7 Harsh Truths That You Need To Hear
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Nicole is like the cynical older sister I never had but needed. 😅
I gotchu 😜
Yup, a refreshing directness speaking harsh truths. That megaphone is a perfect complement.
I'd say discerning.
Fr tho
I'd say more skeptical than cynical
"When you choose to live your life as a passenger in someone else's car, don't be surprised when you end up upside-down in a ditch"....god love you for this one 😂.
She's an atheist.
Here are some more hard truths…
1. Get over yourself
2. Get out of your way
3. Grow up
4. Start being honest with yourself
5. Stop complaining and do something about it
6. Learn to say no
7. Your emotional baggage is your responsibility and no one else’s
8. Do something about your mental illness if you have one and stop holding family and friends hostage because you won’t help yourself
9. Your life is your responsibility make it count
10. Stop believing your anxiety because it’s lying to you
Completely useless to those that need to hear these things.
@@bearclaw5115 11. Learn to accept suffering. While you learn to take good advice and previous experience to adapt and get better, you WILL continue to suffer the same problem cycles.
12. Don't pay too much attention to other people's life advice. It's never for you. It's for the person giving that advice.
13. Yes I do understand the irony of #12.
You should have your own channel
14. "If Splash Mountain won't come to Mohammed, then Mohammed must go to Splash Mountain."
One of the most eye-opening moments of my life was in the Philippines, where my girlfriend knew a lady who was homeless. She lived outside a store on a mat. She had just had a baby (after being used by a man for money) and was now back on the mat with the baby. Relying on the kindness of strangers for food. As we talked, I realized that baby would never get to go to school, would never be able to get a job, and would never shop in the store they lived outside of. They would never get to eat nice things or get the opportunities that are all around us in the Western World. I've never been a lazy, entitled person like so many in the West. But that meeting changed my life. It made me realize that I struck the Powerball just by being born in a place with opportunities. And I better not waste it.
I'm retired here now and I see this every day. I shop local and use local services. Sometimes I'll buy someone a meal or give a few pesos, but I can't save the world.
Sometimes I'll just thank God and be grateful for what I was given in life
Thank you. Your story should be on billboards across the country
Agreed. I feel I’ve won the lottery being born in this time and place (Canada), a peaceful time with loads of opportunities. I wasn’t born with mental health conditions or physical issues. My parents are great. I was never abused or neglected. I could go on, and on, and on. I know it’s called “counting your blessings” but I prefer to think of it as winning the birth lottery. Can you imagine being born in the Middle Ages with terrible sanitation and health care, horrible food (or starvation), slavish jobs and short brutal life spans. Ugh! Mind you, you work now any better.
Dumb luck is a thing. It is not about being "blessed". No rational super being would choose to bless one person while fucking over another. If you are lucky like me, think about spreading that luck around.
Never is a horrible, damning word. Maybe somebody found her a loved her eventually. Also, hell yes, being born in the West is a blessing and a curse. Mostly, a blessing.
The "meaning of life" is simply you were born and will likely live between 75-100 years. 75-100 years after you die no one will know you ever existed. Make the best of it.
I recently heard something about in three generations you’ll be totally forgotten and when I think about it, I knew my parents and I knew two grandmothers and that was it, don’t know anything beyond that.
Exactly
And everybody decides when to go!
True. Thanks, Debbie Downer.
@@patriciavandevelde5469 Checking out early by one's own choice leaves exponential ripples for decades and, likely, much longer. I speak from considerable experience. Not cool at all.
"Nobody cares about YOU!"... I've been preaching that for decades. It's up to us, individually, to make our lives important, to ourselves. The goal should NEVER be HAPPINESS... the goal should be CONTENTMENT... which is good enough. Leave "being Happy" to those few and far between moments. THAT would make the happy moments feel more special.
I used to get sad when I heard this but now it is quite liberating.
Or as Arthur Shopenhauer said eliminating suffering.
Jesus cares about you!
God cares.. that’s not true..
Nobody is happy or sad one hundred per cent of the time. Life is a rollercoaster of both emotions, ideally more happy than sad
I laughed out loud when you broke out the megaphone and declared that nobody cares about you! 😂 I love this video. Hearing you speak the truth in such a direct and droll manner is so refreshing in a world full of slick lies. Well done!
Harsh truth...when you die none of your stuff is going with you so live experiences rather than wanting more crap.
