As a 68 year old INFJ I can attest to the fact that life at times can be very lonely, and yet be filled with immense creativity, and kindness toward others. Being lonely does not mean cutting yourself off from others, on the contrary for me it means being open, kind, giving, and gentle with anyone you meet. Amy, today I talked to a homeless man outside a Walmart who i spoke to a month ago, and we remembered each others story, and names. Loneliness for this INFJ means understanding that you are not alone, and that there are others who sense you as someone who stands out as being different, nonjudgmental, approachable, and giving. Bottom line Amy, I have been lonely all my life, even when married for thirty years, but the truth seeking, knowledge, immense creativity, and joy that comes with those endeavors can greatly diminish the sense of pain. So Amy you are not alone, this INFJ knew he was very different from the age of three, but the power that comes with this personality type is worth it. The best part Amy is that the older you get, the greater your knowledge, wisdom, truth seeking, and creativity become. At 68 I am doing the most powerful work of my entire life. I ran across you by accident, but I am glad I did Amy. You are a wonderful, intelligent, wise, and truth seeking woman Amy, you are well on your way!!!
You are awesome. ❤ I'm a 38 year old INFJ and I always thought I was broken or something. How come everyone else was good at being a human but I wasn't. I just found out about my MBTI within the last 3 years or so. It has been a roller coaster but at least everything makes sense now. I really enjoy talking to homeless people. They don't put up pretense or anything like that. Their vulnerability makes me feel seen by them and in turn I see them. I see everyone, just like you do. I'm so grateful to not be alone in this. ❤❤❤ Love you.
Amy, in the past year I've watched a lot of videos about INFJs. While most of what is said in them feels "true" for me, somehow it usually also feels a bit hollow and too conceptual. Somehow, I still usually feel like, "The person who made that video is not the kind of INFJ that I am."🤔🙂I didn't feel that while listening to you. I felt your depth and authenticity, and I felt really connected with you, like, "Here is a kindred spirit," and the rareness of this experience is really the kind of loneliness I still sometimes feel. But more generally, questioning the truth of thoughts and awakening to my true Self (wakeful presence) in that "higher world" you mention has, for me, been the real solution to my loneliness. I have finally found that I am whole, that I am infinite, and no other person is needed to complete me or to overcome the illusion of my separateness (loneliness). A few years ago, I wrote a book about this. Thanks for being you, Amy. I like you. All the best.
Your thoughts are very perceptive and eloquent! I agree with all your points, especially about how authenticity is everything to an INFJ. Being an INFJ myself, I felt extremely lonely the majority of my life, because I grew up with people around me who were mostly fake. I always felt that they would project their inauthentic emotions and negativity on me. I found that, once I learned to love my authentic self, no matter who I was surrounded by, I felt exponentially less lonely. Also, finding out about being an INFJ and how there are others out there like you, has helped a lot as well! Just subscribed!
Gnossienne, or the "awareness that someone you've known for years still has a private and mysterious life, is from the recently published "The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows" by John Koenig. It is a word he made up, along with many others in his dictionary. My son, an INFJ, gave me (also an INFJ!) this book for Christmas. The author has a nice Ted talk on this as well. I love this book.
@@h3ll0w0rldmusicboth of my sons are INFJ’s. And we are sometimes more like brothers. Just now one of them was excited by a quote from “I-Thou” by Martin Buber that I had sent to him. Not everyone is into Buber!
I'M a 62 year old recently discovered INFJ , .....you have just described my entire earth existence. Everything you have discussed is 99% accurate ,.....amazing !! Eastern Philosophy and Sports Psychology, my two favorite subjects. I have been called , " the reader of books ",.....lol !! I am like my teacher ,....Master K 's book , " A Stranger in a Strange Land ".
I'm so glad I came across your channel and as an INFJ being alone and being detached is what helps me to see through different perspectives and also be objective. We are all truly gifted ❤ and we'll keep serving this world for the better 🤍 Keep smiling for whoever is reading this and keep creating.
I think a big part to us feeling alone comes down to being alone inside our heads and that we rarely let others visit and this comes down to us venturing back to the shore to bring them into the ocean. Allowing ourselves to express the internal in the physical world has been a huge step in not feeling alone for me. People around me have made the comment that they think I'm lonely because I'm not in a relationship but I disagree, I'm alone but not lonely. I'm fully engaged in painting, learning something new, buying gemstones...lol, examining the inside of my head or heart and wherever my desires take me. I think it is a label that others have placed on us that we believed.
Thank you, Amy Yes, loneliness is the result of invalidation and non-acceptance. You've mentioned your family/friends that are religious and headstrong in their faith. This is an example of invalidation/non-acceptance, when someone is not accepted into a tribe they were born into. The rejection by others who do not accept your thoughts/beliefs as "yours" and they force their thoughts/beliefs onto you. Worse is the gaslighting and passive-aggressive behaviors that causes the intuitive, to self isolate (to avoid others). It's difficult to tell others about "visions", "intuitions", "predictions", etc., when the other person doesn't understand, believe or accept what your message is. It feels like "screaming in the wind" or "I told you so" to the intuitive. Like the deckhand on the Titanic who spotted the iceberg. "Captain! Captain! There's an ICEBERG AHEAD!!!", but the Captain is too busy hosting the Dinner Gala for the important quest. Relate the INFJ/Sigma personality to Maslow's theory of hierarchy. At the base level is food, water, shelter, etc. Mid level it's belonging to a greater community, where one incorporates their skills/trades/attributes for the betterment of the tribe/family with purpose of belonging as an asset. What skills does the INFJ/Sigma offer is a good question to consider? Seer of the future? Intuition? Prophecy? This skill set best belongs to the "Shaman" or "Oracle" and sadly, most who fit that description are often "alone" or "outcast". The INFJ/Sigma are very intense/deep thinkers. They have a difficult time connecting with others b/c of this intensity/depth. Not many will ever understand and thus creates a disconnect. One positive that there are a few that will understand and support the INFJs/Sigmas. Those here that follow you and YOU, yourself are the people that understand. Thanks again :)
You truly are connected to your inner self and I can see the joy and fulfillment it gives you. I know because that is where I am; At this point I’m almost able to pull that positive energy just be realizing that I’m in that state of being who I am it’s weird, amazing, confusing - but positive
3:02 I learned early that the path of least resistance was to allow others to their gnosis, and even to let go of that struggle. I let others see what they can or may. True that we all operate on a via. Letting go opens the gate to a better fundamental understanding. With better awareness, our Ni becomes strong.
This is a really great dive into the subject. I can relate a lot to all of your thoughts expressed here. It was timely for me, since I was recently trying to process and share my own mental state with some of my loved ones concerning feelings of loneliness. Something to add here, is that for the reasons described, it's easier to understand how an INFJ can feel rather content and happy while physically alone, but lonely around many people. The presence of people and the inability to relate or share on the same level creates a difference that is hard to look past when loneliness sets in. The importance of building the "right" relationships is clear here. The wrong relationships can be a kind of hell, because our idea of loneliness might be directly incompatible with how others feel the same loneliness.
I’m an ENFP, & this all resonates so hard. I’m dating an INFJ and trying to get more insights, and this sounds like ME LOL 😂. Especially appreciate the Shamanic tie in. I’m a “Knowledge Based Nerd” too. I wish there were more open-minded people with strong growth drivers. Thanks again for this great video.
God, I wish you would talk about this for hours. I could absorb myself, listen endlessly. I’m Enjoying all of the topics you explore on your channel. It’s like finding “home”. I have spent a lifetime amongst people who didn’t get me, and in turns out I didn’t actually get them. I suppressed my Ni as it was threatening to those around me, particularly the family I grew up in - who were either all about making money, business, or in the case of my mother, in a religious cult. I was often told outright by them that “ I made people uncomfortable”, which justified their exclusion of me I guess, and left me honestly confused, as I was exhausting myself trying to make them feel comfortable. If there was another intuitive in the family or extended , I wouldn’t have known it. We were a highly suppressed lot, quite enmeshed as well. They completely cut me off eventually (or I them), and have no family in my life now, no contact. I never married or had children. I have struggled with similar dynamics in other friend groups, usually starting out well, with others finding me charming, me trying hard to please, but it didn’t last. One can only keep up the charade for so long. But in my older years, i have finally made a few friends that seem to get me, accept me as I am, and offer emotional support to each other. They are likely other intuitive types, but not INFJ. I worry I will offend them too, but they don’t seem put off by me. We even discuss some of the deeper darker stuff, connect in many areas. Learning about MBTI has been a life changer. Understanding myself through this lens, I understand now why I have this longing to delve deeper into these esoteric topics, burrow down all these rabbit holes. I love the possibility of thar rare glimpse into life’s mysteries, seeing the unseen. Its affirming to know I’m not alone in this. Learning different subjects, many areas of study, it is what gets me up in the morning (that and my true family- six chickens, a cat, and horse). Through my minds-eye I’ve had experiences that have changed how i view the world, this existence. Thank you for your videos. It opens a world of possibilities.
