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- Little Women - I Want to Be Loved: Jo (Saoirse Ronan) has a heart to heart with Marmee (Laura Dern).
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In the years after the Civil War, Jo March lives in New York and makes her living as a writer, while her sister Amy studies painting in Paris. Amy has a chance encounter with Theodore, a childhood crush who proposed to Jo but was ultimately rejected. Their oldest sibling, Meg, is married to a schoolteacher, while shy sister Beth develops a devastating illness that brings the family back together.
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Cast: Laura Dern, Saoirse Ronan
Director: Greta Gerwig
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"For this Jo, loneliness is not the lack of romantic partner. Loneliness is the cold tones of an empty attic haunted by the memory of one filled with golden light and laughter of best friends and sisters"
Did Greta Gerwig say that?
Where is this quote from??
Damn that’s deep
@alyssumflowers I heard it too in a video analyzing Little Women. I'd have to check it out and post it here later.
YES. Jo never really wants romance...she wants her sisters and childhood back, and yet she's grown up and is now expected to find a partner and she just doesn't want one. Gerwig's Jo will always be my favorite. SO many women AND men feel this way.
As someone who always says that I'm happy to be single at 28, this really hit home.
I'm in my 20s too and I am truly happy single...every romantic relationship I've been in, I've been miserable. But like Jo, I feel huge pressure to enter romantic relationships so I won't be "lonely" because often those relationships are painted as the end all be all....I'm just happy we live in 2020 and women choosing to be single is more acceptable. Because, just like for Jo, romance isn't for everyone! Some ppl prefer friendships.
Me too! I'm in my mid twenties and have been single for my whole life by my own choice and I'm genuinely happy about it. But what Jo said really hits me. We don't want a relationship but sometimes we just feel soo lonely, it's confusing really
Cope
28 also and just split up with my eight year old sons father we were together from high school and honestly this does hit home and u it’s like u haven’t realised ur childhood has now gone and ur alone. Sounds really depressing put like that but it has good and bad days! Sorry for the long ramble just I know people can relate to loneliness and what it does to someone 🤗
nothing has changed for women. 21 and single and not ashamed of it. but there is huge pressure on me from other ppl that i should date
"I'm so lonely"
A lot of people misinterpret this scene, saying that she wanted a romantic partner too. But she's saying she misses the days when she would spend the days playing and dreaming with her sisters. She turns around and realises that her childhood is long gone, all her sisters have grown up and married and moved on, and she's left behind all by herself.
I agree, though I think there's a tiny part of her that wants a romantic partner too. This doesn't invalidate her decisions and beliefs, because she continues to sacrifice that desire in order to accomplish her dreams. But at the end of the day she's still a human being, vulnerable and needing of love and companionship, and it's lonely moments like this one when that lack feels more painful and raw.
Exactly! And also the fact that she’s grieving. That plays a huge factor in this. It’s the realizing that all the beautiful times full of love, laughter and joy are just memories (in the past) that are associated with the ones you love that are no longer near or no longer alive. You begin to reevaluate what’s truly been important in your life and what/who has given it meaning. She wishes how badly she could go back in time, that’s why she wants Laurie around not because she is in love with him but because he’s a part of the past, apart of all the good times yes she wants to be loved be she also wants to give love - the love and care she feels she can no longer give to Beth. ❤💔
I feel like that's too much of a reach. She does want love and this feeling doesn't take away from anything she said about women being more complex than that. It's just that love isn't something advantageous for women in a patriarchal world, then and on some levels even today, and that sucks because of course we still want it, but the price, sometimes, and especially then, is too high. Being a woman was a complete trap. Conforming and getting married was most likely to put her under even more pressure to comply, and it's actually truly legally binding, she does become property. It's not like she could just love a man, get married and still be easily happy and free. She probably wished she could love and be free at the same time, but since she can't she chose freedom, at least the little bit she can have. And I actually like that she admits she cares more to be loved, because that's really exactly what she's supposed to feel. Women are expected to and they do all the loving and caring, but it's rarely that they are loved and cared for.
idk. she seems pretty aromantic to me @fcv4616
Jo is lonely because she doesn't have kids. The question still remains: who cares for the kids? Women give up their dreams and ambitions for their kids. Jo didn't want to give that up to be happy. That's why she was torn and unhappy, because everyone else moved on and grew up but her. and her ambitions were not making her happy.
"I'm so lonely."
Oof. Felt that.
Big oof
Same
I was like, "me, too" 😭
joel750 yes your just SO oppressed. 😭😭
joel750 and men wine like babies
Jo blurting out the “I’m so lonely” at the end of her speech shows just how tight of a grip she’s had on her feelings and hasn’t really had anyone to talk to about how she really feels so it all just comes out in this moment. Just devastating. And Saoirse plays it so beautifully.
