Women Want Men To Be Vulnerable But Get Turned Off When They Are!
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- Опубликовано: 25 июн 2024
- Women Want Men To Be Vulnerable But Get Turned Off When They Are 😖... Women want men to be vulnerable and emotionally open but often struggle with accepting vulnerability when men express it. In this dating advice video, we will explore the complexities of vulnerability in relationships and why women want men to be vulnerable but get turned off when they are. Take heed to this dating advice and watch the entire video to understand why women want men to be vulnerable but get turned off when they are.
I want you to understand why women want men to be vulnerable but get turned off so you can develop a deeper understanding of the dynamics at play in relationships. By recognizing why women want men to be vulnerable but get turned off when they are, you can navigate these situations with empathy and awareness. Embrace this dating advice video to understand why women want men to be vulnerable but get turned off when they are.
Women want men to be vulnerable because it promotes a deeper emotional connection. However, when men are vulnerable, some women get turned off and perceive the vulnerability as a sign of weakness. It highlights the importance of open communication and finding a partner who appreciates your authentic self.
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Excellent topic. It actually puts into words some of the things I had to figure out in my marriage. For me, I found that expressing my challenges without panic, without "I don't know what to do" was key. Stating, say, "I've got this situation at work which is concerning, but I know I'll come up with an answer" was presenting the problem from a position of strength, not weakness. Displaying fear, panic, or a lack of confidence is a loser. Indicating I have a problem but I'm confident I can find an answer if I mull it over long enough is a much better tact. Expressing frustration is okay; expressing doubt in my ability to deal with the situation is not. Nice assortment of backgrounds today. Discovered that a wind-blown Anna is an especially attractive Anna (not sure why, but it works). Praying for you! -- Russ PS/ Doing this from the back of church waiting for the damaged service video to be uploaded, so typos on the phone may be a real thing today.
Excellent example and summation! I approve this message lol Glad the wind didn't interfere too much with sound ;) Thank you for your prayers, Russ, hope the video worked! :))
People want others to be vulnerable because they want opportunities to exploit said weakness and vulnerability. Their motives and desires to want others to be vulnerable are not based in good faith. You can tell this is true, because of the way they treat people who display vulnerability. That says it all. Vulnerability = weakness. Generally speaking you should not expose weaknesses to others as it creates opportunities for being exploited. I'm not sure where this "you should be vulnerable" rhetoric comes from, as it is not found in any self help book I've read... but then again I read books like Poise and Power by Christian D Larson, who advocates the opposite.
This comment is bunk. Just don't have vulnerabilities. Otherwise, fake a smile and hide them and get them fixed pronto. Why say anything about it? The expected outcome is that you explain why you immediately won't have that vulnerability around her.
If you say one thing to her about a vulnerability, you've immediately forced yourself into a hole that you have to explain yourself out of? Waste of time.
To some of the replies who disagree with me: I was married 34 years before cancer took my wife. We had our shares of ups and downs but the last decade together was the best, largely because I figured a few things out. My comment is a result of that learning -- it is born of success. If you want to do something else, have at it; it's your life. But don't try saying it can't work. If you're with the right partner, it can work -- I know because I did it. I genuinely hope you are successful in whatever path you choose.
@@actmyage2149 I'm not saying you're wrong, I'm saying that it's easier to just not have vulnerabilities or else keep them hidden and get them fixed. Disclosing them instantly makes them a liability that has to be acted upon by the man. 🤷♂️ Totally pointless step. Better to be all smiles around her and down in private, and get rid of what's making me down so I'm not being private while I'm down.
Waaaay too much word salad having to be tossed for having shared a vulnerability that she will instantly view as a negative.
Right out of the gate you're having to explain why you're not messing up by talking about it and may as well have just spilled water and now need to demonstrate that you know how to clean it up.
🤷♂️ Don't spill water
If a woman says she wants her man to show vulnerability, she's been mentally conditioned to ruin her relationships.
@@blip1 Better to not get with a woman than to limit yourself like that. If women think they can do it all, then LET THEM PROVE IT.
Don't look at it that way. Just always remember women are messed up. If you watch these red pill dating channels that's what you will learn. So, be yourself be comfortable on dates and have fun. Don't try to act a certain way or be a certain person because then you'll come across as being insincere and not very confident. Bottom line, women today are more screwed up than ever. So just have fun and remember that sexy women are a luxury, a toy for your enjoyment. don't take them seriously
Correct, 100%. If you really think about it, women with adequate empathy have no need to ask. In asking, they're only proving they either can't, or won't, apply empathy to their relationship with you. The more I think about it, the more I think men should never tell women "how they feel". Doesn't seem to end well.
Men often need to hold back on feelings and such because they are punished for their honesty.
Which is a shame on society.
