The Narcissist Is The Gatekeeper Of Hell - How To Leave Them There
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
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A relationship with a covert narcissist will bring a narcissist’s primary supply target as close to a living hell psychologically, spiritually, emotionally and physically as it is possible to go in terms of human relationships. So many people are either distracted or taken completely away from their life’s purpose and lose self belief as a direct result of a relationship with a narcissist. Understanding and educating ourselves thoroughly as to what npd actually means will greatly facilitate a healing journey post discard or devaluation by a narcissistic individual. This show explains how self belief is the key to remaining far away from the gates of a narcissist’s hell.
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When the Narc runs into a happy, well-respected person, it is my opinion that their plan is to destroy that happy person, and that gives them much delight to watch their destruction. It is a sick game. They do not know how to love, this is as close to being happy as they can get. It is a numbers game. They brag. They feel superior when they can hurt some happy/ kind person. They are evil to enjoy their game. God will judge them.
I agree 100 percent. Narcs want to destroy their targets. They try to find the most accomplished, attractive, confident people they can because then they feel even more empowered to take that kind of person down and destroy them from the inside out. It is evil and so completely sick.
Agree 👍 so I see it too
It has happened to me a few times now.
I'm a well socialized person and seem to radiate joy for life, (even when it's been hard on me, for medical reasons).
These narcs will pick on the nearest target and because they are so angry and rageful, will do their darkest to try and make your life as miserable as theirs.
It happened 12 yrs ago with a neighbor, then when I moved, the drs office manager has tried to do the same, without a doubt, but I've handled that as best I could.
But the toughest reality, was finding out my own sister is a covert narcissist.
This really shook me to the core.
But I know what to do now, ignore, don't react and say no to any mediation, even when the police or anyone medical says to.
These people will lie, manipulate, and put on their mask of care to fool everyone.
Also out of sight, out of mind is a good way of trying to keep them from any further abuse.
I do think that boundary setting at the beginning of any relationship is very important to me since I've been used and abused by these evil shadows.
Sick f#ckers
This is so well written, I was completely tricked, let go of my home, stood down as a director of a company she didn't like. Was pushed into a place I didn't see my family for months at a time. All of which tactics to control me and have me at her beck and call, constant drama and upset.. I then discovered a complete mess of destruction behind her, men she used and treated like she treated me, she hates her sister, and her mother, she convinced her dad to divorce her mother then took his money and some land he had prior to his death. The more I discover the more my eyes were opened until I heard enough and blocked her and got away. I have never met someone so selfish with so much hate towards everyone.
The devastation after is total. Mind,body and soul. But the human spirit is amazing and resilient. The light always outshines the darkness.
Light shines brightest in the darkness, when it comes..
Depending on what type of light the person calls light. Darkness can masquerade as light.
Spiits are chameleons fake light.
@@cookiemama4that’s what the Holy Spirit said to me when split with the narc girlfriend. What does darkness and light have in common. And I’ve set you free from the snare of the fouler.
@@cookiemama4that’s what the Holy Spirit said to me when split with the narc girlfriend. What does darkness and light have in common. And I’ve set you free from the snare of the fouler.
Narcissists, particularly those of the malignant variety, undoubtedly embody the influence of malevolent forces. While the psychological establishment may refrain from acknowledging this reality, those of us who have endured their destructive power, akin to something demonic, recognize them as a pervasive evil in our midst.
Soulless
Absolutely……💕
I agree……
Managed to accept that this is how they are, and I moved on, and yet , this past week this person visited me in my dreams.
Had enough already (
Their abused children who never individuated from their toxic parents. Let’s stop blaming Satan or God and blame bad parenting
They’ll keep you confused, chaotic, and controlled.
I agree. The controlling part for me is the way this co-caregiver controls how I feel and react inside when I once again come face to face with her messing up everything I do in decorating my daughter's home, etc. An example is when she took the deco candle display I had in the bathroom and laid all 3 candles on their sides. It's every room, every weekend that I work. I now take pictures for my own files, since no one believes me. I was writing down all the incidents till it just became too many to keep up with. 😖
Best way to describe I’m so tired
Satan is the author of confusion 💯
this is how I am feeling with this narc I am very angry and hurt by him.. I am going to get rid of him I do not need him..
@@shelleyCollins-o6y once u get rid of him go no contact. It’s going to be difficult but pray your way through it.
It’s hard to believe how evil they are but when the mask shows “ believe it “ 😈
Yes 😈
Demonic best describes it, nothing like I had ever seen before nor want to see again. I was terrified.
This is why we can't look to any person for tbe love that we need to receive from God.
No ur making ur self less than. U are ....ur soul is the CREATOR of ALL. No need for man made gods.
Love urself n stop looking outward for love n appreciation.
U know king James was gay n hated women, right?
He had 4 male lovers n one was George the white Jesus DaVinci painted.
Truth
@888hereandnow - Absolutely true!
Amen God's love is better than any love I've ever experienced in my entire life.
@@MarkousMajorSurf it doesn’t matter what king James was it was not, and the fact that he was hated by the Catholic
They are possessed. It’s creepy and gross. Three and a half years no contact after clawing myself out of the pit. 16 wasted years. Ugh.. I woke up. I’m healing and have ensured he cannot come ANYWHERE near me.
so happy you got your life back!
@@dmc3202 Thank you❤️
You are on the journey of healing. Gratulation! And all the best for you! ❤
@@Bridget51-Z Thank you so much!❤️
Same 16 years as well, literally left a month ago on my own & in my own place and space. I am so grateful and relieved. Now I'm looking forward to healing and getting my life back on track at 48.
Correct.
If you can survive NPD abuse in any shape or form, then you can survive anything.
God bless you my Empath brethren.
Thank you Paula.
I totally agree. If you can survive a relationship with a narcissist you can survive anything.
Truth!!
@@lesleybrown1583
Yep truth is power, the real power of freedom.
God bless you.
I love how you see the spiritual side of Narcissism. I feel that is their core defect.
These people are sheer evil.
@@patskinner2706 Yep. 'Back to front' people.
Narcissists are Addicts running from their immense pain and shame from Childhood and they'll do Anything to avoid it.
I have come to believe they are addicts, yes, and the root is an addiction to hate ..... That's why they scoff at the notion of true love, compassion, mercy....etc..😳. God help us all...✨🕊️
Childhood defense is a default excuse. Sometimes yes true. Not always. That's a lot of psychobabble most of the time.