Ultimately your stuff (& money) will go to your beneficiaries or the taxman. You can either spend it yourself, or find a great cause, put it in your will, and be content that that cause will benefit
Your experiences don't go with you either... they fade away when you flatline
Caveat: things can enhance an experience. A good bed can enhance sleep, Quality hiking boots can enhance a hike, even a smooth driving reliable car can enhance a long commute… being mindful and selective in your choices can enhance any experience. Avoid impulse and know yourself rather than a fantasy image. Don’t buy all the expensive photography gear if you’re only dabbling or exploring it as a new hobby or side hustle. Be authentic with yourself.
Some good points here. Personally I insist on having not much stuff (I have a 1-in 1-out rule, to avoid accumulating stuff), but also want things I DO have to be good quality. One bit of advice from a friend was to get good things that "touch the floor", e.g shoes, beds, bikes, care tyres
@@cattywampusmcdooglefalse fantasy created by travel industry
Hi Nicole! Here are a couple of scams you might want to explore.
Weddings and funerals. I read that the average wedding cost $28,000! WTF! We're not royalty, unless you think you are.
And the average funeral costs $9000 - 11,000.
When I'm dead, just put my body in a trash bag and take me to the dump.
some of the rituals around those events are important, but it's true they don't have to cost quite so much
My dad spent over $13k on my mom's funeral in 2016. He bought the best vault made and an expensive casket. Her body will still be preserved 100 years from now! Jk.
But really, what a waste of money funerals are. He paid over $200 for the stupid sign book that we only looked at once. You can get a pretty notepad for a few bucks.
For the person(s) who'll think I'm being disrespectful: you don't have to spend thousands of dollars to show respect.
I agree COMPLETELY with this, especially funerals. If someone wants to blow all their money (or family money) on a wedding or a funeral, fine. But the thing that bugs me most about funerals and burial costs etc is the SHAME that goes into them. It's always people who do not have money for these things who want it the most and seek it out and cave to pressure that their deceased love one "deserves a proper burial" etc. I have seen people cash out their retirement funds early to pay for a traditional funeral/burial when I know firsthand it's perfectly fine to spend $700-1200 USD on direct cremation and just have a small memorial later on in a park or something. A friend of mine tragically lost her young son and in addition to crazy hospital bills (USA) they also spent $14k on a funeral. I would have paid $1k for cremation if that's what they wanted, honestly. I would not donate $1k to their funeral fund though, I could not do that. I brought them dinner twice instead. Maybe that makes me a bad friend but IDC.
I recognize some people do take a lot of solace and gain *something* from the more traditional route (a sense of peace and closure, or religious reasons) but seriously do not believe it's worth the $10-20k they typically have to spend for that. We need a new attitude toward death as a society. I could talk about this subject all day long but another thing is the coffin liners they sell are hundreds of dollars and funeral directors shame or pressure people into buying them, they do the same amount to protect a corpse as a trash bag would do. $800 trash bag. It's a very corrupt industry.
@@TLC717 I'm sorry for your loss but I totally agree with you. It's such a corrupt industry! I am glad my in-laws and mom are/were on the same page as me and my husband. My dad and stepmom are religious and will have a traditional burial for a lot of money but at least they have prepaid for most of it. I don't understand it but I respect their decision.
I just spoke this yesterday….the wedding is to impress the guests. The funeral is the same. For both people come to be nosey and will talk about it later. Some come out of love! Some will have their feelings hurt because they were left out of the wedding or the obituary. Neither has to cost what they cost. Weddings can be cheap if you choose to have one and funerals too..neither are a necessity
Another harsh truth is that the things you think will make you happy, won’t, until you are good with yourself. This includes it all: material things, vacations, a partner, more friends, etc. The irony is that when you are good with yourself, none of those other things matter anymore.
100% AGREE
I would argue that it isn’t that no one cares, it is a survival instinct to place our own selves first.
And that is why socialism and communism never work.
not really...although people that truly love us care...but just ask if you really care about others. For the most part she is right.
People “care about you” because you fulfill a need for them.
@@paddymurphy-oconnor8255 I think it helps to understand we are a social species so we depend on others for survival and we have instincts for reciprocity, compassion, fairness and empathy...even monkeys have this. But altruism does not really exist. But bonding ie love exists. Perhaps in this day and age it harder to find that.
@@paddymurphy-oconnor8255 This is so true! There is no such thing as unconditional love, except, perhaps that which a parent feels for their child...but even that could ultimately be tested under extreme conditions. Other than that, none of us can feel love for anyone or anything without receiving something good in return. Just human nature.
Great video! Wise and funny🎉
Another harsh truth: stop wanting and waiting for people to change. If someone treats you poorly, realize that is probably not a one time thing.
On that same note: you don't have to take s... because you're related to someone. Stop making excuses for people's bad behavior.
YUP!!