@@YourWingmam ma’am could you do a video about the “ick”?
All the time and every time
@@JerryDavis-jb1ht
Yes the ick
The entire premise is that women don't want men to be human. That's emotional abuse.
Women are masochistic. If you don't hurt them they will kill you. By that I mean women wear the pants. Do not think of a woman as a need, though difficult when your sexual urge is strong. If you want to live like a human being, but die like a dog, then stay single. If you want to live like a dog, but die like a human, then get married.
nailed it
We're doomed if we do, and doomed if we don't, can't win for losin'!
"Nothing is more despised than weakness in a man."
True
I have seen weak men sell out when cornered. Disservice to mankind. ..dangerous to society.
@@YourWingmam You'd be surprised that several of us men eventually do the same thing back. Detest women that are always in crisis, bitter, angry, short-sighted, and lack of accountability. Until there is REAL respect and affection/care it's become seriously difficult to even have a relationship with a woman that shit tests a man and yet plays the vulnerable card----crocodile tears, nagging, threats, moodiness, and creating problems where there isn't so much.
What women really want is leverage. On you.
facts, lol
😂😂
If they're throwbacks, correct! If they're not, what they want is for you to not have leverage over them. :)
@@YourWingmam Leverage over each other should never be part of the equation
@@YourWingmam There is not a single woman on this planet or any other who wouldn't act like this. Including you. You just want to add that separation because it makes all women inherently bad people.
Newsflash: Men want to feel safe in a relationship also. What that looks like to most men is LOYALTY from their partners. Even modern, evolved men who have developed a high level of emotional intelligence crave this. Loyalty doesn't just mean not giving in to temptation to be unfaithful whenever that arises. It means not abandoning your partner if they get hurt or experience a set-back in life. It means being his teammate, his emotional support, and his helpmate, NOT his critic. What I want to know is why the women's dating and relationship channels fail to teach this simple (yet apparently alien) concept?
Even though my videos are for men to learn about and understand women, I've talked about that in several videos. :)
Because women only care about their needs. Not yours
A woman doesn't want to pick up a man when he is down. They would rather just bolt for another higher value man.
I was vulnerable once - never again. She used it against me later in the relationship when things weren't working out.
I don’t care how much they beg and plead for you to be open and vulnerable, in my personal and observational experience they quickly lose respect and start emasculating you. Its always a sign of some sense of weakness or need to test you on their part if they keep pressing for this but never submit to this request if you want to keep the relationship. Then the “I need some space” or “Im confused” rhetoric will come.
She whines that she wants him to be vulnerable BUT, when he is she calls him immature, then points the finger at him. How about some accountability on her part. I wouldn't tell her a thing either! If you can't be open with your partner WITHOUT judgement, move on to someone else....If they're the right person you should feel like you could tell them anything. The Good....The Bad....and The Ugly. You're either all in, or you're not. She needs to learn to be his cheerleader and she clearly isn't!!! It's called trust!
. . After watching many of Anna's videos and some of the other red pill dating content channels, there's only one conclusion. Women are messed up. And don't try to change your behavior to please a woman. Don't ever do it . be authentic. Be your true self . be whoever you feel like being. Don't act a certain way just because these videos tell you this is what a woman wants.
She’s setting him up to fail
@@devilsadvocacy I agree
@@devilsadvocacy every woman 25 to 35 who is at least somewhat attractive, will try to get the advantage over all of them and they are dating.
Lesson learned: if a woman wants me to open up and be vulnerable, she has to prove to me she's trustworthy enough to handle it responsibly.
Anna: I'm a middle-aged man who's consistently watched large amounts of dating/intersexual dynamics/Manosphere videos over the past 5 years (I know; pathetic), and the more I learn about intersexual relationships, the more I realize romantic relationships are not worth it, and the more I realize how much I don't measure up. You content creators, though, are doing us a service by helping us stay out of situations we're going to fail at. In a nut shell, y'all're saving us from intense pain. So, even though I may have dropped out of the dating market indefinitely, y'all've helped me avoid disaster. This sounds facetious, but I'm serious, and I thank you for your videos.
I experienced this for the 1st time when a girl was really talking about me being so masculine, stoic ect. Red flags were there in the beginning but there was a huge attraction. As soon as I decided to be the adult person in a fight and be vurnerable she wanted to ditch me. It was pure power control, I blocked her and never looked back. Had enough other girls to be honest but it really proofed a point.