@leilanoorani2976 thank you for sharing your experience 🦋 it's so common for INFJ to suppress their Ni throughout the majority of their lives that they never fully understand how to connect it with others in a satisfying way. I completely understand. I appreciate this thoughtful story and am happy this video resonates 🦋
Ty Amy. I was lonely before discovering MBTI. Lonely and alien. Now i feel more included and understood than I thought was possible. I guess i was also naive to think not many other people processed the world as I do. Watching you express thoughts so similar to my own, really make me feel more confident expressing to others my true personality. I stand taller and speak louder, without hesitation or regret. Well, not as much regret. It blows my mind to think people have sexual relationships without emotional intimacy. It's no wonder they cheat on their partners. The people who marry and don't speak the same language, make me laugh the most. WHY would anyone want that? Thank you again for raising my spirit. Ty, Danny. P.s. I LOVE that view of the snowy mountain peaks, absolutely beautiful.
When you said " the world doesn't accept quieteness " i felt it, because i was mislabeled as pretentious, rude, extremely weird and even got verbally attacked behind my back by a political family member? But the rest of the family got my back, fortunely! i wasn't even trying to fight back because it was useless and mentally tiring if i even did it, especially since that person is still pretty narcissistic and egocentric. So yeah, i shut my mouth to keep peace around me and only speak when is needed, is my nature not my repression, is wisdom.
I think this is probably the toughest aspect of being INFJ in my personal experience. Most of the time when I would go into hermit mode, it was based of either anger towards not being understood by people I care or think I care about, or sadness for feeling misunderstood. But then it usually leads to a self correction which most of the time… is helpful 😂 Thank you for continuing to help us see the world in a better way and ourselves ❤
One of the key things you mentioned here was how you see things in a multidimensional way. This for me is a big reason for feeling like I’m alone. Many people don’t do this at all. Like you say I also can dig into the polar opposites and perspectives of any topic. As soon as I’ll start talking about it then it’s quickly judged. In many ways we are quickly judged and that gets us to unconsciously shut off from being too deep and this is where that lonely feeing comes in even though we may be surrounded by people who consider us friends. This is a massively complex topic for us and it’s amazing how you’ve shared this so well. Also it’s a paradox that we can see so alone and yet when we have a significant person in our life we also feel we need alone time from them also. At least I do.. I wonder if you’ve felt this? Sometimes I feel this great need to dive into my unconscious without the distractions of another soul in proximity. I feel a lot don’t understand this because their brains work way more in this physical here and now mental space. When I’m alone it’s as if my inner world is vast as the universe and I see all the connections. Using physical language at that point slows down until I’ve processed it all. That intuitive world is where it’s hard to share and feels like the most loneliest place ever. Gee I wrote too much lol thanks again for sharing!!!!!
"Every person puts on a filter,some type of a filter in order to talk to you"😊❤😊 Wonderful insight. I know this is mbti chanel,but this makes absolute sense to me from enneagram perspective.Body/gut types are said to have litle to no filters of "reality"I always experience life nonverbaly,intense and raw with extreme difficulty to explain.Or as Franz Kafka said"All language is,but a poor translation"
I believe that the more perspectives on an issue you have understood and can (at least partially) comprehend, the closer you get to the truth or the true core of that issue.
The part of outgrowing people is a great added perspective to the loneliness. I wouldn't say I feel lonely but when that occurs I enjoy my alone time to reflect on that experience and realign with myself.
Thank you for sharing that you end up ditching people. I know it sounds terrible but i do the same thing. Not to be mean. My main thing is that female friendships get repetitive and i don't get heard. I do all the listening. I'm so glad i found you. Hope you have a lovely day. ❤
In my loniless I've found my very truthfull friend, the one I left aside almost my entire life trying to fulfill someone else's expectation. It was not easy, yet the reward is still invaluable. Greets and love from Tenerife (Canary Islands) 😘😊
Being an infj myself I would say it is truly a gift of God to be one. Not only can you read people you can use your knowledge of them to help them and bring them truth.
Yes, his message and example had been distorted by religions imo. He was killed because he was a threat to the status quo. People misunderstood him and what he stood for. Their greed and selfishness were heartened. INFJ is loneliest life.
I just wanted you to know that I heard every word, concur with your expression.of our personality ... as if you were a mirror to every dimension and emotional experience in my daily life. That was an honest depiction of your innermost being ... and if the recipient is listening, truly listening, they'll understand you, and celebrate just how unique and spiritually open you are to any idea, topic and possibility. It's an extremely creative and rich inner world we reside in ... others are welcome inside ... all they have to do is ask.
I love you're INFJ videos and I get so much insight into myself from watching them. If I am being honest though, I felt like the more spiritual aspects of your channel were lost on me. Looking back, it was a distortion, I had already made up my oppinion before even watching it. I just wanted to come back here and say, that in my own journey of healing and growing, I now understand why you feel so validated and connected with these modalities. Thank you so much for your content ♥
Your channel randomly popped in my recommends (second one this week). For what it’s worth, you have a relaxing cadence to your speech and seem authentic. You gained a subscriber. I haven’t seen any other videos yet but I hope you focus on things that personally interest you and your thoughts on them. As a fellow INFJ my hat goes off to you for RUclips-ing. I’ve thought about it for years and just can’t find the courage to start.
I really enjoy your videos, and the calming feeling get when I realize that someone I don't even know can understand and relate to my unusual ways my mind processes information. I get excited when I listen to you, cause I feel a connection with the things you say. And the way I can relate to the way i can hear your mind racing with so much information. It's kinda a big deal for me, because I catch myself doing the same thing. Unfortunately the people I'm close with, become very uncomfortable when forget that they don't have any desire to reach a higher level of understanding. And that......is when I feel alone and out of place. Anyhow, your doing great, and I appreciate you and what you do here.
Totally agree on the religious aspect....met someone who drew me into a religious organization....soooooo restrictive. My mind couldn't remain on one teaching or philosophy!
I think all the comments I’ve left so far have been well-meaning jokes (or attempts at them 😂) and one sharing of an actual experience of mine, but right here I just wanna say thank you to you for your channel and all these videos. You must be noticing I’m making my way through all of them. It’s helping me greatly in this transitional period in my life. I am an INFJ-A and I Thank you 🙏.
Thanks for three worlds model and the hope for connection that you represent. I definately need more Infjs in my life. That would me some peace of mind/heart and right now comfort in the underworld.
This one I've seen and commented on a while back, but it popped up in my feed and I watched it through the entirety again and I very much needed to see it, hear it and feel it again. Especially right now with numerous aspects that I possibly am either growing thus seemingly feel like to be a internal battle deep within myself that I find to be incredibly difficult to express and convey. In part, I'm making a career change that hasn't gone accordingly to my vision that I've always been reliant of thus not meeting my bar I set which I saw so clearly not be fully brought to life by now, has exhausted my mind so that I'm feeling several steps behind and letting myself down eats at me all the time. My outlet is that I write a lot of quotes and philosophy being at the core. You spoke about the truth which I tend to write about and as well speak to all the time. "Beauty as pure is much like that of the truth. Neither have ever lied and both are simply, absolute.' I'm going to try and end here. I have to make certain that I stay self aware when what I have tons to say that I'll save for another day, which is passion and excitement about the very small and ever so subtle things that I see to be absolutely huge, totally for me makes and as well could break the entire event, situation or going or giving that tiny thought haven made it all happen. I see the beauty it brings when I know most would never notice which is okay but I'm often misunderstood to be what I'm attempting to say. To be taken wrong over passion deep and excitement hard to hide over the smallest of detail that goes unseen makes for most all to see me so differently and simply unable to relate, they with me and myself with them. Isolation and or loneliness I often think about. I have so much more I could say. Digression ends it here. ;) Awesome and beautiful insight full of wisdom that you share well. Thanks a bunch for making a difference I know for many others like myself. Enjoyed it even more this twice now. Take care. Kashton
I love the very end of your video when you're standing outside in the snow. It looks like you're in Bishop or somewhere off 395 by the Sierra Nevadas. That's my favorite area
40-year old INFJ from Germany here. I never really used to feel lonely at all. But somehow since 2-3 years ago, there was a shift and I catch myself feelings lonely sometimes now. Not always, but definitely there are days where I feel really sad about not having more meaningful relationships and a social circle where I can connect on a deeper level with someone. I've tried apps like MeetUp and Meet5 and stuff like that, but have noticed I'm also easily bored or even annoyed by the superficiality of conversations, especially small talk, with people I met on these apps. I guess I'm not the easiest to be around, either and have high expectations. Sigh...
