A manipulator. The one who loved herself more than the idea of having you in her life. Good for her and every woman who is willing to choose love/self.
When a woman has had enough of a situation, they calmly let you go. No fighting, screaming, chasing or nagging. They just let you go.. Because they realise they have to love themselves more and have a standard. I walked away from my ex-fiancè abruptly due to his behaviour and wasn't prepared to put up with it. 10 years later he was still chasing me, then he got my number and still tried contacting me 30 years later. I never answered him. I will forever be in his mind. Value yourself ladies and know your worth.
That woman was sent to redeem you from the pit of hell called narcissism. She was not in a good place herself considering how you treated her but she knew her assignment!!!Always thank her!
Man this is true. I tried to get my ex to see, but he just had so much pride... so I had to cut him completely off. There was a time I felt God was holding me there, and I recall being told by the spirit to pray for him even when he was rude.. then months later, he took out to the next level of disrespect, and I heard the spirit say to stop...be still.. and withdraw my energy, prayers included but do not seek revenge, and I did just that. I didn't even know about narcissism was but I kept calling him Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde, then I learned that's a phrase used to describe their behavior. I knew he thinks about it because he knows I didn't deserve it.
So if she was conned she was in a bad place? I disagree… if she was that bad off she would have stayed. A con man or woman can fool anyone and no one is immune doll. Research it!
I was taught that from my dec husband, when a man think he is a man you have to leave them to handle themselves,that why he left me in a home of my own after when he was dying he called me back to care for him in the end. Those life does not play off.especially when God send a good woman to show you what is like to be loved and cared for you. God knows and sees what he will do unto them.
Kirk you had narcissistic tendencies. You were definitely not a narcissist. Narcissists can’t self reflect. They will never see their faults. But I’m elated you saw the issues and decided to change to be a better man. Kudos to you 🎉!’n
yup, I keep thinking the same, I applaud her, she did right! And , as also Kirk sees now, she did right not only for herself but for him as well,big time!!
I hope that woman is healed and she evolved to have a higher level of self-worth than she had back then, and she went on to find her perfect match. I hope she has been happily married for decades, living a charmed and blessed life with a beautiful family with children and grandchildren.
It is true. Men want you to run behind them crying, begging or fighting. The moment you go into silent mode or just focus on yourself that’s when they want you more or want to come back.
Wow, just the other day I went on a date and this man told me that "women just want you to chase them"! I said, well not me! Knowing what you bring to the table is not called wanting to be "chased", it's called being secure. I don't want a man that doesn't see my value. You don't have to chase someone that you show your respect. So all those men that say that they would never chase a women, ask yourself, "why would I not want a woman that loves and respects herself?" And ladies, keep working on making yourself the best you. I see y'all out there! So proud of my girls that are putting that work in herself and not a "project".
Some people, who are not narcissists, may display narcissistic behaviour. If he was a diagnosed narcissist, he would not have taken accountability for his behaviour. He would not have wanted to better himself.
I never chased because I didn't know it was a thing. I did the world a favor by blocking a lot of grown-boys. I did not realize that I was saving myself a lot of stress and heart ache. Looking back, yeah I did the right thing.
Yep!!! Hard to let them know they need to grow up! 🙏 sad and I get it. I married a narc! When he left I was done and he came back! 😂😂 no thanks but didn’t have anymore words as the marriage many words and enough had been discussed by me only!
WHEN YOU TREAT SOMEONE LIKE SHIT IT DOESN'T GIVE THE OTHER PERSON ANY REASON TO RETURN TO YOU OR FIGHT FOR YOU SINCE THEY NEVER FELT LOVED AND RESPECTED. SO IT MAKES IT EASY FOR US TO WALK AWAY.
@marinaconnel,so true I am actually dealing niq ,long distance, he is so lie, never seem a grown man lie like that to validate himself, thats not the way to go meeeeen🫣
You have walked in those shoes of a male. You see, I didn't say a MAN. You admit that you were damaged & toxic.. But you came to the light, changed your mindset, and started walking in your PURPOSE in life. To assist / make a DIFFERENCES in other's lives!! Many BLESSINGS, my Bro.. 🙏🙏🙏
Relationships are complicated. Two separate people are attempting to live and work as ONE. This woman Kirk is referring to was WHOLE in herself. When you are WHOLE, you don’t need to split in half to be with anyone.
I believe in letting my person be free in the pursuit of his own happiness, and if I'm a part of that happiness then great. But when trust and respect are broken...then kick rocks...life is too short.✌️dueces
I have never in my life let a man walk all over me... and I've never run into a man that didn't remember me... even twenty years later. A disrespectful man will never value you by allowing him to get away with his mess. I'd rather be alone than be with a disrespectful man.
