So, what's the lesson? Cheat once = end of the relationship, PERIOD. Don't bother with counseling, waste of time, energy and money. Just drop the spouse like a bad habit and move on. THEY gave up on the relationship when they decided to cheat, not you.
Honestly, the whole story was just long for no reason. If he/she cheated hire a PI get a lawyer and just leave, the amount of pain you'll save yourself from is soo much better than sticking around and groveling for whaterver.
His mother is 100% cheating on his father, nobody is THAT defensive & supportive of a known cheater without being one themselves. The entire damn family is awful though, my god I have never seen this many people in a story like this be THIS shitty.
Did you know that most books, movies, series, and games are not real but fiction hmmmmm maybe we're all here just for entertainement 😅 but hey, i know thinking is hard
Also Characters, because there seems to be a mix of Ex-Wife and Wife lingo towards the middle, alongside a random tangent with his parents. Fake as hell
Why do people try reconcile so much when you know they cheating spouse is lying and trickle-truthing you? Even after months of that, it took OP almost a year to ask for a divorce. Stop being a doormat.
I think it's because peoples get dependant affectiv, like they cannot live without the person But i think it's like a bandage you need to remove, but it hurts you and you need to remove it fast because it will make your hurt more and more in the long way
can you really blame the family. op is such a simp that its not believeable that his wife did a bad thing. most sane people would leave if they were cheated on, but op was willing to keep reconciling after his wife cheated. so its obvious in other peoples eyes that the wife didnt do anything bad, because op isnt treating it as bad
@@f687sNFM That is what happens after years of abuse. His family ruined him by undermining his self worth. Trashing him every time they could. Giving all the attention to the other brother. Years and years of that has consequences in your mind. And the result is what you see in OP. A disaster of a person, that even when he is not evil or bad, he is not stable or he doesnt not take good decisions and/or actions over his life
“But I’m taller and stronger than him” “I let him push me” “I felt bad for raising my voice” I was getting annoyed with everyone in that. OP can’t get to the point, flip flops and prattles.
Not listened to it yet, but your comment immediately produce images of how some little kids propose with a candy ring, claim to be girlfriend-boyfriend or even married when they grow up in kindergarden/early school, before even knowing what that means (or playing up too much), but actually transition into being together when they are older. Would going through all the stages of innocent 'young love' with the same person give the right to add those years when dating a relationship, if it wasn't forced by adults wanting to play make belief with life sized dolls in hopes they'd get attracted to each other for real when older?
Wondered how this guy could possibly be that much of a doormat. Then in the end he mentions living in Sweden, this country is like the OG doormat factory
A 33 year marriage that ended two years ago that someone who was in their mid-40's was a part of... Do I really need to say more? Also, to those with opinions about the use of AI generated stories, don't forget that your engagement (or lack thereof) is how you voice how much you approve of the content.
@@noobyman333 In what political leanings? And if you're only relying on the news then it might be faulty and not everything Just so you remember that, that's why I'm trying to gain as much info as possible Edit: SD, I think the correct shortened name is, is quite extreme according to most people here And I personally hate them as my family is in trouble if those racists get the power(not fully swedish, half of my family is from another European country) I just didn't read the other message fully, apologies!
Hes not abusive but to be honest...quiet pathetic. chasing his cheating wife, begging his parents to be loved. i get it. his parents effed im up but holy cow, that no therapist saw this and worked to help him gain confidence is mindboggling.
At least in the end the guy is finally moving on with his life. I hope everything works out for him and he gets the happiness he deserves. At the least he can say he tried to fix these awful relationships, but learned that there is no point. Though it is a shame he put up with all of them for so damn long, in my opinion he should've moved on from everyone a long time ago.
Op is such a dormat. He is looking for approval from family. He needs to step up. He needs to look for others therapist and stop looking for approval. He needs to think for himself and no for anybody else. He is so pathetic, he doesn't love himself. Jeez, this kind of OP makes me so mad, because they stop loving themselves, just to put others first. If you don't love yourself, you will never love others.
In my opinion, everyone in this story is at fault. OP should've signed the papers, his mother is probably cheating on his father, OP's brother is so strange like he says OP. is abusive and that's why ex cheated on him, and then pretends it never happened.
