Dax Shepard and Theo Get Real About Their Struggles in Relationships
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- Опубликовано: 12 мар 2024
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Therapist here…..tremendously glad to see two men talking publicly, openly and honestly with each other about their past mistakes and struggles. I hope more men will be inspired to do this from watching these kinds of things. Respect to Theo and Dax for sharing 🙏🏻
You will always only get honesty when men open up
You think men don't speak open and honest with eachother?
@@nr126 I didn't say that. I said I was tremendously glad to see these two men doing this to inspire MORE men to do it. Over the 30 years of working with folks I've talked with many men afraid to open up so deeply and transparently in a broader public way - whether thats in their sphere of friends, or, with strangers as well. Watching men support and encourage each other to do so is AWESOME! It's delightful to watch this broadening transparency happening. I honor and respect the men leading the way in this regard. I hope this clarifies for you my meaning and words.
one man, one fucked up person of ovethinking
@@steelearmstrong9616I mean… anyone who “opens up” is being honest. That’s what opening up means lol.
"Gotta be the worst feeling ever." Nope. Getting cheated on is a LOT worse, I can assure you.
you been on both sides?
Not necessarily.
Correct ✅
This guy is a narcissist
Not really, some partners hope the other would cheat on then so there would be a reason to leave. Usually this is with coupl3w with kids where there is a secondary force keeping them together that isn't a mutually beneficial relationship.
Dax talking about comparing where he was in life to his daughter at 9 made me so teary eyed. This is wonderful to see such genuine male vulnerability in this day.
“Freudian waterslide” 🤣
Typical for Theo 😂😂
The boy is so quick.
Honesty is the best story
Thank you handsome men
Wish you happiness
@@stayput2011 tf?
I like how they don’t completely trash their exes.. they recognize their own faults.. sounds like they’ve matured a lot
Imagine those ex's out there still talking shit tho.
@@Yetified_MayhemWell what’s the point in that?
Dax Shepard looks like he sings for nickelback.
🎶"Never made it as a wise man!"
okay, yeah I see it.
hahhahaha
A Nickelback cover band
nailed it
💯
“You can’t break up with me, you’re my mom” dang Theo 😂😂😂 thanks for the honesty.
Honesty? He said it was a slip. Pay attention.
@@RealMTBAddictthey meant the honesty of admitting that he said it on a podcast you condescending retard
@@RealMTBAddictthey meant it was honest of him to admit that on a podcast you condescending idiot
@@RealMTBAddict 🤨
@@DKasp😂
"We met whilst cheating" , "I'm so inlove with this girl" 💀
dawg, major red fleg
He seems gay to me but an undercover one
@@breeeque careful dax will find your comment and fuck your mom
@@breeequespot on
@breeeque they all swing both ways in Hollyweird. They wouldn't be there otherwise.
In all seriousness, for anyone who has struggled with women and addiction this is a great listen
Dax has done some serious inner work to get that deep 😂
I got chills up & down my body....tears welling up in my eyes when Dax said he had 3 stepdads & had been molested before 9 years old. That poor, poor child. I'm so sorry that happened to you. So glad you were able to break the cycle for your children. Sending you & your family love. ❤
I had it similar but worse. No one seems to give a fuck.
@@pip7967me too. I give a fuck and hope you have someone to help you process those unbearably hurtful motions. 🙏
@@pip7967 I still don't
For all his Huckleberry Finnian stories of his youth, to see Theo’s honesty with himself can be healing for his audience too
“You can’t break up with me, you’re my mom.” Wow. Thank you for your honesty. I think I would have fast-tracked my understanding of codependency if I had heard that level of truth from a male partner.
Not being able to exercise enough self control to not cheat on the person you love is something I will never understand.
I would argue that people who are able to cheat don’t actually love that person. Maybe they love what that person gives to them, but if you truly love someone, you don’t do the one thing that you know we’re completely destroy them and affect them forever. Love does not act like that.
You dont cheat when you love and feel loved.
