What I learned from my social media fast | Amber Quinney | TEDxYouth@Buffalo
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- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
- Take a social media break as you explore the dangers of social media addiction on the human brain and it's harmful effects on society. College scholar Amber Quinney shares with you how she lost her appetite for virtual interaction through her year-long social media fast. Through her talk, learn how to be more mindful of your social media presence and how to be more present in your own life. Amber Quinney is no average college student. A Marketing major at Canisius College, she has completed seven internships and earned more than $50,00 in private scholarships. Amber was a finalist at the national C.E.O. elevator pitch competition, won two research grants, and twice was a WNY Prosperity fellow. She completed the University of California Emerging Leaders Program, and is the founder of “Charm School for Sisters,” which teaches young girls of color about self-love, sisterhood, and success skills. Her talk is based off of her recent research for candidacy for her degree and explores the negative effects on the brain of over saturation of social media exposure and addiction. Her talk also explores the critical role that social media and media stimulation plays in our everyday lives.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I’ve been quitting social media for 3.5 months now. And the reason i chose to quit because i felt like social media has changed my personality. I realized i’ve become more judgmental and ungrateful for what i have and who i am. It was because social media exposed me with other people’s “online” life that seemed to be a perfect life. This triggered me to always compare my life with others. I am a hundred percent agree that social media makes us seek for social validation ultimately. We tend to post something happy and beautiful in order to get as many likes as we can. So that we become popular among our friends or peers. Thankfully, after 3.5 months quitting social media, i can feel some changes in myself. I can focus more on myself without worrying people judge me, i feel more content with my life, and i am happier than ever before. Last but not least, quitting social media enables me to spend quality time with my loved ones because i got no distractions. Sooo for people who are still caught up in social media, you should consider about it ;) God bless, and have a nice day!
Totally agree with you. I quit 1 month ago for more or less the same reasons. It's liberating and makes you more present.
how do you deal those moments when you feel like checking your socials again? I tried it already before, uninstalling but then after a week I reinstalled them again and I was back on the cycle :( I post lesser tho, but still it takes so much of my precious time and I can't help it.
@@jessabelles2875 I do the same thing omg
@@aryaijadodson6332 how do we get out of this rut :/
@C M thanks! I actually improved A LOT since I last commented here. One thing that helped me is I created a new account and only followed people that really matters in my life. I only have 17friends in that personal/private account. So what happened is I no longer see posts from toxic people and I don't get bombarded by nonsense posts in my feed because I only have a few friends. I also followed pages that only matter in my life, those that help me. So since I only see a few posts in my feed, I no longer spend so much time scrolling because the posts are not many. My original accounts in FB and IG were all deactivated so I only use my personal ones hehe. That worked for me so far. I am only chatting with my family and real friends so I also no longer receive chain messages and chats from unnecessary people xD I am still in my journey to fully go digital minimalism but I have improved so much. I hope everyone's journey are good too!
Checking your likes is the new smoking
that's why i smoke instead of using social media. for real lol
but smoking is at least cool :(
Cell phones are the new cigarettes
Even worse
did you see your 706 likes yet?
“If you don't read the newspaper, you're uninformed. If you read the newspaper, you're mis-informed.”
- Mark Twain
that's why they had newspaper interpreters in Germany specifically the court of Frederick William, who would read multiple newspapers and find neutral information
What happens when your reality is augmented from developer options and all your left with is hate
It's not proven he actually said this. Not that it particularly matters but I wouldn't attribute it to him.
I deleted my Facebook and Insta and everythings... over 6 years ago, never looked back!
When I run into people, they say I fell off the map. THANK YOU!
Smart people keep their private lives PRIVATE!
I Quit Facebook 1 month ago and Instagram yesterday. Now I am putting all my addiction into RUclips lol. It’s a good start though
JJ Higgs too true . Same happened. Feeling this .
I need to figure out a balance . Maybe one day in the week I can use them or something .
@@Lois_Unwordy i feel you🤣
I am right there with you. I quit Facebook. Still use Instagram but only about 30 minutes altogether a day. But I use RUclips to gain insight and knowledge. Such as videos like this. I feel RUclips is an exception. I have thought about quitting Instagram. Haven't really had any problem with staring at my Instagram 3 hours a day though like on fb.