This guy's personality seems so strange to me. The amount of chances he offers out to people that have done him wrong is ridiculous. He talks about this mother and father basically dismissing anything he says and it seems like it's normal for them, but he kept going back until he finally broke contact. It seems like his entire family has been negligent towards him, favouring his cheating, jobless brother, maybe it's jealousy or even that OP's personality is actually shit, we'll never really know. But he really should have put his foot down and lot earlier in situations, just walking off and then being fine the next time he speaks to that person is not the way to sort out problems, you have to be clear in your position and reinforce that in your actions otherwise people will walk all over you. Sending someone a note on how upset you are and how you expect them to behave because you can't do things face to face is not the way, people will just lose respect for you at a distance and pull other people into their opinion. And in my opinion, the first inkling that your wife is lying to you and cheating, that relationship's over and you should end it once and for all. Once a cheater, always a cheater. And people that can condone that behaviour, like your brother and by extension your family, will never have someone's back. They will just stab you in yours.
This shows that even when an honest person is down on their luck, they can turn things around. By keeping their head down, focusing on work and health, and cutting out all the toxicity and drama from their life, they will eventually be alright in the long run.
Classic "I can save my marriage" problems. No, you can't bro. As soon as you find out your partner is cheating on you file for divorce as fast as you can. A cheater is always a cheater and you will never save a relationship with that person
Most of these cheating stories come from America, and the ones that Ive heard where the man sticks with the cheating wife have all been from the US. OP here had his confidence destroyed by his awful family but at least had the strength in the end to walk away from that monster.
The fact that he seriously let her "go to say goodbye in person" to the guy she's cheated with hundreds of times is just unbelievable. Poor dude had no self-respect whatsoever.
3:30 - 4:10 yeah, my ex wife did that shit too, and 7 years later I'm still recovering from it.... Sad part is my ex has been starting to tell that shit to my daughter whenever my daughter visits her; so when she gets home I get attitude from my daughter for a few days after every trip now.
If this is real, he is pathetic. Why the hell is he so hung up on dates and timelines, and he lets everybody walk all over him constantly. Changing your wife’s tires so she can go visit her lover?
This is the biggest Simp story I've ever heard he offered to change her tires to winter tires so she can see the person that she was cheating on him with😂😂😂😂
If people look like they dont care about you, they dont care about you as much as they care about what is presently occupying them. In the end, what a personcare about is a hierachy, and if you find yourself low in that hierachy it's time to go.
These stories reinforce the idea that I am probably better off staying single, since I’m pretty sure I would go nuclear if I found out I was cheated on and end up in prison for a plethora of incredibly heinous and violent crimes while blacked out in white hot rage
This is why you never do the "pick me" dance. For some reason it emboldens the wayward spouse and gives them some destructive kind of power over the hurting spouse.
"...she's stuck with aftermath" what aftermath? It looks like she's fine with it. OP's family all at her side, his kids don't know what a brat she is, she's got tons of chances, OP was too patient so she toyed with him, all three councillors were at her side. I don't remember if he even won something till divorce. What she lost? Only OP here is somehow was damaged emotionally (ptsd) and physically (std)
Listening to this just feels...annoying. Dude, just divorce the wife and stop contacting this family that clearly doesn't care. Some people just won't change no matter what you say. It's tough but you got to move on with your life anyways.
I know. I was so annoyed with how long it was due to him saying a bunch of unnecessary stuff. But even more so with him trying to save the marriage when she didn't care for 20 some years.
I guess you call him Professor Simp. How many times does wife have to cheat on him before he kicks her out? Does he know what a boundary is? Does he have any? He deserves everything he got after he found out she was cheating. And divorce his whole dysfunctional family. Cheating spouse never thought about the consequences of getting caught because she had a 13 year affair and when finally caught, he simped out a few more years.
The original person is really stupid for staying in a marriage that isn't even worth saving. Cheat cheats on you again and again and again and you know that she is doing it because you're probably watching all the messages on a secondary phone to see what she's typing and you put the tracker on her phone so you know she's cheating on you repeatedly yet you stay with her like a loyal dog. Your mom and others were right that they don't understand why you're still with her at the time and even I am going to say that u are pathetic
I’ve never got mad over these stories but man op is infuriating! I lost the story when he mentioned his dysfunctional family and their problems with each other,it all became nonsense after that
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You can see how his parents totally fried his confidence/self worth, which led to him tolerating this BS as an adult.