I saw a quote recently that said being overly negative is also delusional.
A friend I’ve had for years has major main character syndrome. I can’t get away from him because we’ve been friends since junior high. He’s so self absorbed and I swear he just likes having me as a friend so he has an audience for his drama that he’s the center of. At this point I basically humor him. He has almost no interest in my life and has never been to visit me anywhere I’ve ever lived, despite having a standing invitation. I’ve visited him many many times, I was in his wedding, know his wife and kids well, but he has almost no idea what my life has been like, the jobs I’ve had, the people I’ve dated, the friends (actual real friends) I have. Because our friendship is only about him. Like it’s kind of insane to be that self obsessed you can’t even tell that you don’t even really know your “best friend” and your “best friend” is only humoring you by listening to you drone on and on about yourself.
Had one like that. Drop the dick (or b*tch). I blocked mine on everything. Felt so good.
he's a narcissist
@@seabreeze4559 oh at the very least
Jaime French has new shirt in her merch line French Roast. It says Supporting Character Energy, that would be perfect for you to wear when you see your friend. I wonder if he would even notice or ask what it was about, I’m sure he wouldn’t bother to ask.
@@LynsAlteredArts lolol that's hilarious
he wouldn't notice at all
"The world does not owe you a living!" is an important thing to hear. Which makes you more self reliant for hard times. However I believe it's important to cultivate a network of friends who really care about you and can loan you money or just step up and help you through hard times. Friends who you have helped in past or know that no mater what you would help them. This also goes to business relationships. One of my friends and business associates stepped up when my mother passed away and paid for her cremation. I had been taking care of her in our home for over four years and he knew we had been robbing Peter to pay Paul for all of that time to make ends meet. So even though the average person may not care about you, true friends will step up and help when times are tough. That's really how you sort out the sun shine friends from the rainy day ones! As always Nicole you give excellent advice to your generation.
Objectively speaking - your parents actually owe you a living. They brought you here without your consent. It's like my 4 cats - I CHOSE to bring them into my life, therefore, it is MY job to love and support them 100% until they die.
My Mom always told me when one door slams in your face there’s always an open window.
I had a period of depression in my 20s: family bereavement, no job, no money, almost no house, failing exams due to the stress of the former. During that period, to make me happy I deliberately desired less things and derived enjoyment from really cheap small things I could control. Decades later, I find owning stuff stressful. I don't want it's hassle. Enforced moving 6 times in 5 years shows you how much you don't need!
Summary:
1. Nobody cares about you (and that's good)
2. The only thing holding you back in life is you
3. There is always tomorrow, except when it comes to your health
4. Most people are broke, because of choices they make (not as in living in a poor country, but because of dumb decisions)
5. You have more control over your life, than you've been led to believe
6. You have enough (minimalism is key & jealousy won't get you anywhere & hedonistic adapting)
7. The things that stress you out are stupid (ask yourself: Does it really matter if I think about X right now and What is the worst possible outcome?)
In summary the harsh truths are based on stoicistic philosophy, which I'm personally a big fan of. Good video, well done!
Thank you!!!
Most of the things we stress about ARE definitely stupid. Most bad situations in life are not falling apart but falling into place, even if we cant see it in the moment.
People always judge. That is a harsh truth.
They judge while in their presence, but once gone, they go back to not caring about you.
I agree with @nicolletelangdon2694. They judge you but they don’t give a sh** about you. Even so most people just don’t see you.
That's why those people don't matter because they don't care about you either. They forget about you and judge someone else that they forget about once they are gone. It's just the nasty world that we live in.
@@nadinebouchard9843 both harsh truths. And that means you are guilt free in not caring about them!
Only insecure people judge, which is why the majority do it on a regular basis! Yet, do their opinions matter? Why would anyone care about what a nasty, scared, useless nobody says about you? Alone with their own screwed up minds, these people are secretly terrified of the world, and bringing you down a few notches boosts their own pathetic egos. Let's all learn to laugh in their faces.
Sophocles once said, "Age learns to late to be wise".
Nicole proves otherwise!!👍👍👍😘.
Sophocles would not have used the incorrect "to". Then again, he wouldn't have spoken/written in English.
Too late,
The most valuable things for me are living a stress-free existence without attachments. Being healthy. Having peace & quiet. Sharing my life with others. Thanks Nicole! You are correct: We live within a Sink or Swim Society. No one cares more about you than...you.
Thank you Nicole!!!
I've had multiple sclerosis for 40 years and I am very disabled from it.
It's incurable and hopeless and genetic.
If I ever decide to end my life I have every damn right in this world to do it.
I love you Nicole because you're no bullshit.
