Unfortunately true. When holes think they’re getting one over for you and you play limp and dumb, settlements and what holes demand are significantly lower then if a man goes scorched earth. Do that later when papers are signed.
You have to understand that some cheaters will lie to you trick you and gaslight you. they will do whatever to stay in the relationship because they know they can't do better.
Child support is money used to make sure the child of a divorce has nearly the same standard of living after the divorce as before. The money covers a child's necessities. Even in cases where parents share 50/50 physical custody of a child, it is usually required for one parent to pay child support to the other parent if incomes differ vastly
At first, i was pissed at this guy foe taking her back in the first place, but then he not only learned, but started spitting facts! Good on you, buddy!
I think it depends on who makes more. Since OP kept the house because he could afford it, I assume he makes more than she does. So even in a 50/50 split, the person who makes more has to pay some amount of child support.
@@slayergaming5421 if the other party cant afford the 50 then there should be no child support and the children should be with the parent who can actually afford it.
@@shortangel333 Say a cheating husband had convinced his wife when they married to be a stay at home mom. She stays in the home and takes care of their children. Well, ten years later, she catches him cheating. They divorce. She has zero income and a ten year gap in her work history. If the law went the way you want it, Dad would get the kids and she wouldn't even get joint custody. Only rich people would end up with kids, which could lead to all sorts of unsavory imbalance of power situations. Yup. Fair and balanced like FOX News, that.
Story 1: THIS. This is guide for anyone dealing with this scenario. You have no enemies, she decided to cheat and you've to move one a fast as possible. Story 2: Cheating wife and John are so screwed and got what they deserved. Both are alone (all the town knows, nobody that are looking into a relationship will give a chance), Wife's kids hate her and she has to work. The only way for them to get a new kinda life it's to move out somewhere. John can do it, he has no kids. Cheating wife for sure is going to abandon them if she wants anything similar of what she wasted.
NEVER give cheaters a second chance. They already disrespected you once, what's stopping them from doing it again? As for why they cheat, it's because they want the new relationship while retaining the stability of the current one. They're selfish, simple as that.
Because the law is so skewed against men. I work for child support in my home state (FL). It's rare, but you do see it sometimes cuz the judge thinks it has to be made "equitable" since he makes more money.
Wait one cotton-picking minute. How the hell could OP think and/or say at the 14:26 mark that the name John is a gender neutral name? Being an individual being named Jon I have never once in my life met a woman named John. I've met female Joanne's and Joanna's, but neve a female John before. Like if that is the real name used in the wife's phones account on the app then I immediately don't feel as bad for the dude since he was stupid enough to not think that this person was a man with a name like that. We are all allowed to be dumbasses or behave in a likewise manner, but not to this extent. It just sounds like dude was very naïve and stupid for not having realized that John was a dude and his wife's AP. SMH (sigh).
the name was changed. it said as much in the story. "they had a very gender neutral name. For this i'll call them john." so op just used the name john for the reddit story. not sure why they couldn't have chosen a different gender neutral name but whatever.
When I was in middle school I had a boyfriend and I was kissed by another boy. The guilt I felt was completely awful so I broke up with my boyfriend and I hated myself for a long time in fact 20 yrs later I still feel bad about it. I can't imagine how it would feel to cheat a spouse, I have no idea how people can serial cheat or have a full relationship with someone else. I can only guess the excitement keeps them from really feeling the guilt but I believe deep down cheaters hate themselves and do this to hurt themselves and the only good things in their lives.
Couldn't you just have been honest, an apologize, you do realize you kiss another guy, then broke your boyfriend heart just to escape right, well it was years ago so it's all good
@@Manhwa-recapped at the time I thought if I allowed another boy to kiss me and I kissed him back that meant it wasn't to be because I wouldn't have done that if I truly was to be with him. Also that was only the second kiss I ever had so a kiss was very meaningful to me
Never take back a cheater. Once a cheater always a cheater. This is a classic example. Story 2 of course the relationship woth the ap fall off when she divorced and now is trying to crawl back into his life. This cheaters are so predictable its almost laughable 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Because the court believes that the child/children deserve equal at both homes and off one parent cannot afford the same as the other, the wealthier parent must make up the difference. This was brought into protect situations where there was a stay at home parents, but in the modern world where most people work, it doesn't make as much sense, especially if the second parent has a reasonable income
I wish I could hug OP from story 1, when i caught my partner cheating on me I blamed myself for the longest time. Im doing better now but it's so easy to think you were the one at fault
Twice? I would had left her the first time she cheated cause more than likely if they hurt you the first time what’s stopping them from doing it again especially if you forgive them that’s like an invitation for them to hurt you over and over and knowing that you’ll keep taking them back I don’t condone cheating that’s the most disrespectful thing you can ever do to somebody
Being with your HS sweet heart, is one of the worst things you can do, It's damn near impossible for a woman to be with one man her whole life. There are no accidents or mistakes with females, everything is premeditated. You let her date another man, and for the results.