With the apology you need to THANK HER. Without her you would have never had your revelation and changed into the man you were supposed to be, and the teacher that you are now.
I’m thankful for my ex for doin what he did because even tho it hurts and set me back it was the experience with him that opened my eyes and helpin me to be whoever it is I’m becoming now so u def have a point! When good comes out of a not so good situation 💪🏽
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Hurt people will always hurt people! Healed people heal people! Sounds like what I dealt w a narcissist Do the work and heal is what I’m hearing! Great video! Thank you 😊
If both women and men would let God fill that place which only He can fill and love yourselves, the desperation and toleration will be gone. This is a whole person. 50/50 is half stepping, TRUTH!
Thanks.its true. I have been told that hurts the most. When you don't call, try to find out what they are doing or where they are. Thanks for your honesty
This is tripping me out bcuz the first few times I went through this with a toxic man the same man I thought I was going to lose my mind. But after all that drama that one time he walked out, he didn't realize I was never taking him back. And that's when he thought i was really crazy. I said well if this is what crazy feels like, I welcome it bcuz i got peace✌🏽!!! See ya!!! And I never looked back.
Thank you for sharing and giving insight into such a personal story. He made numerous attempts over the years to cross my boundaries, but I held my ground; I would not confront him or show emotions, because I knew he just wanted to trigger me to chase him. I showed him I was unbothered . After 2 years he has stopped with the passive aggression. I have NO time to play games.
She’s a smart woman a strong woman she wasn’t gonna let you break her bring her down stay strong sister and keep your head up it might have hurt her inside but she was very strong 💪🏽
I was involved with a man from Nigeria who was well known but he was a narcissist and I told him over and over how he was and how he made me feel. But he didn’t care so because I care about me and my happiness, I walked away leaving him wondering how and why. He will NEVER BE ABLE TO INTERACT WITH ME EVER AGAIN.
I totally get what you're saying. My last partner would up and walk out on me. He did that for the last time almost 2 weeks ago. I was highly tolerant of him. Because I remember being a crusty uptight woman at a period in mh life and I still wanted people to like me. I didn't realize I was that way until I realized I was that way LOL. He never talked it out with me. But I have had enough. The last episode he involved the police for 100% NO REASON. I have now accepted he is a textbook narcissist. One of THE worst relationships out there, my humble opinion. I've never encountered a more miserable, fork-tongued man at 62, in my life!! I'm now free, and I know I am recovering from this. I got a life to live. Time doesn't stop for me while I recover from a mind duck of 3 years. Gotta keep moving forward. I will never apologize for loving a man who's unlovable. And I will never apologize for having a good heart and having his best interests at heart. I don't care if he remembers me or not. In the end it's his loss. Praying for him to get help and heal his hard heart. Thank you for being here. ❤ 🙏
62 wow it's a shame at that age but I guess it's hard cause women have let them get away with it all his life. It's a shame cause the dating pool for that age is slim to none they want young girls cause they haven't matured at that age.
I had a similiar situation but slightly different. You both were a spiritual catalyst for each other. She made you look at yourself to find self love and you also assisted her when you were trying to apologize and I'm sure she rejected you. Once you pulled your energy back permanently, her reflection began. Our ego's send allusion and confusion. Our souls send truth and clarity. GOD sends certain people into our lives to help us break destructive patterns.
Soooooo true 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I just had to do this in my relationship with someone that I really love. It was a hard decision for me to make, but once I realized that I can’t fix him nor force change, and that he has to come to that decision on his own…and there was no sense of arguing and nagging him to see the error, it was just best to walk away and save my energy for myself! If it’s meant to be it will be if not then even better. I’m striving for peace and wholeness in my life…not validation and acceptance from anyone but God. 😂😂❤❤❤ self love ❤️ is the best!
Wow. This was deep. Kirk kind of describes the guy I was dealing with. He was an attractive guy who I believe was a covert narc all of his life. Women had always been to willing to do everything for this guy. I believe I am probably one of the few women who left him alone with his selfish behavior. Ironically, in the process of me dealing with him, I ended up going through a very painful spiritual awakening. It made me question who I was, how I've operated at times in my life. I discovered I had some narcissistic tendencies myself. I'm glad I met him because it gave me a chance to work on being a better person so that I can possibly attract a better person if I ever decide to date again. Although I would not want anyone to go through the pain I felt during this period in my life, now I see it may have been a blessing in disguise. How can you fix a problem if you never knew you had a problem? I'm glad I can now acknowledge my part in why I entertained this and other toxic relationships in my life.
