5 Signs You’re Being Played (Future Faking)
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- Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024
- Are you being played through future faking? Future faking is a manipulative tactic that is often used to string you along with false promises and empty lies.
We explore how future faking manifests in toxic relationships, toxic love, and even with a toxic crush. Whether it's grand promises about the future that never materialize or constant lying to keep you hooked, future faking can be incredibly damaging.
Understanding these signs can help you identify and protect yourself from manipulation in your dating life and relationships. We delve into the behaviors of manipulators, future fakers, and the impact of these toxic dynamics on your mental and emotional well-being.
#love #relationship #dating #manipulation
Script Writer: Brie Cerniglia
Script Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon
Animation: Georgia Whitbread
Project Manager: Cindy Cheong
Clicked on this so fast i'm one of the only ones here 💀
Not anymore :D
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u sure
Your not alone anymore
Lol
People play too many games with people hearts... that's why single life is so great. You will never disappoint yourself
IF you are good managing friendships.
These are childish games! I hate this.
This is why I'm staying single for now, i want to find the one soon just not yet
Been actively single since 2011, it's been AWESOME 🥰
Whenever I hear someone who future fakes, say the word “someday,” I always know it’s code for “never.”
another one they need to save up money. Like how long dose it take to save 5 bucks yet they have plenty to spend on friends. Or the I'm going through something right now
Lmao you’re so right. My ex said it very often
😂😂😂 like minority report 🤣🤣 these are just entertaining. Don't really hold any logical standing imo.
Trust and believe 🤦🏽♀️
Some people can't accept NO as a full sentence.
Some people future fake because people will use all the emotional manipulation to force people to do things for them.
edit: video is more about romantic relationship. my comment is about high maintenance friends who will see this video.
Empty promises, usually means it's time to move on from that person or put them at a distance and focus on yourself.
Be strong! ❤
Sign 1: Never following through
Sign 2: changing plans
Sign 3: Marriage
Sign 4: Love bombing
Sign 5: Leaving you on the hook
Thank you!
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Thank you 😊
Just broke it off with someone like that. My biggest tip is to remember to listen and watch their actions and not just their words. Don’t doubt what you know is to be true and what was told to you. Stay strong let them go if need be, if you allow it better will come to you. 🙏🏾✨
In the process of letting mine go. Just too bad I wasted so much time with him but better late than never I guess 🤷🏻♀️
PS ...and don't second guess how you feel to begin with. It could be your gut telling you what you already know to be true.
What you say about asking direct questions to vague answers to get direct answers is pure gold is what I call confronting a manipulator.
That is exactly why I don't make promises unless I have to intention to keep it through to the end. Hearing one too many empty promises can make you learn to take everything with a pinch of salt.
Timestamps
1). Not following through 1:06
2). Changing up the plans 1:25
3). Dangling marriage in front of your partner 1:50
4). Love bombing 2:13
5). Have you been on the hook for someone 2:51
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
thank you!! 💗💗
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Thank you 😊
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So procrastinating is like future faking yourself... like you promise to yourself that you will do that thing... just not right now...
I think I am a future-faker toward myself
It is.
Same here
_Interesting_ concept! 🧐
Honestly that's what I'm thinking and same i do that too💀
and the more you push off the harder it is to get motivated because common action becomes habits. You need to push force yourself to breck the habit
I had a huge crush on this guy I was best friends with in high school he found out I liked him and he told me that he feel that way about me but maybe someday he then continued to do things that seemed like he liked me more than “just a friend” as he claimed all the while saying things like “I’m just confused about you” and “who knows” or “god works in mysterious ways” I haven’t talked to him in almost 8 months
Good for you for not talking to him anymore. It doesn't take rocket science foe someone to know if they like you back or not. I'm so sorry.
You deserve better!
If they get a sense of ego boost from stringing people on, they are socially and emotionally immature.