Needless to say she was a immature women and she cheated in the past + casual. I do believe a more mature women later in the relationship will respond properly.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
A Mistake you can make is with security and safety. I was watching the news and seeing where there were break-ins near our neighborhood. So I started standing a metal chair up at the back door and laying a metal chair on the floor in the back bedroom so there is someone came in that door the chair would fall over and clang on the other chair. I started putting a chair up the back door in the kitchen underneath the knob in case someone tried to break in there and putting the coat rack near the front door so that someone came in it it would bump the coat rack and knock it over. I guess she seen this as me not feeling secure, which made her not feel secure. She started saying I was paranoid. I tried to explain that I only did that when they were break-ins near our home. That didn’t work. She still saw it as me getting paranoid and felt like I couldn’t keep a safe if someone broke in, even though I had Military training and guns in the house. She had military training also she was army. So that dissolved her feelings of security, and along with it our relationship.
I feel you, man!
You just had one of many useless women that our entitled society produces
I just never show emotions to women. They truly don't give two shits about your troubles as long as they don't effect her or your provisioning for her. Try telling her "I'm just upset at work right now. I think I'll take a leave of absence till I can figure out what it wrong. Do you think you can get another job to help with the bills"
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
It all comes down to trust and the fact that men and women have different ideas of what qualifies as vulnerability. You use the term "strong vulnerability" or "masculine vulnerability" to describe a man's issues (i.e. don't come to her until you have a solution). But that's not vulnerability. It doesn't always have an obvious solution. You can't come at it from a position of strength, otherwise that's not being vulnerable because vulnerability is inherently weak. Vulnerability to a man is giving a woman the power to crush you and trusting that she won't. This is the problem - trust. This was implied by the guy's comment you were dissecting; he didn't trust that she'd respond favourably. She just wanted to hear about his problems to have a better understanding of what goes through his mind, while reserving the right to withdraw intimacy because of what he said or flat out break up with him if it killed her attraction enough. It just fosters a sense of walking on egg-shells from a guy's perspective. A man will open the floodgates to his mind if he trusts a woman completely. And that sense of intimacy can be intoxicating because it can make him feel a sense of safety and connection he's rarely felt. Unfortunately, that changes the dynamic of a relationship and the woman ends up taking on a bit more of a care-taker role, which she'll eventually grow to resent and the guy feels hurt, abandoned, and goes back into his shell knowing that he can't really trust her to give him the support he needs. And without trust, there's no real relationship.
No! If she is not with you when you're down and out, then she is not for you. But don't look for your mother.
At 1:00. When I was 19 my father died. I tried to hold it back but I started crying - in front of my girlfriend. It was the first and only time i cried in front of her. She dumped me a few weeks later. I learned a hard lesson.
That's messed up.
My heart goes out to you. Every woman is different, but most *good hearted* women will expect some emotion and even some tears at such an event. The key is in the TRYING to remain strong and stoic not collapsing completely into it. I know it's totally unfair, but it is true. A man must maintain a certain level of stoicism in front of his woman and especially in public. Again, not fair, but it's not likely to change. The younger she is the less tolerance she'll have simply because she's not strong and may not have had life experiences that provide the empathy needed for such times. I know a couple who got together in their 60s after both their partners died. The first several weeks of their relationship were taking turns collapsing into their own pain of their losses. But there was mutual empathy and life experience. They're happily together 5 years later. As for you, it was a good test. She was a throwback if that's why she dumped you.
So, women can go on and on expressing their issues. But, she plays a game with you when a man does it. Again. Guys, just get a dog. Do your own thing and jerk off if you need to
Bullet dodged. Sounds like she was actually a horrible person, not necessarily a horrible woman.
Don't worry about her. She never loved you or was willing to support you in that time of need. They are genuine women out there that won't throw you out but someone better will come. I am sorry to hear that bro.
Women clearly want men who lead them and take charge. This is primal and non negotiable. I have had one woman tell me during the dating phase that I was not masculine enough with her in essence she said, "you are like one of my girlfriends." While I thought I could learn from her criticism to be more assertive with her but I also wondered if she had been in some bad relationships before me where guys were not particularly respectful to her. It was one of those occasions were I could grow from the criticism but at the same time not become a jerk to please some woman who may have issues. Needless to say, our relationship concluded and we went our separate ways.
I have seen a way too much women (ca 80% of women I ever know) leaving normal men to run after some hopeless booze/drug addicts that I don`t believe in the female needs for safety.
There are a lot of emotionally damaged people out there. You just described one of each sex.
So, basically all women over 40 are emotionally damaged.
They are attracted to sociopaths
@@devilsadvocacy so large majority of women are
Why would I want to be in a relationship with someone who can’t handle my weaknesses without going cold or distant?
To be honest, this is one of many reasons why I am not interested in relationships anymore and marriage for life is now a thing of the past from my observations. Everyone has feelings and emotions and men are no exception here. People have two choices here in regards me, either accept me as I am, or better luck with another one. No hard feelings from me and this is why I only offer friendship to a woman and nothing more will become of that. I have many women friends and they are quite understanding of my position on the stance I have taken. There is only two seats in my car and the passenger seat is often taken up by my works bag and my jacket. I wish others though the very best in relationships and I really hope that it works out well for them. All the best and keep up the great videos.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
By far, not a close second. Being vulnerable and having it turned on me has hurt me more than anything on earth .