❤❤❤❤❤❤
I agree!! I have been disabled from a genetic, progressive disorder called ehlers-danlos syndrome for 14yrs, don't have the greatest quality of life due to my health issues, and totally am in your boat with you. People take for granted what having a functional body does for them.
@@jercasgav 💕💕💕⚘️
Many people are having reversals of MS using the carnivore diet I suggest you put it in the search box here on RUclips and you will see a multitude of channels about it
...and, yet, you haven't. Mental fortitude. You'd give a Marine a run for their money. Keep pushing and give the devil the middle finger.
I wish I could like this twice. I'm 50. You know more now than I've been able to learn.
#1 is SO true. Brutally honest. But the question is, "If nobody cares about me, should I stop careing about everybody else?"
YES !!
If that gives you joy and brings value to your life, absolutely!
There are people who do care but they are becoming a rarity. Others will care enough to judge
Yes. You need to look out for yourself only because that is what everyone else is doing.
I am watching this on Father's Day and I really needed to hear all these things! I started following you to help with financial literacy! But your videos are so much more than that. Thank you!!!
You’re right. I’m 68 and no matter what. It’s on you. Have to take responsibility. Not always easy.
“You have enough”… it took me a long time in life but a good friend told me about the same thing at about 44 yrs old. Anxiety disorder treatment and some inside works on myself made me realize that I have enough! Thanks for your videos Nicole, and keep up your good jobs! 💪💪👌👌
BTW I’m not one of your Patreon’s but I let the ads runs and even click on them to help support your channel. Is it the good way to do it ?
My favorite line from Tom Hanks movie Bridge of Spies that helps me with stress. Tom Hanks: " aren't you worried about the verdict?" Spy: " why, would it help?" makes me smile and realize that worrying does nothing to change the outcome. I also fudge factor myself an extra 15 minuets on tasks and that helps me not feel rushed. Great video as always.
"No matter how badly you do ..., no young children will die." A friend told me that, and now I share it with others. It relieves a lot of stress when you realize that what you are worrying about does not have all that significant an impact.
My boss cares about me, he’s always keeping an eye on me 😮
Using and caring are two very different things.
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99% of people don't care. Of course there's always that 1%. The point is don't overthink and be overcounscious because the majority of people are too self absorbed to really see you.
That's either B.S., creepy, or sarcasm. I'm going with #3, Alex. Well played.
Nicole last week: Nobody cares about your car.
Nicole this week: Nobody cares about YOU.
Nicole's irony: She makes videos because she cares about our improvement.
No silly, she makes videos because she wants to make money. See point #1. LOL.
I use Brave so I’m not even getting her any ad revenue!
@@paddymurphy-oconnor8255 she embedded an ad, so unless u skip that (not sure if the metrics pick up on that) she still get revenue
Yeah, for the vitamin thing. I saw it. But no RUclips ads.
Your content is top notch. I’ve been watching lots of your videos and boy, we have lots in common! Thank you and keep the great videos coming ~ from a fellow RUclipsr also from southwestern Ontario! 🇨🇦🙌
I have a friend who falls into the category you described as 'poor,' and after observing his situation closely, I've come to the unfortunate conclusion that he struggles to improve his circumstances largely due to his low IQ. Despite his best efforts, it seems that the cognitive challenges he faces make it extremely difficult for him to navigate the complexities of improving his financial status. It's a sobering realization that intelligence can play such a significant role in one's ability to overcome adversity.
And it drives me crazy that corporations prey on people with lower intelligence by convincing them they need to buy stuff that they don’t need. Advertising can be insidious. It keeps some people poor.
My very favorite helpful saying: If you don't get everything you want think of all the things you DON'T want that you DON'T get! This was a great video! 📢
People are obsessed with money. Specks of dust!
In the universe as she said specks of dust is an overstatement. More like a neutrino. Not even massive enough to interact with matter. The sun is comparative as an electron. In the grand scheme of things.
I must admit that I am one of those people and I also compare what I earn to what others earn. It stresses me out constantly. It's wearing. I'm not even the kind of person who wants fancy cars - I have two decent cars and they're both paid off and in excellent shape (my nice one sits in the garage and my children borrow it occasionally and I drive the older one). I have two OLD motorcycles in really nice shape because I use my mechanical skills to keep them that way. I barely use them. I stick a fair amount in retirement (enough to buy a brand-new Mercedes), but there's no guarantee that it will be there when I need it (damn you, stock market/401k). It concerns me that I won't have enough to pay rent and even eat cat food.