Welp, glad I'm not the only one that happened to, but sorry that happened to you too
It's so crazy because I just had that happen to me recently and it tore me all the way up, had me not believing in love for a minute
Just here to note this is true of friendships as much as romantic partnerships. A friend who keeps future-faking you is not really much of a friend. Seems like they just want to be sure you'll stick around for when they need you, so they make promises for the future they then don't keep. I've grown incredibly weary of this sort of person and am enjoying the need to be alone, in my own company.
I understand the need to be alone. I feel like all my friends are like this, making promises to meet up and do sth nice, but it never happens. I almost feel like I'm the tense weirdo who takes things too seriously. But I can't get rid of the feeling that I'm not treated well...
Full transparency I've been the one in the past who kept someone on the hook with zero intention of meaning it. It was a cowardess way out of being real & honest
because you can't accept NO as a full sentence and even the real reason. so people future fake for the sake of not hurting a narc.
Future Faking can also happen in so-called friendships with our wonderful frenemies too. It's a 👋🏻 from me.
"PEOPLE SAY A LOT, SO I WATCH WHAT THEY DO."
the second i saw the notification for this video on my phone, i never clicked on something so fast in my life… and sure enough, it was scarily accurate💀💀
If someone is faking you, they will never answer these questions honestly. Actions,,, not words!
This is when you just go have fun by yourself and forget em.
Unfortunately asking direct questions will not solve the problem. Having been through this, ask once and if there is no answer, it’s time to let that person go for good. Anyone that loves you respects your time and effort. If you notice this pattern, someone is manipulating you. Wish them well and say goodbye. Preserve your mental health….. please 😔 it’s so important to be associated with those who keep their word and are dependable ✨
Yes! I experienced it all. But thankfully now I'm aware and self validate myself above any promises 💕
14 years of sign #2.
"We can start spending more time together when I'm done with college / when I get a better job / when I don't work so far away..."
"I know I said we had the money for Disney World before getting you to agree, but we didn't actually so my mom and dad paid for half the trip. Don't worry, we're paying them back!"
"Happy Birthday! I bought you a trip to New Orleans because I've always wanted to go there, you can plan stuff too!"
"Next year you can plan a vacation! Wait no my family wants to go on a cruise."
"I know you made plans with friends and that I agreed, but can't we just spend a few more days at my parents' place? You can reschedule, right?"
"I know you said you didn't want to move across the country, but I took a new job 2000 miles away. I know I said I would look one state over, but... I. DON'T. LOVE. YOU. ANYMORE."
i knew she was doing this and i still fell for it
I also faced this from my female partner , she told me we will go to the same college , we will get marry. It happened with me 3years ago , I didn't even know about such a thing that time. And look what happened she left me suddenly and committed to someone whom she barely knows . After that I was the one who was suffering , having anxiety , insomnia, depression , unable to focus on myself and work. I literally suffered from PTSD and suffering , slowly slowly I am learning about all the things and moving towards my healing journey.
I am an avid watcher of the channel and I used to use you guys videos to self-diagnose in my past.
I have since stopped, that being said I am thoroughly appreciative of each video and all the insight and fresh perspectives that each video introduces. Life is hectic; so I am doing what I can to help grow myself into the partner, friend, family member and all around decent stand up person I wish to see more of in this world.
Thank you all so much for the pleasant, easily understandable informative videos.
Please keep making content. 🙏🏾 😊
Wow, #5 is exactly what happened to me 😂. He told me he had feelings for me but said he didn't want to date at the time but also said he wanted to keep talking to me. Me being stupid, I kept talking to him instead of ending it but everything's fine now because I lost all feelings for him while he's surprisingly getting more invested. It's like we swapped sides but I'm never going to stoop and date him.