“Initiate divorce while your spouse is still in the affair fog.”
Listen to this man. He is speaking the truth.
Take advantage of the TA
XD very true
Unfortunately true.
When holes think they’re getting one over for you and you play limp and dumb, settlements and what holes demand are significantly lower then if a man goes scorched earth.
Do that later when papers are signed.
I really don't feel sorry for people who give cheaters a chance.
But am happy op found happiness and have good friends.
You have to understand that some cheaters will lie to you trick you and gaslight you. they will do whatever to stay in the relationship because they know they can't do better.
Also, it looks good to court's to show you attempted to make the relationship work, and they made it fail again in an at fault state
You must don’t feel for a lot of people then because most are with cheaters. Some just haven’t been caught.
Reminds me of the saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
50/50 split but you still have to pay child support? Actually ridiculous
Child support is money used to make sure the child of a divorce has nearly the same standard of living after the divorce as before. The money covers a child's necessities. Even in cases where parents share 50/50 physical custody of a child, it is usually required for one parent to pay child support to the other parent if incomes differ vastly
@@JamieJosefthen maybe don't give the child to the one who can't pay for said child?
@@TheGamingShogun laws consider that detrimental for the kid
No alimony and that money is for the kids. It's a win and if she waste the money on herself or jobless AP, he can go to court.
@@pupsicle5345 because the law is retarded
At first, i was pissed at this guy foe taking her back in the first place, but then he not only learned, but started spitting facts! Good on you, buddy!
Story 2:how disrespectful was this wife? Throwing her AP right in her husband's face. Disgusting
Her cheating was calculated. Unfortunately, shes really bad at math.
I feel like she should pay him child support. If they're 50 50 yet he pays, it should be the other way around when he has the kids.
I think it depends on who makes more. Since OP kept the house because he could afford it, I assume he makes more than she does. So even in a 50/50 split, the person who makes more has to pay some amount of child support.
I realize that, it's still stupid though.
@@nicknitro86 yea I agree.
@@slayergaming5421 if the other party cant afford the 50 then there should be no child support and the children should be with the parent who can actually afford it.
@@shortangel333 Say a cheating husband had convinced his wife when they married to be a stay at home mom. She stays in the home and takes care of their children. Well, ten years later, she catches him cheating. They divorce. She has zero income and a ten year gap in her work history. If the law went the way you want it, Dad would get the kids and she wouldn't even get joint custody. Only rich people would end up with kids, which could lead to all sorts of unsavory imbalance of power situations.
Yup. Fair and balanced like FOX News, that.
Crazy how Reddit of all places come in clutch with the greatest of advice, great video 🙏
Story 1: THIS. This is guide for anyone dealing with this scenario. You have no enemies, she decided to cheat and you've to move one a fast as possible.
Story 2: Cheating wife and John are so screwed and got what they deserved. Both are alone (all the town knows, nobody that are looking into a relationship will give a chance), Wife's kids hate her and she has to work.
The only way for them to get a new kinda life it's to move out somewhere. John can do it, he has no kids. Cheating wife for sure is going to abandon them if she wants anything similar of what she wasted.
NEVER give cheaters a second chance. They already disrespected you once, what's stopping them from doing it again?
As for why they cheat, it's because they want the new relationship while retaining the stability of the current one. They're selfish, simple as that.
Watch who your SO is friends with. Doesn't matter the gender. They can f up your relationship.
Successful long term relationships after an affair with the affair partner. Have a 3% success rate. Those odds are not in your favor. See second story
Story 1 why tf is he paying cs if it's 50 50
Female privilege
Because the law is so skewed against men. I work for child support in my home state (FL). It's rare, but you do see it sometimes cuz the judge thinks it has to be made "equitable" since he makes more money.
Cuz family courts don't give a F about men
what the hell is c*** and why is he censoring it???