And I don't care. It's their damn problem.
No it's not. I've known a lot of Narcissists in my life. They aren't born that way. @@tammydacascos3572
Self hatred and Shame. Yes, God help us all. Amen to that.@@user-nf79
Everyone who has been through this shit (mine died in 2016) and done 11 years of research...its kind of like we are a little club. Or a MASSIVE club I lean on the latter. These parasites always destroy themselves and in my case die. But the damage they cause is immeasurable
Narcissistic abuse is a heinous crime.
How?
Blessing there goneI hate say!
How did he die?
You nailed it ❤
Narcissists take you on a trip to hell. They are your personal tour guide and your personal torturer. You have to choose to leave the hell that they would keep you trapped in (and never go back). I have come to conclude that, in the afterlife, “hell” is the place where malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths get to hang out together and where there is not an empath to be found. They get to torture each other and we will get to hang out together and have a very pleasant time together, elsewhere.
I was thinking about this concept as well just last week- it makes sense
Such a profound explanation of hell.
Hell is described in the Bible as separation from God, darkness and gnashing of teeth. Good people don’t go to Heaven and bad people go to hell, saved people who are born again followers of Christ who’s sins have been covered by the blood go to Heaven, Unsaved people who rejected God’s Son after he sent him to pay for our sins are headed for hell, so please if you haven’t accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, consider it.🙏
My personal opinion - heaven and hell are both existing simultaneously on earth right now. You can be in hell through no major fault of your own, but as long as you have the holy spirit in your heart, you will get free of it, but not forget. That's what my experience of Narcissistic Abuse has made me feel.
@@JH-td4mn
While I would agree that there's a high level of hell on earth right now, and there is also joy and peace from the heavenly, there is still a literal heaven and hell in the future.
I certainly do respect your feelings and emotions about this. The narcissist is constantly dragging us toward a breaking point with their hellish intent. It feels like hell surrounding us like a constant thick, dark cloud.. But without my faith in God, I would be swallowed up in that dark cloud!
I'm gaining much insight into NPD and it's helping me a lot to have found this information. It also shows me the way out, how to walk toward light and cut off the darkness behind me.
The narcissist in my life is a co- caregiver of my paraplegic daughter. She has made my life a living hell, but I haven't confronted her except for 3 times in the last 9 months, in order to spare my daughter, who is still suffering the trauma of being sh o t by a stalker. So I held it all in. But this past weekend, my heart broke and I poured it out to my daughter.
I'm grateful for those who are here, all of whom are or have been, suffering greatly because of being the target of a narcissist whose goal in life is to destroy us in order to make themselves feel good!
I apologize for the long post. I guess I have held this in for so long, this is the first I've known about what's been happening to me. I had to look it up online.. I've been learning for about 6 weeks now.
Holding hands as we move forward toward the light, with the darkness at our back! 🥀🕊
Jan
Escaped and no contact for ten years now - lost every family member in the process, but at least peace now. Will never turn back.
❤i am heading there
congratulations ❤
Congratulations I walked away from my family a few years ago. I'll always love them and I forgive them but I refuse to tolerate or accept their abuse and their justification is delusional.
Here too, no contact I believe 9 years, my narc mother officially died this morning, got other family members who died (before) and saw angels or loved once, not my mother, I heard she saw one man she did not even know.. I suspect she did not go to heaven.
@@MarVlas sorry to hear about your loss but I too went no contact with my narc father and narc family. Ilk keep you in my prayers and unfortunately she's probably not going to the promised land.
Its about time the law caught up with narcissists for the abuse they inflict on others.
Yes but give me heads up before u do I'm not evil I'm love and light it's the darkness that surrounds me❤🙏
They lie so well. Often the law believes them . Create your own law . Being Stoic and careful are good laws to follow . In other words dont give a care about them and look after yourself. God and Karma will take care of them . And is already doing so.
Cops corrupt and fully Darvo victim blamers on the narcs payroll and their evil places that should not be are guarded
I think public opinion is catching up to that fact
They r the law...they are the judges...they are the rulers of this dark world.
There is a true connection between the narcissist and the dark side. I witnessed a demon sitting on my ex's shoulder, and ordered it out of my home. It disappeared. That man came home from work one day, and instead of a loving kiss, he thrust his tongue into my mouth. I felt violated! Not long after that, his coming-home kiss was a full set of teeth on my mouth! Just like a snake, first the tongue, next the bite. Evil is just under the surface waiting to strike. Do not believe their innocent facade. They have made pacts with the dark one.
Tomorrow is Easter Sunday. The dark one lost its fight with Jesus. I know that my faith in God and His unconditional love for me saved me from that evil quagmire. Never forget in the power of prayer.
Thank you, Paula. This meant a lot to me.
I saw a demon manifest in my ex husband. It looked just like the Grinch
Bless you dear sister.
Thank u I've been praying I need someone to help me I have no money they took it all not w dime to my name they play wit my mental state I just need someone I trust and to be around and wants what is best for me 🙏💔🙏💔💔😫😫😫
Thank you
You validated what I saw in mothers eyes.
I believe in the Blood of Jesus to wash out the vile evil & not just wash it out but Destroy it. ❣️❣️❣️
Two years No Contact. It can be done with discipline, encouragement and education from content creators like Paula. I actually said to myself the other day, “I’m not thinking about the Narcissist at all”. Two years of hard work and self reflection. Totally worth it. On Good Friday, God the Father rescued me from the Gatekeeper of Hell. He held my hand and never let go. It can be done. You are worth it.
❤same!
Amen
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Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏
Thank you. I’ve had 2 long term relationships. 10 years and my ex husband for 18. NPD both. Family full of Narcissists. I was in the greenhouse too long. Got the education 2 years ago. If you don’t know it’s a mystery. Understanding it is an epiphany.
The narcissist is at hell,raging and depressed with his demons. I am ok
Hi Paula. I was in this hellish rollercoaster for 30 years. 4 attempted suicides. By the grace of God I eventually walk out at age 54. I am slowly but surely getting my life back on track. Actually busy writing a book now but it was pure hell revisiting the horrible experiences litterally. He almost killed me a few time. I am at peace with myself now.