@@joygernautm6641exactly bro
“Dude, if I cry on here one more time..” 😂
My dad was terrible and becoming a father was the best thing that ever happened. I get to enjoy my kids the way my dad never did his
Yeah they miss out on so much by being a selfish, self-indulgent, douchebag.
I appreciate the honesty. It reflects the brokenness that’s so prevalent in our society. Not just with men, women too.
I totally agree.
We all gotta show each other some grace.❤❤❤
@@melissaelliott2966 🥹 Yes
A lot of these comments are taken out of context of the whole conversation. They were both discussing their extreme drug use, being sober and how being sober brings you back to a very sobering reality of past behaviour. If more men talked to each other like this we’d hold ourselves accountable more. Fame is a big thing. DAX used to be a pretty big star at one point - no one prepares you for the amount of opportunities you get from the opposite sex. Drugs & Alcohol / Trauma - cause so much pain. Listen to what they’re talking about. Think about it critically.
We'd probably be taking it easier on him if he showed a little more regret. But yeah, most average guys who claim "I would NEVER cheat if I had been in his situation" are fooling themselves; they simply have no idea what it's like to have a group of 10/10s eager to jump on your d**k on the daily. I guess it's good that he was being truthful though.
This clip is 17 minutes- that’s plenty of context. He’s still making excuses for his behavior. Theo usually owns his mistakes.
100%
@@bbqbros3648excuses or reasons
Thanks man that was well put and I really felt what you wrote…
I never cheated. Better to be loyal. If it doesn't work out, walk tf away.
You are a real one!
W maturity
congrats
I don’t see the point in cheating on somebody. You clearly lack emotional intelligence nor can empathize with somebodies feelings to just talk things out and walk away.
Totally agree, same here. If you’re cheating then you’re lying, and if you’re lying then it’s because you’re too afraid to tell the person that you’re with the truth. Cowards lie, people with integrity tell the truth no matter what the consequences are.
When Dax talks about having compassion for yourself...that's so beautiful
Always appreciate the candor of theo's interactions. We should all be having these conversations with our friends.
Amen
When Theo said it wasn’t really about the sex but more so about wanting the validation and needing to be seen… THAT. That is what I went through for over 5 years. It was SO HARD to get out of that place man. I thank God every day that I don’t put myself in situations like that any more
I wish Patrick Swayze would have lived long enough for Theo to play his son in a movie. lol
This is such an awesome thought thank you
Brilliant comment 😂
I think Theos first acting gig as the little boomerang-throwing kid in Mad Max the Road Warrior was pretty good
This dude has a moral breakthrough when he realizes that it’s not okay to hit on your girlfriend’s friends. I can’t.
Men are deranged beyond belief
Then don't.
Should be common sense 🙄.
A prime example of someone who has come far and still has far to go lol
You're missing the whole fucking point of what he's saying 🙄🙄 grow up and stop being bittwr
Could really relate to what Dax said about gaining perspective from seeing your kids at certain ages. It's a real eye opener.
As a woman, thank you for being vulnerable and open men who are talking about relationships, addiction, and recovery!! It’s one thing to connect with other women, but to hear men open up and bring to light their stuff they’re working on, gives me so much reassurance that the path of healing is for all ❤
yes!
I had to pause because I didn’t think I’d ever hear this kind of discussion from men! 😅
No it’s not.. lol.. these kinds of men are rare, have you seen how terrible the hook up culture is? Most women should just focus on their impact and community… a lot of men are behind. And that’s the facts.
I have a lot of empathy for them & I hope they keep speaking up!! ❤
@@jb-ze1yh I hear ya.
This is truly a beautiful conversation between two self aware and emotionally mature men. Thank you for sharing 🩵 the vulnerability is refreshing
My heart broke so many times during this 17 minutes. 💔
I know it's HEAVY especially listening as a Woman
@@hairiseverything Just know, Dax doesnt represent men, hes just one man, and was a self-confessed womanizer. There are similar women, who jump up and down on mens hearts too.
