This is another well-known Reddit story that has been posted across multiple platforms that didn’t end well for this family. OP’s more recent comments divulge that his cheating wife ended up unaliving herself. She took the coward’s way out, leaving behind her already devastated betrayed husband and daughters. Her actions have destroyed her entire family. They’ll all need intensive therapy for many years in order to overcome the trauma of that woman’s selfish choices.
Fact that OP updated that wife killed herself confirms to me that Wife was far more terrified of ending up alone than of being stuck in a marriage and family where everyone despised her.
i think it probably had smth to do with the “i WOULD have loved you for ever” comment. while shes a complete bitch for what she put a caring loving guy and 3 amazing innocent kids through merely because she was “bored” i think it would be sad that she unalived herself.i say think cuz i honestly dont give a damn about what happens to cheaters.
@@z3mici3l eh her suicide only makes her more the A-hole. Instead of being accountable for her decisions she ran from all accountability leaving her husband and kids to deal with her choices. She’s a cee u next Tuesday
Every person that says you should reconcile with a cheater should be asked if they'd do the same. Guaranteed they wouldn't. I wish this man and kids well and hope they have better people in their lives.
Depends on what they did. If it was a one time thing, and was due to alcohol, for example, where there's no consent(it's basically rape), I would reconcile. But actively hiding and indulging in something more than once? Yeah, "get the fuck out of here, I never want to see your sorry face again."
@@ragingsaviorkami9862100% agree. Cheating is never a mistake, it's a series of choices one willingly makes. The fact the mom and sister aided makes me believe the mother also cheated and the husband is just a door mat. If I had a daughter that cheated on her husband, I'd tell her husband to go ahead and get a divorce. Cheaters aren't worth it. They thought so little of the marriage when they were cheating, why should the person that got cheated on make an effort to fix things?!?
@@frantheman1287 Oh, there's no doubt about that. Mother is definitely a bad person with a failed marriage If she decided to encourage the daughter's shitty behavior. It's the type of a woman that hates men, you know, those moms that are like "One day you will get married, make sure you choose wisely", and then proceeds to teach her to look for all the wrong things in a guy, like for example a guy that is easily controlled nad manipulated. Those women grow up with no respect for the opposite gender whatsoever. Same goes with men who grow up to be abusive, their dads never thought them how to treat someone properly. They may have witnessd abuse too at some point, and end up seeing women as almost an entire, lower-class species. You know, I'm talking about the "sigma giga chad male pussy slayer 3000" type of guys. It all has to do with upbringing, I'd say.
Agree. In fact, it’s staggering the number of holier-than-thou disingenuous a$$holes who take what they believe to be the moral high ground and shriek at OP about their many shortcomings in how the situation was dealt with - despite the almost sure reality that these posters would do similar, if not worse were they in the same scenario. I’m so sick of arrogant liars who get their jollies pretending virtue online when they are the biggest piles of $hit irl!
She was a weak human who couldn't face consequences of her own decisions who literally destroyed life of op and their daughter.Even when life gave her chance to come clean she just cowardly left no sympathy for her.
@zacharyturner6425 Dante's inferno includes how Cleopatra was in hell for her adulterous lifestyle. Soo wouldn't be surprised edit: but then again it's just a famous piece of fiction but with its roots in religion
Of course she has the nerve. She was the only person who mattered in her world, and her "boredom" with her life was supposed to be "understandable" to and even forgivable to the OP. Her parents asking for him to be patient and understanding at the beginning made my blood boil. No accountability for the pain she caused, and they helped her.
And now she can be with her lover in hell. Don't care about that, especially when she thought she was in the right after abandoning her family because her affair partner died first.
The only reason she didn't want to talk about her affair is because she knew as soon as she did there would be nothing stopping her husband from making up his mind to divorce her. As long as op was keeping her around to learn the truth she could delay the inevitable. If her affair partner hadn't died she would have never ended it. At the end though, she knew her affair partner was having multiple affairs and she still hesitated when asked who she would have chosen. She sucks.
Most irredeemable cheater I've learned about in recent memory. She full on fell in love with her AP. That's the whole pickle right there. She never would have given her family a second thought and would have left them of her own volition eventually if her AP was still alive. She left her home to go grieve HIS death and then came back to salvage the life she willingly threw away. "...and asked me If this was how I was going to treat her just because she's not ready to talk to me about her affair" What an unrepentant piece of walking garbage. That line alone would have been the end of it for me. No need for all the pain shopping he needed to do to find the resolve to end it all. The monumental, brazen lack of respect would have been plenty for me and I would make darn sure going forward she never got to see MY kids after that. Her family of cheater sympathizers couldn't even tolerate her for more than a few days. Should tell you all you need to know. This poor man would have benefited greatly from being able to physcially seperate during this whole grueling ordeal. Her constantly floundering all over him would have broken anyone down that was spiraling from the end of a near life long relationship with a spouse. She did all that to him intentionally for her own selfishness just like she did everything else. EDIT: Well, looks like she forever bowed out of the work that would have been needed to begin to right her many wrongs. By taking her own life she has placed all the pain and hurt she was feeling, on top of a massive amount of guilt, on to her surviving family. In cases like this taking the easy way out is the ultimate coward's act. I hope the SIL spends the rest of her days knowing she is also an irredeemable monster. My heart goes out to OP and his kids, they've been dealt a truly awful hand.
And at the end she unalived herself when she realised she is hated and things are not going to change(that is an update). Also i hate the fact that she hesitated to answer would she prefer OP or AP after begging for forgiveness for weeks.
Welp, she was already going to hell with the betrayal of her whole family. Now she's going to super hell with that stunt 😂 Always wonder if it makes you a bad person for enjoying, seeing bad people be in absolute anguish 😅
Not to mention being grilled by the In Laws about keeping her. I would have said, sure you choose. Either I forgive her, or I forgive you (mother, father, sister in law). Either the three of you or her. One or the other is never going to step foot in my house again, never see the kids again. Divorce her anyway but really put the inlaws through the ringer.
I don't think she was bored of the relationship, she was bored of having a family and being a mom/wife. She wanted to feel what it was like to be young and carefree again. Obviously still could've told him, there could've been other ways to go about it. Now she's dead, and unlike most of the people here with 0 empathy, I feel sorry for her as much as the OP and their daughters. Life truly is a bitch. Some people say "Good, now she can burn in hell", like how do you know Hell exists? For all we know, that could be the end of her, right there and then. Do cheaters really deserve to die?
