has something healing about it too. Is it just me? I doubt it. I can't quite put my finger on it. Thank you again.
I miss the swear words but you kept it professional. I appreciate your work, I can’t find anyone else who breaks down our mental problems for some of us to understand. Thank you Richard.
I stuck through till the end. I don’t mind the longer videos and I don’t mind the cursing but, it’s not all about me. (: I was with it and it was all clicking until the last bit on accessing the feeling and the part of us that has physically shrunk, etc. but I’ll get it. I’ll watch it again. I’m sure there’s a metaphor there. Anyway, thank you Richard, as always. The explanations really help...
Going to do it. I transformed my body in 8 months before eventual divorce. Thanks for the analogy, I get it. I'm going to do it and am back to body transformation after a difficult divorce. Have my before pictures ready. Already on my way with mental health and I want to do more. This will also help me when I start working with adolescents with complex mental health issues...thank you. Channels like yours have helped me to move forward!
It's wonderful how far you've come.
We need people to work with young people's mental health, I wish I had had someone to help me before I became so incredibly damaged.
Sounds like you will be amazing in your chosen field...
Hi there, i really need to thank you, as i started on the 1st of july and really followed to the letter all the instructions you set out and i don't feel so down and desperate as i have been feeling for the last 7 months! Thank so much! I am going to keep going, i was already doing aerobics classes one a week, body combat once a week, weights twice a week, tennis 4 times a week, and i am well over 60, your program has made a difference already, i will get there... I am determined to find my old self and some bits of new too.
i have discovered just today your free exercises and i'm doing them all day and there is literally no more pain i have been experiencing in last 15 or so yrs. it's enough to say this is my flashback and pain, anxiety etc is gone. i went trough 7 yrs therapy, but this is major discovery. thank you richard, from the bottom of my heart.
Complex trauma does not require complex system to heal. I know this after seeing doctors and therapists for years who tried different complex ways to deal with my trauma- their 'simple' answer was medication. I'm 51 and had all forms of abuse for 46 years. I'm the biggest cynic you could wish to meet as a result. The system Richard has developed works. I have hope where I didnt have it before but it takes work and conscious attention to keep the flashbacks at bay, to do the mind map, to address the critic when it rears its head. Anything that takes effort can take a while to get used to doing it but it is worth it. Thank you 😊
An hour and seven minutes I'm still here. Fascinating! Thank you for YOUR time and effort.
Thank you Ritchie! Your work has literally changed my life and led me out of darkness and chaos. Can’t thank you enough!!!!
Thanks Richard. That makes a lot of sense, and worth persevering with the lengthy session. Very Pythonesque - perfect analogy: easy to understand how and why it works. I've been doing both exercises for a while now. Makes a huge difference. Now I understand how and why I'm feeling better. Excellent.
I’ve been doing the hand mnemonic for at least 60 days now. Still have the alarm on my phone, even though I don’t need it, it helps. At times, the hand exercise is easy, sometimes it is still quite difficult, especially the third finger - BUT that’s the key, I push through it and name the emotions as best I can. Also, I still occasionally drift into negative thought while doing the mnemonic, but I recognize it and get through it. Thank you Richard. It does work.
Love you Richard . I hope that you know just how skillful you are at teaching and just how much your extensive knowledge is appreciated and your ability to translate it into easy understanding is outstanding . Your confidence is also very contagious . Thank you - just starting
When people say 'I bet you've never heard a story like mine!', what they're saying is _my_ suffering is unique and it _cannot_ be treated. But the truth is the exact opposite: your situation isn't unique to you (and thank God that there are other people out there who you can sympathise with), and it is treatable. YOU do the work, YOU treat it YOURSELF. You can do it.
