Prayer will stop them. Call upon the Lord. When a narcissist becomes totally focused upon destroying you, call upon the name of the Lord for His divine intervention toward the evil that wants to destroy you!
@@bluebirdflyinglow I literally had to do this yesterday when I accidentally ran into him at the gym and he spewed venom at me for no apparent reason (I had gone no contact for 6 months) . I know it's not about me but I felt such a dark energy and inexplicable anger from this being that I just started praying when I got back in the car 😵💫😵💫
My mercy, feed me to the dogs, don't match pitch ugly, down and dirty, cesspool style, peace and harmony, and strength, dear Lord help my narcissist, my sister, help me Lord, I can't put people in the gutter, my mind is destroyed, help somebody, I think about you dear Lord
@@veronicasmith1147in some cases, if you can fight legally and intelligently, sure. After the fact? It depends. I probably could force my cousin, who tried to m*rd*r me indirectly, into a non disclosure agreement, but I am 72, chronically ill, and don't want to expend the energy. I'm a Christian, take with utmost seriousness what the Bible says about the Lord's eagerness to avenge His own, and "turned my cousin over" to the vengeance of God. Eight months later, my cousin, who is the most disgusting phony in the United States, was caught in a minor political scandal which if he had any smarts, he could have gotten out of with minimal embarrassment. Instead, being dumb and thinking himself brilliant, he made a series of moves over the next few years each of which only made his situation worse. It was amusing to watch from afar. I'd force myself to google him a couple of times a year to see how he was faring. Five years into it, his business had gone bankrupt. Years ago, one of my doctor's secretaries sabotaged a disability claim of mine. She had wanted to sleep with me and I had no intention of getting involved with her. ( No, the disability, though severe, would not have prevented THAT. ) There was nothing I or anyone else could do to her legally. The doctor was afraid I'd sue, so he tried to gaslight me. Believe me, I wish I could have sued him, but I needed him and the good opinion of other doctors more than I needed lawsuit money. Ten full years later, this gorgeous but dumb woman withheld test results on me from the doctor. ( Hell really does have no fury like a woman scorned. ) Surveillance video showed her doing this. She is essentially unemployable for the rest of her life.
@@veronicasmith1147Exactly. True strength comes from within. You have to be face-to-face head on with your fears and you have to take action to overcome them. God will always help those that help themselves. No point in waiting for someone to come along and save you.
Truly only those who have been through this can truly grasp this and why it’s like fight your way out of quick sand and the more you fight it the more they cling onto you
They allow the devil to work through them. I honestly have felt he was possessed. He attacked me at my core and made my soul ache. I have strong faith and it definitely felt like spiritual warfare to me.
It is spiritual battle 🙏 this is where we are today ! Darkness want to Ruin the world 🌎 Everyday we have to be close to God and stay true to yourself , pay attention closely everything you hear and see 👀 God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤
@@juliaotero2100 it is spiritual warfare they are agents of the original narcissist Lucifer who tired to overthrow our creator but was cast down Jesus rebuke him several time get behind me and thou shalt worship the Lord your God
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Ephesians 6:12
I’ve come to understand more and more it is indeed a spiritual war . And that a narcissist has entities attached driving their darkness and encouraging them to destroy you , to put out your light … making you feel unworthy , shame and guilt . Many of us as empaths were born into this spiritual warfare starting with a narcissist parent .
I did. Mom covert and dad overt. It was sheer chaos growing up. It took me 12 years to finally get that my parents don’t even like me, much less, love me. Maybe in some weird way. I want no part of it.
"Empaths/Empathic" is not of The Most High. It's a New Age term. It's best you do more research on that. Kris Reece has a great video on it. But yes, everything else you said about the victim is right.
Yep. Police knocked at my door and arrested me for domestic abuse. I'm a 56 kg woman and he's a 150 kg man. Needless to say, that's when my journey into the world of spiritual warfare began. Didn't even know what a narcissist was. One year on and the extrication is ongoing financially but the freedom from this demon is the most precious gift from the universe.
Whilst going through divorce to get away I felt like I was battling in a war blindfolded because I had no idea what was real. I married a monster and it took me over 30 years to realise.
Brilliant presentation! JESUS knew them , called them out, rebuked them, destroyed them but was never afraid or anxious about them. Narcissists are allowed in our lives so we can draw closer to the Lion of Judah and become as fearless and ruthless against evil as JESUS was and is and will be.
Good on you Paula for speaking up on this particular aspect of narcissistic abuse. Yes it exists and is very real. I’ve experienced this 8 years ago when I unmasked him and exposed a covert narcissist. Their soul is pitch black and there’s nothing there. They’re truly evil
Oh wow, "They are after your village..." That turned out to be exactly right. Home, farm, bank account.... self esteem, self confidence, independence, courage, sense of self worth, self-protection, finally even the will to live.... Reminds me of the parasitic disease which infects chosen ants, causing them to short-circuit and climb to the exposed and dangerous tip of a grass stalk to await their doom as the parasite's eggs hatch inside the ants and then feast on the unlucky host... 😳 I thank the Universe that i learned from friends and others what was going on, managed to get out, move away and have now been bo contact for months....and yes, life is finally good again, despite the losses previously. Getting away from the narcissist was definitely worth it. Now, i stay vigilant so it never happens again.
I am a scientist but I like your videos and reflections on the spiritual battle with regards to narcissism. There is a darkness and evil we need to recognize.
Thank you for sharing your teachings. I’m still mostly in the isolation phase, but I’m not allowing myself to be hard on myself about it. I’ve noticed that I’m coming out of it, slowly but steadily. I don’t know if I really have anything of great value to share about this journey through hell other than I do remind myself that I am so much stronger and resilient than my “adversary”. I survived through so much and, even though I know that I have been traumatized, I’m still in one piece! What I have learned from my experience is that there will come a point where you start to appreciate everything that you took for granted in the past. Example #1: I just recently learned that my credit score has increased and I now have a small line of credit that will serve as a lifeline for me for any unexpected expenses. I wasn’t able to get a credit card because my credit was annihilated by the situation. Example #2: I had to stop by the grocery store on a cloudy rainy day. When I came out of the store, the rain stopped and there was the most magnificent full DOUBLE rainbow in the sky. I saw it and literally gasped out loud because it was so vivid and beautiful. The point is that when you begin to notice the small things that are now beginning to come into your life, you are on the verge of the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for. Sometimes healing has to be done fluidly. There’s no timetable for when you can or should be healed from your trauma. Perhaps knowing that there’s no right or wrong way to heal, grieve, be angry or not angry, etc., is enough to be more gentle with yourself. Throw out the narcissistic narrative that has been created for you and just keep pushing through. Gently. Always gently.
The moment I awakened to my covert narcissist gf after 14 years, It suddenly dawned on me that my late mum ❤ had also suffered from this disorder. She raised the four of us as a single parent and was married 3 times (last husband being the long term victim through till her passing) This awakening not only registered as to what narcissism actually is, but instantaneously resolved and removed all anxieties upto and including my fear of death. Childhood trauma, in terms of unanswered questions relating to my Mum's past emotional states that i carried mentally could finally be processed and put to bed. In fact I'd never felt as free as I had in my entire life. Surviving narcissism will no doubt be my biggest achievement in this lifetime and i feel it was part of my soul plan / journey to cure the generational trauma of narcissism - at least in my direct bloodline. Having this new spiritual perspective towards the world we live and the people within seems to me like the ultimate gift. Thanks Paula always on the money as always x ❤🙏 🌎 👻
Thank you taking the time and sharing your knowledge with the world. Yes I do know, the narcissist is a dark dangerous being, I lived with one for 33 years . The aim of those beings is to destroy the light and life . I gained power back by teaming with a lawyer and a good therapist. Slowly I rebuilt myself up and appreciate the miracles in my day to day existence. To any person going through this pain , please have faith and resilience. God bless you all .
SO WELL DESCRIBED, they probably feel their actions as the end is worth the meant to attain their goals , but like immature irresponsible children every single only focused in the present time like is the first time they argue, all their lives without counting consequences , that’s how they spend their whole ruined lives, and ruining your life
Yes, I know what you’re talking about Paula, but it was as if no one else would understand the ominous spiritual dimension I have seen. I appreciate you for taking the time to address the very real reality of witnessing this darkness behind the mask.
Paula, listening to your message is as if you know me personally. Everything you have said resonates 100% with me. What is frightening is how many of these evil beings exist and how their actions are so similar to so many. They are sent from hell. Thank you for all of your videos as you have helped me to survive the very darkest days of my life. Im six months on from the discard now and peace and abundance have returned. Im happy again.