Beautifully empathized!
Some people have reached to the point in their life where they can't even express what they feel. They don't even have the idea of what there feeling except that there's this emptiness and numbness to overcome which they think they'll have to be reborn. And that's an everyday reality to them not just in a movie 😖😖
Not in the same situation but this is how I’ve felt and feel sometimes. I grew up way to fast when I was young, a middle child taking care of her younger and older siblings and her mother. Not really having the time to process my feelings when I was younger and should have been able to, now as an adult, it’s so hard and defeating. There are times where I want to express myself or cry but I also hear myself saying “for what” as if I need a valid reason.
Jo blurting out the “im so lonely”at the end of her speech shows just how tight of a grip she’s had her feelings bunched up.
@virusmaker506 -- "but I also hear myself saying “for what” as if I need a valid reason."
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Sounds familiar. It's very common for people who weren't allowed to have emotional needs, let alone wants, to feel as adults like they don't deserve to express emotions or have to earn the right to be upset about personal boundary violations. Our needs were always a treated like a selfish burdensome inconvenience on the adults. Who, btw, were in fact the real selfish ones; not only did they not meet the needs even though it's normal and right for kids to be dependent on their caretakers (and not as if we kids even asked to be born!) but further, often making use of kids as emotional crutches. As if we were disposable emotional-support pets, one-time use, just add water, no (emotional) feeding in turn required, bin when done.
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Anything told to you about your worth or what's healthy normal behaviour by such a person is automatically suspect, and likely should be disregarded. Because their true goal, whether they can admit it or even be aware of it or not, was never to tell you unbiased truth but to shift your perspective until it suited their wants, needs and/or whims.
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It doesn't even have to have been maliciously done, either. Unhealthy people in survival mode unfortunately will often emotionally canabalize their family members. No one of whom is usually more vulnerable and defenceless than their own children.
I think for Jo, admitting to her own loneliness was the hardest thing she ever did. Harder than turning down Laurie, harder than losing her manuscript, harder than leaving her family to pursue her career, harder than all of it.
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that sounds like jo, too proud to admit her to herself how she truly feels
And I could deeply agree to that. But now I can really admit. I'm so lonely.
As hard as it is to identify with Jo and draw out those very deep emotions, it makes me feel really human to do so. So much better than being so lonely that I feel nothing. This powerful scene taught me that even sadness can be healthy.
I don't get why people insist about the Laurie/Jo couple when in this scene she clearly establishes that she doesn't/can't love him that way. She just feels so lonely in this point.
I feel like Jo's pressure to get with Laurie reflects the pressure a lot of women feel to get into romantic relationships because those relationships are prized over a lot of others. And it's really sad because, like Jo, some women (and men) are happier single, but then they're isolated and feel lonely, so they resort to wondering if perhaps they should just force themselves to enter romantic relationships so they can not be as lonely. In Alcott/Jo's time, I imagine this pressure was tenfold worse than today.
I feel like people ship Jo and Laurie because we're so used to the protagonist getting the "happy ever after" that we find a story incomplete without it. Jane Eyre ends up with Mr. Rochester, Elizabeth Bennett with Mr. Darcy, it's only fitting that Jo gets her happy ending with Laurie right?
But Jo and Laurie would be much happier separately than together. And I think that's not satisfying to many readers because so many of them resonate with Jo: her fierce independence, her boyish nature, her refusal to conform to society's rules. But even now, we're used to thinking a nice romance that ends in marriage is the best ending for a character. We've read about Jo and the lovable boy-next-door Laurie and it's quite understandable for the readers for wanting two characters they love end up together. However, Alcott is quite right in having Jo reject Laurie. Jo is much happier by herself and would be miserable having to change herself for someone else. Sometimes two people who understand each other so perfectly are better off as friends.
@jennyk5753 Exactly! I love that Jo subverts the norm of women ending with romance because not all women want that. I group her in with Elsa, Merida, Arya Stark, and Sansa Stark, among very few others, honestly (bc you rarely see women single at the ends of their stories, hence why these women are so revoluntionary)...they all ended up single and happy and it was their best endings, and I love that Gerwig adds Jo to that list with an ending much more true to her character.
Unhappily today women (me incluiding) suffer prejudice because they do want marry and have children. My own family don't respect that, because I feel comfort in traditional lifestyle and I want to marry and have a family.
@Car Go You're mostly right, but in reality, Alcott wanted Jo to remain single. She was even quoted writing "Girls write to ask who the little women marry, as if that was the only end and aim of a woman’s life. I won’t marry Jo to Laurie to please any one.”