INFJ contain deep old wisdom that they draw their inspiration from, Imam Ali a. s. Said : "Your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it and your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. You presume you are a small entity, but within you is enfolded the entire Universe. You are indeed the evident book, by whose alphabet's the hidden becomes manifest. Therefore you have no need to look beyond yourself. What you seek is within you, if only you reflect." -Imam Ali (AS).
+ Are you a lone + What do you mean? With no mate how do you sing? I sing a song with a single word, Sung to a tree, sung to a bird I whistle tune, I drum the drum, With closed eyes, I tongue the hum Swing to dance, I lead my step trip to fall, I catch my breath And in a moment when I wish to be two My mind tells heart, I will be true So everyday, I am a lone, by my self, I wander home There is no other to sing back There is no sound, nor is there lack I arrived in life a single man And traveled through a single land But as to alone, I've never been For through it all, I am my own friend No love lost has to be found And on the day, I'm in the ground The life I've lead, has been of bliss I've tasted love, I've kissed and been kissed The thing you ask I cannot say Except to ask, you, to convey Is a life of two, twice love's sum Or two single's love that merge to one For In the end it matters none As a life of love, is a life well done -osean
Beautifully Said. I appreciate your perspective and fresh take on the infj and loneliness. Gives me something to think about and relate to my own life. Thank you 🙏🏼
Don't really feel lonely anymore, I have a loving cat, he occasionally scratches me, but does not say stupid thing... . I think years of meditation has helped me to live more in the present, and be able to deal with that above ground interaction better, growing up it was really rough to do. I like to do out reach and help people, that is how I interact with them in a positive way. Keep the videos coming!
Amazingly put points! I especially relate to the point about going down the rabbit hole of concepts and looking at aspects others ignore or outright don't see, and I can say it causes a great amount of pain to me :') Emotional intimacy is also crucial for me to really get into a true relationship with another person, which is also a rather rare phenomenon :')
I'm keeping this short this time. Lol. Awesome vlog. Could deeply relate. I know I personally don't have any friends nor anyone to talk to. What I do professionally, I'm alone and when I am done the other part is typing my appraisal reports which I'm alone. When I'm not working back before I found myself withdrawing from people in my life because I knew their true intent and I would be there hearing what they said which was everything except the truth. I remember just feeling the need to smile and find the exit door and politely leave. I don't know if it's the past 6 years of major traumatic events I've been through or that enlightened me in many ways but I know it's deeply humbled me. I personally haven't ever met anyone I suppose who values or lives their life by honor, loyalty and respect to include the truth as absolute. No one seems to understand me unless I wear a mask and pretend to fit in which I stopped and I guess I am deeply lonely. Seems like there isn't anyone that I've ever met who cares to have conversation of depth beyond the surface. The last serious relationship I had I one time attempted to go deep and ill never forget here eyes and what they said or rather the way she looked at me with this moment what felt confusion and maybe judgement but I then quickly just changed the subject but not long after, I broke it off. This one really hit home. Haven become deeply cynical no longer putting myself out there I suppose being lonely is as much my fault as it is like a couple of phrases or quotes I wrote. One, "Beauty as pure is like truth, neither have ever lied" Two, "Intuition indicates the fake and gives insight to the truth and thus leaves you no trust to choice" So yeah I'm lonely and I not only see the truth, I feel it too which the same applies with one's intent and agenda to know and see it for what it truly is but hear the BS and I am disgusted by that so it's a double edged sword. Both at the end of the road leave you lonely. Philosophy has kept my my mind very opened. I don't judge becausesi where I'm from it's hard-core judgment when your back is turned but all smiles and hugs when turn back to face them. At 46 I guess yeah I have slowly grew into the place I am now and that is deeply cynical. I need to research a method of finding my way back that is balanced and thus a healthy place. Thanks for the insight. Very impacting. Made me see both the forest and the trees. Kashton
I never felt so lonely as with other people. Been in non-self imposed isolation since 3/2020. Alone but rarely lonely. Gnosis. Reintegration into this broken society is difficult, I know what is mine….and so many people are weak and icky in all levels.
Сегодня Бог, программируя, порой очень точно, "роботов поиска и предложения" Ютуба, послал мне данное видео, твоё Эми! Вот! ну и ну! и на пятой минуте видео, Я обнаружил себя уже в тебя влюблённым! это что-то потрясающее! Особенно впечатляюще с точки зрения того, что обычно я влюбляюсь, как художник, во внешность девушки красавицы. А-а, Значит, сейчас уже на пятой минуте, Я уже был влюблён в великолепие твоего внутреннего мира, в твою Душу!😢
Today God, programming sometimes very precise RUclips search robots and suggestions, sent me this video, yours Amy! Here! well well! and in the fifth minute of the video, I found myself already in love with you! this is something amazing! It’s especially impressive from the point of view that I usually fall in love, as an artist, with the appearance of a beautiful girl. Ahh, So, now at the fifth minute, I was already in love with the splendor of your inner world, with your Soul! Thank you for such great experience, for feelings and senses congeniality!
Hey! First video of yours which has popped up and it is a great video, all of it. I still have trouble being present like you say, but not in every situation. Watching this for example, no problem and super engaged the whole time. But then in lots of social interactions that last more than a few minutes it can be tricky. Very true most people are not interested enough to go deep into anything. And outgrowing people is very relateable! Keen to watch a few more. You're doing great, best of luck with everything! Go nerds 🤓 😁 Do you have any recommendations on where to begin diving into Shamanic resources/learning? TIA.
Omnist I've found to be closely relatable if not accurate. I consider various aspects of spiritual, religions, witchcraft, atheist and soul on, I accept what I feel is morally just and disregard what doesn't personally moves me. I'm content with my island made of self after having been through series of hardships and traumatic events.
Being an INFJ myself, I believe you're going to understand it very correctly when I merely want to make you a compliment, simply as a normal person, not for me being a male and you being a female. Because I do not care that actually, this is not the underlying intention. So, you're a person where the inner beauty is expressed in your outside being. It's like your voice is expressed specifically by your eyes gaze, it's extremely dense while it does own that very rare way of being sharp at the "outer layers" and soft simultaneously in the inside of your eyes, usually a sign that you can see through people, in particular instantly - while only very few are able being below the radar for a bit longer. But such eyes see anyone after a certain time behind. You do have a very beautiful appearance. I guess alot of a certain type of men and women are disliking you instantly for only that already. But it's not for your pure outside appearance, it's for the high connectedness between inside and outside. You're conspicuous in a group of people while most don't know how to talk to you. Only very few do know. Well, a typical INFJ thing I guess. Well, in German we do have a word for that kind of appearance, which simply has no counter part in English, which is called "schön". I mean you can look it up, but there is not really a true counter part for it. I do usually use it for when something is in an homeostatic or very balanced harmonic state. Meaning: yap. You're very likely a highly attuned healer. As I said. A simple human to human observation and compliment. Thanks for the video. It resonated.
Always fun when a fellow INFJ analyzes me 😌 hahaha it's a rare day when someone gives such depth in their observations. Thank you and happy to have you here.
I choose to see myself as being privy to a celestial truth, or amongst those blessed to be in the know of what we all suspect to be true time to time intuitively, instead of carrying the weighted belief that being ever on the outside of what most believe to be average, or being unenthusiastic about taking part in what would commonly be considered as normative interactions within modern society, as per my nature, to be something worthy of admonishment. Herein my solace lie. You see, I, too, intuitively become perturbed by the incessant need for society to categorize and package people in neat little boxes, as if we were a commodity, rather than the ceaselessly complex spiritual beings we truly are. I see the vast disharmony, borne of an inner struggle, in the eyes of those whom I interact with, as they contort their soul out of the fear of rejection. This pains me deeply, for even as I do everything in my power to put them at ease, far too often do I glimpse a manifestation of their true self. Worse over, most attempt to convince me that the persona they've adopted is who they truly are. And this, above all, I find disheartening. I understand their fear, truly, and hold no judgement over their choice. We all are indoctrinated to one degree or another. I guess what I'm trying to say, long-winded as I am, is that I wish our society encouraged us more to be the beautiful individuals we are, and to fear more the slow, painstaking death of the human spirit, thus potential, known as conformity. I enjoyed listening to your unique perspective, experiences, as well as the insights you've shared throughout the video. I appreciate you taking the time to read my comment, and I will attempt to comment with brevity in mind going forward. Take care and God bless. ✝️
Hi. Amy. What do you think about the many world theories? I have a strong feeling that something is very real, and with that said dimensions are being born, and new dimensional beings are appearing. It's a new world and we can be happy.