She taught you the meaning of VALUE instead of her falling for your false IMAGE at the time...Thank you for sharing ...transformation is beautiful ... nothing inspires more then lbeing vulnerable
That's all, a relationship is not a battle when people can't be grown nor turn up correct quietly walk away! Thank for sharing and being open and honest about your lesson
Im sooo happy you made this video but also happy that I ran across this video! All Umma say is WE NEED MORE WOMEN LIKE US! VERYYY ON POINT!!! Good job sir for accepting accountability you ARE THE MAN!!!!!! 🙏🏽❤❤❤❤❤❤
I KNEW IT AND THANK YOU FOR CONFIRMING THAT I'M DOING SOMETHING RIGHT!! WE HAVEN'T EVEN BEEN ABLE TO BE IN AN ACTUAL RELATIONSHIP, BUT HE TOLD ME I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS NEVER VIED FOR HIS ATTENTION OR AFFECTION. AND MIND YOU, WE'VE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR ABOUT 22 YEARS, LIVING SEPARATE LIVES, HAVING OUR OWN EXPERIENCES. NOW HE'S TALKING MARRIAGE...🙏🏽🙏🏽💝💝
This is so true & at the age I am now I finally see that it doesn't matter wat u do for a man, if he doesn't like u he don't. If he doesn't love u he won't NO MATTER wat u do. My thing is I don't, can't understand y when u do cut them off y do they still try to contact u?? Like u made it clear that u don't wont me, like u said once they disrespect u & u accept it ,I'm a witness it gets worse. When do they grow up?? Cause it's seems the older men, 40,even 60 still act childish!! Im glad U realized u needed to do better & U WANTED to chge . I'm loving ur videos thank u!!!❤
They still contact you because they don’t respect you and/or know that you’re desperate. Also could be that they are bored or they just want to use you for s e x. When they don’t contact you it means they either moved on into a new relationship and forgot about you or they haven’t forgotten about you but feel too ashamed to reach out because of how things ended and how poorly they treated you during the relationship. They rather go through the agony of not hearing from you than to possibly face rejection from you and things “ending for good” As long as theres no closure, there’s still “hope” and he’s waiting on you to realize how “great he was” and reach out to him so the cycle can repeat. Just my take 🤷♀️
God bless you. You have defeated Satan. Now you have real power through God. Hallelujah Your eyed have been opened and the light has entered your soul. Light and darkness can not exist in the same place.
Honestly God doesn't do it...we put people in our lives that we shouldn't most of the time...we just gotta be real about that...God puts people in people lives that have him at the head from the start...that be US doing that 😒 and u can tell when it was u who do it when u really think about how it all started 🤔😒😔😭
Yesterday You popped up for the very first time in My Feed and I have been listening to several of Your clips. ThanX a lot for all You are doing for the upliftment of any Who will hear-and-do! Many of My own questions have been answered. Increesed LoveLightLife to You and Your Family Beloved KKH.
@8:22 "When someone is going through hell they make you suffer!" You caused her to suffer cause you were suffering! When "ppl" are tore up/messed up they damage others, others that were pretty fine before they met them! I been trying to tell ppl this! Thank you for saying this!
Thanks for self reflection, honesty and maturity. Wish more would do the same❤. It really helps more than you could ever know. I too had an unfortunate experience with a narcissist and it's definitely no thrill man💔. A thing of the past that has tried many times to resurface. No ty.✌️
I Respect My sisters and brothers who have Self Respect for them First....I am just like that woman you Speak of...God Shown and Taught me my Self Worth when I was a Teenager and I have not ever let that Go🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
“I’m a narcissist, I understand that I had problem”. That’s a man of wisdom. Tell the foolish 50 times the same thing it wouldn’t chamge nothing. Do it once to the wise and he will change his ways.
I always been a woman that would not let a man walk all over. Once I saw something malicious in you, I SPOKE it out, and it got to a point where I thought it was a super power gone wrong. But, the reality was that these men didn't like me pointing at their wrongs that needed to be made right. I would want a man to do the same. I will never chase a man...nor do I expect a man to chase me. If we can't connect, we can't connect, what is the point of hanging around? I will separate myself immediately...my heart will be consecutively far from you.
Thank You for being living testament of personal growth, awareness and CHANGE! Thank You for testifying that a distorted/dysfunctional person CAN actually transform their pain into passionate purpose ♥️👍
This is so much confirmation Lord I thank you for humbling and teaching me how to walk away from anyone who does not value or respect me Thank you Lord for teaching me how to keep my mouth shut and remove/ take back my energy help me to continue to move forward and to never look back!
All your relationship advice is helping me so much. You are a genius. I love this episode. Thanks for sharing your truth and your experience. It's helping me a lot.