It has changed the course of my relationship forever more.
The man writing this comnent was very brave
I couldn't be more grateful for you Anna Jorgensen
You are so corny Anna,
A caution situation in front of caution tape.
To be clesr,corny = a positive quality person trait.
Emotional vulnerability is one of the bravest traits anyone can have! Glad you're here :))
Corny is one of my best qualities lol ;)
@YourWingmam you're the best Anna Jorgensen
There is a fine line. Sometimes being stoic can lead to cold heartedness. Lacking empathy. But never get emotional unless you
intend on breaking up.
The economy is breaking me down, i don’t think i can go on.
Made that mistake twice...
Never again...
🙏 ❤️
Key takeaway:
When a woman asks you what's wrong, her "concern" for your well-being pertains only to how it affects her.
Understanding woman is a scientific impossibility ! 😊
5:04 That's what's so screwed up. If I tell her what's wrong, it ends up in an argument. If I don't, I have to internalise it. That's not a partnership, it's a battle. Constantly having to weave and dodge to maintain a relationship, I believe, is the wrong relationship. I vote for mutual support. I can't deal with that BS and am now happily single.
If you're doing your best to be accountable in your own life and she can't or won't support you, wrong match.
@@YourWingmam Yes. Wrong match wasting 18 years of my life trying to make it work with a narcissist.
After watching this again, I think it's better to display zero negative emotions in front of a woman and handle them privately. Why in the hell would any guy want to add the extra step of including a woman in his feeling down, when the only objective of doing so is to convince her she won't be included in it?
Just convince her you never have problems or need to cry alone for 5 minutes when your dog dies or parent dies.
Waaaay too many games being suggested here that can be avoided by hiding my emotions, and/or avoiding having problems in the first place.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
or just don't date altogether. it's a no win game.
It's fine to be vulnerable - just know who you are being vulnerable with. Got to be careful.
U won’t know it until you show it
Showing vulnerability as a man is a risky gambit. I would not recommend it. Ever. Women discuss their feelings openly. With their friends. With thier family. With everyone and anyone who will listen. Never a good idea to show any weakness. Stay stoic my friends. Stay stoic.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
So glad I am now beyond all this unnecessary "NSFW term." Single and free to live life on my own terms. No games, no drama, no nonsense. Gentlemen, spend your time and efforts on developing yourself and none of this will matter. Experience what freedom really feels like. See you on the other side.
I understand why you need to take 3 days of silence because I don't want to describe enough problems to match your problems? Seriously? I think you misread the message. The man is obviously doing more regulating in the relationship & is comes off as a thoughtful, humble guy who is going to start things off by examining what he might be doing wrong. In fact he is doing nothing wrong here. A woman who gives 3 days of silent treatment is wrong. Do not normalize bad behavior.
Whether it's the man or woman who needs time to contemplate, the loving thing to do is to communicate that. Big difference between silent treatment to punish or manipulate and genuinely and lovingly expressing the need for contemplation. I've done other videos on manipulation to figure the difference (which lies in intention but can be discovered outwardly). :)
I appreciate everything you've said in this video, Anna, but I disagree on one key issue. The silent treatment that she's giving him is a massive red flag and screams both immaturity and a lack of accountability on her part.
My free advice to him is to say to her, "I've got this and I'm handling it. Also, while I appreciate your openness, I'm your man, not your therapist."
If that doesn't satisfy her, dump her and move on to somebody who actually appreciates you.
Well spoken! My thought also, an adult that goes into silent mode for days is not mature. Imagine acting like that at work. She would get fired, or at least a warning.
If he's perfect, sure. If he's not, then he may want to give her some grace but also discuss the dysfunctional behavioural pattern and set some boundaries with consequences. I have a GF who disappears when I give her advice she doesn't like. She's not a narcissist and she doesn't do it to "punish" me, she's simply not perfectly adept at handling what causes her to retreat (in fear) to ponder. If I sense her pulling away I give her gentle reassurance I'll still be here when she's had time to process it. She always thanks me and comes back with some new insight. I have no need to rush or push her. In this case, we don't know what his GF can do if she's never been given this opportunity. He must also state his needs in this type of situation. "When you... I feel.... What I need from you is... Can you do that?" Then gauge her reaction. I would expect that's the way most people would like to be called out for bad behaviour. In a loving way without ego. Does she apologize? Does she try to change her behaviour? (Try because no one changes an ingrained habit overnight.) Make sense?