@@orestojanovic8405 hell or not that’s the end, I feel slight pity but adultery is unforgivable and the offenders are worthy of neither pity nor mercy.
@@orestojanovic8405She was never really sorry. Selfish to the core and never genuinely felt remorse with that hesitation; ultimately she was, in fact, a coward that couldn't even do the bare minimum to prove her apology, which would've been to leave OP the hell alone and begin the slow, painful process of fixing herself with no expectation or hope that OP could ever forgive her. The fact that she kept begging despite the contradictions only meant that she cared about herself only, and nobody else.
@@dillsnickle Okay, I'll admit, you do have a point there. The fact they always apologize and start begging when the AP leaves them or, in this case, dies, and not before that, says a lot. I'd say they're all just weak, underdeveloped personalities, guided by impulses. No backbone whatsoever, no ability to handle reality.
The fact that she said nothing and essentially acted like the victim in the confrontation. Glad the kids know now she said she would tell them the truth and literally refused this was all deserved.
Yeah she's a lost cause. Her actions speak immesurable dishonesty. Always remember that actions speak louder than words. To run away with another man; no amount of sorry or I love you cannot work. The end checks out when she hesitated. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
@@fijapopovic5335 AP means affair partner. I also was thinking what it meant when I stumbled across this story. The reason for using unalive is due to how the algorithm just buries any video that has that, even demonitising it.
I'm just fascinated by her hybris, going back home and claiming that she has always loved OP. I'm glad that my fellow men are learning, his follow up question was world class.
Sad story, sad that she ended up self deleting and leaving her kids without their mother, i hope OP and the kids are doing and get thru the grief to live happy fulfilling lives.
Right at the beginning of this story but the moment someone says “be understanding” and won’t tell you what’s going on, especially if they abandon their family, whatever is going on is a matter of pure selfishness. ‘Understanding’ means they don’t want to be blamed for whatever they have done
The pain of losing her affair partner was all she could focus on and more important than the love of her daughters and being there for them. Take about pathetic..
You know what's the most scariest thing ever you getting married whole time you thinking you're winning with your significant other and then be blindsided with the fact that they had an affair and was planning to run away with them leaving the life that y'all Build Together behind
All these relationships falling apart due to boredom. Sometimes folks, boredom is a part of life. A married woman trying to raise 3 teenage daughters and she's bored? Hallelujah, most people would kill for a life that chill with a man and family that love and adore them and they throw it all away for some losers that really don't care about them or the life and accomplishments they've spent their whole lives achieving. She was literally going to abandon her husband and daughters so she could have a 'more exciting life'. Now, and rightfully so, she'll have nothing. She destroyed whatever relationships she's had with her family and any future relationship with her daughters. It'll never be the same. She also hesitated when asked if she'd choose the maggot food AP or OP. She clearly doesn't love him, she's a liar and a narcissist. She valued a stranger over her obligations as a mother and a wife. L wife, L SIL, L in-law parents. They all belong to the streets. If you support a cheater, you're condoning their actions. I hope OP and the daughters keep that in mind going forward. With family like that, who needs enemies? If SIL is married, I hope her husband wakes up and takes a good look into his wife's life. Apples don't fall far from the tree.
Likewise.. If you're bored, there's this thing called communication. If your spouse/SO knows about it, you can try something new. In the bedroom, out in the world, whatever, but you can try to spice things up. Hell you could even hit up some online forums and ask what a good 'getaway' or retreat might be for a couple that's looking for some excitement. And if it's to the point of cheating to find something new.. There are couple's suitors/escorts who's entire schtick is showing up and getting consent from both parties before presenting some new ideas or pushing boundaries to see what might be enjoyed. Sounds hedonistic, maybe it is, but if you're faced with the choice of cheating or experimenting to save the marriage, you might as well try first. Then if it doesn't work out you've at least started the conversation to be able to say it's time to move on. (Though, if you were gonna reach that point you might as well have never gotten married in the first place..)
Yep this is horrible. This POS wife just ghosted her family because she lost her affair partner to a heart attack. What a disgusting person, especially to do that to her 3 kids. I pray this guy dumps her and uses her abandonment of the family to get full custody. What a selfish, disgusting person.
The most unforgivable thing is the fact the parents urge Op to forgive his wife, after the wife cheated and the sister basically helped and enabled her to do so. All they really care about is appearances and reputation.
The way she reacted when AP passed is all you need to know. That was her clean get out card. No one would have ever known. She could have had her sad time privately and then went on like she had been doing nothing. She only apologized because she didn't have him to run to. Had OP found out any other way I'm sure this would be a very different story.
A person who loves their spouse wouldn't even dream to hurt them in this way. The wayward wife doesn't fully love her husband. In my opinion, she realized that he's still alive when her AP died. If AP survived, she would've continued the affair more than likely. That aside, she risked going outside and getting her family sick during Covid season. That alone should be grounds for divorce, as it's risking the safety of others.
The AP kicking the bucket was a lucky break for him, had he still been alive the affair would've kept on going passed 4 years into however long and he wouldn't have noticed, if you don't pay attention or notice things before or during those 4 years then he would've been part of that lifetime affair club many others are a part of where the wives have an affair lasting 20 or more years and no ones the wiser to it. I hope she goes through emotional pain and trauma to just get a small sense of how he feels, I hope it breaks her and humbles her to the point that when she eventually moves on, it will be a permanent scar on her soul that she takes as a lesson to not pull such horrible acts again and to actually value and appreciate what she has.
Honestly? The fact the wife took the cowards way out is fitting. She wasn't brave enough to try and resolve the issues in the marriage, and she wasn't brave enough to face the consequences
I hope OP or the kids weren't the ones to find her remains, would be extra shitty on top of it, hell, i would say it was the cowards way out and she chose to be with her AP over her family
There are a lot of storys about cheaters on Reddit and a lot of ways the betrayed partner handeled the situation. In most of them there is some form of revenge or pettyness from the betrayed but I believe OP handeled this situation the best way possible. He didn´t get overly angry or tried to get revenge. As far as it seems he only wanted this whole thing to be over and to be happy with his daughters without causing them, himself or the StbExW any more harm than she already did. Its quite tragic to know how this story ends. In the end the wife did cause a lot more harm and damage to all involved and thats going to take a long time to overcome and will most likely leave scars. I wish only the best to OP and his daughters. Hopefully they can overcome this situation together.