So, Alcott really did NOT want Jo to marry Laurie. She didn't want Jo to marry anyone, because Jo was Alcott. But so often, women, esp in that time period, were thought to only be worth something if they married. Alcott couldnt defy those norms and still get published, so she married Jo to the professor to scorn her readers.
Her Oscar nomination was so well deserved! She's 25 with 4 nominations under her belt! I'm 24 and I still hand in my assignments late....
@Om Patel They're in different category. But I really did LOVE Florence Pugh in this. And Midsommar.
You’re an academic, that’s a whole different world :)!
Ameeeen 😭 it makes me feel so incompetent.
Om Patel
Define better.
Saoirse Ronan shines here.
But how do you pronounce her name though??
Every tv talkshow host ever..
I feel this scene so deeply because like Jo, I believe in freedom, and in feminism and that women shouldn’t and don’t aim only for love, but, God, is that a lonely path to take. And admitting that (putting all your beliefs aside) you still want your share of what society tells you should want as woman is tough. And you can see her struggling to even let the words out. Like she is disappointed at herself for the fact that deep down she also wants what everyone else does, to love and specially, be loved.
THANK YOU! You put in words what I always thought and I relate to this scene just as deeply as you do, that somehow the traditional wants and needs are always there, I guess this is just basic human nature and want.
i totally agree, is hard to be single sometimes
Seeking sanctuary in God is not is not the solution. I have both experienced in myself and witnessed in others what it does.
It creates a deceptive sense of belonging, a warmth that one gets when one is in company of a person one truly reveres. One must keep one's beliefs aside and face the truth that god does not exist.
If there is something worth seeking sanctuary in, it is one's own self.
@voxtur__7 you must be fun at parties
@anushka1257 if a place condemns contemplation, it is better to not fit in there.
This is the first time a film maker has dove deep into the complicated psychological and emotional hamster wheel of Jo March. Jo is a Metathesiophobic - a fear of change. She finds no comfort in the future. She would prefer they all stay together, never get old, and play in the attic for always. But change is forever linked to the wheel of time. You can't stop it. Suddenly, all of this change starts happening rapidly in her life, as it does for all people when their childhood is at an end. Meg gets married. A dear friend proposes they marry (Laurie, what's the matter with you?!?!) Another sister is well on her way to marrying. (Amy) Then a beloved sister succumbs to illness. These are things that can't be undone and it's all happening too fast. This scene is a moment that is more than Jo grieving for Beth. This is Jo March grieving the loss of her innocence and childhood. As everyone else is going along with their individual lives, Jo has either consciously or subconsciously chosen to never emotionally grow up. Beth's death is what shook the foundation of her security, which as it turns out, was an insecurity. It's sort of a Jungian thing. We all have 2 stages of life. That first stage is all about accumulation. We are building a container and trying to fill it with stuff. Education, experiences, relationships, career, property, house, cars, children, and etc.. We're on this goal centered path of obtaining all of this and a many of us can lose sight of the really important stuff. At some point we reach the stage where we try to figure out what all that accumulation means/meant. Most have to be initiated over to that second stage by one who has already crossed over, but life can force a premature crossing. Usually a traumatic event can cause it. Perhaps a death of a loved one or a divorce. Trauma has a way of forcing you to refocus on the important things of which you lost sight. A lot of people who don't cross over early will naturally find it at middle-age when panic can set in at the notion there are fewer years ahead than there are behind. This is when some people go in to crisis mode and try to accumulate all they ever wanted because now, life doesn't seem so endless. This is often referred to as a "mid-life crisis". But back on topic: This scene is the painful crossing over of Jo March and she's fortunate to have a mother to guide her. We have to take courage to see life through to the end. Invariably, there will be more setback, loss, and hurt than accomplishment, gain, and joy. To truly live, you have to open yourself up to vulnerability...….and you will love...….and you will be hurt. If one is fortunate to live into old age, a great many you loved will pass before you, but if you did it right - the joy their memories bring will help to out-weigh all the hurt brought by the loss. Sorry.....i seemed to have rambled.
"Up in the garret, where Jo's unquiet wanderings ended; stood four little wooden chests in a row, each marked with its owners name, and each filled with relics of the childhood and girlhood ended now for all."
Insightful analysis!
No no ramble on! This was very interesting to me
You wrote my thoughts... You poured your heart out and I love it.
PS: I understood Jo on a whole different level and couldn't stand the hate she was getting for supposedly being mean to Amy... Because in more than one way I myself am Jo
So beautifully written!
This is brilliant and so beautifully written.
Women, they have minds and they have souls as well as just hearts. And they've got ambition and they've got talent as well as just beauty, and I'm so sick of people saying that love is just all a woman is fit for. I'm so sick of it! But... I am so lonely.
It's the best part of the film.