A year ago i confessed that i was in love with a boy. He said that he really liked me, and aprecciated that, but said "i need time, maybe in future", i tried undertood him. I never left his side, i always helped him, gave him attwntion, love and like, i always felt like i was in a hook. He was like, never the same person. One day he was the sweetest person alive, he hug me, tell me cute things, almost like he love me, but a day after, he was more like he hates me. He didnt even looked on my face. Everything he look like he hates me, i act like i hate him too, so look like he got "worried" and come after me, and was always like that. "I want you" "i want you too" "i hate you" "you do?" "Ok" "no, i want you back" in loop. I still feel like that and have been a year already, this video rlly helped me. I tought all of this where just my mind. Tysm
This hits hard when your just generally like this and not in a relationship 😭
set up reminders and work to be intentional
What is a relationship? What is a girlfriend or a significant other?
My mom says that "I will... and someday are relatives of never"
Same
Maybe she is being attacked to stop her. The weak always attack people with potential.
I am so anxious to reject others, that I just realized that I am future faking on them... thank you for this Video! I now am more afraid to future fake someone and rather reject them, that was extremely helpful!
It is okay. this is just another tools for manipulators to use.
If they can't accept the answer as a NO. (they need reasons or resort to guilt tripping) then future faking is what they want.
this is for friends or other who don't respect boundaries. not for future faking someone you will have a relationship with them.
@@Katniss0000 yeah I tend to always get into this double bind ("Why do you reject me, you need good reasons vs. Why didnt u make your intentions clear, you played with my feelings"). I now see my part of the problem to think it's more acceptable to future fake in hopes that the other just lets off. I should stop doing that and just reject someone no matter if he doesnt accept my boundaries...
@@DitsyKitty This is the problem when people have low emotional intelligence. they don't know the difference of being friendly to flirty.
They are guilt tripping you. Them needing good reasons to be rejected is enough to reject them.
Everything they do is transactional. It doesn't come from kindness. They use it to get something from you.
Don't let yourself be defeated by those demons.
@@Katniss0000 i really have a hard time when it comes to self consiousness. Sometimes I am so anxious to be a burden and to hurt anyone, that I tend to just get into relationships, where I end up full of guilt and/or shame. I still try to figure out, how to break the cycle. Thank you so much for your input and for listening. I really appreciate it!
@@DitsyKitty I'm like that as a former people pleaser. It takes me a long time to get away from it.
We want peace with everyone. But your are choosing others and sacrificing Ditsykitty to keep the peace.
If you are a woman. Just go and be pursue the man you like. Your chances are so high. the chance of failing is because they are already in a relationship.
Don't settle because they give you gifts or is nice only to you and attractive people. They are just investments disguised as Kindness.
Don't forget that social anxiety is a real thing that holds people back. So be kind and just ask them why they can't complete the task or promise. Sometimes, it could be you blocking or not understanding their love language. Everyone needs to be kind and patient with each other.
I'm a future faker but it's honestly because of my constant anxiety. I tell myself or others I want to make plans but my anxiety or intrusive thoughts start coming in and I stop myself. Honestly my anxiety and constant overthinking is ruining my life and it's debilitating. Every time I think of making plans with people I get buckets loads of stress over either the money or the social consequences and then I quit all together. I have no idea how to stop and nothing has helped. I just feel so debilitated.
I understand exactly how you feel. I get extreme anxiety with simple things like a simple get together with my friends. It's even worse when I have a potential partner who wants to hang out with me. I'll accept plans to go out on dates because they'll sound fun but the day of; I get this extreme fear and anxiety pit in my stomach and I cancel the plans all together. I feel awful every time I have to cancel.