What would you think of the perspective that Ni is the awareness of consciousness. It is through the awareness of consciousness that one may be able to become aware of the unconscious/subconscious. The infj may never really be able to, “live in the moment,” as a result. Loneliness may have a different application to infjs and intjs.
I tell myself im not going to just comment on every video, but then i can’t help myself…. i feel like you’re talking directly to me and i understand all of it. i also understand how one-sided that is, but it’s the nature of this platform. if i were listening in person i think i would be prompted to want to talk about how i think the disconnect from some of us to most people might have to do with ‘old souls’ actually being a real thing. I always felt like i existed ‘with God’ way before this incarnation. I have a sneaking suspicion that some of us are simply older creations. I found it odd that no one around me had this same sensation. Sure, my brain could be misfiring. lol.. but there are a few that share that sentiment. as intp i find it extremely difficult to be misleading or manipulative but i can see how infj can be led into paths of wasting time and energy trying to unravel gaslighting from manipulation of others.. i understand the ti battling with intuition, mine is just Ne, and it’s probably easier that i default to my dominant filter when assessing people’s behaviors…. ok, stay warm missy…
Hahaha I'm very thankful for your comments 🙏. Yeah, old soul wise... it's difficult to tell if I'm just not as choked off from my soul as others may be or if I'm genuinely an old soul. It's a loaded topic.
@@amy-lyne i’ve thought that. maybe it’s just a clearer signal for some. but yeah it gets dead-endy at a certain point. probably wont know any time soon..
Hi. Amy, I think you speak the absolute truth from your heart. But I have a question? Maybe you may have some knowledge on this subject. What is the meaning 0f number 3 and three powerful women?
INFJ myself, it’s hard enough dating you know that jazz, but what happens if you areINFJ Heyoka Sigma LEO? What am I doing wrong? Please I’m not getting any younger no I want the last years of my life to be enjoyable instead of always anxious and depressed. You’re right knowledgable and who to ask Somebody with the same we’re not the same struggles in life Or just a same basic idea you’re a unique thinker just like me I got rose-colored glasses on all the time and I need somebody with the same struggles give me some clarity OK I am repeating myself, so I must be going through NI-loop. whatever they call it. Please I’m desperate you know what it’s like growing up with this personality
Hi Jose, might not be able to give a sufficient answer to your life struggles but these were a couple things that popped into my head about what you just said... the first one being the most controversial potentially: Rose-colored glasses 👍are all well and good. It's okay to see the world through this lens. Idealism can be a perfectly healthy thing. The key to getting what you want in life is to surrender into the moment, recognize and be thankful for what you have, and then be aware and attentive of what you want. Love on the external (boyfriend/girlfriend, family, friends) is matched with what you have on the internal. A simple answer to a complex problem but what I can fit within a comment for now.
@@amy-lyne Oh by the way my name is not Jose it’s Douglas I just got the phone off my friend Jose OK sorry about that but anyways, The struggle pretty much every day just to explain myself getting a date that’s a whole other enemy I have to fight, figuratively of course. But if you have any ideas want to help me defeat the enemy I am all ears🤔 and so I don’t take complete advantage of the situation knowing a complete stranger and pouring out my guts are you are you a rose and it doesn’t have to be watered oh that’s cheap ov me I’ll buy you a dozen roses just for putting up with me,And these don’t have to be water 2 LOL🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 my corny jokes take care wish all the best for you and all the Adventures still forecast in your life take care again he he I’m gonna shut up now
Today God, programming sometimes very precise RUclips search robots and suggestions, sent me this video, yours Amy! Here! well well! and in the fifth minute of the video, I found myself already in love with you! this is something amazing! It’s especially impressive from the point of view that I usually fall in love, as an artist, with the appearance of a beautiful girl. Ahh, So, now at the fifth minute, I was already in love with the splendor of your inner world, with your Soul!
What I'm sick of is being alone then being with someone you dim your light and feel even lonelier so, you come back to inverted intuition and world domination, hahaha ha ha just kiddin, little levity to lighten proceedings, 🙏❤️😇
You are very right in terms of outgrowing people. I recently divorced and feel that somehow I grew up and my husband did not. In fact I felt he got less mature throughout our marriage, perhaps in response to my maturing so quickly. A counselor told me our marriage was not working because I was functioning as my husbands parent due to how we were interacting.
Hello Amy Lyne, you probably will not see this, I see spirits and Entities from a different dimension, they come to our world through portals, there is a saying (As above, so Below) and know this may sound weird, but facts are stranger than fiction.
Loneliness is a big word for me it’s a sad world for me it’s a constant word for me but I’m gonna look at us with the glass half full , I too am INFJ, I don’t think for you it would be much of a problem because you’re female but I make INFJ well at least for me it’s really really really hard to find something , I can click with that gets me but what do you do when you’re looking for a friend or a boyfriend or a husband and what advice could you give me? Because I’ve been lonely for 40 something years and I don’t really want to change that fact about me,OK enough about me how are you doing? How are the wife and kids ,kidding kidding that’s the kind of joke I make when I’m uncomfortable but the more I do these uncomfortable things, the more I’ll get better at talking to people all right that’s it for me take care have a good day and all that good stuff. Do you have a nice night day afternoon evening whatever state your in.
I was in acquaintance relationship deal and she was a narcissist that’s what people said and I didn’t believe them because she didn’t do anything to me and I’m narcissistic way but anyways I’m gonna look for a girl or a woman that I can get along with and I can grow old with no drama I hate drama that person that I was talking about had a really good mind that’s why I was chasing her but not anymore so now I’m looking for something a little bit more real somebody I can grow old with what I’m weird and I’m alone wolf so that’s gonna be a challengeAlrighty then that’s my comment take care can you be safe
As a 68 year old INFJ I can attest to the fact that life at times can be very lonely, and yet be filled with immense creativity, and kindness toward others. Being lonely does not mean cutting yourself off from others, on the contrary for me it means being open, kind, giving, and gentle with anyone you meet. Amy, today I talked to a homeless man outside a Walmart who i spoke to a month ago, and we remembered each others story, and names. Loneliness for this INFJ means understanding that you are not alone, and that there are others who sense you as someone who stands out as being different, nonjudgmental, approachable, and giving. Bottom line Amy, I have been lonely all my life, even when married for thirty years, but the truth seeking, knowledge, immense creativity, and joy that comes with those endeavors can greatly diminish the sense of pain. So Amy you are not alone, this INFJ knew he was very different from the age of three, but the power that comes with this personality type is worth it. The best part Amy is that the older you get, the greater your knowledge, wisdom, truth seeking, and creativity become. At 68 I am doing the most powerful work of my entire life. I ran across you by accident, but I am glad I did Amy. You are a wonderful, intelligent, wise, and truth seeking woman Amy, you are well on your way!!!
You are awesome. ❤
I'm a 38 year old INFJ and I always thought I was broken or something. How come everyone else was good at being a human but I wasn't. I just found out about my MBTI within the last 3 years or so. It has been a roller coaster but at least everything makes sense now.
I really enjoy talking to homeless people. They don't put up pretense or anything like that. Their vulnerability makes me feel seen by them and in turn I see them. I see everyone, just like you do. I'm so grateful to not be alone in this. ❤❤❤ Love you.
Amy, in the past year I've watched a lot of videos about INFJs. While most of what is said in them feels "true" for me, somehow it usually also feels a bit hollow and too conceptual. Somehow, I still usually feel like, "The person who made that video is not the kind of INFJ that I am."🤔🙂I didn't feel that while listening to you. I felt your depth and authenticity, and I felt really connected with you, like, "Here is a kindred spirit," and the rareness of this experience is really the kind of loneliness I still sometimes feel. But more generally, questioning the truth of thoughts and awakening to my true Self (wakeful presence) in that "higher world" you mention has, for me, been the real solution to my loneliness. I have finally found that I am whole, that I am infinite, and no other person is needed to complete me or to overcome the illusion of my separateness (loneliness). A few years ago, I wrote a book about this. Thanks for being you, Amy. I like you. All the best.