Absolutely women they have heart they have minds,souls
Wow that was deep
Nah. What dat mouf du alalala
Absolutly my brain as a woman right now
I can't believe that I come back to this clip once in a while, just to hear someone else speak out my exact feelings...
Omg me the sameee
same 🫂
Wats the name of this series?
@cookwithme-y6z It's a movie, there are different versions based on the book by Louisa May Alcott
SAME
“That is not the same as loving”
“I know.”
And yet people keep shipping Laurie and Jo, for what?
EXACTLY! I saw some people lamenting that they weren't together in the end, when in this scene, her mom kinda put the nail in the coffin - that deep down, Jo never loved Laurie.
Because love is way more a choice than an emotion or a just a feeling. That’s why a lot of people ship them. I’m glad that he married Amy though. This movie got robbed of Best Picture.
@AyoTech83
i think Jo did love Laurie, but just not as a husband or crush. Like Laurie said the he's always loved Jo, but his love for Amy was a different kind of love. Jo loves Laurie as a close friend and partner.
I ship Laurie and Jo as a friendship and dynamic duo lol
This!!
Well, when I saw the movie coming out I really felt we didn't need another little women adaptation. As it proves this was the only adaptation we needed. The book done right. Not romanticizing the past but portraying these women as real people with real and deep emotions.
Greta Gerwig has this amazing way with her characters, especially the female ones, and she deserves a lot more appreciation for her work
@hugerhumm3439 I can’t wait for another film directed by her. The two she’s solo directed have been fantastic
Everything with the Greta touch has been golden so far, and that includes the movies she's acted in. I'm looking at her career with so much expectation.
Not these women just Jo and Meg done right. She tried to show Amy as a victim whereas she was selfish and vile. She didn't even come when Beth passed away and you want her to be shown as women with real feelings and emotions? Well selfishness and vileness is also an emotion a woman can have
@teamtheguywhoalmosthitbela6683 of course, because women are human beings and they have many flaws. Jo is too hot tempered, Meg is superficial and Amy, in your terms, is selfish. But that’s what makes them relatable, they have flaws like a normal person. Besides, Amy didn’t know too much about Beth because they didn’t want to make her sad during her stay in Paris, not because she wasn’t worried about her sister.
So heart wrenching. Ever since “Atonement”, Saoirse Ronan has been nothing short of breathtaking.
Tuan Vu Yes! And the following year she was the only Oscar-nominated actor out of the cast. It says a lot😃
Tuan Vu well, thats quite a stretch there, I wouldn't really say that she did.. I mean its McAvoy and Knightley and even B. Cumberbatch - they were phenomenal. She was pretty good for her age but her acting wasn't really mind-blowing let alone "out of water blowing", haha.
Definitely born to act.
I hated her character in atonement I was so mad at her, I still haven’t forgiven her.
@Epic4Evr1990 that would mean that she acted really well. Also I never realised she was in atonement.
She wants exactly what she doesn't want and this hurts her. :(
Perfectly summarised sir!🙌🏼
Yes true but at the same time she is being immature and refuse to accept. becuase at the end everyone will reach a point were they want to be loved and not be lonely.
I love this scene. Jo is such a complex character in a world where the "end all" for women is "romantic love." But she just wants friends and family, and feels it being taken from her. As a woman who is a lot like Jo - uninterested in romance - it's hard even in our modern day to not feel lonely sometimes. I don't want romance because it goes against what would make me happy, but we live in a world where romance is prized over friendships and sometimes even familial bonds, leaving those who don't want romance feeling isolated. I LOVE that Greta Gerwig ended Jo's story more mysteriously - perhaps hinting that she truly did never marry - reflecting Alcott's own life. It's so refreshing and representation that is much needed.
In my case I'm feeling so lonely because almost no one respects me because I want to marry, have a family and a traditional lifestyle (to marry virgin with religion).
In case, the two sides suffer, we will always suffer because our choices.
@carolinedoney6303 It seems like nobody can ever win. If you want to take a more traditional route, people will criticize you. if you want to not marry at all, people will also criticize you. So at the end of the day, you need to just do what you want, because people will always have something to say. I've learned the hard way that I can't forsake my own happiness to appease some people's expectations. I need to be happy my own way.
Well said, Alana
I agree with almost everything you said, but I don't think Jo is uninterested in romance. She just hasn't found a match yet and also thinks it's not the end all, be all for women. But if she found true romance with someone she wouldn't say no.
@Blamayer Yeah maybe, but there's nothing within her character (esp in this movie) to prove that that is the case. The ending scene with Prof Bauer was more of a reflection of how publishers push romance onto women characters, and how she had to effectively "rewrite" her life to get there. But there's nothing in this version of Jo's character that leads me to believe she would be interested in romance. That's what makes this version a refreshing character. To each their own interpretation, I guess.