Kirk :Thank You for your honesty, transparency, and your honor for that one woman who helped make You realize how Your actions and words reflect You and can affect someone close to You. Purposeful self growth is a very powerful and wonderful ally to inner peace. Congrat- ulations to You consistently showing Your gratitude through Your words !❤❤❤
I’ve recently learned of the 4 attachment styles & while I’m not 100% sure of whether I’m anxious or avoidant or a mixture of both, I’m working intentionally towards being the secure attachment style because while love deff’ requires our emotions, I want to be more mindful and able to respect boundaries on both parties.
Thank you for growing up and making this video and sharing it. You're correct, it's very hard to find respect for someone after they have proven how disrespectful they can be. I appreciate this effort and I hope a lot of people Will take the time to watch this, listen and make some changes in their own lives.
Yes. People who are like this will be classed as being hard, uncaring, etc. it’s just that they have grown to a level where they realize that it is not wise to be clingy, needy, or even obsessive. We must realize that it’s best to just let people do whatever they want to. Adults must be given room to be who they want to be.
Explaining your situation is like a mirror to my last situation. How she was with you, is how iam with him. He was use to women chasing him and stroking his ego. I wouldn’t dare chase him or constantly overextend. I called him out on his narcissistic and gas lighting behavior. I was definitely suppose to see this .
I am glad you had the guts to accept the fact as.a narcissist you needed the change you were so in love with your self had no room for any one else continue to share your story so many narcissist who need.to.hear this❤❤
😊😊😊 you are a very wise man. And you are honest, and I can see why you hold my attention. The majority if men out here today old or young should go to your class on how to respect a woman and also learn what you pour into your woman is what you get.
I appreciate your transparency about your past faults/failures and what propelled you to make the change that we are all benefitting from. Thank you for your honesty😇
A Man will always Respect a Woman who can walk away, 💎
A manipulator. The one who loved herself more than the idea of having you in her life. Good for her and every woman who is willing to choose love/self.
You must do that!!!!
@@Portia620 Absolutely! Love of/for self is paramount.
@@Portia620🎯
I have too much respect for myself to be treated like that by *ANYONE!* 🙌🏻
When a woman has had enough of a situation, they calmly let you go. No fighting, screaming, chasing or nagging. They just let you go..
Because they realise they have to love themselves more and have a standard. I walked away from my ex-fiancè abruptly due to his behaviour and wasn't prepared to put up with it. 10 years later he was still chasing me, then he got my number and still tried contacting me 30 years later. I never answered him. I will forever be in his mind. Value yourself ladies and know your worth.
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@@siantelove that part thats how I feel too
So true! Same here. Bless you & may you always have peace& joy.
It is about "self respect." She valued herself enough to not be able to allow you to disrespect her. Good on her!
That woman was sent to redeem you from the pit of hell called narcissism. She was not in a good place herself considering how you treated her but she knew her assignment!!!Always thank her!
Man this is true. I tried to get my ex to see, but he just had so much pride... so I had to cut him completely off. There was a time I felt God was holding me there, and I recall being told by the spirit to pray for him even when he was rude.. then months later, he took out to the next level of disrespect, and I heard the spirit say to stop...be still.. and withdraw my energy, prayers included but do not seek revenge, and I did just that. I didn't even know about narcissism was but I kept calling him Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde, then I learned that's a phrase used to describe their behavior. I knew he thinks about it because he knows I didn't deserve it.
So if she was conned she was in a bad place? I disagree… if she was that bad off she would have stayed. A con man or woman can fool anyone and no one is immune doll. Research it!
In Jesus name amen
Correct 👍
@@Portia620👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
When you truly love yourself, you don’t settle for less than you deserve..
I was taught that from my dec husband, when a man think he is a man you have to leave them to handle themselves,that why he left me in a home of my own after when he was dying he called me back to care for him in the end. Those life does not play off.especially when God send a good woman to show you what is like to be loved and cared for you. God knows and sees what he will do unto them.
REAL WOMEN MOVE A CERTAIN WAY💯💯
All women are REAL and we ALL move the same. Unless you’re made of cardboard.
😂❤🥂🙏. We know our worth Guys and dolls! 😂❤️🥂🙏. Life is too short! I know what I’m bringing to the table! I don’t deal with bs or games!
...IN SILENCE❤
Amen
Big up woman like Tara Williams 5204 🎉😅 you know this ! It's the ONLY way 🎉
She loved herself more than she loved you. 💯
Kirk you had narcissistic tendencies. You were definitely not a narcissist. Narcissists can’t self reflect. They will
never see their faults. But I’m elated you saw the issues and decided to change to be a better man. Kudos to you 🎉!’n
Truths! Very rare for a NPD personality disorder to change!!! Rare rare rare!
He just needed to grow up
💯 He is self-reflective! True narcissistic personality aren’t able to do so!
Amen 🙏🏽
She sounds like a wise woman, even if she wasn't in the best place in her life
yup, I keep thinking the same, I applaud her, she did right! And , as also Kirk sees now, she did right not only for herself but for him as well,big time!!