Yup same 😂
same here lol. youtube. cant quit
"Learn to like yourself first." So good and so true!
You have to guard your mind & be careful what you feed it ❗️
Yeah , absolutely
so true. Im in my late 20's and just starting to realize this.
Ooh I like this. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
There is so much beauty in the smarts of a woman
@Steven The Blue Lotus jackass
Yup
@Steven The Blue Lotus you are a perfect example of why social media sucks
The sexiest thing in a woman is her intelligence. It's very noticeable that men feel attracted to intelligent women.
@@smendes2004 If that were true, there would be nobody attracted to you
I quit Facebook for 2 months now and I’m less stress now 😅 but RUclips not now, I’ve got some good information sometimes like watching ted 😁
I use youtube and just don't look at message responses; keeps it from feeling like social media to me. I try to post just positive things (or useful info).
Exactly !
But what about the good things that are on it?
Me too
You can quit social media but not the internet
A terrific speaker at such a young age. She will go far!
Incredible
Andrew Murphy I look forward to seeing her future
Brilliant, and a nice kid too
without a doubt!
"Learn to like yourself first." That's the most amazing thing I've heard today.
It's easy to quit Facebook and Instagram, but not for RUclips lol.
I battle with quitting RUclips. I deleted the app only to login via browser. 🙁
@@omkarvaityy lol it does come pre-installed. Have you tried to disable it on your application settings?
RUclips hits different.
Omg same
You can set timer for using RUclips.
She summed everything up so nicely, in today's society it's hard to completely log off because nowadays it is a tool. Taking a detoxing break can be a wonderful thing though and I think it's so important for everyone to try it out. Remember to find who you are before you share who you are not!
I went through a whole fit of expressing myself on social media, posting pictures, being creative and probably not focusing on my work enough. i ended up bruised very badly. I damaged a relationship dear to my heart and I had few arguments with people online. it was not worth it. My confidence was getting lower and lower because I always keep watching people lives and being envious. I quitted it all and I feel better for it. Now I watch youtube videos - reminding me why I am better off without it!
"Some people read only one book per year... Facebook" LOFL, but sadly enough so true
I am so glad I went to high school in the 90's and college before the big push with social media. I can't even imagine how my life would have panned out with google at my fingertips. I can't wait to see what Amber does after she graduates! Love the talk!
Left FB during the Trump election and never went back. RUclips is the only social media I care about and it doesn't take up my time like FB did.
I am beginning to embark that...I need to evolve
I'm same
@Mariam Tsehay There is definitely a time and place for social media and technology and unfortunately it looks like during this pandemic it's really helping us out :) Strange how things can change in an instance. I hope you and your mom (and family) are safe!
Wow, this young woman is so wise! Definitely one of the BEST TedsTalk.
SWEETGA BROWNIN she's amazing
This video just affirmed what I am currently doing now.
same :)
Moderation is key. Like anything in life, addiction is a negative.
This girl is so smart I feel like I wanna be her friend.
Miss Nina I agree Ms. Quinney would make a good friend to anybody. She has charisma, intelligence and positivity about her
"Social media is a symptom not a tactic." Meaning the really successful "influencers" were mostly already in successful positions before their social medias amplified it, or they at least had something they were passionate about and then used it to share with the world. Too often we're trying to "prove" we have good lives, while not really believing it ourselves. I think the main difference between successful and unsuccessful social media users is that the former knows they have good lives and shares it with others, while the latter is trying to convince themselves more than anyone.
We all have something worthy to share. Still it's useless. Seeking people's attention is not good in long run. Even RUclips. We can learn. Yet it's different when we are with books than videos.
I quit Facebook, insta, snap and twitter 3 years ago never looked back...the only things I use are WhatsApp and RUclips.. Yu tube also has some negative influences too.... Technology is killing real human contact.. Even dating is in the form of media these days...
And job searching LinkedIn awful
Truth 💯
I don't see nothing at all wrong with youtube depending on what u spend time watching. The rest of those apps Facebook,Instagram,snap chat,etc. People can have those. I'm done for good this time. Nomore 2-3 month breaks,I'm done
@@kennyg.6608 that's great
@@Sashyalove , when I would take 2-3 month breaks I would be so content and serene, but after I got back on fb within a week I was back easily irritated,discontent, and not feeling at all like myself again. That shyt drags u down. Its so automatic
One must be careful with ALL social media, including RUclips. I had to step away from RUclips because I was getting roped into the negativity, and You Tube is and has always been my only social media outlet.