"But do you love him?"
"I care more to be loved"
There is your answer. She was lonely, her closest sister died, her career was going nowhere, she was feeling like a failure. That is not a proper state of mind to marry someone. People like to ignore all that just beacuse they looked cute together. But love is more than just that
"I'm so lonely" at the end. That really gets me. I feel her pain and I totally relate. Saoirse is incredible.
Her acting is so impeccable. It's true and heartfelt and you cant help but hold your breath as she struggles to find her words before saying that's she's lonely.
that scene really hits hard. the point of loneliness gets to where you dont care about who youre being loved by. you just crave the feeling, not even realizing that you have to return it. youre blinded by your own feelings, that you completely disregard someone elses. and i get what she was saying. its hard to love. its easier to take than to give.
I’m at a point in my life where my big family is branching off to start their own families. We all have our own lives. That loneliness I think comes from the change of how things were. It’s hard to say goodbye to that freedom of childhood or the freedom to just go into a siblings room when you’re bored just to mess with them. Growing up you think it’ll always be that way but time changes things and it’s hard to see that time end. Even if there is still light in the future.
Even as a guy this scene hits you. The expectations of society vs what you want. The feeling lonely is heartbreaking. I love this scene. So true. I felt that, I am right there. In loneliness.
Absolutely it does! There’s zero reason why it shouldn’t affect men just like it impacted women. Loneliness isn’t confined to one gender.
Loneliness of women and loneliness of men are different in general. Most of the women stay lonely by choice. Most men stay lonely by no choice.
I agree with SEXYASSBOY1
@orhanemiratlgan9478do y'all have to ruin the entire human condition with your gender nonsense?
@orhanemiratlgan9478 "Erm actually, women are lonely by choice 🤓☝️ therefore men's loneliness is harder ☝️☝️" - You rn
“I’m so sick of people saying that love is just all a woman is fit for! I’m so sick of it. But I’m s- I’m so lonely.” This has been my mindset for such a long time. I love this movie so much and I haven’t even seen it yet
Watch it. You can buy it on youtube. It was so much better than I expected.
what nonsense. the entire concept of feelings and love is catered to the needs and desires of women. they literally control romance and dating. men are just along for the ride. you cannot blame society for your warped mindset.
Jo is the single most relatable character I've ever read. Everything about her makes me feel so seen.
Ugh...when she said "I'm so lonely" I felt that in my bones...and it brought me back to all the times I sat crying in my room because the feeling of loneliness was just so damn crushing...almost like you cant breathe.
This is painfully relatable.
I know I feel you
Me too
I care more to be loved... I want to be loved...
But I’m so lonely...
I feel this way... I feel so lonely and unloved I can totally relate to Joe here... 😢
Tiffany Sanchez I’m here if you need someone 😔
maya shimon thank you dear friend 🙂
You’re loved! By One who is perfect and all powerful
😢
Oftentimes, in order to truly overcome loneliness, we first have to learn to love ourselves. When we learn to forgive ourselves, we begin to feel less lonely and more caring and selfless for others. We wish to see others happiness first before our own, only to realize that the very desire and act of making someone else happy makes you happy too. I know it. I have experienced it, and you will be infinitely happier for it.
jo speaking of her loneliness is exactly what i’ve experienced most of my life. i’m the kind of girl that’s never been in love and that pushes anyone how may love me away. yet i feel so lonely. and it’s as though i’ve done it to myself.
phew needed to vent
Me too
“if i was a girl in a book this would all be so easy”
Every girl's dilemma when she realizes the cruel truth is she will always have to protect her independence without risking the possibility of ever finding love. Never let go of both, you can have your own dreams and desires along with the love of someone, when you put those things together you can go far, just don't let go of either.
I am the 3rd of 4 daughters. As of this month, I'm the only one left that hasn't married. I am a writer. And have been so sure of a solitary life until now -- preferring that to the risk of heartbreak. This isn't just good acting. These are honest words. And they belong to the lonely people who know the value of love without its guarantee. I hope I'm not too afraid to love. Or too proud to be loved. I hope that this loneliness merely precedes good company.
loved this
Beautifully written and rings very true with me too
So well said! Thank you for this.
Very well said....so relatable
She’s so aromantic coded - this is a highly aromantic scene. I don’t think I’ve ever seen in any other stance of media that it’s portrayed this well. I love Jo March so much
It's also so difficult finding a partner that fits. Either you pretend to be someone else and feel like you're loved at the expense of betraying yourself or be your true self and feel lonely but being honest. Love is a game with few real winners.