My anxiety has been holding me back too. It’s made me feel like maybe I don’t actually want to go out to that thing or hang out with those loose acquaintances because I’m dwelling more on what feels like would be the downsides of attempting to be social with them as opposed to the potential upsides. I don’t want to feel drained and anxious so the desire to try to get more comfortable with that crowd and make friends doesn’t feel worth my time even though it sounds good for me in theory. I’m introverted and would rather just spend more time on my own in my comfort zone most of the time
I can relate to that
Recommendation : stop by by speaking them out to people . There is a explicable phenomena, scientifically proven in numerous studies that is :
If you talk elaborately or even briefly about your plans / promises prior to action you literally tell your brain you’ve already done/ fulfilled / accomplished it…..this is the moment when you withdraw all power from yourself of being able/ capable to fulfill your future plan(s) promise(s)…. This is when ruminating knocks in, talking the plans and yourself down & drawing anxiety in. Try to trick yourself out of this desperate and self destructive cycle by doing the thing(s) right way - meaning action ! For example : Ask the person out for a snack or a coffee out of the moment , going to have a coffee right away and do not give yourself the chance to get out of the situation. You either get a yes or a no. Both answers are ok and a “no “does not devalue your persona in any respect! You might than ask the person when it would be ok and offer that THEY ! tell you. Start with little things as going for a walk and having some snack along the way. Try do it more spontaneously … after you succeeded in the little things you’ll get more selfesteem. Only after those first accomplishments ( celebrate yourself ! for these ) it’s only than you go over to planning bigger things… those that do need preparation in advance … . Give yourself time … step by step little by little … and do not blaim yourself if it won’t work right away . All the best and never give up on changing the situation 🫶👍🙏
That's interesting, do these people you make plans with stress you? I mean in generally? Because I can understand subconscious "no" regarding to hanging out with people you don't feel exactly at ease. But it should be opposite when somebody gives you good vibrations
Future faking can also be unrelated to dating or love. A family member future faked my siblings and I by promising they would get a house and get out of the city they live in and would bring us with them. It never happened. They also future faked us by delaying kicking out someone who put us in danger. We tried confronting them but the behavior continued. Sadly, the relationship has soured beyond repair. I've since moved out of their place and have had my own with one of my siblings for a while now.
Happy 12 million! 📯
Actually this happened to me but with my family. I went to study abroad for a semester and I remember clearly how all that time I was told I was missed and the folks started making plans of all the things we would do together once I returned. Cue to me coming home and exactly zero of those promises came true, instead I spent that summer being the domestic employee of my parents, and and they never asked me about my stay abroad.
0:44 Why was the first thing that came in my mind was Seek from Doors 😭
Frrrr 😭
LMAO I thought the same 😭
Because you might be playing Doors a bit too much. Or it just popped into your mind for some reason. I don't know. I don't know what your relationship with Doors is.
@@spoolofyarn6682 I stopped playing it a while ago
@@spoolofyarn6682bruh
This has happened to me when I wanted to marry and have a baby after years of living together So I left him Some people are very cruel with this future faking crap
Just broke off a situation like this so glad i did even tho im very disappointed 😭🙌🏽
I’ve been in Ness for about five years and you just came up with another excuse how we got school for another year and it crushed my soul dismissive avoidant. It’s very hard to talk to him so having a calm conversation, he gets very argumentative. It’s a no-win push me away, we barely even talk throughout the week. I’ve seen all the signs it’s just time to walk away. It’s very sad. I was in this loop and he knows when I pull away. He’ll love on me. I just don’t understand the reason for wants nothing to do with me us but continues to live his life and be OK with what he’s doing to another person…
I’m exhausted and drained. I’ve given up enough of my life.
I'm sorry to hear that you had to through something similar to what I experienced. The important thing is not to lose yourself in the process - like I did - while believing it's all your fault. Moreover, the sad part is that I got to a point where I let myself be the kind of person that I would never accept into my life, to say the least. Now I'm battling a squadron of demons that I willingly summoned at some point and there's no going back now. I wish everyone who had something similar happen in their life not to drag themselves to levels as low as I did. Be content and stay safe!
Had an ex that always promise me things but never follow through for freaken 6 years, no marriage happend, and at some point he change his mind about having kids which was very disappointing to know he wasn't looking forward for our future and constantly forces to behave a certain way around his family because that way "they'll love you more"?? But yeah I finally said enough is enough, constantly hoping our relationship would progress but not it didn't. Also kept staying at my appartment even though we broke up just to "let people know we were still togehter" bruh were not even married or together anymore and i pay for all the bills gtfo 😂😂 what a clown. Im just glad i got out of that ridiculous of a relationship.