I am much older than you, but I would of liked to write a book too, but I am not well at the moment, but write down the sneaky evil things it did and said as I remember them. And maybe one day I will meet a writer and pass them on to them, if you write a book would you put this sneaky evil incident in it. When I was young and just strapped the children in their car seats, I put my hand between the car door and the rim, it slammed the door closed so hard, that if I didn't have a gold bangle on, I think it would of taken my hand off. I still have the bangle with the dint in it. Then, it never entered my head that someone would do that on purpose to a young mother. But a few years later it just tried to break my hands, These things suffer from jealousy, and maybe it was jealous that I played the piano. All the best with the book, and everything else.
@@paulinesterry7810why don't you audio record yourself telling the stories? It doesn't have to be a book it can be a collection of storytelling- it might be very helpful for many people. You could just upload the stories to RUclips. I would listen!
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Thank you never thought of that. @@GemmaCraft
@@paulinesterry7810 When I was a teenager my parents were fighting (as every day) inside the car in movement. So, I opened the door and said: "Stop or I will jump out". My narcissistic mother cried inmediately: "Die". I never had a N partner but having been "raised" by a N mother is a daily nightmare and still fighting at more than 50 years old
They expect you to sweep everything under the rug and put up with their abuse. He would even say this to me. What? No!
Exactly wth NOOOOO
The LEACHES FROM HELL.
Ooh i see
If their children start to succeed, they will destroy them completely for life.
My wounds are still bleeding in my seventies.
@@avanellehansen4525sweetheart 😢❤
Omg 😱 I just saw this. He’s doing the same to a son of ours. I feel sick. God will help us. I do believe there’s an evil altar of sacrifice but yes time to pray. 🙏 💯
They can't accept losing.
Omg is this true? That is horrible.
It's so hard to turn off the "tape/program" in your head that you're not good enough when you are a child of a narcissistic parent. I'll be trying to overcome this abuse for the rest of my life. What a horrid thing to do to any human being. Love to all ❤
You should read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson. It has helped me immensely with understanding all of this and learning ways to overcome the conditioning and trauma
20 years of adoring and worshipping , trying everything I could to win their approval and affirmation , worn down to almost nothing over time , hoping that they would give me the love and respect I truly deserved . Then over the pandemic with thousands dying every day , one petty jab too far , one more snide remark too many , something inside me FINALLY SNAPPED ! It was against this bleak backdrop that I went TOTAL NO CONTACT ! Three years on I am proud to be living proof that you can move on , and after a long period of reflection and rebuilding I am now a much better and STRONGER version of my original self ! They thought I'd lost my mind , betrayed them , and had no doubt launched the all too predictable smear campaign to maintain their image of superiority ! Despite everything I don't regret a thing , it was all a learning curve , and for that I actually thank them ! Never again will I allow anyone to control and define my truth or my reality ! I wish them no harm , hope they go on to find happiness , because ultimately I have got back the one thing that I was missing , and that was ME ! ❤️🙏❤️
Bravo‼️
You said it ALL in one paragraph thank you!
Me about 50years with a VERY covert NM. Me yes, the same.
The Brainwash took away my real life I could have had.
So much trashing of my goodness ,erasing my soul,
groveling to her, lifting her up her demand(covert) and raging if I disagreed to save my little place on earth.
I lived with the enemy and didn’t know it. I was a broken adult child attempting to live a separate adult life and couldn’t,
and didn’t know how and still didn’t know to what DEEP extent this Evil woman “mother”, was attacking me .
Destruction her very intention,
Still she’s the same at 95yrs old. Her oldest daughter me at 71. I lived a fake”half life”
If it is a malignant mother and u are the daughter AND scapegoat for the family The process to heal is arduous and long.
Thank you for this site THANK GOD for these platforms of knowledge. I just wish they were here earlier.
@@lorrainenicoletti6232 It's sad , but SUCH a relief to know that we WERE right all along !!
You say you wish them no harm, but for me-- it's only human of me to laugh at them as disasters happen in their life away from me
I gained 40 pounds married to him and divorced 3 months ago I've already lost 35 pounds
Good for you!!
You are beautiful 🤩
Cortisol and stress. You are always anxious around them and don’t realize till you get away.
Yes…… This is exactly how demonic spirits work…….They come to kill, steal, and destroy.
Thank you, Paula for the awesome video.
Hugs from JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
yep
once you see the black eyes of evil.. you'll never forget it.. nothing to fear though as they are very very WEAK!!!! 😁
very weak
I feel for you. I've seen that, too.
Yes to the black eyes. I've seen them!
I witnessed the black pupils May 13, 2023. I will never forget that. I've been legally married to a monster for 12 years. On that day, he slithered off to shack up with his coworker. Im still trying to finalize the divorce
And cowardly .
it really screws up with your health, doing irreparable damage.
They are pure evil!
The snake in the garden gaslit Eve questioning her truth and reality charmingly. Boundaries are godly. God has many clear boundaries and the snake encouraged boundaries to be loosened. Wolf in sheep’s clothing. It’s alllllll over the Bible.
That's what woke me up after leaving. I was just sitting out on my porch and it all just washed right over me and I said, WOW! this is the whole Bible straight back to the garden.
They pull you into separation and feed off your actions there.
Malignant narcissists always find supporters to destroy others, but the victims resist alone cause no one stands by their side. There's something really wrong in the equation ! And it is the opposite of Christian faith and ethics! Be courageous and stand against the evil!
Well stated. Completely agree. It happened to me and I survived it. It’s sad and shocking that your own countryman, neighbors, classmates, people who you thought were your friends, etc. would seek to destroy you in which I could comment much more in regard to this. I will say that JESUS protected me as I experienced completely Biblical end times spiritual warfare! Not to mention the witchcraft involved in the attempts to tear me down. Jesus…The Name above all names. Thank you Jesus!
I relate to this
@@lilij1915I also relate. Its hard to believe they have the sbility to turn so many people against you when they are the one lying cheating and stealing. Im mot yet out. Im so weak physically and mentally from all the abuse i dont have the dtrength and mental capacity to fight him right now. Tje exhaustion that i cant shake. I want it all to stop. I need time alone to process it all. To ne left alone to sleep to cry to rage to come out of the fog to find my direction. Im stuck in this pit of snxiety, fear, depression, isolation, desperation and exhaustion. Everyday i beg God for a solution to this nightmare. I dont know what to do. I dont if my thoughts are to ven rational at this point in order to make a decision about what or how to do this. I know something must be done soon. . ive never been this afraid or sure that if i dont figure it out soon i wont get another chance. I feel him here rven when hes not. He said some things to me recently that have only been thoughts in my head. He knows something. He is much more dangerous than i realized. Ive always known he was but this by far has become the most terrifying situation i have ever been in. I feel the heaviness in the air. The last energy is crazy in my home. All around me. I dont know what's going to happen but most assuredly something is. And a part of me is still trauma bonded to him. This is definitely diabolical. Theres no other way to explain any of it. I pray some light bulb goes off. I pray i find that door or window is open and i find it in time.