I can’t betray myself, I just won’t settle no matter how lonely I get. It’s a difficult choice to make but I choose to believe it will be worth it.
Her Irish accent slipped through a bit in this scene but the acting more than compensates it.
Hers and Emma’s accent slipped through a lot in the film. That was really bothersome to a degree.
cocomatters To me, it was the severely inaccurate costumes. And to think it won an oscar
@blainevanity6 mind to elaborate your statement?
chewychim Might I suggest Micarah Tewer's video. She is very thorough with it.
No, it's just the accent she's doing in the film -
Greta Gerwig's adaptation is the only interpretation of Little Women I will ever need. I will make sure my future daughters see this film to help them understand the importance of a woman's strength and power, but also the kindness and love that we are capable of wielding. Women are so powerful, we should never be underestimated !!
i hate when people crop out the "im so lonely" bit out of this scene whenever they post it because i feel it's the most important part. even though jo is strong and independent, she too, craves for love and feels lonely and wanting to be loved doesn't make her weak or less independent
When she said I'm So Lonely, I felt that. It's a very particular kind of pain, to realize that who you are and what people expect out of a relationship just don't FIT, and that you're not willing to sacrifice who you are but you still long for that closeness.
This is basically the most relatable scene ever
the feeling of wanting to be loved due to your extreme loneliness is just so well acted and heartbreaking. I can relate ...
Same
this scene broke my heart into billion pieces and spat on my face
This scene broke my heart. I love her
Y'all don't get it. Jo wants her family, she wants familial, communal love in a world with nuclear families and individualism. It's why the ending of her book is everyone living together, not far away from one another. It's not about "growing up" it's about knowing that as a woman, you are expected to leave your family behind to make another. Jo is so desperate that she's considering going for the very thing that isolated her sisters from her in the first place.
this is so true, in a lot of ways little women is just about jo's way of dealing with the loss of the community that fostered her.
this part of the film hits the hardest.fear of growing up.fear that everything will change and nothing will ever be the same again. you don't know how that life will turn around.on the one hand,you want to open all the horizons of this world, but on the other hand, you want to always remain such a naughty girl of your parents and live this life carefree.and growing up, when all fly away to their "nests", you think that you are not needed by anyone , that you are just an extra burden for your long-grown relatives.and according to social norms, the girl's happiness is only in love.and you unconsciously want to be just loved.because subconsciously you think that you are already deprived of love and that you are very lonely.and it hurts...
I like how this film explores the complexity of Jo's character, in that, she may present herself as a tomboy and she may put up this front that she doesn't care about girly things but in a later scene, after she sells her hair, she cries on the stairs about how her hair looks showing that she isn't above her girly side. Then in this scene after turning down Laurie and saying that she cares about her independence too much to give it up, she then breaks down in this scene confessing her loneliness showing that she is not above wanting to be in a relationship and wanting to be loved by someone.
this scene made me burst into tears in the theater because of how much her performance got to me and resonated with me, because its so true and I relate to it so much.
23 and I just left my first boyfriend 2 days ago after 1 month of relationship, he was great and caring but I didn't feel like I belonged, I still had this feeling and need to be completely free and independent of everyone and everything even of him. Since then I haven't stopped thinking about this passage, it already resonated strongly in me before and now even more... I hope to have more of Jo's character in 2024
"he wanted a bride i was making my own name"
Little Women is the next Pride and Prejudice (2006). In the future, We're gonna see it many times and always enjoy it as if it was the first time!
Yeah.. i love pride and prejudice a lot.. and now little women .. i watched both of this movies in the quarantine time. I can't choose which is best because people who watched it will know... I love love it.. both of the films are gonna be my all time favourite and going to re-watch these for the rest of my life.. and i never met someone who has same thoughts like me and who appreciates these types of movies and book..
Never! Pride and Prejudice is far better..
@TheLove1055 it’s worse
@allisonsky7230 No, it's certainly not worse. It's probably on the same level as Little Women but neither better nor worse.
True I really wish they make more movies like these. Movies like these are so much more than just movies, they're an experience! The writers and creators don't treat the audience like they're dumb, every second, every shot has meaning and intention, it's a work of art.
“I’m so sick of it” hits different, every single time
I've been Jo my whole life
This hit when I was 20.
It hits more when I’m 24.
I remember crying while watching this scene. It was like my story.
It must be very lonely when society won't spare you a passing glance if you don't fit the role it assigns you. It's sad that she would settle for marrying someone she truly doesn't love just so she will have someone around. She doesn't even really want romance. She really just wants loving relationships again.
if he asked me again I would say yes
is such a great way of saying no
"If I was a girl in a book this would all be so easy. Just give up the world happily. I've always been quite content with my family, I don't understand it. Perhaps I was too quick in turning him down, Laurie. If he asked me again I think I would say yes. Do you think he'll ask me again? I care more to be loved, I want to be loved. I just feel like women, they have minds and they have souls as well as just hearts. And they've got ambition and talent as well as just beauty, and I'm so sick of people saying love is all a woman is fit for. I'm so sick of it, but I'm so lonely."