Does any of it matter? Not a freakin' bit. Like you say, the money (not the people) are but specks of dust. It could all be gone in minutes. But there's always churches for free food. Plenty of people with no money are very happy. I envy them.
When I was in college, I found that just making a list of everything that was stressing me out at that moment helped out tremendously. It also helped me realize that some of the things I was worrying about seem really trivial after you take the time to write them down and read what you have written.
Thanks for pointing out those thoughtful points. I learned early in life that no one truly cares for me besides my parents and only sister. Now that I’m married I know my wife and kids care for me. I’m not alone but I realize that the other 8 billion people on this tiny planet have no concern if I live or die.
I sincerely hope this video finds its way to people who need to hear these!
Lol - I realized a few days ago that I was stressed about my doctor appointments this week, when (along with other checkups) i get a breast MRI and learn if i will finally need to hack off my left breast. Once I realized this, I stopped snapping at the people I interact with. So, yeah, look deep and breathe through that situation.
I hope everything goes okay with your breast. That's some scary stuff. Definitely puts other things into perspective.
I have a friend who got breast cancer and had to have one of her breasts removed. It sucked for a couple of years while she had treatment, recovery and an implant fitted. But it was totally worth it. She got sick but they fixed it and she got better. It was scary and awful for a while but it was temporary. It was all worth it because she has many happy years ahead of her. Treatments and recovery rates are better than ever. Whatever happens, you're probably going to be okay.
My sister got non Hodgkin's lymphoma last year. She got treatment and got better. She was surprised how it wasn't nearly as bad as she feared it would be. She felt like a fraud when she was in the hospital because she didn't feel sick enough to be there. She felt guilty for having recovery time off of work because she was doing so well health-wise. Definitely a case of the anxiety before the diagnosis being worse than the thing itself. I'm definitely one of those people that gets more worked up over the not knowing than I would over the worst case scenario. It's really silly but so hard not to work myself up over nothing.
Your parents (and grandparents) care about you. Often your siblings (sister, brother) care about you. And sometimes, one of your relatives 'might' care about you. If you have a pet, your pet loves the fact that you feed it, so it sort of loves you. That's about it, everyone else doesn't give a rat's a$$ about you. Now you can do whatever you want and everyone will ignore you, just don't break the law, the law will punish you if you break the law (noise law, speed law, income tax law.)
Wow, this was an outstanding comment post. Dropping on a Sunday morning right before, I head out to church worship service it almost sounds like, you are preaching a powerful life lesson sermon. All, I can say is ... Amen sister! Most of us the the United States are so, very blessed with all of our basic needs provided Just last week, I walked past an old time water plump sitting over a well and said to my wife "as a child visiting with my grandmother and grandfather during the summer this is how we got drinking water". Their home was located on rural farm land and, had no inside pluming (for a toilet we, had to use an out-house in the back yard) and, for a bath we had to boil water from the well over a wood burning stove then carry the water to the wash tub mixing both cold and hot water until the temperature was, just right for both myself and my sister. The only two utilities my grandparent's home had were electricity and a telephone land line. Yet, during our visits we never felt denied because we had shelter, fresh food, cold soda from the refrigerator, and lots of love. Also, you asked for other "Harsh Truths", one that, I like to tell people is: "You may think you have a lot of friends but, just wait until you need to ask for large sum of money. It is only then when, you really find out who your true friends are".
On the health issue, I'd add that it's never too late to make changes. Your dog is wonderful.
The first one is indeed a very good advice to live by, prioritize the people that will be around when you're on your pension, not the people that you'll definitely never see anymore when you stop working.
So true! Sadly though, when most ppl learn this lesson it hurts their feelings and makes them feel used and not important to ppl they actually believed thought they were important. Learning this in my early 20's has saved me from a lot of disappointment over the years.
“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can't control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
Right out of the gate your number 1 on this list was so good to hear. I have always been aware of my own insignificance in this world but hearing someone other than my own internal voice stating this so clearly is just what I needed. Thank you and well done.
'Embrace the Suck' my new philosophy.
Yea well...fxck that🎉
HUA!
I believe that was in the movie "Whiskey Tango Foxtrot"... I love it
Nicole, Levi is definitely a 10. Thks again for another great vid!
Ive been waiting 62 years for "things to align" so....
I drive a Ford Escape with over 310k no one gives a chit 👍😁👍
Bought and paid as long as it runs
Great Video. Yes, there are people who are truly victims of circumstances, thank you for pointing that out and distinguishing them from "broke folks". In 2008, when I was an exec for a fortune 100 organization, I knew people who were making over $100K a year and were still living paycheck to paycheck. You are right, no one cares about what others have, we are just to narcissistic to realize that. Yes, if you don't take time for your health, you'll have to make time for your illnesses. For most people in countries like ours, it is true, three things exist and we can all be victims of it: discrimination, prejudices, and racism. However, most time we are victims or our own ignorance, bad decisions and laziness. Love your videos.I have four rescue dogs myself. Nothing better than them licking their privates, and then wanting to kiss you!