The fucking audacity of the wife. She cheats, has her Mother and Sister cover for her, was planning on leaving OP and the kids, but "still loves him" and wants to make it work. In fact, the MIL also has some audacity to try and probe whether OP is divorcing or not. Back to the cheater though. "I'm not ready" when asked to talk. That is what you owe the family, how long did it take for her to finally speak? And even then the Husband had to speak about what he knew first. Not to mention saying "that's not fair" when OP asked who she would choose, like, I'm sorry, the person who cheated thinks something isn't fair? I've read the comments in this vid and know she deleted herself... so much pain she has caused the family. I'm angry on OP's behalf.
The wife unaliving herself was just so that the OP and kids will feel bad for her. That is bad, she cheated, then has the gut to come back demanding her family back and when that doesn't work she unalives herself for guilt and saddnes from her family.
The only thing worth saying to a WS is basically "I don't know what is going to happen, I don't know what exactly the consequences will be overall. The only thing I know for certain is that I will never believe you ever again, and I no longer love you, and I never will. I want a peaceful divorce so that I can live my life apart from you. I don't care what you want or what you do. Im not saying to you that i still love you but can't do this. What im saying is I no longer love you and I want you out of my life as soon as possible. Please don't speak to me unless its absolutely necessary." And stick to that forever
These cheating stories are always crazy to me, as no one I know would ever cheat (and I'm one of the most loyal people one the planet, so it's extra crazy to imagine).
With my ex, I co-existed during divorce by convincing she never existed. Even though I saw her everyday, I just looked past her and imagined I was just seeing a ghost.
She’s not even guilty. Just sad she didn’t get her cake and couldn’t eat it too. What a scummy person, especially the way she was so excited and happy to be rid of the kids
I highly doubt it. In the people are just people. I mean she even unalived herself. I think the guilt became too much. Not that makes it right. She is a coward to the core.
It's so asinine to avoid the consequences of your actions by game ending yourself.🤦♀️ The wife gets zero sympathy from me because she decided to ruin her marriage simply because she was bored and take her own life.🤨
I read or watch and listen to the video from FB, the complete version. The cheating wife was Selfish and Coward, this is the cheater who didn't felt any remorse to the people that she betrayed, She's devastated not because she got caught cheating but because the AP died. A literal piece of trash When I finished listening to the video my initial comment was She choose to follow her AP to hell than suffer the guilt and the consequences of her actions for life. I said that because she clearly choose the AP over her own Family, fantasizing a new life with AP without any thoughts of her own children, then not immediately going home and choose to hide from her husband and kids, then cannot answer Husband's question about if the AP didn't die who will she(wife) choose between her family or the AP? She hesitated before answering and that moment alone I knew that she's just sad and lost because the AP died, She's just selfish, no ifs no buts and after a few days she choose the coward way out.
That sucks.. bro. In my country, Its legal to murder your spouse (you have to be legally married) or their partner if they're caught cheating red handed on the spot. Though you should be able to prove that they were "connected" to each other when you found them. - Btw, this is in the PHILIPPINES. (Though lets not murder anybodu and instead milk them for all they have in court.)
I'm kind of shocked how unempathetic people are to her unaliving herself. Yes, she is a cheater. No, she did not deserve to die. The action to unalive oneself is the symptom of a long festering illness, not a real choice.
Jesus, not just the wife but her parents and sister were in on it as well?! Dude better get an STD test pronto! Probably a paternity test too, if he's feeling brave Wonder if the BiL knew about it as well? I'm holding out hope he didn't, just so OPs kids can have at least _one_ maternal family member that didn't contribute to the thermonuclear bombardement of their family ☹️
Her parents didn't know until AP died. The only BIL is the divorced husband of SIL, who (understandably) has no contact with her or any of them. There is no brother of WW. So in short, no, only SIL who encouraged this nonsense.
not alot of people mention this, but the OP is an amazing father. Every single step he took made sure gave the best example to hid kids, incredible dad and wife was a coward for unaliving herself instead of trying to rebuild her life.
I would've lost my sh*t and demanded from the inlaws what the crap was going on and demanded they front her up or i send the cops in then told them to keep her as she's divorced and tried a restraining order on her. F her feelings and the black hole she dug herself into. Yeah and i would've told the girls the truth.
If the other man hadn’t died, she wouldn’t be asking for another chance. The way she came and packed and left her family without explanation, really showed her true colours. I am so sorry she unaligned herself and left that burden on her children, especially the oldest daughter who was very angry with, she must be racked with guilt, though I think she shouldn’t be. She was a victim of her mother’s callousness.
People who think that this is "good news" aren't parents. Those daughters now have to grow up without a mother, and all the self-blame and trauma that will go with it. Not to mention the potential for family recriminations down the line. As selfish and myopic in death as she was in life.
The West loves the word trauma, a bad, evil, manipulative, and cowardly woman just left them, they will be fine, with a few tears here and there@@smallpseudonym2844
i think that if you have kids and your partner cheats, you have to immediately end the relationship and divorce if you're married, even if you don't have kids that's the correct action to take but it's especially important if you have kids. they need an example that the betrayal of cheating is unforgivable, that they need to have self respect.
if your gonna cheat why not break up/ divorce? instead of hurting them by cheating just leave them so that at least they can find someone else but no they are too greedy, selfish and vile to let their cheated partner find happiness
OP's wife is playing a waiting game, thinking his "love" for her will outweigh his hurt and anger. She appears to be a skilled manipulator who knows exactly how to get what she wants from the OP..
For anyone looking for the post or the profile, I was able to find it, but won't post it, just know it's easy to find if you search the title. The update from him is that he's not on social media that much anymore. After her passing, it took a toll on the Wife's family (FIL, MIL, SIL) and his, but they are getting through it. He is still not as close as he once was with the parents, but the relationship is the best it can possibly be, as he is a little spacious around them, but the daughters still have a good relationship with them. The SIL was gonna be a no-contact till one of them die for what she did. She had a mental breakdown in February and disappeared. No one knows where she is, and from he knows, no one really cares.