So, what's the lesson? Cheat once = end of the relationship, PERIOD.
Don't bother with counseling, waste of time, energy and money. Just drop the spouse like a bad habit and move on. THEY gave up on the relationship when they decided to cheat, not you.
Seems like a pretty good lesson to me there’s some things in this world that you can forgive but it’s not worth forgive twice
Honestly, the whole story was just long for no reason. If he/she cheated hire a PI get a lawyer and just leave, the amount of pain you'll save yourself from is soo much better than sticking around and groveling for whaterver.
No, the lesson of this story is don't stay with a cheater. The parents and brother, post with names and NC.
@@mannyparrilla1807 yeah this story should've been less than 5 min long. You want a divorce? OK fine by me. End of story.
I mean.... Yeah? Seems like a pretty reasonable and important lesson to learn.
Should’ve signed the divorce papers the second he found it in her purse. 😭
Would’ve been so funny when she checks it and it has his signature 😂
Right!!!😂
I don't think he was strong enough to leave. He's basically a spineless pathetic doormat.
Don't. just replace them with your own. She might have it heavily one sided to benefit her. So swap them out with other forms that'll benefit you
His mother is 100% cheating on his father, nobody is THAT defensive & supportive of a known cheater without being one themselves.
The entire damn family is awful though, my god I have never seen this many people in a story like this be THIS shitty.
Nah the story sounds fake
@@grim_reapepper Congrats, nobody cares if you think its fake or not.
Did you know that most books, movies, series, and games are not real but fiction hmmmmm maybe we're all here just for entertainement 😅 but hey, i know thinking is hard
@@arcadius3257 👍
@@BelgotLeons im not sure if you are talking about my comment or thw original comment
So everyone in op's family is a cheater, the mom has to have cheated on op's father and op's father isn't actually op's father.
AI tried to cook up a fake story but failed basic math 😂
Also basic biology 😭😭😭
Huh.?
Also Characters, because there seems to be a mix of Ex-Wife and Wife lingo towards the middle, alongside a random tangent with his parents. Fake as hell
These are from Reddit, hun
Reddit is just that place where its literally "The total IQ of this place couldn't even drink.." (is under 21)
There seems to be a lot of outside scenes in this story during 2021 which is the niddle of Covid?
Speechless on how someone can be so oblivious to spouse's cheating behaviour for 10+years
Why do people try reconcile so much when you know they cheating spouse is lying and trickle-truthing you? Even after months of that, it took OP almost a year to ask for a divorce. Stop being a doormat.
I think it's because peoples get dependant affectiv, like they cannot live without the person
But i think it's like a bandage you need to remove, but it hurts you and you need to remove it fast because it will make your hurt more and more in the long way
A lack of respect for himself. Even now, he writes paragraphs beating himself up for getting mad at her. Dude has no spine.
If you act like a doormat, you will be treated like a doormat
Don't feel sorry for him. He allowed himself to be treated like trash it's his fault for being treated that way.
Also, OP's family is even worse than the cheating wife. I wouldn't accept any apologies at that point.
can you really blame the family. op is such a simp that its not believeable that his wife did a bad thing. most sane people would leave if they were cheated on, but op was willing to keep reconciling after his wife cheated. so its obvious in other peoples eyes that the wife didnt do anything bad, because op isnt treating it as bad
@@f687sNFM guess what? there have been both men and women who were just like OP. I even personally know someone who was in such a situation.
@@f687sNFM That is what happens after years of abuse. His family ruined him by undermining his self worth. Trashing him every time they could. Giving all the attention to the other brother. Years and years of that has consequences in your mind. And the result is what you see in OP. A disaster of a person, that even when he is not evil or bad, he is not stable or he doesnt not take good decisions and/or actions over his life
@@f687sNFMwhat mental gymnastics do you have to do take to draw up that conclusion?
Tl/dr: op is a spineless doormat but at least he's aware of it. Nothing happens the whole story but him getting walked all over.
honestly it's the most frustrating part of the story.