You have your faults, but you know how to handle money--that's all that counts. You have done so much for being so young. We learn more from our mistakes than accomplishments.
It’s so true that other people don’t care about you. My best friend and I used to go shopping sometimes with her mother when we were in our 20s and we would just embarrass the shit out of that old woman doing goofy stuff and we always told her you’re never gonna see any of these people again. Same thing with people who buy new clothes to take on vacation and pack their jewelry. It’s crazy. You’re never gonna see any of those people again. Wear your shittiest clothes so if luggage gets lost, you don’t care, don’t take anything fancy, who are you trying to impress, strangers you’ll never see again? To this day if I embarrass myself in public I tell myself my mantra “you’ll never see these people again.” Now I can add Nicole’s mantra, they don’t care about you either.
A little fucked up embarrassing her mother 😅 but yes everything else u said was valid
But you should have been more cooperative. Why give your friend's mother a hard time for nothing? A little fooling around is reasonable, but not a lot just to torment.
Gee, I guess I wasn’t clear. We weren’t tormenting the poor woman on purpose. Any simple little goofy thing would embarrass her. Is anyone old enough to remember Karnak the Johnny Carson character? Like there wouldn’t be a price on an item so we put it to our forehead and Karnak it, just simple little funny things like that.
I thought when you go on vacation you barely can't wear your nice things. Simply, because of stealing, and pick pocketing. How is that having a good time when you gotta wear fake stuff because you run the risk of getting robbed, which is why I never wanna visit any of the poor countries. I been around them enough all my life and still don't wanna visit a country🙃😂
I don't like saying that "nobody cares about me" because that makes me not want to care about them. I want to care about others at some level because love for others is very powerful - it's the most important thing that I have to offer to others. That being said, I sure would like to turn off my give-a-sh!t most of the time and I'm able to at some level, usually.
9:40 - the best comment of them all.
Too many people here in the UK automatically expect the government to "nanny them", they have no sense of self responsibility. They think the government is there to supply a good life with zero effort from the individual.
These people are indeed "passengers in somebody else's car"
I like your tough talk. Some slight derivations...
1. Your first point is too nihilistic. Someone has to care. We should care. The people who made the greatest advances in this world..did so because they cared. They cared about a problem and wanted to solve it. They did so with divine inspiration or just sheer terrestrial motivation.
2. Your health is mostly under your control. But the media loves to tell you its COMPLETELY under your control. "you did this to yourself..." However, some cancers, not all, occur simply by random chance. Blood cancers fall in this category. There is nothing you are doing to get a blood cancer. It's random mutation that occurs. Additionally, sickle cell anemia, hemacromatosis, and many other genetic diseases are simply not under anyone's control. Someone could be born with MS and that impacts their ability to exercise. So the uninformed and rude...simply demonize them as "lazy" and "undisciplined".
3. It's important to be humble and empathic. What has happened to others. Can happen to you. You are not immune from the "sickness of modernity" as Nietschze would say. You too will die. You too will suffer. You too will have to face the end and inevitable failure. Invinciability is for fools and Hollywood movies. Will you do this in a way that makes you want to relive life again the same way "amor fati"? No one dies without regrets. Spoiler alert...you wont' die with plenty of time to say goodbye and give some prosaic speech. It'll happen quite quickly and without any warning...or it will happen with 3-8 month drag of suffering/mental & emotional decline . This will be your fate. It's everyone's fate. Your greatest chance of accomplishing goals ( not dreams ) is in the middle of your life. After that...biology says "it's time for your autumn".
So true, that's also how communities breakdown as all of a sudden if your neighbour doesn't vote the same way or share the same religion then they are "othered" and ignored. Traditionally we've been reliant on others enough to stop this from happening but in the internet age it seems easier just to go and find imaginary friends online etc.....
I’ve not been subscribed long but I have been trying to soak up as many of your videos as possible. You are a breath of fresh air with your cut to the point wisdom and no BS. WE ALL needed to hear this.
I enjoy your videos. I am 73 and have been listening to you for a while and you make so much sense.! my daughter was just visiting from out of state and I mentioned you and I just sent her your video and link. I really do want her to listen to you.Keep up the good work.