Good On YOU = You are on the Path to Freedom and BACK TO YOURSELF - - - Take It Intentionally Every Day = = Every Step of the Way = to FIND YOUR TRUE SELF AGAIN and Then Onward To Developing Your Even Better Self . Love and Light Always to You.
They come into agreement fully with all your intentions; every vow, covenant, promise, plan, goal; your very soul purpose of being here. And then they go about the mission of destroying exactly every single agreement and delivering you the polar opposite. This IS the definition of evil. GBY 🙏⚔️🙌
Same here - 15 years and by God's grace - He showed me what I was dealing with and gave me the strength to end it with my covert boyfriend - radical acceptance, no contact. Life is so much different now - I feel free and happy and blessed.
@AdamJamesEarlyChasebliss-ru8tq I wouldn't say it was all good. Thinking back now, there were a lot of red flags I ignored. But I didn't know people like this existed. Now I do.
Another great podcast paula, As usual all the stages that you mentioned resignated with me, especially my female narcassist telling me she had cancer,to me isolating myself , and myself being terrified of meeting someone new, just incase they are narcassitic, like she was ! Look forward to reading your book. 👍👍👍👍
This by far is one of the BEST podcasts iv heard described How Nacassism Effects us the spouses lovers sisters daughters mothers Iv escaped to all the above am free as a eagle at 66yrs of age❤
Trying to constantly win their approval or respect , or trying to stand up to them , are two things that will continue to diminish our very souls . However the light inside is , however it might have been diminished over time , is ultimately impossible to extinguish , and when we become enlightened it will burn once again with the brightness of a thousand stars ! 🙏❤️💪x
Dear Paula, 4 years before divorce( been 3 years in divorce fighting) I felt caught! All my inner light was gone! Didn’t want to be here any more! Me thinking this way, was so cruel, cause I love my three children so much! Experte told me in this situation, the divorce was the only way to come out of that darkness. So I did this! Now 15 years later i can understand and agree to every word you say in this podcast. I am so happy that experts gave me that advice and so so happy i am alive… to be there and with my grown children and my grand children! Thank god. Bless you Paula!
I was with a female covert narcissist for 9 years (from 24 - 33 years old), I only stayed so long in the hell of it because I was groomed for abuse as the family scapegoat since very young, by my covert narcissist "mother" who made me believe I deserved maltreatment. I have heard of instances where a mother will deliberately put her children in harms way of sexual predators. They can kill without conscience. But they (parasitic demons) prefer the long suffering type of death, to extract as much juice (supply) from their victim as possible (sweet / mean cycle). If their victim commits suicide they consider it a victory, and confirmation of their power and the victims weakness. They will attend the funeral, like a pyromaniac returns to the scene to witness and delight in the destruction. Narcissism is the spiritual scourge of humanity. I wish I didnt know about such a level of darkness and evil, but I am also thankful I can see them coming now and protect myself, but still, great damage has been done.
I have felt at the edge of wanting to take my own life multiple times over the years whilst dealing with the narcissist in my life. But the thing that's always stopped me is picturing her at my funeral front and centre, being comforted by others, and *knowing full well* that she caused it.
@@divinaluz7 I have considered the same drastic measure (even long after having no narcissists in my life) it is only normal to want to escape the torture by any means, especially when they make you feel powerless to escape. As I see it, as painful as it is to merely exist with all the trauma, suicide isnt an option as I know too much about the nature of reality, and its just a waste of time and achieves nothing. So its best foot forward into the healing. Do EVERYTHING you can within your means to heal. Get off drugs and alcohol, improve diet (quit sugar, and refined carbs), drink plenty of water, get into the sunshine, exercise, even if its just daily walks. Take good supplements that support the central nervous system, Magnesium Glycinate / Citrate. Heal the gut with probiotics and fermented foods. Take a good honest look at all the unhealthy coping mechanisms and transcend them one by one. A crisis may occur when you are just sitting and being with your feeling self ( I mean a much bigger crisis than usual) This crisis is a blessing, it brings radical change, because you realize you simply cant continue doing the same things and feeling the same way, any longer. Meditation is a high value endeavor, not just light meditation to relax, but deep, deep, real meditation. You get to a stage where you can simply observe your mind as if once removed. You dont need to stop your mind (you cant anyway, it has its own life and momentum) but you realize, through practice, that you can detach from the mind and observe it without prejudice for "good" or "bad" thoughts. That place of observation IS the healing place. The Witness Position. I encourage all who need to heal to discover this. A very powerful Being led me to this.
Satan is the first and greatest narcissist. He had great self aggrandizement and the total absence of empathy, the first thief and murderer. Read Gen. ch.3 carefully. He has taken narcissistic people captive in the darkness of self-worship. Protect yourself from them, but think of them as what they are, Satan’s victims, his tools he uses to attack you. Don’t lose empathy for them as people imprisoned by his darkness. Pray for their deliverance knowing that you cannot rescue them. Pray that the “eyes of their understanding be enlightened “ to God’s love and grace for “whosoever will” among the sinners of this world. Pray that “The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; …. Eph.1:18a; 3:14-20 etc.
I spoke on the spiritual aspect of it and we got into a Hugh argument. He didn’t want to speak about demons of course because he carried so many. Prayer is definitely key and doing the work. Thanking God Almighty for Love and Protection.
I experienced all 4 stages. I'm galvanized now. Still doing inner work but allowing myself to live as well as I can. I've come out through the meatgrinder experience. Thank you for your posts. I've seen behind the mask. Unless you been there ,you'd never believe it.
You have said it so well! You hit the narcissist nail right on its head!❤ The four stages are more clear for me now! Thank you, Paula and Remy, for the absolutely brilliant work that you have been doing to lift us out of such an incredible holistic battle, and I look forward to purchasing your book and I am now planning to share your book and podcasts with other women whom I believe have need of this battle strategy and battle armor; the Armor of God in Ephesians 6 with the light saber of His Word! I pity the narcissists in this world, I truly pray for their lost souls! However, it is important to remember that the battle belongs to the Lord, and I am grateful that I can recognize the enemy and build a firm wall around my village! I can refuse to let the enemy through my gates! I can stand and I can overcome! We can unite in our new awareness, in our wisdom! We are stronger together! I don’t think that I am a morbid masochist if I share that now that I have been through this darkness and see the light, I can honestly say that I’m grateful that the Lord allowed it in my journey! The air is so fresh and sweet, the purple and pink sunrise this morning over the horizon was priceless! Life is so precious! You are all precious souls! I salute you in this battle! The war has already been won! Paula is a courageous commanding officer, and Remy is like a calming added bit of canine assurance! God bless you and keep you! We are more than conquerors! Romans8
Yep, and after seeing behind the mask, you develop x-ray vision and see the same stuff in people all around you. I was hit in the face with Narc betrayal so hard that I cannot unsee it, and now Narcs in all my people groups are coming out and raging at me without restraint. It's really spooky, like they all know I know what they are and they can't stand being seen.
They are after your village!! Chilling. So right. Delivery tomorrow of your book. Already dealt with a Narcissist today. He tried to bait me and I let him know I wasn’t interested in his games. He smirked. So satisfying now to totally see these “Raiders of the villages “. God bless everyone from Minnesota
I’m the winner. I’m going to validate myself today. Two years and 6 months No Contact. I didn’t even move away. He knows he is the looser. Feels good today to hear Paula says this. Again she KNOWS what these creatures are doing. Thank you again Paula. Your spiritual take is your sword of truth.
The smirk in this encounter is so telling as it speaks to the game the narcissist plays. If you had continued to play his game there would have been no smirk because he would have to play the game of drawing you into his web. But once caught in his web the smirk would only appear when he had finished with you and the game had been played and you the game piece could be put aside and back in the box.