That women display wisdom and her worth!
That woman was an Earth Angel that you let get away … 💕
This 💯💯💯
Or...God freed 😂 🫡
Beautiful once a man can take accountability that's wonderful ❤❤❤
Amen
Only by God ain't he good
I hope that woman is healed and she evolved to have a higher level of self-worth than she had back then, and she went on to find her perfect match.
I hope she has been happily married for decades, living a charmed and blessed life with a beautiful family with children and grandchildren.
It is true. Men want you to run behind them crying, begging or fighting. The moment you go into silent mode or just focus on yourself that’s when they want you more or want to come back.
Wow, just the other day I went on a date and this man told me that "women just want you to chase them"! I said, well not me! Knowing what you bring to the table is not called wanting to be "chased", it's called being secure. I don't want a man that doesn't see my value. You don't have to chase someone that you show your respect. So all those men that say that they would never chase a women, ask yourself, "why would I not want a woman that loves and respects herself?" And ladies, keep working on making yourself the best you. I see y'all out there! So proud of my girls that are putting that work in herself and not a "project".
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Hurt people hurt people. 💯
You Were A Unaware Narcissist.
Now You Are A Aware Narcissist.
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Some people, who are not narcissists, may display narcissistic behaviour. If he was a diagnosed narcissist, he would not have taken accountability for his behaviour. He would not have wanted to better himself.
@@dorothysmith3850this is facts... narcissist don't even wanna apologize because they want control...
I’m crryyyinngggg 😂😂😂
I never chased because I didn't know it was a thing. I did the world a favor by blocking a lot of grown-boys. I did not realize that I was saving myself a lot of stress and heart ache. Looking back, yeah I did the right thing.
Exactly! Thank goodness for the block 🚫 and delete 🚮 feature on mobile phones. Especially if you have a separate number for WhatsApp 😆
The tequila doesn't chase the lime and the egg doesn't chase the sperm......
Girls, don't chase a grown ass man! If he wants you, he will find you.
Yes! We dodged a lot of bullets.
I have been that woman for every man Ive been with!Trust me ,its not easy to be that woman.
Same.
how do you be that women when you in love and feel that attachment or fear they might leave if you act like that..
has it worked out yet?
@@Celestials1aurorarejection is God’s protection. That’s how.
Yep!!! Hard to let them know they need to grow up! 🙏 sad and I get it. I married a narc! When he left I was done and he came back! 😂😂 no thanks but didn’t have anymore words as the marriage many words and enough had been discussed by me only!
WHEN YOU TREAT SOMEONE LIKE SHIT IT DOESN'T GIVE THE OTHER PERSON ANY REASON TO RETURN TO YOU OR FIGHT FOR YOU SINCE THEY NEVER FELT LOVED AND RESPECTED. SO IT MAKES IT EASY FOR US TO WALK AWAY.
RIGHT & STAY AWAY 💥
Clear👍
Most of y'all aren't worth treating with respect in the first place.
@@AberdolphLinklrand men are? You’re projecting .
@@Artistjahnyce777 you mean.... the men of today that were raised by single moms?
I hope she’s happy with someone great by her side
To all, if you love or really care for someone and they hurt you, let them go, if they come back let them go again, that's because nobody wanted them😅
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is true
@marinaconnel,so true I am actually dealing niq ,long distance, he is so lie, never seem a grown man lie like that to validate himself, thats not the way to go meeeeen🫣
Facts 😂
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the one who showed you how to love unconditionally and the one that killed your ego in romance. that's the one that we'll never forget
You have walked in those shoes of a male. You see, I didn't say a MAN. You admit that you were damaged & toxic.. But you came to the light, changed your mindset, and started walking in your PURPOSE in life. To assist / make a DIFFERENCES in other's lives!! Many BLESSINGS, my Bro.. 🙏🙏🙏
Relationships are complicated. Two separate people are attempting to live and work as ONE. This woman Kirk is referring to was WHOLE in herself. When you are WHOLE, you don’t need to split in half to be with anyone.
Amen to that!!!!!
Amen 🙏
Lawd, AMEN that hit fr!
I hope she finds someone as whole as she is to share her life with
Whew. This!!!🤌🏾
I believe in letting my person be free in the pursuit of his own happiness, and if I'm a part of that happiness then great. But when trust and respect are broken...then kick rocks...life is too short.✌️dueces
I have never in my life let a man walk all over me... and I've never run into a man that didn't remember me... even twenty years later. A disrespectful man will never value you by allowing him to get away with his mess. I'd rather be alone than be with a disrespectful man.
With the apology you need to THANK HER. Without her you would have never had your revelation and changed into the man you were supposed to be, and the teacher that you are now.
sometimes they come back to do just that YEARS later.