It didn't take me long to figure out I was born in a sweet spot in history. I compare my current life to what it would have been like if I had been born in any other time or place. The medical interventions I've been blessed to receive could only have come in this day and age. Easy food supply, energy for heat and light, travel mobility, access to information....the list goes on and on. The only duty I have is to always recognize this because it's an unfortunate bug of human nature to always, and I mean always, take the extraordinary and turn it into the ordinary. Airline travel comes to mind, I can be half way around the world in no time but after a time I will shop for faster and cheaper because I don't want to get "ripped off".
"Happiness is owning nothing to no one." yes!!! Levi is definitely a 10. Almost as cute as my Peanut. ❤
Another good video. Your dark secrets are nothing. My late wife had problems with taking pills(and she was a nurse). She figured out to fill her mouth with Dr Pepper, push the pill in and then swallow. I think that you worry a little too much. I used to worry when building bridges but with practice, I learned to handle all problems and relax. BTW, some people don't know what they want in life and are never satisfied. I'm retired and am satisfied with my life but, I still try to improve things. It keeps me busy. Have fun. Good Luck, Rick
Number 1 is a generalization. There are several people that I care about and who care about me (not all family) and demonstrate it.
What you are speaking about here is stone cold reality, and a reality we would all gain benefit from facing from time to time. I have had these moments in my past where I have walked into a room full of people, and realized that I am not quite as important as My ego was telling me.
Another great one! I always say,If there isn't a tomorrow,it wont matter.
Meaning,the silly stuff we stress over.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Im with you Nicole. I’m so sick of people complaining about the consequences of their actions.
I love your No Bull Sh** delivery. “It’s your fault”. TRUTH
Awesome video! (Yes, I'm an American) Three things came to mind whilst I was watching; First; I was gifted a megaphone by my brother some 40 years ago. You'll be surprised how handy it is at times (Protesting, the P.A. system goes out at work and you need to improvise) and you'll be glad you have one. Second; Get a mortar and pestle for your Tylenol situation. Cutting pills up is rarely exact and it's much easier to divide powder. Third; "You are merely a speck of dust in the Universe" is oh so close to "You are a fluke of the Universe, you have no right to be here". That's the chorus of 'Deteriorata', a 1972 song by National Lampoon. Give it a listen, it's here on RUclips, and I think you'll really connect with it.
Omg that head tilt though. 💙🐕
OMG, I could NOT AGREE WITH YOU MORE. This is one of the best videos I've ever watched on any channel on RUclips. Everyone (esp. younger people) needs to watch this!!! I wish I myself had known these harsh truths 10 years ago, when I was constantly obsessing about what people thought about me etc etc. Starting my own YT channel made me realise that, seriously, no one gives a shit, and that's a good thing!!! One more harsh truth I'd add is: Accept that some people will dislike or even hate you. It's so natural to want people to like us but I've really come to realise that no matter what you do, some people will have their own reason to hate you, and that's ok. Thanks Nicole, you're truly an inspiration to me and many of us out there and I look forward to your next video
As an old guy (58), I agree people will be better off as soon as they realize #1 is absolutely fact. No one cares. You have to make your own way. You know deep inside when a bad choice appears in front of you. If you are rationalizing, think twice.
I agree with this so much, even for decisions that may not be BAD ones but are made for the wrong reasons. Recently a couple of my friends bought shiny new cars and had me thinking about upgrading mine (I would not buy brand new and I would pay cash) but then I realized, I still really like my car and it does everything I need it to do. My husband and I travel several times a year but always domestic. We haven't traveled outside of North America much in our lives. Sometimes when planning vacations we think "we ought to go abroad" and we will probably do that sometime for sure as we're in our 40s and no one is guaranteed to be active and healthy to retirement age and beyond. BUT we realized we mostly were wanting to do that to keep up with RUclips travel vloggers and maybe even impress those around us. Not good reasons! We're both frugal and truly love a multi state road trip. We don't have to travel internationally to enjoy our vacations.
worry is the interest you pay on problems you may never have
Curiosity is the reason you chose the circumstances of your life. Your present identity is the embodiment of that curiosity. Live it without fear.
Well said, especially the part where our wants never go away no matter how much we get,
Hi, Nicole. When I was a kid, my mother used to crush pills between two spoons and mix the powder with a little bit of jelly. But you can use honey or applesauce, something like that. And for the record, I'm 64 and can't swim either.
I'm a minute thirty into this video and I'm realizing how much I've appreciated you and your message. You are awesome. TY.
Once I realized that I am the only person who cares what happens to me is me, it liberated me into doing what I want to do!!! I succeeded because I got my academic credentials (BA, MD, MS, MPA), became a multimillionaire, and went to war with the U.S. Army (goals I set for myself when I was in 6th Grade). This is despite my high school college counselor telling me I would never graduate from high school!!!!! Who’s laughing now!!! Life is good.