She didn't love him and the only reason she would "do anything to prove she still loved him" was because her first choice died. He was nothing but a fallback plan because if AP proposed she would have left him in a heartbeat, but he died so she just went back to the fallback option. If she really did kill herself typical female move just rid myself of ever having to take any accountability for the wrongs that I've done, and further hurt the ones I have already destroyed.......................what a coward move.
Nah she unalived herself in the end and it shows who she chose.. she wanted to be with AP so bad and she knew there was no recovering her life from what she did. She was a walking health hazard it's outstanding they didn't get her mental treatment her whole family and friends hate her and the one person she could confide in is dead. She's still a human and she needed help. Then again she decided to be a coward about it so
She was willing to throw away an entire family, for a pampered rich life, and then has the gall to say that she loves her soon to be ex husband, and wants to be with him? Hell no, you can go spend the rest of your life next to his grave, she made her choice, and it was the old man who died of a heart attack, that family should be done with her forever, just like she was willing to do to them.
Maybe just maybe after 4 years if she had her revelation of how bad she screwed the family it would matter a bit. Only caring when the affair partner is in the grave is still selfish
Should feel bad that she ended up ending her own life, but honestly, I don't. She reaped what she sowed The Devil came knocking, demanding what he was owed, allowing her a chance to indulge in her lustful desires. What he demanded with interest was too much for her to bear, so she took the easy way out. But what comes around will always go around to haunt us, may God be merciful on her soul.
Wow so she breaks it off but comes crawling back to him to cheat. Only reason she so tore up is cause now hes dead and she cant go crawling back to him
She's already there now thinking that she could avoid the consequences and doesn't know that she would be punished in hell by burning in a lake of everlasting fire and brimstone.🤦♀️
Things I really hate about this situation. If a man cheats he will be forced to leave the house, woman cheats man is forced to allow her to live there. The fact that that SIL and MIL knew is almost as bad. After OP’s unalived herself I would of told In-laws that they would never see me or their grandchildren ever again for helping cause the pain in the family
Bro when I say idc how much you trust you girl you need to check her phone I’ve seen to many of these stories and some real like stuff where they would’ve found out so much sooner and earlier into it if they just checked they phones
This is another well-known Reddit story that has been posted across multiple platforms that didn’t end well for this family. OP’s more recent comments divulge that his cheating wife ended up unaliving herself. She took the coward’s way out, leaving behind her already devastated betrayed husband and daughters. Her actions have destroyed her entire family. They’ll all need intensive therapy for many years in order to overcome the trauma of that woman’s selfish choices.
Good lord.
I tried to find the post but couldn't find it. Do you have, by any chance, a link to the full story?
Can you give us the link or the account name??? Please
source: bro trust me
@@luhchirpknow how cheaters are cowards it seems legit
The 'i would have loved you forever " was brutal, but deserved
I wish I had said that to my serial adulterer ex husband.
I'm not sure even that would have freed me from him.😢😢😢
Fact that OP updated that wife killed herself confirms to me that Wife was far more terrified of ending up alone than of being stuck in a marriage and family where everyone despised her.
At least she did something useful
@@zachary6425 she probably did it to follow AP 😂😂😂😂😂😂
The first good thing she did after the affair.
Aight everyone chill you're getting a little too spicy
She did the right thing.
You can't just 'apologize' away a four year affair. Hope he's successful in divorcing her and gets custody of the kids!
OP’s most recent comments and update weren’t included here, but the cheating wife unalived herself several weeks ago.
i think it probably had smth to do with the “i WOULD have loved you for ever” comment. while shes a complete bitch for what she put a caring loving guy and 3 amazing innocent kids through merely because she was “bored” i think it would be sad that she unalived herself.i say think cuz i honestly dont give a damn about what happens to cheaters.
Yeah, I think so too. That was a K.O. one-liner tbh. She knew her life would have been crap after the divorce. @@z3mici3l
@@z3mici3l eh her suicide only makes her more the A-hole. Instead of being accountable for her decisions she ran from all accountability leaving her husband and kids to deal with her choices. She’s a cee u next Tuesday
I can't see other people responses, but in case no one said it.
The soon to be ex qife ended up comiting suicede.
Every person that says you should reconcile with a cheater should be asked if they'd do the same. Guaranteed they wouldn't. I wish this man and kids well and hope they have better people in their lives.
Depends on what they did. If it was a one time thing, and was due to alcohol, for example, where there's no consent(it's basically rape), I would reconcile. But actively hiding and indulging in something more than once? Yeah, "get the fuck out of here, I never want to see your sorry face again."
@@ragingsaviorkami9862r*pe doesn’t count as cheating
@@ragingsaviorkami9862100% agree. Cheating is never a mistake, it's a series of choices one willingly makes. The fact the mom and sister aided makes me believe the mother also cheated and the husband is just a door mat. If I had a daughter that cheated on her husband, I'd tell her husband to go ahead and get a divorce. Cheaters aren't worth it. They thought so little of the marriage when they were cheating, why should the person that got cheated on make an effort to fix things?!?
@@frantheman1287 Oh, there's no doubt about that. Mother is definitely a bad person with a failed marriage If she decided to encourage the daughter's shitty behavior. It's the type of a woman that hates men, you know, those moms that are like "One day you will get married, make sure you choose wisely", and then proceeds to teach her to look for all the wrong things in a guy, like for example a guy that is easily controlled nad manipulated. Those women grow up with no respect for the opposite gender whatsoever. Same goes with men who grow up to be abusive, their dads never thought them how to treat someone properly. They may have witnessd abuse too at some point, and end up seeing women as almost an entire, lower-class species. You know, I'm talking about the "sigma giga chad male pussy slayer 3000" type of guys.
It all has to do with upbringing, I'd say.
Agree. In fact, it’s staggering the number of holier-than-thou disingenuous a$$holes who take what they believe to be the moral high ground and shriek at OP about their many shortcomings in how the situation was dealt with - despite the almost sure reality that these posters would do similar, if not worse were they in the same scenario. I’m so sick of arrogant liars who get their jollies pretending virtue online when they are the biggest piles of $hit irl!