I feel like introverted intuition is a multi-dimensional portal for consciousness. Yeah it is way more interesting than people are letting on.
Your thoughts are very perceptive and eloquent! I agree with all your points, especially about how authenticity is everything to an INFJ. Being an INFJ myself, I felt extremely lonely the majority of my life, because I grew up with people around me who were mostly fake. I always felt that they would project their inauthentic emotions and negativity on me. I found that, once I learned to love my authentic self, no matter who I was surrounded by, I felt exponentially less lonely. Also, finding out about being an INFJ and how there are others out there like you, has helped a lot as well! Just subscribed!
Listening to you makes me feel seen. Thank you for sharing.
Gnossienne, or the "awareness that someone you've known for years still has a private and mysterious life, is from the recently published "The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows" by John Koenig. It is a word he made up, along with many others in his dictionary. My son, an INFJ, gave me (also an INFJ!) this book for Christmas. The author has a nice Ted talk on this as well. I love this book.
I'll have to check it out ❤
an infj father and son relationship really intrigues me
@@h3ll0w0rldmusicboth of my sons are INFJ’s. And we are sometimes more like brothers. Just now one of them was excited by a quote from “I-Thou” by Martin Buber that I had sent to him. Not everyone is into Buber!
I'M a 62 year old recently discovered INFJ , .....you have just described my entire earth existence. Everything you have discussed is 99% accurate ,.....amazing !! Eastern Philosophy and Sports Psychology, my two favorite subjects. I have been called , " the reader of books ",.....lol !!
I am like my teacher ,....Master K 's book , " A Stranger in a Strange Land ".
I'm so glad I came across your channel and as an INFJ being alone and being detached is what helps me to see through different perspectives and also be objective. We are all truly gifted ❤ and we'll keep serving this world for the better 🤍
Keep smiling for whoever is reading this and keep creating.
I think a big part to us feeling alone comes down to being alone inside our heads and that we rarely let others visit and this comes down to us venturing back to the shore to bring them into the ocean. Allowing ourselves to express the internal in the physical world has been a huge step in not feeling alone for me. People around me have made the comment that they think I'm lonely because I'm not in a relationship but I disagree, I'm alone but not lonely. I'm fully engaged in painting, learning something new, buying gemstones...lol, examining the inside of my head or heart and wherever my desires take me. I think it is a label that others have placed on us that we believed.
Thank you, Amy
Yes, loneliness is the result of invalidation and non-acceptance.
You've mentioned your family/friends that are religious and headstrong in their faith. This is an example of invalidation/non-acceptance, when someone is not accepted into a tribe they were born into.
The rejection by others who do not accept your thoughts/beliefs as "yours" and they force their thoughts/beliefs onto you. Worse is the gaslighting and passive-aggressive behaviors that causes the intuitive, to self isolate (to avoid others).
It's difficult to tell others about "visions", "intuitions", "predictions", etc., when the other person doesn't understand, believe or accept what your message is.
It feels like "screaming in the wind" or "I told you so" to the intuitive. Like the deckhand on the Titanic who spotted the iceberg. "Captain! Captain! There's an ICEBERG AHEAD!!!", but the Captain is too busy hosting the Dinner Gala for the important quest.
Relate the INFJ/Sigma personality to Maslow's theory of hierarchy. At the base level is food, water, shelter, etc. Mid level it's belonging to a greater community, where one incorporates their skills/trades/attributes for the betterment of the tribe/family with purpose of belonging as an asset.
What skills does the INFJ/Sigma offer is a good question to consider? Seer of the future? Intuition? Prophecy?
This skill set best belongs to the "Shaman" or "Oracle" and sadly, most who fit that description are often "alone" or "outcast".
The INFJ/Sigma are very intense/deep thinkers. They have a difficult time connecting with others b/c of this intensity/depth. Not many will ever understand and thus creates a disconnect.
One positive that there are a few that will understand and support the INFJs/Sigmas.
Those here that follow you and YOU, yourself are the people that understand.
Thanks again
:)
As a true SIGMA I m very Deep.
You truly are connected to your inner self and I can see the joy and fulfillment it gives you. I know because that is where I am; At this point I’m almost able to pull that positive energy just be realizing that I’m in that state of being who I am it’s weird, amazing, confusing - but positive
3:02 I learned early that the path of least resistance was to allow others to their gnosis, and even to let go of that struggle. I let others see what they can or may. True that we all operate on a via. Letting go opens the gate to a better fundamental understanding. With better awareness, our Ni becomes strong.
This is a really great dive into the subject. I can relate a lot to all of your thoughts expressed here. It was timely for me, since I was recently trying to process and share my own mental state with some of my loved ones concerning feelings of loneliness. Something to add here, is that for the reasons described, it's easier to understand how an INFJ can feel rather content and happy while physically alone, but lonely around many people. The presence of people and the inability to relate or share on the same level creates a difference that is hard to look past when loneliness sets in. The importance of building the "right" relationships is clear here. The wrong relationships can be a kind of hell, because our idea of loneliness might be directly incompatible with how others feel the same loneliness.
I’m an ENFP, & this all resonates so hard. I’m dating an INFJ and trying to get more insights, and this sounds like ME LOL 😂. Especially appreciate the Shamanic tie in. I’m a “Knowledge Based Nerd” too. I wish there were more open-minded people with strong growth drivers. Thanks again for this great video.
God, I wish you would talk about this for hours. I could absorb myself, listen endlessly. I’m Enjoying all of the topics you explore on your channel. It’s like finding “home”. I have spent a lifetime amongst people who didn’t get me, and in turns out I didn’t actually get them. I suppressed my Ni as it was threatening to those around me, particularly the family I grew up in - who were either all about making money, business, or in the case of my mother, in a religious cult. I was often told outright by them that “ I made people uncomfortable”, which justified their exclusion of me I guess, and left me honestly confused, as I was exhausting myself trying to make them feel comfortable. If there was another intuitive in the family or extended , I wouldn’t have known it. We were a highly suppressed lot, quite enmeshed as well. They completely cut me off eventually (or I them), and have no family in my life now, no contact. I never married or had children. I have struggled with similar dynamics in other friend groups, usually starting out well, with others finding me charming, me trying hard to please, but it didn’t last. One can only keep up the charade for so long. But in my older years, i have finally made a few friends that seem to get me, accept me as I am, and offer emotional support to each other. They are likely other intuitive types, but not INFJ. I worry I will offend them too, but they don’t seem put off by me. We even discuss some of the deeper darker stuff, connect in many areas. Learning about MBTI has been a life changer. Understanding myself through this lens, I understand now why I have this longing to delve deeper into these esoteric topics, burrow down all these rabbit holes. I love the possibility of thar rare glimpse into life’s mysteries, seeing the unseen. Its affirming to know I’m not alone in this. Learning different subjects, many areas of study, it is what gets me up in the morning (that and my true family- six chickens, a cat, and horse). Through my minds-eye I’ve had experiences that have changed how i view the world, this existence. Thank you for your videos. It opens a world of possibilities.
@leilanoorani2976 thank you for sharing your experience 🦋 it's so common for INFJ to suppress their Ni throughout the majority of their lives that they never fully understand how to connect it with others in a satisfying way. I completely understand. I appreciate this thoughtful story and am happy this video resonates 🦋
Ty Amy.
I was lonely before discovering MBTI. Lonely and alien.
Now i feel more included and understood than I thought was possible.
I guess i was also naive to think not many other people processed the world as I do.
Watching you express thoughts so similar to my own, really make me feel more confident expressing to others my true personality.
I stand taller and speak louder, without hesitation or regret. Well, not as much regret.
It blows my mind to think people have sexual relationships without emotional intimacy. It's no wonder they cheat on their partners.
The people who marry and don't speak the same language, make me laugh the most. WHY would anyone want that?
Thank you again for raising my spirit.
Ty, Danny.
P.s. I LOVE that view of the snowy mountain peaks, absolutely beautiful.
Love this comment it was healing for me 🤍
When you said " the world doesn't accept quieteness " i felt it, because i was mislabeled as pretentious, rude, extremely weird and even got verbally attacked behind my back by a political family member? But the rest of the family got my back, fortunely! i wasn't even trying to fight back because it was useless and mentally tiring if i even did it, especially since that person is still pretty narcissistic and egocentric. So yeah, i shut my mouth to keep peace around me and only speak when is needed, is my nature not my repression, is wisdom.