@@HeartFeltGesture Touché! Quite right... that DOES give me hope/relief.
The connection between artistry and addiction is so fascinating and real.
Honestly, I don't think there's as much of a connection as people make out. There's addicts everywhere. It's human nature. Construction workers just don't produce and sell their emotional expression for the world.
@@gavinminder3494Do we know this? Is the hard working construction worker not expressing anger/frustration whilst Jack hammering, digging, and lugging gear around. Is the architect never driven by his/her desire to leave a mark; to share their vision of something, within an edifice? These occupations may not be considered artistic, or expression, but I would assert that it's not the "what"of one's doing, but the with what, or how they're doing it which denotes "art" and "expression."
I’m so grateful for authentic raw conversations >>>>>>>
Theo admitting to the "you're my mom" thing on here to crazy. I'd be taking that one to the grave 🥲
I'm so appreciative of the honesty.
as a woman tho (without kids), I still don't fully grasp what it means . I do hope more guys can talk about this tho, seems they have done alot of healing because of it ❤
It’s so funny though and real!!! I love it!! 😂🙏🙏
@@MessagesFromAurora Theo was emancipated from his mom when he was 14 and from there was basically living with friends. I think his outburst was his subconscious telling that girl that he was depending on her for the type of emotional support that he had been missing from his life during that time. To him, she had taken the role of providing unconditional love and her leaving meant he would go back to having none
It's weird to say it that way but parental roles are sort of unavoidable: guys typically want a woman to cook for them (like a mother would) and women want the guy to provide physical protection (like a father). Very primal still.
@trevorjackson4744 I didn't know that, makes alot of sense for this situation in particular
I didn't cry for 10 years.. got sober and I can't stop crying.. i hear that so hard
This clip is actually one I needed to hear. I'm recovering now and it has been a struggle for me espcailly because I lost a woman I thought I couldn't live without, but in all reality I was an addict and met her while I was an addict so it wasn't a true romantic relationship on my end. But I never would've figured that out without going into recovery
Damn, Dax went deep with that mom bit of introspection… on a side note I think Dax would play a good Vince McMahon lol
Was Dax saying that he wanted to f*ck his mom?! Genuine question, cuz that’s what it sounded like…
Far too young
I like that they’re being so honest.
I think it’s great to hear this kind of honesty and soul searching coming from two younger men.
Wow this is really great to listen to. Thanks a bunch guys!
Man this podcast really hits home, Dax shepard is a badass for talking about this stuff
“She’s not going to dote on you and be infatuated with your existence… she’s not your mom.” 😂 as a mom of a 2 year old boy who is 100% obsessed with him, that hit hard. 😅
They’re so calm just dropping emotional bombs together I love it. Just the pure honesty alone makes this clip great. Keep it up anyone else trying to stay sober 👏🏼
I love to see such open dialogue between two fellas. There's a lot here women should take note of. I can't tell you how happy I am for them both, they're working through it and I'm here for it! 🙏🏾🌱🙏🏾
Dax Shepard is married to Kristen Bell. A lifetime of mistakes and he ends up with one of the best women in the world. Lucky dude.
I think they realized they're human and it takes work..and dealing with trauma is the way to make it easier. Therapy accepted.therapy done is the key it sounds like..
This is golden thank you guys love you both
Love and respect for this open vulnerable conversation between men
I love that these men can be open and honest about their feelings.
This is incredibly important for 30 year old to hear how much there is awakening and growth their is, how we are not defined by our past, how we should not let fear rule us, that many things were NOT our fault but our upbringing, and how the young hollywood life is destructive and glamorized. GOOD JOB dax for staying sober- for for 19 years ish (he was 30 years old 19 years ago)
I wish cheaters knew that being cheated on can push you to kill yourself. Not everyone is strong enough to overcome betrayal. When you cheat you are playing with someones life.