Thank you for being here Paula. The spiritual force really shook me up. I’m a super empath, Spiritualist and very intuitive Pisces . Learning that I may have attracted other Narcs’ in my past. After only 8 wks and going NO contact etc. (more than once). Well I began feeling him. Collapsing and being aggressive n drunk. Felt sexual energies and violent anger. Yesterday I forgot to protect myself in spirit/soul. A nasty light disguised as spiritual love essence came to me carrying an evil nasty energy. So we can’t underestimate just how dangerous those Narcs can be. I’m 61 but if I’d met him decades past it may have tipped me over. Thanking the ‘Universe’ for my escape/blessing/protection/learning 🙏
Narcissistic personality disoder seems to be the new plaque!! It is epidemic!! YES. IT HAS BECOME A SPIRITUAL WAR...! Many like myself with conscious responsibility and awareness realize how important it is to protect ourselves physically and mentally and psychically today in the world. THANK YOU FOR YOUR PODCASTS💜💜💜
Bingo, Paula what you say leaves me with my mouth open. 2 arrests, gaslighting, stealing, extorting... took my persian, read my other cat back with half an ear missing. Masquerades as a Christian, plays violin at church. Worst case scenario you have described. His mother confessed to me how she beat him as a child. 3rd wife, I persevere. God bless you.
Iam so Happy for you that your book your baby is born you are a wontherfull teacher and your information is so clear..........Thank you sweet Paula. Just from the heart❤❤❤❤❤❤
My ex would tell me that one of the things he liked about me was that I wasn't aware that I was attractive, like "You're pretty and you don't even know it" (which has a lot to do with low self esteem). They literally liked my insecurity.
Congratulations on your book Paula!!! I am SO proud of you! And we can’t forget Remmy, as he had a major part to play in all of this too!!! He got you out and about, walking off all that emotion, clearing your head for the next chapter to be written. I’m just so pleased…and so thankful for all the work you’ve done, so that you could be there for me ❤️❤️🙋♀️
Thank you Paula. You send chills down my spine everytime I listen to you. This one was truly inspiring for me. It is a spiritual war and I am in a very good place now. Took me a while to get out of the darkness that she left me in.
This is 100% true in my experience. There is a spiritual side to this. Spiritually I’ve seen the blackness in his eyes and the evil behind on the discard and when he put his arms around me to physically harm me I felt my energy leave my body when he stole it, intended to leave me for death and my hair went white and facial skin dropped in the event of an instant of horror. I don’t believe, I know! The discard is a Devine blessing because it ejects a narc from my life and resulted in my spiritual awakening. I was agnostic before and did not have spiritual belief until this attack from a narcissist. 🕊️❤️✨
I went through same /similar thing ,it really is a wake up call in many ways,all though painfull ,good will come from it ,am already seeing this in my own self validation now
One of the biggest needs across all of the narcissistic oriented channels is that there is a lot of explanation and thought around what is happening, but not enough practical explanation of what to do - besides going no contact. No contact isn’t all the answer. It’s not always possible, not immediately.
Spot on Paula! She was my mother. During her final months I went to look after her (she had other carers). I thought I could put everything aside, focus on making things nice for her, she would be the centre of attention, so she would be pleased and I would care for her as I had cared for my dearly loved pet when there wasn't much time left. It was the worst experience of my life. She started off in a rage and kept it up for 5 days. At one point I looked into her eyes and saw unmasked evil. I definitely experienced it as a spiritual war and when I left her house I knew I would never put myself through that again. I continued to visit her till she died and did all the things like settling her estate and clearing her house, but I never again put myself in harm's way with her. She could act like a nice person. She was a church goer, cultured and educated but she took sadistic pleasure in turning this off and on to see my reaction, which was usually confusion. My Dad and my two brothers all died young and so I felt compassion for her for "all she'd been through". As far as her children were concerned she hadn't been through anything. She just didn't care. I wish I could have seen it sooner and it's great to know there's a lot more education on this dismal topic now, so well done and thank you!
Thank goodness you are able to use psychology and spiritual knowledge as well. Psychology is useful but it does not have the whole story. So grateful for you and your knowledge and willingness to share it!
Thanks Paula. You're a bright light In dark day's. 🕊️🤍🌳🕯️🕊️ I remember walking in the bedroom. & I saw he's eyes turn Red. That's when i knew my life was in danger. 🕊️🕯️🌳🤍🕊️ He keep pushing me & pushing me.. I flipped out & After that i knew. I had to leave quitely &, I did. He tried to come back 3 year's later. Hell no. I'm aware. & Healing daily. Thank you Paula Thank you You're channel is ⚡A Life Saver.⚡ 🕊️🕯️🌳🤍🕊️.
Thank you so much for your help, Paula. I'm in a bad place and needed to hear it. These people are powerful! They are evil, I know because I was once able to support myself, I was happy, content, spiritual - not anymore, I'm broken. I'm old enough now, not to care about it. If I can move on, by the grace of God, I will. If not, at least I know what I am in God's eyes.
He's with you always! Stay with Him and he will guide you through. He is your strength. He knows your pain. Lean on Him and give it all over to Him. He will not forsake you. You are His precious child, and He loves you so very much. God bless you.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.“ John 15,5 ~ You can remain in Him with a prayer. You will feel the growth of strength and get new ideas. You begin to see the whole situation from different points of view. You will see a solution that you may not even know about today. I too experienced it like that, I was liberated and I wish you the same. Seek comfort in prayer in difficult times. It will lift you up🙏
I couldn't figure out what was wrong with my adult son. I was actually considering he needed an exorcism. I am so grateful to have found your channel. It helps to know someone completely understands.
People don’t want to admit the person they love is capable of high crimes & evil perverse behaviors - swarming in pain they are in love with a soul murderer
Thank you so much for this video. More and more people I know of have experienced spiritual abuse in a cult setting ran buy a narcissit or group of narcissists / enablers. Your help is extremely valuable.
God revealed to me right after that I married a narcissist I remember years ago his behavior was so awful and at that time my cousin called me and I was talking to her about they way he was acting and I said out loud narcissist the memories of my father hit me cause he was one who behaved identical to the one I married from there I planned my escape and grateful to God for allowing me to leave the narcissist knows where I live cause seeing me in the street in the town I live in I’m praying to move far looking to move back to NYC where I’m from God willing 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Got pregnant twice, had two baby’s 11 months apart. I got pregnant the first time like 3 months in, I had a miscarriage, the first one ever. I got pregnant 3 months after the miscarriage, than I had our first daughter. When she was 3 months old I found out I was 2 months pregnant. He definitely has help destroy me financially. We have had 4 cars in 6 years. I literally had 1 car since for several years. The first car we had was my very first car and had it for 16 years by that time. When he came along we put it back on the road and it died not too long after that. He wrecked two after that. And now we are on our 4th car. You are so correct in all of this. I knew he was a narcissist for a very long time. I wanted to end it all permanently at one point.
I’ve had cod and coos at my door. I have a 20 year old never had cps involved in my life, I have had the cops at my door because of the noise complaints or because people were concerned for the kids. Everyone around believes I am crazy and is on side they feel sorry for him but they have no idea the shit I have dealt with him. I have turned very hateful towards a lot of people
I can help because I went through this. I am a strong believer in god. I said to him “god, I can’t do this, only you can” I gave it all to God and then sure enough I saw him roll out miracle after miracle and everything worked out well. It also showed me to focus on the biblical scriptures. It’s all in there. One is something like: in this life you will have trials but god will provide solutions’ and Paul says to be content in ALL situations. The Bible and giving god all of these earthly problems and being obedient to god and not the earthly problems is the answer. Thank you so much for addressing this issue from a biblical perspective.
When you said "eyes of the narrcissist " my mind said "ice of the narrsissiist ". I shiver bringing back recall of the dark spirits ruling the narc. That spirit can be seen if you dare to look. I live to breath in life again bcz that energy has been disabled. It could only hold me IF I believe they are equal or better than me. I think That's their power. Thanks
I am here to say that the narcissist in my life sole aim and purpose is the end of my life. He (my father in law) has bullied and targeted me to the point of having a heart attack. While in hospital to his joy he confronted me, telling me to 'not make this incident such a big deal' and to 'stop drawing attention to myself'. Since my poor recovery and decline in health, his only retort to his daughter is that 'she's young and will find someone else'. When asked if he could help with our medical expenses the reply was 'certainly not' adding 'besides that's why I go to church to pray for such things'.
The words he said to you when you were hospitalized are the words that either his mother, or his father, or an important caregiver said to him when he was a child. They repeat endlessly the situations with "surrogates" (victims) that they experienced as children and that caused them narcissistic injuries. They have no chance to heal because they do not have a completed personality core (Self). There will always be a gap in his personality: the dis---order. Therefore, he wears a mask when in contact with others. The important thing to understand is that everything he is saying to you, he is basically saying to himself. Why? No one lives in the narcissist galaxy but them. It's a personality disorder.
@@berenicegalilea It is very interesting what you write here as I never thought of where this behavior began for the narcissist in my life. All the same it is immensely tragic to think that from such hurts spawned a willingness and need to inflict such harm onto others.