I’m thankful for my ex for doin what he did because even tho it hurts and set me back it was the experience with him that opened my eyes and helpin me to be whoever it is I’m becoming now so u def have a point! When good comes out of a not so good situation 💪🏽
Thank you for honesty and accountability on your part! ❤️🙏🏾
Like judge toller use to say..."Never let a man tell you twice he don't want you."❤
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Thank you Kirk for your Transparency 💯
Hurt people will always hurt people! Healed people heal people! Sounds like what I dealt w a narcissist Do the work and heal is what I’m hearing! Great video! Thank you 😊
I love how that woman handled the situation. I can learn from that level of toughness. I tend to "over-love" people.
If both women and men would let God fill that place which only He can fill and love yourselves, the desperation and toleration will be gone. This is a whole person. 50/50 is half stepping, TRUTH!
My brother said he respects the women who didn’t put up with his s••t
Thanks.its true. I have been told that hurts the most. When you don't call, try to find out what they are doing or where they are. Thanks for your honesty
She's the only one that told you
The truth 👍
This is what I told my ex lover. I am the only one who tells you the truth, other women let you do whatever smh
This is tripping me out bcuz the first few times I went through this with a toxic man the same man I thought I was going to lose my mind. But after all that drama that one time he walked out, he didn't realize I was never taking him back. And that's when he thought i was really crazy. I said well if this is what crazy feels like, I welcome it bcuz i got peace✌🏽!!! See ya!!! And I never looked back.
Thank you for sharing and giving insight into such a personal story. He made numerous attempts over the years to cross my boundaries, but I held my ground; I would not confront him or show emotions, because I knew he just wanted to trigger me to chase him. I showed him I was unbothered . After 2 years he has stopped with the passive aggression. I have NO time to play games.
I respect the accountability. It’s refreshing.👏🏽👏🏽
She’s a smart woman a strong woman she wasn’t gonna let you break her bring her down stay strong sister and keep your head up it might have hurt her inside but she was very strong 💪🏽
God made you look at yourself through her eyes. She was placed in your life as a mirror. Happy healing 🙏🏼✨
I was involved with a man from Nigeria who was well known but he was a narcissist and I told him over and over how he was and how he made me feel. But he didn’t care so because I care about me and my happiness, I walked away leaving him wondering how and why. He will NEVER BE ABLE TO INTERACT WITH ME EVER AGAIN.
The men from Africa are like this because it's their culture and they all cheat very few are humble
Good sis
Was he a prince who needed money to get his riches to America?! 😂 JK. Glad you got out!
I totally get what you're saying. My last partner would up and walk out on me. He did that for the last time almost 2 weeks ago. I was highly tolerant of him. Because I remember being a crusty uptight woman at a period in mh life and I still wanted people to like me. I didn't realize I was that way until I realized I was that way LOL. He never talked it out with me. But I have had enough. The last episode he involved the police for 100% NO REASON. I have now accepted he is a textbook narcissist. One of THE worst relationships out there, my humble opinion. I've never encountered a more miserable, fork-tongued man at 62, in my life!!
I'm now free, and I know I am recovering from this. I got a life to live. Time doesn't stop for me while I recover from a mind duck of 3 years. Gotta keep moving forward. I will never apologize for loving a man who's unlovable. And I will never apologize for having a good heart and having his best interests at heart.
I don't care if he remembers me or not. In the end it's his loss. Praying for him to get help and heal his hard heart.
Thank you for being here. ❤ 🙏
62 wow it's a shame at that age but I guess it's hard cause women have let them get away with it all his life. It's a shame cause the dating pool for that age is slim to none they want young girls cause they haven't matured at that age.
No one is above redemption. Your transparency and growth are straight from God. Thanks for sharing.
I had a similiar situation but slightly different. You both were a spiritual catalyst for each other. She made you look at yourself to find self love and you also assisted her when you were trying to apologize and I'm sure she rejected you. Once you pulled your energy back permanently, her reflection began. Our ego's send allusion and confusion. Our souls send truth and clarity. GOD sends certain people into our lives to help us break destructive patterns.
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At least, you came to realise your mistakes. Some men, don't ever!
We all meet people who hold a mirror but it’s up to us to do the work
Facts!
Soooooo true 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I just had to do this in my relationship with someone that I really love. It was a hard decision for me to make, but once I realized that I can’t fix him nor force change, and that he has to come to that decision on his own…and there was no sense of arguing and nagging him to see the error, it was just best to walk away and save my energy for myself! If it’s meant to be it will be if not then even better. I’m striving for peace and wholeness in my life…not validation and acceptance from anyone but God. 😂😂❤❤❤ self love ❤️ is the best!