Not to mention the person that was betrayed can possibly try to hurt the other man or woman. Everyone involved is a risk.
we need to old times back you cheat = you die
@TrenMax lol it's not always that deep but damn people are really out here struggling with mental health and betrayal is not good for human beings
You shouldn't kill yourself for someone who didn't respect you enough to cheat on you. Walk away and find someone better.
@@LL-we9vq I don’t think anyone here is going to disagree with you… but it still happens.
Lots of great insight/advice in this clip. Keep going strong.
This is about a guy dating 20 females at the same time.
@RealMTBAddict yes, and the regret, shame, and personal shortcomings it took to be that trashy.
@@RealMTBAddict This is about the same guy saying he regretted his decisions. You people need to watch the whole clip carefully before things get into your feelings and makes you cry like a baby.
@@phunchu8202 😮
People are always going to resent and be offended by people who speak openly about the darker aspects of humanity. Which is funny because, would you rather they hide it away? Yeah you probably would, that’s why our society is the way it is. Instead of acknowledging our imperfections we pretend we dont have them or fight to look better than, and it bleeds out through our addictions and our interpersonal relationships.
Dax isn’t proud of his cheating, he’s so far removed from it he can talk about it with humor. I’m the same way with shitty behavior from my past.
I’m happy for him and I hope he stays on a “righteous” path. I have tended to struggle with monogamy. There’s so many beautiful, interesting people in this world. But that’s why I think if you’re like me, you should just stay single until you’re emotionally mature enough to commit to one person and not be phased by lust and sexual temptation.
You never become "mature enough" to commit to one person and not be phased by lust. The desire is just human nature, and some people are just better at controlling/suppressing it.
Instead, you just grow old enough to become less attractive and your choices become limited. You can either scramble to find "the one" then, or continue old habits at a much lower rate. Either way, you would really have to lower your standards at that point. You must be willing to carry someone else's baggage or be incredibly lucky to be the exception.
I don't mean to sound like I'm attacking, it's just what I have seen and believe. If you stay single now for the sake of not hurting someone else, I truly do respect you for that decision. However, that doesn't change what I said earlier.
@@SonGoku-tp8gbI’m not sure how realistic monogamy is for the majority of people…? I mean, how many people truly don’t cheat or have not cheated on their current wife or husband? I also realize it would be very difficult to get accurate numbers on this sort of thing
@@SonGoku-tp8gb Nah it depends on the person, I've cheated before and saw how it hurt the person, made the vow never to do it again. Lots of things can be stronger than a libido or a need for attention, like shame or empathy or for some, willpower. For me it's the look on my loved one's face all those years ago. I've had opportunities to cheat afterwards and never took them up on it because I don't want to make anyone I date feel the way I made that person feel years ago.
@@mister_manager Everything always depends on the specific situation. I was speaking in general terms.
Anyway, I respect you for realizing the consequence of your mistake and stopping yourself from repeating it 🤝
So many people get into relationships just to keep a roof over their heads. They are not emotionally fulfilled, they are just trying to make it out in the world as young adults. People in that situation, struggling with finances, do not always have the luxury of brute force honesty. They cannot tell their partner how they really feel because they might end up homeless. I respect your position but also see it as coming from a place of privilege, and I see this all the time: the more secure one is in their resources, the more moral they can appear, because their lifestyle gives them options if the truth ever destroys something.
EPIC SHOW!!
It’s incredible to watch you guys speak so openly. Amazing. And I’d for sure never date either of you also 😂❤ but I say that with 100% love ❤
That compassion did get triggered at a point for me as well and I didnt need to have kids to have that epiphany(thank God because I'm not a fan). I didn't realize how similar my past is to these guys. No wonder I like them. They are victors imo, and I am too. Self-reflection, identifying, and reworking our beliefs about ourselves and the world is how we win. ❤
This was not what I expected. I couldn’t turn away. Dang.
So much wisdom whenever I hear Dax speak
the ending was so sad but masked by laughter cause being a present dad, although it is a responsibility, is a thankless job in many ways
Love Dax and this beautifully honest conversation.