Lies, damn lies, and stats Weird - negativity on RUclips? You search for the content you wish to see. Additionally, you can hide what you don’t want to view. It’s nothing like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. You’re here to learn, not receive a dopamine hit for the number of likes you got from a post.
@@mgichndz I agree that it is different to a point. However this place can be just as riddled with nastiness as any facebook comment section. People get just as crazy on here as they do there.
Lisa Rayburn - comments are far different than the psychology behind selfies, negative thinking posts and drama. I’m very happy that I deactivated everything - probably won’t go back.
@@mgichndz Lies had said they stepped away from youtube because of the negativity. I think it is more than likely that they were referring to the comments section for videos. This is what I was addressing and comparing.
Lisa Rayburn - I understood what I read. The content that 16 on RUclips well almost always dictate hi vibration and energy consciousness. I can either sit here like I am right now, LOL, and go round and round Or I can refocus and pull up some Alan Watts videos on RUclips and be in total bliss. That was the point that I made that in directly addressed everyone’s comments on a much larger scale.
Just as the video started playing and she started talking, I literally closed the Facebook tab and I felt guilty about being so hooked in social medias. Thanks for this, Amber Quinney!
John Rowell Orpia it shows your a doer good for u pal.
I haven’t had social media since the 1st of January... I’ve never been happier.
Emma congratulations! I deleted most of my social media except Instagram for Landscape photography and RUclips for music
Something about her just makes me happy :)
It's her way of speaking and smartness.
Her innocence
Today I watch 3 videos about stopping social media and I decided to be offline all social media except what'sApp and RUclips I'm one of them who feel depression and stress in social media I'm wann live with my world my realty life no more fake world 👎❌❌❌
How’s the fast going?? I stopped all of mine except RUclips
I think quitting a smartphone and switching over to a basic phone hits different. That was what my experience had been when my smartphone broke and I had my exams the coming month, so I resisted getting a new phone and had to switch to a basic nokia phone just for urgent calls. I felt much much more at peace during those times, my insomnia was gone, and sleep routine was automatically fixed to early to bed - early to rise, i felt more energetic and more productive as I did not waste any time on my phone, and I was mentally stable with no anxiety or anything even during my exams. It went on for almost 2 months and then I bought a new smartphone and then life was back with anxiety, to sleeping late, and unproductive days wasting time switching between apps and scrolling and chatting and ultimately it becomes a vicious circle. I still feel like I should go back to my nokia phone but can't actually do that.
She is a great speaker 👏🏾
I love seeing bright beautiful young ladies like her! It’s so inspirational!
It’s been my validation addiction since I was young but I’m finally overcoming that inner battle. Thank you for speaking from your heart and encouraging us to take a step back.
Do it for the love, and not for the likes.
Steve Patrick yes, as chronixx the great would say 😎
I love your quote! Thank you; I’m going to write that down and put it on my fridge!
We all know if you never START using social media, you can't get addicted.
*BIG BRAIN*
This needs more views and reminds me of the book 'amusing ourselves to death' on how the things we think are helping us are also destroying us. Sad
Watch "pink drunk tank" speech and maybe you will realize that "those things " are many things but nothing that is designed to help you. In fact social media is the first stage of priming you for listening to the outside source which tells you what to do next, what to buy, so that when AI becomes widespread you and other would buy what some bot r a robot maybe will suggest you. You're supposed to follow the crowd, do what the group would do, ovework yurself and overspend to have to overwork again without asking questions why things are the way they are. If this is your definition of "amusing yourself to death" than yes, this is what this all is really about. Internet is nobody's friend. It never was. It was born as a military tech and it remains what it has always been- a tool to manipulate, control, tool used for surrveillance, control of information etc. It never was a toy and it never will be. You want a harmless toy? Buy a boardgame.
Great book!
I did a 6 month social media fast myself. The first couple of weeks were hard but after that it was smooth sailing. I ended up not even wanting to get back on but I did with the intentions of spreading good.
great job!