She was a weak human who couldn't face consequences of her own decisions who literally destroyed life of op and their daughter.Even when life gave her chance to come clean she just cowardly left no sympathy for her.
Maybe hell is real and the two cheaters can meet and be together forever?
@zacharyturner6425 Dante's inferno includes how Cleopatra was in hell for her adulterous lifestyle. Soo wouldn't be surprised
edit: but then again it's just a famous piece of fiction but with its roots in religion
@@RedNinja0070 The Divine Comedy isn't exactly church canon.
Edit: I predict a dummy will respond to this comment with some wild revisionist tactics.
@@samvimes2061 Read carefully what I wrote. Then type. Your literacy is non canon btw.
@@RedNinja0070 Nice edit dude. You got me...
Or did you? I predicted your reply in advance. Get played.
I can’t explain how angry I am that she has the nerve to ask why he’s cold to her after she had an affair for FOUR FCKUNG YEARS
Of course she has the nerve. She was the only person who mattered in her world, and her "boredom" with her life was supposed to be "understandable" to and even forgivable to the OP. Her parents asking for him to be patient and understanding at the beginning made my blood boil. No accountability for the pain she caused, and they helped her.
She's a female
she off herself
This story is incomplete. OP actually provided an update afterwards. Wife ended up unaliving herself.
Good
do you have a link ?
And now she can be with her lover in hell. Don't care about that, especially when she thought she was in the right after abandoning her family because her affair partner died first.
do you got a link to the update or is just this "trust me bro"
@@maxwell71596 RUclips doesn’t like links in comments. It automatically deletes them as spam.
The only reason she didn't want to talk about her affair is because she knew as soon as she did there would be nothing stopping her husband from making up his mind to divorce her. As long as op was keeping her around to learn the truth she could delay the inevitable. If her affair partner hadn't died she would have never ended it. At the end though, she knew her affair partner was having multiple affairs and she still hesitated when asked who she would have chosen. She sucks.
"I would have loved you forever." Damn, that got me.
Anyone who even considers leaving their children and running away with an AP because they are "bored" is already long gone.
Most irredeemable cheater I've learned about in recent memory. She full on fell in love with her AP. That's the whole pickle right there. She never would have given her family a second thought and would have left them of her own volition eventually if her AP was still alive. She left her home to go grieve HIS death and then came back to salvage the life she willingly threw away.
"...and asked me If this was how I was going to treat her just because she's not ready to talk to me about her affair" What an unrepentant piece of walking garbage. That line alone would have been the end of it for me. No need for all the pain shopping he needed to do to find the resolve to end it all. The monumental, brazen lack of respect would have been plenty for me and I would make darn sure going forward she never got to see MY kids after that.
Her family of cheater sympathizers couldn't even tolerate her for more than a few days. Should tell you all you need to know.
This poor man would have benefited greatly from being able to physcially seperate during this whole grueling ordeal. Her constantly floundering all over him would have broken anyone down that was spiraling from the end of a near life long relationship with a spouse. She did all that to him intentionally for her own selfishness just like she did everything else.
EDIT: Well, looks like she forever bowed out of the work that would have been needed to begin to right her many wrongs. By taking her own life she has placed all the pain and hurt she was feeling, on top of a massive amount of guilt, on to her surviving family. In cases like this taking the easy way out is the ultimate coward's act. I hope the SIL spends the rest of her days knowing she is also an irredeemable monster. My heart goes out to OP and his kids, they've been dealt a truly awful hand.
And at the end she unalived herself when she realised she is hated and things are not going to change(that is an update). Also i hate the fact that she hesitated to answer would she prefer OP or AP after begging for forgiveness for weeks.
Welp, she was already going to hell with the betrayal of her whole family. Now she's going to super hell with that stunt 😂
Always wonder if it makes you a bad person for enjoying, seeing bad people be in absolute anguish 😅
Not to mention being grilled by the In Laws about keeping her. I would have said, sure you choose. Either I forgive her, or I forgive you (mother, father, sister in law). Either the three of you or her. One or the other is never going to step foot in my house again, never see the kids again. Divorce her anyway but really put the inlaws through the ringer.
@@NineM_YorHareally? No matter how evil a person may be I almost feel sorry for the poor bastard and I hate it.
Well put, I had very similar views on the situation as well.
From what I've heard. If you're bored in the relationship, it means you should definitely tell your spouse FIRST.
I don't think she was bored of the relationship, she was bored of having a family and being a mom/wife.
She wanted to feel what it was like to be young and carefree again. Obviously still could've told him, there could've been other ways to go about it.
Now she's dead, and unlike most of the people here with 0 empathy, I feel sorry for her as much as the OP and their daughters. Life truly is a bitch. Some people say "Good, now she can burn in hell", like how do you know Hell exists? For all we know, that could be the end of her, right there and then. Do cheaters really deserve to die?
@@orestojanovic8405 hell or not that’s the end, I feel slight pity but adultery is unforgivable and the offenders are worthy of neither pity nor mercy.
@@orestojanovic8405She was never really sorry. Selfish to the core and never genuinely felt remorse with that hesitation; ultimately she was, in fact, a coward that couldn't even do the bare minimum to prove her apology, which would've been to leave OP the hell alone and begin the slow, painful process of fixing herself with no expectation or hope that OP could ever forgive her. The fact that she kept begging despite the contradictions only meant that she cared about herself only, and nobody else.
@@dillsnickle Okay, I'll admit, you do have a point there. The fact they always apologize and start begging when the AP leaves them or, in this case, dies, and not before that, says a lot. I'd say they're all just weak, underdeveloped personalities, guided by impulses. No backbone whatsoever, no ability to handle reality.
@@orestojanovic8405How can there be harmony without penance and forgiveness?
Read The Brothers Karamazov ^^
The fact that she said nothing and essentially acted like the victim in the confrontation. Glad the kids know now she said she would tell them the truth and literally refused this was all deserved.
Yeah she's a lost cause. Her actions speak immesurable dishonesty. Always remember that actions speak louder than words. To run away with another man; no amount of sorry or I love you cannot work. The end checks out when she hesitated. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
More than you know, update shows that she took her own life
She choked on the cake
If AP was still alive, who would you be with?
"That's unfair."