I think this is probably the toughest aspect of being INFJ in my personal experience. Most of the time when I would go into hermit mode, it was based of either anger towards not being understood by people I care or think I care about, or sadness for feeling misunderstood. But then it usually leads to a self correction which most of the time… is helpful 😂
Thank you for continuing to help us see the world in a better way and ourselves ❤
One of the key things you mentioned here was how you see things in a multidimensional way. This for me is a big reason for feeling like I’m alone. Many people don’t do this at all. Like you say I also can dig into the polar opposites and perspectives of any topic. As soon as I’ll start talking about it then it’s quickly judged. In many ways we are quickly judged and that gets us to unconsciously shut off from being too deep and this is where that lonely feeing comes in even though we may be surrounded by people who consider us friends. This is a massively complex topic for us and it’s amazing how you’ve shared this so well.
Also it’s a paradox that we can see so alone and yet when we have a significant person in our life we also feel we need alone time from them also. At least I do.. I wonder if you’ve felt this? Sometimes I feel this great need to dive into my unconscious without the distractions of another soul in proximity. I feel a lot don’t understand this because their brains work way more in this physical here and now mental space. When I’m alone it’s as if my inner world is vast as the universe and I see all the connections. Using physical language at that point slows down until I’ve processed it all. That intuitive world is where it’s hard to share and feels like the most loneliest place ever. Gee I wrote too much lol thanks again for sharing!!!!!
Beautifully written 👏 ❤️ I resonate with everything you wrote
"Every person puts on a filter,some type of a filter in order to talk to you"😊❤😊
Wonderful insight.
I know this is mbti chanel,but this makes absolute sense to me from enneagram perspective.Body/gut types are said to have litle to no filters of "reality"I always experience life nonverbaly,intense and raw with extreme difficulty to explain.Or as Franz Kafka said"All language is,but a poor translation"
I believe that the more perspectives on an issue you have understood and can (at least partially) comprehend, the closer you get to the truth or the true core of that issue.
i’m crying. this is so beautifully said. i go into deep contemplation for weeks and it’s so heavy
The part of outgrowing people is a great added perspective to the loneliness. I wouldn't say I feel lonely but when that occurs I enjoy my alone time to reflect on that experience and realign with myself.
Thank you for sharing that you end up ditching people. I know it sounds terrible but i do the same thing. Not to be mean. My main thing is that female friendships get repetitive and i don't get heard. I do all the listening.
I'm so glad i found you.
Hope you have a lovely day. ❤
Just came across this video. I strongly identify with everything you mentioned, even your vibe. Keep speaking your truth...
In my loniless I've found my very truthfull friend, the one I left aside almost my entire life trying to fulfill someone else's expectation. It was not easy, yet the reward is still invaluable. Greets and love from Tenerife (Canary Islands) 😘😊
Being an infj myself I would say it is truly a gift of God to be one. Not only can you read people you can use your knowledge of them to help them and bring them truth.
But often they dislike you is my experience.
@@Coneman3 just like they hated Jesus. He said they hated me and they will hate you also in the Gospels
Yes, his message and example had been distorted by religions imo. He was killed because he was a threat to the status quo. People misunderstood him and what he stood for. Their greed and selfishness were heartened. INFJ is loneliest life.
Best sum up ever on the INFJ topic.
Fell in love!🫶🏼🫂
I just wanted you to know that I heard every word, concur with your expression.of our personality ... as if you were a mirror to every dimension and emotional experience in my daily life. That was an honest depiction of your innermost being ... and if the recipient is listening, truly listening, they'll understand you, and celebrate just how unique and spiritually open you are to any idea, topic and possibility. It's an extremely creative and rich inner world we reside in ... others are welcome inside ... all they have to do is ask.
I love you're INFJ videos and I get so much insight into myself from watching them. If I am being honest though, I felt like the more spiritual aspects of your channel were lost on me. Looking back, it was a distortion, I had already made up my oppinion before even watching it. I just wanted to come back here and say, that in my own journey of healing and growing, I now understand why you feel so validated and connected with these modalities. Thank you so much for your content ♥
Your channel randomly popped in my recommends (second one this week). For what it’s worth, you have a relaxing cadence to your speech and seem authentic. You gained a subscriber. I haven’t seen any other videos yet but I hope you focus on things that personally interest you and your thoughts on them. As a fellow INFJ my hat goes off to you for RUclips-ing. I’ve thought about it for years and just can’t find the courage to start.
Thank you 💛
nice INFJ reflections, including the INFJ susceptibility to shamanism
I really enjoy your videos, and the calming feeling get when I realize that someone I don't even know can understand and relate to my unusual ways my mind processes information. I get excited when I listen to you, cause I feel a connection with the things you say. And the way I can relate to the way i can hear your mind racing with so much information. It's kinda a big deal for me, because I catch myself doing the same thing. Unfortunately the people I'm close with, become very uncomfortable when forget that they don't have any desire to reach a higher level of understanding. And that......is when I feel alone and out of place. Anyhow, your doing great, and I appreciate you and what you do here.
Totally agree on the religious aspect....met someone who drew me into a religious organization....soooooo restrictive. My mind couldn't remain on one teaching or philosophy!
Spot on beautiful one""" thx 4 sharing,:)
I’m glad to have found your channel. Resonated so deeply. Thank you for sharing.
I think all the comments I’ve left so far have been well-meaning jokes (or attempts at them 😂) and one sharing of an actual experience of mine, but right here I just wanna say thank you to you for your channel and all these videos. You must be noticing I’m making my way through all of them. It’s helping me greatly in this transitional period in my life. I am an INFJ-A and I Thank you 🙏.
@@dakotawinston7677 happy to share 🦋 appreciate your depth of attention
Thanks for three worlds model and the hope for connection that you represent. I definately need more Infjs in my life. That would me some peace of mind/heart and right now comfort in the underworld.
This one I've seen and commented on a while back, but it popped up in my feed and I watched it through the entirety again and I very much needed to see it, hear it and feel it again. Especially right now with numerous aspects that I possibly am either growing thus seemingly feel like to be a internal battle deep within myself that I find to be incredibly difficult to express and convey. In part, I'm making a career change that hasn't gone accordingly to my vision that I've always been reliant of thus not meeting my bar I set which I saw so clearly not be fully brought to life by now, has exhausted my mind so that I'm feeling several steps behind and letting myself down eats at me all the time. My outlet is that I write a lot of quotes and philosophy being at the core. You spoke about the truth which I tend to write about and as well speak to all the time. "Beauty as pure is much like that of the truth. Neither have ever lied and both are simply, absolute.' I'm going to try and end here. I have to make certain that I stay self aware when what I have tons to say that I'll save for another day, which is passion and excitement about the very small and ever so subtle things that I see to be absolutely huge, totally for me makes and as well could break the entire event, situation or going or giving that tiny thought haven made it all happen. I see the beauty it brings when I know most would never notice which is okay but I'm often misunderstood to be what I'm attempting to say. To be taken wrong over passion deep and excitement hard to hide over the smallest of detail that goes unseen makes for most all to see me so differently and simply unable to relate, they with me and myself with them. Isolation and or loneliness I often think about. I have so much more I could say. Digression ends it here. ;) Awesome and beautiful insight full of wisdom that you share well. Thanks a bunch for making a difference I know for many others like myself. Enjoyed it even more this twice now. Take care.
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I love the very end of your video when you're standing outside in the snow. It looks like you're in Bishop or somewhere off 395 by the Sierra Nevadas. That's my favorite area
Thank you for making these videos . I just discovered you and can relate absolutely to everything you're describing.
40-year old INFJ from Germany here. I never really used to feel lonely at all. But somehow since 2-3 years ago, there was a shift and I catch myself feelings lonely sometimes now. Not always, but definitely there are days where I feel really sad about not having more meaningful relationships and a social circle where I can connect on a deeper level with someone. I've tried apps like MeetUp and Meet5 and stuff like that, but have noticed I'm also easily bored or even annoyed by the superficiality of conversations, especially small talk, with people I met on these apps. I guess I'm not the easiest to be around, either and have high expectations. Sigh...
INFJ contain deep old wisdom that they draw their inspiration from, Imam Ali a. s. Said :
"Your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it and your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. You presume you are a small entity, but within you is enfolded the entire Universe. You are indeed the evident book, by whose alphabet's the hidden becomes manifest. Therefore you have no need to look beyond yourself. What you seek is within you, if only you reflect."