Ok so, before I even listen to this vid, I want to tell you I walked 6 miles today, and remembered something you said about saying out loud, “what am I leaving behind?”
I went through the list in my head.
Someone who rages
Someone who doesn’t communicate
Someone who gaslight and punishes
Someone who is not there for me through thick and thin
Someone who can dish it out, but can’t take it
Someone who blame shifts
Someone who tells offensive jokes
Someone who belittle people
Someone who minimizes my efforts
Someone who leaves me literally in the dark.
So…what am I leaving behind??? Yeah….THAT STUFF
Nice walking 🚶
Such a good way of letting go
This is a great way to sum it up
It's not someone. THAT'S the horror. Because everything in that list describes them all. It's not a real person hiding behind those 'defence mechanisms'.
There's NOBODY THERE to appeal to. The child died. They couldn't keep on being feeble, AND be aggressive, grandiose, cold, cruel, etc. No, there's no other human in the room with you.
Even after decades pass these demons never change Those of us who escape their clutches are their karma and genrational pushback of this evil thats been passed down via abuse
Your comment is very affirming to me. Thank you!❤️
Yup, they never ever change!
We are their karma, divorcing one as we speak, discarded me over lack of financial supply, adultery, deception, breaking vows left and right, manipulation, betrayal, triangulation, gossip to new and old supply about our marital issues and silent treatment to me about those issues, backstabbing, secretive dB life, I'd had ENOUGH! Still recovering and healing afterw4 months no contact. Marriage last only six months..imposter mate. Narc husband getting residual karma for past evil deeds against decent folks he burned bridges with and..I BLEW UP THE BRIDGE FINALLY after he threw me away, spiritual empath angel....HE IS FINISHED! DIVINE JUDGMENT KARMA HAS BEEN UNLEASHED!
The person that tormented me seems to be thriving. Meanwhile I’m in therapy and deal with trauma
Same. Hugs. @@lilij1915
Narcissist healing mantra, read this aloud three times per day, three times over (mean it and do not doubt its power):
1. It is not about me. It is not my fault. The narcissist lives inside his/her mind and reacts only to internal dynamics. S/he is out of touch with reality.
2. I was chosen by the narcissist because of his/her needs and fantasy - not because of WHO I am.
3. The narcissist was compelled to devalue and discard me in order to exorcise his/her inner “demons”. I could have done nothing to prevent it and neither could the narcissist.
Ty
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Paula, he told me..." I feel so at peace when I'm around you." But that's funny because I felt nothing but anxiety. Never knew what was gonna cunningly come out of his mouth to hurt me. He felt at peace 1. Because I have Jesus and his Holy Spirit.... and He has demons instead....and 2. Because he was sucking my peace and giving me his anxiety. He worked on a 2-3 week cycle... Love bomb to disappearing.... Lol this last time I knew he was going to ghost so I just ghosted at the same time. I asked God why, and he said, " I am protecting you." Such peace filled my soul. God gave me the closure. Love ya, Paula! Thanks so much.
Similar to Laban concerning Jacob your ex was blessed by your presence. To bad he didn't see the value of what he was privy to and decide to make the choice to change. that could have been an even bigger lesson in his life
Genesis 30:27, KJV
And Laban said unto him, I pray thee, if I have found favour in thine eyes, tarry: for I have learned by experience that the Lord hath blessed me for thy sake.
In finances the love bomb and devalue is called pump and dump. It achieves the same ends. Pump someone up until you get what you want and dump them.
Oh wow never heard of this!!! This evil is a game that a played every where to generate money or Energie or just the illusion of godlikekyness. Oh what a shame and foulish thing which human tried to trick themselves all along! But there are other human beeing that full of love and that’s what I prefer!
That is sick and evil! Never heard of this either. Thanks for mentioning this.
It got so bad I had a vision. A real vision of Satan's face. The narc was not there, Satan himself was showed his face very close, glaring at me with eyes filled with utter contempt and hatred. I have never seen such anger but yet sheer exhaustion as if he had not slept in 10,000 years.
In that very millisecond, rather than recoil or scream with fright, I laughed. Laughed in his face and yelled gtf away from me!! Well, his expression instantly changed from fury to abject disappointment. Sadness. Deep, deep sorrow and defeat.
From that moment, 10 years of extreme narc abuse began to unravel. And now NC 1 year.
I truly know for a fact after this very real experience that I will never forget, that it is Satan himself.
They don't sleep if at all it couldn't even be called resting.
Proverbs 4:16, KJV
For they sleep not, except they have done mischief; And their sleep is taken away, unless they cause some to fall.
Yes I’ve seen a demon many times in my mother’s face. It takes over.
The eyes either become constricted or black.
One time I remember as a child taking a nap next to her and suddenly being attacked by an evil spirit - a mocking evil spirit who hated me.
If you remove yourself, no contact.
And fill yourself with the Holy Spirit ❤ The Narcissist, Or demonic entity.
That you are giving so much time to even after the traumatic situation will No longer control you.
We all need Jesus 🙏🏽
I totally accept that now❤
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It is ONLY through the grace of GOD that you can escape and heal from this living hell. Remember that.
I think my narc mother is dying soon in the parasitic arms of my narcissistic sister. I am the discard of entire family and ex intimate. I could vomit my pain, my cry, my rage, my truth. I stand on vengeance is for the lord.
I am sorry that you had to endure that. You must be very strong. Peace
You are so right Paula. I have suffered years of scapegoating and narcissistic abuse from siblings and their troops of monkeys. They chewed me up, sucked me dry and leave me for dead. They want me dead or to suffer in grave ways. I am struggling to keep life - God is keeping me around! Please keep me your prayers. Thank you Paula❤🙏🏽
Same here with all my siblings. No contact.the last was 2 years ago.
I personally encourage everyone to “try” to find compassion and empathy and ultimately FORGIVENESS for narcissists due to whatever they went through, to no fault of their own due to genetics, epigenetic vulnerabilities and various types of adverse childhood upbringing, or trauma, or multiple types of issues w parents, environmental stresses (drugs, other chronic stress exposure) family members or caregivers.