Same here love. Six year stint. Finally said 'no more/no mas'. We deserve to have promises kept and have people in our lives that follow through.
0:10 gaslighting is when you call someone a name like friend and dont really care about the person, in your heart
The term "gaslighting" comes from a movie called The Gaslighter where a man manipulates a woman into thinking she is crazy therefore gaslighting is trying to make someone feel crazy
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That bucket list is also a classic my nex had one and after I discarded her I realized nothing on that list actually happened.
The younger version of myself needed this information. I had to learn the contents of this video, the hard way, on repeat.
I had that twice with a new "love" that they kept talking in an early stage of relationship about moving in a bigger appartement/house where we could live together. I did not really want to move together so quickly. But suddenly there were always excuses when I asked about the new home, why it is not decided about the object.
Aand that is another reason why I have been a lone wolf since childhood. Every.single.time. I had people do that to me, so now in my early 30s, I am still hesitant to get close to anybody😅
This JUST was my relationship! Man, I've been future fake all my life and by a lot of people 😢
This video was just what I wanted to see.
Thank you for this!
The signs were something I didn't know about.
I relate to the date ones.
Because I was told: i would never leave you and then, wanting me to end the relationship.
And even said if I didn't do the changes, they've want me to do for their own benefits, which was do as they instructed me to put my item on a table when speaking to them, when before, i would just have my device on my lap and talk, not play video games, or talk about my fears or not wanting a lazy person and one who needs to have work experience in order to have their future ahead, instead of living off government checks.
When they never Nit-picked at it before. They would always play video games or watch stuff in the background while it was our time together and then never made eye contact with me and just hated to be in thinking on the future or our goals.
I'm glad I'm not going in the future with them or anyone who happens to be a bad person and blame and play victim and love bomb me.
Sign 1: Not following through.
Sign 2: shifting plans.
Sign 3: Marriage.
Sign 4: Love bombing.
Sign 5: Leaving you on the Hook
It’s brings a whole new meaning to pain!!!
My mom does this to me constantly, I don't trust a single thing she says anymore when she says she's going to do something.
And when I do I feel like a fool.
Start a list of all the lies told, you make it into an ebook, sell it and reap the profits from your troubles 🙊📖✨
@@alego8072 nah, I'm not willing to hold on to that kind of resentment like that, it would be a waste of my time when I can contribute something positive instead. Though writing some of the things down to prove a point to her in the future if necessary is a good idea though.^^💜
Just forgive her
@@joachimuche424 then wut
This happens whenever I'm with a certain person. Not very fun. I hated it. It felt worse than sleeping on an empty stomach in an emotional sense. I am currently seeking therapy and learning techniques to reframe my thinking and not be so hopeful but still hopeful enough.
Thanks for interesting and valuable video as always ❤❤❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
i do future faking a lot in the past, i cant say anything but i was really sorry, i didnt know its actually that bad.
Glad you came to this realization 🙂. It is that bad for person on the opposite end and can cause them extreme anxiety for a lifetime.
I just made a decision. No, i wont be putting myself or allowing myself to be with a future faker. Thank you for this information
I swear i'm just waiting for someone to say "wHy Is SeEk FrOm dOoRs iN tHiS vIdEo?" 💀
Edit: Ok nvm the thumbnail changed
Lol same 💀
I would’ve said it but I realized no-body would see it cuz it would be submerged by all of he other comments :(
(Btw I clicked on this video only cuz I saw seek 💀)
@@xTlsBob4”no-body”?
doors refererence
dating a future faker but i think he doesn't realize that i want nothing he promises me. i just love him. as long as he's here, i'm happy
Good luck.
I can’t wait to learn how to future fake thanks for the great info
Sadly i'm one of them. I kind of want and don't want to do them because i'm feeling it on the moment, and so i'm living o n the moment. It affect much of my social life and people too.
Future faking is emotional abuse and coercion. Alot of people do it. Breach of promise used to be against the law. Maybe it should be.