THFCKING NERVE! (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻
Sometimes, I wander where did the parents went wrong, raising ppl like this
@@soubermed2175 narcissists and potentially sociopaths. Parents probably never had the chance to fix it as these people are hardwired to be selfish.
Well, from the Updates on the actual post, she's with the AP now.
What does AP means? Acces point? Ability power? Advanced Placement?
And why is every one using "unalive" instead of "suicide" or "killed"?
@@fijapopovic5335 AP means affair partner. I also was thinking what it meant when I stumbled across this story. The reason for using unalive is due to how the algorithm just buries any video that has that, even demonitising it.
I'm just fascinated by her hybris, going back home and claiming that she has always loved OP.
I'm glad that my fellow men are learning, his follow up question was world class.
More than you know, she ended up taking the coward’s way out
The Original Reddit title: “Wife of 17 Years Has Basically Ghosted us for the Last 3 days.”
Yup... the updates are very RECENT. WW gone. SIL (who knew) NC, mental breakdown. OP is surviving.
Thanks bud
@@bohemian_beastx
SIL NC?
What does that mean?
@@NGMKsil is sister in law, idk nc
nc means no contact
Sad story, sad that she ended up self deleting and leaving her kids without their mother, i hope OP and the kids are doing and get thru the grief to live happy fulfilling lives.
Right at the beginning of this story but the moment someone says “be understanding” and won’t tell you what’s going on, especially if they abandon their family, whatever is going on is a matter of pure selfishness. ‘Understanding’ means they don’t want to be blamed for whatever they have done
The pain of losing her affair partner was all she could focus on and more important than the love of her daughters and being there for them.
Take about pathetic..
*daughters and husband...are you just going to pretend that the husband didn't exist?!
Well... From my research... She is with ap now
You know what's the most scariest thing ever you getting married whole time you thinking you're winning with your significant other and then be blindsided with the fact that they had an affair and was planning to run away with them leaving the life that y'all Build Together behind
And in the end she did that anyway.
All these relationships falling apart due to boredom. Sometimes folks, boredom is a part of life. A married woman trying to raise 3 teenage daughters and she's bored? Hallelujah, most people would kill for a life that chill with a man and family that love and adore them and they throw it all away for some losers that really don't care about them or the life and accomplishments they've spent their whole lives achieving. She was literally going to abandon her husband and daughters so she could have a 'more exciting life'. Now, and rightfully so, she'll have nothing. She destroyed whatever relationships she's had with her family and any future relationship with her daughters. It'll never be the same. She also hesitated when asked if she'd choose the maggot food AP or OP. She clearly doesn't love him, she's a liar and a narcissist. She valued a stranger over her obligations as a mother and a wife. L wife, L SIL, L in-law parents. They all belong to the streets. If you support a cheater, you're condoning their actions. I hope OP and the daughters keep that in mind going forward. With family like that, who needs enemies? If SIL is married, I hope her husband wakes up and takes a good look into his wife's life. Apples don't fall far from the tree.
Likewise.. If you're bored, there's this thing called communication. If your spouse/SO knows about it, you can try something new. In the bedroom, out in the world, whatever, but you can try to spice things up. Hell you could even hit up some online forums and ask what a good 'getaway' or retreat might be for a couple that's looking for some excitement.
And if it's to the point of cheating to find something new.. There are couple's suitors/escorts who's entire schtick is showing up and getting consent from both parties before presenting some new ideas or pushing boundaries to see what might be enjoyed. Sounds hedonistic, maybe it is, but if you're faced with the choice of cheating or experimenting to save the marriage, you might as well try first. Then if it doesn't work out you've at least started the conversation to be able to say it's time to move on. (Though, if you were gonna reach that point you might as well have never gotten married in the first place..)
Every Cheating wife : "I'm only human afterall, don't put the blame on me."~
Goated song
when parents/grandparents always ask "hey anon, why arent you married yet?"
She ended up self deleting herself from op on reddit
Can you tell me the name of the post? I searched for it, can't find it
@@Gilgamesh631 "Wife of 17 Years Has Basically Ghosted us for the Last 3 days" from u/DontbeaDumbbell
@@Gilgamesh631 Wife of 17 Years Has Basically Ghosted us for the Last 3 days
From another comment.
@@Gilgamesh631his name is don’tbeadumbells
Wife of 17 Years Has Basically Ghosted us for the Last 3 days
That is just evil.
Yep this is horrible. This POS wife just ghosted her family because she lost her affair partner to a heart attack.
What a disgusting person, especially to do that to her 3 kids.
I pray this guy dumps her and uses her abandonment of the family to get full custody. What a selfish, disgusting person.
@presterjohn9088 there was an update that she ended herself
@@demonvictimtypical, the cheater fxcks everything up then offs themselves because it catches up to them.
@@scpfoundation8376 Atleast is the trash is out now though.
Not going to lie. I would have definitely told her to go back to her affair partner. I would want her to feel the hurt.
The most unforgivable thing is the fact the parents urge Op to forgive his wife, after the wife cheated and the sister basically helped and enabled her to do so.
All they really care about is appearances and reputation.
The way she reacted when AP passed is all you need to know. That was her clean get out card. No one would have ever known. She could have had her sad time privately and then went on like she had been doing nothing. She only apologized because she didn't have him to run to. Had OP found out any other way I'm sure this would be a very different story.
A person who loves their spouse wouldn't even dream to hurt them in this way. The wayward wife doesn't fully love her husband. In my opinion, she realized that he's still alive when her AP died. If AP survived, she would've continued the affair more than likely. That aside, she risked going outside and getting her family sick during Covid season. That alone should be grounds for divorce, as it's risking the safety of others.
The AP kicking the bucket was a lucky break for him, had he still been alive the affair would've kept on going passed 4 years into however long and he wouldn't have noticed, if you don't pay attention or notice things before or during those 4 years then he would've been part of that lifetime affair club many others are a part of where the wives have an affair lasting 20 or more years and no ones the wiser to it.
I hope she goes through emotional pain and trauma to just get a small sense of how he feels, I hope it breaks her and humbles her to the point that when she eventually moves on, it will be a permanent scar on her soul that she takes as a lesson to not pull such horrible acts again and to actually value and appreciate what she has.
She took the easy way out and ended herself according to others.