After you forgive them. LEAVE. Never go backward and keep moving forward in making the most of the life you have left.
Always “try” to associate w people who value and appreciate you, instead of tolerate or disrespect or abuse you mentally, emotionally or physically. Learn to care & Love yourself first!
Best wishes!
Just run while you can... and hand them over to Gods judgement.... .don't give them any space in your head...block them......take back your love and give it to yourself. ..God will help you if you ask him
@@marymcdermott9581DIVINE JUDGMENT AND RETRIBUTION IS UNLEASHED! Word from the spirit realm has spread. No rest for these haters of love. Going around deceiving REAL LOVERS OF LOVE! ❤
Forgive them, and pray that Yah will give them the mind to reject the evil spirits that they willingly gave access to their soul. The power to be set free is within them and it is up to them to choose to be set free. THERE ARE NO EXCUSES TO REMAIN INFILTRATED BY NEPHILIM SPIRITS.
You can forgive if the abuser(s) apologized having treated you badly (over years). If they show no sign of regret, you simply distance yourself from them. And be careful in your choice of acquaintances and potential friends in order not to be trapped by another abuser. Work in your self-respect and self-caring. Then your life will turn out to be beautiful. Keep moving in that direction and don't look back. Be grateful for your freedom and the help you got from the spiritual realm in your attempts and achievements to get your life back after those dark times.
No fault of their own????!!!!!!
Excuse me!!!?
God gave all of us free will!! All of us.
My mother came from a family of 4 children. All close in age. All w a raging abusive alcoholic father and then an abusive stepfather.
The oldest daughter had the worst of it. My aunt. She chose to be loving, kind, gave her heart to Jesus - at her funeral many people attested to her loving kindness.The 2nd oldest her brother was sexually abused and put in a mental institution for a year at 10 years old after having a mental breakdown from it . Today he is still loving, kind very shy and very broken but wouldn’t hurt a flea.
The youngest daughter my aunt was spoiled and grew up to be selfish but she is not mean spirited and never hurts anyone w her words or actions.
My mother the third child chose to be a narcissist. She chose the dark side. She is vindictive, envious, jealous, hurt her baby sister when they were younger, relishes people’s pain.
God does not make anyone a narcissist!
It is a choice!
And with each act , they harden their heart a little more. If they do not have the Holy Spirit in them , they can be possessed with evil spirits.
This is the case w my mother.
Please stop making excuses for these people. I used to do this and suffered years of abuse from her for it.
Of course as Christians we forgive but forgiveness does not mean you have to be in a relationship with them.
Read the Bible. Even God does not reconcile with those who refuse to repent. There is a hell and God created hell for them and the fallen angels. God is just.
❤☮️ Hello!
I pray everyone out there healing from the results of narc abuse! WE ARE WORTHY! 🎉🎉
The devil called me today. He texted me twice in the last year, then called about 2 weeks ago and then today. All these times I didn't answer. He scares me. I can't forget when I saw "IT". And he literally tortured me. I don't want to give any interaction to him - to give him any reason to put me in play..
🙏🙏🙏 For you
Stay STRONG! You are a precious, beautiful soul! You don't need to be "entertainment" for the monster! There are SO many wonderful things planned for you- freedom, love and the fulfillment of YOUR DREAMS!🙏
Rebuke that devil in the name of Jesus. Block him. I had to delete social media because he was reaching out to me. Then found out I was being stalked by other Narcs from work. Delicately got mad about it and I. Told them to busy to be on social media. I don't have time.
Run from the gate keeper! It’s true they are filled with demons. Can you fight unseen demonic forces you have trouble describing from the fog they create? Run run run go no contact.
How do you know he called?
That's a rhetorical question. "Satan" still has your phone number. Take control, change your phone number, and don't let him have it.
You don't want to give any interaction to him. So take control and prevent him from doing so.
Hi Paula, yep! They make you feel amazing, so much so you wear your soul on your sleeve, then they use misdirection, magic, and steal it while you're not looking... lock it up in their soul cave and use it for themselves..then they become you and you are left an empty shell.......I'm going back every night in my dreams with a file and breaking my soul out.. I'll get there... she's so busy with the new supply and having so much fun with the new mask I don't even think she's noticing..The whole spiritual aspect of this plays a big role in recovery, I will be whole again, I've just got a whole lot of filing to do...😁🙏☮️ Oh! Woof woof Remy! 🐕😁
Woof..Remy says you have a great name 🐕
🙏hah he's a good old soul! Tell him thankyou...😁☮️
The first thing I’m noticing is how comfortable your dog lying in the settee with a lovely log fire burning he/she must be in Heaven!
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It pulled me to her channel. And wow she’s telling my story
Hi, Paula. Everything you've said is true. They are the gatekeepers of hell. I loved being the bonsai with the beautiful sun, I felt so loved, but then he started to water me with arsenic. My good friend and my faith held me up and turned off his tap.
Paula this hit the 🎯,,this was excellent,,it is Spiritual Warfare,,I believe the x was out to ruin me and my Soul,,,,t.y.paula🌼💜🕊️💜
Me too you almost won until i pull the plug now he want to be friends never he will burn in hell
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Don't rejoice that he will burn in hell. Rejoice that you are free from it now.. 💜🕊
I am left with the dog sheba and jesus christ and his word he gives me strength,even in pain I find joy,while they bring drama and fear.good work.from ireland
Dogs give unconditional love.
This video hit home. I remember that after all the abuse I eventually started to distance myself from him. I flourished and was feeling so much better since I was basically finally healing from all the pain. We had already broke up, but somehow kept as so-called “friends”. His vibe around me was so negative. He hated so much that I was doing so good and had managed to survive. It was right there and then that I realized that his malice knows no limit. He was upset because he didn’t manage to destroy me, he was upset because I was no longer begging for mercy. Narcissists are indeed children of Satan. I decided to go totally no contact. It was hard, so hard to realize that someone I loved so much was so deprive of love and empathy. It was hard to admit that he got a high out of my pain and misery. It is a heartbreaking experience
Great analogy! The hardest thing for me has been the loss of what could have been, even though I *know* the idea was unachievable. It's the same as hero*n use. Once you taste it, even if you never touch it again, life simply can't provide that feeling. Ever. It *was* manufactured, it *was* too perfect, it *wasn't* realistic, it *wasn't* sustainable, etc. But you DID feel it, it was tangible for a minute & it ruins everything, ongoing. Mourning the loss & doing alllll the practical things recommended has never cut it. For me, at least. Thanks for all you do & your tenacity Paula ❤
I will agree! Hard but true! You tasted the „forbidden“ fruit and no other will come near! And you know it. you have to live with this knowledge!