@@YourWingmam Absolutely makes sense. You are one of my favorite RUclipsrs, Anna, and I appreciate everything you do for the community. Please keep up your excellent work.
Bruh, rookie mistake. Never show weakness.
Everyone makes mistakes. His minor mistake: not telling her he's handling it (vs aware of it, though to him it may have seemed the same thing); Her minor mistake: not communicating she needed time to process her emotions and would be back OR if applicable, her major mistake: using passive-aggression to punish him. 🚩
@@YourWingmamI feel like his mistake is saying so in the first place. Why mess with even showing it, when the expectation is to say it's being handled like it's dirty laundry? Waste of time.
Never let them see you bleed. 😂
According to the video, the mistake is showing vulnerability and then not following a script to convince the woman she's not actually supposed to care about it. 🤷♂️ Fucking bizarre
Stop saying Bruh. It makes you sound like an idiot
Unfortunately i think even the appearance of weakness, especially "weak vulnerability" can flip the switch.
Its easier just to not talk. Just ask her questions so she cant talk talk talk talk. She loves that.
Thanks for the video
Never, ever, ever show any weakness to a woman. They will use it on you. Always, always, always be strong. If they say anything at all about wanting to end the relationship tell them the road goes two directions pick one. Be ready to end the relationship right then. Anything else is stupidity and failure. Trust me, I’ve been in this situation just recently. I will never make that mistake again.
Weakness and vulnerability can be two different things. Saying I love you is vulnerable but not necessarily weak. Saying I need you or I can't live without you is weak.
@@YourWingmam What is so bad about both partners needing each other? They both work together and are better together than alone.
@@rascal211I think it's how "I need you" is delivered and the context behind it. If the man needs his partner to cope with life or w/e then that looks weak. If he needs her to raise their kids properly or something similar that's a something they both need to contribute to.
You could say it's like the man saying he needs her to run a 100m sprint vs needing her to run a 3-legged race. He should be able to do the first on his own, while the latter is a team effort.
Admiral Akbar knew better all along, "It's a trap!!!"
Am I the only guy who gets clicked baited than spaces out for the whole video not paying attention at all? Lol
seriously how many times we gonna ask this, NO they dont
It doesn't seem like you watched the video before writing your comment.
😂😂😂@@YourWingmam
It clearly says they do, and then you're supposed to tell them what you're doing about it so they no longer feel included and no longer feel that you're vulnerable.
Word games or a script, is what you're supposed to be doing/following. You just aren't trying hard enough to put on an act (right?)
A good insight was your statement about women wanting men to open up so they know the status of themselves in the relationship -- However women just interject themselves into things and places that have nothing to do with them in lot of cases . I think I know the difference between weakness sharing and sharing from a position of strength and sometimes I just need to get away and think a lot of times . I'd go camping on a weekend or fly fishing on some river by myself just to get quiet and not have anyone bothering me or disturbing my ficus .Fishing has always helped me focus because fly fishing takes a lot of focus and when I come back I'm usually better able to deal with any problems I may have . However there are women who just won't take no for an answer and they tend to trample through your time of focus and introspection like a bull in a china shop. Most of the time I'd just Iet them get mad and if they left, they left when I wouldn't let them come along . The few times I let women in to what I was doing, they just ruined my fishing trips . It's really ironic when women think they need space, men are supposed to give it to them, but when I've needed some space and load my truck with my gear they suddenly have to get involved . One time I was going fishing on a famous river and my girlfriend at the time just had to go and said I wouldn't even know she was there .There was great salmon run on and when I we got there I set up my tent and then she started asking about her safety if any one could get into the tent at night or about bears and mountain lions .So we wound up in an expensive hotel totally away from the fishing area .Then we had to eat an expensive dinner in the hotel restaurant. So the next day I got up early to get back to the river and she wanted to shower and go to breakfast first and when I got to the river about three hours late missing the first bite; she sat on a rock and cried until I quit fishing because she wasn't getting all the attention and said she wasn't having a good time . That weekend cost me nearly a thousand dollars --well almost eight hundred ,but this is what you get for not dumping like a bucket to make your girlfriend feel secure, because you keep a few thoughts to yourself. I just wanted to go fishing and to use that time to refocus myself because work had been extra crazy. I have to admit it was my fault for letting her come with me and ruin my weekend . I should have just said no but I was too frazzled from work that week and gave in.
Never take a woman on a mans journey. They don't get it, never will and don't care to learn, because they know it all.