She left her husband and daughters ALONE because she was sad her AP died
Lmao
Shoot, she didn't even love her husband or children. Cheated on husband and ignored her children. What a selfish person.
Honestly? The fact the wife took the cowards way out is fitting. She wasn't brave enough to try and resolve the issues in the marriage, and she wasn't brave enough to face the consequences
I hope OP or the kids weren't the ones to find her remains, would be extra shitty on top of it, hell, i would say it was the cowards way out and she chose to be with her AP over her family
There are a lot of storys about cheaters on Reddit and a lot of ways the betrayed partner handeled the situation. In most of them there is some form of revenge or pettyness from the betrayed but I believe OP handeled this situation the best way possible. He didn´t get overly angry or tried to get revenge. As far as it seems he only wanted this whole thing to be over and to be happy with his daughters without causing them, himself or the StbExW any more harm than she already did. Its quite tragic to know how this story ends. In the end the wife did cause a lot more harm and damage to all involved and thats going to take a long time to overcome and will most likely leave scars.
I wish only the best to OP and his daughters. Hopefully they can overcome this situation together.
The fucking audacity of the wife. She cheats, has her Mother and Sister cover for her, was planning on leaving OP and the kids, but "still loves him" and wants to make it work. In fact, the MIL also has some audacity to try and probe whether OP is divorcing or not. Back to the cheater though. "I'm not ready" when asked to talk. That is what you owe the family, how long did it take for her to finally speak? And even then the Husband had to speak about what he knew first. Not to mention saying "that's not fair" when OP asked who she would choose, like, I'm sorry, the person who cheated thinks something isn't fair? I've read the comments in this vid and know she deleted herself... so much pain she has caused the family. I'm angry on OP's behalf.
The wife unaliving herself was just so that the OP and kids will feel bad for her. That is bad, she cheated, then has the gut to come back demanding her family back and when that doesn't work she unalives herself for guilt and saddnes from her family.
The only thing worth saying to a WS is basically "I don't know what is going to happen, I don't know what exactly the consequences will be overall. The only thing I know for certain is that I will never believe you ever again, and I no longer love you, and I never will. I want a peaceful divorce so that I can live my life apart from you. I don't care what you want or what you do. Im not saying to you that i still love you but can't do this. What im saying is I no longer love you and I want you out of my life as soon as possible. Please don't speak to me unless its absolutely necessary."
And stick to that forever
OP shouldn’t be too upset about venting everyone has to do it every now and again as long as you’re in the right environment at the right time.
These cheating stories are always crazy to me, as no one I know would ever cheat (and I'm one of the most loyal people one the planet, so it's extra crazy to imagine).
With my ex, I co-existed during divorce by convincing she never existed. Even though I saw her everyday, I just looked past her and imagined I was just seeing a ghost.
I'm glad that my fellow men are learning, his follow up question was world class.
The moment he found out his wife was involved in an affair, he should have gotten DNA paternity tests for “his daughters” as soon as possible.
I feel so bad for OP, he suffered so much because of his horrible cheating wife
She’s not even guilty. Just sad she didn’t get her cake and couldn’t eat it too. What a scummy person, especially the way she was so excited and happy to be rid of the kids
This woman was NOT wife or mother material. Too many of those baddies around these days.
"I would have loved you forever as the thirteenth reason" 😆
She’s not sad about cheating, just that her ap passed away, that’s what’s really hurting her
I highly doubt it. In the people are just people. I mean she even unalived herself. I think the guilt became too much. Not that makes it right. She is a coward to the core.
Ask the APs parents to put their will into a trust fund for the grand daughters.
It's so asinine to avoid the consequences of your actions by game ending yourself.🤦♀️ The wife gets zero sympathy from me because she decided to ruin her marriage simply because she was bored and take her own life.🤨
You know what they say "she belongs to the streets"
I read or watch and listen to the video from FB, the complete version.
The cheating wife was Selfish and Coward, this is the cheater who didn't felt any remorse to the people that she betrayed, She's devastated not because she got caught cheating but because the AP died. A literal piece of trash
When I finished listening to the video my initial comment was She choose to follow her AP to hell than suffer the guilt and the consequences of her actions for life. I said that because she clearly choose the AP over her own Family, fantasizing a new life with AP without any thoughts of her own children, then not immediately going home and choose to hide from her husband and kids, then cannot answer Husband's question about if the AP didn't die who will she(wife) choose between her family or the AP? She hesitated before answering and that moment alone I knew that she's just sad and lost because the AP died, She's just selfish, no ifs no buts and after a few days she choose the coward way out.
That sucks.. bro.
In my country, Its legal to murder your spouse (you have to be legally married) or their partner if they're caught cheating red handed on the spot.
Though you should be able to prove that they were "connected" to each other when you found them.
- Btw, this is in the PHILIPPINES.
(Though lets not murder anybodu and instead milk them for all they have in court.)
Sorry to hear that you're getting so sad don't be sad everything is gonna be right
Wow, that was frickin heartbreaking....
I’m guessing this will be crazy
I'm kind of shocked how unempathetic people are to her unaliving herself. Yes, she is a cheater. No, she did not deserve to die. The action to unalive oneself is the symptom of a long festering illness, not a real choice.
Big dog it is absolutely a choice, hers was influenced by her repeated shorty decisions.
Jesus, not just the wife but her parents and sister were in on it as well?!
Dude better get an STD test pronto!
Probably a paternity test too, if he's feeling brave
Wonder if the BiL knew about it as well? I'm holding out hope he didn't, just so OPs kids can have at least _one_ maternal family member that didn't contribute to the thermonuclear bombardement of their family ☹️
Her parents didn't know until AP died. The only BIL is the divorced husband of SIL, who (understandably) has no contact with her or any of them. There is no brother of WW. So in short, no, only SIL who encouraged this nonsense.
I've never read a Reddit story that made me so viciously angry.
Welp, it seems she's not on this earth anymore. Good riddance.
not alot of people mention this, but the OP is an amazing father. Every single step he took made sure gave the best example to hid kids, incredible dad and wife was a coward for unaliving herself instead of trying to rebuild her life.
Wife learned the streets are cold.
This story hits way too close to home!