Or die trying it again and again. But in the end it’s your decision!
you explain the aftermath perfectly. The memory of the relationship haunts me daily. I have to battle the grief and hopelessness and feel like I’ll never win. We have to have faith and push forward. It’s the most lonely feeling on earth
@@heatherwagar5868 it will get better. But this feeling of unconditional love the narc let you nipped off to make you addicted, is what you have to generate out of you own!
Wonderful information. It still shocks me to hear what others experience from a covert narcissist.. It's painful because I feel relief that I'm not alone (sadly), and there is help and healing, which is desperately needed after a narcissist destroys even your closest family members, turning them against you. That's the hardest pill to swallow.. losing my whole family because they were drawn in by a master manipulator, and turned against me.
I used to see families who fought and hated on each other, etc, and I would thank God my family wasn't like that. Now, they are. And I'm shocked to my core..
same
@@HeidiHoughsame same!
Same here! I left to protect my kids from him. And now I've been alienated from them for 13 yrs.
It's a seducing spirit!
Everything is INVERTED.
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That's sadly true..
Me too and the narc is my mother!
You’re right, as you said right at the start of the video, let’s leave them standing in their world. The more you look at them, the more the empath needs to decide and discern that there is nothing for them in the narcissist’s world. That’s where you leave to claim and embrace the joys within your own life. There is little point in being misery bound.
Love this ❤
Don't look back.
I came to write here - that in my very first EMDR healing session when the coach asked me to ask my psychopath dead aunt why she killed my father and destroyed our family beyond comprehension - her actual words to me were "I am the gatekeeper of hell, the war is not personal. I am evil, you are good - and I have to destroy you, before you destroy millions like me." This video title says everything alone. Thanks for this!
Hi,Beautiful. Look at that sleepy happy old puppy. God bless you!✝️😁😻😻😻😻
Thank you! You too!
These beings are the worst. I grew up with a parent with NPD and highly suspect a sibling. I've encountered my fair share of narcissists and they attempt to leave one with an energetic signature of toxic shame, which is cumbersome to navigate. They ALL have the same patterns and their motives are sinister to say the least. l don't practice any religion, nor am I knocking anyone who does. I said all that to say, dealing with individuals led me to believe that the devil is real. And it's sad for us who honestly wanted the best for them. Smh
With God all things are possible
If the devil is real then so is God. That's why He allows it! We can't heal from a spiritual affliction without God the healer.
staying sober , moved , and moving on the best i can , i’m handsome, a good person and being positive
Describing us as their bonsai tree is very apt. They couldn’t bear us growing bigger than them and want us stunted and below them and under their control and dependent on them. A bonsai is very small and weak and vulnerable. 😢
Yes. And any new growth is pinched back.
U feel u can no longer trust anyone after being with them, they mess u up so much, its hard to even move on, cause u now have trust issues, i also have social anxiety, you question your own judgement, its hard to tell nowadays whos got good intentions, ❤ im working on healing, self love, growth and moving forward, im at peace, Thanks Paula love your channel ❤️
Always looking out there to seek attention,can’t get enough,but once they have you your nothing! Only the good stuff is out there!
This is exactly where I have been and it is devastating to one's self-esteem, especially if like me you were not very confident to begin with. I cut contact with my narc a year ago but then re-established contact a couple of weeks ago and all the angst has come flooding back & I still want to please this person even though I suspect they are mentally ill. It is a demonic power.
Trauma bonded. You will have to go no contact to heal. Hard to do if you have children with them, but only minimal contact then and only about the children.
You can do this!!!❤
What shocks me
Is the ring of enablers around them. With a community one
( or religious one as in my mother) - its Vast...
The relatives /
Even MY friends & an ex
They use to try to get you back. They love to use guilt & shaming. Society can do this too...
" it IS your Mum" comments.
After escaping the narc relationship it is so much clearer to see it (signs) in other people.
They can look normal and smily. And suddenly turn out to be so frightening in their look that you dont even see in horror films.
It over 4 months now, I wonder, will I ever be the person I was, kind ,caring, understanding, now I've very little, tolerance, I'm over reactive, I dout myself, I'm anger,at how this happened.
Same here
That's what I'm in the process of. But it's the beginning of our healing, once we see and understand it.
Be gentle with yourself..🥀🕊
Hi, it's an uncomfortable stage for sure... ❤ what I found helpful was vid's on over-writing the introjects - Sam Vaknin & Richard Grannon did a vid a couple of yrs ago on here that describes how to remove the invasive thoughts / introjects left behind from 'them' - this stage I found integral for clearing the way ✨ to rebuild ❤️ alongside lots of self care, journaling, nature & meditation 💖
Exactly what I feel and been wandering about the same thing.
If you want to you will. It's going to take time
Oh, Paula, there is so much of your passion coming through in this message! And once again, you open new doors and windows of insight into what this whole experience is. I love the thought of how once we come through the Herculean task of getting our sanity back, we can get back to who we were, and our original purpose before being sidetracked by a narcissist. Getting away from these unfathomably inhuman individuals and getting back into the light is like being born again! Happy Easter to you, and many, many blessings I wish for you as you continue to bless us. 🌺
Happy Easter and thank you so very much 🌹🙏
While being triangulated and discarded after 21 years married, I spent YEARS saying I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone and that it was as if my ex-husband had been taken over by an alien. I hadn't found your channel and learned about narcs until recently and everything falls into place now, but it is truly surreal and the more time you've been with them, the more surreal it is. I'm very thankful for you and your insights...and Remy of course!
Close, reptilian.
The snake in bible was one.
Research the Anazi tribe.
Statues of them all over the world.
They get in low vibration ppl. Always looking for good ppl to torment. Laugh at them.
My daughters nickname is Hells Bells, I call her Bells instead of Belinda…I set boundaries, it comes in cycles, I do understand it, I must stay for the grandchildren…🌸💕
You dont hear much about narcissistic daughters. I have one and I stay for the grandchildren, but its getting so bad she’s turning their little minds against me. I may have to just move on from it all
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Thank you. I healed really quickly through your videos. I use to tell the narc he is hell's gatekeeper
Great video. I think it's the level of cruelty they inflict on you that is so hard to deal with. How someone can raise you up so high and just abandon you without any care. It is mental cruelty. I sometimes wonder if we are ever able to come to terms with this level of torture inflicted upon us. The Narcissist is truly demonic. Thanks Paula. x
Wow, Paula,
I felt you were in my little living room discussing my life with me. This video has helped me so much in affirming my new life's pathway and the fulfilling journey that lies ahead...