I fuckin love Dax. Great human. Been thru a lot and came out the other side. Same with Theo
I never comment! But wow! I had no idea Dax that you went through all that !!!and I am even more loving of you to openly speak about it, plus the fact that you told Kristen in the beginning you wanted no relationship, no kids and or marriage and she said....cool! This was from another interview btw. And you gave her all that. Proud of you Dax, always loved you as an actor and Kristen especially!!! It takes that one person to make you see and change, And you did.
Heavy convo but damn this is exactly what I needed to seee/hear
Thanks for the talk. Much insight on my own life
this clip is making me laugh so hard... so many gems in this one.
I'm so impressed and proud of both of these men. Wow. Thank you for sharing.
Dax, it sounds like you are a Words of Affirmation person who wants more romance and praise. But it also sounds like you realize that there are somethings that you value more- friendship, family, love - and for that you are willing to live with "normal".
Theo, it sounds like you are afraid of control and that fun is an important part of your world. It's not something that you should ever have to give up. You can be a goof and be a man.
The whole clip was good, but that last minute is exactly what I’m dealing with right now
Idk too much about Dax Shepard but he is such a great listener and is just so wise!
What Dax said about being molested. I totally feel that. When my son has hit certain ages I look at him and think about what I went through at those ages and it is so hard. I know the feeling that Dax was talking about. I pray for them both.
I suspect the issue of not wanting a girlfriend or a partner to define you is about wanting to maintain control
This👌👌
Yep I think there are various reasons; for me it´s about retaining my own sense of identity and being so scared of losing myself or feeling overwhelmed/trapped. It can suggest a lack of boundaries or a lack of confidence in setting your own boundaries. Once you work on that, you´re less fearful of becoming engulfed by another person.
I never put those two ideas together, nice! I'm definitely a control freak, and I never liked having a partner define me. Only with my current partner have I learned to appreciate him as an individual and not just a reflection of myself. I still have a lot to work through lol.
Great clip, resonated hard! Thanks gents.
This might sound harsh, but all of these issues stem from an underlying lack of discipline and honor. Thanks for being so vulnerable.
Or an underlying lack of a father figure
"But you're my Mom" absolutely does not stem from a underlying lack of discipline and honor.
@@Levipaulsen True, it stems from the lack of a real father figure.
@@mikestaub it stems from you not knowing what you're talking about
What an idiotic, naive comment
The revelation that we always feel older than we really were to have experienced what we experienced... Made me tear up instantly.
Holy shit, me too.
kinda makes you lose hope in dating.
Quite the opposite. If you didn't gain knowledge from these clips to help you with love, then that is where the hope is lost.
What Dax is saying has been Said before. Patrice oneal for example.
I’m at the point where dating is getting very old and I don’t think monogamy is very attainable for most people.. in my 30s my eyes were opened wide when I saw just how many married people were willing to cheat on their mate .
@brianmeen2158 never give up on love, my brother! Change your mindset. Remember, there are more people like you and me than we could ever know. Go to church...whole foods...the library, haha your lover will be there
@@SleepyGraphingCalculator-zl9vxmen have been saying all this shit for centuries AND STILL THEY DONT LEARN FROM GENERATIONS BEFORE
Theo is the best
I wish I were cool or famous enough to be on Dax’s podcast once a week. He’s be an amazing therapist.
I loved this conversation! Good for them for being open enough to have this conversation for the rest of the world to hear. There's a lot of judgement in these comments, which makes their vulnerability even more impressive.
If they cheat with you they will cheat on you.
Cheaters have low self worth…Scariest kind of person to relationship up with. Their insecurities will seek endless validations while leaving trails of destruction for all who loved them just as they were
Garth Brooks of Podcasting 🤣
This dude is so in love with himself
Yah, Total Chachi
Yeah you can thank his mother for over-coddling him. Thats one way narcissists are created
@@HeartFeltGesturea narcissist couldn’t have this much self-awareness
@@stevej.7926 I dont think Dax is a narcissist, I should have been clearer, I can see how my comment lends itself to suggestion. I just mean when he mentioned his mother being his biggest fan, he could do no wrong etc, is a dangerous dynamic.