-Imam Ali (AS).
Beautiful quote, thank you 🤍
You have like a High Priestess energy… you are beautiful!!! Just the way you are!!!! Beautiful!!!!
+ Are you a lone +
What do you mean?
With no mate how do you sing?
I sing a song with a single word,
Sung to a tree, sung to a bird
I whistle tune, I drum the drum,
With closed eyes, I tongue the hum
Swing to dance, I lead my step
trip to fall, I catch my breath
And in a moment when I wish to be two
My mind tells heart, I will be true
So everyday, I am a lone,
by my self, I wander home
There is no other to sing back
There is no sound, nor is there lack
I arrived in life a single man
And traveled through a single land
But as to alone, I've never been
For through it all, I am my own friend
No love lost has to be found
And on the day, I'm in the ground
The life I've lead, has been of bliss
I've tasted love, I've kissed and been kissed
The thing you ask I cannot say
Except to ask, you, to convey
Is a life of two, twice love's sum
Or two single's love that merge to one
For In the end it matters none
As a life of love, is a life well done
-osean
Charon : row row rowing my boat, gently down the stream....
@Uncle_Jester why is this comment so creepy 😅? The Trickster Archetype aboard.
Beautifully Said. I appreciate your perspective and fresh take on the infj and loneliness. Gives me something to think about and relate to my own life. Thank you 🙏🏼
Don't really feel lonely anymore, I have a loving cat, he occasionally scratches me, but does not say stupid thing... . I think years of meditation has helped me to live more in the present, and be able to deal with that above ground interaction better, growing up it was really rough to do. I like to do out reach and help people, that is how I interact with them in a positive way.
Keep the videos coming!
Im an infj, and to be honest I just clicked on the video bc you are absolutely beautiful 🥲🥲
Thank you 🤍 hope you enjoyed the video #infj
Amazingly put points! I especially relate to the point about going down the rabbit hole of concepts and looking at aspects others ignore or outright don't see, and I can say it causes a great amount of pain to me :') Emotional intimacy is also crucial for me to really get into a true relationship with another person, which is also a rather rare phenomenon :')
Smarty pants..
SMART cookie.
Watching your video for company..
Yep that's LONLY INFJ empathy..
Very insightful video. Thank you
Hello Amy,your points in the video are on point.i could see tears in your eyes.Higly appreciated ❤
Subscribed-Fellow INFJ
I'm keeping this short this time. Lol. Awesome vlog. Could deeply relate. I know I personally don't have any friends nor anyone to talk to. What I do professionally, I'm alone and when I am done the other part is typing my appraisal reports which I'm alone. When I'm not working back before I found myself withdrawing from people in my life because I knew their true intent and I would be there hearing what they said which was everything except the truth. I remember just feeling the need to smile and find the exit door and politely leave. I don't know if it's the past 6 years of major traumatic events I've been through or that enlightened me in many ways but I know it's deeply humbled me. I personally haven't ever met anyone I suppose who values or lives their life by honor, loyalty and respect to include the truth as absolute. No one seems to understand me unless I wear a mask and pretend to fit in which I stopped and I guess I am deeply lonely. Seems like there isn't anyone that I've ever met who cares to have conversation of depth beyond the surface. The last serious relationship I had I one time attempted to go deep and ill never forget here eyes and what they said or rather the way she looked at me with this moment what felt confusion and maybe judgement but I then quickly just changed the subject but not long after, I broke it off. This one really hit home. Haven become deeply cynical no longer putting myself out there I suppose being lonely is as much my fault as it is like a couple of phrases or quotes I wrote. One, "Beauty as pure is like truth, neither have ever lied" Two, "Intuition indicates the fake and gives insight to the truth and thus leaves you no trust to choice" So yeah I'm lonely and I not only see the truth, I feel it too which the same applies with one's intent and agenda to know and see it for what it truly is but hear the BS and I am disgusted by that so it's a double edged sword. Both at the end of the road leave you lonely. Philosophy has kept my my mind very opened. I don't judge becausesi where I'm from it's hard-core judgment when your back is turned but all smiles and hugs when turn back to face them. At 46 I guess yeah I have slowly grew into the place I am now and that is deeply cynical. I need to research a method of finding my way back that is balanced and thus a healthy place. Thanks for the insight. Very impacting. Made me see both the forest and the trees. Kashton
Hi Amy , hope U r well , love ur wisdom and perspective . Namaste 8 ) .
Oceanic experience and mystical connection
You are AMAZING!!!!! I can totally relate! Love the video!
Hello fellow INFJ 🦋! So happy the algorithm connected me to you.
I never felt so lonely as with other people. Been in non-self imposed isolation since 3/2020. Alone but rarely lonely. Gnosis. Reintegration into this broken society is difficult, I know what is mine….and so many people are weak and icky in all levels.
Very interesting and true ❤
Keep it up 👍 Amy!… love the intellectual convos. Very inspiring 🤙
Сегодня Бог, программируя, порой очень точно, "роботов поиска и предложения" Ютуба, послал мне данное видео, твоё Эми! Вот! ну и ну! и на пятой минуте видео, Я обнаружил себя уже в тебя влюблённым! это что-то потрясающее! Особенно впечатляюще с точки зрения того, что обычно я влюбляюсь, как художник, во внешность девушки красавицы. А-а, Значит, сейчас уже на пятой минуте, Я уже был влюблён в великолепие твоего внутреннего мира, в твою Душу!😢
Today God, programming sometimes very precise RUclips search robots and suggestions, sent me this video, yours Amy! Here! well well! and in the fifth minute of the video, I found myself already in love with you! this is something amazing! It’s especially impressive from the point of view that I usually fall in love, as an artist, with the appearance of a beautiful girl. Ahh, So, now at the fifth minute, I was already in love with the splendor of your inner world, with your Soul! Thank you for such great experience, for feelings and senses congeniality!
You are so beautiful and I feel like I can learn a lot from you, thank you!! ☺️🥰💖
I also have cascading waterfalls, on my land. The wading through the bedrock looks quite familiar.
I am a nerd as well. Luckily my brother is one as well and is my conversation partner and we have amazing conversations on a variety of topics.
Hey! First video of yours which has popped up and it is a great video, all of it. I still have trouble being present like you say, but not in every situation. Watching this for example, no problem and super engaged the whole time. But then in lots of social interactions that last more than a few minutes it can be tricky. Very true most people are not interested enough to go deep into anything. And outgrowing people is very relateable!
Keen to watch a few more. You're doing great, best of luck with everything!
Go nerds 🤓 😁
Do you have any recommendations on where to begin diving into Shamanic resources/learning? TIA.
THANK You for Your video's..
Wishing You All the BEST and BLESSINGS 🙏💛 I EMPATHISE with You
You seem so sweet!! I can definitely relate to how you think and process things!! 😁🙏🏻
I deeply care and unapologetically emotionally extroverted!! 😁
i dont understand all the fancy words but i get what you aare saying!
Resonants:
I Don't like label myself, but this video speaks to me, & my spirit.
I low-🗝 mite be infj...
Omnist I've found to be closely relatable if not accurate. I consider various aspects of spiritual, religions, witchcraft, atheist and soul on, I accept what I feel is morally just and disregard what doesn't personally moves me. I'm content with my island made of self after having been through series of hardships and traumatic events.
Thank you! Amy. I appreciate your answer it is right on the spot!
I feel lonely around a bunch of ppl sometimes and find I’d rather be alone than be lonely around surface ppl.
so awesome
Thank you!!!
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Being an INFJ myself, I believe you're going to understand it very correctly when I merely want to make you a compliment, simply as a normal person, not for me being a male and you being a female. Because I do not care that actually, this is not the underlying intention.
So, you're a person where the inner beauty is expressed in your outside being. It's like your voice is expressed specifically by your eyes gaze, it's extremely dense while it does own that very rare way of being sharp at the "outer layers" and soft simultaneously in the inside of your eyes, usually a sign that you can see through people, in particular instantly - while only very few are able being below the radar for a bit longer. But such eyes see anyone after a certain time behind.
You do have a very beautiful appearance. I guess alot of a certain type of men and women are disliking you instantly for only that already. But it's not for your pure outside appearance, it's for the high connectedness between inside and outside. You're conspicuous in a group of people while most don't know how to talk to you. Only very few do know.
Well, a typical INFJ thing I guess.