Very true.
Then there's no point in me listening to the rest of it
Stop being a doormat!!!
really
I almost turned this story off due to my level of disgust with this Op. And, little bro would have caught hands.
“But I’m taller and stronger than him”
“I let him push me”
“I felt bad for raising my voice”
I was getting annoyed with everyone in that. OP can’t get to the point, flip flops and prattles.
@@guest-pd2fzwym really
Weak and simp .. thanks
33 year marriage? Yet hes in his mid fourties and got married in his twenties?
He accidentally typed 3 instead of 2.
Not listened to it yet, but your comment immediately produce images of how some little kids propose with a candy ring, claim to be girlfriend-boyfriend or even married when they grow up in kindergarden/early school, before even knowing what that means (or playing up too much), but actually transition into being together when they are older. Would going through all the stages of innocent 'young love' with the same person give the right to add those years when dating a relationship, if it wasn't forced by adults wanting to play make belief with life sized dolls in hopes they'd get attracted to each other for real when older?
It's 22 not 33
@@FlamesAndShadows Not reading all that unfortunately. The math doesn't add up - I'm more inclined to believe the story was made by Chat GPT.
@@renatolaranja52 why would AI mess up logic and numbers first?
Wondered how this guy could possibly be that much of a doormat. Then in the end he mentions living in Sweden, this country is like the OG doormat factory
I can’t even finish this! He knew for years she cheated and stayed with her! At this point he deserves whatever happens to him.
A 33 year marriage that ended two years ago that someone who was in their mid-40's was a part of... Do I really need to say more?
Also, to those with opinions about the use of AI generated stories, don't forget that your engagement (or lack thereof) is how you voice how much you approve of the content.
Guessing its meant to be nuked 23 year marriage, maybe you should get someone on quality control Telltales as standards have been dropping recently.
These AI channels are all the same. It's a lazy fat guy just copy pasting this into an AI and hitting upload.
dw when they looksmaxx chatgpt it will become real again
When he said he’s in Sweden I suddenly understood why he took so much abuse from his wife. They neuter their men over there.
Excuse me?
Explain what you mean with "neuter"???
Because it sounds like you're talking about dogs XD
@@shadowthedarkshadow6960 Sweden's pretty.. "progressive" [Extreme] .. in some political leanings to put it mildly.
@@noobyman333 In what political leanings?
And if you're only relying on the news then it might be faulty and not everything
Just so you remember that, that's why I'm trying to gain as much info as possible
Edit: SD, I think the correct shortened name is, is quite extreme according to most people here
And I personally hate them as my family is in trouble if those racists get the power(not fully swedish, half of my family is from another European country)
I just didn't read the other message fully, apologies!
@@shadowthedarkshadow6960 They have the captain sweden and swedish cuck stereotype for a reason >_>
@@shadowthedarkshadow6960 I think they're accusing the left of preferring men with emotional intelligence.
Common trait of cheaters, they want to be as carefree as they were when they were teens.
…mid-forties, wife is two years younger, 33 year marriage?! YOU GOT MARRIED AT 12 AND 14?!?!?!
Hes not abusive but to be honest...quiet pathetic. chasing his cheating wife, begging his parents to be loved. i get it. his parents effed im up but holy cow, that no therapist saw this and worked to help him gain confidence is mindboggling.
At least in the end the guy is finally moving on with his life. I hope everything works out for him and he gets the happiness he deserves. At the least he can say he tried to fix these awful relationships, but learned that there is no point. Though it is a shame he put up with all of them for so damn long, in my opinion he should've moved on from everyone a long time ago.
Op is such a dormat. He is looking for approval from family. He needs to step up. He needs to look for others therapist and stop looking for approval. He needs to think for himself and no for anybody else. He is so pathetic, he doesn't love himself. Jeez, this kind of OP makes me so mad, because they stop loving themselves, just to put others first. If you don't love yourself, you will never love others.
bro what are the cows doing at 2:55 o.O
They are having fun!
In my opinion, everyone in this story is at fault. OP should've signed the papers, his mother is probably cheating on his father, OP's brother is so strange like he says OP. is abusive and that's why ex cheated on him, and then pretends it never happened.