Bro is preachy in that 1st story. Sheesh!
well it probably was from an advice reddit page
Wait one cotton-picking minute. How the hell could OP think and/or say at the 14:26 mark that the name John is a gender neutral name? Being an individual being named Jon I have never once in my life met a woman named John. I've met female Joanne's and Joanna's, but neve a female John before. Like if that is the real name used in the wife's phones account on the app then I immediately don't feel as bad for the dude since he was stupid enough to not think that this person was a man with a name like that. We are all allowed to be dumbasses or behave in a likewise manner, but not to this extent. It just sounds like dude was very naïve and stupid for not having realized that John was a dude and his wife's AP. SMH (sigh).
the name was changed. it said as much in the story.
"they had a very gender neutral name. For this i'll call them john."
so op just used the name john for the reddit story. not sure why they couldn't have chosen a different gender neutral name but whatever.
first dude gives too much advice and keeps repeating himself like bro
WHAT?! NO!! Don't keep a cheater in your life.
When I was in middle school I had a boyfriend and I was kissed by another boy. The guilt I felt was completely awful so I broke up with my boyfriend and I hated myself for a long time in fact 20 yrs later I still feel bad about it. I can't imagine how it would feel to cheat a spouse, I have no idea how people can serial cheat or have a full relationship with someone else. I can only guess the excitement keeps them from really feeling the guilt but I believe deep down cheaters hate themselves and do this to hurt themselves and the only good things in their lives.
Couldn't you just have been honest, an apologize, you do realize you kiss another guy, then broke your boyfriend heart just to escape right, well it was years ago so it's all good
@@Manhwa-recapped at the time I thought if I allowed another boy to kiss me and I kissed him back that meant it wasn't to be because I wouldn't have done that if I truly was to be with him. Also that was only the second kiss I ever had so a kiss was very meaningful to me
Good work Keep it up man
can anybody tell me whats c*** means
Crap ? (Idk, that's how I understood it)
@@clamiyep7008 thx could be I thought of that 2 but why would you censor crap. nvm this is yt
Never take back a cheater. Once a cheater always a cheater. This is a classic example. Story 2 of course the relationship woth the ap fall off when she divorced and now is trying to crawl back into his life. This cheaters are so predictable its almost laughable 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Should have left the first time
The wife settled for you .
Doormat
Whats the difference between a lightbulb and a cheating wife? You cant unscrew a cheating wife
Why is he paying child support if they have 50/50 custody and she has a job?
Because the court believes that the child/children deserve equal at both homes and off one parent cannot afford the same as the other, the wealthier parent must make up the difference. This was brought into protect situations where there was a stay at home parents, but in the modern world where most people work, it doesn't make as much sense, especially if the second parent has a reasonable income
@@nhugh23 I understand when it's a stay at home parent, but that's not this case
I wish I could hug OP from story 1, when i caught my partner cheating on me I blamed myself for the longest time. Im doing better now but it's so easy to think you were the one at fault
Only in ohio
What does c** mean (I already asked what SAed means on another vid) bc I am Not in the Reddit bubble so I don‘t know a few words
it means cadolfhitlercommanderofthethirdreich
@@ascensionlunar1no it means
cniggagetbacktothecottonfield
@@ascensionlunar1 wtf is that word
@@muneshdevi3429he said c Adolf Hitler Commander of the Third Reich
In other words, he’s messing with you
😅😅a minha. N9.
Why are you guys surprised? Courts rarely side with men, innocent or not
Twice? I would had left her the first time she cheated cause more than likely if they hurt you the first time what’s stopping them from doing it again especially if you forgive them that’s like an invitation for them to hurt you over and over and knowing that you’ll keep taking them back I don’t condone cheating that’s the most disrespectful thing you can ever do to somebody
For the second story
"If I tell you its not gonna work out or not to date him its not gonna work out or I don't like him"
-My Dad
I hope OP is doing better, cheaters are horrible people
Wait what? "John" is a gender neutral name ???
I was hoping for more tea towards the end of the second story.
it's her fault that she cheated not your so she can go to hell.
17:10 BRAİN FART MC PARKOUUR
If you can get something by asking for it nicely, ask nicely. If that doesn't work then you escalate.
Never stay with a cheater. You don’t have to ask for a divorce. Just file.
Bumble BFF only shows people of the same gender fyi
first real story in a while
What does c mean?
Is no one questioning how this person uploads three videos a day?
The TTS AI voice generator does not take long to process ...
Hello
Can I get my first pinned
Being with your HS sweet heart, is one of the worst things you can do, It's damn near impossible for a woman to be with one man her whole life. There are no accidents or mistakes with females, everything is premeditated. You let her date another man, and for the results.