Christian Cristiano hi, what does a social media fast entail please? I don't do much of Instagram, Facebook (about 1 hr a week each) but I do at least 15hrs a week on WhatsApp and 35hours a week on my phone in total.
Recently I took a GRE timed test practice and I realised I couldn't be still past 30mins to an hour. I began craving WhatsApp status updates... had to pause and check if I had new messages.. I used to read a book every two days years ago but I have only completed 2 books in the last 2years. I'm not sure where to start the fast from.
I quit Facebook and it’s about 9days of no fb and I feel so good and it’s really true when you are in a social media app like Facebook, Instagram and etc., your actually living like an unreal world. So I pray to live a life without social media that makes me depress and insecure because of what I seeing in the profiles of the person in social media.
This young lady is wise beyond her years. She is an "old soul" in a young body. So many more thousands of people need to see this video and hear her words. I have received thousands of Facebook requests over the years, but I just don't trust FB, and it seems sooooo time-consuming! I always said that if I finally become active on FB, it would be to promote phenomenal natural products/supplements to help people with health challenges to regain good health and happiness. Kudos to this young lady for making us think!
She's so pretty :)
She truly is
very pretty
so pretty
What an inspirational young lady!
She looks really passionate about her topic.. I can feel those positive vibes over here!! Cute voice BTW..😂
I am really starting to enjoy these talks about quitting social media. I am slowly heading to that direction. Great talk.
For those keen on this topic, "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze is a notable mention. I found it deeply compelling.
Do something so profound that it ignites your soul. ❤
This woman needs to do more ted talks!! Completely in awe with her phrasing, her imagery, her speech!
I really like her and admire her strength
i quit Facebook for one year now i recently did the same to Instagram 😩😩
" Learn to like yourself first " wise words. One of the best Ted Talks I have ever seen. For the past year or so, I don't post as much as a used to, now I sit back and observe more and everyone I follow post every single thing. Kid getting baptized. First day back at school. Vacation pictures. Nothing is private or personal anymore and it is really sad. I see myself quitting Social Media one day.
She's so lovely
You are absolutely AWESOME! Thank you for your words of wisdom and inspiration.
thanks me , too, she is my daughter
The matrix is real.
@Swagybrycee For sure
MaskHero Zo very real I can see from here out of this dimension !
I am SO inspired by Amber. I can't wait to start my social media account and finally get the social validation I deserve.
Amber is one of the best speakers I've ever heard on TEDx! So articulate and passionate!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!
Using this opportunity.. I have deactivated my social media and I will also be off RUclips for the next 30 days
see you in 27 days !
See you in 25 days!!
I am so proud of you Amber! I enjoyed this Ted Talk! You are a smart and lovely young woman. I love your dress and your hair is gorgeous!
I agree, social media does need to be regulated in our personal lives. I am permanently off of Instagram and Facebook. I would love to ax Twitter, and keep my RUclips channel. I grew up in a time that was on the cusp of using technology at home. I see the value of using technology, but not allowing it to control our lives is key!
Reclaim my time! Yes ma’am! I’ve been off fb for about a week which is no sweat for me to do. I have less than 100 friends on fb because I don’t like friending people who I don’t know and I will drop friends if they are negative. NOW RUclips and Instagram are a beast for me It’s becoming a serious addiction.
Young leader! Well done! Great speech, great delivery, and great content.. I am CEO of a Digital Distribution Company that discusses this with businesses and communities.. So glad to see this..
She is amazing. She has opened my eyes to so many ideas.
amazing presenter, i love how she smiles while talking, she inspires
what i'm doing right now. 6 months. yasss. you do lose yourself
This was an amazing Ted Talk Amber. Thank you for sharing your ideas!
Good talk. As long as these platforms have algorithms that addict and manipulate there is a good reason to abstain. Watch the talks of Tristan Harris and Jaron Lanier to gain a fuller insight into the problem and why deleting your accounts is the best course of action.
This is such a powerful speech. Thank you.
8 days into my 30 day social media detox. It's surprisingly hard but I know it will be so much better for my mental health in the long run.