Isn’t it wonderful how maturity can take us to another level, lesson learned ah
Wow. This was deep. Kirk kind of describes the guy I was dealing with. He was an attractive guy who I believe was a covert narc all of his life. Women had always been to willing to do everything for this guy. I believe I am probably one of the few women who left him alone with his selfish behavior. Ironically, in the process of me dealing with him, I ended up going through a very painful spiritual awakening. It made me question who I was, how I've operated at times in my life. I discovered I had some narcissistic tendencies myself. I'm glad I met him because it gave me a chance to work on being a better person so that I can possibly attract a better person if I ever decide to date again. Although I would not want anyone to go through the pain I felt during this period in my life, now I see it may have been a blessing in disguise. How can you fix a problem if you never knew you had a problem? I'm glad I can now acknowledge my part in why I entertained this and other toxic relationships in my life.
I love your sunny personality... and continue too take care of yourself!!
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Yeah ditto. It's the Caribbean sum. 😊
I want to meet her. She sounds like an amazing woman. Congrats on becoming the new and improved you.
She taught you the meaning of VALUE instead of her falling for your false IMAGE at the time...Thank you for sharing ...transformation is beautiful ... nothing inspires more then lbeing vulnerable
That's all, a relationship is not a battle when people can't be grown nor turn up correct quietly walk away!
Thank for sharing and being open and honest about your lesson
Im sooo happy you made this video but also happy that I ran across this video! All Umma say is WE NEED MORE WOMEN LIKE US! VERYYY ON POINT!!! Good job sir for accepting accountability you ARE THE MAN!!!!!! 🙏🏽❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for your transparency. We need this stories & lesson. 🙏🏾💯✨
I KNEW IT AND THANK YOU FOR CONFIRMING THAT I'M DOING SOMETHING RIGHT!!
WE HAVEN'T EVEN BEEN ABLE TO BE IN AN ACTUAL RELATIONSHIP, BUT HE TOLD ME I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS NEVER VIED FOR HIS ATTENTION OR AFFECTION. AND MIND YOU, WE'VE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR ABOUT 22 YEARS, LIVING SEPARATE LIVES, HAVING OUR OWN EXPERIENCES.
NOW HE'S TALKING MARRIAGE...🙏🏽🙏🏽💝💝
Okayyyy good luck and congratulations
@@chinadoll534 Awww, thank you! 💝
how did you do it to lead to marriage plz help a girl out.
@@moonii444Girl.. 22 years is insane to wait for marriage
@@BrooklynBaby100 ri he probably settle down with her cuz how long she waitedp
This is so true & at the age I am now I finally see that it doesn't matter wat u do for a man, if he doesn't like u he don't. If he doesn't love u he won't NO MATTER wat u do. My thing is I don't, can't understand y when u do cut them off y do they still try to contact u?? Like u made it clear that u don't wont me, like u said once they disrespect u & u accept it ,I'm a witness it gets worse. When do they grow up?? Cause it's seems the older men, 40,even 60 still act childish!! Im glad U realized u needed to do better & U WANTED to chge . I'm loving ur videos thank u!!!❤
They still contact you because they don’t respect you and/or know that you’re desperate. Also could be that they are bored or they just want to use you for s e x.
When they don’t contact you it means they either moved on into a new relationship and forgot about you or they haven’t forgotten about you but feel too ashamed to reach out because of how things ended and how poorly they treated you during the relationship. They rather go through the agony of not hearing from you than to possibly face rejection from you and things “ending for good”
As long as theres no closure, there’s still “hope” and he’s waiting on you to realize how “great he was” and reach out to him so the cycle can repeat.
Just my take 🤷♀️
They just want an ego boost, dear. Horrible males- not real men.
God bless you.
You have defeated Satan.
Now you have real power through God.
Hallelujah
Your eyed have been opened and the light has entered your soul.
Light and darkness can not exist in the same place.
I believe With God, all things are possible.
continue to testify to others how your life has changed.
Amen
This made me think of my ex I learned things from him I will never forget God puts people in out lives for a reason all the time
Yes, and only for a season.....AMEN GLORY 😤
Honestly God doesn't do it...we put people in our lives that we shouldn't most of the time...we just gotta be real about that...God puts people in people lives that have him at the head from the start...that be US doing that 😒 and u can tell when it was u who do it when u really think about how it all started 🤔😒😔😭
Yesterday You popped up for the very first time in My Feed and I have been listening to several of Your clips. ThanX a lot for all You are doing for the upliftment of any Who will hear-and-do! Many of My own questions have been answered. Increesed LoveLightLife to You and Your Family Beloved KKH.
@8:22 "When someone is going through hell they make you suffer!" You caused her to suffer cause you were suffering! When "ppl" are tore up/messed up they damage others, others that were pretty fine before they met them!