Having experienced sheer terror and having rage aimed at me, I have summoned a lot of courage to welcome in these emotions
Richard, ..WOW!..AH!..what kind of clients are you dealing with ? I am exhausted just by hearing you talk to them. I admire you, so much for the detail work that you do with your clients..I literally workout with my clients..I do the routine with them, like little kids.. I am looking forward for your coaching in the near future..I will go to boundaries and I will leave my new self in there..I got a ring for the hand Mnemonic for the relationship with myself finger from Tiffany&Co, because I am a visual mind.. it reminds me that you are present in the moment with me and I move in the right direction with awareness..Thank you, Richard.
That was amazing information Richard. It cleared up alot of confusion about the lies that my unconscious has been fobbing me off with in the past. Now I find the Hippocampus manifesting as a Horse which I can ride on and journey to hidden places which is always revealing. Sometimes it is more like a mystical journey to recover lost connections. That Horse just appeared out of nowhere!
I love this metaphor! Beautiful!
@@St.Raphael... Hippo is the Greek for horse. Taming the Hippocampus as Richard speaks of is akin to taming your wild horse. The unconscious throws up these images in visual ways to help you understand.
Brilliant.. and lateral thinking funnies..You are funny. Well I discovered you about a month ago.. and began to do this for a week or two consistently.. and low and behold a clearer, stronger more fearless me!! Waayhaayy how something so easy can 'wake you up!'!! Thankyou Richard! What a gift for humanity! But I also know the work needs to be done continuously for as long as..and some more
Thank you Richard, I simultaneously learned the most and laughed the most watching this video today than in years of trying stuff out. I will do the work. God bless you.
I’m so excited I daren’t comment. Im getting dressed and going out to walk this off. Let’s just say, there are tears. Amazing.
It is crazy how well you know your audience! I'm literally washing dishes and listening to you! I paused at @31:18 to comment! You're awesome!
I love your work Mr. Grannon. I'm doing lisa romano life coaching for my healing. Both u and her rock!!!. U both and her facilitate my healing and growth.
I'm doing a refresher course and I have more appreciation for your work this time around. This video is so creative and intelligent. You are on fire.
This shit do work as u say!! Thank u for doing the work and teaching! To have someone teach from own experience is priceless, mainstream psychologists dont do that they just sit like robots starring at you talking programmed nonsense from their programming educations, its very hurtful going to people to talk who are so disconected and non humble, with no real life experience so they cant empathise with u properly, its actually very hurtful. But coming to u is very healing, u feel emotionally connected one can trust u cause u feel that u have gone through it ur self and u recognise everything u say and it becomes like an open road straight to healing! By u doing it urself u created like a highway path straight to healing for others so thank u!!!❤️🤘🐲🔥
"I feel like this is what it is, so that is what it is"
Since I started to emotionally literate myself, I asked me a lot of times: how do I know that I am really feeling that? and I had to convince me hard that my emotions were actual and true just because I was feeling them. That's how disconnected I was from myself, I didn't even trust that what I felt was true. Only the flashbacks were real to me. I was so lost and rusty, exactly how you tell it, I have to laugh hearing you now, I am on the mend and nodding to each of your words.
Richard Grannon, thank you so much, I am doing the job, but it was you who awoke me to do it. Listen to you is gold.
Oh my God ......
that was a bit of a surprise......
I had listened to this earlier, but got distracted and couldn't finish, so I was preparing dinner and continued my listening. I had my wireless headphones on, and I was rinsing a bowl, when 30:40 of the up-load was spoken. I stopped cold.... I was like, "Oh......Dear.....God, he's talking to me......😲"
Other than that, it was an absolutely stunning, and unbelievable moment!
That talk in its entirety, was a complete delight! I truly, truly enjoyed it! (And quite honestly, that did sound like a Monty Python sketch! You may have a fabulous new direction!)
Excellent stuff, as usual. Thank you Life Coach. So good to see your face and hear your voice.