I think using the term 'no one cares' should not be too literal...we do care about people we truly love. I am sure you care about Levi. True love exists...love is a bonding emotion that social animals have. But the overall sentiment that outside of that no one cares is true....just ask how much you care about others.
I agree with this too. But I think in a lot of ways I take it a little less seriously. More like, no one is focusing on you and your appearance, decisions, etc. For example when I was younger (20s) I always felt like some people in my family would like me more or respect me more if I lost weight and had a more professional job. In my 30s, I lost 100+ and have a very good career and no one cares. We still have the same relationship dynamics. I'm not disappointed at all, it's just reality. I'm glad I mostly did these things for ME and not to get more attention or love because it wouldn't have panned out.
Really? No one cares about you? Not even "no one outside your immediate family and friends cares about you"? Even they don't care about you, even a little bit? That's pretty bleak.
Great video as always, you've helped a lot of people, bringing home truths to the masses with some humour mixed in. One good tip for those living frugally is to try and go through around half of the days in the month without spending any money at all. It just helps develop a mindset of "do I really need that?". Becoming frugal is like exercising a muscle, the more you use it the stonger it becomes and before you know it you're not even getting that urge to spend, spend, spend, it's almost like freeing yourself of an addiction I found.
The megaphone 😆
If my Dad hadn't loved me and cared about me, I wouldn't have made it out of the hospital soon after I was born (that was 1949). LOVE. PEACE. God Bless
If you make the “EMBRACE THE SUCK” t shirt I promise to buy TWO of them 😂
Nicole, I have watched several of your videos. You’ve made some good points. I like what you said about finance, being grateful for what we each have and stupid stuff not worth stressing over.
The one thought in this video I disagree with you on is when you said that no one cares about you (the general “you”). Based on my life experience, I don’t think that’s true whatsoever. I think it’s true most people we each meet won’t care about you. However, some will. If there is a person in this world who isn’t cared about by anybody, that person ought to engage in deep self-examination to figure out why.
Love your videos Nicole :p 💛
Currently facing the worst part of my own life -yet. No, no. It's not the end of the world, but I've went through so much stuff in my life the past 6yrs that stressed me out to the core and gave me sleepless nights, that I'm too tired to care what others think and too tired to be scared.
I won't go into detail what's going on. But I will say that when you have pretty much nothing else to lose, and you've hit rock bottom, the only way is up.
I can re-do my life a little slower on these 2nd chances, and I sometimes think some (hopefully for others), temporary illnesses and setbacks help pace you back to a better health and well-being.
I've realized the times that life slows down, whatever way, shape or form that is to your life. For some, that was the prime of covid if they lost their job or were paid more to stay home than if they had gone back to work. Is when people are then given a chance to re-route themselves onto a better path for themselves.
I hope everyone gets that chance at some point in their lives. ✌️✨️
Think no one cares about you? Miss a few car payments and someone will care about you 😂😂😂
Well, they still don’t care about you, they care about your money
My motto is learn to live off what you make. Not to earn enough to keep up with your spending.
The tax man cares about you, wants to know everything 😂
Given the value of this great tough-love advice, imagine the harm we do to black Americans by telling them that none of their problems are their fault, they're all caused by racism, no point in trying.
I can totally relate to stressing about things that really don't matter, or stressing about things that may not even happen! I try to focus more on the "here and now".
So accurate. All of this applies to me, my situation. Thank you for these drops of truth.
Ditto on the stress factor, I can create whole movies in my head about what might happen. And usually doesn't.
Same 😅
"We suffer more in the imagination than in reality" - Seneca.
Whoa, I can't say I always agree with Nicole, but this video's messages I can get 100% behind. Even though I knew all of them already, it was good being reminded about them, and I think many people - including myself - would actually do better in life if they watched this video every now and then.
Keep going
Connecticut here 🇺🇲
- Like when someone insults us and we snap to defend ourselves because we think the insult damages people’s image of us. But really no one cares that you can or can’t throw a ball far or can jump high or you’re a good speller or….
I’ll go one further:not only does nobody care about you, true freedom comes by not caring what anybody thinks about you. I learned this years ago and it was so liberating. Other people’s opinions do not pay your bills.
'nobody cares what you wear'
say it to people from eastern europe lmao
all animals are 10s. 😊
Right on time. Wishing you a great day, Nicole❤
I heard Alex Hormozi say "Rather than focusing on trying to be happy, focus on being useful"
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations