They hate it when you ignore them back😂 the reciprocity of their energy reflecting back to them is like giving them a mirror to look in and they usually hate it 🤣 but these days I'm into reciprocity so if you put me on your pay no mind list I'll put you right on mine too
I wouldn’t live with it even If I had to clean toilets… These people are insane And dangerous they have A dual personality… My personal experiences with a close relative, the Blessing is they live 2500 miles from me ..😂 And the other thing they are a religious fanatic… Which means they use The Bible to hide there Demonic personality…
He invited me all the way to another town to go for a walk at the beach. He didnt talk to me all the way there while we were there on the way back. 😮 So I did try to make small talk, his amswers were yes no, he kept his answers very short. I told him if you were going to do this, I could have stayed home and had a better conversation with the wall. He said oh come on!...
You are correct. I was blindly in love. Now I see. My ex covert narc husband never finished junior high school. I have a masters degree. I had no idea all the abuse, beatings, insults, triangulation and silence treatments were all apart of narcissism. So sad people like this exist. I ran away from the abuse not knowing what I was dealing with, just knowing it was too too too painful to go on with him. I stopped dating and live as a hermit for safety.
Funny, that's what I start doing when I figure out they are narcs. I love undermining them and I hold no punches. Only thing of a narc I want in my sight is the back of one running in terror.
This was very helpful. The NPD simply wishes to take from others what they do not have, and/or can achieve this life time. It could very well be a friend and/or a family member too.
People who ignore you at random for no good reason are sick. It is the cruelest thing you can do to someone who hasn’t done anything to deserve the treatment. Barca are cowards! Absolutely cowards!!
Thank you Choya. I know my family’s tactics and I generally manage ok. Lately it’s getting very challenging with the gaslighting, rage, manipulation and exploitation. I just found your channel! 🙏
When I see a friend on Facebook in real life, I would always say hi and be friendly. But I have spoken to quite a few people on Facebook that have Facebook friends who wouldn't even acknowledge they exist in person. When they meet these people in REAL LIFE, they won't even acknowledge they exist -- THEY ONLY EXIST TO GIVE LIKES ON FACEBOOK. A healthy social experience reciprocates energy with a kind social network that validates each other. If one sees something you shared on Facebook, yet they don't like it because they don't like you, then it appears to me that they are the narcissist.
@@laughoncomedy2923 Whenever humanity values whatever makes them 'feel important' more than reciprocating kindness in proportion to the gifts they have, it seems it will always lead to deadly selfish errors. If people reciprocate kindness it is good to radiate positivity that supports each other. Giving free energy is a very good thing. But I would caution against accusing someone of 'virtue signaling'. Some people have a 'distorted perception' of the Golden Rule. They only give to those who reciprocate the kindness. This distortion isn't bad. But it's not as good as the 'pure perception'' of the Golden Rule that gives out kindness freely without expecting reward. Admittedly, many narcissists actually look for these people in order to take advantage of their kindness. But reciprocal love is when we feel great freely giving our energy to each other. If someone truly shows gratitude for the help given to them, there is generally no narcissism 'dark triad' involved. The expression “reverence for life” is the key to Albert Schweitzer's personal philosophy. Thanks in part to social-media, I think there is a false perception that everything is actually Nietzschean struggle to power. But I strongly agree with Albert Schweitzer's personal philosophy that no person should ever harm or destroy life unless absolutely necessary, especially a person's reputation. Hope is a good thing.❤
Great job you just described my parents husband of 25 years ex church ex job and cousins. Starting on the 11th year of walking in my healing.All the pieces started to fit in place last year when I started working on my boundaries. I don’t have a good fit with my current counselor not sure what to do.
Yes amen, amen!!!!! We are born loving ourselves, we don't have to try to do it. If we love others better than ourselves then we are secure rational people. I have family members who do this "ignoring me" stuff. In my experience, family members who are narcissistic ignore us to make us feel small and foolish. They cannot validate us in any way because of jealousy. You are absolutely right!!!! I have even had them walk into my house and make a disparaging remark about my decorating to the others in the room but not to me while I am standing right there. I didn't respond because they are the kind of people who do these things to be able to start a fight with us. I have even had them come to dinner, I would set a nice table for them and they are ridiculing me by saying "we aren't fancy people", in other words I was foolish for doing a nice thing. I have removed these people from my life because they never change, they are predictable. I don't want to become like them by answering back, its what they want and what the devil wants to ruin us.
I’ve been in love with this woman for 10 years and been with her over the past 2 years. Well come to find out this woman is a covert narcissist , and I seen clues , but never knew it was that bad. As of now we have been split up for the last 3 months , and reasons being is her lack of intimacy , affection , and no sex . In which turned into a lot of arguments. As of now , I’m the whole problem , and she wants me to be the one who changes. Now I have been used for everything I’ve had : money , boat , staying in my home without rent , and drained my bank account , and I’ve never gotten anything back in this relationship. Bad thing about it is , like I said , I’ve been in love with this woman , and I still put up with it even though I’ve lost so much. Letting go just seems so hard even though I know she’s toxic. I’ve been so up and down about which direction I’m going to go.
Sometimes it’s not narcissim there are people who have shown me there character early on and I don’t speak to them. We have to be sure to read the signs right and not project our stuff on others. When it is a pattern with everyone it’s a narcissist
Wow ! Where did you get your degree in psychology ? How do you know all this about human behaviour ? Yes you are spot on ! You must be a expert on thyself ??
"If he pushes you down then it lifts them up. It's kinda like a god complex." Story of my life growing up with my dad.
Reminds me of the day when I was 14 my dad assaulted me for saying 'no dad, you arent god. Not to me and not to anyone'
@@robinwilliams9970 Sounds really painful. So sorry that happened to you.
@@LynnsRUclips Thank you for the kind words. Are you free of your narc dad? Covid did me a solid on mine....
@@robinwilliams9970 Yes, Covid took mine too.
Making themselves feel better by devaluing you- what weirdos these people are. Let karma do its work. Good video.
I cant even think of doing that to someone. When I feel down I pray, read a book. It just overwhelms me to think people really do this to a person.
They hate it when you ignore them back😂 the reciprocity of their energy reflecting back to them is like giving them a mirror to look in and they usually hate it 🤣 but these days I'm into reciprocity so if you put me on your pay no mind list I'll put you right on mine too
You're awesome!!! Nice to know there's genuine people out there in the world
They lack accountability so ignoring you is the solution for the narcist.
That’s what it is exactly a lack of accountability.
Omg they dont understand that we would have stayed if they didn't act so dumb
100% true. Narcissistic husband is killing me everyday. 😢 he is a Monster.
I hear you. It’s exhausting. Just keep coming back for support. Like Choya said, we have to build ourselves back up. Cool, calm confidence. 😎
Hard to leave a narc I imagine
They are pure evil people!!
Leave boo
Divorce his ass
I wouldn’t live with it even
If I had to clean toilets…
These people are insane
And dangerous they have
A dual personality…
My personal experiences with a close relative, the Blessing is they live 2500 miles from me ..😂
And the other thing they are a religious fanatic…
Which means they use
The Bible to hide there
Demonic personality…
He invited me all the way to another town to go for a walk at the beach. He didnt talk to me all the way there while we were there on the way back. 😮 So I did try to make small talk, his amswers were yes no, he kept his answers very short. I told him if you were going to do this, I could have stayed home and had a better conversation with the wall. He said oh come on!...
You are correct. I was blindly in love. Now I see. My ex covert narc husband never finished junior high school. I have a masters degree. I had no idea all the abuse, beatings, insults, triangulation and silence treatments were all apart of narcissism. So sad people like this exist. I ran away from the abuse not knowing what I was dealing with, just knowing it was too too too painful to go on with him. I stopped dating and live as a hermit for safety.
Funny, that's what I start doing when I figure out they are narcs. I love undermining them and I hold no punches. Only thing of a narc I want in my sight is the back of one running in terror.
Thank you sir !…especially about questioning yourself because of another’s psycho actions.
...agreed!
Power and control
My ex narc was a college graduate and the dumbest woman I've ever met.
Lol that's how it goes
This was very helpful. The NPD simply wishes to take from others what they do not have, and/or can achieve this life time. It could very well be a friend and/or a family member too.
This narcissist only speaks when it want to give commands.
People who ignore you at random for no good reason are sick. It is the cruelest thing you can do to someone who hasn’t done anything to deserve the treatment. Barca are cowards! Absolutely cowards!!
My mother did this to me since I can remember, even at 2 yrs old
Same. I hear you ❤️
I am so sorry you endured this so young. My family does the same
Thank you Choya. I know my family’s tactics and I generally manage ok. Lately it’s getting very challenging with the gaslighting, rage, manipulation and exploitation. I just found your channel! 🙏
Great video! Simple, relatable, with depth.
Because they can't deal with your energy.
Sad but informative! We’ve got to keep our minds wrapped around it as codependent people
I wish she would ignore me! This vandalism has been going on for over 9 years!! Jayne Knorr in lot 46 in Holiday Village in Ormond Beach Florida!!