I been trying to tell ppl this! Thank you for saying this!
Yes yes yes!! This is so trueee. I’ve experienced it myself.
I love your transparency. Thanks for sharing your story
Thanks for self reflection, honesty and maturity. Wish more would do the same❤. It really helps more than you could ever know. I too had an unfortunate experience with a narcissist and it's definitely no thrill man💔. A thing of the past that has tried many times to resurface. No ty.✌️
🙋🏽♀️ I'm calling you out, sir... respectfully. I appreciate you doing the work to get better and do better.
Ur very accountable for ya ACTIONS and I love your advice its fantastic
I Respect My sisters and brothers who have Self Respect for them First....I am just like that woman you Speak of...God Shown and Taught me my Self Worth when I was a Teenager and I have not ever let that Go🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
“I’m a narcissist, I understand that I had problem”. That’s a man of wisdom.
Tell the foolish 50 times the same thing it wouldn’t chamge nothing.
Do it once to the wise and he will change his ways.
Thank you for sharing your truth. That’s real wisdom ❤
I always been a woman that would not let a man walk all over. Once I saw something malicious in you, I SPOKE it out, and it got to a point where I thought it was a super power gone wrong. But, the reality was that these men didn't like me pointing at their wrongs that needed to be made right. I would want a man to do the same. I will never chase a man...nor do I expect a man to chase me. If we can't connect, we can't connect, what is the point of hanging around? I will separate myself immediately...my heart will be consecutively far from you.
Thank You for being living testament of personal growth, awareness and CHANGE! Thank You for testifying that a distorted/dysfunctional person CAN actually transform their pain into passionate purpose ♥️👍
From her apart wisdom, knowledge , understanding and Accountable . She made a strong impact on you - Now you can pass it on to others
This is so much confirmation Lord I thank you for humbling and teaching me how to walk away from anyone who does not value or respect me Thank you Lord for teaching me how to keep my mouth shut and remove/ take back my energy help me to continue to move forward and to never look back!
Thank you for sharing that ❤
Thank you kirk! Profound, thought provoking.
Thank you for sharing! Your testimony. This was good information!!! 7-12-24
Honest conversation here bro ❤
All your relationship advice is helping me so much. You are a genius.
I love this episode. Thanks for sharing your truth and your experience. It's helping me a lot.
Wow, I love it, Kirk ❤👌🏾👏🏾💯
Thank you, Kirk. ✨️
Blessings for the continued journey. Thank you for your vulnerability. Keep lighting the way for others.🎉✨
Kirk :Thank You for your honesty, transparency, and your honor for that one woman who helped make You realize how Your actions and words reflect You and can affect someone close to You.
Purposeful self growth is a very powerful and wonderful ally to inner peace.
Congrat-
ulations to You consistently showing Your gratitude through Your words !❤❤❤
So true thank you wise Kirk 😊
I’ve recently learned of the 4 attachment styles & while I’m not 100% sure of whether I’m anxious or avoidant or a mixture of both, I’m working intentionally towards being the secure attachment style because while love deff’ requires our emotions, I want to be more mindful and able to respect boundaries on both parties.
Mistakes r made & if we learned from them then it was beneficial!! 💯
Thank you for growing up and making this video and sharing it. You're correct, it's very hard to find respect for someone after they have proven how disrespectful they can be. I appreciate this effort and I hope a lot of people Will take the time to watch this, listen and make some changes in their own lives.
Yes. People who are like this will be classed as being hard, uncaring, etc. it’s just that they have grown to a level where they realize that it is not wise to be clingy, needy, or even obsessive. We must realize that it’s best to just let people do whatever they want to. Adults must be given room to be who they want to be.
Now that's growth!
She was you catalyst for change❤❤❤❤
I Appreciate your honesty, transparency, and accountability.
Within 2 mins I also diagnosed a narcissist. Thanks for sharing atleast you came fo your senses
Explaining your situation is like a mirror to my last situation. How she was with you, is how iam with him. He was use to women chasing him and stroking his ego. I wouldn’t dare chase him or constantly overextend. I called him out on his narcissistic and gas lighting behavior. I was definitely suppose to see this .
I am glad you had the guts to accept the fact as.a narcissist you needed the change you were so in love with your self had no room for any one else continue to share your story so many narcissist who need.to.hear this❤❤
The one who got away 🦋
😊😊😊 you are a very wise man. And you are honest, and I can see why you hold my attention. The majority if men out here today old or young should go to your class on how to respect a woman and also learn what you pour into your woman is what you get.
God is good all the time
I appreciate your advice
I appreciate your transparency about your past faults/failures and what propelled you to make the change that we are all benefitting from. Thank you for your honesty😇