I'm pretty up front and transparent. If she wants to judge me on anything, fine. I dont want to be with her anyway if my honesty turns her off. I am not interested in playing the masculine games. We doin this or nah? I got things to do
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I agree with @actmyage, having the positive attitude to fix the problem instead of the negative no hope attitude will win the day. Early in my failed marriage I got hit with a multitude of problems all at once and broke down crying in front of her. Lose of a child, lose of my best friend, and struggling with self medicating because of said issues. I was never treated the same by her afterwards. That's a bit of an extreme example, but when I showed that I lost all hope and wasn't the rock in the relationship it made her see me different I think. I'm ok now and learned a lot from that relationship. Thank you for the video!
Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m sorry for your loss, beyond words. 🫂
In the end it comes back to the same old problem doesn’t it? Men are not allowed to be weak. Period.
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it fills me with anger and rage on how people and society expect men to have natural common sense for knowing what is creepy behavior and what is not when approaching/interacting with women, they expect us men to just naturally get it, because of that, no wonder lots of men swear off on talking to women forever due to negative, bad experiences, from when approaching, interacting with women, not because of rejection, but because their approaches or advances were viewed as dangerous or uncomfortable, weird, their advances get called creepy or labeled as predators, made the woman uncomfortable, even though those men had good intentions, never meant any harm.
It angers me a lot because, lots of men get perceived that way and they unfortuneately never knew, they were never aware of what they did wrong when approaching or interacting with women, they just didn't know, because of that, i have the mindset that, men are the only gender that have to go through social failure, make painful mistakes socially in order to get better at talking to or interacting with the other sex, not women. Its impossible for women to get labeled creepy or weird, uncomfortable by men, that is a fact.
Thats how it looks like or seems like, yes im aware that women have their own problems to deal with, men and women have different problems when it comes to dating, but for women, messing up socially when interacting with men that causes the other sex to feel uncomfortable, creeped out or weird, or just being able to meet a man, get a man attracted to them, interested in them, is never an issue for women.
To sum it up, for me and lots of men, its not rejection that hurts, its the way that it happens, its the risk or chance of the woman feeling uncomfortable as soon as walk up to them and open our mouth.
Dear Anna:
Oh gosh, where to begin on this topic?
I must say from previous experiences, emotionally unhealthy women are looking for ammunition to use against us when they ask us to be vulnerable. I have been in the position where I have opened up and she would later throw it in my face every chance she got. Definitely a serious turn off, best to do is to walk away. I do know some good women want to be there and stand by their men, but if she is just looking for ways to have the upper hand in the relationship, it is time to move on. I believe some women just want to have both sides of the argument, the problem is that too much dating advice that is out there for women tells them relationships are a competition instead of a partnership. Just my opinion.
That is my comment for today, as usual a very thorough and informative video. I hope you have an amazing week, Anna. Hug and a peck on each cheek. I liked your outfit Anna, you look beautiful in the wind and inside the building.
Well written. I totally agree.
Dating advice for women is skewed, no question. Do not choose emotionally unhealthy women who look for ammunition to use against you. Have grace but also don't put up with toxic treatment. A man can and should express his standards, set boundaries and follow through on consequences. You can lovingly but firmly teach people how to treat you. ... Thank you for your thoughts and the compliment!
Same here
While a mans thoughts about what he wants and his actual wants will align nearly all the time, this isn't necessarily the case for women. I think that women can simultaneously think that they want things while not actually wanting them. It's a feminine dissonance. For instance, my gf told me some time ago that she wanted to take charge on planning some of our dates. Even though she clearly didn't enjoy it and even said so, she still thought that she wanted it because it would be more "fair". In my opinion these sorts of thoughts aren't organically generated but are adopted from more dominant social narratives, the male vulnerability one being a very stark example.
Brilliant, and true! A woman truly only wants to know enough to trust a man is *handling* is problems. If the relationship is new, she may need some detail, if the relationship is established, she'll based what she needs to know on how he's handled previous difficulties.
I gave up on women but i wouldn't show weakness to her
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I’ve tried the masculine/cocky persona. It worked on women but it was never me. After lots of dates I felt empty not being authentic to myself as the expressive/ nice guy I was raised to be.
More than an honer actually being able to speak , look and listen to someone so beautiful and intelligent as yourself Anna
This is another important and great topic indeed
Thank you for shining some light on this dark rainy Sunday I didn't even know what day it was until you showed up 😮
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This was very informative, delightful, and fun to watch
That timing of the honk was incredible lol
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how can you then find love if you can't be vulnerable. I mean if you can’t talk with her about meaningful matters, how can you then find love with the standard questioning “3 things on a remote island”?
I can’t love someone I don’t know.
Just amazes me how you were able to maintain your train of thought through all the complex things you explain and on top of it moving from location to location with all the distractions. Wonder woman!