It took me a minute to realize this was posted a minute ago lmao. Very good video though
I did a lot of this in the past. Sometimes you just like the person but hate commitment, specially imposed commitment.
I realised that people wanting to play me always promise doing something for me if I do something for them and then don't do anything.
Hi,psych2go can you please if you able to make videos about woman with ADHD. And thank you so much for helping me through my struggles and your content is so informative and I love this channel in every way! THANK YOU SO MUCH❤❤❤
#3 is a sign that the other person is trying to force you into doing something you may not be ready for, but are not enforcing proper boundaries. If they are ready for higher level of commitment and you aren’t, they should be aware of your hesitancy and should be fine with it. If they are not they are not right for you, as they should respect this boundary and you should be able to to be fine enforcing it.
This channel makes me click on there video's so Fast & i love it lol
Typical managers in 1 video
Waiting for someone to summarize it in the comment section
bruh just watch lol
@@miamor-asmrToo lazy
It just a 5 mins video you tiktok-level attention span arse
Over the top corn tar level horizontal dancing the first time between partners. Cluster-B personalities use this to set the hook deep. It is often followed by many boundaries the next time and starfish or selfishness in bed.
The bed part is so real.
Future faking or any of these can be used in friendships, it's used in business it's bloody fascinating how people lie to others and can't ever tell just the truth....
Now I learned Seek behaviours from doors because of this videoooooooooo
Promising all the good things that they would do to stop you from breaking up with them
true, future faking is a real thing, especially the marriage one, but often people create real engaging plans, but later realise someone (say a bossy friend or relation) or something (say finances) makes them incapable of executing them. just that there are things not everyone can share fearlessly.
Yeah people should consider other persons circumstances before labeling them for future faking.
even people love the quote " Fake it till you make it." "I love people who have goals"
Some people struggle to distinguish between reality and what they hope were real.
I'future fake'as I'm a people pleaser,don't like upsetting people,so go along with a plan,then suffer high anxiety,have panic attacks,then feel I'm a bad person as I CARNT go through with the meet up.luckily SOME of my extended family understand this,my parents do NOT though,and that makes me worse and feel I'm a bad person,a let down merchant
Missed opportunity to give a dynamic maturational attachment perspective on this phenomenon that could have meaningfully advanced the audiences understanding.
And thats why i never promise i will do something unless i'm sure because i'm terrible with forgetting.
Yeah this sucks when ppl do this especially being such an honest person.
Can you make a video talking about how to make healthy coping mechanisms? Or what healthy coping skills are? I've honestly never fully understood how to cope, so I just bottle everything because I don't know how to process something in a healthy manner.
Wow you guys have 12 milion subscribers and when I discovered the chanel, you had maybe 7 and a half :) Anyway the episode was super interesting. Never heard before the term "future faking"
Thanks for being with us! It means a lot!
If you aren't willing to give people special treatment because you didn't get any your entire childhood. Just assume everyone is like this.
THE TIMING
Dealt with that for 8 months... a whole waste of time/patience!!
Hey there, for me it is asking for more and you keep hearing that they have been trying. Then they start a fight or blame game. Where you are then being hasty and wrong as the smallest change, even if it took plenty of talks and almost a month of wait each and every time should be enough, because they finally did a part of the thing you have been asking for like the dishes or helping around the house. I feel this creates a sort of bad habit of you always just patiently waiting for another to treat you better, kinder and with more love. while you are stuck picking up their slack as well.
Yea, my brother if future faking a fucking job. Keeps saying hes gonna get job interviews and just plays World of Warcraft all day
that is a hard game to breck away from knew someone with that addiction they also claimed they were going to di certain things but was always sucked into that game right after school they never got around to it.
It's possible your brother is not intentionally future faking can be sincere about wanting to get around, but that game can be a serious addiction
@@bunnyboo6295 my brother is... well, a manchild, for lack of better words. I turned away from the game long ago but he just doesn't do stuff he says he's going to, like a child saying he'll do his chores after a game but doesn't do it no matter how much he's asked to. It's the reason my parents scream at me when I don't immediately get up and do stuff, and the reason my parents never believe me when I tell the truth
Your Brother is running away from problems by playing games. All forms of addiction is trying to run away from problems.