I would've lost my sh*t and demanded from the inlaws what the crap was going on and demanded they front her up or i send the cops in then told them to keep her as she's divorced and tried a restraining order on her. F her feelings and the black hole she dug herself into. Yeah and i would've told the girls the truth.
wife ended up unaliving herself. good riddance lol
Someone cheating on you is bad, but just because they were bored just adds salt to the wound
There is no perfection in life it's a decision she makes to enter the marriage she should work on it or leave.
Accountability is likw kryptonite to the dishonest
If the other man hadn’t died, she wouldn’t be asking for another chance. The way she came and packed and left her family without explanation, really showed her true colours. I am so sorry she unaligned herself and left that burden on her children, especially the oldest daughter who was very angry with, she must be racked with guilt, though I think she shouldn’t be. She was a victim of her mother’s callousness.
GOOD NEWS, the cheater unalived herself and op went on NC with her side of the family that knew about the affair
- source
the comments
That’s not good news. The husband may be hurt and dislike her for what she did but he didn’t want her to kill herself.
good news for us. im tired of pretindeing @@tomurashigaraki3636
People who think that this is "good news" aren't parents. Those daughters now have to grow up without a mother, and all the self-blame and trauma that will go with it. Not to mention the potential for family recriminations down the line. As selfish and myopic in death as she was in life.
The West loves the word trauma, a bad, evil, manipulative, and cowardly woman just left them, they will be fine, with a few tears here and there@@smallpseudonym2844
i think that if you have kids and your partner cheats, you have to immediately end the relationship and divorce if you're married, even if you don't have kids that's the correct action to take but it's especially important if you have kids. they need an example that the betrayal of cheating is unforgivable, that they need to have self respect.
They never want to divorce first, then date. It's always (cheat first and beg for forgiveness later)
The wife has some damn nerve. Honestly, what a horrible person.
She was made for the streets.
She's not the kids mother, she stopped being their mother the moment she ghosted them for days.
if your gonna cheat why not break up/ divorce? instead of hurting them by cheating just leave them so that at least they can find someone else but no they are too greedy, selfish and vile to let their cheated partner find happiness
Is it wrong to use your ex wife’s fear for leverage to get the truth out is wrong? No! After all she’s done, no
OP's wife is playing a waiting game, thinking his "love" for her will outweigh his hurt and anger. She appears to be a skilled manipulator who knows exactly how to get what she wants from the OP..
She killed herself....
For anyone looking for the post or the profile, I was able to find it, but won't post it, just know it's easy to find if you search the title. The update from him is that he's not on social media that much anymore. After her passing, it took a toll on the Wife's family (FIL, MIL, SIL) and his, but they are getting through it. He is still not as close as he once was with the parents, but the relationship is the best it can possibly be, as he is a little spacious around them, but the daughters still have a good relationship with them. The SIL was gonna be a no-contact till one of them die for what she did. She had a mental breakdown in February and disappeared. No one knows where she is, and from he knows, no one really cares.
She didn't love him and the only reason she would "do anything to prove she still loved him" was because her first choice died. He was nothing but a fallback plan because if AP proposed she would have left him in a heartbeat, but he died so she just went back to the fallback option. If she really did kill herself typical female move just rid myself of ever having to take any accountability for the wrongs that I've done, and further hurt the ones I have already destroyed.......................what a coward move.
typical female move?? woman don't commit suicide easily lol
You had me until you said female. Yikes.
She unalive herself to join her AP..
Cheaters. Even though most say what theyve done isn't that bad. They always take the cowards way out instead of just leaving everyone else in peace
Nah she unalived herself in the end and it shows who she chose.. she wanted to be with AP so bad and she knew there was no recovering her life from what she did. She was a walking health hazard it's outstanding they didn't get her mental treatment her whole family and friends hate her and the one person she could confide in is dead. She's still a human and she needed help. Then again she decided to be a coward about it so
I feel bad for men who chose wrong women and married them.
Imagine the ones who cant leave them....
That lawyer is incorrect if the house is in your name you can kick her out regardless of marriage
She was hoping be'd forget so she can avoid accountability
cheating for 4 YEARS?! 😨
How in the world does anybody hide an affair for four years?
After my own experience, and reddit I don't think I'll ever trust women or relationships again
Once a cheat always a cheat..
Uhhhh no
This man is great I have nothing but respect and admiration
Be patient a d understanding?! About WHAT?! What an unbelievably selfish woman
"I would have loved you forever" is so fucking gangster tho
She was willing to throw away an entire family, for a pampered rich life, and then has the gall to say that she loves her soon to be ex husband, and wants to be with him? Hell no, you can go spend the rest of your life next to his grave, she made her choice, and it was the old man who died of a heart attack, that family should be done with her forever, just like she was willing to do to them.
Maybe just maybe after 4 years if she had her revelation of how bad she screwed the family it would matter a bit. Only caring when the affair partner is in the grave is still selfish
This guy and all the frigging slashes.
OP should’ve recorded the confession 😬
Should feel bad that she ended up ending her own life, but honestly, I don't. She reaped what she sowed
The Devil came knocking, demanding what he was owed, allowing her a chance to indulge in her lustful desires. What he demanded with interest was too much for her to bear, so she took the easy way out. But what comes around will always go around to haunt us, may God be merciful on her soul.
Wow so she breaks it off but comes crawling back to him to cheat. Only reason she so tore up is cause now hes dead and she cant go crawling back to him
Meh, she was already going to hell. Now with that stunt of unaliving herself she's going to super hell 😂
She's already there now thinking that she could avoid the consequences and doesn't know that she would be punished in hell by burning in a lake of everlasting fire and brimstone.🤦♀️
Things I really hate about this situation. If a man cheats he will be forced to leave the house, woman cheats man is forced to allow her to live there. The fact that that SIL and MIL knew is almost as bad. After OP’s unalived herself I would of told In-laws that they would never see me or their grandchildren ever again for helping cause the pain in the family
Your story is really touching. Have you thought about how to handle this with your kids? Do you plan to contact her again for more answers?
She took her own life. He said so in his latest update
Bro when I say idc how much you trust you girl you need to check her phone I’ve seen to many of these stories and some real like stuff where they would’ve found out so much sooner and earlier into it if they just checked they phones
She was everything to me... Yeah and you were nothing to her m. M
I checked, It seems the wife took her own life.
Id just go grey rock and never act like she was there at all like she was a fly on the wall that i never noticed