Hey Paula!!! Good to see you again! Thank you for sharing, it means so much, I am hear just doing a refresher course! Stay aware!!! Evil is lurking! Signs are signing!!! Jesus is King!!!!!!! God bless us all!!!!! ❤
Covert narcissist lives here, too. He's also a mental health professional. There's so much more. He disgusts & exhausts me. He records, then edits conversations to create specific narrative. Even the dog is affected
Dear Paula. Betty my other Staffordshire Bull Terrier, died this morning at 8.30am of heart failure brought on by grief, through a broken heart after losing her partner Dai two weeks ago. She was age 14, I'd had her on the sofa with me since 5.30am this morning when she was crying out for me. I put a blanket over her next to me, cuddling her in as her breathing was laboured. I wen't upstairs for a wash later at 8.15am and woke up ilona, i came back downstairs and Betty was convulsing under the blanket on the sofa. But she wasn't in pain, it's part of the dieing process as her heart and body was shutting down. Dog's don't feel that pain when their dieing thank God. ilona was stroking Betty and comforting her as she was convulsing, then Betty passed, and her body wen't all peaceful. Ilona felt all Betty's anxiety jump into her as Betty then wen't up to be with her partner Dai in heaven. We actually thought she hadn't died, and the reason she was laying there peaceful, was because she'd got all the grief out over Dai's passing. But sadly we were wrong. She didn't suffer physically, I now know why God had me do such a deep, intense study of animals having soul's in the bible. It was for my comfort to know that animals little, precious souls do go to heaven, and to comfort other's also with this fact when they lose their pet's. My two furry four legged children are now in heaven and their free, their with God, their with each other forever Betty and Dai. And I'll know I'll see them again and be with them forever, when it's my time to leave this world. I do have peace, but me and my wife are devastated, we've lost and had to bury both of our furry children in less than two weeks. Keep us both in your prayers please. Thanks.
I lost my little Maltese, Emma last Friday. My heart is still grieving her loss. She too had CHF. Losing a beloved pet always feels like a grief that never really heals. 😔
My prayers are with you as you grieve the passing of your fur children. We hear occasionally about couples who have been married for many years passing together or within a very short time. I think their love and soul ties are so enmeshed and full of light that they are "one".. and God won't keep them apart. What a beautiful thought. Someone once told me " I think if we truly knew what is on the other side of this life, we'd all be kicking and fighting to get there" May they meet up and chase bunnies and squirrels through golden pastures together and never be tired. I have held all of my fur kids as they took their final breath on this earth. So mama's face even with tears streaming, would be the last they see here as they fell asleep in my arms, knowing I gave them the very best I could, and the next they see is Jesus. God bless you and keep His love, grace, and peace also around you and your wife, to comfort you through this difficult life transition. 🙏
@user-lv2sb1nx3t Dear friend. My apologies for the late reply. Thank you for your kind words their most touching, and have brought warm feelings to my heart. Thanks for your prayers also, their very much appreciated. My babies are in heaven now having fun. Yours in our Lord and Saviours wonderful love. Reverend Alexander B. Eley BA Honours Degree Theology North Wales, UK.
Exactly this 💯 and truly chilling how exact you were - the detail of each phase - incredible! #protect yourself #strength in God/the Good/the universe/the light (whatever your belief). Paula, thank you. Let's all keep looking out for each other & keep up our💪and our light shining, y'all!💫💖💫
I don't want my ex narc to turn up at my Christian home knocking on my door. I'm not letting them in her and that demon. I will not welcome in a demon.
I am seeing demons in the people I thought were Christian friends taking over control of my house. I am having a hard time accepting that they have demons, but I sense that I am living on borrowed time in an evil haunted house and am systematically becoming enslaved by them. I regret every day letting them in 10 months ago because their parasitic switch brought on an immediate death to the friendship.
Thank you Paula Darcy That was excellent 👏 and i hope 🙏 people who have encountered this dynamic will be able to use your experiences, to arm themselves with these tools and be able to surmount this evil 😈 spiritual attack. Be brave stand on your beliefs in god and the universe ✨️ and you will overcome the darkness in this very real spiritual attack. Thank you Paula your a credit 👏 🙏to our legacy to infiltrate and destroy these scavengers of our 🌎 earth. Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
Thank you Paula🙏 During recovery I've been thinking quite a bit about the implications of being in the first ever romantic relationship with a narcissist and tips for navigating dating after healing. It's a very niche topic, which explains why it's not widely discussed in the context of narc abuse, but maybe someone can relate to this experience. It's really tough when all you know so far is love-bombing, uncertainty and fake promises
Thank you for your guidance and information. I survived my narcissistic mother, sister, brother, fiance, and a friendships. What you say is true it is a battle of the souls. When they choose to be bad, it reflects back onto them. I have done out of body experience and watched a black mass come out of my mouth when I was crying, then I felt better.
Thank you 🙏🏼 for your channel & this community, it keeps me strong every day to keep the doors closed to the Narcissist who almost took me out. Congratulations on your book, I’m looking forward to receiving the details. Keep up your amazing wisdom to keep people like me knowledgeable in this subject to step into our strongest place in this world! 🙏🏼 bless you & this community always!
This last video gave me the last revelation. Have been looking for just this answer from God. Why? Now I Know!!! What a revelation and thank you!!! A test of faith. I was ower 22 years whit a narcisist. ❤❤❤
Paula…Many of us “normal” people cannot understand why anyone would resort to vengeance for only giving a person a chance to be a decent person. This is especially true when from the beginning of the relationship I made it very clear that I was not going to allow an imbalance of power!
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Prayer will stop them. Call upon the Lord. When a narcissist becomes totally focused upon destroying you, call upon the name of the Lord for His divine intervention toward the evil that wants to destroy you!
@@bluebirdflyinglow I literally had to do this yesterday when I accidentally ran into him at the gym and he spewed venom at me for no apparent reason (I had gone no contact for 6 months) . I know it's not about me but I felt such a dark energy and inexplicable anger from this being that I just started praying when I got back in the car 😵💫😵💫
Prayer my foot it's the fight to the death that brings out strength in people that they don't know they have
My mercy, feed me to the dogs, don't match pitch ugly, down and dirty, cesspool style, peace and harmony, and strength, dear Lord help my narcissist, my sister, help me Lord, I can't put people in the gutter, my mind is destroyed, help somebody, I think about you dear Lord
@@veronicasmith1147in some cases, if you can fight legally and intelligently, sure. After the fact? It depends. I probably could force my cousin, who tried to m*rd*r me indirectly, into a non disclosure agreement, but I am 72, chronically ill, and don't want to expend the energy. I'm a Christian, take with utmost seriousness what the Bible says about the Lord's eagerness to avenge His own, and "turned my cousin over" to the vengeance of God. Eight months later, my cousin, who is the most disgusting phony in the United States, was caught in a minor political scandal which if he had any smarts, he could have gotten out of with minimal embarrassment. Instead, being dumb and thinking himself brilliant, he made a series of moves over the next few years each of which only made his situation worse.
It was amusing to watch from afar. I'd force myself to google him a couple of times a year to see how he was faring. Five years into it, his business had gone bankrupt.
Years ago, one of my doctor's secretaries sabotaged a disability claim of mine. She had wanted to sleep with me and I had no intention of getting involved with her. ( No, the disability, though severe, would not have prevented THAT. ) There was nothing I or anyone else could do to her legally. The doctor was afraid I'd sue, so he tried to gaslight me. Believe me, I wish I could have sued him, but I needed him and the good opinion of other doctors more than I needed lawsuit money.
Ten full years later, this gorgeous but dumb woman withheld test results on me from the doctor. ( Hell really does have no fury like a woman scorned. ) Surveillance video showed her doing this. She is essentially unemployable for the rest of her life.
@@veronicasmith1147Exactly. True strength comes from within. You have to be face-to-face head on with your fears and you have to take action to overcome them.
God will always help those that help themselves. No point in waiting for someone to come along and save you.
Truly only those who have been through this can truly grasp this and why it’s like fight your way out of quick sand and the more you fight it the more they cling onto you
They allow the devil to work through them. I honestly have felt he was possessed. He attacked me at my core and made my soul ache. I have strong faith and it definitely felt like spiritual warfare to me.
Exactly right
Yes. Including their lapses in memory are a sign of possession.