I feel privileged and honored to know you. And now I know that you feel the same way for your community of "survivors to thrivers." This has been my goal of healing ✨️ I began with quitting smoking 🚬 approximately 16 months ago and now I am working on recovering from an Adrenal burnout that slammed my metabolism into the ground afterwards. My nerves are SHOT and I know my limits.
Building strength through 🚶♀️ walking and yoga 🧘♂️ and continued healthy whole foods. Just this last month or so ,I have felt a real shift in my perspective and optimism.
Thank you, and give Remy a big kiss from me.
Wonderful to hear this news 🙋♀️🐕
@@NarcCon Thank you again Paula. My self care goal is to get back into the studio space and creative work that got "put aside" for a long time. I'll get there....health comes first. 🙏🚶♀🧘♀💖
I felt amazing in the love bomb stage and the fun times were a feeling like I've never felt before.....but when things went bad I felt completely shocked at how ugly he felt deep down the whole time about me and how unimportant I really was the whole time.
Remember their instructor is Satan. The one that has been watching you since birth and knows everything you've find through. He tells them everything to do in just the right way to get you.
God will guide you to GOOD person for you Always Always GOD never lets you down never think anyone of the toxic time you endured that person will not be in a good place because of what's in their Heart celebrate being free of the toxic darkness that you don't have to go through ever again may God Shine his Face upon you AMEN.💜💛🧡❤️🤍💜💛✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️🌞🌜🌟🌎🙏🌸🌼🌳🌴☺️
I’m at 1:45 minutes and I have to say.. I agree with everything so far, except the choice part. I truly believe many of their choices are influenced by an evil entity they are not aware of. As it’s happened to me and many others I know. The medical field deems this disassociation. I’ve seen it many times first hand and as I said, have experienced this myself.
SWEET DOGGIE SLEEPING. BRIGHT FIRE SPARKING AND WARMING YOU UP AND MAKING YOU FEEL BETTER.
I LEARNED THERE WAS TOO MUCH FLATTERY FROM HIM. HE ASKED TOO MANY QUESTIONS AND MADE TOO MANY FUTURE PROMISES. HE TOOK ME TO NARC SCHOOL AND MADE ME EXTRA ALERT FOR NARCS THE REST OF MY LIFE. FOR THAT I AM TRULY GRATEFUL.
I like how you see the spiritual side of this. It is the hardest thing to accept that these people who are 1st degree relatives are so diabolic. It is shocking and can seem like something from a horror movie. I would think a mother wouldn't do this to a child
I could hardly believe what I was seeing. It really is a spiritual struggle where you have to keep walking toward the light.
I would never harm any child not even my own and that's where they will see my pain 💯
Narcissists are hell on earth. Good thing we have dogs as a balm to our heart
The narcissist is / was in your life for one reason. Both the empathetic person and the narcissist are damaged through childhood trauma.
Once things blow up and you take stock of the situation, you can either remain a victim or decide to effect your transformation or remain stuck as a victim, like the narcissist, in a child like way.
It's a long and arduous journey to healing and reformation, and not for the faint of heart, but that's why we're here on earth. How could we possibly understand God's magnificence without a dragon or two to slay?
We're spirit, having a human experience ✨️ ❤️ then we return back when our mission is accomplished, as we become overcomers and our time is through.
What a fantastic journey this has been. Keep healing and transforming. 😊
Keep up your encouragement, as you sooth those that have been wounded by those that have chosen to act carnally as unregenerated children.
Once we understand self love, and proper boundaries, we see the narcissist as lost souls that have succumbed to the desires of the flesh in self-preservation at the cost of everything else.
We cannot change anyone but ourselves. ❤
Beautifully put! The essence of what this all ABOUT!! 🙏🏽❤️💪🏽👏🏽
Thank you for your profound wisdom and divine benevolence for those who have experienced a malignant Narcissist.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. After (and still) going through a covert narc I don’t see how these people are not demonically influenced.
Believe me they are diabolical. Divorcing one and it has given PTSD and such. Healing and doing better little by little but they belong in an mental asylum..throw away the key. He ruined his first marriage and abandoned family then cheated with I suspect many others while with their main supply and I grew up in a family of narcissist like this but was the scapegoat of all of them. Didn't know what was happening while in this because first time bride. Didn't know what to do. He discarded me over losing financial supply or my job and adultery, gossip to other women about our marital issues but not to me, kept me in the dark, secretive life. Cheating online apps, dating sites, people he knew.
2 years on top of the world and then the switch. 5 years of hel followed. 5 months out and I feel a lot has been stolen from me. Materially, physically, emotionally and psychologically.
Paula, you are amazing. I sense your deep desire to bring clarity in describing and demystifying this very strange behavioural patterns so as to help victims disentangle themselves, break loose and MOST IMPORTANTLY TO NOT EVER BLAME THEMSELVES FOR IT ALL AND ALSO TO NEVER LOOSE THEIR BEAUTIFUL SOULS BECAUSE OF IT ALL. I thank you. Watching from Nairobi, Kenya 🇰🇪
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Oh, and how I adore and love seeing precious Remi snoozing on the sofa ~ the most adorable ever 🐾🐾🐾
After going no contact with a malignant covert sadistic narcissist.
Did alot of self reflection and realised my parents are narcissistic, and it hurts to see that they too covertly like to do same.
They are divorced.
I was low contact, then last year went full no contact with my mother.
My nervous system couldn't no longer handle the unexpected shocks of her toxic covert behaviours, while saying she loves me .....
They have tried to lift me up in pride but because I learn that pride is evil, I did not fall for that. Oh how awesome God is when he instructed to get rid of pride even before I met my narc. I could have been destroy If I bit that pride bait. Please everyone, do no longer live your life apart from Christ, He is the one that destroy this gate and principality of evil. Your head knowledge is good but it's not sufficient for these dark days. They always wear different cloaks to deceive you. Pray for Wisdom of God.
Pride comes before destruction.
AMEN
I have listened to a lot of talks on this very topic and I want to say you have explained it perfectly with this perspective. Pls keep what you are doing. ❤
I always said that I felt like a dog who was abused by his owner, but then given a bone every time to come back.