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Hi ! You are always on top of things covering a wide range of topics !! Thank you for all your hard work and time consuming prep on all these video`s. I learn so much from them! your such a sweetheart indeed . God Bless
Laughing a little on the East Coast; Noted your button. .... and remembered what happened at my church a little over an hour earlier. Tech crew came up to me (after my sermon) and said, "We think there maybe something wrong with your lapel mic. You we were talking but we don't think it was going through our monitors and out for broadcast." I said, "I could hear myself fine over the internal speakers". They replied, "Yeah, you were cutting in and out, except it got a little funky when you got near other mics (altar, pulpit). We think their signals were somehow cancelling each other out." Your "missing" button reminded me of my own tech mishaps this morning. I kept wondering if you popped it. [Tease]
Lol, thanks for sharing that story! The button is there, I just forgot to do it up after get the mic through 🤦🏻♀️
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I think there is a right and wrong way for a man to show vulnerability. If he demonstrates it in a way that women generally tend to do so then it's a turn off. However if he does it the correct masculine way then the relationship should be secure. He retains his dignity and his strength and she retains her respect for him
For the algorithm and also thank you so much for your videos.
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Women need to truly figure out what they want. Do they want a masculine man who works out his own nproblems or do they want a feminist influenced man who talks about issues and appeases his woman by acting more like her? The issues comes down to who has control.
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Weak women will kill you for having a need. These are 2 diametrically. Opposed modes as a psychologist. If she's a keeper shes back you up. If not its probably me first. She sometimes has no clue.
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I have completed your course hope it helps my life thanks for the videos
I'm never opening up to a woman again. 😂
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The amount of stuff I have learned from this channel is insane 😅 like FR like it was one of your vid in which you told the signs a women is interested, and dude I WAS SHOOK that dude I missed upon so many 😂 and as of now not in any relationship, but I think just taking notes up for future. One thing I want to quote that idk about the behavior of western men but here in India, men when they roll in problems, they tend to like keep it to them not letting there better half know it, and many a times this creates frustrations and I personally have seen great relationship collapse due to lack of communication of about issues one faces specially from man side, and the relationships which go past this are those in which the women does show, a bit dominance to crack that hard layer of the guy to get to know what he is facing, because men over here does not like to open up to anyone 💀only they and few close buds will know something is up.
Basically sometimes the women, needs to smack a punch at the hard lining to get her man open to what he is facing, cause even if we try some of us just cannot go past that barrier which we developed while being groomed to be an adult, and for not only men many women too hide off there sufferings, and there men needs to break the hesitation lining, basically if you are into a relationship you sort of need to have a sense I think that, he or she is not acting as normal, or something is up, rather then thinking "OHH THEY WILL TELL IF ITS THE THING" ask once, if they don't leave it for sometime if things worsen up, initiate into the scene not taking full lead but just help out 😅🙂 specially with men, just listen out for once, put on hints let them do the thing, most of time being commanding or just taking the lead strikes the MALE EGO in even non egoistic men.
Overall, maintaining understanding, helping each other out when the times are against them even when they didn't asked, and a compromising (to a healthy limit) is how you keep relationships AND THIS IS WHOLE IDEA I HAVE BY NOW OF WHAT THIS STUFF IS (NOT DATED OR BEEN IN RELATIONSHIP YET, ALSO LIKE JUST TURNED 18 A MONTH AGO, SO I THINK MUCH OF THIS WOULD HAVE A TON OF FLAWS 😅😅)
Happy belated birthday! You're impressively self-aware for such a young man. Tolerance for vulnerability will vary somewhat by country and culture. For a culture like yours, a man may want to lean into vulnerability but feel even more resistant to do so. He may want to test the waters with something significantly minor like stating a preference (in any area) he's been withheld from sharing. Gauge her reaction, go from there. If she doesn't respond positively immediately, she may bring up the topic in future to explore as a way of inviting him to open up. Make sense?
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John Wayne or just Ken. What a grey area. It depends on the context AND the couple. Better to err on the side of stoicism
I dont think that relationship gets any better.
Very good advice as usual Anna,lovely dress too, always look so pretty!
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GREAT video! We are a complicated creatures. 🤗
Thank you and yes we are indeed!
I kept a habit of writing letters to my GF.
I always started with " Hello Anna " .... She always started with " Dear Sampath " ....
One day i started with " Dear Anna " and that day she changed ..... :))
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Wow. Great insight.
Much appreciated!
Save time: main message: be open and keep the woman informed (like everybody else). Women assume: not talking = not solving. Men: talking = wasting energy :DDD
All the "strong vulnerability" oxymoron thing begins 03:06. What I understood: if you have any problems, moreover, you have to re-assure even her, that it will have no impact on her. (Quite selfish.)