It is very soul damaging
It is spiritual battle 🙏 this is where we are today ! Darkness want to Ruin the world 🌎
Everyday we have to be close to God and stay true to yourself , pay attention closely everything you hear and see 👀
God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤
@@juliaotero2100 it is spiritual warfare they are agents of the original narcissist Lucifer who tired to overthrow our creator but was cast down Jesus rebuke him several time get behind me and thou shalt worship the Lord your God
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Ephesians 6:12
AMEN
AND God's WORD DOES NOT RETURN ONTO HIM VOID. His words are LIVING, ALIVE!!!!!
@@No-Name-f8p yes...amen
Wow.
@@maryhall1181alive quick and powerful
They took my kindness for weakness
and my weakness for granted.
Well said❤
I’ve come to understand more and more it is indeed a spiritual war . And that a narcissist has entities attached driving their darkness and encouraging them to destroy you , to put out your light … making you feel unworthy , shame and guilt .
Many of us as empaths were born into this spiritual warfare starting with a narcissist parent .
Put on the full armor of God
This is so spot on! Every word of it🎯
I did. Mom covert and dad overt. It was sheer chaos growing up. It took me 12 years to finally get that my parents don’t even like me, much less, love me. Maybe in some weird way. I want no part of it.
@@NatashaJennings-nh9nh yes started with my father who was a malignant kind
"Empaths/Empathic" is not of The Most High. It's a New Age term. It's best you do more research on that. Kris Reece has a great video on it. But yes, everything else you said about the victim is right.
Archangel Micheal gonna row that boat ashore.
Hallelujah!
Amen
Narcissists will also isolate you away from family and friends it’s definitely a spiritual war I’m glad your speaking about this thank you Paula❤
Completely and totally agree -- there is a darkness, a dark entity involved in these relationships. He was trying to destroy me.
Yep. Police knocked at my door and arrested me for domestic abuse. I'm a 56 kg woman and he's a 150 kg man. Needless to say, that's when my journey into the world of spiritual warfare began. Didn't even know what a narcissist was. One year on and the extrication is ongoing financially but the freedom from this demon is the most precious gift from the universe.
I'm in the thick of it now. Dear Lord please help me and my children. Make haste to help me.
It's not from the universe, it's from The Most High.
Whilst going through divorce to get away I felt like I was battling in a war blindfolded because I had no idea what was real. I married a monster and it took me over 30 years to realise.
Took me 25 yrs to
Brilliant presentation! JESUS knew them , called them out, rebuked them, destroyed them but was never afraid or anxious about them.
Narcissists are allowed in our lives so we can draw closer to the Lion of Judah and become as fearless and ruthless against evil as JESUS was and is and will be.
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I love this. Praise God ❤
Amen!!
Good on you Paula for speaking up on this particular aspect of narcissistic abuse. Yes it exists and is very real. I’ve experienced this 8 years ago when I unmasked him and exposed a covert narcissist. Their soul is pitch black and there’s nothing there. They’re truly evil
Another thing a Narcissist will try to do is to move the partner away from the family.
Oh wow, "They are after your village..." That turned out to be exactly right. Home, farm, bank account.... self esteem, self confidence, independence, courage, sense of self worth, self-protection, finally even the will to live....
Reminds me of the parasitic disease which infects chosen ants, causing them to short-circuit and climb to the exposed and dangerous tip of a grass stalk to await their doom as the parasite's eggs hatch inside the ants and then feast on the unlucky host...
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I thank the Universe that i learned from friends and others what was going on, managed to get out, move away and have now been bo contact for months....and yes, life is finally good again, despite the losses previously. Getting away from the narcissist was definitely worth it. Now, i stay vigilant so it never happens again.
I am a scientist but I like your videos and reflections on the spiritual battle with regards to narcissism. There is a darkness and evil we need to recognize.
This gladdens me. Praise the Lord!
Thank you for sharing your teachings. I’m still mostly in the isolation phase, but I’m not allowing myself to be hard on myself about it. I’ve noticed that I’m coming out of it, slowly but steadily.
I don’t know if I really have anything of great value to share about this journey through hell other than I do remind myself that I am so much stronger and resilient than my “adversary”. I survived through so much and, even though I know that I have been traumatized, I’m still in one piece!
What I have learned from my experience is that there will come a point where you start to appreciate everything that you took for granted in the past. Example #1: I just recently learned that my credit score has increased and I now have a small line of credit that will serve as a lifeline for me for any unexpected expenses. I wasn’t able to get a credit card because my credit was annihilated by the situation. Example #2: I had to stop by the grocery store on a cloudy rainy day. When I came out of the store, the rain stopped and there was the most magnificent full DOUBLE rainbow in the sky. I saw it and literally gasped out loud because it was so vivid and beautiful.
The point is that when you begin to notice the small things that are now beginning to come into your life, you are on the verge of the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for. Sometimes healing has to be done fluidly. There’s no timetable for when you can or should be healed from your trauma. Perhaps knowing that there’s no right or wrong way to heal, grieve, be angry or not angry, etc., is enough to be more gentle with yourself. Throw out the narcissistic narrative that has been created for you and just keep pushing through. Gently. Always gently.
THIS statement says it all --- "What I'm capable after what you've put me through... is a miracle" --- (abso-FREAKIN-lutely!!)
O MY GOODNESS!!! Your perspective of the spiritual aspect is POWERFUL!!! Blows me away to hear this! Thank you!
The moment I awakened to my covert narcissist gf after 14 years, It suddenly dawned on me that my late mum ❤ had also suffered from this disorder. She raised the four of us as a single parent and was married 3 times (last husband being the long term victim through till her passing) This awakening not only registered as to what narcissism actually is, but instantaneously resolved and removed all anxieties upto and including my fear of death. Childhood trauma, in terms of unanswered questions relating to my Mum's past emotional states that i carried mentally could finally be processed and put to bed. In fact I'd never felt as free as I had in my entire life. Surviving narcissism will no doubt be my biggest achievement in this lifetime and i feel it was part of my soul plan / journey to cure the generational trauma of narcissism - at least in my direct bloodline. Having this new spiritual perspective towards the world we live and the people within seems to me like the ultimate gift.
Thanks Paula always on the money as always x
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Thank you taking the time and sharing your knowledge with the world.
Yes I do know, the narcissist is a dark dangerous being, I lived with one for 33 years . The aim of those beings is to destroy the light and life .
I gained power back by teaming with a lawyer and a good therapist.
Slowly I rebuilt myself up and appreciate the miracles in my day to day existence.
To any person going through this pain , please have faith and resilience.
God bless you all .
SO WELL DESCRIBED, they probably feel their actions as the end is worth the meant to attain their goals , but like immature irresponsible children every single only focused in the present time like is the first time they argue, all their lives without counting consequences , that’s how they spend their whole ruined lives, and ruining your life
Yes, I know what you’re talking about Paula, but it was as if no one else would understand the ominous spiritual dimension I have seen. I appreciate you for taking the time to address the very real reality of witnessing this darkness behind the mask.
Paula, listening to your message is as if you know me personally. Everything you have said resonates 100% with me. What is frightening is how many of these evil beings exist and how their actions are so similar to so many. They are sent from hell. Thank you for all of your videos as you have helped me to survive the very darkest days of my life. Im six months on from the discard now and peace and abundance have returned. Im happy again.
Hang on, man, it will get better. It helps to realize that these are beings whose humanity has become so corrupted that it hardly exists anymore.
Wonderful to hear you’re uplifting news 🌹🐕
Good On YOU = You are on the Path to Freedom and BACK TO YOURSELF - - - Take It Intentionally Every Day = = Every Step of the Way = to FIND YOUR TRUE SELF AGAIN and Then Onward To Developing Your Even Better Self . Love and Light Always to You.
They come into agreement fully with all your intentions; every vow, covenant, promise, plan, goal; your very soul purpose of being here.
And then they go about the mission of destroying exactly every single agreement and delivering you the polar opposite.
This IS the definition of evil.
GBY 🙏⚔️🙌
🇹🇹🕊️🇹🇹 Hi. Congratulations on accomplishing your book launch. You are now a published author. Let all narcs take that! 🤭
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After 14 years together. God revealed him to me. I praise God every day. Thanks Paula and Remy. 🐕 ❤
Same here - 15 years and by God's grace - He showed me what I was dealing with and gave me the strength to end it with my covert boyfriend - radical acceptance, no contact. Life is so much different now - I feel free and happy and blessed.
Same for me, except it is my mother. God bless you.
14 years? So you had 14 GOOD years. Be thankful of those.
@@AdamJamesEarlyChasebliss-ru8tqWho said they were good years?