SO GOOD, Richard!! Thank you for breaking this down so thoughtfully and comprehensibly. Throughly entertaining as always. ;)
I was watching this early in the morning and fell asleep again. Dreamt of a guy who came to visit, told me this is great stuff, hand mnemonic and all, he had done it himself but would like to exercise some more😉
I literally am never confused or left with half an explanation after any of your videos Richard. I am greatly appreciative of your videos and time, although I’m sure you do it because it’s comes natural to you, as is very evident. You’re a brilliant human being! THANK YOU!
After 2 weeks using the hand mnemonic I was suddenly able to stop and see the flashback and say to myself, "Oh - it's just that old trigger getting touched again" and was able to step back and see it as 'not me' instead of identifying subjectively with the feeling. THANK YOU SO MUCH, RICHARD! It saved my marriage, because I stopped blaming my husband for the way I was being triggered.
Thank you! I am 38 yrs old, I've finally found what makes sense to me as a way to heal/be. Thank you for making yourself available to us.
This is easily the most humorous and entertaining “self help” video I’ve ever watched! 😂Thank you Richard 🌟❤️🌟
OutStanding, Mr. Grannon! MJ Cranston recommended listening to your videos as I will be starting a support channel myself. Many years of therapy yet this video here, clicked a few remaining pieces into this puzzle called Laura. Thank you.
"He wants another file!" Lol.. You could do a 'Man in the Box' voice (Rob Brydon)
Thank you for this comprehensive video - you're 👍Awesome
I have encouraged numerous others to consider watching your videos, they're among the best resources out there, without a doubt
I love the way you've brought so many strains of historical thought together. All encompassing and full of wonder, and truth.. an alchemist indeed you are..
You're an inspiration to this Piscean
Wow. Wow. Wow. Thank you for this video. I laughed, cried, scratched my head, replayed parts, jotted lots of notes and am feeling amazing that my healing is in my control, with possible great side benefits like restoring some childhood memories and shoring up my emotional literacy. Thankyou so very much.
clicks a lot with go rin no sho for me. you must train constantly (especially when you have to train yourself to relax every once in while). started doing this back in december and i'm doing much better now; glad to see you're still pushing for it :)
When Richard tells us to focus on what we want instead of what we don't want it leaves me wondering what I do want, and I'm just not sure about that.
Profound observation. Me, too. Intentionally practicing phrasing positively versus negatively is proving to be not only a feat requiring a surprising output of effort, it's also quite a reality changer. Here's to healthy recovery of the hypothalamus!
David, You do know what your want. Healing! The rest will follow! :-)
Hard to reach a goal if you have none! Find what makes you happy, and make that your goal. True happiness! Just my thoughts. Life is short!
Probably because you've never had the option to do or have what you want
@@barbarahaller79 for me, it's little things to start.
I bought 2 sweaters in colors my partner hates but I LOVE....im not responsible for his taste or opinions...
Same with my hair and makeup....im doing what I like.
Oh my, you crack me up. Simply love your humor it really helps to make the information hit home for me. Love love🤗
Very very interesting. Idk how I missed this video.
Thank you for your time and thoughts Richard.
This makes so much sense 🎯
❤️💪🔥☯️🖖☮️🦋
I stumbled on you have loved every video. It's nice to discover someone talking about what I've been feeling and the conclusions I've been pondering. You are a blessing. Thank you for your videos
I don’t know how you manage to put together such a complex, complicated, hard to explain and break down multi faceted concept in a lecture for us regular people to understand, is mind blowing in itself. What a gift you have. ❤️ The best analogy EVER! As to the fitness idea.👏💪❤️ It’s absolutely perfect. The latter half really reminds me of the movie “Inside Out” 😂🤣 I think that’s one of my favorites with the kids, but nowadays has grown into a whole new meaning for me. 🌱 Thank you for this video, it’s truly brilliant. ❤️
Beautifully explained. Thaaaank You!!!
@56:12 "and the unconscious *_has_* to give you something.." So that means the unconscious always gives you an output based on your intention.