I remember seeing this scene in the cinema and being so moved that I started crying openly in the middle of the movie theatre. Saorise’s performance, Jo’s sadness and frustration but also, her saying things that me and so many people feel or have felt in their lives. Their desire for love but not settling for less, wanting relationships on their own terms but feeling so lonely, wanting a career they love but it’s not working out (or in Jo’s case, society bans it for women). Such a beautiful performance from Saorise and gorgeous writing from Greta x
When Jo said the phase about the woman importance, she makes me cry, because all the words are true
Saoirse's Jo is such a force. A force of nature who struggles to accept that nature exerts other forces, too (like time). Beautiful performance, beautiful scene.
I relate to Jo in so many levels.
SPINSTER.
"I'm so sick of people saying that love is all that a woman is fit for."
Me too girl, me too
As a 34 year old workaholic woman, I define myself so much in my work and my accomplishments. I keep wanting to do more with my life and stopping is not an option. I've had my heart broken so much I don't think I even have a heart anymore. But there are brief ... moments in time I feel loneliness. Saoirse portrayed this moment really well, I cried because I related so much to it.
At least you have your accomplishments some people don’t even have that dear and there also in their 30s imagine that
@sleepycloudjk2543 you’re absolutely right
27 years going strong. Not one person has ever asked me for my number, I’ve learned that being lonely is someone’s better but again, I’m lonely.
I love how the mother just let her let it all out slowly, she just calmly sat there watching the things slowly flow out of Jo... I havent seen the whole movie yet but I've seen scenes.
As the last person in my friend group who's single and is not currently looking for a partner, this speech really hits home.
Honestly as an aroace incapable of feeling the typical feelings for other people this hits home so hard. I want to be loved and to love people even if I don't know how to. It can be so lonely when everyone else cherishes and idolises something you just can't force yourself to feel.
Her delivery of her lines hit hard and i love it. This was great
I think this is one of the most emotional monologue in cinematic history It kills me to think how much she's waited to blurt out about her being lonely and wanting to be cared for. "But do you love him?"- "I care more to be loved" aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Look you can sugar coat it all you want, but at the end of the day, we are social creatures, we desire love and companionship, and that’s exactly what’s being displayed here, a cry for help.
There is nothing that has described me better than this scene. I want to do so much by myself, for myself - not bound by anyone or anything, not defined by a man but.. I'm so lonely.
Male here. This scene really struck a cord with me because of the parallels in my life. For much of my 20s I lost touch with a lot friends to concentrate on my career in the arts. I actively looked down on the culture of people my age. I researched philosophy and religions for meaning as my hobbies. However now Im 30 and I realize I have no friends. I threw away most relationship opportunities. And although I had these lofty ambitions and perspective while chasing my career, I feel like Jo. She too is wrapped in her own reality where she concentrates only on her art and as a defense mechanism shuns anything that isn't too that gain. But more importantly she shuns anyone who stands in that path. I feel like for Jo and I, there is this need to be great, to be loved because we cant cultivate that love for ourselves from within. People need other people in their life, its biological. The romantic aspect also might dig deep into intimacy traumas Jo was born with. I grew up in a broken home and Jo did as well (her father was never there). My only memory of my parents marriage was of loud shouting and police visits. I never understood true romance because i never saw it. Everytime I had a relationship it just felt like I needed to ruin it. It manifested itself at the time as a distraction but now I realize it stems from a deep seated trauma from childhood that was never repaired. I feel like this film in parts looks down on the classic vision of love and romance and a womens place in it. I understand that and dont know enough to judge. But these archetypes dont necessarily stem from just from human intervention and manifestation. I feel like there is a biological underpinning that brings us into relationships, romantic or casually. So even if not romance its good to have at least positive people your own age pulling you up.
No matter how beautiful or lofty our ambitions are, we need people. Otherwise we are just lonely. If you are lonely surround yourself with positive people first. Your heart will follow.
This hurts so badly as a straight woman. We are so lonely but as soon as we find someone there’s something missing.
“i just, i just feel- i just feel like, woman the- they have minds and they have souls as well as just hearts, and they’ve ambition, and they’ve got talent, as well as just beauty and i’m so sick of people saying tha-that love is all a women is fit for, i’m so sick! but i’m s-, i’m so lonely”
“But I’m…I’m so lonely” gets me every time
These dialogues are to be kept in frames and quotes . So close to my heart !