@AdamJamesEarlyChasebliss-ru8tq I wouldn't say it was all good. Thinking back now, there were a lot of red flags I ignored. But I didn't know people like this existed. Now I do.
Thanks Paula and Remy - you speak the ABSOLUTE TRUTH🐾🐶🙏
Another great podcast paula,
As usual all the stages that you mentioned resignated with me, especially my female narcassist telling me she had cancer,to me isolating myself , and myself being terrified of meeting someone new, just incase they are narcassitic, like she was !
Look forward to reading your book.
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My ex-narc spoke several times about the darkness that was inside him. In vulnerable moments, he admitted that he felt powerless to it
superb and awesome. Totally over the target. Chilling to hear , but so true. Thank you so much
You are so welcome
This by far is one of the BEST podcasts iv heard described
How Nacassism
Effects us the spouses lovers sisters daughters mothers
Iv escaped to all the above am free as a eagle at 66yrs of age❤
Trying to constantly win their approval or respect , or trying to stand up to them , are two things that will continue to diminish our very souls . However the light inside is , however it might have been diminished over time , is ultimately impossible to extinguish , and when we become enlightened it will burn once again with the brightness of a thousand stars ! 🙏❤️💪x
"They can't invade your village" ❤
The entire new community is trying to invade my village, its all ed by the devil cuz he big mad of the no contact with strict implementation
You are an angel walking amongst us❤️
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Dear Paula, 4 years before divorce( been 3 years in divorce fighting) I felt caught! All my inner light was gone! Didn’t want to be here any more! Me thinking this way, was so cruel, cause I love my three children so much!
Experte told me in this situation, the divorce was the only way to come out of that darkness. So I did this! Now 15 years later i can understand and agree to every word you say in this podcast.
I am so happy that experts gave me that advice and so so happy i am alive… to be there and with my grown children and my grand children! Thank god. Bless you Paula!
Thank you for sharing this story. ❤
That’s awesome!!! ❤
So happy for you! You got your life back ❤
@@Thunderbird359 🙌 I thank you! I am happy!!
Thank God for you Paula
I was with a female covert narcissist for 9 years (from 24 - 33 years old), I only stayed so long in the hell of it because I was groomed for abuse as the family scapegoat since very young, by my covert narcissist "mother" who made me believe I deserved maltreatment.
I have heard of instances where a mother will deliberately put her children in harms way of sexual predators. They can kill without conscience. But they (parasitic demons) prefer the long suffering type of death, to extract as much juice (supply) from their victim as possible (sweet / mean cycle). If their victim commits suicide they consider it a victory, and confirmation of their power and the victims weakness. They will attend the funeral, like a pyromaniac returns to the scene to witness and delight in the destruction. Narcissism is the spiritual scourge of humanity. I wish I didnt know about such a level of darkness and evil, but I am also thankful I can see them coming now and protect myself, but still, great damage has been done.
I have felt at the edge of wanting to take my own life multiple times over the years whilst dealing with the narcissist in my life. But the thing that's always stopped me is picturing her at my funeral front and centre, being comforted by others, and *knowing full well* that she caused it.
@@divinaluz7 I have considered the same drastic measure (even long after having no narcissists in my life) it is only normal to want to escape the torture by any means, especially when they make you feel powerless to escape. As I see it, as painful as it is to merely exist with all the trauma, suicide isnt an option as I know too much about the nature of reality, and its just a waste of time and achieves nothing. So its best foot forward into the healing. Do EVERYTHING you can within your means to heal. Get off drugs and alcohol, improve diet (quit sugar, and refined carbs), drink plenty of water, get into the sunshine, exercise, even if its just daily walks. Take good supplements that support the central nervous system, Magnesium Glycinate / Citrate. Heal the gut with probiotics and fermented foods.
Take a good honest look at all the unhealthy coping mechanisms and transcend them one by one. A crisis may occur when you are just sitting and being with your feeling self ( I mean a much bigger crisis than usual) This crisis is a blessing, it brings radical change, because you realize you simply cant continue doing the same things and feeling the same way, any longer. Meditation is a high value endeavor, not just light meditation to relax, but deep, deep, real meditation. You get to a stage where you can simply observe your mind as if once removed. You dont need to stop your mind (you cant anyway, it has its own life and momentum) but you realize, through practice, that you can detach from the mind and observe it without prejudice for "good" or "bad" thoughts. That place of observation IS the healing place. The Witness Position. I encourage all who need to heal to discover this. A very powerful Being led me to this.
Satan is the first and greatest narcissist. He had great self aggrandizement and the total absence of empathy, the first thief and murderer. Read Gen. ch.3 carefully. He has taken narcissistic people captive in the darkness of self-worship. Protect yourself from them, but think of them as what they are, Satan’s victims, his tools he uses to attack you. Don’t lose empathy for them as people imprisoned by his darkness. Pray for their deliverance knowing that you cannot rescue them. Pray that the “eyes of their understanding be enlightened “ to God’s love and grace for “whosoever will” among the sinners of this world. Pray that “The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; …. Eph.1:18a; 3:14-20 etc.
Yes love conquers all. Love breaks evil.
I spoke on the spiritual aspect of it and we got into a Hugh argument. He didn’t want to speak about demons of course because he carried so many. Prayer is definitely key and doing the work. Thanking God Almighty for Love and Protection.
Thank you for speaking on this topic, dear Paula.
Thank you. I have been healing for 12 months now. it is a long difficult inner journey. I need you videos to bolster my strength.
I experienced all 4 stages. I'm galvanized now. Still doing inner work but allowing myself to live as well as I can. I've come out through the meatgrinder experience. Thank you for your posts. I've seen behind the mask. Unless you been there ,you'd never believe it.
You have said it so well! You hit the narcissist nail right on its head!❤
The four stages are more clear for me now! Thank you, Paula and Remy, for the absolutely brilliant work that you have been doing to lift us out of such an incredible holistic battle, and I look forward to purchasing your book and I am now planning to share your book and podcasts with other women whom I believe have need of this battle strategy and battle armor; the Armor of God in Ephesians 6 with the light saber of His Word! I pity the narcissists in this world, I truly pray for their lost souls! However, it is important to remember that the battle belongs to the Lord, and I am grateful that I can recognize the enemy and build a firm wall around my village! I can refuse to let the enemy through my gates! I can stand and I can overcome! We can unite in our new awareness, in our wisdom! We are stronger together! I don’t think that I am a morbid masochist if I share that now that I have been through this darkness and see the light, I can honestly say that I’m grateful that the Lord allowed it in my journey! The air is so fresh and sweet, the purple and pink sunrise this morning over the horizon was priceless! Life is so precious! You are all precious souls! I salute you in this battle! The war has already been won! Paula is a courageous commanding officer, and Remy is like a calming added bit of canine assurance! God bless you and keep you! We are more than conquerors! Romans8
Yep, and after seeing behind the mask, you develop x-ray vision and see the same stuff in people all around you. I was hit in the face with Narc betrayal so hard that I cannot unsee it, and now Narcs in all my people groups are coming out and raging at me without restraint. It's really spooky, like they all know I know what they are and they can't stand being seen.
@@victoryamartin9773 they know you know I swear. I see them as the walking dead . Thank you for your reply
They are after your village!! Chilling. So right. Delivery tomorrow of your book. Already dealt with a Narcissist today. He tried to bait me and I let him know I wasn’t interested in his games. He smirked. So satisfying now to totally see these “Raiders of the villages “. God bless everyone from Minnesota
I’m the winner. I’m going to validate myself today. Two years and 6 months No Contact. I didn’t even move away. He knows he is the looser. Feels good today to hear Paula says this. Again she KNOWS what these creatures are doing. Thank you again Paula. Your spiritual take is your sword of truth.
The smirk in this encounter is so telling as it speaks to the game the narcissist plays. If you had continued to play his game there would have been no smirk because he would have to play the game of drawing you into his web. But once caught in his web the smirk would only appear when he had finished with you and the game had been played and you the game piece could be put aside and back in the box.
Thank you for being here Paula. The spiritual force really shook me up. I’m a super empath, Spiritualist and very intuitive Pisces . Learning that I may have attracted other Narcs’ in my past. After only 8 wks and going NO contact etc. (more than once). Well I began feeling him. Collapsing and being aggressive n drunk. Felt sexual energies and violent anger. Yesterday I forgot to protect myself in spirit/soul. A nasty light disguised as spiritual love essence came to me carrying an evil nasty energy. So we can’t underestimate just how dangerous those Narcs can be.