Well, in German we do have a word for that kind of appearance, which simply has no counter part in English, which is called "schön". I mean you can look it up, but there is not really a true counter part for it.
I do usually use it for when something is in an homeostatic or very balanced harmonic state. Meaning: yap. You're very likely a highly attuned healer.
As I said. A simple human to human observation and compliment.
Thanks for the video. It resonated.
Always fun when a fellow INFJ analyzes me 😌 hahaha it's a rare day when someone gives such depth in their observations. Thank you and happy to have you here.
Wow beSt video I’ve found on INFJ. Can you share some of your favorite books on this subject?
Any books about intuition can be a helpful guide!
I choose to see myself as being privy to a celestial truth, or amongst those blessed to be in the know of what we all suspect to be true time to time intuitively, instead of carrying the weighted belief that being ever on the outside of what most believe to be average, or being unenthusiastic about taking part in what would commonly be considered as normative interactions within modern society, as per my nature, to be something worthy of admonishment. Herein my solace lie. You see, I, too, intuitively become perturbed by the incessant need for society to categorize and package people in neat little boxes, as if we were a commodity, rather than the ceaselessly complex spiritual beings we truly are. I see the vast disharmony, borne of an inner struggle, in the eyes of those whom I interact with, as they contort their soul out of the fear of rejection. This pains me deeply, for even as I do everything in my power to put them at ease, far too often do I glimpse a manifestation of their true self. Worse over, most attempt to convince me that the persona they've adopted is who they truly are. And this, above all, I find disheartening. I understand their fear, truly, and hold no judgement over their choice. We all are indoctrinated to one degree or another. I guess what I'm trying to say, long-winded as I am, is that I wish our society encouraged us more to be the beautiful individuals we are, and to fear more the slow, painstaking death of the human spirit, thus potential, known as conformity.
I enjoyed listening to your unique perspective, experiences, as well as the insights you've shared throughout the video. I appreciate you taking the time to read my comment, and I will attempt to comment with brevity in mind going forward. Take care and God bless. ✝️
Small minds discuss people
Mediocre minds discuss events
Great minds discuss ideas
Cool minds discuss ideas about people 😎
(Psychology hahaha)
wow; I love you
you're so feminine and beautiful
Thank you 💛
🙏well said.
Hi. Amy. What do you think about the many world theories? I have a strong feeling that something is very real, and with that said dimensions are being born, and new dimensional beings are appearing. It's a new world and we can be happy.
Interesting theory :). I think theories are theories. Always a potential, but never able to validate fully. I'll read about it more
What would you think of the perspective that Ni is the awareness of consciousness. It is through the awareness of consciousness that one may be able to become aware of the unconscious/subconscious. The infj may never really be able to, “live in the moment,” as a result. Loneliness may have a different application to infjs and intjs.
Totally. Awareness of the subconscious. I touch on that a bit in my last video 👍
I tell myself im not going to just comment on every video, but then i can’t help myself…. i feel like you’re talking directly to me and i understand all of it. i also understand how one-sided that is, but it’s the nature of this platform. if i were listening in person i think i would be prompted to want to talk about how i think the disconnect from some of us to most people might have to do with ‘old souls’ actually being a real thing. I always felt like i existed ‘with God’ way before this incarnation. I have a sneaking suspicion that some of us are simply older creations. I found it odd that no one around me had this same sensation. Sure, my brain could be misfiring. lol.. but there are a few that share that sentiment. as intp i find it extremely difficult to be misleading or manipulative but i can see how infj can be led into paths of wasting time and energy trying to unravel gaslighting from manipulation of others.. i understand the ti battling with intuition, mine is just Ne, and it’s probably easier that i default to my dominant filter when assessing people’s behaviors…. ok, stay warm missy…
Hahaha I'm very thankful for your comments 🙏. Yeah, old soul wise... it's difficult to tell if I'm just not as choked off from my soul as others may be or if I'm genuinely an old soul. It's a loaded topic.
@@amy-lyne i’ve thought that. maybe it’s just a clearer signal for some. but yeah it gets dead-endy at a certain point. probably wont know any time soon..
Hi. Amy, I think you speak the absolute truth from your heart. But I have a question? Maybe you may have some knowledge on this subject. What is the meaning 0f number 3 and three powerful women?
I've heard lots of symbolism about the number 3, but I believe universally it means "balance" to most cultures
INFJ myself, it’s hard enough dating you know that jazz, but what happens if you areINFJ Heyoka Sigma LEO? What am I doing wrong? Please I’m not getting any younger no I want the last years of my life to be enjoyable instead of always anxious and depressed.
You’re right knowledgable and who to ask Somebody with the same we’re not the same struggles in life Or just a same basic idea you’re a unique thinker just like me I got rose-colored glasses on all the time and I need somebody with the same struggles give me some clarity OK I am repeating myself, so I must be going through NI-loop. whatever they call it. Please I’m desperate you know what it’s like growing up with this personality
Hi Jose, might not be able to give a sufficient answer to your life struggles but these were a couple things that popped into my head about what you just said... the first one being the most controversial potentially: Rose-colored glasses 👍are all well and good. It's okay to see the world through this lens. Idealism can be a perfectly healthy thing. The key to getting what you want in life is to surrender into the moment, recognize and be thankful for what you have, and then be aware and attentive of what you want. Love on the external (boyfriend/girlfriend, family, friends) is matched with what you have on the internal.
A simple answer to a complex problem but what I can fit within a comment for now.
@@amy-lyne Oh by the way my name is not Jose it’s Douglas I just got the phone off my friend Jose OK sorry about that but anyways, The struggle pretty much every day just to explain myself getting a date that’s a whole other enemy I have to fight, figuratively of course. But if you have any ideas want to help me defeat the enemy I am all ears🤔 and so I don’t take complete advantage of the situation knowing a complete stranger and pouring out my guts are you are you a rose and it doesn’t have to be watered oh that’s cheap ov me I’ll buy you a dozen roses just for putting up with me,And these don’t have to be water 2 LOL🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 my corny jokes take care wish all the best for you and all the Adventures still forecast in your life take care again he he I’m gonna shut up now
Today God, programming sometimes very precise RUclips search robots and suggestions, sent me this video, yours Amy! Here! well well! and in the fifth minute of the video, I found myself already in love with you! this is something amazing! It’s especially impressive from the point of view that I usually fall in love, as an artist, with the appearance of a beautiful girl. Ahh, So, now at the fifth minute, I was already in love with the splendor of your inner world, with your Soul!
What I'm sick of is being alone then being with someone you dim your light and feel even lonelier so, you come back to inverted intuition and world domination, hahaha ha ha just kiddin, little levity to lighten proceedings, 🙏❤️😇
Is there any way I can contact you ?
Ab"soul"utely concur
The more people know us, the less they like us.
You are very right in terms of outgrowing people. I recently divorced and feel that somehow I grew up and my husband did not. In fact I felt he got less mature throughout our marriage, perhaps in response to my maturing so quickly. A counselor told me our marriage was not working because I was functioning as my husbands parent due to how we were interacting.
Hi do you telegram?
Hello Amy Lyne, you probably will not see this, I see spirits and Entities from a different dimension, they come to our world through portals, there is a saying (As above, so Below) and know this may sound weird, but facts are stranger than fiction.
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Loneliness is a big word for me it’s a sad world for me it’s a constant word for me but I’m gonna look at us with the glass half full , I too am INFJ, I don’t think for you it would be much of a problem because you’re female but I make INFJ well at least for me it’s really really really hard to find something , I can click with that gets me but what do you do when you’re looking for a friend or a boyfriend or a husband and what advice could you give me? Because I’ve been lonely for 40 something years and I don’t really want to change that fact about me,OK enough about me how are you doing? How are the wife and kids ,kidding kidding that’s the kind of joke I make when I’m uncomfortable but the more I do these uncomfortable things, the more I’ll get better at talking to people all right that’s it for me take care have a good day and all that good stuff. Do you have a nice night day afternoon evening whatever state your in.
Why INFJS have green eyes? 🍏
Probably a genetic thing?...
I was in acquaintance relationship deal and she was a narcissist that’s what people said and I didn’t believe them because she didn’t do anything to me and I’m narcissistic way but anyways I’m gonna look for a girl or a woman that I can get along with and I can grow old with no drama I hate drama that person that I was talking about had a really good mind that’s why I was chasing her but not anymore so now I’m looking for something a little bit more real somebody I can grow old with what I’m weird and I’m alone wolf so that’s gonna be a challengeAlrighty then that’s my comment take care can you be safe
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