You remind me so much of the most wonderful therapist I ever had in my life, and even look a lot like her. Your videos resonate with me even more so for that reason, but the content is really good of course. Just wanted to say that because I think our sessions every time I see one of your videos! 😂👍
Stop simping lol
Good advice, I feel like nobody's perfect and everyone is vulnerable at times. The important thing I would think would be to just support the other in those times instead of judging the other person. Also I love your outfit, it's very cute Anna. 😊👍
You get it! I wrote something similar, though much longer winded, in a reply to someone else's comment. :)))
@@YourWingmam Thanks! I try haha. Always fun watching your videos!:)
The quickest way to lose the respect of a woman is to open up emotionally to appease her.
Strong and silent is the only way
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I like your responsiveness in your comments and please correct me if I'm misinterpreting you, but I believe what you are saying is, basically, that it's OK to say something like "Well, this is happening in my life and it makes me feel like XXX because of something my uncle did when I was five years old, and I'm on top of it and what I'm going to do about it, is XXX..." And what is not OK is telling your woman something like "😢 This is so upsetting to me and I'm scared and I don't know what to do and I'm going to take up drinking again and... Can you drive to the store and buy me some Ice cream?"
Option A is proactively addressing a stressor while simultaneously showing resolve and a can-do attitude while Option B is whiny and hiding and hoping your woman to make you feel better without facing the dilemma.
This is a big problem you know most of the times women say that they want a strong man and not an emotional one. Some women really don't care much about sharing our weakness, but instead they just want us to be strong and handle the situation on our own. I remember one woman who told me that men shouldn't take advice from a woman, but that same woman heard my stories and did encouraged me few times, but she is only my friend and she offered me help as well. So, I don't understand because one time she told me that men should be facing their problems alone and find a solution without sharing that to a woman, but at the same time she herself offered help as well.
She couldn't help but display her mother/nurture mode. Men and women generally want to be and feel helpful/useful.
@@YourWingmam I understand Anna thanks.
Men, HIRE A COUNCILOR. Talk with your bros, NEVER tell your lady your issues, problems, fears.
imo the golden mean is to hint that you are at the moment vulnerable, and you ll call her later.
We arriving to a point that having a relationship for men just a battle like a war. Always be there for your partner and your situation or feeling does not matter. When you have less blessed moments they will leave. Maybe it’s the standard nature but why spend time on loosing games 🤨
Vulnerability is good. But only in a committed loving relationship. During the attraction and dating, let’s not be too much vulnerable and focus on getting to know each other (and pass the tests of the ladies 😂).
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Remember gents, the Miranda warnings aren’t just for when the cops get hold of you. They are good advice in multiple situations, including this one
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One of major differences between men and women is that men can be nurturing yet women can’t.
Somehow women see being nurturing and loving as beneath them. Men see being nurturing as high value for both men and women to do with those they love
Also. Men can easily be nurturing and sexual.
We never lose our sexual desire or sexual power just because we are loving. Indeed for men love increases the sexual pleasure
Women cannot both love and be sexually attracted to the same man. For women it is one or other. They cannot understand how to be in love and sexually attracted to men at same time
I'll try to keep it in the realm : "My problem is not your problem"
When/if it is .. i'll share.
Good approach:)
Thanks!
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Exposing vulnerability to a woman is risky. On the one hand, showing her the limit to his strength could bring damage to the relationship. On the other hand -- HIS other hand, not hers, I didn't hear anything said about what he could gain from it, or what she might possibly do to help him. It was all about damage control to help HER accept the limit to his strength. Wouldn't the best damage control be to not test her in the first place? And why risk losing everything with nothing to gain?
Good advise always hinteck
Living in a perfect world advice..
Very true 😅
Looks like your hair grows out rather quickly. GOOD ! I personally prefer longer hair on women in general. -- I suppose there is a difference between telling her about something ( making her aware that I know and am dealing ) and and talking about ( searching for a solution through or from her ) the same thing...
Good video. Looking great there Gal. 😘
Fabulous Anna
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I would chalk this one up to another fine reason to remain single.
And what was that strange looking item on the ledge to the right in the background at 5:48?
The cat on the yellow chair must have gone to investigate.
I'm vulnerable to electric type attacks, water type attacks, fire type attacks, air type attacks, poison type attacks and more.
As the old saying goes, "You can not have your cake and eat it to"
Like your sense of humor.
True
These videos exhaust me. Too much to remember and too many hoops to jump through. Was there ever a time where relationships were simple? I want to live in those times. Seriously.
Always do opposite of what they say.
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It's one thing to be vulnerable in a stable functioning relationship. It's another when your partner is being clingy nonstop while sabotaging the relationship, unwittingly or not... It's the difference between two people escaping their problems through their emotions for each other (unhealthy love) and two people acknowledging and addressing their problems with each other's support (healthy love).
If you are with someone who is emotionally damaged (or you are) talk to a therapist. Love can't fix it.