I’m 61 but if I’d met him decades past it may have tipped me over. Thanking the ‘Universe’ for my escape/blessing/protection/learning 🙏
So beautiful and eloquently spoken. I adore and how your words heal others. So very selfless ❤
Be gentle as lambs and wise as serpents ❤
Narcissistic personality disoder seems to be the new plaque!! It is epidemic!! YES. IT HAS BECOME A SPIRITUAL WAR...!
Many like myself with conscious responsibility and awareness realize how important it is to protect ourselves physically and mentally and psychically today in the world.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR PODCASTS💜💜💜
Bingo, Paula what you say leaves me with my mouth open. 2 arrests, gaslighting, stealing, extorting... took my persian, read my other cat back with half an ear missing. Masquerades as a Christian, plays violin at church.
Worst case scenario you have described. His mother confessed to me how she beat him as a child. 3rd wife, I persevere. God bless you.
Iam so Happy for you that your book your baby is born you are a wontherfull teacher and your information is so clear..........Thank you sweet Paula. Just from the heart❤❤❤❤❤❤
My ex literally said to me on one of our last days: I look for weaknesses...my 'weakness' is my love for living beings...
My ex would tell me that one of the things he liked about me was that I wasn't aware that I was attractive, like "You're pretty and you don't even know it" (which has a lot to do with low self esteem). They literally liked my insecurity.
@@autumn_flowers_5 yes, unbelievable people...cherish your attractiveness...🌺
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Congratulations on your book Paula!!! I am SO proud of you! And we can’t forget Remmy, as he had a major part to play in all of this too!!! He got you out and about, walking off all that emotion, clearing your head for the next chapter to be written. I’m just so pleased…and so thankful for all the work you’ve done, so that you could be there for me ❤️❤️🙋♀️
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Thank you Paula. You send chills down my spine everytime I listen to you. This one was truly inspiring for me. It is a spiritual war and I am in a very good place now. Took me a while to get out of the darkness that she left me in.
Move in silence.
The power of non-reaction.
Great video.
Thanks Paula love.
Saint Anger
This is 100% true in my experience. There is a spiritual side to this. Spiritually I’ve seen the blackness in his eyes and the evil behind on the discard and when he put his arms around me to physically harm me I felt my energy leave my body when he stole it, intended to leave me for death and my hair went white and facial skin dropped in the event of an instant of horror. I don’t believe, I know! The discard is a Devine blessing because it ejects a narc from my life and resulted in my spiritual awakening. I was agnostic before and did not have spiritual belief until this attack from a narcissist. 🕊️❤️✨
I went through same /similar thing ,it really is a wake up call in many ways,all though painfull ,good will come from it ,am already seeing this in my own self validation now
You are the best ❤
One of the biggest needs across all of the narcissistic oriented channels is that there is a lot of explanation and thought around what is happening, but not enough practical explanation of what to do - besides going no contact. No contact isn’t all the answer. It’s not always possible, not immediately.
Spot on Paula! She was my mother. During her final months I went to look after her (she had other carers).
I thought I could put everything aside, focus on making things nice for her, she would be the centre of attention, so she would be pleased and I would care for her as I had cared for my dearly loved pet when there wasn't much time left.
It was the worst experience of my life. She started off in a rage and kept it up for 5 days.
At one point I looked into her eyes and saw unmasked evil. I definitely experienced it as a spiritual war and when I left her house I knew I would never put myself through that again. I continued to visit her till she died and did all the things like settling her estate and clearing her house, but I never again put myself in harm's way with her.
She could act like a nice person. She was a church goer, cultured and educated but she took sadistic pleasure in turning this off and on to see my reaction, which was usually confusion.
My Dad and my two brothers all died young and so I felt compassion for her for "all she'd been through". As far as her children were concerned she hadn't been through anything. She just didn't care. I wish I could have seen it sooner and it's great to know there's a lot more education on this dismal topic now, so well done and thank you!
Thank goodness you are able to use psychology and spiritual knowledge as well. Psychology is useful but it does not have the whole story.
So grateful for you and your knowledge and willingness to share it!
Agree with you 100 percent Paula. Yep, I've seen it.
Thanks Paula.
You're a bright light
In dark day's.
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I remember walking in the bedroom. &
I saw he's eyes turn Red.
That's when i knew my life was in danger.
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He keep pushing me & pushing me..
I flipped out & After that i knew. I had to leave quitely &, I did.
He tried to come back 3 year's later.
Hell no. I'm aware.
& Healing daily.
Thank you Paula
Thank you
You're channel is
⚡A Life Saver.⚡
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Stay strong! ❤
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Thank you so much for your help, Paula. I'm in a bad place and needed to hear it. These people are powerful! They are evil, I know because I was once able to support myself, I was happy, content, spiritual - not anymore, I'm broken. I'm old enough now, not to care about it. If I can move on, by the grace of God, I will. If not, at least I know what I am in God's eyes.
Sending you hope and strength 🌹🐕
He's with you always! Stay with Him and he will guide you through. He is your strength. He knows your pain. Lean on Him and give it all over to Him. He will not forsake you. You are His precious child, and He loves you so very much. God bless you.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.“ John 15,5 ~ You can remain in Him with a prayer. You will feel the growth of strength and get new ideas. You begin to see the whole situation from different points of view. You will see a solution that you may not even know about today. I too experienced it like that, I was liberated and I wish you the same. Seek comfort in prayer in difficult times. It will lift you up🙏
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A belated Congratulations on your book Paula!! That's a major accomplishment!I hope it becomes a bestseller!!!❤❤❤
Good afternoon Paul and sweet Remy resting peacefully on his favorite spot congrats on your book Paula 🤩👏❤️❤️
I couldn't figure out what was wrong with my adult son. I was actually considering he needed an exorcism. I am so grateful to have found your channel. It helps to know someone completely understands.
🇹🇹🕊️🇹🇹 Peace & Love to you & Remy.
People don’t want to admit the person they love is capable of high crimes & evil perverse behaviors - swarming in pain they are in love with a soul murderer
Thank you so much for this video. More and more people I know of have experienced spiritual abuse in a cult setting ran buy a narcissit or group of narcissists / enablers. Your help is extremely valuable.
Thank you Paula for all of your videos that helps so many people
This is so validating. And so encouraging. ❤
God revealed to me right after that I married a narcissist I remember years ago his behavior was so awful and at that time my cousin called me and I was talking to her about they way he was acting and I said out loud narcissist the memories of my father hit me cause he was one who behaved identical to the one I married from there I planned my escape and grateful to God for allowing me to leave the narcissist knows where I live cause seeing me in the street in the town I live in I’m praying to move far looking to move back to NYC where I’m from God willing 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Omg you are so spot on i have goose bumps remembering 18 years back
Thanks Paula 🙏 Blessings to you!
Got pregnant twice, had two baby’s 11 months apart. I got pregnant the first time like 3 months in, I had a miscarriage, the first one ever. I got pregnant 3 months after the miscarriage, than I had our first daughter. When she was 3 months old I found out I was 2 months pregnant. He definitely has help destroy me financially. We have had 4 cars in 6 years. I literally had 1 car since for several years. The first car we had was my very first car and had it for 16 years by that time. When he came along we put it back on the road and it died not too long after that. He wrecked two after that. And now we are on our 4th car. You are so correct in all of this. I knew he was a narcissist for a very long time. I wanted to end it all permanently at one point.
I’ve had cod and coos at my door. I have a 20 year old never had cps involved in my life, I have had the cops at my door because of the noise complaints or because people were concerned for the kids. Everyone around believes I am crazy and is on side they feel sorry for him but they have no idea the shit I have dealt with him. I have turned very hateful towards a lot of people
I am leaving as soon as I can for my children!!
I’m always angry now always! I hate it I haven’t felt this angry since I was a teenager
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I can help because I went through this. I am a strong believer in god. I said to him “god, I can’t do this, only you can” I gave it all to God and then sure enough I saw him roll out miracle after miracle and everything worked out well. It also showed me to focus on the biblical scriptures. It’s all in there. One is something like: in this life you will have trials but god will provide solutions’ and Paul says to be content in ALL situations.
The Bible and giving god all of these earthly problems and being obedient to god and not the earthly problems is the answer. Thank you so much for addressing this issue from a biblical perspective.
When you said "eyes of the narrcissist " my mind said "ice of the narrsissiist ". I shiver bringing back recall of the dark spirits ruling the narc. That spirit can be seen if you dare to look. I live to breath in life again bcz that energy has been disabled. It could only hold me IF I believe they are equal or better than me. I think That's their power. Thanks
It is 100% spiritual.