Going ballistics on him will not do anything. He might need a therapist and need diagnosis for auti or adhd or sometimg.
His friends might badly influencing him. unless he plays solo then that is a bigger problem.
Understanding and support is what he needed and not the things he already know and added pressure from society.
@@Katniss0000 -he says everyone around him is dumber than he is
-he said he doesn't like meeting new people or going outside
He isn't running from problems, unless you consider responsibility and taking care of yourself a problem. There's nothing left to do but have tough love, because if your nice to him he thinks that what he's doing is ok and he doesn't have to worry about repercussions for his actions
@@Hawk_Bro how old is your brother?
Yeah playing games instead of taking a job is running away from it. Playing games makes himself feel good.
Not going outside is also a big sign. He is ashamed of himself.
Playing games makes him feel great with his in game character.
Not taking care of himself, not going outside is also a big sign of depression.
Doing chores is also hard if you suffering mentally.
If he doesn’t have any painful memories like bullying, death of loved ones. he might have adhd or autism.
Best way to help him is a therapist. He is more likely to listen to professional than his family members.
Everything is going to be aalright...
My neighbor (that I am no longer friends with) lied to my family and told them that he has a gift and a party for me. It's a surprise. People with low emotional intelligence have been cursing me out over envy of this surprise. Nobody believes me when I tell them I haven't spoken to this man since 2015. My friends and family are still holding on to his 10 year future faking surprise??????
This is crazy cuz that answers everything
I think we need to remember that some people have memory issues that sometimes make it look like they are future faking even when they aren't.
I thought that said "5 Signs You’re Being Played With" 😭😭
Thank You so much for this information❤🥺
Yeah. This happened to me. I was love bombed and this happened so bad, it was so annoying. They don’t even know how bad they hurt me mentally, I tried to explain and they never understood.
Can there be a video about future faking in a career or job setting? So many managers and supervisors say "oh yeah and we'll move you from part time to full time soon" and it strings people along
My folks were the first ones, then most friends. And then my ex. It's horrible
Oop just had all of this happen lol another confirmation. Went so far to have JESSYE (future?) saved in his contacts but knew I wasn’t the one. It’s such a shame that grown people cannot articulate their lack of true interest. Glad I was able to pick up on the signs 3 months in and didn’t let that fool continue to string me along.
Yeah👍It's never a right moment!
Can we get a video on those who identify as a future faker and want to be better than that? I always thought that I was overwhelmed and just couldn't motivate myself to do things. I once said "once I'm financial stable" then I realized that in the timeframe I'd never be that.
This is absolutely what I went through
I never heard of this before. Thank you, It was quite informative. Funny enough It also never happened to me but i've seen It in other couples
It’s just another type of lying. Saying you are going to do something, with little/no intention of actually doing it, is lying. It doesn’t matter if the implied action hasn’t happened yet.
Obviously that is wrong. But I always like to point out that there often are two sides to each equation.
If you set your bar too high and expect too much from people, you can expect to be lied to. Try to remember what it felt like back when you were a child and either your parents or one of your teachers expected too much of you and you feared the consequences of not meeting those expectations. What did you do? You probably lied to them.
It’s not complicated. Have realistic expectations, and you will be less likely to attract conmen. When I sometimes hear women in their 30s & 40s complain about how all the men they’ve met being trash, that may well be true, but those women often overlook that they themselves too, were very likely part of the problem back in their twenties or whatever.
I like to give people solutions to these sorts of problems. That is one solution. It’s better than just pointing the finger at other people.
that's what happened to me. It's a good thing it's just for a year. i'll heal.
ah dangit... stuff like this kinda makes it hard to lie to myself that its gonna be okay. Its over aint it.
Oh god I NEEDED this video. Thank you so much!!🤍🤍