Paula you hit the target...love your spiritual side... yes, was love bombed..he was my high integrity man..omg
can see it like a trailer to a movie..then full movie you give details and explain straight on with compassion ...cant thank you and everyone enough...
I never dreamed I had a demon like this...he was never home for 32yrs now retired and I thank God woke up! Now I tell my truth and Wow
Helll's gate open
Thank you Again
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The Dog raised his paw in the very beginning 💥👀💯🤣 when you said, “The narcissist is hell’s gatekeeper.”
I need to add, that of all the programs and videos you've shared, this one in particular has been spot on. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and expertise. Youre doing God's work here, helping pull us poor souls who are being tortured and manipulated out of our stupor, our shock and so forth. I used to feel beat up and crumpled up in tears and grief after a horrid confrontation. Now, I feel free, I feel empowered to carry on and be my happy self.
It only has power when it's given to it. Deny it by disregarding it. This is hugely important, don't fight with it or it wins. Just disregarding it with inner strength and the inner love you found at the bottom of the pit it pushed you into is the way. I know this through direct experience and wish you all love and power.
Hi Paula..I've been researching "narcissism" since 2022. My second daughter is a narcissist. She is 40. I'm 64. We've lived together since 2016. That's the year she started her mental and emotional abuse. On March 13 2024 I left. She has tormented and bullied myself, her children and others in her life. I'm now in a safe place and will be trying to build a much better quality of life. This whole thing with my daughter breaks my heart and deeply saddens me. But the girl and the woman I knew many years ago is gone forever. Sincerely Diana C
I have step daughter that has been a classic case of "Love bombing....devaluing ......and finally discards her dad and I like an old newspaper. She is passive aggressive and will not engage in a heart to heart talk. We have tried and she will immediately start the blame game. No self accounting...it's always someone else made the problem when in acuality they created the problem.
Thank you for your reply. I truly sympathize with what you're going through. Even though it was my home I was constantly walking on pins and needles whenever my narcissist daughter was home. It's going to be a long time before I can forget the sound of her voice during one of her many, many rages. Observing her manipulating others. I knew she was manipulating me as well, but time after time I fell for her reasonings, her dilemmas. Her broken promises. Her insults, her accusations, her self-entitled attitudes. I noticed back in February 2024 that she didn't look well, was tired a lot. I said something to her and suggested see a Dr . I saw her on April 21 she still looked sick. I just saw her and my grandson at a store and she still looks sick said she just got over being sick. Whatever is at work inside of her I feel is draining her entire being. Even though she's said too many times how much she hates me I will never stop loving my daughter. I understand and realize that I cannot ever live with her again. Sincerely Diana C
If you survived a toxic relationship you can survive anything! God saved me & I never thought I would be ok again, but I was wrong, it was the hardest thing I ever had to endure but God knew I would survive. Videos like this have helped me immensely 🙏
Paula, such a spot-on bullseye. Thank you! No matter where someone may be on the healing journey, this is a gem of insight to be discovered. What could easily amount to hours of content is distilled here with such acuity! On this vital topic of being brought to the gates of Hell...
There was a most critical moment of deciding, of having to make a difficult choice amidst a hurricane of emotions, self-doubt, trauma bonded, nearly swept off the cliff. I recall watching a daily horror show as the present fell to tatters faster than I could weave a future for myself. Somewhere in that darkness, I managed to recognize that if I ever intended to heal and transcend this experience I had to choose between responding to what had occurred with the ample temptations of wrath, vengeance, and merciless cruelty - OR - choose grace. Perched upon a razors edge, I found I could go no further in any direction until I'd chosen. I took the measure of pain and saw it as the measure of grace that would be required to get through this. I knew with certainty that daily, nightly, I could humbly ask for help with grace. However, I could only suspect and guess that if I jumped into the narcissist's tar pit and reflected their own vile weapons back upon them, I might never get out, I might lose myself in a life like the narcissist's, consumed by darkness, and that sense of losing myself to vengeance, wrath, losing even more of what barely remained of myself, as I had known myself, all of my life - THAT look into the abyss genuinely rattled me to my core. By choosing grace, by refraining from jumping into that muck, that cold, dark, bottomless mud of narcissistic contempt, bitterness and resentment, I believe I spared my soul from Hell.
The pain of the relationship was so bad that my mind is refusing to go back to review that pain but my children tell me how cruel he is to his present partner and I remember the pleasure he took in this cruelty ... Emotionally there is no space for another intimate serious relationship in my life..... But i am so happy with my life on my own with my cats.... I have my two girls my family and my friends and thats enough .. thank you . I found this very interesting
God bless You 🙏 I ask in the lord Jesus Name Amen
Thank you, I have just been destroyed by a narcissistic Mother and Sister and needed to hear your positive and uplifting talk x
You are so welcome
Wow. Your hopelessness puts you between the narcissist and Hell. I never thought of it that way, but it helps to understand their actions.
Your video is SPOT ON concerning Intelligence, knowledge, experience.
Pleasantly distracted by Gorgeous Pup in back. Wanna hug
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This explains it perfectly! He used to tell me to kill myself all the time. I am grateful I escaped the relationship. I made a channel & I have never been happier!❤️🔥🧘🏻♀️🙏🌈
This was so Holy Spirit filled! I love how God is using you to help people. This was so perfectly said, thank you.
You are so welcome
After I escaped from the narc I actually wrote a poem titled "Going to hell while holding my hand" so this information validates all I've been through. It helps so much to learn what's behind the curtain in this dangerous game they play. Thank you Paula, such valuable info!
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*The fate worse than being built up then abandoned by the narcissist, is never shaking them off of you, getting stuck with the narcissist for the remainder of your life .*
Apparently, from her earliest memories, Mom was pathologically envious of anyone and anything depicted or praised as "superlative" in her presence. She was driven to target, oppose, compete with, depose, then destroy whoever and whatever fell in her crosshairs. She was compelled to control everyone and everything around her, and anyone who shined brighter than she, or opposed her, might as well have been cast into hell.
I pity Dad for falling for Mom's deceptions and abuses, for enduring to his death, but I'm angry at him for enmeshing and enabling Mom to "compete", wallow and rage without correcting her, for never manning up, for never making the sacrifices to get her the help she needed, that we kids needed. Off and on, our life with Mom was a living hell. She's been gone now for more than two years, and we're still dealing with her crap.