I am here to say that the narcissist in my life sole aim and purpose is the end of my life. He (my father in law) has bullied and targeted me to the point of having a heart attack. While in hospital to his joy he confronted me, telling me to 'not make this incident such a big deal' and to 'stop drawing attention to myself'. Since my poor recovery and decline in health, his only retort to his daughter is that 'she's young and will find someone else'. When asked if he could help with our medical expenses the reply was 'certainly not' adding 'besides that's why I go to church to pray for such things'.
The words he said to you when you were hospitalized are the words that either his mother, or his father, or an important caregiver said to him when he was a child. They repeat endlessly the situations with "surrogates" (victims) that they experienced as children and that caused them narcissistic injuries. They have no chance to heal because they do not have a completed personality core (Self). There will always be a gap in his personality: the dis---order. Therefore, he wears a mask when in contact with others. The important thing to understand is that everything he is saying to you, he is basically saying to himself. Why? No one lives in the narcissist galaxy but them. It's a personality disorder.
@@berenicegalilea It is very interesting what you write here as I never thought of where this behavior began for the narcissist in my life. All the same it is immensely tragic to think that from such hurts spawned a willingness and need to inflict such harm onto others.
Bless you. God will give you wisdom like this to deal with evil warfare ...it can be defeated knowing truth
Jesus was sent by God to destroy the works of the devil. Black eyes are the demons manifesting
Keep making your videos paula, your giving so many of us guidance strength and support. I look foward to reading your book.
Thank you so much!
Hey Paula!!! Good to see you again! Thank you for sharing, it means so much, I am hear just doing a refresher course! Stay aware!!! Evil is lurking! Signs are signing!!! Jesus is King!!!!!!! God bless us all!!!!! ❤
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Covert narcissist lives here, too. He's also a mental health professional. There's so much more. He disgusts & exhausts me. He records, then edits conversations to create specific narrative. Even the dog is affected
Dear Paula.
Betty my other Staffordshire Bull Terrier, died this morning at 8.30am of heart failure brought on by grief, through a broken heart after losing her partner Dai two weeks ago.
She was age 14, I'd had her on the sofa with me since 5.30am this morning when she was crying out for me. I put a blanket over her next to me, cuddling her in as her breathing was laboured.
I wen't upstairs for a wash later at 8.15am and woke up ilona, i came back downstairs and Betty was convulsing under the blanket on the sofa.
But she wasn't in pain, it's part of the dieing process as her heart and body was shutting down. Dog's don't feel that pain when their dieing thank God.
ilona was stroking Betty and comforting her as she was convulsing, then Betty passed, and her body wen't all peaceful.
Ilona felt all Betty's anxiety jump into her as Betty then wen't up to be with her partner Dai in heaven.
We actually thought she hadn't died, and the reason she was laying there peaceful, was because she'd got all the grief out over Dai's passing.
But sadly we were wrong.
She didn't suffer physically, I now know why God had me do such a deep, intense study of animals having soul's in the bible.
It was for my comfort to know that animals little, precious souls do go to heaven, and to comfort other's also with this fact when they lose their pet's.
My two furry four legged children are now in heaven and their free, their with God, their with each other forever Betty and Dai. And I'll know I'll see them again and be with them forever, when it's my time to leave this world.
I do have peace, but me and my wife are devastated, we've lost and had to bury both of our furry children in less than two weeks.
Keep us both in your prayers please.
Thanks.
You’re in my prayers..she had you with her..I agree they’re together now and will be with you in spirit till it’s time to be together again 🌹🌹
@@NarcCon Dear Paula.
Apologies for the late response.
Thank you for your comforting, tender words, thank you for your prayers to.
God bless you girl.
I lost my little Maltese, Emma last Friday. My heart is still grieving her loss. She too had CHF. Losing a beloved pet always feels like a grief that never really heals. 😔
My prayers are with you as you grieve the passing of your fur children. We hear occasionally about couples who have been married for many years passing together or within a very short time. I think their love and soul ties are so enmeshed and full of light that they are "one".. and God won't keep them apart. What a beautiful thought. Someone once told me " I think if we truly knew what is on the other side of this life, we'd all be kicking and fighting to get there" May they meet up and chase bunnies and squirrels through golden pastures together and never be tired. I have held all of my fur kids as they took their final breath on this earth. So mama's face even with tears streaming, would be the last they see here as they fell asleep in my arms, knowing I gave them the very best I could, and the next they see is Jesus. God bless you and keep His love, grace, and peace also around you and your wife, to comfort you through this difficult life transition. 🙏
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Dear friend.
My apologies for the late reply.
Thank you for your kind words their most touching, and have brought warm feelings to my heart.
Thanks for your prayers also, their very much appreciated. My babies are in heaven now having fun.
Yours in our Lord and Saviours wonderful love.
Reverend Alexander B. Eley
BA Honours Degree Theology
North Wales, UK.
Exactly this 💯 and truly chilling how exact you were - the detail of each phase - incredible! #protect yourself #strength in God/the Good/the universe/the light (whatever your belief).
Paula, thank you. Let's all keep looking out for each other & keep up our💪and our light shining, y'all!💫💖💫
Amen
Thank you. Your films are brilliant, like they were inspired "from above". And for me this one is one if the best.
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Thank you for this encouraging content, Paula! 🙏🏼💕
I just adore that knit you are wearing. It definitely looks like a hand knit.
As always, I love your videos, keeping me on point as best as I can.
Oh thank you!
I don't want my ex narc to turn up at my Christian home knocking on my door. I'm not letting them in her and that demon. I will not welcome in a demon.
I am seeing demons in the people I thought were Christian friends taking over control of my house. I am having a hard time accepting that they have demons, but I sense that I am living on borrowed time in an evil haunted house and am systematically becoming enslaved by them. I regret every day letting them in 10 months ago because their parasitic switch brought on an immediate death to the friendship.
Excellent video! 🎉😊 Thank you for your time making it and posting. 💃💃
Keep goin deep sis.Never hide the truth in silence.Speak as God compells u.❤
Thank you, I will Eugene 🙋♀️🌹
Thank you Paula Darcy
That was excellent 👏 and i hope 🙏 people who have encountered this dynamic will be able to use your experiences, to arm themselves
with these tools and be able to surmount this evil 😈 spiritual attack.
Be brave stand on your beliefs in god and the universe ✨️ and you will overcome the darkness in this very real spiritual attack.
Thank you Paula your a credit 👏 🙏to our legacy to infiltrate and destroy these scavengers of our 🌎 earth.
Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
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I thank God for your help, Paula❤
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Thank you Paula🙏
During recovery I've been thinking quite a bit about the implications of being in the first ever romantic relationship with a narcissist and tips for navigating dating after healing. It's a very niche topic, which explains why it's not widely discussed in the context of narc abuse, but maybe someone can relate to this experience. It's really tough when all you know so far is love-bombing, uncertainty and fake promises
Thank you for your guidance and information. I survived my narcissistic mother, sister, brother, fiance, and a friendships.
What you say is true it is a battle of the souls. When they choose to be bad, it reflects back onto them.
I have done out of body experience and watched a black mass come out of my mouth when I was crying, then I felt better.
Thank you 🙏🏼 for your channel & this community, it keeps me strong every day to keep the doors closed to the Narcissist who almost took me out. Congratulations on your book, I’m looking forward to receiving the details. Keep up your amazing wisdom to keep people like me knowledgeable in this subject to step into our strongest place in this world! 🙏🏼 bless you & this community always!
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I always say: gaslighting IS witchcraft... And there's so much more damage too
It is! 💯
God is not the author of confusion! Satan is!
This last video gave me the last revelation. Have been looking for just this answer from God. Why? Now I Know!!! What a revelation and thank you!!! A test of faith. I was ower 22 years whit a narcisist. ❤❤❤
God reveals His answer in so many ways, doesn't He. He's always on time! God bless you in your healing through His Son Jesus, Christ. He loves you!
Love this its been a struggle 3 months in
You will strengthen in time. ♥️
I told her its over. And she won't leave me alone. Shes trying to destroy my music career. I feel it
Brilliant
Paula…Many of us “normal” people cannot understand why anyone would resort to vengeance for only giving a person a chance to be a decent person. This is especially true when from the beginning of the relationship I made it very clear that I was not going to allow an imbalance of power!
Hi Paula nice to see you again❤.
BLEZZ#KEEP DA CHANGE