Richard, I cannot thank you enough for creating this content and making it easily digestible to learn and implement. When I think of someone who is living with a true purpose, you are the epitome of that. I have made and continue to make lasting change in my life because of you and your videos. I feel you would tell me, it is not because of you, it is because of me choosing to do the emotional literacy work and the hand mnemonic, etc. haha, but truly Richard, I greatly appreciate you and what you have brought to my attention. I feel that I am having breakthroughs every time I listen to you and engage in the work. Thank you for being a catalyst for my healing. Be well.
I needed Psychotherapy - it's what made sense to me - with PTSD and Counseling I would only comprehend and not learn what I already understand. need (needed) Psychotherapy to show me reasoning and purpose why I was seeing things the oppisit of healthy for me.
wow wow wow THANK YOU. This helped so much. The explanation solidifies my dedication to the process. I appreciate you very much for sharing.
This should be taught at school, seriously. Amazing, thank you Richard!
Yet again brilliant work. It explains so much and shows the importance of your exercises. You deserve a nap.
I'm guessing 30 days in a ROW, right??? I've actually worked with people that need that specific detail. Hilarious skit and probably very true. Then when you actually hit a true emotion that's been shoved down deep with boxes of cookies for years, you find a skill that may very well assist you for the rest of your life!!! Thank you for ALL of your time, knowledge and humor!!!
Jeez, I was listening fascinated and then at 38:42 you say: "..., there is no solution, there is no surgery, there is no 'do it to me, daddy'...oh...that sounded wrong...' and you have to chuckle yourself. There I lost it. But it was great to have a good laugh in between. Great content by the way, mate!
I watched it till the end. It's amazing that a person can do all of this for us disinterestedly. This was so helpful. I started the exercise yesterday. After watching this I hope I gather the strength to continue. Gracias siempre.
That’s really interesting that you mention only being able to access a few emotions. I have only been able to access a few emotions myself for as long as I can remember. I really enjoyed knowing “why”. I don’t do anything unless I understand why. I think that’s why I haven’t done your exercises yet. And I’m writing this, and you mentioned short and long term memory. I literally say that I have horrible short term memory allllll the time. I just love listening to you and feeling those connections in my brain reconnect. I literally feel like the two broken neurons spark up and connect when I listen to you. So, thanks for that. Also, please start up doing videos again when you feel comfortable. My kids and I have learned so much over the last year and you have been a great part of our continued healing.
0_0 I can't believe you put all of this together, I could cry.
Thank you Richard
Wow this is the best explanation of the unconscious that I ever seen. Thanks Richard, super interesting and funny. This is my 3rd day doing the 30 day challenge and I feel better after doing the emotional literacy exercise.
I havent seen this video yet but i want to tell you that im so much better when i started to do this hand thing 😊 you told us about! I stopped to picking on myself ( i do this because the narc told me every day that i did everything wrong,i wasnt a Good mom, so im so happy for this,thank you!🙏❤❤❤❤😘😘
U are a life savor! Love u🥰
From the bottom of my heart- THANK YOU for all your helpful suggestions, exercises and their explanations! 🙌🏻
Your simple straightforward by-self-doable approach is so very much appreciated! I’m healing and maturing in such an organic way, it amazes me that it’s even possible. Thank you.
I thoroughly appreciated the theoretical content of this video and really enjoy your humour, analogies and engaging, conversational style. I have been doing the hand mnemonic for 3 days now and am already noticing a huge difference. Ritchie, this is gold. Thank you.
Thank you for taking the time to do a video on this record it an write it... I have for a while done the whole mental exercise of that... it really does help.
Literally probably hands down the best video I have seen you give us yet!!! You have no idea how much this has helped my analytical mind...bc of this video i will be doing the finger taping method....seriously you are a god send!!! I've watched probably quite literally every video you have ever done...you truly are helping me more than any other program book or counseling session I have ever done...THANK YOU!! I hope to run into you one day I'm going to hug you and you're gonna think it's weird 😆