OP should've left when his wife got distant when he lost his job. If your wife pulls back because you're struggling, she's not the one.
This guy's personality seems so strange to me. The amount of chances he offers out to people that have done him wrong is ridiculous. He talks about this mother and father basically dismissing anything he says and it seems like it's normal for them, but he kept going back until he finally broke contact. It seems like his entire family has been negligent towards him, favouring his cheating, jobless brother, maybe it's jealousy or even that OP's personality is actually shit, we'll never really know. But he really should have put his foot down and lot earlier in situations, just walking off and then being fine the next time he speaks to that person is not the way to sort out problems, you have to be clear in your position and reinforce that in your actions otherwise people will walk all over you. Sending someone a note on how upset you are and how you expect them to behave because you can't do things face to face is not the way, people will just lose respect for you at a distance and pull other people into their opinion.
And in my opinion, the first inkling that your wife is lying to you and cheating, that relationship's over and you should end it once and for all. Once a cheater, always a cheater. And people that can condone that behaviour, like your brother and by extension your family, will never have someone's back. They will just stab you in yours.
This shows that even when an honest person is down on their luck, they can turn things around. By keeping their head down, focusing on work and health, and cutting out all the toxicity and drama from their life, they will eventually be alright in the long run.
This is the worst type of SIMP like bro grow a spine
Classic "I can save my marriage" problems. No, you can't bro. As soon as you find out your partner is cheating on you file for divorce as fast as you can. A cheater is always a cheater and you will never save a relationship with that person
“I was a doormat” *continues to be a dormat* Op needs to just leave her smh
This story is ai because it's completely nonsensical. Like literally, I've never heard so much disjointed and forced fake drama
He's European. That explains the spineless response.
Facts Europe and America is just sad
Most of these cheating stories come from America, and the ones that Ive heard where the man sticks with the cheating wife have all been from the US.
OP here had his confidence destroyed by his awful family but at least had the strength in the end to walk away from that monster.
Probably the most pathetic op ever.. actually understandable considering how awful the people around him are
The fact that he seriously let her "go to say goodbye in person" to the guy she's cheated with hundreds of times is just unbelievable. Poor dude had no self-respect whatsoever.
This guy was just waiting for the hurt to come each day! It's like he woke up every morning and just yelled out, "hurt me cheater! Hurt me!"
“The Cheater’s Handbook” is just lying their asses off to avoid accountability
So nobody is talking about the ex boyfriend being 23 and her 17?!
3:30 - 4:10 yeah, my ex wife did that shit too, and 7 years later I'm still recovering from it.... Sad part is my ex has been starting to tell that shit to my daughter whenever my daughter visits her; so when she gets home I get attitude from my daughter for a few days after every trip now.
If this is real, he is pathetic. Why the hell is he so hung up on dates and timelines, and he lets everybody walk all over him constantly. Changing your wife’s tires so she can go visit her lover?
its his fault for being such a doormat.Noobody will respect you if you dont respect yourself first.
The king of all doormats 👑
Tell me you are a doormat without telling me you are a doormat.
I got one thing out of this video... If I hear the term "Self destroying" one more time I'm gonna throw my phone out the window!
He put up with this for 13 years. He deserves everything she put him through
This guy is a total chump all he did was take L after L and got walked all over no one believes he's a badass
What a complete doormat. When someone tells you they don't want to be with you, believe them.
This is the biggest Simp story I've ever heard he offered to change her tires to winter tires so she can see the person that she was cheating on him with😂😂😂😂
Dude, i have never been more pissed at a story before. Holy fuck, he should have just disappeared off the face of the map
If people look like they dont care about you, they dont care about you as much as they care about what is presently occupying them.
In the end, what a personcare about is a hierachy, and if you find yourself low in that hierachy it's time to go.
"stay classy"
good shit A.I. good shit.
No sympathy for him. He stayed and the fallout is all on him.
This sounds like it was written by a teenager
You can tell is AI when it's confusing as shit
OP is one of the most pathetic op's ever. Definition of a doormat.
This guy waste a lot of life on cheaters
I really hope Op is having the therapy he needs.
Always remember, your dignity and pride always come first, love can take the backseat.
worlds biggest doormat!