Any updates
When she talks about comparing yourself to a character in a book and you start laughing cuz you always compare your life to book characters. I never really pay attention to real people but when it comes to books I CRAVE that life 😂
So much truth in your speech. I am taking steps to spend less time online and be more present. It is very addictive and a lot of time can be wasted without even realizing.
SUPER impressed with this bright young woman!
You’re smart young lady! Well said! I love being off social media. I don’t consider RUclips to be in the same category as Facebook and Instagram since I am not posting videos or connecting with people I actually know.
She is gorgeous. And smart! I quit social media 2 weeks ago. I feel better than before.
Great talk! So many good points, and such a dynamic speaker. You can tell this young woman is going places.
She's so beautiful
definitely
She reminds me of young Whitney Houston
Great message! Everyone should watch this! Amber, I like when you said "If you do not have a positive purpose for using social media, then log off, and log off immediately." and "Leaders are readers!" So many people need to log off.
My God, this girl is soooo beautiful, I mean, I wish she was my friend
Amazing talk.. Thanks Amber. I just started on my social media cleanse!
After watching this video, I changed my mind about social media. I delete followers from my account on instagram and I started to not check the likes or the people who share it. It's not healthy be comparing all the time, we can't be ourselves! Sometimes, we have to disconnect from the world to find ourselves.
Very true 💯
I decided to quit Instagram because I actually feel is killing my brain, the hours and hours of scrolling, mindlessly watching reels and posts. My grades are dropping, I feel myself loosing confidence, can't focus on the other million things I like, the amount of time of my life wasted just scrolling and scrolling that at the end of the day it made me felt worse. I remember doing so well at school in comparison to college and the only thing I didn't have back then was this amount of apps that just make you waste your time and almost makes you feel like a zombie in front of a screen.
So yeah, I decided to quit social media too and this video really helped me to do it once and for all, thank you.
Same omgg!
I got so busy running my new business I forgot all about it. Find something in REAL LIFE to keep u busy u won't need it. Not to mention I earn more money than I ever have seen in my life. Why stop? I couldn't care less about social media!
100% agree with her thesis. She made it.
But how do you quit social media and also use it to develop your personal brand at the same time?
Faatimah Farhad curious as well!
If it’s Instagram just don’t follow anyone and just use for posting I guess..?
Yasss Amber💕
Amazing stage presence, awesome speaker & great information!!!
Totally agree !
What a wise and beautiful young woman! I hope I can be like her someday. Honestly, we don’t need social around 24/7. I only have Instagram and RUclips now. I don’t have the Instagram app on my phone and discipline myself to only browse youtube after lunch and after dinner. Quitting social media really is much more productive and distressing.
She's right you know. Been off everything for 2+ years and I'm so much happier. (sans reddit)
I Quit social media for two months only using RUclips and now I become a RUclips commentator!
This woman speaks the full & honest truth.
She is so right she is great.
You are an inspiration! 6 months is great!
Great? As if You woul congratulate someone on going for 6 months without getting drunk every day. I would rather say that only 6 months without social media shows how serious this behavioral dependence is in this generation. To me it's shocking.
She has really got it, hope everyone gets that !
Well said...you are a wise and beautiful young woman.
Probably word's are very cute tremendous speech excellent conversation
Love this talk & love listening to Amber!
Interesting to see this, despite social media being a HUGE win for women and cats
I use social medias like search engines ,to find career related groups , during my college time I used this strategy to get simplified notes ..etc..it helped me in many ways ...in my opinion it's up to who is using or how you are handling social media ,, don't let someone else life style to trigger your ego,, just be aware about the negative side and use it wisely ..
Absolutely looooved this post! So so resonated! Thankyou so much for sharing this.
This is why I played video games. They were my help for escape but they also made me smart. This is why we have games based on puzzles, board games, game shows, etc. Platforms help you critical think and can give you achievement. Also fighting games.
I’m over here giving come onss & a amen and hallelujah 🙏🏽 Preach
Love this!!! What a beautiful speech❤️
great job! very well done presentation. Truth to question the amount of social media we are intaking, especially for our kids. Stay strong out there everyone!
Spoke volumes!! Great job Amber!!
Her speech is so motivating! And, she's so cute! :)
beautiful and inspiring talk from an intelligent lady, God bless you for this info