This scene hits very hard because this is exactly how I feel. I’m 26 and have never been in a relationship and I’ve always wanted one. But society places so much pressure and expectations on men and they tell me to not show emotions but I can’t live that way. Men are human beings who just want to be loved and cared for. I’ve had my heart broken many times and even though I say I’m happy to be single, this scene reminds me of something I’m still missing. 😢
I really connected with Jo in this film, and it makes me want to read the book just to spend more time with someone like me. I love my writing and want to spend the rest of my life doing it, and I love the idea of having friends to talk to about all of the amazing things I'm trying to push my art to do. However, even at a university studying my craft, I have no one around me that loves writing or the arts as much as I do and I feel so lonely.
Do people ever stop feeling like this?
This is the scene that solidified this as one of my favorite films.
The biggest factor here is that Jo is grieving. That is why she feels so lonely, it’s the realizing that all the beautiful times full of love, laughter and joy are just memories (in the past) that are associated with the ones you love that are no longer near or no longer alive. You begin to reevaluate what’s truly been important in your life and what/who has given it meaning. She wishes how badly she could go back in time, that’s why she wants Laurie around not because she is in love with him but because he’s a part of the past, apart of all the good times. Yes she wants to be loved be she also wants to give love - the love and care she feels she can no longer give to Beth. ❤💔
This movie is a masterpiece
This scene punches me in the gut. I've been alone and lonely my entire life. As a child, it seems like a temporary exclusion we cannot grasp, but then our conscience begins to dwell on its permanence. There's a desperation that starts to set in and a bleakness that outside of any other achievement one can attain in life, loving and being loved is not pledged to us.
Same Jo, same.
Imagine you've never really fallen in love with anyone and all your dear sisters are dead, gone, or married and you have nobody to talk to. You figure, what the hell, I may not have feelings for him but I'll marry my best friend so at least I'll have someone around who cares about me, but you turn around and he's married your sister. Your name is Jo March and you could really use a break.
Jo's monologue speaks to my soul. Wow
this scene broke me. it's too real, too raw. never has a scene so perfectly encapsulate what i felt throughout my adolescence.
I will be the first person in my immigrant family to become a doctor. Medical school is so demanding that i had not had the time to pursue romantic leads. One truly feels the pain and sacrifice of sticking to one’s principles and live a life of conviction i.e prioritising your professional development, becoming financially independent. To all the Jo(s) out there, keep persevering.
Wow! Fantastic acting from both Laura Dern and Saoirse Ronan. Im so glad I gave this movie a chance last year.
"...b but I'm so lonely..." that oart gets me the most 😢
the way she says I’M SO LONELY hits me everytime 😭💔
And that was so good that you didn´t need a music background to cry.
It's hard because we don't want to settle for someone just wanting a woman, we want to be seen for our intellect and for what makes us interesting and good. Being lonely comes with the territory because that's better than not being appreciated.
This scene just explains my life now. I'm so lonely as well, Jo. 💔
I love my mom so much, I do. She’s been amazing. But she’s also a single parent so she had to be quite strict. Sometimes I wish I had a soft mom who could be my confident for stuff related to relationships. If I were to have this speech with her I’d die of mortification.
The “I’m so lonely” part indicates her acceptance that maybe woman are meant to be with someone as she indicated in the beginning of the scene. She was willing to allow herself to be taken by someone for the simple fact of someone wanting/loving her regardless of how she felt towards the other individual. Time flys-this she noticed well. She was admitting to settling down if it meant she could find somebody who loved her and it seemed her last memory of someone who actually expressed such gratitude was her friend Laurie. As the quote goes, “Desperate times, calls for desperate measures”.
Never have I related to a character more than in this moment. After losing my grandparent and not getting the love or support I needed while grieving from family I tried throwing myself into my work. I believed that there’s was more to life than wallowing about, but oh how I craved some support or understanding. When someone gave me just a snippet of compassion I fell hard, not in love, but the feeling of being loved. Oh how I just wanted to feel loved, to feel some sense of happiness. Jo really embodied how so many feel and I think the actress did a phenomenal job. Bravo!
This is one of my favorite film scenes.
The pain in her voice as she says she's lonely.
For her, she wants her freedom to create and to love but in this time she had to choose one or the other.
I related to this scene on such a deep, personal level that I actually had to pause it to get myself back together
I feel her so deeply.
i'm not jo march meaning i'm not headstrong, boyish and a writer but damn this part hits very close to home
I love this scene because its such a raw depiction of the conflicting emotions women deal with to show that we’re strong like men being stoic but also needing saving in some way
Funnily enough I could easily picture Timothee doing this scene and delivering it the same. The same mannerisms and panicky passion.
This scene felt like home...