He is the biggest doormat I have ever seen
These stories reinforce the idea that I am probably better off staying single, since I’m pretty sure I would go nuclear if I found out I was cheated on and end up in prison for a plethora of incredibly heinous and violent crimes while blacked out in white hot rage
This story was kind of all over the place. Poor OP. Hope he’s ok
The first red flag that AP had was dating a 17 year old when he was 24.
Watch this story on 2X speed because this OP is a gigantic doormat!
Everyone in the comments is very nice to call him a doormat.
Bruh if this man gets his heart broken what’s there hope for us
The moment you mentioned you were in Sweden, everything fell into place. This story is not surprising in the slightest tbh.
Whats up with those doormats in the recent vids?
she did get away with it you were taking it back she just took it to far she thought u had no back bone when you do its just weak as hell
Damn..... This guy's whole life is a lie, deception. At least he decided to leave this whole Radioactive environment.
This is why you never do the "pick me" dance. For some reason it emboldens the wayward spouse and gives them some destructive kind of power over the hurting spouse.
This made my brain burn in anger like wtf...
This guy is the perfect little doormat
Kinda feel bad for OP regarding his family.
Divorce paves the way for new singles to mingle again. Good luck with that.
This story is everywhere
"...she's stuck with aftermath" what aftermath? It looks like she's fine with it. OP's family all at her side, his kids don't know what a brat she is, she's got tons of chances, OP was too patient so she toyed with him, all three councillors were at her side. I don't remember if he even won something till divorce. What she lost? Only OP here is somehow was damaged emotionally (ptsd) and physically (std)
Listening to this was surprisingly tiring
Listening to this just feels...annoying. Dude, just divorce the wife and stop contacting this family that clearly doesn't care. Some people just won't change no matter what you say. It's tough but you got to move on with your life anyways.
I know. I was so annoyed with how long it was due to him saying a bunch of unnecessary stuff. But even more so with him trying to save the marriage when she didn't care for 20 some years.
Facebook has probably destroyed half or more of all relationships since it was introduced.
He is the weakest doormat I've ever seen
Gaslight itmntl thinking, nah bro that's how a typical doormat is.
hes so much of a simp, even his family hates him lol. thats what happens when u simp
On a more supportive note, for anybody suffering from PTSD, emdr therapy is extremely helpful.
A little hard for me to feel sorry for this OP, he kept staying with his nasty wife despite of the evidence smdh
Why did you stay with a Cheater for so long. Your just as bad as her by staying with her. They All Hate you. SEE THAT.
What word was censored at 20:19? All the words I can think of are 1 or 2 letters short of the letters shown.
Adulterer, I think
I guess you call him Professor Simp. How many times does wife have to cheat on him before he kicks her out? Does he know what a boundary is? Does he have any? He deserves everything he got after he found out she was cheating. And divorce his whole dysfunctional family. Cheating spouse never thought about the consequences of getting caught because she had a 13 year affair and when finally caught, he simped out a few more years.
Dude is weak
24:37 living in Sweden is fun but the winters are cold af (never left Sweden once in may life 🤭 🇸🇪🇸🇪🇸🇪🇸🇪
This story is so all over the place
The worst simp in human history
The original person is really stupid for staying in a marriage that isn't even worth saving. Cheat cheats on you again and again and again and you know that she is doing it because you're probably watching all the messages on a secondary phone to see what she's typing and you put the tracker on her phone so you know she's cheating on you repeatedly yet you stay with her like a loyal dog. Your mom and others were right that they don't understand why you're still with her at the time and even I am going to say that u are pathetic
This guy is so pathetic I don’t feel bad for him at all
Why does this sound like it was written by a 13 year old that doesn’t know how to handle any relevant life decision making.
This is all over the place. Bouncing back and forth in time and seems to skip bits.
I’ll forgive anything but cheating
I’ve never got mad over these stories but man op is infuriating! I lost the story when he mentioned his dysfunctional family and their problems with each other,it all became nonsense after that
I need a diagram to follow this one.
The part where he said he talked to the affair partner and threatened him should've been posted in r/imverybadass
Op just a dramatic person
Honestly I straight up hate all of the people mentioned in this story.