@@HeartFeltGesture ah that’s fair, I appreciate the elaboration.
refreshing he's so open about it
A healthy conversation between two men who have had a fairly average net experience. There is something to enjoy and learn here.
Attachment issues. Two of them operate from avoidant or disorganizes style
I feel like with my own mom. I see more paralells to Theo. I always wanted her around and to never leave. And she was barely around and when she was-distant. The thing for me in relationships is I always expect the other person to leave, so I choose women who are independent. Subconsciously it's what gives me safety and security to rely only on myself. I'm now healed to the point where I stopped trying to save other people who seem broken like I was, so that I can finally heal my mom wound. I've started accepting people as they are, including my mom who is distant. There's no need to mend our relationship, I'm dependent on myself, and my awareness is searching for other women who want closeness, support, and are interested in me.
wonderful insight!
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I appreciate your comment here and am happy and proud of you for loving yourself enough to get to that place of valuing your self and well-being. 💗🙌
10:00 ive never heard guys talk about the whole mom thing like this. its good insight
HONEST TALK GUYS THANK YOU ❤
I love their honesty.
I’m always looking to be more understanding and empathetic towards men’s struggles, because I think women do, at times, fall short in that area. This has been really insightful. Thank you to both for your honesty.
I dislike the gender discussion drawing imaginary divides. We are all human, we all have basically very similar essential struggles: Am I worthy of love? Am I capable of success? Am I a good person?
Thanks for always keepin it real 🙏
These guys treat cheating as if they've stepped in a mud puddle. You're toying with a woman's life. I don't think they'll get it until their daughter gets cheated on.
I was in this relationship with this incredible woman for 9 years I wanted to have kids with her and then I broke up with her and it was really hard to do so, then I realized I loved her and then I had to white knuckle that as if getting off a drug like cocaine ect 🙄 and men love to call US crazy 😂🎉
Right?! 😂
Freudian waterslide… how freakin hilarious and tbh, gat dam poetic. 😹 I love him.
They are funny together but Dax doesn't let Theo talk
Look beyond looks, then relationships lasts longer.
Or look beyond looks, and leave sooner.
Yep, go for a real pig, then jealousy isnt an issue
@@williameason5752you ate with that one
Wow this was healing for me. I appreciate the vulnerability.
Wow that was raw and real. Really good stuff
"You have a compassion for your 9 yo self"
💕💕💕
I relate so closely to the crying everyday because you’re sober now and don’t have any vice anymore to numb it 😂 Glad I’m not alone guys ❤
Dax is such a good dude...first saw him in "without a paddle" been a fan since! Such an honest open celeb
Yeah...he's great. Cheats on women.
@@Creepcanroll I know plenty of guys who cheated...never know the reasons why....doesnt make him a bad guy...relax karen
Two great funny guys, and this felt like therapy for me too. Thank you both so so much for being real and sharing!!
The crying part was so real. Just man tears from a Stevie Nicks song and I gotta deal w it
Hit it or we're leaving is a crazy thing to say to your son 💀
The “mommy issues” explain why we have such an epidemic of cheating nowadays. 🤯
Ummm......add in the daddy issues too please for balance, to help explain all the cheating narcissistic women.
They both have significant daddy issues too. Also, their issues with their moms were vastly different (their moms parented each of them in polar opposite ways), and yet both became cheaters with commitment issues.
And Dads
@@ChattyBlanketCornerall boys need fathers in their life. Women just cannot raise boys to be men - men cannot raise girls to be women
@@HeartFeltGesturemen have such more extreme daddy issues than women do
Damn the last thing he said- no one cares that you’re doing what you’re supposed to. So true on both accounts. Yes it is what you’re supposed to be doing. Yes it is hard to do when you grew up without good role models.
Dax is a great therapist 😂