When I see a friend on Facebook in real life, I would always say hi and be friendly.
But I have spoken to quite a few people on Facebook that have Facebook friends who wouldn't even acknowledge they exist in person. When they meet these people in REAL LIFE, they won't even acknowledge they exist -- THEY ONLY EXIST TO GIVE LIKES ON FACEBOOK.
A healthy social experience reciprocates energy with a kind social network that validates each other.
If one sees something you shared on Facebook, yet they don't like it because they don't like you, then it appears to me that they are the narcissist.
Yes exactly
@@laughoncomedy2923 Whenever humanity values whatever makes them 'feel important' more than reciprocating kindness in proportion to the gifts they have, it seems it will always lead to deadly selfish errors. If people reciprocate kindness it is good to radiate positivity that supports each other. Giving free energy is a very good thing. But I would caution against accusing someone of 'virtue signaling'. Some people have a 'distorted perception' of the Golden Rule. They only give to those who reciprocate the kindness. This distortion isn't bad. But it's not as good as the 'pure perception'' of the Golden Rule that gives out kindness freely without expecting reward.
Admittedly, many narcissists actually look for these people in order to take advantage of their kindness. But reciprocal love is when we feel great freely giving our energy to each other. If someone truly shows gratitude for the help given to them, there is generally no narcissism 'dark triad' involved. The expression “reverence for life” is the key to Albert Schweitzer's personal philosophy. Thanks in part to social-media, I think there is a false perception that everything is actually Nietzschean struggle to power. But I strongly agree with Albert Schweitzer's personal philosophy that no person should ever harm or destroy life unless absolutely necessary, especially a person's reputation. Hope is a good thing.❤
Very good points stated here! Thanks!
If they pulled a hostile stunt on me, then I don't feel like talking to them. That does not make me a narc.
Great job you just described my parents husband of 25 years ex church ex job and cousins.
Starting on the 11th year of walking in my healing.All the pieces started to fit in place last year when I started working on my boundaries. I don’t have a good fit with my current counselor not sure what to do.
Yes amen, amen!!!!! We are born loving ourselves, we don't have to try to do it. If we love others better than ourselves then we are secure rational people. I have family members who do this "ignoring me" stuff. In my experience, family members who are narcissistic ignore us to make us feel small and foolish. They cannot validate us in any way because of jealousy. You are absolutely right!!!! I have even had them walk into my house and make a disparaging remark about my decorating to the others in the room but not to me while I am standing right there. I didn't respond because they are the kind of people who do these things to be able to start a fight with us. I have even had them come to dinner, I would set a nice table for them and they are ridiculing me by saying "we aren't fancy people", in other words I was foolish for doing a nice thing. I have removed these people from my life because they never change, they are predictable. I don't want to become like them by answering back, its what they want and what the devil wants to ruin us.
Deep
You have great energy and love in explaining this predicament, Thank you Choya Wise.
All true!!!!
Your presentation is amazing.Totally authentic.
So lately i dont say anything unless i want to. The narcissist ignores me.
Choya Wise, thank you for keeping a tough subject simple and for applying God's word to it.
I’ve been in love with this woman for 10 years and been with her over the past 2 years. Well come to find out this woman is a covert narcissist , and I seen clues , but never knew it was that bad.
As of now we have been split up for the last 3 months , and reasons being is her lack of intimacy , affection , and no sex . In which turned into a lot of arguments. As of now , I’m the whole problem , and she wants me to be the one who changes.
Now I have been used for everything I’ve had : money , boat , staying in my home without rent , and drained my bank account , and I’ve never gotten anything back in this relationship.
Bad thing about it is , like I said , I’ve been in love with this woman , and I still put up with it even though I’ve lost so much. Letting go just seems so hard even though I know she’s toxic.
I’ve been so up and down about which direction I’m going to go.
Hello nice person!!! I like your friendly attitude and always good to know it's not a problem with us.
Im excellent at the silent treatment if its placed upon me 😊🇬🇧
Thank you. Needed this.
Spot on
Thank you 🙏
Sometimes it’s not narcissim there are people who have shown me there character early on and I don’t speak to them. We have to be sure to read the signs right and not project our stuff on others. When it is a pattern with everyone it’s a narcissist
Awesome content glad I found your channel
Great Knowledge Thanks ❤
Wow ! Where did you get your degree in psychology ? How do you know all this about human behaviour ? Yes you are spot on ! You must be a expert on thyself ??
Thank you
Thanks you
Thank you so much
Confirmation
At 4:11 🎯
What about a person who looks dead at you and walks past you and don't even speak?
Sad when they do that they are done with u
Thank you!